Of course, I drank for over 30 years. You don't do something for that long unless there's some percieved value. Unfortunately, we don't pay enough attention to our own value system. That's the downfall. There's plenty of room for growth on the other side....
@@HabitsV2 thank you for replying to me so soon. I appreciate that a lot. I really enjoy your videos and you're a great help to me and my attempt to stop drinking. Thank you for all you do.
I’ve been drinking for nearly 40 years- it’s ruined my life and left me pretty much destitute- my partner is an alcoholic (she’s worse than me) She’s off sick this week and actually drinking more so more argumentative more angry - not good
Hi Kevin just got busted watching your show in the bedroom 7 months sober my girlfriend has a party going on here rough night so instead of picking up a glass of wine I decided to slip into the bedroom and watch your show your voice is very soothing I don't want to sound weird here but it got me through whatever Cloud I've been in thank you thank you
The worst thing is family reunion when everyone is pressuring the other to drink more and more. Then towards the end they are shouting and being stupid. They dont talk about anything. Everything is an excuse to drink. Birthdays are horrible. Piss fest. 🤡 The worst thing is that people say they wanna die young. Pathetic.
A bit of advice to anybody thinking of having a change. DON'T think about "quitting", or "stopping" in general. I think this can create a feeling of loss, of being deprived of something. Leading you to feel sorry for yourself and down, two of the biggest triggers for drinking again. Instead, why not think about EMBRACING sobriety? Of ACTIVELY moving forward into a fresh, new realm. This way you are DOING something instead of not doing. This simple reframing is incredibly empowering I've found. It brings about a feeling of POWER and being IN CONTROL. This produces a great sense of self esteem, self confidence and self satisfaction which builds and builds. A far cry from feeling sorry for yourself because you're having to do without. Also, PLAN before you intend to go sober. Make sure you've got things to do. This is SO important. I've lost count of the number of times I've drunk because I felt I simply couldn't face the yawning emptiness of the coming Friday night to Monday morning with nothing to do. Plan a trip. Plan a movie session, go somewhere you've never been, start reading again. Have SOMETHING to look forward to. Anyway, I hope that helps. ( BTW, I think willpower is overrated, it will only take you so far before you become exhausted. Reframing your thinking and a little planning is MUCH easier 😃.)
That was very helpful to me. I always think in terms of what I am going to miss if I don't drink, instead of all I potentially have to GAIN! I actually have had to write this down to see it in front of me, to help me remember. Thank you for your words of wisdom.
Everyone is in a different place with alcohol it blocks out the negative aspects of your life but eventually it makes your life worse I used to drink for social anxiety I quit 3 years ago in December the social anxiety is still there but I could not tackle it while I still drunk it’s only since I quit that I can deal with the reasons I drunk in the first place .. keep strong stay sober day by day ..
It blocks emotions in general I think. It's not discriminatory in what it does. We fool ourselves into believing that our positive emotions are left unscathed. All we really have left is a much watered down version. Day by day :)
I've completely lost control again. Going to get back on the wagon. Thought I could control it but it's a slippery slope. I cant afford to subsidise my drunken alter-ego any longer.
Very true : Recovery is costly in and time and energy. It's frustrating. "Normal" people will never understand all the effort this is, they just think stop it and that's it.
It's the life of anyone who decides to make a big change...There's not only the thing you're changing, but everything else that has been satelliting around that that habit that is affected. Big work, big rewards :)
I like to listen to you while I take my Huskies out for hikes. Helps me, when I feel tempted still after 8 months of sobriety. I would much rather be enjoying nature with them then be intoxicated. 😄
I agree with you 100% I think the longest I've been is 4 and I love to hunt fish ski kayak but I but I still miss that social fun no you ski if you're a cowboy blue collar that's what we do it seems which is an excuse but I feel so much better when I don't drink so yeah I go ride my mountain bike then on the way home I stop at the bar defuse everything that was good good eight months my friend is now going on 15 years and we**** So I know it's tough I guess it'll go for five months this time and keep going it's not like I'm a drunk it's just on the weekends I like to have a couple beers but then that leads to a couple more bears which leads to couple more bears and then you don't do your hikes you don't do your fishing you don't do your drives
@@bwnco Most of my friends don't drink or hardly drink anymore. These are people who were in my life before the addiction. Then I have my friends who I met through AA - I bailed out on AA 3 times btw lol. It wasn't till my 6th arrest that I took it seriously. Then my partner doesn't drink, he's never had an issue with drinking, he just doesn't like it. Living in Las Vegas is full of temptations, but everything you mentioned can be done socially without drinking. Just have to find the right people.
So true about not remembering any big events…my kids communions, weddings etc it is really selfish when you sit down and think about it. This has really got me thinking about packing it in. Theirs really no gains to drinking. Thanks
Hardest thing for me is the Social aspect. I stopped drinking to get a new knee.. Stopped for 3 months.. not a big deal. But im single, live alone an the bar is where I meet people, talk to people, interact, as I live in the countr also. Yes its a accepted huge thing for the world.. fri sat you go n have a few. So the stigma an social is the hardest. I never never ever ever ever drank at my home alone. Now I do. Like a beer or to but its like getting over weight it just a little at a time... When you look at a photo when you see your big fat gut. admire you kevin 'cause I know it's hard for me it's a social deal every week this struggle with it I write down that it's poison I write down how to fix those around us even if we don't get drunk you still feel like **** the next day I feel better when I'm not drinking but honestly I feel more lonely I go I go to the gym but the gym is not like the bar so yeah gotta figure something out anyway thanks for your films and noticed you changed your logo God bless
9 years and change, this morning I woke up in Hanoi and today I do the things I say I’m going to do. No more dreaming in the basement.
Great to hear. Enjoy Hanoi :)
i started drinking to ease my emotional pain. there were times where it seemed to make me feel happier, to have more fun. but now it's my nemesis.
Of course, I drank for over 30 years. You don't do something for that long unless there's some percieved value. Unfortunately, we don't pay enough attention to our own value system. That's the downfall. There's plenty of room for growth on the other side....
@@HabitsV2 thank you for replying to me so soon. I appreciate that a lot. I really enjoy your videos and you're a great help to me and my attempt to stop drinking. Thank you for all you do.
@@WWStorm Best of luck mate
I’ve been drinking for nearly 40 years- it’s ruined my life and left me pretty much destitute- my partner is an alcoholic (she’s worse than me) She’s off sick this week and actually drinking more so more argumentative more angry - not good
@@bendennis7730 you probably need to separate from her sounds like the alcohol has made your relationship toxic
Hi Kevin just got busted watching your show in the bedroom 7 months sober my girlfriend has a party going on here rough night so instead of picking up a glass of wine I decided to slip into the bedroom and watch your show your voice is very soothing I don't want to sound weird here but it got me through whatever Cloud I've been in thank you thank you
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The worst thing is family reunion when everyone is pressuring the other to drink more and more. Then towards the end they are shouting and being stupid. They dont talk about anything. Everything is an excuse to drink. Birthdays are horrible. Piss fest. 🤡 The worst thing is that people say they wanna die young. Pathetic.
A bit of advice to anybody thinking of having a change. DON'T think about "quitting", or "stopping" in general. I think this can create a feeling of loss, of being deprived of something. Leading you to feel sorry for yourself and down, two of the biggest triggers for drinking again.
Instead, why not think about EMBRACING sobriety? Of ACTIVELY moving forward into a fresh, new realm. This way you are DOING something instead of not doing. This simple reframing is incredibly empowering I've found. It brings about a feeling of POWER and being IN CONTROL. This produces a great sense of self esteem, self confidence and self satisfaction which builds and builds. A far cry from feeling sorry for yourself because you're having to do without.
Also, PLAN before you intend to go sober. Make sure you've got things to do. This is SO important. I've lost count of the number of times I've drunk because I felt I simply couldn't face the yawning emptiness of the coming Friday night to Monday morning with nothing to do. Plan a trip. Plan a movie session, go somewhere you've never been, start reading again. Have SOMETHING to look forward to.
Anyway, I hope that helps. ( BTW, I think willpower is overrated, it will only take you so far before you become exhausted. Reframing your thinking and a little planning is MUCH easier 😃.)
Wow thank you so much for this. Gives me a LOT of motivation to start trying again. And you're so right, reframing our minds is key. Thanks again 😊
@@catherinelussier1559 My pleasure Catherine, let us know how you get on 😀.
Embracing sobriety. This is KEY. Thanks so much
@@rodthomas1144 Thanks Rod, 😉.
That was very helpful to me. I always think in terms of what I am going to miss if I don't drink, instead of all I potentially have to GAIN! I actually have had to write this down to see it in front of me, to help me remember. Thank you for your words of wisdom.
Everyone is in a different place with alcohol it blocks out the negative aspects of your life but eventually it makes your life worse I used to drink for social anxiety I quit 3 years ago in December the social anxiety is still there but I could not tackle it while I still drunk it’s only since I quit that I can deal with the reasons I drunk in the first place .. keep strong stay sober day by day ..
It blocks emotions in general I think. It's not discriminatory in what it does. We fool ourselves into believing that our positive emotions are left unscathed. All we really have left is a much watered down version. Day by day :)
I've completely lost control again. Going to get back on the wagon. Thought I could control it but it's a slippery slope. I cant afford to subsidise my drunken alter-ego any longer.
Definitely a slippery slope.
Very true : Recovery is costly in and time and energy. It's frustrating. "Normal" people will never understand all the effort this is, they just think stop it and that's it.
It's the life of anyone who decides to make a big change...There's not only the thing you're changing, but everything else that has been satelliting around that that habit that is affected. Big work, big rewards :)
'When I think about all the good times that's been wasted having good times'....lyrics frrom a sixties song but so true.
I like to listen to you while I take my Huskies out for hikes. Helps me, when I feel tempted still after 8 months of sobriety. I would much rather be enjoying nature with them then be intoxicated. 😄
Love that!
I agree with you 100% I think the longest I've been is 4 and I love to hunt fish ski kayak but I but I still miss that social fun no you ski if you're a cowboy blue collar that's what we do it seems which is an excuse but I feel so much better when I don't drink so yeah I go ride my mountain bike then on the way home I stop at the bar defuse everything that was good good eight months my friend is now going on 15 years and we**** So I know it's tough I guess it'll go for five months this time and keep going it's not like I'm a drunk it's just on the weekends I like to have a couple beers but then that leads to a couple more bears which leads to couple more bears and then you don't do your hikes you don't do your fishing you don't do your drives
@@bwnco Most of my friends don't drink or hardly drink anymore. These are people who were in my life before the addiction. Then I have my friends who I met through AA - I bailed out on AA 3 times btw lol. It wasn't till my 6th arrest that I took it seriously. Then my partner doesn't drink, he's never had an issue with drinking, he just doesn't like it. Living in Las Vegas is full of temptations, but everything you mentioned can be done socially without drinking. Just have to find the right people.
So true about not remembering any big events…my kids communions, weddings etc it is really selfish when you sit down and think about it. This has really got me thinking about packing it in. Theirs really no gains to drinking. Thanks
Absolutely!!
could you please do more videos about willpower?
You are my huge inspiration, Kevin 🍀
Happy to hear that!
Very good video kevin all the best
Cheers!
Yes. True. Thank you.
Thank you,
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10 Pints a day has marvellous health benefits 😆😆
Don't be silly ,billy
Poor thing..🙏
i suppose the humor helps you?..
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Hardest thing for me is the Social aspect. I stopped drinking to get a new knee.. Stopped for 3 months.. not a big deal. But im single, live alone an the bar is where I meet people, talk to people, interact, as I live in the countr also. Yes its a accepted huge thing for the world.. fri sat you go n have a few. So the stigma an social is the hardest. I never never ever ever ever drank at my home alone. Now I do. Like a beer or to but its like getting over weight it just a little at a time... When you look at a photo when you see your big fat gut. admire you kevin 'cause I know it's hard for me it's a social deal every week this struggle with it I write down that it's poison I write down how to fix those around us even if we don't get drunk you still feel like **** the next day I feel better when I'm not drinking but honestly I feel more lonely I go I go to the gym but the gym is not like the bar so yeah gotta figure something out anyway thanks for your films and noticed you changed your logo God bless