Hi my experiences with Extraverted Feeling, are vast, it's a function I've used at times when I feel passionate in communicating something of importance & at times when I've been bored of observation rather than engaging in a vast range of topics, I've exercised & used it in public in front of a large crowd of people in a store along with my Ni, whereby a regional store manager mistook me as an Extraverted person, as I sparked a conversation between customers & staff in the store, shared a little knowledge & one Moroccan lady, a member of staff stepped out of the crowd & everyone, he's an infj, which shocked me as I at the time knew very little about the type... I took 4 people aside & told them they were all born in the Chinese year of the Ox & all the Libra Zodiac sign, which after asking each other, there were a couple of WTF's always after they all confirmed that I was right, the regional manager again said, he can't be an introvert, I replied I am my type is known as the most extroverted of introverts, so a few people took their phones out confirmed what was being said them their was a crowd of people around me asking for selfies, my name, contact number & all just repeating similar things like not witnessing anything like what they had seen before, another curious member of staff, then asked me if I could tell his Zodiac, I replied yes your a Sagittarius, you've just recently come out of a relationship with someone & your right now wondering how I know that, he replied WTF bro I'm taking your number & a selfie, in a nutshell Wenzes I was bored had a hypothesis that I could display my fe, as well as Ni & I did, I'm claircognizant as well as Clairsentient & when using my Ni literally have to false myself to stop at times, I've set enigmas for a 'fb' group of Infjs months after typing Infjs & did similar with them, until someone told me what I was doing was not allowed & I gathered a few trolls feared the fact that I was running private jokes with authentic Infjs, strengthening several, getting groups of international strangers conversing & then I was contacted by someone asking me what I knew about occults & John Dee as well as MI5, I was told that their are many talented people in London & invited to a group & asked what I was gonna tell people, in a nutshell the whole convo was silly, the individual claimed to be an INFJ of 10 years & told me I'm confident & sure of my core traits, they also told me my assertiveness & trust in my Ni is grandiose, I found that bizzare as no one at that time was aware of my Ni or the fact that I'm a Infj & Enneagram 9, many of my own people are unaware I'm a Infj, I contacted a group of the world's geniuses & told them I have an abstract way of adding up dots understanding complex theory & asked them to by pass the 1st point of contact & forward my email to someone who would understand it, they replied, sent a contract which I hadn't filled in or sent back yet as I couldn't possibly state my own hourly wage that was requested & couldn't put a price on my core traits as I was still trying to understand them... To cut a long story short my fe is strong as well as my Ni & several other facets some which I will strengthen further, oh & don't mind my long example I'm passionate about our type & love seeing you work out many things, stopping me from commenting in the past to help & just nodding as you constantly hit the nail on the head, before you made a Infj Alpha video some time ago, I had a hypothesis of the very same thing which I documented a very long time ago & although was a bit bugged out when you mentioned the same thing, again I smiled & said OMG that's so strange this lady is on the same page as me, you basically described then fe...
Now Im at a place that being me is most imp part of my life. I wont ever minimize me. Ill Shine...even tho is feels so uncomfortable, Im going to and not let anyone keep me from expressing me and speaking my boundaries or hindering my self expression in any way. BOOM.
I have been actively working on FE! The negative and positive expression. I paint my nails regularly. I make sure I wear clothes that Iike. I also have found myself snapping when people do things around me I don’t like. What I mean by snapping is I communicate with an intense tone and people seem to get it 😊. Sometimes I react without even knowing it like I am not stopping myself anymore from expressing that emotional tug you get when people do/say things that hurt your feelings. This video is right on time for me.
Hi Wenzes, I love the way you described fe, basically many people are aware that an advanced INFJ with strong fe, is not a person any toxic person can find an angle around, our boundaries are way to strong, hence why when it's recognised, or our fe is exercised, we're loved by those who have healthy boundaries & disliked by those with poor boundaries, who don't know us at all & cannot manipulate us or bring their toxic energy to us, in fact people who know what we're about & who we are learn how to develop strong boundaries from us deal with toxic negative pretentious people in their lives, we develop an art of knowing how to talk to toxic people by not really talking to them, lol I don't need to elaborate as I'm sure you understand what I mean, in a nutshell I love your authentic positive energy & a realism that is goldust & simply can't be brought, keep doing as you do, stay blessed & you define my simple philosophy of the fact that we have no real weak traits it's all an illusion, we are all teachers/pupils & on our spiritual paths in our own time we can achieve unconditional love for ourselfs as well as self mastery & from then we can spread love & harmony with our own signature, which is pretty much evident all around us, past present as well as in the future through expression which we exercise through our fe through art, litterature, positive affirmations & just our very existence, stay blessed & beautiful 😊🙏🏿
Love the video! As a 46 year old INFJ I’ve have many years to master my FE and boy has it made my life so blessed. I’m so much more outspoken and express my wants and needs in a way that isn’t demanding or whiny just matter of fact. I find myself looking around at people and all the drama and negativity they love to bath in, yet complain about, and I think yeah you create and allow it all in can’t you see that? I’ve also been married to an ESTP for the last 20+ years and we have rounded each other out so much.
Been trying lately to let my Fe out more and it really helps, although it's unpleasant and feels forced. Your videos help me realize I should do it! Thanks :)
Yes, I experienced that today from your fans off one of my comments. Yes, I need to find a healthier way of expressing myself. You really hit the nail on the head.
I love how you explained that our Fe can be used how we want our lives to be. No I can't hold the persona for too long but I know it's not a manipulation and it's who I want to become. Thanks for the good advice!! 🙏💕
4:39 great explanation! I have always felt people's 'static' on my vibe. Then, if they hadn't figured out through Ti child. They get the door slam because I've had enough.
Hi Wenzes! I recently discovered your channel and love your insights! I dont think I had a much comprehensive understanding of Fe earlier. I just thought it was the ability to get into another person's shoes and feel what they feel and they create Harmony in the group. Knowing that it is also responsible for creating an "Emotional Atmosphere" is just so useful. I have used a lot of the thoughts around the Victim Mindset and Martyrdom. Knowing that Fe does this has been nothing less than a revelation! Thanks Wenzes! 😄
I loved this one so much I watched it twice! I love fe and I can see where I create that emotional atmosphere in all areas of my life whether negative or positive. I definitely still struggle with putting my fe out there at work but I'm becoming more confident with it. This was a really good one! Thanks Wenzes.
It is very interesting what you explain here and people can use this Fe depending on their consciousness negatively or positively in the wise sense of the word. I mean people who manipulate others to get what they want out of them exactly do what you are explaining here BUT they do it from a place of creating the persona they want based on no inner depth, knowledge and a fear of looking inside, they rather project outside and use seduction. Rather than when it is done from a place of deep inner emotional work and understanding of oneself, it creates a very similar effect on the outer world but we feel deeply aligned with oneself! I understand why I have always been afraid by the past to use this Fe function cos I could feel the power which would go with it and I was afraid to become what I dislike and use it the wrong way. I could feel that without a deeper knowledge and considering the traumatic dysfunctional family of origine I come from, I could become what I hate. It's fascinating, thank you for your explanations!
Fe it until you make it! :) I like this INFJ development series Wenzes. After watching the video on INFJ Se development, I was wondering if you saw the inferior function as the holy grail at the expense of the aux and tertiary functions but you cleared that up in the INFJ-ENFJ video and this one. Thumbs up!
Hearing how you describe Fe from the point of view of an INFJ seems almost alien to an ENFJ like me. But still very interesting a lot can be gained from it. Just the whole idea of having Ni dictate your Fe is interesting. For an ENFJ Fe is the first responder so I manifest Ni base off whatever the existing Fe is, so it would be the other way around.
Thank u again i like your confomation, so that i can be more self aware of my being to, You are truly amazing in your passion/work to help us. The way you describe things i can truly feel and understand.
Thanks for posting this. I’m having difficulty finding salient advice on developing Fe. You provided that along with an entirely different take on what Fe is than I’ve heard before. It sounds like your overall concept is utilizing Fe to manifest Fi. Am I in the ballpark? The whole “feeling” thing is a bit outside my wheelhouse.
As a child of 6 yrs old I was famous for say " I am sorry.". My mother, at the end of her rope one day told me I was the sorriest boy she ever met.I am still on the fence of what she really meant.
Try developing a consciously controlled Fe function when you're not even aware of this concept. That was me in my teens and 20s. It sucked and even more not being able to hide it. Like having an embarrassing moment broadcasted over the loud speaker.
Can blocking/removing all negativity from life be a sustainable practice? Negativity and uncertainty will never cease to exist, so aiming to remove it from my life at times felt like I was constantly searching for the bad, then turning a blind eye on what I found. I found solace in letting things happen naturally and learning how to square up and resolve it.
I personally keep looking for what is good and what I love...people and places...I really have almost no negativity in my life...you can't stop thinking about negativity but by focusing on positivity you will see how negativity will subside 😉
i am working on my Fe to get out of NiTi and stay healthy. I agree that it is uncomfortable and needs extra effort, it just dont come naturally. Sometimes i doubt going on with Fe, but there is no other way. Ni is auto and not much to do with it. Fe is like the growth zone that we need to develop step by step. thats what i think about Fe. I see it as the "living/doing/active mode" of infj, therefore need to be done. Is there something more to that? Thanks for your videos about infj, great to know deeper about our functions.
Hi :) yes, there is a lot more you get into when it comes to extraverted feeling for INFJ. Check out the newest video I have on FE...I think there are at least 2 video from the last 2 months...they will help you !
Wenzes! I just found another INFJ person here on UA-cam the other day and was watching her most recent video....She seems to be addressing the same issues as you are in this video....I just think it's amazing and awesome that we not only have UA-cam for sharing these things, but that the both of you and so many other great people take the time to share these insights. I have no doubt y'all are "changing lives"! Here's a link to the "Katie Marie" video I was referring to ua-cam.com/video/dxw2NdY5PSc/v-deo.html
Such a useful video 😊😊With Fe I think it allows infjs to experience nuances with humanity. But when I trip up with my Ti and forget to regulate my Fe, I can go into a mode where it’s me vs this ‘horrible’ world. Whereas the world isn’t as black and white as that. Also I was wondering is it healthy or possible to develop functions such as blind spot or demon, or is it better to just be aware of your own weaknesses and work from there?
What should I do to become more self sure about texting/sending e-mail to teachers or to people I admire? I mean when I write to such a person, before sending I go to my sister, I go to my mother, read them what I've written and I ask them If it sounds right, If I didn't unconsiously use any "inappropiate" phrase and so on. If they say "thats all right, send it", I still cant help writing to my friend and asking her the same. I ask whether it doesnt sound too rude or too pretensious, or maybe too nice and maybe I write too much and I should be more reserved. Every e-mail consumes almost all of my energy. I would like to be more like "Yes, I've written it myself and I will send it myself without any consultation, because this what I think and I don't care what they'll feel. The point is the information I have to give them, thats the real essence"
I just tell myself, ‚I am being inauthentic‘ so what!?...and then I just do it and then after I get used to it, it doesn‘t feel inauthentic anymore because I know my intentions are to lift people up
Thanks for watching! What are your experiences with Extraverted Feeling?!
Hi my experiences with Extraverted Feeling, are vast, it's a function I've used at times when I feel passionate in communicating something of importance & at times when I've been bored of observation rather than engaging in a vast range of topics, I've exercised & used it in public in front of a large crowd of people in a store along with my Ni, whereby a regional store manager mistook me as an Extraverted person, as I sparked a conversation between customers & staff in the store, shared a little knowledge & one Moroccan lady, a member of staff stepped out of the crowd & everyone, he's an infj, which shocked me as I at the time knew very little about the type... I took 4 people aside & told them they were all born in the Chinese year of the Ox & all the Libra Zodiac sign, which after asking each other, there were a couple of WTF's always after they all confirmed that I was right, the regional manager again said, he can't be an introvert, I replied I am my type is known as the most extroverted of introverts, so a few people took their phones out confirmed what was being said them their was a crowd of people around me asking for selfies, my name, contact number & all just repeating similar things like not witnessing anything like what they had seen before, another curious member of staff, then asked me if I could tell his Zodiac, I replied yes your a Sagittarius, you've just recently come out of a relationship with someone & your right now wondering how I know that, he replied WTF bro I'm taking your number & a selfie, in a nutshell Wenzes I was bored had a hypothesis that I could display my fe, as well as Ni & I did, I'm claircognizant as well as Clairsentient & when using my Ni literally have to false myself to stop at times, I've set enigmas for a 'fb' group of Infjs months after typing Infjs & did similar with them, until someone told me what I was doing was not allowed & I gathered a few trolls feared the fact that I was running private jokes with authentic Infjs, strengthening several, getting groups of international strangers conversing & then I was contacted by someone asking me what I knew about occults & John Dee as well as MI5, I was told that their are many talented people in London & invited to a group & asked what I was gonna tell people, in a nutshell the whole convo was silly, the individual claimed to be an INFJ of 10 years & told me I'm confident & sure of my core traits, they also told me my assertiveness & trust in my Ni is grandiose, I found that bizzare as no one at that time was aware of my Ni or the fact that I'm a Infj & Enneagram 9, many of my own people are unaware I'm a Infj, I contacted a group of the world's geniuses & told them I have an abstract way of adding up dots understanding complex theory & asked them to by pass the 1st point of contact & forward my email to someone who would understand it, they replied, sent a contract which I hadn't filled in or sent back yet as I couldn't possibly state my own hourly wage that was requested & couldn't put a price on my core traits as I was still trying to understand them... To cut a long story short my fe is strong as well as my Ni & several other facets some which I will strengthen further, oh & don't mind my long example I'm passionate about our type & love seeing you work out many things, stopping me from commenting in the past to help & just nodding as you constantly hit the nail on the head, before you made a Infj Alpha video some time ago, I had a hypothesis of the very same thing which I documented a very long time ago & although was a bit bugged out when you mentioned the same thing, again I smiled & said OMG that's so strange this lady is on the same page as me, you basically described then fe...
You are so smart, I feel good and released from anxiety by listening to you.
Please create a Patreon and we can all have amazing conversations like this!!!! loved this.
Now Im at a place that being me is most imp part of my life. I wont ever minimize me. Ill Shine...even tho is feels so uncomfortable, Im going to and not let anyone keep me from expressing me and speaking my boundaries or hindering my self expression in any way. BOOM.
Great work. This was really helpful.
I have been actively working on FE! The negative and positive expression. I paint my nails regularly. I make sure I wear clothes that Iike. I also have found myself snapping when people do things around me I don’t like. What I mean by snapping is I communicate with an intense tone and people seem to get it 😊. Sometimes I react without even knowing it like I am not stopping myself anymore from expressing that emotional tug you get when people do/say things that hurt your feelings. This video is right on time for me.
Sounds like you are on a great path Brittany 😊 glad you liked the video 😀👍
Hi Wenzes, I love the way you described fe, basically many people are aware that an advanced INFJ with strong fe, is not a person any toxic person can find an angle around, our boundaries are way to strong, hence why when it's recognised, or our fe is exercised, we're loved by those who have healthy boundaries & disliked by those with poor boundaries, who don't know us at all & cannot manipulate us or bring their toxic energy to us, in fact people who know what we're about & who we are learn how to develop strong boundaries from us deal with toxic negative pretentious people in their lives, we develop an art of knowing how to talk to toxic people by not really talking to them, lol I don't need to elaborate as I'm sure you understand what I mean, in a nutshell I love your authentic positive energy & a realism that is goldust & simply can't be brought, keep doing as you do, stay blessed & you define my simple philosophy of the fact that we have no real weak traits it's all an illusion, we are all teachers/pupils & on our spiritual paths in our own time we can achieve unconditional love for ourselfs as well as self mastery & from then we can spread love & harmony with our own signature, which is pretty much evident all around us, past present as well as in the future through expression which we exercise through our fe through art, litterature, positive affirmations & just our very existence, stay blessed & beautiful 😊🙏🏿
Stay blessed as well! Great way to put it!
You write your PhD thesis here?
Love the video! As a 46 year old INFJ I’ve have many years to master my FE and boy has it made my life so blessed. I’m so much more outspoken and express my wants and needs in a way that isn’t demanding or whiny just matter of fact. I find myself looking around at people and all the drama and negativity they love to bath in, yet complain about, and I think yeah you create and allow it all in can’t you see that? I’ve also been married to an ESTP for the last 20+ years and we have rounded each other out so much.
👍👍👍😊 sounds like you are on a great path, very happy for you 🤗
Been trying lately to let my Fe out more and it really helps, although it's unpleasant and feels forced. Your videos help me realize I should do it! Thanks :)
We just gotta push ourselves, it gets easier
Yes, I experienced that today from your fans off one of my comments. Yes, I need to find a healthier way of expressing myself. You really hit the nail on the head.
I love how you explained that our Fe can be used how we want our lives to be. No I can't hold the persona for too long but I know it's not a manipulation and it's who I want to become. Thanks for the good advice!! 🙏💕
Happy the video resonates with you 😊👍
4:39 great explanation! I have always felt people's 'static' on my vibe. Then, if they hadn't figured out through Ti child. They get the door slam because I've had enough.
Hi Wenzes! I recently discovered your channel and love your insights! I dont think I had a much comprehensive understanding of Fe earlier. I just thought it was the ability to get into another person's shoes and feel what they feel and they create Harmony in the group. Knowing that it is also responsible for creating an "Emotional Atmosphere" is just so useful. I have used a lot of the thoughts around the Victim Mindset and Martyrdom. Knowing that Fe does this has been nothing less than a revelation! Thanks Wenzes! 😄
Thanks for your feedback Atishay and glad my videos are helpful 😀
I loved this one so much I watched it twice! I love fe and I can see where I create that emotional atmosphere in all areas of my life whether negative or positive. I definitely still struggle with putting my fe out there at work but I'm becoming more confident with it. This was a really good one! Thanks Wenzes.
Glad you liked the video and it was beneficial! Thanks for your feedback Bethany 😊
It is very interesting what you explain here and people can use this Fe depending on their consciousness negatively or positively in the wise sense of the word. I mean people who manipulate others to get what they want out of them exactly do what you are explaining here BUT they do it from a place of creating the persona they want based on no inner depth, knowledge and a fear of looking inside, they rather project outside and use seduction. Rather than when it is done from a place of deep inner emotional work and understanding of oneself, it creates a very similar effect on the outer world but we feel deeply aligned with oneself! I understand why I have always been afraid by the past to use this Fe function cos I could feel the power which would go with it and I was afraid to become what I dislike and use it the wrong way. I could feel that without a deeper knowledge and considering the traumatic dysfunctional family of origine I come from, I could become what I hate. It's fascinating, thank you for your explanations!
This explains a lot of the way I've been and I still am. I'm currently trying to let people in my Fe sphere and help them with what I can.
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Fe it until you make it! :)
I like this INFJ development series Wenzes.
After watching the video on INFJ Se development, I was wondering if you saw the inferior function as the holy grail at the expense of the aux and tertiary functions but you cleared that up in the INFJ-ENFJ video and this one. Thumbs up!
Thanks 😀! Fe it until you make it! Love it!
Hearing how you describe Fe from the point of view of an INFJ seems almost alien to an ENFJ like me. But still very interesting a lot can be gained from it. Just the whole idea of having Ni dictate your Fe is interesting. For an ENFJ Fe is the first responder so I manifest Ni base off whatever the existing Fe is, so it would be the other way around.
Thank u again i like your confomation, so that i can be more self aware of my being to, You are truly amazing in your passion/work to help us. The way you describe things i can truly feel and understand.
Thanks for posting this. I’m having difficulty finding salient advice on developing Fe. You provided that along with an entirely different take on what Fe is than I’ve heard before. It sounds like your overall concept is utilizing Fe to manifest Fi. Am I in the ballpark? The whole “feeling” thing is a bit outside my wheelhouse.
Yes, the ball is definitely correct ;)
I relly appreciate your ability to explain things. Are there Jedi mind tricks to switch in and out of functions?
THANK YOU!!! i am definitely implementing it. I would love to know more about my 2nd and 3rd function
As a child of 6 yrs old I was famous for say " I am sorry.". My mother, at the end of her rope
one day told me I was the sorriest boy she ever met.I am still on the fence of what she really meant.
william sharp maybe because you said that a lot
Yeah, sounds like that to me too! The question is are you sorry about everything today?!
Try developing a consciously controlled Fe function when you're not even aware of this concept. That was me in my teens and 20s. It sucked and even more not being able to hide it. Like having an embarrassing moment broadcasted over the loud speaker.
Most of us were in the same shoes 😊
On point
late to this but so helpful! thankyou
Can blocking/removing all negativity from life be a sustainable practice? Negativity and uncertainty will never cease to exist, so aiming to remove it from my life at times felt like I was constantly searching for the bad, then turning a blind eye on what I found. I found solace in letting things happen naturally and learning how to square up and resolve it.
I personally keep looking for what is good and what I love...people and places...I really have almost no negativity in my life...you can't stop thinking about negativity but by focusing on positivity you will see how negativity will subside 😉
👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
i am working on my Fe to get out of NiTi and stay healthy. I agree that it is uncomfortable and needs extra effort, it just dont come naturally. Sometimes i doubt going on with Fe, but there is no other way. Ni is auto and not much to do with it. Fe is like the growth zone that we need to develop step by step. thats what i think about Fe. I see it as the "living/doing/active mode" of infj, therefore need to be done. Is there something more to that? Thanks for your videos about infj, great to know deeper about our functions.
Hi :) yes, there is a lot more you get into when it comes to extraverted feeling for INFJ. Check out the newest video I have on FE...I think there are at least 2 video from the last 2 months...they will help you !
Wenzes! I just found another INFJ person here on UA-cam the other day and was watching her most recent video....She seems to be addressing the same issues as you are in this video....I just think it's amazing and awesome that we not only have UA-cam for sharing these things, but that the both of you and so many other great people take the time to share these insights. I have no doubt y'all are "changing lives"! Here's a link to the "Katie Marie" video I was referring to ua-cam.com/video/dxw2NdY5PSc/v-deo.html
Thank you!
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This is so true!
😊👍
Such a useful video 😊😊With Fe I think it allows infjs to experience nuances with humanity. But when I trip up with my Ti and forget to regulate my Fe, I can go into a mode where it’s me vs this ‘horrible’ world. Whereas the world isn’t as black and white as that. Also I was wondering is it healthy or possible to develop functions such as blind spot or demon, or is it better to just be aware of your own weaknesses and work from there?
You can be aware of your weaknesses and still work on them. But once you know your limits, you won‘t be so hard on your self with it
What should I do to become more self sure about texting/sending e-mail to teachers or to people I admire? I mean when I write to such a person, before sending I go to my sister, I go to my mother, read them what I've written and I ask them If it sounds right, If I didn't unconsiously use any "inappropiate" phrase and so on. If they say "thats all right, send it", I still cant help writing to my friend and asking her the same. I ask whether it doesnt sound too rude or too pretensious, or maybe too nice and maybe I write too much and I should be more reserved. Every e-mail consumes almost all of my energy. I would like to be more like "Yes, I've written it myself and I will send it myself without any consultation, because this what I think and I don't care what they'll feel. The point is the information I have to give them, thats the real essence"
Would you say making music is a way of developing fe or is that se, or can it be both?
Making music and sharing it is fe for me 😉
How to develop fe
No. It is Se. Fe is judging others and self through ethics. Clothing, mood, status, success, physical apparence etc.
Is Fe the ultimate way to develop an INFJ?
I think its hard at least for me to access this because like you said it feels inauthentic.
It isn‘t easy but it can be beneficial and helpful...it can become authentic if you become one with the state you want to evoke
Wenzes how does one do that? I've been exploring things such as NLP
I just tell myself, ‚I am being inauthentic‘ so what!?...and then I just do it and then after I get used to it, it doesn‘t feel inauthentic anymore because I know my intentions are to lift people up