Has anyone else noticed that it’s not just sex before marriage but everything else too! “We need to buy a nice house before we get married” “I need to finish my degree first” “I need to make more money” . When did good Christian raised children start putting worldly things before godly things? My generation, we all got married and lived in one room apartments or really iffy rental houses. We didn’t have money in the beginning but we continued to work hard and God blessed us in the long run. It brought us closer together as a couple 😊
She is a fucking lying whore. Loads of marriages were unhappy and dysfunctional. that's why No Fault Divorce Laws passed in all 50 states. Catholics are lying misogynist perverts.
I wasn’t particularly promiscuous before I got married but I did have a few partners. I used to think some were “better” than others. My husband had less experience than 1 of my previous partners. But I became a Christian in 2019. And now I realized how perverse my previous experiences were. To the point where I could never be like that with my husband again. I can honestly say; with time, love, and patience, without a doubt I enjoy it significantly more with my husband. There’s something about being completely comfortable and allowing yourself to feel safe enough to be vulnerable that changes everything. I know secularist would not have the same experience I do because they are so blinded by the enemy and what it’s offering to them. They have no idea how much better it is when it’s done within the confines of marriage when you worship God. Again, not just in a certificate of marriage, I’m talking about with God in the center of the marriage. We both equally enjoy our intimate life far better than we did even in the beginning when we were younger. I can’t imagine being with someone else. The thought of it horrifies me.
Jaci Velasquez has a song called I Promise, it's all about waiting until marriage before having sex. It inspired my wife before we met. Marriage is God's first ministry, always remember to put your spouse first in everything, and keep Jesus at the center.
I really wish I had waited and done it this way. It sounds like a truly fulfilling life and relationship…a career will only give you so much satisfaction in the end
Loads of virgins, in our parents generation, ended up married to drunkards, drug abusers, domestic abusers- physical or verbal, gamblers, greedy, pornography users, adulterers and criminals. Jackie and Ethel Kennedy are two Catholic examples of the fallacy that being a virgin on your wedding day makes life grand.
@@francikoen with each generation it gets worse over all but that doesn’t mean we can’t change the tide and work on making things better. We are designed for one life long partner and when both people in the marriage are working on the marriage together with God it can be a very beautiful thing 🙏🏼❤️✝️ it’s even people step into sin and selfishness is when things go really wrong like drunkenness, abuse, gambling, adultery and so on. Then we develop fear, anger,woundedness and the devil can then live in your head rent free causing more pain and suffering. So marriage isn’t the problem it’s the sin and selfishness that hurt each other in the marriage. We as Catholics aren’t meant to think marriage is grand it’s hard work it’s showing up for your partner everyday because love is sacrifice and your virginity is something to present to your spouse as a gift no soul ties to other partners to worry about it’s just you and your spouse.
It’s never too late! Give your life to Jesus Christ and you will be born again! Everything made new! Your sins washed away! You have your whole life ahead of you to live and walk pure before The Lord. I pray He is working on your heart. In Him, you will have peace. 🙏🏻💜
@@francikoendepending on the age of your parents…they too grew up in a crummy generation. Things started to get bad in the early 60s with the sexual revolution and f3minism
@@roseg1333 I never said that marriage is the problem. I said the popular male vices are the problem. Then you insulted wives when their husbands indulge vices. And I pointed out that virginity does not always make marriage grand. So you are bickering with me... though you are repeating what I said. Note: I said nothing against virginity. I simply pointed out what you also said.... that marriage is not always grand. Catholics, like you, nag continually at wives to sacrifice, sacrifice sacrifice, while you pass over men's vices... and tell wives to sacrifice, sacrifice, sacrifice... while you pass over husbands' vices.
In the old days a man and woman left home for good on their wedding day and slept together as man and wife on their wedding night. There was so much respect and love.
This message is so important. I was never given this message but quite literally the opposite one and it brought a lot of pain and regret. I hope to be able to share this with my future children one day.
My grandparents were very happy. They had 7 children. Lost two as adults in tragic accidents. Travelled. Dealt with debilitating heart disease causing kidney failure. Found joy in spending time with their grandchildren. My grandma lost my grandfather in 1999 before Christmas and years later when I was asking her about him she said she still missed him. She went on to live 24 years without him dying at 100. Without a doubt they’ve been reunited again. 💕 My parents although also married a long time do not have that joy my grandparents had. My sister has dated a lot and does not have that joy either.
I have been hurt and had multiple partners. I finally found the one who truly loves me and wants to be with me. It’s the best sex I have ever had and I don’t need to compare to the past because it’s so much better than anything I have ever had before and I don’t see myself having this with anyone else
Dr smith's "contraception why not" is most sensible, factual, scientific, and reasonable resource about why the church and natural law have been correct about contraception all along.
Bingo. It's so hard to tell guys, 'You're going to be competing with her memories of all the other guys she's had, and some of them will have been better than you!'
And as a guy, it’s hard to state this concern in almost any secular public setting. You are immediately met with intense scorn. “Don’t be so sexist/insecure!”, or, “stop trying to control women’s sexuality!”, or, “be quiet incel!”. Well I’m sorry but the physical and emotional intimacy that is experienced during sex is such a powerful experience for some, especially those who don’t excessively abuse the act, that it’s no wonder a man can feel insecure and have a broken heart, knowing that the woman freely gave out this intimacy with so many other men previously and shared the same experience with them.
“Too Good at Goodbyes” by Sam Smith and “Everyone Who Falls In Love (Has Someone Else They’re Thinking Of)” by Cian Ducrot perfectly illustrates why virgin till marriage is an fantastic idea I mean, when people on the other side tells you how much they’re hurt by the sexual revolution and it has billions of views - you know they’re telling the truth. Learn from the cautionary tales of those who’ve been there and had their lives ruined
I love Dr. Janet Smith! She has inspired me my whole adolescent and adult life to be a better woman and take better care of my soul. God reward her in heaven!
Janet Smith is a misogynist liar. Loads of marriages, in our parents generation, were unhappy, due to drunkenness, drug abuse, domestic abuse-physical or verbal, gambling, greed, pornography, adultery and criminality. Jackie and Ethel Kennedy are 2 famous examples of virgins who married adulterous Catholic husbands.
She is a funking misogynist liar. Loads of marriages, in our parents generation, were unhappy. Catholics LIE to denigrate women and exonerate men's vices.
I had many partners before I become a Christian and after that I waited until I got married to my husband and that was the best decision.. it’s more meaningful this way and I know he won’t ever leave me or abandon me. Praise God for redemption
100%. I made many mistakes before following God. I slept around. In my marriage now, I am very blessed that he is the best I've had. I'm not sure what I'd do if he couldn't compare to past partners. Would I place good sex over our relationship? Our family? Staying together for the kids when times are hard? I'd like to think not, but no way to know for sure. Women compare. There's no way out of that.
This same argument could be used to argue for arranged marriage right out of high school though. She might be thinking “Jake planned better dates” or “Joe was richer.” He might be thinking “Jane was a better cook” or “Cindy was skinnier.” Unless you’re focused on what really matters - which is NOT sex either, by the way, it’s literally one of the least important things in life - you will always be dissatisfied
Wife and I waited - BIG difference between waiting out of love for your future spouse you haven’t met yet, and doing it because you’re going to be totally shunned by society if you don’t wait. So generally, if a couple in todays society actually manages to wait until marriage- it’s for much more deeply rooted personal reasons, and that spouse you’ve waited for and found is going to be much more virtuous and faithful. Not likely they’re an abuser in today as it would have been in the ‘old days’ when everyone was ‘forced’ to wait by the culture…. Although, I still believe that’s better than what we have now!
@@Ahomesteadersdream please don’t misunderstand, I’m not saying the people in this video DO advocate for arranged marriages. I’m merely saying that they need an argument for waiting that couldn’t *also* be used for the extreme end of the spectrum. I’m not a fan of hookup culture for myself. My husband and I didn’t wait for marriage because the institution was more for legal benefits for us, but we are each other’s only sexual partners and I’m glad about that. I don’t feel I lost out on anything by not sleeping with a bunch of guys who see me as a toy instead of a person, or by treating a bunch of guys like toys.
@@Fearlessly91 I agree that ‘like it was in the old days’ is not a good enough argument. But rather, the reason to wait is born out of genuine love. Not sure if you’re familiar with John Paul 2’s Theology of the Body, but the 4 core tenants of what sexuality was meant to be is: Free, Total, Faithful, and Fruitful (both bonding for the couple and with openness to children). We’ve lived our marriage this way for 15 years now, and have 5 kids… we genuinely love our family and our lives. So I do believe there’s a right way to live out chastity, both outside of and within marriage. And if it’s not born out of love and personal virtue, it’s not going to be very good… or, as good as it could have been.
@@Fearlessly91 Not wanting to be used by guys like a toy…. Everyone needs to hear this today!! Also from JPII - There’s a very strong case to be made that the opposite of love is not hate… but to USE another person. Because love is not a ‘feeling’ but rather an act of self giving (especially when it’s most difficult to do so - changing diapers or vomit at 3am for example). So the opposite of self giving would be ‘self-taking’… or to use another human being for one’s personal gain such as slavery, or in the case of this discussion… one’s own sexual desires instead of the other person’s good, or ‘to be used as a toy’.
There is nothing wrong with arranged marriages. It is certainly not a sin nor is it extreme. Arranged marriages have a 4% divorce rate due to the fact that family is involved and their reputation is on the line. Being a bad husband or wife would dishonor the family's legacy.
Janet Smith is a misogynist liar. Loads of marriages, in our parents generation, were unhappy due to drunkenness, drug abuse, domestic abuse - physical or verbal, gambling, greed, pornography, adultery and criminality. Jackie and Ethel Kennedy are two famous examples of Catholic virgins who married habitual adulterers.
Has anyone else noticed that it’s not just sex before marriage but everything else too! “We need to buy a nice house before we get married” “I need to finish my degree first” “I need to make more money” . When did good Christian raised children start putting worldly things before godly things? My generation, we all got married and lived in one room apartments or really iffy rental houses. We didn’t have money in the beginning but we continued to work hard and God blessed us in the long run. It brought us closer together as a couple 😊
So thankful my husband was my first everything, and I was his as well. It makes it more sweet and precious! ❤
It’s always good to hear the truth being spoken. I pray young people will hear and listen.
She is a fucking lying whore. Loads of marriages were unhappy and dysfunctional. that's why No Fault Divorce Laws passed in all 50 states. Catholics are lying misogynist perverts.
What young folks should hear today! Not the trash our depraved culture pushes!
Girl this woman gave me goosebumps. If I could go back in time I would have waited
I wasn’t particularly promiscuous before I got married but I did have a few partners. I used to think some were “better” than others. My husband had less experience than 1 of my previous partners. But I became a Christian in 2019. And now I realized how perverse my previous experiences were. To the point where I could never be like that with my husband again. I can honestly say; with time, love, and patience, without a doubt I enjoy it significantly more with my husband. There’s something about being completely comfortable and allowing yourself to feel safe enough to be vulnerable that changes everything. I know secularist would not have the same experience I do because they are so blinded by the enemy and what it’s offering to them. They have no idea how much better it is when it’s done within the confines of marriage when you worship God. Again, not just in a certificate of marriage, I’m talking about with God in the center of the marriage. We both equally enjoy our intimate life far better than we did even in the beginning when we were younger. I can’t imagine being with someone else. The thought of it horrifies me.
So wonderful and wise. Thank you for sharing.❤
Whoa, your husband is a jewel
Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you” (James 4:7
Contraception broke all hell loose
Hell had already broken loose with habitual male drunkenness, domestic abuse, gambling, pornography, adultery and criminality.
AMEN
Contraception, no fault divorce, abortion, we can see the consequences under every bridge in CA
@@bernadettesandoval3990 Exactly!!
Exactly
Jaci Velasquez has a song called I Promise, it's all about waiting until marriage before having sex. It inspired my wife before we met. Marriage is God's first ministry, always remember to put your spouse first in everything, and keep Jesus at the center.
I really wish I had waited and done it this way. It sounds like a truly fulfilling life and relationship…a career will only give you so much satisfaction in the end
Loads of virgins, in our parents generation, ended up married to drunkards, drug abusers, domestic abusers- physical or verbal, gamblers, greedy, pornography users, adulterers and criminals. Jackie and Ethel Kennedy are two Catholic examples of the fallacy that being a virgin on your wedding day makes life grand.
@@francikoen with each generation it gets worse over all but that doesn’t mean we can’t change the tide and work on making things better. We are designed for one life long partner and when both people in the marriage are working on the marriage together with God it can be a very beautiful thing 🙏🏼❤️✝️ it’s even people step into sin and selfishness is when things go really wrong like drunkenness, abuse, gambling, adultery and so on. Then we develop fear, anger,woundedness and the devil can then live in your head rent free causing more pain and suffering. So marriage isn’t the problem it’s the sin and selfishness that hurt each other in the marriage. We as Catholics aren’t meant to think marriage is grand it’s hard work it’s showing up for your partner everyday because love is sacrifice and your virginity is something to present to your spouse as a gift no soul ties to other partners to worry about it’s just you and your spouse.
It’s never too late! Give your life to Jesus Christ and you will be born again! Everything made new! Your sins washed away! You have your whole life ahead of you to live and walk pure before The Lord. I pray He is working on your heart. In Him, you will have peace. 🙏🏻💜
@@francikoendepending on the age of your parents…they too grew up in a crummy generation. Things started to get bad in the early 60s with the sexual revolution and f3minism
@@roseg1333 I never said that marriage is the problem. I said the popular male vices are the problem. Then you insulted wives when their husbands indulge vices. And I pointed out that virginity does not always make marriage grand. So you are bickering with me... though you are repeating what I said. Note: I said nothing against virginity. I simply pointed out what you also said.... that marriage is not always grand. Catholics, like you, nag continually at wives to sacrifice, sacrifice sacrifice, while you pass over men's vices... and tell wives to sacrifice, sacrifice, sacrifice... while you pass over husbands' vices.
❤ this. I wish I would've waited.
In the old days a man and woman left home for good on their wedding day and slept together as man and wife on their wedding night. There was so much respect and love.
There were so many unhappy marriages due to habitual male drunkenness, domestic abuse, gambling, pornography, adultery and criminality.
This message is so important. I was never given this message but quite literally the opposite one and it brought a lot of pain and regret. I hope to be able to share this with my future children one day.
Dream on! People don't fornicate due to supposed ""messages." Fornication has been a problem for millennia. Catholics are misogynist liars.
To wait is the most liberating thing in the world. 😊
60 plus ❤
My grandparents were very happy. They had 7 children. Lost two as adults in tragic accidents. Travelled. Dealt with debilitating heart disease causing kidney failure. Found joy in spending time with their grandchildren. My grandma lost my grandfather in 1999 before Christmas and years later when I was asking her about him she said she still missed him. She went on to live 24 years without him dying at 100. Without a doubt they’ve been reunited again. 💕 My parents although also married a long time do not have that joy my grandparents had. My sister has dated a lot and does not have that joy either.
No sex until you are married.❤
The pain of discipline is always less than the pain of regret ❤
I have been hurt and had multiple partners. I finally found the one who truly loves me and wants to be with me. It’s the best sex I have ever had and I don’t need to compare to the past because it’s so much better than anything I have ever had before and I don’t see myself having this with anyone else
Dr smith's "contraception why not" is most sensible, factual, scientific, and reasonable resource about why the church and natural law have been correct about contraception all along.
JESUS is the key 🔑
Bingo. It's so hard to tell guys, 'You're going to be competing with her memories of all the other guys she's had, and some of them will have been better than you!'
And as a guy, it’s hard to state this concern in almost any secular public setting. You are immediately met with intense scorn. “Don’t be so sexist/insecure!”, or, “stop trying to control women’s sexuality!”, or, “be quiet incel!”. Well I’m sorry but the physical and emotional intimacy that is experienced during sex is such a powerful experience for some, especially those who don’t excessively abuse the act, that it’s no wonder a man can feel insecure and have a broken heart, knowing that the woman freely gave out this intimacy with so many other men previously and shared the same experience with them.
And men as well
It is more likely to last when marriage is a covenant with God.
“Too Good at Goodbyes” by Sam Smith and “Everyone Who Falls In Love (Has Someone Else They’re Thinking Of)” by Cian Ducrot perfectly illustrates why virgin till marriage is an fantastic idea
I mean, when people on the other side tells you how much they’re hurt by the sexual revolution and it has billions of views - you know they’re telling the truth. Learn from the cautionary tales of those who’ve been there and had their lives ruined
I love Dr. Janet Smith! She has inspired me my whole adolescent and adult life to be a better woman and take better care of my soul. God reward her in heaven!
Janet Smith is a misogynist liar. Loads of marriages, in our parents generation, were unhappy, due to drunkenness, drug abuse, domestic abuse-physical or verbal, gambling, greed, pornography, adultery and criminality. Jackie and Ethel Kennedy are 2 famous examples of virgins who married adulterous Catholic husbands.
This is so beautiful.
She is a funking misogynist liar. Loads of marriages, in our parents generation, were unhappy. Catholics LIE to denigrate women and exonerate men's vices.
How beautiful is this and true.
The worst is when you do live your life this way, but then soon find out nobody else has.
Beautiful!!!!Wow!
Preach!!!
I had many partners before I become a Christian and after that I waited until I got married to my husband and that was the best decision.. it’s more meaningful this way and I know he won’t ever leave me or abandon me. Praise God for redemption
Hallelujah
100%. I made many mistakes before following God. I slept around. In my marriage now, I am very blessed that he is the best I've had. I'm not sure what I'd do if he couldn't compare to past partners. Would I place good sex over our relationship? Our family? Staying together for the kids when times are hard? I'd like to think not, but no way to know for sure. Women compare. There's no way out of that.
This edit is 🔥🔥🔥
Said perfectly.
Amen!
Spot on
Precisely
🎉❤
This same argument could be used to argue for arranged marriage right out of high school though. She might be thinking “Jake planned better dates” or “Joe was richer.” He might be thinking “Jane was a better cook” or “Cindy was skinnier.” Unless you’re focused on what really matters - which is NOT sex either, by the way, it’s literally one of the least important things in life - you will always be dissatisfied
Wife and I waited - BIG difference between waiting out of love for your future spouse you haven’t met yet, and doing it because you’re going to be totally shunned by society if you don’t wait.
So generally, if a couple in todays society actually manages to wait until marriage- it’s for much more deeply rooted personal reasons, and that spouse you’ve waited for and found is going to be much more virtuous and faithful. Not likely they’re an abuser in today as it would have been in the ‘old days’ when everyone was ‘forced’ to wait by the culture…. Although, I still believe that’s better than what we have now!
@@Ahomesteadersdream please don’t misunderstand, I’m not saying the people in this video DO advocate for arranged marriages. I’m merely saying that they need an argument for waiting that couldn’t *also* be used for the extreme end of the spectrum.
I’m not a fan of hookup culture for myself. My husband and I didn’t wait for marriage because the institution was more for legal benefits for us, but we are each other’s only sexual partners and I’m glad about that. I don’t feel I lost out on anything by not sleeping with a bunch of guys who see me as a toy instead of a person, or by treating a bunch of guys like toys.
@@Fearlessly91 I agree that ‘like it was in the old days’ is not a good enough argument. But rather, the reason to wait is born out of genuine love. Not sure if you’re familiar with John Paul 2’s Theology of the Body, but the 4 core tenants of what sexuality was meant to be is: Free, Total, Faithful, and Fruitful (both bonding for the couple and with openness to children). We’ve lived our marriage this way for 15 years now, and have 5 kids… we genuinely love our family and our lives.
So I do believe there’s a right way to live out chastity, both outside of and within marriage. And if it’s not born out of love and personal virtue, it’s not going to be very good… or, as good as it could have been.
@@Fearlessly91 Not wanting to be used by guys like a toy…. Everyone needs to hear this today!!
Also from JPII - There’s a very strong case to be made that the opposite of love is not hate… but to USE another person. Because love is not a ‘feeling’ but rather an act of self giving (especially when it’s most difficult to do so - changing diapers or vomit at 3am for example). So the opposite of self giving would be ‘self-taking’… or to use another human being for one’s personal gain such as slavery, or in the case of this discussion… one’s own sexual desires instead of the other person’s good, or ‘to be used as a toy’.
There is nothing wrong with arranged marriages. It is certainly not a sin nor is it extreme. Arranged marriages have a 4% divorce rate due to the fact that family is involved and their reputation is on the line. Being a bad husband or wife would dishonor the family's legacy.
oh wow.
Every old grandpa has a story of being a womanizer from my experience.
Bravo
❤
Oh yes, in former times you were so happy, as a woman you couldn't leave your abusive partner, because you don't have a job...😮
My parents were happily married.
La cara de Lila es molesta....
Love you perspect
Janet Smith is a misogynist liar. Loads of marriages, in our parents generation, were unhappy due to drunkenness, drug abuse, domestic abuse - physical or verbal, gambling, greed, pornography, adultery and criminality. Jackie and Ethel Kennedy are two famous examples of Catholic virgins who married habitual adulterers.
മലയാളികൾ ആരെങ്കിലും ഉണ്ടോ?
Not all men but somehow always a man 😂❤