No one is telling the parents to take sides. Just discipline your kids and tell them what’s wrong and what’s right and to have respect for one another. That’s parenting, not taking sides
The parents are so irreresponsible. That poor girl got bullied not only in school but at her own house. How stressful is she to deal with all of that. The parents don't have to choose side with 1 kid. They can just agree with the kid who's right. This type of parenting disgusts me.
It may not seem like a THAT much of a problem right now but if they continue to think it’s okay to treat their own older sister in that manner, imagine how they’ll treat others in the future. Bullies in the making :/
@@Eki_________ ikr if she is interested she should have asked more questions, asking her eldest daughter how is she now, how to deal with the younger ones especially
My brother who is 3 years younger than me is really disrespectful towards me. But my parents are really strict. He is almost afraid of my father. If he disobeys me in front of our father its game over for him..He really has a lot of respect. But when my dad goes to work and my mother is not around he turns into a devil and is really being rude. I tried to dicipline him even with violence but it wont work.
@@mejjune2849 hm, after your parents scolded your brother, they still treat him nicely right? Usually my parents would scold me and after that they treat me equally just like my sisters, they made sure I apologized so I don't have nasty feeling left. Or maybe you and your brother need more time, wait till both of you being matured and solve this, because honestly when I was still a kid my sister didn't really nice to me
@@Serendipityismy No, I actually am very against corporal punishment. It was a joke. The actual answer is the parents being more involved in their kids' life by mediating their arguments. Letting them know they're all wrong for being mean to each other and should be loving to one another, even in the middle of an argument.
The one who should be shame is their parents. Mostly asian thinks its OK/ can tolerate for the younger one behaviour, but that's where The parents supposed to act as a parents, told whats good or not. For a 12 yo kid, the way She said all negative words (she want to die, leaving house etc) as if its not a big deal is worrying.
@@kai3e A "kid" can bully someone and push him to suicide. The only thing that makes them kid is the fact that they won't be responsible in any way of their actions.
to be honest actually this problem start from the parents. if parent dont do anything to change their kids manner they will become violence and hurt other peoples.
I think is really interesting how they play, because the younger siblings do the roles of king and queen and the older sister portrays the peasant (vassal). I feel like this is how they hold positions on the family and the power each siblings has. I went through a similar experience with my younger sibling and through psychological counseling I understood that sadly nobody even your family is going to stand up for you, even when you are right or they might not be able to get the reasoning behind your concern. From my point of view the mom doesn't seem to care at all, and despite the good intentions of the dad I believe this will not be resolved by simply talking to the younger siblings. Overall I do hope and send my best wishes to the eldest daughter, she seems to have gone through a lot and I can definitely relate.
the sister & brother literally looked like bullies, idk something in their eyes, they looked so cold & mean ... the brother really looked like he's going to be some heartless mafia chef later ... i really hope the parents show the now that there are boundaries, i mean every child needs some rules, they can't just do everything themselves, they need to see if smth is right or wrong.. but if the parents don't do anything about bullying then they think it's ok.. and it's also not just some trivial things like the mother thinks, this hurts her little soul so much & can really end in her trying to run away or k*ll herself, like korea hasn't one of the highest suicide rates for nothing... people can be really heartless & have no understanding of what bullying does.. it's actually so concerning, like in germany there are often anti bully projects in school & everyone tries to make it better, but I doubt there is this awareness in korea...
I so understand how this girl feels. When I was growing up, every time my sister would fight with me I would end up getting in trouble. If she hit me first and I hit her back then I would get punished since I was the oldest which really bothered me but when my dad was still alive I could deal with it cause he was on my side. After he passed away it still continued and my sister got worse cause she realized that she cud do anything to me and I could never react and she could never get in trouble, she didn't respect me at all which was what made it hard to take care of her when we were alone. At that point my relationship with my mother was bad cause I felt like she didn't love me, I wanted to die too cause I felt like the only parent who loved me was gone and now I was alone. Years later when I was in high school my mom overheard my sister swearing at me and chasing me around the house with a shoe in her hand and my mom asked what was happening and my sister accused me of being the one doing those things so my mom realized how my sister really had been acting. She called a family meeting where I poured my heart out and she finally reprimanded my sister. After that where fights and behavior are concerned she checked my sister when she did something wrong and even though the favoritism is still there it has been easier to swallow since there is no disrespect between us siblings anymore. As for my mom, I have long accepted that she has her favorite and that's never gonna change but she does love me too, but even if that is the case all this has really damaged my self confidence and the way I feel about myself , I'm 28 years old now and I'm still dealing with confidence and self love issues so I do hope that they take this seriously cause there's still time to change it.
This is what my older sister feels. We keep bickering fight when we kids. But now we are really close to each other as we getting older. Older siblings always faced this problem actually.
What makes me so mad is hat the 10 year old girl is like smiling everytime someone mentioned the things she did the Subin and i think the child that needs to be disciplined more is the 10 year old
It really annoyed me when the parents were like "There's nothing I can do about it..." or "I don't wanna take sides!" What are you even saying?! You two doing nothing is the problem!! You are their parents, discipline them for goodness sake!
Wow, this is the first time I've ever seen a host give ACTUAL ADVICE on this show! This is why Youngja won the entertainer of the year award! She straight up told them how to parent their damn spawn. She's not even a parent herself, but she could do a better job.
I think parenting is so important here. They can't simply said to the kids that they need to figure it out by themselves because they probably don't know what they should do. Plus, the eldest is in a very crucial and sensitive age. This may can lead to low self-esteem in the future.
I always heard my friends complaining about their younger siblings (I lived in Korea) but I was the younger one. My parents told me to ask my sister from time to time “Unnie am I really annoying?” If she yes then I would try to fix it, if she said no I would smile and she would give me chocolate. I sometimes wish Korea didn’t have the age ranking system as maybe these issues wouldn’t exist.
blame it on the incompetent parents. they’re trash, especially the dad that take sides.dun bully anyone, it scars them for life. its rly depressed and stressful for person too. i srsly hope they are in good relationship now. 😔
I agree with Korea’s culture, that older age should be more respected, but no matter the age, a standard of respect should be upheld. Hitting anyone of any age is not tolerable. Teaching respect for people is not taking sides.
I think the respect of elder siblings should be given if they deserve it. My eldest sister, is great. She looks out for us all and is a great leader. My other elder sister (middle child) is a terrible person and doesnt deserve respect, it would only inflate her ego.
I think every firstborn can relate to this. You are the eldest,so you have to be more matured. Me and my brother were separated by 2 years so I can totally relate this. I also used to tell straightly to my parents that they don't love me and they just love my siblings. That's hurt them a lot but I don't even show that I regret what I said.
I can actually relate to this girl as I am around her age, and my siblings around her sibling's age. I'm usually the one who neither parents take my side, so i feel some extra sympathy for this girl as we go through he same problems- ooh and also UGH i hate those kids who act sweet inf front of others but when adults are gone they're the worst- (aka my siblings)
Beatriz Gómez Tornero so is the parents “non violence” working? There are some situations where violence is not a choice but a necessity because parents need to make it clear who’s the leader I’ve been beaten but as I grew up I saw the people around me and I’m grateful they did the children might hate you for a few years but. That way in the future no one else will hate them
I am also the eldest I was not satisfied and really regretted that my parents had always told me to sacrifice. But never tell others about me or respect me
I honestly think that this show should have a professional counselor I don't mean that they are bad or whatever that may be but honestly they should have a counselor.
They've had medical professionals do video call in the past but not on stage with them. Medical professionals are busy and have to be in the office / hospital in case something happens. They're also probably not getting paid to show their face on this show either.
I grew up on a 40 acre plot of land that all my family lived on. So during the summers, there were 6 kids running around the property. When one got in trouble, we all did. I remember having to file into the house one by one and all of us getting whooped as we passed through the door. Lucky they weren't raised by my family.
This is gonna be a bigger problem for the siblings once they grow older. The more they tolerate their attitude the more they'll show how bully they are until they will be the one ending up getting bullied by other people. PARENTS NEED TO DISCIPLINE THEM PROPERLY WHILE THEY ARE STILL YOUNG AT AGE.
I speak from experience that one day Subin will reach a point she acts violently to her siblings and that is when she will not only strike fear in her siblings but in her parents as well. Then the relationship between her and her siblings will be broken for good, those parents need to discipline the younger ones better before Subin gets violent or the siblings do.
girl i just wanna say "be happy to you and do not let them or other things makes you unhappy. u deserve everything as much as u want them" to you. i dont know if that was really happen to you but as a human being thats all i can say. cheer up, ur not alone!! *virtual hugs*
I relate to this episode so much. I sometimes just want a parent that listens and helps instead of lecturing how to be a better older sister. And it's even worse when my parents tell their friends that I'm a teen and that's why I'm taking it so sensitively. BECAUSE I'm a teen I need someone to comfort and take care of me. I think that 50% of the problem sometimes is the parents because they don't discipline their youngest much because they think their oldest is an angel and will do anything they ask
The fact that she doesn't feel respected at all weather it's at home or at school must be really heavy on her,, she'll see people thinking of her as easy and someone to annoy and play with and that she'll stay silent. That would hurt her and instead of keeping quiet because she doesn't wanna argue she will end up keeping quiet because she will feel lonely and not supported 😔 Each human deserve self respect, it is frustrating when people doesn't respect you as a person and doesn't respect your feelings
I'm so happy that I don't have dad and mom like this (sorry that I use the word too hard or bad) . I have 1 sister. They teach me to respect each other.they didn't tell me like you have to share this / forget it / forgive her cause I'm a big sister. And yes, we're happy!! my sister know how to be the cute young sis and I try to be a good person to her too 💕When I saw this, I feel bad with her hope you grow up with more happiness. Please smile more and the good thing will come to you dear💕
My bro and sis would never bother me.i treated them just like my kids,I sometimes ground them... and it's all thanks to my parents.they so strict and never let kids shouted.
The people that didn’t vote it as a concern are younger siblings lol I totally relate because my younger brother is completely out of hand, and despite being the oldest, I’m the smallest... I couldn’t really use force anymore at a certain point because words never worked. My younger sister didn’t bother me, but she would do nothing around the house and my brother would do nothing too. Just a ramble about younger siblings getting away with too much lol
I can relate. My parents always tell me I'm older so I have to help my brother and empathize with him. I have to do things for him since I'm older. I take care of everything and my parents would always call me to do chores while he plays games all day. I can't even complain or look annoyed or they'll get mad. What's different is that my problem is with my parents not siblin. Now I just want to graduate high school as soon as possible and move away overseas. They can be fun and parentlike but many times I just feel like I'm suffocating.
I get her concern, I would get angry if I my siblings didn’t respect me and would treat me as a push over. It may not seem like a big problem to people but as parents they need to set boundaries, yeah they treat her like that because is her sister (and its not okay) but just imagine them treating others as push overs is simply not okay
The parents are at fault here too. As a parent, they should tolerate and discipline their children. No one should take sides. Even if she's 12, you cant just say that she should figure it out on her own. She asked for your help but thats your answer? Sounds like an irresponsible parent. And also, maybe the sister is also a bit too much since her brother and sister just wants to play with her but she keeps on declining but that's not an excuse to disrespect someone older than you. Discipline is really needed here.
I hate when parents tell you to be more mature when you express a problem w someone younger being mature has to do w how you handle the situation not w how you feel about the situation it still hurts even if you don't stoop to their level especially at 12 years old maybe by the time they're all in high school or college they'll understand how much they grow and change each year so they'll have some sort of sympathy for younger kids but the girl's not even driving and she wants to run away that's heartbreaking
I still remember when i was a kid, and my brother annoyed me for every damn minute, and my father just went "dont cry and come to me but annoy him twice" LMAO and surprisingly I and my siblings could live happily till this very day
Those siblings are soo lucky to have a kind sister like that, she doesn’t get scary when her younger siblings annoy her. If I try to annoy my older sister in any way or eat her ice cream I’ll be dead meat😔
In my household, these 2 siblings wouldn't be that twisted because my parents are actually good and strict. They know the concept of candy and sandals :v
if their parents dont teach those 2 kids. theu grow up with bad manner -_- they must be happy live in korea. if they born like me, they surely know how to respect people
My siblings used to follow me around ALL THE TIME. That's really hard I can say but actually as they get older they'll eventually stop being so annoyiny
The parents need to be involved too, not just letting them figured it out by themselves. Without the right directions from parents, it's hard for them to figure it out the right way. There will be many times they figure it out the wrong ways. That's why they take actions by hitting each other or doing violent acts. True, they need more rules. She may be the oldest but she didn't choose to be born first. Ofc, there are times for her to be responsible as the oldest but first, treat her as "child", not "the oldest". Treat the three of them equally as your children first, not just "oldest" or "younger" or "youngest". Please parent, be active in disciplining them! Parent them, guide them! -------------- Btw, 14:20 the male audience who did bite his fingers though 😂
I think most oldest kids are relatable with this concern.. including me 😊 And as we can see here, the parents didn't do their job as a parents to their kids. The main problem here is the parents, so the younger kids didn't respect their sister because their parents never teach them 😒
The parents don’t seem to care at all which is so sad! They should take care of their children’s mental and physical health as well, obesity is dangerous they might get diabetes later on which is no fun
the eternal plague of the eldest sibling. i'm 20 now and this shit will never end you just gotta beat their asses until you leave for college/university lol
I really relate to her concern. I hv a big brother and ofc he’s a boy and barely do any chores but always got money from my dad bcs he’s sTuDyInG as if i didnt go to sch smh. So i always give hint to my parents that i hate this kind of discrimination but they didnt listen and put me in life that i hate
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No one is telling the parents to take sides. Just discipline your kids and tell them what’s wrong and what’s right and to have respect for one another. That’s parenting, not taking sides
fr im the youngest and my parents rlly rLLY discipline me bc when i was young they be hitting me to not do it again, and it worked💀
The parents are so irreresponsible. That poor girl got bullied not only in school but at her own house. How stressful is she to deal with all of that. The parents don't have to choose side with 1 kid. They can just agree with the kid who's right. This type of parenting disgusts me.
It may not seem like a THAT much of a problem right now but if they continue to think it’s okay to treat their own older sister in that manner, imagine how they’ll treat others in the future. Bullies in the making :/
To be honest the mother still looks like she doesn't care throughout this whole ep
thank god I'm not the only one who thought that lol
@@Eki_________ ikr if she is interested she should have asked more questions, asking her eldest daughter how is she now, how to deal with the younger ones especially
younger sister and brother look so evil even when they're just sitting and it really annoys me when they pretend to be cute and nice
My thought🤗
IKR!
Exactly my thoughts.
to be fair, they didn't pretend. they adorably admitted to being pieces of shit.
Same😂
The dicipline from parents actually is the problem, I mean, I am the youngest but I would never treat my older sisters like that.
My brother who is 3 years younger than me is really disrespectful towards me. But my parents are really strict. He is almost afraid of my father. If he disobeys me in front of our father its game over for him..He really has a lot of respect. But when my dad goes to work and my mother is not around he turns into a devil and is really being rude. I tried to dicipline him even with violence but it wont work.
@@mejjune2849 hm, after your parents scolded your brother, they still treat him nicely right? Usually my parents would scold me and after that they treat me equally just like my sisters, they made sure I apologized so I don't have nasty feeling left. Or maybe you and your brother need more time, wait till both of you being matured and solve this, because honestly when I was still a kid my sister didn't really nice to me
if we do like that we will beaten by them and bullied by them
same and they literally get me in trouble for what they did😔
If I did that I’m pretty sure I would be beaten up by my siblings or they wouldn’t talk to me
Her siblings should be thankful to be Korean, West Indian mom would beat all three cus one did something wrong. 😂
Or Latin mom's 😂😂
Most Korean parents will beat your ass this is an outlier
Island parents
@@caramel23miss true 😂
😂😂😂where r the lies and before the beatings start the siblings would fight it out first
My grandma has the solution to this. She just needs five minutes and a sandal
HAHA sounds like something ny grandma would do
Do you think that with violence everything will fix? I am sorry but that is just stupid
@@Serendipityismy No, I actually am very against corporal punishment. It was a joke. The actual answer is the parents being more involved in their kids' life by mediating their arguments. Letting them know they're all wrong for being mean to each other and should be loving to one another, even in the middle of an argument.
My method is to pull them by the ear
serendipity is art it isnt violence tf
The one who should be shame is their parents. Mostly asian thinks its OK/ can tolerate for the younger one behaviour, but that's where The parents supposed to act as a parents, told whats good or not. For a 12 yo kid, the way She said all negative words (she want to die, leaving house etc) as if its not a big deal is worrying.
moral of the story: if you cant discipline kids, dont even think of having one.
The younger brother scares me and I’m 16yrs older than him lmao he looks like a mobster from a Noir movie!
esml I’m dead 😂😂😂
I am sorry, for me he looks like little kim jong un hahaha🤣
regi via I literally can’t breathe
or Korean Gangster Movie first time i saw him
@@regi7943 SAME LMAO
I get mad internally whenever i see the younger siblings smiling like they do nothing wrong 😠
School bulies in the making.
i was about to comment this
calm down, they’re kids
@@kai3e it starts out like that, and it can progressively get worse from here, they'll treat everyone like that...
@@kai3e as if serial killer wasn't a kid before
@@kai3e A "kid" can bully someone and push him to suicide. The only thing that makes them kid is the fact that they won't be responsible in any way of their actions.
And Ms.Youngja!!! I really appreciate her words~ She's the best!~
to be honest actually this problem start from the parents. if parent dont do anything to change their kids manner they will become violence and hurt other peoples.
Yes...Yeonja unnie drop that knowledge!
I think is really interesting how they play, because the younger siblings do the roles of king and queen and the older sister portrays the peasant (vassal). I feel like this is how they hold positions on the family and the power each siblings has. I went through a similar experience with my younger sibling and through psychological counseling I understood that sadly nobody even your family is going to stand up for you, even when you are right or they might not be able to get the reasoning behind your concern. From my point of view the mom doesn't seem to care at all, and despite the good intentions of the dad I believe this will not be resolved by simply talking to the younger siblings. Overall I do hope and send my best wishes to the eldest daughter, she seems to have gone through a lot and I can definitely relate.
the sister & brother literally looked like bullies, idk something in their eyes, they looked so cold & mean ... the brother really looked like he's going to be some heartless mafia chef later ... i really hope the parents show the now that there are boundaries, i mean every child needs some rules, they can't just do everything themselves, they need to see if smth is right or wrong.. but if the parents don't do anything about bullying then they think it's ok.. and it's also not just some trivial things like the mother thinks, this hurts her little soul so much & can really end in her trying to run away or k*ll herself, like korea hasn't one of the highest suicide rates for nothing... people can be really heartless & have no understanding of what bullying does.. it's actually so concerning, like in germany there are often anti bully projects in school & everyone tries to make it better, but I doubt there is this awareness in korea...
I so understand how this girl feels. When I was growing up, every time my sister would fight with me I would end up getting in trouble. If she hit me first and I hit her back then I would get punished since I was the oldest which really bothered me but when my dad was still alive I could deal with it cause he was on my side. After he passed away it still continued and my sister got worse cause she realized that she cud do anything to me and I could never react and she could never get in trouble, she didn't respect me at all which was what made it hard to take care of her when we were alone. At that point my relationship with my mother was bad cause I felt like she didn't love me, I wanted to die too cause I felt like the only parent who loved me was gone and now I was alone. Years later when I was in high school my mom overheard my sister swearing at me and chasing me around the house with a shoe in her hand and my mom asked what was happening and my sister accused me of being the one doing those things so my mom realized how my sister really had been acting. She called a family meeting where I poured my heart out and she finally reprimanded my sister. After that where fights and behavior are concerned she checked my sister when she did something wrong and even though the favoritism is still there it has been easier to swallow since there is no disrespect between us siblings anymore. As for my mom, I have long accepted that she has her favorite and that's never gonna change but she does love me too, but even if that is the case all this has really damaged my self confidence and the way I feel about myself , I'm 28 years old now and I'm still dealing with confidence and self love issues so I do hope that they take this seriously cause there's still time to change it.
I think this problem is so relatable to every family.
This is what my older sister feels. We keep bickering fight when we kids. But now we are really close to each other as we getting older. Older siblings always faced this problem actually.
Her body looks 15 and her face is even older even though she's either 10 or 11 in international age stress really made her look old
Puberty also a factor too
4:31 Jaemin's probably like oh yup we know we know cuz of our Jisung (maknae on top)
When I saw that I thought *Jaemin you probably thinking about Jisung* lol
4:30 jaemin can relate 😂 since out baby sungie is the maknae yet also the king at the same time
What makes me so mad is hat the 10 year old girl is like smiling everytime someone mentioned the things she did the Subin and i think the child that needs to be disciplined more is the 10 year old
It really annoyed me when the parents were like "There's nothing I can do about it..." or "I don't wanna take sides!" What are you even saying?! You two doing nothing is the problem!! You are their parents, discipline them for goodness sake!
Wow, this is the first time I've ever seen a host give ACTUAL ADVICE on this show! This is why Youngja won the entertainer of the year award! She straight up told them how to parent their damn spawn. She's not even a parent herself, but she could do a better job.
11:04 when that kid said he got stepped in the balls, Jeno felt the second hand feeling of it LMAOO he got his eyes scrunched at that
The parents should be more affectionate for the children to be more affectionate among themselves💕❤
I think parenting is so important here. They can't simply said to the kids that they need to figure it out by themselves because they probably don't know what they should do. Plus, the eldest is in a very crucial and sensitive age. This may can lead to low self-esteem in the future.
can we talk about how gorgeous jeno and jaemin looked
when she said, "👋🙅♀️" at the start, i felt that 😔
I always heard my friends complaining about their younger siblings (I lived in Korea) but I was the younger one. My parents told me to ask my sister from time to time “Unnie am I really annoying?” If she yes then I would try to fix it, if she said no I would smile and she would give me chocolate. I sometimes wish Korea didn’t have the age ranking system as maybe these issues wouldn’t exist.
blame it on the incompetent parents. they’re trash, especially the dad that take sides.dun bully anyone, it scars them for life. its rly depressed and stressful for person too.
i srsly hope they are in good relationship now. 😔
I agree with Korea’s culture, that older age should be more respected, but no matter the age, a standard of respect should be upheld. Hitting anyone of any age is not tolerable. Teaching respect for people is not taking sides.
I think the respect of elder siblings should be given if they deserve it. My eldest sister, is great. She looks out for us all and is a great leader. My other elder sister (middle child) is a terrible person and doesnt deserve respect, it would only inflate her ego.
I think every firstborn can relate to this. You are the eldest,so you have to be more matured. Me and my brother were separated by 2 years so I can totally relate this. I also used to tell straightly to my parents that they don't love me and they just love my siblings. That's hurt them a lot but I don't even show that I regret what I said.
I can actually relate to this girl as I am around her age, and my siblings around her sibling's age. I'm usually the one who neither parents take my side, so i feel some extra sympathy for this girl as we go through he same problems- ooh and also UGH i hate those kids who act sweet inf front of others but when adults are gone they're the worst- (aka my siblings)
These kids are lucky they live in Korea,
My Mexican mom would’ve already beaten them so bad they’d turn purple(it’s happen to be once)
These kids ;-;
My Southern mom would've beaten me with a belt or anything she could find that would make sure I learnt my lesson a first time.
Beatriz Gómez Tornero so is the parents “non violence” working? There are some situations where violence is not a choice but a necessity because parents need to make it clear who’s the leader I’ve been beaten but as I grew up I saw the people around me and I’m grateful they did the children might hate you for a few years but. That way in the future no one else will hate them
I am also the eldest I was not satisfied and really regretted that my parents had always told me to sacrifice. But never tell others about me or respect me
I feel ya. 😩
I honestly think that this show should have a professional counselor I don't mean that they are bad or whatever that may be but honestly they should have a counselor.
They've had medical professionals do video call in the past but not on stage with them. Medical professionals are busy and have to be in the office / hospital in case something happens. They're also probably not getting paid to show their face on this show either.
Therapist
Omg how those parents treated the teasing so lightly 😔
Ofcourse. Another hello counsler episode where parents are being told to do what they should already be doing.🤦🏽♀️ Parenting😐
it is not the oldest sister’s job to teach the younger siblings how to act
5:46 Best annoyed reaction 👏👏👏
I can relate so much as the oldest 😔😔😔😔
I grew up on a 40 acre plot of land that all my family lived on. So during the summers, there were 6 kids running around the property. When one got in trouble, we all did. I remember having to file into the house one by one and all of us getting whooped as we passed through the door. Lucky they weren't raised by my family.
This is gonna be a bigger problem for the siblings once they grow older. The more they tolerate their attitude the more they'll show how bully they are until they will be the one ending up getting bullied by other people. PARENTS NEED TO DISCIPLINE THEM PROPERLY WHILE THEY ARE STILL YOUNG AT AGE.
I speak from experience that one day Subin will reach a point she acts violently to her siblings and that is when she will not only strike fear in her siblings but in her parents as well. Then the relationship between her and her siblings will be broken for good, those parents need to discipline the younger ones better before Subin gets violent or the siblings do.
I was going to psychologist yesterday, and she said i was pretending to be stressed. 😔
I'm not a psychologist but u sound stressed
girl i just wanna say "be happy to you and do not let them or other things makes you unhappy. u deserve everything as much as u want them" to you. i dont know if that was really happen to you but as a human being thats all i can say. cheer up, ur not alone!! *virtual hugs*
girl(or boy) U s o u n d stressed
she's not fit to be a psychologist then, you need to find a new one that was such a rude thing to say
I relate to this episode so much. I sometimes just want a parent that listens and helps instead of lecturing how to be a better older sister. And it's even worse when my parents tell their friends that I'm a teen and that's why I'm taking it so sensitively. BECAUSE I'm a teen I need someone to comfort and take care of me. I think that 50% of the problem sometimes is the parents because they don't discipline their youngest much because they think their oldest is an angel and will do anything they ask
The fact that she doesn't feel respected at all weather it's at home or at school must be really heavy on her,, she'll see people thinking of her as easy and someone to annoy and play with and that she'll stay silent. That would hurt her and instead of keeping quiet because she doesn't wanna argue she will end up keeping quiet because she will feel lonely and not supported 😔
Each human deserve self respect, it is frustrating when people doesn't respect you as a person and doesn't respect your feelings
I know how she feels but where I’m from I learned to put mine in head locks and make them apologize that how that ended
I'm so happy that I don't have dad and mom like this (sorry that I use the word too hard or bad) . I have 1 sister. They teach me to respect each other.they didn't tell me like you have to share this / forget it / forgive her cause I'm a big sister. And yes, we're happy!! my sister know how to be the cute young sis and I try to be a good person to her too 💕When I saw this, I feel bad with her hope you grow up with more happiness. Please smile more and the good thing will come to you dear💕
My bro and sis would never bother me.i treated them just like my kids,I sometimes ground them... and it's all thanks to my parents.they so strict and never let kids shouted.
The people that didn’t vote it as a concern are younger siblings lol
I totally relate because my younger brother is completely out of hand, and despite being the oldest, I’m the smallest... I couldn’t really use force anymore at a certain point because words never worked. My younger sister didn’t bother me, but she would do nothing around the house and my brother would do nothing too. Just a ramble about younger siblings getting away with too much lol
I can relate. My parents always tell me I'm older so I have to help my brother and empathize with him. I have to do things for him since I'm older. I take care of everything and my parents would always call me to do chores while he plays games all day. I can't even complain or look annoyed or they'll get mad. What's different is that my problem is with my parents not siblin. Now I just want to graduate high school as soon as possible and move away overseas. They can be fun and parentlike but many times I just feel like I'm suffocating.
I get her concern, I would get angry if I my siblings didn’t respect me and would treat me as a push over. It may not seem like a big problem to people but as parents they need to set boundaries, yeah they treat her like that because is her sister (and its not okay) but just imagine them treating others as push overs is simply not okay
You nice keep going🤗
The parents are at fault here too. As a parent, they should tolerate and discipline their children. No one should take sides. Even if she's 12, you cant just say that she should figure it out on her own. She asked for your help but thats your answer? Sounds like an irresponsible parent. And also, maybe the sister is also a bit too much since her brother and sister just wants to play with her but she keeps on declining but that's not an excuse to disrespect someone older than you. Discipline is really needed here.
I hate when parents tell you to be more mature when you express a problem w someone younger being mature has to do w how you handle the situation not w how you feel about the situation it still hurts even if you don't stoop to their level especially at 12 years old maybe by the time they're all in high school or college they'll understand how much they grow and change each year so they'll have some sort of sympathy for younger kids but the girl's not even driving and she wants to run away that's heartbreaking
Jeno reminds me little bit of a mix of Moonbin and Donghae in some of his facial features
I still remember when i was a kid, and my brother annoyed me for every damn minute, and my father just went "dont cry and come to me but annoy him twice"
LMAO and surprisingly I and my siblings could live happily till this very day
Those siblings are soo lucky to have a kind sister like that, she doesn’t get scary when her younger siblings annoy her. If I try to annoy my older sister in any way or eat her ice cream I’ll be dead meat😔
This whole time I was like these kids need a good ol fashion whooping
In my household, these 2 siblings wouldn't be that twisted because my parents are actually good and strict. They know the concept of candy and sandals :v
Sam’s story is freaking funny 😂
They shouldve done another animation for this intro, it would've been hilarious for this concern
the woman at 5.48 issa mood
jeno and jaemin be thinking throughout this episode: pwark jisong
5:45 their reaction 😅😅😅😅
2:42 aww why don't you hold jeno hands 😭😂❤
Kim Mii So lols I’m not delulu but if Jeno offered to help me out of a ball pit I mean...
I just started the episode but jesus she sounds beaten down and sp unhappy/stressed.
if their parents dont teach those 2 kids. theu grow up with bad manner -_- they must be happy live in korea. if they born like me, they surely know how to respect people
My siblings used to follow me around ALL THE TIME. That's really hard I can say but actually as they get older they'll eventually stop being so annoyiny
I can never imagine being mean to my older sister
I can't believe this is more concerning to them than the smoking problem smh
Him : your thumb hurt the most when you bit
Me: bit each of my fingers
Totally unrelated, but the guy at 7:34 looks like a model. So handsome.
The parents need to be involved too, not just letting them figured it out by themselves. Without the right directions from parents, it's hard for them to figure it out the right way. There will be many times they figure it out the wrong ways. That's why they take actions by hitting each other or doing violent acts. True, they need more rules. She may be the oldest but she didn't choose to be born first. Ofc, there are times for her to be responsible as the oldest but first, treat her as "child", not "the oldest". Treat the three of them equally as your children first, not just "oldest" or "younger" or "youngest". Please parent, be active in disciplining them! Parent them, guide them!
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Btw, 14:20 the male audience who did bite his fingers though 😂
I think most oldest kids are relatable with this concern.. including me 😊
And as we can see here, the parents didn't do their job as a parents to their kids. The main problem here is the parents, so the younger kids didn't respect their sister because their parents never teach them 😒
Me: -watching all the hello counselor vids about siblings fighting-
Also Me: *laughs in filipino*
even without the back story, these children speak and act disrespectful toward strangers
The parents don’t seem to care at all which is so sad! They should take care of their children’s mental and physical health as well, obesity is dangerous they might get diabetes later on which is no fun
I’m like those kids I’m sweet in public but at home I’m a devil 😂😂😂😂
I swear the maknae looks scary 😭 I'm 18 and I'll be scared to have him as a sibling or like he looks like one of those bullied in kdramas
AWWW JENO😂😍😍😍😍🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤
If the parents were Somali the 2 youngest would have been the one with a concern 😂😂💔
That's what bad parenting does, it ruins people 😔 I'm sorry for the girl
15:00 is so relatable 😪
Why is everyone so nice to these kids like fr fr leave them with me id scare them without even touching them 😤
I can relate because I have a sister who always follows me where I go and bothers me, but we get along.
the eternal plague of the eldest sibling. i'm 20 now and this shit will never end you just gotta beat their asses until you leave for college/university lol
I really relate to her concern. I hv a big brother and ofc he’s a boy and barely do any chores but always got money from my dad bcs he’s sTuDyInG as if i didnt go to sch smh. So i always give hint to my parents that i hate this kind of discrimination but they didnt listen and put me in life that i hate
The parents seem don't care. Idk but i genuinely worried about that girl. She's being bullied in school and stress at home. She's only 12 y.o 🤦
The parents are the problem here those 2kids should be thankful that they don't have a older sibling like my brother
that kid has anxiety
I think the problem lies in the parents. Tell your younger kids NO, THATS RUDE TO TREAT OLDER SIBLINGS LIKE THAT 😡
Every time my brother would punch me or hit me my mom would let me do the same thing back to him and he wasn’t aloud to do anything about it
They need super nanny instead of hello counsellor
5:46 mood