My mom’s dad cheated on his wife with my mom’s underage mom. That woman accepted my mom into her family like her own because there was no reason to hurt children because of a grown ass man’s choices.
@gabrielnadia1085 She didn't say she was unattractive, she said she looked stressed. Which likely is coming from the cheater she took back. If she looked happy and healthy, she would have more credibility (most likely not with us in the comments).
She's indirectly telling us about her own situation just to rally support cause her folks came down on her azz, and she's tryna feel better about her choice.
@@NickeyPooh-zi5knyup my thoughts exactly. She’s trying to convince herself bc she knows deep down that she should leave him and she can never trust her husband again.
@@OzzyDrixClayno he forced himself out by betraying his whole family for some azz . That’s really sad & pathetic. And if you wanted to continue being a father, you would do that. regardless of if you are living with their mother or not.
@@OzzyDrixClaythe Bible says you can leave a man for cheating on you and you get to keep the children and the man can never remarry and is forever branded as a cheater.
I can say what I'll do. I left my husband because he was a serial cheater and had many kids outside our marriage. If he was a father to our kids, then he wouldn't have enough time and energy to go make more.
I don't follow this woman, but in every reaction video I see about her content, she always looks tired, worn, and emotionally drained. I don't care what's she's wearing or how her hair looks. Her mental and emotional state always shows in her face. Just my observation. It's quite sad to me.
This video is wrong because the Bible says if a husband cheats then the women have the right to leave. The woman wants to stay because she wants to and not because of what the Bible says.
I cannot express how dangerous this thinking is. The psychological manipulation is embarrassing & downright diabolical. It's what causes years of trauma & abuse to women. Absolute NOT. And the, "I leave, then what" statement shows some women fear singleness or being without a man. Singleness is not to be feared, but when women (especially in church) are programmed that you are nothing if you are not a wife then this is the type of mindset people have.
Men really do get the best of both worlds. They can cheat and keep their women and family. Where are their consequences? If he's staying in the home, she's probably still sleeping with him because if she stops, he's going to stay with the other woman more. So based on her reasoning, she has to risk her health sleeping with a cheater so her kids have a father...
@@OzzyDrixClaywhat you said made no sense. So a man can feed his ego and betray his wife, but she’s supposed to kill her ego and suffer the emotional abuse of cheating? You people weren’t raised right, and it shows.
If these dudes want to have many wives, they need to be upfront about this while they’re dating so women like this 👆🏾can tell us they discussed this and agreed to this earlier in their relationship instead of rationalizing this mess mid marriage after 3-4 kids 🙄.
@OzzyDrixClay in case you haven't noticed (and its pretty clear you haven't) those men don't gaf about their kids. What kind of man keeps reproducing without thinking of the kids he had previously? It is a FACT that a parent cannot be pulled in all directions ESPECIALLY when they're in multiple relationships with multiple children and multiple homes. No human can juggle all that and have a meaningful relationship with their kids. Its a damn fact. Not even one man who's got a demanding job and is loyal to his family can truly have a meaningful relationship. There's always gonna be a sacrifice to be made and majority of the time, that sacrifice is THEIR OWN FAMILY.
She seems to stay letting that man destabilize her, which is awful for her children to see. I think she's looking for her tribe of pick me's who tolerate cheating, children outside the marriage, std's, & instability.
@@OzzyDrixClayI’m down for mandatory paternity tests made as a public record. You can search up a man or woman’s name and find a list of momma and daddy. That way when dad decides to start a second family it’s all traceable.
I won't ever forget a video I saw 11 years ago about a woman saying that a man who hits you really does love you. She said something to the effect of think about how much he risks putting his hands on you, and that if you could bring that level of irrationality out of him to the point where he's willing to risk his freedom, then he cares about you more than anything. Yeah...this lady sounds pretty much the same: broken and in need of serious help. By the way for anyone who might miss the point, love is not EVER abusive.
@@OzzyDrixClayShe's setting the example for her children for what type of treatment they should tolerate from their future partners. Also, ego? Cheating has physical consequences like diseases, and therefore is physical abuse.
If you believe a divorce will deprive your kids of their father, it says a lot about the man. Why would he no longer be around his kids just because he's no longer with the mom?
12:54 why do religious people wrap everything around sex…being a single woman does not equate to numerous sexual partners. A lot of people are celibate . Celibacy has been on the rise for the last 20 years
Exactly. That's what's wrong with these people from the jump. All of their issues stem from being overly sexuallu focused. There are so many things going on outside of sex. I have been celibate for the last 5 years. Have even been on dates and everything.
@dblr4931 Yes I was raised like this and looking back my weird, pick-me mother was ONSESSED with sxx the way a creepy 12 year old boy is. She was obsessed with mine and I didn't even have any yet ugh
That was so incredibly abusive. The women who listen to her for advice must have very low self-esteems. What is the purpose of being married to a man who marries and has babies with other women? Instead of going to therapy, people are going online and getting paid to give advice that will ruin lives. I'm disgusted.
She'd better hope he doesn't give her that life long ninja. That's what the pickmes never talk about while they're telling you to accept being a doormat.
@@rickilake4838because they never had it for her to begin with. She was chosen for her high level of tolerance for abuse. Women like her rarely leave their abusive men, but oftentimes the man gets tired of the door mat & just walks away.
You asked, where is the man going? Unfortunately, too often men walk away from their children when they no longer have access to the woman. Sounds like this woman is afraid to leave because she knows her husband will no longer take care of their children. Also, it sounds like this woman doesn't have her own money and it maybe financially detrimental for her to not allow herself to be abused.
I exited an all women’s group with about 500 members because of that word “dealbreaker.” I just couldn’t stand pick me(ing) that was taking place in that group, from infantilising men to straight up justifying and minimising abuse. We can’t save all women y’all.
As I’ve gotten older, I’ve discovered that this sentiment is more common than I thought; sans the religious undertones. There are women out here really ready to compete 🤦♀️
TBH, I have known women that have done this. It never ends well. Eventually, the children get old enough to know what's going on and they choose sides. This causes tension in the home. It also causes the children to act out. Now there is no peace in your home.
I assure you this is not about the children. She has a Freudian slip when she said she wouldn’t take her kids away from their dad. She corrected her self after she said she would not take them away from their husband. Marriage and being a wife is all women like her have. Should the marriage end, they loose their “status” over other women.
WHAT ABOOUT YOUR NEEDS AS A WIFE? PICKMES ALWAYS FEEL LIKE THEY HAVE TO BE THE SACRIFICIAL LAMB...IF I HAVE TO SHARE A MAN I DONT WANT ONE...KICK ROCKS
some people have low self esteem, and then you saw someone with much worse problem than you. Her self esteem/ self worth is basically in hell. They're in that cycle of abuse mindset.
@@OzzyDrixClay Explain how divorce would make the man stop supporting his kids? The divorce ends the marriage, not his relationship with his children. Now, you'll try to move the goal post as you did on other posts so I'm going to get a head of it. They divorce, but the mother stays in the same city as the father and is making it super easy for him to co-parent. Now what? What is stopping him from STILL supporting his children?
Sexual health and reproductive responsibility are for both men and women to take very seriously. It's not acceptable to tell women to keep "their legs closed" when men also have a responsibility to keep themselves intact as well. It is not appropriate to put all of the responsibility on the woman. It takes two people to be sexually active. Men and women must be responsible for their choices, using proper protection, as well as protect their bodies. There are many times when men will coerce a woman, belittle or shame her if she insists on using protection. If that is the case then that is definitely not the man for you. No one should put your health at risk for a few moments of pleasure. If someone truly cares about you they will make sure that if they are engaging in any type of sexual activity that not only do they protect themselves, but they protect you as well.
That woman is brainwashed for real. Whoever she has been listening to has really warped her brain into believing that abuse is not abuse but obedience. She sounds like she’s trying to make sense of what happened to her.
She's a member of the one of the most male centered faith. 😅 What else would you expect? Brainwashed is it! The women on their faith are told that men can take multiple wives so of course she is okay with it.
She's trying to sound deep in religion and she's NOT. And ironically enough adultery is 1 thing God releases you for from marriage. If they're self esteem is low they should just say that.
In Christianity for sure, did you determine that's the case in HER FAITH though because it isn't? The men in her faith can take on multiple wives so how does what you said apply to her?
@@Alexandrite7 she is not a Christian so the Bible is irrelevant to her. That's what I was trying to point out. Why do you think your faith applies to her?
She needs deprogramming and therapy. She's had some serious misogyny and narcissism thrown at her likely all her life and now she can't tell which way is up or right from wrong. Going along with and supporting abuse sounds like a survival trauma response.
It is. My dad & brother were abusive towards me growing up & super geeky & creepy towards me and i got raped by a lot of creeps in my early 20’s looking for love. I am with my high school sweetheart right now but it’s not really what i want. It’s just sex. I don’t get much out of the relationship I feel like most abnormal things men do or creepy things they do towards me I don’t register it in my brain as not normal. I just roll over & take it. But a small part of my brain knows something isn’t right & i’m trapped
She thinks we can’t hear her saying the quiet parts out loud, which are; she’s afraid to be lonely. She he doesn’t want to be alone regardless of her husband’s affairs and abuse. She’s willing to do whatever it takes to keep her man.
Men Have Enough Self-Respect To Leave A Woman If They So Much As DREAM About Her Cheating On Him 😅😂 I Encourage Women To Have That Same Kind Of Respect For Themselves. Her Religious Stance Is One Of The Main Reasons Why I'm Not A Religious Person, Seems Like It Dulls People's Senses Imo. 🥴
I'm not religious anymore. Although, this reminds me of 'The Drowning Man' story, where a man was trapped on his roof amidst a flood and was "waiting for God to send help." A man in a rowboat came. Then a motorboat. Finally, a helicopter came and offered him help, to which the man refused rescue from all three sources. He finally drowned and asked God why he didn't save him. God told him that he sent several different rescues to which the man refused. This woman reminds me of that story. His cheating and creating a child was your chance of being rescued from your toxic marriage. However, you let your ego cause you to remain trapped and being unalived. Don't be like 'The Drowning Man'. Take advantage of the help being sent.
7:15 😂😂😂😂😂Your facial expressions kill me. I’m glad I’m not alone. I’m a psychologist who does couples counselling and I sit with women who say such every day. It’s so sad.
These women are so religious they can ignore their husbands breaking three of ten commandments. He gets a C in loving your wife as Christ loved the church.
Y'all keep saying she is breaking Christian laws. She IS NOT A CHRISTIAN. 😅 Her faith (she even said it) allows for the men to have up to 4 wives. She's a pick-me period, I agree, but why are y'all expecting a person to follow a faith she doesn't believe in? I'm pointing this out as an atheist because believers, especially Christians, always assume a person who believes in a god *must* be a Christian.
@quanniesworld doesn't matter Christian or not, as if she would be any different if she was a Christian, they're all the same, so why do you care or defending Christianity?🤡
A man cheating on you AND creating a baby means he's not even using protection. Which means he's literally putting your health at risk. If the man who is supposed to "protect you" directly putting you at risk isn't a deal breaker, you gotta take that up with your own self-esteem and your therapist. But to encourage other women to stay with men who don't protect them, that's raggedy. You can leave and ensure he's still in his children's lives, and your children should be in their side siblings lives as well. But you don't need to stay with someone who will have you looking CRAZY in your doctors office.
I had no business smiling like a Cheshire cat seeing this video 🤣 I clocked this woman's tea and it's so nice to see that you have Pubs! Love your content brother!
I tried to stay after he had a baby outside of the marriage. Mainly because I was born of an affair myself. When the financial burden started to fall on me I had to get out of there. It’s one thing to have an outside baby, but to think someone else is going to carry the brunt of the financial responsibility is diabolical. Also, religion be having us out here brainwashed and living in a constant state of delusion. We attended couples counseling and the pastor was looking to me for forgiveness and holding the marriage together. Chillllleeeee please I left him and the church.
Yup. And just because one claims to be a "Christian" doesn't mean you can't have boundaries and dealbreakers. She's using Christianity to justify that low self-esteem.
My ex admitted he caught an STD.. good thing it wasn’t life threatening.. and good thing for me, we didn’t have any kids… and good thing for me I have my own money so I didn’t take or need his
It is a health risk to stay in a marriage with a man or a woman who is cheating on you. You do not know if your partner/wife/husband is using protection, and if they bring home a sexually transmitted STD, STI or even worse HIV that person's life will be forever changed. I understand people wanting to try to save their marriage however, if your husband or wife or partner does not respect you, and is unwilling to be faithful to their vows/ marriage then that person does not deserve to have you in their life. This is a serious situation that could lead to disastrous physical and mental repercussions.
why would you want to hold onto someone that doesn't want to be held onto? he doesn't want to be there. how can anyone feel good about holding onto someone that wants out? let him go. a healthy environment should always be the best outcome for children and that's not a healthy environment. i can't stand when people make excuses and disguise it as sound advice. she knows she wants to stay. she should be honest with herself and figure out the true reason why. it isn't about the kids; it's seldom about the kids. that much i do know ..
Oh, it's the good old "a man is the prize" and "moms need to sacrifice for their kids and family" tale that patriarchy told us. As if growing up with a cheating father would be better than growing up with a single mom with her self-respect intact and/or growing up with mom and mom's next man who actually has values and can teach the kids those values by being a living example.
I am not saying leave or stay but I am saying review al aspects of the situation b4 you make a decision and consider the following when staying in these dynamics: 1. This is how women get left first 2. This how women get unlived by their man or the mistress. I watch the ID channel 3. Any man that would pull resources from any of his kids for any woman/man/reason is problematic. She also better hope he doesn't pine after his mistress b/c everyone will be miserable and especially wife 4. In staying you may be blocking everyone's blessings. 5. So women should not be worried about getting a STD/STI from the HUSBAND/monogamous partner. UGH 6. If you give a man this many inches, he's gonna take a mile 7. Good luck!
Seriously, this lady does not look happy. She has the darkest circles i have ever seen under her eyes. Hair is never done. She always looks tired. She just looks sad
The point is, in a committed relationship you should be able to trust that you don't need protection and that your partner respects you enough to "protect" you from emotional and physical harm, like another relationship, STD, or an unaliver. This is why so many of us choose the Bear. Because loving and committing to a man doesn't guarantee "protection" of our emotional or physical selves. And allowing them to believe that they're "protecting" or "loving" a woman, that they're cheating on and lying to is the same as teaching them that other people don't matter.
She's just repeating the very same things he's probably said to her. It's misplaced anger because ultimately she's been gaslight but the person she's mad at is herself for sticking around. Anyone who challenges her she calls immature and a bunch of kids because she's been called one and hates herself for it
Lots of women do this. They have to help raise the other baby and they're apparently okay with it. Even if they're not okay with it, they want to keep their husband and the marriage and that's that. These women dont realize their husbands most likely wouldn't do the same, but again I guess they're okay with it. I'm not married and I don't understand it. This lady sound goofy. To each their own.
It be so wild to watch people misconstrue religion to corroborate their ridiculous narratives. Using religion as space filler for lack of sense! Smh. They gotta be using a very special part of the brain lol
That’s a “heart worm cough”… Lola is an advanced stages of infection. It is terrible that her reaction is thinking that repeated sound is “normal” pet behavior.
God wants grapist to marry the woman he graped n stay married to her for the rest of her life especially if she was a virgin(because smex is marriage smex w/o oral ,anal,everything thats not vbaginal smex).Deuteronomy 22:28-29
She’s talking about cheating and having an affair baby as if it’s just a little accident that can happen like knocking a full cup of the table. “Well, it can happen 🤷🏿♀️ “
This is wild! That take on STDs is crazy. When you are in a casual situation and you choose to have sex unprotected, you assume the risk. A person who didn’t choose to be committed to you is not held to a standard of only being with you. There is a different expectation with a partner/ husband. That’s absurd. Her take wreaks of desperation to keep a man. It has nothing to do with kids.
She ain’t really talking about the kids…she is talking about herself. Why should she have no man? While the new women would get the man! She know the man don’t give AF about raising kids. She know the kids don’t give AF. It’s her that gives AF!
Some of us will literally talk ourselves into FINDING a reason to keep trash. Girl, let it go
For real.
We need to Marie Condo this man "Does this bring you joy?"
That’s EXACTLY what she’s doing!!! 😣
Everytime her videos pop up I try to give her chance cause I love my ppl but had 2 leave this ain't it
She was literally gaslighting herself! Crazy! 💀
The women that do this take out their anger on the affair child.
Forget the affair child. Their own children suffer endlessly
And the other woman.
@@mimi42428exactly! She acts like the children witnessing this type of relationship is any better. So ridiculous
My mom’s dad cheated on his wife with my mom’s underage mom. That woman accepted my mom into her family like her own because there was no reason to hurt children because of a grown ass man’s choices.
she didn't make that child and she doesn't have to love or care about that child. her children matter to her.
Looking like that. She can't convince, persuade, or advise me of ANYTHING....Sus looks stressed and sounds desperate.
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Let's not tear each other woman down. What she says is dumb, that enough to judge on.
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@gabrielnadia1085 Girl Bye. Who are you, the Judgement Police. I said what I SAID
YESS OMG 😭 I'm so sorry, I'm not tryna make fun of this woman but she is a hot mess 😂😂
@gabrielnadia1085 She didn't say she was unattractive, she said she looked stressed. Which likely is coming from the cheater she took back. If she looked happy and healthy, she would have more credibility (most likely not with us in the comments).
She's indirectly telling us about her own situation just to rally support cause her folks came down on her azz, and she's tryna feel better about her choice.
It has nothing to do with her folks coming down on her she just desperate for a spouse. Nah im good!! cheating is a diseased deal braker!!
@@hassanas.benjamin3818being married aint never that serious
FACTS
You can tell how she feels by the look on her face. She's not trying to convince us; she's trying to convince herself at this point
@@NickeyPooh-zi5knyup my thoughts exactly. She’s trying to convince herself bc she knows deep down that she should leave him and she can never trust her husband again.
She know that ninja don't gaf about those kids. So if she divorced him, yeah, he gon abandon those kids.
Sad truth
@@OzzyDrixClayno he forced himself out by betraying his whole family for some azz . That’s really sad & pathetic.
And if you wanted to continue being a father, you would do that. regardless of if you are living with their mother or not.
Bingo
@@OzzyDrixClaythe Bible says you can leave a man for cheating on you and you get to keep the children and the man can never remarry and is forever branded as a cheater.
@@OzzyDrixClayplease stop commenting. He needs to keep his Thang in his pants. He chose to be a cheater.
I can say what I'll do. I left my husband because he was a serial cheater and had many kids outside our marriage. If he was a father to our kids, then he wouldn't have enough time and energy to go make more.
Facts! If you have time to cheat you could possibly be a good parent or partner. Plus, people with low or no morals are a danger to everyone.
Proud of you
So many babies are brought into the world with a father completely denying their existence it's unreal. These men are broken.
@@heidithesausagethis is y u don't give them kids period
Sorry u went through that glad u had the courage to leave
When she is okay with him cheating, she is living in sin. She can't be a woman of faith and stay with an adulterer.
This is true. Call out the sin and then get out of the way if he persists because you will walk through hell with him.
She never learned self efficacy, self confidence, or that she has responsibility to ensure her children have a safe, stable home.
Yup
A woman can stay with her husband if she chooses, God hates divorce, so she's within her rights as a woman of faith to stay with her cheating husband.
Bingo
If they will cheat on you, they’ve dehumanized you in their own minds enough to do ANYTHING to you and believe you deserve it too.
I don't follow this woman, but in every reaction video I see about her content, she always looks tired, worn, and emotionally drained. I don't care what's she's wearing or how her hair looks. Her mental and emotional state always shows in her face. Just my observation. It's quite sad to me.
she deserves help and support in a very difficult journey.
I'm glad someone else can see that. She's exhausted.
Taking a cheater back is like being a doormat. It's a hell no for me.
Truth because things on my end would never be the same afterwards.
Hell to the no here 🙋🏻♀️
And setting the example for what your children should tolerate from their partners in the future.
@@hmmmbrilee - Exactly! Setting the example for what her daughters should tolerate and who her sons should emulate.
Ugh.
This video is wrong because the Bible says if a husband cheats then the women have the right to leave. The woman wants to stay because she wants to and not because of what the Bible says.
She's assuming that her husband will be faithful and available to the other child/ren when he wasn't that way to his his first one/s.
That was my first thought. She's really delusional.
I cannot express how dangerous this thinking is. The psychological manipulation is embarrassing & downright diabolical. It's what causes years of trauma & abuse to women. Absolute NOT. And the, "I leave, then what" statement shows some women fear singleness or being without a man. Singleness is not to be feared, but when women (especially in church) are programmed that you are nothing if you are not a wife then this is the type of mindset people have.
"...(especially in the church)..."
Yup.
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This y u don't let a man teach u about God
Yup, faith be so strong that common sense is gone.
Men really do get the best of both worlds. They can cheat and keep their women and family. Where are their consequences? If he's staying in the home, she's probably still sleeping with him because if she stops, he's going to stay with the other woman more. So based on her reasoning, she has to risk her health sleeping with a cheater so her kids have a father...
The whole entire point is that there are no consequences for them. They want everything free and easy.
@@OzzyDrixClaywhat you said made no sense. So a man can feed his ego and betray his wife, but she’s supposed to kill her ego and suffer the emotional abuse of cheating? You people weren’t raised right, and it shows.
If these dudes want to have many wives, they need to be upfront about this while they’re dating so women like this 👆🏾can tell us they discussed this and agreed to this earlier in their relationship instead of rationalizing this mess mid marriage after 3-4 kids 🙄.
@OzzyDrixClay in case you haven't noticed (and its pretty clear you haven't) those men don't gaf about their kids. What kind of man keeps reproducing without thinking of the kids he had previously? It is a FACT that a parent cannot be pulled in all directions ESPECIALLY when they're in multiple relationships with multiple children and multiple homes.
No human can juggle all that and have a meaningful relationship with their kids. Its a damn fact. Not even one man who's got a demanding job and is loyal to his family can truly have a meaningful relationship. There's always gonna be a sacrifice to be made and majority of the time, that sacrifice is THEIR OWN FAMILY.
@@B0OBIESyou are responding to a b.o.t. that writes the same comments multiple times on the samw video
why r u wasting your energy?
OMG...The more she talked, the worse she got!! 🤦🏾♀️
Some women do and tolerate everything to be married to these dudes, smh.
Her takes are always the dumbest takes on the Internet.
@@nix2747what is the name of her channel?
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Her aura energy everything is offffffffffffffffff!!!
You see it too, she's teetering on the edge that's why..
Smh. Bless her lil ignorant heart smh
I thought it was just me.
She might not be condoning cheating but she sure is tolerating it
That is definitely as good as condoning it. No consequences in a man’s mind is permission.
She seems to stay letting that man destabilize her, which is awful for her children to see. I think she's looking for her tribe of pick me's who tolerate cheating, children outside the marriage, std's, & instability.
@@OzzyDrixClayI’m down for mandatory paternity tests made as a public record. You can search up a man or woman’s name and find a list of momma and daddy. That way when dad decides to start a second family it’s all traceable.
I won't ever forget a video I saw 11 years ago about a woman saying that a man who hits you really does love you. She said something to the effect of think about how much he risks putting his hands on you, and that if you could bring that level of irrationality out of him to the point where he's willing to risk his freedom, then he cares about you more than anything.
Yeah...this lady sounds pretty much the same: broken and in need of serious help.
By the way for anyone who might miss the point, love is not EVER abusive.
"...Deluion, that's a different level of delusion" LOL
@@OzzyDrixClay Wooooow what a high bar... Get therapy or smth, but definitely don't give anyone advice 😬
@@OzzyDrixClayShe's setting the example for her children for what type of treatment they should tolerate from their future partners. Also, ego? Cheating has physical consequences like diseases, and therefore is physical abuse.
@@hmmmbrileeAnd you know they don’t get themselves checked for diseases like that either.
If you believe a divorce will deprive your kids of their father, it says a lot about the man. Why would he no longer be around his kids just because he's no longer with the mom?
If he doesn't have access to her body, he's not going to be there for the children.
The amount of men who do exactly that though.
12:54 why do religious people wrap everything around sex…being a single woman does not equate to numerous sexual partners. A lot of people are celibate . Celibacy has been on the rise for the last 20 years
They think that because if they were single and half way attractive they would be hunching on everything moving.
Exactly. That's what's wrong with these people from the jump. All of their issues stem from being overly sexuallu focused. There are so many things going on outside of sex. I have been celibate for the last 5 years. Have even been on dates and everything.
I guess staying with 1 partner and allowing them to sleep with as many people as they want is more acceptable.
bc religious ppl are really sexually perverse and repressed
@dblr4931 Yes I was raised like this and looking back my weird, pick-me mother was ONSESSED with sxx the way a creepy 12 year old boy is. She was obsessed with mine and I didn't even have any yet ugh
At this point there is no amount of money that I can be paid to be in another relationship. Yep! That’s what I got from this 🤣🤣. The delusion is REAL
Say it LOUDER📢. Being safe and single is SO AMAZING🤍
Zero make ur own n live peacefully at least that's what I did
She's a little slow. 😅
And calling people kids lmao
A lot!
the funniest thing is that she compared herself to god (when it came to forgiveness) which is a major sin😭😭
What a sad, sad woman.
Both parents are poor role models for their children.
And, no Pub. You're not wrong.
She is literally being disrespected I front of her children and the whole world.
That was so incredibly abusive. The women who listen to her for advice must have very low self-esteems. What is the purpose of being married to a man who marries and has babies with other women?
Instead of going to therapy, people are going online and getting paid to give advice that will ruin lives. I'm disgusted.
She'd better hope he doesn't give her that life long ninja. That's what the pickmes never talk about while they're telling you to accept being a doormat.
What is the ninja?
@Dolliko HIV. That's what we call it in the south.
@@Dollikotha package, the slow burn, the ticket for your final destination, the magic Johnson👀...etc😂
She's such a traditional woman! That's the one the men want.....
Only if you're an abusive man.
Her man wants her so much he cheats on her chronically
So why they get cheated on and sometimes left, for the women that’s the opposite of them ?
@@rickilake4838 exactly, male entitlement, insecurity, opportunity, ego. They are selfish.
@@rickilake4838because they never had it for her to begin with. She was chosen for her high level of tolerance for abuse. Women like her rarely leave their abusive men, but oftentimes the man gets tired of the door mat & just walks away.
The dust was too heavy for that poor dog. 😂😂
😂😂🤣 Omg, my stomach hurts! 😂😂🤣
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I can’t stand her condescending tone. Do you petri patty.
You asked, where is the man going? Unfortunately, too often men walk away from their children when they no longer have access to the woman. Sounds like this woman is afraid to leave because she knows her husband will no longer take care of their children. Also, it sounds like this woman doesn't have her own money and it maybe financially detrimental for her to not allow herself to be abused.
The dad only leaves when he wanna leave 😅 just because yall divorced doesn't mean he can't see his kids or be in their life.
Says a lot about the guy if she expects that he completely abandos his children as soon as they aren't in the same household.
But would you want them to be present. 😅
Which is why I think she's holding on to trash for herself, not the kids. She knows he doesn't gaf about the kids & she's ok with that.
@OzzyDrixClay if you're so worried about these things- don't cheat. Better yet - don't get married. Also seek therapy
@ladybluelotus it depends on what they did. But either he should be sending money at least
Even the dog is choking on the BS 😭 CHILE
She gave the green light to her husband with that video.
Some of these people comprehend the Bible interpretation for delusions and illusions.
I'd say it's on her mind for a reason.
Exactly! Lying on the Bible.
I exited an all women’s group with about 500 members because of that word “dealbreaker.” I just couldn’t stand pick me(ing) that was taking place in that group, from infantilising men to straight up justifying and minimising abuse. We can’t save all women y’all.
As I’ve gotten older, I’ve discovered that this sentiment is more common than I thought; sans the religious undertones. There are women out here really ready to compete 🤦♀️
They’ve bought into the patriarchy propaganda.
TBH, I have known women that have done this. It never ends well. Eventually, the children get old enough to know what's going on and they choose sides. This causes tension in the home. It also causes the children to act out. Now there is no peace in your home.
Yeah, and that's the least that can happen. Someone could get hurt, or lose their life in situations like these.
Poor thing is completely brainwashed. She seems to believe what she's saying.
She’s not a “poor thing”. She’s a narcissist.
Pick me's have no original thoughts, it's unforgiveable pandering. I feel sorry for and hate them at the same time.
@@heidithesausage I agree, she'll influence some poor girl who doesn't have a clue...she's dangerous
@@OzzyDrixClaythe logic of a poor and destitute male
@@OzzyDrixClay 😂😂😂😂😂 her 'ego', but not his cheating? You're a joke.
I assure you this is not about the children. She has a Freudian slip when she said she wouldn’t take her kids away from their dad. She corrected her self after she said she would not take them away from their husband. Marriage and being a wife is all women like her have. Should the marriage end, they loose their “status” over other women.
☝This.
They like to hear it from her, but they damn sure will not pick her!
The dog nearly going to the upper room is sending me please someone call PETA 😂😂😂
The universe was trying to intervene there 😂
WHAT ABOOUT YOUR NEEDS AS A WIFE? PICKMES ALWAYS FEEL LIKE THEY HAVE TO BE THE SACRIFICIAL LAMB...IF I HAVE TO SHARE A MAN I DONT WANT ONE...KICK ROCKS
let the pickmes keep their men
then they will stay away from us (hypothetically)
He clearly wasn't spending that much time with her and her kids to begin with if he had time to go make a whole other family.
This!! My same comment 💯
Bingo!
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She doesn't have to worry about it. Leave the children with their fathers so that they have 100% access to him.
she loves her children. men babytrap women to control them.
some people have low self esteem, and then you saw someone with much worse problem than you. Her self esteem/ self worth is basically in hell. They're in that cycle of abuse mindset.
Why should her husband cheat? She au naturale , submissive, fit looking ,friendly, cooperative, all men ask for so why did he cheat?
We know why.
They’re liars.
She is trying to justify BS. Even according to the Bible, you don't have to stay with a cheating partner. PEOPLE just say anything.
So she's going to stay with her cheating husband to spite the kid he had with another woman? What?
@@OzzyDrixClay Explain how divorce would make the man stop supporting his kids? The divorce ends the marriage, not his relationship with his children.
Now, you'll try to move the goal post as you did on other posts so I'm going to get a head of it. They divorce, but the mother stays in the same city as the father and is making it super easy for him to co-parent. Now what? What is stopping him from STILL supporting his children?
@@OzzyDrixClay Cheating husbands should think about that before cheating then?
If you going to deal with it leave us alone. If you can take it, I can take it 😂
Sexual health and reproductive responsibility are for both men and women to take very seriously. It's not acceptable to tell women to keep "their legs closed" when men also have a responsibility to keep themselves intact as well. It is not appropriate to put all of the responsibility on the woman. It takes two people to be sexually active. Men and women must be responsible for their choices, using proper protection, as well as protect their bodies.
There are many times when men will coerce a woman, belittle or shame her if she insists on using protection. If that is the case then that is definitely not the man for you. No one should put your health at risk for a few moments of pleasure. If someone truly cares about you they will make sure that if they are engaging in any type of sexual activity that not only do they protect themselves, but they protect you as well.
That woman is brainwashed for real. Whoever she has been listening to has really warped her brain into believing that abuse is not abuse but obedience. She sounds like she’s trying to make sense of what happened to her.
She's a member of the one of the most male centered faith. 😅 What else would you expect? Brainwashed is it! The women on their faith are told that men can take multiple wives so of course she is okay with it.
She's trying to sound deep in religion and she's NOT. And ironically enough adultery is 1 thing God releases you for from marriage.
If they're self esteem is low they should just say that.
In Christianity for sure, did you determine that's the case in HER FAITH though because it isn't? The men in her faith can take on multiple wives so how does what you said apply to her?
@quanniesworld Then her faith is teaching wrong because that teaching is from the Old Testament. We are under the New Testament.
@@Alexandrite7 she is not a Christian so the Bible is irrelevant to her. That's what I was trying to point out. Why do you think your faith applies to her?
@Alexandrite7 and that testament is just foolish old or new.
@@Alexandrite7 she is not a Christian. Why would the Bible apply to her?
She needs deprogramming and therapy. She's had some serious misogyny and narcissism thrown at her likely all her life and now she can't tell which way is up or right from wrong.
Going along with and supporting abuse sounds like a survival trauma response.
The desire to be with a man or have long term relationship is trauma response.
Some people are beyond therapy. She’s the type who would use therapy to manipulate people.
It is. My dad & brother were abusive towards me growing up & super geeky & creepy towards me and i got raped by a lot of creeps in my early 20’s looking for love. I am with my high school sweetheart right now but it’s not really what i want. It’s just sex. I don’t get much out of the relationship
I feel like most abnormal things men do or creepy things they do towards me I don’t register it in my brain as not normal. I just roll over & take it. But a small part of my brain knows something isn’t right & i’m trapped
@@moonlightstargem1006 this broke my heart. I am so sorry. I hope you find peace and happiness. 🍀
@@Emptytopfloor wow thats deep and very true
Her stupidity is nauseous. Shes just fishing for validation.
He doesn’t love and respect her. This man will continue to humiliate her because he can. And because of lack of respect .
Something serious is going on with that woman. She looks so drained.
If you tolerate it, you condone it
Someone needs to check on those kids because I don’t think that momma is okay 😢
She thinks we can’t hear her saying the quiet parts out loud, which are; she’s afraid to be lonely. She he doesn’t want to be alone regardless of her husband’s affairs and abuse. She’s willing to do whatever it takes to keep her man.
Men Have Enough Self-Respect To Leave A Woman If They So Much As DREAM About Her Cheating On Him 😅😂 I Encourage Women To Have That Same Kind Of Respect For Themselves. Her Religious Stance Is One Of The Main Reasons Why I'm Not A Religious Person, Seems Like It Dulls People's Senses Imo. 🥴
I'm not religious anymore. Although, this reminds me of 'The Drowning Man' story, where a man was trapped on his roof amidst a flood and was "waiting for God to send help." A man in a rowboat came. Then a motorboat. Finally, a helicopter came and offered him help, to which the man refused rescue from all three sources. He finally drowned and asked God why he didn't save him. God told him that he sent several different rescues to which the man refused.
This woman reminds me of that story. His cheating and creating a child was your chance of being rescued from your toxic marriage. However, you let your ego cause you to remain trapped and being unalived. Don't be like 'The Drowning Man'. Take advantage of the help being sent.
She don't want to be saved don't save her
great analogy
There's always ways God helps us all. We make our own decisions, therefore the reason why we go to either heaven or hell. It's all on us.
7:15 😂😂😂😂😂Your facial expressions kill me. I’m glad I’m not alone. I’m a psychologist who does couples counselling and I sit with women who say such every day. It’s so sad.
These women are so religious they can ignore their husbands breaking three of ten commandments. He gets a C in loving your wife as Christ loved the church.
C is generous lol
C is passing. I was thinking F.
This is why religious women are 🤡
Y'all keep saying she is breaking Christian laws. She IS NOT A CHRISTIAN. 😅 Her faith (she even said it) allows for the men to have up to 4 wives. She's a pick-me period, I agree, but why are y'all expecting a person to follow a faith she doesn't believe in?
I'm pointing this out as an atheist because believers, especially Christians, always assume a person who believes in a god *must* be a Christian.
@quanniesworld doesn't matter Christian or not, as if she would be any different if she was a Christian, they're all the same, so why do you care or defending Christianity?🤡
@@quanniesworldgirl shut up
A man cheating on you AND creating a baby means he's not even using protection. Which means he's literally putting your health at risk. If the man who is supposed to "protect you" directly putting you at risk isn't a deal breaker, you gotta take that up with your own self-esteem and your therapist. But to encourage other women to stay with men who don't protect them, that's raggedy. You can leave and ensure he's still in his children's lives, and your children should be in their side siblings lives as well. But you don't need to stay with someone who will have you looking CRAZY in your doctors office.
Is she discussing this very adult topic in front of a child? That's so odd
I had no business smiling like a Cheshire cat seeing this video 🤣 I clocked this woman's tea and it's so nice to see that you have Pubs! Love your content brother!
As Christians we aren't meant to be in a life were we continuously ask God to forgive us every single day. That's where sanctification comes in.
I tried to stay after he had a baby outside of the marriage. Mainly because I was born of an affair myself. When the financial burden started to fall on me I had to get out of there. It’s one thing to have an outside baby, but to think someone else is going to carry the brunt of the financial responsibility is diabolical.
Also, religion be having us out here brainwashed and living in a constant state of delusion. We attended couples counseling and the pastor was looking to me for forgiveness and holding the marriage together. Chillllleeeee please I left him and the church.
Being ugly don't mean you need to have low self esteem😂😂😂
Yup. And just because one claims to be a "Christian" doesn't mean you can't have boundaries and dealbreakers. She's using Christianity to justify that low self-esteem.
If there are no consequences to your partner cheating then you’re technically condoning it. 5:44
Not that cat or small dog hacking up it's demons in the back 😂 it's having trouble swallowing the bs
Honestly, she seems really sad.
My ex admitted he caught an STD.. good thing it wasn’t life threatening.. and good thing for me, we didn’t have any kids… and good thing for me I have my own money so I didn’t take or need his
It is a health risk to stay in a marriage with a man or a woman who is cheating on you. You do not know if your partner/wife/husband is using protection, and if they bring home a sexually transmitted STD, STI or even worse HIV that person's life will be forever changed. I understand people wanting to try to save their marriage however, if your husband or wife or partner does not respect you, and is unwilling to be faithful to their vows/ marriage then that person does not deserve to have you in their life. This is a serious situation that could lead to disastrous physical and mental repercussions.
Cheating is ALWAYS a deal breaker....PERIOD!
"That's a different level of self disrespect"
Even the Bible says that it’s okay to divorce your spouse if they commit sexual immortality.
"Forgivenes ain't there"... FR!!!
On the condom point - some guys will intentionally take it off after you’ve already watched them put it on, so watch out for that
why would you want to hold onto someone that doesn't want to be held onto? he doesn't want to be there. how can anyone feel good about holding onto someone that wants out? let him go. a healthy environment should always be the best outcome for children and that's not a healthy environment. i can't stand when people make excuses and disguise it as sound advice. she knows she wants to stay. she should be honest with herself and figure out the true reason why. it isn't about the kids; it's seldom about the kids. that much i do know ..
Oh, it's the good old "a man is the prize" and "moms need to sacrifice for their kids and family" tale that patriarchy told us.
As if growing up with a cheating father would be better than growing up with a single mom with her self-respect intact and/or growing up with mom and mom's next man who actually has values and can teach the kids those values by being a living example.
I am not saying leave or stay but I am saying review al aspects of the situation b4 you make a decision and consider the following when staying in these dynamics:
1. This is how women get left first
2. This how women get unlived by their man or the mistress. I watch the ID channel
3. Any man that would pull resources from any of his kids for any woman/man/reason is problematic. She also better hope he doesn't pine after his mistress b/c everyone will be miserable and especially wife
4. In staying you may be blocking everyone's blessings.
5. So women should not be worried about getting a STD/STI from the HUSBAND/monogamous partner. UGH
6. If you give a man this many inches, he's gonna take a mile
7. Good luck!
Seriously, this lady does not look happy. She has the darkest circles i have ever seen under her eyes. Hair is never done. She always looks tired. She just looks sad
Brainwashing themselves to be okay but superior to being cheated on🙄😒
She’s giving men the green light .
She can have fun being cheated on. It will not be me.
The point is, in a committed relationship you should be able to trust that you don't need protection and that your partner respects you enough to "protect" you from emotional and physical harm, like another relationship, STD, or an unaliver.
This is why so many of us choose the Bear. Because loving and committing to a man doesn't guarantee "protection" of our emotional or physical selves. And allowing them to believe that they're "protecting" or "loving" a woman, that they're cheating on and lying to is the same as teaching them that other people don't matter.
This woman is a notorious pick me.
Every time I see her face in a video I just know there will be some mess.
That poor dog!!
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Lol!!
Clearly this lady just wanted to hear herself talk...😕😒😒😒
She's just repeating the very same things he's probably said to her. It's misplaced anger because ultimately she's been gaslight but the person she's mad at is herself for sticking around. Anyone who challenges her she calls immature and a bunch of kids because she's been called one and hates herself for it
This is boss level pick me behavior.
Let that man cheat in peace 😂 Love your work. Thank you. Hi from Australia 🌏🦘
Women like her infuriate me! She really needs to stop gaslighting.
Lots of women do this. They have to help raise the other baby and they're apparently okay with it. Even if they're not okay with it, they want to keep their husband and the marriage and that's that. These women dont realize their husbands most likely wouldn't do the same, but again I guess they're okay with it. I'm not married and I don't understand it. This lady sound goofy. To each their own.
It be so wild to watch people misconstrue religion to corroborate their ridiculous narratives. Using religion as space filler for lack of sense! Smh. They gotta be using a very special part of the brain lol
That’s a “heart worm cough”… Lola is an advanced stages of infection. It is terrible that her reaction is thinking that repeated sound is “normal” pet behavior.
She does condone cheating. She's the same idiot who said she would forgive her husband 2pxs before giving 20 other men a chance.
I don’t think God would want someone to stay in an abusive relationship
God wants grapist to marry the woman he graped n stay married to her for the rest of her life especially if she was a virgin(because smex is marriage smex w/o oral ,anal,everything thats not vbaginal smex).Deuteronomy 22:28-29
Adultery, abuse, and abandonment are all allowed reasons for divorce
@@OzzyDrixClayThat's a complete non-sequitor, but go ahead and get one all you want
@@marybuckley7859 the Christian god would
She’s talking about cheating and having an affair baby as if it’s just a little accident that can happen like knocking a full cup of the table. “Well, it can happen 🤷🏿♀️ “
This is wild! That take on STDs is crazy. When you are in a casual situation and you choose to have sex unprotected, you assume the risk. A person who didn’t choose to be committed to you is not held to a standard of only being with you. There is a different expectation with a partner/ husband. That’s absurd. Her take wreaks of desperation to keep a man. It has nothing to do with kids.
ah yes, yet another reason why religion is dangerous
She ain’t really talking about the kids…she is talking about herself. Why should she have no man? While the new women would get the man! She know the man don’t give AF about raising kids. She know the kids don’t give AF. It’s her that gives AF!