The biggest lesson I learned: Look at people's actions, not their words. And if someone likes you, you will know it. A man will definitely want to get you 'off the market'. If you're confused by their behavior at all, 99% of the time, they are not into you.
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Correct. Correct. Correct. When a man likes you, you will KNOW. So, like you said, if you’re confused, it’s because he doesn’t like you. This is not necessarily because of something being wrong with you, it could just be something like he’s not ready. Whatever the reason is, what you should know is that the answer is no (red light), which means you stop and go in another direction, not forward.
This shook me to the core. We sometimes give so much of ourselves to someone and keep creating void inside of us without realising that the person isn’t going to stand up to our level to fill those voids back. This is so scary to realise. Thank you so much for this reminder! Moreover, I love your voice💛
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"You're holding on to an ideal, you don't have a grip on a real person but only an idea of a person..." this is what Oprah what call a light bulb moment. Thank you.
I think I'm guilty of this and the feeling the person made me feel. The feeling of being wanted, needed or desired and the connection. I have learned that it has something to do with my co-dependency and attachment issues but boy it is so difficult to go through it and make myself understand and break the pattern.
I didn't realize I was an empath until I watched this video. It took someone ghosting me after months of me clinging on their potential before I was forced to let go. This video is helping me make so much sense of my behavior and given me the tools to grow through this. Thanks so much
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Thank you so much Bianca.. I was stuck in a toxic friendship with someone who could not love me for 3 years.. He was my bestfriend, the love of my life, my partner, but i caref too much & he cared too little. He was not into girls and he was depressed. But no, instead of fighting for himself by going to a psychologist, he says “Why should i? I have you” instead. He took advantage of my empathy, but never followed my advice. I realized that i was the only one fighting, the one making the plans, the one who gets stood up, the one who showers them with love, the one who feels worthless because he never tells me that he cares. In fact, when i confessed my feelings, he said he does not care, does not have a reason to keep talking to me, does not see anything special in me, and usually i would gulp the pain & empathize with his numbness phase of depression. But this time, i walked away. And it was the hardest thing to do as an empath. But i did it. If you’re reading this, so can you. I believe in you. Please, fight for yourself.❤️
Hey, wow.. I've just come out of the exact same sort of relationship. I know it's been a while for you, but I would love to have a chat with you as someone who can relate so much
I felt like I lost myself in my last relationship. Now I can see how I was in love with the potential not the real, raw person. Thank you. It made me realise that I was in a toxic relationship and I was holding on to a bad future and bad relationship.
Oh reeeeally Renata, i KNEW i would find you here 😠..... So you think our relationship was "TOXIC" huh?... you were only "In Love" with my potential were you? 😲😲😲... Well guess what!!!... IT'S YOUR FAULT WE SPLIT UP!!!! IT WAS YOOOOU WHO INTRODUCED ALL THE TOXICITY INTO OUR RELATIONSHIP. I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN THE VOICE OF REASON WHEN THINGS GOT HEATED BETWEEN US... YOU NEVER CONTRIBUTED ANY KIND OF POTENTIAL HEALING TO OUR RELATIONSHIP IN TIMES OF TROUBLE AND STRESS, AND THATS WHY WE HAD TO STOP SEEING EACHOTHER... I KNEW YOU NEVER LOVED ME RENATA. I SHOULD HAVE KNOWN THAT THE LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL WAS REALLY JUST A FREIGHT TRAIN COMING MY WAY, BUT I ALWAYS LET MY OPTIMISM BLIND ME FROM SEEING THE TRUTH OF THE MATTER..... Goodbye Renata. 😭 ua-cam.com/video/IgRrWPdzkao/v-deo.html
I never got to the relationship stage, but I've always had the belief you should never give up on someone but you are right about you're not giving up, they are just not your person!!!!
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Sometimes we see how perfect and sweet and kind this person is, and when they don't love us back it makes us feel the reason is that we're not enough and we're "less than", that's what keeps us stuck. But the reality is that not everyone will like you, just as we don't fall in love with every person on earth, no matter how awesome they are, it's not their fault that they're simply not your cup of tea. One person might love mint chocolate another might hate it. You can't force someone to change their taste out of your own insecurities. Having been in both ends of the dysfunctional dynamic(being with someone who makes me feel suffocated vs. needy), what I can say is that we all deserve someone who doesn't try to change who we are AND doesn't make us feel like we need to change who we are.
This was such a great topic! I never connected being an empath to my tendency to fall in love with people's potential. This was so eye-opening. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and empowering me to break this habit and to see people the way they actually are.
Thank you for speaking the truth. Holding onto someone who doesn't love you the way you deserve is a form of self betrayal. If we truly love ourselves and see our worth we wouldn't settle for less than what we deserve, and it's up to us to decide what we need and want, not letting others decide for us.
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Empaths attract narcissist a lot of the time because they are seeking something in them and the narcissists are seeking something in the empath. I am an empath who has healed a lot of my wounds! I was married to a narcissist for three decades and recently divorced him. This very act started my healing process. I'm on the mend!!!
Thank you so much for this video. It’s so hard to step away especially when you give and give and give because you truly believe they are a good person and because they deserve love but at the end of the day if they are draining you instead of filling you up as well, they’re not the person for you.
The universe brings me here as i need to hear this. Thanks. The content is awesome. It’s really interesting for you to also talk about what does it mean to walk away? What actions should you do? I think it’s will make the rout even clearer for those who want to follow:)
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It is a very interesting topic this one. I kept overlooking signs of emotional drainage and lack of reciprocity because the sum of his good parts was always greater than his bad days. Even now, I still struggle to hold him accountable for his hurtful words and actions, even though I can recognize I was always trying to fill his needs and, for that matter, I was the one who would be left frustrated with thoughts such as "am I good enough?", "is my love/care/Escort not enough?"
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I’ve never left a comment on UA-cam but this content is saving my heart and my life. You are such a gifted human. Thank you so much for your wisdom and ability to help us shift perspective ❤️
Sooo True!! I'm a classic at this & stay with crap!! Believing them.... so crippling when they have no intention, crumbs, I keep trying, I blame myself, "what's wrong with me"? OMG I JUST ALLOWED THIS & CONFRONTED IT & HE WALKED AWAY 😭😭 I'm anxious & he's avoidant...being an empath is incredibly painful!!🥺😭
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As someone who puts others first before myself most of the time, I realize I have been forgetting my worth. Sometimes it’s a curse to care so much about other people and makes me feel empty as I lay in bed at the end of the day. But your podcasts really helps me to reflect on myself and reminds me to spend a little time for self love. Thank you for these discussions and appreciate you :)
Hi Bianca, Just came across this episode last week, and decided that now, today, this moment. . . was the time to watch this episode. After hanging on your every word, I NOW realize, that I am without a doubt an empath. To tell you the truth I feel as if it's a curse. A rabbit hole I'm unable to get out of. What you describe is me to a "T". I understand what you said, and why. I also heard what you said about what we, as empaths must do in order to be happy and to find "that someone". But there in lies the problem Bianca. . . I don't know how to do that. And yes, you're right. . . I'm scared to death and almost convinced that I will probably end up being alone. I've almost resolved myself into believing that because after being taken for a fool 2 times in the past year, I think that's probably the direction my life will go. And before you say it, I am NOT being negative, not at all. I'm just being realistic is all. I really do hope I find someone I can spend the rest of my days with but I'm beginning to doubt that is going to happen. If you can offer me some help on this, I would greatly appreciate it. This video is well over a year ago so I doubt you will even see this comment of mine but I thought I would take a chance in case that someday you take another look at this episode and see my post here. Anyway, I just wanted to say that I am regularly watching your videos here. And I find your relaxation stuff you do really helps me. Keep up the great work eh :) Mike
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Omg !! What you’re doing it’s so amazing ! I’m So grateful. You saved me from going to counselling again and maybe not getting the clarity that you have just given me. I know all of this but because it’s so hard to convince ourselves in situations that life throws at us all the time, it’s almost impossible to convince yourself by yourself that things are the way that they are. Thank you from the bottom of my heart ♥️
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Thank you very much for this video. I realized I had fallen in love with the potential of my boyfriend instead of the person he is. He is wonderful and I want the best for him, but he is not right for me. It was so hard breaking up with him and him accusing me of not thinking he is good enough for me. Even when I break up with someone, I want to be liked... However, I'm done staying in a relationship that does not offer me what I deserve
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This is the pep talk I needed right now. You explained the struggle I have been feeling for so long! I am sure to listen to this again and again until it really sticks. Thank you!!
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Wish I'd seen this 2yrs ago..In the end all I wanted was a tiny bit of respect, I felt I was in a holding pen just waiting for my existance to be noticed. Being an empath is really, really tough.
Very good advice for young women who are living as if life is a fairytale. Thx fairytale hasn't been fully examined like what was it like when they got married. They fail to look at real life relationships like those of their parents, aunts and uncles or their siblings and friends. Plus they are too focused on the euphoria of relationships when they should be spending more time learning to love themselves.
Dang. The whole bit from 13:29 to 14:45 really described my last relationship. It's really nice to hear it spelled out that way. It helps me realize on not just a logical but an emotional level that she was toxic for me, I did everything I could, and I really should have ended it sooner. Yeah, it can be hard to be sure when you're _in_ the relationship and trying to love them honestly despite their flaws, but I really saw the signs -- her not admitting or working on the problems we discussed, the things I said I needed her to work on. I already realized all that logically, but having it worded in a way that helps me realize it emotionally lets me internalize it and truly feel and believe it much better. Thank you!
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It's always been hard for me to let go of relationships. Especially my 2nd wife. 12 years. Now many years later, i struggle to be black into another real relationship.
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Wow i really needed to hear this. Thank you. I think the problem today is that like u said, we focus way too much on facade and forgets that showing our weak side and showing your flaws can be both a open form of communication and something that also can be charming and cute. Take forexample being clumsy, which is being flawed in a way that isnt toxic and can be really charming. Jenna Hamilton from Awkward is a great example of someone who is what we called perfectly flawed. Someone who isnt afraid of showing her imperfections and isnt afraid of expressing her sensitive side. 🙂 Moral of the story : be more like Jenna Hamilton 😂😅😅
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I was just joking with my friend last week that I've been talking to a guy on the phone and it seems to be going okay...BUT...I'm always the one to initiate conversation. I told her I can't keep playing both sides of the volleyball court for very much longer. She laughed and said True!...That's how it feels to keep reaching out and then keep the momentum going. Then I just stop...then he starts up texting/calling four or five months later. Next time we speak I will just describe this analogy for him and ask if he would please help to keep up the interaction or else let's just please drop it; I'm not going to continue to pick up the stray "serve' he throws at me. Our communication either needs to keep up the energy, or else you're a great guy but please stop randomly reaching out Thank You So much for understanding.
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What if that someone is actually the one feeding you the "fantasy" and "potential" and giving you what to expect bc that someone lives in a bubble than the real world bc thats his way of living. And if you comment about in a real world perspective he will consider it as negative feedback, or i have so much little faith on him, or i dont trust him...
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@Lindy Loops i clearly don't understand your personal perspective which has been generated from your personal experience, not mine. There's somethings not worth understanding if its not relevant.
The funny thing about it is, if these text messages were the other way around, I'd be saying the same thing to you, understanding comes from 360' of knowledge. You want me to understand you without a mutual understanding which is 190' ie one sided.
Think about what your saying, if my comment is so unrelevant to you, that your opinion is that I don't understand, do you not think its because your refusing to address what i feel is important to me from my personal perspective. Can you feel my pain them yeah???
You were duped. Every relationship needs time. Rushing in and giving everything before knowing someone is immature. Like moving in with your sex partner while you are still in limerence is a very bad move for women. They seem desperate and men lose respect for them because they seem stupid.
I've just did this exact thing, fell for the potential and it felt off from the moment we met..but I still kept it going until I realised he was an alcoholic in denial, he couldn't stop lying, it was second nature to him😄
I’m honestly crying so much right now after watching this video. It’s crazy because this is how I believe if not majority then all my relationships throughout my lifetime has been...
“They’re not bad people, they’re bad for you though”
That’s exactly it.
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The biggest lesson I learned: Look at people's actions, not their words. And if someone likes you, you will know it. A man will definitely want to get you 'off the market'. If you're confused by their behavior at all, 99% of the time, they are not into you.
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So true
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Correct. Correct. Correct. When a man likes you, you will KNOW. So, like you said, if you’re confused, it’s because he doesn’t like you. This is not necessarily because of something being wrong with you, it could just be something like he’s not ready. Whatever the reason is, what you should know is that the answer is no (red light), which means you stop and go in another direction, not forward.
This shook me to the core. We sometimes give so much of ourselves to someone and keep creating void inside of us without realising that the person isn’t going to stand up to our level to fill those voids back. This is so scary to realise. Thank you so much for this reminder! Moreover, I love your voice💛
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"You're holding on to an ideal, you don't have a grip on a real person but only an idea of a person..." this is what Oprah what call a light bulb moment. Thank you.
I think I'm guilty of this and the feeling the person made me feel. The feeling of being wanted, needed or desired and the connection. I have learned that it has something to do with my co-dependency and attachment issues but boy it is so difficult to go through it and make myself understand and break the pattern.
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I didn't realize I was an empath until I watched this video. It took someone ghosting me after months of me clinging on their potential before I was forced to let go. This video is helping me make so much sense of my behavior and given me the tools to grow through this. Thanks so much
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Thank you so much Bianca.. I was stuck in a toxic friendship with someone who could not love me for 3 years.. He was my bestfriend, the love of my life, my partner, but i caref too much & he cared too little. He was not into girls and he was depressed. But no, instead of fighting for himself by going to a psychologist, he says “Why should i? I have you” instead. He took advantage of my empathy, but never followed my advice. I realized that i was the only one fighting, the one making the plans, the one who gets stood up, the one who showers them with love, the one who feels worthless because he never tells me that he cares. In fact, when i confessed my feelings, he said he does not care, does not have a reason to keep talking to me, does not see anything special in me, and usually i would gulp the pain & empathize with his numbness phase of depression. But this time, i walked away. And it was the hardest thing to do as an empath. But i did it. If you’re reading this, so can you. I believe in you. Please, fight for yourself.❤️
Thanks for sharing your story Peachy 💜We appreciate your support and kind words!
You did great! Praise yourself! Give you hugssss.
I’ve just walked away too. I’m taking back my life 💕🙂. Hope you’re well and thank you for sharing your story 🙂
I love and appreciate this so much!! 🥺 kudos to you for being strong 🤍
Hey, wow.. I've just come out of the exact same sort of relationship. I know it's been a while for you, but I would love to have a chat with you as someone who can relate so much
I felt like I lost myself in my last relationship. Now I can see how I was in love with the potential not the real, raw person. Thank you. It made me realise that I was in a toxic relationship and I was holding on to a bad future and bad relationship.
Oh reeeeally Renata, i KNEW i would find you here 😠..... So you think our relationship was "TOXIC" huh?... you were only "In Love" with my potential were you? 😲😲😲...
Well guess what!!!...
IT'S YOUR FAULT WE SPLIT UP!!!! IT WAS YOOOOU WHO INTRODUCED ALL THE TOXICITY INTO OUR RELATIONSHIP. I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN THE VOICE OF REASON WHEN THINGS GOT HEATED BETWEEN US... YOU NEVER CONTRIBUTED ANY KIND OF POTENTIAL HEALING TO OUR RELATIONSHIP IN TIMES OF TROUBLE AND STRESS, AND THATS WHY WE HAD TO STOP SEEING EACHOTHER... I KNEW YOU NEVER LOVED ME RENATA. I SHOULD HAVE KNOWN THAT THE LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL WAS REALLY JUST A FREIGHT TRAIN COMING MY WAY, BUT I ALWAYS LET MY OPTIMISM BLIND ME FROM SEEING THE TRUTH OF THE MATTER.....
Goodbye Renata. 😭
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Its always the case of boosting up someones potential because of the lack of confidence..then it back fires and then you need it the most after.
I never got to the relationship stage, but I've always had the belief you should never give up on someone but you are right about you're not giving up, they are just not your person!!!!
I need a transcript of all of your podcasts, they're so so good and I want to be able to reread them. I really love your voice too!
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This really hit me on another level. Thank you for what you’re doing
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I listened to this three times already and now I'm here for the video version, this truly hit way too close to home for me..
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Sometimes we see how perfect and sweet and kind this person is, and when they don't love us back it makes us feel the reason is that we're not enough and we're "less than", that's what keeps us stuck. But the reality is that not everyone will like you, just as we don't fall in love with every person on earth, no matter how awesome they are, it's not their fault that they're simply not your cup of tea. One person might love mint chocolate another might hate it. You can't force someone to change their taste out of your own insecurities.
Having been in both ends of the dysfunctional dynamic(being with someone who makes me feel suffocated vs. needy), what I can say is that we all deserve someone who doesn't try to change who we are AND doesn't make us feel like we need to change who we are.
This was such a great topic! I never connected being an empath to my tendency to fall in love with people's potential. This was so eye-opening. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and empowering me to break this habit and to see people the way they actually are.
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Thank you for speaking the truth. Holding onto someone who doesn't love you the way you deserve is a form of self betrayal. If we truly love ourselves and see our worth we wouldn't settle for less than what we deserve, and it's up to us to decide what we need and want, not letting others decide for us.
"Some people don't get better with time" LOL so awesome. This channel is a beaut.
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I have learned this in my recent relationship that i am now out of and now I am working on self; first.
Empaths attract narcissist a lot of the time because they are seeking something in them and the narcissists are seeking something in the empath. I am an empath who has healed a lot of my wounds! I was married to a narcissist for three decades and recently divorced him. This very act started my healing process. I'm on the mend!!!
Sending you light & love! ☀️💛 Keep shining ✨
Thank you so much for this video. It’s so hard to step away especially when you give and give and give because you truly believe they are a good person and because they deserve love but at the end of the day if they are draining you instead of filling you up as well, they’re not the person for you.
The universe brings me here as i need to hear this. Thanks. The content is awesome. It’s really interesting for you to also talk about what does it mean to walk away? What actions should you do? I think it’s will make the rout even clearer for those who want to follow:)
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Thank you for this! Also, Bianca’s voice is so soothing 🥺
Thank you so much for watching it!
It is a very interesting topic this one.
I kept overlooking signs of emotional drainage and lack of reciprocity because the sum of his good parts was always greater than his bad days. Even now, I still struggle to hold him accountable for his hurtful words and actions, even though I can recognize I was always trying to fill his needs and, for that matter, I was the one who would be left frustrated with thoughts such as "am I good enough?", "is my love/care/Escort not enough?"
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Love your authentic passion for laying out your own experience to paint a vivid empathic picture of real love for us "hopeful" romantics! 💞😍
I’ve never left a comment on UA-cam but this content is saving my heart and my life. You are such a gifted human. Thank you so much for your wisdom and ability to help us shift perspective ❤️
Sooo True!! I'm a classic at this & stay with crap!! Believing them.... so crippling when they have no intention, crumbs, I keep trying, I blame myself, "what's wrong with me"? OMG I JUST ALLOWED THIS & CONFRONTED IT & HE WALKED AWAY 😭😭 I'm anxious & he's avoidant...being an empath is incredibly painful!!🥺😭
You are so strong and so, so loved. Please never forget that 💞 We recommend another In Your Feelings episode titled “How To Protect Your Energy & Set Boundaries As An Empath.” Feel free to check it out...hope it helps! 🎧💜 (ua-cam.com/video/kgQDBrkPF1c/v-deo.html)
As someone who puts others first before myself most of the time, I realize I have been forgetting my worth. Sometimes it’s a curse to care so much about other people and makes me feel empty as I lay in bed at the end of the day. But your podcasts really helps me to reflect on myself and reminds me to spend a little time for self love. Thank you for these discussions and appreciate you :)
Hi Bianca,
Just came across this episode last week, and decided that now, today, this moment. . . was the time to watch this episode. After hanging on your every word, I NOW realize, that I am without a doubt an empath.
To tell you the truth I feel as if it's a curse. A rabbit hole I'm unable to get out of. What you describe is me to a "T". I understand what you said, and why. I also heard what you said about what we, as empaths must do in order to be happy and to find "that someone". But there in lies the problem Bianca. . . I don't know how to do that. And yes, you're right. . . I'm scared to death and almost convinced that I will probably end up being alone. I've almost resolved myself into believing that because after being taken for a fool 2 times in the past year, I think that's probably the direction my life will go.
And before you say it, I am NOT being negative, not at all. I'm just being realistic is all. I really do hope I find someone I can spend the rest of my days with but I'm beginning to doubt that is going to happen. If you can offer me some help on this, I would greatly appreciate it.
This video is well over a year ago so I doubt you will even see this comment of mine but I thought I would take a chance in case that someday you take another look at this episode and see my post here.
Anyway, I just wanted to say that I am regularly watching your videos here. And I find your relaxation stuff you do really helps me. Keep up the great work eh :)
Mike
Supply.... That's what they come for. Lesson worth recognizing
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Omg !! What you’re doing it’s so amazing ! I’m
So grateful. You saved me from going to counselling again and maybe not getting the clarity that you have just given me. I know all of this but because it’s so hard to convince ourselves in situations that life throws at us all the time, it’s almost impossible to convince yourself by yourself that things are the way that they are. Thank you from the bottom of my heart ♥️
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I stayed confused!! Finally accepted it for what it is .. I just wanted to fix them while I was completing broken !!
Shot to the heart but its the harsh truth and it is a wakeup call. Thank you so much, Bianca, I felt somebody really understands me.
9:15 - How are they showing up? or aren't they?
18:00 - When choosing to leave, the Void is so hard
Thank you for spending the time to create and share this content perspective/awareness 🙏🏾
Empath are narcassist magnets.. Step one. Learn to recognize. Will save you tons of grief
Thank you very much for this video. I realized I had fallen in love with the potential of my boyfriend instead of the person he is. He is wonderful and I want the best for him, but he is not right for me. It was so hard breaking up with him and him accusing me of not thinking he is good enough for me. Even when I break up with someone, I want to be liked... However, I'm done staying in a relationship that does not offer me what I deserve
you didn't have to attack me like that but okay
I am so grateful that I discovered you. You are my guiding light. Thankyou so much for all of this
Geetika, we are so grateful that you are here connecting with us 🤗💕Sending you lots of light and love today! Stay strong 💛
.... this is amazing Bianca. Just.. amazing.
I can't thank you enough.
You are doing God’s work. You’ve answered so many of questions and helped me understand my ways. Thank you
Each one of the words touched my heart, went through it and stayed in it. Thank you. 😬💜
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This is the pep talk I needed right now. You explained the struggle I have been feeling for so long! I am sure to listen to this again and again until it really sticks. Thank you!!
Hi Kristin! Thank you for your kind words...we are so happy to know that this podcast has helped you 💞 We recommend B's podcast titled Gentle Reminders Everyone Needs To Hear, where she talks about her upcoming book release 📚ua-cam.com/video/rBBBBs6r-PY/v-deo.html
I love the way you explain things!!
Your voice is very soothing as well.🙏♥️🙏
You make me feel so much better for just being human....
You have absolutely amazing insights and the ability to articulate them. Great work and thank you.
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This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you so much for opening my eyes! Wow
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Wish I'd seen this 2yrs ago..In the end all I wanted was a tiny bit of respect, I felt I was in a holding pen just waiting for my existance to be noticed. Being an empath is really, really tough.
Wow that is so deep 😭 thank you Bianca for your wisdom! You couldn’t have said any better 👏🏽
Thank you for listening 💜 hope you are having a good day!
This is so spot on and so powerful. Your mind and awareness is a beautiful thing
I regret watching this while working on a report at the office, now I'm crying like crazy and feeling confused 😭😂
LOVE THIS!
You're very good at this. Thank you for speaking exactly what I need to hear in order to accept myself and work through the pain.
.... this video saved my life.
Very good advice for young women who are living as if life is a fairytale. Thx fairytale hasn't been fully examined like what was it like when they got married. They fail to look at real life relationships like those of their parents, aunts and uncles or their siblings and friends. Plus they are too focused on the euphoria of relationships when they should be spending more time learning to love themselves.
Is this an empath thing or a co-dependency, attachment wound and abandonment issue thing?
These are all problems most empaths suffer from
You are an angel, young woman.💖
So much truth 😫😪
Thanks
Amazing Bianca!
Amira, thank you for listening 🎧❤️hope you are having a great week so far!
Dang. The whole bit from 13:29 to 14:45 really described my last relationship. It's really nice to hear it spelled out that way. It helps me realize on not just a logical but an emotional level that she was toxic for me, I did everything I could, and I really should have ended it sooner. Yeah, it can be hard to be sure when you're _in_ the relationship and trying to love them honestly despite their flaws, but I really saw the signs -- her not admitting or working on the problems we discussed, the things I said I needed her to work on. I already realized all that logically, but having it worded in a way that helps me realize it emotionally lets me internalize it and truly feel and believe it much better.
Thank you!
Hi Dan, we're so glad to hear that this episode has helped you find clarity and comfort 🖤We thought you may also enjoy the In Your Feelings episode titled "How To Heal Toxic Patterns & Experience Genuine Love" 🎧 Let us know what you think! ua-cam.com/video/ReA0ptf8nbk/v-deo.html
You are AMAZING!!! Love what you are saying!
learned so much from this! Thank you
Vanessa, we are so happy to know that In Your Feelings is helping you grow 🤗💓 We are rooting for you!
It's always been hard for me to let go of relationships. Especially my 2nd wife. 12 years. Now many years later, i struggle to be black into another real relationship.
Needed this. Thank you for what you do as a fellow empath.
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This is very good Bianca. Your obviously speaking from experience.
Bianca’s words are so comforting and healing 💖 You can check out her beautiful poetry books and other lifestyle products at Shop Catalog. (shopcatalog.com/shop/?s=bianca+sparacino) Thank you for listening & connecting with us 🎧🖤
Thank you so much. I love this. I needed to hear this
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I'm done being the "nice girl" lol. Already built strong boundaries. :P
I saw the title and felt insanity attacked
It's all love, we are here for you 🤗❣️
Wow i really needed to hear this. Thank you.
I think the problem today is that like u said, we focus way too much on facade and forgets that showing our weak side and showing your flaws can be both a open form of communication and something that also can be charming and cute.
Take forexample being clumsy, which is being flawed in a way that isnt toxic and can be really charming.
Jenna Hamilton from Awkward is a great example of someone who is what we called perfectly flawed. Someone who isnt afraid of showing her imperfections and isnt afraid of expressing her sensitive side. 🙂
Moral of the story : be more like Jenna Hamilton 😂😅😅
We are so honored to be a part of your beautiful healing journey 🌻☀️ Keep going, we are here for you 💛 (and shoutout to Jenna Hamilton 😂💓)
great podcast tyyyy
Thank you for being here 💞 sending you light and love today!
Bianca Sparacino - OMG. TY so much for this vid. You are so amazingly wise. This helped me so much. Take care :-)
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Amazing. Just amazing. Thanks
Thanks for listening Mark 🤗🎧
Thank you. Needed this
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This do really help meee. Thankyouuuuuu.
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Exactly. Thank you
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Thank you so much
I was just joking with my friend last week that I've been talking to a guy on the phone and it seems to be going okay...BUT...I'm always the one to initiate conversation. I told her I can't keep playing both sides of the volleyball court for very much longer. She laughed and said True!...That's how it feels to keep reaching out and then keep the momentum going. Then I just stop...then he starts up texting/calling four or five months later. Next time we speak I will just describe this analogy for him and ask if he would please help to keep up the interaction or else let's just please drop it; I'm not going to continue to pick up the stray "serve' he throws at me. Our communication either needs to keep up the energy, or else you're a great guy but please stop randomly reaching out Thank You So much for understanding.
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So true
Empathy always attracts narcissistic people
Thank you ☘️🙂
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What if you realized how toxic this person was towards you but it’s hard to let go?🥺 I feel stupid
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10:50, 13:40, 21:40
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It’s hard not to fall in love with potential..
Wow
What if that someone is actually the one feeding you the "fantasy" and "potential" and giving you what to expect bc that someone lives in a bubble than the real world bc thats his way of living. And if you comment about in a real world perspective he will consider it as negative feedback, or i have so much little faith on him, or i dont trust him...
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20:37 💜❤️🙏
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Sending love right back to you 💞💞💞
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You described me to a T!
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This is me to a T
Okay your on my Pedestal..
But keep in mind my Doctor says I'm Delusional...
I have crippling depression and under medication but she's my goddess. MINE YOU HEAR
28:30
i just realised that im a potential.....
Sending you light & love! ☀️💛
Sheesh.
Empaths fall for potential?
Potential what victim?
What the hell???
No one falls In love with potential. If they do it's not real love. Love is acceptance. Not potential. You chatting the real none sense.
@Lindy Loops i clearly don't understand your personal perspective which has been generated from your personal experience, not mine. There's somethings not worth understanding if its not relevant.
The funny thing about it is, if these text messages were the other way around, I'd be saying the same thing to you, understanding comes from 360' of knowledge. You want me to understand you without a mutual understanding which is 190' ie one sided.
You looking a half the story yet assuming you have enough knowledge to have an opinion about the entire story.
Think about what your saying, if my comment is so unrelevant to you, that your opinion is that I don't understand, do you not think its because your refusing to address what i feel is important to me from my personal perspective. Can you feel my pain them yeah???
You were duped. Every relationship needs time. Rushing in and giving everything before knowing someone is immature. Like moving in with your sex partner while you are still in limerence is a very bad move for women. They seem desperate and men lose respect for them because they seem stupid.
this is spot on thank u for this
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I've just did this exact thing, fell for the potential and it felt off from the moment we met..but I still kept it going until I realised he was an alcoholic in denial, he couldn't stop lying, it was second nature to him😄
I’m honestly crying so much right now after watching this video. It’s crazy because this is how I believe if not majority then all my relationships throughout my lifetime has been...