yoh ngoba some of us even our famalies are the worse and then there are frenemies always being critisized and scrutinized is my life some days are worse than others the horrible world we live in where yo biggest hater being yo own mother sad
No Owamie nna I totally agree with you, my mom passed away due to health complications and we grew up very hard with my siblings and no matter how difficult life gets and trust me it gets bad but I choose to not take myself out just for the sake of my daughter and this is someone who struggles from anxiety and depression but my daughter gives me the reason to live and want to be a better human being
Me too!! I thought Owamie's delivery was a bit harsh, but I agree with what she said. When I feel down and depressed, my baby girl is my strength, because WHO will ever love her as much as I do should something happen to me?? With or without support. Depression can still hit you hard. I'm sending you virtual hugs and love Momma, WE GOT THIS!! ❤🥰
One thing I have learned about life is you can plan all you want but life will still happen the way it wants to happen. I’m not saying people should be reckless but hey life has taught me enough to know anything is possible.
Hey love, I hope you heal and I wish you all the best in life. It get’s better waka. It really does. You just need to find your tribe. Find us who will love you regardless of whatever happens. I hear you and see you ❤
@@thelazysnapperI share the same sentiments life humbled me to a point where I do not question people’s lives ..I realised that indeed many are the plans of man but God’s will prevails
As a 31 year old without kids. I always say i want to have kids when i can take care of them alone financially cause amadoda tend to change after having kids.
Same! I’m 31 and child free, I’m honestly on the fence about kids because even if I’m ready in all areas, kids will still want their dad and what if he abandons them along the way. Ai shem kunzima
We are cruising in the same boat, i promise to get a job first and i can have a child strictly with a white man, sorry black daddies are a nightmare most of them... Whites ain't perfect but they do try for their kids
3 Simple Rules: 1. Imagine yourself as a single parent. Would you still want that child? 2. Imagine if you d!e after birthing or when the child is born (fathers). Who would you leave that child with? 3. Imagine you lose your job and everything gets repossessed or taken away overnight. Would you have someone who can literally immediately take you in with your child?
For real. You are an intelligent woman. A lot of women don't think about these things. Motherhood is a lonely and thanksless job. Even when you're married. Women need to be selfish with our bodies and our time because men can just walk away unscathed. It's tough out there.
I think as black females we should reconsider this growing practice of having kids before marriage. We have normalised it. I am a single mom, and it is difficult. White folks are not compromising on this standard. Marriage first. Hope young girls will choose differently than us.
Although I totally agree with you, the yt ppl that I work or have worked with majority of them are divorced and are “technically” single parents. This other yt woman was even complaining that the ex was not contributing in any way she hd to work 2 jobs to support her daughters. Maybe it’s just my line of work idk 😂 but they are also not so perfect. But I’m not totally agree with your opinion
@thelazysnapper Remember we are not like yt people. We don't have the luxury of being single parents, yet we continue to do this. Most of us come from broken homes or/and poverty. The country with the highest percentage of single parents in the world is in Scandinavia. They plan to be single parents and the fathers do not abandon their kids. Also bare in mind that these are rich countries with world class free education and health care. As black women we are still trying to take our families out if poverty and do not need to willingly bring a child into a difficult situation knowing that the kid will be the one that bares the consequences and trauma. My father had multiple kids with multiple women and it ensured that I never saw him and he never contributed to my life in any positive way except trauma of watching my mom struggle to raise me. Black women need to watch out for themselves because no one else will.
@Mbuyiselo5 Yes! Let's not get scammed by society and the romanticization of single parenthood. It's not romantic when a child gets disadvantaged and traumatized by our poor decision-making. It's actually shameful to willingly bring a child into poverty. I will never understand that.
@@thelazysnapper these ones knows the white peoples lifestyle from TV😂they never interacts with them or lived in the white neighborhood. But whenever they drag blk people they compares us with the TV lifestyle not reality…
Can we acknowledge that everyone holds pain differently. Until you've walked the same life as someone, you really can't judge them. Sad that the pain got too heavy, that even leaving her child behind was a better option than living for them.
This is so true. We as women are quick to sure our traumas with men and get mad because men never they never do. They then use that to come back and hurt us with the poison we are running from.😢
This is so sad😢 I can't even begin to imagine how the child is feeling right now shame. That's why I believe in waiting till i'm physically, emotionally and mentally ready to have a baby sana yhoo because finance isn't everything thought it's a huge factor in raising a human being.
God bless you. You'll get rewards for having a child later in life. You get to choose what kind of a father you want for your children. I had my child very young, at 21.
Owamie, keep preaching Sis, love you loads... I don't consider myself anyone's baby mama, but I was also left to deal with the entire pregnancy myself, my son is 8 months and I'm so in love, can never trade him for anything🥰😍❤
❤❤proud of your journey so far. I can sense you love motherhood ❤❤❤ u give that bundle of joy a hug from me. So heartwarming to read positive comments ❤❤❤❤
SPEAK Owamie!!! I think we need a segment about dating men with power (money, political, business) and the dynamics of those relationships. People with power are dangerous, they can make grievances disappear... Women must understand that these men will bring the mentality they have out there in the world into the relationship. If power makes them be discriminatory (sexist, classist, homophobic) they will be like that with you. Finally, public sector psychologist/therapists are the BEST!!! Get the help you need.
Thank you Owamie for shedding light on issues that affects society these days. I wholeheartedly agree with you and i want to add that health professionals should initiate bringing back post natal checks on vulnerable mothers..social services as well. This new South Africa has lost it's moral medical compass..and we as a society are contributors to sick vulnerable people in general. ❤❤i wish i could be the minister of health back home..I'd bring back the old ways in regards to community healthcare ❤❤May anyone who reads this comment find solace and seek help. Love and light❤❤❤❤Rembember no situation in LIFE is permanent.
Listen I was watching a live on tiktok when I saw notification I jumped and click on it without thinking twice with a big smile🤣🤣Am soooo happy you back on this side xem💃💃
I GAVE BIRTH TO A HANDSOME BOY AND GREW HIM ALONE FOR 15YEARS.....ONLY FOR HIS FATHER TO COME DECEMBER 2023, MANIPULATE MY BOY, BUY HIM LAPTOP AND MOUSE, HISENSE PHONE BOOM MY SON GONE JUST LIKE THAT.. MY ONLY CHILD😭😭😭😭😭AM FOLDING HANDS... NOW MY SON IN THE HANDS OF STEP MOTHER......I UNDERSTAND THE PAIN THIS WOMAN WAS GOING THROUGH.... LIFE IS NOT A PLAY GROUND.... PEOPLE TURN TO UNDERSTAND YOUR PAIN WHEN YOU ARE NO MORE MAY GOD REST YOU IN PEACE SIS
My son's father emailed me saying he's giving up on his son, he's giving me 100% parenting rights, he will see him when he turns 18, and he was gone up until today, that was 5 years back and my son is 12 now. Thank God I have a good job and I wished him well. I hope and pray my son doesn't pull the same stunt and run to the arms of the man who was not there for him, who abandoned him when he needed him the most.
Women do better in 2024. Learn from other people mistakes, look at the women around you your mom, aunt, neighbor, celebrities etc. Use their lives as a template you don't have to go through the same challenges as them, make better decisions. Work on yourself and get your money
The thing is that sometimes you will get married and the fool wastes away the security(money/properties/investiments/businesses) for your kids and he divorces you for what you have 🤷♀️ For me my advice is that Women do better for yourself, take very good care of your health physically and mentally. Have a job or create jobs for yourself. Don’t ever share your money with partners/boyfriend/husband e.t.c and take care of your kids no matter what. And please please seek/ask for help in times of any kind of hardship and move away from abusers🙏
This hit home ninja. I'm a 25 years old with no children. My ex boyfriend who doesn't know that Im done with him and it's been 6 years and I decided to ghost him and leave him in 2023 (yes he is still begging) but I have been ignoring him because owamie I'm tired of the emotional and physical (at times) abuse because he is controlling. Ninja he has a kid and he told me just before the year 2023 ended that " my age mates have kids and when am I having one". I suffer from mental issues that sent me straight to hell and back because Im not infertile just on contraceptives since 2017
Im sorry to hear this. As a token of hope..i gave birth at 40😊 my exes used to mock me saying I'minfertile yet i knew it's not. I don't have any gynecologic problems. So don'tlook back and grow spiritually allign yourself and stay positive. Take care❤❤❤
Baby girl wait for marriage don’t let society dictate when you should have children. That’s the problem with South Africans. That’s why SA men don’t marry cause girls make them babies with no accountabilities. Be proud of yourself. 🥰
I grew up with my father until I turned 13 and he divorced me when my mom divorced him. I never wanted any of my children to come from a broken home. Unfortunately my 1st borns father was abusive and I called off the wedding that was supposed to happen before I even fell pregnant. I went to therapy so that I'm strong enough to never go back to him because he was abusive.
Mmm so true Ninja. Dying childless is okay. Ninja thers still the part of this story that we didnt cover.the fact that this lady could have been poisoned by friends is something we dont talk enough about. Beauty brings enemies from all sides,even men hate u for it.
Unfortunately being a single mom is something that we do not choose. A person can be good to you and treat you well until they see that you are commited to them especially when you have kids for a man they tend to change. Now how can anyone forsee something whats in the future. Woman need to be kind to one another being a mom is extremely difficult and woman need to make their own money
Vett men properly, date them with your legs closed so the sex doesn’t cloud your judgement, let him earn the right of passage to your womb by becoming your husband first. Black women are the face of single motherhood globally, there is obviously something we are doing differently than other races of women & its not working in our benefit. Yt women, date get to know the guy, go on birth control get married only start having kids after 2/3yrs of settling in marriage. Black women: date a man, have sex with him bcos you like him, if he doesn’t use protection you get pregnant, if he proposes marriage, you’ll marry him cos u have a child with him & ignore all the red flags. Thats IF he marries you, you leave it to the man to leave his seed in you, very few black women are proactive with birth control before their 1st child.
You must want a baby as a woman.. women have no business listening to men telling their babe I'm ready to a child. He will leave you with that ready and you will cry hey
Our parents are toxic hey! The 60s gang is so toxic it’s not even funny!!!! A lot of us come from abusive homes with parents who need healing and they don’t even care to go seek help! I’m so triggered cause I know exactly what she’s going through with an abusive mother. As for the baby daddy, old as he is, he has no shame! This had to happen so he could open his eyes - I really hope he carries this guilt for the rest of his life cause he is part and parcel of Mandy’s depression. Even if she was working Owamie, it’s not solely her responsibility to look after that little boy! What about the emotional side of things? Yhu ha.a!
Let us learn to avoid fake relationship's Nd when we c red flag we should not ignore them ,wat I have learned ppl do change so one need to prioritize their lives first
Tough love. Owamie is right we need to have our on money. I left and that was the best decision ever when l was with him. I was stay at home. l went through character development but l thank God that l managed.
This is wild I randomly thought of her just yesterday and I hardly would think of her was just wondering about her My goodness little did I know she’s passed Wow! 🥺 RIP sweetheart 🙏🏾🤍❤️
Dear Woman, It takes two to create a child but only you will carry that offspring and therefore always make sure to have Plan B (your own money) if you choose to engage in sexual activities outside of the perimeters of matrimony. Nowadays I dare say have your own money even if you are married. May the young lady’s soul rest in peace. May this tragedy plant the seed of fair and dedicated parenthood in this man
what you are saying is not fair I'm not sure if its becos u don't have kids or what but be a parent and go through shit and come back and say that you have no right to be depressed and take your life I'm a mother and I understand exactly were this lady was coming from just becos u have it easy with no kids don't bash those who have kids with mental illness its a struggle it takes alot to stay alive respect
Postpartum ❤which goes in s.a unattended by this generations medical personnel ❤ there are no checks done on mothers that are vulnerable. Married or single.
Aa women we need to stop listening to men telling us they are ready to have kids.. you as the woman is the one who is really yoy having that child.. women should be the one to tell a man in the relationship or marriage that I'm ready for a child !! You gift a man a child?? He will leave you with that gift and you will come cryijg haoo
ladies I hope non of you ever has to go through this, but there is no due diligence when it comes to relationships, we just hope and pray to God that we are dealing with a sensible partner, however these are things that happen in life and we should leave room for disappointment so that one can be able to find the strength to raise your child, I don't know much about mental health, but all I am saying is, take it easy on yourselves my loves, we are all trying hle, siyazama sonke, life has no manual.
You are very right Owami. Facts are facts . 1. You can only legally force men to pay support but you can never force them to be emotionally supportive to you or that child . 2. Ladies protest all you want ,but bottom line is the womb is in you so the child will be left with you. 3. How many times must they teach grown SINGLE woman to use birth control methods but you guys wanna be iindlondlo ze pregnancy. And u cry and blame everyone when they neglect you and that child. 4. Its been said for years that get married first before having kids, even so, its never a guarantee that you and your kids will be taken care of emotionally or anything. Think very well before having kids because wow and your tears and screaming about your mental health wont help you, so please ladies do better for the kids you made.
Apparently she even wanted him to pay rent for her . Gal made a decision to off herself and leave her child behind,the same child she claimed to love. Yah neh
@@kamogelokoloane5182 Atlea the baby daddy was giving her R1500 for child support yena she decided to abandon her first born child for good ,now tell me who's worse
The background music makes it so difficult to listen. I actually stopped watching. Which is such a bummer, cuz I enjoy your content. Is it just me guys? Or perhaps you can lower the volume of the music please Queen ninja❤
This gal had a lot going on Owamie. So many things contributed to her passing but i guess it would be fair if we can go with the family statement because she seemed happy just a few days ago with a new man. Maybe she was trying to get over Mondli. For some reason i think u are always hard on MEN. Why i dont get it especially because you have a son
One of the best choices I have ever made is choosing not to have a child in my twenties I'm 28 now a child is full on your responsibility as a female
That is the best decision you could ever take. You are very wise. If you believe in the Bible please read Luke 23: 27- 29 concerning your decision
"Before you diagnose yourself with depression/anxiety, ask yourself if you are not just surrounded by assholes" ~ Don't know the author!
Thank you!!!!
yoh ngoba some of us even our famalies are the worse and then there are frenemies always being critisized and scrutinized is my life some days are worse than others the horrible world we live in where yo biggest hater being yo own mother sad
🙌🙌🙌🙌
true...check your surroundings guys...uzisuse if u don't belong qha
Sometimes depression is a response to a shitty life.
No Owamie nna I totally agree with you, my mom passed away due to health complications and we grew up very hard with my siblings and no matter how difficult life gets and trust me it gets bad but I choose to not take myself out just for the sake of my daughter and this is someone who struggles from anxiety and depression but my daughter gives me the reason to live and want to be a better human being
Me too!! I thought Owamie's delivery was a bit harsh, but I agree with what she said. When I feel down and depressed, my baby girl is my strength, because WHO will ever love her as much as I do should something happen to me??
With or without support. Depression can still hit you hard.
I'm sending you virtual hugs and love Momma, WE GOT THIS!! ❤🥰
@@ashlenemafokoane7229 And vice versa sweety 😘 ♥️ ❤️
One thing I have learned about life is you can plan all you want but life will still happen the way it wants to happen. I’m not saying people should be reckless but hey life has taught me enough to know anything is possible.
Hey love, I hope you heal and I wish you all the best in life. It get’s better waka. It really does. You just need to find your tribe. Find us who will love you regardless of whatever happens. I hear you and see you ❤
@@thelazysnapperI share the same sentiments life humbled me to a point where I do not question people’s lives ..I realised that indeed many are the plans of man but God’s will prevails
As a 31 year old without kids. I always say i want to have kids when i can take care of them alone financially cause amadoda tend to change after having kids.
Same! I’m 31 and child free, I’m honestly on the fence about kids because even if I’m ready in all areas, kids will still want their dad and what if he abandons them along the way. Ai shem kunzima
That’s me! I don’t want my child to be subjected to what I went through so I will not have one unless I find myself in a different situation.
😢eish yah neh,u and i are on the very same boat
@sphesihlembuli5327, all you can do is hope and pray to find a man who wants to be a father.
We are cruising in the same boat, i promise to get a job first and i can have a child strictly with a white man, sorry black daddies are a nightmare most of them... Whites ain't perfect but they do try for their kids
Men and women must just leave each other alone for a while. Women, treat your wombs like liquid gold.
Rest in peace and power Mandy
3 Simple Rules:
1. Imagine yourself as a single parent. Would you still want that child?
2. Imagine if you d!e after birthing or when the child is born (fathers). Who would you leave that child with?
3. Imagine you lose your job and everything gets repossessed or taken away overnight. Would you have someone who can literally immediately take you in with your child?
Wow if all women considered these 3 things, things would be so different
31 years old and I answered Negatively to all of them 😂. Yoh mina I'm still enjoying my freedom
Eish😭😭😭 that’s why i am still scared
Food for thought, thank you for that mama ❤️
For real. You are an intelligent woman. A lot of women don't think about these things.
Motherhood is a lonely and thanksless job. Even when you're married. Women need to be selfish with our bodies and our time because men can just walk away unscathed. It's tough out there.
I think as black females we should reconsider this growing practice of having kids before marriage. We have normalised it. I am a single mom, and it is difficult. White folks are not compromising on this standard. Marriage first. Hope young girls will choose differently than us.
Although I totally agree with you, the yt ppl that I work or have worked with majority of them are divorced and are “technically” single parents. This other yt woman was even complaining that the ex was not contributing in any way she hd to work 2 jobs to support her daughters.
Maybe it’s just my line of work idk 😂 but they are also not so perfect.
But I’m not totally agree with your opinion
@thelazysnapper Remember we are not like yt people. We don't have the luxury of being single parents, yet we continue to do this. Most of us come from broken homes or/and poverty. The country with the highest percentage of single parents in the world is in Scandinavia. They plan to be single parents and the fathers do not abandon their kids. Also bare in mind that these are rich countries with world class free education and health care. As black women we are still trying to take our families out if poverty and do not need to willingly bring a child into a difficult situation knowing that the kid will be the one that bares the consequences and trauma. My father had multiple kids with multiple women and it ensured that I never saw him and he never contributed to my life in any positive way except trauma of watching my mom struggle to raise me. Black women need to watch out for themselves because no one else will.
@@Mbuyiselo5 Nobody encourages young girls to have babies plz stop lying 😂
@Mbuyiselo5 Yes! Let's not get scammed by society and the romanticization of single parenthood. It's not romantic when a child gets disadvantaged and traumatized by our poor decision-making. It's actually shameful to willingly bring a child into poverty. I will never understand that.
@@thelazysnapper these ones knows the white peoples lifestyle from TV😂they never interacts with them or lived in the white neighborhood. But whenever they drag blk people they compares us with the TV lifestyle not reality…
Guys, remember ngwana ke wa mosadi. No matter what, make sure YOU want that baby - forget about other people and their opinions
Can we acknowledge that everyone holds pain differently. Until you've walked the same life as someone, you really can't judge them. Sad that the pain got too heavy, that even leaving her child behind was a better option than living for them.
Men will use your traumas and fears against you, never ladies tell men what scares or what can break you coz he would do it
This is so true. We as women are quick to sure our traumas with men and get mad because men never they never do. They then use that to come back and hurt us with the poison we are running from.😢
My body my choice. Men have no final word if a child must be born or not.
So true , I told my husband about my child sexual abuse now he uses it against me , insults me with it whenever he's drunk,,,,,,
Golden advice! Your clinical psychologist is the only person who can know about your traumas
Sorry sis that's soo sad take heart man will be our death oooo
This is so sad😢 I can't even begin to imagine how the child is feeling right now shame. That's why I believe in waiting till i'm physically, emotionally and mentally ready to have a baby sana yhoo because finance isn't everything thought it's a huge factor in raising a human being.
God bless you. You'll get rewards for having a child later in life. You get to choose what kind of a father you want for your children. I had my child very young, at 21.
I can’t believe things can turn out like this from love of your life to a nightmare 😢
It's true. Men can promise you heaven and earth and then turn around and dump you on the highway.
Owamie, keep preaching Sis, love you loads... I don't consider myself anyone's baby mama, but I was also left to deal with the entire pregnancy myself, my son is 8 months and I'm so in love, can never trade him for anything🥰😍❤
❤❤proud of your journey so far. I can sense you love motherhood ❤❤❤ u give that bundle of joy a hug from me. So heartwarming to read positive comments ❤❤❤❤
O btw i removed those negative ppl who offended you❤some ppl are just bitter
Thanks Lala🥰, he is my universe😍@@sammym9259
I saw the comments💀 just don't feed negativity ...Thank you my Love❤@@sammym9259
Ey ibuhlungu lento kaMandy because we would literally sometimes see her spiralling on her lives. Such a beautiful lady, I hope shes at peace 🥺🕊️
Ugh restbin peace Mandy❤.
Thank you for the wise words Owami.
SPEAK Owamie!!! I think we need a segment about dating men with power (money, political, business) and the dynamics of those relationships. People with power are dangerous, they can make grievances disappear... Women must understand that these men will bring the mentality they have out there in the world into the relationship. If power makes them be discriminatory (sexist, classist, homophobic) they will be like that with you.
Finally, public sector psychologist/therapists are the BEST!!! Get the help you need.
Thank you Owamie for shedding light on issues that affects society these days. I wholeheartedly agree with you and i want to add that health professionals should initiate bringing back post natal checks on vulnerable mothers..social services as well. This new South Africa has lost it's moral medical compass..and we as a society are contributors to sick vulnerable people in general. ❤❤i wish i could be the minister of health back home..I'd bring back the old ways in regards to community healthcare ❤❤May anyone who reads this comment find solace and seek help. Love and light❤❤❤❤Rembember no situation in LIFE is permanent.
Listen I was watching a live on tiktok when I saw notification I jumped and click on it without thinking twice with a big smile🤣🤣Am soooo happy you back on this side xem💃💃
Yooh!! This is sad, the poor child is gonna leave without a mom😢
never been married and i have a baby but i imagine fighting for custody is draining just like maintenance court
I GAVE BIRTH TO A HANDSOME BOY AND GREW HIM ALONE FOR 15YEARS.....ONLY FOR HIS FATHER TO COME DECEMBER 2023, MANIPULATE MY BOY, BUY HIM LAPTOP AND MOUSE, HISENSE PHONE BOOM MY SON GONE JUST LIKE THAT.. MY ONLY CHILD😭😭😭😭😭AM FOLDING HANDS... NOW MY SON IN THE HANDS OF STEP MOTHER......I UNDERSTAND THE PAIN THIS WOMAN WAS GOING THROUGH.... LIFE IS NOT A PLAY GROUND.... PEOPLE TURN TO UNDERSTAND YOUR PAIN WHEN YOU ARE NO MORE
MAY GOD REST YOU IN PEACE SIS
I pray for your healing and the young boy’s safety mama, be strong.
My son's father emailed me saying he's giving up on his son, he's giving me 100% parenting rights, he will see him when he turns 18, and he was gone up until today, that was 5 years back and my son is 12 now. Thank God I have a good job and I wished him well.
I hope and pray my son doesn't pull the same stunt and run to the arms of the man who was not there for him, who abandoned him when he needed him the most.
Women do better in 2024. Learn from other people mistakes, look at the women around you your mom, aunt, neighbor, celebrities etc. Use their lives as a template you don't have to go through the same challenges as them, make better decisions. Work on yourself and get your money
Black women, you're God!
Protect your womb at all cost, and don't open it just to anyone
lol....black women are not God
Hallelujah
I didn't know Mandy personally, but I was so fond of her. Agh this is heartbreaking.😢
Thanx for feeding us with wise words😘👌
The thing is that sometimes you will get married and the fool wastes away the security(money/properties/investiments/businesses) for your kids and he divorces you for what you have 🤷♀️
For me my advice is that Women do better for yourself, take very good care of your health physically and mentally. Have a job or create jobs for yourself. Don’t ever share your money with partners/boyfriend/husband e.t.c and take care of your kids no matter what. And please please seek/ask for help in times of any kind of hardship and move away from abusers🙏
This hit home ninja. I'm a 25 years old with no children. My ex boyfriend who doesn't know that Im done with him and it's been 6 years and I decided to ghost him and leave him in 2023 (yes he is still begging) but I have been ignoring him because owamie I'm tired of the emotional and physical (at times) abuse because he is controlling. Ninja he has a kid and he told me just before the year 2023 ended that " my age mates have kids and when am I having one". I suffer from mental issues that sent me straight to hell and back because Im not infertile just on contraceptives since 2017
Run and don't look back that's not a man you should have kids with based on what you've said about him. uzoyisola
@@_molebogeng6281agreed.
Im sorry to hear this. As a token of hope..i gave birth at 40😊 my exes used to mock me saying I'minfertile yet i knew it's not. I don't have any gynecologic problems. So don'tlook back and grow spiritually allign yourself and stay positive. Take care❤❤❤
❤❤@@sammym9259
Baby girl wait for marriage don’t let society dictate when you should have children. That’s the problem with South Africans. That’s why SA men don’t marry cause girls make them babies with no accountabilities. Be proud of yourself. 🥰
I grew up with my father until I turned 13 and he divorced me when my mom divorced him. I never wanted any of my children to come from a broken home. Unfortunately my 1st borns father was abusive and I called off the wedding that was supposed to happen before I even fell pregnant. I went to therapy so that I'm strong enough to never go back to him because he was abusive.
This is true being single parent and depending on the Man it's not easy
How can u be a single parent and also depend on a man ?! In that case u not a single parent
Mmm so true Ninja. Dying childless is okay. Ninja thers still the part of this story that we didnt cover.the fact that this lady could have been poisoned by friends is something we dont talk enough about. Beauty brings enemies from all sides,even men hate u for it.
Unfortunately being a single mom is something that we do not choose. A person can be good to you and treat you well until they see that you are commited to them especially when you have kids for a man they tend to change. Now how can anyone forsee something whats in the future. Woman need to be kind to one another being a mom is extremely difficult and woman need to make their own money
You choose, if you are not married and have kids you are a single mother.
@@pamelatire8386 lol sana 😅 respectfully. Man will marry you give you kids and than leave. Trust me it's not by choice for some woman.
Vett men properly, date them with your legs closed so the sex doesn’t cloud your judgement, let him earn the right of passage to your womb by becoming your husband first. Black women are the face of single motherhood globally, there is obviously something we are doing differently than other races of women & its not working in our benefit. Yt women, date get to know the guy, go on birth control get married only start having kids after 2/3yrs of settling in marriage. Black women: date a man, have sex with him bcos you like him, if he doesn’t use protection you get pregnant, if he proposes marriage, you’ll marry him cos u have a child with him & ignore all the red flags. Thats IF he marries you, you leave it to the man to leave his seed in you, very few black women are proactive with birth control before their 1st child.
You must want a baby as a woman.. women have no business listening to men telling their babe I'm ready to a child. He will leave you with that ready and you will cry hey
@@kimoraglow6847most divorces are initiated by women
Our parents are toxic hey! The 60s gang is so toxic it’s not even funny!!!! A lot of us come from abusive homes with parents who need healing and they don’t even care to go seek help! I’m so triggered cause I know exactly what she’s going through with an abusive mother.
As for the baby daddy, old as he is, he has no shame! This had to happen so he could open his eyes - I really hope he carries this guilt for the rest of his life cause he is part and parcel of Mandy’s depression.
Even if she was working Owamie, it’s not solely her responsibility to look after that little boy! What about the emotional side of things? Yhu ha.a!
Not me getting lost in the "child planning" advice 🙂..... top tier!
Let us learn to avoid fake relationship's Nd when we c red flag we should not ignore them ,wat I have learned ppl do change so one need to prioritize their lives first
Let's not get into a relationship for the bag and hoping he's going to change
True girl True
When u say my body my choice, u have the final choice if a child must be born or not. Having a bady is ONE person's choice. Not both
Tough love. Owamie is right we need to have our on money. I left and that was the best decision ever when l was with him. I was stay at home. l went through character development but l thank God that l managed.
You so insightful Owami
This is wild I randomly thought of her just yesterday and I hardly would think of her was just wondering about her
My goodness little did I know she’s passed
Wow! 🥺
RIP sweetheart 🙏🏾🤍❤️
Wisdom right there Owami👌🏽
RIP 🕊️🙏
Girl did not drink poison. She got poisoned I believe coz she's beautiful and her beauty may have caused others to be jealous
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Owamie I need to sleep please im on night shift 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Dear Woman,
It takes two to create a child but only you will carry that offspring and therefore always make sure to have Plan B (your own money) if you choose to engage in sexual activities outside of the perimeters of matrimony. Nowadays I dare say have your own money even if you are married. May the young lady’s soul rest in peace. May this tragedy plant the seed of fair and dedicated parenthood in this man
This is so sad 😢
So so sad hun 😢
RIP 🤍🕊️
what you are saying is not fair I'm not sure if its becos u don't have kids or what but be a parent and go through shit and come back and say that you have no right to be depressed and take your life I'm a mother and I understand exactly were this lady was coming from just becos u have it easy with no kids don't bash those who have kids with mental illness its a struggle it takes alot to stay alive respect
I think she also had post-mortem
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Postpartum ❤which goes in s.a unattended by this generations medical personnel ❤ there are no checks done on mothers that are vulnerable. Married or single.
Even post natal checks don't get done on infant and mothers
So true , & her mom didn’t help much too, she probably looked at her as attention seeking or something ,
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14:03 very true owamie ❤
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Owamie is 100% correct.
my body my choice. No man has a final decision if he want to become a father or not.
While I respect your opinion on "parents cannot commit suicide". You have not seen how bad post partum depression can get.
It's not every woman that deserves your money & security, RIP Mandy.
Wow
Hectic...
True
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21s in💃💃
I'm within
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Yoh 😩 ey ja neh... Being a woman
Test in peace
Aa women we need to stop listening to men telling us they are ready to have kids.. you as the woman is the one who is really yoy having that child.. women should be the one to tell a man in the relationship or marriage that I'm ready for a child !! You gift a man a child?? He will leave you with that gift and you will come cryijg haoo
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Notification gang gang🥰🥰🥰🥰
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ladies I hope non of you ever has to go through this, but there is no due diligence when it comes to relationships, we just hope and pray to God that we are dealing with a sensible partner, however these are things that happen in life and we should leave room for disappointment so that one can be able to find the strength to raise your child, I don't know much about mental health, but all I am saying is, take it easy on yourselves my loves, we are all trying hle, siyazama sonke, life has no manual.
Yho your make up ❤
You are very right Owami. Facts are facts .
1. You can only legally force men to pay support but you can never force them to be emotionally supportive to you or that child .
2. Ladies protest all you want ,but bottom line is the womb is in you so the child will be left with you.
3. How many times must they teach grown SINGLE woman to use birth control methods but you guys wanna be iindlondlo ze pregnancy. And u cry and blame everyone when they neglect you and that child.
4. Its been said for years that get married first before having kids, even so, its never a guarantee that you and your kids will be taken care of emotionally or anything. Think very well before having kids because wow and your tears and screaming about your mental health wont help you, so please ladies do better for the kids you made.
Apparently she even wanted him to pay rent for her . Gal made a decision to off herself and leave her child behind,the same child she claimed to love. Yah neh
She had so much expectations on this relationship and when she saw it was not it, she lost it. She felt entitled because she was a baby mama
@@FineWine. exactly, exactly
@@kamogelokoloane5182 Atlea the baby daddy was giving her R1500 for child support yena she decided to abandon her first born child for good ,now tell me who's worse
@FineWine. my point exactly. The poor child is going to suffer bathong. Remember she didn't get along her either.
It’s very sad to leave your child behind 😢 I have a daughter it’s very sad
The background music makes it so difficult to listen. I actually stopped watching. Which is such a bummer, cuz I enjoy your content. Is it just me guys? Or perhaps you can lower the volume of the music please Queen ninja❤
The volume is low though
i think it’s just you ninja. Are you listening with earphones? It was fine for me without any
@@rvlng7265 Oh! I see... It's loud with the earphones on. Thanks ninja.
@@OwamieEntertainmentwe heard you loud and clear. And thanks for bringing awareness to mental health issues sis❤
This gal had a lot going on Owamie. So many things contributed to her passing but i guess it would be fair if we can go with the family statement because she seemed happy just a few days ago with a new man. Maybe she was trying to get over Mondli. For some reason i think u are always hard on MEN. Why i dont get it especially because you have a son
U are 100% correct. Those people who say "my body my choice" are the ones who have the final word if a child must be born or not. Men have no voice.
she must be very hard on men as a boy mom. we don’t need more enablers and women who don’t understand tough love raising our men.
She was just shedding light on issues occurring daily in society. Please dissect the whole message❤
This is so sad 😢