Johnny Depp v Amber Heard #14 - (Assistant Testimony) - Therapist Reaction
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- Опубліковано 29 вер 2024
- Dr. Kirk Honda reacts to the Johnny Depp and Amber Heard trial.
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Another reason why Kate is angry with Amber it’s because when Amber smuggled the dogs into Australia she wrote a statement saying Kate was supposed to check the dogs and she didn’t which was not true and the Australian government is looking into perjury charges against Amber for lying.
Good
Ahh good point. I think I heard a recording where she's blaming JD for it too, I think she tells him that he let her take the fall for it or something like that? She is something else lol 🤦♂️
@@sabias3932 ikr!
And on top of that she stole her r*pe story and turn it into her own
Hold on, is the government of Australia waiting for this trial to end so they can sue her next????
There is a text message exchange between AH's mother and Depp that demonstrates how scared AH's mother was of her daughter. There is so much evidence out there that I would love for Dr. Honda to see.
I didn't know about this. Thank you. I feel like I'm always finding out new stuff about all of this 😅
I hope he looks more into the evidence once the case is over, but the point of his videos is to break down what the Jury would be experiencing. He is intentionally going into this while avoiding outside influence. As frustrating as it is, and as much as I want to correct him on stuff, his unique take is pretty helpful.
Parents know their children best. If Amber mother believes her daughter was dangerous, it must be true.
@@patricknez7258 if you want to completely catch up, That Umbrella Guy has been covering this extensively for YEARS. He also does daily live streams to go over all new information, bring back old relevant things people only jumping in during this trial wouldn't know about, and to answer questions in the live chat.
@@EWAMILENAP I don’t think that this is necessarily true across the board, but I do think it’s another important part of evidence to consider.
This is also the woman that allegedly, Amber used to lie to get out of charges being pressed against her in Australia. Amber snuck her dogs in without being declared and she and another employee of hers lied and said Kate said she did all the required paperwork which wasn't true. The employee came out and admitted Amber blackmailed him using his job to make the false statement and blame Kate James.
Public humiliation was fine for the abusive men during the MeToo years, so it should be fine now since Depp alleges that he was victimized by her.
I know that you try to show empathy for everybody, but honestly, what goes around comes around. She should have thought about this when she originally lied (allegedly).
I think it's unfair to say "All this is not amber heard's doing, she did not want to go to court"...It's like saying it's not a murderer's fault they're in jail, they didn't even want to go there, they were forced into it.
Glad Dr Honda brought up MeToo and power imbalance and legal threats against victims near the end there... it seems to me like a lot of the reaction to this case online is a disturbingly gleeful backlash against MeToo and "believe women". I find Heard's accusations against Depp more credible than not based on the evidence presented thus far, but even if one thinks she's not credible, the mockery and vilification of a possible IPV victim, and the SA and IPV myths I've seen circulated around this case are disturbing, and also likely harmful to the male victims of abuse (who are not excluded from MeToo) that many claim to be rallying around this case in support of. As someone who once had a lot of hope that MeToo would really vastly improve general awareness and attitudes and make things safer for victims coming forward and reduce victimization... I don't know if many actually took the messages of the movement in, but it often since has seemed to me not.
I agree! It feels like some are anti-Heard alongside believing victims vs anti-abuse/helping victims wherever possible. It annoys me because believe all victims is meant to be about therapy and police investigating/doing due diligence rather than meaning the other person is guilty by law.
She wanted Kate to lie to the court for her and take all the blame for the dogs. I'd be pissed too
I agree, I think this is why it has gone public, he tried arguing and realised that wasnt healthy, so got out, it got worse. It went to the media and got worse, he got hauled to court the first time and got worse, tried to get her to stop and defend himself, she refused. According to one of the leaked tapes no one would beleive him. I dont think he felt had anything else to loose as he was tarnished across the media and it works, he did go public, to be honest what the media can make up is not worse than what johnny has said himself. So amber was warned to stop this, she continued and its now got to this point, its rough but I think this itself is a way of healing, getting all the truth out so there is nothing left.
The Main thing that bothers me about AH's claims are all the random pics of JD passed out, the property damage and what appears to be staged photos of cocaine and booze with JDs drug case laying there but No real pics of her injuries...if they were rolling around in broken glass and if he head butted her, punched her, broke her nose etc... WHERE ARE THE PICTURES?
Apparently the day after this incident, she went on a late night talk show and the makeup artist has said no bruising was apparent....it just doesn't make sense to me and I've been through some of the stuff she's claiming. I firmly believe she was the aggressor and took those pics to frame JD as a "bad guy". I know he said n did some nasty stuff too but I don't believe he beat her as claimed. I hope after this she gets some help. She has a one year old daughter to care for and I worry for them both...
I personally would not sacrifice my reputation and career because the the person responsible for them has a personality disorder.
I believe this man has suffered enough in private, and was left pretty broken by her, but her need for revenge, her compulsion to crush him into a podium for her to stand on, was too much, for even a very introverted victim, to withstand.
She is the architect of his disaster, and ultimately, her own.
For context, Amber stole her former personal assistants abuse story. Amber got her to open up about it and then told it like her own. I think Amber's lawyers gave her a rough time, but her story has always been consistent.
She also said, Amber would only spend anytime with her son when the paparazzi could photograph them together or for her social media, then she would ignore him.
I think the assistant was upset bc amber allegedly stole her r@pe story. She also fired her and then contacted her asking her to lie about not getting the dogs checked before amber smuggled the dogs into Australia. She also spat on her for asking for a raise so idk I'm thinking that's why she seems cold towards amber.
Dramatic doesn't necessarily equate to crying 😢 I've been around very dramatic people who were just over the top behaviorally.
I'm really disappointed in you as a therapist. I understand you want to look at her possible mental issues and have empathy for her, but I haven't heard you say how horrible it must've been for depp to be abused by her? How horrible it must've felt to then have her drag his name through the mud. How horrible it must be having all his dirty laundry aired out just so he can get justice and a fair trial. You say that you don't have a bias and that men can be victims too, but you don't seem to be concerned about his possible suffering at all.
My ex has BPD. The relationship was amazing and we only split up because it wasn't the right time for us. Amber Heard isn't an abuser because of her BPD. She's an abuser because she is a horrible person. She deserves to be understood, but she does not deserve sympathy.
Can someone please send Dr Kirk the audio where amber is taunting Johnny !
Honestly it’s like, which one? There are so many examples of it, it’s sad that Dr. Kirk is approaching it this way when, overall, there is so much evidence of her abusing JD and basically no evidence of what she alleges.
Your example of the parents who weren’t able to be very present for their child at the beginning and then found themselves with a very challenging teenager is so heartbreaking and resonates with me. It’s only since I started therapy that I’ve been able to realise how hard it was for my parents when I was born. They had just escaped war in Yugoslavia, were now living in a country where they didn’t speak the language, and got pregnant… with twins!!! My mom was taking care of my sister and I all by herself while my dad was working long hours, and they were so young. Through the years, their financial and social situation got way better, and I can see how much more secure and confident my brother (who they had when I was 11) is! I’m a little jealous tbh 😅 but at least I can now talk with them about it and have empathy for them, and for me.
War in Yugoslavia? You mean you guys killing Albanians for Kosovo? For what? Ethnic differences 🤨
💖💖💖💖 Good job!!
This is a really wonderful and differentiated way of reframing your childhood trauma. So glad you were able to work through this and come to these conclusions ❤️❤️❤️
Good insight! I love having a therapist. And it's good to be be to comment on these threads and know you'll be understood.
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I feel bad for the assistant. She thought she was done after she was fired but no she keeps getting dragged back into litigation and she just wants to forget that part of her life.
Yeah this is it exactly. A lot of people don't realize that although they have only been hearing this side for a month, Kate James has had to deal with this for eight years.
Spot on
And saying no would go against the court x.x
Totally agree! I’d imagine she’s glad to stand up for JD, since he was kind to her and her son.., but she was sick of Amber Turd even then..
That’s what sucks about the court system. When the bad thing is over you want to just move on with your life, but you can’t. I’m still getting court updates over 5 years later and now it just makes me mad being reminded all the time.
i wanna add something that they didnt brought up here cause of relevence to the case, but it was proven that amber tried to frame this assistant for smuggling her dogs to austrelia and tried to make her sign a testimony about it but the assistant refused to do it, since amber was actually going to face a prejury case in austrelia ( her second assistant confirmed this) and it seems like the case didn't die since they are pushing the investigation further
I was thinking about that too. It's pretty messed up so it's not surprising this assistant is not an Amber fan.
@@kldawson53 it's also more evidence of how abusive and underhanded AH can be.
Also to add, this PA came out and said that her SA experience that she confided in Amber was used by Amber, claiming it as her own she used it against Johnny. I can fully understand the irritation and “bad attitude” she is giving off in her testimony.
I came her to mention this and even MORE appealing I think Kate James lived in Australia previously, she mentioned doing vet training there. If she’s a citizen probably could get Kate put in jail if/when she decided to visit.
“Does she deserve this?”
- She did drag Depp through the mud all these past years when she made the accusation publicly against him. Likely one-sided, without full/true context (at least based on latest witnesses’ testimonies), without mentioning her alleged abusive acts towards him. He already suffered years - not weeks as in her case - of public shaming and labelling because of this, when people judged him before even considering any evidence. He was cancelled already. If he’s innocent, or even if he’s equally a victim of abuse, doesn’t he deserve empathy and sympathy? Isn’t it his right to seek justice, have facts laid out, legally?
He did this through legal means whereas AH chose to capitalize on metoo, cancel culture, jumped on opportunity to work with ACLU to make it a big PR piece, timed it well to promote herself and her new movie. That was opportunistic.
- I believe there was also evidence she threatened to go public with these allegations and told Depp no one would believe him being abused? If true, she wasn’t hesitant to get all public attention as long as it benefited her.
- Shouldn’t she also be accountable for the hurt and harm she has caused to others? Victims of her emotional and physical abuse deserve empathy and sympathy.
Empathize but be realistic
the fact is he was abused by her, then she ruined his reputation, then when she was upset that lots of people didn't believe her and therefore her reputation had taken a hit, he offered to help her fix it by writing a public statement together and taking it out of public eye (still was going to allow her to play victim and get away with all her abuse), that wasn't enough for her so she doubled down...it's so fucking ridiculous how much people allow her to get away with...Like I get having empathy, but people are going wayyyyy overboard just because she's a woman and "we live in a sexist culture" as if that means a woman can't be a horrible person.
@@nGUNNARp I agree. Personally I don’t sympathize with her.
And he absolutely pleaded with her to put out a joint statement to shut down the public circus because HE did not want to go to court. He told her it would be so very bad for both of them, but she refused. He did not want to go to court. He did not want to put his children through more of this. He felt cornered and finally had to defend himself. I don't feel bad for her because he gave her every opportunity to shut all of this down and just move on with their lives. She created this mess.
elon n frank banged her in his penthouse. his home.
This is one point where I disagree with you. You said this is not her fault it is Johnny Depp's doing. If she was the abusive one, she had no problem publicly humiliating Johnny with false accusations. I know that sounds harsh, and maybe a she deserves it. But how should he vindicate himself if he is innocent? He was publicly shunned at her word all the while she acts innocent. If this is really what all of the evidence seems to suggest, she really brought this on herself and needs to take responsibility for trying to destroy someone in the public eye.
It's funny to me that AH complained about that. I mean, she married a much older man that plays guitar and is in a band. Like, what did she expect lol? Of course he's gonna have other old man friends and play the guitar lol
ya but we all kno it was for $$.
I'm more worried about Amber's child.
You should see how she tried framing this lady for the incident with the dogs in Australia. It was a complete lie and the authorities are investigating the incident (for perjury I heard).
Where's your evidence? The magistrate for that case said she wasn't lying, the UK High Court judge rejected the claim she was lying.
In audio tapes. JD gave Amber every opportunity, over and over, to just work things out quietly with no court. Unfortunately for Amber, she couldn't resist soaking in all of the attention from the Me Too movement. For years JD kept quiet while she carried on and he lost everything. The opp-ed was the last straw. I'm glad he took it public. It's the only way he could clear his name and give his children peace.
Over and over and over and over 😧 I was exhausted listening to this audios and proof
Appreciate dr Honda’s sympathy for Amber, but Johnny apparently suffered more.
Exactly!! And there’s one tape where Amber is berating and making fun of JD for being on Jumpstreet in his 20s.. he eventually called her a fat ass in the convo, but only bc she went OFF on him, all of his choices, called him tons of names and a “has been”.. etc.. she is a cruel woman! And NOT someone afraid of being beat and assaulted by a bottle’
And his suspicions were correct (if he had them); she was cheating which is clear from the video in the penthouse apartment elevator.
@@fosterxie5134 It's like all his sympathy just directly on Amber
The point is she's Australian. Unfortunately for some people, they don't understand that we have very blunt personalities. We say things straight forward and don't want to waste time. So it's more of a personality thing
Yes I think this maybe true. She's just an honest straight talking Australian who's been through this for years now- I think she is a good person. I sometimes think some Americans don't always understand people outside of US can be more direct and no nonsense but it doesn't mean they are cold and unpleasent they are just not putting any spin on things. (I'm not saying Dr Honda- I have seen other American reports where they have said she didn't come across well and they just really don't get it- it's very unfair on her).
I quite enjoy her personality.
Out of everyone on this case, I was most interested in listening to the assistant and her testimony. I was a former executive assistant for NBU and Disney and let me tell you... The assistants see and know so many things that people underestimate from our boss. We know how they are behind closed doors, who they love, who they hate, what it's like to deal with talent/celebs and more. When I saw this testimony, it said a LOT because I've seen alllll the good or the very bad and abusive at work, and how they treat people (including us)
Yes, that makes so much sense! Assistants seem like such a wealth of information. Kate is very articulate and highly intelligent so it seems ridiculous to underestimate with such a close eye on what is happening. Her evidence is quite damning.
Kate's testimony was extremely important for me to watch . She saw Amber daily and in various states of undress for years and never saw any cuts or bruises.
I've also worked in the same field as you and Kate and yes we do see more than people think we do.
Also, Ben King's testimony was also interesting to me. House manager. Called Amber out for acting like a spoiled teenafe child and he didn't see any cuts or bruises the day after the Aus incident nor did he see Amber limping around when he accompanied her home from Aus to Los Angeles.
@@youraveragewoman946 yeah, no limping and no cuts at all from walking on all that broken glass.
@@DanielleMarieW unless ... Depp and her ... had a little flirtation going on
@@katgirlblue I had ONE piece of glass in my foot about 6 hours before a flight from Europe to Canada. First off, there was so much blood from that one cut! Yet her pics don’t show that much blood when she supposedly had multiple cuts on both feet plus arms? Second, I could barely walk from the taxi through the airport to get to my gate. It was so painful and I have a huge scar from it. Seems she could even just show some scars?
I think for the sake of the MeToo movement, if Johnny is the victim, we absolutely need this televised. This likely will make history and set a precedence for how abuse victims are treated when they are a man and their abuser is a woman.
💯💯💯💯💯Needs to be televised that's how she distroyed him publicly! She did not need to go in person to get that restraining order, the lawyer could do that alone; she didn't need to take the main entrance, she didn't need to call the paparazzi, she didn't need to showcase that fake bruised (we have seen images and videos of her the day b4 and after) SO the only way he can clear his name is publicly!
By the way I am not a fan or anything.
But that should then not be used to villainise women and accuse them of lying, since a vast, vast majority of victims are women and perpetrators men. This is already being used my MRAs to accuse all women of lying.
JD needed this televised because otherwise he would’ve never earned his name back like he currently is.
@@AllTheArtsy it will not. This is CLEARLY an unusual case by someone with serious personality disorder issues and who needs help. The media, people and current social agendas have clearly helped her as much as they could at this stage she needs help and perhaps this circus could help her. Codling will not. I am not exaggerating when I say one day she may kill someone. Also Ignoring the real victim (and victims) to keep up the agenda is preety disgusting though. Believe all victims & believe facts!!! This is where we are at the moment as society evolves.
@@AllTheArtsy the "vast majority" is documented by skewed statistics. The # of men suffering from abuse is still so highly under reported. Until abused men are acknowledged and counted there is no real way to compare as you did. Times are finally changing. Women who perpetrate abuse need to be held accountable!
I truely appreciate Dr. Honda for being so sympathetic to everyone. But I think it is a little unfair to imply that it was JD's fault that AH's dirt is being dragged into the public (around minute 50 in this video), regardless of if she was guilty or not. AH already accused JD of abuse back in 2016 and JD quietly settled and paid her $7million. They released a joint statement and if she didn't want her dirt to be dragged up, this would have been a good place for her to stop and win. But in 2018 she published that Op-Ed to the Washington Post, despite their joint statement. Not just a fringe tabloid. The Washington Post. She was ASKING for this issue to come back and go public. You wish that we can have justice for JD without this going public. Sure. But how? At this point, "justice" for JD is repairing the damage to his public image AH has caused. And the only way for that to happen is to bring this to the public. Because AH chose to use the public against JD first.
I think we the public should refrain from mocking AH for all her problems that have come to light. Maybe they were borne from trauma that she had no control over. But that doesn't absolve her responsibility for this being in the public in the first place. Or at least, don't blame JD for defending himself/standing up for himself in the only way that makes sense given the circumstances AH created.
Totally agree!
@coffeeteamix. I noticed that too. I feel like dr
Honda has compassion only for amber.
I don't think he was blaming him, per se. He explained why Depp wanted it to be public and, at the same time, said it is unfortunate for Heard that she has to go through this, which I think is the main point. It's not necessarily about placing blame.
He just isn't biased towards JD like the hivemind. Dr. Honda is a professional and looking at this like a professional. Not like the rest of us who are looking at it like fans of Johnny Depp lol.
This! Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. She’s been very comfortable publicly playing the victim; she should be as comfortable seeing her lies unfold.
Isn't this the assistant who's SA story was alledgedly stolen and used by Amber? I'm mean....I'd be salty too. If true, that is despicable.
Yes, same person!
Yes
Absolutely with Amber stealing Johnny story and giving Johnny her story as the abuser. So I have heard bits and pieces of Amber stealing someone's sa story but I didn't know it was the assistant. I want to learn more about this? Guess I'll do a search but if anybody has any direction to point me in please do?
How did she know her SA story was stolen when Amber's story wasn't revealed until last week?
@@Tamarahope77 this happened back in July 2020
Why is it awful for Amber Heard to hear testimony of her given abuse, when Johnny Depp is the abused victim? I am not sure why Dr. Honda continuously feels only for Amber Heard without extending the same sort of empathy to J.D.
I am feeling more and more that Dr. Honda is reviewing this case as if he were Amber Heard's psychiatrist - not Johnny's - and certainly not as a scholar. The personal extensions of sympathy towards the abuser is too much.
I feel like dr Honda is overly protecting and excusing alot of Amber's behavior.. she I'd accountable for her lies Erich there are many that are easily proven through audio, witnesses, lying about make up etc... I feel like he is giving amber the benefit kf doubt but not johnny
I appreciate your compassion for AH in light of her likely personality disorders, however she has publicly dragged him and accused him for years. I agree this must be difficult for her, but considering how public her accusations have been, I think it's fair for the trial to play out publicly. They each deserve to speak their testimony and be heard. I don't think Amber deserves special protection, although I hope she does get support and help because I think this will be a tough time.
And as difficult as this must be for her, who’s to say who it’s more difficult for? Johnny has to hear the audio of her mocking and berating him, even the audio of being pushed to the verge of self harm. He was the one of was regularly physically assaulted, so I imagine having to reflect back on their time together must be incredibly draining and emotional.
Amber put her life and behavior into the public her own self. And not just in a small way but in a prominent publication with a literally global distribution. While she’s very likely to be suffering mentally just as Dr H imagines, it’s really not right to say that she never asked for any of this or that this case is all down to Johnny.
It’s one thing to feel compassion for her likely mental health issues, but another entirely to imply she had lessened responsibility.
The reason someone causes a harm* is separate from the responsibility for causing a harm.
* allegedly, of course.
I have been fairly annoyed watching the trial and her performances on the stand, and maybe it's my own countertransference from dealing with BPD individuals in the scope of my own professional, but when she is talking about/being asked about the night of her 30th bday party and Johnny was several hours late, I actually felt incredibly empathetic in that moment because I saw very momentarily genuine sadness and pain, and I felt bad for her bcuz think if it were you - it's your 30th Bday, a huge milestone for someone that age, and you wanted him to just show up and be there for you because I'm sure in her eyes (and in most people's eyes) your loved one being there is proof/confirmation that they love you and you are important to them ... And for someone with BPD, this would feel even more excruciating that your husband didn't show up to your 30th bday dinner, and then showed up late and intoxicated after a horrible business meeting gone wrong (finding out all his money is gone) ... And then I started to realize (god, this sounds so bad) that she is still a real person with real feelings and emotions and having to sit there day in and day out, being questioned and examined by someone who is as masterful as Camille Vasquez, having all these secret details of your life and your mental health laid bare for all to see ... It just has to be incredibly devastating for her, whether or not she "brought this on herself," considering she is only a 30smthng young woman with several mental health challenges that skew towards people making terribly impulsive decisions that majorly impact theirs and others futures, and thru cognitive distortions and emotional deregulation, being unable to clearly see and assess the actual situation. I feel concerned for her ability to recover from this trial ... And I don't mean in terms of her career, I mean in terms of mentally and emotionally - and now she has an infant at home, i just worry for her and hope she can get the help she needs
@@SteakCutFries Well said.
We’re seeing the part of their relationship where Amber is being called to take resonsibility for her actions.
It’s easy to forget that she is very well experiencing intense pain, regardless of its source.
„I am sad for everyone honestly“ is the most relatable quote I have heard in all video material relating to the trial. Thank you for your grounded view on the world. It gives me hope!
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I can appreciate the want to try and see things from AH’s perspective and trying to think maybe there’s truth in her accusations but she’s literally on tape saying “go public and see who they believe”. She’s been threatening towards him seems almost every step of the way. She claims that she’s tried to get away but she literally hates when he runs from an argument so why would she claim to do the same thing she hates. Makes zero sense. I don’t have much sympathy for her at this point bc if shoe was on the other foot and JD came across half as manipulative as she has he would not be garnering the same sympathy no matter what he’s likely been through. He’d be done.
I would agree that the trial shouldn't be public but the fact that she publicly came out to say she was a victim of DV from Johnny Depp and she went on talk shows and went to venues and was an ambassador for DV on that bases and speaking about her experience publicly is the reason why he did a public trial. Also the media if you watched the UK trial was even stating him as an abuser. He was stated in the media for years as an abuser. He wanted her to retract those statements so they wouldn't have to go to court but she didn't.He didn't even want to go to court but she went on a smear campaign for fame and success so in turn he wanted the cameras in the room because without the cameras the paper media and online media would twist the truth in order to push that narrative that Amber Heard started for their agenda.
100% facts👍
Completely! I understand that doctor Honda is viewing this from her perspective as someone who potentially has mental health difficulties, but from Johnny's perspective, I can't begin to imagine how he felt since these accusations came to light. Losing his roles, having his children harassed with news about him being a wife beater, and the helplessness of a biased, one sided media that played judge, jury and executioner. He can finally have a voice without the distorted filters of media outlets. And on top of the defamation if he was also the abused, than I cannot fathom how he is still among us, because I don't think I would be that strong.
Well said.
I wanted to add that during the divorce settlement, Johnny could have fought her about her claims & she get nothing, but he settled to stop it from going too public. Part of the agreement that they don't defame each other & the content of the agreement should remain private. but she breached it by publicly talking about the dontation. & she continued to breach it by claiming she's a survive of DV & talking with journalists, hinting about him & leaking videos. Yet, Deep remained relatively silent & still payed all her divorce money by 2018. Perhaps when she wrote the op-ed she thought at worst he would settle again & she get more money. Basically continue the blackmail. but the man had enough & he has all the right to clear his name.
Yes. They're twisting the narrative even now that they can be denied instantly. It's scary.
Agree. Now we can all see for ourself. And I must say that what I read about this in media these days, gives a very different picture from what I see in the court. Maybe it is difficult for men with high education (journalists and others) to see another man as a victim, because then they must feel their own vulnerability to some extent. It is strange for me to see. Maybe that is one part of it. Or maybe a story with a male wictim doesn`t sell as much. I dont know. Anyway, I Iearn a lot about the world, because this trial is open. But I hope Amber Heard has the support she need, because she has painted herself into a corner, big time!
After you've finished reacting to the depositions and testimonies, I think it would be prudent if you react to the audio tapes that are NOT available to the jury. Specifically the tapes that UA-camr 'Incredibly Average' has covered.
I agree after hearing those tapes and hearing her admit to cutting Johnny’s finger off admit to all the drugs she was on this act on the stand is nothing more than an act
@@ChillingWithMel22 And even earlier when she explicitly explains in detail how she will ruin his career and life with photos, email and texts (that are all manufactured) if he does not agree her demands to the divorce.
We should stay away from any “evidence” that is not admitted to court, because of the likelihood of them being doctored or edited. Any legitimate evidence would be submitted to court, don’t you think?
@@tdare5355 You do know that evidence that is already admitted as evidence has been doctored by Amber s team/friends?. .. And the other photographic evidence that she was ORDERED to turn over for Metadata analysis was NOT received in time for this trial? But even if you discount that photographic evidence, the photos she turned over in the U.K trial which are been used in this trial were flagged as "tampered files" by Amber's own professional analysis team prior to submission. The only un-doctored/edited unbiased evidence are the full tapes recorded by Heard herself which are online.
@@ksjmward1998 where can I find that?
Couple of things this video made me think of...
1. There is a recording somewhere of JD on the phone with AH begging her to stop all of this because he didn't want to take it to court. He pointed out how nasty it would be and how much their problems would be dragged out for all to see... AH did not want to listen. I try to feel for her, but she really... did this to herself.
2. Re - the client not disclosing abuse... I think sometimes we don't disclose because we don't realize it's abuse. I grew up in a home with corporal punishment, and my therapist was shocked when I mentioned how my mother would hit me as punishment while I was in high school. I didn't talk about it because it didn't occur to me that that was a form of abuse.
To 1.) there is. He said it multiple times. That why they also did the statement and she could play victim. But then question arrised and she wanted to double down on the metoo she threw him publicly under the bus. Yeah her psychological state in the public isn‘t great but she choose to drag his family into it and harmed him for years also publicly.
"All this is not Amber Heard's doing. Does she deserve this?" I'm sorry but I disagree. What about the past 6 years where she went to media outlets to talk about the alleged abuse? What about the past 6 years where she capitalised on this alleged abuse? What about the past 6 years where Johnny had to live with the tag of wife beater? His son was being bullied in school saying that his dad was a wife beater. Johnny didn't even want to go to court. He's on tape asking her that we should solve this outside of court but she was the one who called media when she went to get the TRO with fake bruise.
*So NO, I don't feel sorry for her. You can't just say "he abused me" and ruin the other person's life and live the rest of yours without any consequences.*
Yep, and she's the one who leaked photos and footage to tabloids to feed the scandal since 2016.
She sold that video of JD and the cabinets to TMZ. And now she's leaking photos that were ruled inadmissible to the court case to TMZ to circumvent the rules. She's continuing her abuse and defamation in real time. It's disgusting and worthy of condemnation, imo.
This IS Amber’s doing. Every bit of it is her doing. This is the logical conclusion of her actions, but she expected Johnny to cower away from her and not stand up for himself.
Yes we right behind JD. Let right & truth win out against these sickies
I think, at this point, saying "none of this is Amber Heard's doing" is a bit unfair to Johnny Depp and all the other people who have obviously been hurt by AH. She has surely had a part in all of this coming into the public sphere.
She is a bull in a china shop. She wants everyone to feel her pain.
The point is that he's the one who sued her.
@@GroovyFeminist Yes, because she ruined him and this was the only way he had to show the truth. He deserves his day in court. If she had not lied this would not have happened.
@@GroovyFeminist If a person drives drunk and kills somebody, is it the prosecutors fault they're being charged?
@@GroovyFeminist because she as of all brought all this to the public. He always tried to treat this silent. She wrote the op-ed, she became an aclu ambassador for DV when she was the abuser and now its JD fault that he gets cancelled and the only way out is the trial.
I think Dr. Honda must be a very good therapist because he has so much empathy and I see his point about making a person's mental health issues public, but it was Heard who made it public. She broke an agreement to not speak publicly after the settlement, and decided to do it anyway. She's the one who put this out there for public consumption and if I were Johnny, I would feel the ONLY way to recover his life and career would be to make the court case public so that people got his side. He's basically had no voice since she first accused him of physical abuse. The op ed. was just the final straw, and it destroyed his career. I don't blame him for wanting to fight back and clear his name.
I agree with most of your points. However, you said this is not all Amber Heards doing. That's not necessarily true. IF she is lying to destroy Johnny, then this IS all her doing. If she lied all along, if she lied about him abusing her, got him fired from all his jobs, etc... then it is 10000% her doing.
Exactly. When Dr. Honda said "does Amber deserve all this humiliation?" I was like...SIR?? This whole case is about Amber MALICIOUSLY AND PUBLICLY LYING TO HUMILIATE Johnny Depp for monetary gain. Live by the sword, die by the sword. OF COURSE she deserves it wtf? The only person who didn't deserve this is Johnny
@@jaxsmith1204 I will say that I feel bad for her because clearly, she suffers from mental health issues. And I don't like seeing anyone suffer. But if she intentionally targeted him and destroyed him, even after he gave her 7 million dollars to go away, she has no one to blame but herself.
100% she made the threat, he just took her up on it.
I think she is delusional and needs help though. The scary thing is that she doesn't think she is the one with a problem.
Kate James was definitely not happy to be part of this, but she was treated so poorly by amber so I don’t blame her
And then Amber takes the stand and calls her a terrible mom and a drunk. Revictimizing her all over again.
@@julieeileen7299 right? she knows that attacking parenting skills is an easy way to cause someone pain, she does it to Johnny too- so gross
@@kirstynashlee You know, you bring up an excellent point. I hadn't thought about the fact that she made the same exact claims about Johnny's parenting. Damn.
AH who is now a mom should be careful about tossing stones
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I feel bad for both parties but no offence Dr Honda. Whilst I’m empathetic to The pain AH must be going through, if all of this is true, what about the pain and almost financial ruin she inflicted on JD and his family (the kids having to be exposed to all these lies about their dad)? Her vindictiveness has no bounds nor consequence and she routinely, it seems, pushed those boundaries often! In all aspects of her life.
As for keeping this a closed trial. I’m glad it hasn’t been. The total lack of credible evidence has really changed my mind about this situation and I hope justice and the truth finally does prevail. The recent legal documents raised to the court reporting that her and her team had not released the photographic evidence for metadata analysis (considering many photos are already being questioned) … is in my opinion, another endorsement of someone hiding from the truth or acting like they are above the law.
Yup. Sometimes when I hear him it seems like he’s excusing AH a bit too much at times.
Liv Ers I agree it's very tough to have sympathy for AH. Her actions throughout this have been very cunning and manipulative imo. She abused JD and then claimed he was an abuser and destroyed his life/career. Her co-opting of MeToo was gross and will have a negative affect on a lot of innocent people. Her lies about donating the $7mill to charities and her using the stories of other survivors as her own, are more examples of her manipulations. It feels like this public trial is her reckoning. Especially when I consider that if this trial hadn't been public she could have continued to get away w it. It's very difficult to have sympathy. Now if she came clean and apologized, which I know, isn't very likely, I could potentially have a bit of sympathy for her then.. maybe
I agree! And If this wasn't public we would have to rely on the information the mainstream media brings out and that hasn't been objective (stil isn't).
@@patricknez7258 man, that smirk when he was up on the stand the 2nd time. And the laughing. And staring at him. I just can’t.
Some people are confused by Kate James's demeanor. Amber allegedly stole her sexual violence story. Kate wrote about this in a previous witness statement. If this is true, which I tend to believe it is, I would be acting like this too.
Yeah. Kate has definitely had enough of Amber.
Exactly
"Allegedly" is the key word there. The SA parts of the UK trial were sealed, so how would Kate know what the details of Heard's SA accounts were enough to allege that she "stole" them? I don't know if Kate was being purposely vague in that statement, but from what I gather, what she was actually referring to was Heard mentioning that she'd had a conversation with Kate about Kate's SA, and that there was some discussion of the word "victim" vs. "survivor" - this being the story Heard "stole", not the actual details of Kate's SA.
@@plutotlavie5845 Amber stated that Johnny SA'd her more than once, including one instance by holding Amber at knifepoint. That was the story Kate related to Amber. The bottle story is something else.
Ok, now look at the details of what you quoted to try to glean what maybe is actually being said:
1."Ms. Heard referred to a conversation we had" - so Heard herself was bringing up that she had a conversation with James about her SA? Does this make sense if she intended to "steal" James's SA experience?
2. "As I perused the documents... I discovered that in fact Ms. Heard had stolen my SV conversation..." - James herself again is saying that Heard "stole" and "twisted" their conversation, not her actual SA experience. And as I understand it, with Heard's SA accounts in the UK trial being sealed, James would not have had access to peruse any documents of Heard's actual accounts of SA.
3. James gives zero details in her statement on what details of her SA story Heard allegedly stole. Why? Obvious answer: because she doesn't actually know the details of Heard's SA accounts, and doesn't have any actual evidence that Heard "stole" anything from her own SA experience.
It appears from her statement that James is saying, in perhaps a deliberately ambiguous way, that Heard referred to the conversation they had about James' SA, and that James was upset to have that conversation referred to in this context. James is claiming that that amounts to Heard stealing and twisting her SA story, which is something of a distortion, imo.
But she drug him through the mud!!! What if he was the victim!?!?! He’s defending himself. You don’t think she brought this on herself. And what she testifies about him. I believe if this was reversed you would still be defending the woman. I am a DV victim. And I am not a Depp fan. Take the celebrity away, take the gender away. And just listen to the testimony. We are relating to JD as the victim and we hear our abuser through her. She has triggered so many of us!!! Not through her testimony but through us knowing this is how abusers were
Yes, feel the same. I don't hear anything about JD, how this must be for him. How he must be feeling. Only sympathy for Ambers point of view....
I wouldn't put too much weight on the fact that outsiders have only seen lovely behavior, never the terrible, violent fights, shouting and insults. My parents were always charming, fun, 'the life of the party'-types when meeting people and all my friends said they'd love parents like that. Within four walls though they would fight like cats and dogs 24/7, be verbally, psychologically and physically violent and nasty.
This is similar to my experience too. From the outside, people thought my home life as a kid was rosy and almost idyllic in some ways. In reality, it was volatile, dysfunctional, and violent.
Exactly.
Hey now, give more credit to cats and dogs 😂
@@CaulkMongler OK, right... fight like SOME cats and dogs ;D
@@Alex-ph5ir But in this case, we have a lot of evidence contrary to what Amber heard testifies. There are recordings that clearly show JD trying to defuse, while Amber is provoking him. There is evidence that shows she is in no way scared of him, even when he is pissed off. There are police reports that report that she was NOT abused when she claimed she was.
There is very little to no room to give Amber Heard the benefit of the doubt anymore.
Dr. Kirk, do you remember reviewing an extended conversation between JD and AH two years ago? In that recording, it seems fairly clear she was the primary aggressor, and you seemed to acknowledge that...
I completely understand feeling sorry for her because I also feel that way. However (after reviewing previously leaked audio and her earlier depositions), there is a level of duplicity, fake emotion, and aloofness in her current testimony that eventually totally counteracts my sympathy 🤦♀️.
I think you need to listen to her latest testimony: just several levels of wtf... 🤯🤯🤯
Passive-aggressive partners can make ya look crazy 🤪
It's sad because people are sooooo worried about potentially 'victim blaming' that people are automatically protected from many people's judgement if they claim victim (amber heard)...it's a super damaging concept because the victim is the person being accused
It was clear she was the primary aggressor in that audio. He also did not say she is not in this video. - Understanding and highlighting the psychological detriment that hearings like this can do to the brain, especially for someone with a disorder, is tough.
Much of the public is taking this as a battle between Johnny and Amber. I would not go to a psychologist to help fuel that energy.
@@nGUNNARp ya, good I don't care about feelings but facts lol. Man f her, she needs public humiliation wat she's done. career ended just from accusations, but we worry about her feelings when Depp lost finger tip.. sounds like I e Dr Hughes
And all of these audio tapes are HER recording. So she knew she recorded and thats whats on it. Dont want to know how it is when she wasn’t recorded
I have to disagree with your musing that this is not her doing. She chose to accuse him (falsely in my opinion) of abuse and ruin his career. There have been recent revelations regarding her filing for the TRO, that show that her team planned for there to be a circus from the start. Worth looking into if you have not already. Otherwise, great episode. I very much appreciate the insights and education you are sharing with us all.
Dr Kirk I've been a long time fan and love your videos, but I feel you've been quite biased and unfair towards Johnny Depp in this series. In this video you spent maybe 10 minutes talking about how terrible it is that this trial is public, how Amber Herd has to deal with her public image being damaged and possible damage to her career -- but you didn't even mention Johnny. This is what the entire trial is about -- Amber Herd published an article which everyone assumed was about Johnny Depp, which destroyed his public image, caused articles to be written calling him a wife beater, and destroying his career. Now we're seeing evidence that maybe this was made up. We can't know of course. But you're going to such lengths to try to protect Amber that you're completely ignoring the exact same thing happened to Johnny.
I too found him extremely biased towards amber, he doesn't give the same benefit of doubt to johnny despite seeing more red flags from amber.
Ooh once again Dr H started off this video that any negative comments will destroy his week, and upset him. So often mentioned I'm not sure we are allowed opinions anymore, only praise. It's too bad.
I think it can seem that way because he's reacting to information about Amber, so he'll analyse and empathise with her, it csn seem like Dr. Hinda is biased towards the perpetrator because he tries very hard to see things from all sides but I really appreciate his perspective
Please realize the sympathy you give to Amber is misplaced probably because you are a psychologist. What you wish she could have avoided with not being “forced” into a public trial is EXACTLY WHAT SHE PUT Johnny through and she did it INTENTIONALLY. and that is why he is suing her. He was going to let her say he beat her and mutually agree to blame it on the press. She broke that 2nd chance by writing the article.
I've been abused. I still think Amber absolutely deserves sympathy. Not from Johnny, but definitely in general and especially from a therapist. Can you imagine being offered THAT many "outs", by the person you're abusing no less, but being too damaged to even be able to see that. That's pain too. Being that blind to love and care.
Didn’t you listen to the recordings of them fighting a year or so ago? Bc your acting like you’re skeptical that amber was ever physically and verbally abusive but she flat out admitted that in the recordings.
I understand your point of view about it being tough for Amber in court due to her mental health it's good to be empathic 👍 but she is doubling down on "her truth" so much that I think she has distorted everything already to the point of believing she's innocent in this. The case in UK was behind closed doors and did only judge if the sun newspaper had reasonable grounds for calling Mr Depp a "wife beater", not the alleged abuse per se. She have republished the op-ed again after some years. It was also she who went to court first bcs Mr Depp didn't give in to the demands for spousal support and other things in the beginning of divorce so it's much her own doing. It's important to remember Mr Depp also wants to clear his name for his two children who were/are teenagers adminst all newscovering etc.
When Amber wrote "the article" she was being assisted by members of the ACLU and (one of ACLU has testified) to that fact and additionally she was using generalities and they told her that it had to have Johnny Depp's name included. But they resolved to use statements that would implicate Johnny without using his name and everyone would know it was Johnny.
Amber wanted it done. She was in agreement with ACLU. She told then to put the information in.
nah, she did it n it was her. all she does is shift the blame to anyone else thats not named amber. its all she do in whole her life. its too convenient. is she that stupid she never made a decision by herself? but how is everything bad in her life was suggested to her? but its usually her lawyers or family she saids
So are you thinking they were trying to benefit of the back of her fame and new movie....?
@@bereal6590 That wouldn't really make sense. More likely, they believed her uncritically, just like most other people who couldn't be bothered to research her evidence, myself included. Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity. In simpler words: some bad things happen not because of people having bad intentions, but because they did not think it through properly. AH's intentions? obviously malign... the ACLU? probably better explained by intellectual laziness, and a bias towards believing those claiming to be victims of injustice.
@@bereal6590 the ACLU lawyer testimony implied as much.
I'm sorry. Part of me 100% feels for Amber Heard too. It's hard not to feel for the obviously damaged little girl inside of her... but that is massively tempered by the fact that, until this point at least, all available (and notably UNAVAILABLE) evidence appears to suggest that she is lying, or that she is, at best, egregiously embellishing her allegations against Johnny Depp which completely destroyed his public image. I cannot stand celebrity drama and make every effort to ignore it, but I could not escape her allegations after the WaPo article, and I am ashamed to say that I uncritically believed her that Johnny Depp is some kind of horrible closeted monster. If she does indeed have BPD/HPD, I can grant that how she reacts to stimuli in any given moment may not be entirely under her control, HOWEVER her smear campaign against her ex-husband was premeditated, prolonged, purposeful and malicious. However far this has gone, she could have stopped it at any time, and she CHOSE over and over and over again to not only keep it going, but to continue adding new even more monstrous claims to her story, culminating in the WaPo article. I understand having some degree of sympathy for a woman inhabited by a terrified child, but my sympathy has limits.
I hope that Dr Kirk knows that the major assault story from Australia is Kate's.
So not only has Kate has had to stand by and listen to Amber lie, but Amber has appropriated her most traumatic moments for her own gain.
[Edited to correct - thank you! No sleep here!]
To me that shows you can’t trust her since she’s married to someone on depps payroll. If that’s true.
@@lorijumper7910 That's not true, Stephen Deuters is married to Gina Deuters
Gina Deuters is Married to Stephen, not Kate James
lmao ... she thinks amber was paying her paycheck in the first place. its just hilarious how depp pair for everything
@@Chalee711 I believe Amber paid her hourly rate, but everything else was paid by Depp. Remember how her hourly rate was very low, but Kate agreed so she had flexibility? And said that once she and Depp started living together she had hoped that she might be merged more with his staff and be more under his management which was much more pleasant.
But what if Johnny was abused and his life destroyed? I understand you’re feeling for her and she truly needs help. But I feel much more for Johnny and I hope he gets justice finally.
I feel worse for him too. She sounds horrible in those audios , they both do, but man she sounds like the biggest Bully
Please remember she hasn't finished presenting all of her evidence yet... You never know, there might be more that is yet to come to light.
She is acting like nothing she does has repercussions so why should we be careful of the repercussions she might have?
I thought there was more with Dr Hughes? Specifically about Dr Hughes disregarding other treating providers opinions in her analysis and her evaluation of Amber. It was a question Depp’s lawyer asked during cross examination. Unless I missed you talking about it, I want to know your opinion on that too.
Yeah, I was anticipating response to more crucial elements of her cross..
@@limner123 same here.
Yes, i think he missed that and he also kinda missed, how she corrected ambers scores with some weird explanation that she had to do it because of AHs ptsd. She mentions it very briefly so the jury didn’t catch it either I guess.
Yes and I was wanting for that part.
Me too. I wanted to hear the opinion about the left out answers on the test.
Since I have bpd too I can imagine how she feels but after her testimony where she obviously STILL lied and therefore tainted every real SA victim I can't help but lose sympathy for her. She ruined his life and doing this trial publicly is Johnny's only chance to get the truth out.
However, I hope she realizes that she has brought all of this on herself and gets the help she needs
I read about you having had sympathy and how you can imagine how she must feel. That's empathy, thats human, its lovely!
I just don't think she has BPD, I think she lacks empathy, ruining a person by manipulation and gaslighting and lying under oath. She's arrogant, self-righteous, thinking she can get away with it. I see her as a narcissist without any emotion or care other than for herself.
49:50 the only way johnny can get a shred of his reputation back is by airing it publicly.. She is the one who published personal details into the media, not johnny. i really don't think johnny is enjoying having to share all of this information either, but he knows that its now a necessity. I genuinely can't see a resolution for this situation without Amber having to deal with these consequences.
I really respect Dr Honda from all the videos I’ve watched of his. However, I cannot get onboard with his views on this video. It is interesting to me that Dr Honda empathises with Amber so much despite the information he is receiving from this witness about how unpleasant and downright reprehensible her behaviour is. I believe Dr Honda has a bias - he believes that Amber may have BPD and HPD and I think his therapist-self is kicking in and he seems to massively outweigh his sympathy for Amber vs for Johnny. Throughout this entire video I did not hear Dr Honda wondering the devastating harm Amber’s actions and words may have caused this witness and Johnny. I know he mentioned Amber may have abused Johnny, but being abused is one thing - being accused of DV and rape for the entire fucking world to see is another.
This is all Amber’s doing as Johnny has tried to resolve this issue privately with Amber many, many, many times. They’re all on tape for all of us to hear. He’s pleaded with her. He’s tried to write a public letter together. He’s even paid her $7m in divorce settlement and $7m of the additional taxes and other costs. He let Amber’s friend Rocky and her fiancé live in his house rent free. He let Amber’s sister Whitney live in his house rent free for nearly 2 years.
Amber’s been destroying his name and his reputation ever since Johnny denied her divorce demands in 2016 (6 additional years of harassment if you will) - again, this paper is publicly available too due to their trial in the UK. She demanded a Range Rover, 2 penthouses with mortgages and utilities paid for life, $50k of cash per month for life and her attorney fees of $125k paid. When Johnny denied these, she filed for a temporary restraining order and reported to every paper and news station that he had been abusing her and physically assaulting her.
Then on the eve of her new film Aquaman, she published that op-ed in WaPo. The title itself alleges Johnny raped her.
I mean I don’t know what level of patience Dr Honda has, but I sure would’ve cracked by this point too and sought some redemption and made sure it’s as public as possible so people can judge for themselves.
I’ve seen several news outlets with edited photos of Amber to show her looking more bruised than in the court photos. Articles with very misleading titles and messaging that has been spun away from the reality of the trial. Therefore, I think it is good and important for the trial to be public.
Empathizing does not mean we are giving her behavour a pass, it's a reason, mental health is complicated and there are sometimes bystanders.
Dr. Honda does not judge his clients, and that includes Amber and folks like her. It doesn't excuse her, but he is able to give a blue print for her behavior so that transformation is possible :-)
@@jackielehman8945 No, I completely agree with you. IF she is suffering from the two disorders, I can fully empathise. My argument is the entire video was in sympathy for Amber, but I did not find Dr Honda mentioning or thinking about the implications of the trial and the allegations for Johnny, especially toward the end when he made a complete assumption that the whole trial and it being fully transparent to the public is solely because of Johnny.
He did not think that perhaps Amber has a role in this trial coming to existence and he did not contemplate what Johnny’s reasons may have been in his endeavours in making this trial so public.
No sympathy for AH. She deserves all of it. It seems like she was out to totally ruin JD and up until this trial, she had nearly succeeded. She’s reaping the consequences of her actions.
I really love these videos, but something I noticed with the reaction videos is that you tend to put opinions out there before your ideas can be fully formed because you dont have all the information at that point. I just wish that at the end of the video or segment you would give a summary of your thoughts given everything youve seen thus far from an objective standpoint. It seems like sometimes you just react to each individual instance, which I understand because these videos are supposed to help all of us and they definitely do. However, the fault with this is that there are times when you are behind the pack with catching up on this stuff (again, completely understandable) and as a consequence some of your statements indicate that you dont believe _____ is at fault. I've noticed with me and by reading the comments that this can actually be damaging to people who have experienced abuse in similar ways mentioned. I always love your input and you're very careful about how you word things, which is amazing but I think this is an issue that you could easily resolve either with a tiny bit more communication to viewers or by a slight adjustment to video structure. I personally wouldn't mind waiting longer to watch a much longer video of yours that ends with more of a final conclusion and possibly you going and looking at some of the evidence since most of the trial streams dont actually show it
She made the comment that she was trying to get a loan modification which is why she agreed to work for amber AT SUCH A LOW RATE OF PAY because she wasnt paying her mortgage at the time.
Picking up her kid worked into the schedule,this was the reason she stayed on. How do u get mortgage rent to her child
This is not her doing? Are you kidding? This is ALL her doing! She chose to write that piece accusing him, very conveniently when her movie was opening, so, even more publicity. She thought that JD would just be quiet as usual, and take it. He gave her many chances to avoid court, avoid this whole thing, and she refused! So I have no sympathy for her at all. She brought it all on herself.
Wish I had of read further down in the comments. I wrote something very similar to this. Not sure how much this therapist has been researching this case, but he seems very uninformed and giving Amber Heard way too wide a margin for error here as though she's the poor victim in all of this and it's really irritating to listen to. I appreciate a devil's advocate type of approach most of the time...this is not one of those times.
Yes - all she did was counter sue for twice the amount-100 million rather than his 50 million - the audacity is huge!! And also the things she accused him of became greater and greater over time- potentially purgering herself.
I just can't forget the shock win of the UK trial with the Sun newspaper on her side and her gloating speech outside court afterwards (to a crowd of about 3 as in reality everyone was too smart to believe her). She gloating about standing up for female victims when infact he was the victim not her! And the sun newspaper enabling her- it was sickening. Later discovered very dodgy judge with connections to both her legal team and the newspaper- made me ashamed of our legal system. JDs suffering must have been great and by all accounts he always seems essentially a kind and gentle man who suffered a great deal of abuse as a child.
@@dowobeha6875 it is a bit irritating but he hasn't seen the evidense or knows any of the background. He sympathises with her as potentially suffering personality disorder knowing how miss understood and vulnerable these people can be. I'd be interested in seeing his thoughts on her once he had the whole picture. It's irritating he is not understanding the awful time JD has been through and the much greater sympathy he deserves regardless whether she has a personality disorder or not.
Although I do wonder if she has been enabled and encouraged to some extent by the legal team and press who should have known better. Which is a very low way for them to behave towards someone potentially with an illness and the person who has been the victim of her illness for many years.
He (rightly!) didn't trust the media to cover the case fairly and accurately so had to agree to let the cameras in so the public could see for themselves. He had no choice but to fight back- she was never going to stop otherwise and she could do serious harm to someone one day left unchallenged on her behaviour. (well someone else in addition to him that is).
@@leogem177 well, that's the thing - the jury hasn't seen everything either - not everything we know is admissible in court. I hope they don't feel sympathetic toward her. I just watched the latest popcorned planet about the texts from Johnny to her parents when she got the restraining order against him, and they both say they love him. He was in Spain, she didn't need a restraining order! You should watch that. It literally made me cry, what she did to him.
@@katgirlblue yes I know it is heartbreaking to hear some of it. People who haven't paid attention to the whole situation don't always understand why people feel so strongly for JD. I read I think a Washington Post article about it where it basically said his supporters were just fans who were following him in blind adoration. They are so insulting to the (huge!) number of supporters he has. In reality people are genuinely upset at the genuinely huge injustice JD had suffered they can't stand back and see it happen. Anyone who bothers to look into it can see it. Thank god for social media in this situation, enabling people to fight back and spread the truth. Some parts of the media will lose face massively for their actions to bring someone down just because they can and their egos are so huge.
It makes me anxious to hear what will happen with the trial but I think his team have done well so far and the jury aren't stupid they will see how on the stand she is just not credible (even if Dr Hughes has enabled her lies I think they will see). Also she just doesn't really have any witnesses apart from her sister whos story can be easily shot down by JDs own witnesses that shes lying.
Even if he wins which I really hope he does he has still had years of his life brought down by this- but I hope the respect the people have for him will be even greater and he'll move on all the stronger in the end. (Have you seen him playing with the Hollywood Vampires) they seem really supportive of eachother really hoping they will continue now that Covid is over- they are really good. He is so in his element playing guitar! Can't help but think it has really helped him get through all this even if he hasn't been able to play as much with the Covid times. God even that has delayed all the trials and strung this out even longer!! Poor Johnny. Like it says on his notebook in court 'made to last' I feel like it's a message that he can dig in and get threw this. He's been through a lot in his life and he knows how to tough it out and he loves his children too much to give up no matter how tough😢
JD told her it wouldn't be good for either of them to go to court and she's been humiliating him for years.
Exactly. She never thought she'd be investigated this closely. She thought people would just believe her. Which they did - for years. But look now, we've found out she didn't pay $3.5M to each of the charities she said she had. And that's just one of the blatant lies.
I appreciate your compassion for Amber Heard. My question is: Is she even capable of feeling remorse, shame, and fear? In all of the videos and audios I have heard, she acts like someone who has no self-awareness as to how ugly she sounds and acts, and how much hurt she inflicts on others.
Crushing shame is often a gigantic part of the BPD experience. Outwardly denying culpability is a defense mechanism. In Heard's case I can't really say definitively but I would guess that she does feel shame and remorse inwardly but is often incapable of facing that because of abandonment fears and the intensity of devastation that shame brings. If you consider that most people in general have issues with accountability because it feels like if they admit wrongdoing that means they're a bad person, and that feels awful, it becomes a little more reasonable to assume that when that shame is magnified exponentially it may cause the person to run from it frantically. You can kinda see that happening in some of their recorded arguments. I'm a lay person, only taken a few classes. The majority of my knowledge comes from reading published materials and dealing with a BHPD parent. So I could be wrong here. I'm no professional. This is just a guess.
@@srolesen I would caution you against speaking to others as though they have no idea what the other side of the fence looks like. How the fuck do you think I ended up with this insight? Casual light reading?? I'm currently caring for my BHPD mother, whose severe PD is now made all the worse by dementia. I'm sorry you're triggered by the material but lashing out at people just because they say something that makes you feel angry isn't a good excuse for trying to pass on your hurt to strangers.
Well, Amber doesn't really cry tears when she "cries." Kate may have a different definition of "crying."
Also, Amber tried frame Kate for her smuggling the dogs into AU. AND Amber stole her sexual assault story and used it for herself... SOOOO
When u give a hypothesis please do it for both of them
Feels like you are trying so hard to believe her and not trying to do that for him.
imagine calling Johnny Depp playing guitar with old guys like Paul McCartney BORING 😵😱
Dr. Honda, you are too kind. I think you'll think differently as you get through the videos. You'll still feel bad for her because of BPD, but you'll REALLY feel bad for Johnny.
Yeah i think he is still in the beginning stage and still has a somewhat neutral view. You just wait and see.
it's a good thing you're not very well informed in this entire case... like heard the tapes? seen the other testimony from london... know about the timeline and all the many many things heard said that just actually doesn't line up. - regardless of how unbiased one is. Because knowing all that... i would not say anyone should feel sorry for amber no matter what her diagnosis is... anyone can get help and get better... but doing THIS... not sorry for her. she is very evil for this. and i went into this with completely fresh eyes.... and you are a little behind - since we are now onto amber on the stand... and there is no way anyone would feel sorry for her. anyone else with BPD sure.... not her. you seem to forget she accused johnny of HORRIBLE CRIMES
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Is Dr. Honda aware that she is also suing him? and for double the money?
Wait what did he say this is all Johnny depps fault for bringing his abuser to light? 🤔 and then go on to say she wrote a public op Ed about her abuse from him… but he feels bad for her..how is he unbiased again?
You touched one great reason behind public court - "... so the press can scrutinize it", and you have it almost right. Only it's not press, but it's you, me, anybody - we can see for ourselves and make our own opinion.
That's why public court is vital. You cannot trust press. You cannot trust government. You cannot trust "spokepersons".
With public court you can go and see yourself - make sure something is not obscured, lied about, make sure that law is not misapplied like prosecutors are trying to do and government is not trying some sh-. to get someone jailed. With closed court you have no way to check that.
BTW this trial is televised, which "only" means TV cameras are allowed in court. Even if cameras were not allowed, you can still go and sit in gallery.
Thank you so much for this comment. All court hearings should be public to make sure the law is applied correctly. Look at the Brittany Spears case and currently the Bam Margera & Wendy Williams cases.
There is another missing point that he didn’t touch on. If Amber really lied about all of or most of all the abuse, than she caused damage to JD (career, image, his psychological wellbeing, etc) and if it is lies then he would know that. If you know you are innocent then you would want the case open to the public for all to hear. IF that is the case… then Amber isn’t a victim having to have all her lies and behavior aired out. JD would be the victim and would be vindicated. And if she did lie this is going to make it harder for women who actually get abused. It is just so sad.
I totally agree with you. Unfortunately it is not true that "anyone can go and see it". There is very limited seating and people have been queuing from 3am - people who have been bringing light to this case for 5+ years. It will only this from now on and it will be very bad for the last day. Hopefully they will increase Sheriff presence earlier which is what has been requested from those that have been queuing early
Does she deserve this? Does HE deserve this? His reputation was destroyed, his kids suffered so much because of her accusations - does he deserve it?
I guess that depends on whether he did abuse her to the extent she is claiming... And seeing as she hasn't finished presenting all of her evidence yet - we should wait to see.
Sorry... I just realised I'm actually being a bit snarky (nothing personal)... I know there's a tonne of audio clips out there that don't exactly paint AH in a favorable light, but it's really frustrating to see how people have already made up their minds without even letting her finish presenting all of her evidence...
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@@quacksms4601 I know, but that's because there's been so much damaging evidence already. The recordings alone show she's lying, and her claims about a broken nose for example, are ridiculous. Less than 24 hours later she was on James Corden, looking gorgeous, no broken nose, no swelling.
You're missing context as well (which happens when you're jumping around testimonies, but also when you don't know anything about the UK trial).
Kate James made a sworn statement in the UK trial (in this deposition they mention it only in so far as they ask if she still stands by the statements she made in the letter she wrote in the UK trial), where she accused Amber Heard of stealing her horrifying sexual assault that happened to her in Brazil that she told Heard in confidence (likely before she knew the type of person Heard really was) that Heard then used "as her OWN sexual assault story".
On top of that, Heard also asked her to lie for her and take the blame for the Australia incident (where she took her two dogs into Australia illegally, knowing FULL well it was illegal - there's emails proving this) and when Kate James REFUSED, Heard went ahead and bullied Kevin Murphy into lying under oath (he later retracted his statement) blaming Kate James for the paperwork not being filled out on time (Kate James' mother called her from her hometown, where an article in their hometown paper ran a story that it was KATE JAMES to blame).
This is the woman so many people keep coming forward saying "I feel sorry for her". Really? I mean, REALLY!?!?!?
You can feel bad that she has mental health issues that she CLEARLY is not getting help for, but bloody HELL. Stop feeling sorry for a woman that has tried to RUIN lives to BENEFIT herself. Believing she deserves mental health help should NOT equal EXCUSING her WRETCHED, INEXCUSABLE behaviour!
Kate James is an actual victim of abuse and Dr. Honda's over here fretting about Amber's wellbeing.
I have borderline and I’ve done something like that before, not to the extent of spitting at someone but I did make up lies about someone because I thought they didn’t want to be my friend anymore. I was maybe 18 or 19 years old. It’s hard for people around someone with BPD to understand, but we have a hard time understanding what we’re feeling and we often misplace our emotions especially when BPD isn’t being treated.
Thanks for being honest. She needs friends like you and treatment.
Thank you for sharing. I hope you have a good support system to help and I wish you well 🧡
@@Kati3-kat 👍🏻 yes fortunately I do and I’m in treatment and I’m more self aware of my behavior. Treatment is basically life long for people with BPD.
Having a disorder doesn't make it an excuse tho, she's done more then make up few lies
@@Chalee711 true, she’s been way out of line. But when you have this disorder, you can be way out of line sometimes.
There is audio of Johnny PLEADING with her to not go to court....he wanted to just get divorced and settle it out of court, no publicity...He asked her so that he wouldn't have to tarnish her name....she claimed that it was out of her hands, and that she HAD to go to court, because she BELIEVED that he would use things against her, and she basically had to make a pre-emptive strike, to prevent what he POSSIBLY could do in the future.
Does she deserve this? I mean, yes. She went about accusing him, talked publicly about it, cost him his reputation, for years. It would have been one thing to say that Johnny Depp was a bad husband and that they were awful together. But to say he violently beat and sexually abused her is another thing entirely.
Thanks for your insight. I wish the best for both JD, and AH in moving on with their lives separate from each other. For me, all this talk of disorders/therapy has helped me reflect on myself. For the 1st time in my life I actually would like to see a therapist on a regular basis (at 30 years old). Unfortunately I can't afford sessions. We have a huge problem with people being able to access health care, and mental health should be a part of that. I'm sure the sessions are worth the $ especially if you have a really good therapist, but it's just too much. I'm sure there are more affordable options depending on where you live with non-licensed people, or something. It's just a shame that I don't see that changing any time soon because people hear "free health care." and think socialism or the idea of 'we can't just give handouts to everyone, just get a better job and work hard..' Not everyone is able to do that. Anyway!
Dr Honda have you ever seen anyone with a broken nose? It happened to me my sister and her whole face was swollen and she could barely open her eyes. She wouldn't have been able to hide it from anyone. She makes everyone question their eyes which is crazy
Yes, and nobody could even claim a broken nose without a doctor's diagnosis. Like how would one even know without exray if the nose looks completely fine outside?
@@anneliakinde exactly. Her stories are so outrageous that each incident would have required serious medical treatment. Her story of being assaulted by a broken bottle would have left her seriously injured and she would have needed to go to the ER. She's doing damage to the real victims of abuse. I've seen videos of dermatologists which exposed her lie about Arnica cream too
Dude you commentary is so incredible. I cannot tell you how much value you provide. God bless you.
Way you stop in the middle of the cross examination of the doctor?
In the end she is admitting that she is bios!
(When she need to admit that ember injured joni and sent him to the hospital)
It seemed that you have a secret intrest
I also think he missed important parts!
And given the AMOUNT and SEVERITY of the physical abuse she describes Kate James would have known 100% something was going on
Yeah it’s really frustrating listening to Dr Honda. He keeps going back to “oh poor Amber. This must be so difficult for her” after just listening to Kate talking abt how Amber verbally abused her multiple times and treated her like a verbal punching bag. And how Amber was also abusive to her mom and sister a how they’re scared of her.
Oh it’s because she has such abandonment issues that resulted in BPD and HPD and poor Amber poor Amber.
It’s like listening to someone telling me to feel sorry for my abusive mother because my dad cheated on her and how she was in such pain.
There’s having empathy. And then there’s making excuses for someone.
At least Dr Tracy said outright there’s still no excusing this behaviour and ppl with BPD still have to be accountable.
I agree. I usually enjoy his content but where is the compassion and empathy for Kate James?
@@julieeileen7299 or to Johnny Depp? I stopped watching him after this specific video, and frankly didn’t even finish it, so do let me know if he even said anything remotely sympathetic towards JD. Or if he, like Dr Hughes don’t believe men can be victims of DV/DA in a hetero relationship.
@@kittie479 Yeah, totally agree about JD. I'm sorry to say I stopped watching everything but the Dr. Spiegal analysis (because, I mean, that guy was crazy and the good doctor definitely called him on it.)
@@julieeileen7299 I even unsubbed.
When he said JD’s lawyer shouted at Dr Hughes for referring to her notes. He did not
When he kept going on and on about poor amber. Because she has BPD and HPD and how difficult this must be for her, completely ignoring how this may be difficult for JD. Completely ignoring the audio that were already played. Oh how fake and fantastical her testimony was.
Referring to Kate James as cantankerous, completely ignoring the fact she said AH constantly verbally abused her, spat on her, under paid, terminated her with 24 hour’s notice knowing she has financial obligations.
He just kept excusing AH. It’s just ridiculous.
@@kittie479 100% Agree completely. He did a video about two years ago on the audio where Amber ADMITS to hitting him and he still excused her behavior.
Idk how Dr Kirk has any compassion for the woman. I can't even look at her without feeling disgust.
My son (only 19 y o) dates an “Amber Heard”. He is becoming aware of the dysfunction because of Johnny Depp publicity. I’m praying he can find the courage to break up!
This case is helping a lot of people. Thank God!!!
My heart goes out to you and your son. I hope that he can safely exit the situation.
I hope your son has managed to extricate himself, I’m glad he was able to come to that realization
Ordinarily I really enjoy your videos but I couldn't help but notice that you have empathy and sympathy for AH and yet you seem to show zero empathy or sympathy for JD. I am a survivor or gang rape and child abuse and also a survivor of DV and I have no doubt based on the evidence I have seen in this case (which I have followed from day one) that JD is the victim of DV and defamation, I can understand why you feel for AH being exposed so publicly but had she not told lies which destroyed joy only his career but his life then they wouldn't be embroiled in any of this .sorry but women are not always the victims sometimes women are perpetrators.
I feel bad for the victims of amber heard. She didn’t want her abuse to be public. I understand you feel compassion for Amber Heard but let’s not forget the damage abuse that BPD individuals can do to their victims. Amber Heard destroyed a man’s reputation and caused emotional and physical damage to him. He needed this to be public to clear his name. We need to have compassion for all not more compassion for one side.
I agree and she is still doing it. It's easy to feel empathy and compassion when it's not an *active* abuser.
I 💯 % agree JD needs this to restore his reputation because she destroyed it. Even if he looses this trial he still wins. The truth is out and his reputation is being repaired more each witness testimony.
I think Dr. Honda wasn’t severely abused so he doesn’t have this kind of transference/anger to Amber Heard that many abused people do.
as an asian kid, who dosnt get abused growing up? i mean its how we got punish when we got in trouble by parents. so just cause abuse happened, i dont see how its automatic for abuse later. i dont abuse ppl. its actually wat depp said. when u kno how abuse feels, thats the last thjng u ever want to do to ppl u care about. man we got hit by anything that was grabbed growing up. so if u think abuse is a trait from receiving abuse, ur argument fails
@@falliezhang4269 THIS...
have you even heard Heard? You can be dramatic without crying. she told how her dog stepping on a bee and she almost started to cry for example
Edit: She wrote an OP-ED labeling herself a survivor of domestic abuse, she brought it upon herself.
Edit 2: So far by watching your videos I have learnt that if Amber did all of this stuff and lied, it is tough for her because of her mental state.
Unless everything by her is reactive and she is still the victim.
If she is publicity presenting herself as the victim while being the abuser YES she deserves the scorn she is being given
Edit 3: I would think a witness which only wants to put down someone would show some more enthusiasm, it seems more like someone who'd been abused and just wants to separate herself from the abuser.
I appreciate your insights and commentary. You've managed to find a unique perspective to share on the issue which is increasingly difficult to find as the trial is going viral.
Well said. I appreciate Dr Honda's takes bc of his objectivity. Sometimes this case and other cases upset me, so I find I benefit from getting other, calmer, more balanced perspectives. It helps me consider other aspects that I might have over looked. And you're soo right, it is everywhere on social media rn. I'm tired of the 'stepped on a bee' tik toks for example
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Totally agree. His commentary and perspective is fantastic.
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I feel the same way. This (Dr H's videos) is the only safe place to discuss this trial.
I find it truly terrifying & really upsetting to read the comments on other channels as they are so cruel... Especially as AH hasn't even finished presenting her evidence yet. The 'body language experts', and the tears/crying 'experts' bother me the most I think... Just imagining victims of abuse (who haven't told anyone yet) must feel reading all that crap ~ the weight of the unfair scrutiny must be so awful...
Although I understand where you are coming from about worrying about Amber and it being televised I believe this had to
Happen because Amber has gotten away with using the ne too movement, ACLU to sadly promote her career and fame. It is very sad to have it brought out in the open of how the ACLU was a co-conspirator in a hit piece of Johnny. The ACLU would not have looked twice at her if her story did not have Johnny Depp in it. It was about money for the ACLU and promoting Aquaman fir AH and being relevant. The fact that they literally wrote in emails that they needed JD in the OP-ed for more traction and timed it on the release of Aquaman. They destroyed a person's life and family, JD kids were in school and no one thought about their emotions and having their school mates have their opinions. No one has said anything about what JD had to go through feeling that everyone was believing the lies, he was also probably at risk of hurting himself too. So no. I dont feel sorry for her because we all have to be held accountable for our actions and having a diagnosis of mental health issues does not make it okay to Intentionally destroy someone with what is now coming out as lies and recordings show how AH was very abusive and also her admitting she physically abused JD and she perjured herself in the UK trial also make it very difficult for his kids. Look at her UK trial, and compare her demeanor from the UK and US trial currently on. Her current testimony is sad because of her decision to be so fake and dramatic. Nit sure if you are aware but the Assistant had 2 other serious reasons to hate AH. See AH got caught smuggling in her to yorkies to Australia and did not declare them and follow their laws. She I'm an email admitted to the attorney that she would get her ex assistant to write a letter that it was her fault, the attorney knew this was a lie and cautioned AH that it can backfire on her. She asked her assistant and she said no, so AH went to JD assistant and told him he had to state in a letter that her ex assistant was at fault or he would loose his job. He did wr6the letter and when the assistant found she did this she wrote to the Australia au8that this was a lie and she was not even there or working for AH and that AH had asked her to write the letter to help her and she said no. The FBI is currently investigating AH perjury because JD assistant has cone forward with emails showing AH forced him to lie and the assistant was not at fault or he would loose his job. 2. Her assistant shared with AH her SA story of being SA at knifepoint in Brazil. Later the assistant said she read AH shared a story of being SA in the me too movement and AH used her story as her own and her assistant was angry she could do that. These were not allowed to be brought in the trial even though in the assistant's deposition it was in there. So AH has lied and done the unthinkable of using someone else's SA story, AH in my opinion is calculating and does not care about anyone but herself. So again, I do not worry about her at all.
Your videos and this case have opened my mind to BPD. I now believe my father likely has both BPD and Bipolar disorder. I am talking with him about getting back into therapy, I think someone like you could help him so much ❤
Oh, are you done with Dr Hughes testimony, Dr? I was waiting for the last part of the cross examination where she said she hadn’t met Johnny etc
I don’t feel sorry for Amber at all. Johnny wanted to keep this whole divorce private and amicable. She refused and this is the result of it.
She wrote this article and it’s understandable that Johnny Depp is trying to save his reputation.
It seems he is not interested in the money or himself but publicly prove his innocence for the sake of his children. He wants to prove to his children that he isn’t a wife beater.
She was advised by attorneys about her non disclosure cause in her divorce decree. She went ahead with it anyways. She even added more details so people could conclude it’s about Johnny because nobody was interested in the article, otherwise. That was revealed during lasts weeks hearings.
That audio of JD and AH in San Fran gets me. He said to her "we write a letter" telling the press we're getting the divorce out of the public eye because it's hurt both of us. He had solutions! Mutually beneficial ones. But she wanted absolutely none of it. She is gross.
@@LeslieStinson I agree. She claimed she cared about her step children. It hurts to get divorced but if it can be resolved quietly and respectfully, especially as a celebrity, it’s the best route to go for both parties.
i came over from legal bytes and thought i would hear a balanced opinion and all i heard was he is the abuser and she is the abused what if everything she has said for the last so many years is lies and she drug this man through the media and courts and destroyed his life just like your comparisons of the experts you said they were both paid to say what there side wanted but you were okay with curry to say it wasnt her job to determine who was at fault but i heard no oposition to hughes spewing ambers self reporting as fact which wasnt her job either i dont know i may be just hearing excuses for someone that is a very familiar person to the man that i was married to for 15 years sure everyones experiences are different but there are just too many bells ringing for me and im not saying that he is totally innocent in this because they seem like 2 very damaged people but i get the impression from listening to you that you think he is at fault despite people saying otherwise
If that's all you heard you're not listening.
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I know you feel sorry for her but if she lied about the abuse, which it's seeming that she did, then she brought this all on herself. None of this would be dragged up if she didn't start it.
If that is the case, let’s hope that this is a huge lesson learned and that she seeks help!
@@makeupobsessed3423 Nothing can help a narcissist
@@PureSparkles22 where was narcissistic personality disorder brought up? I haven’t heard anyone say she meets the criteria for this diagnosis.
Yes. This is a mess of her own making.
But if she suffers profound mental illness, then these terrible decisions were made in that context. Does it make it ok? Not at all. But it does impact my understanding of what got us here. I don’t think it makes her “evil, vile” or any of the other labels that people want to give her. I am a mental health clinician myself, and I don’t find much purposes in those types of labels. I know you didn’t state them, but they are rampant.