700 bucks on a birthday party tells me they have a LOT of disposable income. None of these mothers are relatable. Invite kids over, have popcorn and a movie, throw in grab bags for kids who show up, and your kid has fun. It's the kid's birthday, not theirs.
My collegue told me (we get paid the same she does less work) that she spent 3k on her daughters first bday party. Middle class people or just barely surviving people in this economy are going broke tryna keep up appearances. She also has an instagram with posed photos of her kid. :) so that tells me all i need to know.
@@AthenaVaughn3k for a 1st birthday?? That’s so wild me and all my friends with kids just gathered at someone’s house or a park lol especially until the kid is like 5-6
@@stalinbeballinmy first child’s first birthday party was about this much. The venue rental alone was over $1200. HOWEVER, that’s not at all relatable. She’s fortunate her grandparents have money to throw huge parties like that. It’s a ridiculous cost for a child’s party, especially at a younger age because they won’t remember anything.
Honestly, whenever I have invited a large group of people to an event, I always anticipate that about half won't be able to make it. They're probably busy parents too, or maybe something comes up last minute. Anticipate that and you'll be happier.
Tiffany's response of "people who hate me are just jealous" which Matt Rife once said and Tana responded with "do you think people who hate Osama Bin Laden are jealous of him". Such a brilliant response to people simply trying to diminish/dismiss criticism
"The room was going to look empty" this just gives it all away. It wasn't going to look good on her social media so she made a whole lot of excuses. If it was about her kid from the beginning - she would not have looked for a big venue but for something where the kids could have fun.
Agreed! Plus I'm assuming that the kids and parents who were invited were told they'd be filmed for socials - might be a reason why more people didn't rsvp yes (although 7 kids is already plenty!)
@@madz-mac Yeah I DEFINITELY would not have come if I was just going to be used for content. That's probably what she's actually crying about. Her content wasn't going to look influencer-y enough with only 7 people.
genuinely main character syndrome energy, I didn’t think it was something people did seriously, I’ll do it satirically in mock tiffs with my spouse, “no, star TREK is better because im pretty” 💀 but the audacity to use your looks to… what? prove a point? 😂
Tru, I cannot wait till the world catches up with modern times and makes it illegal to put your childrens faces in public videos. Kids in family vlogs have absolutely so privacy:(
She’s the type of woman who peaked at secondary school and you can tell she was probably a mean girl just from how she began her response video at 12:56
7:34 THIS! Being bored is literally SO necessary for child development. I work with child psychologists and they’re always talking about the dangers of not letting your kid get bored. We need to get bored, encounter difficulties, etc in order to teach our brains how to solve those situations. I’m bored? Ok. What can I do about it? A stick? Perfect, let’s pretend it’s a sword. I worry about the future of iPad kids who literally have 0 skills when it comes to problem solving, being creative, handling frustration…
There is a video that discusses this perfectly from the woman she actually mentions in this video. Ashley Embers. It is a really important eye opening video that these ipad parents NEED to watch and LISTEN to. They are just hurting their children but they are too into themselves and care way too much about online clout to actually care about the development of their own children. It is really sad.
It makes it hard when you go to a group playdate or you have a kid over to play with your child and they don't really know how to just play. My son, fortunately, has a great attention span and it's really imaginative so I don't really have to worry about him being bored. He also knows I can't stand it when kids say they're bored lol so he doesn't try it. But seriously playdates can be pretty tough because a lot of kids haven't flexed their imagination muscles for a while and they kind of seem to want to be entertained.
@@susanjeffries5108thanks for what you do! I had a kindergarten student who told his mom that he wanted to go home. It was pickup and she and I were talking about something. She told him that we would finish up so they could go home and told him to go play. This little guy found a stick, a puddle, some rocks, flowers, leaves, wood chips, ect, and made a ‘potion’. Happy as a little clam until his mom and I finished up. Imagination is so important.
I grew up rather poor but my birthday parties were always the best because it meant sleepovers with my friends and a delicious home made cake from my mom. What mattered to me was the spending the quality time with people I cared about not expensive bs I wouldn't have even cared about as a child
@@leilanyx_I totally agree but also remember a “sugar high” has actually been disproven and there isn’t such a thing. It’s associated more as the child becoming hyperactive as they’re allowed to eat a treat snack and it’s usually accompanied by a fun experience or an activity with their friends which increases their dopamine and makes them overall more excited. A sugar high is not possible and has been scientifically disproven. The only type of “sugar high” to exist is for Type 1 diabetics who have had too much sugar and no insulin. It’s not possible to get a “high” off of something that isn’t a drug. Which is why you can have a caffeine high.
I had 10 kids at my house for birthday party a few years ago. I think I took a week to recover lol. Granted, that was at my house and not at some venue, but even seven kids running around would have been plenty loud and stimulating in my opinion, regardless of the venue. 😂
Right? As a kid we always had the “invite the whole class” rule so no one felt left out (which is fine I support the concept because exclusion is painful) but as a kid I didn’t want the whole class 😂 I wanted my like 1-3 or 4 friends I had.
She brings up the other parties being packed but would a 4 year old actually notice that and compare their party? No, probably not. Mom has to cancel for her own ego because she cant stand the idea that her daughter might have a smaller party.
I’m just shy of 31 now, but growing up my mother put a lot of effort into my parties, however, her effort had nothing to do with money spent, aesthetics/appearance, or doing things “big” for show. Instead her effort was focused solely around MY enjoyment, and mine alone. I got to pick out the theme of my party each year, and she would always make my cake how ever I wanted, as well as come up with fun games/activities to fit that theme for us kids to play (and of course, this was the 90s, so there was no Pinterest, meaning she came up with everything 100% herself). My parents were very frugal so everything was done on a budget, but she’d go to great lengths to stretch that money as far as she could. My parties almost always took place in my small childhood home as well. I still have very fond and vivid memories of all of my parties. I remember the themes, the cakes she made, the games she came up with, and the party favors we made together each year. But one thing I don’t remember is how many friends came to my parties. Some years I can recall our small house being fuller than other years, but if you asked me how many kids were there each year, I couldn’t give you an answer. I didn’t care about that. I just had fun, and that alone was what brought my mother happiness and made all her effort worth it to her. It’s sad what some parents have turned children’s parties into these days. It’s no longer about the children, it’s about showing off and outdoing other mothers. It’s disgusting for any parent to do what this so-called “mother” did to her daughter, and even more disgusting that she is incapable of recognizing just how wrong she was in her actions. Her poor daughter deserves so much better. Makes me so sad for her, having to grow up with such a selfish parent. 😔💔
If we were talking about the average small child just turning 4, they likely would be so excited to have a dozen people there just for them... But this child very well may have noticed, compared, and felt terrible when *only* a dozen people were at her party, because that's the mindset that her mother has been modeling for her.
That mom seem so insecure, I feel bad for her and her kids. This really should belong in therapy, not on the internet. It is giving scrolling through 100 comments where there is 99 positive comments and only focusing on the 1 negative one.
I once invited all my classmates to my birthday party, 40-60 kids, two showed up, we had a great time, it sucked but I am still friends with those people like a decade or whatever later
It’s the fact that she cancelled it because not enough ADULTS would be there for HER 😭 also why is she already trying to teach her child to compare herself to others?? She didn’t want her daughter to look at her party seeming empty where everyone else’s party she went to was packed??
omg. i was getting so irritated with how she was talking, the way she spoke reminded me of ruby franke. i literally laughed out loud when you imitated it 😂😂
It's weird what some parents have as their priority. Give a kid a big, empty, carton box and they have the happiest time playing with it, while the parents think they must give the kid the most expensive gift but then the kid don't care about it. This mom needs a reality check. Some parents are plastic.
She wouldn't have noticed. The 4 year old wouldn't have noticed who wasn't there, because she would have been too busy having fun with the friends who did show up. Don't cancel your kid's birthday party, just downsize the venue.
My sixth birthday was at Maccas and my whole class came (like 25 kids) and I sat in the corner and cried because they were annoying me and being too loud 🤭🤭
My son was this type of kid so we switched to a couple of his good friends, take them to dinner and movie, come home for a sleepover and get all the cake and ice cream they want. That's what my son wanted, that's what he got.
This is some rich people problems 💩 I swear. 😂 I'm with you, Angelika, back in my day we didn't have to deal with this kind of stuff. Even 9 years ago, when my son turned 4, he had a party with a few cousins at the McDonald's Playplace. Kids really don't care at that age, except for getting cake and ice cream and getting to play.
I think the reason 9 kids didn't want to come is due to the attitude of the mother, just saying 💁♀️💁♀️ having to sit through an afternoon with her as a party host would be insufferable!!
The way Tiffany spoke in that response video set off every single alarm bell in my body… I then realized it set me on edge because she was talking EXACTLY like my mom did when she would try to manipulate me. (note: my mom would say things like, “I’m such a bad mother, I might as well kms” when I told her to stop doing things that my therapist even told her to stop doing for the sake of my mental health… my mom knew I was close to the edge, and decided to play around with it 🙃)
Yikes. The most deeply insecure people will never acknowledge it. They can mask it with vanity, likes, deluded/false self-confidence, material things, put-downs, insults, etc. to feel good about themselves. While I'm sure she loves her family, deep down, she doesn't truly love herself. And that sucks because now it's affecting one of the people she loves the most...her daughter. Everyone sees that except her. I feel sorry for her and her children.
The whole video was about HER and HER feelings, it was barely about the child and their feelings at all!! Wild how she watched it back and still continued to post it
Parents like this are the worst this wasn’t for the kid it was for them to show off. A parent at the church I went to growing up demanded one year that when her daughter made her communion she should be able to walk down the aisle herself and show up in horse drawn carriage the Priest told her either she made it with all the other children and walked with them or she wasn’t making it at all.
My hubby is an event planner and we find the best birthday parties for kids are when the parents makes it all about the kid’s interest. Some are so random !! But a happy kid is all that matters 🎉
I saw a really cute one where the kid was obsessed with vacuum cleaners so they literally did a vacuum cleaner themed birthday. They decorated by taping vacuum maintenance guide pages on the wall. The kid was over the moon happy lmao
Social media is wild. Every momfluencer is absolutely trying to one-up each other in various ways. "You don't love your kids if you don't do it the way I do" behavior is absolutely detrimental to mental/emotional health for anyone. If it's not "perfect", then it's not postable/worthy/successful. The stitched TikTok around the 12 minute marked absolutely nailed it: They're not doing it for the kids, they're doing it for themselves. It's all rooted in the insecurity they have, that only doubles/triples down the more they post, the more they spend on various platforms, the more they look for responses... only to look foolish when they create a response just to create a response. Parents out there: If you're doing the best you can to provide for your children's health and happiness, you are doing just fine. Please remember you will make mistakes, and it's okay to do that so long as you learn from them and communicate with your children that you've learned. You're doing just fine. Side note: the "croissant cereal" in the clip is a parody account based on various trad-wives + extravagant momfluencers, and the parody is so good it tricks people into thinking she's actually doing it. Very fun account!
One of the best birthday parties I went to as a kid was my friend's 10th birthday where like 10-12 of us slept over her house to watch The Princess Diaries movies, and then we spent the entire night trying to recreate mattress surfing on her basement steps. I don't think a single photo exists from that night, but it's legit one of my favorite memories lol
In the show 'This is us' there is a storyline where the parents are worried about their kid because only one kid showed up for them their birthday but the kid was happy because he best friend showed up and wasn't worried about anyone else ❤
Your mocking of the accent is exactly how my sisters and I would mock each other when we were preteens💀💀 (from the midwest btw lol definitely don't have the valley accent)
I work in children’s entertainment so I attend A LOT of kids birthday parties. The amount of absolute BANGERS I see thrown for 1 year olds is insane. The ballroom, the extravagant decorations, the entertainment, bouncy houses, soft play, themed snacks, huge cake, photo ops all over. It’s so insane to me. Which is GREAT if they can afford that and that’s something that makes them all happy, but I can see where it would make maybe a mom attending that party feel a little bad if she’s unable to provide the same for her child. Often times I’ll see other moms feel bad because their child wants a party as big as another child’s party they attended, but the mom isn’t able to give them that and THAT breaks my heart.
I mostly stopped hosting parties, but when I did, I would literally assume a max of half of the people I invited would actually show up. It honestly made life a lot less stressful when I accepted that At my last birthday party, exactly one person showed up, besides my partner who helped me set it up 😂 and that person was both of our friend
As a freshly 18 year old now. I HATED big parties, I had like 4 friends and exactly what you said play all day then eat cake. I do appreciate it looking back at the parties now but at the time I was thinking I don’t like these kids
The mom has a bruised ego. The child will not remember how many people were there. She'll remember the fun she had with her friends. And now that the mom is being called out her ego is bruised again. It's all on you, mom.
People show up ALL THE TIME that didn't RSVP. People show up with siblings of the kid you invited. This is RIDICULOUS! And gross. Your accent was spot-on! 😂 And yes, the mouth smacking....what is this woman thinking?!?
These are not kids, these are props for content. She didn’t cancel her daughter’s party, she canceled a filming event. I wish they’d stop pretending that any of this is for the kids. Edit: the mom’s response video is giving Disney pseudo-villain. She sounds like someone Miley and Lily would’ve had a 22 minute drama with on a Hannah Montana episode 💀
Most of my birthday parties growing up was a handful of friends. I don’t remember before school aged, but i remember my 6th birthday party. My mom took myself and my two best friends bowling. I loved it! I didn’t need a million people there, I just needed my favorite people.
You know what my birthday party was ? My grandma (who raised me since birth) would buy a $5 coconut cake from price chopper every yr say happy birthday and her and i would enjoy a piece before i opened my 1 present...She didn't even start doing that until i was 7 yrs old, other than that i didn't have a bday celebration from 1-6. It was her and i and we were broke but now that i am 27, she still brings a $5 pepperidge farm coconut cake on my bday and we have a slice. I wouldn't want it any other way. These "momfluencers" are not realistic. Smh
my most memorable birthday parties are when I had sleepovers with 4 or 5 friends. we’d watch scary movies, bake cookies, decorate t shirts, make smoothies, play games etc. A 4 year old won’t remember an extravagant birthday bash or if 7 people were there or 70 in a few years. It’s definitely more about MOM feeling slighted she isn’t getting her instagram perfect shot which is really sad.
I wonder if she considered that the reason that the other kids and adults weren't going to go to the party might have been just because they don't like HER. I'm thinking she wouldn't have thought that was a possibility...
Would be over the moon if I could afford to do a party like that for my boys. I only stress over will they love the cake, will they have an exhausting amount of fun, and the only competitive bone in my body… will my gift be their favorite. Your children develop emotional resilience when you remind them that you love them and that home will always be a soft place to land. I randomly hug my boys and tell them I love them and that they’re doing an amazing job. Those are the moments that they carry with them. I have to remind myself that it isn’t about parties and money but love and effort when it comes to showing your children that they matter.
Whoahhhhhh. I cannot imagine canceling my child's party. My daughter had her party last year and it was just burgers on the grill and one kid showed up 😅. I will say I'm guilty of playing with her a lot. But she's an only child and I always feel bad because she doesn't have other kids to make a game with. I'm going to go checkout that video.
I work in children entertainment and 5 guests (if with parents) are already enough. Kids love birthday parties because they can eat candies, play with friends, and get presents ( it doesn't matter how small or big)
Literally anyone who has ever planned any event ever can tell you rarely do all the guests you invite actually show up. 7 out of 15 is really good even.
I had a big party for my daughter's 6th birthday, because she wanted to invite the whole class. We had about 20 kids there. My daughter didn't care about most of them, and the kids were only there because they wanted to play at the play centre. I've let her choose what she wanted since then, and she chooses her two best friends to come and no one else because it's more fun for her.
i always feel weird when i go to a kids birthday and its 90% adults ... the kids just want to play with each other, they don't care if the parent of their neighbour friend is there 😪😪
I remember that when I was in Kindergarten turning 6 that my mom canceled my birthday party because I got in trouble and I was absolutely devastated. I can’t imagine how I would have felt if it wasn’t a punishment, but my mother’s own insecurities that cause her to do that. At least I could understand that my actions caused it, that poor little girl.
i work birthday parties, and one i worked cost the parents close to $9,000 + venue hire. The little birthday girl was 7, and all her and her 2 closest friends did was play with the helium balloons and dance to the music. they simply don't care. its a show for the parents, i swear.
i literally used to invite 10 kids to my party every year and i was lucky if 3 showed up. there was one year where no one showed up and because i was so upset i was sobbing in my bed my dad gave me a hug and instead of having a party we went to the movies and had a pizza night. my parties were never canceled if only a couple kids came bc my parties were mostly for family to come over bc i didn't have a lot of friends. it was fine i still enjoyed everything
Wow. She really, quite literally, made it about “me me me”, contradicting her almost nonexistent argument. No one would’ve ever known about what happened if she didn’t decide to over share all over the internet.
At the start I was thinking "how uncanny I just watched a video about this yesterday from a random person I don't know" then you pulled up the same video from you recommended 🤣🤣
Lol my 8 year old daughter had her party at the local bowling and arcade here….there was 12 kids there including herself and her sister and two other adults and two older siblings…..the party room looked pretty empty as it was quite large, but literally none of the kids cared! They bowled, played some games, at yummy food and cake and got to spend time together! Kids really don’t need, or even expect these big extravagant parties! The party is for CHILDREN, not the adults…some cute paper plates, a cute cake and being able to be silly together is all they need!
The fact she said she canceled the birthday how did she think anyone would know she did anything for her daughter's birthday. Someone's hurt( in the lip smacking accent she used)😂😂😂
'Being Bored' actually serves a huge part in development. I remember watching Vsauce make a video about it in early youtube - it literally helps you grow - constant noise/distraction is actually really bad.
I’m thinking maybe not all the children were going to attend because the mum seems like a nightmare to deal with ….and maybe they’re worried their children would be plastered online without their permission?
I stick to the rule of amount of guests correlates to the age of the child (turning 4, invite 4 children). Small parties are so sweet when they are young❤ the child needs a cape, crown, cake and a good friend or 2 . Balloons that they can actually play with and aren't tied to an arch, streamers in their favorite color and kazoos or noise makers and you will have a smashing party! I also highly recommend baking your child's cake, it doesn't have to be fancy, they will love it!
I think part of the problem is that parents are always so toxic with other parents. They always compare their kids with other kids, they compare their parenting with their friend's parenting, and son on, so on. That's why they end up wasting that much money on stuff kids don't even need, they just want to impress the adults, without caring about how comfortable or happy are the children with any of this. But yeah, in this case, being so self-centered makes the insecurities waaaay more obvious
I totally agree but I can also see the other side where parents probably want to give their kids things they wanted and couldn't have as kids. However what they may have wanted as kids might not be what their kids want now and I think it's important to make the best of situation and make sure that your kids are happy
when i was younger i had a friend or two over for my birthday have a sleepover and go out for dinner and i loved it i got to spend time with my closest friend and enjoy the day instead of having a million people
Im gonna sound like a super boomer but in my day we went to McDonald's for birthdays, it was amazing 😂 thats when they had the cool kids area with the toadstool seats and murals of Ronald and Hamburgular on the walls. I feel old now so shall go and crumble into dust x
I dont understand why 7 kids showing up is an issue. We had a pool party at a city pool for my daughter and I rented a room for it. That is what my daughter wanted. She invited her entire class plus others (maybe 23 to 25 kids) and only 5 showed up. Was I angry or wanting to cancel? No. It makes the party easier on me if there arent so many children and my daughter had mlre time to swim with her friends instead of spending a ton of time of opening gifts.
At 3-4 years old, kids aren’t the ones choosing to go to the party. It’s the parents. Half her invitees declined to go to the party because they didn’t wanna be around the mom. So she’s kind of right, it really is all about her and it would break HER heart
700 bucks on a birthday party tells me they have a LOT of disposable income. None of these mothers are relatable. Invite kids over, have popcorn and a movie, throw in grab bags for kids who show up, and your kid has fun. It's the kid's birthday, not theirs.
Shannon! Never expected to see you here I love your channel
My collegue told me (we get paid the same she does less work) that she spent 3k on her daughters first bday party. Middle class people or just barely surviving people in this economy are going broke tryna keep up appearances. She also has an instagram with posed photos of her kid. :) so that tells me all i need to know.
@thehockeyguy unexpected encounter! Nice to see you here!
@@AthenaVaughn3k for a 1st birthday?? That’s so wild me and all my friends with kids just gathered at someone’s house or a park lol especially until the kid is like 5-6
@@stalinbeballinmy first child’s first birthday party was about this much. The venue rental alone was over $1200. HOWEVER, that’s not at all relatable. She’s fortunate her grandparents have money to throw huge parties like that. It’s a ridiculous cost for a child’s party, especially at a younger age because they won’t remember anything.
OnLy SeVeN pEoPLe🥴…ma’am that’s plenty!!! Those seven would have kept her PLENTY busy
7 kids and 5 adults
LITERALLY like half of them??? I’m pretty sure 7 kids is a normal amount
And I bet the little girl wouldn’t have noticed. If anything she would have been like “ wow! This room is HUGE. I can run around with my friends!!!”
Right I've had a birthday party with 3 other kids 😂 it was around a holiday so understandable but I still remember having a lot of fun
Honestly, whenever I have invited a large group of people to an event, I always anticipate that about half won't be able to make it. They're probably busy parents too, or maybe something comes up last minute. Anticipate that and you'll be happier.
Tiffany's response of "people who hate me are just jealous" which Matt Rife once said and Tana responded with "do you think people who hate Osama Bin Laden are jealous of him". Such a brilliant response to people simply trying to diminish/dismiss criticism
omg genius. imagine getting completely obliterated by Tana Monogeau. Matt will not sleep soundly again.
No way am I jealous of a vapid, spoiled mean girl who exploits her children on-line.
Also 7 screaming 4 year olds is a lot???? Like that sounds stressful
7 would have been enough for me 😂
8 - seven rsvp-ed plus the birthday child.
That is a large party as it is.
They would have had plenty of room to run around and play in that big space.
Posting your kids online period is wrong. Punishing them over your insecurity is vile.
The mean girl vocal fry on an adult and a parent is crazy 💀
like why is she talking like a teen movie villain
"Comparison is the thief of joy" really is something to keep in mind. Very true.
THAT’S what the saying was! 😭😂
@@AngelikaOlesyou’re my best friend I really like you ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
You know what hurts a kid more than “only 7” kids showing up? Not having a party at all when they were told they were having one
"The room was going to look empty" this just gives it all away. It wasn't going to look good on her social media so she made a whole lot of excuses. If it was about her kid from the beginning - she would not have looked for a big venue but for something where the kids could have fun.
Agreed! Plus I'm assuming that the kids and parents who were invited were told they'd be filmed for socials - might be a reason why more people didn't rsvp yes (although 7 kids is already plenty!)
@@madz-mac Yeah I DEFINITELY would not have come if I was just going to be used for content. That's probably what she's actually crying about. Her content wasn't going to look influencer-y enough with only 7 people.
what'd she call her ugly for? also calling yourself pretty to win an argument is absolutely feral
genuinely main character syndrome energy, I didn’t think it was something people did seriously, I’ll do it satirically in mock tiffs with my spouse, “no, star TREK is better because im pretty” 💀 but the audacity to use your looks to… what? prove a point? 😂
@@notericforemanStar Trek IS better and I bet you are pretty so you are right ❤
And she is not even pretty 😅
It's giving "you don't get to have a party if you don't bother having enough friends at age 4"
Definitely the type of mom that would get mad at her daughter for not making the cheerleading team
@@tyralee2286that's what I was thinking. This will go on forever and become more damaging.
unfortunately, I don't think exploiting children is illegal, so these "moms" can't even be arrested unless they pull a Ruby Franke
Even then it took way to long to get her arrested
@@Tismunitedyeah! and to me, she's definitely not getting NEARLY enough jail time 😭
Depends on the country
Tru, I cannot wait till the world catches up with modern times and makes it illegal to put your childrens faces in public videos. Kids in family vlogs have absolutely so privacy:(
She’s the type of woman who peaked at secondary school and you can tell she was probably a mean girl just from how she began her response video at 12:56
7:34 THIS! Being bored is literally SO necessary for child development. I work with child psychologists and they’re always talking about the dangers of not letting your kid get bored. We need to get bored, encounter difficulties, etc in order to teach our brains how to solve those situations. I’m bored? Ok. What can I do about it? A stick? Perfect, let’s pretend it’s a sword. I worry about the future of iPad kids who literally have 0 skills when it comes to problem solving, being creative, handling frustration…
There is a video that discusses this perfectly from the woman she actually mentions in this video. Ashley Embers. It is a really important eye opening video that these ipad parents NEED to watch and LISTEN to. They are just hurting their children but they are too into themselves and care way too much about online clout to actually care about the development of their own children. It is really sad.
It makes it hard when you go to a group playdate or you have a kid over to play with your child and they don't really know how to just play. My son, fortunately, has a great attention span and it's really imaginative so I don't really have to worry about him being bored. He also knows I can't stand it when kids say they're bored lol so he doesn't try it. But seriously playdates can be pretty tough because a lot of kids haven't flexed their imagination muscles for a while and they kind of seem to want to be entertained.
@@susanjeffries5108thanks for what you do! I had a kindergarten student who told his mom that he wanted to go home. It was pickup and she and I were talking about something. She told him that we would finish up so they could go home and told him to go play. This little guy found a stick, a puddle, some rocks, flowers, leaves, wood chips, ect, and made a ‘potion’. Happy as a little clam until his mom and I finished up. Imagination is so important.
I grew up rather poor but my birthday parties were always the best because it meant sleepovers with my friends and a delicious home made cake from my mom. What mattered to me was the spending the quality time with people I cared about not expensive bs I wouldn't have even cared about as a child
“Everyone singing her happy birthday would break my heart” while breaking down was absolutely w i l d
I work in childcare and we always recommend parents to invite as many kids as the age the kid will turn, thats more than enough
Great advice!!! 😊
yeah seven probably hyper 4-year-olds on a sugar high sounds like a LOT to deal with, let alone fifteen. i'd be glad that less showed up tbh.
@@leilanyx_I totally agree but also remember a “sugar high” has actually been disproven and there isn’t such a thing. It’s associated more as the child becoming hyperactive as they’re allowed to eat a treat snack and it’s usually accompanied by a fun experience or an activity with their friends which increases their dopamine and makes them overall more excited.
A sugar high is not possible and has been scientifically disproven. The only type of “sugar high” to exist is for Type 1 diabetics who have had too much sugar and no insulin.
It’s not possible to get a “high” off of something that isn’t a drug. Which is why you can have a caffeine high.
I had 10 kids at my house for birthday party a few years ago. I think I took a week to recover lol. Granted, that was at my house and not at some venue, but even seven kids running around would have been plenty loud and stimulating in my opinion, regardless of the venue. 😂
As an adult in 2024 having 7 friends is sooo many 😅 Even as a kid i had like 3 close friends at most.
Right? As a kid we always had the “invite the whole class” rule so no one felt left out (which is fine I support the concept because exclusion is painful) but as a kid I didn’t want the whole class 😂 I wanted my like 1-3 or 4 friends I had.
She brings up the other parties being packed but would a 4 year old actually notice that and compare their party? No, probably not. Mom has to cancel for her own ego because she cant stand the idea that her daughter might have a smaller party.
Silly, don't you see? It's embarrassing. For. Her. Totally legit reason. /jk
I’m just shy of 31 now, but growing up my mother put a lot of effort into my parties, however, her effort had nothing to do with money spent, aesthetics/appearance, or doing things “big” for show. Instead her effort was focused solely around MY enjoyment, and mine alone. I got to pick out the theme of my party each year, and she would always make my cake how ever I wanted, as well as come up with fun games/activities to fit that theme for us kids to play (and of course, this was the 90s, so there was no Pinterest, meaning she came up with everything 100% herself). My parents were very frugal so everything was done on a budget, but she’d go to great lengths to stretch that money as far as she could. My parties almost always took place in my small childhood home as well.
I still have very fond and vivid memories of all of my parties. I remember the themes, the cakes she made, the games she came up with, and the party favors we made together each year. But one thing I don’t remember is how many friends came to my parties. Some years I can recall our small house being fuller than other years, but if you asked me how many kids were there each year, I couldn’t give you an answer. I didn’t care about that. I just had fun, and that alone was what brought my mother happiness and made all her effort worth it to her.
It’s sad what some parents have turned children’s parties into these days. It’s no longer about the children, it’s about showing off and outdoing other mothers. It’s disgusting for any parent to do what this so-called “mother” did to her daughter, and even more disgusting that she is incapable of recognizing just how wrong she was in her actions. Her poor daughter deserves so much better. Makes me so sad for her, having to grow up with such a selfish parent. 😔💔
If we were talking about the average small child just turning 4, they likely would be so excited to have a dozen people there just for them... But this child very well may have noticed, compared, and felt terrible when *only* a dozen people were at her party, because that's the mindset that her mother has been modeling for her.
That mom seem so insecure, I feel bad for her and her kids. This really should belong in therapy, not on the internet. It is giving scrolling through 100 comments where there is 99 positive comments and only focusing on the 1 negative one.
I once invited all my classmates to my birthday party, 40-60 kids, two showed up, we had a great time, it sucked but I am still friends with those people like a decade or whatever later
It’s the fact that she cancelled it because not enough ADULTS would be there for HER 😭 also why is she already trying to teach her child to compare herself to others?? She didn’t want her daughter to look at her party seeming empty where everyone else’s party she went to was packed??
AND what about the seven little kids who were super excited to go to a party that day? She disappointed eight kids not just one
omg. i was getting so irritated with how she was talking, the way she spoke reminded me of ruby franke. i literally laughed out loud when you imitated it 😂😂
Honestly idk why but it kept reminding me of Jeffree star. Gave me the ick instantly
It's weird what some parents have as their priority. Give a kid a big, empty, carton box and they have the happiest time playing with it, while the parents think they must give the kid the most expensive gift but then the kid don't care about it. This mom needs a reality check. Some parents are plastic.
She wouldn't have noticed. The 4 year old wouldn't have noticed who wasn't there, because she would have been too busy having fun with the friends who did show up.
Don't cancel your kid's birthday party, just downsize the venue.
@@abbyjohnson1702 Exactly!
So true, my 3yo loves boxes. Her favourite is to sit inside one with felt tip pens and decorate it. So simple but she's in her element doing it.
@@moomin1632 so once they sleep through the night and are ambulatory, they have a period where they become more artistic cats?
@@itwasmedionysus exactly, they even hiss if you try to take the box away....well mine does.
When mom is the main character smh.🤦🏼♂️
My sixth birthday was at Maccas and my whole class came (like 25 kids) and I sat in the corner and cried because they were annoying me and being too loud 🤭🤭
Hugging six-year-old you and telling you it's okay to not enjoy big crowds and noise. 🤗
🤗💕🤗
My son was this type of kid so we switched to a couple of his good friends, take them to dinner and movie, come home for a sleepover and get all the cake and ice cream they want. That's what my son wanted, that's what he got.
@@fnzypnts love that you saw what he wanted and made that the plan. 💖💖
I'm so glad some of the UA-cam kids are speaking out and spreading awareness about how negatively it affected their lives now that there grown.
This is some rich people problems 💩 I swear. 😂 I'm with you, Angelika, back in my day we didn't have to deal with this kind of stuff. Even 9 years ago, when my son turned 4, he had a party with a few cousins at the McDonald's Playplace. Kids really don't care at that age, except for getting cake and ice cream and getting to play.
I think the reason 9 kids didn't want to come is due to the attitude of the mother, just saying 💁♀️💁♀️ having to sit through an afternoon with her as a party host would be insufferable!!
Too many narcissistic people are having kids it’s truly terrifying! 😞
I had 5 people at my 5th birthday at mcdonalds. I was related to all of them
I genuinely do not remember any birthday below the age of 12 lol!
@@Lisianthusbloomi unfortunately remember almost everything from 3 years on. Every last ranch I never got to the customer still haunts me
Most of the time, my brother was the only person who attended my birthday parties 😂
The “comparison is the thief of joy” saying was what I was repeating when you asked. Lol
The way Tiffany spoke in that response video set off every single alarm bell in my body… I then realized it set me on edge because she was talking EXACTLY like my mom did when she would try to manipulate me.
(note: my mom would say things like, “I’m such a bad mother, I might as well kms” when I told her to stop doing things that my therapist even told her to stop doing for the sake of my mental health… my mom knew I was close to the edge, and decided to play around with it 🙃)
Yikes. The most deeply insecure people will never acknowledge it. They can mask it with vanity, likes, deluded/false self-confidence, material things, put-downs, insults, etc. to feel good about themselves. While I'm sure she loves her family, deep down, she doesn't truly love herself. And that sucks because now it's affecting one of the people she loves the most...her daughter. Everyone sees that except her. I feel sorry for her and her children.
"My momma heart breaks more than my four year old child's." Taking every opportunity to bring the attention back to her.
The whole video was about HER and HER feelings, it was barely about the child and their feelings at all!! Wild how she watched it back and still continued to post it
Parents like this are the worst this wasn’t for the kid it was for them to show off. A parent at the church I went to growing up demanded one year that when her daughter made her communion she should be able to walk down the aisle herself and show up in horse drawn carriage the Priest told her either she made it with all the other children and walked with them or she wasn’t making it at all.
My hubby is an event planner and we find the best birthday parties for kids are when the parents makes it all about the kid’s interest. Some are so random !! But a happy kid is all that matters 🎉
I saw a really cute one where the kid was obsessed with vacuum cleaners so they literally did a vacuum cleaner themed birthday. They decorated by taping vacuum maintenance guide pages on the wall. The kid was over the moon happy lmao
Social media is wild. Every momfluencer is absolutely trying to one-up each other in various ways. "You don't love your kids if you don't do it the way I do" behavior is absolutely detrimental to mental/emotional health for anyone. If it's not "perfect", then it's not postable/worthy/successful. The stitched TikTok around the 12 minute marked absolutely nailed it: They're not doing it for the kids, they're doing it for themselves. It's all rooted in the insecurity they have, that only doubles/triples down the more they post, the more they spend on various platforms, the more they look for responses... only to look foolish when they create a response just to create a response.
Parents out there: If you're doing the best you can to provide for your children's health and happiness, you are doing just fine. Please remember you will make mistakes, and it's okay to do that so long as you learn from them and communicate with your children that you've learned. You're doing just fine.
Side note: the "croissant cereal" in the clip is a parody account based on various trad-wives + extravagant momfluencers, and the parody is so good it tricks people into thinking she's actually doing it. Very fun account!
As a literal valley girl, your critique of her accent was accurate and not offensive. She’s fs putting it on
I read somewhere else: “if everything is magical, nothing is”
One of the best birthday parties I went to as a kid was my friend's 10th birthday where like 10-12 of us slept over her house to watch The Princess Diaries movies, and then we spent the entire night trying to recreate mattress surfing on her basement steps. I don't think a single photo exists from that night, but it's legit one of my favorite memories lol
That response was ABSOLUTELY unhinged. She's utterly preposterous 🤣🤣 her poor daughter
GoD foRbId a MOm bE PrEtTY
"There's nothing i love more than being right". That pretty much sums her up.
In the show 'This is us' there is a storyline where the parents are worried about their kid because only one kid showed up for them their birthday but the kid was happy because he best friend showed up and wasn't worried about anyone else ❤
the way i was refreshing my page and scrolling waiting for you to post, ahhhhh
7 kids is literally so many. I always had like 3-5 growing up AND IT WAS ALWAYS SO FUN😭😭😭
Your mocking of the accent is exactly how my sisters and I would mock each other when we were preteens💀💀 (from the midwest btw lol definitely don't have the valley accent)
I work in children’s entertainment so I attend A LOT of kids birthday parties.
The amount of absolute BANGERS I see thrown for 1 year olds is insane. The ballroom, the extravagant decorations, the entertainment, bouncy houses, soft play, themed snacks, huge cake, photo ops all over. It’s so insane to me. Which is GREAT if they can afford that and that’s something that makes them all happy, but I can see where it would make maybe a mom attending that party feel a little bad if she’s unable to provide the same for her child. Often times I’ll see other moms feel bad because their child wants a party as big as another child’s party they attended, but the mom isn’t able to give them that and THAT breaks my heart.
I feel bad for this poor little girl who will have to grow up with a narcissist as a parent
I mostly stopped hosting parties, but when I did, I would literally assume a max of half of the people I invited would actually show up. It honestly made life a lot less stressful when I accepted that
At my last birthday party, exactly one person showed up, besides my partner who helped me set it up 😂 and that person was both of our friend
As a freshly 18 year old now. I HATED big parties, I had like 4 friends and exactly what you said play all day then eat cake. I do appreciate it looking back at the parties now but at the time I was thinking I don’t like these kids
The mom has a bruised ego. The child will not remember how many people were there. She'll remember the fun she had with her friends. And now that the mom is being called out her ego is bruised again. It's all on you, mom.
i can confidently say, now being 25, i can not remember how many kids every showed up my birthday parties, but i know i had a good time
People show up ALL THE TIME that didn't RSVP. People show up with siblings of the kid you invited. This is RIDICULOUS! And gross.
Your accent was spot-on! 😂 And yes, the mouth smacking....what is this woman thinking?!?
These are not kids, these are props for content. She didn’t cancel her daughter’s party, she canceled a filming event. I wish they’d stop pretending that any of this is for the kids.
Edit: the mom’s response video is giving Disney pseudo-villain. She sounds like someone Miley and Lily would’ve had a 22 minute drama with on a Hannah Montana episode 💀
Most of my birthday parties growing up was a handful of friends. I don’t remember before school aged, but i remember my 6th birthday party. My mom took myself and my two best friends bowling. I loved it! I didn’t need a million people there, I just needed my favorite people.
You know what my birthday party was ? My grandma (who raised me since birth) would buy a $5 coconut cake from price chopper every yr say happy birthday and her and i would enjoy a piece before i opened my 1 present...She didn't even start doing that until i was 7 yrs old, other than that i didn't have a bday celebration from 1-6. It was her and i and we were broke but now that i am 27, she still brings a $5 pepperidge farm coconut cake on my bday and we have a slice. I wouldn't want it any other way. These "momfluencers" are not realistic. Smh
my most memorable birthday parties are when I had sleepovers with 4 or 5 friends. we’d watch scary movies, bake cookies, decorate t shirts, make smoothies, play games etc. A 4 year old won’t remember an extravagant birthday bash or if 7 people were there or 70 in a few years. It’s definitely more about MOM feeling slighted she isn’t getting her instagram perfect shot which is really sad.
I don't know Angelika, pass the parcel with drumstick lollies and refreshers was pretty magical to me x
Dam I loved that or stickers and freeze or musical chairs
I wonder if she considered that the reason that the other kids and adults weren't going to go to the party might have been just because they don't like HER. I'm thinking she wouldn't have thought that was a possibility...
"Comparison is the thief of joy." - Theodore Roosevelt :-)
Would be over the moon if I could afford to do a party like that for my boys. I only stress over will they love the cake, will they have an exhausting amount of fun, and the only competitive bone in my body… will my gift be their favorite.
Your children develop emotional resilience when you remind them that you love them and that home will always be a soft place to land. I randomly hug my boys and tell them I love them and that they’re doing an amazing job. Those are the moments that they carry with them. I have to remind myself that it isn’t about parties and money but love and effort when it comes to showing your children that they matter.
Comparisons is the thief of happiness
One thing *my* mom taught me… Pretty is as pretty does.
Came in clutch for post shower routine listen!! 😍😍
Whoahhhhhh. I cannot imagine canceling my child's party. My daughter had her party last year and it was just burgers on the grill and one kid showed up 😅. I will say I'm guilty of playing with her a lot. But she's an only child and I always feel bad because she doesn't have other kids to make a game with. I'm going to go checkout that video.
5:24 “comparison is the thief of joy!”
I work in children entertainment and 5 guests (if with parents) are already enough. Kids love birthday parties because they can eat candies, play with friends, and get presents ( it doesn't matter how small or big)
THE FONDANT THAT TASTED LIKE PLAYDOOOOO I MISS IT 😭
the mom influencers response is so unhinged lol
That mom has been watching too much Glamzilla.
Literally anyone who has ever planned any event ever can tell you rarely do all the guests you invite actually show up. 7 out of 15 is really good even.
I had a big party for my daughter's 6th birthday, because she wanted to invite the whole class. We had about 20 kids there. My daughter didn't care about most of them, and the kids were only there because they wanted to play at the play centre. I've let her choose what she wanted since then, and she chooses her two best friends to come and no one else because it's more fun for her.
It's giving chronically online
I witnessed the back and forth on TikTok and it was EVERYTHING! That mom has some loose screws sadly.
I remember my first birthday party in a new town had 3 other kids come but i dont remember ever being sad about it?? It was fun
i always feel weird when i go to a kids birthday and its 90% adults ... the kids just want to play with each other, they don't care if the parent of their neighbour friend is there 😪😪
I remember that when I was in Kindergarten turning 6 that my mom canceled my birthday party because I got in trouble and I was absolutely devastated. I can’t imagine how I would have felt if it wasn’t a punishment, but my mother’s own insecurities that cause her to do that. At least I could understand that my actions caused it, that poor little girl.
i work birthday parties, and one i worked cost the parents close to $9,000 + venue hire. The little birthday girl was 7, and all her and her 2 closest friends did was play with the helium balloons and dance to the music. they simply don't care. its a show for the parents, i swear.
i literally used to invite 10 kids to my party every year and i was lucky if 3 showed up. there was one year where no one showed up and because i was so upset i was sobbing in my bed my dad gave me a hug and instead of having a party we went to the movies and had a pizza night. my parties were never canceled if only a couple kids came bc my parties were mostly for family to come over bc i didn't have a lot of friends. it was fine i still enjoyed everything
I would be SO STOKED if I had 7 friends come to my party!! lol frfr 😂❤
Wow. She really, quite literally, made it about “me me me”, contradicting her almost nonexistent argument.
No one would’ve ever known about what happened if she didn’t decide to over share all over the internet.
At the start I was thinking "how uncanny I just watched a video about this yesterday from a random person I don't know" then you pulled up the same video from you recommended 🤣🤣
Lol my 8 year old daughter had her party at the local bowling and arcade here….there was 12 kids there including herself and her sister and two other adults and two older siblings…..the party room looked pretty empty as it was quite large, but literally none of the kids cared! They bowled, played some games, at yummy food and cake and got to spend time together! Kids really don’t need, or even expect these big extravagant parties! The party is for CHILDREN, not the adults…some cute paper plates, a cute cake and being able to be silly together is all they need!
Sounds like the mom is about looking popular. She cares about fame and obviously being popular and her daughter being popular
The fact she said she canceled the birthday how did she think anyone would know she did anything for her daughter's birthday. Someone's hurt( in the lip smacking accent she used)😂😂😂
'Being Bored' actually serves a huge part in development. I remember watching Vsauce make a video about it in early youtube - it literally helps you grow - constant noise/distraction is actually really bad.
when I was 4 I had two friends. my childhood was amazing
4 years old child doesn't care! They are still at me me me stage. They would love it, even if they were the only one there.
That mom is definitely displaying some narcissistic traits with the whole birthday party situation.
I’m thinking maybe not all the children were going to attend because the mum seems like a nightmare to deal with ….and maybe they’re worried their children would be plastered online without their permission?
I stick to the rule of amount of guests correlates to the age of the child (turning 4, invite 4 children). Small parties are so sweet when they are young❤ the child needs a cape, crown, cake and a good friend or 2 . Balloons that they can actually play with and aren't tied to an arch, streamers in their favorite color and kazoos or noise makers and you will have a smashing party! I also highly recommend baking your child's cake, it doesn't have to be fancy, they will love it!
homemade cake is better than store bought cake, even if its just box mix…just feels more special
I think part of the problem is that parents are always so toxic with other parents. They always compare their kids with other kids, they compare their parenting with their friend's parenting, and son on, so on. That's why they end up wasting that much money on stuff kids don't even need, they just want to impress the adults, without caring about how comfortable or happy are the children with any of this.
But yeah, in this case, being so self-centered makes the insecurities waaaay more obvious
I totally agree but I can also see the other side where parents probably want to give their kids things they wanted and couldn't have as kids. However what they may have wanted as kids might not be what their kids want now and I think it's important to make the best of situation and make sure that your kids are happy
Your makeup ATEEEE today
when i was younger i had a friend or two over for my birthday have a sleepover and go out for dinner and i loved it i got to spend time with my closest friend and enjoy the day instead of having a million people
Im gonna sound like a super boomer but in my day we went to McDonald's for birthdays, it was amazing 😂 thats when they had the cool kids area with the toadstool seats and murals of Ronald and Hamburgular on the walls.
I feel old now so shall go and crumble into dust x
i remember that too! *crumbles to dust with you* lol
I dont understand why 7 kids showing up is an issue. We had a pool party at a city pool for my daughter and I rented a room for it. That is what my daughter wanted. She invited her entire class plus others (maybe 23 to 25 kids) and only 5 showed up. Was I angry or wanting to cancel? No. It makes the party easier on me if there arent so many children and my daughter had mlre time to swim with her friends instead of spending a ton of time of opening gifts.
At 3-4 years old, kids aren’t the ones choosing to go to the party. It’s the parents. Half her invitees declined to go to the party because they didn’t wanna be around the mom. So she’s kind of right, it really is all about her and it would break HER heart