Rejection is God’s protection! I don’t even care anymore. I use to be this way but I’m so done chasing a ghost. I’m going to remain content and enjoy my single season as I have been single all of my life until one day I will meet the man God ordains to be part of my life 🙏🏾💕
My guess is this advice should only be practiced with men that are actually interested in you. Not men that are playing games, toxic or trying to get you to chase by ghosting
ALL of my experiences with this dynamic ended very badly. If your infatuation with a man is becoming overwhelming, exit stage left. Yes, I mean excuse yourself from that job or that class, or wherever you are around this person on a regular basis. No, I am not talking about a crush. You know when you are falling in love. These situations do not end well. Take everything he says and does literally (because it is literal) and get away.
I'm twice divorced in my younger years. I married at 19 and divorced at 24, then married again at 25. I was divorced by 33. I have not remarried, and I am now in my late 50's. I am single and celibate and very content this way for years. The Lord has given me a great friend and I don't miss the married life nor seek a husband. I have over 550 Facebook friends requests, all from men. I do not care, nor do I trust online relationships. Like a friend of mine says, "God always keeps you happy". That about sums it up.
I had a very deep connecrion with someone and I was waiting for him for some months. Once I let go I have been much happier. If he really wants me, he will pursue me, I've been more than attentive. Now I'm doing something different. We will see. Loved this video.
@@danilaroche1156 i actually moved on from that person I was talking about here, after confronting him about things. I am now in a new phase and getting to know someone new since June and the relationship is developing nicely. 😊
He's not pursuing because He's waiting for God to shine the light for the next step. It's been 9 months of dinner out every weekend and church together. In the meantime, I am allowing God to work on my insecurities and negative thought life. As God chisels away on me, I realize God's making me a better person. I think God is doing this for him. I'm glad he's waiting.
This is good that you've acknowledged this perhaps you shouldn't date until you're ready. That way no one gets hurt. That's if you are dating someone that is.
if hes this hesitant after 9 months, imagine married life with him years later trying to get him to mow the lawn, look after the kids, pay the bills, what a nightmare!! RUN!! STOP this sleepy boring relationship!!
It’s difficult. Especially when you think you found someone you can be friends with and then maybe even more but he doesn’t respond how you think. He admits later that he didn’t ask you out because of a health issue only telling you this later. Also in the same vein it’s also the reason he doesn’t spend time with you. You continue to try and be patient and sometimes you text and you think you’re getting somewhere. But still..slowly it’s hard because you’re desperate for a connection with someone similar to you who shares experiences. Right now I am waiting for him to reach out. It’s becoming easier to not dwell on why he hasn’t texted.
Proverbs 2:6 "For the Lord gives wisdom;from his mouth come knowledge and understanding;"🙏 Let God’s Peace and Grace be with you (To The Reader). Praise God always. Amen🙏🙌
God has called me to wait for a specific man of God. It’s been several weeks with no response from him, and it feels like my mind is fighting a battle. God has led me into a time of fasting for breakthrough.
@@Supportingtruth8258 it’s hard because he lives an hour and a half away. Met him once, a month ago. His aunt introduced us. She had told me about him a few months before I met him in person. I’m living with her currently. I asked her if she could text him asking for permission to give me his number. He said he has been evaluating things, but has not responded as to what conclusion he has come to. At this point I don’t care if he says no. Well it would suck. But at least I would have an answer.
Anybody who's taking that long just to know if they want to exchange phone numbers or to say hi or to try to get to know you even on a friend level has issues IMO. You want somebody who will at least be open to try to get to know you to see if you are the woman for them.
Did u ask god again what to do...i talk fr9m experience..me and the woman he showed me and me to her have been waitng for 3 years .. I see u feel impatient after a few weeks which shows me that u have no patience...when god ask u to trust him he wil also prepare you for marriage...so what i went thru is testing my patience and strengthening it plus he showed me many couples and married people and how they do things...he showed me what causes div9rce..he taught me be strict but loving...he taught me about security...so what i know is that go back to him and ask for guidance or what his plan is..d9nt make decisions..if u dont lose ur life u cant get the life he wants for you....and in the same way he is work8ng in that mans life to start to prepare him...when we pray it takes time for the seed of prayer to grow
@noelleborwick1319 His silence IS an answer and the answer is "no." Most men are not going to come right out and say that they are not interested, to spare your feelings. He is fading away and hoping that you will back off and take the hint. You are wasting your time praying for God to change the heart of a man who doesn't want you, when you know that God does not manipulate our free will.
In these days it is really hard to date. When you are dating in dating apps it is common that after few days of talking someone despair and stop responding. When you are open, you open your heart in front of a person, you are available for him, showing him interest, responding quickly, men are thinking you are desperate. I do not know what is happening in these days, it is really sad. God is good and I still believe, despite what I have learned by my experience, there are men who respect God and will provide 💛
Never open your heart until you are engaged. You have to be a bit elusive. Men like a challenge. Why is dating harder these days? We are in end times. EVERYTHING is harder. Spiritual warfare.
Been following your channel since last year and I've been blessed so much with your wisdom and insights into man-woman Godly relationship. Still a single woman, but with clearer head and heart to do my part while keep praying for my future husband 😊❤ Thank you and God bless you, Mark!
Why can't we simply say that when a man does not pursue you, he's unsure. If he's unsure, that's a big fat no. If it's no, let it go. Sorry for the hard logic.
I pray for the one God has for me and trusting His timing and His ways.❤ no chasing although he knows I am interested but I could see that he liked me first.
Best advice, since I'm an introverted extrovert, it's been hard, but I have been praying, and God showed me the person, but I don't know and am at times confused, but am having peace of God, and it will come to pass whatever He said to me. I am in the situation of not being able to position myself in that place of being available now....but God is always good and will work it out eventually, He already has and will do it. My God is soooo Good..❤
I am in love with an unbeliever.... A person who is an atheist. I fell in love with him and even dated him and it didn't go well... The worst part is that I have to see him everyday in the class because he is my classmate. I always wish he pursues me but i am not allowing that to happen because he doesn't love Jesus and i know it will become an unequally yolked relationship. I wish to move on someday ❤
I like a pastor’s kid but I don’t see Jesus in him and he is in a relationship with an unbeliever. The worst part is I have to see him every Sunday. He’s a coward.
Amen. I made the same mistake as a guy in college. I am Glad God taught me that lesson through the pain of being ghosted after a month. It’s one of my failed relationships I am glad it happened the way it did. Observing the person’s character and faith is key, because as an Introvert myself, we are usually more private and keep to ourselves. However that doesn’t mean we won’t open up because we are always thinking about deeper and meaningful things in our minds a lot when the more expressive guys are chatting everyone up.
My man was pursuing me. He was intentional and consistent. He had strong feelings and I gradually fell in love, too. I had a dream we were walking down a path together. His face was gold. We're in harmony. Suddenly he's lifted up over me. He's looking down on me with a menacing, evil countenance. Dream ends. I was certain he'd propose. He told me Jesus brought us together. Next day after dream he tells me he's struggling with anxiety & fear and he leaves me! I've been doing intercession for him. Looks like warfare. He told me an old girlfriend put a curse on him. Any thoughts?
Prayer heals. God can change the story at any minute of your life. I would advise you to keep praying and ask for God’s will to be done. He is a friend and his words will come to pass. Philip 4:6-7.
It sounds like you both are being attacked by demons. The Bible recommends prayer and fasting to cast out demons. Of course, telling the demons to leave in the name of Jesus Christ does wonders (I had a friend who kicked a demon out by saying the names of the Holy Family. The demon left screaming within 30 seconds. ) But if this warfare is serious, do prayer and fasting while calling upon God. All three actions will build within you a deep trust in God's grace that the demon cannot shake as God is your Rock and Shield.
@@indigoTwilight1967 I do fast, as the Lord leads me to. I am pretty much letting the idea of marrying go. I've been single for what feels like an eternity. My beau..he's deeply depressed and refuses to speak to me. 2 brothers from church reached out to him for fellowship and he wouldn't respond. He's completely isolating. He's heading toward destruction.
@@danilaroche1156 Very good! I will say prayers for you both as well since it seems this man is heading towards destruction. Have you prayed with the other two guys together? There is a Bible verse that says "If two or three are gathered in my Name, I AM among them." Question...do you have Holy Water or Blessed Salt? I know some Christian sects don't, but my family found it effective to sprinkle it around the house as we rededicated our house to God. (My whole family got awful nightmares out of the blue so my dad went around doing his Christian, fatherly duty. It did work). Also, I believe it is wise you have stopped considering marriage right now. God needs you to focus on other, important things right now. Everything will happen in its time, but you must live in this time.
Anen, I agree. Woman shouldn't pursue men. 1 Corinthians 11 verse 8 "For man did not come from woman, but woman from man; 9 neither was man created for woman, but woman for man" That's very telling in itself. We were created 4 man, not other way around. If it was the other way around we as women would do the pursuing. I've been stuck on reading 1 Corinthians, because Father God led me there because he kept dropping scripture 4 me. I hadn't read it beforehand, so kept getting a few and that was my que to read all of Corinthians, because I believe Father God has a message. Funny enough I had a few dreams and a vision. It's been like a source of information going hard in hand with scripture from Corinthians. 13 July Father God told me in a dream "my son is coming (men are the sons of God) read 1 Corinthians 11 verse 3 "Now I want you to realise that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, abd the head of Christ is God" After the dream I just happened to read 1 Corinthians 4 verse 17 For this reason I am sending to you Timothy, my son whom I love, who is faithful in the Lord" Dreamt about the guy 15 July and her a south african song *I'm from there", living in UK. The song is 4 rugby players and says "hier kom die bokke" aka roughly translated "here come the buck". So I know the man I'm supposed to be marrying is on his way. I had 3 dreams in a row earlier this year. Keot seeing the guy abd I prayed to Father God on the 3rd night asking why I kept on seeing him. Early the next morning around 4 am or something I had a vision of going up Jacob's ladder. All I saw was a beautiful staircase I walked up on and the brightest, clearest light I had ever seen. I didn't see anything else just the light and I hear "the both of you love each other. Prophetess you may marry Isaiah" (the guy hasn't been talking to me, he actually ghosted me and caused me 2 have a spiritual awakening. Father God has been working on me. I've always known him. Truth be told, the day I met him when I was a little girl. As soon as I saw him Father God told me "husband". I was totally shocked because I was 5, 6, 7 years old. 1 of those ages. And yes, I hear Father God's voice. I have repented of my sins and a confessed all my sins 2 a deliverance minister. She prayed over everything. We need to dig in deep to our Bible. I believe everyone can hear from Father God. Daily prayers, scripture and worshipping I believe is required. I believe that's how Father God started talking to me again. Yeshua is the most beautiful
Never wait for ever.... 👀... I'll love this man til one of us dies. Even if he doesn't love me back. I'll find ways to be a blessing to him without being weird about it . Its like that old song from years ago.. I cant see me loving nobody but you ... for all my life.... Lol.. we are both seniors so I'll be good with that...
Thanks for this advice. The one I care for has a dismissive avoidant personality, and I’ve known him a few years. We are both senior citizens now. He’s been a bachelor all his life and living for the Lord. I’m not looking for anyone else. I’ll be patient and just pray for my friend and live for Jesus and focus on Him.
He's probably a porn addict and incapable of being married. My ex was this way. Strung me along for years w/ a promise of marriage. He's no spring chicken either. I left. He was jive.
It may be that he’s battling some things inside of him. I’m not implying it in a negative sense. Sometimes that’s just the way how some men operate internally or try to make sense of things or keep their worries to themselves in silence. Many times I do carry this behaviour too, only to realise way much later that there are points in life I might have appeared to „diss“ some close people unintentionally
@@zachtbh It's always noteworthy and honorable to communicate to your loved ones. You can be discreet and concise. To ignore them, ESPECIALLY a romantic interest is incredibly hurtful. My boyfriend was upsetwith me and completely went MIA. No reply. No effort to sort things out though he claimed to love me. I can't respect a man who can't communicate. Not a word from him. I thought he died. Very painful.
@@zachtbhThanks for replying. My man...well my ex..he's processing his problems for YEARS. He's in his head and not Christ. Times a wastin'. It's ridiculous.
What to do when an old boyfriend calls up saying his wife passed away and he's always loved you but now is free to pursue the relationship. He's on the west coast and you're in central mid America. How can you date someone that far away and have a relationship?
He needs to get his butt to you and take you on a date. If he's really interested, he will pursue you. If you two click and fall in love, booboo needs to propose. No long term lollygagging.
God showed me this man almost 4 yrs ago, he's also proved it to me that he's got the same message from God cuz he keeps looking at me from a far off but literally runs if he senses me walking his way or vice versa. At first, I ignored it but now it's starting to get to me. I used to have his number but I had to get rid of it since we reached a time and he wasn't comfy talking to me anymore As much as I enjoy his gaze, I'm not comfortable around him anymore either, I keep wondering what it is that's making him avoid me to that extent. I've prayed and given up and prayed some more though I never feel like I can ever pray enough. At this rate, I'm praying only because if he's really my destined man, I shouldnt be the one to blame for not making an effort
I appreciate the clarification because I’m already shy and passive and I do think men Don’t think I’m interested and it’s interesting to try a bit and see if they start to lead
And in the process of waitin u learn more thing about yourself...things like getting t9 know the person from gods view and not just a shallow ..i like him..and most of the time god does things like this because there are issues in your life and character than needs to be disiplined before u can be a godly wife..if u cant even wait 2 weeks how are u going to handle things in a marriage..or wil you just push a agenda...anyways these are things he taught me while waiting..he taight me im a problem to
The thing about being berated from the pulpit hits home. At a previous church I attended, the pastor made it seem like us men could never do anything right. He was a cool dude though but hearing from the pulpit how it seemed like we as men always were wrong somehow really messed with my mind
@@Lauren-vd4qe I'm sure he meant well in encouraging men to be better men but at the same time, to have it be balanced out so that women receive correction too would've helped. It makes it seem like women are inherently morally perfect and us men can only hope to achieve that moral perfection someday. I regret now not saying anything to him about it
i wish i know your channel when am still on my 20-30s... but yes i believe everything is good in His time.. so, if i know this just now, its align with His time for me...
I wish you would’ve added in that if the woman isn’t comfortable with it how to tell him no and not to be afraid of saying absolutely not. Girls could take this as let the guy do whatever he wants but he could abuse that power and I’ve seen it many times. Hopefully the guys are getting taught how to be respectful back.
I have been seeing this amazing woman for a few months now, and i feel she is amazing. How and when do i know to attempt to take ot to the next level? We can talk for hours on end, and i just dont want to mess things up
Have you asked her on an official date? If you have already talked that much she could be waiting for you to make an official move. Fear of messing up is real and I get the nerves. However, be honest with how you feel! Being direct and precise in your communication with her will go a long way. Even if you make a mistake, if she genuinely cares for you, she won’t necessarily leave you for that. When you are decisive and godly, it will generally produce more respect from a godly woman.
@danielm4949 we have been out several times, and I have never gotten the impression that she isn't having a good time. It is sometimes difficult to connect with all of the things going on, but we always do manage. Just trying to time stating how I feel, and praying seeking guidance
Just talk. If you're both bound for marriage in the future, the relationship you two have will not last whether you confess to her or not. Because once marriage happens for one or both of you, your friendship will immediately be gone.
I’ll give some very practical, politically incorrect advice as well… Get in the best shape you possibly can, look your absolute best, and stop being hyper career focused. Be what a man wants to be with.
@@RachelRuthRoss This has nothing to do with anything I originally said. Absolutely nothing. Unfortunately, Christian messages often downplay the importance of physical attraction.
Thanks for the advice but even this doesn't mean success. as Halle Berry, Beyonce, Nicki and Cardi B....many beautiful in shape women have been given the shaft. Get in shape for god and you
I don’t know I am not going to pursue any girl or chase any girl. I’m not giving them my strength to do stuff like that she hast to chase me as she really really wants me. That’s how I’m gonna go from things if somebody really wants to be with me then I’m gonna pursue her because she’s pursuing me
I wish to add a thing or two to this: There are some men, me for example, that have become sick and tired of so called "godly women" that approach men openly stating that their ultimate goal is a relationship and marriage. Nothing wrong with that part, but... These same women are not godly at all, but they specifically seek out a man of God, knowing that they are very open with their hearts and lives, and will treat the woman they love to the best of their ability, including financially. These "women" know enough phrases and scripture to come off as legitimate and sincere, and try to suck their target into believing that he's found the right one. Then almost immediately she's demanding that he proves his love and ability to provide for his bride to be with gifts of hundreds to thousands of dollars. In time they, like myself burns out on the seemingly endless onslaught of artificial women of God, that makes endless promises, meanwhile demanding that he is going to be an endless source of income for her... So if a true woman of God enters his life, she has her work cut out for herself, she has to convince him that she's not one more of those treasure hunters masquerading as a spiritual woman. This may very well be why some men aren't as interested in a woman's pursuits as she may wish. Not that he's not interested, but may be thinking to himself that one more of those kind of women has found him.
I just wanted to reply.. if I love a man .. n he loves ME .. that’s the most important.. Money is not the issue.. The only reason I want a man that believes in God .. that’s one thing that God asks.. Both of you believe in ME.. You don’t change people.. God changes you from the inside out for that person.. Both of you.. Sometimes God saves the Best for Last.. You can either have a nice life together or be my yourself.. I call it a Leap if Faith.. Honestly, you can only carry one purse at a time.. Don’t need a Coach bag for Church.. or fishing or walking on the beach.. Material things wear out.. I like cars but my Grandson Owns a carlot.. so Good deals are always showing Up.. I like a golf cart .. I am different n God knows it. So whoever Loves Me .. It will be How I am ..Not really interested in Money .. rather have a loving Fun Relationship without stressing over money.. God will provide.. he has in my Life.. It can happen.. No not looking for a Man.. Kinda already engaged n Praying it works out.. Just had to make a comment. God made US All different.. I think God for that….he knows who to put together.. yes he does.. But all women or ME are not interested in money… 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💪💯
Another thing.. scriptures come out of the Bible.. God’s love letter to US .. To show US his Love for Us N have love n forgiveness Because he shows it to US. Just wanted to share.. Thank you for listening…🙏
I can certainly believe this, absolutely. For me, it’s Godly Christian mean who only want a certain “type”. They don’t care about a woman’s heart. As a matter of fact, their super strict criteria takes over them so a woman who genuinely had a heart for God and relies on Him (God) first for complete love and satisfaction doesn’t stand a chance. I don’t exhaust myself anymore. Whatever will be, will be. Forgive me, this is not a rant or meant to be negative, it’s not. I really appreciate your comment. 😊
There's nothing logical or loving about a relationship which demands you give an incredible amount of time, money, and energy to your partner while they offer nothing of equal or greater value in return.
My question is this. Why does a woman who loves God enough to worry about what the Bible says about the situation. “Love” a man who isn’t even pursuing her? ❤ Love?
No point pursuing unless you have a certain mold they wont accept you. As a man we should fast pray practice SR the right woman if there is one will be attracted to our lives God will open the heart of both individuals it wont be forced and neither would have to try that hard or play games. If its not meant to be so be it
Hey Mark, I'm not sure you'll see this or respond, but as a recent newborn in Christ female, I've been having this "dance" of a relationship with a man that although he hasn't yet converted to Christ to my knowledge, ever since I met him, we've always been equally yoked in whatever we have believed in, and since I've been growing closer to God, he seems to be doing the same. So I have a suspicion that as I evolve, there's a good chance he'll evolve with me too.. but here's the thing. We both committed grave mistakes in our relationship prior to growing closer to God... He used to drive me insane, and so I accidentally insulted him all the time, and even became a little violent when that was not the real me, he then was so scared of me apparently, that even though he had given me many chances to change my excessively aggressive nature, yet I failed every time and would get triggered over the littlest things, he ended up entertaining a woman (a jezebel type if you will) who started talking to him, pursuing him relentlessly, and getting in between us. She said lies to him about me, because I tried to seek her help to see if I could fix things with my person thinking that she was an honest new coworking friend of his, and I cried out to her asking for help with him, and she betrayed me, lied to him about her supposedly feeling scared of me and my "aggressive nature" when I couldn't have been more humble and humiliated to her, and she used what she knew about me and us, against us to finally separate us. Long story short, we fully separated, he didn't want to even give me a proper chance anymore after that and kept entertaining this jezebel. Unfortunately he got her pregnant and they had the baby. But he's been MISERABLE ever since. She has been trying to claim him as her man, by posting endless pictures with him, when he hasn't done the same with her AT ALL. And when he was with me, he basically wanted the whole world to know about us, he wanted us to do UA-cam videos and we did, and his profiles were public with tons of pictures with me. He is not like this with her at all. So he's had this profile with an anonymous name but that I know is him, and he's been sharing and pouring his heart out anonymously for me to learn what he's been going through for almost 2 years now.. For a little bit of time towards the end of 2022 I entertained this "game" of his with his secret messages because #1. I had no idea he was still with her, #2. I had NO IDEA whatsoever they had had a baby, and #3. I thought I was encouraging him to pursue me. But this all ended up backfiring because he and I constantly needed more and more and more reassurance about each other, and nothing ever moved forward. Until I learned that he was still with her, and that the reason was because they had a baby! Suddenly all the posts he was making about not being sure if to stay in a marriage because of the children, started to make sense.. since I had no idea why he was making posts about that... So I decided to stop encouraging his online "games", and went completely silent on him... I kept posting stuff not directed to him anymore, until I ended just closing my profiles and becoming fully inactive in social media, because I thought this would be the only way he'd understand that if he still loves me, he has to approach me directly and stop with the online nonsense... But recently before I closed my Facebook, I had a random discussion with someone and I know my person saw it. I was really hurt by what the other person said, and I was feeling very low and insecure for a few days, and suddenly my person started posting things to reassure me of his love and saying things like why he will always return to his true love and he doesn't say things like these often at all. It felt major and it gave me a lot of reassurance. However I've been getting deep feelings that he's feeling a little bit insecure lately, since I closed my Facebook, and he may need some type of reassurance that I'm still interested, but even though I appreciated his reassurance towards me the other day, I don't think is appropriate for me to validate him back if he is still with that other woman, and hasn't taken proper action to approach me directly in person face to face like he should. I feel it would be ignorant of me to keep entertaining any games of this kind. But due to many reasons, although this man and I have committed TONS of mistakes with the other, I've had an overpowering and supernatural feeling that this man might be the one God wants for me, and he has felt the same towards me in the past. I'm really sorry for such a long story, but if you have any words of encouragement or suggestions I would greatly appreciate it. Thank you so much Mark 🙏♥
If you a person, you wants to know as much as you want about them. If the man is an introvert, I think he needs encouragement from a woman to pursue her.. But if a man is an extrovert, I think the woman can wait a bit for rhe man to pursue her.
Not worth wasting time on someone who is not showing interest. Keep living life and keep options open until the right man does step up. Of course, be friendly in the meantime. Never know when God will allow things to click.
Lol In our group work , I actually did asked my ex opinions if he had anything to add to it , but yeah-- he said "Nothing" 😑. I start to doubt what the lord expect me to deal with my ex , because he's way too passive. I even doubt if he is even worth "the waiting". Oh God, just randomly spawn some handsome guys passing by , I would forget my ex immediately hahaha (I'm joking don't angry at me). I obey the lord our God , ofc. The relationship has ended , what is he trying to acheive by keeping my ex in my circle? I did asked him tho , I did everything ppl do after post break up. And-- none of them work only gotten worse , so I decided to keep my ex in my life. I think I take your #2 and #3rd advice for now "Response accordingly , and never expect much of him" for a period of time. If he doesn't make any moves then I'd better forget him. He ain't worth the waiting.
Got dumped after a 3yrs. 9mo. He left after thinking about it since November of last year. Dropped the bomb last month on his b-day. Took him a whole month to follow through cuz I guess he wanted to let me down easy. I've been no contact since Sat. 06/18. Background: We have broken up before, twice, and it was because of me. I was young (19/20yrs.) And a little petty, and wanted things too quickly. Both times I reached out and apologized. I even tried to let him down with the "we should stay friends" since we still worked together. I couldn't handle seeing him be up 1st time - after 2 months I broke it off because he "wasn't acting like were close friends", he was more reserved in the beginning. As well as some other things. More background - we have been classmates since elementary school and in high school eneded up working at the same place. He moved to another state for a couple months then came back. And that's when I became interested in him. But we still weren't friends. He invited me out 1 time and I declined, later on I invited him out to hang out. We talked steady for 5 months before becoming official. And even them we still weren't "best friends", which is pretty much what I wanted off the bat. *also we don't work together anymore, he quit a while back. 2nd- was a couple months after the first. my mom told me she didn't want me dating till I was 22. And in the beginning he wasnt really a Christian (I was but not that serious, and he was carrying the title. Were both doing much better now) which was kind of a deal breaker for me but not that much as I went back. * limerinse Even more background- yes we are both Christian but he's now Baptist and I was raised charismatic/pentecostal. Some of what we believe is a deal breaker for him. Problem - if I could rate our relationship of 3 years on a scale from 1 -10, I would rate it a 9.99 (cuz no relationship is perfect). That 1% is what caused him to let go. (Marriage? We agree. (He was even ready to propose, I told him to wait till I finished school. He brought up his issue a couple days before my final.) Communication? Has inproved much more than in the past. Fun? Its always fun when hes aound (at least for me) Careers/jobs? It's compromisable as we're both still young and the fiture isnt set. Children? We almost agree. We agree on how they should be raised but not what they should believe. I said the future kids can go to his church, he pretty much said that's not good enough. If my parents and i don't drop some of our beliefs then he's ending it.) His personality - Is pretty much described in Ken's video ua-cam.com/video/4NmeRI40YjU/v-deo.html Pretty much to the T. My problem - as much as I love him and want to get back together, on some level I want to let him go. It's been a week since the break up. He also told me during the break up that he "wanted to stay friends" and that he still loved me. I told him during the break up that if he wanted me as a friend he would have to wait at least 3-6 months. We both said our "I'm sorry and I wish I had done better" at the end. Since he also said " I love you" I said it back. I also need to give him back something but I'm thinking of sending it back through mail. Should do that or find another way?
You’ve just written an extensive comment about your situation, indicating that strong feelings for this person still exist. If this person is not the one for you (knowing that info comes from the Holy Spirit after prayer) then it’s best to physically avoid contact with them and return their item by mail. Remaining as friends may result in feeding lingering feelings of infatuation, which may make it even more difficult for you to move on with your life.
@SpiritOfOrange thank you. That's pretty much what I've been doing. It was at the time that I had watched another video by 'coach lee' and he had mentioned the importance of no contact. That's why I was wondering if I might as well meet him and give him back his things since it's still fresh. But it's almost a month since the breakup so the only option is through mail.
Then you're attracting the wrong kind of guys. If you eventually want to end up in a long-term monogamous relationship, but you aren't attracting the kind of guys that would be capable and ready for such a relationship, then you're not interacting with the right guys. Men that only want to go after women who are taken or married are high on the rush of being able to "steal" a "high quality woman" and even "steal someone else's partner". These do NOT make for good long-term partners.
ONE VALUABLE THING SHE SHOULD DO IS RUN!! 🏃🏽♀️ run for her LIFE!! Chase after God and don’t look back. This message is a trick of the enemy! Thirst trap!
I lost a guy I famcied from University because I spoke to much and he was not interested at all in speaking about himself but he said he enjoys listening to me and he listened to me for hours and he leaned in close to me to hear me speak. I told him that attractive guys like him scare me no offence and he said no offence but another girl came along later on and he courted and married her
@@ALC77787 oh... Hey... I consider you are in a better position than me... At least u didn't get attached to him.... So it won't be very difficult to fall in love again. Oh I wish I was you. Right now my season of life is sooo bad... I think it'll make u feel better... I dated an unbeliever who was an athiest.... Literally for 7 months.... During that process i idolized him.... Put him in a pedestal.... Put him above God... U know what I was at that season of life.... I was so so so convicted but that "love" for him blinded me.... Things were not very smooth after 3 months... I started showing emotional unstablity.... Possesiveness.... Obsession... And i even fell into temptation to be physical with him... So u can understand how attached I got to him... Eventually a month ago we broke up... It was and is still difficult and I have to see him everyday literally because he is my classmate and he doesn't approach me or pursues me... I actually want him to pursue me and approach me... I'm in that bottom rock season of my life regarding relationship.... Yes I'm healing in Christ.... Instead of making God my priority... I'm learning to put God as priority in EVERYTHING!... it's not easy... Because at times I feel like I'm moving on but then he comes in my dreamss... Everything feels real... We patch up.. get physical etc etc... And it breaks my heart everyday. So I am very much glad for u that u didn't get attached to him (I hope so) especially physically.... I really want you to take my advice. If u ever fall in love or get into a relationship..... until or unless both of you know that you will marry each other... Don't make him your habit like I did. Always keep clear boundaries.... Don't get physical (holding hands or hugging or even kissing) that really messed me up because suddenly out of nowhere i get triggered and it hurts very bad. So yeh .. that's my testimony... I hope it helps you in the future and you find an amazing man who loves Jesus.. and who will love you like himself 💞
@@GloriaVSimon-ro7nn hey i struggle(d) with being super attached to a guy (was also physical with him.. i never thought of it as a sin but obv its different now) I am still somehow attached eventhough we broke up almost a year ago. I recently prayed that god would take out all the spirit of him thats left in me (& the spirit of other people he had done it before..) this prayer was a really powerful one.. i felt it in my whole body
In the Same regard for Yeshua Ha Mashiach that He wants us to pursue Him and accept His proposal to us to become Married in Spirit, Trust, and Truth through Surrendering to His Will and to become like Him and become one with Him
Let women pursue who they want to pursue. Let women make decisions for themselves who they want to date. This teaching is based out of insecurity that a woman won't choose you.
no one is stopping a woman from doing things. Rather, the advice is that a woman will fail because that's not how God designed. You're free to disobey God. He allows that option. But we all reap what we sow.
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger It's advice isn't it, nothing prescribed in the Bible, like you explained. So how could there be any 'disobedience' then?
There is no mention of this “pursuing “ business on the scriptures. Furthermore, the notion that a man should be in the never ending pursuit of his wife is absurd. The wedding is a statement that they each may take each other for granted - literally. That’s not the same thing as not appreciating each other. A man cannot lead if he is behind his wife/girlfriend pursuing her. That is the opposite of leadership.
You would continue to be disappointed if you continued to wait for that man. When someone shows you who they are, believe them because it's not going to change!
I have someone special. We talk personally, which is better, but I get so worried when he doesn't text for a day. He is a Godly man. He loves Jesus very much. Should I text him if he doesn't text for a day?
@@ELOHIMenkathy2015 oh no problem. I pray you find peace in your wait time as you allow God to wot. Im in the same boat, except it's my husband who I've been separated from for over 1 year. I am pursuing him and not vice versa
@@lucylucy2171 Shalom sister. Thank you so much. I speak the Name of Jesus over your relationship. May His will be done. He alone satisfies us. May our hearts be found secured in the LORD. The LORD bless you ❤️ Be strong in the LORD 🙌💖
I don't understand the whole pursuing thing , chasing someone is not in Eastern Orthodox , we have groups of people, people take an interest in someone , man or woman , woman can ask , why can't Evangelical women? Leadership ? is a woman a child?
I wondered if this is more an American culture thing...(I'm not American) though I can follow the logic of it and agree mostly with it, it sometimes comes across as a bit crampy. I think people are unique and things may work uniquely for them, meaning I think it doesn't necessarily have to go by the 'rules' allways
Mark, is it OK for a Christian single man to marry a single mom who is born again? Any consequences of doing it between the couple especially when ex may be involved? Advice please.
@@ericmwenda6197 Eric, I would suggest that you speak with your pastor about this. There is alot of negative advice in these comments and Mark doesnt seem to be monitoring.
It's is biblical for a woman to love a man? It's the other way round, if u read Genesis 2:18, the Bible said it's not good for a man to be alone n therefore He will make him a helped*woman* and on verse 24 it says Therefore a man shall leave his father n mother and shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be one flesh, the bible never said the woman should persue a man, *NO* she can like someone due to their physic or kindness or other ; we have turn alot of God's words that's why we experienced alot of broken heart n homes, may Jesus Christ help us all🙏Amen
Is this about married or unmarried? I am confused Those are two totally DIFFERENT scenarios. I heard wife and I hear him talking about single people in a group. PRAY! I promise GOD gets thru to your husband way better than a nagger or a wife being his Holy Spirit!!! I speak with so many women that try to be their husbands Holy Spirit!
The man is actually the pursuer scripturally, scriptures says he who finds a wife, has found a good thing, and has obtained favour from God. You found because you looked for. The job of a man is actually to find while that of a woman is to keep. So if a woman is not finding, it is because she is not structured to do so, and when a man can't keep is because he doesn't have the capacity to do so. So please let's understand this difference in gender and stop mincing word... Thank you
I will never fall for any man who will not pursue me bcos I never fall for a man until he show up and step up. Problem is some men are good to show up but soon show that that's all they are good at
Rejection is God’s protection! I don’t even care anymore. I use to be this way but I’m so done chasing a ghost. I’m going to remain content and enjoy my single season as I have been single all of my life until one day I will meet the man God ordains to be part of my life 🙏🏾💕
This right here! HE that finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD ! Not the other way around . Bye!
Baliw, maghintay ka till mategi hahaha
That's the spirit sis, we just have to be content waiting on God
My guess is this advice should only be practiced with men that are actually interested in you. Not men that are playing games, toxic or trying to get you to chase by ghosting
I am so praying for you! Its hard to be ghosted and/or being pulled away from by someone you care about. Peace & Love my sister!
Never let a guy say no to you more than once
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Facts!!!
Ghosting could I accept as no from him? he did that and than came back 2 month after without apology, I refused him but still think of him
@@OlhaBendzar he was seeing someone else probably and then came to you as a second option. I think you were right to say no
ALL of my experiences with this dynamic ended very badly. If your infatuation with a man is becoming overwhelming, exit stage left. Yes, I mean excuse yourself from that job or that class, or wherever you are around this person on a regular basis. No, I am not talking about a crush. You know when you are falling in love. These situations do not end well. Take everything he says and does literally (because it is literal) and get away.
I'm twice divorced in my younger years. I married at 19 and divorced at 24, then married again at 25. I was divorced by 33. I have not remarried, and I am now in my late 50's. I am single and celibate and very content this way for years. The Lord has given me a great friend and I don't miss the married life nor seek a husband. I have over 550 Facebook friends requests, all from men. I do not care, nor do I trust online relationships.
Like a friend of mine says, "God always keeps you happy". That about sums it up.
Amen
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I had a very deep connecrion with someone and I was waiting for him for some months. Once I let go I have been much happier. If he really wants me, he will pursue me, I've been more than attentive. Now I'm doing something different. We will see. Loved this video.
Not much more you can do. Unfortunately alot of Christian men are very damaged. Fearful too & haven't addressed it. Pray for the brothers!
Update?
@@danilaroche1156 i actually moved on from that person I was talking about here, after confronting him about things. I am now in a new phase and getting to know someone new since June and the relationship is developing nicely. 😊
He's not pursuing because He's waiting for God to shine the light for the next step. It's been 9 months of dinner out every weekend and church together. In the meantime, I am allowing God to work on my insecurities and negative thought life. As God chisels away on me, I realize God's making me a better person. I think God is doing this for him. I'm glad he's waiting.
This is good that you've acknowledged this perhaps you shouldn't date until you're ready. That way no one gets hurt. That's if you are dating someone that is.
if hes this hesitant after 9 months, imagine married life with him years later trying to get him to mow the lawn, look after the kids, pay the bills, what a nightmare!! RUN!! STOP this sleepy boring relationship!!
@@Lauren-vd4qe agree and agree..!
Nine. Months? He is not interested, at least not as much as you think
@@annettecantu3826 hes waiting for someone better to come by!
It’s difficult. Especially when you think you found someone you can be friends with and then maybe even more but he doesn’t respond how you think. He admits later that he didn’t ask you out because of a health issue only telling you this later. Also in the same vein it’s also the reason he doesn’t spend time with you. You continue to try and be patient and sometimes you text and you think you’re getting somewhere. But still..slowly it’s hard because you’re desperate for a connection with someone similar to you who shares experiences. Right now I am waiting for him to reach out. It’s becoming easier to not dwell on why he hasn’t texted.
Proverbs 2:6 "For the Lord gives wisdom;from his mouth come knowledge and understanding;"🙏
Let God’s Peace and Grace be with you (To The Reader). Praise God always. Amen🙏🙌
God has called me to wait for a specific man of God. It’s been several weeks with no response from him, and it feels like my mind is fighting a battle. God has led me into a time of fasting for breakthrough.
Do you ever smile at him, or go out of your way to single him out in a way that helps him understand that he has a green light.
@@Supportingtruth8258 it’s hard because he lives an hour and a half away. Met him once, a month ago. His aunt introduced us. She had told me about him a few months before I met him in person. I’m living with her currently. I asked her if she could text him asking for permission to give me his number. He said he has been evaluating things, but has not responded as to what conclusion he has come to. At this point I don’t care if he says no. Well it would suck. But at least I would have an answer.
Anybody who's taking that long just to know if they want to exchange phone numbers or to say hi or to try to get to know you even on a friend level has issues IMO. You want somebody who will at least be open to try to get to know you to see if you are the woman for them.
Did u ask god again what to do...i talk fr9m experience..me and the woman he showed me and me to her have been waitng for 3 years ..
I see u feel impatient after a few weeks which shows me that u have no patience...when god ask u to trust him he wil also prepare you for marriage...so what i went thru is testing my patience and strengthening it plus he showed me many couples and married people and how they do things...he showed me what causes div9rce..he taught me be strict but loving...he taught me about security...so what i know is that go back to him and ask for guidance or what his plan is..d9nt make decisions..if u dont lose ur life u cant get the life he wants for you....and in the same way he is work8ng in that mans life to start to prepare him...when we pray it takes time for the seed of prayer to grow
@noelleborwick1319 His silence IS an answer and the answer is "no." Most men are not going to come right out and say that they are not interested, to spare your feelings. He is fading away and hoping that you will back off and take the hint. You are wasting your time praying for God to change the heart of a man who doesn't want you, when you know that God does not manipulate our free will.
When it’s right it’s right. That’s all.
Mind your Business, Do life and keep moving until a Man wants you
I have aspergers. I am literally confused all the time socially. I can’t afford a wonan to be passive.
I like this!☺️
@@jptwentyfour887 Good for you?
@@lenniebutao7817 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻💯
With that kind of an attitude he surely will never pursue
In these days it is really hard to date. When you are dating in dating apps it is common that after few days of talking someone despair and stop responding. When you are open, you open your heart in front of a person, you are available for him, showing him interest, responding quickly, men are thinking you are desperate. I do not know what is happening in these days, it is really sad. God is good and I still believe, despite what I have learned by my experience, there are men who respect God and will provide 💛
It is discouraging, that's why we just have to pray until something happens
Never open your heart until you are engaged. You have to be a bit elusive. Men like a challenge. Why is dating harder these days? We are in end times. EVERYTHING is harder. Spiritual warfare.
Been following your channel since last year and I've been blessed so much with your wisdom and insights into man-woman Godly relationship.
Still a single woman, but with clearer head and heart to do my part while keep praying for my future husband 😊❤
Thank you and God bless you, Mark!
When it's the right time , God will do it. Timing is Everything.
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Why can't we simply say that when a man does not pursue you, he's unsure. If he's unsure, that's a big fat no. If it's no, let it go. Sorry for the hard logic.
I agree. It's not hard logic, it's wisdom.
If you're willing to let go so easily, then you didn't love him enough to have him to begin with.
Don't be so quick to dismiss.
Love is patient.
@@Janet-b1f uncertainty is not of God
Then again, some things take TIME.
Praise God for protection..,
I pray for the one God has for me and trusting His timing and His ways.❤ no chasing although he knows I am interested but I could see that he liked me first.
Learn his love language and show him(husband) appreciation. Awesome video. Preparation.
You only show a husband, husband appreciation.
Thank you Lord. You are my protector. Amen
Wow. I believe God just answered my doubts. Amen
Best advice, since I'm an introverted extrovert, it's been hard, but I have been praying, and God showed me the person, but I don't know and am at times confused, but am having peace of God, and it will come to pass whatever He said to me. I am in the situation of not being able to position myself in that place of being available now....but God is always good and will work it out eventually, He already has and will do it. My God is soooo Good..❤
This is me too! 😅❤🎉 Praying for you! 💕
I am in love with an unbeliever.... A person who is an atheist. I fell in love with him and even dated him and it didn't go well... The worst part is that I have to see him everyday in the class because he is my classmate. I always wish he pursues me but i am not allowing that to happen because he doesn't love Jesus and i know it will become an unequally yolked relationship. I wish to move on someday ❤
I like a pastor’s kid but I don’t see Jesus in him and he is in a relationship with an unbeliever. The worst part is I have to see him every Sunday. He’s a coward.
I hated it so much of so many people. Why someone that I have no choice but to see him weekly.
A pastor’s kid but obviously an atheist.
Amen. I made the same mistake as a guy in college. I am Glad God taught me that lesson through the pain of being ghosted after a month. It’s one of my failed relationships I am glad it happened the way it did. Observing the person’s character and faith is key, because as an Introvert myself, we are usually more private and keep to ourselves. However that doesn’t mean we won’t open up because we are always thinking about deeper and meaningful things in our minds a lot when the more expressive guys are chatting everyone up.
Take this as an opportunity to learn patience, endurance, and build a character that can bear unpleasant circumstances
Lord, guide me as I struggle with this work ... I trust you are working in me and I am willing to follow your way.
This channel gives the best advice
Most young women I observe give too much encouragement after the man has, by his actions, expressed he is not interested and they don't back off
Right! Key word, YOUNG & then they get played.
Thank you for your wisdom! 🙌
very good advice and very practical
Very well said brother...Amen
Waiting for their call to be available....we did our part now it's their turn...praying...pray for us bro.
My man was pursuing me. He was intentional and consistent. He had strong feelings and I gradually fell in love, too. I had a dream we were walking down a path together. His face was gold. We're in harmony. Suddenly he's lifted up over me. He's looking down on me with a menacing, evil countenance. Dream ends. I was certain he'd propose. He told me Jesus brought us together. Next day after dream he tells me he's struggling with anxiety & fear and he leaves me! I've been doing intercession for him. Looks like warfare. He told me an old girlfriend put a curse on him. Any thoughts?
Prayer heals. God can change the story at any minute of your life. I would advise you to keep praying and ask for God’s will to be done. He is a friend and his words will come to pass. Philip 4:6-7.
It sounds like you both are being attacked by demons. The Bible recommends prayer and fasting to cast out demons. Of course, telling the demons to leave in the name of Jesus Christ does wonders (I had a friend who kicked a demon out by saying the names of the Holy Family. The demon left screaming within 30 seconds. )
But if this warfare is serious, do prayer and fasting while calling upon God. All three actions will build within you a deep trust in God's grace that the demon cannot shake as God is your Rock and Shield.
@@indigoTwilight1967 I do fast, as the Lord leads me to. I am pretty much letting the idea of marrying go. I've been single for what feels like an eternity. My beau..he's deeply depressed and refuses to speak to me. 2 brothers from church reached out to him for fellowship and he wouldn't respond. He's completely isolating. He's heading toward destruction.
@@danilaroche1156 Very good! I will say prayers for you both as well since it seems this man is heading towards destruction.
Have you prayed with the other two guys together? There is a Bible verse that says "If two or three are gathered in my Name, I AM among them."
Question...do you have Holy Water or Blessed Salt? I know some Christian sects don't, but my family found it effective to sprinkle it around the house as we rededicated our house to God. (My whole family got awful nightmares out of the blue so my dad went around doing his Christian, fatherly duty. It did work).
Also, I believe it is wise you have stopped considering marriage right now. God needs you to focus on other, important things right now. Everything will happen in its time, but you must live in this time.
@@indigoTwilight1967 I have other things to focus on. Thank you. I appreciate your support!
Amen 🙏🏼 Thank you for your message. God bless you greatly 💜✝️🙏🏼
Thank you, Mark. You’re the best! ❤
Anen, I agree. Woman shouldn't pursue men. 1 Corinthians 11 verse 8 "For man did not come from woman, but woman from man;
9 neither was man created for woman, but woman for man"
That's very telling in itself. We were created 4 man, not other way around. If it was the other way around we as women would do the pursuing. I've been stuck on reading 1 Corinthians, because Father God led me there because he kept dropping scripture 4 me. I hadn't read it beforehand, so kept getting a few and that was my que to read all of Corinthians, because I believe Father God has a message. Funny enough I had a few dreams and a vision. It's been like a source of information going hard in hand with scripture from Corinthians. 13 July Father God told me in a dream "my son is coming (men are the sons of God) read 1 Corinthians 11 verse 3 "Now I want you to realise that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, abd the head of Christ is God"
After the dream I just happened to read 1 Corinthians 4 verse 17 For this reason I am sending to you Timothy, my son whom I love, who is faithful in the Lord"
Dreamt about the guy 15 July and her a south african song *I'm from there", living in UK. The song is 4 rugby players and says "hier kom die bokke" aka roughly translated "here come the buck". So I know the man I'm supposed to be marrying is on his way. I had 3 dreams in a row earlier this year. Keot seeing the guy abd I prayed to Father God on the 3rd night asking why I kept on seeing him. Early the next morning around 4 am or something I had a vision of going up Jacob's ladder. All I saw was a beautiful staircase I walked up on and the brightest, clearest light I had ever seen. I didn't see anything else just the light and I hear "the both of you love each other. Prophetess you may marry Isaiah" (the guy hasn't been talking to me, he actually ghosted me and caused me 2 have a spiritual awakening. Father God has been working on me. I've always known him. Truth be told, the day I met him when I was a little girl. As soon as I saw him Father God told me "husband". I was totally shocked because I was 5, 6, 7 years old. 1 of those ages. And yes, I hear Father God's voice. I have repented of my sins and a confessed all my sins 2 a deliverance minister. She prayed over everything. We need to dig in deep to our Bible. I believe everyone can hear from Father God. Daily prayers, scripture and worshipping I believe is required. I believe that's how Father God started talking to me again. Yeshua is the most beautiful
That women were created for men tells me they need women.
Thank you very much. This video was very informative.
Never wait for ever.... 👀... I'll love this man til one of us dies. Even if he doesn't love me back. I'll find ways to be a blessing to him without being weird about it .
Its like that old song from years ago..
I cant see me loving nobody but you ... for all my life.... Lol.. we are both seniors so I'll be good with that...
Thanks for this advice.
The one I care for has a dismissive avoidant personality, and I’ve known him a few years. We are both senior citizens now. He’s been a bachelor all his life and living for the Lord. I’m not looking for anyone else. I’ll be patient and just pray for my friend and live for Jesus and focus on Him.
He's probably a porn addict and incapable of being married. My ex was this way. Strung me along for years w/ a promise of marriage. He's no spring chicken either. I left. He was jive.
It may be that he’s battling some things inside of him. I’m not implying it in a negative sense. Sometimes that’s just the way how some men operate internally or try to make sense of things or keep their worries to themselves in silence. Many times I do carry this behaviour too, only to realise way much later that there are points in life I might have appeared to „diss“ some close people unintentionally
@@zachtbh It's always noteworthy and honorable to communicate to your loved ones. You can be discreet and concise. To ignore them, ESPECIALLY a romantic interest is incredibly hurtful. My boyfriend was upsetwith me and completely went MIA. No reply. No effort to sort things out though he claimed to love me. I can't respect a man who can't communicate. Not a word from him. I thought he died. Very painful.
I don't mean to be rude but let that nigga go.
@@zachtbhThanks for replying. My man...well my ex..he's processing his problems for YEARS. He's in his head and not Christ. Times a wastin'. It's ridiculous.
What to do when an old boyfriend calls up saying his wife passed away and he's always loved you but now is free to pursue the relationship. He's on the west coast and you're in central mid America. How can you date someone that far away and have a relationship?
He needs to get his butt to you and take you on a date. If he's really interested, he will pursue you. If you two click and fall in love, booboo needs to propose. No long term lollygagging.
Be very very careful. A lot of men jump into relationships when their emotions are strong. More for self-soothing than the person they are dating.
Wow. I never considered this.
Sounds like my hot mess ex!
Thanks for the message Mark!
God showed me this man almost 4 yrs ago, he's also proved it to me that he's got the same message from God cuz he keeps looking at me from a far off but literally runs if he senses me walking his way or vice versa. At first, I ignored it but now it's starting to get to me. I used to have his number but I had to get rid of it since we reached a time and he wasn't comfy talking to me anymore
As much as I enjoy his gaze, I'm not comfortable around him anymore either, I keep wondering what it is that's making him avoid me to that extent. I've prayed and given up and prayed some more though I never feel like I can ever pray enough. At this rate, I'm praying only because if he's really my destined man, I shouldnt be the one to blame for not making an effort
WHY wd you b interested in such a child? hes not a man hes a six yr old! STOP wasting your thoughts on such a baby! get yourself a REAL MAN!!
I'd let it go. 4 years? He's avoiding you? Nah.....
Hey Mark, it's been a minute, my brother! Pray that all is well. I totally agree with this message definitely an on time message.
I appreciate the clarification because I’m already shy and passive and I do think men Don’t think I’m interested and it’s interesting to try a bit and see if they start to lead
Thanx
Great UA-cam. Thank you
Needed this today 🙏 thankyou Mark
I totally agree.
And in the process of waitin u learn more thing about yourself...things like getting t9 know the person from gods view and not just a shallow ..i like him..and most of the time god does things like this because there are issues in your life and character than needs to be disiplined before u can be a godly wife..if u cant even wait 2 weeks how are u going to handle things in a marriage..or wil you just push a agenda...anyways these are things he taught me while waiting..he taight me im a problem to
Thankyou so much for this.. God bless
Thanks Mark but I feel irritated right now. I can't be bothered and am not praying. Am tired . The love is gone.
The thing about being berated from the pulpit hits home. At a previous church I attended, the pastor made it seem like us men could never do anything right. He was a cool dude though but hearing from the pulpit how it seemed like we as men always were wrong somehow really messed with my mind
u shd tell him his msg was wrong and unbiblical! then strongly consider going to another church; u think hes cool? he sounds woke/evil to me...
@@Lauren-vd4qe I'm sure he meant well in encouraging men to be better men but at the same time, to have it be balanced out so that women receive correction too would've helped. It makes it seem like women are inherently morally perfect and us men can only hope to achieve that moral perfection someday. I regret now not saying anything to him about it
@@JohnBrown-ig5nc did u leave that church and go elsewhere?
@@Lauren-vd4qe I moved to a different town last year so I'm no longer going there
@@JohnBrown-ig5nc smart
i wish i know your channel when am still on my 20-30s... but yes i believe everything is good in His time.. so, if i know this just now, its align with His time for me...
I wish you would’ve added in that if the woman isn’t comfortable with it how to tell him no and not to be afraid of saying absolutely not. Girls could take this as let the guy do whatever he wants but he could abuse that power and I’ve seen it many times. Hopefully the guys are getting taught how to be respectful back.
Just say your not looking for a relationship & your focusing on this or that. Be polite and keep it moving.
I have been seeing this amazing woman for a few months now, and i feel she is amazing. How and when do i know to attempt to take ot to the next level? We can talk for hours on end, and i just dont want to mess things up
Have you asked her on an official date? If you have already talked that much she could be waiting for you to make an official move. Fear of messing up is real and I get the nerves. However, be honest with how you feel! Being direct and precise in your communication with her will go a long way. Even if you make a mistake, if she genuinely cares for you, she won’t necessarily leave you for that. When you are decisive and godly, it will generally produce more respect from a godly woman.
@danielm4949 we have been out several times, and I have never gotten the impression that she isn't having a good time. It is sometimes difficult to connect with all of the things going on, but we always do manage. Just trying to time stating how I feel, and praying seeking guidance
That she can talk to you for hours is a very good sign. All the best
@@JC50-joy thanks!
Just talk.
If you're both bound for marriage in the future, the relationship you two have will not last whether you confess to her or not. Because once marriage happens for one or both of you, your friendship will immediately be gone.
So helpful 😊
I’ll give some very practical, politically incorrect advice as well… Get in the best shape you possibly can, look your absolute best, and stop being hyper career focused. Be what a man wants to be with.
funny cause this is where God has exactly led me to 🤣
I'm inclined to send u a wee warning... a woman can go to the gym everyday and look fabulous but never read her bible... #womanafterGodsheart
@@RachelRuthRoss scripture says, bodily exercise profits little rather exercise your cell phone to godliness
@@RachelRuthRoss This has nothing to do with anything I originally said. Absolutely nothing. Unfortunately, Christian messages often downplay the importance of physical attraction.
Thanks for the advice but even this doesn't mean success. as Halle Berry, Beyonce, Nicki and Cardi B....many beautiful in shape women have been given the shaft. Get in shape for god and you
praying for your channel--thank you and God bless you :)
I don’t know I am not going to pursue any girl or chase any girl. I’m not giving them my strength to do stuff like that she hast to chase me as she really really wants me. That’s how I’m gonna go from things if somebody really wants to be with me then I’m gonna pursue her because she’s pursuing me
😂 what if she feels the same way...not going to pursue you unless you pursue her?
You've got it backwards, booboo.
I wish to add a thing or two to this:
There are some men, me for example, that have become sick and tired of so called "godly women" that approach men openly stating that their ultimate goal is a relationship and marriage.
Nothing wrong with that part, but...
These same women are not godly at all, but they specifically seek out a man of God, knowing that they are very open with their hearts and lives, and will treat the woman they love to the best of their ability, including financially.
These "women" know enough phrases and scripture to come off as legitimate and sincere, and try to suck their target into believing that he's found the right one.
Then almost immediately she's demanding that he proves his love and ability to provide for his bride to be with gifts of hundreds to thousands of dollars.
In time they, like myself burns out on the seemingly endless onslaught of artificial women of God, that makes endless promises, meanwhile demanding that he is going to be an endless source of income for her...
So if a true woman of God enters his life, she has her work cut out for herself, she has to convince him that she's not one more of those treasure hunters masquerading as a spiritual woman.
This may very well be why some men aren't as interested in a woman's pursuits as she may wish. Not that he's not interested, but may be thinking to himself that one more of those kind of women has found him.
I just wanted to reply.. if I love a man .. n he loves ME
.. that’s the most important..
Money is not the issue..
The only reason I want a man that believes in God .. that’s one thing that God asks..
Both of you believe in ME..
You don’t change people..
God changes you from the inside out for that person..
Both of you.. Sometimes
God saves the Best for Last..
You can either have a nice life together or be my yourself.. I call it a Leap if Faith.. Honestly, you can only carry one purse at a time..
Don’t need a Coach bag for
Church.. or fishing or walking on the beach..
Material things wear out..
I like cars but my Grandson
Owns a carlot.. so Good deals are always showing
Up.. I like a golf cart .. I am different n God knows it.
So whoever Loves Me ..
It will be How I am ..Not really interested in Money
.. rather have a loving Fun
Relationship without stressing over money..
God will provide.. he has in my Life.. It can happen..
No not looking for a Man..
Kinda already engaged n
Praying it works out..
Just had to make a comment. God made US
All different.. I think God for that….he knows who to put together.. yes he does..
But all women or ME are not interested in money…
🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💪💯
Another thing.. scriptures come out of the Bible..
God’s love letter to US ..
To show US his Love for Us
N have love n forgiveness
Because he shows it to US.
Just wanted to share..
Thank you for listening…🙏
@@ForeverTogether219
I really appreciate your words. Thank you very much!
I can certainly believe this, absolutely. For me, it’s Godly Christian mean who only want a certain “type”.
They don’t care about a woman’s heart. As a matter of fact, their super strict criteria takes over them so a woman who genuinely had a heart for God and relies on Him (God) first for complete love and satisfaction doesn’t stand a chance. I don’t exhaust myself anymore. Whatever will be, will be. Forgive me, this is not a rant or meant to be negative, it’s not. I really appreciate your comment.
😊
There's nothing logical or loving about a relationship which demands you give an incredible amount of time, money, and energy to your partner while they offer nothing of equal or greater value in return.
Thanks 🙏🏽
So good!
righton time
My question is this. Why does a woman who loves God enough to worry about what the Bible says about the situation. “Love” a man who isn’t even pursuing her? ❤ Love?
Maybe because God plants seeds in our hearts about 'loving' someone to help prepare us for what he has in mind and needs to do in us for healing?
No point pursuing unless you have a certain mold they wont accept you. As a man we should fast pray practice SR the right woman if there is one will be attracted to our lives God will open the heart of both individuals it wont be forced and neither would have to try that hard or play games. If its not meant to be so be it
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Hey Mark, I'm not sure you'll see this or respond, but as a recent newborn in Christ female, I've been having this "dance" of a relationship with a man that although he hasn't yet converted to Christ to my knowledge, ever since I met him, we've always been equally yoked in whatever we have believed in, and since I've been growing closer to God, he seems to be doing the same. So I have a suspicion that as I evolve, there's a good chance he'll evolve with me too.. but here's the thing. We both committed grave mistakes in our relationship prior to growing closer to God... He used to drive me insane, and so I accidentally insulted him all the time, and even became a little violent when that was not the real me, he then was so scared of me apparently, that even though he had given me many chances to change my excessively aggressive nature, yet I failed every time and would get triggered over the littlest things, he ended up entertaining a woman (a jezebel type if you will) who started talking to him, pursuing him relentlessly, and getting in between us. She said lies to him about me, because I tried to seek her help to see if I could fix things with my person thinking that she was an honest new coworking friend of his, and I cried out to her asking for help with him, and she betrayed me, lied to him about her supposedly feeling scared of me and my "aggressive nature" when I couldn't have been more humble and humiliated to her, and she used what she knew about me and us, against us to finally separate us. Long story short, we fully separated, he didn't want to even give me a proper chance anymore after that and kept entertaining this jezebel. Unfortunately he got her pregnant and they had the baby. But he's been MISERABLE ever since. She has been trying to claim him as her man, by posting endless pictures with him, when he hasn't done the same with her AT ALL. And when he was with me, he basically wanted the whole world to know about us, he wanted us to do UA-cam videos and we did, and his profiles were public with tons of pictures with me. He is not like this with her at all. So he's had this profile with an anonymous name but that I know is him, and he's been sharing and pouring his heart out anonymously for me to learn what he's been going through for almost 2 years now.. For a little bit of time towards the end of 2022 I entertained this "game" of his with his secret messages because #1. I had no idea he was still with her, #2. I had NO IDEA whatsoever they had had a baby, and #3. I thought I was encouraging him to pursue me. But this all ended up backfiring because he and I constantly needed more and more and more reassurance about each other, and nothing ever moved forward. Until I learned that he was still with her, and that the reason was because they had a baby! Suddenly all the posts he was making about not being sure if to stay in a marriage because of the children, started to make sense.. since I had no idea why he was making posts about that... So I decided to stop encouraging his online "games", and went completely silent on him... I kept posting stuff not directed to him anymore, until I ended just closing my profiles and becoming fully inactive in social media, because I thought this would be the only way he'd understand that if he still loves me, he has to approach me directly and stop with the online nonsense... But recently before I closed my Facebook, I had a random discussion with someone and I know my person saw it. I was really hurt by what the other person said, and I was feeling very low and insecure for a few days, and suddenly my person started posting things to reassure me of his love and saying things like why he will always return to his true love and he doesn't say things like these often at all. It felt major and it gave me a lot of reassurance. However I've been getting deep feelings that he's feeling a little bit insecure lately, since I closed my Facebook, and he may need some type of reassurance that I'm still interested, but even though I appreciated his reassurance towards me the other day, I don't think is appropriate for me to validate him back if he is still with that other woman, and hasn't taken proper action to approach me directly in person face to face like he should. I feel it would be ignorant of me to keep entertaining any games of this kind. But due to many reasons, although this man and I have committed TONS of mistakes with the other, I've had an overpowering and supernatural feeling that this man might be the one God wants for me, and he has felt the same towards me in the past. I'm really sorry for such a long story, but if you have any words of encouragement or suggestions I would greatly appreciate it. Thank you so much Mark 🙏♥
If you a person, you wants to know as much as you want about them. If the man is an introvert, I think he needs encouragement from a woman to pursue her.. But if a man is an extrovert, I think the woman can wait a bit for rhe man to pursue her.
Some men want relationship but are scared. The new, unprecedented demonic agenda. The woman should give him a nudge to start as friends.
Not worth wasting time on someone who is not showing interest. Keep living life and keep options open until the right man does step up. Of course, be friendly in the meantime. Never know when God will allow things to click.
Lol In our group work , I actually did asked my ex opinions if he had anything to add to it , but yeah-- he said "Nothing" 😑. I start to doubt what the lord expect me to deal with my ex , because he's way too passive. I even doubt if he is even worth "the waiting". Oh God, just randomly spawn some handsome guys passing by , I would forget my ex immediately hahaha (I'm joking don't angry at me).
I obey the lord our God , ofc. The relationship has ended , what is he trying to acheive by keeping my ex in my circle? I did asked him tho , I did everything ppl do after post break up. And-- none of them work only gotten worse , so I decided to keep my ex in my life.
I think I take your #2 and #3rd advice for now "Response accordingly , and never expect much of him" for a period of time. If he doesn't make any moves then I'd better forget him. He ain't worth the waiting.
a man should pursue a woman, in a hetero dynamics, shame i cannot understand this, but the advices are noted, thank you.
I think woman not supposed to chase man, we can make a hint, but Godly man will initiate and clearly mentioned what is his intention.
Right! Way back in the day, women would drop their handkerchief.
Amen 🙏✝️🙏💛
Got dumped after a 3yrs. 9mo.
He left after thinking about it since November of last year. Dropped the bomb last month on his b-day. Took him a whole month to follow through cuz I guess he wanted to let me down easy. I've been no contact since Sat. 06/18.
Background:
We have broken up before, twice, and it was because of me. I was young (19/20yrs.) And a little petty, and wanted things too quickly. Both times I reached out and apologized. I even tried to let him down with the "we should stay friends" since we still worked together. I couldn't handle seeing him be up
1st time - after 2 months I broke it off because he "wasn't acting like were close friends", he was more reserved in the beginning. As well as some other things.
More background - we have been classmates since elementary school and in high school eneded up working at the same place. He moved to another state for a couple months then came back. And that's when I became interested in him. But we still weren't friends. He invited me out 1 time and I declined, later on I invited him out to hang out. We talked steady for 5 months before becoming official. And even them we still weren't "best friends", which is pretty much what I wanted off the bat.
*also we don't work together anymore, he quit a while back.
2nd- was a couple months after the first. my mom told me she didn't want me dating till I was 22. And in the beginning he wasnt really a Christian (I was but not that serious, and he was carrying the title. Were both doing much better now) which was kind of a deal breaker for me but not that much as I went back.
* limerinse
Even more background- yes we are both Christian but he's now Baptist and I was raised charismatic/pentecostal. Some of what we believe is a deal breaker for him.
Problem - if I could rate our relationship of 3 years on a scale from 1 -10, I would rate it a 9.99 (cuz no relationship is perfect). That 1% is what caused him to let go.
(Marriage? We agree. (He was even ready to propose, I told him to wait till I finished school. He brought up his issue a couple days before my final.)
Communication? Has inproved much more than in the past.
Fun? Its always fun when hes aound (at least for me)
Careers/jobs? It's compromisable as we're both still young and the fiture isnt set.
Children? We almost agree. We agree on how they should be raised but not what they should believe. I said the future kids can go to his church, he pretty much said that's not good enough. If my parents and i don't drop some of our beliefs then he's ending it.)
His personality -
Is pretty much described in Ken's video
ua-cam.com/video/4NmeRI40YjU/v-deo.html
Pretty much to the T.
My problem - as much as I love him and want to get back together, on some level I want to let him go. It's been a week since the break up. He also told me during the break up that he "wanted to stay friends" and that he still loved me. I told him during the break up that if he wanted me as a friend he would have to wait at least 3-6 months. We both said our "I'm sorry and I wish I had done better" at the end. Since he also said " I love you" I said it back. I also need to give him back something but I'm thinking of sending it back through mail. Should do that or find another way?
think my voice recorder picked up something
thats just NOT a congruent workable relationship at all. ASK GOD to BRING you the right person, then u wont have any qualms, discard this dude!
You’ve just written an extensive comment about your situation, indicating that strong feelings for this person still exist.
If this person is not the one for you (knowing that info comes from the Holy Spirit after prayer) then it’s best to physically avoid contact with them and return their item by mail. Remaining as friends may result in feeding lingering feelings of infatuation, which may make it even more difficult for you to move on with your life.
@SpiritOfOrange thank you. That's pretty much what I've been doing. It was at the time that I had watched another video by 'coach lee' and he had mentioned the importance of no contact. That's why I was wondering if I might as well meet him and give him back his things since it's still fresh. But it's almost a month since the breakup so the only option is through mail.
@@banananna411 u can do that or put his stuff in a bag and put it near his front door then leave.
Why does he call everyone else brother or sister but not me? Does he see me as something else?
Follow Ruth's example.
Right now he's a mess
but the Holy Spirit has said "wait" numerous times
so i'm not sure if it's me or Him speaking but yeah
Sometimes it seems to me that being available makes the man uninterested.
Then you're attracting the wrong kind of guys.
If you eventually want to end up in a long-term monogamous relationship, but you aren't attracting the kind of guys that would be capable and ready for such a relationship, then you're not interacting with the right guys.
Men that only want to go after women who are taken or married are high on the rush of being able to "steal" a "high quality woman" and even "steal someone else's partner". These do NOT make for good long-term partners.
ONE VALUABLE THING SHE SHOULD DO IS RUN!! 🏃🏽♀️ run for her LIFE!! Chase after God and don’t look back.
This message is a trick of the enemy! Thirst trap!
Let him go. Let him go. Let him go.
I lost a guy I famcied from University because I spoke to much and he was not interested at all in speaking about himself but he said he enjoys listening to me and he listened to me for hours and he leaned in close to me to hear me speak. I told him that attractive guys like him scare me no offence and he said no offence but another girl came along later on and he courted and married her
Did he love Jesus?
@@GloriaVSimon-ro7nn He loved Jesus very much and had a lot of biblical knowledge and wisdom
@@ALC77787 oh... Hey... I consider you are in a better position than me... At least u didn't get attached to him.... So it won't be very difficult to fall in love again. Oh I wish I was you. Right now my season of life is sooo bad... I think it'll make u feel better... I dated an unbeliever who was an athiest.... Literally for 7 months.... During that process i idolized him.... Put him in a pedestal.... Put him above God... U know what I was at that season of life.... I was so so so convicted but that "love" for him blinded me.... Things were not very smooth after 3 months... I started showing emotional unstablity.... Possesiveness.... Obsession... And i even fell into temptation to be physical with him... So u can understand how attached I got to him... Eventually a month ago we broke up... It was and is still difficult and I have to see him everyday literally because he is my classmate and he doesn't approach me or pursues me... I actually want him to pursue me and approach me... I'm in that bottom rock season of my life regarding relationship.... Yes I'm healing in Christ.... Instead of making God my priority... I'm learning to put God as priority in EVERYTHING!... it's not easy... Because at times I feel like I'm moving on but then he comes in my dreamss... Everything feels real... We patch up.. get physical etc etc... And it breaks my heart everyday. So I am very much glad for u that u didn't get attached to him (I hope so) especially physically.... I really want you to take my advice. If u ever fall in love or get into a relationship..... until or unless both of you know that you will marry each other... Don't make him your habit like I did. Always keep clear boundaries.... Don't get physical (holding hands or hugging or even kissing) that really messed me up because suddenly out of nowhere i get triggered and it hurts very bad. So yeh .. that's my testimony... I hope it helps you in the future and you find an amazing man who loves Jesus.. and who will love you like himself 💞
@@GloriaVSimon-ro7nn hey i struggle(d) with being super attached to a guy (was also physical with him.. i never thought of it as a sin but obv its different now) I am still somehow attached eventhough we broke up almost a year ago. I recently prayed that god would take out all the spirit of him thats left in me (& the spirit of other people he had done it before..) this prayer was a really powerful one.. i felt it in my whole body
Next guy: don’t tell him he scares you. Let him know if he makes you feel safe! Advice from Nick Frietas. (US Congressman)
In the Same regard for
Yeshua Ha Mashiach that He wants us to pursue Him and accept His proposal to us to become Married in Spirit, Trust, and Truth through Surrendering to His Will and to become like Him and become one with Him
Let women pursue who they want to pursue. Let women make decisions for themselves who they want to date. This teaching is based out of insecurity that a woman won't choose you.
no one is stopping a woman from doing things. Rather, the advice is that a woman will fail because that's not how God designed. You're free to disobey God. He allows that option. But we all reap what we sow.
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger i doubt God is that insecure
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger It's advice isn't it, nothing prescribed in the Bible, like you explained. So how could there be any 'disobedience' then?
In Jesus’ name amen!
Does this apply to being cheated on?
What if god is telling u not to pursue. But wait to for them to pursue u. And u know what their names are
What if the man is a godly man and knows that you love him but still not pursuit
There is no mention of this “pursuing “ business on the scriptures. Furthermore, the notion that a man should be in the never ending pursuit of his wife is absurd. The wedding is a statement that they each may take each other for granted - literally. That’s not the same thing as not appreciating each other. A man cannot lead if he is behind his wife/girlfriend pursuing her. That is the opposite of leadership.
He’s out here getting tattoos, I’m sitting here feeling disappointed/concerned
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You would continue to be disappointed if you continued to wait for that man. When someone shows you who they are, believe them because it's not going to change!
Why? Why are Christian men not good enough?
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I have someone special. We talk personally, which is better, but I get so worried when he doesn't text for a day.
He is a Godly man. He loves Jesus very much.
Should I text him if he doesn't text for a day?
Yes. You gotta show you're interested, too. Maybe he's waiting to hear from you first from time to time.
@@lucylucy2171 thanks for answering. It wasn't the LORD'S will for us.
@@ELOHIMenkathy2015 oh no problem. I pray you find peace in your wait time as you allow God to wot. Im in the same boat, except it's my husband who I've been separated from for over 1 year. I am pursuing him and not vice versa
@@lucylucy2171 Shalom sister. Thank you so much. I speak the Name of Jesus over your relationship. May His will be done. He alone satisfies us. May our hearts be found secured in the LORD. The LORD bless you ❤️ Be strong in the LORD 🙌💖
women can pursue men as well , plz like
Grow up and do the pursuing yourself.
I don't understand the whole pursuing thing , chasing someone is not in Eastern Orthodox , we have groups of people, people take an interest in someone , man or woman , woman can ask , why can't Evangelical women? Leadership ? is a woman a child?
I wondered if this is more an American culture thing...(I'm not American) though I can follow the logic of it and agree mostly with it, it sometimes comes across as a bit crampy. I think people are unique and things may work uniquely for them, meaning I think it doesn't necessarily have to go by the 'rules' allways
Mark I don’t think you know how funny you are, and that’s what makes it so funny “never wait forever for a man to pursue you” that really tickled me 😂
I know sisters waiting YEARS for a man whose shown no interest in them. Crazy!
Master still waiting for you.
Mark, is it OK for a Christian single man to marry a single mom who is born again?
Any consequences of doing it between the couple especially when ex may be involved? Advice please.
What kind of question is this?? What does her being a single mom have to with anything if she’s a Christian??
@@chimereballard9609 it has to do with her ex hubby. That's my concern.
@@ericmwenda6197 Eric, I would suggest that you speak with your pastor about this. There is alot of negative advice in these comments and Mark doesnt seem to be monitoring.
It's is biblical for a woman to love a man? It's the other way round, if u read Genesis 2:18, the Bible said it's not good for a man to be alone n therefore He will make him a helped*woman* and on verse 24 it says Therefore a man shall leave his father n mother and shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be one flesh, the bible never said the woman should persue a man, *NO* she can like someone due to their physic or kindness or other ; we have turn alot of God's words that's why we experienced alot of broken heart n homes, may Jesus Christ help us all🙏Amen
It's absolutely unclear to me how your first question would be answered in any way
Is this about married or unmarried? I am confused
Those are two totally DIFFERENT scenarios.
I heard wife and I hear him talking about single people in a group.
PRAY! I promise GOD gets thru to your husband way better than a nagger or a wife being his Holy Spirit!!! I speak with so many women that try to be their husbands Holy Spirit!
The man is actually the pursuer scripturally, scriptures says he who finds a wife, has found a good thing, and has obtained favour from God. You found because you looked for. The job of a man is actually to find while that of a woman is to keep. So if a woman is not finding, it is because she is not structured to do so, and when a man can't keep is because he doesn't have the capacity to do so. So please let's understand this difference in gender and stop mincing word... Thank you
I will never fall for any man who will not pursue me bcos I never fall for a man until he show up and step up. Problem is some men are good to show up but soon show that that's all they are good at
the soul is gender neutral term
Feminism has damaged the process of the pursuit of a woman by a man.
When it's your husband who stopped pursuing?