1. He needs to be ready. 2. He needs to know that he can provide for you. 3. He needs to feel confident that he is not going to hurt you. 4. He needs to feel sexual chemistry with you. 5. He needs to feel loved & accepted for who he really is. 6. He needs to believe that you are his partner in life. 7. He needs to feel like he can live his life purpose with you.
I have never met or been with a guy that wanted to provide for me. In fact, opposite has been true. I have an X who loved to hurt me and watch me cry. I wish I could meet a man with these 7 needs!
Imelda Hernandez: Yes, learn from this video what a healthier man who actually LOVES his wife or girlfriend thinks, says, and does, and if you meet an idiot guy who doesn't treat you this way, leave asap. There are much better guys than you met. I swear! Raise your standards, don't accept any crappy treatment. Guys will respect you more for that.
Imelda Hernandez I'm a bit late to the game here, but to give you some hope. There are a large group of men out there like this, looking for these things. We just keep out distance & watch from afar. We approach when we see it healthy to approach. I tell these young guys never to expect a good woman to appear in their unhealthy lives. I'd say it's the same for women. Good men will look in the window & keep on stepping if they see a mess. Clean up your life which may be a work in progress & likely odds will go up to be approached by something healthy & good. And drop any man that enjoys hurting you or plays with you like a cat. You are an object to him, like a cat playing with a mouse. You are the object to torment, he has dehumanized you. He doesn't respect you or see you as a human being with your own independent feelings, thoughts & dreams. This is not a man but a narcissistic boy with a sex drive.
Thank you, Grant. My life is healthy and good. I guess it's just a matter of Devine timing! Also, I completely agree with you regarding narcissistic boys. I was with one for seven years--narcissistic sadistic demon who preys on empaths like me. Many blessings to you!
Don't show a man that you're are deeply in love with a man too early. It's frightens them. Challenge them, let them fight for you, don't give It all away.
emajon What would too early be exactly, a few weeks a few months? I mean if he likes you and you like him but want to be chased for too long then he will think you don’t care about him. Not sure how long is too long to have him chase you? Thoughts??
I think not letting your emotions get the better of you and running away with them is the key. It's very easy in the early stages to believe that you've found the perfect person and that it's definitely love because it's common to project a fantasy onto a person and that can blind you from seeing everything that is that person and keeping a rational mind. I just finished with a guy (not in a relationship but dating) who, at the start, I had believed to be 'the one'. Looking back now he was absolutely not right for me but I definitely think it was a good thing not to rush into a relationship but instead spend a long time dating and getting to see what he was really like. I honestly think that as long as you're honest with the person and communicate with them, if they are a mature and sensible person then they should be able to deal with it. If they can't respectfully and civilly handle you being honest with them then they are not mature enough to start a relationship. It's not about playing games or giving mixed signals. I suppose if you think you're in love with someone pretty early on and you think you should tell them then of course you have to live your own truth. I've just personally had the experience where in the early stages, it was true that I liked him and he liked me back so we dived right in.(this is a different guy, we were actually together) But I've come to realise there's a lot more to a serious relationship than just the immediate feelings. Particularly in my case we fell for each other because we were both quite depressed and insecure with ourselves and the affection and attention from each other filled that void; it was true that the feelings were there but where they came from, whether a relationship the smartest thing for both of us, and whether or not we'd be compatible in the long term was not considered.
I say enjoy yourself! Don't good back out of fear! Dive in and give it all you got! Hiding your inner emotions isn't going to benefit anything. The beginnings are AMAZING, if you let them be. Why who'd you try and stuff that? Men want to be loved too! And if hee afraid, not being true to yourself isn't doing you, him, or a chance at a relationship any good. Enjoy yourself for what it's worth and live your life in love, not in fear. Letting your fears control your living is not living. They're an incredible gift; embrace them!
How do I get a man to love me and keep me my last boyfriend for six month who I love dearly left me .I always treat him so well take him to work get up at five in the morning make his lunch pay his cell phone bill. Give him a cell phone for Christmas in the BED room that is the best part I think of him every day he never call me. To tell me the reAson why. But he always tell me people is telling him things about mebroken hearted
@@patriciagarrett7478 ...stop doing those things. His purpose is to serve you first. Those things that you're doing must be earned by him showing up and being a man. Best of luck to you!
@@patriciagarrett7478 you're chasing girl. You're chasing after him and while men want to be appreciated they don't want to be treated like the prize. They want to believe their partner knows who she is to the degree that he feels he should always be on his best behavior to please her. He's a man, he likes to provide and he wants to please. You don't need to mommy him for him to love you, men want a woman who is feminine, charming, sweet,kind, but also confident and secure in herself, who knows when to put her foot down and maintain her own boundaries or let HIM lead, not a mommy who coddles him. He wants to earn your love step by step. Remember: what's easy is never worth it and what's worth it is never easy. Make him work for it,keep it playful and make it a challenge and just be you. Be appreciative but don't be a doormat. A relationship is a 2 way street. Also, never let a man tell u he doesn't want you twice, you can do better girl and you deserve better. Now you know, and like the rest of us you'll learn as you educate yourself, practice,and try your best. No one is perfect, we've all been there. Give yourself some grace, we're all knew to this life, just figuring it out as we go along. Stay beautiful girl! I Hope this helps ❤️
Mat when you first said number seven, "he needs to feel like he could live his purpose with you" my immediate response within myself was, "what if he feels I'm holding him back?" Then I remembered what you said about remembering a time I felt confident when I made a decision... As soon as I brought back the memory of the time and place that I use in this exercise, I realized I was being hard on myself. Then I remembered when, about a month ago, my significant other told me, "you have no idea how much I appreciate your patience and support." Thanks so much for your help, Mat. Truly.
I think that a really important step in falling in love, one that has to be overcome in order for a man to feel secure in the relationship, is feeling that they understand you. they understand how you operate and why you react to things the way you do, how you process the world. If you feel that your partner understands you it alleviates feeling fear that you might be misunderstood and judged and possibly end up hurting them with your actions more which all only cause more insecurity. Feeling like people understand and accept you as you are is crucial. If they can support you in your personal growth, leaving enough individual space so as not to manipulate it, that's even better. Also, communicating this understanding and acceptance is very helpful for feeling secure in the relationship
I gave him his space and he is back. Things are better, more connected and he appreciates more than before. I am glad I gave him the space to deal with a very stressful issue. He only took a week to work it out. Thank you. You helped me a lot.
Wow that story about your friend in the car really touched me. I was ALWAYS fearful/criticizing my ex about his reckless driving (and a lot of things in general). Whenever he told me about somthn bad that hapnd; my first thought was ALWAYS - well what did YOU do to mess it up? He thought of me as a total nag. Whereas the guy I am currently with; he can almost do no wrong in my eyes. Whenever somthn goes wrong, I get very defensive of him and mad at the OTHER ppl involved. Watching this vid makes me realize it may also go the other way too? Ladies, if you're always criticizing/nagging your man - maybe he just isn't the one for you? It could be a sign of a bigger issue that you do not trust him or subconsciously are not comfortable with him!!
I totally agree with this!!!!! I've totally had this same experience and in reality it's because he's broken trust or hurt us or lost our respect somehow (for me it was when I told (anytime, multiple issues) him what bothered me or hurt me and he laughed at me, criticized me, didn't care and didn't change a thing) so I think you're right, absolutely, when a man really shows love to you like he LISTENS and CARES about what bothers you or what you like, etc. you trust him and if you mutually respect and are good with each other physically I think we women back our man 100% (am I right?) (a different guy, totally cared about me, I felt loved and trusted him and I ALWAYS defended him fiercely if anyone hinted anything negative about him) but when we don't I think it's the deeper issues that he's not the one because if he doesn't love you or is not mature enough to understand how to respect your boundaries or care about you, it won't get better later and you will still not trust him later either!
Great advice!! I lived on my own for 10 years while dating a lot and now have been married for 24 years. We are still in love!! So I know both being single for along time and being married along time. This guy has very good advice!
Protected 'a man would rather have his arm chewed off by an alligator then make a woman cry' then that needs to be told to a hell of a lot of males out there who make a woman cry and don't care. Wish that was true what he says!
Thanks Mat for all the videos you make. You have no idea that the things you say have actually happened in my life. I wish I saw this video 1 year back coz it would have saved me some heart ache and crying. You are just a savior. Please please keep making videos to help women feel in control in relationships !! Thank you Thank you.
A guy can fall in love before he's accomplished everything, but he wont marry or "settle down" until he's ready, I'm 20 going on 21, and so is my boyfriend, we've been together since 17 going on 18, we don't live together but we've decided to wait to marry and continue dating for a few more years as were still young. I definitely would be ready to marry sooner than my man but he really feels he needs to have everything in place for marriage just like mentioned in the video. Right now were just trying to reach our goals and enjoying being in love and having fun together making memories. This video really is the truth because alot of men ive known family friends say the exact same thing about settling down, and what they need in place before they do. If he's the right guy for you then he's worth the wait. But obviously never let the wrong guy make you wait
When I was in my mid 20's I didn't feel ready to move my relationship into a marriage. The truth is however that I wasn't ready to receive or love someone properly at that time. The financial and circumstantial aspects of a solid marriage should be secondary (imo). The career and life planning can be developed while together in a marriage where both parties are people truly in love and where the two people complement each other as life partners.
Thank you, Mathew, for this video! Wow that really opened my eyes and really got to know more of what the guy wants. Especially this tip, "he needs to feel like he could live his purpose with you." I never thought of that in the way you explained it so thank you again.
every boyfriend I have had has tried to tell me he loves me within DAYS of beginning to date...I know there are gonna be people saying "well stop complaining" but as someone who is actually really jumpy and hesitant about saying that myself until it really means something to me it has put me in some VERY awkward positions. Why do men do this??? I'm sorry but there is no way that is possible within three days of meeting a person
I'd like to know too, my man told me the same after 10 days of dating, so I grew very skeptical about him, so I gave him hell for a year to prove if he did, needless to say, we got engaged, but it was so weird to me. When he told me he loved me, I said thank you, lol. Love God, love your brethren, love yourself and all will set to place. God bless our minds.
That is definitely possible. I don't believe in "love at first sight", but it doesn't have to take a long time to make yourself believe that someone is just right.
The question is how to completely open up emotionally to the one you love without fear of feeling rejected or feeling like they really don't love you or worrying about what they might think or how he would respond. Being vulnerable and exposing true feelings without so many expectations. And this goes for them also, to know how to do this with ease. It's like you know what you want to communicate to them when their not around but when your around them you freeze up and they do the same. Walls seem blocked and bottled up as the barriers to need to be brought down to feel a closer connection without the doubts of thinking everything is not going to work out and just fall apart. Not being sure of what to say as the stakes seem so high to become closer on a deeper level. Especially if there's been past hurts in the relationship. When things have changed in the realationship where It makes you feel stupid around them to behave in such a manner of holding in the feelings that need to be expressed especially when you already have known them for a long time and have been in the relationship for a long time already. Basically getting out of your head and getting into the ❤️ heart with honesty without holding back.
Matt, could you please make a video with conversational questions that help potential partners get to know each other on a deeper level? Thank you for your time.
Thank you so much for this amazing free gift of helping us love ourselves completely with this 21 day exercise. I love it! You really bring so much positivity to our lives and really help us to get better!
I am a singer in a band, and I have been for many years. My question is, how do I be in a relationship with a man without him getting "jealous" of what I do? It seems like every man I go out with either gets jealous of the attention I receive OR he wants to try and be in the band that I am already in (like, I want to play guitar on a few songs). I don't want to compete with my men. Yet it seems every man has an inner rock star who wants to come out and inevitably gets upset with my success. You say men want you to pursue your own purpose and make your life amazing, but what if they get jealous of your purpose and success?
This is So True, my friend is happily married and This is exactly how her husband is. He loves her, he is a good provider, he protects her and wants her to be HAPPY. They are life partner and they tell each other everything.
Thank you Matt - I love how much your video messages are delivered with positivity and love. I've started dating again just in the past year after a long while focusing on my career and some personal development. Now that I'm back in the game, I find these kinds of videos super helpful for navigating the annoying moments that crop up - they're helpful to keep things light and not take the bumps in the road so much to heart. But more and more I feel like my issue in finding love is timing. When I get a magical connection, it seems to me that the timing is off. He's not ready or about to leave. Or in the past I wasn't ready. What's a girl to do if her love life is a series of bitter-sweet mistimed connections?!?!?
Hello Mathew, I usually don't leave comments but I think it's always important to show appreciation to people. So thank you for your knowledge! You seem to be a great guy. Keep doing what you're doing! Kind Regards
The first post is so valuable. I know I have twisted myself into knots, wondering what I might have done, to put a man off - but if he isn't ready.... Thanks for this, Matt; it was what I needed to hear, today
I have met a man and he is very deep thinker. He recently told me he wants me. Now, I took this to mean physically, so I told him the physical part would come as I get more comfortable. He then clarified and said, no you are misunderstanding me. I want you, meaning I want all of you, not just physically, while that is nice ,but just you. I have never had a man tell me this before. He then went on to give me examples. Amazing.
Thank you so much Mat, I can watch & learn from you all day! How do you make a man feel confident that they aren't going to hurt you?... I'm pretty darn confident we nail all the rest. Isn't there always some uncertainty?
Mat, your videos especially this one has helped me understand quite a lot. Everything you have said, especially this video, my man has shown me. My previous relationships didn't work and I have never had a positive example of one. So I want to make this one work and be positive. Your video about making long distance relationships work was one of the first ones I saw. It has helped. Thank you
Question: How do you overcome shyness around the opposite sex? In my instances, men. I've never had a positive male role-model in my life, so now, whenever I'm near or conversing with one, especially one I might find attractive, I freeze up or avoid them altogether.
TheEternityForce Honey, just be yourself and smile, This may sound crazy but fake your confidence, I want you to see yourself as the beautiful woman you obviously are, Look in the mirror hun and find your best attribute and keep telling yourself your worthy and beautiful, Confidence men love and smiling, I am average old now hahaha but I still have men lusting over me, The secret? I am honestly just myself and I smile at everyone. That's a kiwi thing though being friendly. Good luck sweetie and if a man abuses you one time. You leave OK, this is important. A leopard doesn't change its spots remember that. Good luck hun xxxx.
@@nofybn7794 And that belief is what hurts you. How are you the ugliest person there is? Did you make it on Ripley's Believe it or not? Do you hold a record for world's ugliest person? Like, truly ask yourself if you're the ugliest person in the world. No? Then there must be at least one nice thing about you. Find that and focus on it.
At the bottom of this post even, Matt has a link for how to be more confident. Click on that, but also look into other videos on here, and also just doing a search. There is tons if great advice! But overall, take responsibility for your own happiness. Don't give anyone else that power! Look into what you can do to make yourself happy. And realize you deserve to be loved and respected and adored! No bad role model in your past can take that away from you because YOU are the ONLY one who can change that. And you can! And don't settle for anything! What will give you the strength is that you know you deserve better, and it will ONLY come when you stand up for yourself. And that is the right thing! It will be never wracking at first, but it gets better, and yuu can take baby steps if need be - it's like exercise because weaker "muscles" shake, and you can't always start at the heaviest weight. So treasure steps. Do little things that are a bit uncomfortable and daring, but aren't as threatening to you. You can also practice saying things to yourself, and that leads to easier face-to-face. Or take acting classes, which helps you stand up for yourself as well. And also study vulnerability and what it truly means to be it, and how powerful it is.
This collar and color look so great on You! (among all the other things) Best wishes for your family! Thank you for the generous time you also spend with us here.
Their was 1 lady that asked how do you over come shyness. Well my guy was VERY SHY he said he felt very relaxed with me and we hit it off in 5 minutes. It just worked. I really feel it was acceptance of him knowing what i know now.
Hi Mat, Thank you so for your help. I dont know what i did. But Life is funny. I have always been negative and now im positive and guys are coming to me. I was enjoying my retirement but now im living it with my man of 5 months. THANK YOU! He told me he loved me at 3 days into the relationship. I didnt understand, but now i do. We are perfect for each other. As perfect as people can be. Between God and you, you two made it happen. I Told him to wait for me to catch up. Now we are getting married New Years Day. We went to Dunkin Donuts on our first date. Sat and talked for 8 hours like we knew each other all our lives. Next night dinner out. And 3 days later we've been joined at the hip since then. THANK YOU!! I dont know how to explain it. Its been magic. We are both so GRATEFUL AND AMAZED HOW IT ALL HAPPENED.
Can you make some videos where you give advice to men??? Because all of them sorely need it!!! Women aren't the only ones with relationship problems. A lot of the problems are caused by the men in the relationships. Please address that. It would only be fair.
Drina totally true. So annoying how women are getting all the tips on how to satisfy a man! But perhaps the money is with women? Or perhaps this is to empower women to have control over our own love life? Instead of letting men take the lead and dominate the momentum. Know when to cut them lose, or raise our value.
I would think most of his viewers are women. Plus, his perspective is that of a mans. So what he is able to speak on most honestly is how men perceive women. There are lots of other videos from other youtubers who offer advice for men
dude no one said women are the only ones with relationship problems.. there are plenty of love coaches who coach men, and a lot of coaches that are currently coaching women used to coach men beforehand.
I totally agree with you on a most of these points. But with #2, if the man has issues with his masculinity, it shouldn't fall on the woman. If they're insecure with their capability to provide, then that is a personal soul search. We shouldn't have to give his manliness a cushion in order to secure his "love."
At 59 yrs old...this is ALL GREAT ADVICE! BUT, I need to know how to "HEAL from DOMESTIC VIOLENCE" in not 1 marriage, but 2....Looks like my plan to be alone until I die is my only answer. I have NEVER had a man treat me like what you are talking about...I have cried listening to several of these videos. THANK YOU for giving suh GREAT ADVICE to these younger ladies. I PRAY it keeps them in the right lane & not off course.
Great video. If a man decided to live his life single based on his previous hurts. What does change his mind to accept the unconditional love someone is already giving ?
Charlene Lawrence Love yourself no matter what. At the end of the day you go to bed with you. Your soul and mind live in your body. We shouldn't let men take away our love for ourselves. And other people for that matter. The world is full of toxic people.
Drina Ok how can I gain it back when I feel ugly I feel like I am not good enough for any man again...? Give me a hint that will help me feel beautiful again about my looks I used too? Sorry about bad spelling.
Be alone for a while. Date yourself to know yourself more. What you like and dislike, what pleases you or annoys you. This can only be done if you are not focused on someone else. Give yourself time to heal, eventually you will learn to love yourself and it will be liberating 😊 when you love yourself, you will not doubt or be too controlling to your next partner. You cannot give what you dont have, so love and accept yourself for all its strengths and weaknesses, and also forgive yourself for all mistakes that you have done. Goodluck 😊
Take up a hobby where it gives you confidence and be around like-minded people who will support you and make you feel beautiful. I'm in a bowling league, quilt and sewing clubs and I have so much fun. I often get invited to social events. I met ex at a bowling league and my current husband the same way but I've been married for over 25 years now and we both love each other very much.
I totally liked that I might be making someone feel constricted as opposed to feeling more open. Makes sense. I wouldn't want to be with anyone less either. ..so why expect it out of anyone else
Thank you for sharing your unique and helpful perspectives. I truly enjoy how you are transforming yourself as you help to transform others. It's quite beautiful and right!
I always say, there is someone for everyone!!! I had my someone for 20yrs. R.I.P. my love. I recently my someone, that could be my second one. He's sweet, funny, and makes me laugh. And i think i do the same for him!!!
Hi Mat!! Great video as always! Thank you so much for the amazing work you do. My question is: Could you do a video about how to let go when your heart is broken after a breakup? A kind of step by step guide or some practical exercises would be SO helpful as this topic is such a complex thing that only seems to work in theory. I think that going through heartbreak is such a difficult thing. But one obstacle I just cannot leave behind is the whole "letting go and get real closure"-thing. I would appreciate your thoughts on that so much!! Thank you :)
Love your videos Matt! They are so helpful and inspirational! My issue with my boyfriend is we can’t stop fighting 😩 And when we fight he never thinks he is wrong, and he always blames me. We love eachother very much but we can’t see eye to eye.
I came across your videos when i started to improve on me. Firstly thank you I have learn more than I have learned in the past 50 years. I come from 2 marriges... one my partner passed away the second ended in divorce. The latter I had trusted fully and never questioned anything and after 18 years discovered he had cheated for most of our time together. I was hurt more than I could verbalize and could not understand this. We never argued, i had implemented everything that a good wife should do, i beare his children and lets face it the sex was good too. But after the divorce i had beaten myself up.... what did i miss, what did i done wrong, and since 2008 i am not sure that i am good enough. Now i have met this gorgious man, he is caring, compasionate, interesting. Our past paths are like 95% the same and it feels like i know him forever. But because of my experiences i am sabbotaging my own happiness. How do i get through and over this?
This guy who I cut it off with the other day, was absolutely ok with hearing me cry. From the very beginning where he hurt me, to the very end. He never ever said a comforting word. Instead, he just said, It's all your fault, blame your tears solely on you! It was one of the reasons I knew we wouldn't make it together. He never cared. I like the idea Men would rather have their arm chewed off by an alligator than make a woman cry....but it doesn't work with some types.
Every time I listen to Matthew Boggs, I hear myself in my head, my man does this, my man does that, that is exactly how my man would react, my man says that So does my man read a lot about relationships or does he watch these videos? How is it this man of mine is seemingly so perfect We been talking for not quite six months and he told me he has no flaws. Other than that comment in and of itself, I'm inclined to agree with him after watching Matthew Boggs' videos
My question: am I too picky? I feel like I disqualify men so quickly and easily. When do I compromise? When do I accept flaws? What should be dealbreakers in determining compatibility?
I met this guy from a dating site. We've been communicating on and off for 7 months. I believe we have a certain connection otherwise we won't be talking that long. Finally we we've met recently. He is a nice guy though. we couldn't help it we became so intimate on our first meeting. However now I kinda notice that something has changed in him. We don't talk the way we used to. He has his excuses of being busy. Now I'm thinking of talking to him and tell him that whatever we have at this stage is just to stop it and move on.
Thts so true,i hv been married since 12 yrs no kids, a frd has been waiting 4 me since 3 yrs bt nw i feel.he lost interest,im separated filing 4 a divorce,SPARK isnt there, cn u gv an advice to rekindle the spark..i luv ur idea,Spot on v practical 👍👏👏😍😍🤞💚💞💖❤💜💕💚💙
Hey Matt thank you for your videos, they are helping me get through a tough time at the moment, and its providing some clarity after my recent dumping/ghosting. Two questions: 1) Is there a way to tell on a first date even, that he genuinely looking for a relationship? And how can you let that be clear to him without coming of as hmmmm intense? 2) I have achieved a lot of things in my life, lead a full life, outgoing etc, a lot friends etc telling me 'they can't believe I am single' (which I think we all hear) - can a woman intimidate a man or is that just something our 'friends' tell us? Should we accept this idea that maybe we are 'too much' for a man to handle?
5:19.... He told the same exact story about a guy driving in the car with his friends versus driving in the car with his in-laws. He said that when he was in the car with his friends and had to slam on brakes his friend said, "what are you doing?" But when he was in the car with his in-laws the same exact thing happened but they blamed the car in front of him. Now he's saying this happened to a man that had an ex-girlfriend and a current woman.
Hi Mathew,your videos are brill.I wonder if you could give some advice please.I met a wonderful man who I love dearly and want to support him soo much,he has an ex girlfriend who seems controlling and hate the effect she has on him as she tries to make him feel guilty.He is lovely and I know he doesn't want to hurt her.They have been apart for over 2 years,she knows about me .Its obvious what she is doing,I bite my tongue & calm as I support him as I trust him but I don't trust her.Really need some advice from a man's point of view that could help.😃.Thanks Mathew😃
I know this is an older video but I’ve been reading through the comments. Yes, he is talking about actual men, not boys. I had watched another video last night that really made the light go on for me. Our culture has changed drastically in that marriage and men in the home isn’t seen as very important. So boys grow up with a single mom. A woman is their example. So they don’t have a man to emulate. A man taking care of his family. Being truly masculine in what we expect men to do. And that made so much sense to me. That the example they come up in is feminine energy. Women being the worker and the provider and running the house. So they go out into the world looking for that- a woman to provide and cater to them and take care of everything. That’s not to say good men can’t come out of single mom homes, just that we’ve created a culture where it’s now more common for the woman to be the head of the house. So adult men are now expecting that more and more
My boyfriend and I really fall in love with each other. After numerous relationships we had, we never felt such connection with each other. We are Super compatible. But the only problem is that we are students and currently doing Long-distance relationship. How do we maintain such LDR and keep that excitement? ps: we never know when we can meet up again.
Great videos always! How do you get a man to make the first move, or is that necessary? Am I still conveying I am high value if I say I’d love to hang out sometime?
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1. He needs to be ready.
2. He needs to know that he can provide for you.
3. He needs to feel confident that he is not going to hurt you.
4. He needs to feel sexual chemistry with you.
5. He needs to feel loved & accepted for who he really is.
6. He needs to believe that you are his partner in life.
7. He needs to feel like he can live his life purpose with you.
Thank you!!!!
I have never met or been with a guy that wanted to provide for me. In fact, opposite has been true. I have an X who loved to hurt me and watch me cry. I wish I could meet a man with these 7 needs!
Imelda Hernandez: Yes, learn from this video what a healthier man who actually LOVES his wife or girlfriend thinks, says, and does, and if you meet an idiot guy who doesn't treat you this way, leave asap. There are much better guys than you met. I swear! Raise your standards, don't accept any crappy treatment. Guys will respect you more for that.
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I'm a bit late to the game here, but to give you some hope. There are a large group of men out there like this, looking for these things. We just keep out distance & watch from afar. We approach when we see it healthy to approach.
I tell these young guys never to expect a good woman to appear in their unhealthy lives. I'd say it's the same for women. Good men will look in the window & keep on stepping if they see a mess. Clean up your life which may be a work in progress & likely odds will go up to be approached by something healthy & good.
And drop any man that enjoys hurting you or plays with you like a cat. You are an object to him, like a cat playing with a mouse. You are the object to torment, he has dehumanized you. He doesn't respect you or see you as a human being with your own independent feelings, thoughts & dreams. This is not a man but a narcissistic boy with a sex drive.
Thank you, Grant. My life is healthy and good. I guess it's just a matter of Devine timing! Also, I completely agree with you regarding narcissistic boys. I was with one for seven years--narcissistic sadistic demon who preys on empaths like me. Many blessings to you!
Don't show a man that you're are deeply in love with a man too early. It's frightens them. Challenge them, let them fight for you, don't give It all away.
emajon What would too early be exactly, a few weeks a few months? I mean if he likes you and you like him but want to be chased for too long then he will think you don’t care about him. Not sure how long is too long to have him chase you? Thoughts??
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How does one suppress their feelings?
I think not letting your emotions get the better of you and running away with them is the key. It's very easy in the early stages to believe that you've found the perfect person and that it's definitely love because it's common to project a fantasy onto a person and that can blind you from seeing everything that is that person and keeping a rational mind. I just finished with a guy (not in a relationship but dating) who, at the start, I had believed to be 'the one'. Looking back now he was absolutely not right for me but I definitely think it was a good thing not to rush into a relationship but instead spend a long time dating and getting to see what he was really like.
I honestly think that as long as you're honest with the person and communicate with them, if they are a mature and sensible person then they should be able to deal with it. If they can't respectfully and civilly handle you being honest with them then they are not mature enough to start a relationship. It's not about playing games or giving mixed signals. I suppose if you think you're in love with someone pretty early on and you think you should tell them then of course you have to live your own truth. I've just personally had the experience where in the early stages, it was true that I liked him and he liked me back so we dived right in.(this is a different guy, we were actually together) But I've come to realise there's a lot more to a serious relationship than just the immediate feelings. Particularly in my case we fell for each other because we were both quite depressed and insecure with ourselves and the affection and attention from each other filled that void; it was true that the feelings were there but where they came from, whether a relationship the smartest thing for both of us, and whether or not we'd be compatible in the long term was not considered.
I say enjoy yourself! Don't good back out of fear! Dive in and give it all you got! Hiding your inner emotions isn't going to benefit anything. The beginnings are AMAZING, if you let them be. Why who'd you try and stuff that? Men want to be loved too! And if hee afraid, not being true to yourself isn't doing you, him, or a chance at a relationship any good. Enjoy yourself for what it's worth and live your life in love, not in fear. Letting your fears control your living is not living. They're an incredible gift; embrace them!
You missed one of the most important ones, he has to be emotionally available, otherwise you're wasting your time
Ehe did say that! Right at the beginning: "If a man is not ready to/for love, believe him and move on"
And i believe that includes actions...
That comes under being ready.
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AMENNN
just be yourself. If that man really loves you, he will not find other woman because only you is sure enough for him.
taking this advice doesn't mean you're changing who you are. it's merely about showing your best self & speaking a language the man understands.
How do I get a man to love me and keep me my last boyfriend for six month who I love dearly left me .I always treat him so well take him to work get up at five in the morning make his lunch pay his cell phone bill. Give him a cell phone for Christmas in the BED room that is the best part I think of him every day he never call me. To tell me the reAson why. But he always tell me people is telling him things about mebroken hearted
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@@patriciagarrett7478 ...stop doing those things. His purpose is to serve you first. Those things that you're doing must be earned by him showing up and being a man. Best of luck to you!
@@patriciagarrett7478 you're chasing girl. You're chasing after him and while men want to be appreciated they don't want to be treated like the prize. They want to believe their partner knows who she is to the degree that he feels he should always be on his best behavior to please her. He's a man, he likes to provide and he wants to please. You don't need to mommy him for him to love you, men want a woman who is feminine, charming, sweet,kind, but also confident and secure in herself, who knows when to put her foot down and maintain her own boundaries or let HIM lead, not a mommy who coddles him. He wants to earn your love step by step. Remember: what's easy is never worth it and what's worth it is never easy. Make him work for it,keep it playful and make it a challenge and just be you. Be appreciative but don't be a doormat. A relationship is a 2 way street. Also, never let a man tell u he doesn't want you twice, you can do better girl and you deserve better. Now you know, and like the rest of us you'll learn as you educate yourself, practice,and try your best. No one is perfect, we've all been there. Give yourself some grace, we're all knew to this life, just figuring it out as we go along. Stay beautiful girl! I Hope this helps ❤️
Mat when you first said number seven, "he needs to feel like he could live his purpose with you" my immediate response within myself was, "what if he feels I'm holding him back?" Then I remembered what you said about remembering a time I felt confident when I made a decision... As soon as I brought back the memory of the time and place that I use in this exercise, I realized I was being hard on myself. Then I remembered when, about a month ago, my significant other told me, "you have no idea how much I appreciate your patience and support."
Thanks so much for your help, Mat. Truly.
In what ways do u offer patience and support.
I struggle with both 12yrs and hes a procrastinator so i get impatient
I think that a really important step in falling in love, one that has to be overcome in order for a man to feel secure in the relationship, is feeling that they understand you. they understand how you operate and why you react to things the way you do, how you process the world. If you feel that your partner understands you it alleviates feeling fear that you might be misunderstood and judged and possibly end up hurting them with your actions more which all only cause more insecurity. Feeling like people understand and accept you as you are is crucial. If they can support you in your personal growth, leaving enough individual space so as not to manipulate it, that's even better. Also, communicating this understanding and acceptance is very helpful for feeling secure in the relationship
Thank you Mathew for speaking about self love and acceptance. Ive struggled with this my whole life.
So clear! Im finally in a dating situation where I can be this woman and feel comfortable with myself to be this woman. Thanks matt
I really appreciate this opportunity to discuss this topic thanks everyone
I gave him his space and he is back. Things are better, more connected and he appreciates more than before. I am glad I gave him the space to deal with a very stressful issue. He only took a week to work it out. Thank you. You helped me a lot.
Wow that story about your friend in the car really touched me. I was ALWAYS fearful/criticizing my ex about his reckless driving (and a lot of things in general). Whenever he told me about somthn bad that hapnd; my first thought was ALWAYS - well what did YOU do to mess it up? He thought of me as a total nag. Whereas the guy I am currently with; he can almost do no wrong in my eyes. Whenever somthn goes wrong, I get very defensive of him and mad at the OTHER ppl involved. Watching this vid makes me realize it may also go the other way too? Ladies, if you're always criticizing/nagging your man - maybe he just isn't the one for you? It could be a sign of a bigger issue that you do not trust him or subconsciously are not comfortable with him!!
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I totally agree with this!!!!! I've totally had this same experience and in reality it's because he's broken trust or hurt us or lost our respect somehow (for me it was when I told (anytime, multiple issues) him what bothered me or hurt me and he laughed at me, criticized me, didn't care and didn't change a thing) so I think you're right, absolutely, when a man really shows love to you like he LISTENS and CARES about what bothers you or what you like, etc. you trust him and if you mutually respect and are good with each other physically I think we women back our man 100% (am I right?) (a different guy, totally cared about me, I felt loved and trusted him and I ALWAYS defended him fiercely if anyone hinted anything negative about him) but when we don't I think it's the deeper issues that he's not the one because if he doesn't love you or is not mature enough to understand how to respect your boundaries or care about you, it won't get better later and you will still not trust him later either!
I find that if I’m nagging a man, I need to part ways with him. It means he is not a good match for me and just a project.
Deep
This resonates with me as well
Great advice!! I lived on my own for 10 years while dating a lot and now have been married for 24 years. We are still in love!! So I know both being single for along time and being married along time. This guy has very good advice!
That alligator scared the hell out of me 😂😂 too funny. Didn't expect it. lol. Too funny.
Protected 'a man would rather have his arm chewed off by an alligator then make a woman cry' then that needs to be told to a hell of a lot of males out there who make a woman cry and don't care. Wish that was true what he says!
scared me too.
Me 2
Same lol
It was so corny
I'd love you to talk about the dynamics of dating for those of us in our 70's. I'm finding the process more mysterious at this age than ever!
It is hard the older we get. I hope you are doing well!
Thanks Mat for all the videos you make. You have no idea that the things you say have actually happened in my life. I wish I saw this video 1 year back coz it would have saved me some heart ache and crying. You are just a savior. Please please keep making videos to help women feel in control in relationships !! Thank you Thank you.
A guy can fall in love before he's accomplished everything, but he wont marry or "settle down" until he's ready, I'm 20 going on 21, and so is my boyfriend, we've been together since 17 going on 18, we don't live together but we've decided to wait to marry and continue dating for a few more years as were still young. I definitely would be ready to marry sooner than my man but he really feels he needs to have everything in place for marriage just like mentioned in the video. Right now were just trying to reach our goals and enjoying being in love and having fun together making memories. This video really is the truth because alot of men ive known family friends say the exact same thing about settling down, and what they need in place before they do. If he's the right guy for you then he's worth the wait. But obviously never let the wrong guy make you wait
When I was in my mid 20's I didn't feel ready to move my relationship into a marriage. The truth is however that I wasn't ready to receive or love someone properly at that time. The financial and circumstantial aspects of a solid marriage should be secondary (imo). The career and life planning can be developed while together in a marriage where both parties are people truly in love and where the two people complement each other as life partners.
Your gonna get hurt honey.
Yes, and no. I don't agree. Sometimes, you could be in love but if the life path isn't the same, love isn't gonna matter.
Eventually he will dump you. You're too old for him. Find an older man, dummy
1. How do we spark sexual chemistry while on 'the wait'?
2. How do we trust after terrible heart break involving a child?
Great questions. I can relate.
Thank you, Mathew, for this video! Wow that really opened my eyes and really got to know more of what the guy wants. Especially this tip, "he needs to feel like he could live his purpose with you." I never thought of that in the way you explained it so thank you again.
every boyfriend I have had has tried to tell me he loves me within DAYS of beginning to date...I know there are gonna be people saying "well stop complaining" but as someone who is actually really jumpy and hesitant about saying that myself until it really means something to me it has put me in some VERY awkward positions. Why do men do this??? I'm sorry but there is no way that is possible within three days of meeting a person
Emily Carroll you have”boyfriends “ in three dates? Huh?
I'd like to know too, my man told me the same after 10 days of dating, so I grew very skeptical about him, so I gave him hell for a year to prove if he did, needless to say, we got engaged, but it was so weird to me. When he told me he loved me, I said thank you, lol. Love God, love your brethren, love yourself and all will set to place. God bless our minds.
That is definitely possible. I don't believe in "love at first sight", but it doesn't have to take a long time to make yourself believe that someone is just right.
They want to get laid ... and fast!! 🤣😂
@@irynaromaniuk6028 You had to spoil it. But you're probably right. At least partially right.
The question is how to completely open up emotionally to the one you love without fear of
feeling rejected or feeling like they really don't love you or worrying about what they might think or how he would respond. Being
vulnerable and exposing
true feelings without so many expectations.
And this goes for them
also, to know how to do this with ease. It's like you know what you want to communicate to them when their not around but when your around them you freeze up and they do the same. Walls
seem blocked and bottled up as the barriers to need to be brought down to feel a closer connection without the doubts of thinking everything is not going to work out and just fall apart.
Not being sure of what to say as the stakes seem so high to become closer on a deeper level.
Especially if there's been past hurts in the relationship. When things have changed in the realationship where It makes you feel stupid around them to behave in such a manner of holding in the feelings that need to be expressed especially when you already have
known them for a long time and have been in the relationship for a long time already.
Basically getting out of your head and getting into the ❤️ heart with honesty without holding back.
Matt, could you please make a video with conversational questions that help potential partners get to know each other on a deeper level? Thank you for your time.
Thank you so much for this amazing free gift of helping us love ourselves completely with this 21 day exercise. I love it! You really bring so much positivity to our lives and really help us to get better!
I am a singer in a band, and I have been for many years. My question is, how do I be in a relationship with a man without him getting "jealous" of what I do? It seems like every man I go out with either gets jealous of the attention I receive OR he wants to try and be in the band that I am already in (like, I want to play guitar on a few songs). I don't want to compete with my men. Yet it seems every man has an inner rock star who wants to come out and inevitably gets upset with my success. You say men want you to pursue your own purpose and make your life amazing, but what if they get jealous of your purpose and success?
I dont think a really confident guy would want to ride your coat tails or be jealous of what you do. Find an alpha Male who has his own thing going. 😊
I believe your quote: “ME FIRST! Then and only then, i could assist.”
This is So True, my friend is happily married and This is exactly how her husband is. He loves her, he is a good provider, he protects her and wants her to be HAPPY. They are life partner and they tell each other everything.
Number 1 makes so much sense. It doesnt mean he is a jerk. The timing and experience was just not a ok
all of this is so true, when he seriously in love with you he do the right thing for you and assure you have a good future.
Thanks a lot Matt. Those are also my needs to fall in love as well, esp the "have your back"
Hi Matt ! Thank u for all ! Can u please explain us how men feel when they are in love ?
Lot of love
He just.
It's that simple.
Thank you Matt - I love how much your video messages are delivered with positivity and love. I've started dating again just in the past year after a long while focusing on my career and some personal development. Now that I'm back in the game, I find these kinds of videos super helpful for navigating the annoying moments that crop up - they're helpful to keep things light and not take the bumps in the road so much to heart. But more and more I feel like my issue in finding love is timing. When I get a magical connection, it seems to me that the timing is off. He's not ready or about to leave. Or in the past I wasn't ready. What's a girl to do if her love life is a series of bitter-sweet mistimed connections?!?!?
Hello Mathew, I usually don't leave comments but I think it's always important to show appreciation to people. So thank you for your knowledge! You seem to be a great guy. Keep doing what you're doing! Kind Regards
Supporting, not criticizing.. is crucial
The first post is so valuable. I know I have twisted myself into knots, wondering what I might have done, to put a man off - but if he isn't ready.... Thanks for this, Matt; it was what I needed to hear, today
I love your videos and the warmth and kindness in what you explain.
I have met a man and he is very deep thinker. He recently told me he wants me. Now, I took this to mean physically, so I told him the physical part would come as I get more comfortable. He then clarified and said, no you are misunderstanding me. I want you, meaning I want all of you, not just physically, while that is nice ,but just you. I have never had a man tell me this before. He then went on to give me examples. Amazing.
Thank you so much Mat, I can watch & learn from you all day!
How do you make a man feel confident that they aren't going to hurt you?... I'm pretty darn confident we nail all the rest. Isn't there always some uncertainty?
Mat, your videos especially this one has helped me understand quite a lot. Everything you have said, especially this video, my man has shown me.
My previous relationships didn't work and I have never had a positive example of one. So I want to make this one work and be positive.
Your video about making long distance relationships work was one of the first ones I saw. It has helped. Thank you
Question: How do you overcome shyness around the opposite sex? In my instances, men. I've never had a positive male role-model in my life, so now, whenever I'm near or conversing with one, especially one I might find attractive, I freeze up or avoid them altogether.
TheEternityForce Honey, just be yourself and smile, This may sound crazy but fake your confidence, I want you to see yourself as the beautiful woman you obviously are, Look in the mirror hun and find your best attribute and keep telling yourself your worthy and beautiful, Confidence men love and smiling, I am average old now hahaha but I still have men lusting over me, The secret? I am honestly just myself and I smile at everyone. That's a kiwi thing though being friendly. Good luck sweetie and if a man abuses you one time. You leave OK, this is important. A leopard doesn't change its spots remember that. Good luck hun xxxx.
I can't fake it. I simply CAN NOT FAKE OR LIE OR DENY. ABSOLUTELY NOT. I am not beautiful, I am the ugliest person there is. I have no attributes.
@@nofybn7794 And that belief is what hurts you. How are you the ugliest person there is? Did you make it on Ripley's Believe it or not? Do you hold a record for world's ugliest person? Like, truly ask yourself if you're the ugliest person in the world. No? Then there must be at least one nice thing about you. Find that and focus on it.
TheEternityForce
Perhaps it would help to treat him as though you've already known eachother for a stretch of time...
At the bottom of this post even, Matt has a link for how to be more confident. Click on that, but also look into other videos on here, and also just doing a search. There is tons if great advice!
But overall, take responsibility for your own happiness. Don't give anyone else that power! Look into what you can do to make yourself happy. And realize you deserve to be loved and respected and adored! No bad role model in your past can take that away from you because YOU are the ONLY one who can change that. And you can! And don't settle for anything! What will give you the strength is that you know you deserve better, and it will ONLY come when you stand up for yourself. And that is the right thing! It will be never wracking at first, but it gets better, and yuu can take baby steps if need be - it's like exercise because weaker "muscles" shake, and you can't always start at the heaviest weight. So treasure steps. Do little things that are a bit uncomfortable and daring, but aren't as threatening to you.
You can also practice saying things to yourself, and that leads to easier face-to-face. Or take acting classes, which helps you stand up for yourself as well.
And also study vulnerability and what it truly means to be it, and how powerful it is.
This collar and color look so great on You! (among all the other things) Best wishes for your family! Thank you for the generous time you also spend with us here.
Can you do a video on dating a divorced man? When is he ready, or will he ever be ready to make another commitment to a woman?
Their was 1 lady that asked how do you over come shyness. Well my guy was VERY SHY he said he felt very relaxed with me and we hit it off in 5 minutes. It just worked. I really feel it was acceptance of him knowing what i know now.
Not only do i have to agree, the thing was is that all it takes to come down to is just takes time
Hi Mat, Thank you so for your help. I dont know what i did. But Life is funny. I have always been negative and now im positive and guys are coming to me. I was enjoying my retirement but now im living it with my man of 5 months.
THANK YOU! He told me he loved me at 3 days into the relationship.
I didnt understand, but now i do. We are perfect for each other. As perfect as people can be. Between God and you, you two made it happen. I Told him to wait for me to catch up. Now we are getting married New Years Day.
We went to Dunkin Donuts on our first date. Sat and talked for 8 hours like we knew each other all our lives. Next night dinner out. And 3 days later we've been joined at the hip since then. THANK YOU!!
I dont know how to explain it. Its been magic. We are both so GRATEFUL AND AMAZED HOW IT ALL HAPPENED.
Can you make some videos where you give advice to men??? Because all of them sorely need it!!! Women aren't the only ones with relationship problems. A lot of the problems are caused by the men in the relationships. Please address that. It would only be fair.
Drina haha true!!! :p we learn and they wont and they will they dont need to learn that we r also not ready
*they will think they dont have to learn*
Drina totally true. So annoying how women are getting all the tips on how to satisfy a man! But perhaps the money is with women? Or perhaps this is to empower women to have control over our own love life? Instead of letting men take the lead and dominate the momentum. Know when to cut them lose, or raise our value.
I would think most of his viewers are women. Plus, his perspective is that of a mans. So what he is able to speak on most honestly is how men perceive women. There are lots of other videos from other youtubers who offer advice for men
dude no one said women are the only ones with relationship problems.. there are plenty of love coaches who coach men, and a lot of coaches that are currently coaching women used to coach men beforehand.
Be transparent in every Way!
i really like matts talks great information and examples of what he’s talking about
I totally agree with you on a most of these points.
But with #2, if the man has issues with his masculinity, it shouldn't fall on the woman. If they're insecure with their capability to provide, then that is a personal soul search. We shouldn't have to give his manliness a cushion in order to secure his "love."
thank you so much for this video. i love the way that you explain things in a very kind understanding manner. God bless you!
At 59 yrs old...this is ALL GREAT ADVICE! BUT, I need to know how to "HEAL from DOMESTIC VIOLENCE" in not 1 marriage, but 2....Looks like my plan to be alone until I die is my only answer. I have NEVER had a man treat me like what you are talking about...I have cried listening to several of these videos. THANK YOU for giving suh GREAT ADVICE to these younger ladies. I PRAY it keeps them in the right lane & not off course.
Great video. If a man decided to live his life single based on his previous hurts. What does change his mind to accept the unconditional love someone is already giving ?
Priya A K you can’t change that. He has to work that put for himself.
How can I learn to love myself again after being hurt from past relationships, so I can love again?
Charlene Lawrence Love yourself no matter what. At the end of the day you go to bed with you. Your soul and mind live in your body. We shouldn't let men take away our love for ourselves. And other people for that matter. The world is full of toxic people.
Drina Ok how can I gain it back when I feel ugly I feel like I am not good enough for any man again...? Give me a hint that will help me feel beautiful again about my looks I used too? Sorry about bad spelling.
+Drina perfect advice. thanks i needed it too.
Be alone for a while. Date yourself to know yourself more. What you like and dislike, what pleases you or annoys you. This can only be done if you are not focused on someone else. Give yourself time to heal, eventually you will learn to love yourself and it will be liberating 😊 when you love yourself, you will not doubt or be too controlling to your next partner. You cannot give what you dont have, so love and accept yourself for all its strengths and weaknesses, and also forgive yourself for all mistakes that you have done. Goodluck 😊
Take up a hobby where it gives you confidence and be around like-minded people who will support you and make you feel beautiful. I'm in a bowling league, quilt and sewing clubs and I have so much fun. I often get invited to social events. I met ex at a bowling league and my current husband the same way but I've been married for over 25 years now and we both love each other very much.
I totally liked that I might be making someone feel constricted as opposed to feeling more open. Makes sense. I wouldn't want to be with anyone less either. ..so why expect it out of anyone else
Your videos are very engaging and beneficial, but I'm laughing at the white spattered painting behind you... Very apt! 🤣
Thank you for sharing your unique and helpful perspectives. I truly enjoy how you are transforming yourself as you help to transform others. It's quite beautiful and right!
Such a solid level of content
Thank you for your great videos ! We follow you from Brussels
I always say, there is someone for everyone!!!
I had my someone for 20yrs. R.I.P. my love.
I recently my someone, that could be my second one. He's sweet, funny, and makes me laugh.
And i think i do the same for him!!!
Hi Mat!! Great video as always! Thank you so much for the amazing work you do.
My question is: Could you do a video about how to let go when your heart is broken after a breakup? A kind of step by step guide or some practical exercises would be SO helpful as this topic is such a complex thing that only seems to work in theory. I think that going through heartbreak is such a difficult thing. But one obstacle I just cannot leave behind is the whole "letting go and get real closure"-thing.
I would appreciate your thoughts on that so much!! Thank you :)
Love your videos Matt! They are so helpful and inspirational!
My issue with my boyfriend is we can’t stop fighting 😩 And when we fight he never thinks he is wrong, and he always blames me. We love eachother very much but we can’t see eye to eye.
You are my teacher now!! Thanks for your videos
I really can't get enough of your videos & advice !!
Thanks for these wonderful videos. Please can you make some videos to also teach/show men what women like or love in a man?
Thank you, Matt! You're advice is great! Looking forward to the download.
I came across your videos when i started to improve on me. Firstly thank you I have learn more than I have learned in the past 50 years. I come from 2 marriges... one my partner passed away the second ended in divorce. The latter I had trusted fully and never questioned anything and after 18 years discovered he had cheated for most of our time together. I was hurt more than I could verbalize and could not understand this. We never argued, i had implemented everything that a good wife should do, i beare his children and lets face it the sex was good too. But after the divorce i had beaten myself up.... what did i miss, what did i done wrong, and since 2008 i am not sure that i am good enough. Now i have met this gorgious man, he is caring, compasionate, interesting. Our past paths are like 95% the same and it feels like i know him forever. But because of my experiences i am sabbotaging my own happiness. How do i get through and over this?
My fella is a great man. His pain from his past bubbles in from time to time. Wish I could extract it out of him.
This guy who I cut it off with the other day, was absolutely ok with hearing me cry. From the very beginning where he hurt me, to the very end. He never ever said a comforting word. Instead, he just said, It's all your fault, blame your tears solely on you!
It was one of the reasons I knew we wouldn't make it together. He never cared.
I like the idea Men would rather have their arm chewed off by an alligator than make a woman cry....but it doesn't work with some types.
Matt, you are so wise and helpful
Every time I listen to Matthew Boggs, I hear myself in my head, my man does this, my man does that, that is exactly how my man would react, my man says that
So does my man read a lot about relationships or does he watch these videos?
How is it this man of mine is seemingly so perfect
We been talking for not quite six months and he told me he has no flaws. Other than that comment in and of itself, I'm inclined to agree with him after watching Matthew Boggs' videos
My question: am I too picky? I feel like I disqualify men so quickly and easily. When do I compromise? When do I accept flaws? What should be dealbreakers in determining compatibility?
Just sent this video to a friend. Thanks Matt!
Great video, loved the effects 👌🐸
I met this guy from a dating site. We've been communicating on and off for 7 months. I believe we have a certain connection otherwise we won't be talking that long. Finally we we've met recently. He is a nice guy though. we couldn't help it we became so intimate on our first meeting. However now I kinda notice that something has changed in him. We don't talk the way we used to. He has his excuses of being busy. Now I'm thinking of talking to him and tell him that whatever we have at this stage is just to stop it and move on.
Thts so true,i hv been married since 12 yrs no kids, a frd has been waiting 4 me since 3 yrs bt nw i feel.he lost interest,im separated filing 4 a divorce,SPARK isnt there, cn u gv an advice to rekindle the spark..i luv ur idea,Spot on v practical 👍👏👏😍😍🤞💚💞💖❤💜💕💚💙
This video is an eye opener for me. Thanks a lot, Matt.
I believe your doing a tremendous job at all these things. I appreciate you. thanks for your help in making me open up. and truly trust you.
Among here I've watched Matt you're the best in explaining I haven't felt any boredom listening as you speak...you nailed it Matt!😉😎🤓
Thanks Matt for always creating great videos that add value to me. It's helped me to further understand and appreciate men.
I really love your videos! I have listened to most of them tonight
Hey Matt thank you for your videos, they are helping me get through a tough time at the moment, and its providing some clarity after my recent dumping/ghosting.
Two questions:
1) Is there a way to tell on a first date even, that he genuinely looking for a relationship? And how can you let that be clear to him without coming of as hmmmm intense?
2) I have achieved a lot of things in my life, lead a full life, outgoing etc, a lot friends etc telling me 'they can't believe I am single' (which I think we all hear) - can a woman intimidate a man or is that just something our 'friends' tell us? Should we accept this idea that maybe we are 'too much' for a man to handle?
This really helped me understand why he needs time.
Thank You Matt!! Your Video Was So Cool And Insightful. I Needed To Hear The Car Story Example With Your Friend, Thank You.
As wright as usual! Thank you Mat from Barcelona! In my way to find real love and your advice helps a lot!
I really like your videos. They're clean and really heartfelt.
I showed this to my partner and they said it's very accurate lol
Omg! The alligator scared me!!😆. Excellent video Matt, thank you so much.
amazing content Matt, you make so much sense
5:19.... He told the same exact story about a guy driving in the car with his friends versus driving in the car with his in-laws. He said that when he was in the car with his friends and had to slam on brakes his friend said, "what are you doing?" But when he was in the car with his in-laws the same exact thing happened but they blamed the car in front of him. Now he's saying this happened to a man that had an ex-girlfriend and a current woman.
you are so funny with Cupid :))))) thank you for the smiles and advices
Hi Mathew,your videos are brill.I wonder if you could give some advice please.I met a wonderful man who I love dearly and want to support him soo much,he has an ex girlfriend who seems controlling and hate the effect she has on him as she tries to make him feel guilty.He is lovely and I know he doesn't want to hurt her.They have been apart for over 2 years,she knows about me .Its obvious what she is doing,I bite my tongue & calm as I support him as I trust him but I don't trust her.Really need some advice from a man's point of view that could help.😃.Thanks Mathew😃
That's a great question! I would love to know that myself aswell. Do they experience it the same way as woman?
I know this is an older video but I’ve been reading through the comments. Yes, he is talking about actual men, not boys. I had watched another video last night that really made the light go on for me. Our culture has changed drastically in that marriage and men in the home isn’t seen as very important. So boys grow up with a single mom. A woman is their example. So they don’t have a man to emulate. A man taking care of his family. Being truly masculine in what we expect men to do. And that made so much sense to me. That the example they come up in is feminine energy. Women being the worker and the provider and running the house. So they go out into the world looking for that- a woman to provide and cater to them and take care of everything. That’s not to say good men can’t come out of single mom homes, just that we’ve created a culture where it’s now more common for the woman to be the head of the house. So adult men are now expecting that more and more
Thank you. Would be great if you could highlight the points in the video :)
Matt, these needs go both ways....these are my needs as well, hence I'm still single at age 36!
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I love your videos thank you for being and awesome love advaicer Coach 😀
Thank you, this is a gorgeous video 🥰🌟❤️
How do you help your partner to be more confident and support them if they struggle?
My boyfriend and I really fall in love with each other. After numerous relationships we had, we never felt such connection with each other. We are Super compatible. But the only problem is that we are students and currently doing Long-distance relationship. How do we maintain such LDR and keep that excitement? ps: we never know when we can meet up again.
Great videos always! How do you get a man to make the first move, or is that necessary? Am I still conveying I am high value if I say I’d love to hang out sometime?
Beautiful video I've seen a lot of bullshit about love but this was clear and beautiful thanks so much for his video ❤️✅