Teaching fifth grade in a high poverty and high risk area in southwest U.S., our class has benefited greatly from mindfulness breathing, active listening, and compassion. We even have a small chalkboard that says, "Just breathe." Sometimes a student will pick it up when I am frustrated (not mindful) to remind me to practice even in stressful situations.
that means I have to find an excuse for that person why he is always bully me then to givr sympathy? I understand someone somtimes has a reason did something hurt the others but in some case a lot of people are doing it intentionally repeatedly at work. In personal life I can avoid and ignore, at work I cannot.
I agree with this wholeheartedly. This is something children need to know and be taught, but this Christian filled country it will be hard to put in the curriculum.
@@katrinalivingston5017 Katrina, you are so right. That is why my credo as a teacher is - better to ask for forgiveness than permission. Peace and light.
Too be mindful of anger is very hard. Your unconscious mind will do all it can to drag you into the egoic mind state. So please stay present with the uncomfortable pain and all the negative story that you mind is telling you. Don't feed it, just watch it. Try talking to yourself with compassion, saying to yourself it's ok, I will take care of you. Speaking loving towards pain and suffering.
You're right. It's like when your in that mindset you become the anger and it's so hard to see around it. It feels nearly impossible, this is me saying this after just have a mini mental breakdown and reacting very negatively and angrily to it. I instantly felt regret bc I know it isnt me, but when I'm angry I just cant see past it at times although I'm getting better at being mindful of this. thanks for your advice, I'll be sure to use it :)
Not exactly. Observe and love it, and sit with it as you would a suffering child, and ask what is upsetting it, and let it introduce you to grief or violated boundaries, or whatever it is trying to show you, and then start healing it ❤
Thich Nhat Hanh explains that "control", which is the act of suppressing, is not good. So just "not getting angry" is not what he's talking about. "Not expressing the anger" is not what he's saying. "Taking out anger", immediately reacting or expressing anger later is not freely embracing the anger. With underlying "bottom line" understanding and compassion, one accepts the anger for what it is, and then transforms it. And what it is always involves other people or another person in one form or another. They also must be included in the transformation. Thank you for reading this.
I keep coming back to this video as it gives some very essential keys to put anyone on an effective initial track action while dealing with anger. I've learnt through myself personal experience: 1- Acknowledging anger when it manifest in me. 2- Stopping all activities and breathing in/out in awareness so that I can fully stay with this extremely powerful energy. 3- Experiencing in all its fury while observing, acknowledging its response and impact in all my body and mind. 4- Free from any discrimination or comparation with other energies (very important to this point). Dealing with it with the same equanimity as if it was compassion. Living the experience beyond duality. Free from any attachment. 5- Let it simply be. 6- Talk to it (marvellous experience when reaching this stage. One can experience with great clarity how anger stars to dilute at the same time a new way of very, very sweet, sensitive energy of compassion takes place from the same source anger energy. Amazing and very beautiful experience. So it seems as if compassion is made with anger elements.
As a contrast to the wisdom passed on by all great Masters, Rimpoches... in buddhist enviroments. They are not the best enviroments to overcome anger for they are extremely attached to pleasanties of the called positive emotions and consecuently all negative will need to be repressed.
@@marenostrum7796 Thank you for your first comment, it's really helpful to me. I have to disagree with the second comment though. Buddism is not attached to pleasant feelings. They simply recognize suffering and transform them as Thay said. I think the keywords are Balance and Moderation. There are many lessions in Buddism about this subject: One shouldn't chase after pleasantness nor run away from suffering. There is a famous quote in Vietnam "Nhất Tu Thị, Nhị Tu Sơn" which means the best place to practice is in the city amongs all kinds of people, not in a temple or a moutain, but it only for those who have reached a certain level & experience like Thay. Beginner people & young nuns/monks could be protected from many factors and earn many benefits by practicing in a neutral environment first.
Thank you so much, Thay, for your lesson. I have problems controlling my temper for many years. Your teaching help me understand that anger could not be controlled, only could be transformed. When anger come to us, we need to breathe deeply to calm ourselves down, look deeply to recognize our anger, understand its cause and embrace it tenderly. In that way, we feel a relief right away. When we have conflict with other people, by loving speech and deep listening, we could help that person suffer less and increasing mutual compassion and understanding and lead to final peace between both sides. I'm so grateful that I finally found the answer to transform the suffering of my parents, myself and not let anger control me to hurt the ones I love.
embracing the energy of anger with the energy of mindfulness and compassion to transmute anger into acceptance. thank you Master, peaceful healing from your stroke on nov 11-2014
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you Dear Thay for the marvelous teachings in this talk. I can mention many things, but I just say that I recognice that compassion means to love and to heal, not only our person but the other person too. Embracing every person in the sittuation for sure give us more peace of mind, and harmony in our soul. Lots of hugs. Evangelina Cortes.
She really asks "when the anger come out sundenly, she realize, later, she hurt the other, and she feels bad, she feels she cannot do anything to fix the pain in the other, how to fix the situation, she asks"... she doesnt like to hurt people, very good question, indeed 😊😊
This is a great video. I am a school counselor and mental health clinician. I believe that Freud was wrong in his concept of catharsis, or getting it out. Talking about it with the counselor, might help. But, hitting pillows is in a behavioral sense, practicing that which promotes anger and violence. Likewise, raking leaves angrily, is not transformative, it just exhausts you. Even if you don't hit the pillows, or chop wood, and you just suppress your anger and rage, it builds up. And some day, some unfortunate person is going to be the recipient of all that or wrath, hatred, anger, bitterness, that has built up inside of you. It might even be yourself, when you look back on a life that was wasted on revenge, or suppression, or refusing to acknowledge your natural emotion of anger. Of course, this advice is similar to the sayings of the New Testament author Paul, as much as it depends on you, live at peace with others. Peace.
Letting "Anger Out" is simply temporary. It may make you feel good in the moment but the root cause is still there. Understanding why the anger exists is part of why you're angry. Understanding the cause can allow you to release the anger in a constructive manner. Its not the anger of subbing a toe or hitting your thumb with the hammer. Although relaxing and deep breathing will help with the pain emotional pain is very different. Understanding why someone caused you pain may make the pain much less. That is TNH"s message. When he said hitting the pillow does no good it's no different than hiding your pain in drugs, it's only a short term solution. Long term is to be mindful of the source of the pain. Looking at why the other person hurt you, there may be a common cause.
No, it's not temporary, when you release anger that anger is gone. If the next day you're still angry after releasing it the previous day then it means that your mind built up new anger for that day, it is not the same psychic energy within the mind, which could be caused by an unresolved external event that is reiterating and therefore re-traumatizing. But in terms of what happens within the mind it is new anger. And if it isn't released it'llstack up.
José Yánez I'm unsure the anger does let go of. Lets think about it.. Anger arises, we notice the anger, the anger is overwhelming and we feel we need to let it go, we choose a practice e.g. punching a pillow to let out this anger.. We punch this pillow and now we have the perception we are letting go and doing something constructive with our anger, maybe we even feel better afterwards and proud that we handled it well. However are we truly connecting with the source of the anger? Are we not just utilizing physical energy that we perceive to be 'getting in touch' with our anger? Are we simply letting out energy? Where does that energy come from? Is it the seat of anger? Has that seat of anger been reduced by letting out the build up of energy perceived as anger? I'm unsure. Personally I feel the lake must be totally drained. How? We no longer feed the source. Letting our anger doesnt transform anger it simple expresses anger.. Transforming anger through compassion whereby we no longer feed the source of anger creates true lasting transformation. We turn anger through wisdom and compassion into love.
Great video,, should be translated and shown in all schools,classes, worldwide,,see how many people-students can benefit from this form of learning, about dealing with anger
I know what the questioner said in spanish... That she just lashes out & reacts when shes angry & when she calms down, she realizes that shes hurt others. Shes wondering how could she control the anger.
Si, dice que suprime la ira y de repente le sale, y después se siente mal y siente no puede hacer nada para remediar el mal que causó o la herida en el otro, excelente pregunta.
There's nothing wrong with getting upset an telling someone your upset as long as your not getting upset every day! I hate when people suppress their Feelings and waist their life afraid to Live! Suppressing is NOT healthy an later it comes out in ugly ways over little things because of the issue you didn't resolve! Arguing once in a while is how you get things fixed or at least vent your Feelings! If someone is upset at me I want them to tell me so we can fix it or at least get it off their chest! Holding stress in will kill you.
Yes, she s asking how to say I am sorry, really. I speak spanish and she s asking what to do when she realizes she hurt other people, and she feels bad about it...
@@lauralunaazul Oh ok thank you! Someone should tell her to just speak her Feelings from her Heart an be honest an say I'm sorry for hurting you. I think we should listen to everyone like the guy in this video but make final decision ourself. God is found by listening to the Feeling in our Hearts because God doesn't live in books or buildings, God lives in Hearts! 😊
Anger is a very big subject. It often a throw of temper is taking these days as anger. But this wasn't before years back. People then would understand and forgive a sudden tantrum because everybody had them!. Forgiving, giving a hug as symbol of making peace....But now we seem having lost that natural capacity. In nature when any animal is provoqued till the point of anger, what they do is to deffend themselves. Anger is a natural guard protecting us from any threat.
Gato Gate. I am so glad you mentioned being provoked into anger. we are made to feel guilty for displaying our anger in whatever way. I am so grateful to you as not much is said about provoked anger. the person who is angry is perceived to be the baddy and you are told you cannot take angry words back. so yes what about the people who provoked it.xx
Tony Z great post! .....Tai Chi IS an ultimate answer ....balance within. Highly recommended. Great Post and Guidance from Thich Nhat Hanh. A treasure to humanity.
exactly, when i am facing more harder times i gets more softer to the other and feels loving them. our sufferings are key to the grow in the spiritually.
Both Jesus and Buddha emphasize compassion, forgiveness, and nonjudgment, which are key to being mindful of anger. Jesus taught loving others, forgiving endlessly, and avoiding judgment, reminding us to focus on our own flaws instead of condemning others. Buddha didn't explicity mention forgiveness itself, but encouraged behavior that naturally leada to it: compassion for all beings, letting go of anger and resentment, and looking inward instead of judging others. Practicing these values helps release anger and leads to greater peace and mindfulness. They are real practices you can take to make anger more like a wriggly worm that is hard to hold on to. Its amazing!
The words he speaks are the only truth to experience our ability to act lovingly toward others when we feel anger. The positive energy of mindfulness comes from our creator. Swim with the current of mindfulness and the strength of the stream is yours. Swim against the current and suffering continues, anger persists. Understanding of our own anger and anger of others is the change this world needs. Can we start now?
This question is for Thay. "How do I listen compassionately when someone is yelling, blaming and verbally abusing me ? How do I respond especially when the other person expects me to answer? " Thank you🙏
Dear friend, have a look at this Questions and Answers playlist with Thay ua-cam.com/video/_FCIIDmN_Po/v-deo.html You'll find quite a few similar questions answered. Hope this helps 🙏
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you Dear Thay. I think that I understand your answer, and at that time of my own process is easy to me being tenderly if something happens in my life and it is not positive, but I'm sure that time before it was difficult for me to understand, because the job to reorganice my life has been a process not only one event. I'm grateful to receive your teachings and being practicing as much as possible to me. Evangelina Cortes.
I am over the hill and just now trying to bring these teachings into my psyche, but it is hard. It is so hard to be angry, to deal with the anger.I cannot follow my breath for more than three counts, and I start daydreaming. The anger comes explosively and I hate it, hate myself. I hate every second of it. I hate every bit of myself. This is really toxic and negative. But thank you for reading. Peace---
I realise multi tasking is something I am so use to, I have to be mindful & stop whatever I am doing & reset. Usually whatever is of urgency, o complete that first. 🙇♀️. Even in watching videos, I realise I don’t even do that mindfully 😬.
I'm trying to understand the suffering of the people talking in the background instead of listening to this very awake mindful teaching but it still makes me angry so I'm suffering too
The Work of Byron Katie is also a really good tool to use to challenge our Egoic stories that make us aggressive. It is very powerful, it addresses the anger on a very deep level.
Teacher, what if we are in a group when they talk and we deep compassionate listening , they want us to agree with them and choose their side over who they have anger against ? So in that situation do we agree with them or correct them . If we agree that is adding gas to their fire , but if we correct them that might also add gas to their fire so what to do please ?
Basis of Budhism is reincarnation and law of karma . The necessity of Budhism is impermanence , sufferings and concept of no soul . Budhism is to guide one to remain in human world and heavens until final stage is attained 🙏🙏🙏
What does one do with anger that comes from another persons negligence that causes harm? Weird example, I was in a crowded yoga class today and a student who was not proficient handstands tried to do one 2 feet from me and kicked me in the chest as I was going into a handstand and she fell. It hurt me. I was angry. I left the class. Later the teacher said it was "unintentional" but I am still angry with her as of 12 hours later. The bus driver example in the comments suggests he was late for reasons beyond his control. But what if he carelessly skipped your stop because he simply forgot as he was texting his friend? Is anger justified then? Can the anger be "taken out" then? Or in a horrible situation where one is maimed by a drunk driver, would Thich Hanh allow anger then?
Imagine someone with a physical or mental disability, maybe someone who is blind or deaf, and on a crowded street this person bumps into you. Now, in this situation, will you be angry with him? Or will you forgive him with your compassion? I have done some thinking, and it came upon me that people who we consider to be "rude/inconsiderate/selfish" are similar to people with physical or mental handicaps. Deep down inside, they are handicap in a certain aspect thus they portray themselves to be offensive to others. Similar to people with disabilities, the condition can be treated or minimized. Understanding the above, and knowing that you will not be angry at a disabled person, I say it is probably easy to let the anger go in such a situation. There is no victim here.
I think the point isn't getting angry but rather acknowledging its birth and being mindful of it coming along but taking the energy involved physically mentally etc and channeling it into something that is beneficial..
How do you know hitting a pillow doesn't work, have you tried it, without experience you can't speak on something as a teacher/instructor. Maybe you tried it but it didn't work for YOU. why do you associate hitting as a practice of anger.(you said hitting the pillow is rehearsal. Peace
As a kid, I was not allowd to express myself, m'y parents affraid if me looking Silly or stupid on front of Them...a Shane if me their lovely son... After I suffer of not Being myself... After I hit my pillow a lot...After my Mothers hot myself...Bad Boy!!! Being a kid!!! After hiting my pillow ans Being Mad avoir autority...I got verry Mad avoir autority... Hitting some stranger on the street!!! Sad I was...lost in my compassion and bag of seeds... After I suffer...alown...with aimé tv, alcool, cigaret, food...etc... After I have kids... Did I choose if making Them a pillow???? Not at alll... By practicing and lerning and understand the Shanga... I rote lettres of love... Ask my kids to stay calmer of their dad...and feed Compassion about my parents and Mothers...and pillow that have suffer a lot lolll My kids are not violent and are getting closser to love and contrôle of Anger that anyone vous ne by having me as exemple.... Juste be true...vision juste .... actions juste...amour juste.... vérité juste...gestes justes... Merci tel tous les grains de sables de milliers de Gange...la Shanga et mon Boudha Thich Nhat Hanh!
How pitty is he doesnt understand spanish, or she doesnt speak english, because the woman who translate spanish to inglish to him, didnt translate exactly what she says, and so, he s not really answearing her question. I speak spanish and inglish, her question was really good one! We all have this kind of emotion/situation I think :)
Kids, don't waste your time and money on therapists and psychologists please.... They only serve the system and will hardly offer you any real help. You will be much much more helped if you study spirituality and develop your consciousness. And if you are not stupid, you won't need to pay anyone in order to do that.
Il a habité en France pendant de nombreuses années. Le Village des Pruniers (Plum Village) est en France. Je crois qu'il pourrait parler chinois aussi, et sa langue maternelle était le vietnamien.
I feel outraged by the people who cough all the way through these talks and show no consideration for others and have a hard time just "looking at it".
hard to know what to say to that. maybe you’re extremely lucky that this is the kind of problem you have in life. or maybe your life is tough in that you are angry at all sorts of things including this small matter.
Teaching fifth grade in a high poverty and high risk area in southwest U.S., our class has benefited greatly from mindfulness breathing, active listening, and compassion. We even have a small chalkboard that says, "Just breathe." Sometimes a student will pick it up when I am frustrated (not mindful) to remind me to practice even in stressful situations.
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That's beautiful.
that means I have to find an excuse for that person why he is always bully me then to givr sympathy? I understand someone somtimes has a reason did something hurt the others but in some case a lot of people are doing it intentionally repeatedly at work. In personal life I can avoid and ignore, at work I cannot.
I agree with this wholeheartedly. This is something children need to know and be taught, but this Christian filled country it will be hard to put in the curriculum.
@@katrinalivingston5017 Katrina, you are so right. That is why my credo as a teacher is - better to ask for forgiveness than permission. Peace and light.
Too be mindful of anger is very hard. Your unconscious mind will do all it can to drag you into the egoic mind state. So please stay present with the uncomfortable pain and all the negative story that you mind is telling you. Don't feed it, just watch it. Try talking to yourself with compassion, saying to yourself it's ok, I will take care of you. Speaking loving towards pain and suffering.
You're right. It's like when your in that mindset you become the anger and it's so hard to see around it. It feels nearly impossible, this is me saying this after just have a mini mental breakdown and reacting very negatively and angrily to it. I instantly felt regret bc I know it isnt me, but when I'm angry I just cant see past it at times although I'm getting better at being mindful of this. thanks for your advice, I'll be sure to use it :)
"Too be mindful of anger is very hard. Your unconscious mind will do all it can to drag you into the egoic mind state." Why is that?
Hurt and pain can be transformed through compassion... As Thay teaches us.
When anger arises... Don't suppress. Don't react. Just observe.
easier said than done.x
Not exactly. Observe and love it, and sit with it as you would a suffering child, and ask what is upsetting it, and let it introduce you to grief or violated boundaries, or whatever it is trying to show you, and then start healing it ❤
Compassion is pure medicine! fills the heart even when its bleeding. Thank you Thay for so much love and wisdom!
Thich Nhat Hanh explains that "control", which is the act of suppressing, is not good. So just "not getting angry" is not what he's talking about. "Not expressing the anger" is not what he's saying. "Taking out anger", immediately reacting or expressing anger later is not freely embracing the anger. With underlying "bottom line" understanding and compassion, one accepts the anger for what it is, and then transforms it. And what it is always involves other people or another person in one form or another. They also must be included in the transformation. Thank you for reading this.
Thank
I keep coming back to this video as it gives some very essential keys to put anyone on an effective initial track action while dealing with anger.
I've learnt through myself personal experience:
1- Acknowledging anger when it manifest in me.
2- Stopping all activities and breathing in/out in awareness so that I can fully stay with this extremely powerful energy.
3- Experiencing in all its fury while observing, acknowledging its response and impact in all my body and mind.
4- Free from any discrimination or comparation with other energies (very important to this point). Dealing with it with the same equanimity as if it was compassion. Living the experience beyond duality. Free from any attachment.
5- Let it simply be.
6- Talk to it (marvellous experience when reaching this stage. One can experience with great clarity how anger stars to dilute at the same time a new way of very, very sweet, sensitive energy of compassion takes place from the same source anger energy. Amazing and very beautiful experience. So it seems as if compassion is made with anger elements.
As a contrast to the wisdom passed on by all great Masters, Rimpoches... in buddhist enviroments. They are not the best enviroments to overcome anger for they are extremely attached to pleasanties of the called positive emotions and consecuently all negative will need to be repressed.
Mare Nostrum there is no need for suppression where there is prevention.
@@marenostrum7796 Thank you for your first comment, it's really helpful to me. I have to disagree with the second comment though. Buddism is not attached to pleasant feelings. They simply recognize suffering and transform them as Thay said. I think the keywords are Balance and Moderation. There are many lessions in Buddism about this subject: One shouldn't chase after pleasantness nor run away from suffering.
There is a famous quote in Vietnam "Nhất Tu Thị, Nhị Tu Sơn" which means the best place to practice is in the city amongs all kinds of people, not in a temple or a moutain, but it only for those who have reached a certain level & experience like Thay. Beginner people & young nuns/monks could be protected from many factors and earn many benefits by practicing in a neutral environment first.
thanks for this summarization!
Thank you so much, Thay, for your lesson. I have problems controlling my temper for many years. Your teaching help me understand that anger could not be controlled, only could be transformed. When anger come to us, we need to breathe deeply to calm ourselves down, look deeply to recognize our anger, understand its cause and embrace it tenderly. In that way, we feel a relief right away. When we have conflict with other people, by loving speech and deep listening, we could help that person suffer less and increasing mutual compassion and understanding and lead to final peace between both sides.
I'm so grateful that I finally found the answer to transform the suffering of my parents, myself and not let anger control me to hurt the ones I love.
embracing the energy of anger with the energy of mindfulness and compassion to transmute anger into acceptance.
thank you Master, peaceful healing from your stroke on nov 11-2014
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you Dear Thay for the marvelous teachings in this talk. I can mention many things, but I just say that I recognice that compassion means to love and to heal, not only our person but the other person too. Embracing every person in the sittuation for sure give us more peace of mind, and harmony in our soul. Lots of hugs. Evangelina Cortes.
Grateful for your teachings dear Brother Thay. Your wisdom lives on.
It is hard, but one can do it. This is probably one of the greatest of his teachings.
She really asks "when the anger come out sundenly, she realize, later, she hurt the other, and she feels bad, she feels she cannot do anything to fix the pain in the other, how to fix the situation, she asks"... she doesnt like to hurt people, very good question, indeed 😊😊
Master Hanh is an amazing master.
This is a great video. I am a school counselor and mental health clinician. I believe that Freud was wrong in his concept of catharsis, or getting it out. Talking about it with the counselor, might help. But, hitting pillows is in a behavioral sense, practicing that which promotes anger and violence. Likewise, raking leaves angrily, is not transformative, it just exhausts you.
Even if you don't hit the pillows, or chop wood, and you just suppress your anger and rage, it builds up. And some day, some unfortunate person is going to be the recipient of all that or wrath, hatred, anger, bitterness, that has built up inside of you. It might even be yourself, when you look back on a life that was wasted on revenge, or suppression, or refusing to acknowledge your natural emotion of anger.
Of course, this advice is similar to the sayings of the New Testament author Paul, as much as it depends on you, live at peace with others.
Peace.
Yes, but how? You dont explain how?
@@lauralunaazul
He does. Practice. Accept anger. Choose balance.
@@stevebutler812 ok, thank you. ❤
@@stevebutler812 so, acceptance.
Letting "Anger Out" is simply temporary. It may make you feel good in the moment but the root cause is still there. Understanding why the anger exists is part of why you're angry. Understanding the cause can allow you to release the anger in a constructive manner. Its not the anger of subbing a toe or hitting your thumb with the hammer. Although relaxing and deep breathing will help with the pain emotional pain is very different. Understanding why someone caused you pain may make the pain much less. That is TNH"s message. When he said hitting the pillow does no good it's no different than hiding your pain in drugs, it's only a short term solution. Long term is to be mindful of the source of the pain. Looking at why the other person hurt you, there may be a common cause.
No, it's not temporary, when you release anger that anger is gone. If the next day you're still angry after releasing it the previous day then it means that your mind built up new anger for that day, it is not the same psychic energy within the mind, which could be caused by an unresolved external event that is reiterating and therefore re-traumatizing. But in terms of what happens within the mind it is new anger. And if it isn't released it'llstack up.
José Yánez I'm unsure the anger does let go of. Lets think about it.. Anger arises, we notice the anger, the anger is overwhelming and we feel we need to let it go, we choose a practice e.g. punching a pillow to let out this anger.. We punch this pillow and now we have the perception we are letting go and doing something constructive with our anger, maybe we even feel better afterwards and proud that we handled it well.
However are we truly connecting with the source of the anger? Are we not just utilizing physical energy that we perceive to be 'getting in touch' with our anger? Are we simply letting out energy? Where does that energy come from? Is it the seat of anger? Has that seat of anger been reduced by letting out the build up of energy perceived as anger? I'm unsure.
Personally I feel the lake must be totally drained. How? We no longer feed the source. Letting our anger doesnt transform anger it simple expresses anger.. Transforming anger through compassion whereby we no longer feed the source of anger creates true lasting transformation. We turn anger through wisdom and compassion into love.
Great video,, should be translated and shown in all schools,classes, worldwide,,see how many people-students can benefit from this form of learning, about dealing with anger
I know what the questioner said in spanish... That she just lashes out & reacts when shes angry & when she calms down, she realizes that shes hurt others. Shes wondering how could she control the anger.
Si, dice que suprime la ira y de repente le sale, y después se siente mal y siente no puede hacer nada para remediar el mal que causó o la herida en el otro, excelente pregunta.
The fact that she already recognised that is a great start. She's already way ahead of many others
There's nothing wrong with getting upset an telling someone your upset as long as your not getting upset every day! I hate when people suppress their Feelings and waist their life afraid to Live! Suppressing is NOT healthy an later it comes out in ugly ways over little things because of the issue you didn't resolve! Arguing once in a while is how you get things fixed or at least vent your Feelings! If someone is upset at me I want them to tell me so we can fix it or at least get it off their chest! Holding stress in will kill you.
Yes, she s asking how to say I am sorry, really. I speak spanish and she s asking what to do when she realizes she hurt other people, and she feels bad about it...
@@lauralunaazul Oh ok thank you! Someone should tell her to just speak her Feelings from her Heart an be honest an say I'm sorry for hurting you. I think we should listen to everyone like the guy in this video but make final decision ourself. God is found by listening to the Feeling in our Hearts because God doesn't live in books or buildings, God lives in Hearts! 😊
Anger is a very big subject. It often a throw of temper is taking these days as anger. But this wasn't before years back. People then would understand and forgive a sudden tantrum because everybody had them!. Forgiving, giving a hug as symbol of making peace....But now we seem having lost that natural capacity. In nature when any animal is provoqued till the point of anger, what they do is to deffend themselves. Anger is a natural guard protecting us from any threat.
very well said. x
Gato Gate. I am so glad you mentioned being provoked into anger. we are made to feel guilty for displaying our anger in whatever way. I am so grateful to you as not much is said about provoked anger. the person who is angry is perceived to be the baddy and you are told you cannot take angry words back. so yes what about the people who provoked it.xx
Can you think of a old sitcom or movie that demonstrates this was the norm? I am Curious
The answer is to balance that Yang energy(anger) with more Yin energy(compassion)......Change your diet if youre angry....and study Tai Chi.......
Tony Z great post! .....Tai Chi IS an ultimate answer ....balance within. Highly recommended.
Great Post and Guidance from Thich Nhat Hanh.
A treasure to humanity.
What is diet?
Suzanne Cheung the food you eat......Yin foods are fish, veggies, rice,pork.fruits.....basically the Asian Diet....
Yes beef or seafoods mostly.
Suzanne Cheung you do know Thay advocates a total vegetarian/vegan diet right?animal food causes suffering.
exactly, when i am facing more harder times i gets more softer to the other and feels loving them. our sufferings are key to the grow in the spiritually.
Both Jesus and Buddha emphasize compassion, forgiveness, and nonjudgment, which are key to being mindful of anger.
Jesus taught loving others, forgiving endlessly, and avoiding judgment, reminding us to focus on our own flaws instead of condemning others.
Buddha didn't explicity mention forgiveness itself, but encouraged behavior that naturally leada to it: compassion for all beings, letting go of anger and resentment, and looking inward instead of judging others.
Practicing these values helps release anger and leads to greater peace and mindfulness. They are real practices you can take to make anger more like a wriggly worm that is hard to hold on to.
Its amazing!
The words he speaks are the only truth to experience our ability to act lovingly toward others when we feel anger. The positive energy of mindfulness comes from our creator. Swim with the current of mindfulness and the strength of the stream is yours. Swim against the current and suffering continues, anger persists. Understanding of our own anger and anger of others is the change this world needs. Can we start now?
This question is for Thay.
"How do I listen compassionately when someone is yelling, blaming and verbally abusing me ? How do I respond especially when the other person expects me to answer? "
Thank you🙏
Dear friend, have a look at this Questions and Answers playlist with Thay ua-cam.com/video/_FCIIDmN_Po/v-deo.html You'll find quite a few similar questions answered. Hope this helps 🙏
This is so very helpful, it's actually life-changing! Thank you so much, dear Thay & Plum Village Community! ☺💛🙏
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you Dear Thay. I think that I understand your answer, and at that time of my own process is easy to me being tenderly if something happens in my life and it is not positive, but I'm sure that time before it was difficult for me to understand, because the job to reorganice my life has been a process not only one event. I'm grateful to receive your teachings and being practicing as much as possible to me. Evangelina Cortes.
HAVING COMPASSION.IS A POSITIVE ENERGY OF LETTING THE ANGER RELEASE..
Thank you beloved 💗
Thank you Dear Thay. I needed this right now.
I am over the hill and just now trying to bring these teachings into my psyche, but it is hard. It is so hard to be angry, to deal with the anger.I cannot follow my breath for more than three counts, and I start daydreaming. The anger comes explosively and I hate it, hate myself. I hate every second of it. I hate every bit of myself. This is really toxic and negative. But thank you for reading. Peace---
I realise multi tasking is something I am so use to, I have to be mindful & stop whatever I am doing & reset. Usually whatever is of urgency, o complete that first. 🙇♀️. Even in watching videos, I realise I don’t even do that mindfully 😬.
It s very difficult but it can be built by practice...change is slow but constant
Learn to be compassionate with myself and others!
Abrazar tiernamente la propia ira, como una madre a su bebé 😍😍😍 ❤❤❤
Thank you,
Breathe for one minute. Relax. React.
Thank you Thay🙏❤💐💐💐💐💐💐
so much to learn
So much Thankful
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相手の苦しみを理解する実践を行います。
ありがとうございます！
Wow...such a great mind!. Learning a lot from you message Thay.
I'm trying to understand the suffering of the people talking in the background instead of listening to this very awake mindful teaching but it still makes me angry so I'm suffering too
lmao
to me they are showing disregard to everyone else who are there to hear the speach.
Magistral.
Thx for the question
also i am compassionate when i am angry
Beautiful answer. Now if only he gave it in Spanish they would have all understood it.
The Work of Byron Katie is also a really good tool to use to challenge our Egoic stories that make us aggressive. It is very powerful, it addresses the anger on a very deep level.
thank u soo much!!!!! such a blessing...
Energies cannot be removed like surgery, but can be transformed.
This speech was very enlightening esp pillow humour
Teacher, what if we are in a group when they talk and we deep compassionate listening , they want us to agree with them and choose their side over who they have anger against ? So in that situation do we agree with them or correct them . If we agree that is adding gas to their fire , but if we correct them that might also add gas to their fire so what to do please ?
Thank you so much
Basis of Budhism is reincarnation and law of karma . The necessity of Budhism is impermanence , sufferings and concept of no soul . Budhism is to guide one to remain in human world and heavens until final stage is attained 🙏🙏🙏
What does one do with anger that comes from another persons negligence that causes harm? Weird example, I was in a crowded yoga class today and a student who was not proficient handstands tried to do one 2 feet from me and kicked me in the chest as I was going into a handstand and she fell. It hurt me. I was angry. I left the class. Later the teacher said it was "unintentional" but I am still angry with her as of 12 hours later. The bus driver example in the comments suggests he was late for reasons beyond his control. But what if he carelessly skipped your stop because he simply forgot as he was texting his friend? Is anger justified then? Can the anger be "taken out" then? Or in a horrible situation where one is maimed by a drunk driver, would Thich Hanh allow anger then?
Imagine someone with a physical or mental disability, maybe someone who is blind or deaf, and on a crowded street this person bumps into you. Now, in this situation, will you be angry with him? Or will you forgive him with your compassion?
I have done some thinking, and it came upon me that people who we consider to be "rude/inconsiderate/selfish" are similar to people with physical or mental handicaps. Deep down inside, they are handicap in a certain aspect thus they portray themselves to be offensive to others. Similar to people with disabilities, the condition can be treated or minimized.
Understanding the above, and knowing that you will not be angry at a disabled person, I say it is probably easy to let the anger go in such a situation. There is no victim here.
I think the point isn't getting angry but rather acknowledging its birth and being mindful of it coming along but taking the energy involved physically mentally etc and channeling it into something that is beneficial..
I translated this into Spanish a couple of months ago to share it with my family. It is not available yet. Somebody knows how to report this issue?
his spanish is hard to understand but very cute when he speaks it lol
What is the tapping sound
It 's juste wonfderful
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I read, did some journaling & wrote about ways to let go of the ego. I realise for me I have an inferior complex. I didn’t know it was a thing :o
I wish the Brazilian President Bolsonaro could listen to you Thay!
He probably would cause much less harm and less suffering to the Brazilian People.
anger can be transformed into understanding and compassion
Luna L true that
what if it's your husband sneaking about with a woman behind your back.
How do you know hitting a pillow doesn't work, have you tried it, without experience you can't speak on something as a teacher/instructor. Maybe you tried it but it didn't work for YOU. why do you associate hitting as a practice of anger.(you said hitting the pillow is rehearsal.
Peace
As a kid, I was not allowd to express myself, m'y parents affraid if me looking Silly or stupid on front of Them...a Shane if me their lovely son...
After I suffer of not Being myself...
After I hit my pillow a lot...After my Mothers hot myself...Bad Boy!!! Being a kid!!!
After hiting my pillow ans Being Mad avoir autority...I got verry Mad avoir autority...
Hitting some stranger on the street!!! Sad I was...lost in my compassion and bag of seeds...
After I suffer...alown...with aimé tv, alcool, cigaret, food...etc...
After I have kids...
Did I choose if making Them a pillow????
Not at alll...
By practicing and lerning and understand the Shanga...
I rote lettres of love...
Ask my kids to stay calmer of their dad...and feed Compassion about my parents and Mothers...and pillow that have suffer a lot lolll
My kids are not violent and are getting closser to love and contrôle of Anger that anyone vous ne by having me as exemple....
Juste be true...vision juste .... actions juste...amour juste.... vérité juste...gestes justes...
Merci tel tous les grains de sables de milliers de Gange...la Shanga et mon Boudha Thich Nhat Hanh!
Sir Thich Nhat Hanh, have you met DJT?
all links of all
sound when questions are being asked is so bad in these videos, wonder why the person recording doesn't correct this? is he/she not aware of it
How to be docile?
Thank you thay🙏
I can translate this video to Spanish if you want 😊 Plum Village 💓💓
How arrogant! That's not your anger. You belong to the anger. Not the other way around. Be humble.
Poor audio
Please fix!
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Practice mindfulness my friend. Be mindful to Thay's voice and his teaching and you shall be free from other distractions 🙏
Why does it feel like someonebis tapping on the mic constantly? 😅🙏
How pitty is he doesnt understand spanish, or she doesnt speak english, because the woman who translate spanish to inglish to him, didnt translate exactly what she says, and so, he s not really answearing her question.
I speak spanish and inglish, her question was really good one! We all have this kind of emotion/situation I think :)
Sadhu sadhu sadhu
Bread for brefast
Role play responder I only come here for brekfass
🙏💜🍀🌻 thank und Thay
Je t’aime qu’il parle français aussi👽🙏🏼
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Kids, don't waste your time and money on therapists and psychologists please.... They only serve the system and will hardly offer you any real help. You will be much much more helped if you study spirituality and develop your consciousness. And if you are not stupid, you won't need to pay anyone in order to do that.
Don't they learn english in Spain ?
il parle français ???
Il a habité en France pendant de nombreuses années. Le Village des Pruniers (Plum Village) est en France. Je crois qu'il pourrait parler chinois aussi, et sa langue maternelle était le vietnamien.
Cannot understand a word he says...his accent.
S Hyde so that ur not a native English speaker then ;)
I feel outraged by the people who cough all the way through these talks and show no consideration for others and have a hard time just "looking at it".
hard to know what to say to that.
maybe you’re extremely lucky that this is the kind of problem you have in life.
or maybe your life is tough in that you are angry at all sorts of things including this small matter.