What Is A Cerebral Narcissist? Hint: This Is The Most Dangerous Type

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  • @valeriegonzalez6629
    @valeriegonzalez6629 Рік тому +14

    I was married to a narcissist who was a Chess Master. He also very likely had high functioning autism. He was extraordinarily bright in many respects but his emotional intelligence was low. Despite that he was able to see all my weaknesses and vulnerabilities and pulled off fantastic manipulations. It was as if he were playing chess with my life.

    • @adamwalicki9958
      @adamwalicki9958 Рік тому +2

      lol I am reading comments and many of them playing chess, interesting. It is actually very boring game and almost no normal person would play chess like 5 hours a day or more to be very good and have no money from it. Only cerebral narcs normal people would like money but chess players have almost no money and they are wasting time and life on this game.

    • @francesbernard2445
      @francesbernard2445 2 місяці тому

      Are you sure that he was not sometimes cheating at chess too. I am not that good at playing chess however when only gettting to watch others playing chess then that is a different story. A malignant narcissist has to win always since he is constant afraid that not doing so might mean that his supremacy could be at stake.

  • @sararichardson737
    @sararichardson737 2 роки тому +19

    He read the newspaper everyday and would go to the library to read all the others. So he always appeared well informed and intelligent. He taught me the difference between the two.

  • @laurelmarshall6903
    @laurelmarshall6903 2 роки тому +20

    My father was a cerebral narcissist too. Thank you so much for describing this subtype of narcissist. My father worked with the early inception of computers & later Data Processing. My father hated hugging or intimacy. It was just like you said with some other strange behaviors.

  • @alexspectre962
    @alexspectre962 2 роки тому +20

    You opened my eyes and gave me a new understanding. This exactly describes my girlfriend. Now I see why they are so sloppy in dress and how they have a "zero" sex drive. Sex is almost disgusting to them. I've experienced this exact dynamic in my relationship. She studies new people to figure them out. She stays quiet for a while when she meets someone new until she figures them out and THEN she goes into the love bombing and ensnaring phase. It works like a charm and almost everyone falls for it. She's amazingly good at winning people over, but she studies them first and almost never makes a mistake when she makes her move. It's quite masterful to see in action.

    • @pearlsdaughter2281
      @pearlsdaughter2281 Рік тому

      I think the word used in his opening statement is more accurate-demonic.

  • @apureenergyme9
    @apureenergyme9 3 роки тому +33

    I had one. You said 100% accurate. But 20 years ago I was not healthy either, I knew he is so hard to deal with but I had no idea what he is and what the name is for his behavior. Now I am old enough to see through his acts, it just disgusting me. He dress like a homeless, all he cared was accumulating money. He has that ego and arrogance that never going to listen to anybody says, he only hear his talk. And he is good use his words to diminish you, make you feel that he think you are stupid. His sex , my god, was very short time lived, and then you will get years and years with 0 sex. If I have to choose any type of narc to be with, I will never choose this type. And he just like any other type of narc, see woman is some kind of tool or supply, no real emotion, no real empathy. And he go out talking like he is the most kind hearted person, no, he is not really kind. He does it to gain his supply. Be very careful about some nerds. Do not simply think they are all good people, lots of narcs in nerds group these days.

    • @pauline2604
      @pauline2604 2 роки тому +6

      This is the father of my children. I have suffered

    • @kirabarsmith9353
      @kirabarsmith9353 2 роки тому +3

      Supposedly only 15% of people are NOT on the NPD spectrum, so they're EVERYWHERE. One must be very discerning with who we choose to interact with.

    • @Lyrielonwind
      @Lyrielonwind 2 роки тому +4

      Same with musicians and artists; we tend to believe they are "sensitive souls".

    • @sararichardson737
      @sararichardson737 2 роки тому +3

      @@kirabarsmith9353 I’ve become a hermit . I’m the happiest I have ever been.

    • @kirabarsmith9353
      @kirabarsmith9353 2 роки тому +1

      @@sararichardson737 Same here:)

  • @ginaryanbearfighter7065
    @ginaryanbearfighter7065 Рік тому +6

    My elder sister was a cerebral narcissist fortunately I prayed to God to help me and to pronounce judgment on her. I outlived her! She died of covid in 2020.

    • @aimalkhan4609
      @aimalkhan4609 Рік тому +2

      You are lucky! She must have made your life a living hell. One of my friend's sister is a narc and now she is losing her sanity. She says that her life is a living hell and she is helpless and I am the only one who supports her.

    • @ginaryanbearfighter7065
      @ginaryanbearfighter7065 Рік тому

      May the Lord bless you and keep you and to shine his face upon you that she may have peace and that's you may also@@aimalkhan4609

    • @ginaryanbearfighter7065
      @ginaryanbearfighter7065 Рік тому +1

      She made my family's life hell@@aimalkhan4609 took me a long time to put the pieces together and before I got them all together I cut her out of my life.. I went no no contact and the last thing I told her was that I was going to pray for her because she needed it and that she should get ready and prepare her heart for the Lord because judgment was coming for her according to what was in her heart.. which was death because she died of covid in less than a year.

  • @fayceedat670
    @fayceedat670 4 роки тому +45

    Thank you Danish. I am married to a covert Narc for 40yrs. I am living with the above. I have finally decided to leave. Pray and make Duaa for me. He was not intimate with me for 4yrs now. Wont even touch me.

    • @snowyskylar8821
      @snowyskylar8821 4 роки тому +3

      Mine for twenty years.

    • @apureenergyme9
      @apureenergyme9 3 роки тому +3

      Covert narc is not cerebral narc. Do not get confused.

    • @mercyz6252
      @mercyz6252 2 роки тому +5

      Praying for you🙌🏼

    • @LR-yu3mx
      @LR-yu3mx 2 роки тому +2

      My eldest son is like that. When He was still in the house, he knew everything! I always said yes, you are doctor Alwissend!
      We had a book at school about dr Alwissend, who knew-it-all and had good laughs as the teacher read it in German.

    • @SunkenButterfly
      @SunkenButterfly 2 роки тому

      Ditch that vile toxic b#tch.
      You deserve a prince 🤴

  • @intr0vert315
    @intr0vert315 3 роки тому +24

    Key word PRETEND. they won't put the actual time in to learn things

  • @Morpheus-pt3wq
    @Morpheus-pt3wq 2 роки тому +8

    It´s always interesting to see them annihilated in discussions, when they encounter someone really knowledgeable about the topic they are trying to make themselves expert at.

  • @minichanti
    @minichanti 2 роки тому +7

    Great explanation. This person I never met defines himself as an intellectual and he is in fact knowledgeable, yet one can feel he is a bad person, a liar, fake altogether.
    Evil, as Gelven understands it, "assaults our own personality. It unites evil of character with inevitability, so that immorality becomes the driving force rather than a choice freely made by the person"

  • @francesbernard2445
    @francesbernard2445 2 місяці тому

    Now I cannot remember who first told me that how narcissists who use coersive control will express that destructive behavior pattern depends on their value system while doing so. If that person is from a farming background where to succeed they must adapt to the new realities in todays world like for example having to become good at mechanizing that farm too while their children one by one are leaving home to sometimes live in the city getting closer nearby then that is not just a facade. On the other hand if they are hiring farm hands to work on their farm with the bait and switch method then anything could happen next on that farm for farm hands one at a time while that farmer thinks he is so intelligent and strong both at the same time. Like on a pig farm.

  • @DeliaPope
    @DeliaPope 2 роки тому +9

    I recognised these patterns in one of the people I know. Wow! Your videos are so helpful! Thank yo!
    PS: so true about the sexual "drive"!!! There is none of it for this type... or at least that is what the victim is supposed to comply to !
    Thank you, Danish! and yeah, they really don't care about how they look or how they dress - so so true!! 🤗

  • @leidynunez4202
    @leidynunez4202 2 роки тому +10

    At the beginning i used to believe he was amazing , He always said me can read people and his intelligence and speed of analysis was out of this world, it was really amazing at first, He could solve all the subjects even he never read before about that ... What I did not realize was this "talent" was used with bad intentions ... I am really afraid now who he was ...Thanks God i am away now ... But still in shock .

  • @dianevitale1214
    @dianevitale1214 Рік тому +4

    OMG I think my covert narc husband is a HYBRID. Actually, a former professor he speaks with his mild mannerisms that others feel is golden. Has lots of clothes he's never worn, but prefers his old stuff. Some other things don't match him. He's got to be always plotting, and revising his plots til carried out. Feel helpless

    • @taraoc1193
      @taraoc1193 Рік тому +2

      Girl, I think I'm married to this kind, too....

  • @dr.mallikagoyal7293
    @dr.mallikagoyal7293 2 роки тому +8

    Good video. Though in my experience cerebral narcissists can also have features of their regular garden variety counterpart or somatic narcissists so that while they depend for their supply primarily on their supposed intellectual superiority they also care excessively about their appearance, groom well, adopt anti-ageing procedures, dress very well, ooze sex appeal, look attractive and charming. All one big act of course, they do not bother to look good or attractive in private, quite the opposite as you said.

    • @aimalkhan4609
      @aimalkhan4609 Рік тому +1

      You are absolutely right! One of my friends is exactly what you have described.

  • @apureenergyme9
    @apureenergyme9 3 роки тому +26

    Also, people here need to understand, covert narc is not the same as cerebral narc. These are two different type. They could be all highly educated as nerds, but covert narc tend not compete so noticeably for academic stuff as cerebral. Also covert has some emotion and could be very sexual, cerebral is another type , they usually only use sex to get you in their web then totally lose interest for sex, they think your body is disgusting. Just like this man in the show said. All they do is in front of the computer, and they are the most boring dry narc in all types.

    • @thehotcoffeehouse6081
      @thehotcoffeehouse6081 2 роки тому

      Sounds a bit like an incel

    • @Lyrielonwind
      @Lyrielonwind 2 роки тому +5

      Narcs and psychopaths are always boring after the love bombing.

    • @brianwalsh1401
      @brianwalsh1401 2 роки тому +1

      @@Lyrielonwind Except for the occasional bone thrown your way to keep you around.

    • @Lyrielonwind
      @Lyrielonwind Рік тому

      ​​@@brianwalsh1401You're right but I call it crumb although I like the comparison with the bone...they still keep being boring. What you are saying is just a lapse in their chronic boring attitude.

  • @surrenderkumar8016
    @surrenderkumar8016 4 роки тому +14

    Very well explained. Thanks 🙏 for educating average people about this subject.

  • @eloquentsarcasm
    @eloquentsarcasm 2 роки тому +4

    I almost made the mistake of getting involved with a cerebral narcissist a few years ago, she was my introduction into the world of Narcissism, I recently encountered a somatic narcissist, and while she has many of the same characteristics, her obsession with looking good and presenting a "perfect" exterior is the diametric opposite.

  • @genevievelovell4204
    @genevievelovell4204 4 роки тому +11

    My dad was this! I can talk all day about them. As you can imagine. His two daughter’s do not have romantically successful lives. He only paid any attention to me if I was asking a homework question or about him and his brain. He’s play chess with himself all day on the weekends and read books, wear the SAME outfit every day!! 365 days a year! And never had eyes for any female except my mom, who he worships.

    • @Lyrielonwind
      @Lyrielonwind Рік тому

      A cerebral narcissist worshipping his wife? Something is off...it doesn't fit into the pattern.

    • @adamwalicki9958
      @adamwalicki9958 Рік тому +1

      they like playing chess... it is now a red flag to me if someone like playing chess

    • @pearlsdaughter2281
      @pearlsdaughter2281 Рік тому

      So I take it that he was unemployed?

  • @Shetu_Sharma
    @Shetu_Sharma 2 роки тому +6

    Excelllent i think you explained better than Dr. Ramani', In fact way better i watched whole playist last night

  • @Arooj981
    @Arooj981 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you so much you might not realise how much your videos help other but thank you

  • @Dhruva1111
    @Dhruva1111 3 роки тому +13

    I knew a cerebral narcissist who was really focused on the way they dressed. Is it possible to have both cerebral and somatic traits, the somatic traits being not as dominant?

    • @rui_bras
      @rui_bras 2 роки тому +6

      They care and use the body to attract their victims

    • @shanefrancis8947
      @shanefrancis8947 2 роки тому +1

      I know a very beautiful and sexy cerebral narcissist, more like a narcopath perhaps. She Prides herself on a use of language, talk very intelligently, it seemingly another level. She seems to have all kinds of knowledge and it's always wants to put it in your face like she is smarter than you. She tells you she is smarter than you. She absolutely uses her seemingly enhanced intelligence, or what appears to be incredible intelligence. To intimidate you, dominate you, capture you, control you, Etc. But she absolutely cares about the way she dresses, as her looks are a huge huge part of her capturing you. She studies you and then goes out of her way to look like the person she thinks you want. And she has a beautiful body and she has no problem getting naked with you. She is definitely cerebral, but physical, and visual

    • @sitascott8446
      @sitascott8446 2 роки тому +1

      I have heard that they can change types. But the presentation would probably first be as a somatic, then switching to cerebral. I know of someone who says he was cerebral (for years and years) and is now somatic. But I don't have any personal experience with that sequence, only the other.

    • @aimalkhan4609
      @aimalkhan4609 Рік тому +4

      Absolutely! A friend of mine is both.

  • @m.pellicier
    @m.pellicier Рік тому +7

    Holy sh*t you just described my soon to be EX-husband.
    Not only is he a professionally diagnosed covert and malignant narc, (VERY abusive, jail, etc) he's also what you described in this video--a cerebral narc too. 🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢
    I'm starting to think I escaped with my life!

  • @sirrantsalott
    @sirrantsalott Рік тому

    I worked with someone like this and he ran a toxic smear campaign on me when I held him and his team to account. The man is extremely obese, probably 300+ lbs. He liked to use big words and belittle anyone who questioned his hubris. I held to my standards. He was let go after I finally convinced the leadership team that he was taking financial advantage of the company with their subpar services and unmatched rates per hr. He “ran” a company that he and his brother worked on together and hired junior developers who would never question him.

  • @yellowrose5551
    @yellowrose5551 2 роки тому +7

    They know the bible so much that they twist it,it very sickening

  • @found-it0620
    @found-it0620 Рік тому +2

    Simply said, they have mind idolatry.

  • @debbiejohnson7758
    @debbiejohnson7758 2 роки тому +3

    You just described my brother.

  • @alimccreery755
    @alimccreery755 2 роки тому +2

    I know two of those, I call them Thing One and Thing Two. Both of them are pure evil to the core. 🤢

  • @LoveSource1111
    @LoveSource1111 Рік тому +2

    Lol "a human with a devil's brain" this is hilarious but so true

  • @umaadhish
    @umaadhish 2 роки тому +1

    You just nailed it !!!! Even when we share nude pics of us..They will get bored and talk about office stuffs... !

  • @betanialacoste7945
    @betanialacoste7945 Рік тому +1

    No. I think a cerebral narcissist can be somatic, too. They can be sexual predators.

  • @gypsylee73
    @gypsylee73 Рік тому +1

    These are the people who should be worried about AI

  • @Kestrel99
    @Kestrel99 Рік тому

    Mine wanted nothing to do with sex which was confirmed by the boyfriend before me and the one after me.
    She would say he x husband never cheated on her because he always told her he was going out to find someone to have sex with.
    She would flirt with married men in front of me including my friends. She wanted attention but couldn’t finish the deal. She had multiple trauma stories that I now believe was BS. She is a personal trainer and big into triathlons.
    I remember in the beginning she said,”I am trying to decide if you are trainable”. If she got drunk you might get sex but it was a fine line that if crossed she became an extremely mean drunk and had to win at everything. We had sex 8 times in 18 months and it was horrible. She is a monster.

  • @tzeniblond9091
    @tzeniblond9091 Рік тому

    My mother didn t work and exploited me financially. She used to take all the money that I earned. I asked her once why she doesn t work and she answered that she is intellektually superior.

  • @MikeWhiskyTango
    @MikeWhiskyTango Рік тому

    Lovebombing?? Ive read the cerebral narc do not lovebomb as do other narcs. Is this true?? I am trying to work out what type of narc this girl is that I met. I came to the conclusion she was a covert narc but she has avoided the lovebombing, completely! I saw this video and wow, this explains the other facet of her behaviour not explained under the covert behaviour, that being her shallow search for knowledge, courses half finished and NEVER completed, books half read, her abrupt and curt response when I explain something. "I know, I know, you don't have to explain." She will say that when she clearly has no idea. Even a pumice stone I found on the beach I just said offhandedly how it comes from a volcano and she immediately snaps out that same response.

    • @taraoc1193
      @taraoc1193 Рік тому

      These kinds don't love bomb like the typical... their love bombs come in the form of "poor me"

  • @hollyfabiani
    @hollyfabiani Місяць тому

    They definitely can have a sexual addiction with OCD. That doesn't mean they have sex with you. Often are closeted and its a compulsion and really want opposite sex and lots of it. Mine was a pathological liar, passive aggressive, closeted sex addict(casual encounters you name it) who was paid highly to do others homework and tests for them at any type of college so they could receive admiration all day long and praise on their knowledge. Sam Vadkin described these exact traits at least 7 years ago. Im sure they can be sex addicts.

  • @stefangebhard7074
    @stefangebhard7074 2 роки тому +3

    Is there a corollary between cerebral narcissists and those of the same personality type being predisposed to the Dunning-Krueger effect? Or, are they separate factors?

    • @Lyrielonwind
      @Lyrielonwind Рік тому

      I think they are separated factors. I would say most people are predisposed to the Dunning- Krueger effect. Not wise people but those people are very few.

  • @sillygirl2242
    @sillygirl2242 4 місяці тому

    You are so right

  • @nicj5354
    @nicj5354 2 роки тому +1

    My ex is a malignant/toxic narcissist. He's def. not very intelligent .

  • @gregmanvel
    @gregmanvel Рік тому

    Thank you, Danish

  • @proverbs2522
    @proverbs2522 Рік тому

    Can a person who is a covert narcissist be misdiagnosed with DID (dissociative identity disorder)? My husband does not have 2 separate personalities but he does have the fake narc side and the abuser side. He’s dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde and he even claims he doesn’t remember that he’s hurt me. Sometimes I believe him because he’s so intoxicated he is gone but when he’s sober I know he remembers. He went into the hospital intoxicated and raging and left as his fake self so the doctor he had thought maybe he had two different people inside his head. He doesn’t.

  • @fermaazmat6106
    @fermaazmat6106 2 роки тому +2

    My husband and his mum and dad... Just vile

  • @fayceedat670
    @fayceedat670 4 роки тому +3

    Now i believe he is a covert and a cerebral narcissists

  • @allaboardthegravytrain5987
    @allaboardthegravytrain5987 3 роки тому +7

    My ex was a huge black lives matter fan. He hates cops with a passion. But he makes jokes about race when we are alone.

  • @user-qb4eb8vq5u
    @user-qb4eb8vq5u Рік тому

    I'm just mad .. at myself.

  • @ttadeuszj
    @ttadeuszj 4 роки тому +10

    Makes all sense about my ex girlfriend except she loves her appearance and looks

  • @mym8330
    @mym8330 2 роки тому +7

    It's interesting how mankind using their own God like train of thoughts to put names on certain behavior. Everything is clearly written in the Bible. What's your explaining is a Delilah spirit, a spirit of Intel. Just like Delilah uses the spirit of Intel to figure out Samson's weakness, and use it against him. This is exactly what you're explaining. Go read your Bible.

    • @Lyrielonwind
      @Lyrielonwind 2 роки тому +2

      So; what's the difference between Delilah and Jezabel?

    • @sodonewithit4370
      @sodonewithit4370 2 роки тому +3

      You have a point, M Y M. I do think you could have put your point across in a nicer way though

  • @PoojaSingh-pt3sw
    @PoojaSingh-pt3sw 3 роки тому +3

    My husband

  • @Nobody-jo5fm
    @Nobody-jo5fm 2 роки тому +3

    Basically described my ex husband.

  • @Cucurigu813
    @Cucurigu813 3 роки тому

    Ty

  • @adam.mclean
    @adam.mclean Рік тому

    On the money

  • @Wuestenwiesel
    @Wuestenwiesel 2 роки тому +1

    The only good thing about narcs is, that they are fun in bed. At first at least.
    But a narc without sex?

  • @sunilwadghule7567
    @sunilwadghule7567 2 роки тому

    Sarvdnya

  • @mayazhussain
    @mayazhussain Рік тому

    And they watch your videos 😂

  • @familytreeourstory
    @familytreeourstory 8 місяців тому

    Once you start talking about dozens of different types of narcissists you lose me I'm afraid.