I actually disagree with Yvette's thought that when they go through their struggles in their marriage, she thinks "what are we doing" since they are a marriage podcast. I think that's precisely why so many of us identify with you guys and see ourselves in you. Because you're not trying to present yourselves as perfect or as having it all figured out. It's work. And it's relatable.
@50:42 @MrsMelanin and @BeleafMel what drew me to HMAY is the fact that you are further along and you all are figuring things out in real time. The vulnerability and courage that takes is monumental. It is one of the reasons that makes this podcast dope! It is one of the reason I (we) respect the breaks because yall taking time to work through stuff helps us. Polished couples are nice, but there is space for folks working through things because it encourages us that though marriage is hard it something that constantly needs work. Salute for letting us be apart of the weddingpparty
I honestly feel like the discussion y’all had immediately after the voicemail represented the problem it seems the caller is experiencing in her marriage! because she starts off by saying that she of course, has expectations and expects to learn of his expectations so she can achieve them. then she talks about how her husband doesn’t like having expectations and tends to have less of them because of his personal family background/trauma. but the reality is he does have expectations and while he’s hiding under the guise of having none, she seems to be insinuating there are times when he responds as though an expectation was not met. & this is probably exactly the case because as Yvette both said and demonstrated w/ Glen is that *everyone* has expectations. and so you can be real about the fact that you tend to be on the lower and less demanding end of that spectrum without making it seem as through you have none, making it harder for your partner to discern what the problem is when all the sudden you’re disappointed. a person w/ no expectations should never experience disappointment lol. so it seems communication would definitely be key for the caller. just as Yvette was able to take Glen from saying he had no expectations to expressing an actually super specific one 😂 in the matter of two minutes, so the caller and her husband need to sit down and discuss both his dynamic concerning expectations and what his are. & maybe that will help her also meet him where he is as he may be struggling because of some sort of trauma with even realizing that he does have things he wants, just like any one, and he should feel free to express that.
I really enjoyed this discussion…you all always have an open dialogue which I appreciate. It’s refreshing when a couple isn’t too absolute in trying to figure things out
Hey Yvette and Glenn, I wanted to publicly say thank you for the pre-marital advantage course. I have been able to take some time out to reflect look at myself and really ask myself, What do I want for myself? and what do I want from my future husband? As a single person today taking this course has really helped me take a step and think about my future husband, and clarify expectations. I truly believe that working on yourself helps you in all areas of life not just for Marriage so thank you for that.
Yvette , I totally agree with you on your point about expectations. We all have them and there are times we aren’t even aware of what they are. It is very important for everyone to know what they want, need and expect from their relationship as well as articulate them.
Yes she can! I hope one day she shares with us from that gift but also understand it may not be something she wants to focus on outside her real life circle/on this platform.
Could the caller be trying to communicate that she likes expectations and her husband does not; however, she has expectations of him, and those expectations are not being met, and it’s causing tension?
Awwww Glen I really appreciate you mentioning that same sex couples can use it too. I’ve found myself wondering if you guys are anti because you’re Christian as that’s been my experience with most Christians even though I am Christian myself. But you saying that just made me feel so included I can’t describe it. Love y’all even more than I already did ! ❤
Everyone has expectations Glen! When you cook your expectation is that it will taste good. You expect to impact lives with this podcast. You expect to make profits from your labor. We have expectations of our children, pets contracts when we undertake a remodeling project. Dang it we even have expectations of God Almighty to intervene in the world when we can’t make sense of what is happening. WHY IS IT SUCH A BIG DEAL FOR FOLKS TO COME TO TERMS WITH THIS. Failing to articulate your expectations doesn’t mean you don’t have one making those of us who are able TO look likely we are demanding to say the least.
Glad you spoke on expectations to me I believe the Word expectations in a relationship is a recipe for disaster why because I can promise you something but fail at it then what your expectations are let down now you distrust now your upset. I don’t expect my wife to do this or that I prefer the word request. We both can make requests of each other understanding I might want sex everyday but the request is still in her hands to fulfill which it should be she can’t meet all my expectations everyday nor vice versa but that works for me in my marriage it’s all compromise at the end of the day
From the caller, it seems as though she needs her husband to have expectations of her for her to thrive. She has a weird way of communicating what she needs on the voicemail, hopefully she's a better communicator at home.
I actually disagree with Yvette's thought that when they go through their struggles in their marriage, she thinks "what are we doing" since they are a marriage podcast. I think that's precisely why so many of us identify with you guys and see ourselves in you. Because you're not trying to present yourselves as perfect or as having it all figured out. It's work. And it's relatable.
@50:42 @MrsMelanin and @BeleafMel what drew me to HMAY is the fact that you are further along and you all are figuring things out in real time. The vulnerability and courage that takes is monumental. It is one of the reasons that makes this podcast dope! It is one of the reason I (we) respect the breaks because yall taking time to work through stuff helps us. Polished couples are nice, but there is space for folks working through things because it encourages us that though marriage is hard it something that constantly needs work. Salute for letting us be apart of the weddingpparty
Wow! Yvette totally enjoyed you leading the podcast today. You’re very smart and I love your perspective on things.
I thought the exact same. This was lovely.
I honestly feel like the discussion y’all had immediately after the voicemail represented the problem it seems the caller is experiencing in her marriage!
because she starts off by saying that she of course, has expectations and expects to learn of his expectations so she can achieve them. then she talks about how her husband doesn’t like having expectations and tends to have less of them because of his personal family background/trauma. but the reality is he does have expectations and while he’s hiding under the guise of having none, she seems to be insinuating there are times when he responds as though an expectation was not met. & this is probably exactly the case because as Yvette both said and demonstrated w/ Glen is that *everyone* has expectations. and so you can be real about the fact that you tend to be on the lower and less demanding end of that spectrum without making it seem as through you have none, making it harder for your partner to discern what the problem is when all the sudden you’re disappointed. a person w/ no expectations should never experience disappointment lol.
so it seems communication would definitely be key for the caller. just as Yvette was able to take Glen from saying he had no expectations to expressing an actually super specific one 😂 in the matter of two minutes,
so the caller and her husband need to sit down and discuss both his dynamic concerning expectations and what his are. & maybe that will help her also meet him where he is as he may be struggling because of some sort of trauma with even realizing that he does have things he wants, just like any one, and he should feel free to express that.
Mid-convo... "You wanna order some food?" 😂 I love it.
I really enjoyed this discussion…you all always have an open dialogue which I appreciate. It’s refreshing when a couple isn’t too absolute in trying to figure things out
Hey Yvette and Glenn, I wanted to publicly say thank you for the pre-marital advantage course. I have been able to take some time out to reflect look at myself and really ask myself, What do I want for myself? and what do I want from my future husband? As a single person today taking this course has really helped me take a step and think about my future husband, and clarify expectations. I truly believe that working on yourself helps you in all areas of life not just for Marriage so thank you for that.
Yvette , I totally agree with you on your point about expectations. We all have them and there are times we aren’t even aware of what they are. It is very important for everyone to know what they want, need and expect from their relationship as well as articulate them.
Yvette can sing...record the intro song.
Yes she can! I hope one day she shares with us from that gift but also understand it may not be something she wants to focus on outside her real life circle/on this platform.
I love how they are so over their intro.😊
Me too! 😂😂😂 it’s such a great intro song tho! Maybe at some point they’ll record one to relieve themselves 🤣
They weren't feeling it this time, but they usually are 😂😂
I think glen was just hungry in this ep. Lol
Oh you two got a new channel.
Awesome.
Could the caller be trying to communicate that she likes expectations and her husband does not; however, she has expectations of him, and those expectations are not being met, and it’s causing tension?
Awwww Glen I really appreciate you mentioning that same sex couples can use it too. I’ve found myself wondering if you guys are anti because you’re Christian as that’s been my experience with most Christians even though I am Christian myself. But you saying that just made me feel so included I can’t describe it. Love y’all even more than I already did ! ❤
Everyone has expectations Glen! When you cook your expectation is that it will taste good. You expect to impact lives with this podcast. You expect to make profits from your labor. We have expectations of our children, pets contracts when we undertake a remodeling project. Dang it we even have expectations of God Almighty to intervene in the world when we can’t make sense of what is happening. WHY IS IT SUCH A BIG DEAL FOR FOLKS TO COME TO TERMS WITH THIS. Failing to articulate your expectations doesn’t mean you don’t have one making those of us who are able TO look likely we are demanding to say the least.
anyone else's screen keep flickering? I think they may need a new camera or something. Love your videos! 💕
Man doesn't want to be held accountable, that's what it is. He wants her to do things but doesn't want to be charged anything.
Glad you spoke on expectations to me I believe the Word expectations in a relationship is a recipe for disaster why because I can promise you something but fail at it then what your expectations are let down now you distrust now your upset. I don’t expect my wife to do this or that I prefer the word request. We both can make requests of each other understanding I might want sex everyday but the request is still in her hands to fulfill which it should be she can’t meet all my expectations everyday nor vice versa but that works for me in my marriage it’s all compromise at the end of the day
Y’all just record the intro😅
❤❤❤
From the caller, it seems as though she needs her husband to have expectations of her for her to thrive.
She has a weird way of communicating what she needs on the voicemail, hopefully she's a better communicator at home.