I have my own formula when it comes to long-term relationship trough trials/errors. And I'm happy to have it in my life: ( I told my partner about them in our second date and these are the things that are essential in the relationship: 1) Communication: Always listen and speak to your partner about everything. 2) Honesty: Always be open about your feelings to one another. 3) Growth: Always be supportive of your partners’ goals in life. 4) Acceptance: You do not need to complete you, you need someone to accept you completely. Because I'm a confident person I set the expectations early on and it doesn't take long to realize whether the person shares these sentiments or try at the very least.
Great list Stephane! I would add being supportive. My beautiful wife of 30 years knows how important music is to me--I'm a serious weekend warrior in a classic rock band. She comes to every gig I play, helps with our marketing and sees it as something we do as a family. Of course I support her love of oil painting ... she is quite talented! On the flip side two things come to mind that really don't work too well for finding long term love. GREED and ARROGANCE. I guess they often go together. I've seen many fail at love that have put themselves and material things first. Usually not a good recipe for the longterm. Interestingly ... some of these folks are baffled as to why they can't find love. Hmmm ... could be a good idea for a song?
The best advice I can give you all is; stop looking for love, first do what you love and at some point you will find someone that you love spending time with as much as they love spending it with you, that you can have difficult and awkward conversations with and figure out the best solution, and that you can give them your total loyalty and they’ll give you theirs. Do what you love and what loves you will find you too.
I haven’t looked for love, It isn’t something that I think you can look for but unfortunately for some people love just doesn’t come to find them. Love doesn’t exist for them no one wants to be with them and there isn’t a silver lining because it means a life of loneliness when you get older and everyone else is in relationships and having kids and spending all their time with their families. Friends and siblings distance which means you’re on your own. Alone and that’s when you feel like most lonely. It doesn’t matter if you have hobbies you’re still feeling alone doing them. Seeing everyone have that something you’ve never had, there is no happiness. I wish people talked about the difficulties of being alone more. Sometimes the same old advice comes across as a little condescending because it’s been said a million times and lots of people don’t think about it and keep themselves busy, but it still doesn’t make any difference
On January 9th 2019 the love of me life passed away. True love takes time, and with that time feelings for that person becomes really deep. I real relationship means that a couple stays together even when times are hard. I will forever love my wife, her death does not mean I will ever stop loving her. The truth is love can be hard work. But it's possible when you do not run away at the first sign of trouble.
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I like a lot of alone time, the only time I really want to be around someone is for mutual hobbies or fun time at bed time. Other than that I don't want another person around. Call it trust issues if you want, I just enjoy the simplicity of single life.
Love is the biggest luxury for average people. For me it's information, knowledge and intelligence. A combination of these 3 can tear something as silly as love to pieces
What kind of woman? Well, she should be a free thinker. Like an Aluxer. Genuine and not influenced by social media or what's popular. Able to talk about many subjects and world issues. She's informed and cultured. Independent. Shares her feelings without pouring it on all at once, but shares them in moderation. Knows how to communicate without yelling, name calling or using any form of abuse/physicality. Open-minded. Like in an inner-child sense. Like holding hands. Doing the simple things in life, but also has an adult taste for unique experiences. Loves to laugh and doesn't take herself to seriously. Has a regal air to her. Confident without false bravado. Charitable. Smart with money and economically literate. Basically, my complete other half. I've been hurt/disappointed before. Yet, I believe in love and I am strongly capable of giving to an equally genuine, loving person. Hopefully, I will meet her one day.
1. Looking for the wrong traits in a partner. 2. Having unrealistic standards. 3. Low self-esteem. 4. Being too needy. 5. Stuck in the past. 6. Not actively searching for love. 7. Lack of self-love. 8. Not working on oneself. 9. Always looking for the next best thing. 10. Lack of direction in life. 11. Not prioritizing love. 12. Fear of commitment. 13. Fear of intimacy. 14. Excessive dependence on others. 15. Abandonment issues. 🥰
The Moi BoYz It shouldn’t be all about looks. But if you’re not attracted to someone physically, realistically you probably won’t give them the time of day.
Here's a better question: WHY would you want to become the "best" (whatever that means) version of yourself? You can only be you, vulnerabilities, insecurities, and all. Trying to show the "best" version of you in a relationship is a disaster because eventually the facade wears away, and you get defensive and say "I am who I am! Get over it or leave me alone" while the partner wonders, "They really changed from who I fell in love with".
I can answer that, from experience: we become better because it's the only way to live for some. Continuous improvement, regardless of the goal, (if you actually try to become the best version of yourself, you'll eventually realize becoming the best version of yourself just for liking someone or getting the chick would even defeat the very purpose) becomes the goal for people who are uncomfortable for who they are, for what they have achieved, and are looking for what they could achieve. Naturally, ambition isn't a common trait on a castrated society, and sometimes even further-ahead goals (something more tangible and important than "love") won't drive everyone. Besides, if someone don't love you after you have "changed", it's their problem: we are continuously evolving and changing.
I don't think we all are continuously evolving and changing. After a certain age (around 30) we've settled into patterns of thoughts and behavior that pretty much stay constant with us for the rest of our lives. Why do you think they say that you can't teach an old dog new tricks?
It hits Me! Never let love wait on you it is just around the counter waiting for you to snatch it. Prioritize it if you are totally ready. Later sometimes becomes never.
I can only agree with you guys, we attract who we are. I think people, myself included, should seek to better themselves, before they commit to any type of relationship.
The only think one need is honesty and mutual understanding that's it because if both have mutual understanding between them their relationship will live longer. ✌🏽
If you want to find love, your first step is figuring out what exactly love is. Making lists of requirements is closer to hate than it is to love. Love is something you either give, or recieve, freely, without any conditions. The most beautiful aspect of it, is that you can give it to anyone! How they feel about it doesn't really matter.. You can give it to anyone and it feels divine! The best part is that you can also give it to yourself and that makes you very happy! :)
I'm not looking! Had enough crap from people. It's really hard to live with someone and the older you get the harder it gets. I like going where I want, when I want. I like eating what I want and controlling the remote. I like listening to the music I like and staying home just because I like to read, surf the net, and watch old movies. I don't need anyone. I was married for 27 years, so I'm not a commit phoebe, I just like my own company.
Don't lose faith Aamir! Watch this video as many times as you need to. You have the knowledge now. If you apply it, you'll definitely find someone! Apply the knowledge! Take action!!!
Amir you need to go out and start making friends. Get to know people, get to know women, but don't date with the visible clingy intention of looking for a wife as this is putting them off. And remember that Love is sacrificial therefore when you look for someone, you look for a person that is so wonderful - worthy of you giving her your time, resources and energy. And if she's into you - you'll definitely get a lot of goodness back.
I've yet to find mine. And I'm busy getting myself together. Always have that little bit of loneliness when I'm alone at home. Not a good feeling if you ask me.
Fuck these hoes bro get money n die rich hell u can buy a female aint that wat they be after money anyways so do u n get money fuk a ratchat they gone flock like a herd of hungry bulls once u got that bag then u can run shit n not feel so bad
In a partner I search for loyalty: because I wouldn't cheat so why should you positive: Because it's nice to be around happy people Humor: I love laughing Zest for life: It would be nice to go on adventures and Similar values: The more similar the values the less unnecessary drama
Gosh i love your channel :D This makes me feel inspired & energized after a long hard day. I feel up to the path for success in life...thanks a ton. You're doing a great job!
1st Love yourself then Love your given breath. Your beating heart is a miracle of the Universe... give & be generous of yourself. The Love from people you've helped suffices.
When it comes to a partner, I look for a woman who is presentable and respectable. The perfect relationship doesn't exist. I'm more concerned whether my partner and I can add value to each other's lives in the long run
psychowolf00 hard to find women of character these days!! Most of them will be in your life to take your valuable time and resources for sake of their comfort and convenience and once that's over, you'll find hell in heaven!
When I was in my twenties I had a lot of these problems. I've changed a lot since then. I now have the confidence I didn't have before. I came out of bad relationships only to get right into another bad one. Now my past is in the past where it belongs. So in the meantime I spend time with friends, family and church family. I won't tolerate a man who mistreats me, who cheats, etc since I've been in that situation. I love myself enough now to not to allow mistreatment. I'm not looking for perfection, just someone who treats me right.
The kind of information that this video contains is divine. I thought people only watch and make twerking videos or pranks or Gold digging stuff so good to see someone still makes such videos
and its hard to love a messed up person that always talks about there past or always negative and doubtfull. you can drive someone away even if they did try to love you.
The kind of high-value man I am looking for is one that has a good sense of self-esteem. Confident within himself and able to trust. This comes with good communication from both parties. I look forward to continue working on myself and seeing where a life of love takes me.
I'm late. Lol. My Sunday was crazy. No seriously. When you have your own business and your the employee, it's tough to find free time to take off. I always enjoy Alux.
As entrepreneurs, we are 100% logical and 0% emotional. How does one find love if one understands all the chemical imbalances in our brain and how it affects the way we make decisions when we fall in love. Therefore, we don’t fall in love because we don’t let the chemical imbalances happen to us as we keep our decisions and actions logical. When we do fall in love, we still make logical decisions and actions. Therefore, we ask what value does my partner bring to me besides sexual nor emotional needs. Usually, we will find none and move on as we understand our value and worth but we decided to downgrade ourselves just out of sexual and emotional needs. This is illogical and we move on. I rather like a partner than love a partner.
Manny Tran: I love my pets but I try to handle people in life, I don’t love them I have notice just because they always make me sad when I trust them in their actions. I m a strong self confident woman who loves my freedom under responsibility in friendship that is most important for me I have understand. So I decide that I like them or not really care for them at all if they behave bad to me when I m kind to them. That is so wrong to hurt anyone but that is how some people are so for me romantic love between humans don’t exist that is my experience. Maybe I change my mind one day I don’t know but for now I feel like I do to protect my self in this selfish crazy world who does not care if they broke someones heart or not. So sad but true.
I'm so guilty of looking for people who can further my goals or add some value to my life my parents get terrified when I drop people like hot potatoes but in my mind they aren't worth my time so why bother may be a bit harsh but what the hell. I'm not a good person for now so I think I should better myself before committing to any relationship.
That is an interesting point made Manny. However, we are emotional beings and no matter what level of logic you reach you can't change human nature. If you keep searching for that special someone, you will eventually find them. You know the saying ''the harder you work the luckier you get'', it applies as much in business as it does in relationships.
Alux.com Thank you for the reply but we would have to agree to disagree. Human nature isn’t emotional, human nature is survival. Humans will go to war, cause genocides, destroy ecosystems, make species go extinct, and many more just to find the best ways for us to continue to survive. We would kill millions and even billions of people and the earth with it to be given the secrets to immortality. The only thing I could agree on that makes us emotional human beings is that beauty blinds us all. We will love someone much before we like someone. Everyone wants to make themselves lovable but not likable. It’s great to work on your looks but work on your personality, morals, ethics, empathy, compassion, and everything else that as humans collectively, we don’t give a care about. For if we did, the whole world would be a better place. TLDR - Logical proof that human nature isn’t emotional but rather survival.
As a Senior Educator , here in Patna ( INDIA) , I think , as a True Man , Love is Not like a Limited Edition , the more WE ARE ABLE To love ourselves , the more Confident We become to Love the Opposite Sex with Strong Force !
From what I've been told by others who have love, #6 is usually the OPPOSITE of what you need to be doing. Everyone I know who has someone great right now has all said they "found" their partner when they weren't even looking anymore. The rest are great, though. I have no rebuttal for any of them and agree 100%. Especially #10.
I absolutely found this video completely helpful, thx, I will listen to this message daily for 90days, until it sinks in my mind so I can apply this valuable advice.
but not too early. I married at 19. For me that was a Big mistake, but then I know folks who also married at that age and they're still going strong. YMMV, I suppose
I'd disagree. I married young and ended up divorced for several reasons, but what I've learned is that people grow and change. If you don't grow together, it will most likely not work out. There is something special about growing with someone, but how are you going to know who we are as people to attract what we need as a life partner when we've barely lived as an adult? I'm not the same person I was back then.
Damn ALux.. I hate how true ,on point your videos are and I LOVE IT. Like that friend who comes across all "HIGH & MIGHTY" , we know deep down inside "THE FRIEND" is so right. Finally good content on YT. Good work keep it up.
A question for everyone. If you are single and you meet someone who you really like but you are not together, you're just getting to know them, do you think it's better to concentrate on that one person or to explore other options to see if you connect with someone else even better?
I know this is 4 years old, but it's new to me, lol. Woman are more attracted to you when you have other women or options. It is called pre-sellection. If you walk in with a woman, other women take notice. Walk in alone women will think " lower "
Thank you for such a complete video. I knew you would include "you don't love yourself enough" I just did not know the position among the fifteen reasons. Always looking forward for your Sunday Motivational Videos.
Basically, two things: 1. Good looking, since they say "beauty is on the eyes of beholder" as long as her look is satisfying not necessarily to fulfill some complex detailed descriptions. 2. Optimistic, whatever happen she always gives a benefit of doubt.
I've recently gone through a break up.....the only advice I would give is "whatever you expect your partner to do for you,firstly be ready to give all that to your partner....be willing to do for your partner what you want to be done for you".....relationships work on the rule of 50 50
Kunal Khandagale then just be patient.....sometimes we invest our energy in wrong people but we must remain fair to attract the fair people...the person who took your kindness for granted would regret it one day
anonymous nation I hope they regret! But it hurts to learn that emotional investment into relationships always ended with big scar which will remain as memory forever sadly. I believe my life's purpose is to live for far greater cause than personal cause. Void and loneliness only needs to be replaced by entrepreneurial work and social work.
Kunal Khandagale exactly.....to get rid of the previous addiction you need to embrace a new addiction but make sure that the new addiction is the productive one
A partner that pushes me to become someone better than I am. Someone who cares about my school and my family because I know they care about my future and well being 🇬🇭🙏🔥🇬🇭
Finding love--trying to find love [from others]--is so overrated! How about finding love from within yourself?!! When you love yourself, you don't need others to love you.
What I look for in a partner is willingness to give a relationship their best effort. If I'm giving the relationship 100% I expect the same in return. I don't expect perfection in someone, all I require is their putting forth their best effort.
my main issue: I've stayed away from the public for TOO LONG, and I really need to go discover my life a little bit However, if I want a perfect date it would usually be at night: - Go for dinner with a girl I like to discover more about her - Possibly go for a movie later on - Go for some video games challenges (not for too long though, just for the fun of it!). - Go for a night drive all night long with my car bluetooth system, singing along to music we mutually like with all car windows open! (it has a lot of vibes, and an amazing feeling!). - Discuss interesting topics (I barely talk, but I have a lot to tell!) - Discuss past experiences (you can always learn something new from other people, and stories are fun!).
So what is my inner surface, could I find myself? If yes the problem is solved, everything is in me in my own thoughts, it may be desirable and change but own mindset is necessary. Yes, I agree with this thought in the video. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts.
I don't think I'm looking for anything too unrealistic or anything. I want someone who makes me laugh, who is kind and intelligent. Looks don't matter too much but I still want to be attracted to them a little. Is that unrealistic?
True! But if you end up unhappy when it comes to relationships, and even other areas, it means you have to change something in your values or priorities.
Right . You can't have everything in life . Or You choose what you really want in life Or .....: " You gonna settle with less than you ever desire or wish....."
Most people commenting on here are mostly lonely individuals who feel a relationship will complete them. Love can never be forced and should not be chased. Allow it to come to you and if you are in tune with yourself then when it comes you will know and you will find yourself willing to give love naturally without watching videos on how to love. Love can not be forced or controlled. Just simple be true to who you are, love yourself wholeheartedly and allow Love to find its way to you. If you love someone acknowledge it, if they don’t love you back, release and let go, if that person is for you they will come to you eventually. Simply live your life with love, decipline and purpose 😉
Love the complicated feeling ..but there are some problems.. successful relationship takes a time 1.maybe u are looking for perfect partner (never complain but then he or she will bottle up there feelings so don't go for hot and cool looking partner) 2.maybe u have unrealistic expectations ..u will settle down for lil bit but after few months u will feel like they are only human and suppose to be....look at the mirror who u are ..what u have to offer to other ..u have to see from his angle also...what u have to offer 3.u have to be honest with yourself ,,,don't give yourself hoax 4.maybe u are way too needy ..there will be no person who can fill up your all needs(if u were unhappy before relationship chances are u will be unhappy in the relationship)u have to improve the relationship dig the reason 5.u are stuck in the past ..your past break up was bad ...u have to search inside yourself what is stopping u ..u can call your ex and set up some of past harsh thing so now u will not be worried about it..u will feel your body light weight....but don't get back together.... it's meant to happen if it have to happen 6.maybe u are not searching for love ...udk what u searching for ...u have to seat down and fix all ...I will recommend buy a pet for sometime dog or cat ..do u know dog and cat are the only which doesn't give us anything another then love..(example a cow gives us milk,a sheep gives us wool)... 7..u have to love yourself first ...this is not selfish ...if u love yourself people will see how awesome u are .. 8. Work on yourself ..maybe u always think most of the time that it's there fault not yours.....maybe maybe it's your and there's nothing wrong with it...human do mistake but admitting and spoting it is the main part ..at the end of the day it will be worth 9.maybe u are always looking for next best thing ..just slow down for bit to find your love 10.udk what are your goals.. 11.u don't prioritize love..u have to give time..invest in it that means find someone and generally invest in it .. (Growing a tree is a very silent process it takes time but when the tree falls it makes noise when u cut it) 12.u worry about commitment..udk where u want to settle ...maybe a person who is always late but he want to u really 13.express your feelings..love is all about express your feelings if u hide it or protect it so other can't know it's bad..love a person who u express your feelings too..deep down you want love but u want to hide feelings 14.u have fears ...u expect perfection from others ..u don't want him to cheat and be like a robot as a perfect machine U have to work on yourself and find the inner u better than anyone ..first know yourself than u can discover someone else otherwise it will confuse u
I was married for twenty yrs my husband and I divorced and I'm not into Facebook and match making cites but I'm only 43 and I do hope to find a kind, smart, funny, guy to hang out with. But I tinder and that stuff really isn't my scene. Even tho my daughter is always saying. Mom you need to get on social media. I'm not sure I want to meet someone that way.
Social media is ok in its way, but getting out in the real world is truly best. Get out there, not necessarily bars, but get involved in stuff. Go places. See and be seen. That kind, smart, funny guy must might be out there, too. Best of luck!
It is more better to go out in the real world and let a man find you and then go from there. Social media is ok but use it for a mask create something that that person they’re really not .
The people I like, they don't like me. The ones I don't like, they like me a lot.. It's so annoying.
What did the video said, "we attract who we are." 😋
Thats true.. hahaha
Gatta work on yourself
@@ajen1270 what about that quote' opposite attracts'......its so confusing lol
A Jen Nungshi Explain it to me :)
I have my own formula when it comes to long-term relationship trough trials/errors. And I'm happy to have it in my life: ( I told my partner about them in our second date and these are the things that are essential in the relationship:
1) Communication: Always listen and speak to your partner about everything.
2) Honesty: Always be open about your feelings to one another.
3) Growth: Always be supportive of your partners’ goals in life.
4) Acceptance: You do not need to complete you, you need someone to accept you completely.
Because I'm a confident person I set the expectations early on and it doesn't take long to realize whether the person shares these sentiments or try at the very least.
Stephane Labossiere I do the same as you do
Danni Yao Happy to hear Danni.
I.m confident as well. However, people change sometimes and that is not something in our control.
Great list Stephane! I would add being supportive. My beautiful wife of 30 years knows how important music is to me--I'm a serious weekend warrior in a classic rock band. She comes to every gig I play, helps with our marketing and sees it as something we do as a family. Of course I support her love of oil painting ... she is quite talented! On the flip side two things come to mind that really don't work too well for finding long term love. GREED and ARROGANCE. I guess they often go together. I've seen many fail at love that have put themselves and material things first. Usually not a good recipe for the longterm. Interestingly ... some of these folks are baffled as to why they can't find love. Hmmm ... could be a good idea for a song?
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The best advice I can give you all is; stop looking for love, first do what you love and at some point you will find someone that you love spending time with as much as they love spending it with you, that you can have difficult and awkward conversations with and figure out the best solution, and that you can give them your total loyalty and they’ll give you theirs. Do what you love and what loves you will find you too.
I agree
You are right ✔️ bro. If you only looking for a love than focusing on your goal you will end up being a looser.
Totally agree.
Exactly
I haven’t looked for love, It isn’t something that I think you can look for but unfortunately for some people love just doesn’t come to find them. Love doesn’t exist for them no one wants to be with them and there isn’t a silver lining because it means a life of loneliness when you get older and everyone else is in relationships and having kids and spending all their time with their families. Friends and siblings distance which means you’re on your own. Alone and that’s when you feel like most lonely. It doesn’t matter if you have hobbies you’re still feeling alone doing them. Seeing everyone have that something you’ve never had, there is no happiness. I wish people talked about the difficulties of being alone more. Sometimes the same old advice comes across as a little condescending because it’s been said a million times and lots of people don’t think about it and keep themselves busy, but it still doesn’t make any difference
Someone who supports me when I'm down, and someone who is there to celebrate my accomplishments.
That's it. You seems to be a very simple person then
And vice versa.
I found mine, she had me at my worst, now, I'm giving back my best. Turns out, she's my bestfriend for more than a decade.
Awesome!
Hmmm...sound whipped but I digress.
@@ronaldperry279 Somebody is hatin lmao!!
@@ronaldperry279 Lol. 😂
On January 9th 2019 the love of me life passed away. True love takes time, and with that time feelings for that person becomes really deep. I real relationship means that a couple stays together even when times are hard. I will forever love my wife, her death does not mean I will ever stop loving her. The truth is love can be hard work. But it's possible when you do not run away at the first sign of trouble.
Well said. My wife of 45 years also passed and I will always love her. Life is about life and love - not money and stuff. See: www.bluezones.com/
My husband of forty years passed away 10 months ago. We were so lucky to have found each other, I miss him so.
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Sad thing about nowadays people, is we love things and use people 🤦🏾♂️
You speak truth.
Aprecciate it
Michael Collins yup
I AGREE
BANG!!
I like a lot of alone time, the only time I really want to be around someone is for mutual hobbies or fun time at bed time. Other than that I don't want another person around.
Call it trust issues if you want, I just enjoy the simplicity of single life.
I don't know I agree... I find it weird sometimes but actually yep this is what i feel too
Love is the biggest luxury one can get in life.
Yes, costly when you have a golddigger 😂
Love is the biggest luxury for average people. For me it's information, knowledge and intelligence. A combination of these 3 can tear something as silly as love to pieces
Well then, I'm poor as hell.
It's not the sexiest or most attractive people that are in love. It's people who know what they have and what they want to do. ❤️
Amen brother!
What kind of woman? Well, she should be a free thinker. Like an Aluxer. Genuine and not influenced by social media or what's popular. Able to talk about many subjects and world issues. She's informed and cultured. Independent. Shares her feelings without pouring it on all at once, but shares them in moderation. Knows how to communicate without yelling, name calling or using any form of abuse/physicality.
Open-minded. Like in an inner-child sense. Like holding hands. Doing the simple things in life, but also has an adult taste for unique experiences.
Loves to laugh and doesn't take herself to seriously. Has a regal air to her. Confident without false bravado. Charitable. Smart with money and economically literate. Basically, my complete other half. I've been hurt/disappointed before. Yet, I believe in love and I am strongly capable of giving to an equally genuine, loving person.
Hopefully, I will meet her one day.
Let us talk, Robert Lee James Welch :)
Wow... I'm speechless about what you wrote, I just want to say hi
I'm a kid at heart
Omg you have super high standards
Love matter most when a person with likes values, likes education, likes enlightenment and sincere feelings of commitment is found
1. Looking for the wrong traits in a partner.
2. Having unrealistic standards.
3. Low self-esteem.
4. Being too needy.
5. Stuck in the past.
6. Not actively searching for love.
7. Lack of self-love.
8. Not working on oneself.
9. Always looking for the next best thing.
10. Lack of direction in life.
11. Not prioritizing love.
12. Fear of commitment.
13. Fear of intimacy.
14. Excessive dependence on others.
15. Abandonment issues.
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*Dont go after looks... or else u will miss the person who really cares for u* ❤💟
The Moi BoYz It shouldn’t be all about looks. But if you’re not attracted to someone physically, realistically you probably won’t give them the time of day.
ChelleB B ya....Physical attraction is very important
The Moi BoYz You like potatoes
Looks is important, not necessarily very good looking, ordinay looks can be great too ,as long as one can ooze a good charisma and personality.
very true
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Alux.com Thank You, May Be I Have Missed This.
Here's a better question: WHY would you want to become the "best" (whatever that means) version of yourself? You can only be you, vulnerabilities, insecurities, and all. Trying to show the "best" version of you in a relationship is a disaster because eventually the facade wears away, and you get defensive and say "I am who I am! Get over it or leave me alone" while the partner wonders, "They really changed from who I fell in love with".
I can answer that, from experience: we become better because it's the only way to live for some. Continuous improvement, regardless of the goal, (if you actually try to become the best version of yourself, you'll eventually realize becoming the best version of yourself just for liking someone or getting the chick would even defeat the very purpose) becomes the goal for people who are uncomfortable for who they are, for what they have achieved, and are looking for what they could achieve. Naturally, ambition isn't a common trait on a castrated society, and sometimes even further-ahead goals (something more tangible and important than "love") won't drive everyone. Besides, if someone don't love you after you have "changed", it's their problem: we are continuously evolving and changing.
I don't think we all are continuously evolving and changing. After a certain age (around 30) we've settled into patterns of thoughts and behavior that pretty much stay constant with us for the rest of our lives. Why do you think they say that you can't teach an old dog new tricks?
It hits Me! Never let love wait on you it is just around the counter waiting for you to snatch it. Prioritize it if you are totally ready. Later sometimes becomes never.
I can only agree with you guys, we attract who we are. I think people, myself included, should seek to better themselves, before they commit to any type of relationship.
True true.
Exactly
Mgtow is the solution.
@@mgtow6683 Go their own way where exactly?
@@jracerichards Away from alimony & a nagging wife. Mgtow is freedom!
The only think one need is honesty and mutual understanding that's it because if both have mutual understanding between them their relationship will live longer. ✌🏽
"You are looking for the wrong traits"...
But I am just looking for someone who loves watching Alux videos as much as I do... 😢
If you want to find love, your first step is figuring out what exactly love is.
Making lists of requirements is closer to hate than it is to love.
Love is something you either give, or recieve, freely, without any conditions.
The most beautiful aspect of it, is that you can give it to anyone! How they feel about it doesn't really matter..
You can give it to anyone and it feels divine!
The best part is that you can also give it to yourself and that makes you very happy! :)
I'm not looking! Had enough crap from people. It's really hard to live with someone and the older you get the harder it gets. I like going where I want, when I want. I like eating what I want and controlling the remote. I like listening to the music I like and staying home just because I like to read, surf the net, and watch old movies. I don't need anyone. I was married for 27 years, so I'm not a commit phoebe, I just like my own company.
Married for 27 years. This video is not for you.
juliawillc
Me too
Never been married
Enjoying your own company is the #1 symptom of loving yourself. Good for you!:)
Props to you 👏🏼🎉
If you don't need anyone and just like your own company, then most probably this video is not for you.
I will start loving my self from Now on.
I am 27 years old, Never had a single girlfriend and still Unmarried I am losing trust on myself I am born to be alone😞
Don't lose faith Aamir! Watch this video as many times as you need to. You have the knowledge now. If you apply it, you'll definitely find someone! Apply the knowledge! Take action!!!
Aamir Qureshi how does that work?
Loretta Knoelk It's like holding a Burning coal And I am unable to survive now can't marry soon and I am getting sexual frustration 🙇♂️😞
Aamir Qureshi
U will find someone bud
Amir you need to go out and start making friends. Get to know people, get to know women, but don't date with the visible clingy intention of looking for a wife as this is putting them off. And remember that Love is sacrificial therefore when you look for someone, you look for a person that is so wonderful - worthy of you giving her your time, resources and energy. And if she's into you - you'll definitely get a lot of goodness back.
What I look for in a person? Someone who shares my values
I've yet to find mine. And I'm busy getting myself together. Always have that little bit of loneliness when I'm alone at home. Not a good feeling if you ask me.
Not good at all, but the fact you're not giving up is a step in the right direction. Wishing you the very best!
Fuck these hoes bro get money n die rich hell u can buy a female aint that wat they be after money anyways so do u n get money fuk a ratchat they gone flock like a herd of hungry bulls once u got that bag then u can run shit n not feel so bad
kindness, compassion, sincerity
In a partner I search for
loyalty: because I wouldn't cheat so why should you
positive: Because it's nice to be around happy people
Humor: I love laughing
Zest for life: It would be nice to go on adventures
and
Similar values: The more similar the values the less unnecessary drama
My best advice is you gotta know who you are and than find someone who fits the description. You can't change people. So they have to fit the role.
Gosh i love your channel :D This makes me feel inspired & energized after a long hard day. I feel up to the path for success in life...thanks a ton. You're doing a great job!
1st Love yourself then Love your given breath. Your beating heart is a miracle of the Universe... give & be generous of yourself. The Love from people you've helped suffices.
When it comes to a partner, I look for a woman who is presentable and respectable. The perfect relationship doesn't exist. I'm more concerned whether my partner and I can add value to each other's lives in the long run
psychowolf00 hard to find women of character these days!! Most of them will be in your life to take your valuable time and resources for sake of their comfort and convenience and once that's over, you'll find hell in heaven!
Cinematic Cruise can't agree more!
Seems fair!
When I was in my twenties I had a lot of these problems. I've changed a lot since then. I now have the confidence I didn't have before. I came out of bad relationships only to get right into another bad one. Now my past is in the past where it belongs. So in the meantime I spend time with friends, family and church family. I won't tolerate a man who mistreats me, who cheats, etc since I've been in that situation. I love myself enough now to not to allow mistreatment. I'm not looking for perfection, just someone who treats me right.
Different genre. love you guys❤
Love for me is respect and push a person to become their best without making them small for who they are.
The secret of true love is friendship plus desire.
Agree!
Friendship
+
Respect
+
Desire
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Love
The kind of information that this video contains is divine. I thought people only watch and make twerking videos or pranks or Gold digging stuff so good to see someone still makes such videos
and its hard to love a messed up person that always talks about there past or always negative and doubtfull. you can drive someone away even if they did try to love you.
Michael Quintana facts :/
The kind of high-value man I am looking for is one that has a good sense of self-esteem. Confident within himself and able to trust. This comes with good communication from both parties. I look forward to continue working on myself and seeing where a life of love takes me.
I really appreciate what u guys are doing Alux .keep it up.😎
Thanks Daravan!
I'm late. Lol. My Sunday was crazy. No seriously. When you have your own business and your the employee, it's tough to find free time to take off. I always enjoy Alux.
“You attract the kind of person you are” am I secretly Asian?
sounds about white
I have to say I am sold on you as a company! This video made me love you guys more. I will have to add more detail in future comments.
Thank u soooooooo much ALUX for these incredible sunday videos.
You're welcome!
@@alux shut up
Keep it up Alux, your doing great videos every sunday. Congrats.
As entrepreneurs, we are 100% logical and 0% emotional. How does one find love if one understands all the chemical imbalances in our brain and how it affects the way we make decisions when we fall in love. Therefore, we don’t fall in love because we don’t let the chemical imbalances happen to us as we keep our decisions and actions logical. When we do fall in love, we still make logical decisions and actions. Therefore, we ask what value does my partner bring to me besides sexual nor emotional needs. Usually, we will find none and move on as we understand our value and worth but we decided to downgrade ourselves just out of sexual and emotional needs. This is illogical and we move on. I rather like a partner than love a partner.
Manny Tran: I love my pets but I try to handle people in life, I don’t love them I have notice just because they always make me sad when I trust them in their actions.
I m a strong self confident woman who loves my freedom under responsibility in friendship that is most important for me I have understand.
So I decide that I like them or not really care for them at all if they behave bad to me when I m kind to them.
That is so wrong to hurt anyone but that is how some people are so for me romantic love between humans don’t exist that is my experience.
Maybe I change my mind one day I don’t know but for now I feel like I do to protect my self in this selfish crazy world who does not care if they broke someones heart or not.
So sad but true.
I'm so guilty of looking for people who can further my goals or add some value to my life my parents get terrified when I drop people like hot potatoes but in my mind they aren't worth my time so why bother may be a bit harsh but what the hell.
I'm not a good person for now so I think I should better myself before committing to any relationship.
Manny Tran You sound like a serial killer 😂😂😂
That is an interesting point made Manny. However, we are emotional beings and no matter what level of logic you reach you can't change human nature. If you keep searching for that special someone, you will eventually find them. You know the saying ''the harder you work the luckier you get'', it applies as much in business as it does in relationships.
Alux.com Thank you for the reply but we would have to agree to disagree. Human nature isn’t emotional, human nature is survival. Humans will go to war, cause genocides, destroy ecosystems, make species go extinct, and many more just to find the best ways for us to continue to survive. We would kill millions and even billions of people and the earth with it to be given the secrets to immortality. The only thing I could agree on that makes us emotional human beings is that beauty blinds us all. We will love someone much before we like someone. Everyone wants to make themselves lovable but not likable. It’s great to work on your looks but work on your personality, morals, ethics, empathy, compassion, and everything else that as humans collectively, we don’t give a care about. For if we did, the whole world would be a better place. TLDR - Logical proof that human nature isn’t emotional but rather survival.
That "look at the mirror !!" was too personal 🤣🤣 I am Offended !!! but in a positive way !!
As a Senior Educator , here in Patna ( INDIA) , I think , as a True Man , Love is Not like a Limited Edition , the more WE ARE ABLE
To love ourselves , the more Confident We become to Love the Opposite Sex with Strong Force !
Confidence, no dependency issues & responsibility.
From what I've been told by others who have love, #6 is usually the OPPOSITE of what you need to be doing. Everyone I know who has someone great right now has all said they "found" their partner when they weren't even looking anymore.
The rest are great, though. I have no rebuttal for any of them and agree 100%. Especially #10.
OMG! I really needed that video hahah... Thanks as always Alux!
Insightful content having said that here's an additional reason why you can't find "love" it's expensive!
Kindness and a good character- it’s been said b4 you never know who you might fall in love with 😍
I look for someone who is kind, gentle, funny, intellectual, spiritual, loves animals and music and isn't afraid of my paranormal abilities.
Me too
I absolutely found this video completely helpful, thx, I will listen to this message daily for 90days, until it sinks in my mind so I can apply this valuable advice.
Love yourself first, then you'll become good at what you do, then many loves will come to you ;) It's that simple. Good luck!
在美流浪人 werd ❤️😉
I want thank Alux.com. I don't love myself. It's hard to tell myself the truth but I will have to change. Keep up the good work .
This is completely new Alux love it you guys never fail to surprise anyone.
Favorite video, like every sunday!!! You are the best (and true professionals)!!
Buying something to impress someone you don't like anyway, sounds ridiculous,but happens all the time. Amazing Doesn't anyone think anymore?
That's why you have to focus on making yourself happy first and foremost!
Damn y’all hit me in the face with this one. Especially number 15. Thank you. I know what to work on now
I would advise people to find their partner as early as possible college or university.
You are so right
Owesome Music I have a college degree, I would prefer someone educated...
but not too early. I married at 19. For me that was a Big mistake, but then I know folks who also married at that age and they're still going strong. YMMV, I suppose
In university or coĺlege, the studies take precedence over romance.
I'd disagree. I married young and ended up divorced for several reasons, but what I've learned is that people grow and change. If you don't grow together, it will most likely not work out. There is something special about growing with someone, but how are you going to know who we are as people to attract what we need as a life partner when we've barely lived as an adult? I'm not the same person I was back then.
Damn ALux.. I hate how true ,on point your videos are and I LOVE IT.
Like that friend who comes across all "HIGH & MIGHTY" , we know deep down inside "THE FRIEND" is so right.
Finally good content on YT. Good work keep it up.
A question for everyone. If you are single and you meet someone who you really like but you are not together, you're just getting to know them, do you think it's better to concentrate on that one person or to explore other options to see if you connect with someone else even better?
Don't put your eggs in one basket
I know this is 4 years old, but it's new to me, lol. Woman are more attracted to you when you have other women or options. It is called pre-sellection. If you walk in with a woman, other women take notice. Walk in alone women will think " lower "
@@shawnsalmon5653 That's not true. Women usually want single men.
Thank you for such a complete video. I knew you would include "you don't love yourself enough" I just did not know the position among the fifteen reasons. Always looking forward for your Sunday Motivational Videos.
You're welcome :)
im 28 and still not found a good girl to stand by me...its fucced up
Basically, two things:
1. Good looking, since they say "beauty is on the eyes of beholder" as long as her look is satisfying not necessarily to fulfill some complex detailed descriptions.
2. Optimistic, whatever happen she always gives a benefit of doubt.
I've recently gone through a break up.....the only advice I would give is "whatever you expect your partner to do for you,firstly be ready to give all that to your partner....be willing to do for your partner what you want to be done for you".....relationships work on the rule of 50 50
anonymous nation and even after doing that I ended up with loads of shit in my hands! 😏
Kunal Khandagale then just be patient.....sometimes we invest our energy in wrong people but we must remain fair to attract the fair people...the person who took your kindness for granted would regret it one day
anonymous nation I hope they regret! But it hurts to learn that emotional investment into relationships always ended with big scar which will remain as memory forever sadly. I believe my life's purpose is to live for far greater cause than personal cause. Void and loneliness only needs to be replaced by entrepreneurial work and social work.
Kunal Khandagale exactly.....to get rid of the previous addiction you need to embrace a new addiction but make sure that the new addiction is the productive one
anonymous nation thanks for being anonymous validator! 😄😄
Thanks once again Alux Lady. Great timing. God bless, Proverbs 31
You're welcome! :)
Alux is the most luxurios place i have ever learned something from! Keep it like this, alux! I can see the romanian quality in this channel 🔥💯🇹🇩💕💛
Alux e canal românesc? Credeam că este american.
Agreed Alux is a solid 💎!
Coach red pill is the best 😁
Sunday is incomplete without your awesome video.. I am your very old subscriber & Love you always from India.. !!❤️
Thanks Shibashish for being with us on this journey :)
I'm not looking for a gf, but, only because I watched this video, I'm receiving dating ads from Google. Hehehe ! Thanks for sharing !
Haha! Well you have the knowledge now. When you're gonna be on the hunt for 'the one' you'll know what to do and look for :)
good points to consider in pursuing lifetime relationship....
What is LOVE ! Baby Don't Hurt Me . DON'T HURT ME ! NO MORE !! *duhh duhh duhh duhh*
Haddaway!!!!
LOLOL!
Oh my God. This comment made me snicker.
You got it wrong... It goes like this
What is love! Baby don't hurt me. Don't hurt me. No more! Woouwouwao wauwaouwo! Wooo! Wooo!
You are welcome😀
A partner that pushes me to become someone better than I am. Someone who cares about my school and my family because I know they care about my future and well being 🇬🇭🙏🔥🇬🇭
I was born to be alone
That is completely up to you not some god or higher power...
Not so. Mind, we may be unpartnered but we're never truly "alone." Look around...love is all around.
That's a big lie, Your mom was there for you
same here
Fair enough, Zack
I fell for My girl. Because Her beauty shone through her JOY IN LIFE! IT INSPIRED MY OWN JOY&CONFIDENCE!....
commitment and respect
...to the ones who deserve it.
Awesome video.Learned a lot form this one.
Finding love--trying to find love [from others]--is so overrated! How about finding love from within yourself?!! When you love yourself, you don't need others to love you.
Everything in this video was spot on and it is true to our daily lives 💯. I am glad I got to watch it and learn important things .
Osho: love is authentic only when it gives freedom!
We love Osho!
❤️❤️❤️
well,you should first learn who Osho was and all what he did
Looking for compatibility & then love...much easier to understand each other.
What I look for in a partner is willingness to give a relationship their best effort. If I'm giving the relationship 100% I expect the same in return. I don't expect perfection in someone, all I require is their putting forth their best effort.
God closed this door from my life. Nothing really can't change.
Unrealistic standards? Okay!! Low self esteem? ..... good luck everyone the love doesn’t exist!!!
my main issue: I've stayed away from the public for TOO LONG, and I really need to go discover my life a little bit
However, if I want a perfect date it would usually be at night:
- Go for dinner with a girl I like to discover more about her
- Possibly go for a movie later on
- Go for some video games challenges (not for too long though, just for the fun of it!).
- Go for a night drive all night long with my car bluetooth system, singing along to music we mutually like with all car windows open! (it has a lot of vibes, and an amazing feeling!).
- Discuss interesting topics (I barely talk, but I have a lot to tell!)
- Discuss past experiences (you can always learn something new from other people, and stories are fun!).
I like someone's advise from the comment - When you finish college, make sure you have degree and partner in your hands. Lol.
So what is my inner surface, could I find myself? If yes the problem is solved, everything is in me in my own thoughts, it may be desirable and change but own mindset is necessary.
Yes, I agree with this thought in the video.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts.
I don't think I'm looking for anything too unrealistic or anything. I want someone who makes me laugh, who is kind and intelligent. Looks don't matter too much but I still want to be attracted to them a little. Is that unrealistic?
No!
Didn’t realize I was supposed to be finding Love; thought I was supposed to fall in it. Now I’m on it.
People are becoming busier and they don't care so much how to have their own families :-0
True! But if you end up unhappy when it comes to relationships, and even other areas, it means you have to change something in your values or priorities.
100000000 correct...too busy...
Hoàng Kim Việt yep very common
tell that to someone from a dysfuntional family.
Right . You can't have everything in life . Or You choose what you really want in life Or .....: " You gonna settle with less than you ever desire or wish....."
For a partner... someone who thinks way outside the box... a thinker... beautiful...independent..sweet
Sounds nice!
I love motivational Sundays!
Happy you do!
Well, if it doesn't work out and you can't find love, then you can love yourself, the only romance where you will have no competitors.
Someone who complements my life! :)
Most people commenting on here are mostly lonely individuals who feel a relationship will complete them. Love can never be forced and should not be chased. Allow it to come to you and if you are in tune with yourself then when it comes you will know and you will find yourself willing to give love naturally without watching videos on how to love. Love can not be forced or controlled. Just simple be true to who you are, love yourself wholeheartedly and allow Love to find its way to you. If you love someone acknowledge it, if they don’t love you back, release and let go, if that person is for you they will come to you eventually. Simply live your life with love, decipline and purpose 😉
Love the complicated feeling ..but there are some problems.. successful relationship takes a time
1.maybe u are looking for perfect partner (never complain but then he or she will bottle up there feelings so don't go for hot and cool looking partner)
2.maybe u have unrealistic expectations ..u will settle down for lil bit but after few months u will feel like they are only human and suppose to be....look at the mirror who u are ..what u have to offer to other ..u have to see from his angle also...what u have to offer
3.u have to be honest with yourself ,,,don't give yourself hoax
4.maybe u are way too needy ..there will be no person who can fill up your all needs(if u were unhappy before relationship chances are u will be unhappy in the relationship)u have to improve the relationship dig the reason
5.u are stuck in the past ..your past break up was bad ...u have to search inside yourself what is stopping u ..u can call your ex and set up some of past harsh thing so now u will not be worried about it..u will feel your body light weight....but don't get back together.... it's meant to happen if it have to happen
6.maybe u are not searching for love ...udk what u searching for ...u have to seat down and fix all ...I will recommend buy a pet for sometime dog or cat ..do u know dog and cat are the only which doesn't give us anything another then love..(example a cow gives us milk,a sheep gives us wool)...
7..u have to love yourself first ...this is not selfish ...if u love yourself people will see how awesome u are ..
8. Work on yourself ..maybe u always think most of the time that it's there fault not yours.....maybe maybe it's your and there's nothing wrong with it...human do mistake but admitting and spoting it is the main part
..at the end of the day it will be worth
9.maybe u are always looking for next best thing ..just slow down for bit to find your love
10.udk what are your goals..
11.u don't prioritize love..u have to give time..invest in it that means find someone and generally invest in it ..
(Growing a tree is a very silent process it takes time but when the tree falls it makes noise when u cut it)
12.u worry about commitment..udk where u want to settle ...maybe a person who is always late but he want to u really
13.express your feelings..love is all about express your feelings if u hide it or protect it so other can't know it's bad..love a person who u express your feelings too..deep down you want love but u want to hide feelings
14.u have fears ...u expect perfection from others ..u don't want him to cheat and be like a robot as a perfect machine
U have to work on yourself and find the inner u better than anyone ..first know yourself than u can discover someone else otherwise it will confuse u
Maturity, kindness and love.
I was married for twenty yrs my husband and I divorced and I'm not into Facebook and match making cites but I'm only 43 and I do hope to find a kind, smart, funny, guy to hang out with. But I tinder and that stuff really isn't my scene. Even tho my daughter is always saying. Mom you need to get on social media. I'm not sure I want to meet someone that way.
Social media is ok in its way, but getting out in the real world is truly best. Get out there, not necessarily bars, but get involved in stuff. Go places. See and be seen. That kind, smart, funny guy must might be out there, too. Best of luck!
It is more better to go out in the real world and let a man find you and then go from there. Social media is ok but use it for a mask create something that that person they’re really not .
Controll and a clear mind is the best way live ...