SKINNY SHAMING- MY STORY / How to deal with body shaming.
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- Опубліковано 6 лют 2025
- Hey you beautiful people,
this was one hard video. I have literally served my life on a platter here.
But I really hope that it brings a difference in at least one person's life.
It's been a long journey for me and I wish someone back then had told me about their struggle or fight so mine wouldn't seem as bad, but it didn't happen.
So all I wanna say it, I know you are fighting, but you must know, everyone else is too. We each have our own battles. Help others and stick with them.
And, BE STRONG. HOLD TIGHT. LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND SMILE.
LOVE.
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Body shamming starts from home... True 💔
Yes true
Just sooo true😢
Right
True😒☹️
Yes it's true
And the Irony is that the girl who hated being in front of cameras just then is now spilling sass and winning hearts all around the world. So proud of dolly.❤️
Well said!❤️
Yeahhh
i didn't think about that!!! you got a point
🙌🙌🙌🙌
Dear Dolly you are an inspiration to me.
The school incident was really ridiculous.I want that teacher to watch this video and realise that how harsh words can affect someone so badly.Its like a mental torture.
I am just thinking what is if that teacher has not seen this video or pretends not to remember her and might be still continuing this bull shit😑😭
🤝ur right bro
Let's wish she sees this, REALISES AND HER BRAIN EVOLVES!
School education has to change first. What values are they teaching.
Girl i was crying the whole time because you literally said everything I have ever felt and gone through (still am to some extent. My parents were never critical about me, especially my mum. She has always been a pillar of strength and confidence. And I don’t think my dad really noticed how skinny i was tbh and I’m grateful for that. But relatives were vicious, my peers were mean, and school teachers were plain assholes. They are a very big reason why I don’t have a single happy memory from school. I hope karma gets these teachers who make kids miserable and really mess them up for life. Being skinny and the shaming has stripped me of confidence and i have been dealing with insecurity and complexes all my life. I don’t feel comfortable meeting new people because I am worried about how they would perceive me. I wear hoodies and long sleeves in 40 degrees because I would rather deal with the stifling heat than people’s judgement about me. I have gone from 39 kgs to 60 kgs and i am still not over these insecurities. I look in the mirror and see a skinny and unattractive woman. It’s probably why I have never managed to commit to a relationship. I am super paranoid that the guy is going to see me for what i am and dump me. I know that seeking external validation is not good and I don’t go out of my way to attain it; but like you said, it is nice to receive positive comments or no comments at all instead of having to hear another comment about how skinny i am and how I haven’t changed at all. Sometimes when i am tired or really busy, i tend to skip a meal... and skipping a meal makes me so paranoid that i am going to lose weight. Nobody understands how important it is for me to not lose even a gram of my weight. I don’t know if i will ever get over this paranoia and start accepting myself.... i am 30 years old but i am still that insecure 15 year old on the inside who got bullied by her peers to the point of tears.
I've been through very similar experiences at school. I wasn't chosen in any plays etc. I assume because of my body and I had a very poor self image because I was so skinny. I also wore full sleeved loose kurtas to hide my body. Today I'm 70 kg and looking back I feel that girls today want that skinny body and work towards it. And people who body shame you are mostly envious aunties, but even your peers can be very insensitive. I also do not have happy memories of school because of some teachers, who misused their power to shame students.
First thing is u r giving up under such pressures and not confident about urself. Close ur years and open ur mind and like urself, why wait for other people to apreciate u. Dont think Iam giving any lecture because I was also very skinny and yes, I alao came across such comments and it did hurt a lot but I had one attitude- I dont care about what such people have to say. U dont have to wear full sleeves, dont be harsh on urself. Now I have put on some weight and I still carry d same attitude. Wear what u like and dress how u like. Only think, before u go out of d house, look at urself in d mirror & u should like urself and say -Oh Iam looking beautiful., to hell with d world...and yes learn to give them --back.My-- friend once told me- oh u can wear frocks because ur leg r very skiny. I said- hello, my legs r not skinny, its u who have fat legs...😀 she actually had a pear shape body. People dont look at themselves and start pinpointing others...
Man it is hard to accept but every teacher is an asshole
And about your peers just fix something's in mind that probably they didn't looked across a perspective, since in most families these comments are common.
I hope you are feeling great about yourself!
Love you and just remember everyone is beautiful and you are too girl!♥️
Some assholes dont know this and fucking look through things that they ever wanted in their peers,partners, children etc.
Stay calm and ya love yourself!!
Just..."Eat a Salad"...
I can feel you dear 🥺
It's just not fair that calling someone "fat" is considered as "impolite" and calling someone "skinny" is considered "normal" and funny.
#allbodiesarebeautiful
Oh someone hit me hard .... 🙁🙁
Ur ri8
U r absolutely right 🙏🏼
I know .I have went through it . And people make stupid jokes like tu toh fuk maarne pe udd jayegi
Like how tf . Kuch bhi matlab
Always felt so. More people need to talk about skin shaming.
I was body shamed 20 min ago nd was crying so just did searched through UA-cam nd this video of yours popped!! You are no less than a fairy boosting my belief in myself. I was literally crying through the whole part!! All I want to say is you are very pretty nd I love you never ever stop making such videos. From now I swear I won't seek anyone's validation 😘😘
Same today I got skinny shamed and i saw this video.. and ur comment.. 🫂hug to u
Same with me girl
Same... I was height shamed just 1 hr ago and I searched this
🫂💕
Same here ..... A big hug to all of you 💗....this video of dolly was much needed to bring that confidence back.... We are no less than any one.... We are unique and amazing the way we are...❤️❤️❤️
Been there.. seen it all.
Finally! Finally someone is talking about *"Skinny Shaming"*. Much needed. Skinny shaming happens quite frequently, even more than fat shaming! From being called malnourished to having told that I have no enough assets to show. This was relatable to another level.
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@@graceglorymani you can try strength training if you're looking to gain lean muscle
My point exactly! Even I feel skinny shaming happens way more than fat-shaming.
Exactly malnutrition is the worst thing I had to hear about my body
Can understand how is she holding her tears back.its not easy.
Right
Yes😖
😖yes that is very very hard
Almost every time I think of the insults in the past, I start crying
Teachers have a special way of embarrassing kids. An eligibility criteria for who gets in the saraswati pooja, who welcomes the chief guest , who gets to be the leader. And merit is notthe criteria.
I agree to this
The school thing literally happens to every child whose skinny, fat, and bad at studies
People make fun of others for being bad at studies? Here in the U.S its the opposite😂
Lis ! No I do get made fun for having bad grades and I’m in the U.S
i get you girl, i so do. All my life i have been skinny shamed all my life, random people would come up to me and ask me "mummy papa kuch khilatey nahi hai kya?" everywhere i go and those friends saying you have nothing to show, hit me real hard. Crushed me to the core. So much that when i met my now serious boyfriend and he called me beautiful, i thought he was sarcastically making fun of me. I am kind of over my extremely skinny phase though i still am skinny but i got to say every comment stuck with me, i keep asking my mom and my boyfriend to repeat the compliment again and again when they call me beautiful because it's still so strange for me to feel beautiful in my own skin. I am so glad you are talking about this, a lot of people do not realize how extreme skinny shaming can go.
I can relate myself with you , when i was in school , college i use to hear same things body shaming , skin colour .
" you have nothing to show" and "mummy papa kuch khilate nahi " are the dialogues that still suck me.
Same here Harshita Bhuyan
Harshita Bhuyan me too.☹️
Same thing happens wth me
It's so relatable, I'm literally crying watching this.
I feel like it's the story we fat, skinny, dusky, short, tall girls/boys have in common.
Comments from family to friends to acquaintance to strangers...
And they're never going to stop.
And that's the irony! No matter how you look people make reasons to bully you. Never listen to them
They're never going to stop" Is the word sis.
Being skinny is not bad as long as you're healthy. Some people have genes that make them Skinny. My Relatives & Friends would make fun of me. I was pissed initially. Now when I look at my friends who control their food intake to reduce weight, I chuckle. Perks of being skinny, You can eat how much ever you want without bothering about weight. Your clothes never get tight. You can move around with ease. Proud to be Skinny & Healthy!
I wish world can be beautiful for girls like us
So true:)
Agree with you. i am proud skinny and healthy♥️
No hate to you, but if you don't eat healthy; you might get skinny fat. Yes, that's a thing. You might not realize it, but it does show. All the love to you!
Yes like me my friends 👭👬👫always shame me though I m Beautiful but that doesn't matter matter is body in this world this is true reality
Body shamming is not only a sin to me but also a crime!!!
People say so many things as a joke which can hurt us a lot!
TRUE!
ok people have to stop being so sensitive to this "body shaming" omg no one even cared about "body shaming like 10 years ago. how about instead of asking people to not call you skinny or ugly or whatever why dont you people stop being such babies and not be so sensitive and not let that get to you. " please dont body shame, thats a crime" this is sooooo lame, stop hoping for the world to be perfect. you can not control people so rather change your attitude.
Crime zara zyda hogya lol.
Yeah I'm too skinny.... Only 35kgs.. 19yo but yeah I understand. Take the criticism as inspiration. Don't cry out... Like *crime* *crime*.....its not good to body shame I agree. But "crime" is just an over statement.
@@wasntme6780 you change your fucking mentality. And people like you taunt others and make them feel insecure. Just waste
"Stop looking for the validation. Be your own validation."
Dolly you pierced into my heart with your words. Lots of love! ❤️
Uncle jii aaisi beti Kahi nhii milegi apko..! Bahottttttttt sundar haii..!!❤️
I remember my teacher helping me adjust my saree during onam celebration in school and how she looked at all of us with a kind of motherly affection and pride that day. I want to thank her and thank god for people like her. I am thankful for all those people who have told me to eat healthy food instead of exclaiming how thin i am, to all those who told me i have to work on my health instead of saying you have to gain weight.
I am thankful for my friend who used to give perfect comebacks to my bullies.
I am thankful for my papa for telling me i look like a princess.
I am thankful for my all those people who brought me sweets and fed me their share of food out of worry for my health, you guys made me think of my skinny body as a boon.
I am thankful for my boyfriend for making me feel beautiful.
And for those people who have passed skinny comments and jokes on me, you in that moment doesnt exist for me.
As a skinny person
I know how difficult is it
Teachers, relatives, these two take the body shaming to an another level
They push us into insecurities
But thanks to BTS, I start loving myself 💜
Keep in mind that Everyone is beautiful but don't everyone can see that beauty
Same here army .. stay strong 💜 borahae 😊
💜💜After becoming army I learnt how to love myself I am happy now how I am ☺☺
Love yourself 💜💜😊
I was crying throughout the video because I can see myself at your place. Yes I am still skinny shamed every fucking day. I hate my body due to that. Everyday the thought of getting rejected kills me from inside. I am still not getting the courage to love myself. Its been 3 years, i fucking tried a lot to stay happy, but some person or the other shows me how ugly I am. Skinny shaming is as ugly as fat shaming.
Same 💔
I am skinny too but I realized that being sad and crying will not make me fat! 😅So keep going and love yourself just like who you are, and one day someone will love you just the way you are and will not care for it.😄😄
How did you gain weight now?
I can so relate to this. I am grossly underweight and I don't look my age so my whole life I have been hearing things like how will you get married if you don't look your age! From random shopkeeper to my mother everyone is constantly analyzing my body mass and what I should eat, how I should dress etc. People have even gone to the extent of calling me a liar when I reveal my real age. This is so overwhelming and exhausting and consequently normalizes this shaming. I am 30 and today also my mom made a comment in passing that she should take me to a doctor and get me 'checked'. As long as I am fit and disease-free what is the big deal! It is very true that body-shaming begins at home and I am a victim.
Same. Even I do not look like my age, I am 28 and looks like 19-20.. I was a Teacher till 2019 all my students were like. Oo mam you look so young looks like a kid blah blah.. But what should I do.. After all these comments they were like..hey its just a compliment ... I dont understand, my little sister also looks like 16 she's 25 but she looks so Cute.. Sabko lagta hai woh abhi 9th student hai but uska graduation ho rakha hai..😁 and yes about that shaadi wala baat.. All I want is Peace not a man.
Yes I'm a victim too😔 and yes it starts from our awn house. I'm 19 rn , I am doing good in my studies , I try my best to be a good human being but that's never enough for them ,they just ignore everything good I do and concentrate on how I look. I feel the same about being fit and disease free but still people have some problem about my body
I can feel youu.. hope you are happy in ur life now..❤
Being a skinny girl I can totally relate to it and still going through it.I don't know the people who criticize are how much perfect they feel about themselves.
Hi! Honestly, I love you so much for this video. This was so important, talking about body shaming AND positivity is so important. while all of us easily wave off all the jokes on body shaming we don't do enough to stop it. Thank you for this honestly, it's so necessary. I've had a fluctuating weight / body image since I was a kid. And I've always been taunted about it. Body shaming of any kind is just so sad. It's so necessary to frame your "concern" properly rather than obviously just commenting. I've always tried to promote body positivity of all kinds and I'm so glad to see you do it too! You're honestly one of the most geniune influencers out here! More power to you.
Love and warm hugs your way -xx
Need more people like you in the world Aarushi. So much love to you
I love u alote of u di
Oh! Dolly I can't even imagine how much you have gone through . I was in tears watching your video . How can someone not love you, you have the most genuine and loving personality. I love you so much❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
That hurts - "body shaming starts from home" 🙃🍃
I am in the second year of my graduation and I am dusky, plus, I weigh 38.5 kg. I am being body shamed since forever and that kills me everyday. It makes me feel ugly, unwanted, camera-conscious and all things bad. People always talk about fat shaming. Everyone needs to understand that skinny shaming is real. Your video is so beautiful. Thank you for this. It just made me feel a lot better about myself. Thank you so much.
Bijoya Das it's the same with me !! I can feel n this story is so relatable 😭
Ayushi Chakraverty me too.m extremely skinny.peolpe alwys mock on me.sometimes i think of committing suicide even
@@mitalinath1068 Never do that dear. I know how you feel. I go through the same thing but suicide is not the solution. I cannot give you any solution to this but I can definitely say that this is not something you would want to quit your life for. Sooner or later you will realise that this shit doesn't even matter, like I did. I still get body-shamed but I don't care anymore. Love yourself. Love your body the way it is. And the world won't matter anymore. Love love❤️
Bijoya Das yeah...u know m brilliant enough in studies.m also a singer.bt still because of my body I feel insecure.we hv 3 sisters .except me they hv a prfct body.nd everyone tells me that ...tu esi q he.teri behen tu bht sundar he
@@mitalinath1068 Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. If they think that being skinny makes you ugly, its their problem. You have talents. Achieve something in life and throw that on their faces when they say anything about your body. I haven't seen you but if someday I did, I would find you really beautiful. And you know what, you are a strong human being. Strength is beauty. You are beautiful.❤️
I am 17,skinny,dusky and I always get body shamed
You don't know how much you motivated me..
I remember when I purposefully started wearing boyish clothes to hide my skinny body and now it has become a part of my personality and you know what I am now certainly way too cooler than most of my friends/known ones, i tried so many styles and... I am glad I have this body, stuff in all the food, do a lot of running and I don't impress people with my body but personality!!
You controlled your tears but I started crying 😭 you are a STRONG STRONGG Women ❤❤ I love you
Me too
Me too yrr
Mee tooo
Gosshh I can feel you.. all this happened with me also.. I still remember I was in college and during the farewell my juniors gave me a title which described my skinny body type.. I did not go the farewell,my friend told me that they gave you this title.. I felt heartbroken and I was like thank God I skipped the farewell.. but now I've accepted the way I'm am.. and to all the people who body shame me now I'm like dude Im more flexible than you I can do full stretch so just shut up.. and you're a gem of person.. I love you so much 💕💕💕
I am in the phase of getting strong i avoid going outside just because i dont feel comfortable in my body
It happened with me too! In school a classmate wrote a farewell poem and commented on my having a skinny face. I felt so horrible.
I'm 5'7" and weigh 45 . I've been underweight all my life. Despite of all the torture of skinny shaming even from strangers, thankfully I never felt insecure. But the jokes of flat chested,etc especially by close male friends offend me. At the end of the day it's you whose acceptance of yourself that matters so here I am: Skinny and proud 😇 at least I don't have to worry about getting fat every time I crave good stuff like sweets, so technically my case is Better than most.😊
Crt
@@joyachowdhury8115 own it so that when they shame you, you won't feel ashamed ❤️
I'm a girl who's 5'8" and my weight is 43kgs :(
@@anushkasahu7884 i recently lost 5 kgs so I'm currently 40kgs 😁 ppl call us blessed to be skinny, we only know how much of a blessing it really is 😁
@@nayyhaaa ikr.....and I am not skinny in the right places lol ..... Trying to eat healthy and workout but looks like nothing works....my hands are so thin that I could fit my fingers around them and still some space is left hehe
Everything you've said is what I've been through too and something I talk about all the time. I am so happy that you talked about it out loud. MORE POWER TO YOU!
I really hope one day parents, relatives along with everybody else realize the impact their words CAN have on others.
I hope they realize. Thank you so much for everything! LOVE TO YOU!
This is just what I have experienced all my life.. I was 39kgs when I was in 2nd years...I was absolutely physically fit.. I DON'T GIVE A DAMN NOW. I stopped worrying once I got a job.. I realized how capable I am and now I just talk back to people who comment on me.... I love you just for this as I love Myself
That "teacher" should be ashamed of herself!!
"kuch khaya piya kar " etc etc tauntsss like thesee goddamn hurtssss !! totally relatingg to your video ❤ love you tysm
Same here😔
Same here
I just.. can't breathe. This was heartbreaking cus it was relatable AF. I'm so sorry that you went through it. and a big ass middle finger to that jerk. I love you. Thank you for this video :)
Brave girl with beautiful heart and 100% honesty ❤
You controlled your tears but I couldn't. I can completely understand how you felt. I was insulted by a teacher in front of a group of students, because of a small handicap I had. One can never forget such things. It took me the longest time to gain back my confidence. Much love to you. You are such a star⭐
This made me cry.... There is so much respect and appreciation you deserve for this 😿
I have been skinny shamed for my entire lifetime . All I had in my mind is 'this body is a blessing'. More power to you girl. 😘
you are one of the most genuine influencers i know. this video is beautiful and so are you. you are a powerful girl man and i'm so happy to see what a long way you have come. I hope you get all the success and happiness you deserve and trust me you deserve A LOT of it. Thankyou for inspiring all the girls that need it out there. much love.
Thank you so much Sanya. i am so overwhelmed. LOVE
You were(still are) excelling in everything, babe! It's so brave of you to come in front of the camera and speak your heart out. Let those people see you, hear you and introspect themselves. Look at you now, you're being loved. You're being valued. You're amazingly beautiful, woman! ❤️
I litterally cried watching this video. Even i am very insecure of myself when i'm 12 or 13 everyone used to call me a skeleton and they used to ask what you are eating daily are you even eating anything blah blah blah..... And not only for being skinny i was mostly got bullied because i am having too freazy curly hair and you know most of the people dont like curly hair. And obviously i'm a dark skinned girl and every one used to call me as a nigro.And i'm surprised whether they are bullying me or nigro people. What the hell nigro or I have done. Is it is I got life from my parents. I'm just thinking that why god made me like this?? I was Depressed a lot Even my parents used to call me skeleton. Later on i just realised all i have is myself. And i exited all my friends groups and literally they don't know what am i doing and eventually they forgot and i'm happy for that. And here i am enjoying being myself. Loving myself.😘😍
That sounds way too horrible 🥺😕
I know i have faced same things like you i am also like u dark skinny girl. Some teachers embarrass us so much they are racist . It feels very bad. And even stupid b***** kids too .
Hello.. I don't know if you're reading this or not..
But still, i want to say, that you're beautiful.. You're wayyyy mooreee beautiful..... I feel blessed that i woke up and saw this video even before having my breakfast. Lol...
Thanks for making my morning beautiful..
Thanks a ton sass💋❤️
N now u r a fashion blogger.. What else one need to prove one's beauty n style.. So much love ♥ ♥
I love how you spoke about your insecurities so openly... I hope it helps you to conquer them a little bit more and gives others the strength they need. I admire your courage and candidness
Believe it or not, this is the first video that brought tears to my eyes, I didn't cry, but the content.. speechless.. I was 47kgs till 22years, even though I can't relate to each word because of my parents, even though I was skinny and sawli, but they always showed the positive side to it. People around me and my family know that my mom is Ramsay Gordon/Sachin Tendulkar/RD Sharma of cooking but still they used to ask "gharwale kuch khilate nahi hai kya?" When people say "Kitni patli hai yaar tu!" they say it because they want to be like us, just notice the people who say it, they'll mostly be the ones trying to lose weight, notice their tone, its almost wishful! (Trust me). My parents used to say, "Look! You have such great features" "Look! You can eat every fatty things that others cannot" they always used to pump me up. Trust me, if you're to put on weight, it'll happen when you'll stop thinking about it. Now I'm 23 and 54kgs, can you believe it? Because I stopped thinking about it. And before people call out on you, laugh on yourself only or say "At least I don't have to worry about losing weight, I can eat whatever I want to" or if someone laughs on you for gym-ing, just tell them "I've joined it so that I don't become like you" (ofcourse tell the jokingly instead of being point blank rude as much as you want to). I have long healthy hair, whenever my mom pleats them, she says "If XYZ (naming a friend who's into modelling) and you walk together, people will observe you for the longer time because of your hair." Find something in you, be it confidence, an attribute or your features and make it a part of yourself. Look at Sara Ali Khan, she was fat AF (just stating the fact and not shaming anyone) with PCOD (which makes losing weight difficult), but her education, her confidence even at that point when she 96kgs is applaudable. Not just to you, but whosoever is reading this comment, discover yourself first and you will start loving yourself. It doesn't matter if they like you (mostly because of some motive) or they don't like you (I like to believe because they're jealous of you) because everyone is filled with their own insecurities and they just want to feel better about themselves by bullying you.
P.S.- Dolly if you like this comment, please it pin it up, I really want people to read it, thanks! :)
Edit1: grammatical or punctuation mistakes.
Relatable.. joined gymm..not sure if I will succeed..
You have said really rightful things.It is us who needs to decide how we have to take this on us.
Same here
That's really great Saumya Gupta ...I could totally relate myself with u ... I am 22 and my weight is just 45 kgs ..pls post a video in ur channel on how u managed to gain weight
Thank You❤
Dolly you are such an inspiration! One of the most genuine prettiest and nicest youthbers ever! This video was really touching...
I can relate to it a lot. I've been skinny since like, forever. I was crying throughout the video because I've gone through the same like you. I've felt the same pain. I'm 19 and I still feel insecure about my body sometimes but now I've accepted it till a couple of years ago the first thought and the thing I'd worry about the most while meeting someone for the first time that, what they're gonna think about my body! Kuch kha liya kar is an unsolicited advice I've received uncountable numbers of time. I remember I was like in 7th in my early teens. I went to my friend's house to work on a group project and next day in the school she told me "kal mera bhai (her elder brother) bola ki ye teri friend kaisi hai main toh iski taraf dekhu bhi na" (he meant I look so ugly that he wouldn't even like to have a look at me) and it felt so bad not because I had any interest in him but because you seek validation and when you realize you're not attractive to the opposite gender it brings insecurity to you.
I'm 19 and I've never wore saaree because I have no curves so saaree would just make me uglier. Huh!
LET SUCH ASSHOLES TALK, YOU DO YOU!!!
I love you Dolly. Your message is heard and understood. It's inspiring for young girls. Thanks for this❤❤❤
i burst out into tears after seeing thizsvideo....how it can be so relatbl believe me girl i face the same kind of situation...ur evry line matches with my lyf...its just u r confident enough and m nt ..bcz it bothers me alot :') but now after seeing thiz video it made me confident abt myself thank you girl
This is so relatable i have been fat shamed and complexion shamed all my life.!! And i always thought being skinny was a boon but people will body shame or troll you for everything!! Good job dolly ❤❤❤
Yes, for everything! thank you so much
I can relate to your story. I was was skinny shamed a lot in school. Kids used to judge me over the way I looked, I could see that every time they looked at me. In fact, one of my closest friends made fun of by body public-ally and everybody had a good laugh. My own mother skinny shamed me a billion times and I lost my confidence (didn’t even know it was a thing back them). I thought it was my fault and I started hating myself. I’m glad you made this video and shared your story. A lot of kids who are in school will definitely receive help and gain confidence from this. I’m proud of your journey. People can’t see it, but it actually takes a lot to get here. From having low self-esteem (because of all the shaming) to becoming such a wonderful and confident youtuber, amazing journey. 🌻 really happy for you. Take care. 💛
I was once bullied by my ex for the birthmark I have on my chin...that to after dating for 4 years. He suddenly started feeling worried about it when it was time to decide on our marriage. He wanted me to go under knife to get rid of it. I was constantly under pressure...for my looks. N nw he is my EX for a reason...hahah.. u can't let unacceptable compromise throught your life. If u said u love me...u should love me for everything I have naturally..I can't get dainted n painted just for satisfying ur idea of beauty.
That was a really good decision. What a jerk.
Bravo! Good decision. You should read up about narcissists. They are the ones who do this type of shit.
More power to you girl😇😇 i totally agree with you, thanks for this, i am also skinny, and when people say, khana nhi dete kya ghar wale ! It hurts . We should be proud of what we have. U inspired me❤️
Samee.
the most painful thing is when your close friends even the best friends make fun of that without even knowing that its killing you and you are not even able to rell them that it is hurting you i am literally fed up of all this your cousins your friends make you uncomfortable and insecure and you can't even tell them about thier words because you have good relations with them and if i tell them eventually then i would feel like a begger which is begging for his .. comfort
My friends(all girls) have even said "in dono k bhut chote h dabakar bade kr kya"
(my another friend is also skinny and flat)
....they think that this shit is fun🫠
Oh boy! I have no words to express what this means to me. You look beautiful. I am far older than you but I have been body-shamed all my life for being skinny. This has prevented me from achieving things in life, making friends, and be in a relationship. I have NEVER been in a relationship just because I have been made to believe I am ugly and undesirable because i do not have "fat" on my body. Till this day I do not go out to any social functions because in the past I have had aunties and uncles commenting on my body with disgusting words that shattered me from inside. People do not realize how powerful somebody's words can be. It hurts and it stays with you all fucking life. And, it ruins someone's life. I have all these comments that people made over the years in my mind embedded. It made me an insecure person. I have come out a lot from before and gained a bit of confidence but the struggle with my body is the toughest battle that I am not able to fight. I am still extremely uncomfortable in my body and I still struggle to go out anywhere. Any social situation gives me anxiety. Kudos to you for putting this out on a social media platform. It takes more than courage to do this. Love you!
Girl you are a bomb ❤️ I needed to hear this today
Sis you are a bomb😄
Dolly, I was checking out your journey. How you are what you are. And i came across this video. You truly have suffered. And I'm glad you made it. Really. I'm glad you stayed. I know now, you must get a lot of messages, but i'm happy to send this out, so that you read.
I'm glad tyou stayed strong, to show it to all those people who you really are. What fashion is. Today you inspire so many people. Must feel even prouder, to remember what you were told back then. I feel funny for all those people 🤭.. Also you're so true about the family part as well.
I myself have been body shamed, in a good way you may say, as family is concerned for you. But the moment I started gaining weight and then losing, then gaining due to depression, everyone was and still has been after me.. To lose weight. Even if funnily. How are people. It amazes me. And who gave them so much right over my body. I am not at your place.. I mean not as successful to keep getting that comfidence, but I'll keep trying. Thanks for this video. Keep growing, keep improving and keep looking stunning as you always have been.
A bag full of love and hugs coming your way from a skinny guy ❣️ I can totally relate to this . Every year I go home specially my neighbors they wouldn't ask me how I was or if I'm keeping well , they are like OMG Kya huwa tu itna patla Kyu hogaya?? Seriously?? What the hell do u wanna hear like Im suffering from some illness ? When did u last see me fat? I was skinny as a child ,kid and a teenager so plz stop reacting in such a manner like have lost over 50 kgs overnight and it even hurts more when my so called childhood friends taunts me in the same manner inspite of the fact that we have met after such a long time so the first question they'd ask me is I have become Skinner. They have seen me as skinny ever since we became friends. Nevermind, thanks for sharing , and glad to know I'm not the only one who felt this way
You are absolutely right.Same here😔
Ur case relates to me too bro.
I feel you girl😭i am facing all this till date! Taunts by relatives,friends!! telling me how i "don't " look like a 21year old girl and 14year old instead!! All those struggles finding clothing sizes and lingerie to wear 💔 I CAN'T!!!!😭😭
Same here... Don't worry... Kisi na kisi din hum bhi mote honge😀😀
Facing the same problem 😢😢
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I don't know why didn't I find this video earlier! All my life, iv'e been receiving comments about being too thin. I recently posted a pic on my ig account and the comments flooded with how thin I looked. I often wonder why can't we humans find beauty in everything? Why do we try to change things just to fit our "standards" of beauty? And I am soo proud of you that you could come out of this shit! You are so beautiful! And I mean it sm! Thin or fat, our mental health and physical health is all that matters. Thanks for opening up about this topic, really needed some motivation!
I totally totally relate with you. Thank God.... someone's out there and speaking it loud and clear which I too wanted/ want to. Someday I too will. We need more representatives showing up for skinny body shaming.
This is such an honest video. I agree with every single word you spoke. I have had to deal with fat shaming all my life and i understand that skinny shaming is just as bad. Thank you for speaking about it. You go girl! 💃💞
I am so glad you relate Ellie. LOVE
this video has brought back thousand memories for me... i remember once i wore a jacket over my school uniform becz the skirt was little loose...and a teacher has said " i think you need to go to the doctor to check if u have any eating disorder like princess Diana. you may have some deficiency and some problem" and that conversation just broke me up into such an insecure girl, those nights i cried aaaaa bring me tears now.
another incident... one day in tuition my sir said
" you look like a dead corpse "
cant put in words my pain and hatred over myself back then...those were the most painful wrds i have EVER heard in my entire life.
Can't express in words how much you've inspired me..I've been through the same in past 5 years..and what I have realized now is that the problem is with the people and their mentality, and not with your body or how you look or dress up..I'm slim exactly like you..but a lil shorter than you..and I'm very much inspired by the way you carry yourself and love yourself..you're a true definition of bold and beautiful ❤️ Love Love ❤️ God bless you with good health and success 😊
SPILL THE SASS 😎😎😎🤘
Thanks for making this video. It will aware people that skinny shaming is just as bad as fat shaming. Personally I've had to deal with fat shaming all my life and I know how much it has hurt me. Stay strong ❤️
Being called skinny infront of whole class in school and collage is litrelly wrostest thing ive experienced in 20 years as im 20yr old even i don't have a single photo of my self till now. ❤️So those who making fun of their skinny or fat friend please stop it,you don't have any idea how much you hurt them
That old dolly would be so proud today. I love each and every bit of the video. I hv been a skinny girl all throughout and could relate to it. Over the years I have started loving myself too and stopped looking for validation. Absolutely motivating video. - A proud subscriber. Loooooveeeeee
Thank you soooo much Srishti. Cannot thank you enough
I absolutely loved this.
First, I'm also a skinny person as tagged by people.
Second, I'm a mom weighing 42 kgs for which I'm body shamed very often.
Thirdly, everything you have said is so true n relatable.
People just say the ugliest words n feel they have done a great job.
You are such a honest person Dolly, n I feel talking about it is not so easy. Kudos to you . Lots of love 💝😘
Same to me aditi aggarwal.
U have a utube channel right??
This was the best thing that made my day. You go girl. More power to you. Your words have reached my heart . Loving ourselves is the must. ❣ you are an inspiration. Abilities decide how a person not the looks.
Dolly, you are such a beautiful person and I am glad you decided on sharing your story because I really needed this. THANK YOU♥
I was very skinny...wen I was in my school n college. every girl n boy n teacher even my relatives..hurt me n insulted me in so many ways..😢
Whatever u said..it felt so relatable with that. U r soo sweet...I have to say...I love you..😍😘😇
Same here
I can relate... But my teachers never shamed me for my skinny self... But it really hurts...
Superb
same😭
Please tell me how you gained weight
It takes a lot to repeat these scary words for you, and you did this! Hats off to you girl! You are beautiful in and out, proud of you❤
Babe you are the best ! You are the most beautiful girl.!!!! Don't get affected from these weirdos!!
You make people smile by making those funny videos❤️ I love you!
Love yourself💕
Story of my life !! Hats off to you for sharing this. Girl, I have the utmost respect and admiration for you !! And yes, You Are Beautiful. Inside and outside !! Take care.
Keep spreading love n light
Literally relatable...the story of my life being skinny shaming 😞 .. Thank You Dolly for such a video..much love ❤
Ur not ugly at all. Ur so cute and pretty believe me. Ur acting is just mind blowing. I used to watch south delhi episode just because of you. Believe me
Ur are smart. Stay smart n strong
This is so me. I am overweight. And first thing I get to hear whenever or wherever I go is 'thoda weight kam karle.' Tbh, you and your body are goals. If I have to be honest I want a body like yours.💞
YOU ARE GOALS.
Spill The Sass I don't know about goals but trust me we are same I was of perfect BMI from the beginning still was being body shamed by parents relatives and friends just because the people who body shamed me were skinny really skinny I was totally frustrated I lost a lot of weight unfortunately the weight loss was not healthy for my body I had started going through a lot of diseases and I got crazy collarbones like a personal who has not eaten from months plus to add on I got severe acne my boyfriend who was a jerk used to bully me later my father literally forcefully helped me to gain weight I was back to normal I hated myself trust me I had acne I was fat which I was not but just be people thought that I am fat my doctor always told Me I have perfect weight according to my height by boyfriend called me Moti like my elder sister's boyfriend called me Moti you know I had stopped looking at the mirror and I noticed you know fat people never call me fat they tease me for my acne and acne suffering people call me fat that time I noticed that people try to push you down by bringing up your those flaws which are actually not flaws but they wanna push you down
You are so beautiful! I mean I really don't know how to actually appreciate you for what you did here! I know you no better than a stranger but I LOVE YOU for always now! Health and happiness to you!
I am not saying this because this story, I am saying this because I have seen a lot of your videos. Honestly, I haven't come across any youtuber as honest as you ❤ I have never met you or anything but still I feel connected. I get really good, positive and homely vibes from you❤❤
Aw thank you Riya! This is so heartwarming. Sending you big hugs!
🙌
Even I never wear sleeveless dresses
I'm very frustrated about this thing 🙂
Pratyayee Bhattacharjee don't care abt others..if u like to wear sleeveless then u should. ..jst like me
Yes...I'm also😔
I have skinny arms vv skiny .. I feell ashamed to wear sleevless
Me too man😭😭
Even now I don’t wear 🤡
I am so proud of how realisticly you put this out I am so happy for you and your progress I love the way you are you should shine the way you love to. ❤❤
I was too very skinny and got bullied a lot in my college. Everybody used to say I was too thin including my relatives and friends. But you should see the positive side when everbody's struggling to loose/ maintain weight, you just can eat anything you want. Trust me as you age, you will get to know how lucky you are being a skinny girl and you look awesome!
Haha we are all lucky. Thank you for the love Nivedita. sending lots your way too
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You look absolutely fantastic.... people die to have figure like you have...I had same issues when I was 16 or so. I was very happy till I was in 9th grade...but later than I realise people call me with different names ..that made me so complex and shy...I hated myself..just because of the people who don't matter. Nevertheless I ate a lot and made sure I look hot and sexy. I am 31 today. And people around me appreciate for what I am...you are a very brave girl ..you have beautiful face and beautiful heart. It's takes a braveheart to come out with your imperfections and still stay positive. ..I do watch your videos. ..you set a trend for skinny gals. You are a style statement for them....good luck and love you. :)
Heyyyy! You’re such a beautiful human being!!! I’m skinny af! And I could relate throughout the video. But yes, there’s nothing more important than validating yourself. Also I wanted to say you’re a beautiful beautiful beautiful human being! Love the way you talk and the way you spread positivity across! Just got to know about your channel recently and I ain’t leaving this place everrrrr!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Looks like it's my story
It made me cry too!
You're beautiful my dear girl
Keep growing
I was searching weight gain receipes when ur video flashed out. It literally made my mind to dump the idea of weight gain which was stuck from years...thx alot like for me it's the first ever video which made me realise myself #whoami 🥺
As a kid, I liked dressing up only in formals. I don't know why but I always wore full pants, shirts, blazers and never felt like trying out the other casual options. Now I know it was because I feared being bullied for my skinny hands and legs.
It is so relatable... Nd that to being a dark skinned girl
This was one of the best videos I ever watched on youtube. So raw and so true.. you go girl :)
It was so sooo relatable. Almost everything except my family never made me feel I'm looking bad or I'm skinny. I stopped caring about 2-3yrs back. I felt like this whole video was about me.
1. I don't have any pictures from class 9th -12th
2. Everytime some relative or friend meets the first thing they say is tu or patli ho gyi hai..😑
3 the bf thing to some extent.
And I'm still skinny.. trying to make my body better but for myself not for getting validation from others or for attracting someone. #ilovemyself❤️
I get to hear some of these stuff still after marriage. But I did overcome all of this because of my faith in God and in the soul I have. And I really don't care now. Back then I went into depression, cried out loud alone 😔😔 but when I prayed, I realised that I am lucky to be alive and this body is going to go to dust one day. I learnt that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder in the deepest sense. And I am beautiful just the way I am. My deeds, my words, my thoughts and myself... I am simply beautiful. I love my husband, for he has loved me too, just the way I am. And I just keep real people around who love me, not for how I look but just for how I am. Thank you for making this video. Now I know I have so many people who are commenting, including u Dolly,to this relate to. Love you all. May God bless you all and make your souls more beautiful 😍
That's exactly what i also go through daily in my college! Thank you so much for lifting me up! I love you❤
Totally relatable.You felt bad for a guy u did not even meet. I will tell u what i have gone through. All my life i have also been treated lesser of a person,be it my parents(father and brother i would say, my mom always finds me beautiful), relatives, or friends to an extent that i really was underconfident. But i never let that thing harm me and make me settle for less. Im highly intelligent, so i dont make negative ,fake and dumb people friens coz they dont understand u. So i am highly selective at choosing good quality friends
Then destiny sent me these bunch of nice group of friends in last year of my graduation.One of them was a really goodlooking, soulful , kind n positive personality guy whom almost every girl in my class wanted to have. But he never ran after girls.My best friend liked him and wanted to date him.But things turned out opposite. He and me ended up connecting so well that after college we sort of became soulmates. It really felt like we two are made for each other. Years went by and he stood by my thich n thin like a support. I love him more than anything else in this world. He too had same feelings. Until one day (after 3-4 years of our bond) when i asked him for future and marriage ,he would always cut me up saying we are from different castes his family won't allow. He would always give diplomatic answers. Until the day when i insisted him and he agrily said the truth to me..he said " Just look at yourself your health..what would i show to my parents". And it totally shattered me up in a way that i lost all my connfidence in myself as he had always supported me regarding my weight and kept me positive, happy and confident like never before. Coming from him i could not bear those words for myself. It's been three years since this incident and he did not even realize what damage it did to me and he kept on being there in my life. I have been trying to move on from him and his words since then but i love him from the core of my heart that it is too difficult for me. I tried avoiding him but then he fell into depression that i left him suddenly... So for his sake i kept him in contact coz he has always made me feel positive n happy apart from this incident, that i could not see him down n depressed while i myself was struggling inside to move on from him. As there was no point of waiting for him to marry me as he had finally spelled out the beans which he brilliantly kept hidden from me.And i thought he was the one who never judged me for my weight. But i was wrong. The only person i thought would never bully me ended up shattering me as i had put my trust of whole life into him. And today it's only been 2-3 months since we stopped talking to each other at last.I born him for almost 3 years after that incident.I hated myself in these three years but i did not show this to him and kept him close for his sake.And now finally 2-3 months ago we stopped talking forever coz according to him NOW i should move on as my family is searching me grooms and i don't like them.I tell him that i lost all the guys who wanted me since college days just because i chose him over others. I thougt we were gonna last. But no! He was just having a good time for all these years. I was a comforting friend whom he loved all his life but doesn't want to marry because of my weight. And he dares me nobody could love me as real as he did. I mean, Really! U call this love! Being with a person ,uplifting her for so many years just to leave her shattered in the end. So, if i can learn to walk myself again , if i can learn to build up my confidence all over again after these many years of betrayal, anybody could learn to rise up from body shaming.
you were so selfless girl. you were hurt but still you thought about him. I went through almost the same situation 3 months ago. still have a lot of sufferings to go through but yes we will be fine. some incidents of life change us so completely that we lose the 'old us' but believe me the 'new us' will be way better, confident and fabulous. keep loving yourself.
U r great
I love you Dolly you such a beautiful person inside out. I'm 19 and I am so insecure about my skinny body everyone around me just blatantly makes jokes about my body and somehow expects me to laugh along and I do. I don't know why people think calling fat to someone who's fat is rude but its the other way around for a skinny person like I shouldn't feel bad if people are making fun of my skinny body. I'm so done with taking shit from everyone so tired of the unachievable beauty standards!!
You just talk my heart out!❤
Hey i am really skinny and everyone makes fun of me and i am really happy you made this vid
Hey!
You can feel nothing but ’PITY’ for people who belittle you. They lack common sense , are shallow,have average intellect and are probably insecure.Right at the moment they pick on you for no apparent reason, you should realise that you are the bigger person. Dolly proved it without picking a fight or arguing. Her perseverance and intelligence have won millions.So will you😃
Same
Hey...I'm just a girl like u who was made fun of...so I can understand ur feelings, one thing I can say to u is just love ur body...u r beautiful in the way you are, so be confident in yourself and focus on ur dreams, don't let anybody to feel insecure and u coz everyone is perfect in their own way
U r such a genuine person.This is so relatable. I was holding back tears with you. Thank you so much for sharing your honest story. x
I can feel the pain
Even i was bullied from everyone for being so skinny
Home school relatives everyone
I was a joker to them used to laugh at me
it’s funny how women are so quick to skinny shame you ...when in truth all they want is to be skinny as well !
Hey Dolly, you are really awesome. It happens with almost every girl who is dark or skinny or doesn't have clear skin, I mean most of us are still facing this. This is really bad and people must realize how badly they are affecting someone directly or indirectly.
🙋 One of your juniors from school..!
Don't know when all of this happened in school but, I want to say this that I adored you a lot..😘
You've always inspired me to deal with all the taboos I've always been depressed about, and you gave me confidence. Yes, you are one of the reasons for what of a confident lady I've become now..
You've got to shine even brighter Di..All the best 😙😍