TIP: Sometimes when I feel like I can't do self care or if negative/intrusive thoughts and habits come to mind, I imagine a fictional character (or a family member, or friend can work for you) telling me to slow down, take a breathe and reassess. Personally I think of Baymax from big hero six as being my own personal health care assistant and I bought a mini pop vinyl key ring of him, so i can take it with me everywhere (which sort of ties in with something familiar) Also this video was so cute and much needed!
alani tenaglia awww that is such a thoughtful and lovely gift !!! I am positive they would absolutely adore it and be so thankful for you as a friend ♡♡♡ 😀
For people with eating disorders getting food, or making meals and such can be quite the struggle which would eventually result in an even worse mood. I do appreciate the other tips though but what works for me as someone with bulimia is to make a list of what you are going to eat that day (or make a list for days you're feeling bad in general) so that there's least amount of stress possible involving your food and make you less likely to binge. Because the days I'm feeling worst are often the days I start binging on stuff, and when you have a list there and a sort of "plan" you can follow, the temptation is less there because you have a sort of comfort in knowing when and what you are going to eat. Thought this might be helpful for anyone struggling with bulimia or maybe any other eating disorder.
Thanks for this! I'm actually in eating disorder recovery (which is why the note is on my fridge, too!) and I do the same thing, break it down into little steps. Lucy and I talked about this a bit behind the scenes. Definitely very helpful.
Rosianna Halse Rojas No problem! Happy to hear you're in recovery, I've only recently started getting help and seeing a therapist, but it's actually videos like these, (and videos such as yours on body image) that motivate me to get better and take care of myself, and remind me I'm not on my own, so thank you!
Yesterday I was feeling really shitty, but I go to the gym every day and I really like the routine, and by the time I was driving home I thought to myself 'I can't remember when I stopped thinking about why I was feeling shit.' I didn't have to try to think about something else, it just happened, and it was so nice to be in such a good mood without even trying.
things i do that you said to do: +drink water +remember to eat +listen to hp audio books bc they are like home +go to a therapist +anything about tea Thanks for the video! I've got some new ideas to try now.
I LOVE how simple and seemingly easy these suggestions are. I've come to really appreciate a glass of water or a freaking shower now that I have a baby and my own needs come second. I have totally shifted to a place where things I used to barely notice are now so important for my mental and physical health - because it sucks when I go a while without being able to do them. Thank you both for sharing these with us! This is so lovely and positive.
This just spoke to my soul in such a enormous way. I am feeling like sh*t, and yesterday was a bed day for me. Today, I went on a run, bought some groceries to make dinner and as i was pouring myself a cup of water just before taking a shower, I watched this video!!!! I did not even realize what I was doing was "self care" but this video was what I needed right now in my life. Thank you.
Discovering Lucy is possibly the best thing that's happened to me in such a long time. Lucy, your videos have saved me so so many times this past month and I'm so grateful videos like these exist - finally there's a youtuber who's real about issues we all have, but you don't sit and complain about it being a limit, you show how we can work through it together and improve ourselves. So thank you Lucy. Thanks for giving me hope.
So the hippest I get is when some one gives me a pencil some paper and an instant camera it is the best this in the world try it but unluckily I don’t an instant camera :( so I use my phone take a picture and run away to my room and draw it which is just wonderful wait maybe I’m a hippie J.P
also it's important to mention if you can't afford to spend money on therapy (like at all) being on a waiting list with the nhs is worth it, even though it can seem like forever (mine took a year of screening processes) and you are able to acess places like mind whilst your waiting, google search what is in your area like groups or clubs, sessions, meet ups usually they do all this in 'mind' but there are other charity's that cater for mental health that are either more specific or more generalised but worth putting yourself out there for recovery, start now! great video lucy, you two are cuties :)
waiting for therapy can be a total ball ache but worth it if you can get into groups to re-connect with people who understand, hope everything is going well lovely! xx
A therapist isn't right for everyone but people can still benefit from working on themselves (i think this is everybody) or using self-care skills which lucy and rosianna were talking about in the video but if you are feeling down alot or anxious alot or feeling one emotion too strongly it might be worth seeking a bit of advice from someone you trust, and if you say you don't want help and you have a problem, many people including myself have been through this and you have to be ready to want and then recieve help, hope everything is okay and you are able to benefit from this video, if you have any questions about anything, the internet is here for you!
Something that helps me a lot is listening to the same song on repeat, the reason being that if I have an album or playlist going, my mind starts to stress about how many songs are accumulating without me doing what I need to do, whereas with one song times infinity, it doesn't take long to lose track of how long I've been listening, and so it becomes a state of being, and a more determined and productive one at that. I suppose it's the same principle as the HP audiobooks, since there are familiar inflections/beats to it. I especially like a song where it's easy to ignore where the start/end happens so that there are no replays I can subconsciously accumulate
also in line with the 'not fermenting in your own sweat thing' something which has really helped me has been keeping my surroundings clutter free and clean. i've noticed the bigger the mess the worse my brain gets and the more i feel like i'm incapable of doing anything.
It's not healthy for the skin to shower every day, you're destroying the natural acid coat and it will not be able to protect itself from the bad environmental influences and become less capable of moisturizing itself. Just saying, if you never heard of it before, Google it. There is a point where hygiene obsession gets paranoid :D
I appreciate this because people often think self care = "treat yo self" which... ya, it is. But that hard day to day self-care is shit like brushing your teeth and making yourself a meal. Basic but when you're depressed... that ish is hard work.
This is exactly how I'm feeling today - super depressed and like I don't want to get out of bed until the weekend. Thanks for this video, girls. Very timely.
needed this today. I love the idea of the self care index cards as opposed to the actual sticky note that's in my bathroom right now which just says 'get your life together'
Audiobook wise I listen to the Alex rider audio books (got the box set) and I always listened to them as a kid. And it's a massive comfort now. To fall asleep too if I'm having lots of thoughts cause it distracts me and I don't need to worry about falling asleep in it or drifting off from the story cause I know them all off by heart. It's so comforting to slip out of my daze and come back to a familiar voice and narrative. I really really recommend it. Just play it out loud quietly in your bedroom at night!
I've just discovered you last night through Arden Rose and I've been watching your videos nonstop since. I've been in bed for a week straight now & missing school because of a chronic pain syndrome I have and I've been feeling really down lately and I haven't been taking care of myself the way I should be. Your videos have been helping get back up and doing the things I need to do to take care myself and my brain and my body and I find your voice very relaxing and comforting and I just wanted to thank you for sharing so openly !!
I found that sitting and watching an episode of a tv show that I fully know the plot to, and can quote entire lines from, really calms my anxiety and makes me take time to relax. It's the same with movies and even certain UA-cam videos. Anxiety and school are not things that go well together, but setting goals for lessons to conquer or times to reach before 'quitting' or leaving a lesson to sit in the corridor to calm down makes me feel more accomplished about being there in the first place.
I watched this yesterday and it helped me SO MUCH. I really needed to hear this. I had water, made some food, took a shower, brushed my teeth and hair and felt so much better. Thank you.
"It is an interesting biological fact that all of us have in our veins the exact same percentage of salt in our blood that exists in the ocean, and therefore, we have salt in our blood, in our sweat, in our tears. We are tied to the ocean. And when we go back to the sea--whether it is to sail or to watch it--we are going back from whence we came." John F Kennedy Thought your friend might appreciate this? ☺
Every thing you've mentioned Lucy I agree with. Water, clean teeth and I shower are a must. My own suggestions are clean bedsheets if you can be bothered, and because I hate going for walks without purpose, I found that it always helps me to go to my local cinema. Combines having to look presentable, walking and then closing yourself away from the world in a dark room, where a story can take over your mind for a couple of hours. Not feasible for everyone, I know, but it's my go to on these kind of days. much love xx
This came at the perfect time. I'm currently sitting in bed with tissues crying over stuff I should have been over with many months ago and it was just perfect to get a reminder to even just have a drink of water. Thank you.
You guys are very authentic and right in what you're saying. I enjoy your videos very much. Currently I am in a very depressed and self-destructive mood. My body longs for water so much but somehow I don't allow myself to dring or eat healthy stuff which would make me feel at least physical better. Instead I don't drink, I eat ONLY sugar and disgusting junkfood that Iiterally can't see anymore and makes me throw up. So by purging I lose even more water. I'm in delirium the whole time and do nothing besides being in bed like a half-dead animal waiting for its death.
luticia I was in the same place last spring. but guess what? things didn't magically get better, things got better because I chose myself over the self destructive thoughts. it always get better and then worse and better again, that's life. choose yourself over the thoughts and you will get to a place where you are glad you are still alive
krispy noodle Hi there! First of all thank you for sharing your experience with me. I really appreciate it and even more I'm really happy that u were able to manage to get yourself out of this place! That's huge thing you've managed. I do already know what you've tried to tell me but unfortunately seems like I am not like you, I don't have the strength to pull myself out of this place. My self-destructive mood is so huge that doesn't allow me to pull myself out. I'm suffering but still I chose every single minute to stay in this miserable place. That's what my depression and self-destructive behaviour do to me! Nevertheless thanks.
Hang in there! I know how hard it can be but I'm sure you can get through it. If you're able to speak to a professional please do, even if you can only speak to them on the phone. Sending you love ❤
luticia really sorry to hear about your situation, it must be terrible to be stuck in the depression. But at the same time, thank you too for sharing. A lot of the comments I've read have been about how people have coped/are going to change. But I think your experience is really important to hear too. People have been lovely and want to be supportive here, but I guess we're actually a bit powerless to help. But that's just the nature of this particular depression - maybe it's like a spiral that re-enforces itself from your feelings and actions. When you're in it nothing can break you out, not even the most positive of suggestions. And I feel that's important for us to be aware of when we'd like to support someone with depression. Right now I think all we can do is listen, so please do keep sharing whenever you feel up to it!
I know it will probably sound a bit cheesy, but huge thank you to both of you, lovely lovely human beings, for making this video. I've been feeling worse and worse lately, I spent all of the weekend in bed and this video made me go take a shower, eat small dinner, drink a bit and clean around. And I really feel a bit better. Better enough to go to work tomorrow and enjoy it. Loads of love xxx.
I hadn't really thought too much about self care until I started watching your channel, but now it really is a huge thing for me since I get so super stressed pretty often. I'm planning to make a self care video of my own so that hopefully I can spread the message to more people in need of a bit of self love. Thank you for inspiring me Lucy! ❤️
This was such a refreshing video! Even when I'm feeling productive, it's important to remember taking time throughout the day for self care that can be easy to forget.
I went to a counselor who was AWFUL and kept trying to make me think I hate my family? The entire thing was uncomfortable and unhelpful. My second choice was MUCH better and we had a lot in common, which made it easy to talk openly. It really is so beneficial to look into multiple options when choosing a therapist or counselor!
I really needed this right now. Thank you. My anxiety is getting worse and is up and down a lot and I have mocks next week and everything is going to shit again and I can feel my mental health getting worse. I don't want it to be bad for my mocks.
My therapist told me they did a study and holding a warm beverage actually made people feel warmer/improved their moods by a certain amount, so you're totally right about the tea!
i love this video so much. i definitely relate to this, especially when im feeling i guess 'numb' i force myself to shower, have a healthy meal/snack, read a book and have a drink. usually i feel somewhat better as it gives me a sense of reality making me actually feel something and most of the time i feel positive because iv treated myself in a positive way!
this was so needed for me. in uni with many deadlines, been feeling quite shitty lately and its just nice to know people are straight up and are helpful. you guys are amazing x
Ahh Lucy you have no idea how glad I am you uploaded this when you did. I've been in such a rut and getting out of bed has been so hard for me lately and every little thing feels like a chore. But just watching this has made me feel so much better. So thank you for being you and thank you to Rosianna as well x
This video is lovely to see, it is often not spoken about fully by youtubers and it is great that you'd addressed taking time out to look after yourself. such a lovely positive video x
ROSIANNA, YES. The HP audiobooks and The West Wing are my very favourite comfort blankets too! I used to lull myself back to sleep after I'd had a nightmare by listening to Harry Potter, and it has the same comforting effect now.
This is my favourite video on UA-cam to date, so so important and probably came at the best time for me, the atmosphere was so lovely and comforting, you should really makes this into a series omg!!!!!!!!
I LOVE this video. Such simple things, but you need someone to remind you to do them when you do have those days/periods of time. Lovely video ladies xx
The thing about brushing your teeth and cleaning your body is so true! I allways feel like I accomplish something that day and made some sort of effort for myself.
In regards to the calling a friend and telling them how you're feeling, I always feel like I'm bringing them down and that I shouldn't put it on them or bother them with it. It's not them, definitely a me thing, but I don't know how to get past that, which makes it so I usually just keep it to myself. Have you felt like this and if so how did/do you stop feeling like you're just bothering people?
If they're people you see regularly, tell them to bother you if they feel like you're not okay. Tell them you might sometimes need somebody to pull you out of bed when you don't have the energy to call them or are worried to bother them. Somebody who knows you have a rough time so they can call you from time to time to check up on you. In my personal experience, that can really help.
loved this video. It made me smile. also encouraged me to look into therapy again. I agree it is just.. such a work thing even though I know its worth it. its on my list for next week. so thank you
Such good tipsss. The podcast/show was always a big one for me. I'd actually watch the same three movies when I felt down or needed to get to sleep. So helpful.
Thank you so much for this video Lucy , it is exactly what I needed today. Sometimes it just takes someone to remind you that it's ok to have bad days but you can do these small things to bring yourself out of it. I'm fairly new to your channel and absolutely loving it- can identify with you on a lot of issues! Keep killin it sista 👊🏼
Oh Lucy thank you for this vid. I needed this so badly today! You are such a comfort to watch. You're one of those I always turn to when I need to find some inner calm. So much love to you! Xxx
I recently realized if I think about caring for myself from the perspective of someone who loves me (example: my grandma), it completely turns my level of care around. She'd always want me to shower, make my hair look presentable, eat a healthy meal, get some fresh air, and go to bed at a decent time. Oh, and a little dessert after dinner is always ok in her book. Thinking this way is a game changer for me.
Thanks ladies! This discussion made me sit down and take a minute to think about how I'm feeling, and I realised I've been feeling sad. This went unrecognised for a fair few days. Taking your (and my own) advise and brushing my teeth, having a shower, doing some yoga then brewing myself a well deserved cup of tea. Ps, I loved the video on Rosi's channel too 😊
Lucy this was such a good video. I tend to get caught up in being busy and I forget to take care of myself and this video has reminded me just how important it is to look after myself
Just watching this video calmed me down immensely. Life is really stressful and shit at the moment and I'm scared of the future, but this helped me for a little while
Lucy I'm going through a rly tough time rn and I stayed home from school today because I had such a massive panic attack last night and I still feel like my balance has been knocked off but this video helped me a whole lot and I needed it right now. Thank you.
The Harry Potter audiobooks are what got me through some of my hardest days! Also the part about being worth a meal. And though I hat to shower when I feel bad, it does help.
So often I deny myself this self care when I'm depressed. And it kinda feeds the depression and I say ok I'm depressed I don't deserve to feel better and it just makes it worse and it's like I want to feel bad and that's terrible and not right. So this year I'm going to make sure I'm taking care of myself when I'm feeling low
What an amazing video!! your calm and kind voices alone are so helpful. I'm so blessed that I live in Germany where the health insurance pays the therapist if you need one, so to all my german friends out there, get yourself help! xxx
everything here is SO true. yes yes yes. I feel so much better when I shower and drink water and have meals at reasonable times. guess this depends on the kind of person you are but for me also having a specific time and mini routine around these basic things makes me feel better even if I haven't quite done the other things I wanted to do, doing the basics makes me feel like I'm still on track and can pick up and keep going/start
i found this video very helpful. im considering going to therapy again, as i can explain my depersonalisation a little easier than i could before. i used to have counselling, and because it didn't help i never gave anything another chance. i think i'm finally gaining the courage to tell my mum i need help. i have my school nurse's number too, so i also have access to message her to. i think i may finally kick my mental illnesses ass!
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a lucy video a day is the best thing that has ever happened to youtube
definitely
parping patty yes omg cos she gets it and her vids are so helpful!
a lucy video a day keeps the doctor away ~
parping patty omg yesssss literally making my days 😊😂
TIP: Sometimes when I feel like I can't do self care or if negative/intrusive thoughts and habits come to mind, I imagine a fictional character (or a family member, or friend can work for you) telling me to slow down, take a breathe and reassess. Personally I think of Baymax from big hero six as being my own personal health care assistant and I bought a mini pop vinyl key ring of him, so i can take it with me everywhere (which sort of ties in with something familiar)
Also this video was so cute and much needed!
This is such a good tip! I used to do it all the time in the past, thank you for reminding me!
ossswin yay I'm so glad it reminded you
Yes yes yes I do this
anthie uhh That's so cute! Such a great tip, too!
alani tenaglia awww that is such a thoughtful and lovely gift !!! I am positive they would absolutely adore it and be so thankful for you as a friend ♡♡♡ 😀
haha I enjoy you two so much.
For people with eating disorders getting food, or making meals and such can be quite the struggle which would eventually result in an even worse mood. I do appreciate the other tips though but what works for me as someone with bulimia is to make a list of what you are going to eat that day (or make a list for days you're feeling bad in general) so that there's least amount of stress possible involving your food and make you less likely to binge. Because the days I'm feeling worst are often the days I start binging on stuff, and when you have a list there and a sort of "plan" you can follow, the temptation is less there because you have a sort of comfort in knowing when and what you are going to eat. Thought this might be helpful for anyone struggling with bulimia or maybe any other eating disorder.
Silke vds wow this is such a great tip thank you I'm gonna use it!
Glad to help! Hope you're doing well!
Thanks for this! I'm actually in eating disorder recovery (which is why the note is on my fridge, too!) and I do the same thing, break it down into little steps. Lucy and I talked about this a bit behind the scenes. Definitely very helpful.
Rosianna Halse Rojas No problem! Happy to hear you're in recovery, I've only recently started getting help and seeing a therapist, but it's actually videos like these, (and videos such as yours on body image) that motivate me to get better and take care of myself, and remind me I'm not on my own, so thank you!
Yesterday I was feeling really shitty, but I go to the gym every day and I really like the routine, and by the time I was driving home I thought to myself 'I can't remember when I stopped thinking about why I was feeling shit.' I didn't have to try to think about something else, it just happened, and it was so nice to be in such a good mood without even trying.
things i do that you said to do:
+drink water
+remember to eat
+listen to hp audio books bc they are like home
+go to a therapist
+anything about tea
Thanks for the video! I've got some new ideas to try now.
I LOVE how simple and seemingly easy these suggestions are. I've come to really appreciate a glass of water or a freaking shower now that I have a baby and my own needs come second. I have totally shifted to a place where things I used to barely notice are now so important for my mental and physical health - because it sucks when I go a while without being able to do them.
Thank you both for sharing these with us! This is so lovely and positive.
This just spoke to my soul in such a enormous way. I am feeling like sh*t, and yesterday was a bed day for me. Today, I went on a run, bought some groceries to make dinner and as i was pouring myself a cup of water just before taking a shower, I watched this video!!!! I did not even realize what I was doing was "self care" but this video was what I needed right now in my life. Thank you.
Discovering Lucy is possibly the best thing that's happened to me in such a long time. Lucy, your videos have saved me so so many times this past month and I'm so grateful videos like these exist - finally there's a youtuber who's real about issues we all have, but you don't sit and complain about it being a limit, you show how we can work through it together and improve ourselves.
So thank you Lucy. Thanks for giving me hope.
Just gonna pause this video to go get a glass of water, thanks for the reminder 😂
This was a great video 👏🏼 Really enjoying your daily videos Lucy, hope you're enjoying making them!
Rukaya Cesar right!
So the hippest I get is when some one gives me a pencil some paper and an instant camera it is the best this in the world try it but unluckily I don’t an instant camera :( so I use my phone take a picture and run away to my room and draw it which is just wonderful wait maybe I’m a hippie J.P
also it's important to mention if you can't afford to spend money on therapy (like at all) being on a waiting list with the nhs is worth it, even though it can seem like forever (mine took a year of screening processes) and you are able to acess places like mind whilst your waiting, google search what is in your area like groups or clubs, sessions, meet ups usually they do all this in 'mind' but there are other charity's that cater for mental health that are either more specific or more generalised but worth putting yourself out there for recovery, start now! great video lucy, you two are cuties :)
yessss! currently im doing art therapy whilst waiting for my next session. and its honestly so nice to be in a group and connect with people like u.
waiting for therapy can be a total ball ache but worth it if you can get into groups to re-connect with people who understand, hope everything is going well lovely! xx
Onmymind why would I want a therapist? I don't want help
A therapist isn't right for everyone but people can still benefit from working on themselves (i think this is everybody) or using self-care skills which lucy and rosianna were talking about in the video but if you are feeling down alot or anxious alot or feeling one emotion too strongly it might be worth seeking a bit of advice from someone you trust, and if you say you don't want help and you have a problem, many people including myself have been through this and you have to be ready to want and then recieve help, hope everything is okay and you are able to benefit from this video, if you have any questions about anything, the internet is here for you!
This is so necessary right now. Thank you for the tips!
Something that helps me a lot is listening to the same song on repeat, the reason being that if I have an album or playlist going, my mind starts to stress about how many songs are accumulating without me doing what I need to do, whereas with one song times infinity, it doesn't take long to lose track of how long I've been listening, and so it becomes a state of being, and a more determined and productive one at that. I suppose it's the same principle as the HP audiobooks, since there are familiar inflections/beats to it. I especially like a song where it's easy to ignore where the start/end happens so that there are no replays I can subconsciously accumulate
also in line with the 'not fermenting in your own sweat thing' something which has really helped me has been keeping my surroundings clutter free and clean. i've noticed the bigger the mess the worse my brain gets and the more i feel like i'm incapable of doing anything.
'try not to ferment in your own sweat'. okay if you put it that way, I'm having a shower twice a day lmao. Anyone else? 😂😘
aye me too! its honestly the most refreshing thing though
It's not healthy for the skin to shower every day, you're destroying the natural acid coat and it will not be able to protect itself from the bad environmental influences and become less capable of moisturizing itself. Just saying, if you never heard of it before, Google it. There is a point where hygiene obsession gets paranoid :D
Lucy looks so G O O D x
I appreciate this because people often think self care = "treat yo self" which... ya, it is. But that hard day to day self-care is shit like brushing your teeth and making yourself a meal. Basic but when you're depressed... that ish is hard work.
This is exactly how I'm feeling today - super depressed and like I don't want to get out of bed until the weekend. Thanks for this video, girls. Very timely.
As a therapist in training, this video means so much to me. Thank you Lucy and rosianna x
I really enjoy the Harry Potter audiobooks. The story. The characters. Stephen Fry's voice. They are so comforting!
needed this today. I love the idea of the self care index cards as opposed to the actual sticky note that's in my bathroom right now which just says 'get your life together'
Audiobook wise I listen to the Alex rider audio books (got the box set) and I always listened to them as a kid. And it's a massive comfort now. To fall asleep too if I'm having lots of thoughts cause it distracts me and I don't need to worry about falling asleep in it or drifting off from the story cause I know them all off by heart. It's so comforting to slip out of my daze and come back to a familiar voice and narrative. I really really recommend it. Just play it out loud quietly in your bedroom at night!
I've just discovered you last night through Arden Rose and I've been watching your videos nonstop since. I've been in bed for a week straight now & missing school because of a chronic pain syndrome I have and I've been feeling really down lately and I haven't been taking care of myself the way I should be. Your videos have been helping get back up and doing the things I need to do to take care myself and my brain and my body and I find your voice very relaxing and comforting and I just wanted to thank you for sharing so openly !!
I found that sitting and watching an episode of a tv show that I fully know the plot to, and can quote entire lines from, really calms my anxiety and makes me take time to relax. It's the same with movies and even certain UA-cam videos. Anxiety and school are not things that go well together, but setting goals for lessons to conquer or times to reach before 'quitting' or leaving a lesson to sit in the corridor to calm down makes me feel more accomplished about being there in the first place.
I watched this yesterday and it helped me SO MUCH. I really needed to hear this. I had water, made some food, took a shower, brushed my teeth and hair and felt so much better. Thank you.
"It is an interesting biological fact that all of us have in our veins the exact same percentage of salt in our blood that exists in the ocean, and therefore, we have salt in our blood, in our sweat, in our tears.
We are tied to the ocean. And when we go back to the sea--whether it is to sail or to watch it--we are going back from whence we came."
John F Kennedy
Thought your friend might appreciate this? ☺
wow! i love the beach and water and this quote is beautiful ~ so glad you posted it
Wow I love that!
I love this so much, I am quite guilty of forgetting this type of stuff so it is always nice to receive a reminder!
Every thing you've mentioned Lucy I agree with. Water, clean teeth and I shower are a must. My own suggestions are clean bedsheets if you can be bothered, and because I hate going for walks without purpose, I found that it always helps me to go to my local cinema. Combines having to look presentable, walking and then closing yourself away from the world in a dark room, where a story can take over your mind for a couple of hours. Not feasible for everyone, I know, but it's my go to on these kind of days. much love xx
This came at the perfect time. I'm currently sitting in bed with tissues crying over stuff I should have been over with many months ago and it was just perfect to get a reminder to even just have a drink of water. Thank you.
hearing lucy's voice should be a key step in the routine.. honestly it's sooo soft and soothing
You guys are very authentic and right in what you're saying. I enjoy your videos very much.
Currently I am in a very depressed and self-destructive mood. My body longs for water so much but somehow I don't allow myself to dring or eat healthy stuff which would make me feel at least physical better. Instead I don't drink, I eat ONLY sugar and disgusting junkfood that Iiterally can't see anymore and makes me throw up. So by purging I lose even more water. I'm in delirium the whole time and do nothing besides being in bed like a half-dead animal waiting for its death.
luticia I was in the same place last spring. but guess what? things didn't magically get better, things got better because I chose myself over the self destructive thoughts. it always get better and then worse and better again, that's life. choose yourself over the thoughts and you will get to a place where you are glad you are still alive
krispy noodle Hi there! First of all thank you for sharing your experience with me. I really appreciate it and even more I'm really happy that u were able to manage to get yourself out of this place! That's huge thing you've managed.
I do already know what you've tried to tell me but unfortunately seems like I am not like you, I don't have the strength to pull myself out of this place. My self-destructive mood is so huge that doesn't allow me to pull myself out. I'm suffering but still I chose every single minute to stay in this miserable place. That's what my depression and self-destructive behaviour do to me!
Nevertheless thanks.
luticia please hang in there! Things will get better even if they seem like they won't right now
Hang in there! I know how hard it can be but I'm sure you can get through it. If you're able to speak to a professional please do, even if you can only speak to them on the phone. Sending you love ❤
luticia really sorry to hear about your situation, it must be terrible to be stuck in the depression. But at the same time, thank you too for sharing. A lot of the comments I've read have been about how people have coped/are going to change. But I think your experience is really important to hear too. People have been lovely and want to be supportive here, but I guess we're actually a bit powerless to help. But that's just the nature of this particular depression - maybe it's like a spiral that re-enforces itself from your feelings and actions. When you're in it nothing can break you out, not even the most positive of suggestions. And I feel that's important for us to be aware of when we'd like to support someone with depression.
Right now I think all we can do is listen, so please do keep sharing whenever you feel up to it!
This video was SO helpful. Your videos are beautiful.
"Even poo gets stuck!" Yeah, thanks for that! haha x
Crying headaches are the worst part of crying oh my god.
I know it will probably sound a bit cheesy, but huge thank you to both of you, lovely lovely human beings, for making this video. I've been feeling worse and worse lately, I spent all of the weekend in bed and this video made me go take a shower, eat small dinner, drink a bit and clean around. And I really feel a bit better. Better enough to go to work tomorrow and enjoy it. Loads of love xxx.
I hadn't really thought too much about self care until I started watching your channel, but now it really is a huge thing for me since I get so super stressed pretty often. I'm planning to make a self care video of my own so that hopefully I can spread the message to more people in need of a bit of self love. Thank you for inspiring me Lucy! ❤️
This was such a refreshing video! Even when I'm feeling productive, it's important to remember taking time throughout the day for self care that can be easy to forget.
I went to a counselor who was AWFUL and kept trying to make me think I hate my family? The entire thing was uncomfortable and unhelpful. My second choice was MUCH better and we had a lot in common, which made it easy to talk openly. It really is so beneficial to look into multiple options when choosing a therapist or counselor!
Westwing is my absolute comfort! Always makes me feel better!
You're happen to be one of my top 3 people on the internet, Lucy! Keep up the great content.
I really needed this right now. Thank you. My anxiety is getting worse and is up and down a lot and I have mocks next week and everything is going to shit again and I can feel my mental health getting worse. I don't want it to be bad for my mocks.
listen to the HP audio books over and over again as well. They are just so comforting, no matter what mode I'm in.
So glad you guys openly chat about things that aren't talked about on the internet very often. Kudos! Thank you!
Omg I literally just said in a video how the two of you have been comforting/sincere content creators and here you both are! Yay!
My therapist told me they did a study and holding a warm beverage actually made people feel warmer/improved their moods by a certain amount, so you're totally right about the tea!
made me feel so much better watching this! very helpful
i love this video so much. i definitely relate to this, especially when im feeling i guess 'numb' i force myself to shower, have a healthy meal/snack, read a book and have a drink. usually i feel somewhat better as it gives me a sense of reality making me actually feel something and most of the time i feel positive because iv treated myself in a positive way!
this was so needed for me. in uni with many deadlines, been feeling quite shitty lately and its just nice to know people are straight up and are helpful. you guys are amazing x
I think I watch this video once every week because it’s so authentic and the advice is genuine. thank you
Ahh Lucy you have no idea how glad I am you uploaded this when you did. I've been in such a rut and getting out of bed has been so hard for me lately and every little thing feels like a chore. But just watching this has made me feel so much better. So thank you for being you and thank you to Rosianna as well x
This video is lovely to see, it is often not spoken about fully by youtubers and it is great that you'd addressed taking time out to look after yourself. such a lovely positive video x
The shower thing is so true! Shower and making myself a salad can help change my mood. Also, banana with maple syrup gives me a mood boost.
ROSIANNA, YES. The HP audiobooks and The West Wing are my very favourite comfort blankets too! I used to lull myself back to sleep after I'd had a nightmare by listening to Harry Potter, and it has the same comforting effect now.
This is my favourite video on UA-cam to date, so so important and probably came at the best time for me, the atmosphere was so lovely and comforting, you should really makes this into a series omg!!!!!!!!
I actually love your channel so much. Your content is just so real and relatable in the most concrete and useful way. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
I LOVE this video. Such simple things, but you need someone to remind you to do them when you do have those days/periods of time. Lovely video ladies xx
oml I listen to the hp audio books all the time too! so comforting when I'm feeling anxious tbh
The thing about brushing your teeth and cleaning your body is so true! I allways feel like I accomplish something that day and made some sort of effort for myself.
In regards to the calling a friend and telling them how you're feeling, I always feel like I'm bringing them down and that I shouldn't put it on them or bother them with it. It's not them, definitely a me thing, but I don't know how to get past that, which makes it so I usually just keep it to myself. Have you felt like this and if so how did/do you stop feeling like you're just bothering people?
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If they're people you see regularly, tell them to bother you if they feel like you're not okay. Tell them you might sometimes need somebody to pull you out of bed when you don't have the energy to call them or are worried to bother them. Somebody who knows you have a rough time so they can call you from time to time to check up on you. In my personal experience, that can really help.
Woke up with just negative vibes BUT after watching this video and actually taking a shower, I feel soo much better. Thank you loves ❤
loved this video. It made me smile. also encouraged me to look into therapy again. I agree it is just.. such a work thing even though I know its worth it. its on my list for next week. so thank you
The comment section of this video gives me so much hope, its so nice to see such a nice positive and helpful place on youtube
Wow the dehydrated thing is so true and I never noticed it thank you
Such good tipsss. The podcast/show was always a big one for me. I'd actually watch the same three movies when I felt down or needed to get to sleep. So helpful.
Thank you so much for this video Lucy , it is exactly what I needed today. Sometimes it just takes someone to remind you that it's ok to have bad days but you can do these small things to bring yourself out of it. I'm fairly new to your channel and absolutely loving it- can identify with you on a lot of issues! Keep killin it sista 👊🏼
Thank you for introducing me to Rosianna and her channel, she's so sweet and gives great advice! (Also drinking lots of water during this video) x
Brushing my teeth can help my head space more than anything else. Idk it jut makes me feel refreshed and it scrapes away all the stagnant thoughts
Oh Lucy thank you for this vid. I needed this so badly today! You are such a comfort to watch. You're one of those I always turn to when I need to find some inner calm. So much love to you! Xxx
LOVED this video! Love, love, love!
this was hands down one of the most helpful, lovely videos i've ever watched. thank you both for making this❤
the Harry potter audio books are also my comfort thing! we used to listen to the first one non stop as little kids
i love this so much
I recently realized if I think about caring for myself from the perspective of someone who loves me (example: my grandma), it completely turns my level of care around. She'd always want me to shower, make my hair look presentable, eat a healthy meal, get some fresh air, and go to bed at a decent time. Oh, and a little dessert after dinner is always ok in her book. Thinking this way is a game changer for me.
I feel obliged to listen to anything Lucy says as long as she's in glasses
Thanks ladies! This discussion made me sit down and take a minute to think about how I'm feeling, and I realised I've been feeling sad. This went unrecognised for a fair few days. Taking your (and my own) advise and brushing my teeth, having a shower, doing some yoga then brewing myself a well deserved cup of tea. Ps, I loved the video on Rosi's channel too 😊
Lucy this was such a good video. I tend to get caught up in being busy and I forget to take care of myself and this video has reminded me just how important it is to look after myself
You have such a great timing! I needed this right now, thank you for your lovely advice :) x
this was more than needed today, thank you ❤
Just watching this video calmed me down immensely. Life is really stressful and shit at the moment and I'm scared of the future, but this helped me for a little while
I paused this video to make a cup of tea and tidy away some mess in my room while the kettle boiled. Thank you! These are really helpful tips.
The concept for this video is brilliant
So much love for this vid!! Definitely needed it 💕
Everything I needed today. Thankyou for this xxx
Really needed this video today! Thanks so much!!
Lucy I'm going through a rly tough time rn and I stayed home from school today because I had such a massive panic attack last night and I still feel like my balance has been knocked off but this video helped me a whole lot and I needed it right now. Thank you.
The Harry Potter audiobooks are what got me through some of my hardest days!
Also the part about being worth a meal. And though I hat to shower when I feel bad, it does help.
So often I deny myself this self care when I'm depressed. And it kinda feeds the depression and I say ok I'm depressed I don't deserve to feel better and it just makes it worse and it's like I want to feel bad and that's terrible and not right. So this year I'm going to make sure I'm taking care of myself when I'm feeling low
Thank you Lucy
I think this is possibly the best video to have ever been made, thank you☺️
What an amazing video!! your calm and kind voices alone are so helpful.
I'm so blessed that I live in Germany where the health insurance pays the therapist if you need one, so to all my german friends out there, get yourself help! xxx
I needed this. Thank you so much❤
thank you so much for making this vid i've had a hard time being motivated lately, thank you
I listen to the Harry Potter audio books too! they're so comforting and they always calm me down. :)
this is fantastic! anything that promotes healthy self care is a win! Just in time for semester exams ladies
everything here is SO true. yes yes yes. I feel so much better when I shower and drink water and have meals at reasonable times. guess this depends on the kind of person you are but for me also having a specific time and mini routine around these basic things makes me feel better even if I haven't quite done the other things I wanted to do, doing the basics makes me feel like I'm still on track and can pick up and keep going/start
Ahh, I just looooved this. You're both amazing and I hope you'll have more good days than bad ones this year.
oh my lucy you are fantastical
I love how simple but useful these tips are. Cheers :)
This is THE video that I needed tonight. Thank you wonderful ladies. I'm going to get out of bed and eat some peanut butter.
i found this video very helpful. im considering going to therapy again, as i can explain my depersonalisation a little easier than i could before. i used to have counselling, and because it didn't help i never gave anything another chance. i think i'm finally gaining the courage to tell my mum i need help. i have my school nurse's number too, so i also have access to message her to. i think i may finally kick my mental illnesses ass!
Proud of you! You've got this x
Livla thank you lovely! x
Beth Jefferies Kick its ass! You can do it! :)
StarMintaka thank you!