A Rich man wined & dined her. Flew her out on vacay & switched up on her. What should she do?
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The sad part about this situation is if she meets a guy who really takes her seriously and wants to vet her for a LTR she going to judge him by the same standards of the guy who didnt. A guy who is seriously vetting you isnt taking you out of town off the rip. Thats a finesse move.
You already know how it’s gonna go for the next guy that actually likes her. If he not spending she’s not going to like him
@@malcolms3220 facts
shes gonna tell the new guy that the last guy bought her gifts and took her on trips as soon as they met. but she aint gonna tell the new guy that the old guy stopped after he hit a few times lol
@@meloran2571 😂
Isn’t that the whole premise of the manosphere? Judging alllll women based on the actions of a few? 🤔
Neither is correct. Judge people individually
He wasn't chasing her like he was before because he got what he wanted .....😮
"he got me" gurl its okay, let that ego go, and move onward and forward
Exactly! It will happen again if she doesn't take accountability
That’s so sad. The black community has an issue with controlling their loins. It’s weird.
I love Ashley at the end, "Chile" 😅 seriousley ladies, the older ones will always be 10 steps ahead of you... go slow always... even if u think it's fast enough... course correct and go slower. If he's really into you he will wait. ❤
Girl please! He got what he wanted he’s done with you
I hope she enjoyed herself because she seemed to be focused moreso on the parts she had no control over.
EXACTLY
lol 😂😂😂 I luv this comment! Straight 2 the damn point 👏🏾
ABSOLUTELY!!
Exactly
Just because a man texts you that doesn’t mean he not wasting your time. He can text you all day and still not want a relationship with you. He’s just bored and want some. Move on
Right. And I wouldn’t want to be the last option.
The issue is she does not see herself as a fun-time girl. Being abstinent helps weed out males who are in it for fun. Just start over girl. You bonded with a man who was not taking you serious at all.
The key is to stay abstinent, stay away from homes , hotels and trips when ur just getting to know someone.
@@amilllion1 that’s hard for most women to do though. They want the experience of the trip 🤷🏿♂️
Wait till marriage
he took her on a trip & shopping. and she gave up the 😺. he didnt GET her. and no one was got. they both got what they wanted. fair exchange is no robbery . her saying "he got me" absolves her from any accountability. AND he texted her afterward still showing interest while she's playing games like a teenager... 🤷🏾♂
Just take it as a cool/fun experience! He’s not looking at you as anything serious and that’s ok. Nothing wrong with having fun and moving around. And you got a shopping spree out of it! Girl stop and you pretty, don’t get hung up on him
PERIODT 💅🏾
Nah I disagree, she was looking for something real, but she moved to fast, she didn’t even know him for real. That man could have every STD’s there is, now he doesn’t respect her, he thinking if she did that with him she’ll do that with everybody, men don’t want women like that they played with women like that , and y’all wondering why y’all no get no respect from these males, smh
Really? This is awful advice. This is why men can manipulate women so easily attitudes like this.
This response defines the problem with women today. Transactional 💰
@@sirmayse1545 💯
1) she wasn’t hard to get in the slightest based off this story, folded with one trip lol. 2) she the one not responding to him. He’s not gonna chase you
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I wouldn’t even go on a trip unless we’re together cus I’m what else we going for if not to FCK 😅
This shows that money and gifts aren’t fulfilling! A man who’s willing to love you unconditionally, be there for you and is kind and loyal is important! My man might not spoil me with expensive gifts but with what he has he makes me feel special and I can call on him whenever, he’s always there❤
Be In Your Power Young Lady!! You didn't get ghosted and he's still reaching out. Listen to your Inner Guide. If he truly stopped pursuing the same that's a warning NOT to continue either him. You didn't do anything bad or wrong you thought it was mutual but most people are very deceptive. Cut the silly sh and tell him how you feel and what you want. Watch his actions and move accordingly. Never be taken advantage of or played by a dude again. Be very serious about yourself and what you want.
yes at this point you are no longer a victim but a volunteer.
He's a Player ma.
great advice
Telling him how she feels is part of the game he wants her to get emotional and chase him
@@Mylilcookbook Yup! You get it.
Ashleyyyyy 😂😂😂😂 your facial expressions. You are way too cute, we don’t deserve you.
She said “Don’t lieee” & gave that look. ❤ love your content & how you handle the lil ladies. 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾
That’s what chicks be screaming they want, “gifts & trips.” Be careful what you ask for. He didn’t manipulate her. He adjusted to the dating climate. Women say what they want, he in a position to accommodate, and that is it! Don’t get mad when you as a woman have superficial requirements & don’t receive more substance. What she thought would happen was he wine & dine her & then they have this wedding after a year or two. 😂
But that is the reality of a lot of women. It can be more or more not either or. I think what you are saying is true if you are dealing with broken and damage men, who think their self worth are at the bottom of women's vagina
🎯 exactly I don’t get why women are mad at men for being upfront. He never promised anything but what he gave and he also didn’t apply pressure,🤷🏾♀️
Disney got their brains fried.
@@mssassi8615 she thought it was pressure, when really it was his routine. If not her, then it would have been another woman. I promise you that! BW specifically are overvaluing money. Then they get men with money, yet getting the same results. They the problem! 🤣
I agree. I also think women need to be honest with themselves. A man who has no problem giving you money, trips and gifts without having an emotional connection is a man who is not going to take you seriously(in most cases). She exchanged sex for material things basically. He isn’t new to this type of exchange.
Be an adult. Talk to him directly and be honest. Stop playing games and decide what you want and stick to it.
He's a Player. If she wants a good genuine relationship with a good man, it's best to move on.
@@jayc5756 you're right IF she wants a genuine relationship, she kept saying "I don't know, what do you think" and when he asked her out on the 4th SHE cancelled then changed her mind and felt some kind of way cuz he made plans.
@@angelamcnair3060 I hear ya
@@angelamcnair3060wait then how did he play her , she wasnt serious about dude, he noticed and moved on and she expected him to wait and just play a cat and mouse game till she ready.
@@gryffindorthekingwithwings1981 exactly
She would’ve felt better if she got some money out of him first. May be too late now. Just move on. They love young girls like this
Some purses , some shoes shit maybe a fucking condo. The worse part of dealing with young women is hearing about all the men before you and she has nothing to show for it. Not even some shoes.
@@Fabrizio7171 true
She’s so cute 😂😂🤭 Just humbly move along.. he experienced her too fast. He got what he wanted. They are NEVER the same when they get what they wanted because it was too easy.. This is why we have to look past the gifts, etc because men are the KINGS of manipulating because they simply want your sweet spot. They also do it to conquer you and have you in your head JUST LIKE THIS 🥹😢 It’s hard but we gotta keep the legs closed ladies 😢😭
Absolutely
Well too bad yall can't keep your legs closed. Always blaming someone else, yet claim to have this "woman's intuition."
You gotta start vetting ma. He's a Player. They KNOW How EASY It Is to get women now because most of yall dont vet guys. So that's all it is.
You vet them until you're comfortable enough to gage his character to open your legs to him...not lead by emotions or material things that make you happy. Look at his Character.
You get the best callers Ashley. Show more interest and ask more questions so that we can FULLY understand from top to bottom, this was way too spotty of a story with no timeline for the first 5 minutes.
She has a conversation and not an interview.
@@keylacmckemp1309I agree
the reason she think she lost because the chase is over is because she has nothing else about her to keep that man interested besides what he already got. the term love bombing is just another way to avoid accountability. he was spending money on me, a stranger, so i thought he really loved me, i got played 😂. i guess thats a more politically correct term that tricking.
maybe the man lack substance, he looks at women as opportunities to affirm his manhood.
He probably thinks she a liar, you celibate but gave it up first night , he took her out town and now as she stated she is reacting petty. Lawd, this is too much games. He didn’t get you, you gave it freely and openly with no requirements or expectations, she just got treated well as her minimum and max. Men know when you not use to a good man, and just think he probably does more for those he really likes and influence his masculinity!
One thing about Ashley she done seen it all😂😂😂. She already know without you even saying much
He used you to have fun, that's it. You gave it up so that's all he was looking for from you.
Right
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Arrested development again shown by black women. She said out her mouth, she wants him to chase again. Those kiddie days are over. You better get what you want and stop playing games or you going to be crying on Ashley Daltons show.
He took her on an all expense paid vacation, and she caught an attitude because he couldn’t hang out one night. Incredible level of entitlement 😔
All of this is nice but quality time will always remain is the most important thing for a woman that truly loves you
Awwww 😂 girl just work on forgiveness for yourself and keep it moving. I don’t think you should talk to him anymore. You already feel like he got you, game over sis. It’s just a learning curve ❤
Take the experience for what it was, you had a good time...If you like him, date w/o s3x and see if he continues to show interest...Otherwise, keep the lesson learned and use that to make better decisions moving forward
He's a Player ma.
@@jayc5756 What's your point?
Until women learn to vet guys, these things will Constantly happen. Players know most women dont, so they take advantage of that...cause they know how easy it is. Only guys with moral & character AKA The Good Men...we dont do this. Not like we cant...but we choose not to. And we're the ones left single....cause women placed the value in the players that got a lot of women...and they always feel like they can change a dude...until they find out the hard way that they cant.
Until women wake up, things unfortunately wont change. SMH 🤦♂️
Here you come with, blk women only like Pookie and Ray Ray BS. Please give is a break, not all Blk women do. I never dated a pookie or a Ray Ray in my life, but that doesn’t mean I’m going to settle for a corny unattractive, no personality having nerd🤷🏽♀️.
These women will say men like us give "friend energy"...
@@josephjohnson1057 Is this low’s husband
It's not in them to learn how to vet men. Women go after the excitement...the thrill...and here lies the major problem for them. Men know how to vet other men for women. That's the reason why in the past, you had to go to her father first, before you date her. Nowadays women are too independent and don't need no men.... they can't even ask other men for advice...not even their own fathers. It's sad, bruh! Nowadays a lot of women specially young women are in this dating market like sacrificial lambs.
Two too many.... would he have kept her if she waited longer, probably not. If a man wants to be with you that timeline holding out celibate stuff only matters with a man playing games anyway.
seriously, i just think she's not used to being played and wants to be "in control". she need to move on
He would have moved on from her which is what he’s doing now. Except she wouldn’t feel like she was misled.
I feel like if you hold out or not; it won’t matter lol. If he like you then he will like you. But what do I know…. I’m single too
She’s playing silly games with the texting thing. That’s probably the turn off
It definitely matters men love the thrill of the chase plus you need to build an emotional connection before he will take you seriously
You know a lot girl, men know before they hit whether it's a catch and release or a keeper.
@@user-dy8nl6bn9r ok I’ll take your word for it
@@mzbrown6969 I’ve heard it a lot from men. So is tricking ourselves into thinking things will change if we hold off is crazy to me but some seem to think otherwise. It’s not a complete loss because he still communicates
He got her right away. He got a new resource. He wanted to hit it and quit it. He didn't necessarily love bomb her.. he manipulated her to get the kit kat. Love bombers give excessive compliments. wanting to spend all your time together or needing to be in constant communication throughout the day. moving the relationship along more quickly than you expected - saying “I love you” very early on, wanting to make things “official” straight away, or making plans to move in together.
He avoids her because he got what he wanted... SEX ... I bet anything he has another woman.
Yes, the thrill is gone ... he got another resource ... she was a challenge.
She liked what he was doing for her...
She's not the first one he did this to.
I hope she used a condom. He saw her coming ( no pun intended) .
Block him and move on. He don't want her.
Child, she got caught up ...
Young lady, if you are reading this ... do not text him back ... he's just not into you. Period.
Lmao just another Tuesday for the dude. This is why men turn around and prioritize money. Broke her “celibacy” like paper!
I suggest she be more direct with men and that will cut these games out. I’m speaking from my experience. As soon as I was mature and confident the BS men fell away. She seems sweet.
Ms. Thang got the glass skin going on.
Women can't be this dumb that we're still falling for these shenanigans in 2024. With this information available. No way.
So glad I didn't break my celibacy & she needs to charge this to the game. She is playing those texting games, grow up!
She's only 26 she is learning.
@@nicolecoleman2592 26 is not an only. you're on the decline of your peak years and the next crop of chicks are coming to take your spot. only is something you say to 17 year olds, early 20s at the absolute latest.
@@justlurkin as an adult we don't and have it all figured out, and we can be happy. Just my opinion!
@@nicolecoleman2592 stop taking pride in infantilism.
@@nicolecoleman2592 age has nothing to do with that. There are mature 26 years olds.
😭 block him !!!!! Sis block him and move around.
Always girls advice. Zero conflict resolution skills.
@@shaungarrett5291 Nigga watch the video 😂 tf.
@@shaungarrett5291they like kids 😂
@@MrTwonetwone they have the worst form of arrested development I have ever seen in any group of women.
yea block him, because the next guy she meet will be much better right? whatever little game she want to play will only work on a simp with money. she's going after much older men. they have been in the game for decades. probably have daughters her age.
Most of us are getting played it’s 2024 welcome to the club he won’t be the last I had to learn the hard way.
Girls never understand that maybe we just don’t like you anymore. I could be interested then learn more about you and figure out I don’t.
girl we’re we dealing with the same man? 😂
Players KNOW How Easy it is to get yall. Well we know too...but some of us have morals & character...so we choose not to. But Players Don't Care. It works all the time every time, so why not 🤷♂️
She's so cute and bubbly she'll find another one
Exactly why you females are terrible judges.
True...but she better learn how to vet the guy next time. Instead of getting wet off of gifts & material things and what a guy say to her. FR. IJS
Chalk it up to the game. You enjoy and enjoy. That’s enough. Move around
Ladies pray, pray and pray for decernment.
The thrill is gone, move on, he is not that into you. He is playing with your emotions. Block his number.
Some of these women too goofy, childish like, and easily swayed by material things. I can't even blame some of these men out here who don't take them seriously at this point.
She should just move on. If she hangs around him, he will play her because he knows she likes him.
And she probably dont even like him, its attachment and making him more amazing than he is.
Good thing she walked out having enjoyed his money.
He followed up after the vacation with a text. She didn't respond. If I were a guy, I'd think she wasn't interested. Now she's on Ashley's show all sh!ts & giggles like a teenage girl repeatedly saying, "he got me (giggle giggle)". Good lawd, she's not ready for prime time with a grown man.
Ladies, if a guy wants to fly you out or go on a trip after only a few days or couple of weeks, hes not serious.
#1 You learn from your mistakes, drop him and keep it moving.
Sounds like she was spoiled and is carrying the same energy from her last relationship to this new situationship. It will not be the same
She still doesn't get it.
Lol this same shit happened to me but I stop talking to him an went not contact an he started chasing again but I didn't want to mess around with him anymore because when a man or person show you who they are believe them
Love bombing is something serious. She's so pretty and sweet.
Feel sorry for this young girl someone need to teach them how to respect themselves and not to give up the cookie too fast ..this guys are players just using them and leaving them heart broken
Yeah She Should Definitely Text Back & Keep Him In Her Pocket
Don’t give him any more of your time or energy. As long as you respond, he’ll keep you in his pocket.
I would not talk to him no more especially if I see the game he's playing. Just accept u fell for the love bomb game, learn from experience, and move wisely in the future. We all fall weak, we are not perfect imo
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Sounds like both of them are just out with here play dating... and thats ok if they just communicate that....
Sis move on! Don’t even text him. Be done. Only because he text you it doesn’t mean anything. He’s texting to save face or when he’s on a dry spell so don’t fall for it. Next time wait until you’re in a relationship before having sex or at the very least wait a while.
Why stop seeing him…because the chase is over? He seems still interested but she’s playing games. And if you wanted to enjoy the chase why did you give in so quickly.
He’s just playing with her. Why stick around for that?
@@pthesmith she said in the video HE had texted her and she didnt respond. how did he play her? is not like he hit it, quit it, then blocked her. she just playing childish games. and she seems very immature for someone her age.
@@TheDoBetterPodcast He’s only texting to keep the connection warm. That way he can easily hit it again in the future when he feels like it.
@@pthesmith you have no idea if this is true! your just speculating. I went off things she ACTUALLY said in the video. he already hit. but she still wants him to chase her (her words) . she needs to grow up. even other women in the comments are saying she's playing games.
I honestly don’t see the issue. Granted things moved quickly but he did reach out after the fact so I’m confused as to why there’s so much anxiety around this man.
the effort is different, he is falling back, just when she was getting accustomed to a stronger pursuing energy. Some men are funny when you have sex after revealing you broke your absent streak for them. Men who are competitive end tend to put respect before love, so they may love the cookie but they would respect it a lot more if reservation and discipline showed up in all that temptation he is offering.
@@mzbrown6969top comment
He's a Player ma, that's why. He just wanted to get the goods. That was his Sole Plan from the jump. She just didn't vet him good...or at all.
@@mzbrown6969 He's a Player. Simple as that. You vet good so you know the difference between most of the players that holla and tell yall what yall wanna hear...and the good man with morals. Until women wake up and start vetting guys good, nothing will change...cause they Know how Easy it is to get in a woman's drawers by all that smooth talking and gifts and all of that. Facts!
@@jayc5756 you ate and left no crumbs, so facts all around. But at the same time he is still making contact that's not usual for stone cold players because they only need to hit one time. I don't think she got played, but I think his interest has lessen and in turn so has hers. It happens, but I think this would have happened regardless if she waited or not. If she is looking for a relationship, getting to know these men is key like you said.
What did you think he was taking you on the trip for silly?
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If the guy really likes you sometimes he'll get a separate room but she didn't ask to find out
@@saharaloveland yea but that’s not this situation tho.
He’s still reaching out. So rebuild that chase. Think of it as you have him something to remember. Stay busy and keep telling him next time until you feel like you want to go out.
It’s his game, so she can’t win. She just needs to move on.
If he stopped chasing, he already got what he wanted from you. He’s probably just trying to see if he can get some more for free. They see when you’re young and naive. You’re a sweetheart, at least you know what not to do from now on. Move on and know your worth. Keep your value high.
What a sweet girl!!
she was cute and funny!
The trip is always the one girls don't do it 😢
She’s playing the games.
So young and immature
She was so desperate to be with a guy that’s tricking off on her. Be for real. That shit isn’t sustainable.
You fumbled the bag sis...just learn from this, you will know better for the next dude.
There are a couple of things to consider. the post clarity may be a thing but he did call her back so he did not discard her . not necessarily in this case but many times some of these stories are missing an element of truth .and reality sometimes the guy did not have a good experience and sometimes women are not aware that either their smell or something else turned the guy off ijs something to consider also something else many men know that women of this era are not quality through and through and hence not willing to invest more than necessary . for example there are women who dress immaculately but have a dirty house and questionable practices
Dont think itbwasba finesse but even trade , she got treated well and he got intamacy of it. That is what dating is bc it would be worse if she told a guy u gotta woo me like no other then , then bust it down for s ol me street dude who dobt care and bot thenguy n n feeding and finding ur life. She just gotta learn love comes in many forms in many different guys. But i think she is just missing the stuff and money not the actual guy bc that's the first thing she mentioned, no qualities of the n n guy just his money and if that's all she in it for then what do u expect, move on and find ur next trading partner, dont be out here trying to trick guys into giving u money for nothing in return.
Take the L ( lesson) and move on…you had fun and learned in the process and your ego won’t let you be honest with yourself…release and start again…
If it’s not clear then you have your answer.
I feel like she getting in her own way. I think the dude actually likes her.
The thrill is gone, you said its not giving what its supposed to like it was in the beginning, its cool You got a shopping spree and a fun time , on to the next, you aint lost nothing. And if he is making plans to see you again go! Heck why not? Lol 🤷🏾♀️ don't be to in your head and feelings.
Those giving advice. Got a man? If you are not married 20+ years you have no business giving young woman advice on relationships.
Where is your father/ uncle / brother?
She will never win this game. Just move on!
Don’t show a man your hand. She probably told him too much and he how to be that guy to win her and since he got the cookie fast, it probably ruined her credibility to him that’s she was celibate bc she gave it up and this ain’t even her man too
I kinda feel bad for her lol, most women can't resist that
She was goin through a dry spell? But u said u celibate, that's the whole point until u in a relationship. So it wasn't that she was celibate, she just ain't have a guy on her roster
You are not a toy and he wants to play.. LET HIM GO HE PROBABLY A NARCISSIST!!
If you all are saying “He is a trick daddy” 😂 that makes her a Trick! 😂
No it makes her a 304
@@MrTwonetwone for having sex with a man she enjoyed and felt comfortable with that makes a woman a 304. Does it make it more real if the man was broke, like what are we saying.
He’s the trick
@@1durful but she gave up the goods for what he gave her. She is also 🤷🏿♂️
Girl he got a roster and he wanna put u in rotation. Stop fucking these men so early. You already know if a man taking you on a trip he gone expect some butt. Either deal with the situation and let him spoil you when he do or just move on.
So 2 weeks?
Women.... gotta do better smh.
Ladies you are giving awful advice. Ashley is right it isnt over until he stops texting. Sure he isnt showing the same interest as before because you were something to conquer. If you like him you need to prove to him your relationship material. Take him out to eat and you pay for it or cook for him. You dont have to spend a lot of money but that is how you win a mans heart. If you play that game of ignoring his calls he will simply move on because he has already had sex with. Try to bring him lunch to him job or ask him to go to a charity run with you. Come up with something where it is you doing for him this is the fastest way to a husband. Or you can listen to the ladies in the comments and remain single.
First make sure that he isn’t already married or in a LTR. He likely is.
@@PreparewithRealEstateso true. The fact he took her out of town says a lot about how he may be in a relationship or marriage.
I disagree. Ladies please use texting only to make plans keep phone calls short. If he’s not making plans to see you at least once a week he’s not interested period. Men can text simply because they’re bored or they want to keep a roster. If he’s interested he will continually make plans with you and it won’t take 2-3 weeks to do so🤷🏽♀️
She seems very immature
Is that a Georgia accent
She dunnnnnoooo 😵💫
This is vacuous
at least he text u I'm going thru this rn at my big age.. I just take it for what it was a beautiful man made me feel beautiful but probably had way more options so it is what it is and aint what it ain't. NEXT... I dont regret it just wish he would have chose me.
Yall sure do love yall some Players. Then years later when they do yall dirty...yall crying & whining about it. SMDH 🤦♂️
@@jayc5756 It's not the players, it's the charisma and sex appeal. those men have taken the time to study women. It's plenty of good men out there but they aren't good with women and get mad at the men who are. It would be great if the men of great character also put in the skill and effort developing their interactions with women like the player does.
@@mzbrown6969 Yall make a thousand and 1 excuses for not vetting. SMH 🤦♂️
Ma, it's a reason why players are sooo smooth...cause they really don't care. That don't mean they have more confidence that us. A lot of the times, we may have more real internal confidence...but even though we do and we been hollerin at women for over 20 years, stepping to a new woman randomly out the blue that we are Truly Interested In, we will still be kinda nervous. That's usually a good sign...not that we lack confidence ma.
Yall really gotta learn up a bit on how it is out here. FR
@@mzbrown6969 from her story, she said nothing about the man's charisma or personality. even ashley asked love bombing as in call you a lot, and she said no, as in taking her on trips etc. so it was all about spending money on her. thats what she enjoyed him doing "off the rip." thats not skill, its tricking to get what you want because women are gullible when it comes to money.
@@meloran2571 I think she was so preoccupied with making a mistake with this man or being taken advantage of that in wasnt even a thought in her mind to discuss. Realistically if you believe you have been slighted by someone highlighting all their wonderful aspects will take a back seat to you pondering what were the red flags and signs that you missed about him or her. I think Ashley cued in the emotional state of the caller and providing her solution, so we didn't get the full on/fleshed out details between them that may come later once emotions are expelled or comforted. In ancient and present cultures, a demonstration of interest was/are gifts. Usually men who can't afford that caliber of interaction with women, tend to make negative value statements about the women, rather than taking that issue up with other men. Ask other men to stop relating to women on that level.
😂😂😂 - Pumped and Dumped. Enjoy. Save money. The issue usually occurs when they want to settle down and even the non-rich men don't take her seriously.
Ladies, take this stuff to the grave. Come on the internet basically saying you gave it up for a price sounds as bad as a dude saying he bought the box. It doesn't sound appealing.
If you dont wanna know, why u here for dude??
He’s a predator, because if he was genuine it wouldn’t matter if you waited 3 months. He would’ve just left you then. Better to know now I guess…
How is he a predator? She’s 26 and made an adult decision to go on vacation with a man she does not know very well and decided to have sex with him,although she said she was “celibate” before this. I guess the money made her forget she was celibate.Nobody made her do anything that she didn’t want to do.
You got him too!! You liked him because he was using those options he have!! Spoiled the fuck outta you and this guy did what real men do!!! Call the man and get back together
She played herself. He reached out to follow up with plans and she cancelled.