Life After Our Breakup: The Journey From Grief To Grace & Authentic Beauty | Blu of Earth
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- Опубліковано 6 чер 2024
- Blu is back on Know Thyself this week sharing her journey over the past year of overcoming the grief of heartbreak and learning to self-source her power. André and Blu reflect on their breakup, revealing the challenges that arose and how they chose to move through them with grace.
As an artist and someone who has the gift of feeling the fullness of being human, Blu shares how she harnesses the power of her sensitivity to live a life of gratitude and beauty. She also explains the importance embodying our unique authentic beauty, finding clarity in confusion, and living to impress our 5 year old selves.
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Timecodes:
0:00 Intro
3:13 A New Season of Life: Blu on Self-Sourcing Her Power
8:59 Feeling the Fullness of Grief & Finding Wholeness
17:33 The Painful Parts of Our Breakup
30:33 Sharing Vulnerably on Social Media
34:48 Living to Impress Our 5 Year Old Self
37:14 Harnessing the Power of our Sensitivity
42:13 Living a Life of Beauty and Authenticity
46:05 Seeing the Authentic Beauty in Others
1:01:59 Practice for Gaining Clarity within Challenge
1:06:41 Conclusion
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Blu is a motivational speaker, artist, musician & host of the Deja Blu Podcast with over 4 million listeners worldwide, interviewing some of the most prolific spiritual leaders of our generation. She is the co-founder of Florescence, a modern mystery school which connects a global community of women in sisterhood through online sharing circles & in-person events.
Instagram: / bluofearth
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Website: www.bluofearth.com/
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When she said “holding myself like I would if I had a daughter” we always give so much love to everyone else if only we could have the same grace for ourselves 😢 needed that.
We truly are our own worst enemy. I talk to myself in ways I would never talk to a child
“Your absence has taught me as much as your presence” woah 🤯
This podcast is so close to my heart. Such a gift to weave with you in all the ways Androonies. I love you x
Thank you beautiful soul sister, wow so strong
You are soooo especial Blu…thank you 🌹
i LOVE how she turned back on him to describe what makes a woman attractive + how he fully described her. It was a cute moment. I love how vulnerable she is in this discussions and I guess what leaves me wanting more is hearing his vulnerabilities in her reflection.
This was the bravest, most beautiful, brutal… I have ever seen Blu. 🙏💕 I felt her ripple and I shuddered with self-actualization.
“Enlightenment or self awareness is a series of softenings “ 🙏
Thanks for this episode, André! Here are some notes from this interview:
Personal Growth and Self-Love:
-It is essential to fully feel our emotions rather than suppress them. Anything not fully felt will need to be addressed eventually, and suppressing emotions causes them to manifest in unhealthy ways over time.
-Radically accepting and loving ourselves wholly, even the more challenging parts of ourselves, is an incredibly empowering act. It is revolutionary to embrace all aspects of the human experience.
-Comparing ourselves to others damages our authenticity and sense of self-worth. Instead, we can cultivate sisterhood by seeing the success of others as our shared success.
-True confidence arises from making peace with every part of our inner world and psyche. It does not come from seeking validation externally or presenting a curated image.
-Experiencing grief has been a great teacher for growth. By respecting grief when it arises and allowing ourselves to fully feel and process it, we also expand our capacity to feel joy and ecstasy.
On Authentic Beauty:
-Authentic beauty is aligned with our true essence. It stems from self-love, creative expression, confidence, and embracing our feminine nature. This differs greatly from chasing artificial, external standards of beauty for validation.
-When women support each other in recognizing their own and others' authentic power and beauty, it creates space for the divine feminine to flourish collectively.
-Honoring our inner qualities and not overemphasizing physical appearance allows our unique divine feminine energies to shine through. This creates more holistic beauty.
Magnetism and Living from the Heart:
-Magnetism, in the form of opportunities, connections, and resources, arises quite naturally from living in alignment with our authentic selves. The more we express our true essence, the more magnetism and abundance flows to us.
-Living from the heart means choosing to embody and experience what feels most authentic and alive to us, not what we think we should do. This path reveals our unique beauty and gifts.
-A regulated nervous system and the ability to be fully present with others are very attractive qualities, reflecting inner peace, self-awareness, and emotional intelligence.
-Our outer experiences and what we magnetize are reflections of our inner landscape. Magnetism is cultivated through consistency in choosing practices and habits of self-love.
Reframing Difficulties:
-In challenging times, we can reframe the stories we tell ourselves about a situation in order to empower ourselves instead of creating more suffering. This involves questioning our limiting thoughts and beliefs.
-When struggling, consciously surrendering and handing over the situation to the wisdom of the universe through prayer and faith can provide relief. This act leads us to ask for miracles and expanded perspective.
-Though painful, hardships and periods of darkness often help us shed old unconscious patterns and discover hidden gifts within ourselves. Healing happens through the natural cycle of death, purification, and rebirth.
Considerations:
-Fully feeling our emotions requires courage but is essential for alchemizing those energies into wisdom, strength, and power. Having support systems is key to this process.
-Self-love is a daily practice of consciously choosing to validate ourselves and meet our own needs, instead of habitually seeking validation externally. It takes consistent devotion over time.
-Healing sisterhood requires moving beyond comparing ourselves to each other and instead mutually uplifting each other's growth. This transforms separation into sacred union.
Practical Tips:
-When grief arises, compassionately create space to fully feel it. Cry, journal, move the energy through dance, talk it through with trusted allies. Process before re-engaging.
-Actively replace negative self-talk with gentle messages of self-love and validation, as you'd lovingly give a child. Speak to yourself with patience.
-Take time to connect with your inner child, either through visualization or looking at old photos. What brought you joy, creativity, and lightness as a child? Make those activities a priority.
-Pray, meditate, and commune with nature to gain higher perspective when struggling. Openly ask spiritual forces for miracles, healing, and expanded awareness.
Key Takeaways:
-Fully feeling and embracing our emotions, rather than repressing them, leads to radical self-acceptance, inner peace, and empowerment.
-Authentic beauty arises from self-validation, creative expression, and celebrating our distinctive feminine essence, not chasing external approval.
-A regulated nervous system, genuine presence, and living from the heart creates magnetism and abundant manifestations. Daily self-care rituals cultivate this.
-Reframing challenges in an empowering way allows us to learn from difficulties. Surrendering to the universe brings perspective.
-Healing sisterhood means moving beyond unhealthy comparison and instead uplifting each other's growth. This reclaims collective feminine power.
Your notes are absolutely sublime! Thank you SO much for writing this up and sharing! 🙏💗
Thank you!
Thanks
I am now quite sure that I have neglected my heart. I truly don't know how to love myself or another. I don't know who I am, I change when others are around me. I don't know how to be authentic. But I am commited to know, to experience, to evolve. I will start meditation, journalling and have better self-care both physically, mentally, spiritually !
And yet having such awareness about where you are at and a willingness to look at yourself so honestly and be willing to do something differently is already so many steps in the right direction. Cheering you on!
@@howfreecanibe thats very kind of you. I love that. You're awesome
Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. I hope your journey is a beautiful one
Oh man I cried tears, I laughed, and felt sooo many deep feelings with this one. I love Blu so much and relate to her with all the Scorpio in my chart. Thank you both for sharing yourselves with everyone. 🤍
same same same ❤❤❤❤
Blu, you are truly one of the most beautiful souls on this planet. I have missed you deeply, but very much understand your process. Thank you for being you.
It took balls for both of you to do this show
Big Ballz 🎉
One more comment....I am still wowed......I feel like this is THE most authentic, honest, raw thing out here in UA-cam, podcast land. Legit.
Her message is heard and felt so clearly because she absolutely embodies it! What comes from the heart speaks to the heart! Thank you both!❤🎉
I am currently deep in my own grief and I needed to hear all of this. Thank you for this incredibly wise and valuable message 🙏🏻✨💗
He just totally described her 100% when he explained what he looks for in a romantic partner. Cute!❤
What is there not to love, gorgeous Blu !
Wonderful example of a great friendship between two people. Thank you both.
Thank god I came across this podcast.
I had a similar experience with my last relationship, but unfortunately I never had the chance to see her anymore.
Healing taught me to accept what is.
And we are all love.
Take care everyone.
The Blu Print . Love you Bluu!!!!
This is what the world needs to heal, authenticity ! Let’s shine TF all around my peoples! We got this!
So many tears towards the end of this talk. WOW.
I love how raw this conversation takes root . This content. Empowers me as all of your inspiration has . Thank you for being vulnerable and real in a world that has been conditioned for shaming truth 🙏🏼😇
You had me at...how regulated is your nervous system! 😂🙌💖 much love to you both
Yes!
What a beautiful and needed example you both are. I am so thankful for what you do for all of us. Thank you! ♥️ Love you both ♥️
Thank you both for bearing your Hearts in front of us!
Thank you both, this podcast touched me deeply and it's wild how many parallels there are in what I've been moving through and stepping into. Thank you, thank you.
y’all had me in tears ❤ love the both of you. thank you for keeping it so real
She made me cry but i swear i needed it brought out light 💡 inside much needed to hear
I really liked this episode, I can relate so much to this one, I cried and laughed and somehow I felt lighter after listening to Blu. Love her energy!!!
Thank you both for being so open in sharing; may this have been healing for you both 🙏
Currently in that process of loving all the aspects of myself and it surely isn't comfortable to navigate through. Yet it is neceassry in order to be comfortable being in the unknown.
Yes you guys are the truth
A million thanks to both of you for sharing your vulnerabilities. That's so much what we need, in this humanity we can genuinely reconnect together. Times are pretty challenging lately, plenty of breaches to be seen, many situations being pretty uncomfortable, here is an opportunity for humanity to pop up, and you're contributing to this rise on a really comforting way to me. Take care!
Wow, what a powerful and touching interview! Thank you so much, you both. It's so heartmelting to see, hear, feel the love, appreciation and respect you both (still) have for each other. Though especially, I want to thank you, Blu, for your passion, vulnerability and wisdom!!! Your words transported with so much emotion brought such a deep understanding! I just recently discovered krishnamurti, and his words opened a whole new access for me, yet there were parts I didn't fully understand. Until you showed up and revealed the integration of the message into everyday life! What a gift! Thanks a million! You are amazing! ❤
Thank you to both of you.
Thank You!!! Your impact is huge!!!😌❤️🙏
Thank you both for sharing your beautiful perspectives with open hearts on incredibly raw emotion. Blu much respect and honour for you my friend... I feel the authentic heart-felt love you both share and being able to identify your own power within your own journeys... Beautiful conversation, a pleasure to be invited into that space with you... My heart-felt thanks xx
Thank you so much guys !
Thank you for sharing these raw feelings. This was eye opening. I learned so much from this podcast. Much love to both of you ❤️.
I resonated with her description of her father so deeply. I have a similar experience and have been having a hard time opening up to romantic partnerships due to my fear of abandonment. Very grateful for her vulnerability, it taught me lots and made me feel so seen today. ❤
Im at the very beginning and just me realizing what BLU means(beauty,love,unity) that has actually just helped me clarify what i would like to change my name too.... since im in the process of changing it and hacent finalized the actual spelling. So beautiful how just being yourself impacts others 🥰✨✨ and thank you for this lovely podcast episode the 2 of you 🩷
I loved when she explained that sporadic feeling of green heart chakra euphoria she felt walking to the shower. I have felt those moments and have to remind myself to cherish and savor instead of analyzing what they mean. Man, this was an awesome conversation. You guys make me want to do that shadow work! Thank you for the vulnerability and beautifully putting it all out there! ❤
Omg!! So much respect for this episode!!! Thank you for sharing this!!
❤Right on! I feel like you’re talking about the terrain in which I am walking now! Thank you so much to both of you.
how much work this woman has done on herself WOW. !!!!!!
This talk stopped me in my tracks- so much respect for you both🙏🏻 thank you
Deepest respect to you both - you are outstanding role models. It struck a chord in me when Blu explained how she deals with grief and said "What do I actually need as opposed to what is the space wanting from me?" (12 mins)...powerful. Thank you so much...love and blessings xoxo
Wow Blu. I absolutely love and adore you so so much ❤❤❤
yayyyyyy la princesa Blu!!! Thank you so much for bringing her in!!
"That's a clap for me and my authenticity" Yes! I'm nurturing my little 4 year old self too. Beautifully raw interview. Lots of love to you both from Thailand x
It wasn't silly wanting extra time with your dad. Especially being gone 6 months at a time. I feel for you. Thank you for your message. I quit my job in February that I worked afternoon shift and only got to see my kids in the morning before school and the weekends. I went almost two months without working and took a job for 7 dollars less an hour for dayshift. After a couple months i got my current job at the same as I used to make and dayshift. And its right down the road instead of 45 minutes away. I missed my kids so much and after hearing your story it made me realize how much my kids must have missed me too. Sending love to both of you
Forever grateful for your true work that’s needed.
Very brave. I was moved to write someone who hurt me deeply and forgive him. And hug my inner child that was hurt by him. Love you guys. Thanks for being vulnerable and authentic
The way Blu showed up for this podcast was incredible. So proud of her and you Andre. Love the podcast. 🙏🏼🤍
Thank you for your honesty!
Beautiful podcast!❤ thank you for sharing!✨
Wow she is amazing so empowering thank you
It's almost somewhat scary how brutally I can relate to her.. so far 28 min in and it's almost like listening to myself..... Sharing all that she is sharing and in front of the camera, that possibly anyone and everyone in the world could see, that is totally another different level tho, that I have never seen anywhere before! 🤯 Wow 🙏❤️ Greatly appreciate this sharing!✨️
So looking forward to this watch ❤️
I love that you guys have done this. ❤
this one touched my heart for real
Woah! Man! This episode is making me feel!!! xoxo Love you Blu and Andre ❤
Like I am watching the higher self rn, even with what you are talking about I really been feeling my lowest and really needed this convo today. The struggle is real, I even have short hair i literally think my intense negative emotions made some kind of black/worm hole and my hair was twisted up in a knot that i cant even explain. But anyways I resonate with you and my entire outlook on life has changed since I had a break down. I feel like most people cant relate but im finially awake!
9:25 reminds me of a quote from a childhood book that I loved...
" Listen to the mustn'ts, child. Listen to the don'ts. Listen to the shouldn'ts, the impossibles, the won'ts. Listen to the never haves, then listen close to me... Anything can happen, child. Anything can be."-Shel Silverstein
Edit... I'm commenting as I listen...so.
13:40 I happen to be a Scorpio. And happen to be experiencing grief unexplainable.
Absolutely love this conversation, which impart such profound truth and wisdom!!
there is such deep resonance within my being to hear what you are sharing here. Immensely grateful!
thankyou for the prayer blu
So much maturity in both you young individuals ❤
I started crying when they not-so-jokingly mentioned the most attractive quality being a regulated nervous system.
Laughter and regulated nervous systems. Beautiful 🙏🏻🤍
Absolutely beautiful conversation,thank you so much for beautiful authentic human beings like you both 🙏🙏♥️
Blu u are an incredibly beautiful authentic human being ;) wishing you both the best always in your journeys ahead ! Andre you rock !
Beautiful!! 😍 No words..
Wow. Very brave. For both of you. Exactly exactly exactly what this world needs. Bravo.
So happy to be here❤
I love how André’s “type” is someone who is in alligment with what he wants for his life. Is really refreshing watching a man who is willing to provide a safe space for a woman he absolutely has respect for, and who is incredibly empathetic. I’ve never seen this kind of love and i’m happy that men are showing these type of behaviours, it helps others, like me, understand what love is really about: she being her fully and he having the space for her 😊
Love you guys ❤
Wow Blu holds so much wisdom within her. So many lessons and gifts I took from this podcast. Thank you.
Blu, I love you for your truth!
Thank you so much.. 🙏💖✨
Coming to Vegas. Can’t wait to see her!
Woohoo Blu, you just continue to go deeper and deeper into your inner learning and it inspires me so much. I am mesmerized as I watch you express all that you are learning, feeling, knowing!! The model that the both of you are sharing with your vulnerability is amazing and so impactful for others to view and feel so they too can move on in relationships that no longer serve them romantically, and still remain connected with love!! I love these podcasts. Please keep checking in with us as time goes on....I'm watching and following a true unconditional love story. Kuddos to you wayshowers!!! ♥♥
Blu is so inspiring, I really look up to her. Continue spreading your wisdom, thank U🤗
Wow so many micdrops in one podcast! Halleblujah!
"In a world where everyone would be self-aware, confidently authentic and in tune with love. What qualities would I find attractive?"
Thank you so much for this deep honest conversation. Soften, soften, soften. Went straight to my heart. ❤️
Thank you so much blu everything for the highest good always.
Blu is the most authentic and funniest woman i have ever known... you rock. Blessings and Love 😘❤
Wow!!
Most beautiful person inside and out!! Love you both tons😮💙❤️💙
I broke down while listening to Blu, I have started listening to her from her first podcast. She is a soul sister and guide for all of the soul family. The world needs her originality and truth ❤
Soooo looking forward to seeing Blu at Arkadia soon. She is the highlight for me❤
Oh wow, when you shared about your dad, and the saliva for an extra 5 minutes.. Ih I can relate. Love you 💗
love that inner child. You can heal her. ❤🙏 It’s a journey
Wihoo, this was an emotional rollercoaster for me, I am ready to hug myself to sleep 🎢 THANK YOU Blu and André 💜
I know for sure I was projecting my own situation as I heard Blu talk and André respond. My own judgment but it triggered in me of talking to my ex-flame ( a psychologist) and wanting to ‘prove I had evolved’. AND what I appreciate most about Blu is her playful dedication to her evolution. And what I appreciate about you both is that you are prepared to enter these conversations (or more so interviews) publicly to help us heal our relationship with ourselves, each other and the earth that is our home.
Andre and Blu, we love being on this journey with you, guys! What a blessing that we all have each other! ❤✨☺
Beautiful, you are both so evolved and connected to your emotions that us do rare to experience the pain, vulnerability of breaking up of a romantic relationship... Mine was not so evolved or taken care wirh such kindness..sbd I related to the healing and facing it on ghe eye but when you mentioned the absence of your dad I broke again, that is our trigger our first nasculube love was not there, rejection, abandonment, not good enough... And iresponsibility on their side yet our dsfs did their best with what they knew, Forgiveness and accept it was not our fault we did mot feel loved or need validation from our future romances... 4yes in healing and truly looking at myself.. Loving that little girl in the right way we were not.. Accepting, seeing our pure essence and loving even when not perfect... My insecurities, lack of and adduction to bring wirh dinrune is not the tight ingredients to be wirh someone, best to be on my own till all o have in me is such sense of myself that I don't need you to validate ir be wanted.. At last I'm understanding this and you have expressed it so perfectly, thsnk yiy this applies to do many women.. ❤
Girl yessssss! I - yes 💗
Your dynamic really feels like a TwinFlame.
This feeling is very familiar to me...
And I can relate a lot with your healing journey...
Thank you 💛
P. S. Hey, now I heqrd that you are a scorpio with leo, just as me and also learning astrology at the moment 🙏
You guys are just so beautiful 🙏🏼🙏🏼☀️✨❤️❤️🌼
You guys have such a great chemistry
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I love blu so much 😂 I also did solo synchronized dancing in the pool when I was a kid!!! We could make a group 😂🙏🏼