sure thats ok, but when someone comes around who you really like and would like to be with, you wont be able to change your workaholic habits, so you eventually might end up alone again... like a vicious circle...
What if the truth is your life boring and you do not get along with most of people, and you want to scape it by reading or working! It is better than sit and complain!!
It's scary how accurate this is. Every single point you discussed applies to me. Whenever you're sleep deprived after 16 or more hours of work a day everyday, wake up in the middle of the night dreaming about school and work, and feel isolated, you really have to figure things out.
You are 💯percent correct!! Workaholics are obesssed with what they can control, to the exclusion of relationships which they can’t control. Or even have no relational skills so they put all emphasis on tangible outcomes. It is a deep psychological issue from childhood. To live with such a person is a nightmare, totally miserable and lonely experience.
I'm here because I think I just experienced a "collapse". I work basically 12 hours everyday as accounting, customer service and human resources including Saturday's when payroll needs to be done. Don't get me wrong, I love being busy and working, it gives me joy, but maybe even so it can take a toll. Last Friday (payday/I take care of payday) I felt extremely sleepy, unusually so, and had so much things to do and at the same time had to get going to Mexico before 3 pm to a business meeting. Monday when I was back in the office, I felt this random extreme fatigue but managed to pull through, but today on my way to work I got nauseas, and my head was throbbing and I was struggling to breath properly. So I came back home and called in sick because it was terrible. I slept all morning and woke up until 2 pm with that throbbing head ache, I feel a little bit odd even though I feel better. Not sure how I can fix this or if it's momentary, I hope it's momentary because I'm not an expandable employee, and I can't afford to miss more days, nor do I want to.
I used to be exactly like you. Conquering project after projects after projects, getting recognitions and trophy, building my own product as side work, neglecting everything in life then wife got cancer and seeing kids grow up without me in their life, put everything in perspective. Started to realize I'm chasing ghost, in the end it doesn't matter. Find the root of problem, which is fear amongst other things. Still struggling with my inner self. still productive but more well balanced now.
Gauss Field I'm trying a new schedule soon, once we're done with our social assessment (getting a new client). I have a membership at 24 hour fitness, and maybe what I can do is workout at 5am, leave at 7, get to work at 8, and when I get home sleep early and use the weekends for leisure. I don't know, maybe gun range or surfing, we'll see.
Great. I applaud for you. I'm an engineer and I used to think about solving work problems all the time even when I'm a sleep, agitated around my kids, agitated when topic of conversation goes to other things outside of work or work politics, work weekends, has the urge to keep moving and can't stay in one job longer than 2 years which is really chronic. As long as you don't think about work all the time anymore 24/7 then it's an improvement in my book. Life definitely needs balance.
I completely agree. I am a student and at times I can be a 'workaholic'. finding time to be around people and do things not related to school isn't easy but it's definitely needed and should be prioritized. you're video's are very helpful.
I am also a student of Chartered Accountancy. I just wanted to watch a video on workaholics and I loved your video the most. Definitely a subscriber from now on
And I have a friend 37 years old, workaholic as well.. And his desk is place in his bedroom. :/ no relationship. He also says doesn't have time for that. There is no happiness in a lonely life I believe.
I totally agree with you , we are not born to work but its only a need , dont make your needs a monster in life .Take it easy and relaxing .we are not even guaranted with a single breath , so do every thing in ur life , so you dont have regret at last , thank you sir 💐
Hi, a nice contribution about workaholism! A specific question is a workaholism with women (mothers) - eight hours at work and eight hours at home, it is less visible than sixteen hours at work, but it is the same. And it afflicts the psychics (of the whole family) in the same way as any other addiction.
I’m going through this right now. Fiancé doesn’t even stop to ask me how I’m doing in the mornings, just expects me to have her coffee waiting for her, and when she is finally free it’s sleep and murder mysteries all day. I’m reaching my breaking point with all this. The only time she’s happy is the one trip we do a year then I get this boring roommate the rest of the year. I’m really having a hard time dealing with this. Never thought I’d feel isolated as the man in the relationship. Mind you we work for the same company and both do ot during the week although for her it’s never enough.
I agree. I am holistic therapist and I have a client with 24 years old and workaholic. I see his health is in dangerous for that. Thanks for your video, it really helps. (sorry my English, I am from Brazil).
I think it depends on the job you have I mean if you work in the factory industry or an office or something like that then only wanting to work is a problem. Now if you have a career in health service, or the Military, or Police or being a lawyer or being a firefighter a job where your serving the greater good and helping people then I would say always wanting to be working is not a bad thing because there you are helping others. So it just depends.
I agree helping others is beneficial and may feel less like work to some at times, but as someone who has worked in healthcare I feel it is almost more important for those types of people to have that balance. I would not want someone to be making quick life or death decisions if they consistently under sleep and are over stressed. I also feel this applies to police officers etc., we will never know how many lives are unnecessarily lost from the effects of our society encouraging people to overwork.
To me, working very hard is like meditation, I feel my best when I am working. In my case studying hours on end, since I am in school, but still, the summers I worked normal jobs and have to say, I enjoyed it so very much. I can't wait to get a full-time job after university and dedicate my time to bettering my work ethic and if I am done with work, I will go do my own thing
Incredible video. This is 100% me. I left my job that I was addicted to 2 weeks ago and fell into a very dark place.. yesterday I had my first therapy session. She said it’s work addiction
Sometimes people are workaholics because their official 9-5 job requires them to work 60 hours a week due to management refusing to hire more people. The option is to work 40 hours that you're paid for and watch as more work piles on every week, or work extra every week to be on top of your tasks. And I know that you are broadcasting from 2017, but in 2022 more and more jobs have become work-from-home. There is no clocking in. It takes great discipline and courage to just sign out around 5 and not worry about work until 9 next morning.
I am the opposite of a workaholic, but I work with many of them and it makes life uncomfortable for me. Workaholism is totally glamorized, I don't get it.
@@Sombra_Azul_ I’m just not a wage slave. My job (contract law) is not my life’s meaning, it funds much higher, fulfilling personal goals. I’m not going to break my balls to enable my CEO to buy a third holiday home. If you want to, be my guest.
It sounds like break through points in productivity for you happen when you've maxed out your health points stats. Sleep, drink, and food, as well as thoughtfulness to life's joys. Perhaps a workaholic may be the least productive person there given the lack of break throughs on similar conditions, but they otherwise would be the most productive if the business model lacks or nullifies such opportunities for innovation. Others may have the exact opposite where stress and adrenaline allow them to flow most easily. Personally, I find I am most level headed at around 18 hours without sleep, all the while of course thinking about my job and how to be a better employee. Though I would say the exhaustion is quite taxing, and the health issues do build up. I think it's worth it.
Both my parents are workaholics. They will push you to be like them and there is no balance but work.they both self employed business owners. I relate to this video so much as true.
This is true. Gary Vaynerchuk for example seems to be a rising motivational guru who is influencing a lot of people. Now I respect this guy but his advice is to work like a dog. He spent about 14 years from 20 on working fourteen to sixteen hours a day and now is a mega millionaire. My question is this : is that really worth it? This week I am advising something to my subscribers which I call "controlled laziness." Because if you want to increase your assets you can learn to invest well and it isn't that hard to manage once you have your strategy. But I'm not a fan of the eighty hour work week. For example, I am a contract physical therapist who can make 100K a year. But if I opened a clinic I could probably double that. And have an extra 30 hours a week running a business. They can have that. And that is my point. You can become successful and still become wealthy with smart investing and not sacrifice your life like Gary V does. You have one spin on earth as far as we know. You want to achieve greatness in all your planes--not just on the time clock. Hope this helps someone out there---Charles.
Hi very good video you have explained this psychology very easily truly a pearl of wisdom from your real life experience there are many self help books but most of them pushy motivational but there is one book maximum self esteem or confidence written by Jerry Minchinton it has real wisdom wrote after lot of research read it. In my case I tend to do extreme work or pleasure but you simply pin pointed that workoholics have wrong unhealthy attitude and basically it's pointless as it gonna yield lower productivity in long term keep sharing your wisdom
Dan Peña, the 50 billion dollar man says “There is no such thing as work life balance... NONE!” The only thing I see wrong with workaholics is that they are wasting their time being a low man peon instead of starting their own businesses and climbing the ladder to become a millionaire/billionaire. Every single billionaire is a workaholic. If you have the traits to be so self centered that all you do is work, then you can be rich as well and you should do it. The problem isn’t being a workaholic for most people, the problem is being too much of a pussy to go out there and take greater opportunities and risks. If you love to work, you will absolutely adore running a business. I can tell you this from the personal experience of running a sole proprietorship for a summer when I could not find a job in college because I worked my balls off trying to find contracts, networking, making deals, and completing contracts for money. And I made a lot of money doing it. But, I am not a workaholic myself. I am quite the opposite in fact, so I had no future with my business and got a nice easy proletariat job for good money where I could enjoy my life.
What you have is Fear, which can manifest in many ways. I would trade anything for the sense of "peace". I envy Tibetan monk by the name Matthieu Ricard, which is the happiest man in the world.
What's about being workaholic in the college work in order to succeed, I think that you have to work hard to be an accountant is that workaholic also what do you think?
WolvesAndFinance Hmm, how can we stop being obsessive? I can't stop until everything is perfect, I get like a feeling of uneasy itchiness in my neck and can't stop thinking about it until I fix it.
💯 disagree all workaholics not the same and have the same up bringing and life experience and same motivation and drive - I see nothing but sheep's in the comments not using their own brain/ this smart personality some good points but using a brand brush with no substance to back up most arguments what he is stating! wats the worst employee to have in any business lazy, lairs, time wasters and breaking their work contract costing bsuiness lots of money! There rules in place at work to keep the hard worker or workaholics grounded balance. I'm a workaholic work 5 jobs also very entrepreneurial mentally strong determined learn from mistakes and know very well important of team work and right attitude positively in the workplace. Is so easy to make a video for and against use a broad brush on a particular group for algorithm views for UA-cam!! Thats the hypocrisy of these content providers on UA-cam
You are 💯percent correct!! Workaholics are obesssed with what they can control, to the exclusion of relationships which they can’t control. Or even have no relational skills so they put all emphasis on tangible outcomes. It is a deep psychological issue from childhood. To live with such a person is a nightmare, totally miserable and lonely experience.
Hi very good video you have explained this psychology very easily truly a pearl of wisdom from your real life experience there are many self help books but most of them pushy motivational but there is one book maximum self esteem or confidence written by Jerry Minchinton it has real wisdom wrote after lot of research read it. In my case I tend to do extreme work or pleasure but you simply pin pointed that workoholics have wrong unhealthy attitude and basically it's pointless as it gonna yield lower productivity in long term keep sharing your wisdom
100% correct; you just forgot the mention that Workaholics make everyone around them miserable...
They forgot to mention that part.
I couldn't agree more.
I'm addicted to work because I love work and nobodys waiting for me at home. So I just work work work because thats all I got
Me too, I'm 24.
Same lol
sure thats ok, but when someone comes around who you really like and would like to be with, you wont be able to change your workaholic habits, so you eventually might end up alone again... like a vicious circle...
Best position to be in
why not do fun stuff that u like in ur spare time
What if the truth is your life boring and you do not get along with most of people, and you want to scape it by reading or working! It is better than sit and complain!!
It's scary how accurate this is. Every single point you discussed applies to me. Whenever you're sleep deprived after 16 or more hours of work a day everyday, wake up in the middle of the night dreaming about school and work, and feel isolated, you really have to figure things out.
I definitely agree that a healthy approach to work is being balanced in all areas of your life so you can give out what you revive
You are 💯percent correct!! Workaholics are obesssed with what they can control, to the exclusion of relationships which they can’t control. Or even have no relational skills so they put all emphasis on tangible outcomes. It is a deep psychological issue from childhood. To live with such a person is a nightmare, totally miserable and lonely experience.
I'm here because I think I just experienced a "collapse". I work basically 12 hours everyday as accounting, customer service and human resources including Saturday's when payroll needs to be done. Don't get me wrong, I love being busy and working, it gives me joy, but maybe even so it can take a toll.
Last Friday (payday/I take care of payday) I felt extremely sleepy, unusually so, and had so much things to do and at the same time had to get going to Mexico before 3 pm to a business meeting.
Monday when I was back in the office, I felt this random extreme fatigue but managed to pull through, but today on my way to work I got nauseas, and my head was throbbing and I was struggling to breath properly. So I came back home and called in sick because it was terrible. I slept all morning and woke up until 2 pm with that throbbing head ache, I feel a little bit odd even though I feel better.
Not sure how I can fix this or if it's momentary, I hope it's momentary because I'm not an expandable employee, and I can't afford to miss more days, nor do I want to.
It sounds like you are in a hectic situation. Take care of yourself!! Thank you for watching.
I used to be exactly like you. Conquering project after projects after projects, getting recognitions and trophy, building my own product as side work, neglecting everything in life then wife got cancer and seeing kids grow up without me in their life, put everything in perspective. Started to realize I'm chasing ghost, in the end it doesn't matter. Find the root of problem, which is fear amongst other things. Still struggling with my inner self. still productive but more well balanced now.
Gauss Field I'm trying a new schedule soon, once we're done with our social assessment (getting a new client). I have a membership at 24 hour fitness, and maybe what I can do is workout at 5am, leave at 7, get to work at 8, and when I get home sleep early and use the weekends for leisure. I don't know, maybe gun range or surfing, we'll see.
Great. I applaud for you. I'm an engineer and I used to think about solving work problems all the time even when I'm a sleep, agitated around my kids, agitated when topic of conversation goes to other things outside of work or work politics, work weekends, has the urge to keep moving and can't stay in one job longer than 2 years which is really chronic. As long as you don't think about work all the time anymore 24/7 then it's an improvement in my book. Life definitely needs balance.
Absolutely - take care of yourself...
I completely agree. I am a student and at times I can be a 'workaholic'. finding time to be around people and do things not related to school isn't easy but it's definitely needed and should be prioritized.
you're video's are very helpful.
Hello Kay
I am also a student of Chartered Accountancy. I just wanted to watch a video on workaholics and I loved your video the most.
Definitely a subscriber from now on
And I have a friend 37 years old, workaholic as well.. And his desk is place in his bedroom. :/ no relationship. He also says doesn't have time for that. There is no happiness in a lonely life I believe.
Thank you for watching!
Sounds like a great guy to me- no joke!
No significant other to yell or demand things from you, sounds like peace
For me being a workaholic is in need if you don't do something you cannot pay your bills so the tendency is workaholic sometimes.
I totally agree with you , we are not born to work but its only a need , dont make your needs a monster in life .Take it easy and relaxing .we are not even guaranted with a single breath , so do every thing in ur life , so you dont have regret at last , thank you sir 💐
Hi, a nice contribution about workaholism! A specific question is a workaholism with women (mothers) - eight hours at work and eight hours at home, it is less visible than sixteen hours at work, but it is the same. And it afflicts the psychics (of the whole family) in the same way as any other addiction.
Great comment and a new perspective. Thank you for watching!
I’m going through this right now. Fiancé doesn’t even stop to ask me how I’m doing in the mornings, just expects me to have her coffee waiting for her, and when she is finally free it’s sleep and murder mysteries all day. I’m reaching my breaking point with all this. The only time she’s happy is the one trip we do a year then I get this boring roommate the rest of the year. I’m really having a hard time dealing with this. Never thought I’d feel isolated as the man in the relationship. Mind you we work for the same company and both do ot during the week although for her it’s never enough.
I agree. I am holistic therapist and I have a client with 24 years old and workaholic. I see his health is in dangerous for that. Thanks for your video, it really helps. (sorry my English, I am from Brazil).
Great job! The description fits perfectly!
I love being a workaholic
Disappointed and devastated as the aftermath
I think it depends on the job you have I mean if you work in the factory industry or an office or something like that then only wanting to work is a problem. Now if you have a career in health service, or the Military, or Police or being a lawyer or being a firefighter a job where your serving the greater good and helping people then I would say always wanting to be working is not a bad thing because there you are helping others. So it just depends.
I agree helping others is beneficial and may feel less like work to some at times, but as someone who has worked in healthcare I feel it is almost more important for those types of people to have that balance. I would not want someone to be making quick life or death decisions if they consistently under sleep and are over stressed. I also feel this applies to police officers etc., we will never know how many lives are unnecessarily lost from the effects of our society encouraging people to overwork.
To me, working very hard is like meditation, I feel my best when I am working. In my case studying hours on end, since I am in school, but still, the summers I worked normal jobs and have to say, I enjoyed it so very much. I can't wait to get a full-time job after university and dedicate my time to bettering my work ethic and if I am done with work, I will go do my own thing
Incredible video. This is 100% me. I left my job that I was addicted to 2 weeks ago and fell into a very dark place.. yesterday I had my first therapy session. She said it’s work addiction
Sometimes people are workaholics because their official 9-5 job requires them to work 60 hours a week due to management refusing to hire more people. The option is to work 40 hours that you're paid for and watch as more work piles on every week, or work extra every week to be on top of your tasks.
And I know that you are broadcasting from 2017, but in 2022 more and more jobs have become work-from-home. There is no clocking in. It takes great discipline and courage to just sign out around 5 and not worry about work until 9 next morning.
Yes I do definitely agree with you...
Thanks for watching!
Work is your life and there is nothing wrong with being fully committed to your job and your job being you main priority everyday of the week.
Try working for 15-30 years and let us know how it goes.
+Gauss Field Well so far I worked 13 and I'm alright
@@mr.orange2179 My man....
I agree with this video
Moms suffer from this too
I am the opposite of a workaholic, but I work with many of them and it makes life uncomfortable for me. Workaholism is totally glamorized, I don't get it.
You're not wired for excellence... is no problem.
@@Sombra_Azul_ I’m just not a wage slave. My job (contract law) is not my life’s meaning, it funds much higher, fulfilling personal goals. I’m not going to break my balls to enable my CEO to buy a third holiday home. If you want to, be my guest.
@@mynameisnotjerome1803 Ever heard of entrepreneurship?
@@mynameisnotjerome1803 same lol i do the minimum and I still have more money than they do. They all broke for some goddamn reason.
I'm going to university and I feel just I like this, your content helped me thank you
Also being unloved as a child and in general has definitely pushed me to be a workaholic
It sounds like break through points in productivity for you happen when you've maxed out your health points stats. Sleep, drink, and food, as well as thoughtfulness to life's joys. Perhaps a workaholic may be the least productive person there given the lack of break throughs on similar conditions, but they otherwise would be the most productive if the business model lacks or nullifies such opportunities for innovation. Others may have the exact opposite where stress and adrenaline allow them to flow most easily. Personally, I find I am most level headed at around 18 hours without sleep, all the while of course thinking about my job and how to be a better employee. Though I would say the exhaustion is quite taxing, and the health issues do build up. I think it's worth it.
Oh, and don't forget to excercise, as that builds mental and physical endurance as well as drinking plenty of water.
Both my parents are workaholics. They will push you to be like them and there is no balance but work.they both self employed business owners. I relate to this video so much as true.
I agree with you
This is true. Gary Vaynerchuk for example seems to be a rising motivational guru who is influencing a lot of people. Now I respect this guy but his advice is to work like a dog. He spent about 14 years from 20 on working fourteen to sixteen hours a day and now is a mega millionaire. My question is this : is that really worth it? This week I am advising something to my subscribers which I call "controlled laziness." Because if you want to increase your assets you can learn to invest well and it isn't that hard to manage once you have your strategy. But I'm not a fan of the eighty hour work week. For example, I am a contract physical therapist who can make 100K a year. But if I opened a clinic I could probably double that. And have an extra 30 hours a week running a business. They can have that. And that is my point. You can become successful and still become wealthy with smart investing and not sacrifice your life like Gary V does. You have one spin on earth as far as we know. You want to achieve greatness in all your planes--not just on the time clock. Hope this helps someone out there---Charles.
Hi very good video you have explained this psychology very easily truly a pearl of wisdom from your real life experience there are many self help books but most of them pushy motivational but there is one book maximum self esteem or confidence written by Jerry Minchinton it has real wisdom wrote after lot of research read it.
In my case I tend to do extreme work or pleasure but you simply pin pointed that workoholics have wrong unhealthy attitude and basically it's pointless as it gonna yield lower productivity in long term keep sharing your wisdom
To be honest. I work hard both in college and work. Actually, my mother rise me this way. Less play more work.
I like workaholics they probably give me some of the stuff I buy lol. Good for me. Thanks guys.
I really enjoyed this video. Your hair looks great by the way.
Thank you for watching!
Dan Peña, the 50 billion dollar man says “There is no such thing as work life balance... NONE!” The only thing I see wrong with workaholics is that they are wasting their time being a low man peon instead of starting their own businesses and climbing the ladder to become a millionaire/billionaire. Every single billionaire is a workaholic. If you have the traits to be so self centered that all you do is work, then you can be rich as well and you should do it. The problem isn’t being a workaholic for most people, the problem is being too much of a pussy to go out there and take greater opportunities and risks. If you love to work, you will absolutely adore running a business. I can tell you this from the personal experience of running a sole proprietorship for a summer when I could not find a job in college because I worked my balls off trying to find contracts, networking, making deals, and completing contracts for money. And I made a lot of money doing it. But, I am not a workaholic myself. I am quite the opposite in fact, so I had no future with my business and got a nice easy proletariat job for good money where I could enjoy my life.
What you have is Fear, which can manifest in many ways. I would trade anything for the sense of "peace". I envy Tibetan monk by the name Matthieu Ricard, which is the happiest man in the world.
Gauss Field Fear of what? I don’t know what you’re talking about.
HAHAHA! I LOVE Dan Peña. I was with you until you said easy job...
A lot of workaholics run businesses snd are rich and miserable this
I failed to grasp the issue with this "problem"....
04:54 this is me tbh...
I agree.
Awesome explains a lot
What's about being workaholic in the college work in order to succeed, I think that you have to work hard to be an accountant is that workaholic also what do you think?
you do need to work hard to be an accountant, but you don't have to be obsessed with work. The obsession is the issue.
Najwan Najwan my husband sadly
WolvesAndFinance Hmm, how can we stop being obsessive? I can't stop until everything is perfect, I get like a feeling of uneasy itchiness in my neck and can't stop thinking about it until I fix it.
@@LexusFox That is the cry of excellence... don't fight it, flow with it!
Working is fun
Hello everyone my name is Vance and I’m a workaholic
I don’t agree with something’s he saying because I’m great and I’m #1
Hi Vance
F Sharp hello F sharp
Such a good video
H A L T
💯 disagree all workaholics not the same and have the same up bringing and life experience and same motivation and drive - I see nothing but sheep's in the comments not using their own brain/ this smart personality some good points but using a brand brush with no substance to back up most arguments what he is stating! wats the worst employee to have in any business lazy, lairs, time wasters and breaking their work contract costing bsuiness lots of money! There rules in place at work to keep the hard worker or workaholics grounded balance. I'm a workaholic work 5 jobs also very entrepreneurial mentally strong determined learn from mistakes and know very well important of team work and right attitude positively in the workplace. Is so easy to make a video for and against use a broad brush on a particular group for algorithm views for UA-cam!! Thats the hypocrisy of these content providers on UA-cam
I rather be a workaholic than be a BUM!! BECAUSE A BUM IS ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS BROKE!!! 😂
You are 💯percent correct!! Workaholics are obesssed with what they can control, to the exclusion of relationships which they can’t control. Or even have no relational skills so they put all emphasis on tangible outcomes. It is a deep psychological issue from childhood. To live with such a person is a nightmare, totally miserable and lonely experience.
Hi very good video you have explained this psychology very easily truly a pearl of wisdom from your real life experience there are many self help books but most of them pushy motivational but there is one book maximum self esteem or confidence written by Jerry Minchinton it has real wisdom wrote after lot of research read it.
In my case I tend to do extreme work or pleasure but you simply pin pointed that workoholics have wrong unhealthy attitude and basically it's pointless as it gonna yield lower productivity in long term keep sharing your wisdom
Thank you!