I'm 30... And Still Living With My Parents!
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- I'm 30... And Still Living With My Parents! Imagine if you're 30 years old... And you're still living with your parents.
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Would that hurt? Although this might seem impactful, this is the reality of a good portion of americans nowadays.
Due to the changes in economy, the rising in real estate prices and other factors, more and more people are delaying its moving out from home.
So... What would you do if you were 30 and still living with your parents? Should you consider moving out? Should you consider living with them?
Watch this video and find out!
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The economy is really bad. Even with a full-time job, my choices are live with my parents or live in a slum.
Still is I been trying stand on my own but finding work is shit no record or anything, been turned down by a lot of places I applied to. Some probably don't even look at my application. Took the time to go back to school.
@@kurothekyuubi1157 I'm trying to find something part time to do from.home but cant find anything of any interest.
Exactly...making 60,000 bucks isn’t much money, Especially after taxes. 100,000 is like 80,000 after taxes.
Have to get creative. Maybe living in a slum is character building?? :O
@@nathelm8693 No, it isn't.
I lost my relationship, job, business and niece. I'll be 30 in May. Kindly pray for me.
Its a fresh start..
Im sorry to hear this. You take the time you need. Youll be able to pick it up again, I know you can
I am there too
Pray for all of us
Hey man, it's just a number, that's it, I am turning 29 next week, staying at my mom's home until now, trying to build my online business with failures in the past and now it turns out okay for me and I will move, I feel we should not judge each other, there is a time for everything and some people grow slower than others, that's it.
I moved out at 23. It was incredible, salsa dancing 3 times a week, beers in town with friends, gymnastics 2 times a week. Then I got ill and returned home. I'm 30 now and during the time I've been home there have been all sorts of dramas and troubles. I wish I had gone back and rented a house and done away with any dependency on my parents as soon as I recovered. I am now converting a van, I am going to live in that for a while and see if I get back on track. If I start making proper money again, I will go traveling and see the world. I do not need a lot of things, or a house, the van will do, I just need my freedom and control over my own life.
I’m over 40s and still living with my parents. They are more important for my life. Now I take over to care of them because they had looking after me for years.
That's what I'm doing too. I owe em a debt.
Yep, people like this guy aren't experienced enough to realize that if you stay long enough you become your parent's caretaker. It's not about them making rules for you, but you're literally feeding and taking care of them at a certain point. The fact that he expects me to look up to people as mature adults who ran off to the city to go have fun with friends on Friday night is silly. There are mature and immature people regardless of where they live.
I cried when my two children left home. Son left at 25, daughter just a bit older. And they both know that they can come back anytime.
Let them live their life bruh . Best way to insure some grandkids
Living with parents or not owning a car is a shame in America. The car and real estate companies created it.
kastuul YW what’s the shame in living with your parents it’s fine to save money some ppl who move out early probably spend all there money right away on so many things and become poor right away.
Why?
@@tinabandith7558 However, if a miliary member fails a college class. that tution he has to pay back. If you succeed, ypu get the credits. If you fail, you pay back the tuition. Before they may consider you taking college classes, you can't have disciplinary issues either.
I'm sorry to hear this Americans.
They care more about $$$ than family, their culture is basically consumerism.
#murica
Don't be ashamed for moving out late. It's your life, live it the way where you feel comfortable, achieve your goals at your pace and disregard haters and standards.
Thank you!!! You are so right!!!
Well said.👏🏽
Will do soon!
Not sure where most of you guys are from but i am from New York city.
Exactly people don't understand it's tough out there. I used to try and move out because I felt pressured to by society but I'm not able to because I can't find a job to pay enough to live on my own. If you want to move out because a girl won't date you for living with parents she's not worth it!!!
It's much smarter to keep living with them until you have your finances in order. It's 2019 ... shit has drastically changed since the 90's. People judge for the simple reason that "society" expects us to do what it wants us to do.
Stanced Polestar* yep, that move out by 18 mentality is something of the past. Only few can afford to
@@agadgsgdfgsasadsfdg Totally right. There's no freaking way that a large number of 18 year olds today can afford to buy their own house and lived indipendently. Unless their rich or a famous celeb.
@Stanced Polestar. The hell with what society expects. As long as one doesn't freeload from the parents, there's nothing illegal or immoral about such a living arrangement.
Agree
F*ck society idc what society thinks
Reasons why I live with my parents:
- I still care for them
- I have no knowledge of renting/buying my own place
- Real estate is expensive
- No knowledge of being financially stable
- Anxiety
Same I am a failure
@@coolpeoplethings You’re not a failure for still living with your parents, as long you help them with chores and bills, then you’re good.
You're gonna get more anxious if you still live with you're parents
excuses
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Living with parents makes you feel richer than you are.
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Certainly, one feels richer living with the parents because one will have less expenses than if one was on their own.
Time to grow up and take care off yourselves.. if you are financially helping out Great!! If not grow up
I'm from the Philippines and we don't really mind living with our parents forever lol. I actually grew up in my grandparents house along with my aunts. In fact, many Filipino parents don't want their children to move out. It's giving them anxiety attacks lol. That's how family oriented we are 💕
@Tatu Dex That's not the reason. It's cultural.
@Tatu Dex Not true.
Even the rich would live with their parents or at least bring their parents to live with them in their new home.
And that's why you RARELY see Filipino males dating outside their ethnic group, but frequently see Filipina women with non-Filipinos
It's because they expect their offspring to provide for them when they got old, and the cycles go on. I'm a Filipino but thinking living with them forever is pathetic. You need to figure out how you're going to retire and not be dependent on your children.
it's because asian culture is making children as an investment. It exists in majority of asian cultures. parents will provide their children quite well even when they are 20,25, but they expect something return back. this cycle is actually harmful for economy too, because it creates lazy people who have no ambition to start doing something their own early in their life. in West, children are encouraged to earn money since like 12 or 11. so when they are 18, a lot of them doing a job, and live on their own. doing a job, or a business generate wealth in the country that's one of the reasons why west is rich.
Move out when you ready to move out, Meanwhile, take some responsibilities to help your parents to so they can live comfortable and better off pressures.
Move out and your mindset and disciplinary habits will follow.
Moved out at age 35. I wanted to be
closer to work. it’s tough at first, because I wasn’t used to do laundry , cleaning dishes, tidying the apartment and paying bills and utilities. It feels great sometimes because I have more privacy , but I get bored and lonely a lot more.
I’m actually torn because of this. I love my parents. We have coffee and talk in the morning , we all cook. I can invite friends over, and dating is hard regardless of where you live.
Yup that’s like the biggest problem moving out doesn’t mean your automatic get a girlfriend
@@sandycrash8868 only 6’4 blonde chads can get gfs these days…
As long as your mom doesn't do your laundry and you contribute and there is no abuse, you can live there. Don't listen to haters that call you not a man. Besides, when your parent gets old, you will have to move in with them again to care for them.
The thing that pisses me off is that my parent's generation had it so easy compared to now. They could buy a house in their 20s and have it paid off in no time.
True. Even though segregation and horrible things the cost of living back then was cheaper
This is what many people in my parents age never can understand no matter how much I try to explain it. They had it WAY easier
Agree
They didn't have to go to college or tradeschool either.
Im 30 and extremely codependent with my mom and I don't plan on leaving because we take care of each other
You should at least try because she's not going to live forever. Try finding an apartment that's close to her. You need to learn how to live on your own so when shit hits the fan you have experience and knowledge in what to do
I'm 30 making 1200 a week living with my parent, nice house that's paid for and I pay all the bills helping my mom save her money and I save mine so its a win win for errbody
Wavy Baby I mean....your parents are living with you in that case lol
See, this is different from being a mooch lol
@John Taylor he meant it as a joke and secondly nobody owes their parents just for bringing them up. Bringing up kids is what parents have to do regardless.
They don't get any brownie points for refraining from putting their babies in shoeboxes and leaving them at the bus station or not shaking them, starving them or beating them to death.
Do you expect to receive a backdated payment for baby food and nappies from your own son or something when he hits 18?
@Mike Hunt I still live with my mother, I don't help with the bills but do pay rent every week.
Try to contribute
I'm 33. I JUST moved out of my mom's house. I didn't have the earning capacity before. I so went to school, got a degree and when I felt like I was making enough money to be okay, and not ever need my mother for resources, I moved out
Your situation is understandable I think it’s more focused on people who don’t have an end goal who are living at home to avoid responsibility.
Nothing wrong with a 30 year old living with parents as long as one contributes financially fairly to the household and doesn't freeload.
It's almost one whole year that I moved out. I'm 27 and let me tell you guys, that it is truly satisfying to be on your own. I have struggles but the pros outweigh the cons. If only you guys could take the first step, you will be glad you did. I got a good apartment with a balcony and an extra room. It's great to drink coffee and relax in the morning. I was so afraid at first but rough times do sharpen you. If you are unhappy with being with your parents, you will remain that way.
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I’m hoping to move out soon I’m in my early 20’s ! Hopefully I get into university !
Yeah but how much do you save? I would rather not piss my money away and help out my disabled parent...
@@nathanhummel2665 yes help your parents!! That's good
I’ve had great jobs but never could find a roommate so I’m stuck here cause I literally can’t afford a place on my own I feel trapped I’m 23 now it’s getting in the way of my dating life I’m
Starting to feel like a loser hopefully something good comes my way soon lol
@@Calebshipley5 Get a roommate Caleb!
I see nothing wrong with staying at home so long as you working, in school or starting a business. Renting a place is just throwing away money that you can be investing for a return.
Living with parents is the worst thing that can ever happen to a fully grown up man, they will never allow u make and execute your decision without granting you the permission. Though they are loving people, but they would always discourage you from doing things that can help you grow as a man
Or maybe you can just disagree with them and make your own choices, in a respectful manner.
Does going half with a roommate and moving out, will that also make you man?
I’m almost 33 and still living at home I give my mom rent and help with errands and sometimes buy my own food have a part time job but I still can’t help but feel kinda bad for not living on my own
You should only feel bad if you know you arent contributing to the househols and arent taking care of your own things. Otherwise, you are just roommates like everyone else has. Dont let people make you feel bad. Recognize jealousy when you hear it.
No need to feel bad. Are you saving money whilst there ?
Don't feel bad. You are carrying your weight. It's not like you're not helping out. Stay as long as you need. Forget what people think. Make sure you are saving money, building credit and planning for the future.
Glad it is alot of pepole in the same situation. I am 35 years old and still live with my parentes. Beacuse i am musician and plays bass in a Rock Band Called Hollow Ilusion from Norway 🇳🇴 . And music is my passion and goals i want to make it in the music industry and career. Recording records, and be om concerts tour in the world. I simply Don't afford to live alone and pay so much. But i am not ashed, just lucky to embrace my time with them ♥️🙏🎵🎶🎸🥁🎼
3:26 @You’re not gonna be a man.” since when do you define on what a man should be.
I’m 46k in student loan debt. I have car payments. My mom makes 100k a year and has way more resources, food than me right now. Why should my concern be moving out lol. I should get my debt paid off as quick as possible. I could move out honestly but I don’t make enough to pay off debts and afford a apartment for more than a year. Because once I move out I don’t want to come back lol.
I'm 30 and I still live with my folks.
Well, all these years living with them I saved money to buy a land and build my house. I lost my job due to recession in my country in a recent time so I'll stay with them for a while. My home is built, but without a job I'll have some trouble to keep my expenses. However as soon I get a job, I will marry and I will live in my house. Living with parents is not that easy but you have to make choices. Living by your own with limitations, lack of money, and debt seem not to be a great idea. I dont find it reasonable at all.
I'd advise you to stay with your parents. But keep saving money, working, and studying. Don't think like you gonna stay with them forever. You need your own space. You need a place to sleep with your girl in privacy. You need your sacred place to jerk off in peace. So do not sleep. Save money to buy your house. Keep it up. Keep growing up.
Good luck guys
Anyone who claims to be a "real man" or "real woman", because they went out on their own, and struggled day to day to make a "life" for themselves, then turn around and criticize someone else for NOT taking the same road, is neither "real" nor a "man/woman".
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Well said
They are clearly jealous. Misery needs company!
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I totally agree! I moved out with absolutely no support or help from anyone.
My mum passed away when I was 10, of Cancer. My sister was 7 at the time and my dad has always been close to my sister and not me. I moved out when I was 20 and now I'm 36. My sister is 32 and she still lives at home with my dad. He cut her friends off and told me she is his companion. They go on holiday together and share a room. She had no intention of moving out. I find it weird.
F that.. live with your parents as long as u want. Just chip in and help em out. They’re the best roommates honestly! They’re not gonna pressure u into doin drunks or be stealing from u! They’ll give u the best advice! Remember your parents aren’t going to be around forever! Cherish them while u can! Don’t give 2 shits what others think! Work on yourself, save your money. When u find the right chick and wanna start a family then u can go get a place.. or just do whatever the f u wanna do 😂
You can live with your parents but earn money and contribute to your joint family wealth, taking care of your parents.
My only issue with moving back into my parents at 29 is the confidence to hit on women ... as soon as I say I live with my parents they out
I think the culture varies a lot. It is very common for grown adults to live with their parents throughout Asia. Nothing wrong as long as your are contributing to the family. Nuclear families are a fairly recent invention.
I have lived in Korea and not to be racist or anything, but many Asians are so so difficult. Some Asian women are nuts. I couldn't imagine living with Asian parents for sure.
@@shannon2748 It's question of understanding differences
Lots of Asians leave home and move to Australia, America or England as young as 18 to 22. They study overseas and find suitable, well paid work overseas. So not all Asians are identical.
@@shannon2748 by saying some women are nuts what do you mean? They are strong willed?
Also, the elderly parents live with their children
I'm 28 y'old rn, living with my mom. I decided to take care of her since my dad passed away Oct 2019 . Helping her managing our farm and paddy feild . I do inherited my late dad's petrol diesel business,with rm200/ 45$ monthly income. It's not that much but I felt really happy and satisfied cause I have my chance to take care my mom , landing my hand to lighten her burden managing our farm and paddy feild. We're Dusun, From Sabah Malaysia. And it's okay and we don't have a problem where the child even if they're already had their own family, continuing stay with their parents. Depends on the house's size.. If the family is getting bigger ,that's the time where we build our own House nearby our parents'.
Great insights, appreciate you sharing your thoughts on self-reliance and definitely hits home 🎯
Great Advice
When I was a kid it was the norm to move out by 18. Then when I reached 18, my generation had zero choice except to stay at home. Even now, some of my friends stayed home into their 30s. It's the society we live in. It costs too damn much starting to self sustain, unless you live as a hermit and have no life but work for a long time first.
Moving out at 18 is only normal in America
my brother 33 yrs old. has a wife and kid. has a job and earning but still living with my parents. not paying rent and bills. still asking my dad for his pension pension. he gets mad to my dad when he doesn't give him money. I wanted him to move out but he doesn't want.
So my story is I was just not prepared in anyway to move out at 18. Granted when I was growing up quite frankly the idea of growing up terrified me. Combine that with just being told foucs on school and everything will fall into place I feel like I needed more then that.
You are still a man no matter where u live. As long as u pay your part of your rent.I am still a full grown woman although I live with parents.
I see a lot of people who are so competitive with their fellow man that they actually praise his downfall, and failure.
The fact that we see each other's failure as a marker of our own success is part of why modern western society is falling... Instead of seeing men as a work in progress we make them feel as though they are an inevitable failure...
Perhaps "work" wouldn't be so bad if we shared purpose in this life.
great video! thx for the advice!
It's really hard being 35 years old and autistic living with my parents.
i understand you man. im 28. autistic and living with my dad
@@Logan69420 Isn't it nice to live in a world full of dbags who will call you a loser and not a man/adult because of a cognitive differences? "Oh well you're disabled, it's okay man." Not really. It's like if you build an elevator now everyone can go to the top, but if you only allow people to get to the top with stairs you are purposely limiting who has access. There's no reason why the world should be closed off to atypical people. Autistic, ADHD, the answer isn't just to lower expectations, it's to facilitate success for everyone. The ones who do nothing to make sure everyone can succeed should keep their tiny brain opinions to themselves.
i'm nearly 40 and still living with parents. i want to move but cant afford the housing within a 50mile radius of me because they're obscenely expensive, and my job is tied here. i asked if i can work remotely full time so i can leave my region and find a cheaper house up north but they said no. i wish i could quit my job to break free of being tied up here but i never been good at finding jobs and this is the best i got after years temping, and it doesnt even pay that well. so basically i am stuck and trapped here.
i like to move because my parents are starting to get in the way and i want to get a pet dog but they wont have one in the house. another issue also is that if i am in a position to move, theres nowhere locally of interest for me to go. i am really bored here. i like to start a fresh life somewhere new. i like to move abroad. but i dont know how. for example - moving to america i either need an employer sponsoring me to move or marry a citizen. i've had some interviews but as usual get rejected. i tried online dating for a partner but women never respond. its hopeless.
to give you an idea - i graduated from university in 2006. i applied for THOUSANDS of jobs these past 15 years. i been to a total of 200 job interviews in that time. during which, i received only 8 job offers - 7 of them were temporary jobs, and the 1 job i'm in now, is permanent. thats why i am apprehensive about quitting the job, because who knows when the next job will come, especially with the redundancies caused by covid? also, moving requires me to have worked already lined up. i cant move to a desired location because i will need a job lined up and getting a job in my reality is becoming more and more difficult each passing year that its frankly impossible. and the houses here locally are expensive not to mention rather shitty looking. i live in a region filled with grubby boring people. i want out of this place but i feel stuck and trapped.
at my age (39) i also dont have any family of my own. i see my other friends all have houses and families of their own and some are younger than me and i look at their pics on fb and say oh my god, how do they do that, you know? its left me in a state of worry and panic that my midlife crisis is in full swing now. i feel i am mentally deteriorating. hopeless. angry. bitter. lost. my life is passing me by. i want to move but am stuck and trapped here. if i was rich i could break free and go anywhere but i'm not. i live a frugal existence saving as much as i can but with the pay i get, even after 10 years saving i still cant afford a home here, its that bad. and if i was lucky to scrape one, i'd be trapped in a mortgage and there are other expenses like bills furniture that after deductions i wont have any money left to enjoy life or go on holiday.
i've grown to hate the word HOW because it always comes back to that, in my life. i feel resigned to my fate. i cant even fathom how i read people in their 20s being able to own their own house and still have enough for cars and holidays. to me thats as alien as living on planet mars.
I'm 30, living with my parents - I took care of my father in my 20s because he had brain cancer, then my mother because she had obstructed bowel syndrome that she had to go the hospital for, I then helped take care of my 90yo grandmother who moved in with me and my mother, my mother couldn't care for her by herself because she had a triple heart bypass prior to my father having brain cancer. Me, personally I have severe anxiety, depression, I'm bi-polar and contemplate a lot of negative things and I go to a psychologist when I can. I've been trying to move out for awhile now but it's harder said then done, trying to drive I have panic attacks or zone out due to mental stability. It's hard for everyone involved and I'm constantly looked down upon by neighbors, friends, and family because of it. "It's just depression, get over it, it's just anxiety, so what everyone has it" is what I get on the daily basis. It's not fun and watching this video just made me more depressed.
He said unless you have a good reason otherwise, what you described clearly is a legitimate reason and I am very sorry for you.
Don’t allow anyone to judge you and remember that you’re valuable and have a purpose. Never forget that. What other people think doesn’t matter. It’s your life not theirs. God bless you bro and stay strong.
I'm 25 and living with my parents currently. In my early teens I was in NY so that I could finish high school because we'd move around so much living with my parents that it was really effecting my education (was staying with a sibling in NY).
During my stay in NY I was extremely miserable. I barely spoke to anyone, and as a family oriented person I really missed everyone back at home. I made it to college and ran into some health issues that landed me back with my family. I realized that for the first time in a long time, I was actually feeling happy being around everyone. I soon got involved with some girl who wanted to throw in my face the fact that I lived with my parents using a derogatory undertone. I stopped talking to her, because I ain't gon let no bitch take away from my happiness due to some bullshit non-global societal standard, so after I clapped them cheeks I kept it pushing. When I got to my home city I was walking 44 minutes to work every day until I bought another car. I then started applying for other jobs and now I'm working at a hospital with benefits that will also help me continue my education so I can continue pursuing my independence while being with my family.
I understand that some people want to feel free and leave the nest. Which by all means do so. Though, you have to establish yourself in some way economically for you to be able to carry your own weight with all the expenses we have in life. Once I land a good job with a solid income to buy my own place I'm looking forward to taking my parents with me. They'll be gone one day, and to me, the feeling of having them around is priceless.
this shit made my day bro bitch had the nerve to say some bs but still got bent over hahahhaah
well living with parents can save a lot of money, which means you can invest more in real estate.
Doesn't matter what the real estate market is like...rent is paying for someone else's real estate purchase with absolutely no possible return in the future. Makes no sense to me.
* Unless it is short-term and very cheap for a given area
@@Devotchka161 yup. Amen to that. Pretty much every loser is paying rent to make others rich
I have fear of all people. Can't connect to anyone. Never made any social connections when I was young. No opinions of my own. I've already lost my mind but people who meet me think I'm ok. Jokes on them.
I'm in my early 30's and still living with my folks though not by choice. I cannot find a good job that pays well, in order to move out.
Keep grinding. Something will come. Just work for it.
lol wtf u dont need to a good paid job to move out
Not a dissimilar situation - back in school for computer science! Good luck brah
Aurelian Spodarec what are you taking about? In Cali it's like 1200 to have your own place. That's just rent..I make 14 an hr work full time. Do the math I can't afford that.. it's easy math dude you need a good job to move out.
Native722 same, but I'm in my early twenties and don't live in the US.
Judgemental people are the most transparent of all people....
Church goers live like other church goers.......drug addicts live like other drug addicts......and birds of a feather flock together.
Live your life truthfully, and be not ashamed of your values.
If other people criticize and judge you for it......extend the finger God gave you in response.
Exactly.. you are not a true alpha male if you're dependant on others period.. stand on your own and earn yours .. however .... Get your priorities together and map out your goals,. What is it that you need.. and don't beat yourself up over being a man so fast
.. think about it what does it really matter..
my dad died when i was 11 and i became a man fast because i had to, ive been through 4 years of the army and i know what its like to not be home and wanting to be home so bad, i pay for everything and pay all my own bills, my mom has had brain surgeries and heart surgeries, she cant afford to live much on her own even with a job, so she lives with me, but i am really happy and good things are coming, im not selfish and love seeing people be successful in life
Its so sad how much people say they couldnt live with they parents when they are adults😭
Its messed up how many toxic family relationshipa are
that is true love this
Thank you, bro! 🙂
+Jacek Krawczyk You're welcome!
I like the message in this video. Life is all about choices and how we react to them.
yes, I have lived with my parents in my 20s to 30s because of changing careers and starting over.
For me to leave the nest, it is to have a "growth set" mentality. it was finding a stable job with stable income. Once I have that, then I start looking for apartments that I can afford within my means. Small steps.
I'm 27 almost 28 jobless and I'm single living with my parents. I've dealt with depression for as long as I can remember and just don't care anymore.
Your not the only one, I'm in the same situation, but live with my girl and her parents. Dont even own a car, and I've been unemployed more than I've been employed, 0 dollars in my bank account, poor credit, no dating life, no sex life its rough
@@keanowhitmore8009 On top of everything I mentioned my dad passed away recently. Life just keeps kicking me in the nuts.
Stay strong my man. You’re not alone. You’re valuable and have a purpose. Always remember that. Don’t let anyone judge you or make you feel bad. Keep pushing bro. Much love.
I dont see what's so bad about living with your parents at any age. As long as you dont depend on them and they feel better having you around I dont see the problem. My 40 year old aunt lives with my grandma and they love sharing one house since my aunt is single and my my grandpa passed away a few years ago and now they dont feel lonely. And my aunt has a job, lives and independent live. So what is your problem exactly?
Agreed
No problem at all. Most of these people are jealous
Great advice by John Sonmez.
I’m 46, disabled and living with my parents. I have a bachelor degree in computer science. I’ve been looking for a full time job since 1999.
In 2019 I was diagnosed with cancer. Now I’m probably stuck with my parents.
Disabled people never have a fair chance to survive.
I moved out pretty late at 24 and honestly the best decision ever. Love my parents but no nagging me,don't have to do a million favors,no one waking me up whenever, drink or smoke whenever I want, ,can hang with friends when I want, can have any female over.Its some struggles but the freedom is worth it..also save as much money as possible before moving
Some people need a lot of space because they live like scoundrels/have annoying parents and some people are more boring than their parents. I can see your need for freedom, but what about people who don't drink/smoke/hookup and don't have parents who bother them at all? Freedom is great for you, but one man's freedom is another man's isolation.
I love you man. true words
+F C Thanks!
I have lived with my parents most of my life and am almost 40. Have worked full time since graduating college in early 20’s. battled health issues during that time of employment. Never earned enough to afford living alone (only roommate options were classified ads). Went back to school and got a second degree, started receiving great job offers to where I could afford to move out. At this same time my health had progressed to where I had to recently go on disability (very limited mobility). Did all i knew to, maybe could have picked a better major the first time through college.
I'm 31 this year and I can't be at home anymore. Very little money but I'm getting out at the end of the month to get my own place in a new city. My moms losing her mind but I have zero regrets other than not doing it sooner.
lol this is such a big deal for americans, in Latin America most ppl move out when they marry. When I moved out at 22 all of my friends still lived with their parents.
Most of the people bashing are losers who want to pretend they aren't. Ask them to show any proof of a real job or income, and they can't. I am in the works of possibly buying property with my mother in another state and running a business from it. If it sets us both up in a profitable business we love, great.
Bashing somebody for living with family isn’t cool it’s really rude ! Shame on those who bash ! I don’t give a damn what others think of me anyways !
Well im 32 i own a nice mobile home and car. I have good paying job as a welder and im also in the military reserves. Im It has been a struggle trying to make it on my own over the years and yet i would never move back in with my family since i had a bit of a toxic Relationship with my mother and my dad passed on. Yeah i get the idea that people live with their parents because they wanna save money. However, i like having my own freedom you know. Plus, im not married and have no kids.
Im 23 live with my mom and yeah it saves me 3 thousand dollars a month
What is the big deal if you're still living with parents at 30 or beyond?? The only problem I see is if you're still acting like a baby or child, like not contributing to household expenses, or not doing your own laundy, etc...
There are also several good reasons that someone in their late 20s and beyond to still be living with parents or family.
For one thing, it can be mutually beneficial, you work and help cover the family home's household expenses. Your parent or parents my be struggling to cover household expenses like bills, food, etc.
How are you less of a man if you live with parents or family? I have lived on my own and have lived with parents and other family. This whole idea that your're not man if you're still living at home is a load of shit, unless your still act like a baby where they buy your food or they do your laundry etc...
If you're still living with your parents from your 20s beyond, make sure you:
help cover household expenses, like bills and groceries
Cook or help cook
do your own laundry
Do the chores or help around with the chores
Basically do all the shit you'd normally be doing if you were living on your own.
Don't be a drain, be an asset and not a liability.
And respect that it's your parent's or family's house, but let them know that you're also an adult.
For most young people the only option they have when moving out is to move into a share house. I mean what's the point of that? You live with a bunch of randoms, and just trust they're not going to murder you in your sleep or something like that. I guess it's okay if it's at uni or college and your share a dorm room, but not anywhere else.
Anyways, just what some random guy on the internet thinks. Because it's like you're made to feel bad if you're living at home from your 20s and beyond. It's bullshit. If you're living out living on you're own or living in a share house, good on you, but don't be looking down on those that are living with their parents for good reasons.
i agree wit u expect if my parents want to cook for me im fine wit it no rule book says i have to cook or do my own laundry
Beowolf phobia can be one of them.
Thank you for getting to the point.
This is about kids well into their 30s who don’t contribute , no job etc.
Im sorry but this is a pre-written rant and I agree with you, my brother is the kind that acts like a baby. Heres the rant if you’re interested:
My brother is almost 40 (36) and still lives in the house. The thing is he does very very little, hes always negative and he mumbles (complaining softly) about how he has to turn on the lamp. Its also the main reason I dont have a room as a 15 (almost 16 since there is no other room) I genuinely do want privacy at times but I just cant have it. I have a study corner in the attic with a curtain being the only thing separating it from the rest (and my desk is the only thing that fits there) I sleep on a matress in my parents’ room and im sick of not being able to be left alone, Everytime im in the attic someone hangs clothes wich will continously be in my face while studying. My brother RIPS open the curtain everytime he goes down or upstairs from or to his room. Hes always making negative comments about people on TV and he even complains about my mom not doing good enough even though my mom does so much, I try to help her as much as I can but he doesnt even want to load out the dishwasher and just sits on the couch waiting for someone else to take action while my mom is doing it (he never willingly does chores, NEVER) hes lately been frustrating me he treats me the same as he did when I was 7 and he made comments about my grandpa wich really upset me. (I used to make breakfast for my grandpa daily and buy his groceries frequently and bring his dinner) my brother would always be mad that “I had to do so much” while he was never doing anything himself. He said he wished my grandpa were dead a few years back and a few weeks ago he passed and since then my frustration for my brother has been building up because the first thing I heard him say about my grandpas passing was: “Oh its so sad he passed away, Now I really have to move out” (I had a temporary room at my grandpas house) AS IF ITS OUR FAULT THAT HE NOW HAS TO MOVE OUT!! He treats me the same way as when I was 7 and he makes racist comments all the time and denies it when I point out that hes crossed the line with a few comments and he always says the N word. He gets upset when I don’t give him a kiss one time he asked for a kiss on the cheek and I jokingly said no. (also because I was genuinely tired of it) I said no to give him a kiss for a few minutes as a joke, eventually I was in the kitchen and he Stood up (moving his fricking chair) and STORMED AT ME (as if Id just told him I emptied his bank account or something) he then demanded me to give him a kiss so I did. He then followed up with “WAS THAT SO HARD TO DO?!” I stayed silent but in my mind I was like DUDE YOU’RE 36 YOU NEED TO TAKE NO AS AN ANSWER AND GROW THE HELL UP He also frequent hits my butt wich I say no to because it genuinely makes feel uncomfortable he always follows up with says yes as if I’m not there and just does it again later I’m sick of him living under this house basically providing noting but negative energy. I know I shouldn’t but I cant control my irritation anymore.
Today's 30 year olds are "recession babies" we saw the effects of the recession and are still dealing with it. Not to mention cities like NYC and San Francisco have a high rent rate. It becomes nearly impossible to move out!! I see the struggles with my friends.
I'm unemployable because I have 2 felony convictions. I have good credit (767) , work history and experience , I own my own 2015 car paid off , but nobody hires felons apparently. This is the harsh reality unfortunately. I currently live with my mother who's a bank teller , and as it is she can barely afford living expenses now (I pay for my own food and necessary items). This is the outcome of the stigmatization that the USA and its citizens place upon people with a criminal history , even the responsible ones. My felonies are 10 years old , I haven't been in any legal trouble since , and unfortunately the felonies are for stabbing someone in a bar bathroom in self defense against 5 people who tried to rob me. I served 5 years in prison and I've never had any psych problems or drug problems, but good luck explaining this during a job interview. My financial management success is largely due to my own discipline , and a lawsuit I settled by being injured as a passenger in a car collision if anyone is wondering. Now I'm down to my last , and no hope of employment.
feel your pain bro
Start your own hustle. Duh
You better learn a trade. Shit, apply for temp work at a factory in your area.
Dude that sucks... can't even defend ourselves from thugs without consequences... bs
I moved out at 18 had great success and a rollercoaster of life BUT 27 shit hit the fan in my life and I wound up moving in with my mom and brother..I’ve been back for 8 months now and I’ve been devising a strategy to get back out..I feel like a failure but at the same time this has helped me in a few key areas of my life that would have taken longer to achieve..I think it’s worth noting that when I moved out at 18 I didn’t care how my parents felt about it..I did it anyways...but now 27..I sort of feel that when I leave..my mom and brother are going to feel abandoned..it’s weird..but I’m trying to block that aspect out and get back out there anyways because I’m so much better..my confidence is way up, obviously..and I take better care of my self physically..Im very excited to get back out into the world but I know I cannot let shit hit the fan again so Ill take the failure and learn from it, make sure this type of situation doesn’t happen again
I didn't move out until 33, where I'm from most people couldn't afford to live on their own or were living with multiple room mates which to me is no different then living with your parents.
I am 34 and I still live with my parents and to be honest, it's one of the best desicions I made. We have a nice house, and I like them a lot. It's a great feeling, waking up, and chatting with my mum to a cup of coffee. I take walks with me dad and I love my cat. But, and that's a big thing, I am not a looser. I clean the house, I cook great food for everyone, I help my mum lifting big weights, etc. By not spending money on a house or rent, I can spend all of it on me. I have a small job to pay my beer, and all of my time goes in to my business and my education. I finished acting school, I read a book a day, I am a high class pianist and I have a lot of time for my bike. In many cultures its normal, to live that way, and for a reason. It's just the media telling you move out, get into a job you hate, so you can pay a woman and feel manly, get it depths and be a slave to the system. And my parents get older. They will need me more and more, and I can slowly adept into taking over everything. And all those girls who say I am not a man, well fuckem. Just by ignoring them and using the resources my family has built, I am way ahead of everyone I know.
Ludwig Reiter 🙌🏻
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Ludwig Reiter 👍👍good job I am 26 and still living with my parents I dont know what I'm going to do. I have phobia going to many places I aint comfortable going to places on my own.
Jonathan 6 X most places are not worth going.
I save 2500 per month living w/ my parents. I would only save like 800 a month living at my own place. Its a no brainier. It has nothing to do with not being able to live on your own. I have a stable job and a lot of savings. I lived on my own 6 years in another country. Its only a handful of western countries that have this kind of mindset. I've had Indian, Chinese and other friends who have no stigma in their culture about it. I am totally self reliant other than I don't pay rent. I buy my own food, doing everything myself. I don't know what the big about all this is. I have my own rules my parents are equivalent to roommates.
@Zzzz Bac My only problem is I have done too much trading with my stocks so i made sub-par returns of 5-6% a year.. Need to fix my investment stuff. I find it hard to buy and hold and not touch it.
This is why some folks in the comments are actually jealous of this living arrangement. Misery needs company!
In India parents take care of their children till 21 and then children taken care of them for the rest of their life, Nobody leaves.
I don't know if that's a good thing or not
I was out on my own for nearly 10 years, even living and working abroad before COVID. Moved back into my parents house at 29 during the "quarantine" and decided to become a programmer. About 2,300 hours of coding in the last 7 months and last month i got my first coding job! I simply decided that this time would be used to pivot my life, and i have been an avid saver all my life so i have been able to live off of my savings while living with my parents(not paying rent or food). Other than fixing stuff around the house i consider my grind toward success the best way to repay my parents.
how did you keep track of your hours coding?
7 months is ~210 days. 2300hrs/210 = ~11hrs every single day.
How are you doing now? Good or bad would be informative.
@@zeethree I just cut 100% of everything else out of my life for those months and 6 days a week I would do about 15 hours each day, with the occasional 20 hour day if I became obsessed with finishing something.
I am doing very well, I got laid off from that first job and about 5 weeks later got into my second job, way better money just under 6 figures and excellent benefits. Just about 1 month ago got laid off from that job haha tech industry. but got just under 2 years from that second company and it's a big name one so it's great on a resume. So now I am just taking a couple months off, going to travel a bit and enjoy my summer then look for my 3rd position in the industry.
My advice, go for it if you have the determination required to knock down the barrier to entry which is a couple thousand hours of study. Also, from day 1 begin incorporating Chat GPT and similar programs. Before we are replaced by AI, we will be expected to have AI like GPT in our tool belt. Over the next 10ish years I think the most in demand Devs will be those who best incorporate GPT into their work flow and dramatically increase their quality and volume of work
@@FirstLast-gk6lg That's really inspiring. Thank you for responding. What coding languages and courses did you use? Python? I agree about ChatGPT. I'm considering studying data analytics and AI engineering. Do you think certifications or bootcamps are worthwhile?
To be a man in the eyes of Society? why is society judging if we are a man or not, its not up to society to tell each individual if there a man or not by judging if there living with their parents or not. You have a one way thought process of what truly is important in life.
well it is good to take care and keep company for your parents so no harm is done
Me too. Let's watch because I KNOW I'm not alone
I think we are all in the same boat here. Times are tough. Paying student loans, cell bill, car insurance and vehicle loan. I am thankful that my parents let me live with them right now. I was a full time student got my degree and apparently the career path that I chose is very competitive (Once I got into my career/ dream job, I would be able to be independent). I have no time for a girlfriend or any commitment until I get my career job. Some days I feel ashamed that I live with my parents because I feel like a loser. But in the end we aren't alone. THX for showing the video!
That's some really great advice here. I'm happy that I live on my own. It feels great I take care of everything myself. Still sometimes I wish I could move back in. Could save so much money so much more easily for a down payment for my own house that just goes to waste on paying rent at the moment.
That's the only time/thing I'd be ok with one of my children wanting to move back in honestly. If they just wanted to move in to have more money to go out to bars and party every night that's an entirely different story.
this sounds like some kind of stockholm syndrome...I live in a big city and I can't justify giving someone 1.2k MINIMMUM (for a shit apartment) each month when it can be in my account idk just feels messed up...if you could rent a half decent place for £600/700 i'd move out right now but I only earn 1.8-2k after tax
Sharing expenses with your parents as roomates is the smartest thing a person can do if the relation is not toxic. This peer pressure to live alone and take on all the financial load by yourself just to others that you are an adult is the biggest scam evee thought up. Marching to the beat of your own drum is the most adult thing you can do
Really like the new intro
thanks john!
+John Efraim Sargado You're welcome!
Moved in with family after a horrible relationship and so much sin in my life.
Saved by Jesus and making moves to improve my life and that of my family.
God has blessed me greatly. I have no plans for a wife and am not ambitious and my ego is done for years ago.
It will all work out.
God bless you and don’t let society or guys like this bulldog goofball dictate how you live your life.
Most people who move back in with their parents have a VERY good reason for it. I live with my parents because I'm still trying to learn to function with PTSD, a sleep disorder, and ADHD. That you would have the audacity to tell someone they're not a real man/woman unless they're living on their own makes you an absolute shithead. You have no idea what life is like for people like us and you obviously do not care.
never leave you parents!
The economy is not supporting this. Men's wages have not kept up with inflation, many jobs are gone, college has prepared men for the wrong work and high school doesn't prepare them for anything. People with this "man up" mentality are oblivious that there are also traditional cultures and families where it is considered bad to leave home before marriage. I agree it can be good to have the independent mindset, but some cultures are not geared toward individuality. Like the prodigal son in the Bible leaving home instead of staying with family, servicing their needs and acting as part of a whole is seen as bad behavior. I had no concept at 18 that I was a man, going away to college felt juvenile like packing for summer camp. People mature at different levels and not everyone has parents that encourage and promote maturity through adolescence. The only thing my parents cared about when I was a teenager was that I did well in school. They were blinded to any other factor playing into adulthood.
This is kind of tricky especially when it comes to the self reliant thing. A lot of cultures have adult children living at home because of convenience. Kids aren’t dependent on the parents but are contributing to the household.
Im 38 still with my mom but hey its life
dont be ashame of shit,fuk what society thinks its ur life im 32 live wit my parents nobody will stop me and i smoke w33d rent free if a person got a problem wit?tell em to kiss my nerdy white ass lol
David Anderson well me I work and pay rent too
There's nothing wrong in it
Same here, I'm a 41 year old virgin still living at home with my parents and I have no further worries. It's life bro, just go with the flow, good things will happen eventually, hopefully sooner than ever.
That's the thing though. Good things won't "happen eventually". Complacency is fine, but you should acknowledge it for what it is: complacency. Taking accountability for the decisions you make and the actions you don't take is necessary.
Hey man, I’m disabled and I live at home, I’m 28, you’re not on the streets, that’s important right now.
EDIT: if it’s any solace, unemployment benefits in today’s day in age are paying more than most jobs. Jobs aren’t paying enough to help you live on your own. The fact that sitting at home, you are collecting more than a reg 9 to 5 should speak volumes as to why many are still with their folks
Don’t care. I’m doing me. Knowing that I’m going back to school and bettering myself. Everyone says don’t compare yourself to others and I would say this applies
Life is a rat race and everybody starts somewhere. As long as u ain’t sitting on the couch and your actively bettering oneself kudos.
What if you went into a 30 year mortgage 15 years in and you're 35 and you absolutely love your parents company and it's a very symbiotic relationship but the stigma doesn't work for dating lol.
@a2m2j8 Well glad to know not everyone is like that. It's not easy being a man in this western society.
I'm 25 and still live with my parents , and probably soon Im going to be free and make my own destiny,
My parents wanted me out when I was 16 treated me like a unwelcome guest at 17 and called me a bum failure at 18
I'm 27 and still live with my mother because I am autistic, struggle finding and holding down work, struggle with change, and also have anxiety and depression on top of all this, so I guess all these combined impair my ability to work. I have applied for countless jobs over the years, even when I've had interviews not a single one of them has gone any further. I still live with my mother but I do consider myself independent, I do my own laundry, cooking, shopping, that kinda thing, I'm on benefits due to my health conditions so do have money coming in every two weeks, and I do have some goals for the future but there's no telling if they'll even work out for me if I do get there eventually, but I really don't want people to judge me because some people do say that I have a valid reason, due to disabilities and mental health conditions, so imo I think people should understand if and why I'm not ready to move out. I take pride in the fact I'm not a scrounger or a bum, I'm not lazy, and I don't mooch off my mother because I'm not that kinda person. I just want people to accept and respect me for who I am and what decisions I make. It's never easy but for some people, especially aspies like me, it can be the hardest thing in the world, and moving to a brand new environment can cause major relapses and meltdowns and mental breakdowns and probably other things too. I don't think this should be hard for people to understand. But if they don't, they're not worth it. Right?
You are not autistic. Who fed you that lie?
@@BulldogMindsetArchive excuse me?
@@BulldogMindsetArchive wtf?
@@BulldogMindsetArchive This guy is a douchebro, asshat, and idiot. He's completely silent now because over the years, society has proven him wrong. This subhuman lives in the 1900's and has no real grasp of reality.
@@BulldogMindsetArchiveYou don't know anything about him personally. You shouldn't assume that he's not autistic
I think people take this too literally, I don't see it purely as a housing situation.
No matter where you live, you should be experiencing the world with some vulnerability and challenging yourself, that's how you grow. You won't get to where/who you want to be by remaining stagnant.
Exactly, all I hear are excuses. Guess what my mom passed when I was 15. Been on my own since I was 18, not everyone has the option to milk their parents. It’s sick.
Spike Solas i stayed until 29 paid off all my student loans, credit card, car put 50k in my 401k ...now leaving with a good foundation ...best choice i ever made
Relentless statement. Everybody has reasons they live at home. I'm 35 and live at home simply because I have medical reasons. Doesn't make me less of a person or less competent.
@Spike Solas I'm guessing you're IQ doesn't exceed 90? Or are you a child perhaps? Idiot.
@@redevous Not everyone supports dissolving family/tribal structure to "prove" Independence. We are social creatures bro, have fun putting your parents into an old folks home.
I'm 25, and currently waiting on 2 apartments to have openings (I paid to be on their waiting lists). I guess I'm just a little impatient, due to how society is. There's so many days where I feel embarrassed to still be living with parents, but I don't know, maybe I'm freaking out too much. I work in a career job, and I've been saving up good money too so that I'm financially ready once I finally do get an opening to one of the apartments I've applied for. I guess maybe I'm beating myself up over it for nothing. It just sucks now that I got no choice but to wait :/
You always have a choice. Those 2 apartments aren't the only ones you could move into.
@@BulldogMindsetArchive what's bad about it is, I can't get the money back for them, and out of all the ones I've been looking at, they're the more affordable ones. But you are right, they're not the only ones. Just seems like nobody has openings now because people don't wanna move.
@@BulldogMindsetArchive for an update, I finally got the apartment, just had to wait and be patient. But thanks for the video still
I'm 29. I'm turning 30 next month. I live at home with my mum and sister. Parents divorced when I was 17. I have been living at home for 6 years since I graduated from my bachelor degree. I moved back at the time it seemed the financially smart move to make and I wanted to give myself time to find myself. I haven't moved out yet because I am studying a master's part time in law and I will graduate next year. I was working full time alongside my studies but I recently lost my job to Covid 19. I plan to move out when I finish my degree and hopefully the economy will have improved by then. I'm torn between staying at home and saving to buy my own home or take the plunge and move out. I haven't had the best luck with employment but I don't want to live my life full of regrets.
I'm 34 years old I was living with my ex we broke up now I'm back at my parents house