Jessica's song "Goodbye" was not very popular in the U.S., but rather a big hit in Korea. This may be the reason why the lyrics and melodies of the song are approaching Korean sentiment more loudly. Whenever I listen to this song, I think of a woman who dated before marriage, so I miss and feel sorry for that time. I wonder how she is doing. Everyone's gone, and now I miss them all.
Idk man… i had this exact experience with a guy I was dating. It really sucks when someone feels so unworthy of love that it distorts their perception so badly and causes them to self-sabotage. They can’t seem to get out of that lack mentality… they’re so consumed by their fears and doubts. They don’t love themselves, and no matter how much you tell them and show them that they are worthy and that you love them, they’ll never believe it. They will never be able to truly receive love until they find it in themselves and decide to stop feeding into fear and doubt… and start having faith. There’s a lot of healing to be done… but what they also can’t seem to under is that… they can heal alongside someone who loves them if they take their time and don’t give up so easily. That’s the frustrating part, but you can’t make someone be ready to opening their heart and be vulnerable. They have to want it. And I do have a lot of empathy for the people who have this kind of trauma around love and are avoidant- to an extent. Because we all have trauma around love… welcome to the club! What I don’t have respect for, is someone who knows they’re not ready to open up… yet still goes around dating… making people fall in love with them… and breaking hearts needlessly. Stop igniting love inside someone you have no intention on loving correctly!!!! That’s COWARDLY and SELFISH and CARELESS! These lyrics are exactly what the guy I was dating told me after 8 months of dating. I can give you some insight and further perspective on what this does and how it feels to the person who’s on the receiving end of this exact message…. Because I have been in this exact situation. So, this is what I hear the song saying: •“I can see the pain living in your eyes… and I know how hard you try” (but oh, I’m not going to try at all. Whoops, sorry.) •“You deserve to have so much more” (oh but, yea… you’re not deserving enough for me to step up… oh and… I knew all along that you deserved more, but… I didn’t care enough to do that for you. WHOOPS again.) •“I can feel your hurt and I sympathize” (yea because I hurt you in the exact same way someone hurt me… but I did it to you away… OOPS!) •“I’ll never criticize all you ever meant in my life” (that’s because I have nothing to criticize about you… you wanted to give me your love and you had faith in me, and all I could do was TAKE from you… I never intended to GIVE. I squandered your love and threw your love away like it was trash. Oops. MY BAD) •“I don’t want to let you down” (oh but that’s exactly what I’m doing. I’m showing you that you’re not worth fighting for. Whoops!) •“I don’t wana lead you on” (oh but I did, by letting you believe you could have faith in me. whoops again!!!) •“I don’t wana hold you back” (oh but I did waste your time, because I’m selfish and I wanted the validation your love and effort was giving me soooo that’s why I kept giving you false hope. oopsie) •“I would rather hurt myself than make you cry” (ohhh… yaaa this is just another excuse I tell myself to feel better… to make me feel like I’m doing the right thing… to convince myself I’m doing this because I’m being selfless. I can’t own up to the fact that I’m just a coward and a bullsh*tter…so, I have to convince myself that I’m a martyr so that I’ll never have to change and actually try to be a better person and do right by you. I know I’m hurting you, and you’re probably going to cry… oopsie daisy!) •”You deserve a chance of the kind of love I’m not sure I’m worthy of.” (I meannnn, I could try to heal, but I won’t. And, this is just another excuse I willingly tell myself in order to perpetuate my lack mentality. I’m secretly in love with my sadness and pain, and I don’t plan on changing… because the only way to feel worthy is by stopping my negative thoughts that are filled with fear and doubt… I’d need to let go of my self-limiting beliefs… but ehhh, that’s too hard… its easier for me to keep choosing fear and doubt instead of optimism and trust. SORRY BOUT THAT) •”losing you is painful for me” (again, this is all about me. I’m the real victim here. I’m in love with my misery… I’m my own oppressor… I am a glutton for sorrow. I harvest and spread sorrow. Willingly. But I’ll never be that honest with myself, that’s not the kind of pain I like. I’m a contradiction.” •“There’s nothing left to say” (actually, I should admit I’m a coward… and give you proper closure, but I won’t, because I’d rather take the easy way out and just walk away and feel sorry for myself and make this all about me. Whoops sorry about that) •“There’s nothing left to do” (yeaaa, I should have left you alone to begin with… but I didn’t… and… I had no intention on fighting for you in the first place… I knew damn well what I was doing… and now I’ve messed with your head and heart so bad that now you have trauma around love just like I do… because I’m selfish and I rather just leave a trail of destruction behind me. Healing this is too much work that I’m not willing to do. MY BAD…again.) •”Goodbye.” (Thanks for pouring yourself into me… sorry I couldn’t hang once sh*t started to get real. I couldn’t let you get too close to me because I didn’t want you to figure me out and call me on my bs. So, I’m onto the next person I can find with a heart of gold, so that I can rob them of their love for as long as I can… until they start to realize they’re worthy of more… and then I’ll pretend to be a good person by telling them they deserve better than me.. but really, I knew I’d eventually abandon them too. And the cycle will repeat… until I’ve wounded and ruined as many pure hearted people as I can… I’m suffering, so everyone else should too. I won’t stop until I’ve caused so much destruction that the world disintegrates into nothingness. Until it is empty, just like me. My heart is a black void, I only know how to take… I’m ravenously trying to fill my void with other peoples love. I like reward without effort. I’m a villain. A wolf in sheep’s clothing. I gaslight myself and everyone around me by wearing this mask of meekness. But really it’s just my sorry attempt to veil my cowardice under the guise of being a virtuous and righteous person. I need to justify my poor behavior so that I don’t have to truly confront it. I choose to shut down and close off. I choose to be inauthentic. I choose not to take accountability for the depth of the damage I’ve caused. Sorry not sorry. Lol. But uhm, yea… I wish you nothing but the best though! I swear. Remember, you deserve it! Hahaha. Thanks, it’s been fun! See ya, wouldn’t wana be ya!) People need to start doing the inner work necessary to heal. And stop bleeding their traumas onto others! It isn’t fair. And this twisted, toxic mentality isn’t going to get us anywhere as a collective. We’ve all got to do better! We all have to CHOOSE to be better! We are capable of it. I know we are.
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Jessica's song "Goodbye" was not very popular in the U.S., but rather a big hit in Korea. This may be the reason why the lyrics and melodies of the song are approaching Korean sentiment more loudly.
Whenever I listen to this song, I think of a woman who dated before marriage, so I miss and feel sorry for that time. I wonder how she is doing. Everyone's gone, and now I miss them all.
Philippines too
Idk man… i had this exact experience with a guy I was dating. It really sucks when someone feels so unworthy of love that it distorts their perception so badly and causes them to self-sabotage. They can’t seem to get out of that lack mentality… they’re so consumed by their fears and doubts. They don’t love themselves, and no matter how much you tell them and show them that they are worthy and that you love them, they’ll never believe it. They will never be able to truly receive love until they find it in themselves and decide to stop feeding into fear and doubt… and start having faith. There’s a lot of healing to be done… but what they also can’t seem to under is that… they can heal alongside someone who loves them if they take their time and don’t give up so easily. That’s the frustrating part, but you can’t make someone be ready to opening their heart and be vulnerable. They have to want it. And I do have a lot of empathy for the people who have this kind of trauma around love and are avoidant- to an extent. Because we all have trauma around love… welcome to the club!
What I don’t have respect for, is someone who knows they’re not ready to open up… yet still goes around dating… making people fall in love with them… and breaking hearts needlessly. Stop igniting love inside someone you have no intention on loving correctly!!!! That’s COWARDLY and SELFISH and CARELESS!
These lyrics are exactly what the guy I was dating told me after 8 months of dating. I can give you some insight and further perspective on what this does and how it feels to the person who’s on the receiving end of this exact message…. Because I have been in this exact situation. So, this is what I hear the song saying:
•“I can see the pain living in your eyes… and I know how hard you try” (but oh, I’m not going to try at all. Whoops, sorry.)
•“You deserve to have so much more” (oh but, yea… you’re not deserving enough for me to step up… oh and… I knew all along that you deserved more, but… I didn’t care enough to do that for you. WHOOPS again.)
•“I can feel your hurt and I sympathize” (yea because I hurt you in the exact same way someone hurt me… but I did it to you away… OOPS!)
•“I’ll never criticize all you ever meant in my life” (that’s because I have nothing to criticize about you… you wanted to give me your love and you had faith in me, and all I could do was TAKE from you… I never intended to GIVE. I squandered your love and threw your love away like it was trash. Oops. MY BAD)
•“I don’t want to let you down” (oh but that’s exactly what I’m doing. I’m showing you that you’re not worth fighting for. Whoops!)
•“I don’t wana lead you on” (oh but I did, by letting you believe you could have faith in me. whoops again!!!)
•“I don’t wana hold you back” (oh but I did waste your time, because I’m selfish and I wanted the validation your love and effort was giving me soooo that’s why I kept giving you false hope. oopsie)
•“I would rather hurt myself than make you cry” (ohhh… yaaa this is just another excuse I tell myself to feel better… to make me feel like I’m doing the right thing… to convince myself I’m doing this because I’m being selfless. I can’t own up to the fact that I’m just a coward and a bullsh*tter…so, I have to convince myself that I’m a martyr so that I’ll never have to change and actually try to be a better person and do right by you. I know I’m hurting you, and you’re probably going to cry… oopsie daisy!)
•”You deserve a chance of the kind of love I’m not sure I’m worthy of.” (I meannnn, I could try to heal, but I won’t. And, this is just another excuse I willingly tell myself in order to perpetuate my lack mentality. I’m secretly in love with my sadness and pain, and I don’t plan on changing… because the only way to feel worthy is by stopping my negative thoughts that are filled with fear and doubt… I’d need to let go of my self-limiting beliefs… but ehhh, that’s too hard… its easier for me to keep choosing fear and doubt instead of optimism and trust. SORRY BOUT THAT)
•”losing you is painful for me” (again, this is all about me. I’m the real victim here. I’m in love with my misery… I’m my own oppressor… I am a glutton for sorrow. I harvest and spread sorrow. Willingly. But I’ll never be that honest with myself, that’s not the kind of pain I like. I’m a contradiction.”
•“There’s nothing left to say” (actually, I should admit I’m a coward… and give you proper closure, but I won’t, because I’d rather take the easy way out and just walk away and feel sorry for myself and make this all about me. Whoops sorry about that)
•“There’s nothing left to do” (yeaaa, I should have left you alone to begin with… but I didn’t… and… I had no intention on fighting for you in the first place… I knew damn well what I was doing… and now I’ve messed with your head and heart so bad that now you have trauma around love just like I do… because I’m selfish and I rather just leave a trail of destruction behind me. Healing this is too much work that I’m not willing to do. MY BAD…again.)
•”Goodbye.” (Thanks for pouring yourself into me… sorry I couldn’t hang once sh*t started to get real. I couldn’t let you get too close to me because I didn’t want you to figure me out and call me on my bs. So, I’m onto the next person I can find with a heart of gold, so that I can rob them of their love for as long as I can… until they start to realize they’re worthy of more… and then I’ll pretend to be a good person by telling them they deserve better than me.. but really, I knew I’d eventually abandon them too. And the cycle will repeat… until I’ve wounded and ruined as many pure hearted people as I can… I’m suffering, so everyone else should too. I won’t stop until I’ve caused so much destruction that the world disintegrates into nothingness. Until it is empty, just like me. My heart is a black void, I only know how to take… I’m ravenously trying to fill my void with other peoples love. I like reward without effort. I’m a villain. A wolf in sheep’s clothing. I gaslight myself and everyone around me by wearing this mask of meekness. But really it’s just my sorry attempt to veil my cowardice under the guise of being a virtuous and righteous person. I need to justify my poor behavior so that I don’t have to truly confront it. I choose to shut down and close off. I choose to be inauthentic. I choose not to take accountability for the depth of the damage I’ve caused. Sorry not sorry. Lol. But uhm, yea… I wish you nothing but the best though! I swear. Remember, you deserve it! Hahaha. Thanks, it’s been fun! See ya, wouldn’t wana be ya!)
People need to start doing the inner work necessary to heal. And stop bleeding their traumas onto others! It isn’t fair. And this twisted, toxic mentality isn’t going to get us anywhere as a collective. We’ve all got to do better! We all have to CHOOSE to be better! We are capable of it. I know we are.
Wow ! What a voice !
David Salem it’s cool voice
I love this song!
yeah! beautiful song!!!
I have worked in Lotte Department store in Hanoi, this mall always plays this song ❤
ur so Beautiful 💓
Came from Modern Farmer ❤️ love From India ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I loved it !! 🥰♥️❤️🌹💞💕🎤
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I love this pop song so i can sing this song
U remind me when I was in shillong
Even me
I like popsong
Music song
Dk