@@Hannahdavistheslavemassait's a grift, it's dog whistling, it's posturing, and gaining clout and money off of it. It's ok, she "works for the money". Not unlike her feminist sisters. 🤑😅💪
Agreed which technically makes her more of an idiot. She works full time AND does all the housework. She’s doing too much to please her old man who would probably still stay with her even if she doesn’t cook everyday.
I’m very upset the love don’t judge allowed her to be on their platform. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being a homemaker and getting paid for it, I think that that’s a wonderful agreement. But sitting around telling women who are feminist that they’re clowns and they can’t be homemakers? That’s messed up. I am against anti-feminism. Do you believe in equal rights for all? Then you’re a feminist. It is not more complicated than that and I’m tired of the media acting like it is more complicated than that.
@@darcyroycethis is how marriages had always been, that’s why they stood the test of time. Bonds are cemented by sense of duty and the bigger picture. The Hollywood love garbage is highly unsustainable and has proven to be the death of the family unit. Romantic love comes and goes .
Being a wife shouldn't be hard,you shouldn't be a push over ,out of "love", how has that been working for women? Because the divorce rate is not that low
This the same woman who divorced her husband and went after his major in the army while she was in the army? Isnt that called fraternization???? LMAOOOOO
But her whole existence is paid for. That 100 bucks is for her to spend on little things she may want. She doesn't need the latest makeup and trashy outfits from fashionnova.
@@BasedTruth oh doesn’t she? She gets to be cheap thanks to her husband 😂 this is why most women choose to work now. We don’t need a man dictating to us what we NEED
@Oooooo And gets the pension, and the inheritance of shared property due to having his child, and then, still young enough to remarry if she chooses? Oh man. What a horrible deal. 🙄
@@coreyc3093 so you acknowledge that that was the whole point of marrying the grandpa in the first place. got it. there is no love or god in this woman's relationship. i think shes in for a world of pain and suffering. how do you know she'll remarry when shes in her 40s? her value will be significantly depleted and she will be uglier and fatter than she already is. she is wasting her time in my opinion but oh well she is stuck now. shes completely screwed because she gave up her financial independence. oh wait that is actually a lie because she grifts on youtube selling marriage advice
Easy to brag when you're in the early stages of being a housewife. Do an update in 20 years and we'll see if shes still wants to glorify her life choices.
@@whatdididotodeservethis1419 Her husband is a try athlete and an ex soldier. I doubt he'll ever stop exercising and he'll stay in good shape and healthy for the rest of his life. This significantly lowers his chances of having to be taken care of. My grandmother is 84, if she doesn't go into the forest regularly to forage mushrooms, berries, herbs or just to walk, she feels bad.
Actually the only marriages that last 20 or more years are the traditional ones were the wife embraces being submissive according to biblical principles
Exactly! I'm not saying she's going to be miserable in this lifestyle. She might have a great future ahead of her. But again, we have to remember why feminism became a thing in the first place. If you have a good man... great! And if he continues to be a good man until death do you part, even better!! But how many women, especially young ones, get tricked by a man who is a narcissist and a control freak? How many women have had their men lose a job, become an alcoholic and then abusive? How many women have been cheated on, emotionally abused, become married "single mothers" and that dreamy lifestyle falls apart and they can't get out on their own? How many women have had their men drop them entirely for a younger woman, put them out of the house with the kids, and with no credit/education/job skills find themselves single with kids struggling to make ends meet? And worse, how many woman have spent their entire lives building their husband's dream life then he dies and she finds out there's no savings and he didn't even care enough about her future to buy life insurance?? Now she's stuck with debt, has to sell the house and try to make ends meet on social security with no savings of her own?? I'm just saying... she has a bit of an advantage because she has a successful UA-cam channel. I just hope she has her own bank account. I hope she bought a life insurance policy on him. And I hope he doesn't change when he works from home and has to deal with screaming children running around the house. I hope he wants to be a participating father so she doesn't feel like she's doing everything alone. But whether you're a working mother or a SAHM, your future is still a roll of the dice. It's better to maintain a certain amount of control over your choices and financial future. Hopefully, she's smart enough to do that... otherwise her present dream could turn into a nightmare in 20 years.
The biggest red flag is that she closed all of her accts and now it's all in his name and he can see all she spends. That's just a little weird to me. I tried to do the whole house wife thing, and it didn't work out at all. I was talked down to because I didn't work. Even after I did work, I was still expected to do everything. Nope. Now, I have an amazing partner who works from home and he will still help me with the house. I'm a stay at home mom, and he understands that being a stay at home mom is not easy, it's just as much of a job. I am so much happier.
She seems pretty smug about her relationship status. I hope they work out - for the sake of that child's financial future. It's a precarious position to be totally reliant on someone like Alyssa is
“I’m just trying to save these women, these ungrateful women.” Yikes, it’s almost like not every woman is the same or has the same goals in life or something 👀
I did/do that too. I’ve been with him for 15 years. Wait till he switches it up on you. And adds some rules you are not ok with. We have a 5 yr old. And I scheduled our first date nite in over 5 years. Arranged child care, etc. He then decided to have his mom and sister visit that day and evening. I’m embarrassed at how little he thinks of me and my feelings. After I’ve done everything I can do for him, cook,clean, stay fit and looking good at 43. And it still not enough to secure myself a date with my own husband. When I confronted him about why he did this he looked at me like I was crazy and said they could go out with us if they wanted too😂. Yes they can and I can choose to walk away and finally am.
There's a certain degree of boldness and foolishness that the inexperienced individual shows that makes them both endearing and annoying. I have less patience for selfishness today and they as a couple seem to be on the higher end of that spectrum. Otherwise, I'm glad you are in a good place, I wish you peace and confidence moving forward. ❤️🙏
Thats the thing about the traditional housewife role that no one wants to talk about. Because its so rare in the west now it becomes glorified especially by men in the west because they are the ones so desperate to attain this that they do it with a level of delusion and assume that because shes still married and because shes being provided for therefore she must automatically be 'happy'. Try asking the people who this life is the norm for. I'm Pakistani and in our culture women have always predominately been housewives even up until recently. My mother, aunts from both sides, older female cousins, grandmother etc were/are housewives. And yet so many of the modern day Pakistanis are rebelling against it and are choosing to work now, most of them doing so with the backing of their mothers. Why? If its supposedly meant to be the roles that makes women so happy? Because many of us know the depressing truth. Being a housewife serves at the benefit of the husband and children because it comes at the cost of her being a free, underappreciated, overused servant. The irony is if a man actually hired a nanny to raise his children and a chef to cook his meals and a cleaner to clean his house he would more than likely be more grateful and more respectful towards his employees and pay them more than $100 a week and not compare them to their mothers...
@@Myview246so true. Someone who has never felt like a trapped animal, can never understand the ecstasy of buying your own car, paying your own rent and settling your head on your own pillow at the end of the day. Where no one else can take that pillow away and belittle you.
You know what’s so hilarious is that a bunch of men really like her because she is a red pill UA-camr. It’s so funny to think of how her audience must have reacted to seeing how her husband looks like.
My dear God. I cannot believe she said that “feminism was completely unnecessary.” Did she forget that marital rape was legal until a few decades ago? That women couldn’t have their own bank account til the 70s? That you would have to stay with an abusive and cheating husband until you found another man to save you? If she wants to be a homemaker that’s fine but she should think before glorifying it as the only option.
She wouldn't even be able to cash in those YT monies without a bank account which *newsflash* feminism made possible. People have such selective memory!
Don't heed the men trolling in the comments. They are doing an angry because they cannot get away pulling whatever shit they used to as easily anymore. Otherwise they would have left it to women if it was such a heavenly life. They are scared of women having the choice to leave.
@@alanmoreno2482 Yes cuz that's the only dream for women lol. She herself has her own money and career by pandering to insecure men and lost women. Feminism allowed her to be on YT making content. Otherwise she would wake up at dawn and do backbreaking labour till midnight when women did not have any agency at all. I have seen plenty of miserable women in my mother's, grandmother's as well as my own generation with "marriage" and "family" as they had no financial independence. Slavery serves the masters well, not the slaves. Plenty of independent women are also married with family. She is just milking insecure men who want things back the way it was because they fail compared to secure, more evolved men.
This woman seems to validate her relationship choices by pointing fingers at other women....she is the perfect example that proves why only women are the enemy of other women.
Let's say you're right. She still is right, too. The choices westernized women are making are not working, it's destroyed relationships, child rearing and development, made marriage a non-option for most men, and has broken down society in general. Neighborhoods full of single moms in rented homes is not the way.
@@sarcodonblue2876 Studies show that domestic V is nearly symmetrical between men and women. But that fact is never mentioned because then demonizing men would be much harder to do.
You had the right idea until that complete nonsense at the end. Men are women's largest predator. The patriarchal structure of society/ history. They commit the majority of violent crimes (that's against both other men and women), check the statistics. To see just how much hate men have for women you need only look at everything happening in Texas in the U.S., reversal of Roe v Wade even at the expense of the woman's life in emergency situations, and many other situations. You pointed out her internalized misogyny then turned right around and were misogynistic yourself.
I was ok for the most part until the last part where she just spitted out rough judgements about women who don’t live her lifestyle and then casually putting the words “love don’t judge” next to them. Ngl laughed out loud.
Yeah, I don’t mind this lifestyle and I’m glad she’s doing it with problems, but the way she acts towards feminists leaves a bad taste in my mouth, like I don’t get the point of putting down other women and want them to live the same life
This young lady obviously has a set opinion of what life as a woman should look like. I will give her another 10 years and see if her view is still the same. 🤔
@@Veryvery987 Easy. The institution of no fault contest divorce, abortion/birth control and third wave feminism indoctrination. This has encouraged modern women in the West to hit the eject button for far lesser reasons than their grandmothers and great grandmothers who preceded them. It used to be that people didn’t engage in reckless premarital sex on a regular with whomever, having a child out of wedlock was utterly shameful, and divorce unheard of. Well, when the modern aforementioned conventions were introduced, this behavior became much more prevalent, and the incentive for a woman to leave the bonds of matrimony increased. And the results are in -- since these conventions were adopted (roughly 60 years ago) divorces have skyrocketed in western countries where this is the norm. And this isn’t a hate of women. This has been studied extensively. Think about it. If you could have all of the ‘free sex’ you wanted without shame, keep or kill a fetus at will, and marry and divorce (and be awarded spousal support and child support at a rate of over 90%) when convenient - how likely would it be that you’d stay in a relationship when things got ‘hard’’, because marriage is not easy and certainly not a fairytale. Again, not hating, but this is crystal clear. If a study could be done in a vacuum with the factors I mentioned above being absent, you would see little to no out of wedlock births, and marriages that stayed together. And really, this is just common sense. We know this because it can be seen in poor (Africa, Nicaragua) or overly patriarchal (China, Middle East, etc) countries and continents. They don’t have these opportunities and don’t experience the resulting aftermath.
"I had no idea how nice it would be to have a maid who has sex with me. 😱" I'm a feminist. I support her pursuit of happiness. But of course he's going to like having someone who does everything for him. Almost everyone would like a maid sometimes. Edit after finishing the video: I find her unlikable. I'm fine with her doing whatever makes her happy in life, such as being a stay at home spouse and parent. That's great if it's what she wants. I do have a problem with the fact that she doesn't afford the same flexibility in allowing other women to pursue their version of happiness. Not all women would be happy doing what she's doing. Not all women want to be married, have children, or have a male partner. Calling other women delusional, ungrateful, or clowns for not wanting the same dynamic is almost certainly why she gets hate online and not because she chooses to take care of her home instead of working at an office. Everyone should be allowed to pursue their happiest lives as long as they don't hurt others in the process. She is rather hateful toward anyone who chooses a different path. It's pretty revolting. Good for her for finding what makes her happy, but she should not invalidate what makes others happy or put them down to raise herself up. Plus, she threw in the fat-phobia and anti-childfree remark at the end. That's gross.
@@kc6810 Exactly! It’s sick that they believe that all women are biologically hardwired to be happiest living this lifestyle. As if all women want to be without a career outside of the home and with children while being subservient to her husband. They act as though their lifestyle is the only possible option. She speaks about ‘saving these ungrateful women’ as if financially independent women are in need of her help lol 😅
@@kc6810 I think it is so arrogant that they believe women who do not want to live like they do need her help. She thinks that any woman not living ‘traditionally’ is going to be overweight, depressed and childless (as if being childless is something appalling!)
@@BasedTruth who are you to tell us what we do and don’t need?? Men waste money too and y’all say nothing about that. Lmao this is why most women are refusing to be housewives. I’d rather have my own money than live on a cheapskate weekly income.
@@michaeladelong7315what? Men do not love women? Bro. I very much dislike Alyssa’s opinions she is exactly what I fear of becoming. But duddddee don’t generalize men and women like that. That’s how we all got here in the first place. That’s why this problem exists.
@@lovenkind8180 when women have equal pay & a myriad of equalities we deserve, then you can say that. The patriarchy runs deep. Even wuth the good guys out there.
🚨The TRUTH is that her first husband, Aly & this current husband were ALL in the military; her CURRENT HUSBAND was her husband’s SUPERIOR in the army & she knew that this was going to be a SERIOUS FINANCIAL UPGRADE.She pursued her her current husband while still married to her first husband (of 5 years)… and she was discharged. THE END
I'm all for doing what works for you. The only thing that makes me uncomfortable is that he pays her. I am a housewife and my husband and I share all accounts. He does not write me a check. It's weird. We have a budget
It's pocket money, it works for them, except! He controls ehat she spends it on. That's effed up, and also very typical for the transactional foundation of their arrangement.
She seems so pleased with herself.... like she's figured something out and being a homemaker for a man 2 decades older and giving him a child is something clearly everyone should be aiming for... amazing how people think what works for them clearly is some blanket blueprint for everyone else.
You sound like the feminists she’s talking about 😂 oh no!!! A happily married couple 😢 how terrible. We should all just be hooking up and dropping our bastard kids off at school then daycare
@@JanieBee 😂😂I don't agree with her life it's not for me but you are right the femz need to chill because this woman is obviously happy so good for her!!
I always feel sad for these types of women. Like babe you do you! I love that you're happy with your lifestyle but the fact that you get to choose it it's thanks to feminism. Just because you feel confortable with how things were back in the day it doesn't mean that everyone else was, and to ignore other women's suffering doesn't make you any better than them. If you don't want people to hate on you don't hate on others.❤
And isn't this the kindest way to go about in life, in general!? It is... Resistance comes from making people feel that they don't belong, that their contributions have no inherent value, that they don't matter... It makes no difference who treats you this way, just know that they're in the wrong, and you matter. You're seen, and appreciated. ❤
No she wasn't able to chose how she lives her life because of feminism. She could chose how to live her life because of the patriarchy, because men enforce her rights, women can't. Without enforcement, women's rights or any right or law for that matter doesn't exist in practice, just in theory.
This woman is deeply insecure. And it’s not necessarily because of her views, it’s how she expresses them and how vehemently she clings to them. This goes for women who hold the exact opposite viewpoint as well.
Most of us feminists don't judge women for their choices. I know I don't anyway. You wanna be a housewife then be a housewife, whatever works for you works for you. But being arrogant enough to think your way of living is right and everyone else is wrong is one massive COPE.
@@jorge-7121it’s “rampant” now because women don’t have to be silenced when their husband is abusive or just unfit. women would get proposed to after like 3 months of dating, and then be stuck in a lifelong relationship with a man they weren’t truly happy with. we don’t feel trapped anymore. do you know how many housewives drowned themselves in bathtubs before the 1960s? simply because divorce was so taboo that they’d rather die than propose it.
@@oliviascarlet123 stop the BS, statistics show women are the most abusive in relationships, stop reading feminist propaganda and start educating yourself in reality (true history and statistics)
@@jorge-7121 that’s your problem, you’re so caught up on the blame game. it doesn’t matter which sex is statistically more abusive. men or women deserve to get a divorce if they aren’t happy, and should’ve always been given that option. if divorce hadn’t been so taboo in the past, it would’ve been used a lot more often. HUMANS being given the option of divorce thanks to the feminist movement is a wonderful thing.
@@oliviascarlet123 Oh, now that you have been caugth in your lies, suddenly blame doesnt matter, after 60 years of feminism liying and blaming men for everything, such an hypocrite
Ok, I don't think there's anything wrong with a traditional marriage if that's what couples want to do and it makes them happy. I think the real problem is that she wants to push this on others and it's ignorant to say "men love women so much, they would've freed us eventually" we were beaten, disrespected, killed, raped and not allowed to vote or work. That wasn't love, that was power and cruelty towards women. You mean to tell me that is loving a women and we would've been freed after all of that? We freed ourselves because we knew we weren't gonna be freed otherwise. Men back then didn't do crap.
While I'm all for women who want to have a traditional lifestyle or adhering to gender roles being able to do so freely, what I just saw made me sick to my stomach. Literally everything about this is a red flag and you could easily fall into an abusive situation if you tried to actually follow her advice.
That would be my point as well. But what do you do when someone is an adult and makes his/her decision knowingly and willingly, and disarms any sensible argument with exercising her human rights!? Nothing... You'll be there if everything comes crashing down. That's all we can do.
@@Naturefan354 That's really cool! I don't have any issues with that. The thing that concerned me about the video is not the fact that she's a stay-at-home mom. I have many loved ones who chose that lifestyle and are happy with it. My main concerns were how her husband got rid of her credit cards and monitors her account as if she's a child, as well as her bizarre obsession with bashing women's rights, or any woman who doesn't want to live the same way that she does. The way she described her views on marriage in such a transactional way also raised an eyebrow for me. I just can't help but wonder what her husband would do to her if later on in her pregnancy she can't clean the house as thoroughly, or if she ever spends more money than he expects of her. 😓
@Colorpan Probably the same thing my husband does when I don't clean, cook or overspend......... .Nothing 😆 Well excuse me, he might complain sometimes but then after venting he does nothing. But my marriage isn't treated only like a transaction without love. Any relationship could be argued is like a transaction on some level though... Quid pro quo if you will
She seems to be so happy to be younger than him. My fiancee is also older than me, but we do not base our identity on the age gap... She seems to boast about being praised by men. She is very full of herself.
I don’t remember “traditional” women ever chirping online about politics lol. I’m pretty much a homemaker right now as I finish college and it brings a lot of value to the relationship, BUT women should be encouraged to be educated and active in their communities. The implications of domesticity are dangerous; that women are less capable/intelligent than men. Patriarchy is not men, patriarchy is an ideology that hurts EVERYONE
Also a homemaker while I finish collage. I'm so happy my boyfriend is supportive of my education. As my first relationship was a violent person and it taught me how important it is woman have choice.
Can I give an extra cheers for this comment!? ❤😂 My sentiments, exactly! She and the social media stepford wives are not representative of all housewives! What they're doing is theatre, it's a show, the not so knock off version of real housewives, d'you know what I mean!? It's sending out some pretty twisted messages for young women and in this sense it's detrimental.
i don't know anyone in real life who is going around saying that women shouldn't be housewives if that's what they want. literally just do whatever you want and let other people do what they want. there is no correct way to live as long as you aren't hurting anyone
It's hard to reconcile this being on a channel called "Love Don't Judge" when half of this video is them judging other people for not being like them. There's a big difference between choosing to live your life in whatever way makes you happy while trying to put happiness back into the world, and using shame and misogyny to try to convince people that your way of life is the only one that works.
“Aren’t you now judging them” OK, that was just the stupidest thing that you could’ve commented. She’s pointing out the hypocrisy. I guess you could “technically “say that we’re judging them. But come on, you know what’s really happening here. We’re just trying to point out that love don’t judge is trying to spread a message and that the person they just allowed on their platform is completely contradicting that message. Should we just not point that out? Just keep letting her spread lies and misinformation about feminism? And tell women who don’t wanna be homemakers that they’re not real women? Because I’m definitely not gonna keep my mouth shut about that.
Their are plenty of stay at home wives. And I don’t knock them for that. Stay at home wife is not for me. I gotta get out the house. if I was to stay at home I’d be working from home. I have a graphic design. If I can work, I’m going to work. That’s just me. The fact she’s putting down other women says a lot about her.
That's to controlling lmao..so let me get this straight..you get 100 dollars and you still have to tell him where you wasted it on 😅😅😅😅...Girllllllllll...noooooo 😅
Right! I personally felt offended when I heard $100/week and he keeps track of her expenses. WTF! What can you even get with $100 nowadays? What a cheap-ass control freak!
Whatever works for every individual and makes them happy. Works for them, good for them. My only issue is when these women then turn around and judge women who don't want the same thing
@@samuelrigaud6595they didn't have a choice, it was either, get married or be socially outcast. Not to mention that by the time they hit old age, many of them were unhappy and regretful, for having been stripped of their agency and opportunities this way.
I’m not sure she understands where feminism stemmed from and it’s beliefs, or is she’s getting her ideas based of extremists-but I think the main idea here is to do what makes you happy. Personally I would go insane being at home all the time, but I’m sure others thrive in that environment and that’s great! Can we as human beings just stop bashing other’s lives if they’re not hurting us or other people? Everyone is different and the same thing isn’t going to fit in every relationship, the world is so crappy let’s just all root for each others happiness, we have enough negativity as it it 😅
ua-cam.com/video/V8QgjbPeESg/v-deo.html A very informative video about the formation of Feminism. Feminism has always been a supremacy movement. It's simply been more out of hand as such vvomen demand more privileges. Even over 100 years ago with the suffragettes the history we learned about them was from a rose colored lens. Suffragettes were domestic terrorists as the men were coming home from World War I. They bombed buildings and burned and destroyed businesses. Of course this couldn't have been done without men as they used their men allied to them as strong arms to intimidate business owners where they would be held against their will and beaten as the vvomen destroyed their business or home. Even in 1848 with the formation of feminists at Seneca falls it's always been about female privilege in regards to things they never earned.
She Is A House Wife That's Nothing New But Imo All Housewives Are Deserving Of Alittle Monatery Compensation 😄😄😄 Good Arrangement Cuz It Works For Them 🤗👍🏼💞🙏🏼
A lot of feminists over the years have argued that women should be paid for their domestic labour. She should not be bashing all feminists here while doing what they advocated women to do!
@@NarniaVonNeumannI don't even think it's misinformation. I think it's genuine conditioning and lack of understanding, logical, historical, and social.
ok but "I wouldn’t say that I’m a feminist at all. I think feminism was all bad, men love women so much that I think they would have liberated us after they were fully liberated anyway." is incredibly disrespectful
Yea I think everyone in the comments is being too nice to her. Nothing wrong with being a housewife, but saying statements like that is so disrespectful towards the brave women who fought for our rights
“I wouldn’t say that I’m a feminist at all. I think feminism was all bad, men love women so much that I think they would have liberated us after they were fully liberated anyway“ wtf. Everything else was good and glad it’s working out for them, but for her to say that, makes me think if she really knows our history. There is nothing wrong with woman waiting the same respect and things as men. I mean, when woman started fighting for our rights that we have now, most men fought against it. Asking “ do you really need that”. Also wtf was that comment: “ I’m trying to help these woman, these ungrateful woman” . But I’m glad she found someone that had the same values as her.
Yeah, she sending a completely wrong message about feminism and homemaking. She has miss information about feminism and is using her own experiences with men to create an idea of what it’s like for every woman in this world. It’s a common thing that women who don’t go through a lot of abuse do. They think “well I’ve never been abused by a man so obviously other women are just ungrateful” I also think it’s hilarious how love don’t judge is allowing her to use their platform when her entire argument is basically judging women who don’t want to live the kind of life that she lives. She spreading hate speech and misinformation about feminism. Saying that the wage gap is a myth? That’s a lie. I just took a woman studies class in college last year and learned about the actual wage gap history, and what it is now. I think that it’s great that she has the relationship that she has, it’s great that they’re happy, but it’s completely wrong for her to say the things that she saying about feminism. You can be a homemaker and a feminist.
Feminism is truly evil and has helped women destroy ourselves, and now it’s working on the men. No little girl grows up thinking she wants to be a single cat lady who just scrolls through tinder to find a bunch of new sex partners every week so she can just work for herself and be…by herself. That is the reality feminism is forcing women into unknowingly. And what’s sad is that the older women who LIVED this and realize what they did still won’t tell us young girls the game. Older women just wait for you to fall too….so glad that Women like Aly can stand up and dispel the idea that feminism is the only way.
My wife is a homemaker by choice and I am the earner. I would never pay her a cent for doing so. She made it very clear anyway from day one, everything that is hers is hers, and everything that is mine is hers.
Why are these on the show? There are literally thousands of housewives out there…thousands. I can name a lot of them, including myself. It’s a normal thing. Better to be at home taking care of the kids rather than someone else. Not to mention the high cost of daycare. Need 2 jobs just to pay for daycare
$100 a week, isn’t that a bit low? It’s like she’s on an allowance from her father. My husband is just that, my husband, my partner, father to my kids, etc. Not my employer. Being a housewife isn’t what I find weird, it’s the $100 weekly allowances.
I feel like maybe she lost her dignity and respect… that is not a relationship, it’s just a business contract… it look like she’s stuck in the 1950’s like I Love Lucy or Leave to Beaver where the women cooks and clean and pleases her man and he’s just controlling and she has limited independence or she’s In the Handmaiden’s Tale. But that is her choice, I feel like it’s a dumbest, ludicrous choice, but it’s her choice and she’s young, but by the time she hit in 40’s or 50’s a light 💡 bulb will come on and it’s gonna hit her like bolt of lighting. Then it will be to late.
I am a staunch feminist. It would go against what I would believe if I told this woman how to live her life because that is the main idea of feminism: allowing a woman to have the freedom to live the life she wants to. However, the only time I would start having issues is if she would say "all women should live like this." But to each their own! Happy for her if this is what makes her happy!
I no one should tell a woman how to live their life, definitely not her. I think it’s great that she’s a homemaker and that her husband pays her to do it and they have an agreement. That’s wonderful. But she’s spreading lies and hate speech about feminism. And that’s the wrong way to go about it. Do you believe in equal rights for all? Then your feminist. It is not more complicated than that, don’t make it more complicated. She saying that the wage gap is a myth and that’s a lie. I am all for people having a right to be whatever they want to be, but I am completely against anti-feminism. It’s misinformation and hate speech.
Nope. The problem is that many women and men think feminism means women’s rights but that’s not what it is or what it stands for anymore. It is about superiority and the domination and subjugation of non-trans men (and now biological women)!! It’s honestly all about preventing more families and children from being born. Anti- freedom, Abortion, Transgenderism, advocating, and gay marriage and women being single, miserable and infertile.. is what it’s about. Go feminism!! 😂
Do you live under a rock? I have a minor in women’s gender and sexuality studies aka feminism. Aly’s interpretation of feminism is spot on. A lot of us ex feminist women are just that, ex feminists. Which means we fully understand feminism. Just because someone disagrees with feminism doesn’t mean they are uneducated. It’s as if people can’t have their own opinions or something.
I really don't understand how she won. She married a man old enough to be her father. She's now having grandpas baby and we all have to aspire to do that?
She looks at her husband as an employer. Being a housewife and wifely duties is her job. Too bad she closed her accounts. I think financial independence is important even when you’re married. God forbid the relationship goes south, bc then she is completely screwed.
The theme here seems to be that the lady has chosen this man to be her boss rather than having traditional employment. She also said that in employment she can be fired but her husband cannot fire, however that is incorrect he can fire her and that is called divorce. She may also become redundant for example if he dies or if she has an accident rendering her incapable of performing her current KPIs. I would advise her to look closely at contract and see what provisions are made for these circumstances.
Yea but he's clearly not divorcing her hes very much in love and if he does she will get alimony im sure. Shes a housewife who doesn't work. The ball is in her court he knows that and so does she.
Well, everyone else will be divorced and alone by 50, she will also be alone cause her hubby will be dead. Hopefully there will be someone to pay for her expenses then. She complains about judgement while she is super judgemental, calling people clowns etc. Recently she wanted to buy herself raspberry tea and she had to ask her husband to fix it, must be really annoying to not be able to purchase anything on your own
😅 She's so judgemental and defensive. I'm married, multiple children. I consider myself a feminist. I don't get her judgement and criticism of other women. I legitimately could care less what some random woman decides works for her family. 🤣
@@channel08er criticism goes to herself and even her own mother. Just from that interaction, she seemed not exactly individuated of mum's opinion, so she's running on that fuel still. It's ok, live and let live and be less preachy about other women's experiences of womanhood. That's what she's called out on, not her choice to live her life as she pleases. It's her demeaning other women for doing so.
I was prepared to come in here and say I don't see the problem. However, the wife isn't likeable at all. She is what we call a "pick-me", aka "Im not like those other girls". Also, $100/week is an allowance, not wages.
She’s very likable to me and to tons of other men. She’s not a “pick-me” because she also walks the walk. She doesn’t just talk about it like other women who sell you the idea but once they marry you they completely forget about the arrangement. They do whatever they feel like doing, and that’s not good. Have fun busting your ass 40+ hours a week for another man who doesn’t love you and who would replace you at the drop of a hat. After 30 years you can retire and come home to an empty house 👍🏼
Are you kidding me? She gets mortgage, gas, electric, phone bills paid as well as health insurance from HER MAN and he gives her money that SHE asked for because SHE’S financially frugal and you think she doesn’t have it made??? Wow this is the feminism she speaks of
I mean this makes sense. In nature, men will choose young women because obviously older women can't have kids and women choose the best provider they can find. But we aren't animals so not everyone HAS to live this way and people don't and that's totally fine. She's kinda judgemental for no reason.
There are underlying, deeply embedded reasons, alright, but her husband is not paying me to unpack them, so live and let live! Also, those biological reasons are the weakest, statistically unsignificant argument that they bring up - folks, society has moved on! We moved on from those primitive conceptualizations, so not true that all men and women want, think, act or aspire to the conditions you mentioned. Some do, and they're welcome to live as they wish, but stop trying to push a propaganda, brainwash our youth, and dictate reality for others - and that goes for everyone, the political left as well.
@@darcyroyce I literally just said "we aren't animals, and not everyone has to live this way, and people don't that totally fine" you weirdo. I NEVER pushed any propaganda, you're weird as hell for not reading my entire comment yet replying like you know anything about it. Weirdoooo
In nature, virtually no man was married past 30 even in the year 1960 - over 90% of men were married by 25. The remaining 10% were losers 3% never married. Look up the stats -- young women have nevr chosen old men. and the divorce rate for a gap lke this one is over 250% o
Uptight vibes tho, hope they get more relaxed when the focus is there on the kid, also they are both very logical, needs work on other facets aswell, but idk thats how the media bias preyed upon me. Hope it naturally comes when the years come
God I would never judge house wives, I think it's great when two people fit each other's needs and agree and communicate but like one type of relationship doesn't work for everyone. They seem happy and healthy excellent for them but like, it's so weird to judge people who don't want the same. You can't act like people are attacking you if you're criticizing others for not participating in your lifestyle.
@@Wilky_27 she literally sells marriage advice 50$ a pop as a divorced 28 year old with a rich old grandad hubby. who was her and her ex's military superior by the way. she is redpill grift. her being on this channel alone is sus. if she were such a trad wife she wouldnt be chronically online like all the rest of the women she judges.
When I was pregnant I sat with my feet up. Didn't cook for anyone for over a year, my family or husband did it and for a short while we even hired help to look after the house. I guess my life was better than hers.
Aly is contradicting herself. She does not wish to be judged but she judges feminists clearly. She sounded a tad condescending while doing it so yeah...she judges those who judge her. She claims not to work a traditional job yet she runs a UA-cam channel which does bring in income from working. So that's not quite accurate for her to claim either. The other problem is her very pragmatic view of marriage (the husband appears to be the same) It's a business arrangement first before anything else...if there is an anything else. Aly mostly spoke in a very measured monotone voice. She almost sounded like a recording asking you to "Please hold, the next available associate will be with you shortly..." She has all of the passion and warmth of a copy machine...that's married to a Texas Instruments calculator. If these two are satisfied business associates (or customers) in this relationship then I suppose that's what matters, and by all means they're both entitled to live as they please...however...as I've already demonstrated above... Aly is kinda full of crap. That's not judgement...it's an opinion supported by evidence.
Yes.. i agree. She comes across very condescending. The thing that gets me with her is, if it wasnt for feminism that military career she had would have been a no.
and she’s acting like we should aspire to be her like she lost me when this man was 23 years older than her, yikes and they’re bringing a kid into this terrible dynamic. I’m definitely judging because instead of selling me on why her relationship works, she just shit on feminism the whole video so I’m clearly not convinced.
@@Madison-rv6df she's tatted and divorced . if she destined to be a single mom ... might as well find a better catch. she absolutely is conning that fox news watching 50+ geek.
I'm a homemaker. I have never identified as a feminist. I also have 2 degrees and 2 businesses. And she is BUGGIN with her comments on feminism lol. Like you have not studied history at all
But why aren’t you feminist? I always am confused when women say this because I used to say this, when I was uneducated on it. I’m a proud feminist because I truly understand what it means now.
@@Madison-rv6df 1. I'm Black. That shit was never for me. 2. This wave we are in now culturally doesn't appeal to me. While fighting for equal rights is still a part of it, now it's just become equality for the sake of equality (not equity) and it's in every facet of life not solely within institutions for equal opportunities. There's also an overcorrection, as well as going into extreme masculine energy vs being balanced within our duality of energies, and it doesn't have actual political movement anymore. It's a lot of just shaming online
@@lifeisrocqi 1. Is untrue. That's a talking point from men who want to divide and conquer. 2. Any movement will have people who do things they shouldn't. It's not an authoritarian regime. Not all Feminists think the same. We don't share a brain. You should agree with the principles being put forth. All this talk about "masculine" and "feminine" is completely subjective and pointless. Seriously, who cares? This obsession is nothing but a distraction.
@@ng38477 1. So I'm guessing the 19th Amendment in 1920 giving women the right to vote had no need for the Voting Rights Act of 1965. 45 YEARS LATER! But I know my experience in this country. And that will not be invalidated. Also, identity is up to individuals. I choose not to identify as a feminist. And that works for me. Do I support equal rights and equal opportunities? Of course. I still don't identify as a feminist. And the way the culture of the movement is going, I probably never will. But have I thought more about my gender than my ethnicity being in majority Black/POC spaces than when I was in majority White spaces? Yes. But that's why I chose to change my environment. Now as far as the masculine and feminine, that's yin and yang ☯️, and concepts of harmony and balance within nature that exist outside of humanity and is found in multiple cultures of color globally. So 🤷🏾♀️
@@lifeisrocqi 1. Ma'am, what are you talking about? The 19th Amendment gave you the right to vote. It didn't magically stop discrimination against Black people in the South. The 1965 law outlawed the discriminatory voting practices adopted in many southern states after the Civil War, including literacy tests as a prerequisite to voting. You really do need to learn about and understand the history and context of things you're referencing. You're working backwards from a conclusion. Feminists NEVER said Black women couldn't vote. IT WAS NEVER THEM who excluded you. It was MEN. You are very misguided. I'm not seeing solid reasoning here. You said, "That shit was never for me". Those women who put their lives and bodies on the line fought FOR YOU to have the right. It was MEN who discriminated and it was your own Black men who happily went to vote while you didn't have the right. We were never your enemies. You have 2 businesses. That was not possible in a pre-Feminist world. You could not enjoy MANY privileges you do without their work. I will not allow you to smear Feminists and say things that are incorrect or don't make sense. Your "experience" is enjoying their work and smearing them from the grave and blaming them for not eradicating all discrimination, lol. Apparently, they needed to be Thanos x10 and they're to blame for MEN who continued to discriminate against Black people. That's true. You can identify however you want. But you're logic and reasoning makes no sense and you seem to have misdirected anger at people who actually help you. I hope you use the same logic with whatever you are following. I don't see Left or Right improving. They're racing to the bottom. The only thing Feminine and Masculine debates are good for is a distraction for immature men who blame "Femininity" for their destructive behavior and lack of accountability. "We'Re iN a MaSCulINiTY CrISIs!" and "WoMEN WoN'T LeT Us Be MaSCuLinE!". That's all completely subjective and it's an excuse for WEAK males to do nothing to improve culture within the community of men. And for some reason, women need to LET them be masculine. So strong these men! LOL. I'm begging you all to stop obsessing about this. It's so dumb and men are using this as means to shame women into serving them. Many times, "Femininity" means obeying them like they our masters. This is a dumb debate that only serves men who want a maid they can fuck and to avoid taking accountability for counter-productive behavior. We live in a country constantly at war, wealth inequality, millions do not have adequate healthcare, our public education system is crap, and we have a crisis with Trans Community taking over everything woman and fully assaulting women's rights. Who gives about this? I hate this debate EVEN MORE because these MEN are claiming their version of "Femininity" makes THEM women. Men are using this all around to screw over women.
I just came here from another video where she talks about how she got divorced (from her former husband) cuz she realized she likes masculine men and used athletes as an example of masculine men....so I was not expecting this at all.
I couldn’t care less how this lady chooses to live her own life but by God is she extremely judgemental and condescending. She sounds downright unpleasant to be around. I feel bad for her future kid. Sickening.
One thing we don't pay enough attention to when discussing age gap relationships is men's biological clock. Older paternal age is associated with increased health risk to the morher and baby. She hasn't found a cheat code by marrying and procreating with an older man.
@@alphaomega1351 Actually, this person speaks the truth. It's most likely that men over 40 will produce a child with autism. The quality of the sperm declines after age 40 and does increase the chances of a miscarriage.
This is such fake controversy. It gets views though. It works for them. Point. Blank. End of it. Only a bored and bitter outsider feels the urge to criticize. Lol😅
Me and my husband are 16 years apart and have been together for 10 years and happily married 5 and we rarely rarely fight and we are totally 50/50,we complement each other perfectly! They only thing I would say you should ask for $200 a week lol 😂
@@Hannahdavistheslavemassaey, those basic necessities count! Otherwise she'd need to get a job, and it's not easy after the army, it's actually quite hard to readjust to civilian life, so yeah, she can do this UA-cam thing, creating in effect, because he takes care of all the stuff, other adult women would take care of. I bet you appreciated that you could still live at home as a student, and didn't have to wander out in real life and rely on your own capacities to keep them balls all in the air. Yeah. Some of us have done just that for all her adult life. I sustained myself dince I was 18, not always brilliantly, but imagine some idiot coming to me with secondary school explanations of economics and what's good for me. Imagine the effing audacity. 😂
@@Alythehomiehopper and that's what she's selling. Confidence sells. Posturing confidence sells, and that's what her target audience needs. Look around, all these coaches, gurus, influencers are dealing with VULNERABLE people who would benefit from proper guidance, yet, what they get is tepid sink water sold as way overpriced miracle healing water. And people don't know that the coaching they're getting is a joke, compared to the real deal. This woman charges 250, while a therapist, counsellor or even a psychologist would be a fraction of that amount. I've been a fool myself in the past, so I understand why people would idolise social media "helpers" but it's a rip off. It also speaks of high levels of narcissism and what truly matters to the person pretending that they want to help - money, clout, admiration. It is what it is, so buyer, beware.
I don’t know why our society hates housewives. I was a housewife by choice before but my husband didn’t pay me. I was able to handle stuff at home and take care of our child well. It benefited our child and also made sure our home didn’t turn into a rat’s nest. When I had to work again on top of my responsibilities at home, it drove me insane and literally got sick. We were more financially stable BUT less happy. There are pros and cons of being paid to be a housewife, but we shouldn’t be hating on families who choose this setup.
Here's the thing. No one hates on housewives. People are not stupid, they know that these social media housewives are grifters, fakes, pretenders, people can feel it, also, those of us from another time, with years of housewife experience don't claim the artificial glamour, because we weren't in it for that!!! This is propaganda and people know it on a cellular level. I loved being married, accepting my ex husbands name, supporting him in all his endeavours, and feeling his equal at the same time. If he wouldn't have reciprocated that, by being as cheerful and giving and admiring of my goals and dreams, and how that benefited our marriage, us growing strong as a team, I wouldn't have married him. This is not to say that I think less of these guys, it's to say that marriages are not the same, there's no right way to go, it's what's working for them two. No pretentious and unsolicited advise needed.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being housewife, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with getting paid to be a homemaker, and I think anybody who tells a person (man or women) that they can’t be a homemaker should shut up. However, this woman is sending a completely wrong message about feminism and homemaking. I am very upset to learn that she thinks that feminists are clowns and that homemakers can’t be feminist. As a homemaker and a feminist, I am extremely offended by this view and hurt. feminism will always get a bad rap because feminism will always take a backseat to every social issue there is. There are people who still believe sexism isn’t real and I’m sorry, but the wage gap is a real thing. It’s a lie for her to say that there is no wage gap. I’m very disappointed that a fellow homemaker would have such a twisted and manipulated view like this about feminism. Feminism is equal rights. There’s nothing more complicated about it than that. Do you believe in equal rights for all people? Then you’re a feminist. Don’t make it more than that. There are extremist in every corner of the world, not just feminism and you calling someone who has experienced serious sexism and identifies as a feminist, a clown is so hurtful. I am not a clown and I’m at not an extremists. She’s spreading lies about facts like the wage gap. That’s not right. I support your right to be a homemaker and a feminist. You can be both. Everyone can be a feminist because all feminism means is equal rights. Don’t listen to her views about feminism, they are misguided, misinformed, and hurtful.
It's laughable but you can tell who is the boss in this relationship. She is so aggressive and totally dominates the rather mild-mannered husband. You Can easily see it is she who makes the plans and derermines the direction of the youtube channel. Someone rescue this man he is the victim of domestic abuse. Do you honestly think this woman is submissive to her husband? LOLOLOLOL.
Most of her working life was in the army. The likelihood of having a female boss it next to nothing. Would be very easy when talking about it to just go with her life experience.
I can’t judge her and the husband… But I couldn’t live depending on a man’s bank account…. Just can’t. Ur husband can see every purchase… Can’t necessarily spend or have control of the money however u want. No thank u.
There's nothing wrong with wanting to be a housewife Just as there is no problem wanting to work, Each couple handles their relationship the way they see fit.
Why do you need to be employed by your own husband to clean your own home? Sounds so weird to me. Isn’t that something you should be doing anyway as a wife/mother? You know who wants to get paid doing house chores? FEMINISTS! You don’t sound very traditional.. and I’m a conservative woman saying this.
"He pays for my living"
lmao ok and her youtube channel doesn't bring in an income does it? She still works, she just works from home.
@@Hannahdavistheslavemassait's a grift, it's dog whistling, it's posturing, and gaining clout and money off of it. It's ok, she "works for the money". Not unlike her feminist sisters. 🤑😅💪
@@darcyroyce exactly. and she’s ex military and surely brings in a check from that
@@Alythehomiehopper wow!! 😱😅😅😅 The blind leading those who cannot see. A fine world we live in. 😉
Agreed which technically makes her more of an idiot. She works full time AND does all the housework. She’s doing too much to please her old man who would probably still stay with her even if she doesn’t cook everyday.
I thought she was going somewhere with this but then whomp whomp someone call Shera ✨
She is lying, she spends a lot of time on her youtube channel and works as a content creator.
Even if income is minimal, this is true and she should mention it. Also, somehow she got onto this channel. So..prove's exposure.
I just find it ironic that this is on love don’t judge and she’s literally judging everyone who has a relationship different than hers 😂
Right?? She's so condescending
Yeah I've seen some of her content and she's kind of too intense with her views.
I’m very upset the love don’t judge allowed her to be on their platform. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being a homemaker and getting paid for it, I think that that’s a wonderful agreement. But sitting around telling women who are feminist that they’re clowns and they can’t be homemakers? That’s messed up. I am against anti-feminism. Do you believe in equal rights for all? Then you’re a feminist. It is not more complicated than that and I’m tired of the media acting like it is more complicated than that.
@@NarniaVonNeumann you are SPOT on!
@Gabby her views are traditional ✨️
Crazy how she sees her marriage as a career.. Being a wife is alot of work but they do it out of love for there man not for a allowance
There's no love there as you and I experience love. But that's fine, they foubd each other. 🙏
@@darcyroycethis is how marriages had always been, that’s why they stood the test of time. Bonds are cemented by sense of duty and the bigger picture. The Hollywood love garbage is highly unsustainable and has proven to be the death of the family unit. Romantic love comes and goes .
That's the Joke
And she sees her husband as a boss
Being a wife shouldn't be hard,you shouldn't be a push over ,out of "love", how has that been working for women? Because the divorce rate is not that low
This the same woman who divorced her husband and went after his major in the army while she was in the army? Isnt that called fraternization????
LMAOOOOO
Wow
Where u found that info
Interesting. I left a mildly critical message re her inflated SMV on her channel and got blocked. I think there's a lot to learn about her story.
It is pretty common knowledge.
$100/week allowance? 😂😂😂😂
🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡 right!
My parents like that too… they still together, my older brother is 30 years old
But her whole existence is paid for. That 100 bucks is for her to spend on little things she may want. She doesn't need the latest makeup and trashy outfits from fashionnova.
@@BasedTruth oh doesn’t she? She gets to be cheap thanks to her husband 😂 this is why most women choose to work now. We don’t need a man dictating to us what we NEED
@@natevic1867 what do you need a lot of money for? Useless things that make you "happy"? Lol
Obviously this women's worst fear is "being single
@Oooooo And gets the pension, and the inheritance of shared property due to having his child, and then, still young enough to remarry if she chooses? Oh man. What a horrible deal. 🙄
@@coreyc3093 so you acknowledge that that was the whole point of marrying the grandpa in the first place. got it. there is no love or god in this woman's relationship. i think shes in for a world of pain and suffering. how do you know she'll remarry when shes in her 40s? her value will be significantly depleted and she will be uglier and fatter than she already is. she is wasting her time in my opinion but oh well she is stuck now. shes completely screwed because she gave up her financial independence. oh wait that is actually a lie because she grifts on youtube selling marriage advice
أهلا 😊
Lol
Easy to brag when you're in the early stages of being a housewife. Do an update in 20 years and we'll see if shes still wants to glorify her life choices.
@@whatdididotodeservethis1419 exactly. lets see if shes still gloating then
@No No if you have the hots for that wrinkly old man just say
@@whatdididotodeservethis1419 Her husband is a try athlete and an ex soldier. I doubt he'll ever stop exercising and he'll stay in good shape and healthy for the rest of his life. This significantly lowers his chances of having to be taken care of.
My grandmother is 84, if she doesn't go into the forest regularly to forage mushrooms, berries, herbs or just to walk, she feels bad.
Actually the only marriages that last 20 or more years are the traditional ones were the wife embraces being submissive according to biblical principles
Exactly! I'm not saying she's going to be miserable in this lifestyle. She might have a great future ahead of her. But again, we have to remember why feminism became a thing in the first place.
If you have a good man... great! And if he continues to be a good man until death do you part, even better!!
But how many women, especially young ones, get tricked by a man who is a narcissist and a control freak? How many women have had their men lose a job, become an alcoholic and then abusive? How many women have been cheated on, emotionally abused, become married "single mothers" and that dreamy lifestyle falls apart and they can't get out on their own? How many women have had their men drop them entirely for a younger woman, put them out of the house with the kids, and with no credit/education/job skills find themselves single with kids struggling to make ends meet? And worse, how many woman have spent their entire lives building their husband's dream life then he dies and she finds out there's no savings and he didn't even care enough about her future to buy life insurance?? Now she's stuck with debt, has to sell the house and try to make ends meet on social security with no savings of her own??
I'm just saying... she has a bit of an advantage because she has a successful UA-cam channel. I just hope she has her own bank account. I hope she bought a life insurance policy on him. And I hope he doesn't change when he works from home and has to deal with screaming children running around the house. I hope he wants to be a participating father so she doesn't feel like she's doing everything alone. But whether you're a working mother or a SAHM, your future is still a roll of the dice. It's better to maintain a certain amount of control over your choices and financial future. Hopefully, she's smart enough to do that... otherwise her present dream could turn into a nightmare in 20 years.
The biggest red flag is that she closed all of her accts and now it's all in his name and he can see all she spends. That's just a little weird to me. I tried to do the whole house wife thing, and it didn't work out at all. I was talked down to because I didn't work. Even after I did work, I was still expected to do everything. Nope. Now, I have an amazing partner who works from home and he will still help me with the house. I'm a stay at home mom, and he understands that being a stay at home mom is not easy, it's just as much of a job. I am so much happier.
Agreed, she'll learn the hard way just how wrong that was....
Agreed
He Is doing financial abuse
She seems pretty smug about her relationship status. I hope they work out - for the sake of that child's financial future. It's a precarious position to be totally reliant on someone like Alyssa is
Truly happy people don’t need to prove how happy they are. I think she secretly unhappy.
@@leftthatbehind6090she wants to reach out to other women. Of course she's going to say something slightly controversial.
“I’m just trying to save these women, these ungrateful women.”
Yikes, it’s almost like not every woman is the same or has the same goals in life or something 👀
Unfortunately most Women have Adopted this Ungrateful Attitude. It needs to stop.
100 dollars, girl you cheap.....
Right 😂😂 thats like a week groceries in my country...
Daily Starbucks and gas for the week going to put her in the red 😂😂😂...
I did/do that too. I’ve been with him for 15 years. Wait till he switches it up on you. And adds some rules you are not ok with. We have a 5 yr old. And I scheduled our first date nite in over 5 years. Arranged child care, etc. He then decided to have his mom and sister visit that day and evening. I’m embarrassed at how little he thinks of me and my feelings. After I’ve done everything I can do for him, cook,clean, stay fit and looking good at 43. And it still not enough to secure myself a date with my own husband. When I confronted him about why he did this he looked at me like I was crazy and said they could go out with us if they wanted too😂. Yes they can and I can choose to walk away and finally am.
There's a certain degree of boldness and foolishness that the inexperienced individual shows that makes them both endearing and annoying. I have less patience for selfishness today and they as a couple seem to be on the higher end of that spectrum. Otherwise, I'm glad you are in a good place, I wish you peace and confidence moving forward. ❤️🙏
@@darcyroyce thank you 😊
Go out and find a good man who is In tune with your feelings and is thoughtful, appreciative , giving and respectful. You sound like you are a catch
Thats the thing about the traditional housewife role that no one wants to talk about. Because its so rare in the west now it becomes glorified especially by men in the west because they are the ones so desperate to attain this that they do it with a level of delusion and assume that because shes still married and because shes being provided for therefore she must automatically be 'happy'.
Try asking the people who this life is the norm for. I'm Pakistani and in our culture women have always predominately been housewives even up until recently. My mother, aunts from both sides, older female cousins, grandmother etc were/are housewives. And yet so many of the modern day Pakistanis are rebelling against it and are choosing to work now, most of them doing so with the backing of their mothers. Why? If its supposedly meant to be the roles that makes women so happy? Because many of us know the depressing truth. Being a housewife serves at the benefit of the husband and children because it comes at the cost of her being a free, underappreciated, overused servant. The irony is if a man actually hired a nanny to raise his children and a chef to cook his meals and a cleaner to clean his house he would more than likely be more grateful and more respectful towards his employees and pay them more than $100 a week and not compare them to their mothers...
@@Myview246so true. Someone who has never felt like a trapped animal, can never understand the ecstasy of buying your own car, paying your own rent and settling your head on your own pillow at the end of the day. Where no one else can take that pillow away and belittle you.
You know what’s so hilarious is that a bunch of men really like her because she is a red pill UA-camr. It’s so funny to think of how her audience must have reacted to seeing how her husband looks like.
Whatever podcast made a mistake 😂😂😂
That she was able to chose how she lives her life is litterly feminism!
Right!!!
The feminism that made her able to choose is not the same brand of feminism that is currently permeating society.
@@jimson3785True
@@jimson3785 exactly. That kind of feminism undermines the women who are really helping girls and women.
@@jimson3785 yet she said ALL feminisim was useless she didn’t state that it was “3d wave feminism” so
My dear God. I cannot believe she said that “feminism was completely unnecessary.”
Did she forget that marital rape was legal until a few decades ago? That women couldn’t have their own bank account til the 70s? That you would have to stay with an abusive and cheating husband until you found another man to save you?
If she wants to be a homemaker that’s fine but she should think before glorifying it as the only option.
@Oooooo 100%
She wouldn't even be able to cash in those YT monies without a bank account which *newsflash* feminism made possible. People have such selective memory!
Don't heed the men trolling in the comments. They are doing an angry because they cannot get away pulling whatever shit they used to as easily anymore. Otherwise they would have left it to women if it was such a heavenly life. They are scared of women having the choice to leave.
@@NuckingfutsnixIf all Women were like Alyssa Every woman would Already be Married with a Family.
@@alanmoreno2482 Yes cuz that's the only dream for women lol. She herself has her own money and career by pandering to insecure men and lost women. Feminism allowed her to be on YT making content. Otherwise she would wake up at dawn and do backbreaking labour till midnight when women did not have any agency at all. I have seen plenty of miserable women in my mother's, grandmother's as well as my own generation with "marriage" and "family" as they had no financial independence. Slavery serves the masters well, not the slaves. Plenty of independent women are also married with family. She is just milking insecure men who want things back the way it was because they fail compared to secure, more evolved men.
This woman seems to validate her relationship choices by pointing fingers at other women....she is the perfect example that proves why only women are the enemy of other women.
Let's say you're right. She still is right, too. The choices westernized women are making are not working, it's destroyed relationships, child rearing and development, made marriage a non-option for most men, and has broken down society in general. Neighborhoods full of single moms in rented homes is not the way.
@@sarcodonblue2876 Studies show that domestic V is nearly symmetrical between men and women. But that fact is never mentioned because then demonizing men would be much harder to do.
You had the right idea until that complete nonsense at the end. Men are women's largest predator. The patriarchal structure of society/ history. They commit the majority of violent crimes (that's against both other men and women), check the statistics. To see just how much hate men have for women you need only look at everything happening in Texas in the U.S., reversal of Roe v Wade even at the expense of the woman's life in emergency situations, and many other situations. You pointed out her internalized misogyny then turned right around and were misogynistic yourself.
Women aren't a monolith. This world is competitive and the "Survival of the fittest" applies to women as well.
Read some and then argue
Only women? You haven't lived much have you.
Nothing wrong with wanting to live that way, it just shouldn’t be pushed onto others
Tell that to feminist
@@samuelrigaud6595 is the feminist in the room with us because she’s far from one?
@@samuelrigaud6595 You do realised that the misandrists in America are not feminists by definition?
Do you hold the same stance with feminists and LGBTQ+?
@Sasha Why pushing people is wrong? And I think careers are great, far preferable than caring for a family if you ask me.
I was ok for the most part until the last part where she just spitted out rough judgements about women who don’t live her lifestyle and then casually putting the words “love don’t judge” next to them. Ngl laughed out loud.
Common cope.
@@natevic1867 Waste of oxygen.
Yeah, I don’t mind this lifestyle and I’m glad she’s doing it with problems, but the way she acts towards feminists leaves a bad taste in my mouth, like I don’t get the point of putting down other women and want them to live the same life
@@toothtown1914 How else she would feel validated if not by putting others down?
This young lady obviously has a set opinion of what life as a woman should look like. I will give her another 10 years and see if her view is still the same. 🤔
Feminism is about equality and the right to choice. You’re choosing to be a stay at home wife and not work so you can take more care of your family.
That's a comprehensive stretch. She'll call you a dumb feminist next.
Feminism is Cancer
“My husband is not going to fire me tomorrow”🥴 * cues all of those divorce stats she and Pearl love to rattle off *
Those divorce stats say 70% of divorces are started by women
Welllll…men don’t leave. It’s women who overwhelmingly file for divorce. Sooooo….
@@coreyc3093 correct. That’s the “what”. It tells absolutely nothing about the “why”.
@@Veryvery987 Easy. The institution of no fault contest divorce, abortion/birth control and third wave feminism indoctrination. This has encouraged modern women in the West to hit the eject button for far lesser reasons than their grandmothers and great grandmothers who preceded them. It used to be that people didn’t engage in reckless premarital sex on a regular with whomever, having a child out of wedlock was utterly shameful, and divorce unheard of. Well, when the modern aforementioned conventions were introduced, this behavior became much more prevalent, and the incentive for a woman to leave the bonds of matrimony increased. And the results are in -- since these conventions were adopted (roughly 60 years ago) divorces have skyrocketed in western countries where this is the norm. And this isn’t a hate of women. This has been studied extensively. Think about it. If you could have all of the ‘free sex’ you wanted without shame, keep or kill a fetus at will, and marry and divorce (and be awarded spousal support and child support at a rate of over 90%) when convenient - how likely would it be that you’d stay in a relationship when things got ‘hard’’, because marriage is not easy and certainly not a fairytale. Again, not hating, but this is crystal clear. If a study could be done in a vacuum with the factors I mentioned above being absent, you would see little to no out of wedlock births, and marriages that stayed together. And really, this is just common sense. We know this because it can be seen in poor (Africa, Nicaragua) or overly patriarchal (China, Middle East, etc) countries and continents. They don’t have these opportunities and don’t experience the resulting aftermath.
@@coreyc3093 Yes they do, but not for nothing
They have been together for 2.5 years and she is giving women relationship advice. Yeah okay maybe if you have had a happy marrige for 40 years.
"I had no idea how nice it would be to have a maid who has sex with me. 😱"
I'm a feminist. I support her pursuit of happiness. But of course he's going to like having someone who does everything for him. Almost everyone would like a maid sometimes.
Edit after finishing the video: I find her unlikable. I'm fine with her doing whatever makes her happy in life, such as being a stay at home spouse and parent. That's great if it's what she wants. I do have a problem with the fact that she doesn't afford the same flexibility in allowing other women to pursue their version of happiness. Not all women would be happy doing what she's doing. Not all women want to be married, have children, or have a male partner. Calling other women delusional, ungrateful, or clowns for not wanting the same dynamic is almost certainly why she gets hate online and not because she chooses to take care of her home instead of working at an office. Everyone should be allowed to pursue their happiest lives as long as they don't hurt others in the process. She is rather hateful toward anyone who chooses a different path. It's pretty revolting. Good for her for finding what makes her happy, but she should not invalidate what makes others happy or put them down to raise herself up. Plus, she threw in the fat-phobia and anti-childfree remark at the end. That's gross.
She's friends with JustPearlyThings 🤢
jealous woman, go work for a boss
Not only that, but she is with a man who says that their lifestyle choices make them happy because it is ‘just biology’ 🤢
@@kc6810 Exactly!
It’s sick that they believe that all women are biologically hardwired to be happiest living this lifestyle. As if all women want to be without a career outside of the home and with children while being subservient to her husband.
They act as though their lifestyle is the only possible option. She speaks about ‘saving these ungrateful women’ as if financially independent women are in need of her help lol 😅
@@kc6810 I think it is so arrogant that they believe women who do not want to live like they do need her help. She thinks that any woman not living ‘traditionally’ is going to be overweight, depressed and childless (as if being childless is something appalling!)
There’s nothing wrong with being a housewife I just wouldn’t do it for $100 a week
They had a joint account but she didn’t like blindly spending money so she just ask for an allowance to budget around
But literally everything else is paid for what more do you need? 😂yall just want to spend money buying shit you don't need.
Lol
@@isaiahthomas4444 so where does the money she makes from her UA-cam channel go?
She’s acting like she is not a working woman but technically she is.
@@BasedTruth who are you to tell us what we do and don’t need??
Men waste money too and y’all say nothing about that. Lmao this is why most women are refusing to be housewives. I’d rather have my own money than live on a cheapskate weekly income.
If she wants this, then go for it. What I have an issue is her saying feminism is a woman supremacy movement. Puh-lease.
Oh also, men do not love women. If men did, there wouldn't be domestic violence or so many relationship counsellors, etc.
@@michaeladelong7315 Right?! "They would have liberated us." From who?
@@michaeladelong7315what? Men do not love women? Bro. I very much dislike Alyssa’s opinions she is exactly what I fear of becoming. But duddddee don’t generalize men and women like that. That’s how we all got here in the first place. That’s why this problem exists.
@@whateverlolawants right exactly, from who? 🤔 Lmao
@@lovenkind8180 when women have equal pay & a myriad of equalities we deserve, then you can say that. The patriarchy runs deep. Even wuth the good guys out there.
🚨The TRUTH is that her first husband, Aly & this current husband were ALL in the military; her CURRENT HUSBAND was her husband’s SUPERIOR in the army & she knew that this was going to be a SERIOUS FINANCIAL UPGRADE.She pursued her her current husband while still married to her first husband (of 5 years)… and she was discharged. THE END
He will be almost 70 by the time that child graduates high school
I'm all for doing what works for you. The only thing that makes me uncomfortable is that he pays her. I am a housewife and my husband and I share all accounts. He does not write me a check. It's weird. We have a budget
And if youre gonna pay someone give her more than 100$ a week at least??? 😅
@@polyconcave right. Staying home is by far much more work then any job I have ever had outside of the house.
@happy What he pays her is her "budget", same with your husband.
It's pocket money, it works for them, except! He controls ehat she spends it on. That's effed up, and also very typical for the transactional foundation of their arrangement.
You've got a point. Just figured it was like spending money. But if it's earned that's a bit off.
She seems so pleased with herself.... like she's figured something out and being a homemaker for a man 2 decades older and giving him a child is something clearly everyone should be aiming for... amazing how people think what works for them clearly is some blanket blueprint for everyone else.
You sound like the feminists she’s talking about 😂 oh no!!! A happily married couple 😢 how terrible. We should all just be hooking up and dropping our bastard kids off at school then daycare
@Hannah Davis haha nope. Wrong
@@JanieBee 😂😂I don't agree with her life it's not for me but you are right the femz need to chill because this woman is obviously happy so good for her!!
@Hannah Davis he's 51 not 81 bro..
2 decades that’s 20 years yuck
I always feel sad for these types of women. Like babe you do you! I love that you're happy with your lifestyle but the fact that you get to choose it it's thanks to feminism. Just because you feel confortable with how things were back in the day it doesn't mean that everyone else was, and to ignore other women's suffering doesn't make you any better than them. If you don't want people to hate on you don't hate on others.❤
And isn't this the kindest way to go about in life, in general!? It is... Resistance comes from making people feel that they don't belong, that their contributions have no inherent value, that they don't matter... It makes no difference who treats you this way, just know that they're in the wrong, and you matter. You're seen, and appreciated. ❤
Women were doing those before feminism, so what do you mean? Feminism came to destroy and end what she wants to do .
No she wasn't able to chose how she lives her life because of feminism. She could chose how to live her life because of the patriarchy, because men enforce her rights, women can't. Without enforcement, women's rights or any right or law for that matter doesn't exist in practice, just in theory.
Wrong what you are saying is not factual history. Educate yourself
This woman is deeply insecure. And it’s not necessarily because of her views, it’s how she expresses them and how vehemently she clings to them. This goes for women who hold the exact opposite viewpoint as well.
Yupe right
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They both belong together. She’s honestly a 4, and her husband is a 2. She’s good.
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The husband doesn’t even look old and he’s not bad looking either, she’s pretty too so I’d give both of them a 8/10
@Jiminy Crunkett Lol no my $ex doll is a solid 7.5 and have more personality than her .
Most of us feminists don't judge women for their choices. I know I don't anyway. You wanna be a housewife then be a housewife, whatever works for you works for you. But being arrogant enough to think your way of living is right and everyone else is wrong is one massive COPE.
The reality is divorce is rampant after feminism in 1960s. So literally Allys way is the best way for a happy and lasting marriage.
@@jorge-7121it’s “rampant” now because women don’t have to be silenced when their husband is abusive or just unfit. women would get proposed to after like 3 months of dating, and then be stuck in a lifelong relationship with a man they weren’t truly happy with. we don’t feel trapped anymore. do you know how many housewives drowned themselves in bathtubs before the 1960s? simply because divorce was so taboo that they’d rather die than propose it.
@@oliviascarlet123 stop the BS, statistics show women are the most abusive in relationships, stop reading feminist propaganda and start educating yourself in reality (true history and statistics)
@@jorge-7121 that’s your problem, you’re so caught up on the blame game. it doesn’t matter which sex is statistically more abusive. men or women deserve to get a divorce if they aren’t happy, and should’ve always been given that option. if divorce hadn’t been so taboo in the past, it would’ve been used a lot more often. HUMANS being given the option of divorce thanks to the feminist movement is a wonderful thing.
@@oliviascarlet123 Oh, now that you have been caugth in your lies, suddenly blame doesnt matter, after 60 years of feminism liying and blaming men for everything, such an hypocrite
She should at least have her own bank account and savings. Financial freedom is very important.
Exactly
@Hannah Davis what?! I am shocked. This lady is promoting being a obedient and humble housewife.
She’s an idiot!
Obedience and Humbleness is more important than anything you just said.
@@alanmoreno2482 you don’t even know who I was replying to since the comment is gone
Ok, I don't think there's anything wrong with a traditional marriage if that's what couples want to do and it makes them happy. I think the real problem is that she wants to push this on others and it's ignorant to say "men love women so much, they would've freed us eventually" we were beaten, disrespected, killed, raped and not allowed to vote or work. That wasn't love, that was power and cruelty towards women. You mean to tell me that is loving a women and we would've been freed after all of that? We freed ourselves because we knew we weren't gonna be freed otherwise. Men back then didn't do crap.
Delusional
Not all men were like that you're stating a bold generalization
Well said
@@kjy05 no this the truth acctually
@@kjy05 yeah, she talking in general because it’s true most men acted like that
Feminism is the reason she is allowed to have this lifestyle freely and unbothered.
Housewives existed long before feminism. In fact, feminism, at its very core, is an anti-housewife ideology.
While I'm all for women who want to have a traditional lifestyle or adhering to gender roles being able to do so freely, what I just saw made me sick to my stomach. Literally everything about this is a red flag and you could easily fall into an abusive situation if you tried to actually follow her advice.
That would be my point as well. But what do you do when someone is an adult and makes his/her decision knowingly and willingly, and disarms any sensible argument with exercising her human rights!? Nothing... You'll be there if everything comes crashing down. That's all we can do.
It's not for everyone but I've been a SAHM for 10 years now and I have loved it am not abused and am very fulfilled.
@@Naturefan354 That's really cool! I don't have any issues with that. The thing that concerned me about the video is not the fact that she's a stay-at-home mom. I have many loved ones who chose that lifestyle and are happy with it. My main concerns were how her husband got rid of her credit cards and monitors her account as if she's a child, as well as her bizarre obsession with bashing women's rights, or any woman who doesn't want to live the same way that she does. The way she described her views on marriage in such a transactional way also raised an eyebrow for me. I just can't help but wonder what her husband would do to her if later on in her pregnancy she can't clean the house as thoroughly, or if she ever spends more money than he expects of her. 😓
@@darcyroyce I completely agree with you :(
@Colorpan Probably the same thing my husband does when I don't clean, cook or overspend......... .Nothing 😆 Well excuse me, he might complain sometimes but then after venting he does nothing. But my marriage isn't treated only like a transaction without love. Any relationship could be argued is like a transaction on some level though... Quid pro quo if you will
She seems to be so happy to be younger than him. My fiancee is also older than me, but we do not base our identity on the age gap... She seems to boast about being praised by men. She is very full of herself.
I don’t remember “traditional” women ever chirping online about politics lol. I’m pretty much a homemaker right now as I finish college and it brings a lot of value to the relationship, BUT women should be encouraged to be educated and active in their communities. The implications of domesticity are dangerous; that women are less capable/intelligent than men. Patriarchy is not men, patriarchy is an ideology that hurts EVERYONE
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You hit the nail on the head sister, thank you for commenting.
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Also a homemaker while I finish collage. I'm so happy my boyfriend is supportive of my education. As my first relationship was a violent person and it taught me how important it is woman have choice.
Can I give an extra cheers for this comment!? ❤😂 My sentiments, exactly! She and the social media stepford wives are not representative of all housewives! What they're doing is theatre, it's a show, the not so knock off version of real housewives, d'you know what I mean!? It's sending out some pretty twisted messages for young women and in this sense it's detrimental.
i don't know anyone in real life who is going around saying that women shouldn't be housewives if that's what they want. literally just do whatever you want and let other people do what they want. there is no correct way to live as long as you aren't hurting anyone
It's hard to reconcile this being on a channel called "Love Don't Judge" when half of this video is them judging other people for not being like them.
There's a big difference between choosing to live your life in whatever way makes you happy while trying to put happiness back into the world, and using shame and misogyny to try to convince people that your way of life is the only one that works.
That’s not the point of the video. That’s the point of the channel.
Love don't judge, but THEY sure do.
Aren't you now judging them?
“Aren’t you now judging them” OK, that was just the stupidest thing that you could’ve commented. She’s pointing out the hypocrisy. I guess you could “technically “say that we’re judging them. But come on, you know what’s really happening here. We’re just trying to point out that love don’t judge is trying to spread a message and that the person they just allowed on their platform is completely contradicting that message. Should we just not point that out? Just keep letting her spread lies and misinformation about feminism? And tell women who don’t wanna be homemakers that they’re not real women? Because I’m definitely not gonna keep my mouth shut about that.
@@NarniaVonNeumann THIS!!! Thank you
She married a senior citizen ain’t nothing alpha about him.
Their are plenty of stay at home wives. And I don’t knock them for that. Stay at home wife is not for me. I gotta get out the house. if I was to stay at home I’d be working from home. I have a graphic design. If I can work, I’m going to work. That’s just me. The fact she’s putting down other women says a lot about her.
I think a marriage is BOTH a spiritual AND an economic relationship
That's to controlling lmao..so let me get this straight..you get 100 dollars and you still have to tell him where you wasted it on 😅😅😅😅...Girllllllllll...noooooo 😅
Right! I personally felt offended when I heard $100/week and he keeps track of her expenses. WTF! What can you even get with $100 nowadays? What a cheap-ass control freak!
@@sheppah That's what I was saying too 🤣🤣🤣
Whatever works for every individual and makes them happy. Works for them, good for them. My only issue is when these women then turn around and judge women who don't want the same thing
Our grandma's wanted only that
Only feminists do that
@@samuelrigaud6595they didn't have a choice, it was either, get married or be socially outcast. Not to mention that by the time they hit old age, many of them were unhappy and regretful, for having been stripped of their agency and opportunities this way.
@@samuelrigaud6595 not mine?
@@samuelrigaud6595 Yeah, feminism happened because women didn’t want anything to change 😂😂😂
I genuinely am all for more traditional relationships! But her hatred of women is sickening and her husband is an old creep.
Why is he a creep
@@Aa-jq3yu he is way older and backs her self hatred.
She hates men too only in it for the money. Fake trad wife
@@Aa-jq3yuhe’s not a creep 🤦🏻♀️ it’s just the age gap people are talking about
He is not old but yes he is a creep 😔
I’m not sure she understands where feminism stemmed from and it’s beliefs, or is she’s getting her ideas based of extremists-but I think the main idea here is to do what makes you happy. Personally I would go insane being at home all the time, but I’m sure others thrive in that environment and that’s great! Can we as human beings just stop bashing other’s lives if they’re not hurting us or other people? Everyone is different and the same thing isn’t going to fit in every relationship, the world is so crappy let’s just all root for each others happiness, we have enough negativity as it it 😅
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A very informative video about the formation of Feminism. Feminism has always been a supremacy movement. It's simply been more out of hand as such vvomen demand more privileges. Even over 100 years ago with the suffragettes the history we learned about them was from a rose colored lens. Suffragettes were domestic terrorists as the men were coming home from World War I. They bombed buildings and burned and destroyed businesses. Of course this couldn't have been done without men as they used their men allied to them as strong arms to intimidate business owners where they would be held against their will and beaten as the vvomen destroyed their business or home. Even in 1848 with the formation of feminists at Seneca falls it's always been about female privilege in regards to things they never earned.
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She Is A House Wife That's Nothing New But Imo All Housewives Are Deserving Of Alittle Monatery Compensation 😄😄😄 Good Arrangement Cuz It Works For Them 🤗👍🏼💞🙏🏼
A lot of feminists over the years have argued that women should be paid for their domestic labour. She should not be bashing all feminists here while doing what they advocated women to do!
Right!!! The miss information is so bad.
@@NarniaVonNeumannI don't even think it's misinformation. I think it's genuine conditioning and lack of understanding, logical, historical, and social.
ok but "I wouldn’t say that I’m a feminist at all. I think feminism was all bad, men love women so much that I think they would have liberated us after they were fully liberated anyway." is incredibly disrespectful
Yea I think everyone in the comments is being too nice to her. Nothing wrong with being a housewife, but saying statements like that is so disrespectful towards the brave women who fought for our rights
@@ginapickle9883 exactly. She's nothing short of condescencion.
@Hannah Davis oop 🫢
That's messed up, and naive, and delusional, and the internal narrative of the Stockholm syndrome victim. But what do I know.
@@darcyroyce shes an obvious CON-Tent creator and con. Dont infantilize her. This is not a case of stockholm.
“I wouldn’t say that I’m a feminist at all. I think feminism was all bad, men love women so much that I think they would have liberated us after they were fully liberated anyway“ wtf. Everything else was good and glad it’s working out for them, but for her to say that, makes me think if she really knows our history. There is nothing wrong with woman waiting the same respect and things as men. I mean, when woman started fighting for our rights that we have now, most men fought against it. Asking “ do you really need that”. Also wtf was that comment: “ I’m trying to help these woman, these ungrateful woman” . But I’m glad she found someone that had the same values as her.
Yeah, she sending a completely wrong message about feminism and homemaking. She has miss information about feminism and is using her own experiences with men to create an idea of what it’s like for every woman in this world. It’s a common thing that women who don’t go through a lot of abuse do. They think “well I’ve never been abused by a man so obviously other women are just ungrateful” I also think it’s hilarious how love don’t judge is allowing her to use their platform when her entire argument is basically judging women who don’t want to live the kind of life that she lives. She spreading hate speech and misinformation about feminism. Saying that the wage gap is a myth? That’s a lie. I just took a woman studies class in college last year and learned about the actual wage gap history, and what it is now. I think that it’s great that she has the relationship that she has, it’s great that they’re happy, but it’s completely wrong for her to say the things that she saying about feminism. You can be a homemaker and a feminist.
Feminism is truly evil and has helped women destroy ourselves, and now it’s working on the men. No little girl grows up thinking she wants to be a single cat lady who just scrolls through tinder to find a bunch of new sex partners every week so she can just work for herself and be…by herself. That is the reality feminism is forcing women into unknowingly. And what’s sad is that the older women who LIVED this and realize what they did still won’t tell us young girls the game. Older women just wait for you to fall too….so glad that Women like Aly can stand up and dispel the idea that feminism is the only way.
@@NarniaVonNeumann bla bla bla single feminazi bla bla cant find a good man bla bla cat lady bla bla
Absolutely.
I feel like he brain washed her LoL n she has no clue what she talking about
My wife is a homemaker by choice and I am the earner. I would never pay her a cent for doing so. She made it very clear anyway from day one, everything that is hers is hers, and everything that is mine is hers.
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If this makes her happy, cool. But this is some creepy nonsense.
Why are these on the show?
There are literally thousands of housewives out there…thousands. I can name a lot of them, including myself. It’s a normal thing. Better to be at home taking care of the kids rather than someone else. Not to mention the high cost of daycare. Need 2 jobs just to pay for daycare
$100 a week, isn’t that a bit low? It’s like she’s on an allowance from her father. My husband is just that, my husband, my partner, father to my kids, etc. Not my employer. Being a housewife isn’t what I find weird, it’s the $100 weekly allowances.
What works for you is the best of your happy then it’s good but judging other relationships just means your not happy in yours 🤷🏻♀️
I feel like maybe she lost her dignity and respect… that is not a relationship, it’s just a business contract… it look like she’s stuck in the 1950’s like I Love Lucy or Leave to Beaver where the women cooks and clean and pleases her man and he’s just controlling and she has limited independence or she’s In the Handmaiden’s Tale. But that is her choice, I feel like it’s a dumbest, ludicrous choice, but it’s her choice and she’s young, but by the time she hit in 40’s or 50’s a light 💡 bulb will come on and it’s gonna hit her like bolt of lighting. Then it will be to late.
I am a staunch feminist. It would go against what I would believe if I told this woman how to live her life because that is the main idea of feminism: allowing a woman to have the freedom to live the life she wants to. However, the only time I would start having issues is if she would say "all women should live like this." But to each their own! Happy for her if this is what makes her happy!
At least u honest about it I dont agree with ur movement but hey to each their own
Love don't judge, but SHE sure does.
I no one should tell a woman how to live their life, definitely not her. I think it’s great that she’s a homemaker and that her husband pays her to do it and they have an agreement. That’s wonderful. But she’s spreading lies and hate speech about feminism. And that’s the wrong way to go about it. Do you believe in equal rights for all? Then your feminist. It is not more complicated than that, don’t make it more complicated. She saying that the wage gap is a myth and that’s a lie. I am all for people having a right to be whatever they want to be, but I am completely against anti-feminism. It’s misinformation and hate speech.
@@NarniaVonNeumann completely agree with you there. Perfectly written.
She obviously means "women would be happier living like her". I don't think she's wrong.
The way she talks about feminism is just so wrong. I think she doesn't really have a concept of feminism and she also jumps to conclusions to fast.
Oh, God. You just proved her point 🤡
Nope. The problem is that many women and men think feminism means women’s rights but that’s not what it is or what it stands for anymore. It is about superiority and the domination and subjugation of non-trans men (and now biological women)!! It’s honestly all about preventing more families and children from being born. Anti- freedom, Abortion, Transgenderism, advocating, and gay marriage and women being single, miserable and infertile.. is what it’s about. Go feminism!! 😂
She is right
Feminist hate men
Do you live under a rock? I have a minor in women’s gender and sexuality studies aka feminism. Aly’s interpretation of feminism is spot on. A lot of us ex feminist women are just that, ex feminists. Which means we fully understand feminism. Just because someone disagrees with feminism doesn’t mean they are uneducated. It’s as if people can’t have their own opinions or something.
I really don't understand how she won. She married a man old enough to be her father. She's now having grandpas baby and we all have to aspire to do that?
Men age like wine
Women age like milk
It's very easy
@@ademolaadedara557 ye receding hairlines are so attractive.
@@ademolaadedara557 So what type of guys are you into?
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I ain't a fa**ot🤣
@@ademolaadedara557 Hey it's 2023, it's okay to be gay, if men appeal to you more than women, maybe try dating them! I won't judge!
She’s making less than minimum wage 😭
with all expenses paid, and she get half after 10 years, plus child support.
that 100 a week is just for gas and uber eats
She looks at her husband as an employer. Being a housewife and wifely duties is her job. Too bad she closed her accounts. I think financial independence is important even when you’re married. God forbid the relationship goes south, bc then she is completely screwed.
The theme here seems to be that the lady has chosen this man to be her boss rather than having traditional employment. She also said that in employment she can be fired but her husband cannot fire, however that is incorrect he can fire her and that is called divorce. She may also become redundant for example if he dies or if she has an accident rendering her incapable of performing her current KPIs. I would advise her to look closely at contract and see what provisions are made for these circumstances.
Yea but he's clearly not divorcing her hes very much in love and if he does she will get alimony im sure. Shes a housewife who doesn't work. The ball is in her court he knows that and so does she.
@Oooooo she ain't divorcing him. She found her an old ugly simp. She hit the jackpot. She not going anywhere.
Well, everyone else will be divorced and alone by 50, she will also be alone cause her hubby will be dead. Hopefully there will be someone to pay for her expenses then. She complains about judgement while she is super judgemental, calling people clowns etc. Recently she wanted to buy herself raspberry tea and she had to ask her husband to fix it, must be really annoying to not be able to purchase anything on your own
This is sugar daddy ism like why is she trying to make it look different she wont even say she loves him
😅 She's so judgemental and defensive. I'm married, multiple children. I consider myself a feminist. I don't get her judgement and criticism of other women. I legitimately could care less what some random woman decides works for her family. 🤣
You two would probably tag along, I think her criticism goes to xenofeminist types
@@channel08er criticism goes to herself and even her own mother. Just from that interaction, she seemed not exactly individuated of mum's opinion, so she's running on that fuel still. It's ok, live and let live and be less preachy about other women's experiences of womanhood. That's what she's called out on, not her choice to live her life as she pleases. It's her demeaning other women for doing so.
I was prepared to come in here and say I don't see the problem. However, the wife isn't likeable at all. She is what we call a "pick-me", aka "Im not like those other girls". Also, $100/week is an allowance, not wages.
She’s very likable to me and to tons of other men. She’s not a “pick-me” because she also walks the walk. She doesn’t just talk about it like other women who sell you the idea but once they marry you they completely forget about the arrangement. They do whatever they feel like doing, and that’s not good. Have fun busting your ass 40+ hours a week for another man who doesn’t love you and who would replace you at the drop of a hat. After 30 years you can retire and come home to an empty house 👍🏼
Are you kidding me? She gets mortgage, gas, electric, phone bills paid as well as health insurance from HER MAN and he gives her money that SHE asked for because SHE’S financially frugal and you think she doesn’t have it made??? Wow this is the feminism she speaks of
Ita better to be a pick me and not a skip me
Thats why she got picked cuz shes a pick me not a skip me 😂
Let me guess: fat, ugly and single? 😂
I mean this makes sense. In nature, men will choose young women because obviously older women can't have kids and women choose the best provider they can find. But we aren't animals so not everyone HAS to live this way and people don't and that's totally fine. She's kinda judgemental for no reason.
There are underlying, deeply embedded reasons, alright, but her husband is not paying me to unpack them, so live and let live! Also, those biological reasons are the weakest, statistically unsignificant argument that they bring up - folks, society has moved on! We moved on from those primitive conceptualizations, so not true that all men and women want, think, act or aspire to the conditions you mentioned. Some do, and they're welcome to live as they wish, but stop trying to push a propaganda, brainwash our youth, and dictate reality for others - and that goes for everyone, the political left as well.
@@darcyroyce honestly your comment was silly as hell
@@darcyroyce I literally just said "we aren't animals, and not everyone has to live this way, and people don't that totally fine" you weirdo. I NEVER pushed any propaganda, you're weird as hell for not reading my entire comment yet replying like you know anything about it. Weirdoooo
Older women can have children though. So that’s not true. Maybe more difficult but it’s not impossible.
In nature, virtually no man was married past 30
even in the year 1960 - over 90% of men were married by 25.
The remaining 10% were losers
3% never married.
Look up the stats -- young women have nevr chosen old men.
and the divorce rate for a gap lke this one is over 250% o
Uptight vibes tho, hope they get more relaxed when the focus is there on the kid, also they are both very logical, needs work on other facets aswell, but idk thats how the media bias preyed upon me. Hope it naturally comes when the years come
God I would never judge house wives, I think it's great when two people fit each other's needs and agree and communicate but like one type of relationship doesn't work for everyone. They seem happy and healthy excellent for them but like, it's so weird to judge people who don't want the same. You can't act like people are attacking you if you're criticizing others for not participating in your lifestyle.
Love don't judge but she does 😬
Wait he closed her account and put everything in his name? He’s controlling her money
What money, she don’t work.
@@Wilky_27 she literally sells marriage advice 50$ a pop as a divorced 28 year old with a rich old grandad hubby. who was her and her ex's military superior by the way. she is redpill grift. her being on this channel alone is sus. if she were such a trad wife she wouldnt be chronically online like all the rest of the women she judges.
Well he is the pimp so as per the rules he gets the money 💰
When I was pregnant I sat with my feet up. Didn't cook for anyone for over a year, my family or husband did it and for a short while we even hired help to look after the house. I guess my life was better than hers.
There ya go ! That is blessed!
Aly is contradicting herself. She does not wish to be judged but she judges feminists clearly. She sounded a tad condescending while doing it so yeah...she judges those who judge her.
She claims not to work a traditional job yet she runs a UA-cam channel which does bring in income from working.
So that's not quite accurate for her to claim either.
The other problem is her very pragmatic view of marriage (the husband appears to be the same) It's a business arrangement first before anything else...if there is an anything else.
Aly mostly spoke in a very measured monotone voice. She almost sounded like a recording asking you to "Please hold, the next available associate will be with you shortly..."
She has all of the passion and warmth of a copy machine...that's married to a Texas Instruments calculator.
If these two are satisfied business associates (or customers) in this relationship then I suppose that's what matters, and by all means they're both entitled to live as they please...however...as I've already demonstrated above...
Aly is kinda full of crap.
That's not judgement...it's an opinion supported by evidence.
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Yes.. i agree. She comes across very condescending. The thing that gets me with her is, if it wasnt for feminism that military career she had would have been a no.
and she’s acting like we should aspire to be her like she lost me when this man was 23 years older than her, yikes and they’re bringing a kid into this terrible dynamic. I’m definitely judging because instead of selling me on why her relationship works, she just shit on feminism the whole video so I’m clearly not convinced.
@@Madison-rv6df she's tatted and divorced . if she destined to be a single mom ... might as well find a better catch.
she absolutely is conning that fox news watching 50+ geek.
I'm a homemaker. I have never identified as a feminist. I also have 2 degrees and 2 businesses. And she is BUGGIN with her comments on feminism lol. Like you have not studied history at all
But why aren’t you feminist? I always am confused when women say this because I used to say this, when I was uneducated on it. I’m a proud feminist because I truly understand what it means now.
@@Madison-rv6df 1. I'm Black. That shit was never for me. 2. This wave we are in now culturally doesn't appeal to me. While fighting for equal rights is still a part of it, now it's just become equality for the sake of equality (not equity) and it's in every facet of life not solely within institutions for equal opportunities. There's also an overcorrection, as well as going into extreme masculine energy vs being balanced within our duality of energies, and it doesn't have actual political movement anymore. It's a lot of just shaming online
@@lifeisrocqi 1. Is untrue. That's a talking point from men who want to divide and conquer. 2. Any movement will have people who do things they shouldn't. It's not an authoritarian regime. Not all Feminists think the same. We don't share a brain. You should agree with the principles being put forth. All this talk about "masculine" and "feminine" is completely subjective and pointless. Seriously, who cares? This obsession is nothing but a distraction.
@@ng38477 1. So I'm guessing the 19th Amendment in 1920 giving women the right to vote had no need for the Voting Rights Act of 1965. 45 YEARS LATER!
But I know my experience in this country. And that will not be invalidated.
Also, identity is up to individuals. I choose not to identify as a feminist. And that works for me. Do I support equal rights and equal opportunities? Of course. I still don't identify as a feminist. And the way the culture of the movement is going, I probably never will.
But have I thought more about my gender than my ethnicity being in majority Black/POC spaces than when I was in majority White spaces? Yes. But that's why I chose to change my environment.
Now as far as the masculine and feminine, that's yin and yang ☯️, and concepts of harmony and balance within nature that exist outside of humanity and is found in multiple cultures of color globally. So 🤷🏾♀️
@@lifeisrocqi 1. Ma'am, what are you talking about? The 19th Amendment gave you the right to vote. It didn't magically stop discrimination against Black people in the South. The 1965 law outlawed the discriminatory voting practices adopted in many southern states after the Civil War, including literacy tests as a prerequisite to voting. You really do need to learn about and understand the history and context of things you're referencing. You're working backwards from a conclusion. Feminists NEVER said Black women couldn't vote. IT WAS NEVER THEM who excluded you. It was MEN. You are very misguided. I'm not seeing solid reasoning here. You said, "That shit was never for me". Those women who put their lives and bodies on the line fought FOR YOU to have the right. It was MEN who discriminated and it was your own Black men who happily went to vote while you didn't have the right. We were never your enemies. You have 2 businesses. That was not possible in a pre-Feminist world. You could not enjoy MANY privileges you do without their work. I will not allow you to smear Feminists and say things that are incorrect or don't make sense. Your "experience" is enjoying their work and smearing them from the grave and blaming them for not eradicating all discrimination, lol. Apparently, they needed to be Thanos x10 and they're to blame for MEN who continued to discriminate against Black people.
That's true. You can identify however you want. But you're logic and reasoning makes no sense and you seem to have misdirected anger at people who actually help you. I hope you use the same logic with whatever you are following. I don't see Left or Right improving. They're racing to the bottom.
The only thing Feminine and Masculine debates are good for is a distraction for immature men who blame "Femininity" for their destructive behavior and lack of accountability. "We'Re iN a MaSCulINiTY CrISIs!" and "WoMEN WoN'T LeT Us Be MaSCuLinE!". That's all completely subjective and it's an excuse for WEAK males to do nothing to improve culture within the community of men. And for some reason, women need to LET them be masculine. So strong these men! LOL. I'm begging you all to stop obsessing about this. It's so dumb and men are using this as means to shame women into serving them. Many times, "Femininity" means obeying them like they our masters. This is a dumb debate that only serves men who want a maid they can fuck and to avoid taking accountability for counter-productive behavior. We live in a country constantly at war, wealth inequality, millions do not have adequate healthcare, our public education system is crap, and we have a crisis with Trans Community taking over everything woman and fully assaulting women's rights. Who gives about this? I hate this debate EVEN MORE because these MEN are claiming their version of "Femininity" makes THEM women. Men are using this all around to screw over women.
I just came here from another video where she talks about how she got divorced (from her former husband) cuz she realized she likes masculine men and used athletes as an example of masculine men....so I was not expecting this at all.
I couldn’t care less how this lady chooses to live her own life but by God is she extremely judgemental and condescending. She sounds downright unpleasant to be around. I feel bad for her future kid. Sickening.
She even said single mother emotions are irrevelant
She secretly wishes to have an affair with a young, handsome, and lively man, no doubt. But other than that, I see no wrong
One thing we don't pay enough attention to when discussing age gap relationships is men's biological clock. Older paternal age is associated with increased health risk to the morher and baby. She hasn't found a cheat code by marrying and procreating with an older man.
Negative 👎! You talking 👄 nonsense and you know it. A man can have a healthy baby 👶 at 100 as long as his wife or girl is young and fertile. 😶
@@alphaomega1351 Actually, this person speaks the truth. It's most likely that men over 40 will produce a child with autism. The quality of the sperm declines after age 40 and does increase the chances of a miscarriage.
Isn't content creating a job?
This is such fake controversy. It gets views though. It works for them. Point. Blank. End of it.
Only a bored and bitter outsider feels the urge to criticize. Lol😅
This ain't about love this is about money if he wasn't giving her money she'd leave this is definitely her judging though
If there no economics about marriage than the government wouldn't be involved.
You can be a feminist and a housewife at the same time. The two are not mutually exclusive. She honestly sounds so ignorant.
She was married before. This is her second marriage
@@124xhappeleshowswell he was better looking and closer to her age so I’m gonna have to agree with u there
Me and my husband are 16 years apart and have been together for 10 years and happily married 5 and we rarely rarely fight and we are totally 50/50,we complement each other perfectly! They only thing I would say you should ask for $200 a week lol 😂
I could help her negotiate that, as a careers coach. I think her employer is massively underpaying her for the job that she does.
Notice how she does not say "We have a baby on the go" but "I". This is not "us", but "me and him".
Very telling.
She's using him. I wonder if he knows. He getting benifits but I don't see love.
@@Hannahdavistheslavemassaey, those basic necessities count! Otherwise she'd need to get a job, and it's not easy after the army, it's actually quite hard to readjust to civilian life, so yeah, she can do this UA-cam thing, creating in effect, because he takes care of all the stuff, other adult women would take care of. I bet you appreciated that you could still live at home as a student, and didn't have to wander out in real life and rely on your own capacities to keep them balls all in the air. Yeah. Some of us have done just that for all her adult life. I sustained myself dince I was 18, not always brilliantly, but imagine some idiot coming to me with secondary school explanations of economics and what's good for me. Imagine the effing audacity. 😂
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He's also using her. Their relationship is totally transactional. I doubt that they love each other.
@@Alythehomiehopper and that's what she's selling. Confidence sells. Posturing confidence sells, and that's what her target audience needs. Look around, all these coaches, gurus, influencers are dealing with VULNERABLE people who would benefit from proper guidance, yet, what they get is tepid sink water sold as way overpriced miracle healing water. And people don't know that the coaching they're getting is a joke, compared to the real deal. This woman charges 250, while a therapist, counsellor or even a psychologist would be a fraction of that amount. I've been a fool myself in the past, so I understand why people would idolise social media "helpers" but it's a rip off. It also speaks of high levels of narcissism and what truly matters to the person pretending that they want to help - money, clout, admiration. It is what it is, so buyer, beware.
@@kathyryder828 they're using each other.
This feels like a parody.
I don’t know why our society hates housewives. I was a housewife by choice before but my husband didn’t pay me. I was able to handle stuff at home and take care of our child well. It benefited our child and also made sure our home didn’t turn into a rat’s nest. When I had to work again on top of my responsibilities at home, it drove me insane and literally got sick. We were more financially stable BUT less happy. There are pros and cons of being paid to be a housewife, but we shouldn’t be hating on families who choose this setup.
Here's the thing. No one hates on housewives. People are not stupid, they know that these social media housewives are grifters, fakes, pretenders, people can feel it, also, those of us from another time, with years of housewife experience don't claim the artificial glamour, because we weren't in it for that!!! This is propaganda and people know it on a cellular level. I loved being married, accepting my ex husbands name, supporting him in all his endeavours, and feeling his equal at the same time. If he wouldn't have reciprocated that, by being as cheerful and giving and admiring of my goals and dreams, and how that benefited our marriage, us growing strong as a team, I wouldn't have married him. This is not to say that I think less of these guys, it's to say that marriages are not the same, there's no right way to go, it's what's working for them two. No pretentious and unsolicited advise needed.
Did you not notice that SHES the one doing the hating.
If you're referring to comments, I think it's not about comments hating housewives but hating on her. Because of her hypocrisy.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being housewife, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with getting paid to be a homemaker, and I think anybody who tells a person (man or women) that they can’t be a homemaker should shut up. However, this woman is sending a completely wrong message about feminism and homemaking. I am very upset to learn that she thinks that feminists are clowns and that homemakers can’t be feminist. As a homemaker and a feminist, I am extremely offended by this view and hurt. feminism will always get a bad rap because feminism will always take a backseat to every social issue there is. There are people who still believe sexism isn’t real and I’m sorry, but the wage gap is a real thing. It’s a lie for her to say that there is no wage gap. I’m very disappointed that a fellow homemaker would have such a twisted and manipulated view like this about feminism. Feminism is equal rights. There’s nothing more complicated about it than that. Do you believe in equal rights for all people? Then you’re a feminist. Don’t make it more than that. There are extremist in every corner of the world, not just feminism and you calling someone who has experienced serious sexism and identifies as a feminist, a clown is so hurtful. I am not a clown and I’m at not an extremists. She’s spreading lies about facts like the wage gap. That’s not right. I support your right to be a homemaker and a feminist. You can be both. Everyone can be a feminist because all feminism means is equal rights. Don’t listen to her views about feminism, they are misguided, misinformed, and hurtful.
Absolutely right! ❤🙏
But she doesn't depend on this man 😂 she's making mad money from her youtube channel
It's laughable but you can tell who is the boss in this relationship. She is so aggressive and totally dominates the rather mild-mannered husband. You Can easily see it is she who makes the plans and derermines the direction of the youtube channel. Someone rescue this man he is the victim of domestic abuse. Do you honestly think this woman is submissive to her husband? LOLOLOLOL.
she waiting for that man to croak. couldnt find a good one her age how sad
her assuming every boss in the work world is male 😅
the grand majority are though. top 5% of men are ruining the world
Most are. Also most women prefer a male boss
Most of her working life was in the army. The likelihood of having a female boss it next to nothing. Would be very easy when talking about it to just go with her life experience.
You ignoring that most are 😅
Youre the type of person who assumes everyone is colorblind cuz you know someone who is 😂
I think this woman need deliverance
I’m afraid for her what will happen if the relationship turns sour and she wants to leave him. Because she is completely dependent on him financially.
Not even she has a whole UA-cam channel
She has a skill set if she ever needs to get a job, she is ex military
Plus most women cash out when it comes to divorce and being that he is the higher earner she would likely get at least half his shit
She'll be fine she has a successful UA-cam channel.
Marriage is a commitment and you shouldn’t ever go into thinking about leaving
I can’t judge her and the husband… But I couldn’t live depending on a man’s bank account…. Just can’t. Ur husband can see every purchase… Can’t necessarily spend or have control of the money however u want. No thank u.
There's nothing wrong with wanting to be a housewife Just as there is no problem wanting to work, Each couple handles their relationship the way they see fit.
Why do you need to be employed by your own husband to clean your own home? Sounds so weird to me. Isn’t that something you should be doing anyway as a wife/mother? You know who wants to get paid doing house chores? FEMINISTS! You don’t sound very traditional.. and I’m a conservative woman saying this.