ADDICTION: A Spiritual Search... In All The Wrong Places? - Jeff Foster

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  • Опубліковано 26 гру 2024

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  • @ThePfleisch
    @ThePfleisch 4 роки тому +3

    Im not sure if anyone's still reading these comments, but if it helps:
    Jeff mentioned that there's always a sense of lack - in my reading of it this comes from out separation from our mothers, an the fading of our pre-verbal sense of unity with her. Like he says this was indeed designed to fail in that the loss that we feel creates deep-rooted emotional turmoil. What we do not get as children/young adults is a good education in how and why all of this occurs.

  • @tthompson2750
    @tthompson2750 8 років тому +24

    Seriously Jeff your awesome your perspective is unique in that it is not all polished and happy happy like so many of the so called "Enlightened ones". Thanks for keeping it real

  • @christied425
    @christied425 Рік тому +1

    Brought me to tears 🥹 This talk brings so much peace to a lifetime full of confusion and disillusionment. The Jesus story never made any sense to me whatsoever. I feel the Love ❤️ Thank you 👀

  • @markusk.e.p.3268
    @markusk.e.p.3268 12 років тому +3

    "We are nailed to the present moment with no hope of escape." What a beautiful and hard to swallow quote. Thank you for your clear words.

  • @cestjuste
    @cestjuste 10 років тому +8

    Perfectly expressed....and even the seeking waves are allowed here, even the total failure to arrive is more arrival.

  • @Continental123-i2n
    @Continental123-i2n 11 років тому +2

    Thank you Jeff --for being a breathing bridge between Truth-- and this realm in which we find ourselves.

  • @mrjolly159
    @mrjolly159 11 років тому +5

    The mechanism for having a cigarette is to buy some, light one and inhale. The mechanism for drinking is to buy some, open the bottle and drink. The mechanism for eating, sex, success, failure, combat, sleep, resentment, jealousy, anything we reach for outside of ourselves is known. Practised. Familiar.
    What Jeff is saying is true, but we know no mechanism for seeing the ocean. We literally don't know how. Saying 'there is no guide' or 'you are there already', or 'remember' is impracticable.

  • @melissamason2470
    @melissamason2470 10 років тому +20

    I've never heard a description of Christ's crucifixion in quite that way. It's really beautiful, thank you.

    • @claudiapennisi3844
      @claudiapennisi3844 9 років тому

      +Melissa Mason Beautiful but not correct in a way..Jesus ALWAYS knew who he was and the meaning behind the crucifix. This too shall pass.
      The analogy of Jesus' crucifixion to the crucifixion of our lives does not transfer; it is problematic when we try to blend the eastern philosophies with the Christian story.

    • @rpascale9963
      @rpascale9963 7 років тому +1

      Eckhart Tolle also describes it this way. not sure where it originated, of no consequence, its a true gift of perspective.

  • @ajkoz9393
    @ajkoz9393 11 років тому +2

    Nothing makes me feel s peaceful as watching this guy's videos.

  • @honestwanderings4032
    @honestwanderings4032 11 років тому +2

    This really helped me today. Thank you for really going into our pain with compassion, and helping us to see it for what it is.

  • @jgarciajr82
    @jgarciajr82 7 років тому +2

    I'm in AA and relate to Jeff. I feel like I have no other choice but to become spiritual. Spiritual to the point of losing my own self, what I think I am and letting my self go. which in turn turns out letting yourself grown and get out of your own way. keep going Jeff Foster.

  • @krisbradleymusic
    @krisbradleymusic 7 років тому +4

    I'm so happy I discovered you today. Your words have been truly healing. Thank you !

  • @Musika1220
    @Musika1220 7 років тому +6

    Addiction.... ingesting unconditional love.
    Longing for the truth of who you really are.
    Jesus analogy : being "nailed" to the present moment with no hope to escape... from our perspective it is hell.
    Who you really are can't be torn or crucify ...remembering who we really are despite of that.
    "Father, why have you abandoned me"... Jesus forgot who he really is. His realization of who he really is becomes his salvation. That torture device (our addiction) becomes his (our) salvation.
    It is a shift in perception and a deep acceptance that heal us. We are held by who we really are.
    Who he really is was accepting, embracing and allowing it. He was remembering. He was held.
    In the midst of our turmoil, who we truly are does not need to reach out for the addiction. Who we truly are is forever present and can't be broken.

  • @vampirearistocracy
    @vampirearistocracy 9 років тому +3

    I've lacked a mother my whole life.. never knowing the cause or origin of the addiction I've been fighting with daily in my adulthood. So I appreciate your perspective having experienced this first hand, drugs filled the void of comfort I never had growing up. Good lesson for parents actually.

  • @lilyalexander2111
    @lilyalexander2111 6 років тому +1

    Thank you, Jeff. I am so moved to tears right now. My heart is bursting . Such profound and compassionate truth. I wish everyone could see this and feel it. :)

  • @pedro1jam
    @pedro1jam 12 років тому +1

    Thank you Jeff, for bringing me back to being me. I was so close but you pushed further so that I could complete that last little bit. Again, thanks :).

  • @isabelaaaa1255
    @isabelaaaa1255 7 років тому +3

    It's like you put into words what I've been going through and I really appreciate it

  • @theonlyexpert
    @theonlyexpert 12 років тому +1

    If something has a condition, it cannot be unconditional love. "If I do this, then I get that..." can never give unconditional love. It is only when we realize that all conditions are created and destroyed within this love, yet love is unaffected, then we stop seeking it in conditional circumstances or action and reaction and then the shift of perspective about ourselves changes. Instead of putting our focus on seeking, we realize the one seeking is being noticed by the one he's looking for.

  • @BRIERFOX
    @BRIERFOX 10 років тому +4

    Sir....You are on Point. Thank You.

  • @marijkevv11
    @marijkevv11 11 років тому +5

    ♡Much thanks for your clear words Jeff ♡

  • @gra6799
    @gra6799 5 років тому +1

    So profound and liberating !!! What a breathe of fresh air..Massive Appreciation 🌈😇😊♥️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏This explains ALOT to me and one of the patterns that has locked me into depression and anxiety and other destructive patterns

  • @elizabethrouten1294
    @elizabethrouten1294 11 років тому

    thankyou thankyou thankyou ... it all starts to become visible as you talk

  • @markabadi
    @markabadi 12 років тому

    Excellent words Jeff. We can't use the same tools that got us here to escape here. Only being.

  • @pukljica
    @pukljica 5 років тому +1

    Amazing content indeed!Iam so glad I found you😇

  • @jonesgerard
    @jonesgerard 10 років тому +9

    AA calls it "bondage to SELF" (ego).
    The alcoholic is trying to get God from a bottle but isn't aware. Bill Wilson AA.

    • @SimplyAlwaysAwake
      @SimplyAlwaysAwake 9 років тому +2

      +jonesgerard If you're interested in non-duality and recovery check out Paul Hedderman! If you haven't already :) He's great.

    • @angabluewellness8604
      @angabluewellness8604 8 років тому

      +Angelo I am in Na,Thank you to the founders of Na which is AA

  • @ajkoz9393
    @ajkoz9393 12 років тому

    In a way I think there is no end to it! You can ALWAYS keep improving no matter what! I understand that the truest part of yourself is ALWAYS the same, but I do not think the seeker is inherently "bad". I think it can become destructive when we seek the wrong things. If we seek to improve and learn, seek to release mental and physical resistance through methods such as fasting and meditation, that is great! Keep improving but be grounded in the NOW and love the PROCESS OF IMPROVEMENT!!!

  • @whiteass7118
    @whiteass7118 7 років тому

    We are being Engineered to manifest negative energy. surrounded by depressing News. I'm working on myself to focus on good to start the healing.

  • @TempleofInnocence-AlohaKeAkua
    @TempleofInnocence-AlohaKeAkua 12 років тому

    beautiful! your words like gentle waves breaking on a shore in cradeling rythm pointing consciousness back to itself..thank you jeff :)

  • @Jonwurd
    @Jonwurd 12 років тому

    so true, so timely! Thanks Jeff

  • @BethWallaceIreland
    @BethWallaceIreland 12 років тому +1

    Dude...... this is awesome! Thank you xxx

  • @MsBee777
    @MsBee777 11 років тому

    AWESOME SHARING JEFF...... Thank you for BEING a Being of Integrity, and speaking the truth that is true always. Sincerely, Debra aka BE Love

  • @pennyshipton6699
    @pennyshipton6699 7 років тому +2

    Is addiction, then indicative of a person who is avoiding their wholeness, don't like, or scared of themselves. sadness, grief. How do we fill the void for the missing piece.

  • @shirleymoore8775
    @shirleymoore8775 7 років тому

    may be we are enough...it's shows me poeple really do want to be better poeple. . .I feel such a compassion how for poeple ...it could be just knowing we're not separated. ...we're all connected to each other ....

  • @vpeck2
    @vpeck2 11 років тому +1

    Beautiful and true!

  • @unlockize
    @unlockize 12 років тому

    I hear truth here...thank you

  • @4HoursSleep
    @4HoursSleep 12 років тому

    not enough letters to replie in full, but i will say i enjoyd hearing someone talking about this.. i can relate ( in my own way ofc )

  • @cestjuste
    @cestjuste 10 років тому +1

    'It is finished'

  • @iamthefiremanjj
    @iamthefiremanjj Рік тому

    I call it home , safety . Isness, oneness, Pureness

  • @jae7757
    @jae7757 4 роки тому

    Thank you

  • @rosiesbitsandbobs4085
    @rosiesbitsandbobs4085 2 роки тому

    Thank you Jeff, also Jesus said on the cross, Father forgive them for they know not what they do. I’d say the whole human race doesn’t either including me. For we are puppets dancing life for the Creator, which we actually are. For the Creator is the essence of all, having experience through Form, whatever form it takes. I agree with you remembering or even knowing who we are in a duality world, helps us accept the ups and the downs. And this stops the anguish. Thank you, Your information is much appreciated.

  • @theself5738
    @theself5738 5 років тому +1

    Jesus and any other enlightened consciousness cannot be understood by our ego or mind (this is why so many egos aggressively shove dogma down people's throats but it's just another belief, not one's own wisdom through direct experience). An enlightened being can only be understood by the awakened consciousness in us. There is a fantastic book called "Resurrecting Jesus: Embodying the Spirit of a Revolutionary Mystic" by Adyashanti. He goes deep into the spiritual significance of the Jesus story as a metaphor for the spiritual awakening of humanity. When the ego encounters religions and stories, it immediately makes it into an identity and uses it to judge others and pretends like it knows everything and all others are wrong. Christianity today is an unconscious control structure and business run by the ego and beliefs of separation (us vs them, me and the other, East vs West), which is why the ego/mind takes the story to be a literal historical event and continues to delude itself that "I am going to heaven and all of you are going to hell!" It is a childish way of interpreting the Jesus story, but it is precisely this teaching of Jesus - the teaching of spiritual awakening that God is within, it is the true nature of every being- that got him persecuted. The ego structures of the past declared this as blasphemy and wanted to preserve the idea that "God is an outside entity and we are separate from it, and only this organization can get you to it if you give us your attention, power, and energy" so that power and control over the masses could be retained by these structures. Jesus preached the opposite- "I am the way, the truth, and the life" - that applies to every being and one must go within to find that truth within, not chase some outside person. The true intent of the story (not just the Christian story but any other religious traditions' stories) can only truly be seen by the awakened consciousness. Hinduism is also taken literally by most "Hindus" and they view the whole thing through the ego. They think that there are many gods and goddesses and this one will do this and the other one will give me that. But only those who have awakened can see through the Maya (the illusion of the One consciousness/God appearing to be many) and understand the true meaning behind the sacred texts. There is only one life/one God/one Consciousness, appearing to be many- appearing to be inside and outside. We are all IT.

  • @daneiladams
    @daneiladams 9 років тому +5

    Nothing is left, I cannot feel good, my heart is in agony....nothing works, I've tried relationships, drugs, jobs, nothing satisfies.....I'm in a constant state of dukkha, help me somebody! The pain is unbearable

    • @3mp4thy
      @3mp4thy 9 років тому +5

      at least you had the opportunity and ability to try those things

    • @matthewfermoso3105
      @matthewfermoso3105 8 років тому +6

      +Gustav Adamas I love you.
      "The more we talked, the more I simply stood in her shoes, listening and seeing things from her perspective; what became clear was this: Secretly, she did not want to die at all. She knew, deep down, that who she truly is - consciousness itself - cannot die. She knew that only the false can die. Only an image of herself can die. Only dreams can die.
      What she really longed for was not physical death, not the death of the body, not the end of breathing, not the cessation of the heartbeat, but the death of the false self, the death of the pretence, the death of falseness and inauthenticity. The second-hand, limited ‘self’ she was pretending to be - the Real Estate queen, the selfless giver, the one who ‘fit in’ with others, the brilliant one with the “16 track mind” as she put it - was utterly false. Her life as it was playing itself out was suffocating her. It became so clear that this woman, although ‘dying’ on the outside, had a rich, creative inner life that had simply never been given expression. On the inside, she was so very alive, so open to life, so sensitive to everything around her, so “wide angle” as she put it, so “connected to everything and everyone”. She was a force of nature, a wild and free spirit that had totally limited itself over the years, constrained itself to ‘fit in’ to some second-hand idea of what is normal, or right, or proper, or true. She had been living “the wrong life”, so to speak, a dead and deadening life, a life of money and numbers and predictability, and it was crushing this inner explorer, this adventurer, this poet, this visionary, this seer, this spiritual seeker, this big-hearted pilgrim that she was.
      The limited self longed to die, and the “Big Self” as she put it, longed to break free. The more she felt heard and understood, the more she was met without judgement, the more she relaxed, and the more she started to talk openly about her secret longing to travel, to explore, to ride out into the unknown without a map. She talked with increasing passion about those times in the past where she had felt free and alive and unburdened. There was a longing to return to that simplicity. There was a fire in her, a raging furnace of love that had been suffocated all those years in her attempts to ‘fit in’.
      Her suicidal depression had really been a signpost to life! The pain of life-suffocation had appeared to her as the raging desire for death. But it was not really the desire for death, was it? It was the desire for life! For more life! She longed to live, to really live, to no longer suffocate under the weight of the false image. Only one who longed to live could experience such an overwhelming urge to die. She longed with every cell of her body to end the pretence and the falseness and half-lived dreams and to open up to life in all its rawness and beauty - not to die, not to die, but to live in a real way.
      If she did not kill herself, if she let the body live, if instead she killed this inauthentic self, and stopped pretending to be the one she was not, and left this job and this life that was crushing her spirit, and set off into the unknown, and open up to the mysteries of the universe, she may finally become the mother (and sister, and daughter, and friend, and lover) she always longed to be - the one who taught and lived fearlessness, and realness, and life, and never-giving-up, even when exhausted. She would no longer be the ‘exhausted one longing for freedom from all responsibility’. She would be totally, completely, unbelievably responsible in the full sense of the word - able to respond authentically to life and to herself."
      Life will not be silenced. The longing for death, the certainty of suicide, was really life screaming at her one last time. “LIVE! LIVE!”

    • @LifeSoulutions
      @LifeSoulutions 8 років тому +5

      I love you in your suffering Gustav. Can you allow the suffering to be, it's not the end, it's a beginning of your unconditional love of all these feelings within yourself. All is Well (:

    • @rumpsugg
      @rumpsugg 7 років тому

      Update?

    • @lightup7584
      @lightup7584 7 років тому +2

      Gustav Adamas,you just forgot who you really are.You are the permanent awarness behind your thoughs,life stories and state of dukkha...What you really are is the Sky who contains the clouds.Good luck to come back to your real Self.Peace:)

  • @MoonlitVibe
    @MoonlitVibe 11 років тому +1

    But can knowing who/what we are and the completeness of our suffering experience lessen the suffering or in any way ease the experience of suffering? In my experience it possibly can but also only on a temporary basis.
    Suffering without the existential crisis is obviously an improvement but personally it's not always or even often the existential 'why' crisis rather than the simple experience of pain. Can we make the experience of suffering less unbearable?
    As you say, nothing external can do that but can any internal knowledge, realisation, or action?

  • @jared9372
    @jared9372 12 років тому

    Great one!! - thanks a lot Jeff!!

  • @cathytremblay1095
    @cathytremblay1095 5 років тому

    This was wonderfull !!!

  • @wpreite
    @wpreite 7 років тому

    Amazing words about Jesus

  • @carlavela7106
    @carlavela7106 5 років тому

    Gracias.

  • @appleheaddefender
    @appleheaddefender 4 роки тому

    The emptiness goes away once im with my best friend

  • @HasanBasriUlu
    @HasanBasriUlu 8 років тому +1

    Is drinking alcohol (if we don't label it addiction), a ripple in the ocean that infinite ocean allows to happen, or, it is something I should fight with and find truth and happyness in the future when I stop drinking...?
    Please comment..
    Basri, Turkey...

    • @vegasbeebi
      @vegasbeebi 7 років тому +1

      It's not the thing, it's where it's coming from. If you feel that you NEED to drink and are worse without it then it's an escape and addiction. Never "fight" with it, fighting with the feeling is not accepting the feeling. Acknowledge that there is the need for alcohol, feel the sensations in your body when you crave for it, acknowledge the thoughts of wanting the alcohol.. accept that these thoughts and sensations/feelings in your body are part of the "ocean/life".

  • @gnsejr
    @gnsejr 12 років тому

    Excellent, thank you!

  • @marieskib
    @marieskib 5 років тому

    but then: there is such a human and vulnerable beauty in the very reaching out, no? and an importance to that reaching out before it reaches in?

  • @paintingwithatwistlancaste4936

    What did the Ocean say to the little Wave?

  • @oros3388
    @oros3388 4 роки тому

    Can one say: nothing has to be done to be yourself ?

  • @MsSATSANG1
    @MsSATSANG1 12 років тому

    so real

  • @nicolareddwooddforest4481
    @nicolareddwooddforest4481 11 років тому

    This resonates with me 100%. The whales cry. I want to help. Support Sea Shepherd.

  • @daniskylark8227
    @daniskylark8227 4 роки тому

    Exactly

  • @Deepa16
    @Deepa16 12 років тому

    wonderful !

  • @cyberageal
    @cyberageal 8 років тому

    You reach a state where you need the help of someone who has infinite power knowledge and bliss continuous without a. break. A God -Realized being. Avatar Meher Baba stated. " True Happiness lies in making others happy ""-- even at the cost of your own happiness. Awake tomorrow and see what you can do to help someone or something. Forget self. ( ego).
    All my love,
    Al

  • @brightlightweight
    @brightlightweight 11 років тому

    reach out for the next video

  • @MsSATSANG1
    @MsSATSANG1 12 років тому

    SACRé JEFF

  • @cestjuste
    @cestjuste 10 років тому

    Have to lose hope

  • @ncripzx
    @ncripzx 11 років тому +1

    "This video hasn't enlightened me yet. I'll keep watching videos on youtube and one day I'll be enlightened". Hmmm...

  • @DJManthist
    @DJManthist 12 років тому +1

    To me, this guy represents the passing of the "public guru" which probably happened with JK.

  • @pennyshipton6699
    @pennyshipton6699 7 років тому

    I disagree with the guru, its not the guru its the philosophy, the help and direction to help with emotional pain. The Dalai Lama for example I read when low, his humility and wisdom and acceptance of anyone is beautiful, refreshing. Uplifting to know a human being exists with no strings attached.

  • @Balloonbot
    @Balloonbot 6 років тому +2

    Hiya mate, can i get 2 pints of unconditional love please? Cheers

  • @wk3960
    @wk3960 4 роки тому

    😍...... 😘😘😘

  • @sugarfree1894
    @sugarfree1894 5 років тому

    We're a rum lot

  • @excusesbegone
    @excusesbegone 7 років тому

    THE LIE OF LACK

  • @apricottorange
    @apricottorange 10 років тому

    So what now?

  • @mountaintruth1
    @mountaintruth1 11 років тому

    just read ecclesiastes, dont listen to aerosmith, your brain will die...

  • @shunyam56
    @shunyam56 12 років тому

    Something lacking...(even watching this clip...something lacking...ah what mantra...)
    Well Jeff, sweet man, play is without "why"...
    For today I have enough of "spiritual stuff"..
    Going to listen Aerosmith: SHUT UP AND DANCE...