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Stop procrastinating with me (SPWM?)
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- Опубліковано 20 чер 2019
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your victory dance on 1.75x speed was spectacular.
"how did all this paper come into my life and confuse me enough not to chuck it immediately away" what a mood
One of the most satisfying and relatable videos I’ve ever watched 😍
STAWP
“People who perform perfectly are creepy” YES
I LOVE THIS. I ALSO FIND IT DEEPLY STRESSFUL AND IT HAS MADE ME FEEL VERY SEEN
I’m coming for your box!
I didn't hear anything the first two minutes because I was trying to figure out there's no way her earrings are two loaves of asiago cheese bread. They're peonies and I need to wear my glasses
I thought they were half peeled potatoes omg thank you
Is it bad I needed to read this comment to figure her earrings out
for some reason my brain went to chinese steam buns
I saw doughnuts! 🍩😂
I thought they were burger plushies. They're fab every which way.
Why is no one talking about these magical earrings? Fantastic!
rosetta grey I think they’re from a sustainable beauty/clothing brand called Gung Ho
@@chloexadam correct! They are :)
Chloe Adam fancy seeing you here
well if there IS an accomplished woman at the bottom of my box, she's gonna have to accomplish getting herself out
Watching you organise this is like crack to me
Yeah, I remember from final year of high school and final exams etc, So many people trot out the 'Yeah I got x mark, but that was from hardly doing any study so I could have done so much better blah blah". But, seriously, the hard part is knuckling down and spending the time studying even though its boring and difficult etc. Like, that is the challenging bit for everyone.
Re energy bill: Don't just pay more money, you need to switch to a cheaper tariff. The reason why E.On told you the prices were going up is because you came to the end of your cheap tariff period. Either go to a price comparison website (best) or phone E.On and ask them to put you on their cheapest tariff (OK). Everyone in their twenties should be doing this!
THIS! Please scan a price comparison site yearly for good deals, you will save so much money. I pop my details into uswitch yearly to check I'm not paying over the odds for my laziness around this stuff 💡
When I was in school, I was able to get away with not trying very hard while succeeding quite a bit, but after I graduated from college, I kind of just kept failing, continually, for years, even when I felt like I was trying hard, I think maybe, to an extent, because I had felt my whole life up to that point that most things (not social things, but work, education type things) came easily and what I viewed as hard work maybe wasn't the same as other people. I don't know. And personally, when I was trying really hard to find work and never succeeding, it felt pointless to try, so I stopped and started a cycle of doing nothing, which is hard to get out of.
My solution to physical cards is a cork board display. I display by favorite birthday and holiday cards for the year then cycle them out. Same thing with play bills. I display them until the board gets full the slowly cycle new ones in. One board is in my room and yhe other in the living room. It's been a nice way for me to honor the memory of the things and avoid immediately throwing it away.
Love this idea! 💡
The irony is that I've had this tab open ready to watch this video since the day it was uploaded, but have been avoiding it because I'm not ready to face whatever it is that I'm procrastinating.
Love how you explain the deeper rooted issues associated with why these collections pile up in our lives, in this and your other sorting videos.. I am also a highly functioning procrastinator, love your thoughts on this
Can I just say how incredibly relatable and real this is? I value your perspective and life advice so much as it’s led to great introspection of my own life and motivations, and to have this realness of “we do all have a box of doom or corner of shame” and “we all actually feel like pretend adults” is just so reassuring. The reminder that a new, “better” version of myself doesn’t exist at the bottom of the box is also so helpful to consider
Woah hey. Coming for me. I’ve known deep in my heart for years that the reason I don’t eat properly, don’t exercise and don’t actually practise my singing is because if I do those things and apply for drama school and don’t get in, I’ll have failed at my dreams. Whereas now I’ve put it off for 7 years and am applying September 2020! I’ve still done nothing about it because I can live in the dream (and the glory that my singing teacher is impressed by my progress with new techniques even though I know I didn’t practise)
But hearing you talk about it with you, I can hear how mad it sounds and it needs to change if I will ever achieve me goals.
So how did it go?😂
"a casket of procrastination"....where motivation rests in pieces...I like it
Omg with the procrastination thing. And Matilda syndrome. Back when my adhd was undiagnosed, I used to get that big time AND when I miraculously went well on exams as a teenager, I also felt so guilty because I knew other people had tried harder. Such an awful vicious cycle!!
Omg 😭 that theory about how self worth correlates with procrastination. I LITERALLY had that realization 3 months ago, because it affects me in every aspect of my life, big time!! Ex: this is my third year of uni, and I haven't done ONE (1!!!!) test where I have studied every subject that I was supposed to. I just always avoid organizing and managing my time, then I pretend I don't care about anything, and last minute I panic and study what I can under immense pressure.
And what hurts even more is that for a long time I didn't know what was wrong with me ,and when I figured this out I thought "finnaly I can take care of this issue instead of just hating or feeling bad about myself“. So I told myself I was going to rewire my brain to stop doing it, but guess what? I also didn't do it, and I just feel controlled by my emotions when I should be the one controlling them.
I watched this video to procrastinate writing an essay that's due very, very soon. Hmm.
Leena...this content has been INCREDIBLE lately
"Ilkla Moor" (Ikley Moor) is a VERY traditional Yorkshire folk song. The title in Standand English works out to "On Ilkley Moor bar (without) t'at (thy hat)." It's one of those accretive songs: you went courting without putting on a hat, you catch cold, you die, we bury you, the worms eat you, ducks eat the worms, we eat the ducks, now we've eaten you up.
I love the idea of setting an hour! I have been ineffectively trying to tidy and purge items in my room for ages!
ahaha I wish it was only one box!😅
But thanks for this video series Leena, brilliant and relatable as always!
I love your videos because they are funny and witty but there's a large part of me, as a now 45 year old woman, that takes joy from the fact that I'm no longer in the manic 20s (when everything is a drama) and the achieving 30s (when everything has to be about life goals.) I'm now genuinely looking forward to turning 50 and 60 to see how I can laugh about the me in my 40s and 50s... although obviously laughing now means a small wee comes out. 40s are great... honest
I swear Leena, it's like you always read my mind and make the video I need right in this moment. Thanks for this, I'm going to go sort out my own Box of Doom now.
I laughed sooooo hard at the part about the bill police coming for some unknown bill lurking out there! I feel so seen!! Good to know that someone else deals with this!
I have come back to this video on multiple occasions, the "Box of Doom" Google Drive folder is an amazing idea! Also, your victory dance at the end is so amazing and definitely makes me laugh every time I see it. I am fortunate? in being a highly organized person (and yet a huge procrastinator) and finally went through my MANY PILES of papers. Since I have moved quite a few times, I have compiled all the documents into their own folders for each state I've lived in. It has since made finding anything exponentially easier whenever I am looking for something from a specific place. This method may not be for everyone but it has DIFINITELY helped me stay organized. I also just have all (current) documents in an accordion folder to ensure everything that's super important stays together.
‘People who perform perfectly are creepy’ - YES. I adore you (also thank you for saying something I need to hear)
I had to keep reminding myself that “her eyes are up here” because those earrings are blooming radiant. Also I love videos of people going through their things or purging them and actually talking about the significance of each item rather than all time lapse. I find it so much more interesting and satisfying (why I’ve watched your coucwm video around 8 times). I will watch you declutter anything whether it’s lidless containers, stained towels or hair pins.
You make me feel so much better about the fact I'm currently stumbling through my early twenties
I've recently started scrapbooking sentimental items which is great because instead of having a box/folder full of UNEVENLY SIZED BITS I have one lovely neat object that doesn't set off my clutter alarm signals in any way. I always saw scrapbooking as a bit too frilly but then a realised that washi tape and calligraphy are actually optional, mind blown, I'm a scrapbook bitch now.
After being nervous about signing up to Patreon for ages, I finally did it and joined the gumption club! Love your content so much Leena! ✨
Sorry if this is a somewhat backhanded compliment but your videos make me feel much better about not having my shit together 😆
"People who perform perfectly, are CREEPY" Leena Norms 2019 (That's going on my white board as the quote for this week, thank you)
I have a box like this, I call it my important documents box, but it's full of unimportant papers I'm scared to throw out...I feel better now I've admitted that. I've taken the first step! 💡
I only really transformed into a 'proper adult' when I got a filing cabinet. it's the love of my life.
Just cleared out my shit drawer while watching this and discovered 5 cheque books, 3 DBS checks and that I've been enrolled in a pension scheme for 3 days of casual work.
Ermm, I genuinely had a couple of revelations during this video! Not only to do with procrastinating, but with weight gain, overspending - all self sabotage manoeuvres. Thank you - this was truly a fresh perspective on the deep rooted issues. Also, how gooood was Come From Away?!?
Aw I’m glad it helped. OMG I cried the entire way through, one of the best things I’ve ever seen
The satisfied-with-yourself-dance at the end made the whole video worth it lol
12:25 ME. LITERALLY ME. NEVER MORE ME IN MY LIFE. I have been trying to figure out why i procrastinate so much for so so long and i came to this conclusion recently and im so happy to know there could actually be something to it and im not just awful!!!
Watched this video while working on unexciting (not mind intensive) work for my masters. Perfect for that as well! Honestly, I think of myself as an organized person as well, but I have a paper collection that is similarly easily piled up and hard to deal with. My solution was to get a couple boxes, a file box for important papers that seem like the need kept, but I don't know for sure and a "memory box" for sentimental. I'm a sentimental keep of things, but it really helps to have them at least separate from the important things so I at least know what the piles are and don't get pulled into nostalgia or overwhelm based on content.
After watching this video yesterday, I sorted out my old paperwork 🎉 It feels like a weight off my shoulders!
Woooo! High five!
Naming the bullets you fired in my direction:
1. “The day was not yours”
2. The secret adult bill
3. Secret shame
4. The dance
Watching this video gave me the motivation to hoover my flat, so thanks for that, love love love this channel!
Not to brag, but my box of shame does not exist :D sometimes I would like to have one to i go through all the stuff and discover something I forgot about, but nope xD
But, that thing about procrastinating in the name of securing yourself from failure... That hits too close to home. I guess that's the sole reason I don't do the things. Thanks for this terrifying realisation! Gonna have to sit in it for a while and eventually DO something, because damn it if my life is driven by fear.
Great video, girl!
I have 5 drawers in my house 🏠full of crap 😑old birthday cards, bills old pictures 📷 and other unmentionables so found this video very interesting and 'well ' necessary so thanks a million. Love 💘your channel- just for general information l I am watching this in August 2021 with a massive boot 👢on my right leg as I have ruptured my achilles tendon, 6 weeks into a 12 week stint. Your channel is helping me through this horrible time in my life so thanks so much 🙏. Keep them coming 😘
My best and most powerful way to deal with the pile of paper was to allow myself a box for sentimental things. I am allowed to keep a few things for sentimental reasons, but the box should be the limit and they should be so important to you would take them when your house is on fire.
I related so much to the overwhelmed feelings at the beginning, so when I saw the joy at the end it made me feel like I might be able to feel that, too. Thanks.
I very much relate! Setting up a good system for future you is also incredibly helpful I find, so like little calmly labelled boxes which you can immediately put things in to avoid the big box scenario hahah
I'M SO GLAD OTHER PEOPLE HAVE THIS HORRIFIC SHAME BOX TOO. I recently abolished mine and it was so pleasing. I am now collecting the shame driblets on the side which is a mahoosive shame factory and you've inspired me to do something.... I will think about it later....lol
I love how kind and compassionate you were in this! Shame doesn't help move forward, it just re-enforce the bad cycle I have found. I have the opposite problem: I'm very good at being responsible and adult, all my shit is in order... I don't have a mystery box, I follow a strict budget, I even have a mini shredder at home...BUT I procrastinate on things that could make my life better or happier, for example writing that book, those poems, going places that enrich me like a museum or seeking the help I need for things that are not like doing taxes and more about lifestyle changes like therapy (which i have started at long last, hooray!). I also opposite to you, think that there's nothing exceptional to me, and that no matter how hard I work and how dedicated I am nothing good will ever happen... So why even try at this point (lots of it has to do with my past traumas to be fair). I'm actively working on all those things and have seen an improvement but its slow progress. I also fear success. I know it sounds really vain but its actually not about being special its the idea that success would change my life and change somehow means danger in my brain. So instead of writing I scan my tax papers and organizes my boxes, take care of all the mystery errands and stay on top of the bills. By the end of it there's no more energy for all the creative stuff. Then I wonder why I feel cranky, sad, and demotivated XD. Or why I feel like my life will have no meaning because all I ever do is paperwork. I'm better at catching it of late but its a hard habit to break. I want more, I think. Also, please praise yourself and your work! Its so refreshing to hear people, especially women be proud and unapologetic of their accomplishment. (although I have heard that's very un-british?)Best of lucks with all those piles!!
I relate to this soooo much. Particularly the adult bill worry. Literally have nightmares about going to prison over this imaginary bill. My tip for the box of doom is have a smaller box with a lid. My box is still a mess but I never let it become too big a mess because then the lid won’t shut. It currently fits under a wardrobe. I need to organise it more. I do have a separate box of sentimental stuff which is mostly cards and stuff, should sort it. Planning to sort a bunch do tax stuff when I have time off in September will hopefully get to the box then as well.
This was so satisfying!! I did some major spring cleaning the weekend and finally forced myself to get rid of so many cards, because I'm never going to look at them again no matter how much they meant went I got them. I like your way of putting it - I have the warmth from them in my heart, but I don't need the physical object. Also it felt so wasteful to throw away/recycle so much stuff that I've gathered, which motivated me to be more judicious in the future when bringing new stuff into my home!
This video concept is so brilliant I'm kind of mad at myself for not having thought of it myself (even though I don't make videos - yet at least).
All the times you brace from the pain and then rush through what you’re saying when getting rid of your papers makes me feel seen
Ahhh what you said about procrastination and failing is sooooo true. That's why I'm trying to stop saying I procrastinate, and instead say I'm afraid to fuck this up. Because the first one is an excuse and the second one is an invitation to myself to figure out how not to be afraid. It's slow going but everything is right? Right?!?
The procrastination bit spoke to me so deeply. And the Matilda bit. Sorry this comment isn’t very eloquent, but your points are! Well made! And great!
I'm not kidding, this was the last video I watched in the 20s Toolkit series because I was putting off addressing my procrastination issues (to be fair, I do have ADHD and was only recently diagnosed).
"I'm scared of failure so I won't try and then people can't blame me when I fail". I feel seen.
The sad part about it is I'm in my 40's.
Also wow I smashed that thumbs up when she started talking about the adult tax
Oh my gosh smash hits paper! I'd almost forgotten my Ben from A1 obsession (presumably their band was named by a builder who knew all the tricks to get yourself at the top of the phone book page) Thanks for the little excursion down memory lane 👍
Right so I am cleaning up my Mom's house since she passed a month ago. My Mom Loved paperwork, I mean she never met a piece of paper she did not like. And while their is obvious ones like bills and stuff. There are the computer searches she has done as well, and kept because she might go back to it another day and add to it or It might be something she needs. Add to that the kept bills from 1998 yes you read that correctly and all of the paperwork from Grandma and Grandma. It is overwhelming and I am also a person myself who keeps things for far to long because it might be useful or I might need this someday. So as a 47 year old having to deal with all of this my advice is. Yes keep the important tax stuff bills ect keep the memorabilia, and stuff that matters to you. perhaps just mark down why they are important. Because the folks coming after you will have no idea. So long story short I am reassesing my paper hoarding ways lol Also books, and that one is even more difficult to figure out.
I'm going through my storage bins the the garage that I've been procrastinating on while watching this. Thank you for the motivation!
I’ve never had a box like this, BUT
ADVICE:
If you’re like me or Leena here, you don’t want to do The Thing (tm) because it’s overwhelming so you just don’t do it.
(I’m a perfectionist so if I can’t 100% The Thing then I ignore it).
When you have these things I have three things to live by:
(1) the easiest is - if you can complete The Thing in under 2 minutes, then do it. Make yourself do it. It will make future you v happy
(2) if it is a bigger task than 2 minute boi, set a timer and DO IT FOR 2 MINUTES. even if you don’t do the entire Thing, completing 2% of it is a good step to finishing 100% of it later. And now, you only have 98% to do ! This one is a biggie for me, and it’s hard but I’ve never regretted it, on my regretted not doing it.
(3) if it is a Thing you HAVE to do - none of this “long term box” stuff (i.e. studying for an exam or adult work with time limit consequences) make yourself do it for 5-10 minutes. Genuinely force yourself to do The Thing because the way your brain works is you don’t like doing Things. You don’t like changing what you’re doing to do The Thing. But once you’re doing it for a good bit, that big barrier goes away. (Not entirely, but it is lifted a lot). It makes continuing WAY easier - almost natural.
^~^
Omg, I got so scared when you pulled up the box. Like Noooooo, I was not readdyyyyyyyy
I already felt inspired to sort EVERYTHING after watching this, but the celebratory dance at the end just made this video for me! x
the box dance gave me life. never change, leena
You are so brilliant. Your attitude is so refreshing. Your videos make me so happy. That is all. 🥰
Thanks for the sorely needed reminder that I've been down a youtube hole for hours rather than doing research for Uni, I'll get back to this video later on tonight.
THE VICTORY DANCE!
~~~nothing in it~~~
Whoop whoop congrats on the part time freelancing! 😊
Stellar and extremely gnarly person.
peace and love
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I watch the chuck out your clothes with me video like once a week, for some reason it just really resonated with me.
If I have time, I try to make in-the-moment decisions about pieces of paper so they don't pile up. However, we all know that to do that 100% is grossly unrealistic. SO I go through residual paper items about once every season. Love your vid!
THANK YOU. This video was fantastic and I'm feeling A LOT of excitement for this series.
This video really spoke to me, thank you! I am also a procrastinator that gets things done, and your explanation of the Matilda effect is me. I kinda of hate that I never realised that's why I procrastinate things
Oh my... this is so relatable, I am also scared of the mystery adult bill! 😳
I love how much rambling you do at the beginning of the video, to procrastinate even more xD
I have a bag of doom (down graded from the wardrobe floor of doom) and need to do this!!
The victory dance at the end is one of the many reasons I subscribe to Leena for her content
Never related to someone more than when you were dancing around with that box, it spoke to my soul..
Started this video before work, came back 6 hours later just to finish the last five minutes 😂 loving the earrings too!
As soon as you talked about birthday cards I went “well alright” and went to grab my box 😂 thanks for the push!
The Matilda Syndrome thing is me! 😩 I feel seen! 😂😂
I don't have too much adult stuff to do because I'm 21 and on a gap year before postgrad, but this motivated me to clear out my inbox and reply to some messages and sort out my calendar and stuff :) thanks Leena! Your videos make a me a tad less scared to be a grownup
i appreciated the dance at the end, thank you
Please, please do a pensions video! My last job was at a shitty company and I don’t know if I’m supposed to move my pension from them to my new job or not. Do I need to also have a retirement fund?? How much do I need? Will I even be able to ever retire? My dad doesn’t even really have a pension 😅 Why are we not taught this at school?!?! I hope to one day have the pure joy of the “I have completed this task” dance.
I found it so interesting what you said about procastination, I've discussed that with friends who are very similar to me very often and I think it is somewhat tied to having been a "bright kid", growing up used to being successful at most things without much work + getting praise for it (praise that constitutes a big chunk of your identity when your identity is still an everchanging formless blob). As you grow up you still want that extra validation and gratification of accomplishing things "without even really trying" even if that is an EXTREMELY SILLY approach to getting things done as an adult. But you'd rather still think of yourself as that than actually make a well-timed, dedicated effort and expose yourself to the possibility of failing even though you've tried. Silly stuff all around.
I NEEEDED this video to my very core
Never have I more related to anything than to the fear of the Secret Adult Bill
So glad I stayed for the dance. I'm pretty good at my business stuff, that gets dealt with one a week or so. Personal stuff on the other hand.. my box is more like 4 boxes from the last two years. I keep meaning to go through it and scan it like I do business stuff but it's so overwhelming now there's so much of it 😣
that victory dance was the best.
All of my drawers in my desk were little boxes of doom. Tackled them last month and feel a lot calmer now ✨
Please say that your chucking out clothes video is not already a couple of years old. I've been meaning to sort out my clothes since I watched that video! Thanks for addressing the box of doom. I'm glad to see that I'm not the only one who doesn't deal well with paper. I actually think I need to put together a box of doom since that would be more organised than my current system of multiple piles of doom throughout my flat.
i really love your videos, leena. i’m so lucky to have found you!
I have a box full of stuff that is ‘important’ but I feel like I should go through it because I feel there’s letters in there from when I was at uni. I don’t need those anymore 😂 definitely need a sort out and this video is making me realise I need to sort my crap out
Hearing you call Ilkley Moor Baht’at a hymn gives me life! It’s definitely a local anthem 😂
Oh my god the fear that there's a secret bill you're about to be arrested for not paying is an exact anxiety that keeps me up at night. I feel so seen, thank you!
Oh lord, I've an entire bedside cabinet filled with papers. I have an entire manuscript in there - I've no idea why since the book came out two years ago and it's not like I can change anything. I know for a fact there's a paying in book in there that I last used in 2007, because I found it and put it back because it might get used one day. I suppose I should consider myself lucky that I still live my parents because they're the ones who get all the bill stuff.
Although my mother is renowned for putting all her letters in different places, meaning we've eviction notices aplenty, when a few reminders end up piled around the house. Goodness gracious, maybe it is hereditary. Well, I'm going to disappear and have an existential crisis, but I might clear out that damn drawer one day. :D