Is Attending Weddings Breaking Your Bank?
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- Опубліковано 8 вер 2024
- One PR manager admitted she was broke from attending multiple friends’ weddings in a year. The ladies of “The Real” debate whether it’s possible to have a budget when attending a friend’s wedding. Do you dread being part of a friend’s wedding because of the financial commitment?
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who has 20 friends omg girl... i have like 3. save your money, be alone.
ilikemonkeys exactly. Wouldn't even know what to do with 20 friends. The anxiety of it all...lol
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Nobody does and if you do you should not be getting married
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ilikemonkeys well you have 3 more than me 😭😭
First of all... where is she finding all these friends?? 😂
China MA Midnight That is very true. But to still have 20 friends so close that you get invited to their weddings is amazing lol
She probably gives good gifts so she keeps getting invited.
China MA Midnight ha that dont have anything to do with being friends. she probably pays for stuff. that is the problem. if i know she puts out, yeah im going invite you. word gets around fast.
Rhonda M haha that might just be the reason she's spending so much money!
I doubt all those people are really her close friends, probably casual associates, coworkers, relatives, etc. She just can't say no.
Go to Ross girl. $14.99 dresses that look good for any occasion💃
Simone Umba girl. I did exactly that for one of my good friends had her wedding recently.
Simone Umb
Simone Umba I didn't go to Ross this time around but that's how much my bridesmaid dress cost. Caught a good sale 😁
Forever 21
Or the thrift store. Mine has lots of designer stuff for Amazing prices‼️
Laughter aside, Loni actually has a good point.
YAAAS
Africa is in da building 🤦🏽♀️😂
Africa is in da building shes far from ugly she was just joking and was saying she didnt believe in that marriage not all marriage smh
Africa in da building. Can you hear? Like are you deaf? Bc she didn’t go to that wedding
Africa is in da building girl bye you is so rude 😂
20 friends?! *screams in introvert*
probably friends of friends
LMFAO! I’m an introvert and this comment is HILARIOUS!
girrllll SAMMMMEE
loni really just exposed someone like that 😂
Sure did
That divorce was all over the news and got really messy. I guess Loni don’t want people thinking that she co-signed that messed up relationship 😂
Saba Sadia seriously not nic
It was so funny
Alpha Mukeba How when ppl already knew about it? 😂
She needs to learn how to budget. Get 2-5 dresses that you can rotate. Even 1-2 dresses that you can style different ways.
lilian makori In any case they are all different weddings with different people so people will.not even notice you wear the same dress most of the time! I would have like two then accessorize differently maybe change a shoe also depending on the type of wedding
Tamera’s reaction was EVERYTHING 😂😂😂
Loni kills me 😂😂😂😂
Loni got me rolling 😂😂😂😂
Lmao Adrienne made a good point. $13,000 for 20 weddings is odee. I could buy myself a 7 day cruise to the Bahamas for just $1,000 so even if they were ALL destination weddings why is she so bad at budgeting for out of town stays?
They also left out that she is now living with her parents because of her debt. Seriously, who does that?
She could have bought her tickets in advance when she got the "Save the Date" cards to save on money.
What About if she was bridesmaids for some of her friends? That's maaad expensive. Bridesmaid dresses, accessories, hair, hen do, presents etc. Would've liked if they included some additional information
I agree she profusely bled money for these jet setting (or non jet set) weddings but really? What have we come to? This only works if all the special people in your life have 💰 like you.
i think i could understand if her flights were $500 a piece. Just flights that cost that much x 20 is already 10k. But she should have passed on some of those. Not all of those weddings were of close friends i bet.lol
This is why I hate weddings!! People make too much of weddings.
Loni has told this story before. I can't remember what episode. She just didn't mention Sherri's name.
I thought I was the only one who noticed that she mentioned it before
It was the one when they were talking about if they would go to a friends wedding if they didn’t believe in the relationship or something. I wanna look for it now 😩
iloveu85 It was something like Who should not come to your wedding or something
@@VONiiE8 no it was if you didn't approve
Adrienne, if that one friend sat two days helping you type the letters, why not buy a ticket for her? :(
Maybe it wasn't a money thing but a work obligation sort of thing. I'd at least like to believe that if it was a money thing then Adrienne would have paid for her if it was really her friend.
I guess it's a slippery slope. She probably had a lot of friends that couldn't afford to go. Going to Paris aint cheap
@@tourmii she said money
Thank you!
Yeah but two days before the wedding? Where is Adrienne supposed to find a random plane ticket and an extra seating for a friend who decided to help her. They probably let Adrienne know and decided that that was the way they were going to contribute instead. Also, I'm sure many friends and family probably couldn't afford to go. Do you think she has to buy tickets for them as well, because I'm sure other people supported in ways they could.
Loni 😳🐸☕️ but she’s right a lot of people didn’t think Sherri’s marriage would last 🤷🏾♀️🤣
A E 👀🐸☕️
BritBrit Nicole Yup
Loni listening to the youtube comment section lol. Yall always saying she lying. This time she named names. I remember some time ago she said she didn't go to a wedding because she didnt believe the marriage would last. Now we know its Sherri oop
YES AHHAHA I REMEMBER HER NOT SAYING NAMES NOW WE KNOW IT WAS SHERRI THIS WHOLE TIME
Loni, lol.....that was one of your smartest moments, deciding not to attend Sherri's wedding!!!!!
I told my friends that I would not be able to be apart of their wedding if I am required to buy a certain kind of dress, have a specific nail colour, specific hair, specific shoe........if I have to pay for it. In some instances, people ask you to be a part of their wedding because they know you can “afford” to pay for these expenses and they just ride on that.
Btw, my friends understand lol and they agree with me 🤗
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Miya B lol, thank you.
It’s not allowing me to edit 🤷🏽♀️
LOOOONNNNIIII😭😭😭😭 I can’t
Shout out to the bridesmaids who pay for their own dresses
Yorsalem Habtemariam nah fam. The bride needs to pay for the maids dresses. If she cant afford it, dont have the bridesmaids! You dont get to be cheap on your maids
Vanity Chair The bride doesn't NEED to pay for the dresses these days. Maybe back in the day it was traditional for the bride to pay but everyone works now and can pay their own way. It's a nice gesture from the bridesmaids to pay for their own dress or just decline being a bridesmaid. It is their gift to the bride. Weddings are so expensive and its nice if everyone chipped in and alleviated that cost from the bride. If you're gonna complain and say that the bride should be paying for your dress, then maybe you shouldn't be a bridesmaid in the first place. A true bridesmaid wouldn't give a second thought to buying her own dress. Guess it all depends on the relationship you have with the bride because this is all done out of love for the bride.
Chi Chi I paid for 4 multi-way dresses for 4 of my maids, get them spa gift vouchers enough for bi-weekly pamper sessions 1-month prior to the wedding, and provided makeup artist and hairstylist for all of them. If one were to ask someone to stand with them during the wedding, one need to fork out the funds and make sure the bridesmaid are pampered as well. It is tacky as hell to expect the bridesmaid to spend for your wedding. What if your best of friends couldn’t afford to get dresses?
Your wedding. Your event. 100% your expenses. Don’t have the funds, go to the justice of the peace and pay $150 instead of expecting your bridesmaid to take care of their dresses just for you to have what looks like a nice wedding on your photos.
Vanity Chair I had to pay $183 for my dress, which I wasnt planning on paying, plus I'm not working right now for the summer so thankfully another bridesmaid opened up a credit card and put my dress on there too so I pay her $30 a month ubtil the dress is paid off but I was so angry because that dress cost more than both my wedding dresses combined .
Vanity Chair another friend was a bridesmaid/maid of honor a few times and I think she ended up spending$600 on all her bridesmaid dresses.
Loni that was such a cancer thing to do 😂😂😂😂 love it! ♋️
I'm a Cancer and I wouldn't do that.
I would say half the things but the divorce part omg I was rolling bc she's sooo funny !
Danielle Eccleston lmao right that was too far but it was funny lol
Brittany Catherine way too far !! lmaoooo
Brittany Catherine 🤣 crazy 😂
Sis needs to learn the power of the words no. I think I've been to or invited to at least 20 weddings in my 21 years and they were mostly family. Mainly in NY and there were more that my mom turned down. We all have to stop living lives we can't afford, we are not our parents. We can't do all the polite things all the time for everybody, we can't afford that.
Let's just put it out there: did she even tell her friends? I would have done anything to get my friends to come to my wedding even if it meant paying for the hotel room. I would have tried to find a way to work it out. If they were her friends, then they would have helped her surely.
I was a bridesmaid in 4 weddings and declined being in a 5th. The next friend who is potentially the next person in line to get married insists I be in her wedding because I helped her meet the guy. I can't bring myself to think about how much I've spent over the years. I wonder if I can get all of those friends to chip in to pay for my wedding since I've invested so much over the years into theirs.
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You should definitely get then to pay for it, if they're going to be tacky and expect you to fund their unnecessary spending you should do the same to them. Let them know what it's like.
Why Do You Care? They didn't ask me to pay for the wedding. It's just expected that the bridesmaids pay for their dresses and accessories. Unless the bride is super wealthy and can pay for her bridesmaids, it's just common practice to pay for yourself. That being said, I wonder if I can gather all the people I would want to be in my wedding and make them a deal that says give me an even $500 and you won't have to deal with the hassle of actually being in the wedding.
Lon you RIGHT for this 😂😂
I've to go to a wedding on Friday, I don't get a lot of money I've literally been saving for weeks... In Ireland we have county's, the church and the reception are in two different county's about 100 euro in a taxi and 450 in full for hotels. The dress the bride told me to buy ( I'm a bridesmaid) was 260, and on top of that I've to get my hair and makeup done and it's so expensive. I have hereby chosen to have no more friends just incase I'm invited to a wedding. 😂😂
She didn't provide transportation to the reception?
Some of my sister's bridesmaids couldn't afford their dresses so she bought it for them to wear, but they had to give it back seeing as she was the one who bought it. She then re-sold the dresses to get her money back. They got to be in the wedding and she got to have them there. If people did that, it could be a win-win for everyone.
Bridesmaids get screwed over sometimes. She shouldn't be picking a dress that is out of your price range, and transportation should be the couple's responsibility for the wedding party. She was unreasonable about those things
iloveu85 no she said it was too expensive
Starry Night originally she did buy dresses, off wish. The cost her 4 euro and where terrible quality and no body wanted to wear them, I think she chose the more expensive dresses out of spite tbh
2:24-2:50 It helps if you know the couple and the background of each person that's getting married. It also helps if you understand the circumstances, challenges, obstacles, preparation, growth, development and the journey taken to get them to the place of matrimony. If you don't know any of those things, it becomes a very strange thing to attend a wedding without knowing the bride, the groom or the situation that surrounds the coupling or the marriage. In my mind, when you are asked to attend a wedding, you are also being asked to uphold, to pray for and protect that union/marriage which is hard to do if you don't know the story leading up to that marriage
Marsha Creary True, I feel so awkward when im eating at a wending without knowing the couple.. and to explain to other people at the party that I actually dont know the couple
Sola Fly Then don't do that.
All you have to do is bargain baby bargain ,love you guys.
Homegirl needs to learn to say no. Especially if it's not a close friend or family member. She also needs to start shopping at Marshall, Target or Ross, like Loni said. Or look for a dress she can wear different ways. Also if she can't afford 2 go 2 the wedding, she should just go 2 the engagement party, bridal shower or bachelorette party and call it a day.
Travel. Outfits. Presents. Maybe time off work. Hair. Childcare.
People laugh but it all adds up
I have a “funeral dress” that I wear to EVERY funeral...
So that's why Tamera had that reaction on the thumbnail 😂😂😂
I want a segment where they give us ideas for outfits as wedding attendees. A lot of weddings are coming up this summer and I'm already out of ideas.
Its not just the wedding. Its the travel cost, hotel cost, your dress, shoes, jewelry, hair if you are in the wedding. Its the gift, bridal shower, bachelorette party etc
I got a beautiful dress under $50 (marked down from $100) from Macy's. Shoes for $5 (marked down from $50 dressy too) at kohls, sparkly purse for $8 (marked down from $20-$30) from Burlington. It was a little after prom season so the deals were great. Usually it takes a year to plan a wedding. So go now to these places and more, even Nordstrom had deals, and keep it for next year 😂.
Yessss to Ross and Marshall’s! Wish we had a Ross in NY!
You can budget as much as you like but destination weddings can be expensive. This year I went to Santorini, I'm from Italy and it's close by still those flights aren't cheap and that's just part of the cost. At the same time I feel bad when I can't attend 😔
Lol I said "just like that" the same time Jennie did 😂
I’m with you Loni 😂😹🤣
Loni is hilarious 😂 😂
13K is half my debt. Lol sorry friends. I wouldn’t go. I rather pay my debt down. And Ad, boo, your wedding was in Paris. 🙄 I already told my friends my not putting a bunch a money to attend a wedding.
Naw sis! I’m not going to any weddings out of town. I have a dress in my closet designated for these occasions so I’m not buying anything new... As for the gift I’m not spending more than $100 (probably not even close to that much)
I wish somebody would mention my attire or how cheap i am... it will be the last wedding i go to...
And this also applies to birthdays, baby showers, baptisms and so on.....
I rarely do Christmas gifts 🙅🏾♀️
Society has us wrapped around its finger with all this consumerism
I’m straight... I’ll keep my coins and remain debt free
Yes, preach!! All this gift giving as a "polite gesture" or "tradition" or "etiquette" is killing the planet and our wallets.
They didn’t mention GIFTS! that makes sense 13k for 20 weddings...
That was so mean of Loni to say to Sheri, specifically if Sheri weren't asking for her opinion. If you don't want to go because you don't believe in the marriage, then say no, you're not available. If someone is asking for your opinion about their nuptials, nothing wrong with giving it but being rude is unnecessary. I don't care if Loni was right, she just doesn't have to be rude and blasting Sheri's business like that.
Jeannette Marie I agree I would never keep a friend like that. Loni was divorced herself and im sure her "friend" sherri is going through a rough time. That was just ugly of her to say.
Alaina Pullock....That marriage and divorce that Sherri Shephard has is already very public and I'm sure quite painful for her. For Loni to put Sherri's business on blast just adds salt to the wound That's not something that a true friend would do.
Adrienne, why didn't you buy that girl a flight to your wedding??? 😂😂
Tamera: Loni Loni Loni!
*Stirs Straw
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Burlington target Ross get them affordable dresses...
Did Adrienne just shout out her friend for being broke? And she even revealed her name. Lmaoo
Mezzy O she's not automatically broke because she couldn't go to a wedding in another country. A ticket to Paris averages $200 to $800 depending on the site and time of year (she can't control the date of someone's event). And then she may have had to pay for her own transportation, possible airport fees, pocket change, and a hotel room. Maybe the wedding was just an inconvenient time to spend a lump sum of money or she had priorities she felt were more beneficial for her life when it comes to her money. Just because she couldn't afford to go to a specific event doesn't mean she's broke period.
Naturalista Nas sorry my choice of words was bad. I guess I was referring to how people would perceive her. I don’t think she should have said her name that’s all
Lolllll
I love Tamera her hair when she braids it. I am copy-en those styles.. love them!!
I would say if you’re part of the wedding party...it’s gonna cost $$$$ or if it’s a destination wedding...
😂😂😂😂😂😂 loni love... She got a divorce. Lol
lol, funny
So Adrienne just slammed people for making their guests pay to go to a wedding and then she herself says my friends who couldn’t afford to fly to Paris for my wedding.. girrrl
YES!! Loni those Ross and Marshall's dress are great for attending a wedding
Daamn Loni😂😂
I was always told the best way to save money is to drop all of your friends when you graduate college haha but I was actually worried about money I felt bad about it so I ended up buying my bridesmaids dresses and the groomsmen’s shirts and ties....I felt bad asking someone to be in my wedding and then asking them to buy the dress and everything...now I wish I wouldn’t have had the wedding and used that money to put a down payment on a house haha it’s all so expensive
Why do people have such a hard time saying no? I say no constantly , it’s about how you tell someone
Ok. Get a outfit you already have. Do your own hair and makeup, give the couple a 75$ check. Get a frequent flyers card, don't get a plane ticket the night before get it 3 months before.
You can get some pretty inexpensive dresses. I bought a few extremely cute dresses from H&M.
Plus she could wear one dress to more than one wedding/function. Just switch up the accessories.
This girl probably wanted to show off a bit with designer outfits & accessories. Girls it’s not about how much your outfit cost but how you carry yourself like a lady in it & of course confidence.
I absolutely can’t relate to this! I don’t like weddings, I don’t receive wedding invitations and I absolutely do not attend wedding ceremonies (there’s been a few exceptions, but other than that binge watching Criminal Minds is my favorite thing to do on Saturday)
Loni love your honesty ... yap ...Sheri Sheppard got married to her 2 nd husband and it lasted 72 days ... and now her 1st and 2 nd husband .. are best friends ...wow
Girl, just dis-invite me. I'm not going broke for somebody else's wedding. I'll watch the video with you when you and your boo come back from the honeymoon
Jeannie’s cackle 😩😂😂😂
Loni, that was MESSY LOL
Adrienne needs to stop playing. It cost money to attend a wedding. Even if you wear a dress you own you have to give the couple a gift. That's over $100 right there for a low-budget wedding in ya auntie's backyard. Twice as much if you bring your plus one. She is not being real.
If the couple has a gift registry you can choose items that are less than $100, unless that couple only selected expensive items.
Rhonda M you don't NEED to get a gift. If it was my wedding I'd 100% prefer my friend to come empty handed than them to struggle and get me a gift. Material things don't matter at all, I explicitly asked everyone to not get gifts for me for my wedding
Yeahhhh If I do buy a wedding gift they're getting a target gift card
Over a hundred for a gift? There’s no need to spend that much on a gift especially if it’s out of budget. And in this case all 20 weddings are in the same friend group so the couple should understand that they will not get a gift from everyone.
Same goes for the dress. It makes absolutely no sense to buy a new dress for each wedding. Even if one could afford it, it’s a waste of time and energy going to find a new dress let alone a waste of money. Doesn’t matter if it’s the same group of people, who is really is checking that she’s wearing the same dress from 15 weddings ago? Who would really care that she’s wearing the same dress? No one that matters.
Rhonda M You don't have to give the couple a gift. If you want to, you could just give them a card or something. Your presence is your present. Stop being so materialistic
My best friend is getting married she is having a bridal shower, bacherlorette party & a couples shower. On top of that the wedding is in Florida and we live on Oklahoma so we are not close. I am a bridesmaid and I feel obligated to attend everything. Plus I am already investing over $1500 for flying, car rental & lodging just to get myself to Florida.
This makes me want to elope when my day comes. So I do not have to put a financial burden on my friends and family.
Jeanie’s laugh at the end😂😂😂
I’m not attending your wedding. Period. If it’s not 1 of my 3 friends or either of my 2 siblings I’m not coming. 🤷🏽♀️ AND I’m not sending you a gift.
Tamera's hair is laid to the gods!!!!
Loni's outfit waa gorgeous....the dust rose and floral bomber jacket...Im here for it 😍
I think that the ladies of the real don't understand what it's like to struggle....
Oh my gosh Loni 😂😂😂
I ALMOST DROPPED MY PHONE, WHEN QUEEN TAMERA, SAID MY NAME! MY NAME IS GEORGINA!!! 😆😆😭😭😭 Lots of love girls!
Loni Loves jacket is everything
TBH I'm having this problem right now, its just one friend though but ive already bought my dress and shoes I'm actually in the wedding and theres still hair, makeup and nails plus shes wanting to go out of down for the bachelorette party and turn it into a weekend and nothing has been discussed about who is paying for all this but I dont know how to feel about it I mean this is my best friend of 15 years she is my soul sister BUT its not my wedding and i feel like I shouldnt have to pay for all this
you shouldn't have to pay for all of that. her wedding, her plans, her wallet!!!! if she can't afford it, then she shouldn't do it. no good friend would put all that extra on you without at least discussing the finances first.
Id would just tell her that all this is adding up for you. Pick and choose what events you really need to be at. As someone who is married and has had a wedding, the wedding is really not that big of a deal.
I agree! I'm married to 5 years this month actually and nobody paid for anything for my wedding me and my family covered it
Jeanie’s laugh is so Ann
LMAOOOO Loni is tooo much
I love loni Hahahah
This is real. We spent about 1500 to attend a wedding this year. Heck no never again.
Expensive
I think this is because In part In this world of showy things showing off what you have or at least what your credit card limit will let you purchase has become the norm leading to people going broke to support the events...
Jeannie’s laugh at 2:50 😂
You dont go to a wedding and not spend money. Still gotta give a gift ( in most cases, a money gift. The standard price is $50-$100 per person , depending on the type of venue etc)
LONI OMFG 😂😂😂
Tamera: Loni...loni..loni 😂😂😂😂
That's why I don't have friends ha! Lol
I wore a $20 dress from Target to my cousin's wedding, there's no need to be getting a designer dress every time. And if you have to go to a destination wedding, maybe stay at a 3 star hotel instead of a 4 or 5 star if you can. I wouldn't skimp on flights tho because ain't nobody want to be flying spirit airlines but other than that, you shouldn't be paying so much for weddings. $13,000 for 20 weddings is just absurd
Loni's a HOT ASS MESS for putting out Sherri's business out like that but she does have a point. I mean why spend all that money on flights, hotels, getting an outfit, wedding gifts etc. to come to a wedding you don't even approve of, ESPECIALLY when money is tight??
It truly is my cousin got married and for a 3-day trip to Mexico was going to cost me $2,000 and all he could say was well everything is included I'm like for 3-day stay for $2,000 really a week in Miami doesn't cost that much
I love ❤️ Loni’s hair!
Baby showers is breaking my bank. Birthday parties for a whole lot of nieces and nephews is breaking my bank. Last Christmas we were struggling after presents. There a 3 new family members this year, I told them I'm handing out cards this year.
In Nigeria it definitely is.
“I shudder when wedding invites arrive! I wish I can say no!”
🤔 Yet you tell your son no.
It's a lot more than buying a dress. That part is a small fix. You also should get the couple a gift if you're attending and eating their reception food. So it's kind of not "free" food and drink, or shouldn't be. In this day and age, all weddings feel like destination weddings because most people haven't stayed in one location their whole lives. Even if I have to go coast to coast that becomes a destination wedding to me. So plane ticket, gift, attire, hotels, food for the remainder of the day/visit. Even with excellent budgeting skills that is A LOT. 20 + weddings, these sound like college friends. The preferred option would be just not to go, but there are two issues with that. 1. picking and choosing who gets a yes and no. 2. Not having all the information. You may have RSVP'd before knowing your childhood best friend would have a fall ceremony in the same year. In general, weddings within friends groups get referenced forever after and its important to share that memory with people you love. So me, I just say yes to all of them but have a whole budget set for this. Between line sisters and other family plus best friends, you can reach 20 weddings easily when you're in a certain age group.
She should have bought a few dresses and skirts and mix and matched them.. It would have been easier.. And less expensive while still wearing a new outfit at each wedding
Tamera though 😍
Loni is on point with that right there but if you don't think its going to wok but you feel like you have to go do what my mom did her best friend was getting married and he wanted he to fly out for the wedding she went even thought she didn't think it would last ( spoiler it didn't) and told him if he got divorced before a year he had to pay her back for the flight and new outfit.
Omg I agree . Every wedding iam like oh god what do I have to wear now and buy and where I have to go. It’s allllll cost money !! No maam
It is so stressful. I have a friend who is throwing 6 events for her one wedding. Multiple ethnic ceremonies and western ceremonies plus bachelorette and bridal showers. It’s the same exact people with events back to back. I think its borderline unhygenic for me to wear the same thing over and over haha
Aidrienne is so missing this point. When a close friends asks you to go to their wedding, with Flights and Hotels and meals, you can spend a decent amount, even if you wear the same dress. Now...
I dont think 20 people are "close friends."
Love Loni's outfit
Damn Loni😂😭😭😂😂😂
Wear the same dress. Bring a gift card.
Done