As a Slovenian living in the States for almost a decade, I have to say I strongly disagree with your first observation. It took me years to understand that here in America, people say “Hi, how are you?” as a greeting and they’re not really interested in my answer. People say that everywhere and to everyone... and only close friends actually care about your answer. In Slovenia you won’t be asked “How are you?” if that person doesn’t know you, like a cashier, barista or just a random person. I find the question “How are you?” way more important than most Americans I meet here. In Slovenia that question sparks a long conversation, but only with people close to you. You don’t ask a stranger that. Maybe you live in the “wrong” region - time to move to Štajerska. 😉 I’m still getting used to “scheduling” hang-outs here in the States, I let my husband handle that, because it drives me insane. Yes, I have a job, a family, obligations, but I never feel like I’m soooo busy that I can’t randomly hang out. I often wonder how busy people actually are. Like, what on earth are you doing all the time?! Maybe it’s because Amaricans always need an excuse to party, and Slovenes love to hang out all the time.
Vse si zadela točno! Nikogar ne zanima, kako si, to je del pozdrava in nič več. Za zabavo in iz obupa sem večkrat kakemu angleško govorečemu primerku začel razlagat svojo življenjso zgodbo in niti slučajno jim ni bilo jasno, kaj se dogaja. In pa kaj zaboga počne folk cele dneve, da nima nikoli časa za druženje? Mislim, da je to vse state of mind ne pa dejansko stanje. Žal je tudi pri nas vedno bolj tako, vedno bolj planiramo druženja, ne upam se več pozvonit pri sosedi, če pride na kavo.
This is new crap in the U.S. In the 90's, and earlier, people used to do alot of stuff randomly. People are insecure since wages have declined. I am an American considering moving to Slovenia.
I have to admit, I am Slovenian and I live abroad and I really dislike when Nonslovenes ask me how are you, because through my experience actually really telling them how I am I encountered somewhat of a "TMI" response. And I felt rejected. So what I feel now when someone asks me how I am is like they just expect me to always say "Im good, and you?" When actually I might not be good and I feel a pit in my stomach lying just like that - I feel its fake relating and it makes me feel like it is a bad start of a conversation - if I cant be genuine from the beginning. Other times, when pure strangers ask me this I would often feel like - "its none of your business" and it just feels invasive. So IDK - I guess it really is cultural. I genuenly wish people would stop making conversations with this question! LOL
Oh dear, I feel you! I was warned about this before... Maybe you could try 'so so' when you're feeling really down, or 'not so great'? Then more only if they wanna know more, and if you and they actually have time for it... (and a cup of tea or such) I really liked it when a (Slovenian) friend told me that her roommate in dorm asked her, 'Can I yammer a bit to you?' or something like that... in my (also Slovenian) family it was never preceded with that question... we're used to being quiet/talk about other topics or telling what some might see as 'too much' maybe.. A Slovenian friend was actually miserable when I wasn't yammering and miserable, and was happier when we were both yammering to each other/ commiserating... There are support groups in USA and elsewhere where it may be more 'normal' to talk about feelings and such, and even mental self-help manual/s etc, they do say 'Friends are best therapy'... I do find people worldwide and especially kids and youth need to learn good constructive communication, intercultural too... we are all a bit different, we can learn a lot from each other...
@@andreyav haha thanks for the kind answer. I hope it is not in our culture that we like to all be misreable together. LOL From my point of view (I study pscychotherapy) it is about just acknowledging being real with each other. So maybe this is where the cultural clash comes from. And if one person is doing great while the other isn't - it is just that the person doing great can be there for the other - without having his experience (of doing great) diminished. Honestly - when I am doing great, I am very grounded and connected with myself, so then it is much easier for me to be compassionate and really there for the other person who is not doing great. When we are both doing shitty my psyche is not able to hold the other (in compassion) like I usually can. This is my take on it. :)
Dekle, Slovenci smo dosti komplicirani čeprav tega ne kažemo od začetka. Love youre vids. When all this corona stuff is over you should come to Koroška to see the beauty of our hills and valleys. Lep pozdrav
This sounds like a rather bad day.... honestly I'm a slovene and I never disliked any of those 3, but I'd rather write what I like best in Americans. It's the expresions you make while talking, they're so enthusiastic and expresive. Oh and I love your comparative videos :)
When I was in LA and cashiers asked me how was I, I always answered with "great, AND YOU?" The look on their faces was priceless and the whole thing turned into small talk. Kinda made the whole process much easier.
...Then gain some actual metaphorical eyeballs instead of only literal ones, and you will immediately be able to stop being such a huge dick and complaining about someone's EYEBALLS while you are TALKING and are you know NOT SHOWING THEM ANYTHING....
@Mir Mi why you have to turn hostile and nationalist? The Balkans and Slovenia share many similarities, history. I think we see each other as friendly countries. But then there is you, hating and spreading nationalism.
@@xtinchek Yes I know Kristina, your comment is positive and meant as a joke. My comment was written to the guy with username Mir mi who was very hostile and hateful, but he deleted his comment.
I think Slovenia is the best country to start a family - everything is so healthy here (excluding the pandemic right now). It would be really interesting what you guys think about their politics, Slovenians I know don't like to talk about it, but maybe that's just another good thing haha. Greetings from Bled :-))
@@conanobrien1 just 10? Sure.. Idrija, Jesenice, Šoštanj & Velenje, Celje, Koper, Litija, Mežica (valley), Trbovlje, Litija. Want more? Krupa river basin has been heavily polluted with PCBs, in Anhovo they are having problems with the cement factory polluting the air. Many towns in Slovenia also deal with air pollution (PM10 particles) during the winter due to the fact that a lot of people still use firewood for heating yet don't have any filters on their chimneys. Happy now?
This makes me think that Slovenians definitely do need, over and over again, clear and simple explanations of the cultures and mentalities of others,... And this video does a great job of explaining a bit of American perspective and experience (at least the American urban culture, as you say). Keep up the great work with your videos, Mariah, you are officially the best observer of Slovenian lifestyle, mentality, culture, ... including various prejudices, misconceptions, and judgementalism we Slovenians enjoy. :)
I always enjoy hearing your thoughts Mariah. I wonder if sometimes when you describe the differences between Slovenes and Americans, you're referring to the differences between city folk and country folk. I find the way you describe Slovenes is very similar to how people are in the Scottish countryside, and in the hills in the north of England. I remember going to see a farm we wanted to buy near Zreče. My partner, young daughter and me really enjoyed meeting the owner, we had drinks, and things to eat, then we sang a few Slovenian folk songs together and then had a meal. It was wonderful. But the English estate agent from London who was helping with the sale and came with us was pulling his hair out - he kept making calls to cancel appointments, while the rest of us were having a very merry time. I think it was very important to the owner (understandably) that he knew who was going to buy his family home, that he liked us.
The ending of the video is very unexpected :D I'm not Slovenian, I'm from Ukraine and moved to Slovenia last year but personally, I really like those things about Americans. It makes it so much easier to meet new people and just hang out when everyone is relaxed about it. You just say "hi, how are you" to a stranger and "boom" - now it is so easy to just follow up with other things and get to know each other if you want to. Then you say "we should hang out more", which basically means "I've enjoyed spending time with you" and if you want, you could hang out more but maybe you'll never see each other again and that's totally fine. I like that social interactions with Americans are so relaxed and open. I haven't met as many Americans in my life but so far, my experience was only positive.
I am a Californian in Slovenia, and Mariah got it 100% for me. I DO care/am interested, and I genuinely wish for more interactions, but yeah I get busy and I usually put out the invite and whoever responds, gets an actual meetup. I was also raised in a pretty friendly place where I heard repeatedly "A stranger is only a potential friend you haven't met yet."
....Okay, now try doing either of those things ACTUALLY IN AMERICA. In the case of refusing to talk to someone you said you like and gave a phone number to try doing that and then telling someone else what you did. Will not be a pleasant experience when you tell them! And OBVIOUSLY will never start any kind of legitimate conversation in any capacity!
Bwahahaha Yeah, I have heard these complaints too. Thankfully most people I speak with know I care about them, and actually genuinely DO want to follow up. You nailed 3 perfectly for me. As for "How are you?" I have noticed a big difference depending on your location. The 2 cities on each side of us treat the public, in general, very differently. One is fast paced, cold, and assuming the worst while being terribly polite. The other one is warm and friendly (generally, reliably) and delighted by interaction. I am soooo lucky because all my paperwork is filed in the latter. Another funny thing I hear a lot- "Americans overcomplicate"...... There are a LOT of overcomplicated things here. (Cough, cough, language and government offices). Greetings from the chicken neck ;D
Having lived in NY for 14 years and worked in customer service most of that time received calls from all of US, I can definitely confirm that the “hi, how are you” is only said out of politeness and nothing else because more often than not I want to reply but they immediately start talking right after the question. So yes, why bother asking how I am if you literally say “ hi how are you” one second later “I’m calling about .....” where as when I call when I have a question about something, a product or whatever I just introduce my self and ask the question. No need to be fake. And that’s what most of America is. My personal experience.
It's not that we hate the fact that Americans are polite, it's just that our culture is more private. I could never see myself ask a total stranger how they are doing. I was just recently reading up about why Walmart failed in Germany in eaily 00's, and one of the reasons was that cashiers were forced to smile at shoppers and be chatty with them. It was such a huge turn off for costumers that they stopped shopping there and Walmart eventually closed their stores. (it's a nice read, you can google for some articles about it). So it's not just us who dislike "fake" politeness. :)
Hahaha! I can totally see Walmart failing in Germany. The problem is the perception of “fake politeness.” Americans are not being fake. The vast majority are genuinely nice people. We go to a “cold” country like Germany and could think, “Everyone is so emotionless it’s like they all hate their lives!” And on the other hand we could go to a very “warm” country like Argentina and say, “Why is everyone so touchy?!” They are fake rude, they aren’t fake affectionate. They are who they are.
..and than there are those who still adore making drama for a living 🥱 although who knows who still lives in someone's past that wasn't suppose to be so dramatic .. ..P.s I like your videos ..
Hi! I have a kind of off topic question. What's it like raising your children bilingual? I've always wanted to raise my future children bilingual, so do you have any suggestions/warnings or tips?
It's good if 1 person speaks 1 language, another person 2nd language... It will most likely take kids longer to speak well, they will speak 2 (or more) languages then though! (I don't have kids, I read this in an article, I studied to be a language teacher, some people thought I was a native speaker of English in the past.. I learnt a lot from TV and internet as a kid, youth or older.. and school of course..) Warning: I've heard some Slovenian or immigrant kids spoke better English than Slovenian, especially if they were left too much on phone/tablet, with UA-cam videos etc. Mother tongue is important, if you're Slovenian, it's important that children learn Slovenian well first.. most other languages are easier and they will learn most other languages more easily (even perhaps when they're slightly older)! Some do start early, it can go well if they learn in a good way, or not so great - depends how it's done.. it's more important that they learn in good atmosphere, so they like learning.. and that they learn good constructive communication and that they are good people, respect self & others, polite and interested in other languages and cultures.. and that parents are healthy, happy, not too nervous and overwhelmed with 'language teaching' etc.
Hi, I'm just curious, what kind of dog breed do you have? Is it a Portuguese Water Dog (PWD)? Asking beacause I have one myself and your's is very similar :)
The Slovenians are a mixture of different cultures (Austrian, Hungarian, Italian, Croatian, Bosnian, Serbian, ...). That is also the reason that when you are meeting someone from Ljubljana (Capital), his temperament - character is different when you meet someone from the coast, like from Izola or Piran, or if you meet someone from the city and someone in rural areas (they are more warm and friendly). Also you never say to someone from Maribor, that Olimpija is the best football team in Slovenia :) I'm guessing from your video, that you somehow miss the sun from California; autumn (and also winter) in Slovenia can be quite depressing. But in Ljubljana there is a lot of times the fog reason for depression. Go to the coast (after this Corona lockdown ends), you will feel a lot better.
Hahaha one of the first things I learned when I moved here was when I heard "Maribor" I was supposed to respond "Champion". However, I misheard. Instead, I heard "Champignon" and, as it was winter and everyone was getting me drunk off of domaca travarica and borovnicka and serving mushroom dishes, all my friends let me shout Mushroom for the first month for laughs. My entrance to Slovenia was.... entertaining to the Slovenes, who all messed with and helped me in a variety of ways.
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Yeah, coworker from USA saying "hey, how are you" and then walking away doesn't really show that they cared about me or other coworkers in the room. But yeah, in SOME cases USA people actually listen after they ask "how are you?"
I ask my colleague everyday, “are you ok today”...I always get the same answer...”Must be...” as a Brit the gasoline thing confuses me especially as the biggest company selling ‘gas’ is called Petrol...which is what we call gasoline...
We are certainly NOT that different. I ate te same "give me a call" among Slovenes. It just wording tat is different, but ground purpose is te same: To sow yourself caring and interested but at te same time you do not want to meet tat person. We just say "ooo, old dude, where are you, long time wee did not see it's other, we ave too meet, Come around once, ... " but as we do know distance between us is same in both direction, so also we could go visit him if we wanted to ... fake politeness. And we do not visit or see each other until one common relative dies and we meet at the funeral. Where story repeats each time (funeral) how we need to see/visit, how we only meet on funerals, but it is the same next time.
I'm reacting to "GAS" ... Ask Luka how WE say it correctly. PLIN. Pohodi plin. Stopalka za plin. But in slang, whole Slovenia also say "GAS" only sounds different, same letters. It's universal. But in the end it is GAS/PLIN what enters cylinders, because device called carburetor mix gasoline with air and create fine mist. How carburetor is called in Slovenia? "Uplinjač" - literally means device that convert liquid into gas. So :) It's GAS!
Welcome back! Nice video, unexpected ending...😉 Slovenes are always quick to criticise others, but forget to look at themselves. My answer to that is just don't bother with what they perceive as a flaw! Just stay true to yourself! 🌻
Ayy i'm first! I think :D (great video, kinda true :^) Also ye it's been raining a lot latley, but be lucky that winters aren't that bad anymore 😅 Happy birthday to me btw💝🎉
I, being British, can relate to your interpretations on what is meant...we are very similar in that respect. We are being sincere when we ask someone "How are you?" or "Hows it going?" we are not disinterested in a reply, otherwise we wouldn't ask. I think the problem stems from people watching U.S. reality shows, where being fake is a prerequisite, and the greeting flippant. Where asking someone how they are is just a habit and doesn't necessarily warrant a reply. But real life is oh so different. Saying to a fellow Brit, "We must catch up" or "Lets hang out soon" even though our calendars are full, and we live in a fast pace city, is not that we don't want that to happen, we do...I guess, saying it makes it more of a possibility and could make it happen than saying nothing at all.
From Kosovo here,living in Slovenia for 3 years now.The thing that you and your people ask strangers “How are you?” is a bit weird to us too(just for the fact that we don’t tend to do it),not weird in a bad way tho,simply not smth normal in my country...and totally not smth I wouldn’t get used to.Since we’re both living in Slovenia I think we should act more like Slovenians just so we do not get ourselves in useless arguments;it’s their country therefore their culture. I personally find arguments like:”What is right and what is wrong” between a citizen and a foreigner to be more harmful than doing any good.American people DO NOT have to change the way they talk to each other,nor do Slovenians. There will always be things we won’t like about each other or things we think our country “does it better” but some of these things are best left unspoken. A little advice (and of course I could be wrong): If after all these years living in Slovenia ,you still find yourself focused on the negative sides of this country,I guess this place was not meant for you to live in. “Go where you feel most alive” cliche as it sounds but TRUE. Did I mention that I love your videos? Nope? There you go 💜
hm, about 'Let's hang out...' maybe only say it to someone you actually like? Otherwise, 'Sorry, I'm busy these days'... Some Slovenians have a lot to do too... we don't like it if someone is 'fake', though we like politeness mostly.. maybe people in California or elsewhere are more busy with commutes etc though? Many Slovenians REALLY dislike long commutes, like very few would drive 2 hours in one directions... which may be considered 'normal' in some places.. Though this has changed a bit, some do drive to Ljubljana 75 km every day or so... (1 hour, not 2 hours in one direction :) mostly because there haven't been good more local jobs.. quality of life is important here.. PS LOVE your videos! :)
I was told years ago that Americans when they ask 'Hi, how are you?' don't expect anything other than 'Great' or 'So-so' at most.. we Slovenians do ask 'Zdravo. Kk si kej?' too... neighbors or friends or family or even coworkers sometimes tell each other what you'd expect to tell perhaps only to a therapist, hey, 'free therapy', Slovenian history was farmers/peasants, workers... Even now, only very few can actually afford therapy, and there have been long waiting lists for actual free therapy, so hey... it's 'normal' among my relatives to discuss health problems... to a degree like you would with a doctor, nutritionist, or more.. even before corona, doctors have sadly often been too busy, with 5 minutes for a patient many said, and often half of that bureaucracy with bad IT program/s.. and it's not easy to find good nutritionist/s or such here..
IDK about the first one ... at least at my workplace, people always says "hi" and then "how are you", sometimes how is life (even tho i told that person yesterday that there is nothing new in life). Obviously not all of them are doing that. Most of them just say "hi" and then you move on with your work.
I don't like it when an American tells me to have a "good day". Normally all of my days are crappy. I don't like this added pressure and stress in order to have a "good day". By the way, in the beginning of this video one of your daughters wants to name her Frisbee Laika, very interesting... smart kid (Laika was a Soviet space dog who became one of the first animals in space).
i think its just a conidince im a slovenian and lajka its a form of the world "lajati" witch mean bark and yeah dogs bark so "lajka" could be a name for a female dog we slovenians have 300words for one mening its hard to expalin
I agree with you 100% about #1, as I've already stated on my comments on your previous videos. You hit the proverbial nail on it's cranium here. Don't know about the rest of my compatriots (or, hopefully, also your new compatriots), but I absolutely, positively hate when somebody asks me "how are you?" It just pisses me off. As for the rest - I guess I can live with that :) BTW, I like your bandana :)
It is too personal for my taste (asking how are you) even if it is just a friendly way of saying hello. There is a guy from work who does that and it is extremely annoying. Seems shallow if you are not used to it.
I honestly can't stand the 'how are you' phrase. Ever since I spent I year in New Zealand and heard it 27 times a day I cannot stand it anymore. I just ignore it and say nothing. I understand every language has meaningless phrases like this but still... it's irrational, I can't cope with it. I've noticed some Slovenian teenagers have recently been asking each other that question and I think it's because they watch netflix. It's terrible, it should be officially banned outside of US/GB/NZ/AU territory.
I like it I started responding with "good and you?" in a fast Canadian accent when I was in NZ and just made a game out of it. Like this: ua-cam.com/video/HZAz_MROU2I/v-deo.html ps. Incredibly funny show Letterkenny. :)
Everybody know for that american social and mentality phenomen : "How are you today strangers" ua-cam.com/video/vs0D4-pVQdQ/v-deo.html British notice that long time ago , and of course the put it in comedy skatch.
First i meet american he asked me how you are and i didn t know that so i tried explain everthing.. 😂 then i realised that this was not a question about my life with all the history of that day... 😉
I am English and i live in Slovenia and the only thing that isnt more relaxed is the Slovenian drivers......i have never been anywhere where they drive so close waiting to overtake on valley roads and get quite pissed off if you stick to the speed limit the pass you waving thier hands
When I went to LA in 2011, a women working in a store greeted me and asked me: How are you?" and at the time I didn't know that she only wanted a short response, because here in Slovenia we usually start talking about our problems or what we are dealing with at the moment or what our plans are... whatever.... and so, I naturally started explaining how I was in depth :D Boy was I surprised when she walked away like 5 seconds later hahaha. Anyway, I think this is just a matter of difference in our cultures, but I have to admit that I thought she was being very rude :P And also I think that we are more reserved here in Slovenia, we don't just ask a stranger how he is. I wish we would :)
you made some arguments to justify american way in point 1 but it seems that on point 3 you made Slovenian point 1 even stronger :D in a away, why should we care and invest ourselves, if other person doesn't, even with slower lifestyle we have better things to do, than just to fill the void xD maybe we can affort slower lifestyle because we seem to be more efficient ^^
Maybe we take more time to meet people, because we also care about them? ;) It looks like somebody or something really upset you today. Also, I do not get annoyed with any of the things you mentioned. The only thing I could think of is that in my opinion Americans are very loud, so when there is a group (e.g. in restaurant), you are kind of forced of listening to them, even if you don´t want to. But in general, I think you are a nice person, I think I am a nice person and I hope that you will have nice day tomorrow. :) The rest really doesn´t matter.
New videooooooo yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay! And yes, Americans really do care when they ask what's up. I spent a couple of months in Chicago and was very surprised by these questions all the time. But guess what? People actually communicate there! They make friends! Go and try to ask some unknown Slovenc or Croat "what's up". They will think you escaped from a mental asylum. Same goes for all northern EU countries. People are just horribly alienated here and can't figure out that someplace on Earth other people actually make an effort. (Sorry for the rant, you struck a nerve there :D)
Mariah you already talked about how “Hi, how are you?” triggers in Slovenia really long conversation. Check your video ''10 Things I LOVE About Slovenes'' at 5:28 :D
oh man sloveenes do all this thing to, except the gas thing XD on the coast we say koša that means hi how are you in one word and ppl will respond by telling you about their day
You are wrong. Our technical dictionary is based on German expressions and if you use Google for translation you'l find some foolish mistakes. German Gas in our plin. Petrol is petrolej, Gift is poison not darilo. a.s.o. Slow life is good for stress relieve. There is no profit in fast living. Nice to see you at Ljubljana after Covid 19 limitations for real. Like your videos, making me smile.
Tud na Gorenjskem konstantno uporabljamo besede nemskega izvora. Je pa smesno ker sem jih nasteval prijateljem iz Nemcije pa so za vecino sam debelo gledal. Ocitno je Bavarscina in Avstrijska nemscina res zelo drugacna od klasicne nemscine.
You sad that you suppose, we dont care about eachother because we dobt ask everynody how are you etc... Let me explain. 1:we care about other Slovenians a lot. 2:the reason is that such questions are considered more intimate. So its fine to ask a friend how are you doing etc.... It also fine and great anybody that you know in some way. But not any stranger you meet... Because he may feel that it is not of your buisness and feel uncomfortable and that you are trying to be overly nice and that you are fake for asking since is not something you ask anyone so it can be interpreted as sucking up to them. On the other hand please keep making videos where you compare America to Slovenia. I enjoy them a lot. I also have a question for you. By my understanding in Slovenia people are a lot more into felling and intimacy that americans are. Does it mean that couples in Slovenia are more close to eachother then in America? And I know american women complain a lot about men not being open enough. Now that you experienced this open and feeling men do you prefer it to the American way or would you rather have it the American way?
I think we are not that different than Americans, especially the young population. We're just always in a hurry and too bussy to manage time with friends and family. Sometimes weeks go by before we manange to get together. The older generation, well they are more relaxed, more connected to friends and family, and yeah visits do take long time 😁 And what goes about asking people how they are, I actually like that bout your nation, cuz here no one asks you that, it's better to ask just because people are polite than just not give a damn.
You know what some of us hate about Americans? Your humongous gas guzzling cars and your huge houses made of paper :-) I mean who needs a 6000 square foot house? EDIT: ona more serious note, this "hi, how are you" phrase used to bother me as well, when I was younger. I guess it sounded disingenuous to me. However, when I thought about it, most of us do the same thing just phrase it a bit differently. Some people will say "Kva je zdej?" or "Kva dogaja?" or simply "Kako?". I guess I don't need to translate that. Of course, I don't expect a doctoral dissertation on your feelings but a few sentences is normal. As for us living at a slower pace.. I guess that's true. I think that the more you go south, the pace gets slower. If you compare Greece to Slovenia, there's a huge difference.
:) :) another cute video. I like it. Yes, that gas thing is curious. In my school days we learned UK English and the gas was only like propane, LPG etc. so we always put petrol in the reservoir (like those underground natural oil pools ;) ) of our automobiles... so, there was no gasoline, car tanks and cars ;)
Hi there, How is going ?? I hope your family is great. Glad to see your new vlog. By the way, I feel like we do not actually need to focus on things which other do not accept or like, I mean it it does not hurt any feelings or personality ....so what ever you do it OK. Likely we still have a good manner for situations like this.....rule of middle finger has not been canceled. All the best to your lovely family, stay safe and calm guys.
yo if americans(califaronias) would be around me they would think and some kinda racist cuz i make jokes like that but common people joke its a a joke im not rlly racist i hate people all the same :) and i make white jokes too
Mariah, it's 2020. The word 'Slovene(s)' has been outdated since the 90s. The correct modern version is 'Slovenian(s)'. You were probably taught the old version by the Slovenians who learned English from a teacher that should have retired in 1990. I know because I had that teacher in primary school. But my high school teacher set me straight. ;) Or we can add no.4: We hate it when Americans say "Slovene"...
Liiloo ... is Slovenian, she doesn't cooperate in American Way :-D; but if YOU say that Americans are VEERYY BUUUSYYY, I believe you - that Yenkies are quite ... as everybody else - BUT A-C-T-U-A-L-L-Y , it is just a matter of habit, so don't take it so hard anyway ;-)
Another fun video. Have to honest, as I watched it I ask myself... "How many Slovenes is she pissing off?" I feel like they can be so accepting of their culture, and on the other hand they have this whole perfectionist kick that leads them to get offended and competitive. Honestly, sister - sing it. It's easy to think those small cultural things are no big deal, but when you live in a place and really admire the people, and then some small cultural thing causes an irritation - it sucks. How hard is it just to be friends!? Um. Really hard from different cultures. I will say, a guy from Utah once asked me how I was and I said my day had really sucked, but I was smiling because I'm an optimist and a survivor. I wasn't expecting anything from him, but he looked at me like my head had spun around and I'd just vomited on him. So, culture in the US is complicated and regional as well. We moved to Illinois this year - smaller town, not Chicago - and the culture is more like Slovenia. Super reserved and introverted people. Making friends here is going to take some time, and with COVID to boot.... Next time I'm in Slovenia, we should hang out ;-).
I dont hate americans i hate trump and trump sopporters and i clearly can talk english aa u can see i live in slovene and the life in here is not good and i only care about other poeple not myself and 8 dont mine if sombedy ask me how am i feel like they care about to me
Hihi, tole je blo in smešno in dobra razlaga, mi je dalo mislit. Pa vseskozi sem se veselil ljubljanske vedute v ozadju. Nekaj komentarja: - glede "how are you /kako si" je v bistvu tako, vsaj meni se zdi, da je to za nas v osnovi blazno intimno vprašanje; ker implicira, da lahko ne bi bil najboljše in tega pa ne priznaš kar vsakemu, in če naj bi šel potem skoti kalvarijo priznanja, da si ravno v težavah, pa ta drugi ne bi zares poslušal; tega nočeš. Mi hočemo dajat videz uspešnežev, ki so poklicno in družinsko in osebno srečni in če te nekdo vpraša, kako si, v bistvu s tem stopa po tankem ledu, da bi mu rekel, da to ni čisto nič njegov problem. "Venting" si privoščiš z ljudmi, ki jih res dobro poznaš, na druge pa svojo slabo voljo streseš posredno. Moji problemi so moj problem, bi lahko rekel, in to gre včasih zelo daleč, celo partenerji si včasih ne povejo med sabo celega kupa reči (in je treba cele terapevtske odisejade, da se to naučijo). - Gas dilema je pač samo ena od (za nas) malo hecnih ZDA jezikovnih poenostavitev, in ta niti ni tako problematična; meni gre recimo bolj na živce, da je zdaj že kar vsak pes "puppy" (kar nekje v sebi nosi idejo, da ko ni več cuitie sladek mladiček, se ga znebiš ...) - glede "dejmo se kdaj dobit" je pa to čisto odvisno, kje se giblješ in koliko stikov imaš. Nornalno zaposlen človek tudi v Sloveniji velikokrat to reče, pa to ne pomeni, da bo vsakič potem čez en teden poklical in rekel, če se dobimo. Glede tempa življenja, pa, ja, če se ti zdi Ljubljana počasna, bi morala prit na Primorsko ... :D
Moin Mariah, u r so lovely!!! We are asking them only when we really care obt the very other It comes out of the fact that we try to figure our from body language The ground is in our national history. We mostly derive from peasants ant they did not communicated much between each other. It s the very truth that our s. c. Novelle riches dislike to hear it 😀
The thing i hate about americans is how crazy are about politics and the pride people like the ones that act cocky and think they will get a special treatment (i dont hate gay people) and the same can be said for feminists Drugace pa lep video Pozdrav iz Celja😆
Yess!! I agree 👍 Slovenai peoples are caring too much of another people thay want to keep look all the time. And not be them self. And like to gossip 🤣🤣🤣
As a Slovenian living in the States for almost a decade, I have to say I strongly disagree with your first observation. It took me years to understand that here in America, people say “Hi, how are you?” as a greeting and they’re not really interested in my answer. People say that everywhere and to everyone... and only close friends actually care about your answer. In Slovenia you won’t be asked “How are you?” if that person doesn’t know you, like a cashier, barista or just a random person. I find the question “How are you?” way more important than most Americans I meet here. In Slovenia that question sparks a long conversation, but only with people close to you. You don’t ask a stranger that. Maybe you live in the “wrong” region - time to move to Štajerska. 😉
I’m still getting used to “scheduling” hang-outs here in the States, I let my husband handle that, because it drives me insane. Yes, I have a job, a family, obligations, but I never feel like I’m soooo busy that I can’t randomly hang out. I often wonder how busy people actually are. Like, what on earth are you doing all the time?! Maybe it’s because Amaricans always need an excuse to party, and Slovenes love to hang out all the time.
Vse si zadela točno! Nikogar ne zanima, kako si, to je del pozdrava in nič več. Za zabavo in iz obupa sem večkrat kakemu angleško govorečemu primerku začel razlagat svojo življenjso zgodbo in niti slučajno jim ni bilo jasno, kaj se dogaja.
In pa kaj zaboga počne folk cele dneve, da nima nikoli časa za druženje? Mislim, da je to vse state of mind ne pa dejansko stanje. Žal je tudi pri nas vedno bolj tako, vedno bolj planiramo druženja, ne upam se več pozvonit pri sosedi, če pride na kavo.
Exactly! Žebljica na glavico!
mi smo se v osnovni šoli pri angleščini učili, da je pozdrav "hei, how are you" in odgovor " i am fine, thank you"
This is new crap in the U.S. In the 90's, and earlier, people used to do alot of stuff randomly. People are insecure since wages have declined. I am an American considering moving to Slovenia.
@@Polarcupcheck Do it man! I'm gonna show you around 🤣!
It took me a while to understand that "Hi, how are you" is just a more personal way to say "Hi" :)
I have to admit, I am Slovenian and I live abroad and I really dislike when Nonslovenes ask me how are you, because through my experience actually really telling them how I am I encountered somewhat of a "TMI" response. And I felt rejected. So what I feel now when someone asks me how I am is like they just expect me to always say "Im good, and you?" When actually I might not be good and I feel a pit in my stomach lying just like that - I feel its fake relating and it makes me feel like it is a bad start of a conversation - if I cant be genuine from the beginning. Other times, when pure strangers ask me this I would often feel like - "its none of your business" and it just feels invasive. So IDK - I guess it really is cultural. I genuenly wish people would stop making conversations with this question! LOL
Oh dear, I feel you! I was warned about this before... Maybe you could try 'so so' when you're feeling really down, or 'not so great'? Then more only if they wanna know more, and if you and they actually have time for it... (and a cup of tea or such) I really liked it when a (Slovenian) friend told me that her roommate in dorm asked her, 'Can I yammer a bit to you?' or something like that... in my (also Slovenian) family it was never preceded with that question... we're used to being quiet/talk about other topics or telling what some might see as 'too much' maybe.. A Slovenian friend was actually miserable when I wasn't yammering and miserable, and was happier when we were both yammering to each other/ commiserating... There are support groups in USA and elsewhere where it may be more 'normal' to talk about feelings and such, and even mental self-help manual/s etc, they do say 'Friends are best therapy'... I do find people worldwide and especially kids and youth need to learn good constructive communication, intercultural too... we are all a bit different, we can learn a lot from each other...
@@andreyav haha thanks for the kind answer. I hope it is not in our culture that we like to all be misreable together. LOL From my point of view (I study pscychotherapy) it is about just acknowledging being real with each other. So maybe this is where the cultural clash comes from. And if one person is doing great while the other isn't - it is just that the person doing great can be there for the other - without having his experience (of doing great) diminished. Honestly - when I am doing great, I am very grounded and connected with myself, so then it is much easier for me to be compassionate and really there for the other person who is not doing great. When we are both doing shitty my psyche is not able to hold the other (in compassion) like I usually can. This is my take on it. :)
I am American, and it annoys me, too. Especially, when things are real bad, and family emergencies.
Just ask them:"Do you really want to know?"
Dekle, Slovenci smo dosti komplicirani čeprav tega ne kažemo od začetka. Love youre vids. When all this corona stuff is over you should come to Koroška to see the beauty of our hills and valleys. Lep pozdrav
This sounds like a rather bad day.... honestly I'm a slovene and I never disliked any of those 3, but I'd rather write what I like best in Americans. It's the expresions you make while talking, they're so enthusiastic and expresive. Oh and I love your comparative videos :)
When I was in LA and cashiers asked me how was I, I always answered with "great, AND YOU?" The look on their faces was priceless and the whole thing turned into small talk. Kinda made the whole process much easier.
Two of those things Slovenians also do. Ask how you are and suggesting to meet for coffee soon. Both of which are not ment.
I hate nothing more than someone asking me: "How are you, what's new...?", with their eyes and fingers on the phone.
...Then gain some actual metaphorical eyeballs instead of only literal ones, and you will immediately be able to stop being such a huge dick and complaining about someone's EYEBALLS while you are TALKING and are you know NOT SHOWING THEM ANYTHING....
American with Slovenian girlfriend here....doing my research here!
For science! :D
You think Slovenia's lifestyle is slow...you should go to Bosnia or other Balkan states 😄
@Mir Mi why you have to turn hostile and nationalist? The Balkans and Slovenia share many similarities, history. I think we see each other as friendly countries. But then there is you, hating and spreading nationalism.
@@ponosenslovenec yees, my comment was only ment as a joke, I am of mixed nationalities (Slovenia and Serbia) and I love both of the countries
@@xtinchek Yes I know Kristina, your comment is positive and meant as a joke. My comment was written to the guy with username Mir mi who was very hostile and hateful, but he deleted his comment.
Ahaahhaha true 👍
I think Slovenia is the best country to start a family - everything is so healthy here (excluding the pandemic right now). It would be really interesting what you guys think about their politics, Slovenians I know don't like to talk about it, but maybe that's just another good thing haha. Greetings from Bled :-))
Not everything is healthy in Slovenia. There are plenty of towns where either the soil, air or water are polluted.
@@bojankotur4613 Really? Plenty? Name 10.
@@conanobrien1 just 10? Sure.. Idrija, Jesenice, Šoštanj & Velenje, Celje, Koper, Litija, Mežica (valley), Trbovlje, Litija. Want more? Krupa river basin has been heavily polluted with PCBs, in Anhovo they are having problems with the cement factory polluting the air. Many towns in Slovenia also deal with air pollution (PM10 particles) during the winter due to the fact that a lot of people still use firewood for heating yet don't have any filters on their chimneys. Happy now?
@@bojankotur4613 Nothing "plenty" about this places and nothing environmentally alarming.
@@conanobrien1 suit yourself.
This makes me think that Slovenians definitely do need, over and over again, clear and simple explanations of the cultures and mentalities of others,... And this video does a great job of explaining a bit of American perspective and experience (at least the American urban culture, as you say). Keep up the great work with your videos, Mariah, you are officially the best observer of Slovenian lifestyle, mentality, culture, ... including various prejudices, misconceptions, and judgementalism we Slovenians enjoy. :)
I can't stop laughing about "gas" vs "gasoline". It's hard being a literalist.
I always enjoy hearing your thoughts Mariah. I wonder if sometimes when you describe the differences between Slovenes and Americans, you're referring to the differences between city folk and country folk. I find the way you describe Slovenes is very similar to how people are in the Scottish countryside, and in the hills in the north of England. I remember going to see a farm we wanted to buy near Zreče. My partner, young daughter and me really enjoyed meeting the owner, we had drinks, and things to eat, then we sang a few Slovenian folk songs together and then had a meal. It was wonderful. But the English estate agent from London who was helping with the sale and came with us was pulling his hair out - he kept making calls to cancel appointments, while the rest of us were having a very merry time. I think it was very important to the owner (understandably) that he knew who was going to buy his family home, that he liked us.
I remember Slavoj Žižek ranting about this american 'custom'
The ending of the video is very unexpected :D
I'm not Slovenian, I'm from Ukraine and moved to Slovenia last year but personally, I really like those things about Americans. It makes it so much easier to meet new people and just hang out when everyone is relaxed about it. You just say "hi, how are you" to a stranger and "boom" - now it is so easy to just follow up with other things and get to know each other if you want to. Then you say "we should hang out more", which basically means "I've enjoyed spending time with you" and if you want, you could hang out more but maybe you'll never see each other again and that's totally fine. I like that social interactions with Americans are so relaxed and open. I haven't met as many Americans in my life but so far, my experience was only positive.
I am a Californian in Slovenia, and Mariah got it 100% for me. I DO care/am interested, and I genuinely wish for more interactions, but yeah I get busy and I usually put out the invite and whoever responds, gets an actual meetup. I was also raised in a pretty friendly place where I heard repeatedly "A stranger is only a potential friend you haven't met yet."
....Okay, now try doing either of those things ACTUALLY IN AMERICA. In the case of refusing to talk to someone you said you like and gave a phone number to try doing that and then telling someone else what you did. Will not be a pleasant experience when you tell them! And OBVIOUSLY will never start any kind of legitimate conversation in any capacity!
Bwahahaha Yeah, I have heard these complaints too. Thankfully most people I speak with know I care about them, and actually genuinely DO want to follow up. You nailed 3 perfectly for me. As for "How are you?" I have noticed a big difference depending on your location. The 2 cities on each side of us treat the public, in general, very differently. One is fast paced, cold, and assuming the worst while being terribly polite. The other one is warm and friendly (generally, reliably) and delighted by interaction. I am soooo lucky because all my paperwork is filed in the latter. Another funny thing I hear a lot- "Americans overcomplicate"...... There are a LOT of overcomplicated things here. (Cough, cough, language and government offices). Greetings from the chicken neck ;D
Having lived in NY for 14 years and worked in customer service most of that time received calls from all of US, I can definitely confirm that the “hi, how are you” is only said out of politeness and nothing else because more often than not I want to reply but they immediately start talking right after the question. So yes, why bother asking how I am if you literally say “ hi how are you” one second later “I’m calling about .....” where as when I call when I have a question about something, a product or whatever I just introduce my self and ask the question. No need to be fake. And that’s what most of America is. My personal experience.
It's not that we hate the fact that Americans are polite, it's just that our culture is more private. I could never see myself ask a total stranger how they are doing.
I was just recently reading up about why Walmart failed in Germany in eaily 00's, and one of the reasons was that cashiers were forced to smile at shoppers and be chatty with them. It was such a huge turn off for costumers that they stopped shopping there and Walmart eventually closed their stores. (it's a nice read, you can google for some articles about it). So it's not just us who dislike "fake" politeness. :)
Hahaha! I can totally see Walmart failing in Germany. The problem is the perception of “fake politeness.” Americans are not being fake. The vast majority are genuinely nice people. We go to a “cold” country like Germany and could think, “Everyone is so emotionless it’s like they all hate their lives!” And on the other hand we could go to a very “warm” country like Argentina and say, “Why is everyone so touchy?!” They are fake rude, they aren’t fake affectionate. They are who they are.
..and than there are those who still adore making drama for a living 🥱 although who knows who still lives in someone's past that wasn't suppose to be so dramatic .. ..P.s I like your videos ..
....All politeness is fake. That's literally what the word "polite" means. It means being an asshole.
Hi! I have a kind of off topic question. What's it like raising your children bilingual? I've always wanted to raise my future children bilingual, so do you have any suggestions/warnings or tips?
I really want to know about this too!!
It's good if 1 person speaks 1 language, another person 2nd language... It will most likely take kids longer to speak well, they will speak 2 (or more) languages then though! (I don't have kids, I read this in an article, I studied to be a language teacher, some people thought I was a native speaker of English in the past.. I learnt a lot from TV and internet as a kid, youth or older.. and school of course..) Warning: I've heard some Slovenian or immigrant kids spoke better English than Slovenian, especially if they were left too much on phone/tablet, with UA-cam videos etc. Mother tongue is important, if you're Slovenian, it's important that children learn Slovenian well first.. most other languages are easier and they will learn most other languages more easily (even perhaps when they're slightly older)! Some do start early, it can go well if they learn in a good way, or not so great - depends how it's done.. it's more important that they learn in good atmosphere, so they like learning.. and that they learn good constructive communication and that they are good people, respect self & others, polite and interested in other languages and cultures.. and that parents are healthy, happy, not too nervous and overwhelmed with 'language teaching' etc.
Hi, I'm just curious, what kind of dog breed do you have? Is it a Portuguese Water Dog (PWD)?
Asking beacause I have one myself and your's is very similar :)
She’s a very shaggy miniature schnauzer lol.
The Slovenians are a mixture of different cultures (Austrian, Hungarian, Italian, Croatian, Bosnian, Serbian, ...). That is also the reason that when you are meeting someone from Ljubljana (Capital), his temperament - character is different when you meet someone from the coast, like from Izola or Piran, or if you meet someone from the city and someone in rural areas (they are more warm and friendly). Also you never say to someone from Maribor, that Olimpija is the best football team in Slovenia :) I'm guessing from your video, that you somehow miss the sun from California; autumn (and also winter) in Slovenia can be quite depressing. But in Ljubljana there is a lot of times the fog reason for depression. Go to the coast (after this Corona lockdown ends), you will feel a lot better.
Hahaha one of the first things I learned when I moved here was when I heard "Maribor" I was supposed to respond "Champion". However, I misheard. Instead, I heard "Champignon" and, as it was winter and everyone was getting me drunk off of domaca travarica and borovnicka and serving mushroom dishes, all my friends let me shout Mushroom for the first month for laughs. My entrance to Slovenia was.... entertaining to the Slovenes, who all messed with and helped me in a variety of ways.
Yeah, coworker from USA saying "hey, how are you" and then walking away doesn't really show that they cared about me or other coworkers in the room. But yeah, in SOME cases USA people actually listen after they ask "how are you?"
I ask my colleague everyday, “are you ok today”...I always get the same answer...”Must be...” as a Brit the gasoline thing confuses me especially as the biggest company selling ‘gas’ is called Petrol...which is what we call gasoline...
tvoji vlogi so mi zelo všeč inse zahvaljujem ,da spoznavam vađo kulturo pa čeprav fe vaš tempo življenja hiter
We have a lot on our calendar too... But you should take time, go more easy, relax... Like it here -because of that too.
This is trully entertaining, WP!
We are certainly NOT that different. I ate te same "give me a call" among Slovenes. It just wording tat is different, but ground purpose is te same: To sow yourself caring and interested but at te same time you do not want to meet tat person. We just say "ooo, old dude, where are you, long time wee did not see it's other, we ave too meet, Come around once, ... " but as we do know distance between us is same in both direction, so also we could go visit him if we wanted to ... fake politeness. And we do not visit or see each other until one common relative dies and we meet at the funeral. Where story repeats each time (funeral) how we need to see/visit, how we only meet on funerals, but it is the same next time.
I'm reacting to "GAS" ... Ask Luka how WE say it correctly. PLIN. Pohodi plin. Stopalka za plin. But in slang, whole Slovenia also say "GAS" only sounds different, same letters. It's universal. But in the end it is GAS/PLIN what enters cylinders, because device called carburetor mix gasoline with air and create fine mist. How carburetor is called in Slovenia? "Uplinjač" - literally means device that convert liquid into gas. So :) It's GAS!
Welcome back! Nice video, unexpected ending...😉 Slovenes are always quick to criticise others, but forget to look at themselves. My answer to that is just don't bother with what they perceive as a flaw! Just stay true to yourself! 🌻
Ayy i'm first! I think :D (great video, kinda true :^)
Also ye it's been raining a lot latley, but be lucky that winters aren't that bad anymore 😅
Happy birthday to me btw💝🎉
Happy Birthday!
I, being British, can relate to your interpretations on what is meant...we are very similar in that respect. We are being sincere when we ask someone "How are you?" or "Hows it going?" we are not disinterested in a reply, otherwise we wouldn't ask. I think the problem stems from people watching U.S. reality shows, where being fake is a prerequisite, and the greeting flippant. Where asking someone how they are is just a habit and doesn't necessarily warrant a reply. But real life is oh so different. Saying to a fellow Brit, "We must catch up" or "Lets hang out soon" even though our calendars are full, and we live in a fast pace city, is not that we don't want that to happen, we do...I guess, saying it makes it more of a possibility and could make it happen than saying nothing at all.
But it get’s simplified and “Hello how are you” turns into “Alright?” 😂
That is right, it is not so simple.
From Kosovo here,living in Slovenia for 3 years now.The thing that you and your people ask strangers “How are you?” is a bit weird to us too(just for the fact that we don’t tend to do it),not weird in a bad way tho,simply not smth normal in my country...and totally not smth I wouldn’t get used to.Since we’re both living in Slovenia I think we should act more like Slovenians just so we do not get ourselves in useless arguments;it’s their country therefore their culture.
I personally find arguments like:”What is right and what is wrong” between a citizen and a foreigner to be more harmful than doing any good.American people DO NOT have to change the way they talk to each other,nor do Slovenians.
There will always be things we won’t like about each other or things we think our country “does it better” but some of these things are best left unspoken.
A little advice (and of course I could be wrong): If after all these years living in Slovenia ,you still find yourself focused on the negative sides of this country,I guess this place was not meant for you to live in.
“Go where you feel most alive” cliche as it sounds but TRUE.
Did I mention that I love your videos? Nope? There you go 💜
"smth" is not a word.
hm, about 'Let's hang out...' maybe only say it to someone you actually like? Otherwise, 'Sorry, I'm busy these days'... Some Slovenians have a lot to do too... we don't like it if someone is 'fake', though we like politeness mostly.. maybe people in California or elsewhere are more busy with commutes etc though? Many Slovenians REALLY dislike long commutes, like very few would drive 2 hours in one directions... which may be considered 'normal' in some places.. Though this has changed a bit, some do drive to Ljubljana 75 km every day or so... (1 hour, not 2 hours in one direction :) mostly because there haven't been good more local jobs.. quality of life is important here.. PS LOVE your videos! :)
I was told years ago that Americans when they ask 'Hi, how are you?' don't expect anything other than 'Great' or 'So-so' at most.. we Slovenians do ask 'Zdravo. Kk si kej?' too... neighbors or friends or family or even coworkers sometimes tell each other what you'd expect to tell perhaps only to a therapist, hey, 'free therapy', Slovenian history was farmers/peasants, workers... Even now, only very few can actually afford therapy, and there have been long waiting lists for actual free therapy, so hey... it's 'normal' among my relatives to discuss health problems... to a degree like you would with a doctor, nutritionist, or more.. even before corona, doctors have sadly often been too busy, with 5 minutes for a patient many said, and often half of that bureaucracy with bad IT program/s.. and it's not easy to find good nutritionist/s or such here..
IDK about the first one ... at least at my workplace, people always says "hi" and then "how are you", sometimes how is life (even tho i told that person yesterday that there is nothing new in life). Obviously not all of them are doing that. Most of them just say "hi" and then you move on with your work.
Hi im from Slovenia. I was just wondering if you can fluidly speak Slovene?. Was just wondering. But good video!
I don't like it when an American tells me to have a "good day". Normally all of my days are crappy. I don't like this added pressure and stress in order to have a "good day". By the way, in the beginning of this video one of your daughters wants to name her Frisbee Laika, very interesting... smart kid (Laika was a Soviet space dog who became one of the first animals in space).
i think its just a conidince im a slovenian and lajka its a form of the world "lajati" witch mean bark and yeah dogs bark so "lajka" could be a name for a female dog we slovenians have 300words for one mening its hard to expalin
I agree with you 100% about #1, as I've already stated on my comments on your previous videos. You hit the proverbial nail on it's cranium here. Don't know about the rest of my compatriots (or, hopefully, also your new compatriots), but I absolutely, positively hate when somebody asks me "how are you?" It just pisses me off.
As for the rest - I guess I can live with that :)
BTW, I like your bandana :)
If you really think these are the 3 top things we hate about Americans, then you shouldn't be so upset about it.
Honestly I dislike being called a femboy.
It is too personal for my taste (asking how are you) even if it is just a friendly way of saying hello. There is a guy from work who does that and it is extremely annoying. Seems shallow if you are not used to it.
Life pace varies from Ljubljana to Maribor too. My GF is from Ljubljana and she couldn`t believe how laid back Maribor was.
Are you live in Slovenia
I honestly can't stand the 'how are you' phrase. Ever since I spent I year in New Zealand and heard it 27 times a day I cannot stand it anymore. I just ignore it and say nothing. I understand every language has meaningless phrases like this but still... it's irrational, I can't cope with it. I've noticed some Slovenian teenagers have recently been asking each other that question and I think it's because they watch netflix. It's terrible, it should be officially banned outside of US/GB/NZ/AU territory.
I like it I started responding with "good and you?" in a fast Canadian accent when I was in NZ and just made a game out of it. Like this: ua-cam.com/video/HZAz_MROU2I/v-deo.html ps. Incredibly funny show Letterkenny. :)
Love ❤your videos in comparison between our two cultures...
Everybody know for that american social and mentality phenomen : "How are you today strangers"
ua-cam.com/video/vs0D4-pVQdQ/v-deo.html
British notice that long time ago , and of course the put it in comedy skatch.
firsstt. love your videos
Thank you!
First i meet american he asked me how you are and i didn t know that so i tried explain everthing.. 😂 then i realised that this was not a question about my life with all the history of that day... 😉
Yes that how are you tends to be more robotic to many ... and most just reply I’m good .. the girls are getting so big
I am English and i live in Slovenia and the only thing that isnt more relaxed is the Slovenian drivers......i have never been anywhere where they drive so close waiting to overtake on valley roads and get quite pissed off if you stick to the speed limit the pass you waving thier hands
When I went to LA in 2011, a women working in a store greeted me and asked me: How are you?" and at the time I didn't know that she only wanted a short response, because here in Slovenia we usually start talking about our problems or what we are dealing with at the moment or what our plans are... whatever.... and so, I naturally started explaining how I was in depth :D Boy was I surprised when she walked away like 5 seconds later hahaha.
Anyway, I think this is just a matter of difference in our cultures, but I have to admit that I thought she was being very rude :P And also I think that we are more reserved here in Slovenia, we don't just ask a stranger how he is. I wish we would :)
Naredila slona iz muhe.
Hej, kje v Ljubljani je to? :)
Ježica, travniki ob železniški progi.
you made some arguments to justify american way in point 1 but it seems that on point 3 you made Slovenian point 1 even stronger :D in a away, why should we care and invest ourselves, if other person doesn't, even with slower lifestyle we have better things to do, than just to fill the void xD maybe we can affort slower lifestyle because we seem to be more efficient ^^
Hello from Montreal Canada l Love to live in Slovenija have a fantastic day 🌞☕
does your partner speak slovene with the kids?
Hi lady we care about each other sometimes even too much.
Maybe we take more time to meet people, because we also care about them? ;) It looks like somebody or something really upset you today. Also, I do not get annoyed with any of the things you mentioned. The only thing I could think of is that in my opinion Americans are very loud, so when there is a group (e.g. in restaurant), you are kind of forced of listening to them, even if you don´t want to. But in general, I think you are a nice person, I think I am a nice person and I hope that you will have nice day tomorrow. :) The rest really doesn´t matter.
New videooooooo yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay! And yes, Americans really do care when they ask what's up. I spent a couple of months in Chicago and was very surprised by these questions all the time. But guess what? People actually communicate there! They make friends! Go and try to ask some unknown Slovenc or Croat "what's up". They will think you escaped from a mental asylum. Same goes for all northern EU countries. People are just horribly alienated here and can't figure out that someplace on Earth other people actually make an effort. (Sorry for the rant, you struck a nerve there :D)
Mariah you already talked about how “Hi, how are you?” triggers in Slovenia really long conversation. Check your video ''10 Things I LOVE About Slovenes'' at 5:28 :D
So i guess “Hi, how are you?” is a normal thing to say in America, but in Slovenia it's more like a personal question
oh man sloveenes do all this thing to, except the gas thing XD on the coast we say koša that means hi how are you in one word and ppl will respond by telling you about their day
Brit here with a Slovenian girlfriend.. can totally relate to the first one hahah. I always ask and then immediately regret asking them 🙈
......The break up.
Where the hack are all those Slovenians you are describing... never met a single one like that, and I am closing to septuagenarian era of mine?
Can you please do vlogs i lovee 💗 your videos
Ask and ye shall receive!
You are wrong. Our technical dictionary is based on German expressions and if you use Google for translation you'l find some foolish mistakes. German Gas in our plin. Petrol is petrolej, Gift is poison not darilo. a.s.o. Slow life is good for stress relieve. There is no profit in fast living. Nice to see you at Ljubljana after Covid 19 limitations for real. Like your videos, making me smile.
Se strinjam stric, tü na Štajerskem še vedno uporablamo v vsakdanjem živleji kake take besede ki so drugače nemškega izvora
Tud na Gorenjskem konstantno uporabljamo besede nemskega izvora. Je pa smesno ker sem jih nasteval prijateljem iz Nemcije pa so za vecino sam debelo gledal. Ocitno je Bavarscina in Avstrijska nemscina res zelo drugacna od klasicne nemscine.
I am sure U Re enjoying your time there in Slovenia
You sad that you suppose, we dont care about eachother because we dobt ask everynody how are you etc... Let me explain.
1:we care about other Slovenians a lot.
2:the reason is that such questions are considered more intimate. So its fine to ask a friend how are you doing etc.... It also fine and great anybody that you know in some way. But not any stranger you meet... Because he may feel that it is not of your buisness and feel uncomfortable and that you are trying to be overly nice and that you are fake for asking since is not something you ask anyone so it can be interpreted as sucking up to them.
On the other hand please keep making videos where you compare America to Slovenia. I enjoy them a lot.
I also have a question for you.
By my understanding in Slovenia people are a lot more into felling and intimacy that americans are. Does it mean that couples in Slovenia are more close to eachother then in America?
And I know american women complain a lot about men not being open enough. Now that you experienced this open and feeling men do you prefer it to the American way or would you rather have it the American way?
I think we are not that different than Americans, especially the young population. We're just always in a hurry and too bussy to manage time with friends and family. Sometimes weeks go by before we manange to get together. The older generation, well they are more relaxed, more connected to friends and family, and yeah visits do take long time 😁 And what goes about asking people how they are, I actually like that bout your nation, cuz here no one asks you that, it's better to ask just because people are polite than just not give a damn.
You know what some of us hate about Americans? Your humongous gas guzzling cars and your huge houses made of paper :-) I mean who needs a 6000 square foot house?
EDIT: ona more serious note, this "hi, how are you" phrase used to bother me as well, when I was younger. I guess it sounded disingenuous to me. However, when I thought about it, most of us do the same thing just phrase it a bit differently. Some people will say "Kva je zdej?" or "Kva dogaja?" or simply "Kako?". I guess I don't need to translate that. Of course, I don't expect a doctoral dissertation on your feelings but a few sentences is normal.
As for us living at a slower pace.. I guess that's true. I think that the more you go south, the pace gets slower. If you compare Greece to Slovenia, there's a huge difference.
:) :) another cute video. I like it.
Yes, that gas thing is curious. In my school days we learned UK English and the gas was only like propane, LPG etc. so we always put petrol in the reservoir (like those underground natural oil pools ;) ) of our automobiles... so, there was no gasoline, car tanks and cars ;)
What kind of slovenians do you know O.o
baby at the back the whole time 👁👄👁
Hi there, How is going ?? I hope your family is great. Glad to see your new vlog. By the way, I feel like we do not actually need to focus on things which other do not accept or like, I mean it it does not hurt any feelings or personality ....so what ever you do it OK. Likely we still have a good manner for situations like this.....rule of middle finger has not been canceled. All the best to your lovely family, stay safe and calm guys.
I do this also. Say "Yeah, we should totaly meet next month" and don't really mean it.
yo if americans(califaronias) would be around me they would think and some kinda racist cuz i make jokes like that but common people joke its a a joke im not rlly racist i hate people all the same :) and i make white jokes too
You look so much like Slovenian
Mariah, it's 2020. The word 'Slovene(s)' has been outdated since the 90s. The correct modern version is 'Slovenian(s)'. You were probably taught the old version by the Slovenians who learned English from a teacher that should have retired in 1990. I know because I had that teacher in primary school. But my high school teacher set me straight. ;)
Or we can add no.4: We hate it when Americans say "Slovene"...
Liiloo ... is Slovenian, she doesn't cooperate in American Way :-D; but if YOU say that Americans are VEERYY BUUUSYYY, I believe you - that Yenkies are quite ... as everybody else - BUT A-C-T-U-A-L-L-Y , it is just a matter of habit, so don't take it so hard anyway ;-)
disagree
Another fun video. Have to honest, as I watched it I ask myself... "How many Slovenes is she pissing off?" I feel like they can be so accepting of their culture, and on the other hand they have this whole perfectionist kick that leads them to get offended and competitive. Honestly, sister - sing it. It's easy to think those small cultural things are no big deal, but when you live in a place and really admire the people, and then some small cultural thing causes an irritation - it sucks. How hard is it just to be friends!? Um. Really hard from different cultures.
I will say, a guy from Utah once asked me how I was and I said my day had really sucked, but I was smiling because I'm an optimist and a survivor. I wasn't expecting anything from him, but he looked at me like my head had spun around and I'd just vomited on him. So, culture in the US is complicated and regional as well. We moved to Illinois this year - smaller town, not Chicago - and the culture is more like Slovenia. Super reserved and introverted people. Making friends here is going to take some time, and with COVID to boot.... Next time I'm in Slovenia, we should hang out ;-).
Šele ko sem oddal komentar, katerega sem takoj izbrisal, sem uvidel da morajo biti komentarji spoštljivi... KKAAAKKKOOO LE????
I dont hate americans i hate trump and trump sopporters and i clearly can talk english aa u can see i live in slovene and the life in here is not good and i only care about other poeple not myself and 8 dont mine if sombedy ask me how am i feel like they care about to me
Hihi, tole je blo in smešno in dobra razlaga, mi je dalo mislit. Pa vseskozi sem se veselil ljubljanske vedute v ozadju. Nekaj komentarja:
- glede "how are you /kako si" je v bistvu tako, vsaj meni se zdi, da je to za nas v osnovi blazno intimno vprašanje; ker implicira, da lahko ne bi bil najboljše in tega pa ne priznaš kar vsakemu, in če naj bi šel potem skoti kalvarijo priznanja, da si ravno v težavah, pa ta drugi ne bi zares poslušal; tega nočeš. Mi hočemo dajat videz uspešnežev, ki so poklicno in družinsko in osebno srečni in če te nekdo vpraša, kako si, v bistvu s tem stopa po tankem ledu, da bi mu rekel, da to ni čisto nič njegov problem. "Venting" si privoščiš z ljudmi, ki jih res dobro poznaš, na druge pa svojo slabo voljo streseš posredno. Moji problemi so moj problem, bi lahko rekel, in to gre včasih zelo daleč, celo partenerji si včasih ne povejo med sabo celega kupa reči (in je treba cele terapevtske odisejade, da se to naučijo).
- Gas dilema je pač samo ena od (za nas) malo hecnih ZDA jezikovnih poenostavitev, in ta niti ni tako problematična; meni gre recimo bolj na živce, da je zdaj že kar vsak pes "puppy" (kar nekje v sebi nosi idejo, da ko ni več cuitie sladek mladiček, se ga znebiš ...)
- glede "dejmo se kdaj dobit" je pa to čisto odvisno, kje se giblješ in koliko stikov imaš. Nornalno zaposlen človek tudi v Sloveniji velikokrat to reče, pa to ne pomeni, da bo vsakič potem čez en teden poklical in rekel, če se dobimo.
Glede tempa življenja, pa, ja, če se ti zdi Ljubljana počasna, bi morala prit na Primorsko ... :D
The true title of the video: 3 Things Luka HATES that Americans say ;)
Moin Mariah, u r so lovely!!! We are asking them only when we really care obt the very other It comes out of the fact that we try to figure our from body language The ground is in our national history. We mostly derive from peasants ant they did not communicated much between each other. It s the very truth that our s. c. Novelle riches dislike to hear it 😀
A nekateri se pozdravljamo. hej kako si ali pa hej kje si :D
Bs3 the best terrene 4 groweing ganja!
I think it’s time for you to move back 🙊
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You’re saying that slovenians aren’t busy or don’t have a lot to do, which isn’t true.
Ženske☕
And one more thing... If Trump loses the elections :)
The thing i hate about americans is how crazy are about politics and the pride people like the ones that act cocky and think they will get a special treatment (i dont hate gay people) and the same can be said for feminists
Drugace pa lep video
Pozdrav iz Celja😆
Yess!! I agree 👍 Slovenai peoples are caring too much of another people thay want to keep look all the time. And not be them self. And like to gossip 🤣🤣🤣