Brutally Honest Advice To Make People Respect You - Robert Greene

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  • @ChrisWillx
    @ChrisWillx  2 місяці тому +90

    Hello you savages. Watch the full episode with Robert Greene here: ua-cam.com/video/lnD01md5y0k/v-deo.html! Get $350 off the Pod 4 Ultra at eightsleep.com/modernwisdom (use code MODERNWISDOM)

    • @theguysask4257
      @theguysask4257 2 місяці тому +5

      It’s so interesting that you brought up alchemy, it’s a great metaphor but I don’t think it’s exactly right. Taking some that can be risky and using to propel you forward is engineering and art.

    • @thatomofolo452
      @thatomofolo452 2 місяці тому +1

      Keep going 💪

    • @michaeldavidhernandez3560
      @michaeldavidhernandez3560 2 місяці тому +1

      ✌🏼🤟🏼👊🏼😎👍🏼🤌🏼💯

    • @michaeldavidhernandez3560
      @michaeldavidhernandez3560 2 місяці тому +1

      Thanks for the awesome share.

    • @artynegelen786
      @artynegelen786 2 місяці тому

      Looking forward to this Pod.

  • @geogemini8528
    @geogemini8528 2 місяці тому +1481

    I always tell young guys to start weight lifting if they aren't already. The sedentary life will just depress you and eventually kill you if you don't do something about it. Weight lifting is one of the best things you can do for your mental health.

    • @matthewzumbo9868
      @matthewzumbo9868 2 місяці тому +21

      Bruh 🤜🏻

    • @Ryan-ul7dy
      @Ryan-ul7dy 2 місяці тому +98

      Or any form of excerise for that matter. I'm a cardio guy, though I cross train.

    • @geogemini8528
      @geogemini8528 2 місяці тому +27

      @Ryan-ul7dy True, whatever gets your heart pumping. I've always been a fan of weights and calisthenics.

    • @Jazsway910
      @Jazsway910 2 місяці тому +94

      Lifting weights is fine. But I believe that young men need to embrace physical activity in as many venues as possible. Look at the older men who are in shape and have never been to a gym. They cut grass, shovel snow, chop wood, walk everywhere, stand more, and carry more stuff. Young men yes lift weights but make moving a lifestyle. Stop sitting and eating crap.

    • @bigchief2331
      @bigchief2331 2 місяці тому +13

      For me it is running. Finally took it up at 31, best thing i've ever done for myself. I recently started doing 10-20 pushups a day as well to help build some muscle.

  • @worndown8280
    @worndown8280 2 місяці тому +585

    Larry Cullen said it best. "A man must be strong enough to be gentle." Larry Cullen is a Marine and his brother, Peter Cullen, used him as inspiration for the voice of Optimus Prime.

    • @Learnonyoutube-o
      @Learnonyoutube-o 2 місяці тому +6

      He is not safe, but he is good.

    • @bobserrano8130
      @bobserrano8130 2 місяці тому +12

      We need more autobots than this transcepticons

  • @heatison11
    @heatison11 2 місяці тому +218

    Best advice I ever got was from my best friends father, who was far more masculine than my own. One day when we were like 11 my friend ran to his mom after his father told him no about something, 10 minutes later he has a sitdown with us and said when we got older "NO ONE IS GOING TO COME SAVE YOU", your mother wont always be there for you. And he was damn right

  • @Rambleon444
    @Rambleon444 21 день тому +36

    Chris is a great listener. Robert talked for 5 minutes with no interruptions, and Chris absorbed it and followed up correctly.

  • @DennisAdams-p1e
    @DennisAdams-p1e 16 днів тому +34

    0:28 Respect yourself, focus on yourself. Make people work for your attention and don't be so easy. Protect your peace and happiness at all costs and observe things.

  • @soulflame5635
    @soulflame5635 2 місяці тому +205

    Weight lifting , martial arts , meditation - controlling Yourself - Respecting Yourself - Not allowing anyone who do not follow / respect Your lead

    • @sp6990
      @sp6990 2 місяці тому +3

      This

    • @averyintelligence
      @averyintelligence 2 місяці тому +4

      No fap

    •  Місяць тому +5

      What about God? Invite Christ in your heart, mind, body, soul. Don't be afraid. Jesus is perfect role model for virtues - especially when daily life is a struggle (and it is)!

    • @chiderajames8387
      @chiderajames8387 Місяць тому +3

      Not everytime a man has to lead. Sometimes a man has to follow & learn to gain the necessary knowledge to master his ability to lead.
      Also, sometimes it's best to pretend & lay low to allow another person 'to lead' 👀.
      I'll say the ultimate value for a man is to focus on building his wisdom & self-confidence

    • @inferno3080
      @inferno3080 18 днів тому +1

      @@chiderajames8387facts it not all about getting in the weight room 😂😂😂

  • @gokuha8676
    @gokuha8676 2 місяці тому +76

    I would like to say Long walks > 30 min are amazing for your mental health

  • @marcopacca83
    @marcopacca83 26 днів тому +29

    i'm 41 and i've been struggling with shyness, insecurity, relationships with women and lack of purpose in life.
    My job (physio) really helped me feel useful for other people.
    Something i'm working on:
    - Take care of my body (strenght training)
    - find hobbies, learn new stuff
    - Don't be afraid of failures. We all grow and learn from failures
    - Stop listening to toxic feminists blaming all men.
    Thanks for such contenents.

    • @hmcneil00
      @hmcneil00 13 днів тому +6

      The strength in what you posted is that a lot of men have the exact same issues. What makes a man more powerful is mastering his own self (anger, emotions, passions) & finding gratitude...

    • @joecamacho11
      @joecamacho11 6 днів тому +1

      Good job buddy! Identify you weakness in the first step and striving for change is the second. Weightlifting is a greet place to start and looks like you are already doing that. A great way to overcome your shyness is give a sincere compliment to everyone you come across. Grocery clerks, people in elevators, someone in line at the grocery store. Everyone likes a compliment and it’s a great way to get over initial encounter shyness.

    • @JonathanSanAnto
      @JonathanSanAnto 5 днів тому

      Grow up

  • @Kormac80
    @Kormac80 8 днів тому +6

    Having an older sister who was a habitual liar allowed me to identify dishonest people as an adult. The pain she inflicted on others and herself drove me to be brutally honest bc it struck me as a way to avoid causing so many problems. With age i learned to be more diplomatic. But i've always had that quality within me and reinforced by my sister's example. Sometimes a negative example can have a very positive influence.

  • @brendangolledge8312
    @brendangolledge8312 2 місяці тому +894

    We don't have to redefine anything. People understood just fine what positive masculinity was before feminism existed. Look at the characters in the LOTR as an example.

    • @catfromtrigun
      @catfromtrigun 2 місяці тому +40

      Feminism has existed long before Lord of The Rings, both the movies and the books

    • @skittleboy15
      @skittleboy15 2 місяці тому +54

      @@catfromtrigun I think he is referring to the medieval-esque time period in which LOTR is set.

    • @heyarnold7256
      @heyarnold7256 2 місяці тому

      There is no positive masculinity. Just masculinity. Masculinity is inherently good. It doesn't need an asterisk.

    • @benjoshua3049
      @benjoshua3049 2 місяці тому +11

      This is a great comment

    • @zerocore_
      @zerocore_ 2 місяці тому +15

      @@catfromtrigunNot every women’s rights movement = feminism. The contemporary feminist movement is a product of the 60s

  • @theonewhoknocks2809
    @theonewhoknocks2809 2 місяці тому +108

    There’s this one dude I know and he’s really good with cars. One of the most masculine dudes I know and he doesn’t even act like a hard ass he’s just a reliable ass dude

    • @PuddilyOops
      @PuddilyOops 2 місяці тому

      If you have time search 911 boatlift. This is a prime example of positive masculinity. Men with a righteous purpose are a force of nature.

    • @ReplicantBattyman
      @ReplicantBattyman 9 днів тому +2

      @synchronis346 we dont care mate

  • @TommyZeus-i8n
    @TommyZeus-i8n 8 днів тому +3

    Growing up, I went from being homeless to becoming a Neurologist (my dream career) - today, I have naturally unlimited respect. Like love, you need to respect yourself first - and it should always be earned and not given automatically. Today, I see a war being waged on masculinity - for without - we would have no normally functioning society.

  • @arbshredder
    @arbshredder 2 місяці тому +469

    The advice to young men is that society (especially culture and education) DOES NOT have your best interest in mind. Don't trust their advice. It is meant to make the world better for other people, not you.

    • @Jazsway910
      @Jazsway910 2 місяці тому +24

      Good comment. In my day, college didn’t mean you’d leave it with this mindset that we see now. The devaluation of the importance of fathers has been a disaster.

    • @wolfgangkranek376
      @wolfgangkranek376 2 місяці тому +7

      This.

    • @fatman9196
      @fatman9196 2 місяці тому +4

      I completely agree 100%

    • @aussiewanderer6304
      @aussiewanderer6304 2 місяці тому +23

      The sooner you understand that most people will either want you to do something to benefit them or society or a company, and not because it'll help you, the better.
      I've had too many 'friends' at work who ghosted me as soon as I left for me to have a "we're brothers in arms" attitude at work.
      That boss who is motivating you to be your best usually only wants your best while you are at work.

    • @kcjfilms2946
      @kcjfilms2946 2 місяці тому +3

      Amen

  • @jameereugene9035
    @jameereugene9035 Місяць тому +662

    Just remember that there is no success without sacrifice. I learned that from the book called 'Casanovareads: The Path To Success And Love'. Since I read that book I only think about money, fame and success. It addresses every aspect of man's life: relationships, dating life, fashion, grooming, modern masculinity, success... Writer gives you key tips and tricks on how to excel in every area of your life. You will need to put in some hard work of course, but nothing valuable comes easy in this life.

  • @transformwithlev
    @transformwithlev 2 місяці тому +14

    Robert Greene is a brilliant author. I’ve read all his books multiple times. He’s a national treasure!

  • @vladimirofsvalbard9477
    @vladimirofsvalbard9477 2 місяці тому +220

    Something we really need to acknowledge is that we have a shortage of good people.
    You don't produce bad daughters without bad fathers and bad mothers. In turn, we've produced an equally abhorrent generation of young men.
    Demand is high for good people, but it feels impossible because the supply is extremely low.

    • @chrishart8548
      @chrishart8548 2 місяці тому +25

      The good people are choosing not to have children.

    • @8House
      @8House 2 місяці тому

      I've seen really good loving parents produce one or more rotten kids. I've seen worthless drug addicted parents have kids that grow up to be responsible and successful. No one size fits all.

    • @CorinthianIvory
      @CorinthianIvory 2 місяці тому +10

      Good doesn't mean much if they don't have the position or power to effect change or influence the world around them

    • @selektor2567
      @selektor2567 2 місяці тому +17

      @@CorinthianIvory Good people make the world a better place just by being in it.

    • @vladimirofsvalbard9477
      @vladimirofsvalbard9477 2 місяці тому +16

      @@CorinthianIvory An illusion of human behavior; no offense.
      A good community is produced by good micro-behaviors. When the world starts to upend; it's because the average person is making daily decisions that make it worse.
      Popularity and influence have a much smaller effect on civilization than you think. You have to manifest that behavior yourself and others have to mirror it.

  • @biasedknowledge
    @biasedknowledge 2 місяці тому +15

    The way you described transforming aggression and competitiveness into positive energy resonates with the fundamental attribution error. I’ve seen clients who, when faced with their own aggressive tendencies, assumed they were simply “bad” people, instead of realizing it was how they were channeling their energy that mattered. Once we worked on redirecting that aggression toward personal growth and success, they began thriving. Your focus on using discipline and channeling masculine energy for good is exactly the kind of advice young men need to redefine their path. This video was truly inspiring!

    • @rotorblade9508
      @rotorblade9508 Місяць тому

      can you give an example of aggressive energy ?because I don’t know what it means.

  • @rafaelalamilla5583
    @rafaelalamilla5583 2 місяці тому +95

    I have followed the samurai bushido code as my set of guiding principles for 13yrs. now. To me, masculinity isn't about expressing power or wealth. It isn't about how many women you can pull. It's about being merciful, benevolent, honest, having a high sense of self-control, and having a sense of honor. And not necessarily practicing these traits for others, but for yourself.

    • @joedimaggio3146
      @joedimaggio3146 2 місяці тому

      Love this. I am also trying to follow a warrior monk path

    • @rkitsune3549
      @rkitsune3549 2 місяці тому +2

      Christ is the ultimate example, all the rest of these man-mad principles might have some merrit, but falter in the example of God.

    • @Nirioonossian
      @Nirioonossian 2 місяці тому +2

      Mercy is a toy for the self-aggrandizing. Honesty is just lies you're convinced of. Self-control and self delusion often mix in equal measure. Honor is a crude crutch. Systems are like roads. You're not supposed to live on a road, you're supposed to travel it.

    • @JoeyM10
      @JoeyM10 2 місяці тому

      I don’t disagree at all, whatsoever. I’m interested how that can apply to, strictly, men and how it it differentiates from women. Aren’t they also able to do those things? If so, what makes men and women different in this context if we can all do those things (re: masculinity)

    • @Bert-Kay
      @Bert-Kay 2 місяці тому

      @@JoeyM10you’re gay

  • @pulp735
    @pulp735 2 місяці тому +29

    The fact that there's so much content online and so much dialogue around "masculinity" as an "issue" today just tells you how horribly off things are in society. Like, really!? We've come apart so much that this is a subject that needs to be discussed? Wow that's pathetic!
    Love the work of this channel though! Glad the conversations are at least happening.

    • @tymelthompson4182
      @tymelthompson4182 2 місяці тому +1

      Online content is not a 1 to 1 reflection of the real world

    • @rinkohorowitz
      @rinkohorowitz 2 місяці тому +1

      This conversation isn’t happening in other countries outside of Britain and America for the most part. So that should tell you something as well. America and Britain has the most amount of grifters and pseudo intellectuals trying to make money off of the mental health issues of the youth and general economic issues.

  • @fercon9892
    @fercon9892 2 місяці тому +6

    I'm a 25 year old man, my friends and I often appreciate Roberts work in conversation. Great man

  • @shawncarroll6470
    @shawncarroll6470 2 місяці тому +114

    Know the strength of a man yet keep a woman's care and compassion- Lao Tzu

    • @wolfgangkranek376
      @wolfgangkranek376 2 місяці тому +17

      That women are especially compassionate is a myth.
      They just tend to be more agreeable, conformist and go with what they view as the mainstream.
      «It was always the women, and above all the young ones, who were the most bigoted adherents of the Party, the swallowers of slogans, the amateur spies and nosers.» ― George Orwell, 1984

    • @wolfgangkranek376
      @wolfgangkranek376 2 місяці тому

      @@kc6810 You missed the point.
      And the point is, women are not special in any way. In some regards they are even less trustwothy and honest and more reckless then most men.
      And yes, it's because of evolution. I don't even blame them. I still like women - thats also evolution. But there is no need to put them on a pedestal. That's reserved for women who have proven their worth in a relationship.

    • @wolfgangkranek376
      @wolfgangkranek376 2 місяці тому

      @@kc6810 And please, stop liking your own comments!

    • @FazeParticles
      @FazeParticles 2 місяці тому

      @@kc6810 you can blame God or figure out a new survival strategy that isn't treacherous.

    • @rinkohorowitz
      @rinkohorowitz 2 місяці тому

      @@wolfgangkranek376You are aware that 1984 is a fictitious work, right?

  • @mikestone-w1q
    @mikestone-w1q 2 місяці тому +6

    The word you're looking for around 5:00 is 'refinement', in the sense of converting ore to metal. It's multiple stages of washing or burning away contaminants to concentrate the valuable part.

  • @CuriousCyclist
    @CuriousCyclist 2 місяці тому +2

    I listened to Robert Greene's book on power back in 2009 and was totally blown away by it. I saw the world differently since.

  • @TK-pr2is
    @TK-pr2is 2 місяці тому +72

    True, this world needs more masculine men 💪🏽

    • @chrishart8548
      @chrishart8548 2 місяці тому +3

      Weak men are very dangerous. Strong men don't need to start trouble.

    • @adelb7897
      @adelb7897 2 місяці тому +10

      Yeah but do people around deserve us to make the necessary sacrifices?

    • @kylelay6858
      @kylelay6858 2 місяці тому

      @@adelb7897this is a great question.

    • @averyintelligence
      @averyintelligence 2 місяці тому

      @@adelb7897ironically your comment is very feminine and not a masculine statement at all

    • @bigboyman5743
      @bigboyman5743 Місяць тому +1

      ​@@averyintelligencehe's right though

  • @aaronburke2604
    @aaronburke2604 2 місяці тому +2

    I'm so happy this podcast exists. Men need to hear these things especially in today's culture.

  • @WoodnetRonnie
    @WoodnetRonnie 2 місяці тому +3

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    • @Roselinekendris
      @Roselinekendris 2 місяці тому +1

      Letting go of someone you love deeply presents a formidable challenge. I faced a comparable ordeal when my 6 year relationship ended. Refusing to succumb to despair, I relentlessly pursued avenues to reconcile with him. Ultimately, I sought solace and guidance from a spiritual counselor, whose intervention proved instrumental in restoring our connection.

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      @WoodnetRonnie 2 місяці тому +1

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      @Roselinekendris 2 місяці тому +1

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    • @ToddDouglasFox
      @ToddDouglasFox Місяць тому

      @@WoodnetRonnieBe wary of online solicitation. I will point out one thing Ronnie, your emptiness is the amount of fill up you need from YOU. Just think how long this ex partner has been trying to do this for you. Exhausting.

  • @Bognerman14
    @Bognerman14 2 місяці тому +116

    There is also toxic femininity. My mother was a perfect example. Talk about abusive.
    I'm proud to be masculine. Most women love masculinity.
    To hell with toxic feminism.

    • @Paradox444star
      @Paradox444star 2 місяці тому +5

      As a daughter of an abusive mother, I concur. However the other toxic femininity is the one I developed in response to that abuse - people pleasing. That Goldilocks zone of balance between love of others and love for oneself, of respect for others and respect for oneself - that’s the personal strength for men and women alike.

    • @SchizoSchnitzel
      @SchizoSchnitzel 2 місяці тому +4

      ​@@Paradox444stargreat self awareness. I think TRULY respecting/loving yourself will translate to true respect/love for others, and not just people you care about personally but as a whole. I'm still learning my own way too though

    • @MoWoo
      @MoWoo 2 місяці тому +2

      Can you give me an example of toxic femininity so I better understand? What would that be like?

    • @Rino37
      @Rino37 2 місяці тому +9

      @@MoWoo some cornerstones would be incessant passive aggressive behavior, lying, emotional manipulation, and intense victimhood complex.

    • @johnchristopher3032
      @johnchristopher3032 2 місяці тому +8

      ​@@MoWooWhen a child goes to their mother looking for advice, and the mother only criticizes and humiliates the child.
      When the mother tells her daughter that the school bullies are right, you are fat and stupid.
      When mom tells her daughter that her boyfriend doesn't love her because hes too good for her. Too good looking for the daughter.
      When mom belittles daughters accomplishments like getting a job or moving into a new apartment.
      When mom makes daughter feel like her accomplishments aren't worth celebrating.
      I watched my mom do all these and more to my sister. She was a jealous, bitter woman, my mother. My sister suffers the consequences of this stuff today and shes nearly 50 years old. She has zero confidence in herself, terrible anxiety, and a real fear of rejection.
      Toxic femininity is common, but goes unnoticed because its rarely violent.

  • @stillawake76
    @stillawake76 2 місяці тому +22

    We’ve abandoned traditions and practices that used to provide an outlet to channel youthful male energy into something positive. It’s no wonder so many young men are feeling directionless today.

    • @averyintelligence
      @averyintelligence 2 місяці тому

      Which traditions are you talking about? Chimney sweeping

  • @oohwha
    @oohwha 2 місяці тому +4

    For what it's worth, I have not been actively LOOKING FOR sources of "pop culture incorrectly defined 'toxic masculinity'"... and I've not had many negative experiences that have centered around this "hot button topic".
    Then again, I've curated my online experience to literally block ignorance and block all hateful and spiteful people. Also, (and this part may be quite obvious), I don't watch any "news" or click on any "news websites".
    It **IS POSSIBLE** to customize your digital environment (and to a lesser extent, your physical one) to remove the ironic toxicity that projects itself into and onto the world and the people around it ❤❤💪💪

  • @JaimeTagle
    @JaimeTagle 2 місяці тому +7

    Finally a fresh in-person Robert Greene episode 🎉🎉

  • @kingbernie4303
    @kingbernie4303 2 місяці тому +14

    One of the biggest aspects to my view of masculinity is being a Gentleman. I don’t care if it’s not en vogue - I won’t abandon it, I believe In it and that’s it

    • @averyintelligence
      @averyintelligence 2 місяці тому

      That’s got nothing to do with being masculine or feminine though. Just just called being considerate of others and can exist in both characteristics.
      People correlate masculinity with romantic traditions but they are not the same

    • @averyintelligence
      @averyintelligence 2 місяці тому

      That’s just*

    • @KinKat1
      @KinKat1 2 місяці тому +1

      ​@@averyintelligence Is not having self control a masculine thing. Gentlemen have self control, are respectful of others and self aware, they have principles , they treat women and all people with kindness, they have style and self respect, to name a few of the qualities. What is not masculine about this?

  • @yrdneh9385
    @yrdneh9385 2 місяці тому +9

    Every man needs to learn to lift weights, learn martial arts, read books, learn how to write, and play an insturment or find an art that is suitable for their own pursuits.
    Nothing is more profitable and attractive for a man who is passionate about life.

    • @bigboyman5743
      @bigboyman5743 Місяць тому

      nah, life sucks

    • @yrdneh9385
      @yrdneh9385 Місяць тому

      @@bigboyman5743 Fascinating. What do you base your life on? Like what are you a slave to as well?

    • @bigboyman5743
      @bigboyman5743 Місяць тому

      @@yrdneh9385 i either die or cope, and dying seems easier than coping

    • @IAintTheDaddyMaury
      @IAintTheDaddyMaury Місяць тому

      @@bigboyman5743I feel this sometimes

  • @joshuak2810
    @joshuak2810 16 днів тому +3

    We talk about toxic masculinity but never about toxic FEMENINITY...

  • @carolynbryce1883
    @carolynbryce1883 2 місяці тому +118

    I love masculine men!

    • @ultrasound1459
      @ultrasound1459 2 місяці тому

      Me and you over a bottle of wine 🍷 🌹 🤔

    • @le_th_
      @le_th_ 2 місяці тому +2

      I love decent human being with a well-calibrated moral compass who have empathy for others.

    • @theoutsider6191
      @theoutsider6191 2 місяці тому

      We're here for you ladies 🙂

    • @toneylowery1166
      @toneylowery1166 2 місяці тому +1

      no one told you to love all of them....geez you must be tired.

    • @michaeldavidhernandez3560
      @michaeldavidhernandez3560 2 місяці тому

      Gracias.

  • @eugrules
    @eugrules 2 місяці тому +116

    The sooner you figure out how YOU are going to take care of YOURSELF for the rest of YOUR life the better. The rest falls into place.

    • @Johnnycassshhhh
      @Johnnycassshhhh 2 місяці тому +6

      No Doctor, therapist, personal coach etc. will make you better. It's up to the individual.

    • @SS0895
      @SS0895 2 місяці тому +6

      This comment should be pinned

    • @twoinchtape
      @twoinchtape 2 місяці тому +6

      You ppl are so lost. Listen to you all worshipping the self.
      I’ll make this real simple for you guys. Get to know Jesus Christ. “The rest will fall into place”

    • @twoinchtape
      @twoinchtape 2 місяці тому

      @@Johnnycassshhhhyou wouldn’t need any of those people if you had Jesus Christ. No other human being will ever be able to save you.

    • @Johnnycassshhhh
      @Johnnycassshhhh 2 місяці тому +2

      @@twoinchtape hes dead

  • @panizzutti
    @panizzutti 2 місяці тому +2

    This guy changed my life in so many different ways, cheers

  • @bluebaby4964
    @bluebaby4964 6 днів тому +2

    There is no one more misunderstood than Andrew Tate. I'd rather be Andrew Tate than being a Jordan Peterson or this guy, someone who has struggled his entire life with mental health issues. And yet we must replicate his way of living, he is the guy we must look to. Men obviously need to feel a certain about themselves and the world to be healthy in mind and body. And Andrew Tate is far better to look at than these wimps who act as divine repositories of masculine wisdom but struggling in their own lives. And where were they before Andrew started speaking up for men. Now all of a sudden everyone is a masculinity expert by criticizing Tate when men were there suffering and they were all quiet.

    • @jasonwareing905
      @jasonwareing905 5 днів тому

      Peterson is an articulate stud! He's done so much for other men.

  • @themsmloveswar3985
    @themsmloveswar3985 2 місяці тому +6

    1. Switch off the TV, facebook, the radio, the news media and all forms of mass indoctrination.
    2. Read non-fiction
    3. Develop
    4. Create a plan and execute
    5. Think independently
    6. Be healthy

  • @Ziggle-ky9kv
    @Ziggle-ky9kv Місяць тому +1368

    There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal

    • @edwardbrandon3170
      @edwardbrandon3170 Місяць тому +43

      scam

    • @BennduR
      @BennduR Місяць тому

      botted upvotes for fake garbage products

    • @julenlabirua6569
      @julenlabirua6569 Місяць тому +46

      I saw this exact comment in another video. They are bots commenting the exact same comment about this book in different videos

    • @BennduR
      @BennduR Місяць тому +3

      @synchronis346 its a bot comment dingdong

    • @steepdeej
      @steepdeej 23 дні тому

      @synchronis346thank you for this now I know not to buy this book that’s very useful lol

  • @edgardosantana
    @edgardosantana 2 місяці тому +2

    The Master himself on the show! Very glad to see him doing well and super excited to see this episode. Thank you both 🙏

  • @anthonykelly3175
    @anthonykelly3175 День тому

    It’s so important to listen to a man who sounds like an old woman talk about masculinity

  • @SevenRiderAirForce
    @SevenRiderAirForce Місяць тому +1

    On the last point: "Any man who must say 'I am the king' is no true king." ~Tywin Lannister.

  • @theoutsider6191
    @theoutsider6191 2 місяці тому +3

    While i get what Robert is doing herein defining negative qualities of masculinity like boasting and so on, i would say that some of these people (if not a lot of them) are not insecure they are simply more self focused than others who have more empathy. It is possible to be very masculine and also be empathic, but similarly it is quite possible to be very masculine and not at all empathic. Like everything people's charateristics are on spectrums between one end of whatever you are looking at and the other.

  • @Lonnie32120031
    @Lonnie32120031 2 місяці тому +8

    Unfortunately, becoming comfortable with who you are only comes with age.

  • @porkhunts
    @porkhunts 14 днів тому +1

    The absolute lack of a "rite of passage" for young men is what is contributing to today's problems. The tradition not only makes a young man feel entitled to be the man he needs to be but allows all others in his surroundings to know this to be true as well.

  • @kindredkey
    @kindredkey Місяць тому +1

    Spiritually, masculine energy is simply energy that is to be EXPRESSED outward into the world. Well-adjusted humans (male, female, other) are a harmonious combination of BOTH masculine + feminine energy. Pedestalizing one over the other is counterproductive. We need BOTH of these energies to live successful and fulfilled lives. The imbalance is what's toxic. The use of any energy in low vibration is what's toxic. Think I might do a video sometime in the future further articulating what masculine energy is and how we might use it productively in our lives. Sounds like a wonderful series/conversation.

  • @kiara4345
    @kiara4345 2 місяці тому +2

    This is so awesomeee. I have been waiting for an episode with Greene since it was mentioned somewhere he had to cancel and had to be postponed or something 😭☺️

  • @Moii369
    @Moii369 2 місяці тому

    One of the best modern authors BY FAR Mr Robert Greene 🐐👑

  • @rgt4848
    @rgt4848 2 місяці тому +147

    Toxic masculinity is just being an asshole. Just don't be an asshole.

    • @jessewrites17792
      @jessewrites17792 2 місяці тому +18

      Masculinity can never be toxic.

    • @freeottis
      @freeottis 2 місяці тому +2

      You’re just using synonyms without explaining what you mean

    • @utarefson9
      @utarefson9 2 місяці тому +1

      No one in this thread has actually said anything towards another person.

    • @moonknight4053
      @moonknight4053 2 місяці тому

      Biff from back to the future is an example of toxic masculinity

    • @jessewrites17792
      @jessewrites17792 2 місяці тому

      The only thing that's "toxic" is believing masculinity to be.

  • @Agent_Chieftain
    @Agent_Chieftain 2 місяці тому +96

    I respect women who deserve respect. Who have earned it by actually conducting themselves respectfully. Unfortunately, that describes fewer and fewer women as time goes on.
    So, no, it's not toxic masculinity to call out modern women on their awful behavior. Society gave them the benefit of the doubt by default, and they chose to do horrible things with it.

    • @HashimAlmadani84
      @HashimAlmadani84 2 місяці тому +11

      Personally, I don't think it's about respecting " everybody," and it was never like that,
      It's all about respecting yourself, which reflects on others, and then being smart enough to surround yourself with positive people, which includes men and women.
      And, of course, respect doesn't mean tolerating bullshit.

    • @TheCryGuy77
      @TheCryGuy77 2 місяці тому +19

      Saying it’s fewer and fewer women is crazy. It’s like women saying there’s fewer and fewer good men that don’t cheat. Like oh my god can’t both sides see you all are just a mirror of the other?!

    • @HashimAlmadani84
      @HashimAlmadani84 2 місяці тому +1

      @@TheCryGuy77 exactly
      And look, at the end with age, people tempt to reduce their circle of friends, and this is normal. So it all depends on what you do where you go and what do you prioritise in your life whether it’s the activities you do and what do you attract.
      If people attract garbage, well … what can I say, maybe there is a garbage side in them 🤷‍♂️

    • @danielcraig9666
      @danielcraig9666 2 місяці тому +2

      ​@@TheCryGuy77Actually, it's not.

    • @mitchf5710
      @mitchf5710 2 місяці тому +10

      This is such a bad take. People should be going through life with the innocent 'til proven guilty mindset. Respect everyone until they lose your respect. This applies to everyone and not just women.

  • @justamangoddamn
    @justamangoddamn 14 днів тому +1

    I'm tired of apologizing for being a masculine, and I'm fine going my own way

  • @fujohnson8667
    @fujohnson8667 2 місяці тому +11

    Always have your own life is what I learnt the hard way. Be respectful etc of course towards women but always have it in the back of your mind she could suddenly change hers or mess around on you. Seen it happen to family and mates of mine aswell.

    • @adelb7897
      @adelb7897 2 місяці тому +5

      Be respectful and give the benefit of the doubt to women AND men but stop giving women special treatment because they are women.

    • @fujohnson8667
      @fujohnson8667 2 місяці тому +1

      @@adelb7897yeah exactly my friend

    • @KinKat1
      @KinKat1 2 місяці тому

      @@adelb7897 What do you mean by giving women special treatment ?

  • @NorisSpecter
    @NorisSpecter 2 місяці тому +16

    One group tells men what they should do. Man up, protect, kill their emotions, provide, live for others. They expect everything but owe men nothing.
    Second, tell what they can achieve and show what it can be if they don't care and live their lives for themselves to the fullest.
    I'm struggling to see how the second one is more toxic than the first one.

    • @jonsnowight9510
      @jonsnowight9510 2 місяці тому +3

      Selfishness is inherently negative and ultimately unfulfilling. All the, "screw everyone else" and "I'm gonna get mine" slogans sound good and all, but all of it means nothing when you're 60 years old with no kids or grandkids, no legacy and no one who even cares if you wake up tomorrow.

    • @NorisSpecter
      @NorisSpecter 2 місяці тому +3

      @@jonsnowight9510 I agree. But that's the same for selflessness. We need a middle ground, or men are nothing more than slaves.
      We can't afford to endorse abusive behavior. Men bowing their heads when society spits on them will only push that spiral of abuse further.

  • @carolynmaryscott
    @carolynmaryscott 8 днів тому

    I love Robert ... he saved me!

  • @PLAN50
    @PLAN50 10 днів тому

    He has a lot to learn. Most people value totally different parts of life.

  • @isaaccarroll3528
    @isaaccarroll3528 2 місяці тому +1

    Chris if you read this, you were on the right path with 'Alchemy'. Read Jung's 'Psychology and Alchemy'. He theorises that the ancient practice of alchemy was in fact their symbolic expression of the path to elevate consciousness and being.

  • @MrinmayChakravarty-jf4nr
    @MrinmayChakravarty-jf4nr 2 місяці тому +2

    When I feel lost Robert Greene saved me

  • @hallamdyal5730
    @hallamdyal5730 Місяць тому +1

    To all the young guys out there put god 1st, get on your grind continue 2 make improvement's on yourself certain things we cant control such as our height but we can control what we put in our bodies become the best version of yourself dont let people take advantages of u n dont be scared of taking chances, dont chase women get on ur grind be humble n put god 1st God bless

  • @carolegee4327
    @carolegee4327 10 днів тому

    Respect from others eminates from SELF respect and autonomy.

  • @fellipegadelha6566
    @fellipegadelha6566 Місяць тому

    QUESTION ABOUT DISCIPLINE:
    Hey Chris! Thank for share this interview! I appreciate a lot.
    The Law 4 from 33 Strategy of War(The Death Ground) is the Law of the my life. The way how i learned English was exactly the way how Robert learned French. I moved from Brazil to USA and put me in a position where i didn`t have any option about my communication. I needed to learn. Was super hard but i did it.
    But i believe that this Law is good until you reach a position that you are confortable and you become ok about that.
    I am working with Sales right now and one thing that i noticed is about consistency. That`s my problem because i don`t believe in Discipline, i believe in Obsession.
    If i am wrong about that, how to fix my perception and how to become more Disciplined?
    Thank you!

  • @viktorparvanov8863
    @viktorparvanov8863 16 днів тому +1

    I just say practice kalos kagathos, you need to strive for intellectual development but also for physical development, practise philosophy and strenght and you will be beloved for your strong character

  • @bsmlbn
    @bsmlbn 9 днів тому

    My advice to the youth, listen to your parents, they only want the best for you!
    Also make sure you learn and listen more than you speak!
    There will be alot of people, places, and things that will try and mislead and drain you!
    Be aware and always learn about deception and manipulation!
    never have a criminal mind and be kind!
    Don't do drugs and dont drink.
    The harm it does is so much worse than the moments of fun!
    Always, always stay healthy and try and keep fit!

  • @wesleybezuidenhout9922
    @wesleybezuidenhout9922 2 місяці тому

    Always appreciate Mr Greene's perspective

  • @cyberbird8683
    @cyberbird8683 2 місяці тому +8

    I owe this man so much. I cant wait for the full episode

  • @albertasu.2427
    @albertasu.2427 10 днів тому

    Thank you for this conversation.

  • @thefeelingofunfair4052
    @thefeelingofunfair4052 14 днів тому +1

    I dont think the problem is men putting women down, because that's a small few that actually do. But the concept of a "Real Man" went from having emotional fortitude, conversational decisiveness and physical reliably to having to make 6-figures, be 6 feet tall and up, 6+ inches, also your body needs to be big in some places and flat/lean in other places. As well as being able to plan everything, pick everything and pay for everything well women have 25 other men who she wants to see what they can give her before she even decides to go on a first date. Women want a lifestyle, not Love.

  • @rpearce25
    @rpearce25 Місяць тому +1

    I work in a university, a very liberal environment. No body says "masculinity is bad" it's recognized as a trait that people have. This idea that people are mad at masculinity is only used to divide people.

    • @fiodarsazanavets3458
      @fiodarsazanavets3458 Місяць тому

      Yeah, I have only heard "masculinity is bad" idea on the web. Never seen anyone saying this in the real world.

  • @okaySam
    @okaySam 2 місяці тому +13

    Oh my, Mr. Greene is dancing on a frozen lake named Cancelation. Bless his heart!

  • @rezafarhad9915
    @rezafarhad9915 20 днів тому +1

    We all have expiry date , no matter string or weak . Don’t fool yourself , live according to who you are , and don’t hide it and camouflage yourself

  • @andrepastor4844
    @andrepastor4844 2 місяці тому

    The world wants us all weak, cowardly, timid, scared, and selfish. Resist! Grow strong, useful, Godly, generous, loving, and always speak the truth with no fear. Stand Up !

  • @booneguy
    @booneguy 2 місяці тому +1

    Being competitive is the best.

  • @danielp.9948
    @danielp.9948 28 днів тому

    I'm lost. What if I'm aimless in life & don't want to "assert myself" or don't have goals? Just stuck in a golden cage of a good job I hate, a comfortable roof over my head & a nourishing relationship. I'm not sure where to go from here. When you used to ask me 5 years ago - where did I want to be - I named 80% of the things I have, the other 20% I'm either working on, or were unplanned. Where do I go from here on out?

    • @tinfoilhat6392
      @tinfoilhat6392 10 днів тому

      @@danielp.9948 live! Do everything you always wanted to do. ..
      Your heart's desire.. .?

  • @Ivftinianvs
    @Ivftinianvs 2 місяці тому +4

    Meekness is velvet-covered steel. Boastfulness =Weakness=all hat and no cattle.

  • @midknightgeek6629
    @midknightgeek6629 2 місяці тому

    I think one of the words and definitions that have been lost and forgotten is Temperance. Moderation and control of emotions and passions. Masculinity is normal and natural and a gift. But unbridled, used to abuse or control is wrong. Our society has lost all sense of discipline and responsibility.

  • @AntonSeim
    @AntonSeim 2 місяці тому +1

    Set design is off the charts.

  • @richardkameka2928
    @richardkameka2928 2 місяці тому +3

    Aragorn from LOTR is the right kind of masculine.

  • @tomaszstarzZz
    @tomaszstarzZz 11 днів тому

    If you struggle or you feel something is missing, sign up for martial arts of your preference and do some regular weight lifting.
    You will find confidence and inner peace.
    “It’s better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war”
    Miyamoto Musashi

  • @Lipbeat
    @Lipbeat 2 місяці тому +1

    I don't see anyone around me suggesting competetiveness is bad. If anything I think society is hyper competetive now and everyone is trying to get rich..

  • @ArcticSeraph
    @ArcticSeraph 8 днів тому +3

    There is no such thing as "toxic masculinity". If a man is "toxic" he is not "masculine". Putting these two words together makes no sense

  • @bruinruin591
    @bruinruin591 2 місяці тому +5

    Where are the good, decent women who will appreciate and reciprocate the behavior and effort of a good man?
    Maybe I'm way off base, but they seem to be getting rare.

  • @saitamaking324
    @saitamaking324 2 місяці тому +5

    Oh you don’t need to put others down to make yourself feel better ? Tell that to these modern women

    • @TheFlareMind
      @TheFlareMind 2 місяці тому

      This applies to some men as well.

    • @saitamaking324
      @saitamaking324 2 місяці тому +1

      @@TheFlareMind yeah men don’t base their whole identity and personality off of bashing and putting down women. But women do that to men

    • @newme1589
      @newme1589 2 місяці тому +2

      People online definitely do that, and most disagreements are from men, so both do it. Its not a gender thing, its a human with bad education thing

    • @saitamaking324
      @saitamaking324 2 місяці тому

      @@newme1589 actually no woman are known to be catty while men are much more direct and straightforward

    • @perpetualprocrastinator
      @perpetualprocrastinator Місяць тому

      @@TheFlareMind Without fail " what about men" audience pops up :)

  • @MourningTalkShow
    @MourningTalkShow 12 годин тому

    It's a sad statement if this is considered brutally honest haha. It's so nuanced, thoughtful and true!

  • @andreasrigas713
    @andreasrigas713 2 місяці тому

    My experience growing up is that, while as a kid I was competitive and I liked to put people down, I was told so many times and gradualy I convinced myselft that it's not right to make other people feel bad, you have to be empathetic. By doing that as teenager it tranformed through the years to conflict avoidance. It doesn't matter if i can overpower somenone or I have all the right by my side, I feel really uncomfortable when someone insults me and my mind does not think of fighting back rather than how quickly can I avoid this situation with as little damage as possible. That has created so many issues with my self-esteem. I try to prove to myself that i can be a tough guy and i just choose not to be, but i'm afraid i've turned myself into a coward.

    • @twt000
      @twt000 2 місяці тому

      A good Man statement. Who is insulting people? Get away from them.

    • @andreasrigas713
      @andreasrigas713 2 місяці тому

      @@twt000 fleeing an argument seems more like a sign of guilt. A man must stand his ground without hesitation.

    • @newme1589
      @newme1589 2 місяці тому

      Funnily enough thats a big message from Christ, which is "have empathy, you could be like them, so if you're not in danger and it's just child's play, let it happen, you're above this"
      (People misinterpret this to say you have to take abuse, wrong, Christ never did this, in fact he even faced religious leaders during his time head on. Words ? Sure, abuse ? Defend yourself)

  • @ExtoSee
    @ExtoSee День тому

    Aim to impress the men in your life and women will follow

  • @awandenxumalo1844
    @awandenxumalo1844 Місяць тому +1

    Robert is amazing

  • @Kilo.Godson
    @Kilo.Godson 7 днів тому

    Oddly enough. Jesus was super masculine. I feel like outside of the religious aspect of him by virtue he’s the perfect example. He loved his father and mother , he had extreme amounts of self control, he had a way with words, he respected his followers, he hated injustice, he stood up for people and ultimately he sacrificed himself for what he believed.

  • @panizzutti
    @panizzutti 2 місяці тому

    FINALLY! I LOVE ROBERT GREENE

  • @bgrego88
    @bgrego88 Місяць тому +1

    Yep channel your emotions

  • @danielmallarino3326
    @danielmallarino3326 14 днів тому

    This is what we need. ❤

  • @johansigg3869
    @johansigg3869 13 днів тому

    Get this man a glass of water

  • @joanofarcxxi
    @joanofarcxxi 2 місяці тому +8

    Many men equate masculinity and strength with working out and lifting weights. However, I would suggest reading Robert's books, as they convey a different message. True healthy masculinity encompasses much more than merely appearing masculine. And that is what modern men are most deficient in.

    • @OhioVworld
      @OhioVworld 2 місяці тому +3

      No, being strong and competent in combat is part of a man’s element of masculinity- deal with it.

    • @joshuaquilliam2887
      @joshuaquilliam2887 2 місяці тому

      Ah great a woman trying to tell men what masculine means.

    • @DK-tj8nm
      @DK-tj8nm 2 місяці тому

      Women should not talk about masculinity, you have no clue

    • @joanofarcxxi
      @joanofarcxxi Місяць тому

      @@DK-tj8nm Just because I am a woman doesn't mean I don't know what a man is. And just because you are a man doesn't mean you know either. In fact, if you know how to behave as a proper man, you would not address me that way. My father was a masculine man who took care of his wife and his three daughters, served in the armed forces and worked for my county's government for 22 years, and took us to Africa where he built roads and ran businesses, and he was a heavy weight boxer, and always a proper gentleman who respected women. He encouraged his daughters to be intelligent, strong, and educated, and free to express their opinions. I said nothing wrong and I was not making anything personal. You don't have to agree but you should be respectful and polite.

    • @joanofarcxxi
      @joanofarcxxi Місяць тому

      @@OhioVworld Sir, I don't have to deal with it. You do.

  • @G85KL73
    @G85KL73 11 днів тому

    The only way of gaining other people's respect is to respect *_YOURSELF._* Just look through your own life of what kind of people you have respected, and see if my claim is right or wrong.
    It's very important that it is actual respect and not narcissism, because narcissism is actually self-hate. A narcissist will make you believe he/she love themself so much in order for you to hopefully liking them for it. It's fake self respect, so I had to be clear on that. Only focus on actual self respect.

  • @smitty8978
    @smitty8978 2 місяці тому

    He who carries a sword, but keeps it sheathed, will inherit the world

  • @joelcmusic777
    @joelcmusic777 10 днів тому

    Your network is your networth, don't spend time with people, that is killing your energy, get these suckers out and only tolerate people, who are going to celebrate you, when you win at life, God bless!

  • @consorharley2
    @consorharley2 9 днів тому

    In my view the ideal person, man or woman, has elements of the feminine and the masculine within them, even if one dominates. Both should be celebrated by society. Ancient cultures especially seemed to recognize this.

  • @nl7247
    @nl7247 Місяць тому

    Thank you for the messages ❤

  • @Devlin360i
    @Devlin360i 2 місяці тому +8

    A lot of men today have suboptimal levels of testosterone; a lot less than their fathers or grandfathers had just 30-50 years ago. There are various reasons for this. One factor that is oftentimes neglected is endocrine disruptors in our environment (i.e., xenoestrogens, BPA, phthalates, triclosan, etc.), phytoestrogens in food (i.e., soy, which is present in almost all processed foods), and hypothyroidism (subclinical or autoimmune Hashimoto's disease).
    To increase testosterone levels naturally, including libido and erection quality, and reduce chronic inflammation:
    • Get enough daily sunlight.
    • Vitamin D3 (especially during the winter or if you live in a northern climate).
    • Zinc picolinate (20-40 mg per day).
    • Magnesium glycinate/citrate.
    • Resistance training (3-5 times per week for 45-90 minutes max).
    • Adequate neuromuscular recovery (e.g., don't overtrain).
    • Adequate (quality) sleep.
    • More healthy fats (monounsaturated and saturated fats from sources like grass-fed red meat, pasture-raised eggs, fatty fish, organic full-fat dairy, coconut fat, avocados, cocoa butter, certain nuts and seeds, etc.).
    • Increase dietary cholesterol intake through nutrient-dense, whole foods. Cholesterol is the building block of all steroid hormones, including androgens such as testosterone.
    • Manage stress. Do what you have to do to keep it under control (i.e., meditation, yoga, nature walks, relaxing music, massage/reflexology sessions, adaptogenic herbs, etc.).
    • Chronically elevated cortisol levels disrupt the HPT (hypothalamus-pituitary-testicles) axis and deplete your body of the very resources it needs to produce androgens like testosterone and DHT.
    • Eat enough quality calories (not all calories are the same!).
    • Avoid large or prolonged calorie deficits.
    • Eat adequate amounts of each macronutrient (protein, carbs, fats). All of them are important in their own way and serve specific physiological functions.
    Beneficial Supplements:
    • Shilajit
    • Ashwagandha
    • Maca
    • Taurine
    • L-Carnitine (increases androgen receptor density)
    • Creatine
    • Tongkat Ali
    • Fadogia Agrestis
    • Black Ginger
    • Pine pollen (contains natural androgens)
    • Boron (increases free testosterone)
    • DIM (natural anti-estrogen)
    'The Testosterone Advantage' by Timotheus Ray is a nice read on male health and hormone optimization.

    • @dbefore7165
      @dbefore7165 Місяць тому

      Let’s also remember that too much testosterone is worse than too little

  • @Ruinous_
    @Ruinous_ 2 місяці тому +19

    Real men are strong and competitive. 💪💪

    • @dbefore7165
      @dbefore7165 2 місяці тому +6

      Sounds bit adolescent, real men only compete with themselves

    • @adelb7897
      @adelb7897 2 місяці тому

      ​@@dbefore7165'real men' don't give a sh*t about being a 'real man'. They constantly strive to be the best version of their true selves and live their best lives without being insecure as to feel the need to put on a 'masculinity' act.

    • @Raftimusprime
      @Raftimusprime 2 місяці тому

      Keep running the rat race, I am sure hamster wheel your in leads to and end

    • @newme1589
      @newme1589 2 місяці тому +1

      Yes and no, you can do both. If you only compete with yourself, you will isolate yourself and basically be anti human.

    • @dbefore7165
      @dbefore7165 Місяць тому

      @@newme1589not literally.. sigh, but a man doesn’t worry about what others are doing. In the end we all die and are all forgotten. Just enjoy the ride

  • @benridge6570
    @benridge6570 2 місяці тому +1

    Take responsibility for yourself. Make an effort to tell the truth all the time. Being able to protect yourself and those you love. Practicing stoic philosophy Without putting it before God. These are the things that's help me. Be a good man, but be a man.