WORKING IN A TOXIC SCHOOL | Finally Opening Up About My Experiences + Answering Your Questions
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This video could have been 7 hours long. I tried to cover most of the "big red flags" that I experienced at my last school, but it was tough. It was really hard for me to find a "right time" to share the things I went through, but clearly, time has not dulled some of the pain! When you're made to feel like you aren't valued every single day, but have to show up for the kids, and try to keep any love you have for your career, it is a LOT. I am always super honest with y'all in my videos, but for obvious reasons I can't always share the hard parts in detail. Teaching is what I love, and most teachers will tell you - the kids aren't the "problem," it's the adults. I feel like my experience last year helped me see some of the things other teachers have to experience, and it made me less naive to the kinds of things that can happen in schools. I'm grateful to be where I am now, and I'm grateful for all the support I've been given here. Thanks for watching and supporting me, and thank you for understanding that this video is not to complain, just to share my experience in the most authentic way I can.
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*What advice would you give to a teacher who is in a toxic school? What would you tell your past self, if you've been there?*
Mind your business, stay in your room, make plans to leave.
Big on, mind your business! Watch who you talk to!
Find your marigold (a teacher who inspires and pushes you to be a better teacher - go to them for help when you need it). Don't allow your current circumstances to affect your self-esteem and make you question your teaching ability. Focus on your strengths. Close your door and teach to the best of your ability.
I was in a very very toxic school and I stayed for years, to the point it affected my health. I was young, new and I should have left.
Definitely make plans to leave, find a mentor/friend in your building, don't stay in your room - you need a daily break! My school was great in the beginning but then became toxic. I should have left but didn't. The 5th principal finally forced me out and I changed levels completely. I am very fortunate to have landed at a school where all the staff are supportive. This will be a great school to retire from. I'm sorry you had such a horrible experience early in your career. I'm glad you found a good school!
Retired teacher here, 36 years as a public school primary teacher. I was always in the same district, but had different experiences in different schools and during my tenure worked under 9 or 10 different administrations. IMO, the principal set the tone for everything in a particular setting. I recall 2 "toxic" principals that really made the job miserable and it affected the overall climate and morale of the staff. When this happens, people tend to become defensive, retreat to their respective corners, or become part of a clique looking for favoritism from the main office. New comers are looked upon with suspicion. I requested a transfer twice and it was granted. It made all the difference. Once it was after coming back from a 5 year child care leave. (No one gets that today!). My school had been completely transformed by a new principal and it wasn't for the better. I felt like Alice in Wonderland falling down the rabbit hole. Overall, I was fortunate to have very good principals who cared about kids and their staff. Students can't do their best if the staff is degraded, manipulated and turned against each other. All you can do in this type of situation is to keep a LOW profile, keep your door shut, possibly connect with at least one other kindred spirit, and find a way to another school.
Dearest teachers, It’s not you, it’s them. It’s the unsupportive, cliquey coworkers, the incompetent administrators, the poorly raised children, the bully/inept parents. It’s not you. Education in this country is 100% broken in so many ways. Sorry for all the teachers out there having awful, heartbreaking experiences. So sad to see committed professionals treated so badly when all they want to do is teach children.
Omg this…THANK YOU SOOOOOO MUCH!!! The gaslighting is killing me - we NEED these messages to know it is NOT us!!! It is NOT that we can’t, it’s that we CAN’T under impossible circumstances and ridiculous expectations that don’t work with today’s teaching environment! 🫶
Hey Ms. Call! My brother had you last year, and talks about how he misses you all the time! I just wanted to know that you are such an amazing teacher, I visited your class last year and your kids were so well behaved and always had a big smile on their faces! My parents loved getting updates from you during the day seeing all the fun and creative activities that they were doing. My brother would come home always excited to tell us about his day and what he learned💕. This is the second year going the the school that you are talking about in this video. I have noticed this year how unorganized and toxic the school is, especially in how the teachers and staff act toward students and how they handle problems. I hope you are doing well 💕
Hi! Thank you so much for sending this 🥺💛 That makes my heart so happy!!!! My kinder babes from last year will always have my heart!!!!! Feel free to reach out any time! And I hope that things get better for everyone there. 💛 Sending love!
Honestly, it's refreshing that you post about the pros and cons of teaching in your videos. You have a good balance of being positive yet realistic...it makes you relatable to your viewers. This empowers us to improve and MAKES us want to open up to you in the comments.
I was in a horrible toxic school the last two years. I wanted to leave after the first year but found out I was pregnant and needed the health insurance. It was the longest, most stressful and unhappy 10 months of my life and I’ll never forgive them for making the months of my pregnancy a living hell. I ended up taking a position at a different district where the pay is significantly less but the atmosphere is WONDERFUL.
My first year of teaching was in a charter school and it was a horrible ( no support, no supplies, etc), but it did prepare me for the level of unprofessionalism I would have to deal with for the next 8 years during my teaching career. I’m glad things got better for you we need more excited teachers like you. If you guys ever move to the Texas area you will have no problem finding a job.
I worked for a toxic school before. Mainly management was very toxic. But these assholes pushed me out of the job that I did not like to do the job that I love, I am good at, and I finally do what I am good at. I will never work in a toxic environment again. My life matter.
I just want to reach through this screen and hug you. I am so sorry for your experience! I am an "older" teacher in a private school and have come alongside my own daughter, now a 2nd year Kindergarten teacher. I have learned so much from the younger teachers and love the "give and take" of mentor/mentee teacher relationships. Hang in there, you are making a difference. I love the Bible verse in I Timothy 4:12 : "Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example..."
I was in a toxic school for 13 years but I didn’t realize how bad it damaged me. I finally was able to apply to be a teacher at that school and the principal shut me down after dragging me on thinking it would finally happen. Once I realized I was never going to be more than an assistant to them, I applied everywhere. I’m now at a school that truly loves me for who I am and I’m still recovering from the trauma of the old school. It definitely is like PTSD, I agree with you. My new principal is so supportive and is amazing. Proud of you for sharing all this!
I'm so happy for you, Danielle!
@@DarinNakakihara thank you Darin! That means so much!
I am the new kid on the block at my new school, though not a new teacher. I am a veteran teacher of 20 years, but new to public school in my district. So much of what you are saying resonates with me. A few of my new staff members are downright rude to me. I try to be friendly, bubbly, and energetic because that is who I am. I LOVE my new job, and I am suuuuuper grateful for my new position. It is sooooo hard to work with people who are rude, unkind, and not supportive. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. I think many of us can relate. We are here for the kids, and some people will just be rude, no matter what. I try to remind myself that it is them, not me. But like you, I want to be friends with everyone. But that is not possible. Love your videos and appreciate the time you take to share with us.
Omg mayleen :( i literally admire and love you even more. Hearing this was so comforting to me. My first year of teaching was so similar to your last year. I was bullied and treated horrible by the other teachers on my team (except for 2). one of the teachers that was very mean to me was supposed to be my mentor teacher as well. I had a very tough first class, like very violent having to evacuate the class daily kind of class. I felt so alone because instead of being helped, it was worse by being bullied. This was the year right before covid started 2019-2020 (the year that ended online when the pandemic first began). it was so difficult having my first year end that way and then finding out that they were not going to renew my contract because of "my classroom management and parent communication" when they themselves as admin straight up told me that they had no idea what to do about my class and the behaviors. My two friends went to admin about how I was being treated and one day i stood up for myself and talked to them and admin did not care. I told them that I was trying to be professional about the situation as I liked the school and did not want that to hurt me in the end, which the admin assured me was not the case. But i got a call when we were all stuck at home that I would not come back. I debated if i should go back but wanted to stay because of my kids - but they took that option away from me. They encouoraged me to apply for the position, only to be on an interview with people on my team knowing i did not have a real shot but i went for it anyway not knowing how I was being taken advantage of. Not even 24 hours later they told me they were going with someone else. It was heartbreaking and i know the reason I was not asked back had nothing to do with my teaching or my connections with families, but it was because of that group of teachers. I was heartbroken, but I found my dream school that I work out now and just like you said I was looking for support and this school was full of it. It is amazing, I am sorry this happened to you, it is so tough. But you are amazing and I love following you on your journey. Thank you for sharing your story.
My first year was similar. My admin continually tried to tear me down.
I was lied on, put on PPAS, given extra assignments and things to turn in or id be written up, they used all my planning periods to call me into meetings and interrogate me. I was accused of falsifying scores and grades, once my kids district test scores came out my admin told me “there’s no way bc these kids are low” and then took my kids that did well and put them in another teachers class and gave me a new set of students mid year. They were emotionally & verbally abusive to the students. It was hell on earth.. if I could tell my past self anything it would’ve been to report to HR what was happening to me sooner but I didn’t have the knowledge I have now. They manipulated me and I didn’t know my rights unfortunately. It’s been a year and it’s still very upsetting to think about the way I was treated. I loved my students and I still feel guilty about leaving them sometimes..
I just left a toxic school where I worked for 9 1/2 years. I’m a 22 year veteran teacher. I even took my children to that school. I’ve often apologized to my kids for sending them to that school. I’m finally at a different school and it couldn’t be more different. I’m not stressed or hurt anymore. I have nothing kind to say about the last school or the staff. I’ve been at my new school for 3 weeks and the difference is wonderful. I’m glad you got into another school within a year. Hugs!!
OMG. You are such a sweetie and a dedicated professional. I honestly feel badly for the kids that have to be taught in that environment. They are savvy enough to pick up on that negativity. You are a warrior!!! Congrats on rising from the ashes!
I can't speak for most of the teachers because I never got to sit in anyone's class. I just know that I did my best in my room and worked hard to make my class as positive as possible! 🥰🥰🥰🥰
Thank you for sharing this. In my third year of teaching, I was in a very toxic environment, where the principal tried to have me non-renewed. My stomach hurt everyday I went into work. I almost quit several times, but I just couldn't do that to my family and to my students. I am now in year 3 at a wonderful school (year 6 as a teacher) with fair, supportive admin and a good team of teachers. I am so much happier now and thankful to still be in education. Thank you for sharing in such an open, honest way!
You’re a good teacher! Negativity spreads like a disease. Glad you dodged that bullet and that you’re in a good school now🙂
So many people are jealous of people who give it their all and who love what they do! I dealt with that. Now I'm a stay at home mom. I wonder sometimes if I will ever try teaching again.
Go you, mom!!!!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰
Sorry you had to deal with that.
Thank you so much for talking about this!! I was in a toxic school that to this day I feel the effects of mentally but it does get better
Thanks for watching Gaby 💛💛 I think going through things like this can be so hard but wow does it really open your eyes you know? Teaches you to REALLY be grateful when you find a good spot.
Oh my goodness, I can so relate. I had to leave a school because of a health issue, but the environment was pretty much the same. Like you, I moved from another state thinking it was going to be great. Not even close! It was so traumatizing to me that It made me doubt myself as a teacher. I can truly understand what you are feeling and am very happy you are in a better place. Keep posting videos. I love watching you teach! You are amazing!
I’m so glad that you’re at a better school! Thank you for sharing with us! It definitely helps us remember that we’re not alone. I’m not a certified teacher, (I currently work with preschoolers) but I worked as a paraprofessional last year in a special education classroom. I loved the kids, but the team I worked with had a lot of toxic people in it. I too (along with my other coworker) was looked down upon for my age (I’m 22) and treated as less than and as less educated because I was 10-20 years younger than most of the people on the team. I left because it felt very toxic and there were days where I would come home and cry. I’m so glad to be in a better school (same district just a different school) with not only a supportive team, but also a supportive principal too!
So glad you have a happy ending. Those feelings are so hard to sit with each day. Honestly. So heavy. And all we want as teachers is to teach our kids and be happy! Glad you are in a better place.
People who are hurting inside hurt others. That is what was probably happening at your last school. I am sorry to hear how you were treated unprofessionally at your last school by your principal. People need to realize that a principal is a master teacher and not a master of teachers. No school is perfect, and it is always important to find the perfections within a school's imperfections. Before I started teaching back in 1992, I wrote a letter to my former third grade teacher. He said that when parents, colleagues, and principals make work difficult or challenging, try your best to focus on what went well during the day and not to dwell over what did not go well. Thank you for your honesty. Best wishes to you and have a happy New Year.
Agree completely!!! The only thing that got me through last year was focusing on the good and what I could control. So hard sometimes but it is all you can do! Happy new year :)
@@MrsCallsCampers I will pray for you
I'm so glad I got to watch the premiere of this video. I actually found your channel the summer after your first year of teaching. It was the end of my 3rd year of teaching and I was switching grade levels and moving from 5th grade to 1st grade. But those first 3 years of teaching were so toxic and mentally taxing on me. There were so many days I wanted to quit, even as early as my second month of teaching. The end of my 3rd year of teaching was so draining and I was teaching 5th, 7th, and 8th grade science and reading and so miserable (especially because I knew middle school was not a good fit for me). My principal was retiring and I begged her to move me to a lower grade. But those past 3 years made my anxiety so high that even though I was excited to teach first grade I couldn't do it without ending up having a nervous breakdown. And I know that I could have survived a 4th year of teaching at that school, but I wouldn't be physically or mentally well. I ended up resigning on the third day of school. I gave 2 weeks notice and those 2 weeks were full of anxiety attacks and days of no appetite. I ended up part-time teaching remotely during the pandemic up until June 2021. But when I got into the classroom in November (I started late this year), the anxiety came back. I've realized that although I love working with students and I am a good teacher, teaching is not good for me at this moment. So I am taking a break and we'll see if I ever feel like I'm ready to go back. But watching your videos and hearing your encouraging words resonated so deeply with me. Even though it didn't work out for me, I am so glad that you are away from your toxic school and in a school that is so supportive. I look forward to your videos and updates on IG. My biggest advice to teachers in a toxic school is to take the plunge and look for a different school. You don't have to do what I did and stay at a school even though you're miserable just because it's a job. Also, it's so important to put your mental health first. And finally, find time to do the things that bring you joy. That's what helped me during that final year of full-time teaching
Thank you for sharing your story. I’m in my 26th year of teaching and have definitely experienced toxic situations like you have. The school I am at now is by no means perfect but my admin team is awesome and we have a TLS (teaching and learning specialist) who are my lifelines. I don’t always see eye to eye with them but I’ve learned to do what I need to do for my kiddos and not worry about making them all happy. Also, do t worry about the tears I’m the same way. I always feel better after I let those tears out. Thank you again for sharing your story and I’m glad it didn’t turn you away from teaching.
I just love you!!! I’m so glad that is all behind you! Things will all work out! You deserve happiness. We all do. I’m proud of you for not giving up!!
Thank you for being so transparent and honest about your experience. I am glad you found a school where you are loved and feel safe in. I just transferred to another school this year and I am so much happier as well. Wishing you all the best.
Go us!!!! Thanks for being here friend!
I am so grateful that you found a school that fits your teaching philosophy! There is nothing better. On the opposite side, there's nothing worse than a school that doesn't match your teaching philosophy. I have been on both sides and it can make or break your teaching experience.
Thank you for posting such an honest video. I just resigned in my third year from my kindergarten job at a private school. I’ve been watching your vids the last 3 years. You gave me so many classroom ideas and inspirations. It amazes me that even the best people can be treated poorly. I’m glad you’re in a better spot now 💖
Hey that's so cool to hear thank you!! and I obviously don't know the story on why you resigned but I'm proud of you for putting you first. Thanks for being here Brittney 💛
I’ve been teaching since 2003. Twice I’ve worked for charter schools and both times I was miserable! I don’t know what it is about charter schools, but both of my experiences were absolutely awful!!!
My goodness, I feel for you! And you are such a great teacher, so please do not get gaslit to think otherwise.
I have been in your position, in a toxic environment. I even had an assistant who tried to get me fired. I ended up transferring to a school that I had to commute 45 minutes for. I later was at a school that I loved most of my teammates, but administration was highly toxic. They didn't renew my contract, even though I had been there 4 years. They kept someone who had been there less than a year. I am now in a school that has a great principal.
If you are currently in a toxic environment, do not hesitate to get out of there. If it is toxic, in most cases, it will not be better.
I had a very very similar experience my first year as a head teacher. I had been an assistant teacher in that school for 2 yrs and when I got promoted I had no support and many of my coworkers felt like I didn't deserve it and while the environment had always been toxic it didn't really bother me because I had friends and if anyone was talking smack about me I was completely unaware vs once I got promoted I felt the shift in the energy with my coworkers and I knew there was stuff being said behind my back. I was absolutely miserable! I lasted 8 months before I realized my mental health was really taking a toll.
OMG I am so sorry you went through that !!! I myself are going through a similar situation as well ! I am right now in survival mode to get to June so I can find a happy place with good people and support from administration! I am so happy you got out!!! Please take care !
I am so sorry you had to go through this. Makes my heart so sad. You are so genuine and loving. I know your students will remember you for many years to come. Bless your beautiful heart. I am so happy you are in a good place. Teaching is so very hard, we need to have friends and a support system. It is so important. I have been blessed for 23 years to have GREAT and STRONG admin. Hugs sweetie and I wish you the best always. Keep shining and know that their behaviour is an indication of how immature and hateful they are. You are a joy and a positive light!
I admire your bravery for sharing your story. I went through a similar situation my first year of teaching, thankfully I am now in a much better school with admin and co workers that are supportive and KIND. But during that first year I felt so so alone and also kind of guilty for complaining or wanting to leave, it is so nice to hear you share your story and be able to relate.. it is so sad that this happened to you and so sad that it probably has happened to so many of us educators. But I am so happy for you that you found a better school with people that are kind and and let you be happy 😊
I’ve been teaching for 12 years and I would’ve love to have you as my teammate. I love your personality. Keep it up!
I worked at a charter school for 2.5 years and it was the worst experience of my life. I love my babies and I am still close with a lot of their families and some of my coworkers, but I left for health reasons and no one but my principal came to say goodbye. They were a bunch of bullies and I honestly thought I would never want to teach again. I am now going into another school and am hoping it is better.
Great video. She is 100% super responsive and helpful responding to DMs. You have a vibe that is like a long lost friend reunited.
Thank you so much!!!
I subbed at a few schools where I felt left out i don’t know why but little things about it made it feel weird a few teachers definitely made it feel good but thank God I got a permanent position as an instructional assistant at a school I love! The teachers are great and the principal always shows he cares..I am so happy that you found a great supportive school for you!!
As a special needs student, I feel your pain. I have rough experience too. These students get a slap on their wrist and still attend to that school.
I had a similar experience my first year teaching. I took a year 3/4 class mid year. There had been 5 other teachers before me. The school could not keep staff. I ended up quitting the last term of my contract. I was absolutely miserable. Now I have been made permanent at my current school and love it.
GO YOU FRIEND!
First of all, you did not deserve that and I’m so very sorry that you had such a horrible experience. You are not alone. I have been teaching for 20 years and have seen this theme repeated far too often. at its base, it is ignorance and jealousy that motivates these petty behaviors. Good for you to keep trying because teaching is such an awesome profession. It’s wonderful that you’re in a much better, more professional school environment.
I’m so happy you left the school and not the profession 💓
My last teaching job was like that. I would say worse but it’s hard to compare. I left education all together.
I'm in a similar situation, and your video helped me a lot, thank you.
Good on you for not letting that experience ruin your perception of your career! You're such a strong and motivated person. You deserve to feel accepted, believed in, respected, and supported. The kids who walk through your door are so damn lucky and blessed to have a passionate, compassionate, loving teacher who is excited to teach them and nurture their growth. I've been watching your journey over a couple years and seeing you feel comfortable and happy just makes ME so happy. I hope you're having a great holiday season, Mayleen!
This means a lot...thank you so much. I think that if it had been my first year teaching it would have been so discouraging, thankfully I had an idea of what a school is supposed to be like. That helped. Also having the support of people online helped a ton. Thank you for your sweet words! Happy new year!!
Thank you for sharing this! It’s very hard to open up an old wound and discuss it. Thankfully you are in a safe and supportive space now! Sending love from Texas ❤️
I'm glad I waited because I feel like I am in a good enough place that going back and revisiting it is actually healthy whereas if I had posted right away...it would not have been at all......much love to you!!!
This is so weird...having met you in real life I can't wrap my head around ANYONE not adoring you! You are the sweetest human I have ever met. I'm glad you moved on.
Thanks Darin, also love your pic! :) Hopefully we'll get to run into each other again at some point because I always have a great time when I'm around you!
Hi I know this video was made a A couple of months ago but I'm just coming across it thank you for sharing I am in the same situation right now I work at a non profit school for autism and I teach 3 different grade levels and I feel all alone and you give me hope encouragement that it will get better I am glad that you are doing much better now and you are at a better school best of luck to you !
Thank you for sharing this!!! Been through same things! I’m about to leave the field
I just left a school after 30 years. My fellow teachers were nice, but would go to administrators. My one friend was judged because she was my friend. My administrators were very favortistic. Enough was enough,so I left. Best thing I ever did for my mental health. So glad you are happier now,too!
I have felt this at more than one school. Like you, I have one or two people that I am close to but the majority of the people act like what you describe.
I just watched your tour from that classroom and I could tell this is the one you were talking about. I’m sorry you went through this.
Honey, you're not alone. Most teachers feel this way.
Things will great better soon
I taught a K-1 inclusion class for three years and loved it. Some children took two years, others up to three, and a very few passed in one year.
Hint! If the principal is off the wall, run away, don’t walk! Decades ago I had a principal ask in detail about my religious beliefs and practices! It was legal at that time, but was still considered inappropriate and bizarre! I was not offered the job and I still say it was because I’m Catholic. It was a public school, so no, I was not going to teach catechism to the kids! The area was very conservative with Baptists and Holiness Apostolics.
When I got to my new school, it was ALSO packed to the brim with the other teacher's things. I'm still throwing things out. It's not even junk, but there's no way I'm going to be....or even have time to look through all the things!
I've also been having older teachers be negative.
@@jewelhurst7650 I've only experienced this abuse from older, veteran teachers. Never teachers my own age. I've heard this from other younger teachers as well, so it's not just me.
But I do understand veteran teachers being abused by admin.
That stinks when stuff is left for another teacher to sort through. When I have to change classrooms, I take everything with me and just leave the curriculum and school provided resources. I couldn't imagine having someone clean out my mess.
@@the5crows375 it does! like I understand the intent. But who has time to go through EVERYTHING? When I got my current class, the teacher left the country and left everything.
Im my experience private schools can be a great in between when you move states and need an uplifting, safe environment where you get to love kids and teach! Best of luck!
Thank you so much!!
You. Seemed nice and I feel your passion. If your ever in nyc, let’s meet up for coffee and vibe. Thank you for being better for under elite school age kids.
I have been in your shoes. I quit a job that was not for me after I got injured by a student. I also found a wonderful school after teaching at that school.
Thanks for being honest about your experience. I am so glad you got a new wonderful job.
That's so hard. Sorry to hear that Kate!! Glad we are both in a good spot now!
I actually stopped teaching after my last position. I actually like staying home with my kids.
@@katecapurso1211 I will say again I'm glad we are both in a good spot 😉 you're in the best one!!!
Your light bothered their demons. You didn't do anything but be you and they didn't like that. I can feel your positive energy from the screen. I can only imagine what it is like in person. You keep doing you and everything else will fall into place. God bless you. ❤
Thanks for sharing your experience as you teaching job in California. Did you have to do anything else (exams, classes) to teach in a public school in CA, having your credential out of state?
Have you talked to the district about this school? I would definitely tell them especially if the school is affecting the students! You are doing great girl!
I know this video was not easy for you to do, but it is SO necessary. So many other teachers experience similar things and with this video, they'll know they aren't alone. I worked with a 3rd grade team when I was a teacher aide, before becoming a teacher, and they too were often so rude when I would offer suggestions. Don't invite me to your PLC if you don't want my input! It's so frustrating that these types of teachers exist, and my heart hurts for the students that possibly feel that coldness too.
I tried to film it so many times!!! It's hard because people on the internet can be brutal, but I agree that more teachers need to hear this than not. Which is also heartbreaking!!!! Also I relate to the PLC comment haha! Thanks for the comment and encouragement
I went to schools like that and the students don’t treat each other much better.
That school was very small, they actually were very close. This doesn't ring true for the school I was at! Maybe if it were a larger school.
Thank you so much for making this video. Thank you for being raw and real and speaking from your heart….. I am sooooo very happy you are at a school that supports you and ‘has your back.’
Merry Christmas and I can’t wait to see what The New Year has in store for you!!!! 🎄🎉🎉🎉🎉
Happy new year Jenny!! I feel like I've thanked you for your comments so many times but thank you!!!
@@MrsCallsCampers you are soooo welcome…. ❤️
That interview should have been a red flag
It was. But I needed a job.
@@MrsCallsCampers I don't blame you. I am glad you didn't leave teaching and you found a better place
@@fremontpathfinder8463 thank you 💛 It seriously gave me so much perspective about what teaching can be like. So awful.
Hi Mayleen, Have Fun on your Break!! Love your energy & content !! Much happiness to you, Mayleen. See you soon in next video.
Thank you Katie!!! Happy new year!!
where was this experience (u may have mentioned it earlier)?
what is an adminstator ? Beeing Dutch I dont know this type of people, are they administrative other personnel ?
What us a PLC?
You must not be in a large school district. I grew up in the CA bay area and worked at schools in Sacramento before quitting in 2006. No way is there such a thing as a small school unless you are north of Plumas county or something. When I was in school there was 40 kids per (elementary) classroom 60 in high school and barely better in Sacramento. It is the same here in Nevada, only with more parents that own guns and threaten teachers with violence and admin won't do anything. You were lucky to find a school/district like that, but it the exception to the rule, teachers are leaving in droves due to toxic school environments all over the country. They couldn't pay me enough to go back into the classroom, no way.
Charter school? If it. Was that says a lot about why the principal was not knowledgeable about education .
Been there. It is like PTSD.
I have faced the same thing. 2022 New location 200 miles away new school fingers crossed
They were poking fun at you during interview. I wish i could say i dont believe you, but i do believe you.
Wow! 😳
i know....
Thanks for sharing. Would love if you guys would get stationed in our little military community
Wake up and realise you are the problem. And that right now you are contributing to it. Wake up and realise that you need to change, nobody else.
Ladies and gentlemen, here we have an "anonymous" comment affirming me and everyone in the comment section. Hello! Thanks for being here and improving engagement on this video 🥰
Oh my word, you actually created an entire new account to post this drivel 😂 if you aren't brave enough to post something with your actual account, then that should tell you something about the message you are posting.
@@roche320 a new account? This account is like 11 years old lmfao - you are mucho paranoid
@@roche320 yeah so as I was saying, you’re toxic and the problem lmfao
@@MrsCallsCampers you’re toxic xx
Wow im entering my 10th year in my toxic school; goin to DM u to ur insta in case email ends up in your Spam tho i have a gmail acct… so glad i came across this!👍👍👍
This is exactly why I never leave my classroom, the students are awesome but most of the administraters are toxic af
But why do you think these kinds of people always get to that level?
@@yaimavol i was going to ask the same question
@@yaimavol narcissim
Why did some people in concentration camps work for the Nazis? Survival was more important than morality.
Why do most people become administrators, because their desire for income, power, avoiding discovery of incompetence is greater than morality.
Am I comparing administrators to the concentration camp Kapos, no, the administrators are far worse, administrators aren't facing life and death situations, they just want their own parking spot.
Let's lay out, I believe few people as pre-college student dream of one day becoming an administrator. The vast majority of principals leave teaching for
a principalship, because the classroom is not survivable for them. The are not
motivated by a desire to have a greater impact on students. Their impact usually is focused on the teacher they rule over.
I worked as a teacher's assistant a few years ago, in a special needs classroom. The teacher I was paired up with did not like me, for reasons that were never made clear to me. She wasted no time in trying to get me fired. Finally she succeeded and she was able to get the principal to fire me. Since then I've been in other schools and the teachers there have always been very complimentary toward me and very kind as well. It all depends on where you're at I believe. You could be in one place and be in a terrible situation, you could have the same job in a different location and it could be great.
Yes, exactly I was in a similar situation but it turned out differently.
I also had an odd interview where the headmaster talked the whole time, and when he asked my opinion about something and I gave it, he told me I was wrong 😳 when they called me weeks later to offer me the job I had already accepted a different one. Looking back on it, it was a major red flag and I'm really glad I didn't take the job!
That's really great that you passed that opening, we really need to follow our instincts when it comes to interviews- and remember that its just as much an interview for them as it is for us! As women in general we need to trust ourselves and our instincts, without guilt or acquiescence. I made the mistake of taking a job at the expense of my intuition- And I paid the price for it!
You can tell those who truly care about the kids and those who do it for a pay check and were the mean kids in school because they act that way as an adult working with children, it’s terrible. Props and shoutout to you, as a future teacher I would be honored to work with you. You seem so dedicated towards your babies, and so kind and genuine. I’m so glad you’re in a safe space now.
This is year 14 for me. I taught at my very first school for 11 years. People - teachers came and went, all had different issues. I didn’t experience the things they did. When my principal was FORCED to retire, she helped me get a job at another school. If she wasn’t going to be there, I didn’t want to be there. This new school is VERY TOXIC!!! There are so many cliques. I feel like you did at your previous school. They don’t know me from Joe Blow but had already formed an opinion of me. I would go in each day with a smile and positive attitude. I would speak to everyone I would see and/or pass in the hallway. You would think I’d cussed them out, the way they looked and responded - if they responded. This school year I started off speaking and being nice and when I wasn’t met with the same I stopped. Now I only speak and talk to a small handful of people. I have to get “prayed” 🙏🏾 up before walking into the building each day.
This really is hard to understand. With all the challenges of teaching today, one would think the teachers would support each other.
@@yaimavol I wonder if admin or some other system within the school pits teachers against each subconciously? Or maybe its a cycle of toxicity, the cliques form to protect each other but the issue with cliques is that they are inherently hostile to new faces; BECAUSE they are made to protect their members! So it just reinforces the toxic environment
They’re not thinking about you. They’re thinking about their rotten days……. And you are just one more person they don’t know and have to get to know.
They’re not thinking about you. They’re thinking about their rotten days……. And you are just one more person they don’t know and have to get to know.
I recently retired after 30 years teaching in a toxic school. I can’t even begin to tell you how awful it was and how amazing it felt to walk out of that school for the last time. However, I’ve gotten another chance to teach in another state and I absolutely love going to work every day. I am with an amazing First Grade team that I love! I wish you the best and I appreciate that you shared your experience! ❤️
I hate that you dealt with that for so long! 💔
So glad you’re in a safe space now. It’s crucial that the work place and people in it is supportive. I totally relate to feeling like no one likes you or “hears” you. The advice I would give is to NEVER settle for a toxic environment or people who make your contribution seem like it’s not enough. I would tell my past self that there’s so much more room to grow and that I don’t have to stay in that box for fear that I don’t know what’s out there. I can honestly say where I am now is the most healthy I’ve ever been, and it is triggering bc I’ve never experienced that.
You seem like a genuinely nice person and I'm so happy for you that you are where you should be. I'm sorry you were at a toxic school. I tried teaching Kindergarten and it wasn't for me (at least at the time). I'm so happy for you!
I literally cant wrap my head around how anyone could not love you! You are the absolute sweetest!! What a blessing you got out of there! You are amazing ❤
Thats why they dont like her, shes too nice too pretty for psycho fat chicks
Toxic schools are the worst! It kills your teacher heart because you want to be there for the kids but the environment is terrible. I feel your pain girl! Two years ago I worked at a school that was toxic. No matter what I did the staff and administration didn’t accept me as one of their own. I felt awkward and uncomfortable every day I walked in the door but still had to be there for the kids. It’s really hard to deal with that on top of all the normal stress of being a teacher.
I got my letter of resignation from my principal through the mail to my actual house. He never mentioned it not being a good fit or talked to me one on one. Getting a letter in the mail was the most degrading and embarrassing thing that could have happened on top of how I was treated the whole school year.
I could go on forever, but the good thing is we both found schools that value us as not only educators but human beings. You’re an amazing and inspiring teacher! Thank you for sharing this so other teachers know it can happen to anyone. I hope you have a great rest of your school year! 💙
Thank you sharing this video Mayleen! I’ve had three years of teaching in toxic places and I am battling PTSD currently because of it. I can no longer post videos on YT, and I’m just trying to make it until the end of the school year. Thank you for being brave and sharing the truths about teaching. Always love your energy and content ☺️💕
I too battle PTSD from a past experience. Just know that I am praying you find a school that will support you! As teachers, we all need to band together and give each other support no matter where we are!
@@morganwilliams3301 I absolutely agree! Sending love and peace to you Morgan😊
❤❤❤❤ hang in there
I am CRYING listening to this! I had a very similar experience. This new school has changed teaching for me. Feeling supported by coworkers and your principal changes EVERYTHING! I am soooo happy for you! ❤️
Teaching is EMOTIONAL!!!! So happy for you too Kaitlyn! Go us!!!
This video is so timely for me. 10 years ago I was in a toxic school and honestly I almost quit teaching completely because of it.I left there and ended up opening my own preschool because I do love teaching. I do love the kids. So I have been teaching preschool from my home. I have to move and I'm no longer in a position to do that., I start a new position actually teaching Headstart (it's my state's it's called eceap)and I'm concerned but this gives me hope that it'll be a better school and a better experience. 🤞🤞🤞
I've always been a one-woman show never had an assistant a para or a co-teacher. I will have a co-lead teacher time and I'm a little concerned about that.
I worked at a school like that 😬
Now I'm a data analyst
As a Special Ed student who was abused and kept in a isolated room. I'd tell you to expose it and protect these children.
I'm sorry for what you went through but I also agree with you - that letter was a blessing and it meant you were able to move on to a more supportive school. I'm still shaking my head at how unprofessional that school was!
So I work in insurance (I’m currently interviewing for a school job which is how I found you! Haha).
I had red flags during the interview where they asked personal questions. Now here we are a year later - I quit my job. My bosses belittled me, also passed on as jokes. They called me fat and other things. If I made one little mistake I would get screamed at. The last 5 months has been very high anxiety, issues, and I noticed the stress and depression made me sick a lot. I quit my job after one of my bosses made an awful comment about me. I don’t have a path right now, but I hope the interview with the school comes out great and I get it! But I totally forget your experiences. Different careers, but I settled for this job I feel like, and you did too because it was the only job calling back at the time! But now look you’re in a place that is SOOOOO much better
Your experience and my experience was very similar. However, all of my experience happened during my first year of teaching. I was harassed by my administration and I had o attend therapy after that school year. I was diagnosed with mild PTSD after I resigned in March of that year. My mentor teacher hated me. I hate that you had this experience, but I am glad that you are in a better school and have more support.
My advice is to GET OUT! I moved to a new school and new grade when I was 9 months pregnant. Don’t stay. It’s not worth it. It will be hard, but staying in a toxic school is even worse.
Toxic schools must love hosting these meetings bc it was the same for me. Lol.
She’s already out. This is her talking about her last school.
I am so sorry you had to go through that. As a retired school teacher, it makes me so sad that those “veterans” would treat you that way when they should have taken you under their wing and helped you…or at the least be kind.. so sad 😞 jealousy is the main culprit. They do t want to see anyone enthusiastic about their job since they have lost that or maybe never had it.. I’m glad you are in a happier place this year! Good luck and God bless you sweet girl. Your students are blessed to have you as their teacher!
I saw the title and immediately had to watch and comment as I work as a para (ea) in Canada and my current admin is toxic/awful especially this week. I love the other teachers, paras and of course the students but the admin is so bad I’m glad I can’t stay at my current school (no postings available next year) thank you for sharing this to let us know we are not alone and it’s not okay.