Great points! I am in perimenopause and although I have accepted the fact that the lack of joy and motivation is part and parcel of this stage of life, I YEARN to get my life back! It feels like my life has been put on PAUSE. I want to socialize again, I want to have passion for my job again, I want to have adventures in travel again, and I want to SMILE again! Perimenopause/menopause is a thief! I want my life back! God Bless all going through this right now. Pray we will come out of it soon. XOXO
Hi Hopefully, you will be fine; this is usually just one of the phases that we come out of. I feel so much more positive and energetic post menopause, so there is light at the end of the tunnel! Best Wishes Eileen
I know what you mean but sometimes, it's good to go with the flow, I used to enjoy my down days (in a perverse sort of way) as it meant I wasn't forever chasing my tail and it was good to get a rest! Best Wishes Eileen
Thank you, this is exactly how I am feeling. Sometimes it feels pointless to do anything because I don't seem to enjoy anything anymore. I find it hard to look forward to anything.
This is my most debilitating symptom right now. I am spending money trying to make the boredom to go away. I honestly thought it was pandemic burnout, which I also have. I am bored, restless. This is all new for me. I am usually have lots going on & I am never restless. I am getting angry at the people around me because it's like Groundhog Day. Same story over and over again. I have told friends their issues have been going on since their twenties. I can't listen to it anymore. It is annoying, lol. Thank you for this talk. It has really helped me.
Glad it has helped Safne. Yes, this is such a frustrating phase, I remember it well! Luckily, it slowly faded and I ended up with much more go and adventure in me than before! Best Wishes Eileen
I'm struggling with this at the moment..I think for me it's because my periods are starting to be a bit erratic and I'm waiting for it to arrive. I also have the flu and I sliced my finger badly whilst chopping vegetables today so I feel down and just awful. My lovely husband and dog are wonderful though and that's what's helping me to keep smiling. Thank you Eileen Wonderful info as always ❤
Aw, hope you feel much better today! It is horrible when two or three negative things happen at once. Great to hear that you've got lovely support, it make such a difference. Best Wishes Eileen
I am post menopausal and one of the hardest thing I find to deal with is fatigue. I was always a very active person. I was more irritable and angry than low but there are a few low days here and there. I feel like a different person and I am not sure I like the new me but am trying. Lol. I take 300mg of Saint John's Wort twice daily and find this calms the demons. Lol. I think low days are part of life, as long as they don't stick around, that is the main thing. I know all this is part and parcel of this time of life but it is still difficult at times. My doctor once said to me that menopause is a natural progression and I replied "so is death, hope it is quicker and not as miserable as this ride has been". Lol Thanks Eileen for all your help. Take care of yourselves ladies and thanks to Eileen we are not alone in this! :) :)
You're welcome Jacqueline, glad to be of help! St John's Wort is known as the 'sunshine herb' and it can be so helpful at this time! Hopefully, your energy will return with a bang. I know I am much more energetic and fitter that I was pre-menopause! Best Wishes Eileen
This topic was a really good one as always....it describe what exactly i have been experiencing......am so thankful for these weekly vlog that has been a vital help to me in understanding what is happening....knowledge is power....thanks Eileen🙏
These are real feelings during peri/menopause but would also love a video about the newfound (liberating) feeling of “i don’t give a 💩 what people think anymore “!
Thank you Ms Eileen. Every time I start feeling a certain way, you bring a video of exactly how I am feeling. I'm really thankful for your videos. I don't know how I would have made it these past couple of years without them. It wasn't until I found your channel that I didn't feel so lost on this Menopause journey. God bless you Ms. Eileen.
Omg I feel like this often. It helps me to remind myself of my many treasures: my wonderful hubby, children, our parents and siblings, our steady jobs, our home, our health. Soon I'm feeling much better 😊
Oh my gosh! I couldn't believe it when I watched this video--I felt like it was talking exactly about me. I am perimenopausal (maybe about 3 years-I had a hysterectomy with ovaries left in so it's hard to tell how far along it is). A month ago, I decided I was fed up feeling like life was passing me by--spending everyday the same way (wake up, go to work, cook, go to sleep). My husband had found an online community that he spends almost all day on during weekends, and I have been feeling so lonely, bored, and frustrated. So I decided to just go out myself and explore a different part of my local area every other weekend or when I feel like it. It has made such a huge difference in my mood and outlook. It's like finding hidden gems I never knew were there, and I've been able to meet really interesting people. I still struggle with frustration and depression with home and work sometimes with the hormone fluctuation but overall I feel like I have something to look forward to, and I feel closer to my overall community. I really appreciate your videos, Ms. Eileen! They really help me through this difficult time, and my husband often watches or listens to them with me--so I have more support now too. :)
Ακριβως στηνκατάλληλη στιγμή.Οι Δευτέρες είναι ακόμα πιο δύσκολες από παλιά ευχατιστούμε,πραγματικά είναι από τα πιο δύσκολα συμπτώματα της κλιμακτηρίου!!
Good night Doctor Elaine. God sent you directly to us to deliver us out of so so many wonders and fear, it is when i started listening to you right at the time i was going through these hard storms of menopause and didn't know what to do, God sent me on you tube one day and you were right there with the right light to shine and covers all the dark areas, and there i was able to relax, accept and take the important steps. God richly bless you.❤❤❤❤😊
Yes, I can relate to all of this. I’m not myself and I don’t like it. I’ve been getting hormone replacement (pellets for Testosterone and Estrogen) for over a year. The struggle of the dr getting the levels right for me has been hard. Hoping my new Dr can help. 🙏🏻 (I had a parcel hysterectomy about 6 years ago.)
I keep ideas and dreams in my head. And try to keep the idea of one day doing them going. Logically they never will happen but it's good to have something to strive for.
My thoughts exactly! During my post menopause l dreamt about what l wished for, wanted to do, and just went with the flow & so on & so forth. Even though l was experiencing symptoms both mentally & physically l never stopped this mindset the entire time. I went back to nature and became a vegetable gardener and this filled my life with immense joy growing my food. The post menopause period didn’t last long for me and l have reached at the other end of it.
@@AvogelCoUk yes goals to work towards mine are own house, new car and my dream holiday round the world cruise. Right now life is being useful to parents as both have health issues so far more pressure is on me at the moment.
I was a happy go getter all the time, I could work , come home cook dinner, do homework with my kids and workout … do it all … 😢😢when Covid happened…. My brain is foggy … I can’t complete a lot of task… I quit jobs , I can’t deal with stress and react to everything so irritated and angry 😢😢😢 I feel guilty for not being happy the happy person that used to be and cry all the time 😢😢😢 got meds but they’re not helping… I’m 53 and still got my period 😢😢😢
Sorry to hear that you're still struggling Sandra. If your meds aren't helping, it is wise to let your doctor know, they may be able to change your medication or adjust the dose for you Best Wishes Eileen
PeriMenopause, near menopause, fatigue. Im just dragging. I've always been a tired person. My get up and go has never been great. I push myself daily to walk or do weights etc.
Hi That does seem a long time! If you're still getting symptoms so long after periods have stopped or they are getting worse, it is wise to see your doctor. Other health issues can appear in the menopause and prolong the symptoms such as vitamin D or B12 deficiency, anaemia, thyroid imbalance, diabetes and heart disease. These can all cause symptoms that are identical to menopause ones so your doctor can test for these just to rule them out. Best Wishes Eileen
All on point. I used to be so positive, optimistic, happy and could even concentrate enough to get through a whole book. Now I’m quite the wreck….My mind is often in turmoil and I’m struggling with everything 🥹
Great points! I am in perimenopause and although I have accepted the fact that the lack of joy and motivation is part and parcel of this stage of life, I YEARN to get my life back! It feels like my life has been put on PAUSE. I want to socialize again, I want to have passion for my job again, I want to have adventures in travel again, and I want to SMILE again! Perimenopause/menopause is a thief! I want my life back! God Bless all going through this right now. Pray we will come out of it soon. XOXO
Hi
Hopefully, you will be fine; this is usually just one of the phases that we come out of. I feel so much more positive and energetic post menopause, so there is light at the end of the tunnel!
Best Wishes
Eileen
Thank you both. Your messages really give je hope.
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It’s very hard to get things done when your motivation disappears. I am finding this very frustrating and at other times I feel quite apathetic.
Yes, no drive, apathetic sometimes
I know what you mean but sometimes, it's good to go with the flow, I used to enjoy my down days (in a perverse sort of way) as it meant I wasn't forever chasing my tail and it was good to get a rest!
Best Wishes
Eileen
Thank you, this is exactly how I am feeling. Sometimes it feels pointless to do anything because I don't seem to enjoy anything anymore. I find it hard to look forward to anything.
You're welcome, hope this phase eases for you soon!
Best Wishes
Eileen
This is my most debilitating symptom right now. I am spending money trying to make the boredom to go away. I honestly thought it was pandemic burnout, which I also have. I am bored, restless. This is all new for me. I am usually have lots going on & I am never restless. I am getting angry at the people around me because it's like Groundhog Day. Same story over and over again. I have told friends their issues have been going on since their twenties. I can't listen to it anymore. It is annoying, lol. Thank you for this talk. It has really helped me.
Glad it has helped Safne. Yes, this is such a frustrating phase, I remember it well! Luckily, it slowly faded and I ended up with much more go and adventure in me than before!
Best Wishes
Eileen
I'm struggling with this at the moment..I think for me it's because my periods are starting to be a bit erratic and I'm waiting for it to arrive. I also have the flu and I sliced my finger badly whilst chopping vegetables today so I feel down and just awful. My lovely husband and dog are wonderful though and that's what's helping me to keep smiling. Thank you Eileen Wonderful info as always ❤
Aw, hope you feel much better today! It is horrible when two or three negative things happen at once. Great to hear that you've got lovely support, it make such a difference.
Best Wishes
Eileen
I am post menopausal and one of the hardest thing I find to deal with is fatigue. I was always a very active person. I was more irritable and angry than low but there are a few low days here and there. I feel like a different person and I am not sure I like the new me but am trying. Lol. I take 300mg of Saint John's Wort twice daily and find this calms the demons. Lol. I think low days are part of life, as long as they don't stick around, that is the main thing. I know all this is part and parcel of this time of life but it is still difficult at times. My doctor once said to me that menopause is a natural progression and I replied "so is death, hope it is quicker and not as miserable as this ride has been". Lol Thanks Eileen for all your help. Take care of yourselves ladies and thanks to Eileen we are not alone in this! :) :)
You're welcome Jacqueline, glad to be of help! St John's Wort is known as the 'sunshine herb' and it can be so helpful at this time! Hopefully, your energy will return with a bang. I know I am much more energetic and fitter that I was pre-menopause!
Best Wishes
Eileen
@@AvogelCoUk Those are words of hope! Thank you! :)
This topic was a really good one as always....it describe what exactly i have been experiencing......am so thankful for these weekly vlog that has been a vital help to me in understanding what is happening....knowledge is power....thanks Eileen🙏
You are welcome, Island Girl
Best Wishes
Eileen
These are real feelings during peri/menopause but would also love a video about the newfound (liberating) feeling of “i don’t give a 💩 what people think anymore “!
Ooo, that's a good one, thank you for the suggestion!
Best Wishes
Eileen
Thank you Ms Eileen. Every time I start feeling a certain way, you bring a video of exactly how I am feeling. I'm really thankful for your videos. I don't know how I would have made it these past couple of years without them. It wasn't until I found your channel that I didn't feel so lost on this Menopause journey. God bless you Ms. Eileen.
You're welcome Cassandra, glad to have been of help!
Best Wishes
Eileen
Omg I feel like this often. It helps me to remind myself of my many treasures: my wonderful hubby, children, our parents and siblings, our steady jobs, our home, our health. Soon I'm feeling much better 😊
Yes, gratitude is such a mood lifter! 😊
Best Wishes
Eileen
Oh my gosh! I couldn't believe it when I watched this video--I felt like it was talking exactly about me. I am perimenopausal (maybe about 3 years-I had a hysterectomy with ovaries left in so it's hard to tell how far along it is). A month ago, I decided I was fed up feeling like life was passing me by--spending everyday the same way (wake up, go to work, cook, go to sleep). My husband had found an online community that he spends almost all day on during weekends, and I have been feeling so lonely, bored, and frustrated. So I decided to just go out myself and explore a different part of my local area every other weekend or when I feel like it. It has made such a huge difference in my mood and outlook. It's like finding hidden gems I never knew were there, and I've been able to meet really interesting people. I still struggle with frustration and depression with home and work sometimes with the hormone fluctuation but overall I feel like I have something to look forward to, and I feel closer to my overall community.
I really appreciate your videos, Ms. Eileen! They really help me through this difficult time, and my husband often watches or listens to them with me--so I have more support now too. :)
That's brilliant, sometimes, even small changes can make a huge difference! Great that your husband watches as well!
Best Wishes
Eileen
Ακριβως στηνκατάλληλη στιγμή.Οι Δευτέρες είναι ακόμα πιο δύσκολες από παλιά ευχατιστούμε,πραγματικά είναι από τα πιο δύσκολα συμπτώματα της κλιμακτηρίου!!
Good night Doctor Elaine. God sent you directly to us to deliver us out of so so many wonders and fear, it is when i started listening to you right at the time i was going through these hard storms of menopause and didn't know what to do, God sent me on you tube one day and you were right there with the right light to shine and covers all the dark areas, and there i was able to relax, accept and take the important steps. God richly bless you.❤❤❤❤😊
Thank you Marline! You're welcome.
Best Wishes
Eileen
Yes, I can relate to all of this. I’m not myself and I don’t like it. I’ve been getting hormone replacement (pellets for Testosterone and Estrogen) for over a year. The struggle of the dr getting the levels right for me has been hard. Hoping my new Dr can help. 🙏🏻 (I had a parcel hysterectomy about 6 years ago.)
Hope you get this sorted soon Leesa!
Best Wishes
Eileen
I keep ideas and dreams in my head. And try to keep the idea of one day doing them going. Logically they never will happen but it's good to have something to strive for.
My thoughts exactly! During my post menopause l dreamt about what l wished for, wanted to do, and just went with the flow & so on & so forth. Even though l was experiencing symptoms both mentally & physically l never stopped this mindset the entire time. I went back to nature and became a vegetable gardener and this filled my life with immense joy growing my food. The post menopause period didn’t last long for me and l have reached at the other end of it.
Great idea Sarah, maybe even write them down!
Best Wishes
Eileen
@@AvogelCoUk yes goals to work towards mine are own house, new car and my dream holiday round the world cruise. Right now life is being useful to parents as both have health issues so far more pressure is on me at the moment.
@@sarahhall738 Good luck with your goals, love the idea of a world cruise ;)
Thanks......you are a great help
🙏
You're welcome!
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Eileen
You make me feel I belong xxx 😅 So appreciative xxx
Thank you Ann, for your kind comment!
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Eileen
So helpful thank you. An explanation for this restless feeling.
You're welcome Rachel!
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Eileen
I was a happy go getter all the time, I could work , come home cook dinner, do homework with my kids and workout … do it all … 😢😢when Covid happened…. My brain is foggy … I can’t complete a lot of task… I quit jobs , I can’t deal with stress and react to everything so irritated and angry 😢😢😢 I feel guilty for not being happy the happy person that used to be and cry all the time 😢😢😢 got meds but they’re not helping… I’m 53 and still got my period 😢😢😢
Sorry to hear that you're still struggling Sandra. If your meds aren't helping, it is wise to let your doctor know, they may be able to change your medication or adjust the dose for you
Best Wishes
Eileen
I'm going through this stuff now. Thank you.
You're welcome Pattycake!
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Eileen
PeriMenopause, near menopause, fatigue. Im just dragging. I've always been a tired person. My get up and go has never been great. I push myself daily to walk or do weights etc.
Hope this eases for you soon!
Best Wishes
Eileen
Why am i still having mental pause i been on it for8 years when is it going to leave me
Hi
That does seem a long time! If you're still getting symptoms so long after periods have stopped or they are getting worse, it is wise to see your doctor. Other health issues can appear in the menopause and prolong the symptoms such as vitamin D or B12 deficiency, anaemia, thyroid imbalance, diabetes and heart disease. These can all cause symptoms that are identical to menopause ones so your doctor can test for these just to rule them out.
Best Wishes
Eileen
Which flower essence is that you recommend please, as mentioned in your talk? Thank you 😊
Hi
I would suggest either Emotional Essence or Female Essence
Best Wishes
Eileen
Does it end? It feels like it’s taking forever!
Yes, it does! However, it's different for everyone so it's difficult to say how much longer you'll be, sorry.
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Eileen
All on point. I used to be so positive, optimistic, happy and could even concentrate enough to get through a whole book. Now I’m quite the wreck….My mind is often in turmoil and I’m struggling with everything 🥹