feeling invalid/not sick enough was the hardest part of recovering and what you said about there always being someone who is going to be more sick than you, really opened my eyes, thank you ❤️
but what if my mental hunger is just me wanting to eat because im bored... yk what, i realise now having written that out that my way of thinking doesnt rlly make sense 💀 funny how writing things out helps to understand some things
i know you mentioned you realised it doesn’t make sense now you think about it but just want to hop in here for anyone else struggling with this - you are NOT boredom eating! in recovery, the brain is not making you think of food for fun. those thoughts have a function ! and it’s super sneaky of the ed to make you doubt them. you might find you think of food, but then you have thoughts such as “am i really hungry? what if i’m not? what if i’m bored? what if i’m over reacting? how long till next meal, maybe i can wait? what would i even eat?” and see how you can go down a bit of a thought spiral? yes, sneaky ed making you delay eating. tabitha did a video about this if you search her channel & boredom eating! simply put though THINKING OF FOOD = EATING FOOD 🥰♥️
@@millyisliving oh u replied! Your videos I watch almost every 3 hours DAILY for the past week. Your truly instrumental in my recovery Milly. Like im not just saying that. Half of my day is watching you, tabitha and ro. Yall are truly the ones that make meal times easier😭 like you have NO idea the impact you have milly. Just know that some random girl in the southern caribbean has now changed her life for the better for the past week exactly and its all thanks to the inspiration yall put out that makes it seem possible. Thank you sm😭
I had an ED for like almost an year. It’s too little time so I didn’t think I’ll get that bad. I always compare to the girls who went in for 4-5 years so I feel like my story is nothing and I’m not sick enough. Also, my body doesn’t look as skinny, so every time I vent with someone they say that maybe I’m trying to get some attention from everyone, and it really hurts me even tho I know they say it in a good way. Today is my first day of recovery and I sincerely think I don’t deserve it until I end up in the hospital. Any recommendations ?
Hey milky thanks for inspiration! I really want to overcome anorexia! I wondered if you ever struggled with compulsive excercise and if so how did you overcome it?
may i? i had to reset my goals/routines & make them more like intentions. i also limit my cardio to {blank minutes} ( i don't want to say). i am spreading my cardio out over three sessions and i'm finding that doing less more frequently really helps manage my anxiety. for me non-focused stretching (ie not yoga or pilates) also helps me connect with my new healthier body.
Hello. I'm a guy struggling with eating disorder. I have a question for you about my fear foods. Because I can see them kinda in two gorups. One group are relatively "healthy" but calorie danse foods like granola, low-sugar protein bars, sweet pastry etc. I really love them, yet when I'm supposed to eat them, a full anxiety turns in in my case Then there are foods, that I would normally not even touch like fast food, hot dogs etc. They don't even give me anxiety. I just wouldn't touch them with a stick. So here's my question. What are my real fear foods? Should I separate them in two lists? Or simply put them all together in one list and just scale out which brings me more anxiety? Cheers!
Hiya! I wouldn't separate it into two lists - both sound like they cause some anxiety (although it might be presenting in a different way) and so should be tackled when aiming for a full recovery. I read somewhere that if, on a long road trip, all you had access to was fast food like hot dogs from a garage - if you would still not touch that food even if it was the ONLY thing you had access to for the day, then you need to challenge and face it. To achieve full food freedom it would be a good idea to face those foods, because it is likely in later life you may have to eat foods that aren't your favourite, aren't your first choice, or that you simply don't like - if it is the only option available. Hope that helps. I would chuck them all on paper, rate the anxiety you feel thinking about eating them 0-100% and go from there :) That's sort of what I would do with a patient of mine with a phobia! Also, I really recommend this video by Tabitha: ua-cam.com/video/sm2XQiia8r8/v-deo.html
@@millyisliving Well, thanks. It sounds pretty reasonable. Just put them into the scale, like for example a hot dog is 9 of 10 while the protein bars are like... 2 of 10. I guess this will work. Thanks again! I also wanted to ask since I'm experiencing something called "extreme hunger" recently. It might be because I'm on my recovery path. Or at least I think so, because I really want freedom and start to eat normally. The thing is sometimes I'm so hungry, my stomach feels like a bottomless pit, even despite I ate to the point that I literally feel pain of overeating in my stomach. It also can turn into a binge. Or at least I think it turns into a binge. Then I always try to compensate - either with not eating anything at all on the day after or with purging. Fortunately the first one happens much more often than the second one. All because I want to restore my exit weight from before such binge. So I wanted to ask - is there any way to get out of the extreme hunger without gaining weight? Or harness it somehow? Thanks!
Sounds like a plan! I recommend googling about post-starvation hyperphagia. It's really, really normal after a period of restriction to experience that "bottomless pit" hunger (so many people describe it in those exact words). It's not a binge, it's a reaction to a period of limited food intake. It is a biological survival mechanism. Compensating for it is probably the worst thing you can do, as it just prolongs the feeling. I know it's hard, but try to listen to the hunger cues. Your body is trying to heal damage. Once it begins to trust that you will fuel it when it needs fuel, and rest when it needs rest (i.e. no compensating!) the hunger will start to stabilise again. There is no way to recover from a restrictive eating disorder without weight gain, but your body will eventually settle at its set point, I promise. I know its scary, it really is a "trust the process" situation, but nobody who has fully recovered has ever regretted it. All the best, you are always welcome to drop me a DM on insta xx
hi lovely! i have my masters in clinical psychology! it was an integrated degree so i did my undergrad and masters together as well as a training year. i’m not a full CBT therapist. i only treat low intensity difficulties like mild-moderate depression & anxiety. but you don’t need a doctorate here! next year i will apply to do the final year of training to be a high-intensity CBT therapist 💗 I used to think the doctorate was the only way to do the job i wanted (and as you probably know it’s immensely competitive) but I found this alternative and managed to get on the course when I was 18 🫶🏻 It might be completely different in the US, i know you guys also just have a very different approach to therapy than the UK too because of private healthcare vs the NHS 💗
feeling invalid/not sick enough was the hardest part of recovering and what you said about there always being someone who is going to be more sick than you, really opened my eyes, thank you ❤️
I know and it's something people don't speak much about in recovery.
listening as i take an exam
extreme hunger has been very scary for me. i need something to tether me bc i am very anxious.
finalllyyyy had the time to watch this! love your vids Milly and as usual, this did not disappoint 🥰
yay i’m so so glad 🥰♥️♥️♥️
thank you for this video, your channel is amazing and I’m so proud of you :) ❤
thank you so so much!!
but what if my mental hunger is just me wanting to eat because im bored... yk what, i realise now having written that out that my way of thinking doesnt rlly make sense 💀 funny how writing things out helps to understand some things
I was helped by this name above 👆 go seek for his help his amazing 👆👆you can also get helped by him
i know you mentioned you realised it doesn’t make sense now you think about it but just want to hop in here for anyone else struggling with this - you are NOT boredom eating! in recovery, the brain is not making you think of food for fun. those thoughts have a function ! and it’s super sneaky of the ed to make you doubt them. you might find you think of food, but then you have thoughts such as “am i really hungry? what if i’m not? what if i’m bored? what if i’m over reacting? how long till next meal, maybe i can wait? what would i even eat?” and see how you can go down a bit of a thought spiral? yes, sneaky ed making you delay eating. tabitha did a video about this if you search her channel & boredom eating! simply put though THINKING OF FOOD = EATING FOOD 🥰♥️
@@millyisliving thank you so much! you're absolutely right, and I'll be sure to check out your suggestion :D thank you again for everything you do
I think this so much.but it's not like you go for a pee when you are bored or breathe when you are bored. It's still hunger and it still counts!
I love this! you are so right! Our body wouldn't send us hunger signals for no reason!
you are such an amazing person milly i’m so grateful for your content!
claudia, thank you so so much! always here ♥️
I'm so proud of u! Btw i love your videos they always help me a lot
i’m really glad they help lovely🥰
I love the “f it” mentality that Tabitha Farrar talks about, her stuff really helped me too!
she’s brilliant! truly a recovery icon ♥️
thank you for your videos! it makes my days easier truly
i’m so glad to hear this ❤️
@@millyisliving oh u replied! Your videos I watch almost every 3 hours DAILY for the past week. Your truly instrumental in my recovery Milly. Like im not just saying that. Half of my day is watching you, tabitha and ro. Yall are truly the ones that make meal times easier😭 like you have NO idea the impact you have milly. Just know that some random girl in the southern caribbean has now changed her life for the better for the past week exactly and its all thanks to the inspiration yall put out that makes it seem possible. Thank you sm😭
Really helpful video, thankyou so much 💕
thank you! i’m so glad ♥️
You’re amazing! Thank you so much for this video 💞💞
thank you ♥️ i’m really glad i was able to help in some way 😅🥰
I honestly wish you could be my therapist lol... thank you so much for this!!♥
awh hahaha that’s so sweet! i’m glad it helped 🥰
I had an ED for like almost an year. It’s too little time so I didn’t think I’ll get that bad. I always compare to the girls who went in for 4-5 years so I feel like my story is nothing and I’m not sick enough. Also, my body doesn’t look as skinny, so every time I vent with someone they say that maybe I’m trying to get some attention from everyone, and it really hurts me even tho I know they say it in a good way. Today is my first day of recovery and I sincerely think I don’t deserve it until I end up in the hospital. Any recommendations ?
I like your sound n talking way
you are a gem.
Hey milky thanks for inspiration! I really want to overcome anorexia! I wondered if you ever struggled with compulsive excercise and if so how did you overcome it?
may i?
i had to reset my goals/routines & make them more like intentions. i also limit my cardio to {blank minutes} ( i don't want to say). i am spreading my cardio out over three sessions and i'm finding that doing less more frequently really helps manage my anxiety.
for me non-focused stretching (ie not yoga or pilates) also helps me connect with my new healthier body.
Hello. I'm a guy struggling with eating disorder. I have a question for you about my fear foods. Because I can see them kinda in two gorups.
One group are relatively "healthy" but calorie danse foods like granola, low-sugar protein bars, sweet pastry etc. I really love them, yet when I'm supposed to eat them, a full anxiety turns in in my case
Then there are foods, that I would normally not even touch like fast food, hot dogs etc. They don't even give me anxiety. I just wouldn't touch them with a stick.
So here's my question. What are my real fear foods? Should I separate them in two lists? Or simply put them all together in one list and just scale out which brings me more anxiety?
Cheers!
Hiya! I wouldn't separate it into two lists - both sound like they cause some anxiety (although it might be presenting in a different way) and so should be tackled when aiming for a full recovery. I read somewhere that if, on a long road trip, all you had access to was fast food like hot dogs from a garage - if you would still not touch that food even if it was the ONLY thing you had access to for the day, then you need to challenge and face it. To achieve full food freedom it would be a good idea to face those foods, because it is likely in later life you may have to eat foods that aren't your favourite, aren't your first choice, or that you simply don't like - if it is the only option available. Hope that helps. I would chuck them all on paper, rate the anxiety you feel thinking about eating them 0-100% and go from there :) That's sort of what I would do with a patient of mine with a phobia! Also, I really recommend this video by Tabitha: ua-cam.com/video/sm2XQiia8r8/v-deo.html
@@millyisliving Well, thanks. It sounds pretty reasonable. Just put them into the scale, like for example a hot dog is 9 of 10 while the protein bars are like... 2 of 10. I guess this will work. Thanks again!
I also wanted to ask since I'm experiencing something called "extreme hunger" recently. It might be because I'm on my recovery path. Or at least I think so, because I really want freedom and start to eat normally. The thing is sometimes I'm so hungry, my stomach feels like a bottomless pit, even despite I ate to the point that I literally feel pain of overeating in my stomach. It also can turn into a binge. Or at least I think it turns into a binge. Then I always try to compensate - either with not eating anything at all on the day after or with purging. Fortunately the first one happens much more often than the second one. All because I want to restore my exit weight from before such binge. So I wanted to ask - is there any way to get out of the extreme hunger without gaining weight? Or harness it somehow?
Thanks!
Sounds like a plan!
I recommend googling about post-starvation hyperphagia. It's really, really normal after a period of restriction to experience that "bottomless pit" hunger (so many people describe it in those exact words). It's not a binge, it's a reaction to a period of limited food intake. It is a biological survival mechanism. Compensating for it is probably the worst thing you can do, as it just prolongs the feeling. I know it's hard, but try to listen to the hunger cues. Your body is trying to heal damage. Once it begins to trust that you will fuel it when it needs fuel, and rest when it needs rest (i.e. no compensating!) the hunger will start to stabilise again. There is no way to recover from a restrictive eating disorder without weight gain, but your body will eventually settle at its set point, I promise. I know its scary, it really is a "trust the process" situation, but nobody who has fully recovered has ever regretted it.
All the best, you are always welcome to drop me a DM on insta xx
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wait, you just got a four year degree and you are a CBT therapist? how? in the States that requires a doctorate.
hi lovely! i have my masters in clinical psychology! it was an integrated degree so i did my undergrad and masters together as well as a training year. i’m not a full CBT therapist. i only treat low intensity difficulties like mild-moderate depression & anxiety. but you don’t need a doctorate here! next year i will apply to do the final year of training to be a high-intensity CBT therapist 💗 I used to think the doctorate was the only way to do the job i wanted (and as you probably know it’s immensely competitive) but I found this alternative and managed to get on the course when I was 18 🫶🏻 It might be completely different in the US, i know you guys also just have a very different approach to therapy than the UK too because of private healthcare vs the NHS 💗