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As an American I can tell you that sometimes the dating here is too confusing for me. I think men and women should be able just to hang out and have fun if they enjoy it! The walking is familiar. I wanted to walk to get some soft drinks from a gas station. Just 1.5 blocks. They kept asking me to wait until they could give me a ride 🤣 I'm from the Midwest and understand the value of a roadtrip. "It's only 14 hours. We can do that in one day!" I enjoy taking my time when I go out to eat. It's easier for the digestion. I understand that people like to flip tables quickly but I'm not going to rush the experience because it's more than "just food" for me. Perspectives are interesting!
Hi Felicia, auch in Deutschland ist in den meisten Industriebetrieben eine 15 Minuten Kaffeepause (ca. 9 Uhr) und eine 30 Minuten Mittagspause (ca. 12 Uhr) angesetzt. Laut Gesetz muss die Pausenzeit auch nur 30 Minuten betragen. Erst ab einer Arbeitszeit von mehr als 9 Stunden muss eine 45 Minuten Pause genommen werden. Von einer Stunde als Pause habe ich bisher noch nichts mitbekommen leider ;)
I loved walking all over the place when I visited Germany last summer in 2019!!! My first time in Germany and had a amazing time. I live close to downtown in Madison, Wisconsin which is very walkable since it’s a college town so I actually walk all over whenever I get the chance. I bought my first brand new car a few weeks ago but I only drive it if I have to go beyond like 4 miles or so. Otherwise, I’d much rather walk especially since parking can be tight in my area close to downtown. Madison is a great college town with our UW campus ... Go Badgers!
Madison is pretty cool and walkable : ) unfortunately I've been there in August so not many students/parties etc but having a beer by the lake and seeing Greek houses was fun : ) I prefer Milwaukee thou, Summerfest was awesome!! All in all, Wisconsin is a great place to visit.
Since I'm an American living in Germany, I'll give you 10 American habits I lost: 1. Wearing shoes in the house: Germans always slip out of their street shoes and into some house shoes or slippers. In fact, many Germans have "guest slippers" for when somebody comes to visit them, or frequently, polite guests will bring along their own slippers. 2. Driving everywhere: I have actually come to prefer walking places or riding my bike around town, especially since parking in Germany is hard to find. 3. Talking loudly in public: I never realized how loud we Americans tend to be when talking to each other in public. But when you are sitting in an outdoor café in Germany, and a group of American tourists passes by, you can't help but notice how incredibly loud they are in comparison to everybody else. Maybe this is because we are so amazed at how old everything here is compared to the US. 4. Holding open the door for a female: As an American guy, I was taught to treat women with respect and to be chivalrous. Now, I know that times have changed in America, too, but Germans don't do this, and quite a few German women have expressed that they find this behavior patronizing and they resent it. 5. Saying "excuse me" or "I'm sorry": While we Americans aren't quite as polite as the Canadians, we are definitely more polite than the Germans. As you have pointed out in several of your videos, Felicia, Germans are VERY direct and they don't use a lot of the verbal "nicities" that are common in the US. A good German friend of mine once told me off for constantly saying, "Entschuldigung, tut mir Leid!" To which I answered, "Entschuldigung, tut mir Leid!" ;-) 6. Standing in line: Starting in Kindergarten, we Americans learn to politely wait in line until it's our turn. But go to a German bakery or butcher's shop, and you will seek the end of the line in vain! Customers just group up in front of the counter, yet Germans consider it very rude to not wait until it's your turn. So it's up to you to notice who was already there ahead of you, and who came in after you. The salesperson does not do that for you. They usually just ask, "Who's next?" 7. Putting ice cubes in all of my drinks including water. 8. Giving driving distances in units of time: If you ask an American how far it is, say from your hotel to the airport, they will most likely tell you how long a drive it is: "The airport is a 45 minute drive from your hotel, unless you go during rush hour, then it's more like an hour and a half." Germans don't do that. They tell each other how far it is in kilometers. 9. Relaxing by going out for a drive: I used to love just taking my car for a spin out in the country or down a straight stretch of highway with my windows rolled down and some great music on the radio. But I find driving in Germany very stressful. It is a way to get from A to B, but definitely not relaxing! 10. Leaving the lights on all over the house, even when youre out: Germans are much more ecologically-minded than we Americans, who may leave the lights on in a room, not only when they are in another room, but even when they leave the house for a night out. Germans tend to only have the lights on in the room they are in at the moment, and they never leave the lights on when no one is at home!
Living in Finland, the need to use cash in Germany has been / will continue to be a puzzle to me. Up here, card / mobile payment is accepted virtually everywhere - even more in our neighbgouring Sweden. Cannot even recall the last time I've used cash for anything else than checking the threads on my car tyres (a 2€ coin has a 4 mm rim, handy for that). Some time in 2019, I think...
Cash is cheaper. Here in the U.S., merchants are charged for the transaction by the banks and credit card companies. That is why you will see a minimum charge for use of the card or a surcharge. Gas is cheaper too with cash and the attendant will ask if you are going to pay by cash or card. It's always wise to carry cash in case the mobile devise or card fails. There are some purchases that you may want to keep private and cash offers you anonymity.
@@gammondog You're also more aware of what you're spending if you have to take currency out of your pocket and hand it over to someone. Psychologists have found that the "pain" of giving up cash you will NEVER hold again is different than the feeling you get when you hand over a piece of plastic and they give it back after they charge you. Now you don't even need to hand it over, it stays in your possession so you don't even really feel it.
My experience with restaurants English speaking countries is, that besides the music, the people tend to have really loud conversation with loud laughing and so on. I feel in Germany (and other European countries) this is considered very rude.
Well I live in Germany and I have been to many restaurants in which you almost couldn't understand the person sitting right next to you... I think this may be accurate for very noble restaurants, but "normal" ones are also not that quite here
In Belgium you are supposed to speak at about 2/3 of your normal volume in restaurants. If people at the table next to you can understand your conversation without effort, you’re too loud.
At what point are you allowed to have fun when you are dining out? Also, would it depend on what kind of place you were in, such as the difference between a pub or bar & grill and a 3-star Michelin joint? Most Americans would act differently depending on the situation.
i am italian and i live in italy and i can tell you that we are really loud people, when we talk to each other we usually speak very loud and it can seem rude for strangers, but for us is normal
Cash versus card - this used to be the other way around. When we lived in Belgium (98-2006), I used my card to pay for things much more often than using cash. During that time, we used cash almost exclusively when in the US. Using cards or Apple Pay almost exclusively is a much more recent development here in the US.
Yeah, walking. We were in Washington a few years ago on holiday (2008, so just before smartphones really took off). To save cash we stayed a little outside the center around where the uni is. One day we thought we would walk to the next transit station to see how far it was and just because walking is not unusual for us (we live in Germany). Along the way we asked several people for directions and all gave us driving directions and gave us that 'you are crazy people' look when we said we were walking. After a few hours we got there and as we didn't feel like walking back, we thought we'd get the bus back. We found the right bus, got on, described our hotel (and location) and the driver said 'ah ok, yeah I know it'. I then asked if he could let us know when it was coming up so we didn't miss the stop. He said 'you must know where it is, you go the bus here'. I said 'no we didn't, we walked'. The look he gave us, he even said 'what? You walked, that's like 6 miles'.. Quite funny at the time.
I walked a lot when I was younger, I lived in a city with well maintained sidewalks. When I moved to Memphis, TN, for work, walking was almost impossible where I was living (and it is too hot in Summer). As far as dating goes, I think the system in the US was crazy, at least when I was younger.
Seriously most Europeans would find it unethical to take a 100 meter drive, unless you have very good reasons. That said the infrastructure and safety measures must also facilitate walking, I lived on Aruba for a couple of months and bought myself a bicycle given the short distances, not considering: cycling on roads without bicycle lanes can be dangerous, the stifling heat and exhaust gasses, the dust and heavy torrents, the packs of dogs chasing you and snapping at your heels. The last thing was the most uncomfortable. More than once I needed to prepare myself to actually confront a dog either scaring it away or worse. People do get bitten by dogs, most of which have owners who don’t care that much.
The "cash culture" is still alive and well here in the United States. I moved from a big city (Tampa, FL) to a small town in Pennsylvania and was shocked that a lot of people pay with cash up here. I think the biggest reason is because a lot of places charge you a fee to use a card. A lot of the stores here are still mom & pop/privately run stores that don't get enough business to offset the cost of having the service to be able to run debit or credit cards, so they charge people a fee.
It also depends on age. I am over 50 and pay with cash for most things under about $30 dollars worth except for gas which is more convenient to pay at the pump. I have been changing slowly though as time has gone on especially to get points from using credit cards. I also pay at fast food and some take out restaurants with gift cards due to when buying them at a certain supermarket, I can get you more fuel points on the amount I spend at the supermarket. These fuel points are used to reduce how much per gallon you pay for gas at their gas stations.
Interesting about cash - when I first visited the UK I was suprised how many people, like street vendors and such, had these little terminals to accept chip cards. This was in 2003 or so and I didn't have a chip card yet, which caused some inconvenience once or twice. Today, if I go to a farmer's market in the USA, there is a fairly good (but not certain) chance that a vendor takes cards - usually with a phone app.
Places that are air-conditioned are not like refrigerators. Temperature in most refrigerators is around 40 degrees F. I keep my thermostat at 75 in the summer. As far as not walking much, it depends on where you live. American cities are much larger than most European cities and spread out more. If in the city you can walk. If out in the suburbs you have to drive.
If she cooks her own food she can avoid excess carbs, excess processed food and so on so does not have to get fat as someone commented. I avoid soda pop that is one of the things people gain weight from. Since I got on a lower carb diet I lost weight.
I moved from England to USA, and the above 10 is WILDLY different across America as I've lived in New York City, Minneapolis, and San Francisco . 1. Dating is a lot more "formal" with "games" and rules in the USA as you said, in the UK people just hang out, even the word "dating" isn't used in the UK as it feels such a 50s word. 2. UK generally has no A/C - and I agree the A/C in the USA is set WAY colder than it needs to be! Maybe it helps keep the beer cold (another strange thing they do in the USA). 3. People walk and cycle a lot more in the UK, but in NYC people used public transportation a lot, but Minneapolis and San Francisco ... it's cars all the time. However in the USA the stores are generally MASSIVE so a lot of the walking not done to go TO the store is done INSIDE the store! 4. People complaining ... NYC is in a league of its own, I doubt Germans or the French complain like New Yorkers! Elsewhere Americans are polite, there's even a term "Minnesota Nice" to self-describe how polite they are there! 5. In the UK I NEVER carried cash. In the USA I retrained myself to carry some bills, especially for tipping valets, or in restaurants as tipping small amounts by card is pretty much an insult, but ok I suppose, to the waiter. So a hint ... tip cash in an American restaurant. 6. In the USA car salesmen and other sales/marketing will dress formally. In the UK people wear suits to any level of white collar work (unlike the USA who are more casual), but outside that people in the UK will wear casual clothing most of the time like the USA. 7. UK lunch breaks are 1 hour. In the USA they CAN be, but all too often people do 30 minutes, or in offices they'll work through their lunch, eating at the desk. On eating out, in the USA visiting casual friends for dinner they probably expect you eat then leave by 9pm, whereas in the UK leaving before 9pm would be an insult, as people stay to chat until at least 11pm. 8. UK is like Europe, it's expensive to travel small distances. Unlike the USA. 9. Loudness of restaurants is a matter of the right place. I think most American places are reasonably quiet, much like they are in the UK. 10. Waiter attention and service speed in the UK is similar to the USA. However, wait time to get SEATED in the USA seems to be much longer than in the UK and Europe, as waiting 45 minutes or more to get IN the restaurant seems to be common in the USA, unless we're talking about Dennys in midweek. But yes, when seated, they want you in and out as fast as possible. I lived in the South of England (London suburbs) maybe other parts of the country are different, and I moved 25 years ago. It maybe different now, but when I visit, it's still seems much the same as it was when I lived there on the above list of 10.
The cash thing is actually here too. Almost all places in the US have a minimum purchase amount, i.e, $10 for card use. Many small businesses still don’t accept cards. The positivity thing gives me hope. AC is almost everywhere. I think the US could learn a few things from other countries. I love cooking at home. However going out is cool too
Air conditioning isn't as common in some areas (mountains), but it's a MUST HAVE in others. The reason the temp gets set so low is because there are a lot of overweight Americans. It's ok to say it.
those two things about resteraunts are more connected then you think im not sure but it sounds like german waiters have more area that they are serving which means they dont have to put as much emphasis on turn around and your income isn't as based on tips which is a big thing if some group sits for like 2 hours vs like 45 minutes thats like half the tips or close becasue dessert is pretty much always much cheaper. Which means groups sitting forever is kind of annoying. Alot of us have had those jobs so it spreads through the culture.
I agree with your first one with people just casually hanging out. For some reason men think if you are talking to them and you just want to hang out that it's a date. I don't understand that myself. By the way I'm from South Florida. It's a total Melting Pot down there. But I did grow up in an Italian household. And my neighbors were also from different Europe countries
I did use the car more often when I used to live in Canada,but at my last six month visit ,this year, I did it the German way. I walked and used the bike alot and my Canadian friend,s couldn,t believe it. I remember that I took for ever to get used to the term: to drive back and forth, because in Germany we say:: ,,hin und zurück,, When some cake was good and I would of liked to have the receipt, I would hear ,oh it was just made out of scratch,,. For many years , I took that word ,, scratch,, literally and was wondering how a cake could turn out so good with only , leftover??? Many didn't like to share the receipt. I do like to use my Canadian recipe's in Germany ,my friends like something different,but I always use less sugar. I guess I could go on and on... enjoy your vs versa ☺️👍
They are pajamas! It’s like that everywhere in the state’s...people don’t judge each other as much cause we look at it as it’s not our place to judge. You do you and I will do me is a motto some live by.
I’m not sure where the 30 minute lunch being the norm in the US came from.For the last 60 years I’ve lived in the US, it has always been an hour. That’s the norm in the south. Eating out with friends or coworkers can be something folks like to do and it cannot be done in 30 min. I would have to complain about that if my employer said 30 minutes is the normal lunch time allowed. Someone in our office asked if they could change their lunch hour to a 30 minute lunch, and get off 30 minutes earlier at the end of the day, and they were not allowed to do that because others might want to do the same thing, and the office hours would not be the same for everyone. Outside laborers like construction workers usually take 30 minute lunches because they are already out, and stop and eat the lunch they have brought with them, or food trucks will circle around construction sites as well, or go to a fast food restaurant and take the food back, so they can get off earlier
America is just too spread out for walking. Where I live, the absolute closest store is a little over 2 miles away, and it is just a convenience store in a gas station. To get to a grocery store, I've got to go almost 5 miles, which is a Wal-Mart so I can get about anything I need there. And I live in a city with a population of 150,000 people, so not in a big city but not out in the country either. But I grew up in a pretty big city and it was about the same there. It didn't used to be like that. We really started to spread out after WWII. Before that, I would imagine there were not as many differences between USA and Europe in how people traveled. The big difference is, we had room to spread out in the USA and Europe was pretty much already filled up.
Fewer people drive in europe because: Gas can be 4X as expensive Car insurance can be 3X as expensive Cars are smaller and more expensive. VW Lupo money in Germany will get you a GTI in the states Parking is hard to find and is expensive Traffic in big cities is terrible
I feel like if people want to really hang out and chat after a meal in the US they change locations. So you leave the restaurant, but then you go to a coffee or dessert shop. Or maybe you take a walk in the park or play board games at someone's home. In that case you might just order in as well.
Any restaurant should let you stay and chat as long as you are still ordering food and drink. The idea of hanging out long after you have finished your dessert and coffee is kind of rude...UNLESS you are at a real fine dining restaurant. If I am paying $100+ per person, I figure the table is mine for the night if I want it. Spent as long as four hours on some dinners.
Walking: true. I thnk perhaps less true in *really* walkable cities. If you're used to driving, you are less likely to walk even if you could. (I know lived in one walkable city (Evanston, IL).. I walked all over and was kind of a hassle to drive actually.
Going on the ac part I just dont get how people lived without it. Ours was out in may and Georgia gets humid. Just felt impossible to sleep due to the sticky hot air at night the humidity is in the mid 90s
We used lots of fans back in the day. Grew up in Georgia in the 60s and 70s with no A/C at first then just a couple of window air conditioners but only in certain rooms on certain circuits so the fuse wouldn't blow. Couldn't run the TV or vacuum cleaner on the same circuit. I can still hear the compressor kicking on in my mind to this day, because I knew that's when the cold air would blow. Today I live farther north, but it still gets hot in the summer. A few years back, our central air went out after a summer storm, but fortunately the detached garage had a window air conditioner that I could transfer to the house temporarily while waiting for repairs. Had to put a board in the window so I wouldn't damage the vinyl frame, and had to make my own 220 volt extension cord so I could run it from the electric stove outlet to the air conditioner. Then had fans blow the cold air through the house for a week. Felt like old times.
Looking at someone from head to toe is called elevator look and is sexual harassment in school. You should find a local farm to spend time working at, you might enjoy the animals and the work. Throwing hay bales in the summer helped me a lot for wrestling until school closed.
Also ich glaube in einem Punkt muss man unterscheiden: wenn es um das Aussehen geht oder um Anziehsachen. Bitte korrigiere mich wenn ich falsch liege, aber ich habe den Eindruck, dass Amerikaner viel mehr auf Äußerlichkeiten achten als Deutsche. Ab es nun Makeup, oder Kleidung ist. Also hier kannst doch mit jedem Jogginganzug überall hingehen. Bis auf edin Vorstellungsgespräch vielleicht.
Einige Studenten gehen hier ohne Witz im Schlafanzug in die Uni. In NYC und LA ist das bestimmt anders, vor allem an den Küsten sind die Leute schon sehr modisch aber im Rest des Landes ist es eben sehr relaxed. Alle Europäer die ich kenne haben die gleiche Erfahrung gemacht wie ich, dass es hier egal ist wie man rum läuft.
@@FelifromGermany Mhm ich war noch nicht da, aber was mir so erzählt wurde sei die peer-pressure was Aussehen und so angeht gerade in amerikanischen Schulen DEUTLICH höher (haben sie mir zumindest mit aufgerissenen Augen gesagt), als in Deutschland. Also "dazu gehören" oder in ein Team zu kommen und akzeptiert zu sein. Wiegesagt, ich kanns nicht beurteilen, aber mir wurde gesagt, dass wer die besten Sneakers an hatte und das beste Makeup, den besten Körper... dem gings besser. Und der kam auch dann an gewisse Positionen.
@@FelifromGermany Even in a city like Boston which to me is one of the more European like cities on the east coast,it is not unusual to see people grocery shopping in their pajamas in the morning.Something I don't remember seeing in any European city.
As an American, if I'm spending time with a girl and it's not a "date" then we expect to keep it platonic. I'm a person who believes in male/female friendships, sometimes even if there is some attraction. If we haven't specified that we're keeping our relationship as "just friends" then it's possible we will start dating, but unless we do, nobody should try to kiss the other, etc. That's not to say we don't enjoy just hanging out.
(Im Polish) (Going on a school trip to Germany) My Teacher in UK: You can speak Polish so You will be able to help us in Germany.As German an Polish are very Similar. Me thinking: In what way are they similar?
I am living in Germany and I was an Au Pair in Michigan an I experienced, that Germans dress more casual als Americans, I work at the tax office an wear Jeans and T-Shirt, while in die US my host family were member of a golf club and that had a dress code; And the car I drive here needs less gas than most US-cars, so driving is not so expensive, if you compare that
@@FelifromGermany ok I remember that I was at the bowling center with other Au Pairs to bowl (is that the verb) im my pyjamas (motto party), I would have never done that in Germany!!! But I go in to my garten in my pyjamas here in Germany, would have never done that in the US (but I was in the US in 2004, time goes by)
I think the clothing has to do with your region within germany, youre from bavaria right? Here in hamburg we often dress quite casual like sports trousers and a sweater or something but when i was in munich i felt a bit underdressed. I also have the feeling that the women wear more make up down there.
I lived in Hamburg for a while too and didn't notice a difference. You won't really know what I refer to until you've com to the USA (somewhere besides the same East and West Coast). Students here literally come to class in their pajamas sometimes.
Feli, you need to start walking again..... This is a very bad aspect of American culture that so many people don't walk. Unfortunately, many of our communities and ctities are not designed well for walking. But walking is one German habit worth keeping. My parents came from Germany.... my mother complained about the fact that Americans don't walk, and the community I grew up in was Walker Friendly. I'm an avid Hiker, Mountain Biker, and I used to run. Keep up the aroebics.... Very nice podcast...Cheers!
Grrr, as a Bavarian you should be saying "Gruess Gott" rather than "Hallo, Servus". Just kidding. Couple of observations regarding your list (I too am from Germany, but have lived here for 51 years). 30 minute US lunch breaks is a misconception. Here's how that works. Most US employers have an official 30 minute policy. The actual working and enforced policy is 60 minutes provided you put in your 8+ hour work day. In 40 years of work I've never encountered a strictly enforced 30 minute lunch break and none of my friends and acquaintances ever mentioned such a thing. I suppose there are sweatshops that enforce 30 minutes, but they are the exception and not the rule. Regarding restaurants I'm not too sure I agree with your assessment. In fact I'm surprised by it because my experience with food ordering in Bavaria has been positive. I don't think ordering and meal preparation times are any worse in Germany, but maybe things have changed dramatically in the last 20 years. I've had plenty of bad experiences on those counts here in the US. On balance I don't think one is worse than the other if fair comparisons are made. One thing about German restaurants that always bugged me though is this nonsense of automatically adding a tip to the bill. How is a tip an incentive if the customer is forced to pay it? If you want to make more then charge more for the food and drink and leave the tip off the bill - just be honest about what you're charging. Keep up the good work with the videos. It's interesting to see how the younger emigres are doing in the "Land der unbegrennzten Moeglichkeiten". :-)
AC temperatures in the US are set too low for woman. The AC standards were set in the 1960's for men. AC should be set at a compromise level (especially as the higher level does not affect man's productivity but the lower level affects women's productivity) but the US is too much a patriarchy.
Sidney Skinner That’s so true...all the women I know freeze, even at work! You’ll often see women wearing a sweater or coat at work. But the men are comfortable .
Women actually have less blood which causes them to het colder faster, I saw a video on some of the differences between men and women and that, was one "why women get colder than men".
Du hast wunderschöne große Augen. Das ist etwas, was in Japan sehr geschätzt wird, überhaupt der europäische Look. Ich glaube, auch die Japaner würden es sehr schätzen, wenn Du Ihnen die Unterschiede zwischen Deutschland und Japan bzw. den USA und Japan näher bringst. Alphaville - "Big in Japan" like 80's dreamgirl Jennifer Connelly. You know?
Do you have a video of you talking about German accents,are you born into it or do you lose it over time ,like coming to America? @germangirlinamerica.
American cities are centered around cars. Everything is organized for reaching it by car. The area for big family houses is designed to get away from by car. Most of the time there is no sidewalk to go by foot to reach a certain area. There are even primary schools in the usa which you can only reach from a highway by car. So parents have to bring their kids to school (or with a schoolbus) till they are old enough to drive. The design in which cities are build influences your way to live. Its one of the main reasons for using the car all the time.
I'm from the L.A. suburbs (and my parents grew up in Highland Park, just a tad north of downtown L.A.), and, of course, L.A. has the biggest driving culture in America (and maybe the world). You think nothing of driving an hour to do something. In college, one of the books we read was "The Powers That Be," and the chapter on L.A. centered on the Los Angeles Times newspaper and the impact the Otis/Chandler family had on how L.A. is designed. Suddenly, it all made sense. They (and their fellow barons) owned interests in oil and rubber, so the more cars on the road, the more money they made. And so they started building suburbs that required more driving and did away with public transportation. (My mom remembers riding the Red Car trolleys.) There is much better public transit in L.A now, even an actual subway system (some of which is not underground), and people do use it, I understand. It's not convenient for where I live, so I've used it just once.
I disagree! I didn't even have a car when I lived in Chicago, and most of my friends didn't either. You absolutely don't need one there. In fact, it's an annoyance.
No city I’ve ever lived in was “centered around cars”. This includes New York (my hometown), San Francisco and Philadelphia. I will go further and say that if an area is dependent on cars for mobility it’s not a city.
And since most people here in the comments section mention the "dating" thing, I enjoy being able to go out with female friends and not have to worry about anybody misconstruing my intentions or a neighbor thinking I'm having an affair. I'll never forget the time my wife and I were visiting friends, and the husband said to me that he didn't want to go to this classical music concert with his wife (because he didn't really like classical music), but she had bought 2 tickets. I mentioned that I had wanted to go, but because my wife doesn't care much for classical, and I didn't want to go alone, I hadn't bothered getting a ticket. My friend said, "Take my ticket, take my wife! Heck, you can even take my car." No stress, no problems, and everybody had a nice evening.
Love German Girl in America. True statement - also American's don't walk anywhere because it's too dangerous! Too many cars, too big 6 lane roads, cars don't even look for cyclists or pedestrians. Everything is bigger here, our butts are bigger too because of this stupidity.
That is the complete opposite from my hometown, Copenhagen, Denmark. Bikes and pedestrians come first and all car drivers know this and make way for them. I don't even have a drivers license, as it is faster fo get around on a bike than to drive. Also, it's healthier and better for the envirement. ;)
A close friend who I had a crush on told me "I don't think I'll ever get married. I just don't think I should" She was married (to another guy, obviously) a year later.
@@bobtheduck in Germany this girl would have told you the truth. She likes you as a friend and she likes talking to you as you are friendly and care for her. But unfortunately she has a crush on somebody else and hopes she will be with him. So if you want to meet it is fine for her. If it is OK for you that her heart belongs to the other guy. Even when she is single. Normally German girls don't mess around with random guys. At least the clever ones with self esteem. Friendship and promises mean something.
"Dating in America has too many rules" Agree 1000% Some of my best friends in college were women and I honestly hate the attitude that guys and girls can't just be friends
I had an interesting relationship that spanned 12 years. For the first 2 years we were boyfriend/girlfriend, seperated amicably, then became the best of friends. In one 2 year stretch as friends we lived in the same city. During that time we often slept over at each other's places. No sex, just two friends talking way too late into the night and falling asleep. It was before cellphones and several times my mother tried calling (unsuccessfully) when I was at Kristi's. She couldn't understand a man and woman sharing a bed and not having sex. The whole thing came to an end when she proposed to me and her secret life literally tumbled out of the closet (she had a secret life no one knew about).
@@The_Dudester okay, so, I *completely* understand if you don't want to get into the details and you want to keep things private... but... if that's not the case and you want to say more, I'm pretty curious what happened after that cliffhanger. 😂 I think it's awesome that male and female could sleep over as friends. As long as you both know how each other feels about the friendship and you're comfortable with each other, it shouldn't have to be a problem. Honest communication can make any relationship (in the general sense, including friendship) comfortable and healthy if both individuals choose to be healthy. Of course in your situation there was a plot twist, but... Lol.
Most of my best friends are females. Many of them are married now and i know their husbands. I don't understand why people cannot be friends because they are from different sex. I hate stupid rules.
@@the0ne809 Yeah, stupid rules. For whatever reason, in the past several years I've found that I've connected with way more males than females as friends. If I couldn't be friends with a guy, I would have deprived myself of friendship at some point. It can be hard enough to make friends sometimes, so I'm glad I'm not limiting my options by gender.
I spend half the year on Louisiana and half in California. I start losing weight as soon as I get to California. Just a totally different culinary environment.
@@sayrerowan734 i get that.....but the best meals I've ever had in my entire life were from restaurants in Louisiana...New Orleans and Lafayette. seriously amazing food...probably not heart healthy though lol EDIT: thought again about this ....I know why you lose weight when you spend half the year in CA. California cuisine sucks. I've been to L.A. restaurants and I was not particularly impressed. Had german food in Lincoln, Nebraska....Amazing. Crab cakes in Rockville, Maryland....Outstanding. BBQ in Texas......Fantastic. Literally anything but especially Cajun food in Louisiana...some of the best food in the world. California has good things I'm sure, but it is definitely not the top of the heap as food goes
This is a habit I lost after living abroad for a while: Social drinking. In Japan, you can have as much as you like and then just take the train home. Here it's just too much of a hassle.
I mean not to be rude, but maybe you just had bad friends for that or idk. When i go out drinking with my friends, there is absolutely no Problem if I want to leave early.
@Nicer Dude aka MC NicE in germany that's a bigger problem. In the states there are often towns with a few thousand people. In germany there are mostly villages with a few thousand people and I think you can image that it isn't that easy getting home as a 18 yrs old, drunk and in the middle of the night - and that 5-15km
In that matter i'm american. I don't like trains. Delays ftw. But i wouldn't take the care for a 5 minute walk to the store, unless i have to buy a lot of things. But then i wait until i need to drive at least half an hour, to get the engine warmed up
@@TimLi-1 what language do you speak? There is English in England, Scotland Ireland. Spanish in Spain. Portuguese in Portugal. French in France, Belgium and parts of Switzerland. Swedish in Sweden. Finnish in Finland. Norwegian in Norway. Iceland -? German in Germany, parts of Switzerland and Austria. Italian in Italy and parts of Switzerland Croatian in Croatia Polish in Poland Czech in czechia and Slovakia Romanian in Romania French, Italian in Luxemburg So it is united states of Europe but as you see it is like California, Arizona, Florida, Texas had completely different languages. If you want to work and live in Europe you have lots of very different things to choose from. England is leaving the European Union this year. So things are changing very soon.
I like the German way of being honest and practical. It’s my favorite German thing, besides Bienenstich, and the long compound words. German thinking (mostly) makes more sense to me. Now if I can just figure out the sentence word order.
American 1960: Heavy dating rules America 1980: All rules up for grabs America 2000: Internet Reorganizes Remaining Rules America 2020: Heavy (Unspoken) Dating Rules
@@georgiancrossroads u'r mental really week if ur doing that, im german just to be clear. I have the exact same habits since 10 years or more (with all bad and good ones), since i realized one rly important thing. if u'r rly planning the future with a person it just doesnt make sense at all, to change things u did ur whole life before. u will fall back in old patters if something goes wrong. the other person will be massively upset just because they feel fooled because of that. Its just easier to deal with a known habit, than just realizing someone does things u newer even thought about! My personal opinion to this is just: "As long as u dont violate someone with what ur doing, just do it. Because being true to urself, just makes u a more happy person and postive energy is the essence of a good relationship"
Oh yes, the 'complaining' part is so true. I lost that habit within a week when I lived in Sweden for 5 years, and it was great! Now I'm back in Germany, and back to complaining, even though I know it's exhausting. For some weird reason, complaining seems to be considered good manners here, having some kind of soothing effect when in fact, it has the opposite effect. I suddenly realised that on one of my first days in Sweden, when I was almost offended by nobody joining me in complaining and instead people were trying to comfort me 🙈
The rivalry between Germany and France started up in the 16th and 17th century by three main reasons: 1. The question of who controls the Rhine as an important waterway, which led to several attempts of France to expand eastwards 2. In many regions of Germany the Reformation prevailed and many reformators agitated against the dominance of the Catholic Church, which was still the state religion in France. 3. The so called "fronde" uprisings against the french royalty between 1648 and 1653 as a consequence of the war between France and Spain since 1635, which had weakened the French royalty. Spain in these years was ruled by King Felipe IV, who pursued a warlike hegemonic policy against France and England and came from the dynasty of Habsburg that as well provided the German emperors from 1273 to 1806. But the term of an "hereditary enmity" between France and Germany only developed during the 19th century after the wars against Napoleon Bonaparte.
Well I was a little bit surprised because as a french, I have never felt this "rivalry". We often "complained" (yes literally as in the video) about how Germany developed better economically than France since the WWII, but this is common french jealousy ( just kidding :p).
I love the German criticism as long as is constructive, there're always way you can improve as a person or culture. Also, the bluntness that they have is a relief compared to other cultures like American or Latino, etc. I find people tend to be too sensitive or dramatic, most of the time, outside Germany.
In the US (TX here), we also say "can't complain", or similar phrases like "not too shabby", "I've had worse", etc. The dry understated manner of it is just an understood comic subtlety, maybe similar phenomenon with Germans saying "da kann man nicht meckern"?
One thing I remember about Germany was how we ate. Usually we ate a simple breakfast, then a big lunch. But for dinner was usually light. A soup and sandwich or a salad. In the U.S. we seem to make dinner the largest meal and then you feel tired all evening.
You already see it in the term: Dinner originally meant “main meal of the day”. So, it could also be lunch. What you in the US (and hence, nowadays internationally in English) call dinner, is in fact supper.
When I worked at Amazon, I walked an average of 15 miles per work shift. When I got off work, I was not interested in walking anywhere. If we went to the store and were parked more than 4 spaces from the door, I would just wait in the car.
I'm an American living for two and a half years now in Prague. For me the biggest changes are grocery shopping for one or two days instead of for a weeks worth of meals and walking and using public transportation. I grew up in California and have driven for nearly forty years until I moved here and now I can't imagine using a car for my daily routine. I'd also ride a bike more but Prague isn't very suited to bikes because of the lack of bike lanes and all of the hills in the city. All in all, I find living here to be much more pleasant than living in the US.
@@danielahoti4109 How do I put this so that it sounds as diplomatic as possible...? Well, the Czech Republic is known for a predominantly bad taste in clothing with too many people having no (and I mean, none at all) instinct for what you can combine with what. It's based in practicability, I know that, but still.. it's bad. Was worse 10 years ago, though.
re Walking, in fact that is what I enjoy when I visit Europe, the great transit systems and the walk-ability of the towns and cities there. I enjoy just strolling around and notice all the little things that you miss in a car.
I spent a couple years in southern Germany and I loved the walking. Groups would form every weekend somewhere, you just had to look them up and join. Then beers afterwards. Great fun!
I dated a German woman one summer while she was here in California on vacation. One of the things she noticed was the portions Americans eat at meals. When we would go out to dinner she could not believe how large the portions were. She rarely ate all her meal each time we went to a restaurant.
Times are over, where people had a beer at Lunch time, even in Munich. When I was a child, even in the North you could buy draft beer at McDonald! Wow, why they changed that?
Hey! Great List. I agree with most everything, too. Having lived in Argentina about 9 years, I love to walk - I've noted how we Americans don't walk much, and I think that's a huge shame. So, I walk everywhere. Often I'm the only person walking, but that only means I have the sidewalks to myself! I live in a small town (650 people, more or less) so walking at night, I can just walk on the road after 10:00 p.m.! There's NOBODY out, and only a couple cars or trucks go by. The other thing - taking time to eat & enjoy a meal. In Argentina restaurants don't even open until 8:00 p.m.! But, we would make our own meals at home, and we'd eat for about 2 hours with friends, and then we'd have a cup of coffee, a light dessert, perhaps - and we'd talk, play cards, etc. for at least another hour. Even after moving back to the U.S., I still cook at home. Eating out, my family relaxes at the restaurant. We often take an hour to eat - and yes, the restaurant workers, servers, don't like it, because they're not getting as many tips!! (This is a NEGATIVE part to tipping culture.) They treat you well, as long as you eat and get out so someone else can be served - and they get more tips. Thanks for the interesting videos!
Living abroad can change your life, if you are opened enough for a new experience and a different lifestyle you will automatically change something after a while and that's absolutely fine and properties like thinking more positive is a good one, keep that and mix it up with the good ones from Germany. People Germany have enough reasons to smile a lot more, that country accomplished a lot in a short time. Thanks for video and that big, big smile in your lovely face!!🥂🍀🌹
I found the dating and communication point to be very interesting. I have always thought the way we do things is a little strange. I'm going to make a little joke and say that the 20% of Germanic Europe I have in my DNA contributes to my blunt honesty. I think this is why I've had difficulty maintaining relationships and friendships in general. Communication sucks over here. Too many people want to speak in riddles and beat around the bush. Then yeah... Ghost you like you don't even exist. Hell, even my own sister did it recently. Blocked me on everything so I couldn't contact her anymore (but I know where she lives and I'm big sister 🤷♀️😂). All because I look at things from many perspectives and I don't necessarily always agree 100% of the time. They don't like it when I try to explain to them different ways of looking at situations instead of "taking their side". I'd rather be honest and real than fake and sugarcoat everything. Sometimes truth hurts, but I prefer it over false ideas.
Dawn Hankins This is exactly why you often hear Europeans describe their perception of Americans as “fake”. We don’t have the extra sugarcoat. We are much more distant and maybe even somewhat unfriendly at first contact, but when we open up, it goes much deeper.
Ich muss schon sagen, dir zuzusehen hebt richtig die laune ... du hast so eine richtig positive ausstrahlung :) Wo hast du eigentlich mehr Zuschauer, in den USA oder Deutschland? Über die meisten der 10 Punkte denkt man garnicht nach ... aber wenn du das so sagst ... xD
I think the younger generations are scared of commitment because of the younger generations that came before them got divorced liked it was going out of style and they complained to their kids about relationships and their ex spouses. Also society has built a culture here about not committing to others or trusting them either. It’s really sad. We really should talk about things. I hope it changes back soon 🙏🏼
I live in Cologne, Germany, and I've never experienced being judged by my outfit. Of course, I look at people and people look at me, but I see it as curiosity instead of judgement. In school and at the university people mostly wore/wear a comfortable outfit. Maybe cities differ in that aspect.
belongs what u are wearing. The german people will watch and judge you when you wear .... - sweatpants for shopping - Jeans and Shirt (short or long) for a job interview - Sandals with socks (not every german do it anymore :-D ) If you wear normal jeans and t-shirt on the streets, nobody locks at you. Even in my school-time was that a normal outfit. But no sweatpants (there just for sport class).
I got judged several times for wearing a shirt with a tie. People thought, that I would be rich and a snob. I felt really misjudged, and I was a little hurt. Other times people thought, that I have more authority and expertise, than my colleagues, although my colleagues were the professionals, and I was just the aide. I think there is a reason, that "Kleider machen Leute" (clothes make the man) was written in German. :D
iam reading a book right now about how the human brain works. the author writes that trust seems to be the default state of a human, distrust and being vigilance needs to be learned
Nice video! I read an article once that said US restaurants began a trend in the 1990's to become louder. Not just music, but no carpets, louder acoustically, etc. The reason for this was because loud would be perceived as really busy= popular/good. I wish whoever first had that idea hadn't. I hate not being able to hear people!
"German girl here, and I 100% agree." American man here, and I _also_ 100% agree. I mean if several friends get together to have fun, and through the course of the evening, one by one, they leave, and the last two just happen to be one man and one woman, this does not exactly make it a date. I've never understood at what point what has occurred officially constitutes a date.
We have the option to take 1 hour where I work, but I'm not aware of anyone that takes an hour. I don't think anyone wants to delay getting home to their family and friends by a half hour.
When I was in the US once for work, and had the weekend off, and walked from my hotel to a university campus less than 2km away and then on Monday asked the guys at the factory about the university, they were surprised: "Did you hear that? He walked all the way up to the university!" That reminded me of Back To Future III, where Marty told the bar attendees that, in the future, we'd have those automobile things, and people will at best walk for fun. I always found that to be an unrealistic/exaggerated assessment. Well. Not anymore :D
Five years into my European adventures, my German company and a big American company had a come together meeting in Wetzlar. Our delegation was 4 Germans and me, theirs was 4 Americans and a Frenchman who was an expat about 6 month longer. He and I really hit it off and shared many expat tales over lunch. Coming back from lunch we were talking and walking. As his voice got quieter and quieter I noticed that while I had naturally walked with my Germans toward the stairs, he had naturally walked with his Americans toward the elevator for the whole two floor climb. We looked at each other across the foyer and busted out laughing.
I wanted to buy a wallet from The Ridge but then noticed that I cant put my coins and stuff in there and cried myself to sleep😂😂 (+ in some shops in my city they even take fees when you want to pay with card)
Huh, my grandma was born in Ohio but she literally has to complain about EVERYTHING. If she stopped complaining, she'd die. The funny thing is she has German ancestry! Her maiden name is Desenberg (also spelled Dessenberg and Dessenberger before that)! She has more German in her than we thought, lol!
That is so true about dating differences. I have had two girlfriends in Germany and I have several female friends as well. It was actually IMO easier to meet someone there than in the USA because there are so much less expectations, demands and rules there. You can be yourself to put it simply.
Hey Felicia, a fellow german here ^^ I gotta say I really like your vids and i agree with almost everything you say xD BUUT i gotta say that "lame excuses" are not an exclusive thing to the US :b I actually got served ALL THREE of your examples, by the same girl. sooooo..... yeah. still. MUCH LOVE!
I dislike the US for too many reasons to list here, but one of the things I LOVE about living here is paying for literally everything with a credit card and earning cash-back, sign-up bonuses, free flights, etc. Spending cash means you are spending more money than you have to, and SO many Americans are ignorant to this.
i personally think the "getting looked at all the time" might be a thing in munich but not really German in general. i live in east Germany and i did not notice this here.
it's probably about the fact that germans looking at other people gets seen as "staring" by foreigners. with that in mind, even as a german you might start to wonder why someone's looking at you
As an American, I HATE it when stores and especially my college classrooms have the AC turned way up. I actually like it more in the winter because they have the heat on and it makes it more cozy
I'd like to see it standard, that restaurants in America have a round of Schnapps ready at the table for when they seat people. But since this is America, I know that I am asking for too much!
I am so thankful for air conditioning, the temps in a office setting can get too cold but hey at least it isn't 95 degrees in a office/building. It seems that more and more Americans are biking to work or a store to get something, I think more companies should have a 1 hour lunch for their employees, nice video😀
This whith the driving is in germany the same but i hate cars and only walk or bike usw i do it because the nature and because i dont want to get my drive Lizenz when i turn 18 because i have ADHD and im scared to hurt people by exident because of it
Hey everyone! I hope you enjoy this video 😊 Don't forget to like and subscribe (if you're not a subscriber yet for whatever unknown reason?! 🤔) and let me know down below what you thought of the video and which habits you've ever dropped or picked up when you lived somewhere new!
P.S. Yes, my tongue is blue, I know 🙈
Haha yes there are a few. You should check out Wanted Adventure, Hayley Alexis, Diana Verry, Aspen Abroad, Deana and Phil etc.
As an American I can tell you that sometimes the dating here is too confusing for me. I think men and women should be able just to hang out and have fun if they enjoy it!
The walking is familiar. I wanted to walk to get some soft drinks from a gas station. Just 1.5 blocks. They kept asking me to wait until they could give me a ride 🤣
I'm from the Midwest and understand the value of a roadtrip. "It's only 14 hours. We can do that in one day!"
I enjoy taking my time when I go out to eat. It's easier for the digestion. I understand that people like to flip tables quickly but I'm not going to rush the experience because it's more than "just food" for me.
Perspectives are interesting!
Let me guess...your tongue is blue because you ate a popsicle, or a ring pop.
Speaking of German Netflix programs, have you watched Dark, it's AMAZING!
Hi Felicia, auch in Deutschland ist in den meisten Industriebetrieben eine 15 Minuten Kaffeepause (ca. 9 Uhr) und eine 30 Minuten Mittagspause (ca. 12 Uhr) angesetzt. Laut Gesetz muss die Pausenzeit auch nur 30 Minuten betragen. Erst ab einer Arbeitszeit von mehr als 9 Stunden muss eine 45 Minuten Pause genommen werden.
Von einer Stunde als Pause habe ich bisher noch nichts mitbekommen leider ;)
I loved walking all over the place when I visited Germany last summer in 2019!!! My first time in Germany and had a amazing time. I live close to downtown in Madison, Wisconsin which is very walkable since it’s a college town so I actually walk all over whenever I get the chance. I bought my first brand new car a few weeks ago but I only drive it if I have to go beyond like 4 miles or so. Otherwise, I’d much rather walk especially since parking can be tight in my area close to downtown. Madison is a great college town with our UW campus ... Go Badgers!
Madison is pretty cool and walkable : ) unfortunately I've been there in August so not many students/parties etc but having a beer by the lake and seeing Greek houses was fun : ) I prefer Milwaukee thou, Summerfest was awesome!! All in all, Wisconsin is a great place to visit.
Since I'm an American living in Germany, I'll give you 10 American habits I lost:
1. Wearing shoes in the house: Germans always slip out of their street shoes and into some house shoes or slippers. In fact, many Germans have "guest slippers" for when somebody comes to visit them, or frequently, polite guests will bring along their own slippers.
2. Driving everywhere: I have actually come to prefer walking places or riding my bike around town, especially since parking in Germany is hard to find.
3. Talking loudly in public: I never realized how loud we Americans tend to be when talking to each other in public. But when you are sitting in an outdoor café in Germany, and a group of American tourists passes by, you can't help but notice how incredibly loud they are in comparison to everybody else. Maybe this is because we are so amazed at how old everything here is compared to the US.
4. Holding open the door for a female: As an American guy, I was taught to treat women with respect and to be chivalrous. Now, I know that times have changed in America, too, but Germans don't do this, and quite a few German women have expressed that they find this behavior patronizing and they resent it.
5. Saying "excuse me" or "I'm sorry": While we Americans aren't quite as polite as the Canadians, we are definitely more polite than the Germans. As you have pointed out in several of your videos, Felicia, Germans are VERY direct and they don't use a lot of the verbal "nicities" that are common in the US. A good German friend of mine once told me off for constantly saying, "Entschuldigung, tut mir Leid!" To which I answered, "Entschuldigung, tut mir Leid!" ;-)
6. Standing in line: Starting in Kindergarten, we Americans learn to politely wait in line until it's our turn. But go to a German bakery or butcher's shop, and you will seek the end of the line in vain! Customers just group up in front of the counter, yet Germans consider it very rude to not wait until it's your turn. So it's up to you to notice who was already there ahead of you, and who came in after you. The salesperson does not do that for you. They usually just ask, "Who's next?"
7. Putting ice cubes in all of my drinks including water.
8. Giving driving distances in units of time: If you ask an American how far it is, say from your hotel to the airport, they will most likely tell you how long a drive it is: "The airport is a 45 minute drive from your hotel, unless you go during rush hour, then it's more like an hour and a half." Germans don't do that. They tell each other how far it is in kilometers.
9. Relaxing by going out for a drive: I used to love just taking my car for a spin out in the country or down a straight stretch of highway with my windows rolled down and some great music on the radio. But I find driving in Germany very stressful. It is a way to get from A to B, but definitely not relaxing!
10. Leaving the lights on all over the house, even when youre out: Germans are much more ecologically-minded than we Americans, who may leave the lights on in a room, not only when they are in another room, but even when they leave the house for a night out. Germans tend to only have the lights on in the room they are in at the moment, and they never leave the lights on when no one is at home!
@C J Wow, that was kind of harsh.
@C J What's this? A judgemental asshole calling someone else annoying?
@C J I feel sorry for anyone that has to deal with your sorry ass. You don't seem annoying. You really are annoying.
It’s not annoying to me, but simply stating a fact. Another thing European do quite easily and Americans tend to get offended with.
Love that you gave us the other perspective 👍
Living in Finland, the need to use cash in Germany has been / will continue to be a puzzle to me. Up here, card / mobile payment is accepted virtually everywhere - even more in our neighbgouring Sweden. Cannot even recall the last time I've used cash for anything else than checking the threads on my car tyres (a 2€ coin has a 4 mm rim, handy for that). Some time in 2019, I think...
Cash is cheaper. Here in the U.S., merchants are charged for the transaction by the banks and credit card companies. That is why you will see a minimum charge for use of the card or a surcharge. Gas is cheaper too with cash and the attendant will ask if you are going to pay by cash or card. It's always wise to carry cash in case the mobile devise or card fails. There are some purchases that you may want to keep private and cash offers you anonymity.
@@gammondog You're also more aware of what you're spending if you have to take currency out of your pocket and hand it over to someone. Psychologists have found that the "pain" of giving up cash you will NEVER hold again is different than the feeling you get when you hand over a piece of plastic and they give it back after they charge you. Now you don't even need to hand it over, it stays in your possession so you don't even really feel it.
Cash for smaller retail, cards for more.
Love your vids! Ganz herzlichen Dank dafür und viele Grüße aus Irland! Mach’s gut!
My experience with restaurants English speaking countries is, that besides the music, the people tend to have really loud conversation with loud laughing and so on. I feel in Germany (and other European countries) this is considered very rude.
Well I live in Germany and I have been to many restaurants in which you almost couldn't understand the person sitting right next to you... I think this may be accurate for very noble restaurants, but "normal" ones are also not that quite here
You have to visit Japan. McDonald on Japan is so calm that you yourself are afraid to disturb the rest
In Belgium you are supposed to speak at about 2/3 of your normal volume in restaurants. If people at the table next to you can understand your conversation without effort, you’re too loud.
At what point are you allowed to have fun when you are dining out? Also, would it depend on what kind of place you were in, such as the difference between a pub or bar & grill and a 3-star Michelin joint? Most Americans would act differently depending on the situation.
i am italian and i live in italy and i can tell you that we are really loud people, when we talk to each other we usually speak very loud and it can seem rude for strangers, but for us is normal
Cash versus card - this used to be the other way around. When we lived in Belgium (98-2006), I used my card to pay for things much more often than using cash. During that time, we used cash almost exclusively when in the US. Using cards or Apple Pay almost exclusively is a much more recent development here in the US.
Yeah, walking.
We were in Washington a few years ago on holiday (2008, so just before smartphones really took off). To save cash we stayed a little outside the center around where the uni is.
One day we thought we would walk to the next transit station to see how far it was and just because walking is not unusual for us (we live in Germany).
Along the way we asked several people for directions and all gave us driving directions and gave us that 'you are crazy people' look when we said we were walking.
After a few hours we got there and as we didn't feel like walking back, we thought we'd get the bus back.
We found the right bus, got on, described our hotel (and location) and the driver said 'ah ok, yeah I know it'.
I then asked if he could let us know when it was coming up so we didn't miss the stop. He said 'you must know where it is, you go the bus here'.
I said 'no we didn't, we walked'.
The look he gave us, he even said 'what? You walked, that's like 6 miles'..
Quite funny at the time.
I lived in Bitburg, Germany for 6 years and yes, I walked everywhere. We even did Volksmarches. I walked over 40,000 kilometers while I lived there.
I walked a lot when I was younger, I lived in a city with well maintained sidewalks. When I moved to Memphis, TN, for work, walking was almost impossible where I was living (and it is too hot in Summer). As far as dating goes, I think the system in the US was crazy, at least when I was younger.
I think the loud music in restaurants is a Texas thing. We like country music and BBQ. And generally no talking and muchos cervezas.
When I came to the states from France I noticed I also dont walk as often, this country just seems so much bigger. Things seem farther away
In bavaria you say:
Is da weg länga wia da karrn, wead gfahrn!
(is the distance longer than the car, you drive)
Seriously most Europeans would find it unethical to take a 100 meter drive, unless you have very good reasons. That said the infrastructure and safety measures must also facilitate walking, I lived on Aruba for a couple of months and bought myself a bicycle given the short distances, not considering: cycling on roads without bicycle lanes can be dangerous, the stifling heat and exhaust gasses, the dust and heavy torrents, the packs of dogs chasing you and snapping at your heels. The last thing was the most uncomfortable. More than once I needed to prepare myself to actually confront a dog either scaring it away or worse. People do get bitten by dogs, most of which have owners who don’t care that much.
We had a young guy from Brazil living at our house. It was a 20 minute bike ride to his gym. He would ask for a ride.
Très bien elaboré.
The "cash culture" is still alive and well here in the United States. I moved from a big city (Tampa, FL) to a small town in Pennsylvania and was shocked that a lot of people pay with cash up here. I think the biggest reason is because a lot of places charge you a fee to use a card. A lot of the stores here are still mom & pop/privately run stores that don't get enough business to offset the cost of having the service to be able to run debit or credit cards, so they charge people a fee.
It also depends on age. I am over 50 and pay with cash for most things under about $30 dollars worth except for gas which is more convenient to pay at the pump. I have been changing slowly though as time has gone on especially to get points from using credit cards. I also pay at fast food and some take out restaurants with gift cards due to when buying them at a certain supermarket, I can get you more fuel points on the amount I spend at the supermarket. These fuel points are used to reduce how much per gallon you pay for gas at their gas stations.
Interesting about cash - when I first visited the UK I was suprised how many people, like street vendors and such, had these little terminals to accept chip cards. This was in 2003 or so and I didn't have a chip card yet, which caused some inconvenience once or twice.
Today, if I go to a farmer's market in the USA, there is a fairly good (but not certain) chance that a vendor takes cards - usually with a phone app.
Places that are air-conditioned are not like refrigerators. Temperature in most refrigerators is around 40 degrees F. I keep my thermostat at 75 in the summer. As far as not walking much, it depends on where you live. American cities are much larger than most European cities and spread out more. If in the city you can walk. If out in the suburbs you have to drive.
If she cooks her own food she can avoid excess carbs, excess processed food and so on so does not have to get fat as someone commented. I avoid soda pop that is one of the things people gain weight from. Since I got on a lower carb diet I lost weight.
I moved from England to USA, and the above 10 is WILDLY different across America as I've lived in New York City, Minneapolis, and San Francisco .
1. Dating is a lot more "formal" with "games" and rules in the USA as you said, in the UK people just hang out, even the word "dating" isn't used in the UK as it feels such a 50s word.
2. UK generally has no A/C - and I agree the A/C in the USA is set WAY colder than it needs to be! Maybe it helps keep the beer cold (another strange thing they do in the USA).
3. People walk and cycle a lot more in the UK, but in NYC people used public transportation a lot, but Minneapolis and San Francisco ... it's cars all the time. However in the USA the stores are generally MASSIVE so a lot of the walking not done to go TO the store is done INSIDE the store!
4. People complaining ... NYC is in a league of its own, I doubt Germans or the French complain like New Yorkers! Elsewhere Americans are polite, there's even a term "Minnesota Nice" to self-describe how polite they are there!
5. In the UK I NEVER carried cash. In the USA I retrained myself to carry some bills, especially for tipping valets, or in restaurants as tipping small amounts by card is pretty much an insult, but ok I suppose, to the waiter. So a hint ... tip cash in an American restaurant.
6. In the USA car salesmen and other sales/marketing will dress formally. In the UK people wear suits to any level of white collar work (unlike the USA who are more casual), but outside that people in the UK will wear casual clothing most of the time like the USA.
7. UK lunch breaks are 1 hour. In the USA they CAN be, but all too often people do 30 minutes, or in offices they'll work through their lunch, eating at the desk. On eating out, in the USA visiting casual friends for dinner they probably expect you eat then leave by 9pm, whereas in the UK leaving before 9pm would be an insult, as people stay to chat until at least 11pm.
8. UK is like Europe, it's expensive to travel small distances. Unlike the USA.
9. Loudness of restaurants is a matter of the right place. I think most American places are reasonably quiet, much like they are in the UK.
10. Waiter attention and service speed in the UK is similar to the USA. However, wait time to get SEATED in the USA seems to be much longer than in the UK and Europe, as waiting 45 minutes or more to get IN the restaurant seems to be common in the USA, unless we're talking about Dennys in midweek. But yes, when seated, they want you in and out as fast as possible.
I lived in the South of England (London suburbs) maybe other parts of the country are different, and I moved 25 years ago. It maybe different now, but when I visit, it's still seems much the same as it was when I lived there on the above list of 10.
Haha "a lot of walking is done INSIDE the store"
The cash thing is actually here too. Almost all places in the US have a minimum purchase amount, i.e, $10 for card use. Many small businesses still don’t accept cards. The positivity thing gives me hope. AC is almost everywhere. I think the US could learn a few things from other countries. I love cooking at home. However going out is cool too
Air conditioning isn't as common in some areas (mountains), but it's a MUST HAVE in others. The reason the temp gets set so low is because there are a lot of overweight Americans. It's ok to say it.
those two things about resteraunts are more connected then you think im not sure but it sounds like german waiters have more area that they are serving which means they dont have to put as much emphasis on turn around and your income isn't as based on tips which is a big thing if some group sits for like 2 hours vs like 45 minutes thats like half the tips or close becasue dessert is pretty much always much cheaper. Which means groups sitting forever is kind of annoying. Alot of us have had those jobs so it spreads through the culture.
I totally agree with the dating point of view,
I agree with your first one with people just casually hanging out. For some reason men think if you are talking to them and you just want to hang out that it's a date. I don't understand that myself. By the way I'm from South Florida. It's a total Melting Pot down there. But I did grow up in an Italian household. And my neighbors were also from different Europe countries
I did use the car more often when I used to live in Canada,but at my last six month visit ,this year, I did it the German way. I walked and used the bike alot and my Canadian friend,s couldn,t believe it. I remember that I took for ever to get used to the term: to drive back and forth, because in Germany we say:: ,,hin und zurück,,
When some cake was good and I would of liked to have the receipt, I would hear ,oh it was just made out of scratch,,.
For many years , I took that word ,, scratch,, literally and was wondering how a cake could turn out so good with only , leftover???
Many didn't like to share the receipt. I do like to use my Canadian recipe's in Germany ,my friends like something different,but I always use less sugar.
I guess I could go on and on... enjoy your vs versa ☺️👍
They are pajamas! It’s like that everywhere in the state’s...people don’t judge each other as much cause we look at it as it’s not our place to judge. You do you and I will do me is a motto some live by.
I’m not sure where the 30 minute lunch being the norm in the US came from.For the last 60 years I’ve lived in the US, it has always been an hour. That’s the norm in the south. Eating out with friends or coworkers can be something folks like to do and it cannot be done in 30 min. I would have to complain about that if my employer said 30 minutes is the normal lunch time allowed. Someone in our office asked if they could change their lunch hour to a 30 minute lunch, and get off 30 minutes earlier at the end of the day, and they were not allowed to do that because others might want to do the same thing, and the office hours would not be the same for everyone.
Outside laborers like construction workers usually take 30 minute lunches because they are already out, and stop and eat the lunch they have brought with them, or food trucks will circle around construction sites as well, or go to a fast food restaurant and take the food back, so they can get off earlier
America is just too spread out for walking. Where I live, the absolute closest store is a little over 2 miles away, and it is just a convenience store in a gas station. To get to a grocery store, I've got to go almost 5 miles, which is a Wal-Mart so I can get about anything I need there. And I live in a city with a population of 150,000 people, so not in a big city but not out in the country either. But I grew up in a pretty big city and it was about the same there. It didn't used to be like that. We really started to spread out after WWII. Before that, I would imagine there were not as many differences between USA and Europe in how people traveled. The big difference is, we had room to spread out in the USA and Europe was pretty much already filled up.
Fewer people drive in europe because:
Gas can be 4X as expensive
Car insurance can be 3X as expensive
Cars are smaller and more expensive. VW Lupo money in Germany will get you a GTI in the states
Parking is hard to find and is expensive
Traffic in big cities is terrible
I feel like if people want to really hang out and chat after a meal in the US they change locations. So you leave the restaurant, but then you go to a coffee or dessert shop. Or maybe you take a walk in the park or play board games at someone's home. In that case you might just order in as well.
Any restaurant should let you stay and chat as long as you are still ordering food and drink. The idea of hanging out long after you have finished your dessert and coffee is kind of rude...UNLESS you are at a real fine dining restaurant. If I am paying $100+ per person, I figure the table is mine for the night if I want it. Spent as long as four hours on some dinners.
as someone who worked as a chef before i have to say if its fresh cooked it takes at least 15-20 mins. an houer is to much tho (german here btw)
Walking: true. I thnk perhaps less true in *really* walkable cities. If you're used to driving, you are less likely to walk even if you could. (I know lived in one walkable city (Evanston, IL).. I walked all over and was kind of a hassle to drive actually.
Going on the ac part I just dont get how people lived without it. Ours was out in may and Georgia gets humid. Just felt impossible to sleep due to the sticky hot air at night the humidity is in the mid 90s
We used lots of fans back in the day. Grew up in Georgia in the 60s and 70s with no A/C at first then just a couple of window air conditioners but only in certain rooms on certain circuits so the fuse wouldn't blow. Couldn't run the TV or vacuum cleaner on the same circuit. I can still hear the compressor kicking on in my mind to this day, because I knew that's when the cold air would blow.
Today I live farther north, but it still gets hot in the summer. A few years back, our central air went out after a summer storm, but fortunately the detached garage had a window air conditioner that I could transfer to the house temporarily while waiting for repairs. Had to put a board in the window so I wouldn't damage the vinyl frame, and had to make my own 220 volt extension cord so I could run it from the electric stove outlet to the air conditioner. Then had fans blow the cold air through the house for a week. Felt like old times.
Looking at someone from head to toe is called elevator look and is sexual harassment in school. You should find a local farm to spend time working at, you might enjoy the animals and the work. Throwing hay bales in the summer helped me a lot for wrestling until school closed.
Also ich glaube in einem Punkt muss man unterscheiden: wenn es um das Aussehen geht oder um Anziehsachen.
Bitte korrigiere mich wenn ich falsch liege, aber ich habe den Eindruck, dass Amerikaner viel mehr auf Äußerlichkeiten achten als Deutsche. Ab es nun Makeup, oder Kleidung ist. Also hier kannst doch mit jedem Jogginganzug überall hingehen. Bis auf edin Vorstellungsgespräch vielleicht.
Einige Studenten gehen hier ohne Witz im Schlafanzug in die Uni. In NYC und LA ist das bestimmt anders, vor allem an den Küsten sind die Leute schon sehr modisch aber im Rest des Landes ist es eben sehr relaxed. Alle Europäer die ich kenne haben die gleiche Erfahrung gemacht wie ich, dass es hier egal ist wie man rum läuft.
@@FelifromGermany Mhm ich war noch nicht da, aber was mir so erzählt wurde sei die peer-pressure was Aussehen und so angeht gerade in amerikanischen Schulen DEUTLICH höher (haben sie mir zumindest mit aufgerissenen Augen gesagt), als in Deutschland.
Also "dazu gehören" oder in ein Team zu kommen und akzeptiert zu sein.
Wiegesagt, ich kanns nicht beurteilen, aber mir wurde gesagt, dass wer die besten Sneakers an hatte und das beste Makeup, den besten Körper... dem gings besser. Und der kam auch dann an gewisse Positionen.
@@FelifromGermany Even in a city like Boston which to me is one of the more European like cities on the east coast,it is not unusual to see people grocery shopping in their pajamas in the morning.Something I don't remember seeing in any European city.
As an American, if I'm spending time with a girl and it's not a "date" then we expect to keep it platonic. I'm a person who believes in male/female friendships, sometimes even if there is some attraction. If we haven't specified that we're keeping our relationship as "just friends" then it's possible we will start dating, but unless we do, nobody should try to kiss the other, etc. That's not to say we don't enjoy just hanging out.
(Im Polish)
(Going on a school trip to Germany) My Teacher in UK: You can speak Polish so You will be able to help us in Germany.As German an Polish are very Similar.
Me thinking: In what way are they similar?
I am living in Germany and I was an Au Pair in Michigan an I experienced, that Germans dress more casual als Americans, I work at the tax office an wear Jeans and T-Shirt, while in die US my host family were member of a golf club and that had a dress code; And the car I drive here needs less gas than most US-cars, so driving is not so expensive, if you compare that
The golf club might be an exception :)
@@FelifromGermany ok I remember that I was at the bowling center with other Au Pairs to bowl (is that the verb) im my pyjamas (motto party), I would have never done that in Germany!!! But I go in to my garten in my pyjamas here in Germany, would have never done that in the US (but I was in the US in 2004, time goes by)
I think the clothing has to do with your region within germany, youre from bavaria right? Here in hamburg we often dress quite casual like sports trousers and a sweater or something but when i was in munich i felt a bit underdressed. I also have the feeling that the women wear more make up down there.
I lived in Hamburg for a while too and didn't notice a difference. You won't really know what I refer to until you've com to the USA (somewhere besides the same East and West Coast). Students here literally come to class in their pajamas sometimes.
Feli, you need to start walking again..... This is a very bad aspect of American culture that so many people don't walk. Unfortunately, many of our communities and ctities are not designed well for walking. But walking is one German habit worth keeping. My parents came from Germany.... my mother complained about the fact that Americans don't walk, and the community I grew up in was Walker Friendly. I'm an avid Hiker, Mountain Biker, and I used to run. Keep up the aroebics.... Very nice podcast...Cheers!
Grrr, as a Bavarian you should be saying "Gruess Gott" rather than "Hallo, Servus". Just kidding. Couple of observations regarding your list (I too am from Germany, but have lived here for 51 years). 30 minute US lunch breaks is a misconception. Here's how that works. Most US employers have an official 30 minute policy. The actual working and enforced policy is 60 minutes provided you put in your 8+ hour work day. In 40 years of work I've never encountered a strictly enforced 30 minute lunch break and none of my friends and acquaintances ever mentioned such a thing. I suppose there are sweatshops that enforce 30 minutes, but they are the exception and not the rule. Regarding restaurants I'm not too sure I agree with your assessment. In fact I'm surprised by it because my experience with food ordering in Bavaria has been positive. I don't think ordering and meal preparation times are any worse in Germany, but maybe things have changed dramatically in the last 20 years. I've had plenty of bad experiences on those counts here in the US. On balance I don't think one is worse than the other if fair comparisons are made. One thing about German restaurants that always bugged me though is this nonsense of automatically adding a tip to the bill. How is a tip an incentive if the customer is forced to pay it? If you want to make more then charge more for the food and drink and leave the tip off the bill - just be honest about what you're charging. Keep up the good work with the videos. It's interesting to see how the younger emigres are doing in the "Land der unbegrennzten Moeglichkeiten". :-)
Where's the link to sign up for a date with you 😂😂😂😂😂
AC temperatures in the US are set too low for woman. The AC standards were set in the 1960's for men. AC should be set at a compromise level (especially as the higher level does not affect man's productivity but the lower level affects women's productivity) but the US is too much a patriarchy.
Sidney Skinner That’s so true...all the women I know freeze, even at work! You’ll often see women wearing a sweater or coat at work. But the men are comfortable .
Women actually have less blood which causes them to het colder faster, I saw a video on some of the differences between men and women and that, was one "why women get colder than men".
Du hast wunderschöne große Augen. Das ist etwas, was in Japan sehr geschätzt wird, überhaupt der europäische Look. Ich glaube, auch die Japaner würden es sehr schätzen, wenn Du Ihnen die Unterschiede zwischen Deutschland und Japan bzw. den USA und Japan näher bringst. Alphaville - "Big in Japan" like 80's dreamgirl Jennifer Connelly. You know?
Do you have a video of you talking about German accents,are you born into it or do you lose it over time ,like coming to America? @germangirlinamerica.
American cities are centered around cars. Everything is organized for reaching it by car. The area for big family houses is designed to get away from by car. Most of the time there is no sidewalk to go by foot to reach a certain area. There are even primary schools in the usa which you can only reach from a highway by car. So parents have to bring their kids to school (or with a schoolbus) till they are old enough to drive.
The design in which cities are build influences your way to live. Its one of the main reasons for using the car all the time.
I walked to school up through the 5th grade in USA. After that rode a bus to Jr. High School in city.
I'm from the L.A. suburbs (and my parents grew up in Highland Park, just a tad north of downtown L.A.), and, of course, L.A. has the biggest driving culture in America (and maybe the world). You think nothing of driving an hour to do something. In college, one of the books we read was "The Powers That Be," and the chapter on L.A. centered on the Los Angeles Times newspaper and the impact the Otis/Chandler family had on how L.A. is designed. Suddenly, it all made sense. They (and their fellow barons) owned interests in oil and rubber, so the more cars on the road, the more money they made. And so they started building suburbs that required more driving and did away with public transportation. (My mom remembers riding the Red Car trolleys.) There is much better public transit in L.A now, even an actual subway system (some of which is not underground), and people do use it, I understand. It's not convenient for where I live, so I've used it just once.
I disagree! I didn't even have a car when I lived in Chicago, and most of my friends didn't either. You absolutely don't need one there. In fact, it's an annoyance.
No city I’ve ever lived in was “centered around cars”. This includes New York (my hometown), San Francisco and Philadelphia. I will go further and say that if an area is dependent on cars for mobility it’s not a city.
And since most people here in the comments section mention the "dating" thing, I enjoy being able to go out with female friends and not have to worry about anybody misconstruing my intentions or a neighbor thinking I'm having an affair. I'll never forget the time my wife and I were visiting friends, and the husband said to me that he didn't want to go to this classical music concert with his wife (because he didn't really like classical music), but she had bought 2 tickets. I mentioned that I had wanted to go, but because my wife doesn't care much for classical, and I didn't want to go alone, I hadn't bothered getting a ticket. My friend said, "Take my ticket, take my wife! Heck, you can even take my car." No stress, no problems, and everybody had a nice evening.
Swingers international grandpa calls that. lol just joking
Yes they are just really dumb. Whoever would say that you are "dating" someone just because of that is apparently mentally deficient.
You just described an episode of _The King of Queens!_ 😄 ("Bed Spread", 19 May 2003)
"Heck you can even take my Car" , the most importend of the 3 Things for a German 😂
Love German Girl in America. True statement - also American's don't walk anywhere because it's too dangerous! Too many cars, too big 6 lane roads, cars don't even look for cyclists or pedestrians. Everything is bigger here, our butts are bigger too because of this stupidity.
Bit of a catch 22 that. Nobody walks because the roads are too busy to walk on. The roads are too busy because nobody walks.
That is the complete opposite from my hometown, Copenhagen, Denmark. Bikes and pedestrians come first and all car drivers know this and make way for them. I don't even have a drivers license, as it is faster fo get around on a bike than to drive. Also, it's healthier and better for the envirement. ;)
I'm American over 6 foot 1 inch and 148 pounds with clothes on.
@@hydrolito I only do metric, but thats 180+cm and around 75kg? Pretty normal European size, but the US is one of the fattest countries in the world..
@@hydrolito We use to call this kind of figure "Spargeltarzan" (Asparagus Tarzan). Some think its an insult, but most think of a complimet.
“I just not ready for a relationship right now”. The ‘with you’ is left out. USA here. That’s my experience.
A close friend who I had a crush on told me "I don't think I'll ever get married. I just don't think I should"
She was married (to another guy, obviously) a year later.
"It's not me, it's you" - I bet no-one dares to say that!
@@bobtheduck in Germany this girl would have told you the truth.
She likes you as a friend and she likes talking to you as you are friendly and care for her. But unfortunately she has a crush on somebody else and hopes she will be with him.
So if you want to meet it is fine for her.
If it is OK for you that her heart belongs to the other guy. Even when she is single.
Normally German girls don't mess around with random guys.
At least the clever ones with self esteem. Friendship and promises mean something.
I haven't had a date in years!.... sorry wrong thread (talking about the 'fruit' date...)
"Dating in America has too many rules"
Agree 1000%
Some of my best friends in college were women and I honestly hate the attitude that guys and girls can't just be friends
I had an interesting relationship that spanned 12 years. For the first 2 years we were boyfriend/girlfriend, seperated amicably, then became the best of friends. In one 2 year stretch as friends we lived in the same city. During that time we often slept over at each other's places. No sex, just two friends talking way too late into the night and falling asleep. It was before cellphones and several times my mother tried calling (unsuccessfully) when I was at Kristi's. She couldn't understand a man and woman sharing a bed and not having sex.
The whole thing came to an end when she proposed to me and her secret life literally tumbled out of the closet (she had a secret life no one knew about).
@@The_Dudester okay, so, I *completely* understand if you don't want to get into the details and you want to keep things private... but... if that's not the case and you want to say more, I'm pretty curious what happened after that cliffhanger. 😂 I think it's awesome that male and female could sleep over as friends. As long as you both know how each other feels about the friendship and you're comfortable with each other, it shouldn't have to be a problem. Honest communication can make any relationship (in the general sense, including friendship) comfortable and healthy if both individuals choose to be healthy. Of course in your situation there was a plot twist, but... Lol.
I'm older and out of circulation now but when I was younger I never found women interesting on a friendship level.
Most of my best friends are females. Many of them are married now and i know their husbands. I don't understand why people cannot be friends because they are from different sex. I hate stupid rules.
@@the0ne809 Yeah, stupid rules. For whatever reason, in the past several years I've found that I've connected with way more males than females as friends. If I couldn't be friends with a guy, I would have deprived myself of friendship at some point. It can be hard enough to make friends sometimes, so I'm glad I'm not limiting my options by gender.
Oh damn girl look at your subscribers, you getting close to 100k. Because of your videos I have been learning German online. Auf wiedersehen
Feli got me learning German, too! Tschüß
I love traveling to Europe, because I actually lose weight (walking and healthier food) while on vacation. Not in USA
I spend half the year on Louisiana and half in California. I start losing weight as soon as I get to California. Just a totally different culinary environment.
@@sayrerowan734 i get that.....but the best meals I've ever had in my entire life were from restaurants in Louisiana...New Orleans and Lafayette. seriously amazing food...probably not heart healthy though lol
EDIT: thought again about this ....I know why you lose weight when you spend half the year in CA. California cuisine sucks. I've been to L.A. restaurants and I was not particularly impressed. Had german food in Lincoln, Nebraska....Amazing. Crab cakes in Rockville, Maryland....Outstanding. BBQ in Texas......Fantastic. Literally anything but especially Cajun food in Louisiana...some of the best food in the world. California has good things I'm sure, but it is definitely not the top of the heap as food goes
It is possible to be healthy in the USA though.
Umm. You DO know that you can walk and eat healthy in the US also... right? Or is it that you don't want to. Whose fault is that?
@@emteemac Thank you! Finally someone that isnt ignorant about the US. 😂😂
This is a habit I lost after living abroad for a while: Social drinking. In Japan, you can have as much as you like and then just take the train home. Here it's just too much of a hassle.
And you can also keep drinking on the train. No one will care unless you're loud and obnoxious.
I mean not to be rude, but maybe you just had bad friends for that or idk. When i go out drinking with my friends, there is absolutely no Problem if I want to leave early.
@Nicer Dude aka MC NicE in germany that's a bigger problem. In the states there are often towns with a few thousand people. In germany there are mostly villages with a few thousand people and I think you can image that it isn't that easy getting home as a 18 yrs old, drunk and in the middle of the night - and that 5-15km
@Nicer Dude aka MC NicE True. My son, when he visits me, and drinks too much, uses Uber or Lyft.
Like denmark haha
What I learned is that I probably should've been an European... Walking is fun and I love trains!
In that matter i'm american. I don't like trains. Delays ftw. But i wouldn't take the care for a 5 minute walk to the store, unless i have to buy a lot of things. But then i wait until i need to drive at least half an hour, to get the engine warmed up
So it's maybe time to become an European ;)
eLISAbeth0395 Where should I go?
Feuerschlange I definitely understand train delays. I’m just fortunate enough to live in a region with fairly good train service.
@@TimLi-1 what language do you speak?
There is English in England, Scotland Ireland.
Spanish in Spain.
Portuguese in Portugal.
French in France, Belgium and parts of Switzerland.
Swedish in Sweden.
Finnish in Finland.
Norwegian in Norway.
Iceland -?
German in Germany, parts of Switzerland and Austria.
Italian in Italy and parts of Switzerland
Croatian in Croatia
Polish in Poland
Czech in czechia and Slovakia
Romanian in Romania
French, Italian in Luxemburg
So it is united states of Europe but as you see it is like California, Arizona, Florida, Texas had completely different languages.
If you want to work and live in Europe you have lots of very different things to choose from.
England is leaving the European Union this year.
So things are changing very soon.
I like the German way of being honest and practical. It’s my favorite German thing, besides Bienenstich, and the long compound words. German thinking (mostly) makes more sense to me. Now if I can just figure out the sentence word order.
Still ride my bike just have to be super cautious.
American 1960: Heavy dating rules
America 1980: All rules up for grabs
America 2000: Internet Reorganizes Remaining Rules
America 2020: Heavy (Unspoken) Dating Rules
@Badatallthis Stuff No one is doing the same thing as the past. This world is radically different.
@@georgiancrossroads u'r mental really week if ur doing that, im german just to be clear.
I have the exact same habits since 10 years or more (with all bad and good ones), since i realized one rly important thing.
if u'r rly planning the future with a person it just doesnt make sense at all, to change things u did ur whole life before. u will fall back in old patters if something goes wrong.
the other person will be massively upset just because they feel fooled because of that. Its just easier to deal with a known habit, than just realizing someone does things u newer even thought about!
My personal opinion to this is just:
"As long as u dont violate someone with what ur doing, just do it. Because being true to urself, just makes u a more happy person and postive energy is the essence of a good relationship"
That's similar to what I said, but the all rules up for grabs started to happened in the 1960s and was "full throttle" by the 1970s.
Oh yes, the 'complaining' part is so true. I lost that habit within a week when I lived in Sweden for 5 years, and it was great! Now I'm back in Germany, and back to complaining, even though I know it's exhausting. For some weird reason, complaining seems to be considered good manners here, having some kind of soothing effect when in fact, it has the opposite effect. I suddenly realised that on one of my first days in Sweden, when I was almost offended by nobody joining me in complaining and instead people were trying to comfort me 🙈
I giggled a little when you said France and Germany have a rivalry. Maybe it started in 1870?
Just ask to people in Palatinate (Pfalz) when the rivalry started !
I thought it was older than that. Like Frankish and Saxon old.
Napolean . That's when it started
The rivalry between Germany and France started up in the 16th and 17th century by three main reasons:
1. The question of who controls the Rhine as an important waterway, which led to several attempts of France to expand eastwards
2. In many regions of Germany the Reformation prevailed and many reformators agitated against the dominance of the Catholic Church, which was still the state religion in France.
3. The so called "fronde" uprisings against the french royalty between 1648 and 1653 as a consequence of the war between France and Spain since 1635, which had weakened the French royalty. Spain in these years was ruled by King Felipe IV, who pursued a warlike hegemonic policy against France and England and came from the dynasty of Habsburg that as well provided the German emperors from 1273 to 1806.
But the term of an "hereditary enmity" between France and Germany only developed during the 19th century after the wars against Napoleon Bonaparte.
Well I was a little bit surprised because as a french, I have never felt this "rivalry". We often "complained" (yes literally as in the video) about how Germany developed better economically than France since the WWII, but this is common french jealousy ( just kidding :p).
I love the German criticism as long as is constructive, there're always way you can improve as a person or culture. Also, the bluntness that they have is a relief compared to other cultures like American or Latino, etc. I find people tend to be too sensitive or dramatic, most of the time, outside Germany.
In the US (TX here), we also say "can't complain", or similar phrases like "not too shabby", "I've had worse", etc. The dry understated manner of it is just an understood comic subtlety, maybe similar phenomenon with Germans saying "da kann man nicht meckern"?
Yessss. Exactly.
Phrases like that are common in the UK as well. When someone says something is "not too bad" it actually means it is really quite good.
One thing I remember about Germany was how we ate. Usually we ate a simple breakfast, then a big lunch. But for dinner was usually light. A soup and sandwich or a salad. In the U.S. we seem to make dinner the largest meal and then you feel tired all evening.
It's better than eating a huge lunch and feeling tired all afternoon...
You had your dinner at lunch and you had a light supper.
Yeah, better to feel tired in the middle if the workday, smh.
You already see it in the term: Dinner originally meant “main meal of the day”. So, it could also be lunch. What you in the US (and hence, nowadays internationally in English) call dinner, is in fact supper.
When I worked at Amazon, I walked an average of 15 miles per work shift. When I got off work, I was not interested in walking anywhere. If we went to the store and were parked more than 4 spaces from the door, I would just wait in the car.
I'm an American living for two and a half years now in Prague. For me the biggest changes are grocery shopping for one or two days instead of for a weeks worth of meals and walking and using public transportation. I grew up in California and have driven for nearly forty years until I moved here and now I can't imagine using a car for my daily routine. I'd also ride a bike more but Prague isn't very suited to bikes because of the lack of bike lanes and all of the hills in the city. All in all, I find living here to be much more pleasant than living in the US.
As soon as the Czechs learn how to combine colors, you'll be able to open your eyes, too! ;-)
@@needfoolthings I don't understand your comment at all. Can you please explain what you mean?
@@danielahoti4109 How do I put this so that it sounds as diplomatic as possible...?
Well, the Czech Republic is known for a predominantly bad taste in clothing with too many people having no (and I mean, none at all) instinct for what you can combine with what. It's based in practicability, I know that, but still.. it's bad. Was worse 10 years ago, though.
re Walking, in fact that is what I enjoy when I visit Europe, the great transit systems and the walk-ability of the towns and cities there. I enjoy just strolling around and notice all the little things that you miss in a car.
You can certainly do this in America as well. I live in San Diego. LOTS of places to walk around. ua-cam.com/video/7qStAUJkBv0/v-deo.html
I spent a couple years in southern Germany and I loved the walking. Groups would form every weekend somewhere, you just had to look them up and join. Then beers afterwards. Great fun!
Agreed, German party culture is great!
This is me with my sister, I want to walk half a mile downtown and she complains it’s too far
I dated a German woman one summer while she was here in California on vacation. One of the things she noticed was the portions Americans eat at meals. When we would go out to dinner she could not believe how large the portions were. She rarely ate all her meal each time we went to a restaurant.
and that's why we are obese
I pretty much always need a box for leftovers when I eat out.
I often don't even eat all my meal wehen going out here in Germany. One American portion would probably be enough for three meals.
Half an hour lunch break is a german thing too. :)
Times are over, where people had a beer at Lunch time, even in Munich. When I was a child, even in the North you could buy draft beer at McDonald! Wow, why they changed that?
what is draft beer? I only know beer beer. Beer me beer you, beer us together.
But not in a fulltime job... Or you mean the splitting between the second breakfast break mostly 15 min. And then a lunch break of 30 min... ?
some amercian habits are scary to me...
They are often resource wasting and make no sense if you have just a tiny bit of enviromental conciousness.
Hey! Great List. I agree with most everything, too. Having lived in Argentina about 9 years, I love to walk - I've noted how we Americans don't walk much, and I think that's a huge shame. So, I walk everywhere. Often I'm the only person walking, but that only means I have the sidewalks to myself! I live in a small town (650 people, more or less) so walking at night, I can just walk on the road after 10:00 p.m.! There's NOBODY out, and only a couple cars or trucks go by.
The other thing - taking time to eat & enjoy a meal. In Argentina restaurants don't even open until 8:00 p.m.! But, we would make our own meals at home, and we'd eat for about 2 hours with friends, and then we'd have a cup of coffee, a light dessert, perhaps - and we'd talk, play cards, etc. for at least another hour. Even after moving back to the U.S., I still cook at home. Eating out, my family relaxes at the restaurant. We often take an hour to eat - and yes, the restaurant workers, servers, don't like it, because they're not getting as many tips!! (This is a NEGATIVE part to tipping culture.) They treat you well, as long as you eat and get out so someone else can be served - and they get more tips. Thanks for the interesting videos!
Living abroad can change your life, if you are opened enough for a new experience and a different lifestyle you will automatically change something after a while and that's absolutely fine and properties like thinking more positive is a good one, keep that and mix it up with the good ones from Germany.
People Germany have enough reasons to smile a lot more, that country accomplished a lot in a short time.
Thanks for video and that big, big smile in your lovely face!!🥂🍀🌹
I found the dating and communication point to be very interesting. I have always thought the way we do things is a little strange. I'm going to make a little joke and say that the 20% of Germanic Europe I have in my DNA contributes to my blunt honesty. I think this is why I've had difficulty maintaining relationships and friendships in general. Communication sucks over here. Too many people want to speak in riddles and beat around the bush. Then yeah... Ghost you like you don't even exist. Hell, even my own sister did it recently. Blocked me on everything so I couldn't contact her anymore (but I know where she lives and I'm big sister 🤷♀️😂). All because I look at things from many perspectives and I don't necessarily always agree 100% of the time. They don't like it when I try to explain to them different ways of looking at situations instead of "taking their side". I'd rather be honest and real than fake and sugarcoat everything. Sometimes truth hurts, but I prefer it over false ideas.
Dawn Hankins This is exactly why you often hear Europeans describe their perception of Americans as “fake”. We don’t have the extra sugarcoat. We are much more distant and maybe even somewhat unfriendly at first contact, but when we open up, it goes much deeper.
Dating in the millennial generations sounds a lot more confusing and difficult than it was in my Gen-X generation.
its a mess
Ich muss schon sagen, dir zuzusehen hebt richtig die laune ... du hast so eine richtig positive ausstrahlung :)
Wo hast du eigentlich mehr Zuschauer, in den USA oder Deutschland?
Über die meisten der 10 Punkte denkt man garnicht nach ... aber wenn du das so sagst ... xD
I think the younger generations are scared of commitment because of the younger generations that came before them got divorced liked it was going out of style and they complained to their kids about relationships and their ex spouses. Also society has built a culture here about not committing to others or trusting them either. It’s really sad. We really should talk about things. I hope it changes back soon 🙏🏼
Just lite up a cigarette they will come quickly to your table lol
I live in Cologne, Germany, and I've never experienced being judged by my outfit. Of course, I look at people and people look at me, but I see it as curiosity instead of judgement. In school and at the university people mostly wore/wear a comfortable outfit.
Maybe cities differ in that aspect.
belongs what u are wearing.
The german people will watch and judge you when you wear ....
- sweatpants for shopping
- Jeans and Shirt (short or long) for a job interview
- Sandals with socks (not every german do it anymore :-D )
If you wear normal jeans and t-shirt on the streets, nobody locks at you.
Even in my school-time was that a normal outfit. But no sweatpants (there just for sport class).
I got judged several times for wearing a shirt with a tie. People thought, that I would be rich and a snob. I felt really misjudged, and I was a little hurt. Other times people thought, that I have more authority and expertise, than my colleagues, although my colleagues were the professionals, and I was just the aide. I think there is a reason, that "Kleider machen Leute" (clothes make the man) was written in German. :D
iam reading a book right now about how the human brain works. the author writes that trust seems to be the default state of a human, distrust and being vigilance needs to be learned
Nice video! I read an article once that said US restaurants began a trend in the 1990's to become louder. Not just music, but no carpets, louder acoustically, etc. The reason for this was because loud would be perceived as really busy= popular/good. I wish whoever first had that idea hadn't. I hate not being able to hear people!
I was inspired by German walking and biking when I studied there and have continued to buck the American culture for 40 years. Thank you Germany!
❤️
Do you guys drive everywhere? How is it possible not to bike? Or walk? Do you all live out in no where?😆😅
"German girl here, and I 100% agree."
American man here, and I _also_ 100% agree. I mean if several friends get together to have fun, and through the course of the evening, one by one, they leave, and the last two just happen to be one man and one woman, this does not exactly make it a date. I've never understood at what point what has occurred officially constitutes a date.
Now: 100lb German Girl
10 years from now: 300lb German Girl
Walking & biking does a body good 🤗
Be nice, 255 pounds.
@G E T R E K T Butt faky
I never heared of lunchbreaks lasting one hour. And never experienced that :'(
Hm naja Pause vorbei
We have the option to take 1 hour where I work, but I'm not aware of anyone that takes an hour. I don't think anyone wants to delay getting home to their family and friends by a half hour.
When I was in the US once for work, and had the weekend off, and walked from my hotel to a university campus less than 2km away and then on Monday asked the guys at the factory about the university, they were surprised: "Did you hear that? He walked all the way up to the university!" That reminded me of Back To Future III, where Marty told the bar attendees that, in the future, we'd have those automobile things, and people will at best walk for fun. I always found that to be an unrealistic/exaggerated assessment. Well. Not anymore :D
Five years into my European adventures, my German company and a big American company had a come together meeting in Wetzlar. Our delegation was 4 Germans and me, theirs was 4 Americans and a Frenchman who was an expat about 6 month longer. He and I really hit it off and shared many expat tales over lunch. Coming back from lunch we were talking and walking. As his voice got quieter and quieter I noticed that while I had naturally walked with my Germans toward the stairs, he had naturally walked with his Americans toward the elevator for the whole two floor climb. We looked at each other across the foyer and busted out laughing.
"German mindset in a nutshell!" ... loved that one! 👍🏻
I wanted to buy a wallet from The Ridge but then noticed that I cant put my coins and stuff in there and cried myself to sleep😂😂
(+ in some shops in my city they even take fees when you want to pay with card)
Huh, my grandma was born in Ohio but she literally has to complain about EVERYTHING. If she stopped complaining, she'd die. The funny thing is she has German ancestry! Her maiden name is Desenberg (also spelled Dessenberg and Dessenberger before that)! She has more German in her than we thought, lol!
That is so true about dating differences. I have had two girlfriends in Germany and I have several female friends as well. It was actually IMO easier to meet someone there than in the USA because there are so much less expectations, demands and rules there. You can be yourself to put it simply.
I’m was born in the USA and I’ve lived here all my life. Dating terrifies me. What you say about dating in the USA is true.
I can't believe how fast your channel grew sense you hit 50,000 subs. It's amazing and I hope you enjoy each moment of your successful channel
Hey Felicia, a fellow german here ^^
I gotta say I really like your vids and i agree with almost everything you say xD
BUUT i gotta say that "lame excuses" are not an exclusive thing to the US :b
I actually got served ALL THREE of your examples, by the same girl. sooooo..... yeah.
still. MUCH LOVE!
I dislike the US for too many reasons to list here, but one of the things I LOVE about living here is paying for literally everything with a credit card and earning cash-back, sign-up bonuses, free flights, etc. Spending cash means you are spending more money than you have to, and SO many Americans are ignorant to this.
i personally think the "getting looked at all the time" might be a thing in munich but not really German in general. i live in east Germany and i did not notice this here.
You don't really notice it until you live somewhere where people don't do this 😅 but it's probably a little stronger in Munich than elsewhere.
@@FelifromGermany maybe. also i'm a guy, that may play a role too. 😅
it's probably about the fact that germans looking at other people gets seen as "staring" by foreigners. with that in mind, even as a german you might start to wonder why someone's looking at you
@@FelifromGermany I've never noticed it when I've been in Germany. Maybe I'm just not attractive enough!
As an American, I HATE it when stores and especially my college classrooms have the AC turned way up. I actually like it more in the winter because they have the heat on and it makes it more cozy
I'd like to see it standard, that restaurants in America have a round of Schnapps ready at the table for when they seat people.
But since this is America, I know that I am asking for too much!
I am so thankful for air conditioning, the temps in a office setting can get too cold but hey at least it isn't 95 degrees in a office/building. It seems that more and more Americans are biking to work or a store to get something, I think more companies should have a 1 hour lunch for their employees, nice video😀
This whith the driving is in germany the same but i hate cars and only walk or bike usw i do it because the nature and because i dont want to get my drive Lizenz when i turn 18 because i have ADHD and im scared to hurt people by exident because of it