Only one life to live you all. We think we are the lucky ones, fortunate to have these opportunities, but we pay a huge price physically, emotionally, psychologically, and with our lives. That big house you built in your country and rarely see, is there for someone else to enjoy, after you work yourself to death. Constant pressure to support families financially is like feeding a bottomless pit. None invests in business to help themselves with the money you send, and zero consideration of your wellbeing. That big house, expensive cars, clothes, jewelries, weaves, etc, some of which you are still financing, how do they add meaningful quality to your life? Why do we do this to ourselves? Death is inevitable, but why hurry it up by our actions? The death rate amongst our women is growing at an alarming rate, and is mainly due to this unrelenting pressures of work and family life. It's a pimped out life. We need to re-evaluate our lifestyles, demands and expectations. Working hard is reasonable, up to a point. One life to live. Goodluck.
Absolutely total reality to obtain this materialist lifestyle basically to show off to your friends family relatives work colleagues and enemies that you are better off than them.
Not necessarily true! My husband was always the breadwinner for our family. He paid for everything while I took care of our three young kids and attended college (which he paid most of). My husband is now retired and I work to help with the household. I don't mind because my husband has treated me very well. He purchased our home and cars, which are completely paid for. He's taken me to Africa, Europe, The Caribbean, and numerous other places for family vacations. I think it depends on the individual, how they are raised, and by whom. I just wanted to share my story.
I agree with everything Ella said. I was never married to an African man (my husband is white American), but I did see my father treat my step mother like this - I can only imagine he did the same with my biological mother. They (he & my step mom) both worked menial 9-5 jobs, yet my step mother was also responsible for: cooking (for our family of 10), child care (for her 3 kids), cleaning, laundry etc...did I mention he also beat her profusely? He used to beat us (his children) too and she eventually joined him in beating us because she needed an outlet for her own anger. Thank god I was able to use my poetry as a therapeutic outlet. I am in therapy now because I was diagnosed with PTSD and major depression during my 3rd year of university. I divested my from toxic past by moving away from all of them. I need time to focus on myself, I don't see self care as being selfish. My father almost killed me and I don't take that shit lightly. Anyway, I hope my story helps someone feel less alone. k bye.
Thank you for this, Aunty. It makes me happy to see and hear fellow Nigerian immigrants who share similar backgrounds with me. Thank you so much. I don't feel so much alone.
Make money... Let my family be fine, I don't care about myself... let me be rich and make name for my kids, wife and extended my family. Let my kids get the best education and training I couldn't get, let them live a life I never had..... I will pay the bills, do the investments, work 16 hours every day in the hospital, Let them enjoy and l will be fine.... let me take the risk for them that is the orientation I have from my dad. Let me get the money and let them live, definitely I am a strong man, I have seen it all, but they are yet to see any. God is my strength.
uchechi mathew oh my God u got me so weepy. Who thought u dat? I swear ur kids would rather have a decent home and ur presence than an extravagant life . One day u will begone and within a week they won't be able to remember how ur hug feels, or ur smell and u won't be missed because u were never there. My hubby did this and it almost ruined us. Now we are a happy family we have enough to look after ourselves and invest in our children. He closes at 5pm if he is not home in 30mins our daughter will start calling like mad. The kids enjoy their dad, and dat shud be the priority.
My husband and I both work great jobs ($75,000 and up) and we both split the bills 50/50. Both have excellent savings accounts and don’t plan on having any kids. It’s such a old school method of having men pay all of the bills. Men have too much power paying all the bills. I REFUSE to be one of those women that want their men to go to work, women stay at home, and men have all the say. It happens all too frequently that men leave women and children without a dime! I won’t be one of those. I have my own checking, savings, and investments. So I’m good with or without my husband.
if youwere paying 50/50 and your husband didnt do any of the cooking or housework and wanted you to organise evrything in the home would you still be happy to be working full time and contributing 50/50?
You don't get it- No one have issues paying 50/50 but again the other family responsibilities like childcare and domestic chores should be splited 50/50 as well. If not, one is cheating the other.
Dear Bridget Ekpo, Good lord! I am so thanful i stumbled on your channel mistakenly. I have spent the past 5 hours watching your videos and i have laughed so damn hard and similarly gained so much wisdom in the choice of topics. My fav remains " The annoying but funny Nigerian behaviors". Chai our people can ask question.... And my next best one is that of you in The States with Ella Sessay. Damn that friend of yours spoke some hard truth and i like her. I live in South Africa and have never been to the UK, but now with the vast knowledge videos has brought, i have a good sense of how life in "obodo oyinbo be". Thanks sister. Keep this coming and you have gained one new follower from South Africa.
Thank you ladies!!!Good video.I am Italian American and my fiancé is African American.I give you alot of credit for saying you like white chocolate, I love my fiancé and treat her like a queen!!!It is a growing trend in the US for black women and white men getting married.She treats me like a king too.Love has no color and God doesn't either.May you beautiful ladies be blessed in all you do.ciao.
Paul Gattuso when you say " she's Africans American " wich country of Africa shes from. You tell us from wich country if the European contina you are from wich is Italia but you say " she's Africans American. Does that mean shes from the 53 Country of the AFRICA CONTINENTS??? .
MariaK, African-Americans are black Americans of African ancestry born in America. When they talk about immigrants Africans they identify us with our individual countries.
OMG!!!What this lady said is 100% true.....My family lives in Atlanta and I told dad to get me a car he says..you're 17, old enough to get a car yourself(American style) and then few days later I hand him something with my left hand and he says its against African culture....one minute he is that American dad, the next he is African...still love him though😊😊
I can see you are Yoruba through your name so it is an insult to hand in with left hand to anyone not only your parents and I am ashamed you can come out to write this on social media it shows you are spoilt child and is there anything wrong if you buy your own car?
@@godwinejiofor8064 I’m spoilt for handling out something with my left hand, keep living in your little bubble 😂. I use my left hand outside of home and nobody cares about that, it’s culture so I have to respect it but when you start living out of your environment for a long time you loose one or two things. I don’t even remember making this comment because it’s been a long time, but I’m sure I did it on purpose to see his reaction to the other part of the comment. And shame on you for judging based on a one line statement ✌🏿
I love this, you shines light into our day in and out in America. Hope our people at home understands this because it came from a neutral people, thanks for the video once again, I will subscribe and share the video.
I love Emmanuella she is sooooo truthful with this video.i love how she made it clear about how people elaborate on nursing n don’t even love their jobs. I don’t understand y we Nigerians, I will speak Nigerians cos am one. I don’t understand how we don’t understand the word “contentment” just because we want everything to be big n flashy n not even enjoy does things n the worst of it all is most Nigerian nurses will prefer to work a night shift where they don’t have to compete with the caucasians lol
G G, point of correction, most folks from the Southern part of Nigeria don't know the meaning of contentment. I.e. S.E, S.S and S.W. Majority of us are never satisfied. Our society glorifies materialistic things. Sad but true.
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Great job ladies👍👍👍 Ella understands the system very well and she did well laying out the overview of life of Nigerians in America. All we do is work 24/7 partly because we're covering expenditure in America and Nigeria. You're working for ourselves and families back home . Recently there's been an increase in stress related deaths in our Nigerian communities. The body isn t made to function like machine, stress is going to catch up and it's killer. After 25 years, I am so done living in America. I am trying to find my way back home. I don't care about negativity people are showcasing about Nigeria, America isn't perfect either.
Wow, ladies you are so insightful on American culture, and how African American women now have to be breadwinners AND house workers AND take care of kids, etc. Basically working with unbalanced life. A person must make real effort to have complete life.
AA women have always had to help their men, Because we come from a history where our men and women were denied economic opportunities. Blacks could get few jobs after slavery, like domestic work and sharecropping and that often limited and went to women. Black Women have had to help their families. .
If that was meant to exonerate the AA male's reputation, you failed miserably...The MAIN PROBLEM in the African-American community is the AA male's disdain for marriage & commitment...failure to build the community & a poor work ethic...."We're just living together!"...If you are living with a woman she's STILL SINGLE & fornication is a sin. Why not do what is right & get married?
Sorry to came in your conversation but why do black American woman Jan carry on such a big load, work, having children and still single. I am black and I cannot understand the mentality. I wish I had a black female American friend that we could share experience.
It's difficult to watch videos like this because seeing things through cultural norms has a tendency to force people to make inaccurate and incomplete assumptions. What I mean by this is you two go on and on complaining about how much people have to work to live. Well, it's pretty simple. If a person wants to buy a house or pay rent then they have to work for it. Most houses come with 15-30 year mortgages. If a person wants to interact in a society that costs to live and participate then that person must work. Before you agree to that mortgage or agree to participate in society you already understand that there are costs involved and how long that commitment is. Next, you two talk about nursing being a challenging profession. This is true, but there are thousands of other professions that fetch decent wages. It's through limited exposure that people choose such limited professions. I think the average African wants to make their money and get out of the game instead of working long-term investments. Also, Africans in the diaspora tend to work as individuals instead of in groups. Indians and Asians in America will work as a group to get the greatest benefit. Almost every major city in the US has parts of the city dedicated to supporting the infrastructure of that Indian or Asian culture. I have never seen a "Little Nigeria" or "Nigeria-Town" much less a small town that supports any African nation that is inviting to international commerce. The closest we get is a grocery store that smells of smoked fish or a restaurant that sell subpar food. The reason we have to "work so hard" is because we support a culture that cannot and will not support group effort for group success. I've got two daughters in their mid-20's, and what I've preached to them is that as long as you choose work for someone and support someone else's vision, you choose a life of dancing to their tune. If you create your own empire then you can call the shots; dance when you want to dance, sing when you want to sing. My advice for the average African who finds themselves struggling is to stop trying to hustle your way through life and grow your own empire, work to leave a legacy, and partner with others who will make your life better and the lives of your community. Think about this; 100 progressive global businesses in one country can change an entire nation. Culture and religion may be barely keeping Nigeria from falling into anarchy, but maybe it's time to evolve.
Your comment is one of the wisest here. You are vey correct about what you observed about Africans. Africans and people of African descent in diaspora whether in North America, Europe or south America do not trust each other. The lady on the right in the video was willing to cooperate with another race than find an African to cooperate with.
eli Idowu Where do they do that ? Because no one can make you do a double shift ; it's a personal choice.. Especially if you do 10 hour shifts it's against the law to work 20 hours straight.
D ALCHEMIST, ur right. The max of hours per day I do is 12th. And I don’t have to work that hard to make money because nurses pass meds, do reports when there are falls, wound treatments, records patients symptoms and medical histories, assisting with patient rehabilitation and follow ups, but that’s nothing compare to the CNA’s which are on the bottom of the ladder. They are ones who do the difficult jobs and it’s mostly physical. Double shift of 8 hours of being CNA it’s the hardest.
Ella love your accent true to the core no faking . Real . Good insight into things just don't quite fancy your Alaska advice lol , great Ife you people sef. I'm middle aged Senegalese schooled at UNILAG
Success comes from hard work it dont fall from the sky. Anything worth having id worth putting forth the energy into doing. True failure comes from never trying.
For a lot of Nigerians going home to Nigeria is a vacation. It’s their own way of decompressing. Seeing family members and old friends priceless. However I’m currently in Hawaii with my family, because that’s what we wanted to do.
Really enjoyed the video. A lot of what was said about the US is true - it’s really hard to make ends meet over there - people just overwork. Then you’ve got this very expensive healthcare system. Life is far easier in the UK 🇬🇧 We’ve got great transport, the NHS, social security for those who really need it and much more. So glad I live in the UK. Finally - Great Ife! Graduated 1982😊
You are right a lot of people get deceived by the currency but to be honest career growth in the UK is very slow compared to US and Canada, many people in the UK are just living to pay their mortgages and that all they have.
Great video. So true about how hard we work in the US. But there are other great careers like Information Technology. It is a lot more lucrative than nursing. You can make triple what nurses make.
That's not true about African american.blk families .. that happens in all races here..it's an individual situation. Im blk and my husband took care of us, me and our children, they graduated then , , then I became a nurse and I ENJOY my life! You have people who get greedy and don't LIVE their lives. I do agree you should travel and live. But the African women do seem to work 2 jobs , my coworkers are African and they all work 2 full-time jobs..no children but they help family back at home.
what i know is that you have to be contented with 40/50 hours ...some dont even considered their age....many of people died why waiting get a train in subway.
It seems there is less vacation time in the USA. I used to have 3 weeks. Now I have one. I can feel the difference. I'm more tired than in the past. It's not worth it. Quality of life is #1.
You said the key statement "Pooled resources". I never understood the division of resources in marriages where there are percentage allocation of resource contributions. If you have common goals for the relationship, shouldn't all resources be pooled for the goals?
Am gonna say transport system depends on where u live u can’t live city like new York just like u mentioned London n want to drive the parking fee alone and finding a parking space is not fun
It not easy anywhere people only tell you what they want you to know. Not how it really is. It not going to be a walk in a park but still make effort to push forward and make the best out of everything.
I can't tell you anything about your being Nigerian in the USA but who ever told you that all nurses have to have 2 jobs to make 80,000 a year working full-time misinformed you. First there are several ways to be a nurse and levels of nursing....LVN.....LPN....DIPLOMA RN....RN WITH ASSOCIATES DEGREE....RN WITH A BACHELORS DEGREE IN NURSING.....RN WITH A MASTERS DEGREE....RN WITH SPECIALIZED TRAINING CERTIFIED IN SPECIFIC AREA...ONCOLOGY.....HEMATOLOGY....ECT......NURSE ANESTHESIS.......NURSE PRACTITIONER. If you are nurse with a degree you are making more then what's mentioned in this video and don't require a separate job. I don`t know who they talked to but they told you wrong . You can want a hamburger on a dry bun or you can have a seven course meal ......education is the key. The more education you have the more you make. Also you have to take in account what part the country you live in and if the market is staturated.
I agree with you. I think the low salary is over exaggerated, but nonetheless, the undertone of that is the extra shifts to support other family members in Nigeria. That's why foreigners work overtime a lot, to help others back home..
Agus very true and that's a personal choice. You'll work yourself into an early grave and when you die those you supported will only mourn you while they will keep on living without your help. That's when helping possibly turns into enabling.
D ALCHEMIST, very eloquently put, sis! Your second comment was right on the money. Some of these folks back home that you're assisting, are living better life than you. This is why is good to be visiting home regularly. Just make sure that you've a business that gives you a steady income.
parisjwalk What kind of a nurse is your sister in terms of education ? Does she have any degrees in nursing or certifications? A nurse with degrees and advanced training will not and should not settle for less then they are worth. The cost of living is factored into your pay along with your experience. And like I said you have to take in account the area you choose to work in terms of locale. A saturated market only benefits employers and not employees. Her taking a job for less then she is worth doesn't make sense....just my opinion.
To be fair everything is balance. Low paid jobs is when you have to work so many hours what about getting skilled and getting a well-paid job that you don’t have to work so many hours that you do not enjoy life. 40 hours is enough! Joy and contentment is important.
Not all women put up with crap. I was raised to support myself and helped no beggars.I am 75, worked hard,marred ad had one child. It is expensive rent and utilities.
If they become citizens they are no longer "NIGERIANS", they are AMERICANS who immigrated from Nigeria. Just as all the rest of us, irregardless of when or which generation. If gonna be Nigerian then they need to be in Nigeria.
elena 240, are you enjoying yourself in Uganda? Is this your first time in Africa? Did it exceed your expectations? I'm not from Uganda but most Uganda folks have come across with, are friendly. Always remember, "you're not Afrlcan because you were born in Africa but because Africa was born in you"......Kwame Nkrumah. He was the first president of Ghana. He was one of first pioneers of pan-Africanism in Africa. He followed the teachings of Marcus Garvey.
Wahab Odusola no this is my 2nd year,, I go back for 90 days then return,,, there is so much to know about it,,,but I want my simple life,,, no the Alaska man thing is not true ,,lol ,,I was there too
elena 240, so you went to Alaska for that? So you don't like a brother? Cool, this is your second year in Uganda. I presume you were well received in your first year, hence the second visit. I guess you go there to recharge your battery. What prompted you to start going there?
I’m not Nigerians, but you are right. Americans work a lot, BUT immigrants work more. My parents are immigrants and I grew up watching them work, work, work, work. During their one or two weeks of vacation a year they have no energy for anything. They just sleep and do so many things around the house that they’d neglected to do. Parents don’t have much time to talk to their children. Nice house, nice car, no life. Work, work, work, work.
Only one life to live you all. We think we are the lucky ones, fortunate to have these opportunities, but we pay a huge price physically, emotionally, psychologically, and with our lives. That big house you built in your country and rarely see, is there for someone else to enjoy, after you work yourself to death. Constant pressure to support families financially is like feeding a bottomless pit. None invests in business to help themselves with the money you send, and zero consideration of your wellbeing. That big house, expensive cars, clothes, jewelries, weaves, etc, some of which you are still financing, how do they add meaningful quality to your life? Why do we do this to ourselves? Death is inevitable, but why hurry it up by our actions? The death rate amongst our women is growing at an alarming rate, and is mainly due to this unrelenting pressures of work and family life. It's a pimped out life. We need to re-evaluate our lifestyles, demands and expectations. Working hard is reasonable, up to a point. One life to live. Goodluck.
Agus true talk.
very true!!
Absolutely total reality to obtain this materialist lifestyle basically to show off to your friends family relatives work colleagues and enemies that you are better off than them.
Agus- You couldn't put it any better. Thank you.
I am a Registered Nurse living in America. I work 12 hours a day for 3 days. That is enough
For me. You have to take care of yourself and enjoy life.
Not necessarily true! My husband was always the breadwinner for our family. He paid for everything while I took care of our three young kids and attended college (which he paid most of). My husband is now retired and I work to help with the household. I don't mind because my husband has treated me very well. He purchased our home and cars, which are completely paid for. He's taken me to Africa, Europe, The Caribbean, and numerous other places for family vacations. I think it depends on the individual, how they are raised, and by whom. I just wanted to share my story.
I think yours is the exception. Most Africans work hourly and can not do what you did. Africans do not know how to decompress. They are spot on
BmoreMommi, that's great! May God continue to bless you and your family. You're a good woman. Keep up with the good work.
Lucky you. May God continue to bless your home.
BmoreMommi you are very fortunate. Not all men are like yours.
I am from Baltimore too
I'm married to a woman from Mali. I pay the rent. She pay the cable and gas electric. Me and her a pretty good team.
I agree with everything Ella said. I was never married to an African man (my husband is white American), but I did see my father treat my step mother like this - I can only imagine he did the same with my biological mother. They (he & my step mom) both worked menial 9-5 jobs, yet my step mother was also responsible for: cooking (for our family of 10), child care (for her 3 kids), cleaning, laundry etc...did I mention he also beat her profusely? He used to beat us (his children) too and she eventually joined him in beating us because she needed an outlet for her own anger. Thank god I was able to use my poetry as a therapeutic outlet. I am in therapy now because I was diagnosed with PTSD and major depression during my 3rd year of university. I divested my from toxic past by moving away from all of them. I need time to focus on myself, I don't see self care as being selfish. My father almost killed me and I don't take that shit lightly. Anyway, I hope my story helps someone feel less alone. k bye.
Thank you for this, Aunty. It makes me happy to see and hear fellow Nigerian immigrants who share similar backgrounds with me. Thank you so much. I don't feel so much alone.
Make money... Let my family be fine, I don't care about myself... let me be rich and make name for my kids, wife and extended my family. Let my kids get the best education and training I couldn't get, let them live a life I never had..... I will pay the bills, do the investments, work 16 hours every day in the hospital, Let them enjoy and l will be fine.... let me take the risk for them that is the orientation I have from my dad. Let me get the money and let them live, definitely I am a strong man, I have seen it all, but they are yet to see any. God is my strength.
uchechi mathew oh my God u got me so weepy. Who thought u dat? I swear ur kids would rather have a decent home and ur presence than an extravagant life .
One day u will begone and within a week they won't be able to remember how ur hug feels, or ur smell and u won't be missed because u were never there.
My hubby did this and it almost ruined us. Now we are a happy family we have enough to look after ourselves and invest in our children. He closes at 5pm if he is not home in 30mins our daughter will start calling like mad. The kids enjoy their dad, and dat shud be the priority.
My husband and I both work great jobs ($75,000 and up) and we both split the bills 50/50. Both have excellent savings accounts and don’t plan on having any kids. It’s such a old school method of having men pay all of the bills. Men have too much power paying all the bills. I REFUSE to be one of those women that want their men to go to work, women stay at home, and men have all the say. It happens all too frequently that men leave women and children without a dime! I won’t be one of those. I have my own checking, savings, and investments. So I’m good with or without my husband.
if youwere paying 50/50 and your husband didnt do any of the cooking or housework and wanted you to organise evrything in the home would you still be happy to be working full time and contributing 50/50?
You don't get it- No one have issues paying 50/50 but again the other family responsibilities like childcare and domestic chores should be splited 50/50 as well. If not, one is cheating the other.
@@princessdisfanpage.7445 Exactly ,
Dear Bridget Ekpo, Good lord! I am so thanful i stumbled on your channel mistakenly. I have spent the past 5 hours watching your videos and i have laughed so damn hard and similarly gained so much wisdom in the choice of topics. My fav remains " The annoying but funny Nigerian behaviors". Chai our people can ask question.... And my next best one is that of you in The States with Ella Sessay. Damn that friend of yours spoke some hard truth and i like her. I live in South Africa and have never been to the UK, but now with the vast knowledge videos has brought, i have a good sense of how life in "obodo oyinbo be". Thanks sister. Keep this coming and you have gained one new follower from South Africa.
Hey Ladies this was very interesting and informative, looking forward to more of the same.
thanks
That is why a lot of Americans are going for minimalist culture the greed of stuff will overwhelm you
Being a minimalist is wise.
Thank you ladies!!!Good video.I am Italian American and my fiancé is African American.I give you alot of credit for saying you like white chocolate, I love my fiancé and treat her like a queen!!!It is a growing trend in the US for black women and white men getting married.She treats me like a king too.Love has no color and God doesn't either.May you beautiful ladies be blessed in all you do.ciao.
Paul Gattuso when you say " she's Africans American " wich country of Africa shes from. You tell us from wich country if the European contina you are from wich is Italia but you say " she's Africans American. Does that mean shes from the 53 Country of the AFRICA CONTINENTS??? .
MariaK, African-Americans are black Americans of African ancestry born in America. When they talk about immigrants Africans they identify us with our individual countries.
I enjoyed listening to the two of you talk, It brought smiles to my face.
OMG!!!What this lady said is 100% true.....My family lives in Atlanta and I told dad to get me a car he says..you're 17, old enough to get a car yourself(American style) and then few days later I hand him something with my left hand and he says its against African culture....one minute he is that American dad, the next he is African...still love him though😊😊
I can see you are Yoruba through your name so it is an insult to hand in with left hand to anyone not only your parents and I am ashamed you can come out to write this on social media it shows you are spoilt child and is there anything wrong if you buy your own car?
@@godwinejiofor8064 I’m spoilt for handling out something with my left hand, keep living in your little bubble 😂. I use my left hand outside of home and nobody cares about that, it’s culture so I have to respect it but when you start living out of your environment for a long time you loose one or two things. I don’t even remember making this comment because it’s been a long time, but I’m sure I did it on purpose to see his reaction to the other part of the comment.
And shame on you for judging based on a one line statement ✌🏿
Thanks for that update, though I don't think of coming there to live but it's very educative to us Africans... Keep Up Sister.
I love this, you shines light into our day in and out in America. Hope our people at home understands this because it came from a neutral people, thanks for the video once again, I will subscribe and share the video.
Traveling to Nigeria is not a vacation,coz you can’t become a tourist in your country. For me it is visiting, so the woman is 100 percents right.
This talk is so entertaining and informative at the same time. ..its a real gist that doesn't get bored 😊
(5 star) Just nice & easy - Your best vlog so far
Thank you very much my darling. It's happening in most homes in most Nigerian families.
I love Emmanuella she is sooooo truthful with this video.i love how she made it clear about how people elaborate on nursing n don’t even love their jobs. I don’t understand y we Nigerians, I will speak Nigerians cos am one. I don’t understand how we don’t understand the word “contentment” just because we want everything to be big n flashy n not even enjoy does things n the worst of it all is most Nigerian nurses will prefer to work a night shift where they don’t have to compete with the caucasians lol
G G, point of correction, most folks from the Southern part of Nigeria don't know the meaning of contentment. I.e. S.E, S.S and S.W. Majority of us are never satisfied. Our society glorifies materialistic things. Sad but true.
I'm an African American woman and the point you are making about men vs women paying 50/50 and the power struggle is an black women issue period.
I enjoyed listening to Emanuella's point of view, and agree with her on many levels.
Nice one, enlightening. Good job!
I love your uplifting conversations,some states in New York is twenty four hours transportation,e.g. New York,that is where I’m residing.
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Great job ladies👍👍👍 Ella understands the system very well and she did well laying out the overview of life of Nigerians in America. All we do is work 24/7 partly because we're covering expenditure in America and Nigeria. You're working for ourselves and families back home . Recently there's been an increase in stress related deaths in our Nigerian communities. The body isn t made to function like machine, stress is going to catch up and it's killer. After 25 years, I am so done living in America. I am trying to find my way back home. I don't care about negativity people are showcasing about Nigeria, America isn't perfect either.
Interesting. I love your topic. So educative
Wow, ladies you are so insightful on American culture, and how African American women now have to be breadwinners AND house workers AND take care of kids, etc. Basically working with unbalanced life. A person must make real effort to have complete life.
AA women have always had to help their men, Because we come from a history where our men and women were denied economic opportunities. Blacks could get few jobs after slavery, like domestic work and sharecropping and that often limited and went to women. Black Women have had to help their families. .
If that was meant to exonerate the AA male's reputation, you failed miserably...The MAIN PROBLEM in the African-American community is the AA male's disdain for marriage & commitment...failure to build the community & a poor work ethic...."We're just living together!"...If you are living with a woman she's STILL SINGLE & fornication is a sin. Why not do what is right & get married?
Sorry to came in your conversation but why do black American woman Jan carry on such a big load, work, having children and still single. I am black and I cannot understand the mentality. I wish I had a black female American friend that we could share experience.
Hello Obodo Oyinbo TV. I try not to comment on YT, but this was a good topic. Good job, and more blessings.
It's difficult to watch videos like this because seeing things through cultural norms has a tendency to force people to make inaccurate and incomplete assumptions. What I mean by this is you two go on and on complaining about how much people have to work to live. Well, it's pretty simple. If a person wants to buy a house or pay rent then they have to work for it. Most houses come with 15-30 year mortgages. If a person wants to interact in a society that costs to live and participate then that person must work. Before you agree to that mortgage or agree to participate in society you already understand that there are costs involved and how long that commitment is.
Next, you two talk about nursing being a challenging profession. This is true, but there are thousands of other professions that fetch decent wages. It's through limited exposure that people choose such limited professions. I think the average African wants to make their money and get out of the game instead of working long-term investments. Also, Africans in the diaspora tend to work as individuals instead of in groups. Indians and Asians in America will work as a group to get the greatest benefit. Almost every major city in the US has parts of the city dedicated to supporting the infrastructure of that Indian or Asian culture. I have never seen a "Little Nigeria" or "Nigeria-Town" much less a small town that supports any African nation that is inviting to international commerce. The closest we get is a grocery store that smells of smoked fish or a restaurant that sell subpar food.
The reason we have to "work so hard" is because we support a culture that cannot and will not support group effort for group success. I've got two daughters in their mid-20's, and what I've preached to them is that as long as you choose work for someone and support someone else's vision, you choose a life of dancing to their tune. If you create your own empire then you can call the shots; dance when you want to dance, sing when you want to sing. My advice for the average African who finds themselves struggling is to stop trying to hustle your way through life and grow your own empire, work to leave a legacy, and partner with others who will make your life better and the lives of your community. Think about this; 100 progressive global businesses in one country can change an entire nation. Culture and religion may be barely keeping Nigeria from falling into anarchy, but maybe it's time to evolve.
Your comment is one of the wisest here. You are vey correct about what you observed about Africans. Africans and people of African descent in diaspora whether in North America, Europe or south America do not trust each other. The lady on the right in the video was willing to cooperate with another race than find an African to cooperate with.
Right on. We are not successful as a group.
Very well said!
Good information. Double shift in nursing every day is terrible....Be wise and take a break.
eli Idowu Where do they do that ? Because no one can make you do a double shift ; it's a personal choice.. Especially if you do 10 hour shifts it's against the law to work 20 hours straight.
They are saying practical truth.
D ALCHEMIST, ur right. The max of hours per day I do is 12th. And I don’t have to work that hard to make money because nurses pass meds, do reports when there are falls, wound treatments, records patients symptoms and medical histories, assisting with patient rehabilitation and follow ups, but that’s nothing compare to the CNA’s which are on the bottom of the ladder. They are ones who do the difficult jobs and it’s mostly physical. Double shift of 8 hours of being CNA it’s the hardest.
I love Ella and her explanations. God bless you
Ella love your accent true to the core no faking . Real . Good insight into things just don't quite fancy your Alaska advice lol , great Ife you people sef. I'm middle aged Senegalese schooled at UNILAG
I just subscribed and I love this topic. thank you so much
Success comes from hard work it dont fall from the sky. Anything worth having id worth putting forth the energy into doing. True failure comes from never trying.
You ladies are awesome, I really enjoyed this
Oh my God I really enjoyed this,really informative
For a lot of Nigerians going home to Nigeria is a vacation. It’s their own way of decompressing. Seeing family members and old friends priceless. However I’m currently in Hawaii with my family, because that’s what we wanted to do.
I think this is better communicated than the other videos warning Nigerians about coming to the US.
Educative gist anyways thanks ladies
Really enjoyed the video. A lot of what was said about the US is true - it’s really hard to make ends meet over there - people just overwork. Then you’ve got this very expensive healthcare system. Life is far easier in the UK 🇬🇧 We’ve got great transport, the NHS, social security for those who really need it and much more. So glad I live in the UK.
Finally - Great Ife! Graduated 1982😊
Tade Agbesanwa you are totally wrong. Life in the UK is far harder than the US. The only good thing about UK is the transportation system
You are right a lot of people get deceived by the currency but to be honest career growth in the UK is very slow compared to US and Canada, many people in the UK are just living to pay their mortgages and that all they have.
Give me Uk for free to live I won't, life is way better in US,my uk friends all want to leave UK
I live in UK and my Husband, takes care of everything , I only support with little or nothing
Esther Oranye, I reside in London and I do the same thing as well.
One needs to plan for the unexpected. Nothing is guaranteed.
Great video. So true about how hard we work in the US. But there are other great careers like Information Technology. It is a lot more lucrative than nursing. You can make triple what nurses make.
Ella is right. But some of us have finally graduated from that life style but thank God my family and I can take island vacations.
Thanks, for the informative video.
Very interesting I wish I would heard this before i love Nigeria wish it's was Safe to Travel from.America.
You are telling the truth....it is sad that we have to work so much!
So true my sis,you don't need a car in London,
It was nice hearing what you had to say.
U made sense madam.We work tire 4 bills and families calling from Africa
Tnx for this post God bless u
Sister Bridget you keep it real and simple
Wow Ella I love u,u speak so clear!
That's not true about African american.blk families .. that happens in all races here..it's an individual situation. Im blk and my husband took care of us, me and our children, they graduated then , , then I became a nurse and I ENJOY my life! You have people who get greedy and don't LIVE their lives. I do agree you should travel and live. But the African women do seem to work 2 jobs , my coworkers are African and they all work 2 full-time jobs..no children but they help family back at home.
This made me miss my BFF! 🤗
Nice video,
Very realistic!
what i know is that you have to be contented with 40/50 hours ...some dont even considered their age....many of people died why waiting get a train in subway.
Mike Lowo, sad but true
Mike Lowo I swear, wats the madness for? Money dat one will die and leave one day. My priority is creating memories for my kids.
It seems there is less vacation time in the USA. I used to have 3 weeks. Now I have one.
I can feel the difference. I'm more tired than in the past. It's not worth it. Quality of life is #1.
Excellent viewpoints!
I agree with your video. I'm naji wife and I dont hear alot let's go vacation, yes as a US citizen I know the daily work, work ,work.
Wow I luv it ma sisto
You said the key statement "Pooled resources". I never understood the division of resources in marriages where there are percentage allocation of resource contributions. If you have common goals for the relationship, shouldn't all resources be pooled for the goals?
Am gonna say transport system depends on where u live u can’t live city like new York just like u mentioned London n want to drive the parking fee alone and finding a parking space is not fun
We Nigerian here in Chicago go on vacations with the whole family within USA. I am a Nigerian living in Chicago.
Abeg hug your friend ella for me. She get am well well. Our people won die for nursing for this country.
Well said ladies!
Very nice video and talk
Beautiful ella
Good Sisters. ..God bless you
Nice one sisters
as rn, you worked very hard, you can make 6 figures in cali with one job. public transport is great in the bay area.
of the greatest Ife!
Na true talk but as a Nurse you need to take it easy if you are after money you have your life for it
Thanks sisters
It not easy anywhere people only tell you what they want you to know. Not how it really is. It not going to be a walk in a park but still make effort to push forward and make the best out of everything.
Your success or downfall is not based on someone else or what someone else is doing.
I agree with Emmanuella 100%
I can't tell you anything about your being Nigerian in the USA but who ever told you that all nurses have to have 2 jobs to make 80,000 a year working full-time misinformed you. First there are several ways to be a nurse and levels of nursing....LVN.....LPN....DIPLOMA RN....RN WITH ASSOCIATES DEGREE....RN WITH A BACHELORS DEGREE IN NURSING.....RN WITH A MASTERS DEGREE....RN WITH SPECIALIZED TRAINING CERTIFIED IN SPECIFIC AREA...ONCOLOGY.....HEMATOLOGY....ECT......NURSE ANESTHESIS.......NURSE PRACTITIONER. If you are nurse with a degree you are making more then what's mentioned in this video and don't require a separate job. I don`t know who they talked to but they told you wrong . You can want a hamburger on a dry bun or you can have a seven course meal ......education is the key. The more education you have the more you make. Also you have to take in account what part the country you live in and if the market is staturated.
I agree with you. I think the low salary is over exaggerated, but nonetheless, the undertone of that is the extra shifts to support other family members in Nigeria. That's why foreigners work overtime a lot, to help others back home..
Agus very true and that's a personal choice. You'll work yourself into an early grave and when you die those you supported will only mourn you while they will keep on living without your help. That's when helping possibly turns into enabling.
D ALCHEMIST, very eloquently put, sis! Your second comment was right on the money. Some of these folks back home that you're assisting, are living better life than you. This is why is good to be visiting home regularly. Just make sure that you've a business that gives you a steady income.
parisjwalk What kind of a nurse is your sister in terms of education ? Does she have any degrees in nursing or certifications? A nurse with degrees and advanced training will not and should not settle for less then they are worth. The cost of living is factored into your pay along with your experience. And like I said you have to take in account the area you choose to work in terms of locale. A saturated market only benefits employers and not employees. Her taking a job for less then she is worth doesn't make sense....just my opinion.
Angie B it depends on the state and the field of nursing you work
Sister Ella straight talker ! the day i decided to get married to a white man slavery contact ended ! Thank God for my husband !
Great chat ladies
I love your show👌
Of the greatest Ife! #OAU
And now, I think that you're both kinda relieved because you're telling your own life!!
What about una wey no get paper, is there a way we can go to vacation in mexico or else where?
Very good video ladies
Like yr video.u are so real.
To be fair everything is balance. Low paid jobs is when you have to work so many hours what about getting skilled and getting a well-paid job that you don’t have to work so many hours that you do not enjoy life. 40 hours is enough! Joy and contentment is important.
Not all women put up with crap. I was raised to support myself and helped no beggars.I am 75, worked hard,marred ad had one child. It is expensive rent and utilities.
Great Ifeeeee
Love you two.
5:20 Wow! Narcissism Is Promoted In Nigeria Is True. I Divorced A NIGERIAN Pastor Who Is The Epitome Of Narcissism.
Narcissism is a mental disorder. A personality disease. Promoted?
If they become citizens they are no longer "NIGERIANS", they are AMERICANS who immigrated from Nigeria. Just as all the rest of us, irregardless of when or which generation. If gonna be Nigerian then they need to be in Nigeria.
I m an African American women in US I work 24/7 work and house,,,I quit and moved to Uganda,,, I was too tired to vacation in US
elena 240, are you enjoying yourself in Uganda? Is this your first time in Africa? Did it exceed your expectations? I'm not from Uganda but most Uganda folks have come across with, are friendly.
Always remember, "you're not Afrlcan because you were born in Africa but because Africa was born in you"......Kwame Nkrumah. He was the first president of Ghana. He was one of first pioneers of pan-Africanism in Africa. He followed the teachings of Marcus Garvey.
Wahab Odusola no this is my 2nd year,, I go back for 90 days then return,,, there is so much to know about it,,,but I want my simple life,,, no the Alaska man thing is not true ,,lol ,,I was there too
elena 240, so you went to Alaska for that? So you don't like a brother? Cool, this is your second year in Uganda. I presume you were well received in your first year, hence the second visit. I guess you go there to recharge your battery. What prompted you to start going there?
I like your video
Thanks
This was funny.
Exactly, for the lady with the blonde hair. gun control is misunderstood.
I’m not Nigerians, but you are right. Americans work a lot, BUT immigrants work more. My parents are immigrants and I grew up watching them work, work, work, work. During their one or two weeks of vacation a year they have no energy for anything. They just sleep and do so many things around the house that they’d neglected to do. Parents don’t have much time to talk to their children. Nice house, nice car, no life. Work, work, work, work.
A man and a woman who join in matrimony should have a duty to carry out the duties such a high title holds.
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