My encounter with dating applications has been marked by an intriguing and multifaceted journey, where I had the privilege of engaging with a diverse array of individuals whose kindness and warmth illuminated my experience. Throughout my tenure on these platforms, I found myself immersed in interactions with both gentlemen and ladies whose amiable dispositions left an indelible impression upon me. In reflecting upon this chapter of my life, I humbly offer a suggestion for your consideration: I earnestly recommend the inclusion of a physically robust and athletically inclined individual in your forthcoming profile endeavors. Specifically, opting for a gentleman whose physique exudes strength and vigor, reminiscent of one who is dedicated to rigorous physical training and perhaps even possesses a sculpted, muscular physique. Such a choice may serve to enhance the appeal of your profile, potentially attracting individuals who value physical fitness and a robust lifestyle. Thus, in navigating the realm of online dating, I encourage a thoughtful approach towards profile curation, one that aligns with your aspirations and resonates authentically with your desired audience. - MNS
My encounter with dating applications has been marked by an intriguing and multifaceted journey, where I had the privilege of engaging with a diverse array of individuals whose kindness and warmth illuminated my experience. Throughout my tenure on these platforms, I found myself immersed in interactions with both gentlemen and ladies whose amiable dispositions left an indelible impression upon me. In reflecting upon this chapter of my life, I humbly offer a suggestion for your consideration: I earnestly recommend the inclusion of a physically robust and athletically inclined individual in your forthcoming profile endeavors. Specifically, opting for a gentleman whose physique exudes strength and vigor, reminiscent of one who is dedicated to rigorous physical training and perhaps even possesses a sculpted, muscular physique. Such a choice may serve to enhance the appeal of your profile, potentially attracting individuals who value physical fitness and a robust lifestyle. Thus, in navigating the realm of online dating, I encourage a thoughtful approach towards profile curation, one that aligns with your aspirations and resonates authentically with your desired audience.
When you dress average you attract average people so you get more matches, but from personal experience I can say that dressing in your style is way better for attracting women that you will actually like and get along with.
@@doitforsoup hot implie that your apperance are sexually desirable. If you want to be hot then you want others to look at you, therefore you want sexual attraction therefore you want female
@@str1ped_b0yif you dress average within the fashion sphere, aka “fashion NPCs”, you will be seen fashionable to non-fashion people. Dress too avant garde/ high fashion and you scare the hoes
@@str1ped_b0yWhen you don't know any fashion, you don't get any women. When you know too much fashion, you intimidate normal women. When you just know enough fashion to dress like the main stream trends, you get the most amount of women.
Fashion should not seek external validation but rather inner enlightenment, a canvas for self-expression. It reflects our true selves, guiding us towards authenticity and self-awareness. Using fashion solely for women validation leads to a false self-image. Be true to yourself.
It doesn’t matter either way , if you don’t fit the mold you won’t get it. Without sounding pretentious I’ve seen guys more uglier than me get some 10/10 woman. I get none even tho I get complimented often. haha I envy them for that.
Why would someone with "inner enlightenment" see external objects as self-expression? Expression is only meaningful because it gets perceived by others
Sick leather jacket bro. I agree with the sentiment of the video, but I wish you went a little deeper into the assumptions people make when they see something they perceive is fashionable vs the pretentious level of yohji users fashionable (which I mean in the nicest way possible.) I think when the female gaze was discussed earlier it really hinted towards a lot of it is people making up personalities of people based on how they dress. Which is a huge problem for men as well ie: "I want a goth gf" cause they're assuming personalities based on their fashion.
@RsLeonardo1 ik you commented this like 3 months ago but this is delusional asf lmao, literally go outside and look at ppl and you'll see that this guy is really pretty, stop living in some dream world
From Personal experience I've noticed that whenever wear more simple but "put together " I get much more compliments in public However when wearing my more "alternative " Nobody says anything. Suprising from older folks aswell
Out of expirience I think people don't complement people who usually dress in a way that stands out. They think that if that persons dresses like that they surely know they look awesome so why complemet them or on the other hand they are looking for attention and that is never seen well. But if a person dresses really casual and they wear something that slighly stands out they are more likely to get complemented.
That’s interesting because as a woman, I get the most compliments when I dress avant/alternative vs “simple”. Never from men though. I’ve always been intimidating for men anyway.
Honestly, great video. I also had experience similar to yours: when growing up, at the age of 12 I got depressed for some reason and now when I'm almost 19, I think that I did to myself on purpose to fit in the western trend, because during those times depression was sort of cool. BUT I AM FROM EASTERN EUROPE. This is quite important because the youth from there tends to copy the western trends but they were doing it with a big delay. Thus, I was one of the first people to jump on a western trend. On one hand, it was great because you are a pioneer, but on the other hand you continue to be alone and misunderstood for a long time. Moreover, as soon as people started getting on the trend, there was a new one to shift to and I did so once again triggering this cycle of things and same shit happened with fashion (and many other things too). I went from palletable to avant-garde to personal style, and throughout this process I was getting no recognition on time whatsoever. I am glad that I am on the last stage of fashion - personal style (unless the next thing is the human uniform), where I can just wait for everyone to catch on and be finally a 'normie'. Now I realize the meaning of 'rebel can also seek for acceptance', that's what dandies do. This is why I hate the majority, trends, the west and individualism, which brings you to the edge. I am tired of being 'special', but I know I can't go back anymore, because I feel authentic now. If you can get of the fashion cycle, do it now, just stop, don't get deeper. It is transcendental in terms of art, it is just a trap of individualism. Have a great life
I've found when using dating apps that the conversations can be very awkward and empty, this is probably due to matching purely based on looks. There are times when I match with someone due to a similar interest and it feels very refreshing to have something to talk about. But ultimately, most matches do not lead to anything due to the feeling of emptiness that occurs when you match with someone just because you like how they look.
I wanna say, a few years ago I couldn’t stand you but I still watched you because I enjoyed the discussions, and I enjoyed disagreeing with you. Over time, I’ve grown to really appreciate your view on things and I tend to agree with a lot more now that I’ve been practicing mindfulness and being open with thought the past 2 yrs. My fav thing abt ur channel and why ur one of the only channels I watch nowadays is because the you’ve always had the “here’s my 2 cents, take it or leave it” approach, I just didn’t see it because of my assumptions. Looking back and watching ur old vids it’s easy to see the irony u play into and the actual things you’re saying still have as much value as they do now to me. Idk, thought I’d share
@@maxfortefan2947 As someone whose lived in a catholic country and been to catholic schools they absolutely get women and I'd argue they get A LOT of women they are just better of hiding their tracks and people turning a blind eye on their bs.
@@avarosalia4309 truth lol. There was a monastery back in my hometown and these priests in training talks about their s3x life with women all the freakin' time.
Everybody likes mcdonald, only specific people like polish cuisine, some of them were born in Poland so its natural for them, other were brave enough to try and find out if they like it My choice is to be cuisine so specific and authentic to myself that i will only attract people intrested in real me I decided that restricting myslef for acceptance (more men will like me when im "normal") is bullshit because how long i can pretend to be something im not? also mcdonald attract mcdonald and i got a little bit more fancy taste (Yes im girl from Poland yes i do make mistakes in english yes being real to myself is hard but im way happier now☕)
I love this take! You're really brave for exposing your true self to others. It's what I wish more people would do. But I understand that it can be a rough world out there. I wish you all the best in finding someone who can appreciate the real you. On the topic of cuisine though, I made and cooked pierogi for a first date who eventually became my girlfriend. Maybe Polish cuisine has some magic properties 😂
Great video, I have noticed I'm a lot more approachable dressed in my athletic clothes or something casual compared to where im wearing a full yohji fit. As for dating apps I always tried to only match with people who had common interest not just looks, the conversations goes way better that way.
asking 15 women in New York is a brave sample pool You should rather have asked for "what are the female gazes" since there are of course multiple, depending from culture and age group too
Didn't this guy make a video that went something like "it's not your clothes, it's your body"? Basically saying that the reason you don't look like models is not because of fashion but because clothes are designed to look good on a specific body type (tall and lean) and _you_ don't have that. Soooo, putting two and two together, the reason we are not getting any matches isn't because of how we dress. We're just ugly.
no, it's not that. i feel like i can connect better with someone who is interested in fashion, for example. it shows me a lot of things. he got more likes with simple clothes bc that's what most people like and most people are not that intetested in fashion.
it’s all about energy. you can dress very cool, stylish, out there and still feel approachable. i’ve met guys who looked straight out of an H&M commercial and still felt ice cold, judgmental, intimidating. nobody’s gonna want to talk to you if you make them feel like you don’t have time for them. obviously you shouldn’t “just smile more” if you don’t genuinely feel like it. you shouldn’t pretend to be someone you’re not. but if you don’t necessarily take yourself that seriously maybe communicating that to others via politeness, gentle smiles, kindly helping others out, etc. can help you.
When I use Tinder, I usually engage people in a conversation of substance since I hate small talk and I cannot and will not picture myself with someone I cannot connect with personally. Now most people on these apps hate it, as most people do in real life, but there are some very open minded people that arent afraid to just jump into a deep discussion just for the sake of it. Does it lead to something meaningful? who knows. But it surely is more fun than just doing meaningless small talk all day hoping to get laid.
for sure i had more great convos with faceless profiles in apps. i hate the preheated pick up line, it feels awful. but i think american people are meaner online than latinos, like me.
Hm, Idk why I never tried that. Maybe I can't think of anything other than small talk? lmao, but that def sounds like a more interesting way to go about things
It's great to see someone like-minded with dating! I don't have the heart to be casual and go by looks completely. Conversation is definitely my metric for connection.
Not sure if this is relevant BUT I started working an office job recently where I have to wear suits as part of the dress code. Now after work I have hobby that invovles groups of people of both genders, and I get complimented on how I dress if I don't change my clothes after work by the men and women (e.g. when I leave the office late and rush to the hobby venue). Having said that, what I wear doesn't save me from the fact that I'm not very handsome. I tried using a few dating apps with pictures of myself in suits in different settings (e.g. in the office, on the street, or in random places), and I did notice a slight uptick in likes, but most of them are women asking these things: expensive dinners; how much I make/what my job is; dressing advice for (other) men; or bots. Don't want to be a downer, but I think if you're handsome/beautiful you'll do well on dating apps, and if you're not then you'll struggle regardless of what you wear. Clothing only attracts/repels a portion of the people who are already interested/could be interested in you.
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This feels like a harsh truth about society, how you only get noticed or interacted with when you're "with society's standards" but deemed as unapproachable when going against it. Not to have a blackpill mindset but i feel like people who go against society who are somewhat attractive get "pretty privilege" compared to an ugly guy. i guess you just need to have a mindset of not thinking others perceive you as.
@@Ryan_agile man its just about the point of view of anyone, if you think it matters that much then it matters that much to you and will affect your mental health, but i think when someone reaches higher mental state it will not bother him at all and maybe see it from another point of view, sorry for my bad english i dont know how to make the idea reach out to you
A message from an elder goth/dark avant garde granny: You have to ask yourself: do you want quantity or do you want quality? Making yourself look like a normie isn't going to satisfy you in the long run, you'll be bored and not connect in some key areas of life. Be yourself and you will attract less-but more like minded-interests. I tried online dating as someone who dresses dark avant garde and it was rough, to be sure! However, I ended up with a long term relationship with a dear old friend who also dresses only in black,etc. Keep wearing all the cool fits, it might take longer but you will be more satisfied in the end.
Fyi male and female gaze is literally just male or female attention, hence the "gaze"(👁️👄👁️) The term was popularized with its use in bodybuilding, referencing how past certain muscle volume a guy start gaining more "male gaze" instead of "female gaze"
I think fashion that look effortless generally allow ppl to perceive the wearer as someone that is easy going and easy to talk to. Alt fashion on the other hand is very deliberate. Which could make the wearer look tryhard (not saying they are), or someone hard to up keep.
i would swipe on both of those profiles but i would be scared to interact to wagyu u if i was still on dating apps lmao and men with an more thought out style tend to be meaner in first interactions in general :( they sometimes soften up after tho
u know what, i thought more about it. it does feel empty to interact in these apps but the intention in the country where i live, brazil, tinder isn't just for hook-ups. my brother actually found a girlfriend he dated for 6 years on there, so people don't come at u with a pick-up line or a compliment to your appearance. they say hi, liked your blablabla or something. it feels less objectifying, more like a normal conversation. but it's still awkward and mechanical, idk, u know right away that the person is into u in a very superficial way, so to navigate that is unnatural, it lacks tension.
@@dududulia That is actually really nice and I wish dating apps were like that, it would make it an actually nice platform to use to meet people, but yeah the way you said its still unnatural probably puts a dent into the idea
btw the "no facial harmony" comment was weird and unnecessary to say to anyone who looks good and i hope no one (except those mean people who deserve it) ever hears that comment from people regarding their appearance ever again.
tl;dr if u dress "normal" people will act normal around you/with you, if you dress avant, people will get scared, we get scared about what we don't know, its a human thing, btw i love avant-garde, not something i would wear, but dam some looks and styles look stunning
This is just cap. It absolutely does boost your chances, at least depending on who you're looking for. If you are looking for a goth girl then if you're on some wearing leather you will def get her or at least have better chances.
Not cap, because dating apps algorithm seems like they put your profile against the general category, not in specific categories like “goth,” “fitness,” “foodie,” etc. That’s why if you narrow your focus too much, your profile’s ELO score will get tanked and won’t be shown to anyone else much
I don't think its only the outfit, the backgrounds and poses look important to me. In your first profile your pictures are either selfies in your room or pictures where you're just standing straight in a plain grey background, gives an awkward vibe. I think the results would be a little less different between the 2 versions if only the outfit changed
this was actually such a cool experiment, but one thing I would say is that even tho the second profile got more matches with the basic fit, it doesn’t mean they were all great quality matches that you’d be interested in. first profile may have gotten fewer but they could be better🤷 idk for sure but i think if you used tinder/hinge seriously for a while thats how it might turn out
Something that should be noted is that, even if your personal style gets you much less likes and interaction, I think those few people that likes it will be way more into you and you will probably have a lot more in common with them. At least that is my experience.
I get like no compliments when I am wearing my all black outfits I take time to put together but if I just put on stuff I didn't even really think to hard about I get compliments more often
I actually managed to pull my dude (6 year relationship now) by putting a picture of me up on a refrigerator but the ratio for men and women is extremely different. It'd be interesting to see this video but through a male gaze vs an avant dressing style ?
In my experience of being called arrogant/ pretentious because of being strongly opinionated/ fashion forward it seems that people that are like minded can compliment that part of you that is articulated on the highest level versus people that are "normal" categorize you as a threat since they can't comprehend what you are doing. People assume arrogance once presented with alternative thought or fashion they are not equipped to mentally rationalize. I don't blame them.
After a week I would have 0 matches, I did the same where I spammed the like button and maximum matches h got was like 4 or 5 matches in months of doing the spam like see what lands 1 of em likes was just promoting their Only Fans Edit: For the record I did pay once and got 0 more matches
so id say hinge is a better app to use I've had in a week maybe around 3-4 matches for the next 9 weeks but the problem was that most girls either dont respond back or cant hold a convo and dont bring anything to the table so they end up ghosting ive had probably 4 dates in total out of 29 matches so idk anyone here wanna chime in as to why peoples are like this ?
for me when I intially got tinder I maxed out the like capacity in about a week and I was averaging about 5-10 matches a day. I never paid for the app, I moved to hinge because I found the women on there were more my vibe.
my gf made my tinder, was in paris got like 4 likes and 1 match in a week xd, went back to hometown and got 99 in less then a day, right now i get match a week maybe, didnt change pics in 3 years
This video production was really fire. But what really matters.... Man, WHAT IS THIS BLACK JACKET U WERE WEARING HALF OF THE VIDEO? Is it Ifsixwasnine? Its really sick
You always have a very eloquent analysis, to the common eye the way you speak and dress can come across as pretentious. if people don't get to know you above the surface level, which is often the case in old and public interactions. It's up to you if you want to conform to appear to a wider audience to be seen as more likeable but it seems you are against this. In some regards you could argue this is your ego getting in the way as a "look at me, I'm above having an acceptable appearance and being a conformist" but you might also be attracting the wrong kind of people with that attitude if that's not what you also seek in a partner. Hell, you even stated it at 11:52 AWARE LMAO. Also, as someone with adhd I feel like I can relate to your over analysis but you put it to good use by creating interesting videos for people to ponder. More power to you.
What was your experience with dating apps and profiles should I make for the next "vs" video?
My encounter with dating applications has been marked by an intriguing and multifaceted journey, where I had the privilege of engaging with a diverse array of individuals whose kindness and warmth illuminated my experience. Throughout my tenure on these platforms, I found myself immersed in interactions with both gentlemen and ladies whose amiable dispositions left an indelible impression upon me. In reflecting upon this chapter of my life, I humbly offer a suggestion for your consideration: I earnestly recommend the inclusion of a physically robust and athletically inclined individual in your forthcoming profile endeavors. Specifically, opting for a gentleman whose physique exudes strength and vigor, reminiscent of one who is dedicated to rigorous physical training and perhaps even possesses a sculpted, muscular physique. Such a choice may serve to enhance the appeal of your profile, potentially attracting individuals who value physical fitness and a robust lifestyle. Thus, in navigating the realm of online dating, I encourage a thoughtful approach towards profile curation, one that aligns with your aspirations and resonates authentically with your desired audience.
- MNS
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My encounter with dating applications has been marked by an intriguing and multifaceted journey, where I had the privilege of engaging with a diverse array of individuals whose kindness and warmth illuminated my experience. Throughout my tenure on these platforms, I found myself immersed in interactions with both gentlemen and ladies whose amiable dispositions left an indelible impression upon me. In reflecting upon this chapter of my life, I humbly offer a suggestion for your consideration: I earnestly recommend the inclusion of a physically robust and athletically inclined individual in your forthcoming profile endeavors. Specifically, opting for a gentleman whose physique exudes strength and vigor, reminiscent of one who is dedicated to rigorous physical training and perhaps even possesses a sculpted, muscular physique. Such a choice may serve to enhance the appeal of your profile, potentially attracting individuals who value physical fitness and a robust lifestyle. Thus, in navigating the realm of online dating, I encourage a thoughtful approach towards profile curation, one that aligns with your aspirations and resonates authentically with your desired audience.
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do hinge next time so you can see people's comments when they swipe right/like you
When you dress average you attract average people so you get more matches, but from personal experience I can say that dressing in your style is way better for attracting women that you will actually like and get along with.
try not wearing any clothes on tinder
Results may vary
as a control group of course
I wonder why he is banned
Just wear basic clothes like plain tshirt and jeans
I dont want women I just wanna be hot :(
amazing video btw
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but why do you wanna be hot then? More success?
@@calippo4202 to practice creativity? to look good in photos? not everyone wants to be hot only just to please women/men.
@@doitforsoup hot implie that your apperance are sexually desirable. If you want to be hot then you want others to look at you, therefore you want sexual attraction therefore you want female
The interviews were on how to get STRICTLY bisexual women
Better than straight women tho
@@sathira_anuk5179 2x likely to cheat
@@sathira_anuk5179 there is an intercontinental ballistic missile flying towards your location right now
@@sathira_anuk5179Isn't that just being a bigot
@@Timmy-mi2efyes
“You can never be overdressed or overeducated.”
― Oscar Wilde
hell yeah dude
“I’m not like other avant-guys”
Every girl you asked couldn’t look more lesbian
They got super high standards so it’s good to ask them lmao
LMAOOO somewhat true tho but ig thats just how his friends dress
He asked the female gays about the female gaze (bars)
@@gangswag3447oh word
You cooked, brethren
of course he would ask woman with taste
Fashion getting you woman is like a bell curve
how??
@@str1ped_b0yif you dress average within the fashion sphere, aka “fashion NPCs”, you will be seen fashionable to non-fashion people.
Dress too avant garde/ high fashion and you scare the hoes
@@str1ped_b0ydress like shit get no women. Dress average slightly better than average get women. Dress well above average get no women.
@@str1ped_b0yWhen you don't know any fashion, you don't get any women. When you know too much fashion, you intimidate normal women. When you just know enough fashion to dress like the main stream trends, you get the most amount of women.
Fashion should not seek external validation but rather inner enlightenment, a canvas for self-expression. It reflects our true selves, guiding us towards authenticity and self-awareness. Using fashion solely for women validation leads to a false self-image. Be true to yourself.
And THAT works
This same line of thinking applies to both fragrances and fitness too
It doesn’t matter either way , if you don’t fit the mold you won’t get it. Without sounding pretentious I’ve seen guys more uglier than me get some 10/10 woman. I get none even tho I get complimented often. haha I envy them for that.
Why would someone with "inner enlightenment" see external objects as self-expression? Expression is only meaningful because it gets perceived by others
Feeling like a old FIlthy Frank video idk why
the home video style skit is def why
I feel like there's a racist joke in there somewhere
@@someguycalledcerberus9805
Stop digging for it you’re just gonna make it too deep 😭😭
Cause of the music choice maybe?
Sick leather jacket bro. I agree with the sentiment of the video, but I wish you went a little deeper into the assumptions people make when they see something they perceive is fashionable vs the pretentious level of yohji users fashionable (which I mean in the nicest way possible.) I think when the female gaze was discussed earlier it really hinted towards a lot of it is people making up personalities of people based on how they dress. Which is a huge problem for men as well ie: "I want a goth gf" cause they're assuming personalities based on their fashion.
I think he mentioned he’d discuss that topic further in another video. He was on stream mentioning he did the tinder video mostly for fun
Tbh every1 assumes how u behave on the way ur dressed (1st impressions)
Bro does have a crazy face shape, jaw specifically, but the more I look at him the more I like the way he looks. Bros pretty
@RsLeonardo1 ik you commented this like 3 months ago but this is delusional asf lmao, literally go outside and look at ppl and you'll see that this guy is really pretty, stop living in some dream world
This man got matches, getting matches in general is unheard of.
Nah bro that’s just you 😭
@@aaroncampbell1752thats a violation
Speak for yourself 🙃
His "average" outfits look better and more interesting than what 90% of guys wear
@@REDACTED_shenanigans everyone gets matches but not at the rate he was getting
From Personal experience I've noticed that whenever wear more simple but "put together " I get much more compliments in public However when wearing my more "alternative " Nobody says anything. Suprising from older folks aswell
Out of expirience I think people don't complement people who usually dress in a way that stands out. They think that if that persons dresses like that they surely know they look awesome so why complemet them or on the other hand they are looking for attention and that is never seen well. But if a person dresses really casual and they wear something that slighly stands out they are more likely to get complemented.
That’s interesting because as a woman, I get the most compliments when I dress avant/alternative vs “simple”. Never from men though. I’ve always been intimidating for men anyway.
@elvenafae Thats cool I think maybe that is because the bar of standards are so low of men for dressing up. Idk lmaoo
Honestly, great video. I also had experience similar to yours: when growing up, at the age of 12 I got depressed for some reason and now when I'm almost 19, I think that I did to myself on purpose to fit in the western trend, because during those times depression was sort of cool. BUT I AM FROM EASTERN EUROPE. This is quite important because the youth from there tends to copy the western trends but they were doing it with a big delay. Thus, I was one of the first people to jump on a western trend. On one hand, it was great because you are a pioneer, but on the other hand you continue to be alone and misunderstood for a long time. Moreover, as soon as people started getting on the trend, there was a new one to shift to and I did so once again triggering this cycle of things and same shit happened with fashion (and many other things too). I went from palletable to avant-garde to personal style, and throughout this process I was getting no recognition on time whatsoever. I am glad that I am on the last stage of fashion - personal style (unless the next thing is the human uniform), where I can just wait for everyone to catch on and be finally a 'normie'. Now I realize the meaning of 'rebel can also seek for acceptance', that's what dandies do. This is why I hate the majority, trends, the west and individualism, which brings you to the edge. I am tired of being 'special', but I know I can't go back anymore, because I feel authentic now. If you can get of the fashion cycle, do it now, just stop, don't get deeper. It is transcendental in terms of art, it is just a trap of individualism. Have a great life
what if I only date cyborgs
twitter's bot system has you covered
Get drip with remorse code or something
That would be very undemocratic
Ask Donna haraway
Normal “I’m not like other boys” fit
so true
@@fashionelitist aw, thanks pookie 😙
I've found when using dating apps that the conversations can be very awkward and empty, this is probably due to matching purely based on looks. There are times when I match with someone due to a similar interest and it feels very refreshing to have something to talk about. But ultimately, most matches do not lead to anything due to the feeling of emptiness that occurs when you match with someone just because you like how they look.
I wanna say, a few years ago I couldn’t stand you but I still watched you because I enjoyed the discussions, and I enjoyed disagreeing with you. Over time, I’ve grown to really appreciate your view on things and I tend to agree with a lot more now that I’ve been practicing mindfulness and being open with thought the past 2 yrs. My fav thing abt ur channel and why ur one of the only channels I watch nowadays is because the you’ve always had the “here’s my 2 cents, take it or leave it” approach, I just didn’t see it because of my assumptions. Looking back and watching ur old vids it’s easy to see the irony u play into and the actual things you’re saying still have as much value as they do now to me. Idk, thought I’d share
FINALLY IVE BEEN EDGING SINCE UR LAST VIDEO IM BUSSSSING
ambasing 🥺🔥
touch grass please
16:55
please take a shower immediately 🤨
Bruhhh 💀
As a girl, guys with alt or streetwear fashion are really hot but I'm usually too scared to approach them lol
is any alt good? punk? goth? scene? emo? avant garde?
@@ahmadshafik_ Yep. Allat sht fly
''Priests don't get women'' me loling in my very catholic country
Choir boys don’t count
maybe they dont get women, but some women are attracted to them for sure
@@maxfortefan2947 As someone whose lived in a catholic country and been to catholic schools they absolutely get women and I'd argue they get A LOT of women they are just better of hiding their tracks and people turning a blind eye on their bs.
@@avarosalia4309 truth lol. There was a monastery back in my hometown and these priests in training talks about their s3x life with women all the freakin' time.
Everybody likes mcdonald, only specific people like polish cuisine, some of them were born in Poland so its natural for them, other were brave enough to try and find out if they like it
My choice is to be cuisine so specific and authentic to myself that i will only attract people intrested in real me
I decided that restricting myslef for acceptance (more men will like me when im "normal") is bullshit because how long i can pretend to be something im not?
also mcdonald attract mcdonald and i got a little bit more fancy taste
(Yes im girl from Poland yes i do make mistakes in english yes being real to myself is hard but im way happier now☕)
Based take
I love this take! You're really brave for exposing your true self to others. It's what I wish more people would do. But I understand that it can be a rough world out there. I wish you all the best in finding someone who can appreciate the real you.
On the topic of cuisine though, I made and cooked pierogi for a first date who eventually became my girlfriend. Maybe Polish cuisine has some magic properties 😂
@@HaircombManThats so sweet ♥️
through pierogi to woman's heart love that
maybe thats the right answer for "how to get women" xD
Life without challenges is without joy
Great video, I have noticed I'm a lot more approachable dressed in my athletic clothes or something casual compared to where im wearing a full yohji fit. As for dating apps I always tried to only match with people who had common interest not just looks, the conversations goes way better that way.
asking 15 women in New York is a brave sample pool
You should rather have asked for "what are the female gazes" since there are of course multiple, depending from culture and age group too
I ain't want women I wanna be fly
Didn't this guy make a video that went something like "it's not your clothes, it's your body"?
Basically saying that the reason you don't look like models is not because of fashion but because clothes are designed to look good on a specific body type (tall and lean) and _you_ don't have that.
Soooo, putting two and two together, the reason we are not getting any matches isn't because of how we dress.
We're just ugly.
Most sane person in the comment section. No beating around the bush. Just cold truth
no, it's not that. i feel like i can connect better with someone who is interested in fashion, for example. it shows me a lot of things. he got more likes with simple clothes bc that's what most people like and most people are not that intetested in fashion.
modern day philosopher
I would love to dress like you but that would mean a complete opposite wardrobe to what I have now. I admire your style
It would also mean spending money and I'm poor
it’s all about energy. you can dress very cool, stylish, out there and still feel approachable. i’ve met guys who looked straight out of an H&M commercial and still felt ice cold, judgmental, intimidating.
nobody’s gonna want to talk to you if you make them feel like you don’t have time for them.
obviously you shouldn’t “just smile more” if you don’t genuinely feel like it. you shouldn’t pretend to be someone you’re not. but if you don’t necessarily take yourself that seriously maybe communicating that to others via politeness, gentle smiles, kindly helping others out, etc. can help you.
When I use Tinder, I usually engage people in a conversation of substance since I hate small talk and I cannot and will not picture myself with someone I cannot connect with personally. Now most people on these apps hate it, as most people do in real life, but there are some very open minded people that arent afraid to just jump into a deep discussion just for the sake of it. Does it lead to something meaningful? who knows. But it surely is more fun than just doing meaningless small talk all day hoping to get laid.
for sure i had more great convos with faceless profiles in apps. i hate the preheated pick up line, it feels awful. but i think american people are meaner online than latinos, like me.
Hm, Idk why I never tried that. Maybe I can't think of anything other than small talk? lmao, but that def sounds like a more interesting way to go about things
It's great to see someone like-minded with dating! I don't have the heart to be casual and go by looks completely. Conversation is definitely my metric for connection.
bro using minghao as normal person in a fashion sense example is crazy
Who’s that
@@averagemale9401 a member of seventeen
Not sure if this is relevant BUT I started working an office job recently where I have to wear suits as part of the dress code. Now after work I have hobby that invovles groups of people of both genders, and I get complimented on how I dress if I don't change my clothes after work by the men and women (e.g. when I leave the office late and rush to the hobby venue). Having said that, what I wear doesn't save me from the fact that I'm not very handsome. I tried using a few dating apps with pictures of myself in suits in different settings (e.g. in the office, on the street, or in random places), and I did notice a slight uptick in likes, but most of them are women asking these things: expensive dinners; how much I make/what my job is; dressing advice for (other) men; or bots.
Don't want to be a downer, but I think if you're handsome/beautiful you'll do well on dating apps, and if you're not then you'll struggle regardless of what you wear. Clothing only attracts/repels a portion of the people who are already interested/could be interested in you.
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Dude, this video was amazing! absolute cinema
love the skit, do more of these please
Planning on it
This feels like a harsh truth about society, how you only get noticed or interacted with when you're "with society's standards" but deemed as unapproachable when going against it. Not to have a blackpill mindset but i feel like people who go against society who are somewhat attractive get "pretty privilege" compared to an ugly guy. i guess you just need to have a mindset of not thinking others perceive you as.
What do you mean blackpill? That's just reality.
@@frog6054 yh I thought it was but I didn't wanna make it look like I have a negative view on society 24/7 (which I do).
@@Ryan_agile man its just about the point of view of anyone, if you think it matters that much then it matters that much to you and will affect your mental health, but i think when someone reaches higher mental state it will not bother him at all and maybe see it from another point of view, sorry for my bad english i dont know how to make the idea reach out to you
@takla2129 the point made alot of sense, thanks for it. Your English wasn't that bad tho😅
blackpill is law u cant escape it if ur not Neurotypical and dont have atleast normie looks its ovER
A message from an elder goth/dark avant garde granny: You have to ask yourself: do you want quantity or do you want quality? Making yourself look like a normie isn't going to satisfy you in the long run, you'll be bored and not connect in some key areas of life. Be yourself and you will attract less-but more like minded-interests. I tried online dating as someone who dresses dark avant garde and it was rough, to be sure! However, I ended up with a long term relationship with a dear old friend who also dresses only in black,etc. Keep wearing all the cool fits, it might take longer but you will be more satisfied in the end.
The apps turn people into baseball cards & it freaks me tf out…. Especially here in the city
Fyi male and female gaze is literally just male or female attention, hence the "gaze"(👁️👄👁️)
The term was popularized with its use in bodybuilding, referencing how past certain muscle volume a guy start gaining more "male gaze" instead of "female gaze"
mystical wizard man trotting the realms of the youtube algorithm
I think fashion that look effortless generally allow ppl to perceive the wearer as someone that is easy going and easy to talk to. Alt fashion on the other hand is very deliberate. Which could make the wearer look tryhard (not saying they are), or someone hard to up keep.
bro is the rizzler
Women have been able to message guys the whole time?! Then why haven’t I gotten messages? 🤔
does anyone know who's the guy with the red pants at 1:55? That fit looks so clean
i would swipe on both of those profiles but i would be scared to interact to wagyu u if i was still on dating apps lmao and men with an more thought out style tend to be meaner in first interactions in general :( they sometimes soften up after tho
u know what, i thought more about it. it does feel empty to interact in these apps but the intention in the country where i live, brazil, tinder isn't just for hook-ups. my brother actually found a girlfriend he dated for 6 years on there, so people don't come at u with a pick-up line or a compliment to your appearance. they say hi, liked your blablabla or something. it feels less objectifying, more like a normal conversation. but it's still awkward and mechanical, idk, u know right away that the person is into u in a very superficial way, so to navigate that is unnatural, it lacks tension.
@@dududulia That is actually really nice and I wish dating apps were like that, it would make it an actually nice platform to use to meet people, but yeah the way you said its still unnatural probably puts a dent into the idea
Your friend with the ruler is so goddamn funny😭
1-5 likes a day?????!! I was lucky if I got that in a month!
bros outfits maximize shareholder value
Fashion is gay. So we must act accordingly. -Chinese Proverb
literal minutes ago, already know its peak
I think a lot of it is your complexion too
How can his hair grow so fast?
Any haircut and any clothes, ANY, would look good on a handsome guy. The rest is cope.
btw the "no facial harmony" comment was weird and unnecessary to say to anyone who looks good and i hope no one (except those mean people who deserve it) ever hears that comment from people regarding their appearance ever again.
tl;dr if u dress "normal" people will act normal around you/with you, if you dress avant, people will get scared, we get scared about what we don't know, its a human thing, btw i love avant-garde, not something i would wear, but dam some looks and styles look stunning
Watching this video hurt my ego…I don’t think I’ve ever had 43 matches
Lots of good takes on this video, wanted to comment on a lot of them, but liked this new style of video. Still fashion related, IRL and interwebs
Bro is blackpilling fashion
gross
bp is real
bp is real
This is just cap. It absolutely does boost your chances, at least depending on who you're looking for. If you are looking for a goth girl then if you're on some wearing leather you will def get her or at least have better chances.
The main take away was that to gather a larger net of people you must dress main stream
Not cap, because dating apps algorithm seems like they put your profile against the general category, not in specific categories like “goth,” “fitness,” “foodie,” etc.
That’s why if you narrow your focus too much, your profile’s ELO score will get tanked and won’t be shown to anyone else much
@@VuNguyen-fv5jl I'm talking mainly in real life. Dating apps are terrible for finding a long term partner.
I don't think its only the outfit, the backgrounds and poses look important to me. In your first profile your pictures are either selfies in your room or pictures where you're just standing straight in a plain grey background, gives an awkward vibe. I think the results would be a little less different between the 2 versions if only the outfit changed
do you wear something under your eyes or is that just how your eyes naturally look? the reddish/pink thing. looks cool
12:26 got me bi curious
Lol
this was actually such a cool experiment, but one thing I would say is that even tho the second profile got more matches with the basic fit, it doesn’t mean they were all great quality matches that you’d be interested in. first profile may have gotten fewer but they could be better🤷 idk for sure but i think if you used tinder/hinge seriously for a while thats how it might turn out
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Me, an asexual: "I see this as an absolute win!"
Something that should be noted is that, even if your personal style gets you much less likes and interaction, I think those few people that likes it will be way more into you and you will probably have a lot more in common with them. At least that is my experience.
where did he get that attack! jumper from, it's so flames
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Most guys i see on the street dont put effort into their clothes at all, and dress very casually. When i see a guy that has a style i go crazy bruh
I get like no compliments when I am wearing my all black outfits I take time to put together but if I just put on stuff I didn't even really think to hard about I get compliments more often
i have gotten a total of two compliments about my outfit 💀 its been two years 💀
Idk why ppl talk bad about your appearance, you looks great, i wish i had a hair like this good and all
blud looks like Sean Lennon...
Nah John Lennon himself
I actually managed to pull my dude (6 year relationship now) by putting a picture of me up on a refrigerator but the ratio for men and women is extremely different. It'd be interesting to see this video but through a male gaze vs an avant dressing style ?
Bro u majestic af you should model for Yohji
In my experience of being called arrogant/ pretentious because of being strongly opinionated/ fashion forward it seems that people that are like minded can compliment that part of you that is articulated on the highest level versus people that are "normal" categorize you as a threat since they can't comprehend what you are doing. People assume arrogance once presented with alternative thought or fashion they are not equipped to mentally rationalize. I don't blame them.
Bro did my swiping method, man of culture
After a week I would have 0 matches, I did the same where I spammed the like button and maximum matches h got was like 4 or 5 matches in months of doing the spam like see what lands
1 of em likes was just promoting their Only Fans
Edit: For the record I did pay once and got 0 more matches
But my shoes have split toes
I get like 0-4 likes each week and maybe 1 match which ignore me
4:29 we made it boys
I'm sorry, but that brown jacket actually looked great on you. 😭😭😭 (I do like your sense of style no matter what though.)
so id say hinge is a better app to use I've had in a week maybe around 3-4 matches for the next 9 weeks but the problem was that most girls either dont respond back or cant hold a convo and dont bring anything to the table so they end up ghosting ive had probably 4 dates in total out of 29 matches so idk anyone here wanna chime in as to why peoples are like this ?
Great video. What pieces are you wearing in the thumbnail/picture at the start of the vid? They look really cool
I once used tinder for like one hour and deleted it. Maybe I will download it now just as an experiment
for me when I intially got tinder I maxed out the like capacity in about a week and I was averaging about 5-10 matches a day. I never paid for the app, I moved to hinge because I found the women on there were more my vibe.
damn bro was suffering from success 😂😂
this is a short film someone give him an oscar
You should have done the opposite end of the spectrum too like outfits a mom would pick out for u lol
one of the greatest video ive ever seen
NTpill is real
I thought the title was:
"Fashion doesnt get women"
Was really currious what that even could mean, but yeah fashion does not you get women too.
my gf made my tinder, was in paris got like 4 likes and 1 match in a week xd, went back to hometown and got 99 in less then a day, right now i get match a week maybe, didnt change pics in 3 years
the kay cameo is crazy
what color sambas should i get?
I have always loved the Black ones more than any other colour tbh. Them 3 white lines across the black just do something to me.
This video production was really fire. But what really matters.... Man, WHAT IS THIS BLACK JACKET U WERE WEARING HALF OF THE VIDEO? Is it Ifsixwasnine? Its really sick
You always have a very eloquent analysis, to the common eye the way you speak and dress can come across as pretentious.
if people don't get to know you above the surface level, which is often the case in old and public interactions.
It's up to you if you want to conform to appear to a wider audience to be seen as more likeable but it seems you are against this.
In some regards you could argue this is your ego getting in the way as a "look at me, I'm above having an acceptable appearance and being a conformist" but you might also be attracting the wrong kind of people with that attitude if that's not what you also seek in a partner. Hell, you even stated it at 11:52 AWARE LMAO.
Also, as someone with adhd I feel like I can relate to your over analysis but you put it to good use by creating interesting videos for people to ponder. More power to you.
"I'm fat, old, bald, and broke. But I bring hella game. And game is enough." - Me
Actual effort shown in this vid
Oh, there goes my dating tactic 😔