For the moment accepting losing is the most difficult thing for me, i just stopped playing after a lose streak the other day, including a lost on time from a losing position. These days i feel like I enjoy a lot more learning and doing puzzles than actually playing the game which is only frustration and stress to me, and I really don't know how to get out of this and just enjoy the game and have fun no mater what
It’s hard, losing is always frustrating, unfortunately. A quote that’s helped me get over losses a little faster is “the master has lost more games than the amateur has played.” Big picture, it’s just another game. And doing what you enjoy in chess - puzzles, master games, books, etc - is great too!
Same here!!!! Don't quit!! I thought I was the only one who took a loss so personally. I have been working on my psychology around that....gently but firmly reminding myself that (1) I love the game, (2) how lucky I am to be able physically and cognitively to learn and play the game at my advanced age (waay over 70 years old) and (3) reminding myself that at my low ELO that it makes sense to lose 3 out of 5 games on average, sometimes in runs of 5 or more loses in a row before a win (UGH!)....but I still go at it and do tons of puzzles and play bots as well (easier to take a lose to a bot for some reason).
I don't really mind losing to be honest, I mean yeah sometimes I get tilted but I think my best like win streak is 6 so losing happens all the time. But the most difficult part for me would be to actually understand why I lost. I mean I can see the move in the engine that lost me the advantage but a lot of times I have no idea how I would ever see that in the game. I feel like positionally I'm very weak, like if there was a tactic like this example I would be able to say ok, I calculated wrong, but when it gets to "You 've weakened your king" or "you 've created a backward pawn" I could know what they mean but I would never see it until it's pointed out to me.
100% correct young lady. I noticed the folks at chess dojo advocate something similar. Suggestion: You might consider changing your time controls from 10 min. to 30 min. when you play your online games. I found this quite helpful when preparing for OTB events. 🙂
I think 2. ...Nc6 is already suspicious against the Alapin. Part of why I think you ended up blundering was because you had a tough position out of the opening where white was able to generate a ton of pressure without much counterplay. I'd definitely review the repertoire against the Alapin so you don't end up in such tough positions (whether you normally play 2. Nf6 or d5)
I actually perfer to practice accelerated dragon because I don't really have an opening for black but also want a good opening against king pawn. Opening as white I play queen Gambit unless it gets declined I also play against bots until confident enough to play players
I watched two video interviews of you on other YT channels. You have inspired me to study like you did (puzzles & playing games). My success will not match yours, but I'm sure it will make a difference to my chess. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and knowledge, with me and the rest of the world. ❤♟️
I've reached that point in my chess journey where I'm emotionally detached from the result... It just took me 16 years lol
Ah, the truth. we all have our certain weakness, to adapt and win.
"Better mistakes". I like that. Thanks.
For the moment accepting losing is the most difficult thing for me, i just stopped playing after a lose streak the other day, including a lost on time from a losing position.
These days i feel like I enjoy a lot more learning and doing puzzles than actually playing the game which is only frustration and stress to me, and I really don't know how to get out of this and just enjoy the game and have fun no mater what
It’s hard, losing is always frustrating, unfortunately. A quote that’s helped me get over losses a little faster is “the master has lost more games than the amateur has played.” Big picture, it’s just another game. And doing what you enjoy in chess - puzzles, master games, books, etc - is great too!
Same here!!!! Don't quit!! I thought I was the only one who took a loss so personally. I have been working on my psychology around that....gently but firmly reminding myself that (1) I love the game, (2) how lucky I am to be able physically and cognitively to learn and play the game at my advanced age (waay over 70 years old) and (3) reminding myself that at my low ELO that it makes sense to lose 3 out of 5 games on average, sometimes in runs of 5 or more loses in a row before a win (UGH!)....but I still go at it and do tons of puzzles and play bots as well (easier to take a lose to a bot for some reason).
I don't really mind losing to be honest, I mean yeah sometimes I get tilted but I think my best like win streak is 6 so losing happens all the time.
But the most difficult part for me would be to actually understand why I lost. I mean I can see the move in the engine that lost me the advantage but a lot of times I have no idea how I would ever see that in the game. I feel like positionally I'm very weak, like if there was a tactic like this example I would be able to say ok, I calculated wrong, but when it gets to "You 've weakened your king" or "you 've created a backward pawn" I could know what they mean but I would never see it until it's pointed out to me.
Great video, thank you!!
Remember: Never mentally resign!!!
An analysis guide in general would be good. Using the eval bar, inaccuracies v mistakes v blunders etc.
100% correct young lady. I noticed the folks at chess dojo advocate something similar. Suggestion: You might consider changing your time controls from 10 min. to 30 min. when you play your online games. I found this quite helpful when preparing for OTB events. 🙂
Good suggestions. I'm now doing this. Thanks.
I bet most people giving advice here like you should have done this, this and that are proly 6-700 rated
Well done, very pointed reality
Tunnel vision is real under pressure. Lol I know how you feel.
I think 2. ...Nc6 is already suspicious against the Alapin. Part of why I think you ended up blundering was because you had a tough position out of the opening where white was able to generate a ton of pressure without much counterplay. I'd definitely review the repertoire against the Alapin so you don't end up in such tough positions (whether you normally play 2. Nf6 or d5)
I would say that the bishop on c5 was a loose piece prone to tactics.
Yes another important element to note. LPDO!
Thank you for making this. Can you do a longer version?
how do you figure out what "categories" of mistakes you use for your data collection?
I actually perfer to practice accelerated dragon because I don't really have an opening for black but also want a good opening against king pawn. Opening as white I play queen Gambit unless it gets declined I also play against bots until confident enough to play players
Kamryn I beat ur coach Nate Solon in an blitz game GGs
Loose pieces drop off !
I watched two video interviews of you on other YT channels.
You have inspired me to study like you did (puzzles & playing games). My success will not match yours, but I'm sure it will make a difference to my chess.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience and knowledge, with me and the rest of the world. ❤♟️