This is so relatable. I have one partner, my husband. Been together 7 years. Just had our first kid 6 weeks ago. I’ve never been a touchy feely person lol I don’t know if it’s bc of the “good girl” thing or just because! Not enjoying my postpartum body so I really don’t wanna be touched. Im 25 yrs young and just stepping into womanhood, it’s definitely a transition that isn’t talked about often.
Thank you for your insight I’m so glad you shared this because being a virgin feels like your being to perfect, but your not. Lol it is part of the virgin personality because I am one, and hopefully I am able to experience the beauty of my sexuality with my husband someday. Thank you so much for the real ness sis it’s such a blessing God is using you to be an example out here to the virgins 😘💕🥰
Yes, I can totally agree. And once you can do the things you always said no to, no one tells you about the guilty feeling even though it’s your husband. 🤦🏾♀️
I like this video because it explains the ackwardness of getting used to being sexy and being touched after coming out of the virginity stage being married , but I don't like the title of this video ..from this video before I clicked I thought u was gonna be bashing the idea of waiting for marriage & encouraging people to skip waiting to avoid ackwardness of not knowing how to do the act ,,, but when I watched the video it wasn't about that ... This is not a regret (so I don't think it's best to call it that) but an actual realization of what also comes along with getting used to this newness with yourself and your body ..but of course once the awkwardness stage is over of course it will feel better (mentally)and more natural/normal and a person will get used to it eventually. I would also like to say....I am new to ur channel and I came from seeing the duet you did with Will and I think you have an amazing voice
Never related to video so much! As someone who is 28 and waiting, I know for a fact that that is a reality I will have to face once I get married. I wish more people talked about this side of virginity/waiting more. But I also think that having a partner who makes you feel comfortable, safe and who reassures you will help bridge that gap of uncomfortableness we have once we are married.
Totally agree. I'm 24 and virgin and I want to wait. I don't like to be touched so much either but that is why I believe that you should fully trust the app use you are with before marriage so you can be comfortable with them. If you or them are uncomfortable then you should definitely respect their space and you both should slowly transition to being touched when it is appropriate like being alone or getting in the mood intimately (not a fan of public display).
I feel you sis! I just had a baby and I feel like I’m thinking more of what I’m comfortable with in the bed. Also like I’m an adult. They let me bring this baby home 🙀
I definitely understand where you’re coming from. As someone waiting for marriage as well, I find myself thinking about this a lot. I wonder how I’ll be able to make that transition. But, I love how you said that it’s a process. I think it’s something that I can begin to pray about and think through now, before I even arrive at that stage in life. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts. ❤️
Yes, thank you for addressing this often misconstrued topic! ❤️🙏🏽Your words hit home more than anticipated. I didn't always see my virginity as a badge of honor, but like a hurdle to be conquered in the present and future. More so not because I wasn't used to being touched, but on the contrary having been repeatedly touched, all while trying to maintain my purity. The experience of molestation and sexual abuse also contribute psychologically to receiving/reciprocating affection in general, especially in the marriage realm. A whole other beast. It's a learning and healing process that only GOD can do.
Ma'am, thank you so much for these videos. I am a Christian and virgin, and my boyfriend of 4 years and I are hoping to get married this year, if God allows us to. However, my mom never talked to me about these things so I am trying to learn what I need to learn before the wedding night off of other Christian UA-camrs!!!
One thing I think is really great is being comfortable with movement with my body and practicing self care. So things like working out, doing yoga, getting full body massages is helping me to feel confident and comfortable in my own skin. God bless! You are helping so many people!
I’m 25 and still waiting. This is the first video that I’ve seen that touched this subject. I’ve thought about this a lot lately. One day I will get married and have to share my body with my husband. I would say I’m the last year and a half, I have been getting comfortable with my body. Like really looking at myself and letting myself know that every part is worth being touched and loved when the time comes and to have no shame. Because my husband will obviously love me and every stretch mark, blemish, and scar that I have❣️
Sis hello!!!! I missed y'all so much 💜...this is interesting...I don't foresee me having an issue with this if I were to get married.. do you think this is something women only struggle with? Would you and your husband consider doing a perspective video for the men? Like do they feel the same...this is interesting...
If you don't get married and have sex for the first time, you still won't be used to being touched.... doesn't that also apply to women who have sex without being married?
No, It doesn't aplyy if you have sex before marriage, because no body force you to have sex or to be touched if you don't want, only happens in marriage that you have to be touched by obligation.
So relatable!!! Same here. I've been married 10 years and I'm still adjusting. Hubby is wonderful and can't keep his paws off me. Touching is definitely his love language. Holding hands, cuddling, etc. He reminices and remarks, "you've really have come a long way over the years" I used to part the covers between us. I'm not used to being touched often. LOL Still growing together
6:36 Don't shed the goody good girl part completely sisters, it's a great personality trait. No woman who posses that should try to shed that in exchange for being a dat b word attitude.
I agree. My least favorite love language is physical touch. On the other hand, The intro never gets olddd i love the vibes and I'm jammin' right along with y'all lol !
This is so relatable. I have one partner, my husband. Been together 7 years. Just had our first kid 6 weeks ago. I’ve never been a touchy feely person lol I don’t know if it’s bc of the “good girl” thing or just because! Not enjoying my postpartum body so I really don’t wanna be touched. Im 25 yrs young and just stepping into womanhood, it’s definitely a transition that isn’t talked about often.
As a virgin waiting until marriage, l love this videos
30 and virgin still.
Thank you for your insight I’m so glad you shared this because being a virgin feels like your being to perfect, but your not. Lol it is part of the virgin personality because I am one, and hopefully I am able to experience the beauty of my sexuality with my husband someday. Thank you so much for the real ness sis it’s such a blessing God is using you to be an example out here to the virgins 😘💕🥰
I am shocked that virgins still exist I am super proud of you all
As a brother who’s 26 and also waiting, I know the first 🥜 with wifey will be awkward lollol
Yes, I can totally agree. And once you can do the things you always said no to, no one tells you about the guilty feeling even though it’s your husband. 🤦🏾♀️
This is amazing. I am waiting until marriage and it’s hard. And yes there is a psychological impact to it.
definitely understand !
Keep it up
True
I like this video because it explains the ackwardness of getting used to being sexy and being touched after coming out of the virginity stage being married , but I don't like the title of this video ..from this video before I clicked I thought u was gonna be bashing the idea of waiting for marriage & encouraging people to skip waiting to avoid ackwardness of not knowing how to do the act ,,, but when I watched the video it wasn't about that ... This is not a regret (so I don't think it's best to call it that) but an actual realization of what also comes along with getting used to this newness with yourself and your body ..but of course once the awkwardness stage is over of course it will feel better (mentally)and more natural/normal and a person will get used to it eventually. I would also like to say....I am new to ur channel and I came from seeing the duet you did with Will and I think you have an amazing voice
Never related to video so much! As someone who is 28 and waiting, I know for a fact that that is a reality I will have to face once I get married. I wish more people talked about this side of virginity/waiting more. But I also think that having a partner who makes you feel comfortable, safe and who reassures you will help bridge that gap of uncomfortableness we have once we are married.
True sis!!!
Totally agree. I'm 24 and virgin and I want to wait. I don't like to be touched so much either but that is why I believe that you should fully trust the app use you are with before marriage so you can be comfortable with them. If you or them are uncomfortable then you should definitely respect their space and you both should slowly transition to being touched when it is appropriate like being alone or getting in the mood intimately (not a fan of public display).
virginity is not all about waiting.
its a true sign of character,discipline and morality.
I feel you sis! I just had a baby and I feel like I’m thinking more of what I’m comfortable with in the bed. Also like I’m an adult. They let me bring this baby home 🙀
I definitely understand where you’re coming from. As someone waiting for marriage as well, I find myself thinking about this a lot. I wonder how I’ll be able to make that transition. But, I love how you said that it’s a process. I think it’s something that I can begin to pray about and think through now, before I even arrive at that stage in life. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts. ❤️
To everyone waiting until marriage, keep it up. May God bless you
I like the part when u said you didnt wanna get touched 😅💝 thanks for sharing sis
I’ve been dating my now husband for 6 years and we both waited for marriage and we just got married on Juneteenth!
Yes, thank you for addressing this often misconstrued topic! ❤️🙏🏽Your words hit home more than anticipated. I didn't always see my virginity as a badge of honor, but like a hurdle to be conquered in the present and future. More so not because I wasn't used to being touched, but on the contrary having been repeatedly touched, all while trying to maintain my purity. The experience of molestation and sexual abuse also contribute psychologically to receiving/reciprocating affection in general, especially in the marriage realm. A whole other beast. It's a learning and healing process that only GOD can do.
I love your intro 😂😂😂
Ma'am, thank you so much for these videos. I am a Christian and virgin, and my boyfriend of 4 years and I are hoping to get married this year, if God allows us to. However, my mom never talked to me about these things so I am trying to learn what I need to learn before the wedding night off of other Christian UA-camrs!!!
One thing I think is really great is being comfortable with movement with my body and practicing self care. So things like working out, doing yoga, getting full body massages is helping me to feel confident and comfortable in my own skin. God bless! You are helping so many people!
I’m 25 and still waiting. This is the first video that I’ve seen that touched this subject. I’ve thought about this a lot lately. One day I will get married and have to share my body with my husband. I would say I’m the last year and a half, I have been getting comfortable with my body. Like really looking at myself and letting myself know that every part is worth being touched and loved when the time comes and to have no shame. Because my husband will obviously love me and every stretch mark, blemish, and scar that I have❣️
The 🐀tail😀😀😀
Sis hello!!!! I missed y'all so much 💜...this is interesting...I don't foresee me having an issue with this if I were to get married.. do you think this is something women only struggle with? Would you and your husband consider doing a perspective video for the men? Like do they feel the same...this is interesting...
Yeah that boss lady thing. I wonder if you have these emotions bc of tv 📺 and people around you/ What u 👀?😯
If you don't get married and have sex for the first time, you still won't be used to being touched.... doesn't that also apply to women who have sex without being married?
No, It doesn't aplyy if you have sex before marriage, because no body force you to have sex or to be touched if you don't want, only happens in marriage that you have to be touched by obligation.
@@margaritaterrones7055
Obligation is subjective. Some people you are obligated as a girlfriend
So relatable!!! Same here. I've been married 10 years and I'm still adjusting. Hubby is wonderful and can't keep his paws off me. Touching is definitely his love language. Holding hands, cuddling, etc. He reminices and remarks, "you've really have come a long way over the years" I used to part the covers between us. I'm not used to being touched often. LOL Still growing together
Waiting for marriage to have sex is not a downfall. Especially in God’s eyes.
I didn't say it was..🤍
@@itsBRENNAE @1:36 but okay queen. God bless your marriage 🙏🏾
30 seconds this bullshit and I'm out. 🤮🤮🤮🤮
6:36 Don't shed the goody good girl part completely sisters, it's a great personality trait. No woman who posses that should try to shed that in exchange for being a dat b word attitude.
I agree. My least favorite love language is physical touch. On the other hand, The intro never gets olddd i love the vibes and I'm jammin' right along with y'all lol !
Happy to see you guys once again
In my celibacy journey I struggle with wanting to be touched because I'm my guard up so I can relate .
I was just talking to my best friend just the other day. about not hearing this conversation enough. And I’m glad to have found this video
So glad it gave some insight ♥️
I have never related to a video this much before!
Woooooo girl you are speaking a lot of truth
Thiiiiiisssssssssss. Is the one 👆🏾
Such a babe! 🙌
I. Love. This. ❤️