Here are the two ways to work with me: 🛠 12-Week Pleaser-to-Leader Program (Free 15 minute call) Break free from people-pleasing and lead with confidence. More info at: www.olivercowlishaw.com/pleasertoleader/ 🎯 1-on-1 Breakthrough Session Book a powerful single session to get unstuck and find direction: calendly.com/ocowlishaw/clarity Thanks, mate
I literally hit pause and then waited hours(days) to keep going. I believe "I'm not enough" so deeply that even hearing the words out loud triggers my warning senses because... Well shit, "they found me. They figured it out. My secret is visible. Everyone can SEE I'm not enough." Simultaneously wanting to be seen and being afraid of being seen is a real issue. I am terrified of who I actually am. I've avoided writing because I'm afraid of what might come out. I know that writing, just generally, reveals more about the author than the subject of the writing and that stops me. The person that will be revealed is... not someone I like. Talking to myself nicely feels... inauthentic? If I was actually ok the way I am, Why do I get treated the way I do by the people that say they love me? Objectively I know it's because they're also damaged people but emotionally... it is a rough pill to swallow.
this was excellent. realizing that some of the same neural structures are still there when I was a boy is such a full circle bavck to " oh its really still me "...literally...wow...and writing to me as a boy is brilliant.......we r enough but underneath I feel you are right that I do not feel nor truly ever felt enough.....ty I will try this
I have no confidence because I have no value. 1:50 - I'm objectively not enough. Nothing can change this immutable fact. 5:53 - Not just broken, but irreparably so. 9:40 - Sorry buddy, it's only going to get worse.
1) do you believe there are other people with no value? What determines if someone has value? 1a) do you believe human beings are capable of change? 2) not a question but a reminder: people make art out of trash. Even if you are “irreparably broken” I’m not sure it matters. 3) maybe it does only get worse. But you’ve survived so far. And you’ve grown. Maybe you’ll become more than you think. Who knows.
I find it difficult to accept my self mostly the modern body standard I am skinny i always felt that people will not talk to me girls will not going to date me because I am skinny i am 22 now still don't know how to accept I am worried about being skinny and think I have to bulk up in order to people to like me or hang out with me
@@cnxghosti am surprised brother even when you put on weight they still make fun of you damn bro I think society doesn't want men to be happy hope you doing good I am 6 feet tall but you know people have always something to find bad about you and put it on top thanks man for the encouragement i appreciate it💛
You see, I'm the opposite of everything you describe. I'm so cold and unsociable to absolutely everyone, and I don't feel bad about it. I don't seek attention or validation in any way 🤔
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Here are the two ways to work with me:
🛠 12-Week Pleaser-to-Leader Program (Free 15 minute call)
Break free from people-pleasing and lead with confidence. More info at: www.olivercowlishaw.com/pleasertoleader/
🎯 1-on-1 Breakthrough Session
Book a powerful single session to get unstuck and find direction: calendly.com/ocowlishaw/clarity
Thanks, mate
I literally hit pause and then waited hours(days) to keep going. I believe "I'm not enough" so deeply that even hearing the words out loud triggers my warning senses because... Well shit, "they found me. They figured it out. My secret is visible. Everyone can SEE I'm not enough." Simultaneously wanting to be seen and being afraid of being seen is a real issue. I am terrified of who I actually am. I've avoided writing because I'm afraid of what might come out. I know that writing, just generally, reveals more about the author than the subject of the writing and that stops me. The person that will be revealed is... not someone I like. Talking to myself nicely feels... inauthentic? If I was actually ok the way I am, Why do I get treated the way I do by the people that say they love me? Objectively I know it's because they're also damaged people but emotionally... it is a rough pill to swallow.
Great video, thanks 🙏🏻😊
A million thanks to you, Oliver, for your work!
I really like your content. Very well thought out en put together. Keep it up! 💪🏻
this was excellent. realizing that some of the same neural structures are still there when I was a boy is such a full circle bavck to " oh its really still me "...literally...wow...and writing to me as a boy is brilliant.......we r enough but underneath I feel you are right that I do not feel nor truly ever felt enough.....ty I will try this
This speaks directly to my soul and I'm a girl AND a 48- year old woman.
I'm glad I just found your channel 👍
I have no confidence because I have no value.
1:50 - I'm objectively not enough. Nothing can change this immutable fact.
5:53 - Not just broken, but irreparably so.
9:40 - Sorry buddy, it's only going to get worse.
1) do you believe there are other people with no value? What determines if someone has value?
1a) do you believe human beings are capable of change?
2) not a question but a reminder: people make art out of trash. Even if you are “irreparably broken” I’m not sure it matters.
3) maybe it does only get worse. But you’ve survived so far. And you’ve grown. Maybe you’ll become more than you think. Who knows.
❤❤
I find it difficult to accept my self mostly the modern body standard I am skinny i always felt that people will not talk to me girls will not going to date me because I am skinny i am 22 now still don't know how to accept I am worried about being skinny and think I have to bulk up in order to people to like me or hang out with me
@@cnxghosti am surprised brother even when you put on weight they still make fun of you damn bro I think society doesn't want men to be happy hope you doing good I am 6 feet tall but you know people have always something to find bad about you and put it on top thanks man for the encouragement i appreciate it💛
You see, I'm the opposite of everything you describe. I'm so cold and unsociable to absolutely everyone, and I don't feel bad about it. I don't seek attention or validation in any way 🤔
Two sides of the same coin