I was married 17 years to a Jordanian man from Amman.... The culture is so welcoming, the food is amazing, the music, the hospitality, the families, .... But unfortunately my marriage didn't work... I was very European, I love wine, pork, dress liberally...I am agnostic... ...and he was a traditional and religious man from Amman, so.. my marriage became a war between 2 cultures so different.... I couldn't adaptate to it.... we separated 6 months ago.... But I will never talk bad about Jordanians.... I will never forget the hospitality in Amman... It was amazing.....
Carmen, want tell a fact, maybe because you are European the gab is bigger, but also it happens between 2 different raising families, the disagreement could happened to any couples. Good to know are had a good time here in Jordan, we are kinda a big family here. Cheers
Why not be a Muslim then? At least say the shahada sister, it's going to benefit you in the hereafter.. And you're an agnostic so it shouldn't bother you 🌹✨
Although born and raised in Canada, I am of Greek heritage, and my husband is Palestinian born in Jordan, we also have a son of autism whom is 22. My husband is his father and his friend, I am very proud.
@@jennyali859 I am too a Palestinian Jordanian who is married to a Greek lady, do all Greek women drive their husbands crazy or is it just my wife ? :)
8:35 there is a syrian saying all levant people familiar with that i am gonna translate letterly. it describe exactly what you say it goes like this "if you want to deprive him just ask him" the interpretation is : it is rude to ask someone what do you want or if he want or not because he could say no out of embarrassment so just give it to him and save his dignity
Wow Crazy Max, what's an ASS you are. There is no way you are Jordanian, so if you live in Jordan, I suggest you pack your bags and get the hell out and back to your country because we don't need people like you in Jordan. Um Hashem, stay the way you are, you are beautiful, polite and seem to be down to earth person. Love your show. Greetings from the United States, Abu Bassam (true Jordanian ).
U can ask anyone some refreshment or something to drink simply as that, but never offer much food as arabs, even Jordanians has big eyes, they get all the food in the table and put them all in the plate in one time, at the end will end up all in the trash. Luck of respect for food! Coffee, sweets, juices is enough for them.
I totally agree, when i visit my Husband’s home in Amman his mother never stops feeding me and he insists on hand feeding me at the table in front of his family which I’ve just about learned to deal with.
I agree100% with what u siad. Mostly the Arabs are generous. Especially the Jordanians🇯🇴،They’re soo kind. I’m from saudi arabia🇸🇦. We have a lot in common with jordan🇯🇴🇸🇦❤️
Always love when you make videos about the differences between Jordan and Britain!! So fascinating the the middle eastern culture compared to European or western culture.
This is exactly how my visits to family in Jordan are, we have been married over 30 years and my husband still offers more food to everyone, our home is BC Canada
In my Brit friend's house , I was offered a plate of a tiny piece of steak and a spoon of mashed potato with a glass of water , in my mind I was like "thats it ??? " 😅 I was told to help my self with the potato 😀 And I had to clear the table and take my dish to the kitchen too 😤 Jordanians definitely win in this
@Xx X 1 - i don't know what do you mean by " guest " but if i understand it correctly a " worker " isn't a " guest " . 2 - i was in Mecca for a whole week and the people there were very nice and generous with me and my friends ( people not the government ) . 3 - people aren't angels! Of course there are bad persons but that doesn't mean everyone is like that, and that's like " everywhere " in Arabic world or non Arabic world .
@Xx X1 - him or her being from the decendant of prophet Muhammad peace be upon him, doesn't make him/her an angel . 2 - all the arabic governments are supported by the west and that's well known everywhere, so if you're going to blame anyone you know who you should blame . 3 - Trump just said about MBS " I saved his a**! " about the murdering of Jamal Khashoggi . 4 - where are you from? ( you don't have to answer if you don't want to ) .
@Xx X1 - No one will go to heaven because of that, the prophet himself said: " no one will go to paradise except with the mercy of Allah, ( someone asked ): even you O prophet?!, ( the prophet answer ): even me, except if Allah is merciful with me " . 2 - The prophet has other saying where he said about someone who will come and he will be from his blood " he is from my house ( meaning family ) but he is not from me ( because of his actions ) " . 3 - the only people who glorify the descendants of the prophet are " Shia " who are minority in Muslim population, the majority of Muslims " suni or any other " doesn't make them more than humans, we respect and love them more than any one, yes that's true, but not like " shia " who make them more than angels only because of their blood .
May ALLAH bless you Sister. Actually, you will treat the guests depending on your relationship with them, so there are two main types of guests: 1) Not close, you will treat them as royal family, BUT you all staying in the guest room (formally). 2) Close such as your in-laws, you will treat them as royal family, BUT you all staying in the living room (غرفة القعدة) (formally/casually).
The coffee tradition is very interesting, i mean the arabic coffee. There is 4 cups of coffee the guest drink, first is called Heef which is the cup they drink to prove there is nothing in the coffee. Second is the Guests coffee, the third is the joy cup and the forth is called the sword which means that the host will stand next to the guest and protect them whatever it costs. Vert old traditional thing especially in the beduin culture.
These videos are meant to teach people about Jordan, but my wife and I are watching this to learn about British culture. Been in the UK for 15 years and thought I knew every bit of the culture here but you proved us wrong.
I'm sudanese living in uk, we have the same way how to welcome a guest in our house, this is what make us as Arabia a very hospitalised and generous people around the globe.
I agree with you I'm from America and the first time I went to Jordan to meet my boyfriend's family I had dinner with them it was so much food. You're right I felt I was so obligated to finish all of it. Then after I finished they added more food to my plate and then after dinner we had hot tea they brought out a plate of fruit that I felt that I had to have one then the coffee came out with dessert. But it was so wonderful I've never had that type of experience. Americans are the same way you go to somebody's house and you like you helped yourself. I just wish that more people in the world would show that type of hospitality. There's nothing like the people in Jordan they're the most wonderful people. I love them all.
Every time my husband gets me a plate of food he piles it up. I always say to him “hunny that’s not even appetizing!” But now I hear it’s a hospitality thing!
In the Uk: would you like a cup of tea? No thanks Ok. It’s good and bad sometimes. They don’t force people. If you want you have to say yes. Simple as that.
5:50 In Levant we say you're a guest to exempt and prevent them from helping us, as they try to. At the same time we tell them "feel at home" meaning do whatever you like or make yourself comfortable e.g. sit however and wherever you like, change tv channel, turn fan on, off, up or down etc, simply you've got absolute dominance over this domain
Wow! So true! But in Southern U.S. culture, it is rude to ask someone to turn on the fan or air for you if they are not using it. Most will instinctly do it when they know you’re coming. But, in Jordan, they have to learn that your body might not be used to the heat. I’m from Minnesota with southern parents. Lol
You really got me with coffee, I’ll be like it’s already on the stove you can’t go. 😂😂 I really like your way of description it seems you really blinded well with community in Jordan.
actually when you want your guest to leave in Jordan you offer them coffee, coffee is the last thing you offer your formal guests. If I am in a friends house and I would ask to be excused many times and check for my friends reaction, and would understand when I should leave, he would never say that I should leave thou..
It's so funny because when I'd go to school or hang out with friends if people would ask if I want something I would always say "No, I'm fine, thanks." But when I offer they take till there's no more 😂.
I am Iraqi was married to shrkas Jordanian. I had the opposite experience of yours. My in laws were racist, mean and abusers. I think the same happened to Palestinian women arrived to Jordanian after war in 1948 & 1967. Then thr Iraqi women after after invasion of Iraq in 2003 and currently Syria women. You are prevaleged because you are British. Maybe even lucky to have good people arround you. In addition to the fact that you are a nice person 💕 Inspite of my negative experience, I still have many friends and consider Jordan as my second home. I live in the UK now and work in a bank.
Hi Rachel, two fellow Brits in Amman here - been in the city for one and a half years with a new arrival in Jan all being well. Wish we found your channel earlier! All best.
The generosity and hospitality are the most prominent social values jordainian people should respect their guests much and show their warm welcome to them
I believe that you have been Jordanized completely and became one of us - my wife doesn't speak Arabic and having tons of difficulties to learn as in UAE you don't really have to speak Arabic to survive - anyway all the best and great to have you in Jordan
@@MummyinAmman Yes I believe if we were living in Jordan and she's practicing every day that will be much easier after all it require practicing and of course classes are helpful, thank you and enjoy the up coming winter :)
@@MummyinAmman I'm married to a Jordanian man and I'm trying to learn the language as well in between learning fus.ha, (they keep telling me to learn fus.ha, that they'll all understand me.. yes, but I won't understand them 😕 so I must learn Ammiya ) Can I ask you what online course you take as I'm looking for one that teaches the Jordanian dialect. Thank you. And, btw, the guest part.. my husband's family can have visitors that show up at 11 or 12 midnight and stay until 1 or 2 am. He says its normal but here in the USA where I currently am (due to airport closure 😢) it would be incredibly rude for a guest to show up that late let alone stay until 1 or 2 am ! And like you said, his family will never say they are sleepy or its late. The guest can stay as long as they like. (Its usually a family member aunt or an older married sibling with their spouse and children who stay late) It's very acceptable and normal, but I keep telling him if that were to happen here they would stay standing at the door because no one would wake up, get out of bed (because usually by 12 am most are in bed) and entertain a guest for a couple hours! But I ABSOLUTELY love the Jordanian culture masha Allah it's the best. 😍
@@MummyinAmman Go back to your small, poor island, which has no history or civilization. We do not want spies on the land of Jordanians, the land of civilizations and religions.
i am from jordan but i lived outside my whole life, i find it very weird for someone to reach into my plate and start cutting my meat or putting things on it , your are very understanding, and i laughed so hard at the coffee thing its sooo true
Yes, and these are our habits that do not lend, and this is from the beginning of humanity, and our master Ibrahim, peace be upon him, is one of the most generous human beings. Thank you for all this introduction.
I am in love with this country. I have visited Jordan twice, and till now only the warmest emotion lives in my heart. IThis country influences the state of mind. God bless you. 🙏🌞🌞🌞
actually , everything you said was right but not specifically , I mean these rules are applicable only for family visits or family gathering , but in fact , all these rules can be edited and changed if we are talking about friends visits , especially in the case of youth people , all these rules are changing now as life priorities has changed
You nailed it! I'd say this is the most accurate explanation regarding this topic. I'm pretty positive a lot of people appreciate your insight from within the culture on several important matters that may seem highly controversial.. Keep up the good work! 🙂
This video mostly from the host point of view I'd love to see another comparison from the guest point of view that shows how to be polite and respectful guest.
Wow. This video is so lovely... not that I find the difference in cultures has to be seen as a win lose... but the most lovely thing about this video is the imitate, and the expression and the acts that you did.. that was sooo awesome and lovely 🥰😅.. you're coming up with a new talent now.. you can use that talent for a show in a TV maybe someday 😍
I feel like pressing the like every time you make a point i.e. inviting yourself to a person's house. When I lived in Jodan, I thought it was a bit weird that they neighbour just turned up whenever they wanted and stayed as long as they wanted, it's nice though. It makes you spend more time with others.
There are nuances you probably want to consider. So people might be very welcoming, very generous (likely they're honest about it) but you do not take everything you're offered as is. For example, they will always insist that you stay longer when it got really late and they have work in the morning. That does not mean you simply stay. They insist on you staying, you express gratitude and insist on leaving, given their commitments the next day. They'll top off your plate, but you can politely say you do not want to waste food, and they'll accept that. The reason behind topping off one's plate is that guests are usually shy about asking for more food. So, you want to save their faces by offering them food. The story about the guy with the only goat (looked fictional to me) would be truly odd, and rather insensitive. I'd never ever accept that the man kills his "only" goat to honor his guests. If he does, I very soon come back with a replacement of some sort. Another example: you compliment someone's sweater, so they'll offer it for you. That does NOT mean you take it. You just express gratitude and say, "it looks better on you". And I never go to visit anyone without having made sufficient arrangements. Only exception would be very, very close family members.
So true! You are spot-on! England and America obviously are related. I finally made it to Jordan to visit my in-laws and oh how you hit the nail on the head! 😂❤️🇯🇴
Brilliant! You nailed it - and with charm. You do a great job showing how diametrically opposed British and Jordanian modes of hospitality are - and yet how "right" each one is for its respective culture. Thank you.
@@MummyinAmman I love your channel and look forward to your videos. It's amazing that you manage, while raising energetic young children (and doing heaven knows what else), to keep perspective and pass on interesting, informative insights into all things cultural, linguistic, culinary and interpersonal in the "translation" of a British life into a Jordanian reality. Hafazik Allah!
Hospitality is probably the most beautiful thing about Jordanian culture. When I went back to England, I kept up some of those habits, not as forcefully as Jordanians do. In the teachers' staff room I would bring sweets to celebrate Fridays (everyone loves Fridays, Muslim or not) as well as things like the birth of my last daughter. I was asked why I did that, why celebrate your daughter's birth with others? I answered in Arab culture we are all brothers and sisters, so my happiness is your happiness (I said something like, can't quite remember what).
Haha I couldn't explain it better Rachel. It's funny but so true, every single detail that you just said is exactly the way it is here 🤭 Thanks for sharing your thoughts, I always enjoy them and feel so identify with them. 🤗
Allah bless you, your family (extended one & nano one) and people of Jordan. Well, it is similar in most Muslim countries. In Algeria, illegal immigrants are traveling (considerable portion on foot) 1900Km (only in Algeria alone from south to north passing the Sahara). It is amazing how people helping them with water, food, cloths, covers (too hot in day, too cold in night) and also lift them in some road sections before/after state law enforcement check points (they risk catching them doing this, because it also defined as illegal smuggling ).
In Jordan we have a rule that if a random person knocks on door and enters we have to feed,give shelter, make food for them for 3 days after 3days we can ask them “why are you here” but we ask nicely with a smile
This was hilarious😂😂 I have a similar culture to Jordanians in this case but grew up mainly in western culture so I think I understand both styles of hospitality but I didn't really thought about how different they are!
Your pronunciation of Arabic words is a spot on !!! also, one more thing you probably didn't know: the turkish coffee at the end of every visit can be considered as a "good bye" or "see you later" thats why no one in Jordan would serve you turkish coffee as soon as you arrive, unless you ask for it , or simply if they don't like you :)
The lady of the household is saying : كُلي 😤😤ما اكلتش 😳😳شووو مالك 🤔🤔🤔🤔.... -I I really did eat والله والله وَاللّه I ate 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 You are the best person in the world who can transfer our customs and traditions and explain them professionally to other countries👍🏻👍🏻
Hint : In Jordan when a guest visit you at home we serve a coffee twice tthe first one is " The welcome Coffee " The second one is when they are leaving it's called "The goodbye Coffee "
I almost agree with everything you said but there’s a little thing, it depends on your relationship with the person and your character. I’ve been friends with some people and i know all they’re family a lot so when i’m at their house i act like i’m home. I go through the fridge and get what i want by myself but in some respect “like when i know that there’s nobody in the house or all the people aren’t where i wanna go” so i don’t embarrass or surprise anyone who wasn’t expecting to see me even with saying something or sometimes being loud and letting others know that i’m in that place
U're sooo cute 😂 That's true but recently some families grew out of some habits in a good way I personally would never force a guest to do or eat something they don't want to or put my hands in their plates 😂 And when i am invited to someone's home i try to be as polite as i can refusing something but will have enough of food or drink without them needing to put something for me
You are so lovely and funny انتِ عسل .. The last part about " you have to stay look im doing the coffee" couldnt stop laughing because this is what realy happens in our home and i think in every jordanian house 😂والله ما بتطلعو... القهوة صارت عالنار
It is so funny isn't it. In my parents house my mum loved that all her sons and daughter in law just helps themselves to anything and wont make a fuss if they dont in. Where as in my Husbands parents it has taken 10 years for them to offer me a little less food and no hot drinks...I love them for it though.
And that's the case in every Arabic house we are very welcoming you're talking about Jordan and i'm saying soubhan allah we have the exact same traditions in Algeria
The Jordanian hospitality is so similar to where I came from Somalia. But, I have lived in the US for over 23 years that this description of hospitality isn’t bad either. I think they are both wonderful. The open kitchen kitchen concept is also interesting in the US. Someone could invite you and you could eat in their kitchen island and that’s so normal. Whereas in places like Somalia and maybe Jordan you might never see their kitchen for a while.
3:54 seems pretty close to a story about prophet Muhammad PBUH when he visited a poor man at his house and he turned all the lanterns off, he then proceeded to slaughter his only goat/sheep and pretended to eat with the prophet in the dark.
I was married 17 years to a Jordanian man from Amman.... The culture is so welcoming, the food is amazing, the music, the hospitality, the families, .... But unfortunately my marriage didn't work... I was very European, I love wine, pork, dress liberally...I am agnostic... ...and he was a traditional and religious man from Amman, so.. my marriage became a war between 2 cultures so different.... I couldn't adaptate to it.... we separated 6 months ago.... But I will never talk bad about Jordanians.... I will never forget the hospitality in Amman... It was amazing.....
Carmen, want tell a fact, maybe because you are European the gab is bigger, but also it happens between 2 different raising families, the disagreement could happened to any couples. Good to know are had a good time here in Jordan, we are kinda a big family here. Cheers
Why not be a Muslim then?
At least say the shahada sister, it's going to benefit you in the hereafter.. And you're an agnostic so it shouldn't bother you 🌹✨
sorry young lady these things is unacceptable in our community ,..but i hope a good life for you
It seems a match made in hell then. If what you love doing goes against your husband’s culture it’s only a matter of time before things unravel 🤷🏻♀️
I agree, Jordanian people are very generous, the most warm and hospitable people in the World and proud of their culture 🇯🇴🇹🇳
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we thank you
and you're welcome 😊
They "seem" to be generous
Although born and raised in Canada, I am of Greek heritage, and my husband is Palestinian born in Jordan, we also have a son of autism whom is 22. My husband is his father and his friend, I am very proud.
@@jennyali859 I am too a Palestinian Jordanian who is married to a Greek lady, do all Greek women drive their husbands crazy or is it just my wife ? :)
The "no no I'm making coffee see see wallah" HAHAHAHAHAH
1:41 we don't waste anything either. We recollect everything, stash it, reheat later it and eat it.
لا يجوز رمي الطعام الزائد ...... هذه من نعم الله يجب الحفاظ عليها طالما صالحة للاكل
8:35 there is a syrian saying all levant people familiar with that i am gonna translate letterly. it describe exactly what you say it goes like this
"if you want to deprive him just ask him"
the interpretation is : it is rude to ask someone what do you want or if he want or not because he could say no out of embarrassment so just give it to him and save his dignity
That’s so interesting and so correct!
Wow Crazy Max, what's an ASS you are. There is no way you are Jordanian, so if you live in Jordan, I suggest you pack your bags and get the hell out and back to your country because we don't need people like you in Jordan.
Um Hashem, stay the way you are, you are beautiful, polite and seem to be down to earth person. Love your show.
Greetings from the United States, Abu Bassam (true Jordanian ).
U can ask anyone some refreshment or something to drink simply as that, but never offer much food as arabs, even Jordanians has big eyes, they get all the food in the table and put them all in the plate in one time, at the end will end up all in the trash. Luck of respect for food! Coffee, sweets, juices is enough for them.
@@mikeh3403, real Jordanian is Saudia, as Jordan was a province of KSA.
@@dazzling9606 keep on dreaming Dizzy ling, this is a social discussion, not politics, so shut your yapper.
I totally agree, when i visit my Husband’s home in Amman his mother never stops feeding me and he insists on hand feeding me at the table in front of his family which I’ve just about learned to deal with.
I agree100% with what u siad. Mostly the Arabs are generous. Especially the Jordanians🇯🇴،They’re soo kind. I’m from saudi arabia🇸🇦. We have a lot in common with jordan🇯🇴🇸🇦❤️
Excepting the part of Arrogance ‼️ 🙄
Enfim... 😒
No, we don't 🥰
We have liberal laws, and open people
No we don't
Don't compare between Jordanian and Saudis
Always love when you make videos about the differences between Jordan and Britain!! So fascinating the the middle eastern culture compared to European or western culture.
Thank you!!
Me too!
This is exactly how my visits to family in Jordan are, we have been married over 30 years and my husband still offers more food to everyone, our home is BC Canada
I wouldn't have described Jordanian hospitality in a better way, mashallah you know it deeply, you seem like you've been living here for so long
In my Brit friend's house , I was offered a plate of a tiny piece of steak and a spoon of mashed potato with a glass of water , in my mind I was like "thats it ??? " 😅
I was told to help my self with the potato 😀
And I had to clear the table and take my dish to the kitchen too 😤
Jordanians definitely win in this
منيح ما لبسك مريول و خلاك تجلي الجليات قال يلا منتا من العيله
انا صح اردنية بس بلاقي انه عادي وحلو انه الواحد يساعد الناس اللي رايح عندهم ويقيم الاشياء اللي على الطاولة هيك رأيي
That's actually the same hospitality culture all over the Arabic World!!
Governments are being mean to everyone even their own people ✔
People are not good because they just hate everyone ❌
@Xx X 1 - i don't know what do you mean by " guest " but if i understand it correctly a " worker " isn't a " guest " .
2 - i was in Mecca for a whole week and the people there were very nice and generous with me and my friends ( people not the government ) .
3 - people aren't angels! Of course there are bad persons but that doesn't mean everyone is like that, and that's like " everywhere " in Arabic world or non Arabic world .
@Xx X again, everyone there is being abused by the governments, what do you think about a foreign?
@Xx X1 - him or her being from the decendant of prophet Muhammad peace be upon him, doesn't make him/her an angel .
2 - all the arabic governments are supported by the west and that's well known everywhere, so if you're going to blame anyone you know who you should blame .
3 - Trump just said about MBS " I saved his a**! " about the murdering of Jamal Khashoggi .
4 - where are you from? ( you don't have to answer if you don't want to ) .
@Xx X1 - No one will go to heaven because of that, the prophet himself said: " no one will go to paradise except with the mercy of Allah, ( someone asked ): even you O prophet?!, ( the prophet answer ): even me, except if Allah is merciful with me " .
2 - The prophet has other saying where he said about someone who will come and he will be from his blood " he is from my house ( meaning family ) but he is not from me ( because of his actions ) " .
3 - the only people who glorify the descendants of the prophet are " Shia " who are minority in Muslim population, the majority of Muslims " suni or any other " doesn't make them more than humans, we respect and love them more than any one, yes that's true, but not like " shia " who make them more than angels only because of their blood .
😂😂Best video ever
Ur Arabic is too gd mashallah and you already got our accent
All the best um hashem
Thank you!
May ALLAH bless you Sister.
Actually, you will treat the guests depending on your relationship with them, so there are two main types of guests:
1) Not close, you will treat them as royal family, BUT you all staying in the guest room (formally).
2) Close such as your in-laws, you will treat them as royal family, BUT you all staying in the living room (غرفة القعدة) (formally/casually).
بحضر فيديوهاتك عشان اتعلم انجليزي :)) ♥
The coffee tradition is very interesting, i mean the arabic coffee. There is 4 cups of coffee the guest drink, first is called Heef which is the cup they drink to prove there is nothing in the coffee. Second is the Guests coffee, the third is the joy cup and the forth is called the sword which means that the host will stand next to the guest and protect them whatever it costs. Vert old traditional thing especially in the beduin culture.
Exactly!! 👍 💯
Bedouin culture 👳♂️
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Ya Badawiyaa....
Ya Salaaaaam
These videos are meant to teach people about Jordan, but my wife and I are watching this to learn about British culture. Been in the UK for 15 years and thought I knew every bit of the culture here but you proved us wrong.
من زمان عنك اخ ايهاب. الله يسعدك ويرزقك من حيث لاتحتسب
I'm sudanese living in uk, we have the same way how to welcome a guest in our house, this is what make us as Arabia a very hospitalised and generous people around the globe.
I agree with you I'm from America and the first time I went to Jordan to meet my boyfriend's family I had dinner with them it was so much food. You're right I felt I was so obligated to finish all of it. Then after I finished they added more food to my plate and then after dinner we had hot tea they brought out a plate of fruit that I felt that I had to have one then the coffee came out with dessert. But it was so wonderful I've never had that type of experience. Americans are the same way you go to somebody's house and you like you helped yourself. I just wish that more people in the world would show that type of hospitality. There's nothing like the people in Jordan they're the most wonderful people.
I love them all.
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I love this woman, she speaks good things about us 😍😍😍😍😍🇵🇸
Every time my husband gets me a plate of food he piles it up. I always say to him “hunny that’s not even appetizing!” But now I hear it’s a hospitality thing!
In the Uk: would you like a cup of tea?
No thanks
Ok.
It’s good and bad sometimes. They don’t force people. If you want you have to say yes. Simple as that.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 well , that was amazing , especially the coffee bit , nice effects , keep it up 👍.
Thanks!
In Jordanian culture , the guest is the King of the home always. nice i will try to visit some one now ((:
5:50 In Levant we say you're a guest to exempt and prevent them from helping us, as they try to.
At the same time we tell them "feel at home" meaning do whatever you like or make yourself comfortable e.g. sit however and wherever you like, change tv channel, turn fan on, off, up or down etc, simply you've got absolute dominance over this domain
Wow! So true! But in Southern U.S. culture, it is rude to ask someone to turn on the fan or air for you if they are not using it. Most will instinctly do it when they know you’re coming. But, in Jordan, they have to learn that your body might not be used to the heat. I’m from Minnesota with southern parents. Lol
You made me laugh hard when you said " I'm making it see, you can't leave"
It is so true 😂
You really got me with coffee, I’ll be like it’s already on the stove you can’t go. 😂😂 I really like your way of description it seems you really blinded well with community in Jordan.
I am really proud being Jordanian
actually when you want your guest to leave in Jordan you offer them coffee, coffee is the last thing you offer your formal guests.
If I am in a friends house and I would ask to be excused many times and check for my friends reaction, and would understand when I should leave, he would never say that I should leave thou..
This is exactly how we do it, you nailed it! The last part was really funny (and accurate)
It's so funny because when I'd go to school or hang out with friends if people would ask if I want something I would always say "No, I'm fine, thanks." But when I offer they take till there's no more 😂.
😂😂😂😂😂
I am Iraqi was married to shrkas Jordanian. I had the opposite experience of yours.
My in laws were racist, mean and abusers. I think the same happened to Palestinian women arrived to Jordanian after war in 1948 & 1967. Then thr Iraqi women after after invasion of Iraq in 2003 and currently Syria women. You are prevaleged because you are British. Maybe even lucky to have good people arround you. In addition to the fact that you are a nice person 💕
Inspite of my negative experience, I still have many friends and consider Jordan as my second home. I live in the UK now and work in a bank.
I'M a Student of English literature I am trying to understand, but there is some difficulty .. But thank you for this participation with us 🌹❤
You had me cracking up at the “mountain of rice.” Its soo true!
I am in quarantines in Marriott amman, bored and this notification popped on time, LOLed on the coffee part :))
She literally imitated us , i laughed out loud at the coffee making scene
you are amazing i love to watch your vlogs
Hi Rachel, two fellow Brits in Amman here - been in the city for one and a half years with a new arrival in Jan all being well. Wish we found your channel earlier! All best.
The generosity and hospitality are the most prominent social values jordainian people should respect their guests much and show their warm welcome to them
I believe that you have been Jordanized completely and became one of us - my wife doesn't speak Arabic and having tons of difficulties to learn as in UAE you don't really have to speak Arabic to survive - anyway all the best and great to have you in Jordan
Jordanized 🤣
i am taking online classes, maybe that would help your wife too if she’s not exposed to the language much 🙏
@@MummyinAmman Yes I believe if we were living in Jordan and she's practicing every day that will be much easier after all it require practicing and of course classes are helpful, thank you and enjoy the up coming winter :)
@@MummyinAmman
I'm married to a Jordanian man and I'm trying to learn the language as well in between learning fus.ha, (they keep telling me to learn fus.ha, that they'll all understand me.. yes, but I won't understand them 😕 so I must learn Ammiya ) Can I ask you what online course you take as I'm looking for one that teaches the Jordanian dialect. Thank you. And, btw, the guest part.. my husband's family can have visitors that show up at 11 or 12 midnight and stay until 1 or 2 am. He says its normal but here in the USA where I currently am (due to airport closure 😢) it would be incredibly rude for a guest to show up that late let alone stay until 1 or 2 am ! And like you said, his family will never say they are sleepy or its late. The guest can stay as long as they like. (Its usually a family member aunt or an older married sibling with their spouse and children who stay late) It's very acceptable and normal, but I keep telling him if that were to happen here they would stay standing at the door because no one would wake up, get out of bed (because usually by 12 am most are in bed) and entertain a guest for a couple hours! But I ABSOLUTELY love the Jordanian culture masha Allah it's the best. 😍
@@MummyinAmman Go back to your small, poor island, which has no history or civilization. We do not want spies on the land of Jordanians, the land of civilizations and religions.
@@madmax8255, hmmm u guys both from poor country hahaha Jordan will never be a Japan hahaha
You nailed it um Adham 😂😂 with the coffee part, I laughed my belly out!! 😂😂😂
My God you made me laugh so loud 🤣 True, we are 100% guilty 😂😂😂 The way you were preparing the Turkish coffee at the end 🤣
Omg supposedly I’m the first person watching this! Can I get a woot woot?????
Maybe you should talk about the hospitality in the shops / markets / tourism areas with tourists and foreigners etc.
True!!!!!!!
So true...
Omg 😭 😂 🤣
The way I was welcomed in the mall 🛍️ and in the Souk back in Emarat 🇦🇪 during my vacations....
Ohhhhh 😍
“Kicking out the guest” tip is the best one😂😂😂, very nice video 👍🏻👍🏻
i am from jordan but i lived outside my whole life, i find it very weird for someone to reach into my plate and start cutting my meat or putting things on it , your are very understanding, and i laughed so hard at the coffee thing its sooo true
Hi Rachel, I love your videos you’re so accurate with a lot of things and very funny. I am Jordanian living in Uk 🇬🇧❤️
Yes, and these are our habits that do not lend, and this is from the beginning of humanity, and our master Ibrahim, peace be upon him, is one of the most generous human beings. Thank you for all this introduction.
"rugby tackling them to stay" 🤣
That one cracked me up hard 🤣
I am in love with this country. I have visited Jordan twice, and till now only the warmest emotion lives in my heart. IThis country influences the state of mind. God bless you. 🙏🌞🌞🌞
actually , everything you said was right but not specifically , I mean these rules are applicable only for family visits or family gathering , but in fact , all these rules can be edited and changed if we are talking about friends visits , especially in the case of youth people , all these rules are changing now as life priorities has changed
You nailed it! I'd say this is the most accurate explanation regarding this topic. I'm pretty positive a lot of people appreciate your insight from within the culture on several important matters that may seem highly controversial..
Keep up the good work! 🙂
Continue my sister greetings from Jordan to Tafila
I like your video it's keep me smiling.. Thank you ام هاشم keep it up 👍
The coffee part has got me laughing for how relatable it is 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
LOL, I just felt it when you said customer 😂😂😂
Your videos possess a very high degree of enjoyability! :-) يخلف عليكي
This video mostly from the host point of view I'd love to see another comparison from the guest point of view that shows how to be polite and respectful guest.
Wow. This video is so lovely... not that I find the difference in cultures has to be seen as a win lose... but the most lovely thing about this video is the imitate, and the expression and the acts that you did.. that was sooo awesome and lovely 🥰😅.. you're coming up with a new talent now.. you can use that talent for a show in a TV maybe someday 😍
I feel like pressing the like every time you make a point i.e. inviting yourself to a person's house. When I lived in Jodan, I thought it was a bit weird that they neighbour just turned up whenever they wanted and stayed as long as they wanted, it's nice though. It makes you spend more time with others.
This was hilarious and so true 😂😂😂 love this type of videos 💜
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As a Jordanian-American- equally familiar with both cultures, I think this is the most accurate video you've done
There are nuances you probably want to consider. So people might be very welcoming, very generous (likely they're honest about it) but you do not take everything you're offered as is. For example, they will always insist that you stay longer when it got really late and they have work in the morning. That does not mean you simply stay. They insist on you staying, you express gratitude and insist on leaving, given their commitments the next day. They'll top off your plate, but you can politely say you do not want to waste food, and they'll accept that. The reason behind topping off one's plate is that guests are usually shy about asking for more food. So, you want to save their faces by offering them food. The story about the guy with the only goat (looked fictional to me) would be truly odd, and rather insensitive. I'd never ever accept that the man kills his "only" goat to honor his guests. If he does, I very soon come back with a replacement of some sort. Another example: you compliment someone's sweater, so they'll offer it for you. That does NOT mean you take it. You just express gratitude and say, "it looks better on you". And I never go to visit anyone without having made sufficient arrangements. Only exception would be very, very close family members.
So true! You are spot-on! England and America obviously are related. I finally made it to Jordan to visit my in-laws and oh how you hit the nail on the head! 😂❤️🇯🇴
That was great and funny 😉🤣🤣🤣
Brilliant! You nailed it - and with charm. You do a great job showing how diametrically opposed British and Jordanian modes of hospitality are - and yet how "right" each one is for its respective culture. Thank you.
Oh thank you!! That means a lot ❤️
@@MummyinAmman I love your channel and look forward to your videos. It's amazing that you manage, while raising energetic young children (and doing heaven knows what else), to keep perspective and pass on interesting, informative insights into all things cultural, linguistic, culinary and interpersonal in the "translation" of a British life into a Jordanian reality. Hafazik Allah!
littlewesternwoman thank you again! I feel seen 🤣❤️
Hospitality is probably the most beautiful thing about Jordanian culture. When I went back to England, I kept up some of those habits, not as forcefully as Jordanians do. In the teachers' staff room I would bring sweets to celebrate Fridays (everyone loves Fridays, Muslim or not) as well as things like the birth of my last daughter. I was asked why I did that, why celebrate your daughter's birth with others? I answered in Arab culture we are all brothers and sisters, so my happiness is your happiness (I said something like, can't quite remember what).
That last part of making coffee in the last minute is so true, and we always do that! 🤣
Haha I couldn't explain it better Rachel. It's funny but so true, every single detail that you just said is exactly the way it is here 🤭 Thanks for sharing your thoughts, I always enjoy them and feel so identify with them. 🤗
الله يثبتك ويحفظك يارب العالمين يا اختي الكريمه على هذا الدين الحنيف
Allah bless you, your family (extended one & nano one) and people of Jordan. Well, it is similar in most Muslim countries. In Algeria, illegal immigrants are traveling (considerable portion on foot) 1900Km (only in Algeria alone from south to north passing the Sahara). It is amazing how people helping them with water, food, cloths, covers (too hot in day, too cold in night) and also lift them in some road sections before/after state law enforcement check points (they risk catching them doing this, because it also defined as illegal smuggling ).
In Jordan we have a rule that if a random person knocks on door and enters we have to feed,give shelter, make food for them for 3 days after 3days we can ask them “why are you here” but we ask nicely with a smile
It's a century's old tradition, and mostly associated with desert dwellers. It doesn't exist anymore.
Amazing video 👍
I loveeee this, so trueeeeeee the making of coffee part so true 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I am so glad and happy for you thank you so much God bless you. Amman Jordan 💟
This was hilarious😂😂 I have a similar culture to Jordanians in this case but grew up mainly in western culture so I think I understand both styles of hospitality but I didn't really thought about how different they are!
Very funny love it as a Jordanian living in the states ,thanx for sharing mummy
I am very impressed with your pronunciation, it is so good.
Nice video. It's interesting to watch and read the comments where people share their experiences
I actually felt like you live in my house
Evvvery single detail you said is so true😂😂
Mashallah...keep it up and wish u the 1M
May be this is the best video of yours.
Your Jordanian "language" and pronouncing is progressing eagerly.
All respect to your good self.
Your pronunciation of Arabic words is a spot on !!!
also, one more thing you probably didn't know: the turkish coffee at the end of every visit can be considered as a "good bye" or "see you later"
thats why no one in Jordan would serve you turkish coffee as soon as you arrive, unless you ask for it , or simply if they don't like you :)
The lady of the household is saying : كُلي 😤😤ما اكلتش 😳😳شووو مالك 🤔🤔🤔🤔....
-I I really did eat والله والله
وَاللّه I ate 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
You are the best person in the world who can transfer our customs and traditions and explain them professionally to other countries👍🏻👍🏻
Hint :
In Jordan when a guest visit you at home we serve a coffee twice tthe first one is " The welcome Coffee "
The second one is when they are leaving it's called "The goodbye Coffee "
Thats right but these rules never apply when youre having your best friends
I let them clean my room when they come 🤣🤣🤣
Hhh so true 🤣
You forgot about how rude it would be if u invite someone over and he doesn't invite u back to his house some time after!😅
Love the videos!🤍
😂😂😂
The most amazing of your videos
You made me laugh like a crazy
I almost agree with everything you said but there’s a little thing, it depends on your relationship with the person and your character. I’ve been friends with some people and i know all they’re family a lot so when i’m at their house i act like i’m home. I go through the fridge and get what i want by myself but in some respect “like when i know that there’s nobody in the house or all the people aren’t where i wanna go” so i don’t embarrass or surprise anyone who wasn’t expecting to see me even with saying something or sometimes being loud and letting others know that i’m in that place
U're sooo cute 😂
That's true but recently some families grew out of some habits in a good way
I personally would never force a guest to do or eat something they don't want to or put my hands in their plates 😂
And when i am invited to someone's home i try to be as polite as i can refusing something but will have enough of food or drink without them needing to put something for me
As always...
Fabulously funny and sweet! I can't wait to visit Jordan 🇯🇴
Very well put, nice comparison
You are so lovely and funny انتِ عسل .. The last part about " you have to stay look im doing the coffee" couldnt stop laughing because this is what realy happens in our home and i think in every jordanian house 😂والله ما بتطلعو... القهوة صارت عالنار
It is so funny isn't it. In my parents house my mum loved that all her sons and daughter in law just helps themselves to anything and wont make a fuss if they dont in. Where as in my Husbands parents it has taken 10 years for them to offer me a little less food and no hot drinks...I love them for it though.
And that's the case in every Arabic house we are very welcoming you're talking about Jordan and i'm saying soubhan allah we have the exact same traditions in Algeria
May allah bless you. I get so thrilled to see you all the time wallah. I am so happy you liked Jordan. May Allah bless you and Hashem too.
Hashem
It sometimes takes an outside look to understand something in a better way
This summarize my experience while I was studying in Europe and how people was looking to me as a very weird person.
The Jordanian hospitality is so similar to where I came from Somalia. But, I have lived in the US for over 23 years that this description of hospitality isn’t bad either. I think they are both wonderful. The open kitchen kitchen concept is also interesting in the US. Someone could invite you and you could eat in their kitchen island and that’s so normal. Whereas in places like Somalia and maybe Jordan you might never see their kitchen for a while.
3:54 seems pretty close to a story about prophet Muhammad PBUH when he visited a poor man at his house and he turned all the lanterns off, he then proceeded to slaughter his only goat/sheep and pretended to eat with the prophet in the dark.