Having an emotional reaction is always valid. It doesn't always make logical sense, but don't ever feel bad. Crying is such a normal human thing and I think we're always trying to avoid it but honestly it doesn't always take the weight of the world to make us cry. We have moments when we're stoic and we have moments when we're incredibly tender. Those moments deserve their time and you deserve to feel as sad about your car as the moment requires ❤️
i completely understand the crying about the car. my roomate totalled my car last year i still cry over it when i see similar ones. it was my first car i purchased without a co-signer. i loved my car and miss it all the time
Sometimes when we have so many things like chronic illness , we remain strong for each other...and sometimes we feel like if we start crying we wonxt be able to stop. and then itxs like something of little importance triggers those unshed tears. You help me so much. My son has been gone for almost ten years .....for 13 yrs he was much like you....love to you all....give mom and dad a special hug for me.
It's not the car it's the significance and the memories that you made using that car. I was upset when I had to get rid of my very first car. The car had way too many issues but that car represented freedom and independence to me. However, I think the guy down the street has MY car and when he puts a for sale sign up I'm going down there!!!
I LOVE the flashback section - thank you SO MUCH for putting that in. It isn't the car, exactly, we cry for - it's what it symbolizes in our lives, and that car was a faithful servant and held a lot of love...
You have every right to be crying about your car. It was part of you life. Thanks for reminding us it's okay to cry. I have been down about my endometriosis pain so it's good to know it's OKAY to have a cry about it since everybody needs a cry at some point😊
Erin Kerrigan exactly! I have cried over stuff totally not with me and wishing it were here now! We get attached to "stuff" as we do people. So it's natural to want to cry when we loss something we love!
Completely agree, #MorigannaBrown! In fact I was just reading an interview with a man named Kei who suffered through an earthquake, and he talked about losing his entire environment - altho Mary and Peter haven't gone through THAT, thank God!, it can be very similar when you lose something familiar that you depend on and that is part of your daily life!!!
Jeannee Waseck exactly what I mean. Thanks for the hashtag that is so sweet! An example now is my bunk bed. It can be replaced but we put a lot of work in decorating it with Hello Kitty decals and a twin memory foam mattress for the top where I sleep. I call it my Cloud and am 50 and sleep with my Bed Time Carebear(forgot his name, poor lil guy hahaha!) an owl, HK, and Snoopy as well as Winnie the Pooh. lol I have chronic pain so made it fluffy and like to be surrounded by soft things. I would miss it so much. Plus the bottom I use as a daybed when feeling awful!
Ah, #MorigannaBrown! I sleep with Raggedy Ann's (including the original, Ms. R.A., who has quite the story!); I have a friend who will turn 72 this year, and she - twice married, mother of four adult children - prefers to sleep with designer dolls :)
Cyster Sledge it's not BS He meant it. However Mary got sentimental which is to be expected when , at one point, it was the only thing they had that they full out owned!
I love the way Ollie came strolling in like "Look what I found!" and Mary's like "Err... that's not yours." and Ollie just looks disappointed like "Oh, ok." Then sits down like "Can I have it anyway?"
I just made my donation to the Canadian CF Walk. My friends 3 year old little girl has CF and they are fundraising so this has become close to my heart. 💜
Today the sky was so beautiful. It had so many different types of clouds and textures and all I could think is that I wanted to be able to show Mary because I know she would have loved it. 💜
Its ok to cry. The matrix was family! My mom and Dad had a 1986 Chevy and and it finally passed in 2015 . That's 29 years of good car. Yes, we also cried. Take Care. Hugs to you.
mary hendrick I sold my first car to my little cousin. I only had it 8 years. but when I found out she totaled it and was okay I felt this gut wrenching feeling. I instantly started thinking of all good memories.
I love you guys to pieces. 💜 That little car really was your home base! It took US along on your journeys too! I didn't think the tribute was awkward at all! It was sweet and sentimental.
Also! I'm with Peter, the attachment is real but also! Sometimes we have something we're processing through that needs an outlet! It's always okay to cry and to be surprised at how and where and why our tears come out! 💙
Katy Simmons I cried during my first pregnancy because I dropped a bowl of spaghetti sauce. it went everywhere!!! I had just deep cleaned the kitchen earlier that day. it even hit the ceiling. I was so mad I started out crying, and as I looked closer at the extent of the mess I started laughing uncontrollably. I sounded like a maniac. my ex came in and asked why I was laughing. he looked and was all "oooooohhhhh". he ran. I laughed and he left the house. lol
Do you know what, people get emotionally attached to houses, and it's usually sad to walk around and say goodbye to a house when you move, why should cars be any different? We spend lots of time in them and we make memories! x
I'm crying today because my boyfriend of 4.5 years and I broke up yesterday. I'm sad, but I'm okay. It's crazy how this vlog is about being okay to cry and tear up. The Lord works in mysterious ways to comfort.
Also, I've been learning to sew from my grandmother for the last week. I'm making 40 dolls for a project on my mission trip. This is a pretty surreal vlog today!
Alyssa Davis Sorry about your break up. It sucks. Break ups hurt when you love the person. Stay strong. Someone else will come along and he won't break your heart.
I'm sorry about your breakup, but everything happens for a reason. It just wasn't meant to be. Now you are free to open your heart to Mr. Right when he comes along :-)
it's ok to cry and get emotional about cars. you form memories of all the adventures you have had in life. I sobbed when my first car died, I had so many amazing memories in my red jeep. I still miss it sometimes.
Our lungs are not working today either. It is annoying. While ours is asthma.. the weather has screwed our lungs... blah. Feel better! And yes, I cried too over my blue van. I cried bad. I miss that van.
You made me tear up about your sweet little car! Our feelings are what they are and it's ok to be sad. I cried when I traded in my last two cars. I think it's more about the memories that we made while we had those cars and all the blessings the cars gave us. I'm right there with you, Mary. RIP Frey Life Pod
blimey! I was wondering if I was going to go bed without seeing the lovely M.P&O. tonight! 😦 but just before I switched off you popped up 😁😀 good night all xx
Healthy self expression is good for physical and mental health. I wish I'd felt safe self expressing this well 10 and 20 years ago. I loved how excited Mary is sewing again. This vlog makes me want to find those skills again deep in my mental vault. Beautiful memories shared with my nana and mom, some of the good to focus on rather than the bad.
I can relate to your sadness over the Matrix. I lost my 1982 Chevette - my gutless wonder but it got me around for 11 years - after someone plowed into it (hit and run) while it was parked in front of the school where I worked. I knew when I looked at it that it was a goner and it really hurt, especially since we weren't in a position to buy a new car. But God blessed, the insurance company gave us much more than we expected and a used car dealer took pity on us. Had a few cars since then but I have not forgotten "Evette". Gorgeous drone footage again, Peter; thanks for the beautiful scenery.
I totally understand your emotional attachment to the memories and such of the car. In January this year we were rear-ended and my car was totaled out as well. This car was the car my dad helped me get and he suddenly and unexpectedly passed away in November 2016, so I had an extremely emotional reaction to losing my car. I completely understand. *hugs*
Hey Peter and Mary, you might not see this but just in case you do, just a bit of advice. I work for a financial company and I work in the total loss dept specifically. If you still have a loan on the vehicle, please do yourself a favor and keep in contact with your lien holder and your insurance company. People ask why the process takes so long, but they also don't answer our calls for 2 months or longer. So PLEASE if you have a loan on it still, keep in contact with everyone associated with it (lien holder, insurance) It will make your life easier. 🙂 If you have any valid warranties on the vehicle, you can also cancel them through your dealer for a refund (I recommend going in person to cancel, as dealers don't like to return voicemails). If you have any questions feel free to let me know and I can help you out as much as I can.
My husband's car was hit this morning..hit and run...my husband tried to chase her down but lost her....he was so shaken and I am so sad looking at how damaged it is..but grateful that he's OK. But I had to hold it together when I saw it because I look at that car with gratefulness that it keeps him safe every day!! Bless your Matrix and Bless my husband's Honda! xo
Peter looked so young in the memory peace. A baby face! Too cute. You age well Peter. You are crying Mary for the memories, past and future. Not unusual!
I would very much like to see a video of your mom & dad talking about how it was to raise 2 children with this life threatening disease. How they have & still do deal with both their children living so far away etc etc. :)
Beth L I don't remember if she said it in a video or in a comment but she mentioned that since it's such a personal experience tied into their whole life they probably would just cry the whole time. I thought it would be an epic video too
I love that you live near a playground, I hear the children out on the playground at recess in the background of your video. :-) Our first house there was a school one block over and I loved to hear the children at recess.
I remember when we gave away our 14 yr old car! I was pregnant with Dustin and we gave it away to someone who helps missionaries. They were going to use it while on furlow here in the states. Dustin was 14, so Dale let him drive it around a parking lot before we sent it away. It was such a great memory!! Talk about coming full circle! :). Now how did that zipper pouch come out?!! I LOVE that fabric and can't wait to see it finished! Enjoy your visit with your parents! :) xoxo
i cried today because one of my little fluffy bunnies passed away in my arms this morning. I'm gutted but i know she's in a better place and my mam will be looking after her. I've cried buckets today then my pain and fatigue kicked in tonight so I've cried because of that to so having a very soggy day. Beautiful pictures of the amazing sunset, god really is an amazing artist xx all my love from Sunderland in the north east of England xx loraine xx
You are not ridiculous, Mary. I love my car as well. She is old and reliable and has been there for me when people haven't. It feels good to have something (even if it is a thing!) work in my life when everything else ( humans) are failing me!!!
No shame in crying over a car! I sold my old car that I'd had for over 10 years last summer and I almost cried over it because I'd had it for so long. It becomes a big part of your life. Peter, that was beautiful drone footage!
I totally get it. You're so upbeat and positive but go through such a lot - then something trivial happens and the dam bursts. I think it's totally understandable! And you're a wise one, so you know there are worse things to cry about 😉 I always told my daughter you can't help feelings, never be embarrassed about your feelings. What you CAN do is decide how you're going to deal with them. And that's what you're doing! Big hugs sweet Mary x
You can buy some drought resistance plants: Sedum is a lovely perennial - They emerge in spring and then turn a beautiful color in late summer through early fall. and they come back the next year. Hens-and-chicks are fun too and Sempervivum is in that same family and reddish flowers shoot from the thin stems . Ornamental grass, lavender (nice fragrance). Please consider some container plants, it will be so rewarding.
Your feelings matter Mary, no matter what they may be about! When I finally sold my first car, I cried like a baby! There were so many memories made in that Toyota I thought, but those didn't go with it. YOU get to keep those. It's ok!
I felt the same way when I let my friend borrow my car and it came back totaled. Thank goodness no one was hurt, but I still felt emotional about the loss of my car. It symbolized security and independence for me and in a second it was gone. It is ok to feel upset and in time it won't suck as bad.
I can relate to your crying about losing the Matrix. I’m facing that right now with my Matrix. It’s an ‘05, and I bought it when it was brand new. Ever since I knew what a Matrix was, it was my dream car.It has over 260K miles on it now, and for almost all that time it had no problems whatsoever. I’ve driven it across the US 8 times and along the whole Route 66. It was the center of all the best memories of my one romantic relationship. In the past couple of months it’s begun to have serious problems. I took it to the mechanic and found out all the major things I would need to have fixed fairly soon if it was going to last, and I seriously won’t be able to afford it. That means I may be losing it soon, and that realization was pretty upsetting. It was like I was receiving bad news on the prognosis of a friend or family member or favorite pet. It faithfully carried me through a large chunk of my life, through happy and sad times. For many people in our culture, a car really is like a companion. So, in short , I share your sadness and understand.
Aw Mary! I understand! I sold my car recently and bought an awesome upgrade, but still cried when we sold it and watched the new owners drive away. I can relate! Sorry that it was totaled!!
What lovely footage of the sunset! The ducks looked like they were having a romantic sunset swim together (and yes, I know I'm anthropomorphising, lol.) Also, in case you're interested, those birds in a "swarm" were probably swallows of some kind, I'm guessing tree swallows or barn swallows. They feed on the flying insects over the water and insects near the surface of the water, like water striders. And they drink by skimming the surface of the water.
My son has kept the Toyota Land Cruiser His Dad bought in1974. It is a rust bucket but still runs. His Dad passed away a few years ago so he can't part with it. Many memories attached to it.❤️
i cried to when our 4 runner just up and went capoot on us 7 yrs with it and it served alot of ppl well, i cried with you! love from Spokane washington with Oklahoma Roots!
Mary I cried when I got rid of the majority of my kids books. Also I love the way Mary said vehicle. We had rain all day here in England literally all day
It is because they grew sideways so they have to be surgically removed. Most people can just get them pulled, but I have to do it surgically. Full anesthesia at a hospital and everything.
My excursion was totaled by a semi truck (I was stopped, he was going 60+) and I bawled that it happened. That was one of my babies. Thankfully the kids and I were able to walk away, which is the important thing. But that doesn't take away the fact that I miss it. Kim
So glad you're getting something for you car . Oh my the beauty of the sunset . My grandmother talks about natures beauty all the time and how can we have this without God.
My first car accident ever was three years ago when I was broadsided on my driver's side. It was a small Mazda that they didn't total, but should have. It was never the same. The car wasn't worth what they fixed. And happy birthday, Peter! My 30th is on Sunday (the 21st). :)
It's ok to cry over your car....cause it's really the memories & experiences you've had in the car that make you attached...not so much the car itself. I understand your tears, Mary. It's ok.
When Peter makes the dog talking voice it cracks me up because it sounds just like when my dog talks ( when my boyfriend makes the dog talking voice lol)
I had to give up my car of ten years last year after it was totaled in a storm. It was the first car I had purchased with my own money and I was so sad to have to let it go. I totally understand the tears. It's ok to cry!
I think we get emotionally attached to cars just like things. It got us around safely for years. I teared up saying goodbye to each of my vehicles when I traded them in. We are human.
Aww, Mary, I so completely understand how you feel about your car. My husband and I got a Saturn VUE in 2002 when it first came out. We lived in OH then but moved to FL a few years later. On our drive to FL, we towed the car on a dolly behind our big Penske moving truck. We had the engine running (that probably was illegal) so we could transport our 3 sedated cats in A/C. Our weimeraner rode in the truck with us. Anyway, that's just one memory of the only vehicle we've ever bought brand new. We loved it so much and were so sad when it no longer worked and had to be sold to a junkyard. :(
Oh, and btw, I do not drive so all of my personal memories of that car were with my husband. He has other memories of the car without me, such as driving our weimeraner, Silver, to his cancer treatments (I was working). Now I'm getting emotional thinking about the car and our sweet dog again.
I cracked up so much when you were talking about "the swan place". I am from near your hometown and am assuming you are talking about "The White Swan". I so love hearing about your memories from the same places I go regularly :)
You can buy moisture release gel things or compost, and you can buy things that either water a certain amount at a certain time, or as and when the plant or soil needs it. They either need hose access, or to have the water containery bit filled up. So it can be done weekly, fortnightly, monthly, and if you have external water access and if you trust a neighbour or friend you could ask them to fill up the water containers as and when. There are many natural ways to prevent evapouration of water, slug/pest damage, and they also make the top where the soil would be visible to look pretty. You can also have some that help nourish the plants, and you can also start home composting with various kitchen scraps like coffee grounds, tea, vegetable peelings, potentially the bones, amongst other things. Do a bit of research into the specific plants you are going to get (such as if they are vegetables, are they peppers, tomatoes, potatoes, onions, carrots) and what they need more and less of, what food scraps/waste does what to the soil as well as what ones poison what plants, and then research the different things to mean you don't necessarily need to water your plants too often. Another beneficial thing is to research what can be grown next to or beside to minimise pests most, and what causes a better growth of both plants. Google 'companion planting'. Some marigolds and other flowers are edible, add flavor to things, and look great in salads as well as being pretty to look at. Some of these flowers are actually a companion plant or natural pesticide. The downside is that the flowers might encourage other wildlife such as bees to your garden, this is beneficial for vegetable growing but not really good for those who have allergic reaction or fears of them. A bug screen on windows and doors will be necessary should that be the case or if you just don't want bugs in your house. I think that the dollar store/dollar tree/dollar something sells them, as do the typical gardening places or DIY shops.
This video is so wonderfully timed. I am a commuter college student and my school is about an hour away. So this year I became very attached to my little 2004 vw jetta tdi. In Dec. we took it in for an oil change and the mechanic put way to much synthetic oil in and then when we caught it two months later he said it was our fault and charged us 1300 to take everything apart and clean it and put a new turbo in. however since then we have had to take it to a different mechanic three times to try and fix what the first mechanic did. I am super sad. My car may be doomed but thats okay because it chugged its way until the end of the school year and it served me when with amazing mpg. so any way sorry long pointless story but I do understand crying over cars. they become a little piece of you.
I had to give up driving because of my health. So I cried when I sold my car last summer, it is ok. For me it was a sense of a loss of independence. So I will use family, friends, uber and maybe the bus to get around now. Hugs sweetie!
I was hysterical when I had to sell my old Camero it was just a part of me & I was a crazy person,,, I still miss that car & this was many years ago,,, it's ok to cry over a car glad you all weren't hurt or anything.
Having an emotional reaction is always valid. It doesn't always make logical sense, but don't ever feel bad. Crying is such a normal human thing and I think we're always trying to avoid it but honestly it doesn't always take the weight of the world to make us cry. We have moments when we're stoic and we have moments when we're incredibly tender. Those moments deserve their time and you deserve to feel as sad about your car as the moment requires ❤️
i completely understand the crying about the car. my roomate totalled my car last year i still cry over it when i see similar ones. it was my first car i purchased without a co-signer. i loved my car and miss it all the time
Sometimes when we have so many things like chronic illness , we remain strong for each other...and sometimes we feel like if we start crying we wonxt be able to stop. and then itxs like something of little importance triggers those unshed tears. You help me so much. My son has been gone for almost ten years .....for 13 yrs he was much like you....love to you all....give mom and dad a special hug for me.
Shirley Plumer awwwww he passed at thirteen may I ask what was the cause 😥I'm so sorry for your loss so heartbreaking
I'm so sorry for your loss.
So glad you had a beautiful sunset. London's bern under a rainstorm since first thing this morning! xxxx
It's not the car it's the significance and the memories that you made using that car. I was upset when I had to get rid of my very first car. The car had way too many issues but that car represented freedom and independence to me. However, I think the guy down the street has MY car and when he puts a for sale sign up I'm going down there!!!
That was some pretty sweet drone footage Peter 👍🏻😊💜
His drone footage always knock my socks off. They live in such a pretty area and aerial views really show it off.
I LOVE the flashback section - thank you SO MUCH for putting that in. It isn't the car, exactly, we cry for - it's what it symbolizes in our lives, and that car was a faithful servant and held a lot of love...
You have every right to be crying about your car. It was part of you life. Thanks for reminding us it's okay to cry. I have been down about my endometriosis pain so it's good to know it's OKAY to have a cry about it since everybody needs a cry at some point😊
Erin Kerrigan exactly! I have cried over stuff totally not with me and wishing it were here now! We get attached to "stuff" as we do people. So it's natural to want to cry when we loss something we love!
Completely agree, #MorigannaBrown! In fact I was just reading an interview with a man named Kei who suffered through an earthquake, and he talked about losing his entire environment - altho Mary and Peter haven't gone through THAT, thank God!, it can be very similar when you lose something familiar that you depend on and that is part of your daily life!!!
Jeannee Waseck exactly what I mean. Thanks for the hashtag that is so sweet! An example now is my bunk bed. It can be replaced but we put a lot of work in decorating it with Hello Kitty decals and a twin memory foam mattress for the top where I sleep. I call it my Cloud and am 50 and sleep with my Bed Time Carebear(forgot his name, poor lil guy hahaha!) an owl, HK, and Snoopy as well as Winnie the Pooh. lol I have chronic pain so made it fluffy and like to be surrounded by soft things. I would miss it so much. Plus the bottom I use as a daybed when feeling awful!
Ah, #MorigannaBrown! I sleep with Raggedy Ann's (including the original, Ms. R.A., who has quite the story!); I have a friend who will turn 72 this year, and she - twice married, mother of four adult children - prefers to sleep with designer dolls :)
Cyster Sledge it's not BS He meant it. However Mary got sentimental which is to be expected when , at one point, it was the only thing they had that they full out owned!
I sew all the time! I have made 2 quilts and now I have fabric to make myself some "infusion pajamas"
I love the way Ollie came strolling in like "Look what I found!" and Mary's like "Err... that's not yours." and Ollie just looks disappointed like "Oh, ok." Then sits down like "Can I have it anyway?"
I just made my donation to the Canadian CF Walk. My friends 3 year old little girl has CF and they are fundraising so this has become close to my heart. 💜
Today the sky was so beautiful. It had so many different types of clouds and textures and all I could think is that I wanted to be able to show Mary because I know she would have loved it. 💜
Its ok to cry. The matrix was family! My mom and Dad had a 1986 Chevy and and it finally passed in 2015 . That's 29 years of good car. Yes, we also cried. Take Care. Hugs to you.
mary hendrick I sold my first car to my little cousin. I only had it 8 years. but when I found out she totaled it and was okay I felt this gut wrenching feeling. I instantly started thinking of all good memories.
im a cryer, thank you for your kind words today ❤
I love you guys to pieces. 💜 That little car really was your home base! It took US along on your journeys too! I didn't think the tribute was awkward at all! It was sweet and sentimental.
Also! I'm with Peter, the attachment is real but also! Sometimes we have something we're processing through that needs an outlet! It's always okay to cry and to be surprised at how and where and why our tears come out! 💙
Mary I cried once during my second pregnancy because I bought Full size sheets instead of Queen for our bed 🙄🙄 Have your car cry. lol.
Thanks for understanding!
Katy, that's a great pregnancy story, lol!
Katy Simmons Hahaha, pregnancy hormones will get you every time! I'm on #4 and still happens!
Katy Simmons I cried during my first pregnancy because I dropped a bowl of spaghetti sauce. it went everywhere!!! I had just deep cleaned the kitchen earlier that day. it even hit the ceiling. I was so mad I started out crying, and as I looked closer at the extent of the mess I started laughing uncontrollably. I sounded like a maniac. my ex came in and asked why I was laughing. he looked and was all "oooooohhhhh". he ran. I laughed and he left the house. lol
Ali is it bad that I would cry over that on a normal day and I've never been pregnant before? 😂
Do you know what, people get emotionally attached to houses, and it's usually sad to walk around and say goodbye to a house when you move, why should cars be any different? We spend lots of time in them and we make memories! x
I am so fascinated with sunsets from all over. Thank you for sharing!
I'm crying today because my boyfriend of 4.5 years and I broke up yesterday. I'm sad, but I'm okay. It's crazy how this vlog is about being okay to cry and tear up. The Lord works in mysterious ways to comfort.
Also, I've been learning to sew from my grandmother for the last week. I'm making 40 dolls for a project on my mission trip. This is a pretty surreal vlog today!
Alyssa Davis sorry that happened to you 😢
Alyssa Davis Sorry about your break up. It sucks. Break ups hurt when you love the person. Stay strong. Someone else will come along and he won't break your heart.
I'm sorry about your breakup, but everything happens for a reason. It just wasn't meant to be. Now you are free to open your heart to Mr. Right when he comes along :-)
You cry when you need to Alyssa, it's ok to cry :) We are glad we can all be here to cheer each other on!
Oh my word, that sunset was absolutely breathtaking!! Much love and prayers for y'all!!
It's the good memories you two had in that car...they make the emotions surface. And that's totally human and I personally think it's sweet ♡♡
it's ok to cry and get emotional about cars. you form memories of all the adventures you have had in life. I sobbed when my first car died, I had so many amazing memories in my red jeep. I still miss it sometimes.
I haven't had a car in forever, but I know how you feel. Grieving the car is really about the memories you make in it. The love is real.
So beautiful! I'm so glad I found this channel! Praying for all of you!
A car is actually more like a pet than just a thing, you guys, I do not blame y'all!
lol, ok.
Oh, that Ollie boy and his babies and other babies. Adorable!
Our lungs are not working today either. It is annoying. While ours is asthma.. the weather has screwed our lungs... blah. Feel better! And yes, I cried too over my blue van. I cried bad. I miss that van.
I never get tired of the drone shots. Those swarming birds were great!
What matters is not the car but all the memories attached to it. That's what makes us so emotional. I totally understand.
You made me tear up about your sweet little car! Our feelings are what they are and it's ok to be sad. I cried when I traded in my last two cars. I think it's more about the memories that we made while we had those cars and all the blessings the cars gave us. I'm right there with you, Mary. RIP Frey Life Pod
I actually first found you and started watching around the time you got the Matrix. Kind of reminiscent to see the clips of Peter showing the car!!
Peter, your drone footage (and music choice) is so peaceful and relaxing.
blimey! I was wondering if I was going to go bed without seeing the lovely M.P&O. tonight! 😦 but just before I switched off you popped up 😁😀 good night all xx
Peter you look so different compared to back then!! Aw 😂
Lauryn Nicole it's the beard ;)
I understand - I cried when we got rid of our first mini van cause I pictured all my little ones growing up in it! It's okay Mary! Love ya!
Healthy self expression is good for physical and mental health. I wish I'd felt safe self expressing this well 10 and 20 years ago.
I loved how excited Mary is sewing again. This vlog makes me want to find those skills again deep in my mental vault. Beautiful memories shared with my nana and mom, some of the good to focus on rather than the bad.
I can relate to your sadness over the Matrix. I lost my 1982 Chevette - my gutless wonder but it got me around for 11 years - after someone plowed into it (hit and run) while it was parked in front of the school where I worked. I knew when I looked at it that it was a goner and it really hurt, especially since we weren't in a position to buy a new car. But God blessed, the insurance company gave us much more than we expected and a used car dealer took pity on us. Had a few cars since then but I have not forgotten "Evette". Gorgeous drone footage again, Peter; thanks for the beautiful scenery.
I totally understand your emotional attachment to the memories and such of the car. In January this year we were rear-ended and my car was totaled out as well. This car was the car my dad helped me get and he suddenly and unexpectedly passed away in November 2016, so I had an extremely emotional reaction to losing my car. I completely understand. *hugs*
The car is no big deal. The big deal is the memories you made in it. I totally get it.
Hey Peter and Mary, you might not see this but just in case you do, just a bit of advice. I work for a financial company and I work in the total loss dept specifically.
If you still have a loan on the vehicle, please do yourself a favor and keep in contact with your lien holder and your insurance company.
People ask why the process takes so long, but they also don't answer our calls for 2 months or longer. So PLEASE if you have a loan on it still, keep in contact with everyone associated with it (lien holder, insurance) It will make your life easier. 🙂 If you have any valid warranties on the vehicle, you can also cancel them through your dealer for a refund (I recommend going in person to cancel, as dealers don't like to return voicemails). If you have any questions feel free to let me know and I can help you out as much as I can.
My husband's car was hit this morning..hit and run...my husband tried to chase her down but lost her....he was so shaken and I am so sad looking at how damaged it is..but grateful that he's OK. But I had to hold it together when I saw it because I look at that car with gratefulness that it keeps him safe every day!! Bless your Matrix and Bless my husband's Honda! xo
I totally needed to see this today. Tearing up a lot today and sometimes having that validation to do so makes it not so bad.
Peter looked so young in the memory peace. A baby face! Too cute. You age well Peter. You are crying Mary for the memories, past and future. Not unusual!
I would very much like to see a video of your mom & dad talking about how it was to raise 2 children with this life threatening disease. How they have & still do deal with both their children living so far away etc etc. :)
Beth L I don't remember if she said it in a video or in a comment but she mentioned that since it's such a personal experience tied into their whole life they probably would just cry the whole time. I thought it would be an epic video too
My thoughts were it may be helpful to other families, however I see that side of it as well. Thank you for letting me know :)
Happy Birthday to Peter!!!! Glad you two were ok in the car accident.
I want to hear how your parents are loving being grandparents.... :-)
I love that you live near a playground, I hear the children out on the playground at recess in the background of your video. :-) Our first house there was a school one block over and I loved to hear the children at recess.
I remember when we gave away our 14 yr old car! I was pregnant with Dustin and we gave it away to someone who helps missionaries. They were going to use it while on furlow here in the states. Dustin was 14, so Dale let him drive it around a parking lot before we sent it away. It was such a great memory!! Talk about coming full circle! :). Now how did that zipper pouch come out?!! I LOVE that fabric and can't wait to see it finished! Enjoy your visit with your parents! :) xoxo
i cried today because one of my little fluffy bunnies passed away in my arms this morning. I'm gutted but i know she's in a better place and my mam will be looking after her. I've cried buckets today then my pain and fatigue kicked in tonight so I've cried because of that to so having a very soggy day. Beautiful pictures of the amazing sunset, god really is an amazing artist xx all my love from Sunderland in the north east of England xx loraine xx
It's ok to cry, I'm just glad everyone is safe!
You are not ridiculous, Mary. I love my car as well. She is old and reliable and has been there for me when people haven't. It feels good to have something (even if it is a thing!) work in my life when everything else ( humans) are failing me!!!
No shame in crying over a car! I sold my old car that I'd had for over 10 years last summer and I almost cried over it because I'd had it for so long. It becomes a big part of your life. Peter, that was beautiful drone footage!
I totally get it. You're so upbeat and positive but go through such a lot - then something trivial happens and the dam bursts. I think it's totally understandable! And you're a wise one, so you know there are worse things to cry about 😉 I always told my daughter you can't help feelings, never be embarrassed about your feelings. What you CAN do is decide how you're going to deal with them. And that's what you're doing! Big hugs sweet Mary x
waited up just for this
Love you both ❤️❤️
You can buy some drought resistance plants: Sedum is a lovely perennial - They emerge in spring and then turn a beautiful color in late summer through early fall. and they come back the next year. Hens-and-chicks are fun too and Sempervivum is in that same family and reddish flowers shoot from the thin stems . Ornamental grass, lavender (nice fragrance). Please consider some container plants, it will be so rewarding.
Your feelings matter Mary, no matter what they may be about! When I finally sold my first car, I cried like a baby! There were so many memories made in that Toyota I thought, but those didn't go with it. YOU get to keep those. It's ok!
Olly is so cute! Happy birthday Peter xx
Peter, I love your drone footage. Always so beautiful!
I felt the same way when I let my friend borrow my car and it came back totaled. Thank goodness no one was hurt, but I still felt emotional about the loss of my car. It symbolized security and independence for me and in a second it was gone. It is ok to feel upset and in time it won't suck as bad.
I can relate to your crying about losing the Matrix. I’m facing that right now with my Matrix. It’s an ‘05, and I bought it when it was brand new. Ever since I knew what a Matrix was, it was my dream car.It has over 260K miles on it now, and for almost all that time it had no problems whatsoever. I’ve driven it across the US 8 times and along the whole Route 66. It was the center of all the best memories of my one romantic relationship.
In the past couple of months it’s begun to have serious problems. I took it to the mechanic and found out all the major things I would need to have fixed fairly soon if it was going to last, and I seriously won’t be able to afford it. That means I may be losing it soon, and that realization was pretty upsetting. It was like I was receiving bad news on the prognosis of a friend or family member or favorite pet. It faithfully carried me through a large chunk of my life, through happy and sad times. For many people in our culture, a car really is like a companion.
So, in short , I share your sadness and understand.
Aw Mary! I understand! I sold my car recently and bought an awesome upgrade, but still cried when we sold it and watched the new owners drive away. I can relate! Sorry that it was totaled!!
What lovely footage of the sunset! The ducks looked like they were having a romantic sunset swim together (and yes, I know I'm anthropomorphising, lol.)
Also, in case you're interested, those birds in a "swarm" were probably swallows of some kind, I'm guessing tree swallows or barn swallows. They feed on the flying insects over the water and insects near the surface of the water, like water striders. And they drink by skimming the surface of the water.
It is the simple things in life that should make us all happy! I love sunsets and amazing star lit skies!
My son has kept the Toyota Land Cruiser His Dad bought in1974. It is a rust bucket but still runs. His Dad passed away a few years ago so he can't part with it. Many memories attached to it.❤️
just wow for the drone shots there Peter!
i cried to when our 4 runner just up and went capoot on us 7 yrs with it and it served alot of ppl well, i cried with you! love from Spokane washington with Oklahoma Roots!
Mary I cried when I got rid of the majority of my kids books. Also I love the way Mary said vehicle. We had rain all day here in England literally all day
Oh no! I'm so sorry marry and Peter! I'm getting my first surgery tomorrow so wish me luck! (Wisdom teeth)
Good luck! I don't really count wisdom teeth as surgery though
It is because they grew sideways so they have to be surgically removed. Most people can just get them pulled, but I have to do it surgically. Full anesthesia at a hospital and everything.
Oh man, that doesn't sound fun. Good luck!
Thanks!
Trisha B yes it is because you go under the nife
I never knew you guys lived near a school, but I can hear the kids in the back ground 😄
My excursion was totaled by a semi truck (I was stopped, he was going 60+) and I bawled that it happened. That was one of my babies. Thankfully the kids and I were able to walk away, which is the important thing. But that doesn't take away the fact that I miss it. Kim
So glad you're getting something for you car . Oh my the beauty of the sunset . My grandmother talks about natures beauty all the time and how can we have this without God.
My first car accident ever was three years ago when I was broadsided on my driver's side. It was a small Mazda that they didn't total, but should have. It was never the same. The car wasn't worth what they fixed.
And happy birthday, Peter! My 30th is on Sunday (the 21st). :)
It's ok to cry over your car....cause it's really the memories & experiences you've had in the car that make you attached...not so much the car itself. I understand your tears, Mary. It's ok.
Beautiful sky and I love the water shot.
awesome sunset footage! and the music was perfect!
When Peter makes the dog talking voice it cracks me up because it sounds just like when my dog talks ( when my boyfriend makes the dog talking voice lol)
I had to give up my car of ten years last year after it was totaled in a storm. It was the first car I had purchased with my own money and I was so sad to have to let it go. I totally understand the tears. It's ok to cry!
I think we get emotionally attached to cars just like things. It got us around safely for years. I teared up saying goodbye to each of my vehicles when I traded them in. We are human.
Aww, Mary, I so completely understand how you feel about your car. My husband and I got a Saturn VUE in 2002 when it first came out. We lived in OH then but moved to FL a few years later. On our drive to FL, we towed the car on a dolly behind our big Penske moving truck. We had the engine running (that probably was illegal) so we could transport our 3 sedated cats in A/C. Our weimeraner rode in the truck with us. Anyway, that's just one memory of the only vehicle we've ever bought brand new. We loved it so much and were so sad when it no longer worked and had to be sold to a junkyard. :(
Oh, and btw, I do not drive so all of my personal memories of that car were with my husband. He has other memories of the car without me, such as driving our weimeraner, Silver, to his cancer treatments (I was working). Now I'm getting emotional thinking about the car and our sweet dog again.
Did you move your house to a playground???
Jeri-Ann Henson I think they live near/next to a school
Thanks. I've never heard kids laughing like that before and I've never missed a vlog, lol!
Jeri-Ann Henson I think they mentioned it briefly in a vlog when they first moved but don't quote me lol
Lol, thanks...I won't!
I was thinking the same thing.
I cracked up so much when you were talking about "the swan place". I am from near your hometown and am assuming you are talking about "The White Swan". I so love hearing about your memories from the same places I go regularly :)
You can buy moisture release gel things or compost, and you can buy things that either water a certain amount at a certain time, or as and when the plant or soil needs it. They either need hose access, or to have the water containery bit filled up. So it can be done weekly, fortnightly, monthly, and if you have external water access and if you trust a neighbour or friend you could ask them to fill up the water containers as and when. There are many natural ways to prevent evapouration of water, slug/pest damage, and they also make the top where the soil would be visible to look pretty. You can also have some that help nourish the plants, and you can also start home composting with various kitchen scraps like coffee grounds, tea, vegetable peelings, potentially the bones, amongst other things. Do a bit of research into the specific plants you are going to get (such as if they are vegetables, are they peppers, tomatoes, potatoes, onions, carrots) and what they need more and less of, what food scraps/waste does what to the soil as well as what ones poison what plants, and then research the different things to mean you don't necessarily need to water your plants too often. Another beneficial thing is to research what can be grown next to or beside to minimise pests most, and what causes a better growth of both plants. Google 'companion planting'. Some marigolds and other flowers are edible, add flavor to things, and look great in salads as well as being pretty to look at. Some of these flowers are actually a companion plant or natural pesticide. The downside is that the flowers might encourage other wildlife such as bees to your garden, this is beneficial for vegetable growing but not really good for those who have allergic reaction or fears of them. A bug screen on windows and doors will be necessary should that be the case or if you just don't want bugs in your house. I think that the dollar store/dollar tree/dollar something sells them, as do the typical gardening places or DIY shops.
Happy Birthday, Peter!!!
the memories that happen that involved that car is y it's so emotional.
Happy Birthday, Peter!
I'm stress crying about moving away to college. I'm excited but I'm moving from Washington to Tennessee and it's just a lot of change all at once! 😕
I ended up crying about your car because your teared up... 😂😂😂 We will miss you little Matrix!
Wow absolutely loved the drone shot !
Yay for ocean state job lots! It's my favorite store. I'm away from home right now (and there aren't any OSJL near me) and that made me smile
I needed to hear this today. 💕
You can use wet towels to water plants over time. I'm not certain on the method but the plants wick up the moisture from the towel as they need it
I can't believe you made ME cry over the loss of your car! I'm so sappy I embarrass myself...
I love to sew! It is really helpful to have a variety of hobbies.
beautiful sun set ,mom and me time👍💖
This video is so wonderfully timed. I am a commuter college student and my school is about an hour away. So this year I became very attached to my little 2004 vw jetta tdi. In Dec. we took it in for an oil change and the mechanic put way to much synthetic oil in and then when we caught it two months later he said it was our fault and charged us 1300 to take everything apart and clean it and put a new turbo in. however since then we have had to take it to a different mechanic three times to try and fix what the first mechanic did. I am super sad. My car may be doomed but thats okay because it chugged its way until the end of the school year and it served me when with amazing mpg. so any way sorry long pointless story but I do understand crying over cars. they become a little piece of you.
I had to give up driving because of my health. So I cried when I sold my car last summer, it is ok. For me it was a sense of a loss of independence. So I will use family, friends, uber and maybe the bus to get around now. Hugs sweetie!
I was hysterical when I had to sell my old Camero it was just a part of me & I was a crazy person,,, I still miss that car & this was many years ago,,, it's ok to cry over a car glad you all weren't hurt or anything.
❤️🚙❤️🚙❤️🚙❤️. So cute, you were quilting I love it.
😄sunset is beautiful love watching your videos