Dainás Diary 004 | The reality of divorce
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"Sorry not Starbucks, we're boycotting them." I know that's right 😌
Thanks Dainá. My boyfriend cheated on me in another country and am back at my parents in my home country until I rebuild my life again. I needed this…
I hope you have a good day, know that JESUS died for you and loves you so very much!❤❤
@@naoedouard4422God 😊
I'm recently separated from a 12 year marriage and when I tell you I felt this video hunnyyyy
Hit the link so fast I almost broke a nail! Hey Daina!
Me too😂
Me three❤😂😂
Hey yall lol
Byeee😂😂😂
I'm dead 😂😂😂😂
I feel exactly how you’re explaining you feel in this video. I am 32 and I feel like I wasted 11 years with a man who wound up cheating on me and ruining everything we had planned as a family.
Everything is absolutely foreign once you realize you’re on your own. Sometimes I feel scared bc I don’t have that security and that other person to lean or to comfort me. I’m trying to adjust as a single mom to two little boys and it’s been difficult to say the least. I have hope it will get easier as time passes! I’m learning to rely on myself and be my own happiness. Your videos help me so much, so thank you girl! Wish you all the happiness and success bc you deserve it ❤
It’s better that you ended it and reset now as opposed to in 10 or even 5 years from now. A blessing in disguise…. 💡
I know. I’m struggling with this too. I’m turning 29, and I feel like, “I just a baby”, even though I’m a team leader at a bank. I have NO clue how I got here, and if it’s what I actually want to do. Thankfully, therapy is helping me figure out who I am and what I really want:
Yes girl. Every day I have to do everything alone. It’s so much work to do all of the cooking, shopping, cleaning, maintenance, working, bill paying, errands… and there’s so many details and little things. I’m not divorced I’m just single and look at all the people who have help 😂
As a Taurus and someone who has also went through a divorce with someone I was with for 16 years trust me its hard at first but once you open your eyes and see the pain, stress, and problems they caused you then start seeing the light and see divorce as the best thing ever. I just wished I would've divorced him along time ago because my whole 20s was wasted but I have never been happier. I'm no longer dealing with financial and emotional abuse. Ive gotten so much more now and then some. I wish nothing but the best for you. ❤
Adulting is freaking hard. I get zoning out, staying in bed, and hoping to feel more like yourself...in time. I'm happy that you made this video. I've been checking for you daily...fuh real! Happy you're getting therapy...that's a life line. I'm in school right now to be a therapist and every class stresses the importance of self-care. It's no joke. I'm happy you're doing things like your nails, hair, and eating...and I know how hard it is to do those things at times.
Hit the like asap when she said we boycotting Starbucks 👏🏼👏🏼
same ✊
What happened with starbucks?
@CaribGirlBrownSugar they support Israel. Israel is committing a genocide against Palestinians in Gaza right now
betterhelp is Isreali funded tho
@@CaribGirlBrownSugarthey’re funding the IDF, who are killing innocent Palestinian people.
‘Sorry not Starbucks we’re boycotting them’ ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉 another reason to love you!!!!
The fact you’re going through this painful time but you still remind us to boycott. What a wonderful human you are ❤🥺
I feel you on making things look easy. The thing that grates my nerve is someone saying well it sounds like you have it all figured out. I wanna scream no I don’t. That’s why I’m venting, planning, or scheming with you!
Omg yessss
I hope you have a good day, know that JESUS died for you and loves you so very much!❤❤
Daina this is raw and uncut. You're saying what a lot of people feel and scared to say.
Im going through the same thing, ending a 6 year relationship where we lived together 90 percent of it. Shit is so hard and I’ve had all the same thoughts and feelings as you! One day at a time love
That’s about to be me soon! 6 years and married 4 and it’s already hard and I haven’t left yet
@@THEBRITTEFFECTjust give your self space to grieve the end of the relationship and to be sad over the good times…while you know it’s the right decision it’s still going to be a huge shock to the system. I’m struggling but I’m hoping soon I’ll be out of the struggle
I hope you have a good day, know that JESUS died for you and loves you so very much!❤❤
I love how honest this is. Your journey will help so many other people, who also need to know whether their feelings are valid. It’s also not just a divorce. You were with your ex for years! Very different. The main thing is that you’re being honest and taking it each day at a time
Thirties is the new twenties and it’s NEVER to late to start over.
Hey Daina, same girl! Two boys got divorced 2021 and paying all bills working and childcare had me thinking “I’d rather get beaten up on a daily but all my bills are paid whilst I’m a stay at home mum focused on childcare” 😂 I’ve caught myself with those thoughts and had to check myself. I also went straight from my dads home where he paid for everything and gave me money to my ex husband that did the same. Now I’m on my own having to teach myself everything and girl I am so exhausted, I feel as though ima pass out any moment but we move and we got this 💪 my love and respect for you continues to grow through the roof especially since you‘re a caring person and you’re boycotting just like me standing up for defenceless children whilst we try to navigate life on our own. Honestly my prayers are with you and god don’t play with my prayers ❤❤❤ love you lots!
Very relatable video. Not going through a divorce myself, BUT this is still very relatable to any single woman/person, in their 30s, who are starting over and taking care of everything alone after a long term relationship for your entire 20s!
This!! 👏🏻👏🏻🙌🏻
I hope you have a good day, know that JESUS died for you and loves you so very much!❤❤
Daina, same! Exact same, and we needed you to make this video do you get it ? Meaning it’s all for a reason, you cannot fail! We love you
I can totally relate to you. My conditional order came through early November. I hesitated to sign as my head was all over the place. Anyway, when I decided to sign they said it will take acouple of days for the finalise to come through however the next day I received an email to say we were officially divorced. I was shocked, my heart stopped 💔 had to leave work, felt like my whole life ended, felt like someone just died, that's how my divorce felt to me. Like rahhh reality check like you are really on your own now.
I’m proud of you for every time you dissociate then get back up and keep it stepping. I have ADHD and your productivity and drive is crazy to me! You’re unstoppable ❤
I needed to see this. I relate to every point you spoke on. 2 kids later snd we broke up after 8 years and I was 17 at the beginning of it. Made every “adult decision” with him. Was planning a life together and nobody can relate to me. Oh I’m a stay at home mom too 😭 like girl are you in my head wit me😂
Im halfway through the video Sis and i needed to say. Im not saying this because of bias, ive watched you for ages, i know your "flaws" and your strengths. You are your biggest critic and you need to give yourself more credit. You literally are a soldier, an inspiration, you dont need to be frickin Beyonce to be an inspiration, honestly im only subbed to like what 10 channels and youre one of them. Give yourself a pat on the back time to time and ask your mum sister and close freinds for help when you need it. Everything is amazing and it will continue to be amazing because youre amazing and everyone has off days. Take rest and appreciate yourself.
Daina I’m a Taurus too. I have always resonated with you so much. We are honestly so strong everyone depends on people like us but I felt it when u said it would be nice if we could get some help too. Sometimes I just cry all by myself alone when I’m in my own little bubble but women like us we are gifted and we are strong. Like always, sending lots of love and positive energy your way.
This was the best "better help" ad I've ever seen. Straight from the heart, very honest and good to connect with. Also great that you are so honest in your videos.
My head is going to fall off just nodding and agreeing and saying yessssss to every single thing you mention! It’s a ramble of truth. I feel seen boooi
Hey sis, I’m so glad and greatful that you did turn on the camera. Thank you for all your honesty, it’s genuine and helpful. I hear and feel what your saying and its like your stuck in the middle of life and reality. But either way you are going to be absolutely fine. Love and blessings x
I hope you have a good day, know that JESUS died for you and loves you so very much!❤❤
That’s why God has to be your security. Man will always fail you.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I’m so glad you have been finding therapy helpful.
I’m 30 with a 2 year old living in Kent away from my family in London trying to navigate embarking on a new career while still tryna ensure my 2 year old lives a fruitful life. I feel you HEAVYYYY with the “I wish I did this younger”. But I’m learning that your 30s feel ‘old’ when you’re in it. You’ll realise how young you still are once you’re past it. Keep thinking about you, as well as parenting baby girl as best as you can. You’ll get there and the reward would be immense!
I always say "who's the "strong friends" strong friend?? I HEAR you Daina, fully.
Edit: Worked hard to be in a position tro work from home, did it for 9 months and HATED it. I was so depressed and detached from the world and literally never spoke to adults. I'm back "in the office" now and love it.
I relate to so much of this video. I too feel like a lonely loser a lot of the time lmao. I work from home but overnight, so there’s really no place to go. I sleep most of the day and I’m never on schedule with anyone else. I turned 30 this year and I am in a relationship but I’m still alone most of the time. It can be hard especially because my work really affects my mental health and energy. Every day I feel like a child forced to adult and it’s so ghetto. I never could’ve guessed I’d spend most of my 20s being traumatized just to follow it up with a never ending healing journey full of hard ass days😮💨. I know exactly how it feels to constantly freeze and not know what to do next out of fear as well. I could go on but to sum it up thank you for sharing because I do in-fact feel less alone.
Bless you it can be so lonely working from home x maybe find a job that is more sociable or spend more time with your family. I wish you all the happiness in the world 💛
You're inspirational Daina! So genuinely honest. Only randomly found your videos the other day and can reate so much ❤
I feel you on the loneliness of working from home! It’s even worse when you don’t have your own transportation. 😕
You are so lovely and don’t be so hard on yourself. You’ve already been successful and will continue to be ❤
I am without transportation as well. It's hard. No too many busses nearby. I walk a lot to things unless family can help me. This year I hope to have a car. I can get to places easier. Long story. Hey we will get transportation one day. It's okay. We are not alone in this. ❤
Yes Daina to the boycotting!!!! Thank you for mentioning that!
Happy you have someone that you feel comfortable to talk to whenever you need & it’s beautiful to see you powering through and staying strong through the trials & tribulations ❤
Omgoodness this is so relatable for me, especially when you spoke about security and having someone to rely on, it was actually very comforting to know I'm not alone. We're the same age. Thanks for this video
It must be so draining 😭!! Love you! 🙌 you're coming out the tunnel soon! The sun will shine again, trust and know! 💗
You’re the strongest person I know Dee, I hope you let out your emotions & cry & just looking after you & your physical & mental as much as you can! Also don’t let age cheat you from trying to achieve anything because if anyone can, it’s you babe!!! ❤❤❤
Dainà you are a blessing not a "curse" or "misfortune" to ur own existence. You got married and want more to life. Baby gal you gained so much experience with all youve gone thru. Dont regret your life your still young... Keep smiling beautiful ❤
Dianà, you’re a powerhouse and destined for great things. I totally understand feeling vulnerable and a bit lost sometimes while looking like I’ve got it together. It’s not easy but you’ve definitely got this.
loved that you mentioned ur boycotting starbucks!!!
This was so on point. I wish I had heard this years ago when I went through my divorce. It was devastating in all aspects. It's not what I wanted and it didn't really go in my favor. It has effected every area of my life and I've been divorced longer than I was married (9 years). It does get easier but even now after all these years little things come up to remind me of the hell I went through with my ex. Therapy has helped tremendously in my healing but it's not something you just get over. I really appreciate you making these types of videos because there was a lot of things I didn't going through divorce and then after it was final finding myself again.
This made me very emotional, because I think I will be heading down this road. It’s a weird feeling, you know you have to do it but it’s hard to adjust to things. I cannot wish for therapy because I feel I want to speak with someone I do not know! I’ve watched you from a very young age and even showed my ex husband your videos and here we are.. divorce. I hope you heal and better things to come x
You are doing an amazing job re-building your life on your own terms and raising your beautiful niece! 👏 👏 👏
Ugh god knows i needed the comfort of this video. You do not know daina gurlll you do not knowww. Thank you so much
I've enjoyed your content but I always wondered why I could relate to you so much. We're both Taurus. Being a single parent is not easy but knowing that child is behind/ beside you makes you go harder and stronger. I'm looking to move abroad with my kid in the next year and while I'm working on a game plan it's still somewhere I've never been. Many blessings sis, you got this. Therapy is definitely an amazing thing.
Being WITH yourself is such a better way to look at it than being alone. Who is better to be with you than you?! You been with you from day dot and clearly you're the realest person you know! ❤❤
Good for you Daina so proud of you ❤❤❤
I missed your videos and I’m happy that you posted a video. ❤
I've never been married but in a long-term relationship where it's like you truly become one with the person and to break up, it's challenging to do life without them because like you stated everything seems so new. I had to learn to sleep by myself. I never knew something so simple like that would be so difficult. I'm glad you shared your experience it truly felt like we were in the room together. More personable.
Dainà I related to everything you said. I was married to my ex for 12 years and he was very emotionally abusive which is why I left. I moved back home with my mom and even though I was in the house that I grew up in, with family I felt so lonely. My routine had changed, I slept by myself for the first time in 12 years and I missed the person who I thought was my best friend. I was very hard. That whole first year was just me adjusting. Thank you for talking about your experience because a lot of people go through this as well. Wishing you all the best!💜
Thank you for sharing!! Your growth is amazing & trust you are a blessing to someone watching you! Continue on your path & doors will continue to open for you!!!
I have a therapist seen 2014 for my illnesses best thing ever love your channel ❤️
No you are not all over in this video!!!We got you totally!!! BLESS YOU ALWAYS DAINA!! Listen you were doing everything yourself in the marriage but you didn't realise it because the person you were doing it with/ without is an adult so if it wasn't done you can speak to them and maybe get it done or you ignore and do it yourself, now you have a Baby Baby So you can't delegate/remind her to do anything you have to do it openly yourself!!!! BLESSINGS DAINA AND AALIYAH ❤❤❤❤
Stay strong Daina! You are right, You never know who going through the same tings. Thank you, I am here for you. 🙏💫
I feel you ! I left a relationship after almost 6 years. I am now almost 30 and sometimes I feel anxious about my future!
Your Honesty is Impeccable as you Are.
I’m so proud of you, Daina! It’s so hard to see progress while you’re focused on what’s next and how far a goal seems. But you’ve done sooooo so much! It’s amazing and you deserve to celebrate along the way. Feel proud; then get back to it, because you’re actually doing it! There’s beauty in the journey as well, not just in the achievement. If it’s only about the goal, you risk getting there and becoming sad that there’s nothing next. God wants you to know that what He has for you, won’t miss you. He will give you the desires of your heart, because He’s the one who planted them there in the first place. You’re doing an amazing job! And though we’re not physically with you, trust that we’re here for the journey! We believe in you! That’s why we keep showing up! 💛
The way that this is me. Like scarily similar. I'm a taurus, an artist, still trying to make it happen with my career, I'm 4 months out of a relationship with my ex, that I also worked with, in therapy recovering from his raging narcissist abuse. Still trying to work through the trauma, moved out of the apartment we lived in for 3 years, living with family, trying to heal, while planning how to get on with my life and become more independant and starting over in every single aspect of my life. I'm 31 it's actually crazy how much you feel like you have to relearn, unlearn etc. It's so so so comforting to know we're not alone. Feels like a lot women are going through this atm. Healing ourselves and reclaiming our power! It's hard af!!!! Thank you for being to honest about your process. Love always!
I love you girl! Thank you for opening up and speaking to us! Keeping you in my prayers 🙏🏾
I understand 💖🌸💗✨
The fear of starting over is real (I’ve been there) it also makes us second guess our purpose and it creates this “imposter syndrome”. Just know when you start feeling uncomfortable you’re on the right path. I’m a Capricorn and trust me earth signs love our security. But push through your thoughts. Remember we only see a fraction of the big picture. If you know you have a gift then that is your purpose. One bill, one meal at a time. You got this babe!
This is so real. I felt the same way Sis.
So you are not alone. 5 years later and I still feel the pressure/weight of it just being me.
I also was a go-getter while I was married, but it’s like you feel the weight when you alone. It gets better. But it won’t completely go away.
I feel you sis.For me it was 23 ,separation felt good emotionally, my health improved and look better. Financially it it hard specially now that I can and have to start my herbalist business and manage the house and the children by myself with a little help from their dad.
My motivation is looking at all I have been through and I'm still standing strong.By the grace of the all mighty, we can do it sis🙏🏽❤
We are so much alike. I appreciate you so much Daina!
Thank you for sharing ❤️🔥 been feeling this way too lately! You’ve articulated it beautifully and everything resonates with me. God bless you and baby girl!! ❤️🔥
This was a definite need for me
I literally never related to a video so much but 30 is definitely still young do y question it just do it!💃🏽
So happy for u, felt like we got a little therapy advice from u so helpful ur amazing miss ur daily vlogs
Dainá. Thank you so much for your videos. You are so articulate and honest. You sharing your struggles makes us feel better about our struggles.
You will come out of this stronger (you already are), closer to the woman God wants you to be.
Love you.
8:20 THISSSS. Been there, done that, got the T Shirt. I started DJ’ing 11 years ago when I was 34. TERRIFYING. I’m currently in school for Music Production w/20 Y.O.s 🥴… glutton for punishment I guess 😂. & no one ever lends help cause I don’t present like I need any nor do I ask 🤦🏽♀️. I get exactly what you’re saying. Being an older black woman that’s a creative can get TRICKY AF but I have no regrets. Wishing you all the love/support you need on your journey… whatever the journey is ♥️.
You are so strong feels understatement! God has better things coming for you. Sending my warm thoughts and big virtual hugs
Real life Reflections 👌👌
Step by step Daina u will get through i'm praying for u God bless
I hear you . Big big big.
Ur serious......respect beyond.
This was so relatable! Although I'm not going through a divorce or have a child. We're the same age and I really felt the I should've done this in my 20s and the don't help comment.
I’m here right now as I have been separated since March 2023 I moved from my marital home to my parents and now I’m in my own place and it’s traumatizing but it needed to be done 😭😭😭 but the uncomfortable feeling of it all is hard!! Trying to get comfortable with being alone with myself and my son is a wild feeling trying to find out how life is going to flow from here everything is on me now and I know exactly how you feel 😣😣😣 girl!! & we the same age trying to chase goals I should’ve long ago but we gonna be alright!! Always praying for you and thank you for sharing with us ❤❤
Currently going through a break where you lived together and had security in each other right now …….i understand and feel this………..
This video made a lot of sense actually.. thank u daina for just being u and being real.. by being so u validate a lot of people feelings and vise virca we validate yours in a way ❤ good luck for u and for everyone watching this
Going through a divorce rn and I needed thissss thank you 🩷🩷
Despite it all , you seem bright and positive. Sending more positive energy your way 🙏 💕
I needed this so bad. thank you.
Thanks For This!!! I BEEN DIVORCED BUT THE REALITY OF DAILY MOVING ON IS DIFFICULT!!!!❤❤❤❤ THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR HONESTY!!!! I have to Start.....just go and start. ....we got this😊
Daina you answered your own questions. As someone who never liked asking for help and went through a divorce age 30 with 3 kids I thought I was going to die 😅 I went on to have another child and was cheated on 4mths pregnant and when she was 2 I had my first stroke (I’ve had 3 and 2 of them last year) I’m 46 now I met my fiance who is American while disabled and he’s here in Manchester taking care of me. Everyone thought I was mad not taking what crap I was offered by shite men. I got my King the man who has my bone negotiables. He encouraged me to be a fashion designer, I sew crochet and I thought I missed my chance at the London school of fashion when I was 19 and pregnant with my first child. It’s never too late for achieving your goals. Sorry for rambling 😅 💓🫶🏽💓
I love this Diana ❤ girl you are glowing
Yeah you are right staying in a home that was with a long term partner can make you feel lost so getting out is good and also I work from home but I have to use a pc setup so I can’t move to go to cafe or anything. But I’ll try keep busy by doing little things after work like tennis , bible study, visiting friends etc. really help me and also I have a therapist that help me realise we can’t control everything and what stops me so finding things you like, self care, watching. Show, going out for meals or fun things
You look so refreshing and vulnerable. Skin is shining lol ❤
all the single girlies are going through this rn!
Love how honest sis is realise I’m not alone ❤❤❤ xx
we are proud of you ❤
This was helpful.
Stay strong you’re a queen 🫶
Daina.... Wow.... You are gorgeous! Your skin looks amazing
I definitely feel like a bad break up has caused me trust issues to the point I can't put trust into my partner which is a sad thing. We should be able to trust and rely on our partners but in this world.... its a risk.
Stay strong and keep being you ❤❤
Hya Daina you are doing alright i did wonder how you would be living on your own after living with someone for so long. I can relate with you its not easy i know you got aliyah but you were use to adult company. Your strong and am glad you got therapy it really does help❤
I liked you anyway but I have even more love for you when you said you boycotting Starbucks! all the best on this journey Daina you truly deserve the best! X
Miss u sooooo much 😍 made my day with this upload
I've lived on my own for a very very long time and the comments are fascinating. I never knew solo living and responsibilities was so hard for people. My biggest fear is having someone in my home. Eating. Sleeping. Breathing. Raising my water and electricity bill. What if they sleep with the fan on? It's interesting hearing another side
I do get stressed about car issues though. I miss my boyfriend at those times lol
Living alone is tough when you are depressed and there is no one around to check on you.