Ambivalent attachment and treatment with ISTDP | Dr Sia
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- Опубліковано 15 вер 2024
- Hi, I am Dr Sia. I am researcher, psychotherapist, and lecturer. In this video, one of many on attachment, I discuss ambivalent attachment and some of the things I have learnt along the way about ambivalent attachment. I am sure there will be things here you have not heard about before so make sure to stay tuned until the end and share this with anyone you think may be interested in their own attachment patterns. As per usual, it really helps the channel if you subscribe so please do. I also tend to make videos as per request so please do request a video should you feel like it.
I have never felt more understood until learning about ambivalent attachment and finding this video, I can't say thank you enough.
Please keep going with this quality content. Your manner of explaining is super engaging and easy to digest.
Be well Dr. Sia 😊🙏🏾
Thank you kindly for your encouragement!
Amazing! What a great video, I love learning more about attachment styles, and so often people don't talk about the ambivalent style!
Thank you for commenting! Yes some seem less popular than others for some reason.
Thank you Dr. Sia, throughout almost a year of isolation with covid your video has really spoke to me much more than all the other Alan Watts and whatever other philosophic crap ever could. You've given me a much clearer view of myself and my behaviours in this one video and I couldn't be more grateful for that. Peace and love dude, hope you're keeping well and stay safe through these trying times 🖖
my pleasure! Also, thank you for commenting! My apologies for the late reply!
Nearly my entire personality and my toxic religious parents are described in this video. Wow! 😮
Wow this was the most helpful video I’ve seen on this topic. I almost skipped over it but I’m so glad I didn’t. Thank you so much!
My pleasure! And thank you for commenting 🙏🏼
Light bulb moments! 👍🏽
More to come!
Really enjoy watching your videos, as paradoxical as that sounds knowing theres "something" wrong with ones self, its definitely helping people im sure, myself included. I appreciate the time and effort youve put into the videos as there isnt too many videos online about attachment styles. Keep up the hard work. Heres a comment for the algorithm :)
Thank you kindly! It makes absolute sense to me!
This was really educational and appreciated your call to action at the end because I really did value the video and was ready to just exit when it was done but really great job man! Really insightful stuff. Subscribed :)
Thank you kindly for your support and engagement!
Keep creating these videos, keep eating noodles. Great to see fresh ISTDP content out on the inter webs.
Thank you deadlypalms!
Wow, just wow. I am impressed with your knowledge Dr. Sia. You have perfectly described myself. Thank you very much! 👍
Great insight. After listening to a few different attachment style videos, this one def stands out as the best. Thank you for sharing!
I appreciate it very much! 🙏🏼
This is great. Thank you for the content.
I always think of the movie Coming to America and the potential wife who when asked her likes and interests, she says, “Whatever You Like.”
Yes exactly hahahahahahaha. So good! So good!
I feel so understood.
It's funny- I would love a video on how to parse out the difference between an ambivalent attachment organization versus a borderline organization. Or what these two schemas look like together ...
For myself- my therapist has said I am ambivalent attachment and I have also had a diagnosis of BDP ( which I don't necessarily agree with).
The anxiety, fear and pressure I feel to make any form of self based decision has been crippling. Balancing the need to honor self and other has been a Venn diagram I can't seem to make work.
Idk if this makes sense or is of interest to anyone...
I enjoy your content Dr. Sia.
I'll make a video about this for sure. Look if it is Ambivalent attachment we are looking at Dependent PD not BPD. Two attachments cannot coexist. I'll make a video about it.
@@drsia2323 You can't have a primary or baseline attachment style and a secondary presenting one?
With the case of bpd- taking into account for the diverse way this disorder presents, I am hardly ever if at all triggered by children or my friendships. And I have deep, satisfying, intimate, relationships; where I can express vulnerability, be present, reflective and able to access more of my PFC.
And I am aware of an internal constancy across time.
However- in romantic partnerships as well as relationships with an unfair power deferential- I become dysregulated and disappear within myself. These relationships are my "repetition compulsion". They mimic the emotional environment of my traumas with an uncanny likeness. Because I haven't integrated the traumas and subsequently the lessons- I am likely to repeat.
I am not obviously a professional- this is just my own lived experience.
I also think diagnostically, I may have more bod traits than the full disorder.
Does this make sense or clarify what I was trying to communicate in my previous msg?
Look forward to your video.
Take care
@@happygucci5094 No you cannot have a primary and secondary and whatnot. When people self report it all looks dimensional and or multilayered and whatnot but in reality it is degrees of severity of the same attachment style. See the problem is that behaviours are are mistaken as attachment indicators whereas if you examine the function of seemingly avoidant attachment behaviours and then ambivalent the next and disorganised the third there is a function hidden underneath and that is what shows the actual attachment. In your case you are sounding like a person with many healed disorganised or ambivalent wounds, functioning secure at most times and still healing your disorganised wounds. That is my take. Does that resonate?
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No, this didn't help because there is contradictory information even among other academics. Thanks again.
What a great video, very informative, new subscriber
Great to have you here Wellington!
Awesome thanks Dr. Sia!
My pleasure!
Great video ✨ it helped me to understand myself a bit more, thank you
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you Dr Sia very helpful information
my pleasure!
Good info
Looking at your attachment descriptions I can’t see where to put the common client who I see as ambivalent however is typically hurt and angry, resentful, and I would say preoccupied with their own hurt feelings. And this description of the ambivalent as the caretaker is at odds with Crittenden’s model where she sees the caretaker as avoidant where they take on the more parental role of caretaking, quite different to seeking regulation through escalation or helplessness.
Handsome and knowledgeable 😁✨🙏
Thank you kindly Vanessa!
Excellent video!
Thank you for commenting! My apologies for the late reply!
Just wow, so meeee
thank you for commenting! My apologies for the late reply!
This is me 💯! I really want to move from this
I am happy to hear that you are ready to move! My apologies for the late reply! Somehow this got missed!
It was nice explanation but I thought you were going to tell us in a detail about the treatment. Like it says in the title.
Thank you for commenting! I am happy to develop a more im detail video about the treatment with ISTDP! Keep am eye out! Thank you for being in this space!
@@drsia2323 I'd also like to see this video :)
Thank you!
Thank you!
Can a person have disorganized and ambivalent and avoidant attachments all at once? I can vouche for no amount of meditating, journaling and affirmations working!
Great question! No they cannot really. If it is all three then it is actually Disorganized with behaviours that are avoidant and Ambivalent (sometimes called fronts) within a disorganized structure. So a person who is avoidant might avoid to prevent criticism but a person who is disorganized might avoid to prevent criticism but runs right into criticism from within anyway. The behaviours look the same but the base is widely different.
@@yasminevine That is a great start! Do you have attachment based therapy available to you where you are? Do you have access to ISTDP therapists for example? If so, can you afford to go?
@@yasminevine Not that I am aware of no. I hope it works out
The child isn't allowed to feel safe , with there unsafe emotions
exactly!
I can relate very much to this, thank you
Thank you kindly for commenting and so sorry for the late reply!
Can you be my therapist???
Yes I can. My details are in my video captions.
Lit 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Thank you for commenting! My apologies for the late reply!
Do you offer virtual therapy sessions?
thank you for commenting! My apologies for the late reply! yes I do. My info is in every video description.
What's your IG handle?
@doctorsia