An adult does not get sucked into a situation.....a child does. Back and Mepham took advantage of Reiha and abused her. He indirectly killed her, and is a disgrace. They should have been dismissed the moment it was discovered. He should have been charged with child abuse. In my opinion he is a peodophile. Mepham should not have been allowed to continue to work with children either. I feel very sad for Reiha's parents. I hope they find some peace. "Since the lovely are sleeping, go sleep thou with them, Reiha."
6:44 he's 39 she's 13 she's under age, that's simply a crime and he's a teacher a person in a position of trust who works with children and he was obscure with his involvement with Reiha , he knew he was commiting a crime and didn't care
It's not your fault or your husbands. Yous weren't to know. Our children are so vulnerable and easily trusting. And we as parents are so easily convinced and trusting of our children also. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Both Back and Mepham need to be put in prison! What miserable, dispicable people! Who does those things to a child? Sick, sick, sick! Utteri disgusting that a 39 year old man would be with a minor child of 13! God will take care of all if you that did this child wrong!
That's so sad 💔😭😭 Btw it is never ok for any student to engage in a romantic relationship with their teacher I don't understand how so many people think it's ok to do
@@kefelonia1 Some devices don't allow obvious swear words....spell check brings it up as "ducking". So does my laptop. And UA-cam is now heavily censored.......you can't use certain words without your comment being removed and being banned from posting for hours, days or months, or having your channel shut down.
.I survived a very serious suicide attempt as a teenager 40 years ago and eventually trained as a special needs teacher. So I could use what Id learnt to help other kids like me.. Thankyou for your courage in sharing.. it will raise awareness and help to stop other young girls from being manipulated by pedophiles like her teacher... my heart aches for you both... your courage.and determination to do right by your beloved daughter is inspirational....Godbless you both.
Him getting involved with Reiha started something that could never end well. I think she prolly was sooo happy around him, thought she loved him and didn't look ahead to a time that it would have to end. He had no business with her at all and maye giving her false hopes. I can just imagine the devestation for her when it was going to end bc when you want to be around a certain person nothing else matters. I am so sorry that your precious daughterdid this at such a yung age She sure did have her whole life ahead of her. At that age u don't realize "things will get better" and they do.
Inappropriate on every level and he should lose his licence if there was insufficient evidence to prosecutor him for anything else... certainly grooming behaviour. Totally inappropriate to text a student, including her sleeping at his house! Not something I would like as a parent !
I find this story very very sad and feel that this young girl was let down completely by every one of the govt departments that should have protected her, the school, doctors, teachers and the police. I find it very hard to accept that with all the laws and regulations and safeguards in place , the very person that these laws were meant to protect seemed to be invisible.... It's funny that the govt seems to sort out laws involving petty things like parking fines and unpaid court fines but when it comes to actually protecting the lives of vulnerable people in society the laws fall far short of what a normal person would consider adequate....
This story is deeply sad and very distressing to any parent i this country. That poor young girl . The whole thing is so F*cked up. Her parents are so brave and so strong. Kia kaha 🤎❤🖤
This happened to me at intermediate back in 92, however my teacher used the fear I had of failure and my father and he used to follow me home in his car then drink down the pub at the end of my street causing me to never leave the house. It breaks my heart to know this is still happening, especially with the 24/7 access of cellphones ect. New Zealand has a long sad history of not protecting the young when it comes to people with power and the agencies that are supposed to help. To the parents, there is nothing you could have done when it comes to a predator that is in a position of authority. Just letting her know that you loved her unconditionally and were always there for her was all that she would’ve needed and it seems you did that. It’s not your fault and u did nothing wrong. The system failed, not you. She seemed like such a lovely sweet girl who had her innocents stolen. Kia kaha. Prayers to you both.
@Bellenickma2am Your comment here about a teacher stalking, or harassing, you still carries alot of power thirty years later. Thank you for speaking. The compelling witness of Reiha's parents has caused me to think about thirteen year old girls. The intense crushes felt, the huge desire to be noticed, to feel special. And what child psychologists describe as "testing their feminine power", a kind of playacting for their older selves. I heard a young woman confess in a recent interview that she and her teenage friends registered fake profiles on Tinder. They would obsessively spend all their lunchtimes and breaks comparing how many matches and likes they'd received. The secretive thrill of their game. And, yes, testing their attractiveness and desirability on an adult digital platform. She said they kept it as a game, and noone met up with a match. Still .... /I wonder whether parents could be offered skill sessions for some of the vulnerabilities and challenges their young teen students, and their friends, may encounter. Peace up beautiful Reiha 🌟
The language this teacher used in text messages is disturbing beyond words . The lead cop was on the school board of trustess , Geesh. . As for the Teachers council , all they did was bar him from teaching . The Coroners court has little if no effect .All the Coroners court does for the family is put them through the grief and heartache yet again. The court can make recommendations but there is no legislation to enforce any Coroners court decision . .This couple have been let down all along this journey . I truly feel for them indeed :)
Mr back have no back bone as a teacher.. Mr back should be teaching not taking advantage of those student's Mr back failed reiha not steering her in a discipline strict pathway. School failed to protect reiha.
People was still praying children back you were young it was just hidden people in 60 70 use brush abuse under the carpet and many man like this was protected
Sad story. Such a beautiful deep sensitive girl. I'd noticed majority of young person from suicidal they seem to go with their feeling. If she's just abit older mature she'll always remember how important how much her family loved her this would of never happened. Ofcourse the school teacher he's one big problem.
Absolute bollox. You think ANY of my children could sleep at a teachers house that’s inappropriate your mad, she were way too young to handle it. He groomed her how tragic for her!! Her poor father and mother 😪😪
I wonder where Sam Back and Mepham are today? I hope they are not teaching young children or grooming others. RIP Reiha, too young to be groomed like that.
I didn’t really understand where this school was. At 1 point they said boarding school but I’m not sure if that means she was away at school. Did no one notice that she was spending the night over at his house? If it was a boarding school, shouldn’t they have made sure a dorm mom or someone check the kids? If she was living at home, where/how was she sleeping over or even going to his residence?
does not really say what happened between her and the teacher, was he just listening to her and supporting her or was there actual misconduct? All it said was there was texting none of which they showed was sexual, it said the woman teacher was seen hugging the child. Today its a crime for a teacher to hug a child. Im more curious about the parentsvrole in all this, why the girl felt she had to go to teachers fir support and encouragement instead of her parents? When I was a 5th grader I had a really hard time at home and with my mom who never liked me, I used to show up at school hungry with dirty clothes and snarly hair, I didnt hardly speak. My teacher who was a young well to do woman in her 20s used to invite me over to her house for the weekend sometimes. I would sleep over there and clean up, I learned how to use a toothbrush and my hair was brushed and one time she even bought me new jeans, I remember that, I never had new clean clothes before. I used to just go around with her in the city and we would do stuff like go to the city park. One of her hobbies was black and white photography and she showed me how to operate a camera and we would develop the photos in a public darkroom in the city. It all sounds a little creepy but it was all perfectly innocent and this was just a genuine young woman who cared about children. The photos were just of us wearing silly hats and normal stuff like that. There was never a suggestion of anything creepy and her caring was and the time spent in a clean enviroment were some of the few bright spots of a truly awful and neglected childhood. This was in the 1970's. Now everything is criminalized but most people especially teachers are actually caring and its the predators and criminals who are quite rare.
Groomed by someone 2 thirds your age…. Jesus you should know as a 13yr old when your teacher is acting weird, not much sympathy, she chose to get emotionally involved.
i remember a teacher that was having an affair with a 13 year old- they got married in the end- there was alot of hanky panky with teachers- lots- its dismissed by everyone because it has never stopped- its in plain sight
Why are people who commit suicide given more respect than fentanyl dealers? fentanyl dealing is a victimless crime. people choose to use the substance, they aren't forced to.
That song is despicable because it describes a grown-a$$ adult male as a helpless „victim” of a child - The EXACT NARRATIVE CATHOLIC PRIESTS USED AND USE TO THIS DAY openly blaming 12-13 year old boys and girls NEVER PRIESTS.
@@Sad_Bumper_Sticker It's about a student, aged unspecified, who doesn't hide her affection for her teacher. The Catholic establishment was involved in premeditated grooming of minors.... The two scenarios have zero in common.
oh well, shouldnt judge people or hate on others for having a relationship no matter what age, accept, support, build. or. deny, judge and destroy. make your choices. it all your faults for every suicide. never forget that. all she wanted was acceptance, if you all had supported her relationship she would be happy and alive, trust me on that. sorry girl, they all failed you. they failed me too.
These teachers were trying to help her. The parents are not seeing how they were not understanding and by blaming the teachers they pushed their daughter further to the brink and when they were successful in cutting the teacher out Reiha takes her life. Couldn't they see the creative daughter that was so different that they then blamed her by blaming the teacher. That pushed her over the edge. Heard and seen this before. I think it was despicable blaming the teachers for their own mess (parents)
No! The parents aren't to blame for anything. Back is one of these people who get off on playing mind games, he's a narcissistic idiot and used his position for predatory gain. Now a young teenage girl has taken her life and her parents are left to grieve. Her parents have been transparent during the interview, but where is Back to explain his folly. Were Reiha's parents neglectful? No, they were blindsided, Because Back is a devious individual with a false sense of entitlement.
@@pattitehaate3858 That is a serious assertion against the individual. He has no history as you refer to him having. It is this sort of rush to judgment of the individual that remains the source of all problems in this case. It will surely drive people up the wall....just blind false accusations and over the top of a girl who disagrees with you all...can you not see?
An adult does not get sucked into a situation.....a child does. Back and Mepham took advantage of Reiha and abused her. He indirectly killed her, and is a disgrace.
They should have been dismissed the moment it was discovered. He should have been charged with child abuse. In my opinion he is a peodophile. Mepham should not have been allowed to continue to work with children either. I feel very sad for Reiha's parents. I hope they find some peace. "Since the lovely are sleeping, go sleep thou with them, Reiha."
6:44 he's 39 she's 13 she's under age, that's simply a crime and he's a teacher a person in a position of trust who works with children and he was obscure with his involvement with Reiha , he knew he was commiting a crime and didn't care
It's not your fault or your husbands. Yous weren't to know. Our children are so vulnerable and easily trusting. And we as parents are so easily convinced and trusting of our children also. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Both Back and Mepham need to be put in prison! What miserable, dispicable people! Who does those things to a child? Sick, sick, sick! Utteri disgusting that a 39 year old man would be with a minor child of 13! God will take care of all if you that did this child wrong!
plenty do on the daily and worse
That's so sad 💔😭😭 Btw it is never ok for any student to engage in a romantic relationship with their teacher
I don't understand how so many people think it's ok to do
So sad
Disgusting and despicable that poor girl he was a predator should be in jail
Struck off the teacher's list, shallow outcome. He knew what he was doing to Reiha, fcukin predator got off scot free.
Spellcheck not working????????????
@@kefelonia1 Some devices don't allow obvious swear words....spell check brings it up as "ducking". So does my laptop. And UA-cam is now heavily censored.......you can't use certain words without your comment being removed and being banned from posting for hours, days or months, or having your channel shut down.
Those 2 adults should be in prison for life.
that Mepham woman is as sick as her boyfriend was. how could she allow that? yuck
.I survived a very serious suicide attempt as a teenager 40 years ago and eventually trained as a special needs teacher. So I could use what Id learnt to help other kids like me.. Thankyou for your courage in sharing.. it will raise awareness and help to stop other young girls from being manipulated by pedophiles like her teacher... my heart aches for you both... your courage.and determination to do right by your beloved daughter is inspirational....Godbless you both.
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Its the duty and obligation of all adults to look after and protect our community of children. Only the monsters think they can prey on them.
Here in the U.S. he would have had at least been taken away in handcuffs and lost his position. He is a sexual predator and should have been arrested.
This mother is a wonderful,insightful,loving woman.. she nailed it to a tee,the situatuion and the reasons
What a tragic and extremely difficult story to listen to! My heart goes out to both parents and her friends and loved ones.
Him getting involved with Reiha started something that could never end well. I think she prolly was sooo happy around him, thought she loved him and didn't look ahead to a time that it would have to end. He had no business with her at all and maye giving her false hopes. I can just imagine the devestation for her when it was going to end bc when you want to be around a certain person nothing else matters. I am so sorry that your precious daughterdid this at such a yung age She sure did have her whole life ahead of her. At that age u don't realize "things will get better" and they do.
Inappropriate on every level and he should lose his licence if there was insufficient evidence to prosecutor him for anything else... certainly grooming behaviour. Totally inappropriate to text a student, including her sleeping at his house! Not something I would like as a parent !
Blame jacinda
@@kefelonia1 Jacinta wasn’t the Prime Minister in 2014 🤦🏼♀️
people who commit suicide are perpetrators, NOT victims.
She was a beautiful girl. How sad.
I feel so sad for the parents.
RIP Reiha 😢...God bless your family and friends
What a beautiful young lady. I am so sorry.
I find this story very very sad and feel that this young girl was let down completely by every one of the govt departments that should have protected her, the school, doctors, teachers and the police. I find it very hard to accept that with all the laws and regulations and safeguards in place , the very person that these laws were meant to protect seemed to be invisible.... It's funny that the govt seems to sort out laws involving petty things like parking fines and unpaid court fines but when it comes to actually protecting the lives of vulnerable people in society the laws fall far short of what a normal person would consider adequate....
I could not agree more with your statement and sentiments.
The best way for teens ever to overcome their problems is to tell their parents. There's a lot who care and want to help. Many will.
Old back needs a hiding
nah a boot ride
This story is deeply sad and very distressing to any parent i this country. That poor young girl . The whole thing is so F*cked up. Her parents are so brave and so strong. Kia kaha 🤎❤🖤
This happened to me at intermediate back in 92, however my teacher used the fear I had of failure and my father and he used to follow me home in his car then drink down the pub at the end of my street causing me to never leave the house. It breaks my heart to know this is still happening, especially with the 24/7 access of cellphones ect. New Zealand has a long sad history of not protecting the young when it comes to people with power and the agencies that are supposed to help.
To the parents, there is nothing you could have done when it comes to a predator that is in a position of authority. Just letting her know that you loved her unconditionally and were always there for her was all that she would’ve needed and it seems you did that. It’s not your fault and u did nothing wrong. The system failed, not you. She seemed like such a lovely sweet girl who had her innocents stolen. Kia kaha. Prayers to you both.
@Bellenickma2am Your comment here about a teacher stalking, or harassing, you still carries alot of power thirty years later. Thank you for speaking. The compelling witness of Reiha's parents has caused me to think about thirteen year old girls. The intense crushes felt, the huge desire to be noticed, to feel special. And what child psychologists describe as "testing their feminine power", a kind of playacting for their older selves. I heard a young woman confess in a recent interview that she and her teenage friends registered fake profiles on Tinder. They would obsessively spend all their lunchtimes and breaks comparing how many matches and likes they'd received. The secretive thrill of their game. And, yes, testing their attractiveness and desirability on an adult digital platform. She said they kept it as a game, and noone met up with a match. Still .... /I wonder whether parents could be offered skill sessions for some of the vulnerabilities and challenges their young teen students, and their friends, may encounter. Peace up beautiful Reiha 🌟
RIP Reiha
I’m sorry why was she staying at her teachers at only 13
I would of never let my daughter do that
I would never let my daughter stay at the age of 13.
I fkng reckon
It sounds like she was at a boarding school so her parents didn't know what she was doing.
Absolutely, could not have said it better myself..................
Beautifully said and absolutely correct!
rest easy Reiha, I’ll always remember your big smile
They let him teach? What!!!!!!!
Sorry for ur lost💙
The language this teacher used in text messages is disturbing beyond words . The lead cop was on the school board of trustess , Geesh. . As for the Teachers council , all they did was bar him from teaching . The Coroners court has little if no effect .All the Coroners court does for the family is put them through the grief and heartache yet again. The court can make recommendations but there is no legislation to enforce any Coroners court decision . .This couple have been let down all along this journey . I truly feel for them indeed :)
That's terrible. I'm so sorry for your loss. Why was the teacher allowed to still teach after?
Sorry for your loss
Poor child. She was confused and a victim of a crime. She didn’t have age and experience to know that. I feel for the parents. My condolences. ❤
Sorry for your loss...Sad for you all and sad to listen to...R.I.L.Reiha
Mr back have no back bone as a teacher.. Mr back should be teaching not taking advantage of those student's Mr back failed reiha not steering her in a discipline strict pathway.
School failed to protect reiha.
Very sad story. But a 13 year old and a 39 year old man???? I was still playing with barbie dolls at that age. Guess times have changed.
People was still praying children back you were young it was just hidden people in 60 70 use brush abuse under the carpet and many man like this was protected
Just horrendous sad sad loss
RIP Reiha!😢
OMG this is brutal.
Fly high Reiha ❤❤❤
Sad story. Such a beautiful deep sensitive girl. I'd noticed majority of young person from suicidal they seem to go with their feeling. If she's just abit older mature she'll always remember how important how much her family loved her this would of never happened. Ofcourse the school teacher he's one big problem.
If there’s a book on her story I would like to read it? Thanks
Reiha, you'll be avenged with justice for loosing your place at school
Absolute bollox. You think ANY of my children could sleep at a teachers house that’s inappropriate your mad, she were way too young to handle it. He groomed her how tragic for her!! Her poor father and mother 😪😪
Why did the parents allow this to develop?
They didn't. The guy was arrested after this.
So sad☹️😢
Rip reiha
so sorry for you loss rip to your daughter
He should be in jail!... this system sucks
Those phone calls can be traced, both Back and Methan should be charged she assisted Back they were both predetors RIP dear Reiha
100% manipulation. Just sad...such a beautiful girl. x
I wonder where Sam Back and Mepham are today? I hope they are not teaching young children or grooming others. RIP Reiha, too young to be groomed like that.
Pretty sure she runs a website called whoke heart being, believe it or not.......beyond fucked. Rip Reiha
Oh Mr CG such a sad life event. I have no doubt Jay was waiting for his Mum and that they are free of care and worry together again.❤
This makes me sick 💔
Rest in Peace and Love Reiha, you beautiful, beautiful Girl!
My heart goes out to you.
This shouldn't happen shouldn't happen at all these predictors need to be stopped.
Woah! 13 years old and lured by a teacher 😩
I didn’t really understand where this school was. At 1 point they said boarding school but I’m not sure if that means she was away at school. Did no one notice that she was spending the night over at his house? If it was a boarding school, shouldn’t they have made sure a dorm mom or someone check the kids? If she was living at home, where/how was she sleeping over or even going to his residence?
Back should be in Prison for her death. He is responsible for her dying, she was still a minor at a very tender age
Put him in jail
Bless ❤
Back should be jailed the KF
So sad for your loss,
So her parents knew she was spending nights with her teacher?
Epstein and Ghislaine.
does not really say what happened between her and the teacher, was he just listening to her and supporting her or was there actual misconduct? All it said was there was texting none of which they showed was sexual, it said the woman teacher was seen hugging the child. Today its a crime for a teacher to hug a child. Im more curious about the parentsvrole in all this, why the girl felt she had to go to teachers fir support and encouragement instead of her parents? When I was a 5th grader I had a really hard time at home and with my mom who never liked me, I used to show up at school hungry with dirty clothes and snarly hair, I didnt hardly speak. My teacher who was a young well to do woman in her 20s used to invite me over to her house for the weekend sometimes. I would sleep over there and clean up, I learned how to use a toothbrush and my hair was brushed and one time she even bought me new jeans, I remember that, I never had new clean clothes before. I used to just go around with her in the city and we would do stuff like go to the city park. One of her hobbies was black and white photography and she showed me how to operate a camera and we would develop the photos in a public darkroom in the city. It all sounds a little creepy but it was all perfectly innocent and this was just a genuine young woman who cared about children. The photos were just of us wearing silly hats and normal stuff like that. There was never a suggestion of anything creepy and her caring was and the time spent in a clean enviroment were some of the few bright spots of a truly awful and neglected childhood. This was in the 1970's. Now everything is criminalized but most people especially teachers are actually caring and its the predators and criminals who are quite rare.
AROHAMAI REIHA WHANAU
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no comment so sad😢
Groomer
Groomed by someone 2 thirds your age…. Jesus you should know as a 13yr old when your teacher is acting weird, not much sympathy, she chose to get emotionally involved.
NZ's Myra Hindley and Ian fucken Brady.
Wtf
Back needs more than a hiding
i remember a teacher that was having an affair with a 13 year old- they got married in the end- there was alot of hanky panky with teachers- lots- its dismissed by everyone because it has never stopped- its in plain sight
how qll sadness
Yuk
He was mentally messing with her is he in jail yet
disgusting predator
if back was brown hmmmmm i wonder
Yes indeed 🤔
White privileges.
Why are people who commit suicide given more respect than fentanyl dealers?
fentanyl dealing is a victimless crime. people choose to use the substance, they aren't forced to.
What does this completely irrelevant, idiotic rant have to do with the topic in this video?
Whakamamae
Reiha looks like a young Janis Joplin!.
''''Don't stand so close to me'''' - The Police
That song is despicable because it describes a grown-a$$ adult male as a helpless „victim” of a child - The EXACT NARRATIVE CATHOLIC PRIESTS USED AND USE TO THIS DAY openly blaming 12-13 year old boys and girls NEVER PRIESTS.
@@Sad_Bumper_Sticker It's about a student, aged unspecified, who doesn't hide her affection for her teacher. The Catholic establishment was involved in premeditated grooming of minors.... The two scenarios have zero in common.
oh well, shouldnt judge people or hate on others for having a relationship no matter what age, accept, support, build. or.
deny, judge and destroy. make your choices. it all your faults for every suicide. never forget that.
all she wanted was acceptance, if you all had supported her relationship she would be happy and alive, trust me on that.
sorry girl, they all failed you. they failed me too.
These teachers were trying to help her. The parents are not seeing how they were not understanding and by blaming the teachers they pushed their daughter further to the brink and when they were successful in cutting the teacher out Reiha takes her life. Couldn't they see the creative daughter that was so different that they then blamed her by blaming the teacher. That pushed her over the edge. Heard and seen this before. I think it was despicable blaming the teachers for their own mess (parents)
No! The parents aren't to blame for anything. Back is one of these people who get off on playing mind games, he's a narcissistic idiot and used his position for predatory gain. Now a young teenage girl has taken her life and her parents are left to grieve. Her parents have been transparent during the interview, but where is Back to explain his folly. Were Reiha's parents neglectful? No, they were blindsided, Because Back is a devious individual with a false sense of entitlement.
@@pattitehaate3858 That is a serious assertion against the individual. He has no history as you refer to him having. It is this sort of rush to judgment of the individual that remains the source of all problems in this case. It will surely drive people up the wall....just blind false accusations and over the top of a girl who disagrees with you all...can you not see?
You sound and talk like Back
@@pattitehaate3858 Take a look at the maori youth suicide rate....it is shocking and is continually growing....Back didn't cause all that too!
@@jamesbaker9677 the focus is on Reiha and her parents concerning suicide. And Backs over familiarity ie texting to help her with what?
Such a tragedy I am so sorry you are still moving forward I honor that in both of you!
so sad for your loss, by a sexual defiant who thought get away with this sick man again
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