I've been on dating apps or sites, for over 10 years. I've met hundreds of girls over the years, but only dated around maybe 6 or 7 of them, had maybe 3 actual relationships. Out of the tons that ive met, honestly, i was only attracted to two or three from what i can remember. Over the years ive noticed the quality of people on them get progressively worse, less and less people want anything serious, its all a repetitive game of swiping, matching, messaging, mindless conversation, unmatching, repeat. Hardly anyone wants to meet in person anymore compared to just a couple years ago, which is another issue. If theres no intent to meet, its pointless for me, ive never gone onto those kind of platforms in search for penpals. I wanted to find that special person to be with for so many years, but never found it. Im at the point where I dont feel like dating apps work unless you're just looking for casual stuff and to jump from person to person constantly, which isnt very mentally healthy in the long run. If I cant meet someone in the real world, I'm not gonna bother anymore. Im hoping someday that will change, and ill find more practical ways to meet great people, because from my personal experiences over the years, its mostly been pretty awful and irritating
So yesterday morning I was thinking of sending you a note about dating apps, and then the angels sent this to me instead! Lol I hate dating apps... I have always hated dating websites, and I even remember answering a singles ad back in the '90s! Never did that again!! Lolol 🤣🤣 My friends made me write a list, they've all met their soulmates on dating apps, and I am the only single one in our group. 🙄 Luckily I enjoy my own company. But they're up my ass about the apps. I would much rather invoke a similar prayer to yours... 🙏 The person who has been with me through many lifetimes passed away April last year. And even though we were just dearest friends in this lifetime, it has made me wonder if I am supposed to finish this lifetime alone. I know that sounds dramatic...😭 In fact I wondered what he mastered so darn RIGHT to get to go before me! 🤣 At any rate, thank you once again for your reassurance & a nudge in the right direction. This is absolutely your gift. 🤗🤗🙏🏻
Online dating and dating apps have completely destroyed the dating world. It really gives no hope to those of us still waiting for someone to connect with. At 53, I am completely out of hope. But damn, you say “if it doesn’t happen in this lifetime, maybe it will happen in my next lifetime”. What a depressing thought. We should all get to experience love. Love is absolutely not too much to ask for. The universe is a cruel place. My heart is broken.
It sure looks impressive the 100K subscribers! It's refreshing to hear somebody else thinks that we come back. I've been thinking that a long time! When I was younger I was afraid to be alone that cause me to make a lot of mistakes now I've been alone for a couple of years and I truly have peace Yes I want to be out there and meet people but being alone is okay also. I can relate 100%!
I ditched the dating apps in 2020. Was happy on my own. Did things I loved. I met a guy at work- also a nurse, calm, handsome, same interests. I hit a jackpot!! Or so I thought. I just left him a couple weeks ago. Pathological liar. I never had a panic attack before I met him. I had several because of him. Now I need sleeping pills every single night. I’m going to therapy for the first time in my life. I clench my jaw all day, my chest is constantly tight. I’m traumatized. I can’t imagine letting anyone else into my life again.
Dating apps have worked for younger people in their 20s and 30s. My family members and friends family members ended getting married. At my age in my late 60s hasn’t worked well for me. Some were scams. Thank goodness I was smart enough to detect the scams. I dated a few men. Some were very nice and respectful but no connection. One man pursued me and we know each other for over a year. We connect snd go back and forth. We enjoy each other when we’re together . We don’t see each other often but that’s ok. He’s still a mystery to me. He chases me . I like the attention. J have no expectations. I just enjoy my moments and attention when we’re together. He does as well. The universe seem to have brought us together.
I like to use the apps to meet people who live near by me. It's the same as meeting a stranger on the street, but you just agree online first. The universe can send someone through a dating app much easier than in daily life. (Especially since I work with kids all day and never run into singles)
Jonathan, I can completely relate to this video 100%. When I first started online dating I felt like if I didn't connect with someone that there was something wrong with me. After several failed relationships. I decided to take a step back for the last 4 years. I recently joined Match. I have to tell you my attitude is different because the way I think about myself is different. Although I've only been on for 3 days I have already been tested. My meeting is I caught someone in a lie and the old me would have closed the app up immediately. The new me was grateful that the universe showed me who this person was quickly before I invested any time in him. I have to say my Outlook is that I am open and ready when the universe introduced me to my long-lasting partner.
I’ve been leaning into Buddhism and another UA-cam guy I listen to said that “letting go of attachment” was a misinterpretation he said that it was actually “letting go of craving” so I’m attached to eventually finding a life partner I can pairbond with and I’m working on myself to be ready for that to happen sometime. But I’m letting go of the craving for a specific outcome, just open to what may come. Did that make sense? Thankyou Jonathan I love how honest you are, how you refuse to speak pretty little lies just to comfort and mollycoddle. You’re pretty savage sometimes sir and I love that it really MOVES me into action. I’ve begun reading all your book recommendations! Thankyou for your time and attention to this🙏💜🔥🔥🔥
This makes sense. You can’t crave a specific outcome and you’ve got to allow yourself to let go of what and who isn’t meant for you. With joy, and a happy heart. I think if people were honest they’d admit they usually have signs and feelings that something/someone wasn’t meant/right for them. But because they’re craving a certain outcome, they choose to ignore it.
As a practicing Buddhist for 30 years now, the concept of letting go of "desire", or "attachment", or "craving", never really made sense to me. Until I understood that it is "attachment to a particular outcome." The answer is equanimity. If you can get yourself to be OK with any outcome, then it frees you up mentally to be a lot more serene. And serenity = happiness. Not always easy to do, but a real game-changer. And equanimity doesn't mean indifference, you can get to that state and still have a passion for certain things and people in life. 😌
Thank you for this session. It explains why men see the dating sites differently than women do. I am no longer active on a site, but the site keeps me on, so I still get men responding with interest. Apparently their interest is different than mine. I can recognize them as "booty call types of interest" and call them out as such. It makes the disappear quickly. I am a student of Abraham also, so really appreciated your spiritual prayer bringing forth your "real" relationship. It will come to you and you both will deserve to be in it.
great video thankyou 🙏 im 62, mostly enjoying the online experience but I do approach it with an open mind, no expectations & ever ready to block those who show themselves as flaky (you get to learn rather quickly) ... have dealt with all kinds and used to get all upset about it. now nah. there's all sorts of men & women out there in the online world both good & bad. I only want one good one! so maybe one day I may meet my ideal partner online ... maybe I won't.... but I'm discerning and open to that idea. meanwhile.... I get on with making my own life beautiful, enjoy the simple life without expectations & appreciate being alive 😊
This was very refreshing, thank you! I've been thinking about the dating apps and filled one out, twice and then deleted them before even trying. I heard a voice in my head and it sounded much like the prayer you just offered. I do believe if I'm supposed to love again, God will provide because he's done and excellent job so far. I'm learning, I'm making lots of new female friends in my community and I'm okay on my own...for now. We are eternal spiritual beings made for love and to give love. I've heard it put this way, "When the student is ready, the teacher will appear" and I believe this. I still have a lot of living to do I pray and I'm okay for now doing it alone. Not interested in hundreds of dates, I'd take just a few! 😉
I appreciate you Jonathon for sharing your personal yearnings, beliefs, and heart with us in this video. While my own dating experience is very different than yours I can relate to a great deal of what you said. My prayer is that God will draw us near to the path of love which I believe has been created for each of us. ❤️
I've only met bad guys online. It makes me so sad. If they're not bad, they're kind of a loser. I don't think the same can be said for women. At least I hope. But the men I've met have been either predators or obsessed with video games and porn. I was hoping that it's just because I'm in a small area.
I’m with you, Jonathon. The reason why I’m still a dating app virgin is because I have always believed that the best way to meet “the one” is to just allow the universe to do its thing and one day fate will bring him/her to us. This is how I met for my two long term relationships. When I think in this way I lose that sense of daily urgency and effort to make it happen. I’ve been single now for 9 months and although men have approached me with interest in various places/ situations, I have yet to meet someone I feel any chemistry with and it’s been disappointing. But I am also wondering if I am emotionally and mentally ready to even meet anyone. I do want to get in that state of mind where I feel “good and secure” even if I’m by myself. However I am still curious about what a dating app is all about and want to experience it one day. Lol
I would love to meet the last love of my life, the old fashioned way. Like going to a club to listen to the band, or dance. Even though you didn’t KNOW all the regulars personally, people knew each other, and if you behaved badly, everyone would know about it. People were different.
I esp liked & appreciated ur "prayer" at the end, Jonathon. U hav garnered such wisdom through ur life experiences..& thx 4 sharing this w/all of us 🙂🙂👍👍
I’m in the same boat as you. You are so right. I get so many offers that I just don’t fancy meeting as on the phone I see there is no match, it’s so disappointing as I really want it! I know I have resistance as I’m grabbing on to this outcome so hard as a need! Self concept is so important and to trust the universe. When I did this in the past I saw miracles . I bless you Jonathan and please know you are our favourite date!!! 💕
I appreciate your honesty. Emuna. Just letting HaShem match me up. Of course, I want a relationship, but am not letting it rule my life. At 66, I need to enjoy each day as it cones. That goes for any age, of course.
Ladies need to keep in mind, whether this is gross or not, the photos they choose to post on those apps absolutely 100% set the tone for the vibe you give off and the type of guys you pull on. Stop posting ridiculous photos that are either way too sexy or way too “perfect” and then complaining men want to sleep with you quickly or that you’re being treated badly, ghosted, ect. Change your photos to normal looking modest photos if you want modest men.
That is not always the case as my photos are pretty nice and decent. But lots of the guys my age and older, looking for the sexy pics. Trust me. I'm 61 but look 40's.
My photos were modest I'm a Christian woman I don't post sexy photos there were head shots or very simple looking body shots It doesn't matter they still try to make something sexual out of it You tell them you're a Christian woman and you don't want anything casual and if that's what you want Please look elsewhere but these men don't even read your summary
I disagree. Men want to see your playful side (and interests - traveling, sports, etc) and not just RBF photos. My friend has a dating profile and she looks mean in the photos - and men actually say that to her. You need to showcase your authentic self to attract the right partner.
Oh I'm so sorry, Jonathon. I had no idea what you went through losing your mom and son. I just stumbled on your personal video and it's super sad. Your outer appearance is strong but I know you're still coping. There is a God....one being....who loves you and working in your life. Open up to the love as this love is unconditional. God's love will comfort you deeper than any human. God Bless you. 🙌
I appreciate everything you share. But ... it's hard to "not care" about dating results when you've lost the most wonderful love of your life, after only 8 years, to Alzheimer's, spent the last 5 years no longer part of a couple, but as his warden and finally his nurse, feeling absolutely isolated and painfully lonely. 5 years with no arms around you. I'm working on self love, childhood trauma healing, and making new friends doing new activities, to bolster myself for remaining single for who-knows-how-long. Sometimes I hope for a widower who's undergone the same intensity of deprivation I have. I know we'd still need to vet each other. But Dear God.
I really enjoy your videos , they Def speak to me. I’m sorry for your loss of your son , I lost my son also he was 26 and it was his 1 year anniversary yesterday . I took my pain and kept pushing forward and entering into my second year of social worker degree . 4 mths prior to my Son my marriage of 7 years collapse and now I stand finally where I can say I love me and love who Iam, just 🙏 for my man in crime lol. I thought about dating sites but I feel like I would be a piece of food on conveyor belt so I’m passing . LikE u said leaving it to the universe / faith . Take care ☺️
I feel the exact same way. I have found the dating apps to be time consuming, and an energy waster. I have decided even before viewing your video to give it to God, the Universe to bring a good man for me. I recently deleted my dating apps (no success). Your video resonates with me. Keep up the good work Jonathan! Sincerely your big fan in Michigan!
It's super stressful and anxiety inducing for me. I've tried. I closed the app. I want to have faith that in divine timing it will be sent to me. I've been impatient and I'm learning to be more patient. Focus elsewhere. Also, it became very affecting as well. Keep wanting to see who messaged me and clicking on the search button. I don't want to search anymore. I want to trust in the universe. Oh, and also ALL of the men were ready to hop in the bed with me just after one encounter.
Leo's live grandly.... They certainly do! I watch another Leo UA-camr and he reminds me of you.... He loves beautiful things in life and lives life to the fullest.... Has a big heart... Huge heart for people, that's what I notice about Leos... God bless you... may you find the love of your life, may we all find the love of our life!!🤞 In the meantime, may we all rest in God's love and peace...and just breathe
I was thinking about another dating site this morning and stopped because,in general, it puts me in a place of feeling defeated after finding it’s a fraudulent account, being ghosted, being an option, time delays in communication, and time delays in meeting. I like to meet within the week.
Don’t give up!!! You just have to sort through the idiots and don’t use apps where people can message you who you haven’t matched with. That’s a GARBAGE setup and those apps are trash
Hi Jonathon! I agree, today's dating apps are pretty bad. The dating sites about 9-10 years ago (yes, I've been divorced 13 years, believe it or not) were much better, it seems. I had lots of dates, even a few second dates. But now...nothing! I gave up on Bumble and now I'm using Hinge but only sporadically. I refuse to spend a dime on the apps. I did pray for a long time for someone but God doesn't seem to want that for me, as I have been ill for almost two months! Now I am chatting on WhatsApp with a guy I found on Hinge...but he lives and works in Yemen! A long ways away from Florida. I doubt that will go anywhere but I guess I have to stay hopeful. God bless you all in your search!
I had one man ask me to send a different angle of a body shot I reluctantly did..he responded saying I wasn't his body type..I felt like a piece of cattle on auction block...when I told him that he said basically this is what The apps are for If I didn't like it tough...after Del..I stopped. I mentally need to be away from them...these men want tons of sex then maybe they'll consider getting to know you or have a relationship it's like u have to prove ur sexual worthiness to even be considered
Omg!! That’s terrible. What a piece of sh&t he was!! I’ve never been on a dating app but I think even men outside of it are super sexual these days and view women mostly for the purpose of satisfying their sexual needs. Chivalry is long gone!! I am losing hope that there are even any decent men left out there anymore who behave with class.
Honestly...I have never used a dating app in my life. I do not have a smart phone. Repeat....I do not have a smart phone. My phone is a small flip phone that I only use to talk or text. Let me know if you want to try to do a detox from dating apps. As an addictions counselor...I would gladly help you go through this process!!!! You and I have both had addictions . We know how this is done. So I pray that you want to do a fun detox with me. We are both counselors so it would be fun.
Plenty of Fish is absolutely TERRIBLE and made me hate the apps. They let anyone message you so you have to waste hours picking and sorting through guys you have 0 attraction to or interest in. I got on Tinder and am having wayyyy more success. Messages can only be sent if there’s a match, idk why any app would create their platform any different. That’s how it should be. I’m meeting so many amazing local guys now (POF was nothing but trash!) and now it’s just a matter of choosing which guy is right for me ❤️ My best friend met her boyfriend on there after like a year of keeping the app on her phone and not really putting much time into it anymore. They’ve been together a few months and are in love and I think they’re gonna be moving in together at the end of the summer. I believe he is her person ❤️
I can’t bring myself to go into the app dating world. I truly believe all of our relationships are our teachers, while being pure entertainment for our collective Angels and Demons. As for the dating apps becoming addictive, I know 3 men who are having a tough time connecting with “a good partner” yet they participate on several dating apps. I asked one guy, “So what would happen if you didn’t check your apps for a whole week?” Deer In Headlights Look: “No way!!!!”
I agree. I told the last man, in fact, the ONLY one I was attracted to, on a paid app; Match. Was on for 6 months, and realized it’s not for me… Anyways, Everyone I meet is either a Lesson, or a Blessing. He was both, never have I experienced “ghosting” before!
@@lanapalij4014 I have a few times! Sometimes it leaves me scratching my head like, what the heck? Other times it was after a breakup so i guess it wasnt ghosting but it sure felt like it and broke my heart. It's tough, but i feel God/Universe is working on my behalf and my soul mate is coming. His pillows waiting on him and we're going to make love and then talk for hours! 😉😄💜💞💜💕💜💞💜 Thanks J
I think there are a lot of “dating addicts” of both sexes. It’s not just limited to apps. If someone is like this, they’re going to be this way whether they meet you on an app or not. I think the dating addicts (on the apps and off), need to concentrate on healing themselves instead of dating.
some way is a fantasy world too if you are.not realistic. I met guys who are or were far, mostly, I expected that someone I barely know will come to me like they said. We need to be real and know what we want.
Jonathon, I just found you and subscribed. But I have to know, do you truly believe that most people are capable of having the kind of relationship you asked for in this video? After 5 marriages and numerous dates, meetings, etc. I have found that most people aren't in a healthy enough place to have a decent relationship with anyone. Please advise. TYIA.
Are you ready for relationship ? relationship with benefits and with responsibilty? Why people look for a relationship with thousand miles away over a relationship near us where we can touch, we express ourselves physically to someone. Do you think you found the one ? 🤗 I saw many youtube channel of the couple Filipina to foreigner guy and they get married and I think thy're happy. They met in dating sites. But those foreign accept that when they love a Filipina they will love their family too.
Hi Jon.....did you ever think about doing a DETOX from using and checking your dating apps and swipes??? Just doing a complete DETOX where you do not use those apps at all whatsoever??? As an addictions counselor...I would advise you to do a detox for 72 hours. If you want to do a detox...I could be your counselor while you detox. I have worked in two different detoxes here in Chicago for primarily heroin addictions.
Kinda like the eddiction I have to your posts, unable to resist commenting 😅. You're like a girlfriend all women need to chat to over a glass of wine. Difference is your girlfriend gets tired of hearing about your man problems 😃 😀 😄. You're so right about lack of hurdles on swiping apps like Tinder. It is so easy and quick to sign up even after deleting the app. Am not sure how many times over the years I have signed up and deleted the app. Currently deleted, hopefully permanently. Amen to the prayer brother! that is exactly my prayer 🙏
I believe reincarnation is a definite possibility. I believe the purpose for a person to come back to live multiple times is to learn. Learning allows a person to evolve spiritually. I believe the romantic relationships we experience in our lives are a major platform for learning.
I think dating apps are good you just have to weed out the guys that Just want sex by letting them know your standards in a very warm way also having good boundaries for yourself and knowing what you want by being in a healthy place and not letting it become an addiction disconnecting from it having fun by doing other things and definitely not meeting up right away I usually do texting then after a few days I suggest a phone call and then after a few more days a video chat if they don't suggest it first and I always meet in a public place and also have a safety plan in case they are not so nice I think dating is very exciting and fun it's a new experience every time and you get to know new people by having fun experiences and by using the dating apps it's people you would have never got to know even if it doesn't work out you still can learn and grow to show up better for your next time you go on a date I also always try to have a open mind and have fun 🥰💖
Woot woot 💃! Me dancing around being so stinking proud of you and your spiritual growth lovely Leo 😁! I've had the absolute pleasure of seeing it in real time throughout watching your videos. Such an inspiration! As I've maintained you deserve so much more than being swiped on. So proud of you beautiful soul 😁! If I may I have another suggestion/observation, do what you wish with it handsome. When praying 🙏 or saying your mantra calling in your soulmate whose purpose is life partnership rather than inviting the Universe to bring them in THANK God/Universe whatever your beliefs happen to be for bringing them in and so it is 😁. Truly feeling gratitude that you have your soulmate already by your side while visualizing no one specifically staying open to who they may be but visualizing the wonderful things you will do together once you come into union with your Divine partner. Put a pillow on the other side of the bed, set an extra coffee cup out in the morning visualizing your partner their having coffee with you enjoying the view of the ocean in the morning. I know you already know this, just love ❤️ you enough to gently remind you dear one. I have total and complete faith this is exactly what's meant for you in this lifetime, I NEED you to keep the faith 🙏 lightworker as you go about your life and helping others along their journey doing the phenomenal work that you do. You are more than worthy and deserving, have faith that it's already here for you, feel it in the energy loving Leo. Allow that fire 🔥 to burn within you and to radiate from you. ☮️❤️😁, great health and other forms of prosperity all! Love ❤️ and light 🙌
This is tough because I've know many (and I mean many) people who have met fallen in love after meeting from a dating site. With that said, the dating apps (which is different than the sites) has created an addictive phenomena which I believe is getting worse. So while I was high on dating sites in the past, I believe the apps are becoming a bad thing.
It would be very healthy for you to do a complete detox from dating apps for at least 72 hours. Detox is usually 5 days as you know. It would be great for you!!!!! I think you need to heal from this. You have been through addictions so you know what is required. Do not use the dating apps for 5 days and do therapy during your detox process. Find a way to fill the time you spend on dating apps with therapeutic activities. Talking to someone during the time you usually spend swiping, AMEN
When you like your own company, you're never lonely.
Great video!
Well said…. I’m finally in my good spot in life. Drama free. I’ve got to stop being needy and let god send her across my path 🙏 . Great episode TY!
I've been on dating apps or sites, for over 10 years. I've met hundreds of girls over the years, but only dated around maybe 6 or 7 of them, had maybe 3 actual relationships. Out of the tons that ive met, honestly, i was only attracted to two or three from what i can remember. Over the years ive noticed the quality of people on them get progressively worse, less and less people want anything serious, its all a repetitive game of swiping, matching, messaging, mindless conversation, unmatching, repeat. Hardly anyone wants to meet in person anymore compared to just a couple years ago, which is another issue. If theres no intent to meet, its pointless for me, ive never gone onto those kind of platforms in search for penpals. I wanted to find that special person to be with for so many years, but never found it. Im at the point where I dont feel like dating apps work unless you're just looking for casual stuff and to jump from person to person constantly, which isnt very mentally healthy in the long run. If I cant meet someone in the real world, I'm not gonna bother anymore. Im hoping someday that will change, and ill find more practical ways to meet great people, because from my personal experiences over the years, its mostly been pretty awful and irritating
Tell me about it🤦. I agree with this 💯
Agree with this 100% too..
So yesterday morning I was thinking of sending you a note about dating apps, and then the angels sent this to me instead! Lol
I hate dating apps... I have always hated dating websites, and I even remember answering a singles ad back in the '90s! Never did that again!! Lolol 🤣🤣
My friends made me write a list, they've all met their soulmates on dating apps, and I am the only single one in our group. 🙄 Luckily I enjoy my own company. But they're up my ass about the apps.
I would much rather invoke a similar prayer to yours... 🙏
The person who has been with me through many lifetimes passed away April last year. And even though we were just dearest friends in this lifetime, it has made me wonder if I am supposed to finish this lifetime alone. I know that sounds dramatic...😭 In fact I wondered what he mastered so darn RIGHT to get to go before me! 🤣
At any rate, thank you once again for your reassurance & a nudge in the right direction. This is absolutely your gift. 🤗🤗🙏🏻
Online dating and dating apps have completely destroyed the dating world. It really gives no hope to those of us still waiting for someone to connect with. At 53, I am completely out of hope. But damn, you say “if it doesn’t happen in this lifetime, maybe it will happen in my next lifetime”. What a depressing thought. We should all get to experience love. Love is absolutely not too much to ask for. The universe is a cruel place. My heart is broken.
Exactly...
Many broken hearts in the world..🙃
It sure looks impressive the 100K subscribers! It's refreshing to hear somebody else thinks that we come back. I've been thinking that a long time! When I was younger I was afraid to be alone that cause me to make a lot of mistakes now I've been alone for a couple of years and I truly have peace Yes I want to be out there and meet people but being alone is okay also. I can relate 100%!
There is nothing wrong with enjoying your own company.
Thank you for the insights...I truly believe in God with all my heart...That someday,someone will come into my life.
I ditched the dating apps in 2020. Was happy on my own. Did things I loved. I met a guy at work- also a nurse, calm, handsome, same interests. I hit a jackpot!! Or so I thought.
I just left him a couple weeks ago.
Pathological liar. I never had a panic attack before I met him. I had several because of him. Now I need sleeping pills every single night. I’m going to therapy for the first time in my life. I clench my jaw all day, my chest is constantly tight. I’m traumatized. I can’t imagine letting anyone else into my life again.
Sad to hear that people can wear many faces until we see the real character and its really disappointing
Dating apps have worked for younger people in their 20s and 30s. My family members and friends family members ended getting married. At my age in my late 60s hasn’t worked well for me. Some were scams. Thank goodness I was smart enough to detect the scams. I dated a few men. Some were very nice and respectful but no connection. One man pursued me and we know each other for over a year. We connect snd go back and forth. We enjoy each other when we’re together . We don’t see each other often but that’s ok. He’s still a mystery to me. He chases me . I like the attention. J have no expectations. I just enjoy my moments and attention when we’re together. He does as well. The universe seem to have brought us together.
I like to use the apps to meet people who live near by me. It's the same as meeting a stranger on the street, but you just agree online first. The universe can send someone through a dating app much easier than in daily life. (Especially since I work with kids all day and never run into singles)
Jonathan, I can completely relate to this video 100%. When I first started online dating I felt like if I didn't connect with someone that there was something wrong with me. After several failed relationships. I decided to take a step back for the last 4 years. I recently joined Match. I have to tell you my attitude is different because the way I think about myself is different. Although I've only been on for 3 days I have already been tested. My meeting is I caught someone in a lie and the old me would have closed the app up immediately. The new me was grateful that the universe showed me who this person was quickly before I invested any time in him. I have to say my Outlook is that I am open and ready when the universe introduced me to my long-lasting partner.
Thanks for sharing...
Amen
I’ve been leaning into Buddhism and another UA-cam guy I listen to said that “letting go of attachment” was a misinterpretation he said that it was actually “letting go of craving”
so I’m attached to eventually finding a life partner I can pairbond with and I’m working on myself to be ready for that to happen sometime. But I’m letting go of the craving for a specific outcome, just open to what may come. Did that make sense? Thankyou Jonathan I love how honest you are, how you refuse to speak pretty little lies just to comfort and mollycoddle. You’re pretty savage sometimes sir and I love that it really MOVES me into action. I’ve begun reading all your book recommendations! Thankyou for your time and attention to this🙏💜🔥🔥🔥
What you are saying makes sense to me. I have also been reading some of the books Jonathon has reccommended.
This makes sense. You can’t crave a specific outcome and you’ve got to allow yourself to let go of what and who isn’t meant for you. With joy, and a happy heart.
I think if people were honest they’d admit they usually have signs and feelings that something/someone wasn’t meant/right for them. But because they’re craving a certain outcome, they choose to ignore it.
As a practicing Buddhist for 30 years now, the concept of letting go of "desire", or "attachment", or "craving", never really made sense to me. Until I understood that it is "attachment to a particular outcome." The answer is equanimity. If you can get yourself to be OK with any outcome, then it frees you up mentally to be a lot more serene. And serenity = happiness. Not always easy to do, but a real game-changer. And equanimity doesn't mean indifference, you can get to that state and still have a passion for certain things and people in life. 😌
@@franchic9565 Thankyou 🙏🙂
I get it. Finding someone organically organically and ideal for me.
Thank you for this session. It explains why men see the dating sites differently than women do. I am no longer active on a site, but the site keeps me on, so I still get men responding with interest. Apparently their interest is different than mine. I can recognize them as "booty call types of interest" and call them out as such. It makes the disappear quickly.
I am a student of Abraham also, so really appreciated your spiritual prayer bringing forth your "real" relationship. It will come to you and you both will deserve to be in it.
TY 🙏
I like this talk, you seem so much more open and soft. Idk but it was good, not repetitive.
great video thankyou 🙏
im 62, mostly enjoying the online experience but I do approach it with an open mind, no expectations & ever ready to block those who show themselves as flaky (you get to learn rather quickly) ... have dealt with all kinds and used to get all upset about it. now nah. there's all sorts of men & women out there in the online world both good & bad. I only want one good one!
so maybe one day I may meet my ideal partner online ... maybe I won't.... but I'm discerning and open to that idea.
meanwhile.... I get on with making my own life beautiful, enjoy the simple life without expectations & appreciate being alive 😊
You are so right. The universe will bring what you need at the right time, even if it’s not what you imagine at the time you wish for it 💜
Exactly
This was very refreshing, thank you! I've been thinking about the dating apps and filled one out, twice and then deleted them before even trying. I heard a voice in my head and it sounded much like the prayer you just offered. I do believe if I'm supposed to love again, God will provide because he's done and excellent job so far. I'm learning, I'm making lots of new female friends in my community and I'm okay on my own...for now. We are eternal spiritual beings made for love and to give love. I've heard it put this way, "When the student is ready, the teacher will appear" and I believe this. I still have a lot of living to do I pray and I'm okay for now doing it alone. Not interested in hundreds of dates, I'd take just a few! 😉
Great message and thank you for being vulnerable Johnathon! I agree with you 100%
Thank you...
I appreciate you Jonathon for sharing your personal yearnings, beliefs, and heart with us in this video. While my own dating experience is very different than yours I can relate to a great deal of what you said. My prayer is that God will draw us near to the path of love which I believe has been created for each of us. ❤️
I have let go of the dating apps. I’m glad I love me and who I am. Thank you. 😊👍
You’re welcome 😊
Hi can we get to know ourselves more? Be friends.
I've only met bad guys online. It makes me so sad. If they're not bad, they're kind of a loser. I don't think the same can be said for women. At least I hope. But the men I've met have been either predators or obsessed with video games and porn. I was hoping that it's just because I'm in a small area.
I can relate! I was beginning to believe that I’d have to move back to the East Coast, to meet a man that I was attracted to,Seriously…
I’m with you, Jonathon. The reason why I’m still a dating app virgin is because I have always believed that the best way to meet “the one” is to just allow the universe to do its thing and one day fate will bring him/her to us. This is how I met for my two long term relationships. When I think in this way I lose that sense of daily urgency and effort to make it happen.
I’ve been single now for 9 months and although men have approached me with interest in various places/ situations, I have yet to meet someone I feel any chemistry with and it’s been disappointing. But I am also wondering if I am emotionally and mentally ready to even meet anyone. I do want to get in that state of mind where I feel “good and secure” even if I’m by myself. However I am still curious about what a dating app is all about and want to experience it one day. Lol
Thanks for sharing..
True Jonathan thank. I'm stopping the dating app to. Pray to the universe like u just did. I believe in that too. God bless Jonathan
TY
Too much options. Social media has ruined dating
Indeed
I would love to meet the last love of my life, the old fashioned way. Like going to a club to listen to the band, or dance. Even though you didn’t KNOW all the regulars personally, people knew each other, and if you behaved badly, everyone would know about it.
People were different.
@@lanapalij4014 I wish I could find him while out shopping. So far, nothing. They all glued to their options on their phones.
I can't go on a dating sites, there is something inside my heart that won't let me go there
I esp liked & appreciated ur "prayer" at the end, Jonathon. U hav garnered such wisdom through ur life experiences..& thx 4 sharing this w/all of us 🙂🙂👍👍
Maybe you should teach how to vet through texting I am starting to learn it really well I can pick up on their energies 🥰
I hear your seal neighbors 😂.
I understand about liking your own company. I've learned to do the same thing. 💙
Hi can we be friends, know ourselves more?
Right!!
I’m in the same boat as you.
You are so right.
I get so many offers that I just don’t fancy meeting as on the phone I see there is no match, it’s so disappointing as I really want it! I know I have resistance as I’m grabbing on to this outcome so hard as a need! Self concept is so important and to trust the universe. When I did this in the past I saw miracles . I bless you Jonathan and please know you are our favourite date!!! 💕
awe... thanks
Another applicant..😆
Congratulations from the UK on your 100k subscribers! So deserved.
I appreciate your honesty. Emuna. Just letting HaShem match me up. Of course, I want a relationship, but am not letting it rule my life. At 66, I need to enjoy each day as it cones. That goes for any age, of course.
Ladies need to keep in mind, whether this is gross or not, the photos they choose to post on those apps absolutely 100% set the tone for the vibe you give off and the type of guys you pull on. Stop posting ridiculous photos that are either way too sexy or way too “perfect” and then complaining men want to sleep with you quickly or that you’re being treated badly, ghosted, ect. Change your photos to normal looking modest photos if you want modest men.
This. Many people create their own problems unknowingly.
That is not always the case as my photos are pretty nice and decent. But lots of the guys my age and older, looking for the sexy pics. Trust me. I'm 61 but look 40's.
My photos were modest I'm a Christian woman I don't post sexy photos there were head shots or very simple looking body shots It doesn't matter they still try to make something sexual out of it You tell them you're a Christian woman and you don't want anything casual and if that's what you want Please look elsewhere but these men don't even read your summary
I disagree. Men want to see your playful side (and interests - traveling, sports, etc) and not just RBF photos. My friend has a dating profile and she looks mean in the photos - and men actually say that to her. You need to showcase your authentic self to attract the right partner.
@@jenniferl1908 It's just too much. We need to go back to the old way of dating. Scrap dating sites altogether.
Oh I'm so sorry, Jonathon. I had no idea what you went through losing your mom and son. I just stumbled on your personal video and it's super sad. Your outer appearance is strong but I know you're still coping. There is a God....one being....who loves you and working in your life. Open up to the love as this love is unconditional. God's love will comfort you deeper than any human. God Bless you. 🙌
Awe... thank you 🙏
I appreciate everything you share. But ... it's hard to "not care" about dating results when you've lost the most wonderful love of your life, after only 8 years, to Alzheimer's, spent the last 5 years no longer part of a couple, but as his warden and finally his nurse, feeling absolutely isolated and painfully lonely. 5 years with no arms around you. I'm working on self love, childhood trauma healing, and making new friends doing new activities, to bolster myself for remaining single for who-knows-how-long. Sometimes I hope for a widower who's undergone the same intensity of deprivation I have. I know we'd still need to vet each other. But Dear God.
I really enjoy your videos , they Def speak to me. I’m sorry for your loss of your son , I lost my son also he was 26 and it was his 1 year anniversary yesterday . I took my pain and kept pushing forward and entering into my second year of social worker degree . 4 mths prior to my
Son my marriage of 7 years collapse and now I stand finally where I can say I love me and love who Iam, just 🙏 for my man in crime lol. I thought about dating sites but I feel like I would be a piece of food on conveyor belt so I’m passing . LikE u said leaving it to the universe / faith .
Take care ☺️
❤️💫hope it’s this lifetime 🙄
I feel the exact same way. I have found the dating apps to be time consuming, and an energy waster. I have decided even before viewing your video to give it to God, the Universe to bring a good man for me. I recently deleted my dating apps (no success). Your video resonates with me. Keep up the good work Jonathan! Sincerely your big fan in Michigan!
Awe... thanks ☺️
I actually met my person on a dating app. First time ever meeting someone from a dating app.
It's super stressful and anxiety inducing for me. I've tried. I closed the app. I want to have faith that in divine timing it will be sent to me. I've been impatient and I'm learning to be more patient. Focus elsewhere. Also, it became very affecting as well. Keep wanting to see who messaged me and clicking on the search button. I don't want to search anymore. I want to trust in the universe. Oh, and also ALL of the men were ready to hop in the bed with me just after one encounter.
Well you are beautiful but i would wait as long as possible
@@JolinHard Appreciate the compliment. Yes, this is what I need to do.
True for me too…, I wanted to tell them that they are on the wrong app…!
Congratulations 🌺🍀🌺to 100k subscribers!🥳
Leo's live grandly.... They certainly do! I watch another Leo UA-camr and he reminds me of you.... He loves beautiful things in life and lives life to the fullest.... Has a big heart... Huge heart for people, that's what I notice about Leos... God bless you... may you find the love of your life, may we all find the love of our life!!🤞 In the meantime, may we all rest in God's love and peace...and just breathe
Yes they do...
I was thinking about another dating site this morning and stopped because,in general, it puts me in a place of feeling defeated after finding it’s a fraudulent account, being ghosted, being an option, time delays in communication, and time delays in meeting. I like to meet within the week.
I hear ya...
Don’t give up!!! You just have to sort through the idiots and don’t use apps where people can message you who you haven’t matched with. That’s a GARBAGE setup and those apps are trash
Yes, this resonated. Thank you!!
Thank you for your honest disclosure of your own journey.
Thank you for your warm message. I need this today 🙌
You are so welcome
Hi Jonathon! I agree, today's dating apps are pretty bad. The dating sites about 9-10 years ago (yes, I've been divorced 13 years, believe it or not) were much better, it seems. I had lots of dates, even a few second dates. But now...nothing! I gave up on Bumble and now I'm using Hinge but only sporadically. I refuse to spend a dime on the apps. I did pray for a long time for someone but God doesn't seem to want that for me, as I have been ill for almost two months! Now I am chatting on WhatsApp with a guy I found on Hinge...but he lives and works in Yemen! A long ways away from Florida. I doubt that will go anywhere but I guess I have to stay hopeful. God bless you all in your search!
YES!
Sounds like one of those scammers. Next thing he would be saying he can’t travel to visit because of some financial problems yay da yay da.
Still interested in having a date but can get someone interested in me, maybe have to give up.
I'm not on dating apps at all.
How do you meet men to date?
What a nice prayer you say, I'll try that!
I really relate to everything you said... Thank you!
Thanks for watching!
I had one man ask me to send a different angle of a body shot I reluctantly did..he responded saying I wasn't his body type..I felt like a piece of cattle on auction block...when I told him that he said basically this is what The apps are for If I didn't like it tough...after Del..I stopped. I mentally need to be away from them...these men want tons of sex then maybe they'll consider getting to know you or have a relationship it's like u have to prove ur sexual worthiness to even be considered
Omg!! That’s terrible. What a piece of sh&t he was!! I’ve never been on a dating app but I think even men outside of it are super sexual these days and view women mostly for the purpose of satisfying their sexual needs. Chivalry is long gone!! I am losing hope that there are even any decent men left out there anymore who behave with class.
I understand how you feel...
Should find a man who prays the rosary..😇
Honestly...I have never used a dating app in my life. I do not have a smart phone. Repeat....I do not have a smart phone. My phone is a small flip phone that I only use to talk or text. Let me know if you want to try to do a detox from dating apps. As an addictions counselor...I would gladly help you go through this process!!!! You and I have both had addictions . We know how this is done. So I pray that you want to do a fun detox with me. We are both counselors so it would be fun.
Thx for sharing...
Hahaha, this woman...😆🤣
Thanks! This was so God sent for me today! It popped up on my feed 1120/22.
Oh wow!
you get to play what your tell us, that is something.
Plenty of Fish is absolutely TERRIBLE and made me hate the apps. They let anyone message you so you have to waste hours picking and sorting through guys you have 0 attraction to or interest in. I got on Tinder and am having wayyyy more success. Messages can only be sent if there’s a match, idk why any app would create their platform any different. That’s how it should be. I’m meeting so many amazing local guys now (POF was nothing but trash!) and now it’s just a matter of choosing which guy is right for me ❤️ My best friend met her boyfriend on there after like a year of keeping the app on her phone and not really putting much time into it anymore. They’ve been together a few months and are in love and I think they’re gonna be moving in together at the end of the summer. I believe he is her person ❤️
Thank you. I love your sincerity and candor
I appreciate that!
Thank you 🙏🏻 for sharing your prayer It is beautiful ♥️😊
You are so welcome
I can’t bring myself to go into the app dating world.
I truly believe all of our relationships are our teachers, while being pure entertainment for our collective Angels and Demons.
As for the dating apps becoming addictive, I know 3 men who are having a tough time connecting with “a good partner” yet they participate on several dating apps.
I asked one guy, “So what would happen if you didn’t check your apps for a whole week?”
Deer In Headlights Look:
“No way!!!!”
I agree. I told the last man, in fact, the ONLY one I was attracted to, on a paid app; Match. Was on for 6 months, and realized it’s not for me…
Anyways, Everyone I meet is either a Lesson, or a Blessing. He was both, never have I experienced
“ghosting” before!
@@lanapalij4014 I have a few times! Sometimes it leaves me scratching my head like, what the heck? Other times it was after a breakup so i guess it wasnt ghosting but it sure felt like it and broke my heart. It's tough, but i feel God/Universe is working on my behalf and my soul mate is coming. His pillows waiting on him and we're going to make love and then talk for hours! 😉😄💜💞💜💕💜💞💜
Thanks J
When do you do, You Tube live. I’m always a few days behind.
MWF around 4 or 5pm PST
I think there are a lot of “dating addicts” of both sexes. It’s not just limited to apps. If someone is like this, they’re going to be this way whether they meet you on an app or not. I think the dating addicts (on the apps and off), need to concentrate on healing themselves instead of dating.
some way is a fantasy world too if you are.not realistic. I met guys who are or were far, mostly, I expected that someone I barely know will come to me like they said. We need to be real and know what we want.
I think that most high value men, in 30 s or 40s who dont work from home are not on apps. They find women by social activities, work,friiends
I believe they can work only if both parties are on the same page and looking for their forever person..
Exactly
It’s so disappointing that I never hear back from men on all the dating apps
YES,...Jonathan!!!
Jonathon, I just found you and subscribed. But I have to know, do you truly believe that most people are capable of having the kind of relationship you asked for in this video? After 5 marriages and numerous dates, meetings, etc. I have found that most people aren't in a healthy enough place to have a decent relationship with anyone. Please advise. TYIA.
I do not know a thing about apps.
❤ the prayer. thank you
Hi Jonathon; I really like your prayer to the Universe.
Thank you 😊
Are you ready for relationship ? relationship with benefits and with responsibilty? Why people look for a relationship with thousand miles away over a relationship near us where we can touch, we express ourselves physically to someone.
Do you think you found the one ? 🤗
I saw many youtube channel of the couple Filipina to foreigner guy and they get married and I think thy're happy. They met in dating sites.
But those foreign accept that when they love a Filipina they will love their family too.
Yes!
@@JonathonAslay yes to what particular questions😁
By the way congratulations to 100k wonderful souls/ subcribers of yours 👏🎉🎂
Hi Jon.....did you ever think about doing a DETOX from using and checking your dating apps and swipes??? Just doing a complete DETOX where you do not use those apps at all whatsoever??? As an addictions counselor...I would advise you to do a detox for 72 hours. If you want to do a detox...I could be your counselor while you detox. I have worked in two different detoxes here in Chicago for primarily heroin addictions.
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Amen Jonathon 🙏
I think they are just meat market
I've know many happy couples' who met online
Are you quoting Abraham Hicks?
Kinda... my version.
Kinda like the eddiction I have to your posts, unable to resist commenting 😅. You're like a girlfriend all women need to chat to over a glass of wine. Difference is your girlfriend gets tired of hearing about your man problems 😃 😀 😄. You're so right about lack of hurdles on swiping apps like Tinder. It is so easy and quick to sign up even after deleting the app. Am not sure how many times over the years I have signed up and deleted the app. Currently deleted, hopefully permanently. Amen to the prayer brother! that is exactly my prayer 🙏
I hear that often... lol
I believe reincarnation is a definite possibility. I believe the purpose for a person to come back to live multiple times is to learn. Learning allows a person to evolve spiritually. I believe the romantic relationships we experience in our lives are a major platform for learning.
Well said!
I think dating apps are good you just have to weed out the guys that Just want sex by letting them know your standards in a very warm way also having good boundaries for yourself and knowing what you want by being in a healthy place and not letting it become an addiction disconnecting from it having fun by doing other things and definitely not meeting up right away I usually do texting then after a few days I suggest a phone call and then after a few more days a video chat if they don't suggest it first and I always meet in a public place and also have a safety plan in case they are not so nice I think dating is very exciting and fun it's a new experience every time and you get to know new people by having fun experiences and by using the dating apps it's people you would have never got to know even if it doesn't work out you still can learn and grow to show up better for your next time you go on a date I also always try to have a open mind and have fun 🥰💖
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Woot woot 💃! Me dancing around being so stinking proud of you and your spiritual growth lovely Leo 😁! I've had the absolute pleasure of seeing it in real time throughout watching your videos. Such an inspiration! As I've maintained you deserve so much more than being swiped on. So proud of you beautiful soul 😁!
If I may I have another suggestion/observation, do what you wish with it handsome. When praying 🙏 or saying your mantra calling in your soulmate whose purpose is life partnership rather than inviting the Universe to bring them in THANK God/Universe whatever your beliefs happen to be for bringing them in and so it is 😁. Truly feeling gratitude that you have your soulmate already by your side while visualizing no one specifically staying open to who they may be but visualizing the wonderful things you will do together once you come into union with your Divine partner. Put a pillow on the other side of the bed, set an extra coffee cup out in the morning visualizing your partner their having coffee with you enjoying the view of the ocean in the morning. I know you already know this, just love ❤️ you enough to gently remind you dear one. I have total and complete faith this is exactly what's meant for you in this lifetime, I NEED you to keep the faith 🙏 lightworker as you go about your life and helping others along their journey doing the phenomenal work that you do. You are more than worthy and deserving, have faith that it's already here for you, feel it in the energy loving Leo. Allow that fire 🔥 to burn within you and to radiate from you.
☮️❤️😁, great health and other forms of prosperity all! Love ❤️ and light 🙌
awe... thanks
You mean 99% hook up sites. A free for all with catfish.
Didn’t you used to be pro dating apps? I used to comment on some of your videos how I was against it, and you would always question me.
This is tough because I've know many (and I mean many) people who have met fallen in love after meeting from a dating site. With that said, the dating apps (which is different than the sites) has created an addictive phenomena which I believe is getting worse. So while I was high on dating sites in the past, I believe the apps are becoming a bad thing.
For me no.. its good for flings or one night stand.. if ur lucky to catch a good guy who is looking for lifetime commitment consider urself lucky..
Gotcha
It would be very healthy for you to do a complete detox from dating apps for at least 72 hours. Detox is usually 5 days as you know. It would be great for you!!!!! I think you need to heal from this. You have been through addictions so you know what is required. Do not use the dating apps for 5 days and do therapy during your detox process. Find a way to fill the time you spend on dating apps with therapeutic activities. Talking to someone during the time you usually spend swiping, AMEN
That's what I said in the video... I am detoxing
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You are so cute when you say that prayer. Yay
Awe... 🙏
No, they don't work. At least not fo 90%+ of men.
Lol