Socially anxious Phil compilation

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  • Compilation of clips relating to Phil avoiding phone calls, disliking human interaction, worrying about awkwardness, and feeling socially responsible for strangers.
    Video sources:
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    Dan and Phil in Cat's Vlogs | Part 6/6
    • Video
    0:15
    A DMC with Dan & Phil | The 4:01 Show
    • A DMC with Dan & Phil ...
    0:23
    Phil’s 15 September 2012 liveshow
    • ~kaboom~ (Phil's youno...
    1:17
    Why I can't go back to the gym..
    • Why I can't go back to...
    1:26
    Dan’s 21 July 2015 liveshow
    • Dan's younow - July 21...
    1:46
    Radio Show 15 June 2014
    • Radio Show 2014.06.15 ...
    2:20
    Why I can't go back to the gym..
    • Why I can't go back to...
    2:46
    Why I can't go back to the gym..
    • Why I can't go back to...
    3:10
    Phil's 24 July 2016 liveshow
    • Phil's younow - July 2...
    3:40
    Phil’s 9 February 2017 liveshow, “INAPPROPRIATE BIRTHDAY GIFT”
    • INAPPROPRIATE BIRTHDAY...
    5:40
    Dan’s 10 January 2017 liveshow, “I’M BACK FROM HIBERNATION”
    • I'M BACK FROM HIBERNATION
    5:46
    Dan’s 10 January 2017 liveshow, “I’M BACK FROM HIBERNATION”
    • I'M BACK FROM HIBERNATION
    5:58
    Dan’s 10 January 2017 liveshow, “I’M BACK FROM HIBERNATION”
    • I'M BACK FROM HIBERNATION
    6:16
    Dan’s 21 March 2017 liveshow, “Dan or the Grim Reaper? SCIENTISTS CAN'T TELL”
    • Dan or the Grim Reaper...
    7:06
    Phil’s 19 January 2017 liveshow, “GIANT UA-cam GIFT UNBOXING?!!”
    • GIANT UA-cam GIFT UNB...

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  • @chaebugi9778
    @chaebugi9778 7 років тому +3535

    i understand how phil feels

  • @livzara429
    @livzara429 7 років тому +2916

    Dan is a good friend if he's willing to pretend to be you on the phone

    • @jade6052
      @jade6052 7 років тому +170

      Liv & Zara boyfriend*

    • @Ray-yu2mc
      @Ray-yu2mc 7 років тому +36

      philsshrimpprince Lol i love when people do that

    • @isabelallen1005
      @isabelallen1005 7 років тому +5

      Liv & Zara I know right? I know that if I had to pretend to be my friend on the phone, I would get overly nervous. 😂

    • @emma-mz6bv
      @emma-mz6bv 7 років тому +39

      Liv & Zara i want a dan in my life:(

    • @keishataylor
      @keishataylor 7 років тому +54

      Where do I get a dan

  • @randomhuman_1999
    @randomhuman_1999 7 років тому +1922

    It really is sort of sad that Phil is comparatively much more socially anxious and afraid of human interaction than Dan, but Dan is usually the one with that exact branding. Phil is just so much quieter about his personal problems that I'm glad he has a loud best friend to stand up for him when he can't gather up the courage to.

  • @redorangeyellow2107
    @redorangeyellow2107 7 років тому +2850

    this is so interesting bc everyone talks about dan hating human interaction and being anxious but noone talks about phil. i havent even really noticed this about phil until watching this vid

    • @milohehim4742
      @milohehim4742 7 років тому +108

      ikr !! phil is generally very ignored tbh.

    • @saffysaffyrocks
      @saffysaffyrocks 7 років тому +110

      simon the hedgefrog i don't think phil's ignored, it's just that loathing human interaction is a part of dan's "danisnotonfire" brand

    • @Avellania
      @Avellania 7 років тому +72

      redorangeyellow There is a difference between disliking/not needing social interactions (introverted) and being afraid of it (shy or anxious).

    • @scarecrow_irl
      @scarecrow_irl 7 років тому +29

      Avellania I feel like sometimes they go hand in hand though. I dislike social interactions _because_ I have social anxiety. but idk, maybe i'm just introverted and i have social anxiety?

    • @faicotone
      @faicotone 7 років тому +47

      I feel like Dan can talk to people but he hates it and it exhausts him emotionally. And of course, he has his occasional malfunctions. Phil, on the other hand, is shy and socially awkward whenever he's not with someone he's completely comfortable with (eg. Pj, Hazel, Cat, Dan, etc)

  • @ARGhostie
    @ARGhostie 7 років тому +2368

    Isn't it kind of strange how Dan's super known for hating and being awful at people stuff, yet it actually very much seems like he is the more confidant one at it out of the two of them.

    • @milohehim4742
      @milohehim4742 7 років тому +200

      it's probably because of their brandings, people take them way too seriously as if they're their entire personalities

    • @annashaw2156
      @annashaw2156 7 років тому +163

      this is exactly what I thought but I feel like Dan is a more extrovert person as a whole, and so situations he feels socially awkward in are generally more extreme/bizarre (like selling an axe to a ten year old) whereas Phil is more introvert and so his socially awkward situations are much more relatable for us, as I'm presuming most of their audience are introverts. Basically they both have awkward moments but because of his personality, Dan's are more comical and less relatable. Also I agree with the comment about branding^

    • @ARGhostie
      @ARGhostie 7 років тому +38

      +Nico di Angelo Y'know, that's a very good point. It has never occurred to me before that that could happen.
      That being said - I've always identified as an introvert because I feel drained from being around people and always need time to myself afterwards, but I also do crave the interaction when I'm back to feeling good in myself. I've heard before that the supposed definition of being an introvert is to recover energy while alone, while being an extrovert is to gain energy from being with people. Using that definition, I would have guessed that they would both fall into category of being introverts. That might not be true though.

    • @tophermkr2159
      @tophermkr2159 7 років тому +30

      I know it sounds weird but I have social anxiety and do a lot of social things. I don't know why I do this to myself but I feel like Dan could be the same that he does feel anxious in social interactions but deals differently than Phil. It seems like he still pushes himself because he likes being social anyways but does feel anxious.

    • @karenalejandra3580
      @karenalejandra3580 7 років тому +1

      Arkie Ray but Dan is not bad at people. Who said that? He's totally not an awful person

  • @teamjacob4eva
    @teamjacob4eva 7 років тому +1957

    i once said 'bye, love you' to the pizza delivery guy over the phone
    i havent called that place since im so scared and awkward

    • @bridget8677
      @bridget8677 7 років тому +62

      That sounds like something i would do tbh. I'm an awkward mess in social situations, especially talking on the phone.

    • @MitakachkaSan
      @MitakachkaSan 7 років тому +90

      i went to this shop and told the woman to have "a nice weekend" ON A TUESDAY

    • @EllaIngram
      @EllaIngram 7 років тому +30

      When people say thank you to me, I always say thank you back?? I mean, ok, it's not that weird, but normally when someone thanks you you say "you're welcome" xD sometimes my mouth just fails me when I'm spoken to and I just blurt out the first thing that comes into my head

    • @todtriste
      @todtriste 7 років тому +10

      i sometimes want to say something to one family member or friend and i call their name and say "what" after it, like i think a lot that they will say "what" so i say it before their name. for example: Sebb what?

    • @teamjacob4eva
      @teamjacob4eva 7 років тому +14

      i feel ya??? i lend my things to many people and i'm the one saying thank you when the return it. and on my birthday instead of thanking people when they wish me, i say happy birthday

  • @saffysaffyrocks
    @saffysaffyrocks 7 років тому +1861

    i always think about this because i think a lot of people assume dan is the socially awkward one because of his danisnotonfire content, but phil just doesn't have it as a part of his branding. also, i feel like although dan has his awkward moments with certain people, he's proven that he's not afraid to be assertive, whilst phil seems to be more a silent observer and judger

    • @saffysaffyrocks
      @saffysaffyrocks 7 років тому +25

      Nico di Angelo that's a great analysis! i totally agree with you

    • @biancakatalinic9717
      @biancakatalinic9717 7 років тому +52

      Nico di Angelo Most introverts actually enjoy human interaction. I believe Phil is a socially anxious introvert that likes to interact with people but some situations may make him feel awkward.

    • @ThaleiaFantasy
      @ThaleiaFantasy 7 років тому +57

      I believe I recognise Dan's way of handling social interactions from myself, which is basically based in a really good "acting" ability/mentality. To deal with all the shit life throws at you, you have to be able to act confident and "normal" in social situations, and although it is a fact that Dan isn't "normal", he is better at pretending than Phil.
      My sister and I have the same dynamic; We both hate social interactions, but while she legit has more social skills than I do around people she knows well, she can't ever assert herself or do stuff like calling up strangers or ask for customer service, that kind of stuff, which she gets me to do. And she can't go back to a place if she has embarrassed herself, whereas I just pretend that everybody are - to use a Dan expression - peasants, and I have every right to ask for their services or whatever it is. And this approach requires being aware of what you are doing, which I believe Dan is. Extremely self-aware at all times, throwing up that mental shield, as opposed to Phil's having his head in the clouds.

    • @saffysaffyrocks
      @saffysaffyrocks 7 років тому +16

      Mille Hafnar Yeah I'm quite similar in some ways. If my friends are too awkward to do something, I always take it upon myself to do it for them, and just fake a role of assertiveness and confidence.

    • @biancakatalinic9717
      @biancakatalinic9717 7 років тому +11

      Nico di Angelo I already know the description of introversion. Why do you believe Phil is more extroverted overall? His job is literally talking to a camera (I've read that most youtubers are introverts, but some try to fake it and appear extroverts), his hobby is gaming, he has a small group of close friends and he seems happy with his life, which directly proves that I am probably right, because: if he would have been an extrovert, the lack of regular human interaction and social activities would have depressed him. He isn't depressed, isn't he? (Please reply, I really enjoy arguing)

  • @Anasvet28
    @Anasvet28 7 років тому +515

    this explains why Dan makes pannels by himself and Phil doesn't, and that one pannel when they made Charlie to change seats with Dan so he could be next to Phil, and why Dan always talks more in interviews and is always checking up on Phil during these interviews. He's aware of Phil's problem and tries to make it better for him. so cute.

  • @EmmasAveragelife
    @EmmasAveragelife 7 років тому +3860

    Who else has to just sike them selves up for saying that you're present in class

    • @hollybramhall1351
      @hollybramhall1351 7 років тому +13

      Emma's Average life same

    • @tharin8635
      @tharin8635 7 років тому +28

      Emma's Average life still to this day

    • @nyiah2079
      @nyiah2079 7 років тому +33

      Emma's Average life I thought I was the only one that did that lol

    • @EmmasAveragelife
      @EmmasAveragelife 7 років тому +24

      sarcastic smile I'm glad I'm not the only one because each class I constantly cry in my head😂

    • @hollybramhall1351
      @hollybramhall1351 7 років тому +51

      I'm always thinking like what if I say something wrong and it's really awkward or what if I need to cough so my voice is all like rough or not there when I try to answer or something else... 😂

  • @Ghostkid-777
    @Ghostkid-777 7 років тому +1745

    I understand exactly how he feels as I have terrible social anxiety and just anxiety in general. Ringing people is so difficult, audience participation is terrifying and confrontation is literal hell!

    • @thesupremegentlemantm4442
      @thesupremegentlemantm4442 7 років тому +3

      Gh0stgirl 777 *Pheels

    • @l4515
      @l4515 7 років тому +18

      Gh0stgirl 777 i can't even order pizza, if i can't order online then i'll not eat at all.

    • @danbugman2393
      @danbugman2393 7 років тому +3

      Gh0stgirl 777 yeeess i feel you, but i'm going to therapy and that's helping me a bit to control my social anxiety because before it was literally impossible to make me interact with people

    • @badluck889
      @badluck889 7 років тому +13

      I've gotten to the point were if teachers are calling on kids with their hands up even though mine isn't I will have a small panic attack

    • @Ghostkid-777
      @Ghostkid-777 7 років тому +2

      dafne I'm currently going to therapy too. It's helping a little, I only started going this year (I'm 17 btw). I wish I got into therapy sooner tbh.

  • @comicphans2440
    @comicphans2440 7 років тому +1635

    The comments on this are so comforting, i'm realizing i'm not the only one with a fear of calling someone, answering the door, putting my hand up in class ect. And just look at what Phils achieved! He is honestly one of the main reasons that keep me going, he has done so mcuh and I am so so proud of him

    • @Mad-ik4fq
      @Mad-ik4fq 7 років тому +5

      Comicphans it you! I love your videos

    • @femaleexit6050
      @femaleexit6050 7 років тому

      Yeah..

    • @splynndid
      @splynndid 7 років тому +6

      My parents always call me a pussy because I hate doing those things and I'm like "well sorry I'm a failure of life"

    • @mattbowers4154
      @mattbowers4154 7 років тому

      Comicphans same here

    • @star3674
      @star3674 7 років тому +3

      Comicphans yeah, I literally have to practice the things I will say to a server, also I hate being wrong it is super awkward and horrible and I am like Phil where I don't like going to the doctors and wasting people's time

  • @ididitb
    @ididitb 7 років тому +438

    Social meerkat mode.

  • @saffysaffyrocks
    @saffysaffyrocks 7 років тому +244

    Fun anecdote: When I was younger I was so socially awkward in phone calls, that I accidentally bought £50's worth of pasta from this sales guy in Italy

    • @Victoria-hp6sf
      @Victoria-hp6sf 7 років тому +12

      saffysaffyrocks once my best friend told me that when she was 15 her mom gave her a $20 to go buy a five dollar figurine or something and she went up to the register and bought the figure and came back to her mom and gave her 10c in change because the lady at the register was pushing her to buy a $14 book to donate to the childrens hospital and she couldnt figure out how to say no and then her mom kept the figurine for a whole year or something because she was in so much trouble

    • @mylouhedwig678
      @mylouhedwig678 6 років тому +21

      That remembers me of the time that Phil went to a shop but they didn’t have what he needed but he felt too akward leaving without anything so he bought a kinder egg

    • @andreag.c.1156
      @andreag.c.1156 6 років тому +2

      Okay, now we need the whole story.

  • @TheApopolypse1
    @TheApopolypse1 7 років тому +315

    ive never actually realised how socially anxious phil actually is until now from this and now i can easily relate to him and feel bad for not acknowledging it to be that serious

  • @rosielagan
    @rosielagan 7 років тому +202

    I MET DAN AND PHIL TWO DAYS AGO AND PHIL WAS SO SHY AND CUTE but he was so sweet and it was sad to see that he was nervous to meet people that literally worship him and his best friend. Dan was so kind and did most of the talking for phil i love them so much

  • @LucyGhosts
    @LucyGhosts 7 років тому +2391

    i have social anxiety (I'm going to therapy it's fine) and I didn't notice phil has social anxiety too??? I feel bad now

    • @georgiareyn
      @georgiareyn 7 років тому +138

      Lucy Ghost I think Phil has kind of overgrown it since he's hosted the Brits and more shows, but I think he's just socially awkward now I think it'll just stay tbh

    • @milohehim4742
      @milohehim4742 7 років тому +118

      dan mentions him getting anxiety pretty often so i think it's still the same

    • @lpodverde
      @lpodverde 7 років тому +63

      some of these stories are from this year so he probably still has it.

    • @hilde1493
      @hilde1493 7 років тому +105

      you can be socially awkward and be nervous in social situations without having the actual disorder anxiety tho

    • @ikz8439
      @ikz8439 7 років тому +81

      AntiSocialMe you can't overgrow social anxiety maybe he's just socially awkward because being socially awkward and having social anxiety are different things

  • @bridget4139
    @bridget4139 7 років тому +474

    If I'm forced to make a phone call, I gotta prepare my speech. Bruh I ain't gonna wing it, I need to know exactly what to say incase I fuck it up and think about it for ages lmao

    • @finley2166
      @finley2166 7 років тому +1

      Bridget i do this! like if im ordering takeout then i write down my whole order, my address, my phone number or anything else i need so i dont forget and then i have to tick it off as i go

    • @saral797
      @saral797 7 років тому +1

      Before I answer the phone if someone's calling me, I always have to think if an excuse to hang up in case things get akward

    • @rianlewis1066
      @rianlewis1066 6 років тому

      i literally cant wing things lol

    • @emeraldbutterfly8876
      @emeraldbutterfly8876 6 років тому

      s I do that too, and I have to mentally prepare myself to talk to anybody.

    • @olivetree2187
      @olivetree2187 6 років тому

      s I have to chant in my head what I’m going to say to the lunch lady at school. It’s literally just “thanks, have a good day.” That’s it. And I have to mentally prepare myself.

  • @prettyfunny7616
    @prettyfunny7616 7 років тому +146

    This reminds me of a book signing they did where Dan and Phil had to leave and there were still people in line. A mad dad screamed across the room at Dan and Phil, and Phil was so scared in that video.

    • @jamaicawolf8349
      @jamaicawolf8349 7 років тому +1

      What video ?

    • @rianlewis1066
      @rianlewis1066 6 років тому +5

      Jamaica Wolf It's on UA-cam, just search "Dad yells at Dan and Phil" except he was actually yelling at the publisher, not Dan and Phil

    • @jazzyspork8745
      @jazzyspork8745 6 років тому +6

      Yea he just kind of walks away and Dan talked to the dad which is honestly relatable

  • @benji2339
    @benji2339 7 років тому +372

    I'm more scared of talking to someone through the phone, than answering the door.... how.... h-o-w

    • @minkinface
      @minkinface 7 років тому +13

      I literally wrote a whole essay on it for my blog, so yeah, I know how awkward talking on the phone can get.

    • @elliesennhenn9193
      @elliesennhenn9193 7 років тому +7

      holo phantasia how......ell
      Howell :3

    • @Emma-ul3gz
      @Emma-ul3gz 7 років тому +15

      The thing is, with phone calls there's no visual cues, as well as the fact that you're basically just sitting there talking to a machine. I just feel like it's worse for me when I can't tell how the other person is reacting.....and that's most of the time......

  • @Kayla-pd1sk
    @Kayla-pd1sk 7 років тому +454

    is anyone else scared to get up and ask the teacher to go to bathroom because you think everyone will stare??
    just me?...Oh...Okay

    • @anniepennie5976
      @anniepennie5976 7 років тому +18

      Helena Smith i relate so much. Also, it always feels like the teacher is going to say no and all the other kids will see you get rejected. It rarely happens though, so just go for it! 😅

    • @fedrat.2118
      @fedrat.2118 7 років тому +12

      Dan and Phil are my senpais everytime I need to go to the bathroom I tell my friend and then not get up for like 5 mins and my friend is always like just do it but I always feel like yhre's people staring

    • @josiekaret6492
      @josiekaret6492 7 років тому

      Mee

    • @jkhrissa
      @jkhrissa 7 років тому

      Helena IsAPancake omg yes

    • @courtneyramirez8690
      @courtneyramirez8690 7 років тому +3

      Helena IsAPancake Yes but if I gotta go I gotta go. Even if I feel as if they're staring. Once it was cold in the classroom (if it's really cold my stomach hurts so bad) so I literally ran to the teacher and everyone stared. so when I got back I stood outside the door for a few minutes 😂😂

  • @vrishas7499
    @vrishas7499 7 років тому +575

    I resonate with phil sm bc I hate basically any social situation. I'm so awkward and I feel bad sometimes or I want to help someone but I never can bc I'm too scared to approach them

    • @PaolaMartinez-wx4vb
      @PaolaMartinez-wx4vb 6 років тому +5

      Vrisha S yes same. I even sometimes delete some comments I write on UA-cam because I feel like somebody is going to hate on me or I something and i just feel so insecure

    • @pejays1248
      @pejays1248 6 років тому +1

      Same, I can’t even ask a subway man for a sandwich ;-;
      I’m nearly 13 years old...

    • @natalyavillegas5495
      @natalyavillegas5495 6 років тому

      honestly don’t know how I’m going to make it through life

    • @rosericorico4980
      @rosericorico4980 6 років тому

      SAME! My best friend was telling him about some personal stuff and I REALLY wanted to help but I just sat their sighlenty like an idiot 😭

  • @ellafaie
    @ellafaie 7 років тому +309

    I relate to phil so much tbh

  • @itsisha9762
    @itsisha9762 7 років тому +408

    YEAH BOII Phil being relatable

    • @bella-ls2hh
      @bella-ls2hh 7 років тому +5

      •The Cupcake Puppy• anxiety isn't relatable wtf

    • @dreamingstrawberries
      @dreamingstrawberries 7 років тому +8

      bella b if most of the comments have social anxiety then it's relatable
      anything can be relatable really

    • @bella-ls2hh
      @bella-ls2hh 7 років тому +30

      Hi ImLisa i understand that but the whole "mental illness is so relatable omg i get nervous too!!1!1!1" tends to downplay anxiety and make people think it's only people being nervous sometimes, when it's actually a lot more. when you call a mental illness relatable, it makes neurotypical people feel like they can relate to anxiety, when in fact they don understand how bad it really is.

  • @mayagarcia2700
    @mayagarcia2700 7 років тому +266

    I'm really socially anxious but more at the cinemas and MORE when someone making noise so yeah I can relate to Philly

    • @kaydineg3686
      @kaydineg3686 6 років тому

      angelus terrae today these people in the back were being so obnoxious and I just didn’t say anything :/

  • @illbreakyourprettyface6024
    @illbreakyourprettyface6024 7 років тому +219

    i can't even order food. i always get my parents or my friends to do it for me

    • @mads4763
      @mads4763 7 років тому +9

      tiff Same. It's so easy for them and they just think I'm being lazy. They don't get that I really just can't do it.

    • @plutoandpolaris
      @plutoandpolaris 7 років тому +7

      tiff I have a bad stutter to the point where it gets almost painful if my jaw locks, so in ANY situation where I have to talk to strangers is just NO.
      Ordering food, talking to cashiers, presenting in class, making phone calls, asking to go to the bathroom, answering questions in class, EVERYTHING. I fucking hate it.

    • @gnarlybun
      @gnarlybun 7 років тому +4

      tiff Me too because I have it all planned out but when I say it doesn't make sense. one time my mom made me order by myself and I started to cry lmao

    • @Victoria-hp6sf
      @Victoria-hp6sf 7 років тому +1

      me too. when i was 13 i had this horrible friend who did lots of awful things but she made me do these social things for myself to the point where i was actually crying and it made me cry more that i was crying and i just thought i was a defective human for not being able to do things? but then i lost her as a friend and my new friends are much nicer and they will always either do things for me or they will stand by my side and be supportive or like hold my hand or something so i dont freak out and just start crying and becoming hysterical when im just trying to order a soda pop lol

    • @rachelavocadotoast_3311
      @rachelavocadotoast_3311 7 років тому

      I just order online even if that's still awkward

  • @phantrash2938
    @phantrash2938 7 років тому +291

    i love phil so much he is too precious

  • @isabellamacy7316
    @isabellamacy7316 7 років тому +84

    i feel like dan is the only person phil is comfortable around without getting some kind of anxiety. it's really too cute :)

    • @arabellas70s
      @arabellas70s 7 років тому +8

      I don't think so. I think he has other good friends

    • @richardganseythelll750
      @richardganseythelll750 7 років тому +17

      nope. Phil has good friends besides Dan and there's nothing cute in being anxious. it clearly causes him distress, how could that be cute?

    • @darkenedstrive1394
      @darkenedstrive1394 6 років тому +7

      Well, Dan and Louise, PJ, Chris, Cat, etc. He has friends, he's just around Dan the most. Dan might contribute to keeping each other calm, however.

    • @jaelyn8881
      @jaelyn8881 6 років тому

      Dumb ass phannies

  • @pastelphanismyaesthetic7781
    @pastelphanismyaesthetic7781 7 років тому +106

    I HATE presenting projects in class because I always get so nervous and then I usually end up flubbing up my words and it's horrible. Ugh I hate being socially awkward

    • @phanictwentynekilljysatthe162
      @phanictwentynekilljysatthe162 7 років тому +1

      pastel phan is my aesthetic same lmao

    • @fedrat.2118
      @fedrat.2118 7 років тому +1

      Katie X same I had one a couple of weeks ago and my friend was telling me I ws doing good and giving me thumbs up and making me laugh but it wasnt much better (noone was listening anyways....)

    • @itsjustme1574
      @itsjustme1574 7 років тому +1

      Fedra T. I have a friend who will use sign language to tell me what to do, and someone caught on, and now they sign worst things, so I blush more and stop talking. I already stutter, talk fast, quiet and turn red.

    • @courtneyramirez8690
      @courtneyramirez8690 7 років тому

      pastel phan is my aesthetic Same. I had a 4-h presentation and you're supposed to be able to present in 6 minutes, no less. I read so fast my presentation was 3 minutes 😐 lets just say the next year I didnt even do a presentation and the teacher was mad

  • @maxa8576
    @maxa8576 7 років тому +374

    Dan is the concerned boyfriend

    • @richardganseythelll750
      @richardganseythelll750 7 років тому +6

      nah, he's a good friend, that's all

    • @miriamvelazquez8327
      @miriamvelazquez8327 6 років тому +20

      RichardGanseythelll good friend? nah they're more like best friends

    • @ramblchat55
      @ramblchat55 6 років тому +8

      Best friends is an understatement

    • @Emma-gn3vg
      @Emma-gn3vg 5 років тому

      RichardGanseythelll *k*

    • @Bruh-mg5ff
      @Bruh-mg5ff 5 років тому +6

      RichardGanseythelll this aged well

  • @unfortunatedisgrace246
    @unfortunatedisgrace246 7 років тому +90

    as someone who got diagnosed with social anxiety I can relate to Phil on such a deep level with this! wow!

  • @avelynsoto3817
    @avelynsoto3817 7 років тому +711

    am i weird for not liking talking on the phone like i can text but talking on the phone is the worst

    • @minkinface
      @minkinface 7 років тому +4

      Same.

    • @lynchsaran
      @lynchsaran 7 років тому +3

      No you aren't i hate to I get anxious

    • @frogsrfriends
      @frogsrfriends 7 років тому +5

      im exactly the same idk what it is but its something about talking to someone and not being able to see them it makes me all nervous but texting is completely fine

    • @hollybramhall1351
      @hollybramhall1351 7 років тому

      abby Soto same

    • @karenalejandra3580
      @karenalejandra3580 7 років тому +4

      abby Soto omg same, ugh, i make so many awkward silences

  • @Isak-H
    @Isak-H 7 років тому +164

    WHY IS PHIL ME

    • @k8ieg
      @k8ieg 7 років тому +1

      1 2 3 YEAH YEAH YEAH ಥ_ಥ |-/

  • @mercy8601
    @mercy8601 7 років тому +62

    I used to get my friend to order everything for me because I was TERRIFIED of speaking to people

    • @marzbarz7021
      @marzbarz7021 7 років тому +2

      ShippingIsPhun
      My friends just laugh and call me lazy for not doing it myself

    • @fedrat.2118
      @fedrat.2118 7 років тому +1

      ShippingIsPhun yeah me too I get my brother to do it. I also do a girl scouts thing and I have to like call to tell people when they need to be there and if they need to bring something and its the worst fucking thing becaise I always try and get my ftiend to do it but she doesnt have time and I'm always so awkward and sometimes theres this woman who thinks I'm a boy and Im too awkward to correct her....

  • @OupaviSealight
    @OupaviSealight 6 років тому +24

    I feel as if dan has just grown accustom to talking about his depression/anxiety stuff and Phil tends to just support others with his own understanding due to his own emotions. Like, branding aside or not, they are both human.

  • @Bucherviews
    @Bucherviews 7 років тому +109

    I love your work, but there's an extra one that wasn't in here! It's another cinema one where Dan was talking about booking some premium seats in the cinema for him and Phil and there were some people sat in their seats - Phil was like "no, we can't confront them, let's just sit somewhere else" but Dan went in there and got them to move (it's maybe from 'What Not To Do At The Cinema'?)
    Edit: Yes, it's from 'What Not To Do At The Cinema', I just checked. (:

    • @oqua12
      @oqua12  7 років тому +18

      Oh that's a really good example! Thanks! Maybe I'll upload it separately. I don't think I've ever made a compilation without accidentally leaving out a clip or two haha

  • @mariaangelagalvez739
    @mariaangelagalvez739 7 років тому +26

    I'm a combination of Dan and Phil in terms of being socially awkward. I kind of understand them this way: Phil can talk to anyone because he is friendly in general, but he can't handle "adult" situations. He is more on informal interaction (making people laugh, small talk, etc) then when he gets to adult situations, he panicks, overthinks, (like me lol) and gets anxious. Ex: answering the phone, when there is someone who bells the door, etc. While Dan here doesn't like "shallow" interactions that much. He prefers to talk to someone who he has seen for a couple of times and has had little social interaction. He isn't really that socially awkward because he picks at which situation does he want to use his energy on. Of course he can be chatty on any time it's just that he knows when some conversations aren't gonna take long because it's shallow. Though he wishes he could do a little better in those so as not to make things awkward. (like me again lol) this is a hard life for me living in this type of personality tbh. Hope i explained things well! (if someone bothers to read this long ass comment)

  • @catokella9209
    @catokella9209 7 років тому +24

    Phil is a precious bean and he needs to be protected

  • @frogsrfriends
    @frogsrfriends 7 років тому +27

    i understand how phil feels i have horrible social anxiety to the point where i cant even talk on the phone with my family let alone a stranger and ordering food from a restaurant or room service is so scary i just cant

  • @fade2blackness837
    @fade2blackness837 6 років тому +9

    I've noticed that Dan is socially awkward usually due to bad luck, and keeps quiet rather than talking back most of the time, but when he wants to, he'll completely take up confrontational mode while Phil is more socially awkward when it comes to confrontation and tends to feel responsible for social things that are even out of his control.

  • @imaloserr7352
    @imaloserr7352 7 років тому +42

    I relate to this on a spiritual level

  • @a_bear
    @a_bear 7 років тому +128

    I can relate. Doorbell is the worst thing for me. I don't know what it is about it but when my doorbell rings, I start shaking and I feel like I need to hide (lol) and there is no way I'm gonna open thw door. If someone else opens it, I still shake after 10 minutes. I'm not sure if that's normal. Idk what to do

    • @brookeagbai4453
      @brookeagbai4453 7 років тому +22

      I am like that when my phone rings or any phone rings I hate talk on the phone to anyone unless I am really close to them.
      I hate going out to dinner with my family because I have to say my order so I make my mum say it for me.

    • @a_bear
      @a_bear 7 років тому +7

      Nico di Angelo Thank you for the advice. I never really thought about it being a phobia but now when you mentioned it, i think it is for sure. It hasn't been like this always tho. it started a couple of years ago. Nothing bad has happened to me with doorbells.
      Thanks again and I'm really considering talking to someone about it.

    • @moanilsson3448
      @moanilsson3448 7 років тому +3

      a Bear I'm so happy you got help from a youtube comment 😊 I'm sure you will get over your phobia if you work with it. I used to be absolutely terrified of being home alone, going by bike and flying but now I can do all of those things without being scared at all. I believe you can get over it 👊🏼

  • @livzara429
    @livzara429 7 років тому +37

    I feel so relatable to Phil that it almost scares me

  • @septihowelter4439
    @septihowelter4439 7 років тому +53

    Omg I could relate to Phil so much

  • @mercy8601
    @mercy8601 7 років тому +40

    "Pizza can be hot." gee thanks really

  • @esmevuti
    @esmevuti 7 років тому +10

    not that having social anxiety is a good thing, but i kind of love that i can relate so much to this. knowing that phil experiences this too, along with many others in the phandom makes me feel like maybe I'm not such a weirdo who should just suck it up and talk, and be "normal" like the rest of people.

  • @rey2862
    @rey2862 7 років тому +9

    Okay I feel him so much. My mom just tells me that I'm faking it and "stop acting like that" like sorry I'm so anxious around people ?

    • @tealkerberus748
      @tealkerberus748 5 років тому

      appreciate me this is a while ago - are things better now?

  • @azalymin
    @azalymin 7 років тому +8

    I know how phil feels and it make me so sad, he deserve all the love in the world

  • @ukiyo12117
    @ukiyo12117 7 років тому +20

    i relate to this so much... my phone had a problem like 6 months ago and now I don't get any phone calls or texts, unless it's through WhatsApp (i know this will probably get me killed in an emergency when I have no wifi), but I love it so much 'cause now I don't need to answer calls. i am also terrified of presentations in front of the class and I actually managed to dodge all the college classes I knew would have this kind of activity, just to think about the possibility of it makes me start shaking and breathing really fast and my heart races :/

  • @vrishas7499
    @vrishas7499 7 років тому +52

    I have an immense fear of calling sticks

  • @愛しています-y2s
    @愛しています-y2s 5 років тому +2

    I actually love how phil says "cinema"

  • @neeenssss
    @neeenssss 7 років тому +24

    aw my tiny bub i relate so much

  • @ellanova9974
    @ellanova9974 7 років тому +14

    I never knew I needed this compilation until I watched this. Thank you for making it~

  • @emilyhawthorne6786
    @emilyhawthorne6786 7 років тому +12

    Everyone's being so nice and supportive but I just read the title as sexually anxious

    • @Jazzlyn_
      @Jazzlyn_ 6 років тому

      Lmao I'm dying

  • @kaci7129
    @kaci7129 7 років тому +10

    I hate it when people don't take social anxiety seriously. Don't laugh or make fun of them because they can't make a phone call or order their own food, help them out. They can't help it.

  • @savannahjudd6491
    @savannahjudd6491 6 років тому +3

    THE DOCTOR THING IS SO TRUE. Also I relate soooo much, when I get nervous or anxious I start tripping over words and my friend says I’m like a lost puppy when I get freaked out lol

  • @hatsunemiku7372
    @hatsunemiku7372 7 років тому +45

    CAN PHIL EXPRESS AN OPINION

  • @meganshindelus7415
    @meganshindelus7415 7 років тому +3

    aw this makes me realize how youtube is like the only place he's comfortable and not super anxious.

  • @bookishbrooke110
    @bookishbrooke110 6 років тому +1

    I respect this because no one thinks I have anxiety because I seem outgoing like phill as well and it’s really nice to see this

  • @sarahsun7468
    @sarahsun7468 7 років тому +9

    I'm scared of everything in the fricking world. People ringing the door and house phone, people handing me flyers and testers, ordering food, talking in front of class, talking to the guys in my class, asking question n answering them...
    Seriously, I don't even look people in the eyes when I'm talking to them...!!!

    • @sope4723
      @sope4723 7 років тому

      sarah sun THIS IS LITERALLY ME, I HATE IT

  • @veravollebregt8484
    @veravollebregt8484 6 років тому +7

    I have to mentally prepare if I’m in a line to buy something or raise my hand in class

  • @castheangel9867
    @castheangel9867 7 років тому +4

    Phil is so caring and sweet person

  • @sarahschell4936
    @sarahschell4936 6 років тому +2

    I feel so bad for Phil, he's usually so quiet about these things and I feel he's really underrated. Does anyone else feel almost like sick when they have to present in class?

  • @kosmicx
    @kosmicx 6 років тому +3

    i'm literally crying i relate to Phil so much

  • @elsb1084
    @elsb1084 6 років тому

    i feel like i’m not the only one who gets worried about making a phone call and having to prepare it so i don’t screw it up and think about it for the rest of the day or that i hate answering doors or that i hate talking to new people. these comments are really reassuring and i love it :) and honestly when i see these videos and phil talking about it and still going out there with tours and meeting friends all the time it’s really the main thing keeping me from locking myself in my room.

  • @acesquare30
    @acesquare30 7 років тому +4

    I've suddenly realized every single one of these things is something I face on a daily basis..... including the doctor's thing too...

  • @sinombrerodriguez3442
    @sinombrerodriguez3442 6 років тому

    it's incredibly comforting that these people that seem so suave and confident experience the same things I do

  • @melonpie33
    @melonpie33 7 років тому +5

    It's kinda sad that Phil is more socially anxious than Dan, yet Dan is known for being socially anxious

  • @grilche6116
    @grilche6116 6 років тому +1

    Before I *really* got into dnp I used to think Phil was the one who was self deprecating & really had a special outlook on life. Now I know he’s more quiet & not as pretentious nor outspoken unless comfortable in any situation. Dan works well under pressure. He’s great at speaking when needed and is there for Phil without having to tell him anything because they just have a connection and such a well fitted friendship

  • @megedwards8259
    @megedwards8259 7 років тому +14

    1:06 dan being a good boyfriend

    • @jaelyn8881
      @jaelyn8881 6 років тому +1

      Hon *best friend

    • @jaelyn8881
      @jaelyn8881 6 років тому +1

      Just cause they bff don't mean they lovers

  • @richardganseythelll750
    @richardganseythelll750 7 років тому

    I feel so bad for him. and I respect him for being strong and not letting his anxiety ruin his life. because it overtook mine and it prevents me from doing so many things. Phil pushes through his fears a lot. it's very brave of him

  • @theresat1776
    @theresat1776 7 років тому +23

    I'm really conflicted with whether hes an infp or enfp. He's always screamed enfp to me, so I don't know if this video really makes him an introvert. I think he enjoys being around people but is really awkward and sometimes clueless, and I relate to way too much as an enfp myself.

    • @nanamoeldrup2823
      @nanamoeldrup2823 7 років тому +9

      Theresa Tenn I'm personally a infp and I feel like Phil is the same. He seems like an introvert who like being with people and talking, but needs his personal space afterwards. Idk he just seems more like an introvert to me..

    • @beephee7608
      @beephee7608 7 років тому +1

      Well im basically a mix of infp and enfp so maybe he is like me?

    • @TheStrawberryMads
      @TheStrawberryMads 6 років тому +2

      Theresa Tenn i’m an enfp with infp tendencies, and i feel like phil’s the opposite (infp with enfp tendencies)

  • @psmayaps
    @psmayaps 5 років тому

    honestly this makes me feel so comforted that i can have social anxiety and still accomplish a great career

  • @skytterd9491
    @skytterd9491 7 років тому +4

    Omg I HATE making phone calls and I feel weird even if I'm texting someone. I relate to Phil so much in this video, wowza

  • @pot-ay-topot-ah-to4325
    @pot-ay-topot-ah-to4325 4 роки тому +1

    let's all collectively give phil a hug

  • @jade6052
    @jade6052 7 років тому +6

    I can relate to Phil, once I was in lush with my best friend and we were shopping before and the worker is like "oh what did you get from pink?" And I replied with "yeah!".....

    • @thephandmphamilywithalvefo3307
      @thephandmphamilywithalvefo3307 6 років тому

      lukie I do that when I can't hear people (that I don't know very well) and I've already asked them to repeat themselves and I don't want to ask again

  • @joriver4972
    @joriver4972 6 років тому

    I suffered from social anxiety and went to a therapist for about a year. I better now but I still have trouble talking to someone I don't know, and whenever I am forced to speak publicly I visibly shake and my voice sounds like I'm crying. It's comforting to know that someone I look up to understands.

  • @s.quinery3389
    @s.quinery3389 6 років тому +3

    Aww Dan pretended to be Phil on the phone 😭 friendship goals

  • @exiledsonofhawaii3934
    @exiledsonofhawaii3934 6 років тому +2

    I am getting a call from my teacher at a certain time tomorrow and I felt really bad but then I saw this video and realized that Phil literally shakes whenever he has to do something like that. I don't feel so bad anymore. Poor Phil, I wish I could help him when he says he gets nervous while answering the phone.

  • @Dan.And.Phil.Trash11
    @Dan.And.Phil.Trash11 7 років тому +20

    poor phil 😔

  • @yamila8699
    @yamila8699 7 років тому

    im actually crying,, he must be protected at all costs

  • @elizlyrics5080
    @elizlyrics5080 7 років тому +32

    3:19 actually me omg

  • @paranoid_virgo1738
    @paranoid_virgo1738 5 років тому

    Dan has that wonderful super power where whenever his friends are socially anxious and can’t do stuff he is magically able to do the thing no matter how anxious he himself is

  • @patricia1104
    @patricia1104 7 років тому +6

    I have social anxiety and it's horrible

  • @ninatje15
    @ninatje15 7 років тому

    i'm so glad when i can relate to these kinds of things bc i always forget that i'm not the only person who struggles with this. Was really nice to see a compilation :)

  • @svidemic
    @svidemic 7 років тому +15

    this is what i signed up for

  • @bi-nonna4299
    @bi-nonna4299 7 років тому +1

    I hate talking in class, talking on the phone, and answering the door so much, I get so nervous and I'd rather do anything else to avoid these situations

  • @lunamoonlight2479
    @lunamoonlight2479 7 років тому +6

    I know how Phil feels.......
    Funny/Awkward story down below:
    I once was at a cinema with one of my friends and all and accidentally smacked my friends popcorn out of her hand. I just felt bad, so I went back and bought some more popcorn! When I came back with the popcorn I said "Here's the cocporn" My friend, thinking dirty minded then started laughing so loud that almost everyone was turning their head in our direction. I, obviously embarrassed, turned red and was pretty much sinking into the floor.
    And that's the awkward story!

  • @jazzyspork8745
    @jazzyspork8745 6 років тому +2

    I'm incredibly socialy awkward to the point were I cant even go outside at times because I start freaking out so i can relate to Phil

  • @anastaciyaknoll
    @anastaciyaknoll 7 років тому +4

    i have mild social anxiety and same

  • @milamyers7616
    @milamyers7616 7 років тому

    phil is almost in tears about a guy tripping in the cinema he's so precious awww

  • @user-qv9me9gb7z
    @user-qv9me9gb7z 7 років тому +24

    I don't need notifications

  • @anormalfandatboi5670
    @anormalfandatboi5670 6 років тому +1

    I feel awkward a lot.and i when i feel my anxiety hit I raise my shoulders and i get sweaty palms. And seeing how Phil is awkward too kinda,it makes me happy.and reading this comment section makes me think that im not alone.so yea thank you internet.

  • @lolarose5857
    @lolarose5857 7 років тому +4

    I'm just like this, then I ask my friend to help me and I keep thinking she doesn't like me and I'm treating her like a slave but that's not my intention ahhhh

  • @faicotone
    @faicotone 7 років тому

    I used to be so bad but I have been getting better since I started uni 3 years ago. I still have to practice what I want to say in my head before making an order or a phone call but now I at least have the confidence to say "I need more time to decide" at Starbucks or "I'm sorry but I changed my mind. I want this instead." It feels good to actually ask for what you want, not just blurt out the first thing that comes to mind and be too embarrassed to change it.

  • @jessica-mh3os
    @jessica-mh3os 7 років тому +6

    I didn't want to ask my teacher how to spell something because I'm pretty socially awkward so I used my phone and she caught me and confiscated it. I cringe to this day.

  • @haylee7951
    @haylee7951 7 років тому

    Phil is so precious. I can't. I love him so much.

  • @mollybryant6777
    @mollybryant6777 6 років тому +4

    I relate to *all* of these

  • @makaylad8987
    @makaylad8987 6 років тому

    I have terrible social anxiety as well. I hate calling people on the phone, raising my hand and talking to people in general. I’m glad I’m not alone. Phil is lucky to have Dan who can help him deal with his social anxiety and do things for him when he’s too anxious.

  • @femaleexit6050
    @femaleexit6050 7 років тому +3

    Oh the feelss!!! Same thing with me.
    One time, in class, a teacher picked me to answer a question in science. I was terrified and she was getting angry. I didn't say anything. Then I started bawling my eyes out. She shouted at me *"I don't want you in my class if you're not going to contribute with anything! Get a grip!!"*
    She knew I had anxiety and stuff like that. A few minutes later she went *"get out of my classroom! I don't want you in here like that. Go on. sort yourself out!"* And she literally always picked me to answer a question to ruin my bloody day. Luckily, she's quit! Yay.
    I also struggle with a lot more things but naaah I can't be bothered to write anymore

    • @pancakeguts5240
      @pancakeguts5240 5 років тому

      Oh damn I hope this never happens to me. If it does then I’d get worse and be nervous around people with the same combination of sex, race, hair color, and eye color of the yelling person

  • @TheRealMrWorldwide
    @TheRealMrWorldwide 6 років тому

    Makes me think back to when Phil was speaking during a panel but everyone was speaking over so Dan was like "PHIL HAS A QUESTION" bless