How to Say Goodbye to Your Childhood Home | Gary Sweeney | TEDxSanAntonio
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- Опубліковано 11 вер 2024
- A house is like a pictorial frame delimiting the lives lived within it, littered by the details of experience and age as the years pass. As city landscapes succumb to an ever-growing suburban development, humble homes that harken to a bygone era face the demise of increasing real estate values. For most people, bidding farewell to the dwelling they grew up in is bittersweet. One artist found solace grieving the loss of his modest beachside family home the only way he knew how.
Gary Sweeney appropriates commercial signage, his family photo archive, and found objects to create paintings, sculptures, and installations that humorously confront cultural topics and nostalgia. In his text-based compositions, he often uses linguistic puzzles and famous quotations to question the progress of society. The artist questions the patterns of social Darwinism and exposes the discrepancies and contradictions in current governmental, economic, and social milieux.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at TED.com/tedx
A house is like a pictorial frame delimiting the lives lived within it, littered by the details of experience and age as the years pass. As city landscapes succumb to an ever-growing suburban development, humble homes that harken to a bygone era face the demise of increasing real estate values. For most people, bidding farewell to the dwelling they grew up in is bittersweet. One artist found solace grieving the loss of his modest beachside family home the only way he knew how.
Gary Sweeney appropriates commercial signage, his family photo archive, and found objects to create paintings, sculptures, and installations that humorously confront cultural topics and nostalgia. In his text-based compositions, he often uses linguistic puzzles and famous quotations to question the progress of society. The artist questions the patterns of social Darwinism and exposes the discrepancies and contradictions in current governmental, economic, and social milieux.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at TED.com/tedx This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
20 years in this house. Been here since I was born. Tonight is the last night.
Tonight is my last night, leaving for military tomorrow. It's hard to say goodbye man
How does it feel
@@muniramohamed6384 It’s sad, of course, but everything must come to an end sooner or later. Looking back I’m less sad that we left and more grateful that we got to live there in the first place.
@@Dominic-Decoco that’s also something that I’ve learned after living in so many places all my life. It’s better to smile about it than to cry
18 years here, tonight is my last night :(
Been a week and honestly it genuinely feels like ive lost a loved one, its so crippling, im so attached to my childhood home that i feel like my whole life is over not being there anymore. Ik it will get better but damn man, i knew it would hurt but not THIS much.
me too! I felt like it was weird to be this attached but I am . Its like a death to me
@@breakthroughremedies6033 its gotten better but every now and then i just think "omg im not there anymore"😫 lol
@@keelobrown4991 i am crying left my childhood hone yesterday nd now i feel like i am just dead
Me to, I moved from my childhood home recently and when I used to live there I really wanted to move but now we did all I want now is to move back. The sad thing is I dont have any photos of me in that home.
Oh no I have to move from my house in 4 months and I’ve been there my whole life😀
For 17 years, I’ve been here. Everyone has a point in their life where they realize that their childhood is done and gone. My childhood is over. Goodbye.
Dude same...and what hurts is the fact that I'm moving from my best friends.
@@pastel-children5551 In 2 years from now, I'll say goodbye to a childhood and my teen years where I had never made real friends or found my gang. It's bittersweet, cause now I'm starting to accept it
My Childhood will never be over.
17 years here too🥲 My dad built this home and it feels wrong to see it in someone elses hands.. I always wished to buy this home from my parents but oh well… One day 🙌🏼
i’m also 17 and moving out. we’ve lived with my grandma my whole life and she just passed away. i’m gonna miss her and that house so much
Tonight’s the night. I’m moving. Spent all my 19 years of life in this home. Me and my family has been through many ups and downs in this house. Many memories infused into this house. My family seems to not care but I just can’t let this house go. I’m super attached to it. It feels like I’m letting go something that’s a part of me. Hopefully I can adjust . I’ll miss my childhood home. :(
Bro you have too, it’s a sign for growth it’s sad and you’ll look back with bitter sweet dreams but in the end we go forward.
How are you now, im in the exact same position tonight. So scared
its my last day in this house. I too attached to it that i don't want to move out.
@@Izz10-ss5zc how did it go?
Tonight is the last night, and I’ve been staying up as long as I can to put it off. I’ve lived here for 28 years, through some very, very hard times, and it’s always been here. I can’t quite describe how it feels to be leaving this house that I’ve left so many times before, for university and for work, but to know that this time it will be final.
I’m happy that I’m able to sleep in my same bed, and look at the same ceiling, and feel the same walls around me. I’m happy for all the memories past, and the memories I will build elsewhere, but this wasn’t just where I lived, it was where I felt I belonged. I know that in time, I will feel that again, and that this too shall pass.
It’s been good to see everyone else’s comments here; I thought I was losing my mind feeling like this. Turns out; It’s just a mark of having had a wonderful home.
To everyone who comes here in the future, you aren’t alone. Tell me about your home in the replies!
So long, Dunstall, I’ll miss you!
It really is hard. I have been renting my grandparents home the past 7 years. My grandpa died 8 years ago and my grandma recently passed away this February so a few months ago. She asked me to take care of the house while she lived with some of my family, my mom etc, so I’ve been renting it for years. It was where I grew up. Her and my grandpa helped raise me. I am living here with my boyfriend right now but we are looking to move soon. The house is termited and needs so much work and we have catering businesses so we need a functioning clean kitchen etc.
I know we have to move, but I just can’t believe this is how it’s finally happening. I’m so attached to it and I am scared to move on. It’s been my 100% comfort and the only place that felt like my safe spot. I just learned this past week as well that the house will be sold within a year so either way, whether it be next month or the next 10 months, I’ll have to move on and let go. I’m nervous and so scared and I’ve been so emotional about it all. I didn’t expect kt to hurt so much I guess
Thank you for sharing your feelings about this, for me it is so difficult and the emotions are overwhelming to go through. My home is where I felt so secure going through my changes in life so far. Tonight is my last night living in here and I have been trying to capture the sounds of the woods as the seasons are changing. It is so beautifully quiet where I will always remember the sounds of cicada in the late summer and the owls in the stillness of winter :). I am grateful to have the best memories spending time outside with my brother and my dad.
I finished my grad school stuff and have a really cool opportunity coming up in the city. The change in environment will definitely require an adjustment but I’m trying to be as optimistic as I can. Feeling overwhelmed by life change as well as leaving a place that holds so much comfort is one of the most difficult things I’ve gone through..
I hope you have found some peace in the part of your journey that you’re in now. Your comment made me feel like I wasn’t alone. I have been feeling like I might be over reacting towards the whole process of leaving this place
I just woke up in my bed for the last time. It’s 5:49 am and I have to start getting ready for work, and then after work I’m moving out. It hit me hard that I have a bed already set up somewhere else and this is the last time in my comfy bed, in my comfy room. My mom passed when I was going into grade 12. I had a hard horrible time here, as did my dad after she left us. It got dark. But then it got brighter, and better, and there was love again. I’ve been here my whole life, and I woke up thanking my bed and my room for keeping me safe throughout the years. My dads still going to be here so I can come back, but that didn’t stop me from waking up and sobbing.
"Life can only be understood backwards, but it must be live forwards." Just let that thought sink in.
Thank you for this. I needed it
Missing my old home after moving was the most painful thing I've ever experienced. Normally when you're depressed or worried, you go home and spend time alone. But where do you go when the cause of your depression is loss of your home? I always hated that house because it was an apartment where I didn't have a garage, no backyard, no personal room of my own. But when we finally moved to a bigger house that had all the things I wanted, I just wanted to go back to my apartment I used to hate. This taught me to be grateful for the things I have even if I don't currently like them. This time I tried to be happy and enjoy each moment in my new home because I know I'm going to miss them when I move again.
I moved today and im saying goodbye tommorw to my childhood home
My childhood home is an apartment also. When looking at other places to live I realized just what a special place it is. While I'm still here I look around and appreciate it as much as I can knowing it may be gone from my life at any time.
same case man we move into our new house 3 months ago but now it feels more different. i used to hate our old home but when we finally move into new house i cried secretly because it was my childhood home and that home became my friend that know all my secrets, all my pain, its like a silent friend i mean its a friend without ears, nose, face or even body, but you will feel the soul of it. you will feel the acceptance of it
@@paulsebastianmarbella9824 i am missing my childhood home and crying i am depressed its like i am dead from inside
@@killerboy9168 and how does it feel after this 4 months im also sad now but i wanna know if it'll be better or no please answer
So comforting to see comments from people going through the same thing. My grandparents have died. It’s been the only constant home throughout my life. I loved here while I cared for them. It’s now being sold. It really does feel like grief of a building
Yes, I didn't realize I am experiencing grief for a non living object. Seems so strange to feel this way, but I do.
Me too.
Tonight will be the last night that I'll spend in my childhood home. A good 32 years of my life filled so much happiness and tragedy combined. It still hasn't sunk in that I'll be saying goodbye to my favorite comfort zone. I will miss my comfort zone and how I wish I could hug the entire house.
I can understand...., why u are moving
@@himanshuyadav6672 well not really moving, just had to demolish the house because of its old age and of the wear and tear due to natural calamities and pests. Had a new one built in the same lot. But it really does hit different since the new house still doesn't feel like a home for me.
@@Stickerbombsquad i can understand..we are also going to demolish old one and making it new one again.
But dear family members make house to home..
Don't worry u will get same level of love from this house Also.😊
@@himanshuyadav6672 Thanks! Hopefully it does, maybe it would just take some time. I wish you and your family well my friend and may your transition to you new home be pleasant :)
@@Stickerbombsquad thanks bro.., may I know from in which country u lives.
Tonight is my last night in my childhood home… been here pretty much my whole life and I’m almost 21 now.. learned how to ride me bike in my neighborhood, rollerbladed and skateboarded for the first time here. Grew up with all the kids here my whole life.. who are still here… we met at this one spot every single morning and walked up to the school near my house from elementary to middle school.. I’m a very sentimental person and it’s barely set in i have to say goodbye… never step foot inside again… there have been so many bad and good memories here I don’t want to forget.. and i hope i dont… trying to think of something, a keepsake I can take with me from the house but i can’t think of anything. Anyway thank you house for making me the person I am today. I hope to revisit this video in a year and I really hope I’m in a different better place.
take care!!
I can understand you and your feelings...
Will u move to very far away from your city or near by..
Because u wil loose your childhood friends Also along with sweet home.please tel me
I'm planning on taking the mailbox number tag off of my childhood home as a keepsake and a small jar of soil from the front yard or the pasture; a spot that on the land that meant so much to me
@@cosmicglory6768 I can understand your emotion.
I hope you are doing well as one year approaches you!
I left my house yesterday, last night i was sobbing all the time, for the memories which i was leaving behind, for my childhood and for everything that the house gave to me
I want to comment on this because I’ve never told anyone this so why not start in the comment section of UA-cam? I got a tattoo when I was 15, that same night I was having a mini panic attack in my room just thinking about how this tattoo will be on me forever! My heart was racing, hyperventilating, & I just wanted to go sleep in the bed with my mom for comfort but I didn’t want to worry her that I was regretting my tattoo. At the time I couldn’t wrap my head around it. I was depressed over this tattoo for a good 4-5 months. I remember I couldn’t wait to go to school & because I had started clinging to one of my funny friends because he made me die of laughter & that was the only time I would forget about the tattoo & feel better. Later I did realize that it was the change from having nothing on my skin for 15 years to now having something on my skin forever that had made me feel so depressed. I’m now 23 & over the tattoo. Sometimes I even forget it’s there. I’m glad that I was able to experience that at a young age because I was able to realize a big trigger for me is “change.” I don’t like it at all. Even after HS graduation, I was depressed cause I missed seeing all my friends every day. I even missed seeing people in the hallways that I had never even spoken to in all those 4 years. We mourn & miss people, things, or routines because it’s a change. Death is one of the biggest changes a person can go through which is why it affects us mentally, emotionally & physically so much. Knowing you’ll never see someone again, in this life, is change. Knowing you’ll never hear someone’s voice again, in this life, is change. Anywho, I’m ranting… like I said I'm glad to have had that whole tattoo experience because it has taught me patience & helped me to keep not only my mind but my heart safe throughout these pivotal growing years.
Got two more nights left-couldn’t sleep all through this past one and came here. Had to leave home first at fourteen for medical reasons and was devastated, but occasionally I was able to come back for a month or so at a time. Now it’s getting sold and I came home from college to visit for about five days. It’s sad because it feels like that part of my life (childhood) isn’t something I can go back to anymore, and it ended way too soon. My heart goes out to all of you, regardless of the circumstances. We’ll be okay.
@@anniinthewoods8287 I’m glad you and everyone else watching this video are trying to cope with your grief actively! That’s the best thing I can say I did in all this.
Allowing myself to feel my emotions fully has made it so now I really am a lot better, and saying goodbye instead of pretending it wasn’t happening helped me a lot. I’m sorry you’re going through this, but I hope you find some new ways to carry over those traditions with your parents if you can, like smaller arts projects they can do even when older. But I know that isn’t always possible.
Anyway, a little tip for anyone reading, I took some 3D photos of the rooms inside my old house using Google maps’ free feature. Some of them came out a little wonky, but it’s really nice to be able to look around in those rooms again, especially since the people that bought my old house tore it down. It’s better than flat photos and shows the house exactly how I remember it. 😊😊
My brain can’t comprehend that I’m leaving my childhood home in 2 months. I’ve lived here since I was 3 and half, (I’m almost 15). I can’t fully express all the memories and emotions I’ve had in this place. It feel’s like I’m leaving a piece of me behind. I just wish I can live in this home for eternity. *I’m writing this on Monday, March 14, 2022*
How's your new home since im about to go thru the same how do you feel?
@@evelia408 how did yours go too? I'm moving in September and it's been 20 years in this house. I have lived here since I was born
Hang in there , I’m 51 years old
and I’ve been crying like I’m 10.
It’s hurts , I’m in despair, but it’s time to let her , our childhood home go . New memories will come , thank your home , and peacefully let go 🙏🏼🕊
I’m the same, I’m 16 I’m moving from my house in 4 months and I’ve lived here all my life. I’m pretty scared
Update?
i thought i’d grow up to live and have my own family in this house.. and that’s what i thought made me sad about moving and losing it. it’s not that. it’s that my childhood is over, and i have to grow up.
Writing this through tears that won't stop pouring down. My dad is selling the house I lived in for my entire life. It means so much because he adopted me as a small child. He provided for me out of choice. My mom passed away in the home after illness. My I didn't get to say goodbye, being 1200 miles away, and now the house...I hate grief. So homesick. This hurts so much.
My parents just told me they will be selling my childhood home very soon (since I was 3). I haven’t been there in 3.5 years and because of covid, I won’t be able to be there to say goodbye...
Same i cry when i think abt that house
real im moving soon and cant stopp crying about it
I will be quitting my childhood house,the house that I’ve always lived and grow up in,I will no longer cry in the room I used to cry in,no longer dance in the living room I used to dance in,no longer jump on that bed I used to jump on,no longer see the same view whenever I go on the balcony,no longer see my neighbors,no longer walk in town like I used to,everything will be over,and I just wanted to say thank you and goodbye to this home that I loved and cherished.
Honestly felt super silly for having to google "how to cope with moving" as a 20 year old. I'm in college now, so it's not like I spend all of my time at home. However, I've lived in this house since I was three or four years old. It was nice going to a place familiar during the summer and see my friends from HS in person (who I've kept strong ties with in college despite us all going to different schools). I'm not exactly the type of person who makes new friends easily, so I'm afraid that going home now for the summers will be pretty lonely and isolating. Sure, I'll have a job in the next few years, maybe some summer internships. However, when I do have the time to go home, I won't be able to see friends or go to familiar places. I won't really have anything besides my family (who I love, but it just isn't the same). I am completely aware that these are privileged first-world problems, but it's still taking an emotional toll on me.
I’m going through the exact same thing right now, hope it gets better :(
I'll be going through this exact same thing in a few months... I hope it got better for you, and I hope it'll get better for me later :')
@@claudia-it3gnwell, two years later and it’s been interesting. I’ve gotten used to going home to the new city and stuff, although it’s not the same. I’m lucky to have a group of friends that I know online that I can hang with. That said, it’s easy to miss going out and doing things with friends in person.
Interestingly enough though, the move made me feel brave enough to search across the country for a job that’s closer to many of my friends. So, I think the move helped prepare me to leave my home state.
first time sleeping in my new home and not in my childhood home
We miss it because it’s the house we have seen as a baby and I’m sad too, HAVENT really cried but tiny tears are coming out😞
5 years ago i wanted to have my own bedroom, wish came true and thinking this is the best thing that happened to me, then still awake at 2am realizing how lonely i felt without my parents sleeping with me.
I aim to buy back my childhood house to stop my sadness 🥺
I don't see that ending well, even if you could buy the home back.
It’s comforting knowing I’m not alone here. Tonight is my last night in my family home after 31 years, moving interstate to live with my husband tomorrow. Struggling a bit to let go, though, so many memories with family, and knowing I won’t be there anymore… but our bond and memories will last far beyond the temporary distance
I’m leaving my childhood home, and also turning 18 yrs next year . But leaving this house is the most painful thing for me. In 3 months we will be leaving but I can’t leave it. It is too close to my heart.
Sunday 18 th dec 2022 , I’m sitting at my fav spot at my house and writing this.
I won’t be here again and it pains me so much
I spent my entire life (28 years) in my childhood home. Recently moved out of state and my parents sold it. I wanted to move but I regret it now because I had no idea how emotionally painful it would be to lose that house. I have nightmares sometimes trying to go back. I wake up in the morning hoping I’ll be back in my old room. I have random flashbacks and just get hit with this intense feeling of grief. It’s like losing a person, even though it’s just a building. And it’s so hard to explain to anyone who hasn’t experienced it. It sounds crazy. But I think the pain is from feeling like your childhood is over.
I feel this way too. Sold my childhood home 2 months ago and it I knew it was going to feel this way I would’ve never gone through with it. I regret selling my house sm even though my family and I live in the United States and our old house is in El Salvador. 😔💔
Worse of all it seems silly to share this sentiment with other people, they don’t understand how painful it feels.
My grandmother’s house is being sold. I want so many things from it. I would take the bathroom wall paper if I could . I was so magical and it’s going to auctioned and sold off and split between the siblings and my memories will fade without the objects and they will be lost forever.
lived here my entire life (18 years) and tonight is my last night. i’m scared i’m trying to grow up too fast, but at the same time it’s inevitable. i’m so scared but i’m trying to turn that into excitement instead :’)
Hey remember you never truly grow up, still be a child in a way stay positive and joyful through life
I hope you're doing well. I'm moving away from home in a few weeks bc I want to be independent and prepared for when I move cities, but boy does the grief try to convince me not to. I hope in a year I'll have adjusted well. Growing up is inevitable.
my mom has been talking about selling my childhood home of 15 years and i’m nowhere near ready to leave
Hey, did she ever sell the house?
My family recently moved to a new place and it’s been extremely hard for me. I had to live at my grandparents’ cuz I just couldn’t even look at the new home, it hurts too much. I feel like all my childhood memories are gone… I’ll miss everything from the old house, the stickers I stuck on the walls and mirrors when I was a kid, the cracks on the walls with each of them a very special memory, and even the squeaky sounds the floor made…
I understand. I hope you feel better now that some time has passed. we can't get out childhood back or the home sometimes either. Sucks
My dad is selling my childhood home this summer and I had no idea it would hurt so bad. My mom and dad built this place from the ground up. I have so many great memories and some bad memories from this place, I know I'll always have them but it still hurts. It feels like a part of me is being ripped away. I knew it was going to happen eventually, but I'm just not ready to say goodbye. I wish I had the money to buy my childhood home. I just hope whoever owns my home next gets the same happiness that I did from it.
This hurts so much. Can't stop crying. ((Hugs))
I can feel this exact thing when I heard an identical situation ! It’s a sore feeling 🥹
how are you doing now? I'm sorry. I feel the same about my childhood home. Good and bad things happened there but it was still my home, my whole life up to 18 years old and trips back.
bro I'm having a mental breakdown rn, i keep getting homesick omg..
Im leaving in two weeks and seeing all the boxes around my house is genuinely tearing me apart, I didn’t think it would come so fast
I want to turn back time to the day when i first stepped in my Childhood House...🥺
Amen to that.
I started watching this video, to get a better understanding of what it means to move out of your old home and how to cope with it, once I was told back in 2021 by my parent that they're currently looking for a new home and that we’re gonna someday move out of our old childhood home.
Since now, my parent already bought a new home, and eventually, I'm gonna move into my new home I sometimes feel a sense of sadness every day. During those sad times, I always try to tell myself from time to that as long as in my heart, I still remember my old home and all of the lovely memories that I made while living there for 17 years, my childhood home will never be forgotten.
Hang in there for those who are going through the same things of moving out of the childhood home that they grew up in.
It feels weird to comment because I never do on UA-cam but im scared to move, I thought I was ready but im not I know it’s for the better but I am just so sad. All my life this has been my home, all the memories. My biggest sadness I knowing I can never come back and reminisce. This is my childhood..
We moved to a rented house..i feel so sad and suffocated...because i miss my old house..and i never lived like this without having any freedom because someone else is the owner..now my parents are saying we need to sell the old house..we were not decided if we need to make a new house in the same old place..they say sell the old one..make money..and buy a new big house...but I'm so confused like how can I
Last night here. Been here 13 years. I will miss it dearly.
I have just lost my childhood home, my parents move out today and I assume that the new owners will be moving in tomorrow. I'm a 41 year old grown man, I didn't think it would be this hard.
Same here , and I'm a 51 year old woman. I love that house like I love my family. I feel like I'm abandoning it which is so weird.
Moving out in a Month, I feel really down about it. I wish i could stay here forever for longer. Lived here for 17 years. 😔
How did your move go? I hope you're doing well. I'm in the same boat right now, moving to my own place in 3 weeks.
Getting kicked out out our rental, lived here for 5 years. I know it ain’t a lot but this house holds so many memories and I’ve been crying Kk night because I don’t wanna leave .we have about under 3 months to move out now.
Edit : we found a house now moving in a week !
same, we still don’t know if we are actually gonna move but my mom has been seeing signs from “god” that we will, and last year we almost did, everything is going SO wrong, if we ever do move it’ll be likely in another city so i gotta say bye to my friends
@@user-ej7gk1hl7z that’s so sad I hope that if you do move you’ll enjoy it there
@@georgiawilliams8808 thank you, you’re really nice, have a nice day
Less than 50 sleeps left in my house. This is where I learnt to ride a bike, where to tie a tie. It was my mums first real house since she and my father separated. I'm not sure if it's the leaving or the fact that someone else will be sleeping in the room that my mum painted, that 8 year old me slept in. Someone else lounging on the patio that my rabbits ran rampage on for 5 years. Someone else will flood the bathroom in which (much to my mums dissapointment) endlessly left the tap on.
I don't want to go
Leaving my childhood home in around an hour for college. It hurts a lot, I’ve always spent a lot of time in my room and it’s full of so many memories over the years. I never really appreciated my family as much as I should’ve and I’m just really sad that it took this long to appreciate them.
I just moved away from my family, my room, I have a family now and ofc I need my own space, but It hurts to wake up and not hear my mom or brother or sister and everyone else there, not waking up in my room where I spend most of my days, ik it's for the best, for my child and wife, I'm only 4 mins away from my mom's/my old home, but it still hurts to not see them everyday anymore but ik I'll get threw it, bc that's what my mom would want from me, to do my best for my family ❤️❤️
I have lived in this house for 5 years. I am currently 10. I move out April 2021. The day I move out will be a day to remember for me.
Ah, remember making this comment. I moved out 11th of May 2021. I still miss that home. Merry Christmas, and Happy New Year. I wish you all well for 2022.
@@darrenlin7943 I’m about to move out of my childhood house too. Hope it gets better though. Happy late new year
Tonight is my first night not sleeping in my childhood home, it hurts. I made so many memories there and I will miss it
It hurts bro
I don’t think I can ever get over it😭
Tonight is the last night. We are moving tomorrow. I can’t express how many memories I have in this house. ❤️
next week. Next week will be my last week in this "city dump" we all call a house. This house might not be the best, with old rusty roofs with leaks, broken tiles for floors, wonky wood for a door, tiled stone for a kitchen, and a cave like room. This was my house for 16 years. I remember wanting to always leave the house and go outside to play. Or lazily standing up from a friends hangout realising it's time to go back to this "house". But now, it's the other way around. I feel like I don't ever want to leave this house. Because this is my home. This *was* my home. I promised myself when I was young that I was going to come home using a car, telling my parents that I'm paying for a house renovation for our home. I was so ready to tell them that "mom! We're going to get our house back in shape!" I've had SO MANY dreams for this house. I have so many dreams for my home. When our high school teacher asked us what are our plans if we ever had our own family, I remember thinking about it all day and I imagined myself being a mom like my mother running around this house, or making a cardboard dollhouse for my daughter in this exact house where I learned how to make use with what I have, this was where I grew to be the aspiring artist I am today. I remember wanting to be an Architect, and my first project was supposed to be this house. I wanted this place to be filled with memories, memories that I won't ever have to let go and for it to be my forever safe space. *I'm too attached with this place because this was the only place where I wouldn't be scared to be who I am, where I know I'm safe from the world outside.* But here we are, a few years later, me about to turn seventeen in a few months and I'm packing everything in a cardboard box like me slowly letting go of all the memories I made in this little home of mine. I wanna apologise to my little child self, I'm sorry I couldn't do anything to save the house you used to call "home" but don't worry, I'll do my best to get this back. Maybe not now, but in the future. I hope I wouldn't be too late. I love you, my childhood home. I'll come back for you, and I promise you that I'll come back, I'll be back. Your little architect will be back, I promise. We'll build you back up, just like how you build who I am today. ❤️
I’m 27, and fully experiencing the weight of the oncoming responsibilities of adulthood coming up as I prepare to move out of my family house. I’ve been happy and lucky to get to stay for so long, for several reasons. But now I can feel it’s about time to wave goodbye to childhood. I’ve been crying the last several nights. This lovely story and all of the comments about people’s beautiful childhood memories are comforting through this saddening time ❤
I have to say, i feel, not alone anymore.
Even though i also have the same situation with the added "Oh and also the house is going to get destroyed after you move out!"
Thank you.
I wanted to add to everyone else sharing stories here. I’ve just turned 19 three days ago and am booking tours of new apartments with one of my childhood best friends. I’ve lived in the same house and same room my whole life. This room has changed with me, going from a pink and purple princess themed girls room to a warm gothic hideaway, half antique mall. I’m here because moving is extremely hard for me to get my head around. I opted not to go to college and will be continuing working full time and working on my tattoo portfolio. I want to be able to have people over and have a space of my own, but this house is my safe place. Its been my safe place my entire life. But when I leave it behind it won’t be gone forever, and I’ll be bringing that safety with me. Cheers to a new year of self discovery my early 2000s gen z folks.
im 19, last year was the first time i lived anywhere besides this home which is the house my parents built the year i was born. we're selling the house in two months. i'm grieving the loss of my childhood and the house where it happened, the only place ive ever known. i didnt realize when i left for college i wouldnt be able to come back except to say goodbye. the thought of leaving this place empty is too much.
i found this video by chance, and read each comment of people going through the same exact thing. its a strange comfort i wasnt expecting
How did the move go? I'm moving in September 😭
I've been in this house for 13 years - my entire life, my mum wants to sell it but I don't think I can leave it. It's my home we've moved away but we always came back. I can't do it
I understand. I lived in my childhood since i was born and i moved in 2020. i can’t seem to get over it
@@mayoandkiwi same
I'm moving out tomorrow to go to college. I'm not far at all. Only 15 minutes or so. I can come home whenever I want. But somehow, I was overcome with grief at seeing my empty room. This marks the end of my childhood.
I clicked on this video for the same reason as a lot of you also here. Tonight is the last night in my childhood home and I've lived here since I was born 20 years ago. Crazy that I found this video and I am also leaving Manhattan Beach, California.
Last Thursday, is the day where me and my mom moving to Guam, and it was my last day in Philippines, ever since we came, at my parent's room, when they all fall asleep, I started crying, it's like, I miss my home, the Philippines, I miss my relatives, miss my friends, classmates, alot.
Its hard to accept, especially for me, I miss grandma and aunt.
Anyways, its really hard as in, it hurts alot, I felt everything, I always cry every night, until One day, I will understand why I'm here.
My mom and dad grew up dirt poor. Mom had 10+ homes/garages she grew up in. My dad grew up in 3. I've been in the same house since I was 9. My mom and dad built a mini mansion for me my sisters and them to forever live in. Today they lost in a battle with the bank. Today I have to start saying goodbye to the home I have lived almost my whole life in. I've known the possibility of it happening, and I've been trying to enjoy every single.moment in that house that i can. Today i start my journey with trying to be okay saying goodbye.
The attachment I have with my childhood home is crazy. It's been 26 years and tonight's the last night I'll be sleeping in it. It saw me through birth until now - it holds many memories, many secrets. It saw relatives come and go, whether to live in another city, country or to finally rest.
The sad thing about leaving my childhood home is I'll never get to see it again. The landowner will demolish the house to build a business area.
It's almost about time, the house is almost delapitated with some parts getting rained in. My stomach churns and hurts, so does my chest as I feel I'm missing a part of me. Onwards, they say. Goodbye l, my childhood home.
Last night in my home. Very sad because my grandmother won’t be living with us anymore after 15 years. My mom’s getting remarried so the new house includes a new step sibling and stepparent. It’s hard to really adjust to it all.
Hey I’m having the same problem I’ve lived my grandparents for years because of some issues and I’m about to move away and I’m going to miss them so much. How did you get through it
Divorce is the biggest issue in Western world
I’ve been here my whole life, through my parents’ divorce and my darkest times. For 17 years I’ve been here and tonight is our last night…
I wish I had written something on the day I left my childhood home. It was in the September of 2017.I was 11. The home kinda got damaged because of flood. It wasn't suitable for living so there was no choice. I was young and didn't understand how much it would cost to fix it. I insisted my parents to fix it but they decided to sell the land and so that the new owners can deal with demolishing and rebuilding it. Just hearing the word "demolish" Broke my heart. My school is still near my old home. Whenever I see a new building there, it doesn't sit right in my head. My brain always thought "when the bus turns, there's my home". Obviously ik it's not there anyone but it hurts. I don't feel much attachment to this new place I'm in. Drawing is my passion. 3 of my fav drawings were stuck to the old home wall. We couldn't remove it. Oh well.
Written on 3rd Dec 2022,instead of learning for my bio exam which is in 2 days.
i’m already a strongly sentimental person. i’ve been living in this home for 19 years, since i was born, and my family is moving out in 20 days. everything already feels foggy and weird. it’s hard to say goodbye thinking about all the birthdays, the family moments, the sleepovers, the work put into the home and everything. i’ve already lost a lot over the last year, and this makes it tougher. i know i have to accept it as a new chapter in life, but it’s hard
I feel sad my grandma lost her home because her costs of care was more expensive than for her to live in her home and have someone take care of her till she died . So everyone made the decision to put my grandma in a nursing home and sell her home to pay for her care for dementia care I was more sad my grandma already lost her son and husband and grAndson and her family home were she felt closest to them since they died. It made me sad to know her family home was sold with all she lost in her life was now gone . It wasn’t just sad losing our loved ones it was losing all the memories of what use to a memory of a time when we were all a family
A lot of people in the comments have seemingly been able to move on, and I’m happy for them, but am I like the only one who just can’t say goodbye. Like it’s a part of me and there was never a year I had in my old house that wasn’t a happy year, I haven’t had a happy one since
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sorry. i hate the practical side of life
You're not alone. Some people need more time to heal and accept change. But don't feel stuck, because you're keep growing even when you don't feel it. One day, you'll find new happiness and cherish your old memories. There's still hope!
I moved out of my childhood home a few years ago. My mom still owns the home, luckily. I stayed in my hometown a few years. But now my boyfriend are moving to a city a few hours away. It has a very similar feeling as this.
Childhood home a lot of wonderful memories we cherish. ❤
A week from now im leaving my home, country and my family. Im 19 years old and im taking a step in the deep end and moving to sweden, a country that is vastly different than my home country of ireland. So many different feelings fill me as each day counts down to my departure. Im scared but excited to start a new life.
I am moving next month out of my house that I’ve lived in since I was born (14 years old). I cried about 10 minutes ago just thinking I’m only living here for one more month. I don’t care how old my house is,, I will still miss it.
Same😭
I’ve lived in this house for almost 5 years. My family planned to stay in this house for only about 2 to 3 years. At first, I hated being in this house as we moved here after leaving a much bigger home that actually belonged to my father’s side of the family and I was devastated at the thought of moving out of this home as I had many, mostly happy memories from living there. After moving into to our current house, I thought moving out of this house would be easier because I hated living here. Now that, we are our moving into a new home, and realising that tonight was our last night here in this HOME, that I realised that I should have been more grateful to this house because it’s hard to move out of this home and I’m crying while trying this.
I’ve been in my childhood house for 11 years, I don’t remember a single memory where our official house wasn’t that house, we finally left yesterday
i’m on my plane to NY at the moment. I am 19 and am leaving a home that i felt terribly depressed in. I thought it would be easier considering the circumstances i was in but when i hugged my mom i couldn’t stop crying. i looked at her and the most i could say was “thank you”. It healed something in me.
16 years in the same childhood home, I'm very worried to when I do move out, I'm extremely attached to this home...
Watching this video on the last night of my childhood house. I have lived here for 22 years and right now I am way too emotional about it. My entire childhood was here and a lot more too. The date is 8th October 2022.
Moving from my childhood home in about a month. Havent been coping up so well. Have stayed here 21 years of my life idk how im gonna make it. I grew up here the good the bad right here.hope im in a better place hare krishna🧿🧿🧿
I have lives in my childhood home with my mom since I was 8 months old. I am now 28. I had been taking care of my mom for a few years and in April 2020 she passed away in the home in front of me. I was able to stay here until recently because it has become too expensive. I now have to pack up and throw things away. I’ll be moving in with my dad until I find a new place of my own. This has been the most emotional and depressing experience of my life. On one hand I wish I could stay and on the other hand the memories are just too painful.
Today I say goodbye to my childhood home. Dads finally selling it. I am so upset but tomorrow it legally belongs to another family :(
my mom get pregnant of me in this house, i open my eyes in this house , my friends my memories the good and the bad all the kind of emotions i feeling it in this house i though that i never gonna leave it and that my kids also will grow up in that house …. now after 23 years we sale the house my heart is broken i got tears in my eyes tonight is the last night 💔 i can’t believe it
I moved to a new house a few weeks ago. i had been staying in my previous house for like 3 years. its still not much but its very much because of the pandemic i spent like my entire day in house. it was soo comfy like i just literally had the place for everything i wanted to do and it was just perfect. and then i moved to another house and i just hate it. its soooo small, i dont have a comfortable place to study. Its just hard when i do things i did in the previous house in my new house because its just soooooo much memorizes that i shed a tear. I literally hate my parents now for changing the house. i never thought it would be this bad if i change. it is true that you dont know the worth of something when you have it. i never just thought i would land in a situations like this.😭😭
My last night in my childhood home was a month ago. It was excruciating and painful. But I managed to get up the next day and step into the car and moved to this new place my family is living in now. I keep surprising myself by still living my day to day life but keeping the lingering yearn in the back of my heart. To this day I still feel melancholic and nostalgic thinking about the life I used to have in that home. But maybe one day I'll get to love this house as much as I loved my first one. Even if it doesn't happen, I hope to still be able to cherish the memories I make in this one. I wish all of you who's going through the same thing healing and happiness. ❤
13 years here (I’m 15), moving away soon. Leaving all those memories behind is pretty difficult. It’s where I spent every birthday, where my dog lived and died. Where I spent a majority of my life, the place I call home. It’ll still be there, and some other person I don’t even know will live in my apartment. Probably sleep in the room I slept in, call it theirs. I won’t have any right to the place I call my home. It sucks, this sucks.
Even when I was younger I knew my childhood would come to an end, I just didn’t expect it to be so soon. The last four years, 2020-2024 felt like they didn’t exist. I really do have to accept that it’s over.
I just cant stop crying its a really bad thing to do i grew up in a house were i was happy now im sad i just cant take control of my emotions
How are you doing now?
18 years in this house. Feels like I lost a loved one.
Lived here my whole life, even if it was only 14 years I’m gonna miss is everyday. I’m definitely not ready to say goodbye
21 years of my life I spend in two homes equally
And Now
It's seems like the last 🌃 of my happy life..
It's really really hard to leave your entire childhood in one go💔
Been in this house for 18 years, this is my last night in my childhood house 💔feels like everything has ended and a part of me ripped 😔 seeing all the house empty,all the memories,its a feeling that i have never experienced in my life,it is feeling me so depressed and anxious and its really hard for me to stop think about it,cant focus on my studies 😭
10th feb 2024
10:53pm
Do you feel any better?
My mom is selling my childhood home this summer. I've been here for over 25 years.The house is not on the market yet and my heart is already breaking seeing us going through and donating stuff and packing other stuff up. I'm going to be a wreck this summer.
The old house looked better than the new house does..
its been 3 months now since we moved into our new house but it feels different. The old home where i feel safe and comfortable for like 6 years? since i was 11 are now gone even its apartment and we're like cramped with only 1 bedroom i miss those, even we moved into much bigger house i miss every bit of it and i can even draw it details by details. but before we move into our new house i left a piece of poem that contains my promises that someday i will go back to our old home and live there until i grow old
been in my home since Xmas eve 1989 ( I was 8 years old)... first home my father bought, living in NYC we lived in apartments since I was born... signing the sellers agreement and rider contract tonight and its harder than I thought it would be...
It's been a couple weeks that we had to move out completely from childhood home. Everything happened so quick and we were expecting to move out later but everything happened so quick. I sit here everyday feeling helpless. It's like mourning over the death of a loved one, breaking up with someone and letting go of a friendship all at once. I think of it every day and it's especially the fact I moved 1hr 30min- 1hr away meaning it's a completely different area. The new house is nice it's bigger and we did basically have to move as it was so small for 6 people. It hurts a lot leaving behind these old memories it'll never be the same. Seeing that morning, evening and night time view from each window and what ever other unique thing about ur old house. The nostalgia thinking about it is nice but not as nice as thinking about it there. Thinking about old memories there was better because I was surrounded with those areas but now it's just the feeling of sadness and helplessness. Knowing u will never get to walk into that house or yard, sleep in it, cook in it, or do anything else in it or outside of it just hurts so bad. I also had to transferr schools and I CAN'T EXPLAIN how perfect my teacher there was. I'm gonna get her the best gift possible with everything she likes in it so that explains a lot with the drive and everything because, really she was so nice and easy to understand. I also think the people at my old school were soooooo much better and so were the teachers. They were nicer and easier to relate to and everything. It's just all those things the whole area and being away from other family just hurts. I put on a nostalgic show or music and look outside at the nice view like I did at my old house but it's not the same. I don't feel nostalgic anymore when I do it so I'll have to think of the memories in my head and look at little trinkets I have that especially remind me of memories. Really the nostalgia and hurt is just unexplainable. It feels like something is missing. A void, a hole of emptiness and sorrowness and coincidentally on ur chest.
My grandparents owned a bunch of land and there house was on it, it was the place I learned to shoot a gun, drive a tractor, how to fish, and all the times we had party’s and gatherings there growing up. All the memories and good times I had in that house and on that land are immeasurable. And they are now selling it snd moving to a different farm. The second I heard the news I didn’t even know how to react I was so shocked. Can’t believe it’s gonna be gone.
- [ ] I moved to a big city for college and since my dad had to move for work I went to live with him. Our first apartment rental was a disaster, it didn’t feel that way back then but looking back it was. It was small ( i always lived in a big house but it was a novelty to live in an apartment so i didn’t mind it that much back then) it had a view of a wall and the worst part it flooded every time it rain. After 2 ish years we decided to move and then came in this perfect apartment, it was bigger, in a better location, no way it could flood and it was pet friendly. It was pricier but so worth it. I convinced my dad to rent it and he did, i lived there (i was so in love with this apartment) for about 6 months and then the pandemic hit. I moved back home and my dad stayed in the apartment. I moved back summer 2022 and all was good. And then my parents decided to buy an apartment to stop renting. But an apartment like this was way out of budget to buy so they found a cute apartment, smaller, and it reminded me to the first one. I was ok till the night before we moved. I couldn’t stop crying thinking it would be my last night sleeping there. And I was a wreck on moving day. It’s been a week and I’m doing better and now im doing some paint reparations so we can return the apartment key tomorrow. And I’m feeling sad again, thinking that tomorrow will be the last day I’ll be inside this building completely breaks my heart. I keep thinking it’s not fair i lived here less than a year while we rented the place for 3 years.
What a lovely guy! May his beautiful family rest in peace. Lots of love to you all. I may be moving out of my childhood home soon, and it's a real heartwrench (even though my folks still live there 😂).
I'm moving house but I don't want to I grew up here😢😭
i’ve experienced my whole life here, made so many memories and friends that i now have to leave. sucks. this is my final 30 mins here, july 1st, 2023
27 years in our house, will be leaving my fam and my 6 cats to study abroad. Tonight’s the last night too🥺
Must have been hard when the dozer came. A very nice tribute to such a great house and memories. I always used your fathers hardware store in the. 70s ! It’s still nice there but it just ain’t no small beach town anymore and entitlement is all over the place. I’m still there though
Been in this house for 13 years, tonight is our last night.
Thank you Gary. Great job with your talk and artwork. You are right. A lot of "Baby Boomers" can relate to your story. You were very blessed to have a wonderful family life and eclectic childhood.
watching this vid as i have to move out of the apartment we lived in for 17 years 😭 i grew up here, in this neighborhood doing everything. good and bad memories but mostly all of them were beautiful. sadly new management took over and are turning these affordable apartments into “luxury” and made rent 500$ more 😢 makes me so sad. guess it was a sign to buy a house finally, i just wish i could take a piece of this house with me…. literally.
I am in the same situation. We bought a house, but I'm still crying. Did it get better for you?
I can understand. I’m 51 years old, and I’ve had recurring dreams of my childhood home, the first home I lived in since I was born in Glendale Arizona. When I was 5 my parents suddenly told me we were moving to Nebraska where they were born. I remember it being very traumatic for some reason. I’ve carried that bad experience with me all these years for whatever reason. Maybe I’m too sensitive, I’ve felt often that something is wrong with me.
I’ve lived in my childhood home for 14 years. I’m 18 now. So basically as long as I can remember I lived here. My dad was here. He passed away 2 years ago and we have to move out in 2 weeks. Your telling me I have to say goodbye to where I lived with my dad, where I had all my childhood memories and my entire comfort? I’m really worried.
18 and a half year. Thanks for the good, the bad, the wierd memorys childhood home.