THIS 🙌🏻 I have a total Apple body shape, and it literally is the ANTITHESIS of the current desired social media body shape. I have a tiny butt, tiny legs, and a bigger belly and upper body. I also have tiny TINY lips, no definition in my jawline, Clothes don’t fit me like other people, and you know what??? None of that matters in the SLIGHTEST. I had to tell myself that NONE of that is who I am as a person. Nobody looks at me and judges me on my insecurities and if they do, that’s not someone who’s opinion I value anyway. I am a good person with a good heart and a wonderful family and great friends and the size of my waist, or the bagginess of my pants on my tiny non existent ass is irrelevant to who I am and how I am defined as a human. Not ONCE in my life have I seen your smile lines, Kathleen. Not. Once. I’ve sat with you and never have seen anything but how beautiful your smile is. Not once have I thought “she has small lips” - all I see is a gorgeous woman with a hilarious and fun personality with an awesome channel who has stayed completely true to herself through and through no matter what. The Kardashians are beautiful, but so are we. If we all looked the same, how BORING. I am glad to look different, be different, have small lips, a bigger stomach, because it’s how I was born. I am SUPPOSED to look like this. If someone wants to change themselves because they’re unhappy? Totally fine, but the opposite is true too. Wrinkles aren’t bad. Smile lines mean you’re happy, crows feet mean we laugh a lot and have happy kind eyes. We are valid influencers, beauty enthusiasts and content creators no matter WHAT we look like. Point blank PERIOD. Love you girl!!!
Just wanted to add "You're my real Dad" I couldn't agree more. I got a belly because I love food. I have wrinkles because I'm 45 years old and I've earned every damn one of them. I think you're both absolutely gorgeous woman with hearts of gold. 😘
Just keep in mind: most of your followers, like me, adore you because of your lack of social media presence. You’re not posting fluff and being fake which is so refreshing!
I honestly don’t even watch beauty videos on UA-cam anymore. Everyone is either always trying to get you to buy something or trying to flex their luxurious life. And it’s just so draining to watch
I have ALWAYS loved that you shop forever 21, HM, etc because it’s so discouraging to see something cute on an influencer just to find out it’s $500. Thank you for being you Kathleen!!!
I wouldn't survive because I don't even have Instagram or Facebook XD I hope people wake up and influencing will be pure and real again. People who really achieve something and do something great and sencefull will be the real influencer
You hit the nail on the head! She truly is a role model. I am 8 months pregnant with a little girl and I have hope for her future if there are role models like Kathleen in her life.
I don’t have social media other than UA-cam which I only use to watch videos and Snapchat which I never post on 😂 if you ever feel like you’re getting to drawn into it then I recommend deleting it! That’s not the reason why I don’t have it I just have never felt the need to have it but I think that would help soo many people out there.
DaniellaRenae “social media marketing” is the new influencer term. Whatever we all call it, it is hard work! But agreed, the word had become tainted and cringy.
Social media is full of smoke & mirrors; people inventing a life they don’t actually live. It’s becoming harder to tell who’s real & who’s fake because there are so many on the platform. Life is not meant to be a burden of always trying to impress others & put on a mask! Live!
You are a breath of fresh air in a world where everyone is trying to look and act the exact same. You are a reminder to me that it’s ok to look like myself, not an instagram model. Please never change.
I was having a conversation with a client. Aging came up. She said “some people don’t even get to age” and that sent me in a rabbit hole of thoughts that opened my mind. Feeling blessed to have this life, where some get sick or a tragedy happens where life is shortened. To see ourselves go on with the milestone of every line or whatever is a wonderful thing
I started unfollowing a lot of “influencers”- beauty and fitness. Because it was making me wish I had nicer things and had a better looking body. I’ve been a lot happier since I unfollowed those people. Thank you for being you!!!
Dude me too. I unfollowed all of those perfectly polished size 0 models, and now when I open my Instagram I just see meme pages and my friends. :) it’s perfect lmao
I think it depends on how you use your online time. For me, it's my business. I run my photography through online networks and social media. It is vital for my research and service.
Yes I wasted a lot throughout these past few years after going through something traumatic at work and I'm on Facebook a lot just to feel better but I feel worse when I look at they're perfect life although I was hurt by one of them
@@wilted_rose510 what she means is that we compare ourselves in a not so flattering state (for example bloated, without makeup, in our pijamas, hair undone) with people in a picture who have a face full of makeup, a pretty outfit, maybe some help of photoshop and of course we are not gonna look the same.
gigi nury well that but also how our lives are portrayed. Kathleen leaves a great example about mom groups. As a mom myself I find myself feeling like I need to have everything perfect because clearly all these other women have it perfect. But I need to remind myself that everyone CHOOSES what they put on their social media. This is including physical features as well that Kathleen has already mentioned.
I love how she said how do I get a cute picture when I don’t go out and have no social life” I felt it. You’re the only one that makes me feel still good and human
Same, my sister doesn't really care for "UA-camrs" or "influencers" but loves Kathleen because she is so real and relatable. Also Kathleen can just post pictures of her dogs everyday and that would be cool.
Omg same here. I just had the thought the other day about how insecure I am because my insta doesn’t have beautiful pics of me in the wilderness (not that I don’t love being outside). Most of the time I’m home in my lounge clothes. My life isn’t constantly image worthy. But I can’t believe I felt bad about the fact that I am lucky enough to have quiet time to myself and that I was comparing myself to others.
You’re NOT the influencer type and that’s the only reason why I ever even open UA-cam anymore and hope to see a new video from you. That’s what makes you better than the rest of them. Seriously, never change
It’s refreshing that you’re not on social media every 5 seconds. I can’t stand these influencers that are online 24/7 or snap ridiculous amounts of selfies.
Tash so funny you commented on this with me I just found your channel a couple weeks ago because of Lashify subscribed and have been watching all ur videos 💗
April Kennedy wow, what are the chances?? 🥰🤗 that’s the thing I love most about social media. Connecting with people you’d otherwise never prbly meet 👏🏼❤️
There's a quote it goes: "The reason why we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind the scenes with everyone else's highlight reel." Lesson to learn: You may think everyone is better than you are, but you are only seeing the image they portray to others.
This NEEDS to be #1 on trending. You and RawBeautyKristi are my favorite influencers because you are REAL. You use your platform to break the ice for people to have these difficult conversations. Talking about these unrealistic standards is the only way to break societal standards. Go you!
I totally agree about the "cookie cutter" comment. I feel that whenever a person gets fillers or has surgery, they tend to look like everyone else. I can't tell people apart... no unique qualities left in their face. They are beautiful, but just the same as the next person.
ッElizabeth Kat but she doesn’t look like every other influencer that gets work done. she doesn’t look like a copy. she looks like herself. and unique. that’s the point.
This was probably my favorite video from you! Only because it’s all things most people want to say but are afraid to for fear of not keeping up with the perfect life. You, Kathleen, are so loved because you are so real- your audience can see that and loves you! Social media IS toxic so take breaks whenever and never feel guilty. And girl, I work nonstop in my sweats most days so keep hustling and build that dream business! That’s more important than an Instagram selfie. Love you Kathleen and sending you love! And huge congrats on your nail polishes- so happy for you 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼❤️❤️❤️
Marlena! Omg I've watched u since you started! I adore Kathleen and this video I needed to hear and soo many other women. I've been hearing a lot of this lately. IG and social media has brought down my self esteem so much, made me insecure, and a little depressed to feel I'm not good enough or pretty enough. I used to be so confident. I'm 33 just had s baby and am engaged. My body is changing and bc of stress I'm wasting away and trying to gain weight and can't. I want to be like those models and kno I never will, social media has made a big negative impact on women's self esteem. Marlena your amazing, today I was watching your old videos, how cool to see your comment and support!
This got posted at the exact time I needed to hear this message. My husband and I have tried for 8 years to have a baby. After several failed fertility treatments it has left me at a weight I never wanted to be at and insecure. Not just about the minor weight gain but also the fact that I’m 35 and childless. I look at social media constantly and see these young happy families who are beyond successful and compare my life to theirs. Thank you for this.
Ang131 Me too. I can’t have kids and I’m 39. Knowing I can’t has actually kept me from even looking for a boyfriend or husband because it destroyed me self confidence. I’m happy for you that you at least have someone to share your life with who loves you for you. And that is so valuable. I absolutely know what you mean though, about seeing these “mom bloggers” with their “little family”. I’ve unfollowed those people. They don’t serve me, inspire me, or make me feel good about myself so I look at it like this. If I was a vegetarian, why the hell would I follow accounts about people who cook steak all the time or put bacon in all their recipes? To torture myself or make myself annoyed and angry? It’s not worth it, I just unfollow and move on.
Ang131 I also think that society teach us that if you aren’t a mother you are less of a woman but it’s not! I know you are probably hurting right now and I’m sorry but if in the end life can be exiting anyway even if you are childless. 😘
Emily Majeski I’ve unfollowed almost every mom blogger or influencers who get pregnant because the pain is real. It’s sad to say but at times it just gets the best of me. But you are right I should see the blessings I do have and maybe start to change my mindset.
Silvia Maurizzi the expectations put on women can be exhausting at times. I even find that because I’m one of the few at work who does not have kids I am EXPECTED to do more or travel more because I have no reason to not.
I love that she can be so comfortable with us like she was saying. It’s a breath of relief to be able to come to her channel and know that she’s so real with us.
KathleenLights I’m insecure too and did my smile lines in my 30’s - I was tired of looking like I was frowning. Your lips look awesome and are proportional to your face - there’s a video I’ll try and link that describes why some people look BETTER with thinner lips. Also, when everyone looks the same, how can people stand out? As Wayne Goss says, do the opposite.
One of my friends deactivated her IG and I texted her to ask why. She said she was dealing with health problems and IG was depressing her. I noticed her looking unusually thin lately and asked no questions, just told her I was available if she needed to talk. You're right, the fake perfection really does affect the average person
there's this really incredible essay on how to talk to your daughter about her body that i feel like every mom needs to share!! the title is How to Talk to Your Daughter About Her Body from huffington post!!
Kids tend to know a lot more than we give them credit for. I had corrective facial surgery as a kid & my classmates thought I had “plastic surgery like Britney Spears” lol.
Sam Ravandahl just did a video going through her old Instagram posts, and talked about what was REALLY going on behind the camera. Heartbreaking, a little bit... it was such a great watch. Very on brand with this video, which is also amazing. I think we all need a reality check- we are beautiful the way we are. Love you, Kathleen... You are a true light
Their are so many "innocent" people out there who have a whole ass Instagram for their cute kid and dont get me wrong I love some of them but imagine what kind of pressure this puts those kids under.
This is why you’re pretty much the last “beauty influencer” I still follow. I get everything you’ve said and I feel the same way. I appreciate that social media hasn’t changed you and that you can be this candid and honest. ❤️
I thought it was only smaller influencers who felt insecure but you have such a large following and you can still feel like this. It’s comforting to know, It can affect anyone, big or small
KathleenLights I couldn’t find my other comment about facial proportions but here’s a good video explaining why people look awesome with thin lips too. ua-cam.com/video/XGXeGHLG5eE/v-deo.html
One of my favorite quotes : "Just because you don't look like somebody you think is attractive, doesn't mean you aren't attractive. Flowers are pretty but so are Christmas lights but they look nothing alike." 💕💕
When I was young my mom always used to tell me that she wouldn’t dye her hair or do anything to her face, because every years she aged was a blessing. She told me it’s privilege to get to age, and earn your wrinkles and grey hairs. I’m so grateful that she did that because I carry that with me everyday. I haven enough insecurities, but when it comes to aging and all that, I feel comfortable. Youth is not the epitome of beauty, and that’s really priceless.
Your mom is the perfect example of someone who leads by example, and not telling u not to do the what she did, because she didn't do it. You're lucky to have a mom like yours.
I’m so glad social media didn’t exist when I was growing up. It would have devastated my self esteem even worse. It’s frustrating because I have a 13&14 year old. I’m 34 and grew up in the 90’s. All of these movies this past few decades have grown women, with grown bodies portraying young high school girls. In turn, young high school girls think there’s something wrong with them because they don’t look like that. Now the bar has raised and i try my best to communicate the reality of social media with my girls.I jumped on the lip filler band wagon mainly because of social media. I never really thought I had small lips, but I saw all the those beautiful full lips and I wanted some too. I got a breast lift, but that’s something I’ve always wanted. The plastic surgery part doesn’t bother me....I love it! It’s the people faking the perfection with filters, making everything look glamorous and making their worth amount to “followers and likes”.
Omg. I know. I'm 39 and grew up in the 80's. I was just telling my husband how I couldn't have imagined what social media would've done to my self esteem if it existed growing up. Smh.
Jessica Garnier No you won’t, you’re absolutely right, but at the same time looking at posts of people’s “perfect” lives constantly inevitably leads you to compare your circumstances to theirs
When you look at your smile lines and feel self conscious about them, remind yourself that you got them from smiling!! Remind yourself of all the things that made you smile and maybe try to see them as a reflection of the joy and happiness you felt that created them in the first place.
This is perfect and I kind of needed this. It reminds me of the tweet Chrissy Teigen recently had where she went to yoga and the instructor asked if she just had a baby and she said "well 18 months ago" and the instructor was like "uh, yeah, that's JUST" and Chrissy was like... shook by that concept. It makes me so sad that mothers feel so pressured to "get their bodies back" when their body IS their body and it's a result of doing something so beautiful like creating life. It's important to feel good about yourself, and it's okay to make changes to your body like lip fillers and fake boobs and stuff, but you shouldn't have to feel like you NEED to do it because of social media. You can do it, it just sucks that social media enhances the feeling that it has to happen in order to be beautiful.
You’re the breath of fresh air in the “influencer” community that the world needs. I love watching people I can relate to. I feel like I’m just hanging out with a friend when I watch your videos. You have inspired me to find creative outlets in makeup and fashion.
You know...whenever I found you, I knew you were different! You are so talented and so funny and sweet and I love how your makeup looks are super wearable! And how you have a nail polish line. You are unique! It’s so easy to get wrapped up in the social media work and in your spot...I couldn’t even imagine. I now unfollow anyone who makes me feel bad about myself. You’re so right, those “perfect” influencers are beautiful people, NOTHING is wrong with looking that way! But myself, clearly not looking like that, knows that seeing those influencers makes me feel so bad. And I’m not about that!
I’m so glad you don’t have an “influencer” personality. It makes you so much more relatable and respectable in my opinion. I have always loved you for that.... don’t fall for it. We love you for who you are
I started unfollowing people who made me feel bad about myself. I was so caught up on Instagram and posting all the time now I only follow the people who inspire me and make me happy. That’s why I love you, I’m not bombarded by negativity just happy content 🥰
Social media detox by removing people who make you feel so uncomfortable and unhealthy is so helpful. It’s so awkward to evaluate where you are with someone but it pays off in the long run
I did this too! I unfollowed every single woman who took 100 pics in bikinis because I found myself comparing myself to them all 24/7. Best thing I ever did!
What’s so interesting about this to me is knowing that even those people whose perfect photos we are viewing, those people feel the same way we do. And they are editing and perfecting their photos for the SAME reasons we want to. They are seeing other people’s perfect photos too and feel the same pressure. So that beautiful seemingly perfect looking girl’s picture that I’m looking at is doing the exact same thing with another girl’s seemingly perfect photo. And round and round it goes. We just need to continue to remind ourselves to take everything we see with a grain of salt and understand that why we are comparing ourselves too isn’t fair bc it’s not real.
I think it's also important to remember that there's different part of you that can be beautiful, not just your face or body. We should strive to have beautiful minds and beautiful hearts
This is one of the realist videos I’ve seen from an “influencer” in quite a while. That’s why these are my favorite kind of your videos because it feels like a more personal relatable conversation rather than the usual stuff influencers talk about. Regardless of filters, facetunes or any of that other stuff, you’re a beautiful person inside & out and I praise you for being so real with your audience. You’re my absolute favorite UA-camr because of how personal it’s felt to watch your videos since 2013. Thank you for being THAT influencer. Thank you for being .you.
Whenever I get on Instagram, unfortunately I feel like I just scroll endlessly through my timeline but there’s no “ooh and ah” factor. I’m just scrolling to scroll. Unless it’s art or avant garde, things that are weird and not common that grab my attention everything blends together. Thank you for making this video Kathleen! 😊
I feel so sorry for girls these days. I'm in my 50's and we had no social media to contend with when I was growing up so the insecurities that I had came from within myself and the girls directly in my life (which was bad enough!!). I think I would have done myself in if I had to worry about Instagram etc. Kathleen, be who you are with or without makeup, flaws or no flaws. Somebody has to start the change that is so desperately needed regarding all the social media pressure and with your video I think you are somebody who is starting it now with such an honest talk.
I’m 49 and I couldn’t agree with you more! My daughters are in there late teens and twenties, and I see them struggle with this. I can’t imagine what my granddaughters are going to go through when they are older. It terrifies me!! The world needs way more Kathleens!!
I'm 39 and agree with you I agree with this video and social.media is detrimental to our younger generation especially the ones who are vulnerable and get addicted to it.
There is just way too much focus on looks nowadays. What you look like should be (and most likely is) the least interesting thing about you. If people would put the same amount of energy into being kind, compassionate, educated and just generally good people, as they do into worrying about how big their boobs are or how straight their nose is, we would live in a much better world. The only person that can profit from you looking good is you, but your great ideas, kind words and compassion have the potential to change the whole world.
I love how your not a “typical” influencer. This is why you stand out and are admired. I wish more people were like you online. I get so tired of seeing the fake life portrayed on social media. Thank you for speaking out about this subject! 💕
Even though you say you’re being a hypocrite, the very fact that you’re aware and sharing your message is helpful. I think honestly you are the realest UA-camr and are weird and fun and I love that. Your comfort and confidence shows even though you have insecurities (like everyone else)
I also love that she's so open with what she's doing and what she is insecure about and "fixing" like the boobs and smile lines. Her message is great and very inspiring
Kathleen, in terms of your smile lines, I once read a beautiful quote that said that you earn the face you have at the end of your life. If you spend your life smiling and laughing with those you love, you will have smile lines to show it. If you are angry and grumpy and pout for your whole life, your face will reflect that, too. Your smile lines are simply reflecting 27 years of happiness.
I’m only 5 minutes in. One thing that helped me so much was I did a “cleanse” I unfollowed all the companies,models, and people that I don’t actually look up to.
Same. For the past year and a half, I've unfollowed sooo many big influencers and celebrities on social media. Most of these people never even inspired me so I had to ask myself why I was even following them.
Did you have anyone left after that? Lol. Just kidding but I'll bet there weren't too many who made the cut! That's why I love Kathleen because she is so real
I read something once that helped me tremendously. Unfollow all these “influencers” and start following positive pages! Follow pages that show the imperfections in humans that us us. Follow pages that have uplifting quotes.
I’m so insecure that I had to delete my Instagram 2 years ago cause every single time I was on it I left feeling soo bad about myself. It’s nice to know that someone I see as so perfect and beautiful (you) gets just as insecure as a no one like me. And the fact that you’re so down to earth as an influencer is what makes you my favorite UA-camr. We need more people like you in this world Kathleen 💜
“Show is your puppy too, show ur your struggles, show us your hardships.. show us that you’re a real person like the rest of us” 😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️ One of the main reasons why YOU are my favorite UA-camr ever since ☺️
Kathleen i love how you’re not like other influencers, you’re real genuine and sweet. You’re the only youtuber i feel that connection with even though we never talked.
I have found myself spiraling into a negative mood many times after falling into the rabbit hole of Instagram models' accounts. I have begun blocking some of those accounts for my own mental health. I'm glad you made this video and brought up this topic!
Megan Streit girl same.. After a while I realized that it was too toxic for me to be comparing my life to most of these influencers and gurus that I used to follow .. I got so tired of seeing all the posts that I know are super manipulated but would still envy, so I just made a whole new account and started fresh and .. yeah it was a great idea:) I feel like I don’t get stuck in that toxic way of thinking too often anymore :)
"How can I take cute little photos in cute little outfits when I live in this 4 walls?" The realest I've heard so far! I can totally relate to you Kath. Just do you! We dont mind if you dont post on ig everyday! 😍❤
Whenever I see people posting new outings every day I’m like “don’t you ever get tired or poor?” 😂 Kathleen we love you because you’re human. Everyone else is becoming the same copy of each other.
You dont have to post everyday. In fact I dont like when influencers post soo many times in a day it gets annoying. Your unique. I like you and follow you because your real. Your not some robot and you do things your own way which I appreciate and love. Your human too and we all get busy sometimes. Dont be a follower be your own leader cuz so far your the leader and i respect you for keeping it real with us.
When I'm not well mentally, I have to stay off social. It's a double whammy - when I see all the negativity and toxicity, it makes me feel horrible. When I see so many people showing their perfect lives and I don't have that, it makes me feel horrible. So I just have to stay off. It was interesting to me - I shared a video on IG using a skincare mask, and it was a really bad skin day for me but whatever, real life. So many of those comments were people commending me for showing my real skin, showing that I deal with acne, and not covering it up. I was actually taken aback. I'm totally guilty of facetuning out blemishes in my photos, but the very next photo I posted on Instagram I left the texture, the bumps and the blemishes in. I was wearing a full coverage foundation but I dont have a super smooth face and oh well. Real life! Thanks for the chat, Kathleen! x
I remember back in high school, about 3 years ago I had the exact same conversation with two of my friends. We all just decided to unfollow anything that isn’t a meme page or our actual friends and honestly it’s one of the best decisions ever. I became so much happier so quickly. I really do recommend it.
Ditto- I unfollowed all of the major UA-camrs because I was spending THOUSANDS of $$ on makeup every year, because I felt forced to have all the latest and greatest. Now, I don't even wear makeup. I'm sooooo much happier! On Instagram, I only follow things that I actually want to see, 90% of which are artist and art channels. We have to make our own happiness, and if Insta models and influencers aren't doing it for you- get rid of them!!!
this is my favorite video you’ve ever done. i’ve always felt so alone in this and i’ve spiraled so many times because of comparing myself to beautiful girls and beautiful bodies and it makes me crumble. i completely understand you’re not wanting to take away from those beautiful girls- but it destroys people who don’t look like that. i love this video. thank you
Honestly social media makes me feel like I’m wasting my time in school sometimes. I know it sounds crazy but going to school and having to pay 45,000$ a year to get this degree and then hope that it all pays off at the end with a good paying job is a gamble. Sometimes I see these women and men, who I understand worked hard to get where they are, and think how come they have this lifestyle at 22-23 meanwhile me being a 26 I’m still in school and have nothing but hope to live off of. It honestly makes depressed, it makes me think that I’m never going to finish, and if by the will of some god I do happen to finish, I know that my life will still never be like theirs. I know I shouldn’t do that but it’s hard, and it sucks but it’s the way it is. Don’t get me wrong I am still finishing school because at the end of the day school is what makes me happy and learning new things makes me excited especially when I know that when I’m done I’ll be helping people.
I understand how you feel. Well, put it this way. If Instagram disappears (remember Myspace? It's not relevant anymore, and one day Instagram will be gone, too), the career you are working towards will still be alive. Education is not a waste, you just have to be strategic about it. Not to mention, you get to do something productive towards society. A facetuned selfie with a million likes does not do good to anyone. It is practically meaningless. Sure, you gotta work your way up to make a good salary, but if you are disciplined with your finances you can still live a very good life.
I totally agree with you! I am currently in my third year of undergrad as a pre-med student and I will not be going straight to med school. So the thought of barely finishing med school at 27 and residency at about 30-32 is very stressful and sometimes daunting. It’s crazy to see that people my age already have all these fancy things and lots of money so young on social media. We are doing an amazing thing by going to school and enriching our knowledge so we have to push through! I know all the hard work and sacrifices will pay off in the end and we will have the privilege of understanding what hard work truly gets us. Good luck with your studies! You got this and never forget how amazing you are!
@@arielvieira603 This world needs doctors, nurses, aides, etc way more than it needs more fit, pretty people with the latest trend. So don't even for a second doubt what you're doing. You are doing so much more for yourself and for other people than social media influencers ever will. In my opinion, most social media influencers don't contribute much to society but high beauty standards, materialistic things, that for some reason having anxiety/depression is a trend, and to much PR packaging which is harmful to mother earth.
You speak of great points. At the end of the day, consider this: would you rather have spiritual wealth or materialistic wealth? One day we'll leave this planet and all that materialistic stuff ain't comin with us, honey. 🙌🏻
THIS THIS THIS. This is why you're the influencer I look up to the most. You're genuine and authentic and a great role model for girls of all ages. Keep it up, Kathleen!
But why? Don't get me wrong, I love Kathleen for years now, but she also filled up her chest with silicone, her face with fillers and soon botox as well. How is she actually any different? Only because she is naturally pretty and doesn't 'need' a lot of work, but at this point I believe, she would do it all, if she wasn't naturally blessed, the same way all other 'influencers' are doing it. And just to be clear, I don't condone, appreciate or stand behind this whole influencer-perfect culture at all, just the opposite, I struggle to see any positivity in it. Sorry for the rant, but I just feel disheartened for apparent double standards.
@@ananemec9389 I'd have to disagree with you. The work she's done was for her own personal reasons that she has struggled with, not to fit into a certain mold, as she mentioned in this video. She also said that everyone should be able to do anything they want as long as it makes them happy and it's what they want to do. She never once looked down or shamed people that choose or have chosen to do any cosmetic work. I also wouldn't consider what she's done, "filling her chest and face," that is pretty exaggerated. Filling in her smile lines one time in the span of a year is pretty minor in my opinion. Also, her approach to this topic is what makes her different. She does not flaunt her money, her looks, her fame/success like plenty of other influencers do. THAT is what makes her humble and authentic. But I agree with you on the point that the influencer-perfect culture does not have any positivity in it.
@@kristygarcia89 I never said she spoke badly or looked down on anyone, nor that she is as ‘bad’ as some other influencers, which doesn't mean she isn't living the double standard. You can interpret the work that you know she has done, however you want, but it is still having work done. Getting a brazilian butt lift or breast implants, or smile line fillers or lip fillers, to me are all equal. Somebody is insecure about something and therefore are changing different parts of their face and body. And why are 'we' insecure about our bodies? -because it doesn't fit to the unrealistic images we are constantly being exposed to. And I do appreciate the fact that she is admitting to contributing to that whole image. And don't get me wrong, I am not against any kind of body modification at all. It is not for me, but in my opinion anybody can do with their own body whatever they want. Why am I having issue with her take on this topic is that she is basically sending the message ‘oh, I did this and that, because of this and that, but please don’t feel the need that you have to’, as well as ‘I’m having trouble keeping up with other influencers’, instead on doing something about it and maybe trying to make a difference, and start a change, because it needs to start somewhere. And thank you for your response, I appreciate it.
THIS 🙌🏻
I have a total Apple body shape, and it literally is the ANTITHESIS of the current desired social media body shape. I have a tiny butt, tiny legs, and a bigger belly and upper body. I also have tiny TINY lips, no definition in my jawline, Clothes don’t fit me like other people, and you know what??? None of that matters in the SLIGHTEST.
I had to tell myself that NONE of that is who I am as a person. Nobody looks at me and judges me on my insecurities and if they do, that’s not someone who’s opinion I value anyway. I am a good person with a good heart and a wonderful family and great friends and the size of my waist, or the bagginess of my pants on my tiny non existent ass is irrelevant to who I am and how I am defined as a human.
Not ONCE in my life have I seen your smile lines, Kathleen. Not. Once. I’ve sat with you and never have seen anything but how beautiful your smile is. Not once have I thought “she has small lips” - all I see is a gorgeous woman with a hilarious and fun personality with an awesome channel who has stayed completely true to herself through and through no matter what.
The Kardashians are beautiful, but so are we. If we all looked the same, how BORING.
I am glad to look different, be different, have small lips, a bigger stomach, because it’s how I was born. I am SUPPOSED to look like this. If someone wants to change themselves because they’re unhappy? Totally fine, but the opposite is true too. Wrinkles aren’t bad. Smile lines mean you’re happy, crows feet mean we laugh a lot and have happy kind eyes.
We are valid influencers, beauty enthusiasts and content creators no matter WHAT we look like. Point blank PERIOD.
Love you girl!!!
God. I love you both and I’m so happy there are influencers like you two to keep us all grounded in this crazy world of social media. THANK YOU.
I love this
I wish I could like this comment 1000 times. You are brilliant and and beautiful person Kristi!!
RawBeautyKristi I LOVE YOU REAL DAD ❤️❤️
Just wanted to add "You're my real Dad" I couldn't agree more. I got a belly because I love food. I have wrinkles because I'm 45 years old and I've earned every damn one of them. I think you're both absolutely gorgeous woman with hearts of gold. 😘
Just keep in mind: most of your followers, like me, adore you because of your lack of social media presence. You’re not posting fluff and being fake which is so refreshing!
Alli V I couldn’t have said it better!! 💯
Exactly!
Well said! Exactly!👏👏👏
YES
AMEN SISTER 💯
Recently I heard someone say, “We compare our behind the scenes to someone elses highlight reel”. This statement hit me hard!
Alayna Glover That’s brilliant and perfectly stated! Thank you!
Alayna Glover Couldn’t have said it better 👍🏻
Alayna Glover if that’s not the truth
WOW, that is so true!
Alayna Glover preach
I honestly don’t even watch beauty videos on UA-cam anymore. Everyone is either always trying to get you to buy something or trying to flex their luxurious life. And it’s just so draining to watch
Same. Its drama filled now and its just not fun anymore
Same!!!
not all of us are like that though.. the bad ones always give the good ones a bad rep.
Agreed
Yep...
I have ALWAYS loved that you shop forever 21, HM, etc because it’s so discouraging to see something cute on an influencer just to find out it’s $500. Thank you for being you Kathleen!!!
The fact that you don't have that "influencer" presence, is what makes you different and relatable. Don't give in Kathleen! We love you for YOU
hannah kaske YES
I agree! It's so nice to see, makes me love her even more lol
Agreed!
hannah kaske if I could like this ten times I would
She's so effortlessly funny too, I love that about her
You’re not a “usual” influencer. You’re real and raw. That’s RARE.
Raquel Morales and thats the reason why we love her so much honestly
Yes exactly! I was screaming that all along the video... Another video that makes me love Kathleen more 💕
Raquel Morales that’s what we love about Kathleen
Thats way I love her!!! I feel like she's legit, I wouldn't question anything she says. Kathleen you're the best! Please never change.
Exactly she is so relatable. There's never a time I look at her and have negative thoughts about myself.
The world is turning into that Black Mirror episode where everyone gets a social score. And it's scary.
That was one of my favorite episodes in the sense of just how relevant it is in today's world. Sad really
They have social scores in China already
Nose dive!
I wouldn't survive because I don't even have Instagram or Facebook XD
I hope people wake up and influencing will be pure and real again. People who really achieve something and do something great and sencefull will be the real influencer
iamkellij that was an eye opener episode
You’re not an influencer. You’re a role model. That’s why we like you.
DUDE that distinction just blew my mind!
Thiiiissssssss
THIS. Thank you so much!
You hit the nail on the head! She truly is a role model. I am 8 months pregnant with a little girl and I have hope for her future if there are role models like Kathleen in her life.
Emily Alby this!!!
As a 28 year old woman who is also a big home body with literally 0 friends... I like having you to relate to.
r0bbinz same girl.... Same!
Same!
Same here !!! 😕😕
r0bbinz Me Too!
Same 😣
Honestly social media has stolen away who we are as people.
It really sadly has 💔
Shayleigh Pappas should be top comment
And individuality. Everyone is trying to be what they see. They don't find who they are.
I feel so zombies out.
I don’t have social media other than UA-cam which I only use to watch videos and Snapchat which I never post on 😂 if you ever feel like you’re getting to drawn into it then I recommend deleting it! That’s not the reason why I don’t have it I just have never felt the need to have it but I think that would help soo many people out there.
The word “influencer” is literally so cringy to me.
DaniellaRenae “social media marketing” is the new influencer term. Whatever we all call it, it is hard work! But agreed, the word had become tainted and cringy.
YES! 100% agree.
No offense, but hard work compared to???
Me2
Social media is full of smoke & mirrors; people inventing a life they don’t actually live. It’s becoming harder to tell who’s real & who’s fake because there are so many on the platform. Life is not meant to be a burden of always trying to impress others & put on a mask! Live!
You are a breath of fresh air in a world where everyone is trying to look and act the exact same. You are a reminder to me that it’s ok to look like myself, not an instagram model. Please never change.
I was having a conversation with a client. Aging came up. She said “some people don’t even get to age” and that sent me in a rabbit hole of thoughts that opened my mind. Feeling blessed to have this life, where some get sick or a tragedy happens where life is shortened. To see ourselves go on with the milestone of every line or whatever is a wonderful thing
Love this!
I just lost a very important friend at the age of 29 and your comment hit close to home.
Your comment made me tear up. Thanks for sharing your thoughts ♡
hannah iozzia oh my goodness yes! We should feel so blessed to have the opportunity to age!
that was deep. i loved this.
I started unfollowing a lot of “influencers”- beauty and fitness. Because it was making me wish I had nicer things and had a better looking body. I’ve been a lot happier since I unfollowed those people. Thank you for being you!!!
Kaynichydee same here ,I only follow people that actually teach me something about life or that inspire me to be a better person.
I feel you girl
Me too. I did the same thing.
Dude me too. I unfollowed all of those perfectly polished size 0 models, and now when I open my Instagram I just see meme pages and my friends. :) it’s perfect lmao
Amen to every sentence. We are wasting our LIFE online
Yes
I think it depends on how you use your online time. For me, it's my business. I run my photography through online networks and social media. It is vital for my research and service.
@@JT-gm4fk keep lying to yourself
Yes I wasted a lot throughout these past few years after going through something traumatic at work and I'm on Facebook a lot just to feel better but I feel worse when I look at they're perfect life although I was hurt by one of them
"I fear the day that technology will surpass our human interaction. The world will have a generation of idiots.” - Albert Einstein.
rebecca kempen great quote!! Although there’s no proof of this being Einstein’s. ☹️
Someone once said “people use social media to compare other peoples highlights to our own behind the scenes” and that has really stuck with me
Wow hit the nail on the head! 👌
Another one i like is "not even the woman in the magazine looks like the woman in the magazine"
@@wilted_rose510 what she means is that we compare ourselves in a not so flattering state (for example bloated, without makeup, in our pijamas, hair undone) with people in a picture who have a face full of makeup, a pretty outfit, maybe some help of photoshop and of course we are not gonna look the same.
gigi nury well that but also how our lives are portrayed. Kathleen leaves a great example about mom groups. As a mom myself I find myself feeling like I need to have everything perfect because clearly all these other women have it perfect. But I need to remind myself that everyone CHOOSES what they put on their social media.
This is including physical features as well that Kathleen has already mentioned.
So true and good to hear 👏👏👏
I love how she said how do I get a cute picture when I don’t go out and have no social life” I felt it. You’re the only one that makes me feel still good and human
Same, my sister doesn't really care for "UA-camrs" or "influencers" but loves Kathleen because she is so real and relatable. Also Kathleen can just post pictures of her dogs everyday and that would be cool.
Omg same here. I just had the thought the other day about how insecure I am because my insta doesn’t have beautiful pics of me in the wilderness (not that I don’t love being outside). Most of the time I’m home in my lounge clothes. My life isn’t constantly image worthy. But I can’t believe I felt bad about the fact that I am lucky enough to have quiet time to myself and that I was comparing myself to others.
You’re NOT the influencer type and that’s the only reason why I ever even open UA-cam anymore and hope to see a new video from you. That’s what makes you better than the rest of them. Seriously, never change
It’s refreshing that you’re not on social media every 5 seconds. I can’t stand these influencers that are online 24/7 or snap ridiculous amounts of selfies.
I agree.
Agreed! Please don't change
I totally agree! Don’t be hard on yourself for that ❤️
Lol why? It’s not really your business. If someone wants to make money, who cares.
Agreed.
Kathleen: “I’m not like other influencers”
Me: *that’s why you’re my favorite*
exactly!
Yasss!!!
😍😍😍
only million-level beauty UA-camr I’ve followed and not unsubscribed!
She didn't really need to say it, it's obvious she isn't! ♥️
I just love Kathleen.. She keeps shit so real. It's refreshing
"Comparison is the thief of joy" - Theodore Roosevelt
harley5150quinn I love this 💗
harley5150quinn my favorite quote to date 👏🏼
Tash so funny you commented on this with me I just found your channel a couple weeks ago because of Lashify subscribed and have been watching all ur videos 💗
April Kennedy wow, what are the chances?? 🥰🤗 that’s the thing I love most about social media. Connecting with people you’d otherwise never prbly meet 👏🏼❤️
There's a quote it goes: "The reason why we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind the scenes with everyone else's highlight reel." Lesson to learn: You may think everyone is better than you are, but you are only seeing the image they portray to others.
Yes! Love that quote. ☺️
K Tan well said. Here here!
❤️
K Tan couldn’t agree more with you
Well said🙏🏽
This NEEDS to be #1 on trending.
You and RawBeautyKristi are my favorite influencers because you are REAL. You use your platform to break the ice for people to have these difficult conversations. Talking about these unrealistic standards is the only way to break societal standards. Go you!
Agreed! They’re both so incredibly real and raw humans. We need more Kristi’s and Kathleen’s 💕
So agree! They are both the best that we have on here! Love them!
Love this👏🏼
So true!! Love them so much!
💯 agree so much!
I totally agree about the "cookie cutter" comment. I feel that whenever a person gets fillers or has surgery, they tend to look like everyone else. I can't tell people apart... no unique qualities left in their face. They are beautiful, but just the same as the next person.
Mara Bruyere YES!
But kat had cosmetic surgery...
100%
Love your comment 💜💜
ッElizabeth Kat but she doesn’t look like every other influencer that gets work done. she doesn’t look like a copy. she looks like herself. and unique. that’s the point.
This was probably my favorite video from you! Only because it’s all things most people want to say but are afraid to for fear of not keeping up with the perfect life. You, Kathleen, are so loved because you are so real- your audience can see that and loves you! Social media IS toxic so take breaks whenever and never feel guilty. And girl, I work nonstop in my sweats most days so keep hustling and build that dream business! That’s more important than an Instagram selfie. Love you Kathleen and sending you love! And huge congrats on your nail polishes- so happy for you 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼❤️❤️❤️
Marlena! Omg I've watched u since you started! I adore Kathleen and this video I needed to hear and soo many other women. I've been hearing a lot of this lately. IG and social media has brought down my self esteem so much, made me insecure, and a little depressed to feel I'm not good enough or pretty enough. I used to be so confident. I'm 33 just had s baby and am engaged. My body is changing and bc of stress I'm wasting away and trying to gain weight and can't. I want to be like those models and kno I never will, social media has made a big negative impact on women's self esteem.
Marlena your amazing, today I was watching your old videos, how cool to see your comment and support!
I couldn't agree more Marlena! 💖💖👏
Well said Marl
Well said Marlena!! The more realistic influencers are, the more we relate to them!
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Marlena come thru!
This got posted at the exact time I needed to hear this message. My husband and I have tried for 8 years to have a baby. After several failed fertility treatments it has left me at a weight I never wanted to be at and insecure. Not just about the minor weight gain but also the fact that I’m 35 and childless. I look at social media constantly and see these young happy families who are beyond successful and compare my life to theirs.
Thank you for this.
Ang131 Me too. I can’t have kids and I’m 39. Knowing I can’t has actually kept me from even looking for a boyfriend or husband because it destroyed me self confidence. I’m happy for you that you at least have someone to share your life with who loves you for you. And that is so valuable. I absolutely know what you mean though, about seeing these “mom bloggers” with their “little family”. I’ve unfollowed those people. They don’t serve me, inspire me, or make me feel good about myself so I look at it like this. If I was a vegetarian, why the hell would I follow accounts about people who cook steak all the time or put bacon in all their recipes? To torture myself or make myself annoyed and angry? It’s not worth it, I just unfollow and move on.
Ang131 I also think that society teach us that if you aren’t a mother you are less of a woman but it’s not! I know you are probably hurting right now and I’m sorry but if in the end life can be exiting anyway even if you are childless. 😘
Emily Majeski I’ve unfollowed almost every mom blogger or influencers who get pregnant because the pain is real. It’s sad to say but at times it just gets the best of me. But you are right I should see the blessings I do have and maybe start to change my mindset.
Silvia Maurizzi the expectations put on women can be exhausting at times. I even find that because I’m one of the few at work who does not have kids I am EXPECTED to do more or travel more because I have no reason to not.
Ang131 I know exactly how you feel. I’ve been in your shoes. I hope and pray that God gives you the desires of your heart. 😘
“Comparison is the thief of joy”
Wow!
Hear! Hear! 👏👏👏👏
"I want to see your cat wearing a funny hat, I want to see your pimple, I want to see what you look like when you don't brush your hair." -Kathleen
*flowers are pretty but so are Christmas lights and theyre nothing alike*
I can't explain how much I love this
I remember this quote from years ago and I still think it works to this day💜
I love this!!
KATHLEEN RESPONDED ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
preach.
I love that she can be so comfortable with us like she was saying. It’s a breath of relief to be able to come to her channel and know that she’s so real with us.
i can relate every single word with myself...... i am sooo insecure with my appearance..... and may be one of the reason is instagram.
So kind of you!!! Thank you!!!!!
KathleenLights I’m insecure too and did my smile lines in my 30’s - I was tired of looking like I was frowning. Your lips look awesome and are proportional to your face - there’s a video I’ll try and link that describes why some people look BETTER with thinner lips. Also, when everyone looks the same, how can people stand out? As Wayne Goss says, do the opposite.
“ social media reminds me of my insecurities “
I felt that. 💯
Please don’t feel pressured to post everyday. That’s so ridiculous
I love that you're not like "others" on social media. That's why I watch you...love
One of my friends deactivated her IG and I texted her to ask why. She said she was dealing with health problems and IG was depressing her. I noticed her looking unusually thin lately and asked no questions, just told her I was available if she needed to talk. You're right, the fake perfection really does affect the average person
We need to work on our hearts more than our outward appearance.
Redhot Chickpeas YES. THIS.
"It's a soul that needs a surgery...." from Pretty Hurts
❤️❤️❤️
“I’d love to be a Coca-Cola bottle” lmaoooo Kathleen. I adore you. Your chicken legs. Your honesty. Your realness. I appreciate you in so many ways.
This just made me realize I need to talk to my daughter
Yes, when she mentioned her 9 year old and lip fillers. So young hear about it... I'm so worry about my 3 year old 😕😕🙄
Melissa Freeman same
Me too
there's this really incredible essay on how to talk to your daughter about her body that i feel like every mom needs to share!! the title is
How to Talk to Your Daughter About Her Body
from huffington post!!
storiesinthedust thank you
The fact that a 9 year old knows what a lip filler is and they talk about it at school is crazy.
Joanna Korolis it’s sad.
Kids tend to know a lot more than we give them credit for. I had corrective facial surgery as a kid & my classmates thought I had “plastic surgery like Britney Spears” lol.
And guess where they learned about it? Right here on UA-cam.
Heard 10 year old be sad because she didn’t have a butt like bruh
That's what really worried me.
THIS. THIS. THIS IS THE VIDEO EVERYONE NEEDS TO HEAR
‘Show us you’re a real person, just like the rest of us.’ 🙌🙌🙌
Random rambles always make me feel like Kathleen and I are just hanging out 🥺👏
Life of Ri I hate that she can’t hear what I’m saying back to her
Natalie Porter AMEN. I’m like “girl, TELL EM” and she can’t even hear 😂
Sam Ravandahl just did a video going through her old Instagram posts, and talked about what was REALLY going on behind the camera. Heartbreaking, a little bit... it was such a great watch. Very on brand with this video, which is also amazing. I think we all need a reality check- we are beautiful the way we are. Love you, Kathleen... You are a true light
Imagine the poor children who are being exploited by their parents. They start to worry about how they look from a very young age and it's so sad.
So true!
I think about this all the time! I don’t think children should be on social media
Omg yes it breaks my heart to know that exists 😭. Poor babies 😭💙
That's basically danielles cohn life and its so sad
Their are so many "innocent" people out there who have a whole ass Instagram for their cute kid and dont get me wrong I love some of them but imagine what kind of pressure this puts those kids under.
This is why you’re pretty much the last “beauty influencer” I still follow. I get everything you’ve said and I feel the same way. I appreciate that social media hasn’t changed you and that you can be this candid and honest. ❤️
I thought it was only smaller influencers who felt insecure but you have such a large following and you can still feel like this. It’s comforting to know, It can affect anyone, big or small
Keillyn Powell absolutely Keillyn
KathleenLights I couldn’t find my other comment about facial proportions but here’s a good video explaining why people look awesome with thin lips too.
ua-cam.com/video/XGXeGHLG5eE/v-deo.html
One of my favorite quotes : "Just because you don't look like somebody you think is attractive, doesn't mean you aren't attractive. Flowers are pretty but so are Christmas lights but they look nothing alike." 💕💕
Wow! Great quote
"A flower doesn't waste time comparing itself to the others beside it... it just blooms!"
When I was young my mom always used to tell me that she wouldn’t dye her hair or do anything to her face, because every years she aged was a blessing. She told me it’s privilege to get to age, and earn your wrinkles and grey hairs. I’m so grateful that she did that because I carry that with me everyday. I haven enough insecurities, but when it comes to aging and all that, I feel comfortable. Youth is not the epitome of beauty, and that’s really priceless.
Emma Ariena aw I love that
I love this ❤
I believe happiness and a kind heart is the epitome of beauty
Your mom is the perfect example of someone who leads by example, and not telling u not to do the what she did, because she didn't do it. You're lucky to have a mom like yours.
I teared up at this 😭 ur mom is a wise lady.
I’m so glad social media didn’t exist when I was growing up. It would have devastated my self esteem even worse. It’s frustrating because I have a 13&14 year old. I’m 34 and grew up in the 90’s. All of these movies this past few decades have grown women, with grown bodies portraying young high school girls. In turn, young high school girls think there’s something wrong with them because they don’t look like that. Now the bar has raised and i try my best to communicate the reality of social media with my girls.I jumped on the lip filler band wagon mainly because of social media. I never really thought I had small lips, but I saw all the those beautiful full lips and I wanted some too. I got a breast lift, but that’s something I’ve always wanted. The plastic surgery part doesn’t bother me....I love it! It’s the people faking the perfection with filters, making everything look glamorous and making their worth amount to “followers and likes”.
Omg. I know. I'm 39 and grew up in the 80's. I was just telling my husband how I couldn't have imagined what social media would've done to my self esteem if it existed growing up. Smh.
This is exactly why I've pretty much stopped using social media, everything is superficial
Dulce Vianey It’s meaningless, and it gives a false sense of what people’s lives are really like
I have changed the kind of accounts I follow and it has gotten way better
@@giginury5872 That can certainly help, I'm glad you're having a better experience :)
I feel like that's kinda the point to an extent tho? esp for instagram. you're not gonna post the bad things in your life
Jessica Garnier No you won’t, you’re absolutely right, but at the same time looking at posts of people’s “perfect” lives constantly inevitably leads you to compare your circumstances to theirs
"show us your cat... in a hat" LMAO YES!!!!!
When you look at your smile lines and feel self conscious about them, remind yourself that you got them from smiling!! Remind yourself of all the things that made you smile and maybe try to see them as a reflection of the joy and happiness you felt that created them in the first place.
That's so beautiful! And so true!
This is exactly my perspective on my smile lines, I'm grateful for my smile lines 🥰
I wish I could tell you how much I needed to see this today :(
Karen Sonnentag Amen.
I love smile lines for this reason!! the only wrinkles I want are smile lines lol
This is perfect and I kind of needed this. It reminds me of the tweet Chrissy Teigen recently had where she went to yoga and the instructor asked if she just had a baby and she said "well 18 months ago" and the instructor was like "uh, yeah, that's JUST" and Chrissy was like... shook by that concept. It makes me so sad that mothers feel so pressured to "get their bodies back" when their body IS their body and it's a result of doing something so beautiful like creating life. It's important to feel good about yourself, and it's okay to make changes to your body like lip fillers and fake boobs and stuff, but you shouldn't have to feel like you NEED to do it because of social media. You can do it, it just sucks that social media enhances the feeling that it has to happen in order to be beautiful.
It’s CRAZY to me that Kathleen could be made to feel insecure when she is genuinely one of the most beautiful women I have ever seen.
Sarah Michelle yes she is !!! To me she’s perfect !!!
Seriously!
And her personality makes it’s all 100x better! She’s successful, genuine, sweet, beautiful etc etc.. I wish she wasn’t so hard on herself.
Yessss agreed
Exactly! The main reason I like her so much is she has natural beauty. I love that about her she’s stunning
"Comparison is the thief of joy." - My favorite quote. And very appropriate for this video.
Kristina Pennington I was just going to post that!
Wait actually I think it's an lds quote. It's really good.
Always been one of my favorites. And to remember that social media is the highlight reel.
I changed your likes from 666 to 667 🙃
I. LOVE. This.
You’re the breath of fresh air in the “influencer” community that the world needs. I love watching people I can relate to. I feel like I’m just hanging out with a friend when I watch your videos. You have inspired me to find creative outlets in makeup and fashion.
You know...whenever I found you, I knew you were different! You are so talented and so funny and sweet and I love how your makeup looks are super wearable! And how you have a nail polish line. You are unique! It’s so easy to get wrapped up in the social media work and in your spot...I couldn’t even imagine. I now unfollow anyone who makes me feel bad about myself. You’re so right, those “perfect” influencers are beautiful people, NOTHING is wrong with looking that way! But myself, clearly not looking like that, knows that seeing those influencers makes me feel so bad. And I’m not about that!
*social media WORLD
Hey
I’m so glad you don’t have an “influencer” personality. It makes you so much more relatable and respectable in my opinion. I have always loved you for that.... don’t fall for it. We love you for who you are
I started unfollowing people who made me feel bad about myself. I was so caught up on Instagram and posting all the time now I only follow the people who inspire me and make me happy. That’s why I love you, I’m not bombarded by negativity just happy content 🥰
Social media detox by removing people who make you feel so uncomfortable and unhealthy is so helpful. It’s so awkward to evaluate where you are with someone but it pays off in the long run
I did this too! I unfollowed every single woman who took 100 pics in bikinis because I found myself comparing myself to them all 24/7. Best thing I ever did!
Yeah!! me too! :) ♥
Stephanie Smith same
I love this. I only follow people who inspire me as well.. ❤️
“Do whatever makes you happy as long as it’s not hurting anyone else”
literally what I try to live by and tell my little sisters all the time.
What’s so interesting about this to me is knowing that even those people whose perfect photos we are viewing, those people feel the same way we do. And they are editing and perfecting their photos for the SAME reasons we want to. They are seeing other people’s perfect photos too and feel the same pressure. So that beautiful seemingly perfect looking girl’s picture that I’m looking at is doing the exact same thing with another girl’s seemingly perfect photo. And round and round it goes. We just need to continue to remind ourselves to take everything we see with a grain of salt and understand that why we are comparing ourselves too isn’t fair bc it’s not real.
Because you aren’t a ‘typical influencer’ is why I watch you.
I think something to realize more than “everyone is beautiful” is that beauty isn’t everything.
Agreed!
Yes!
Sara Merchant THIS 👏👏👏this needs to be on a billboard everywhere, people need to remember this and I need to remember this. Thank you
Well said!
I think it's also important to remember that there's different part of you that can be beautiful, not just your face or body. We should strive to have beautiful minds and beautiful hearts
This is one of the realist videos I’ve seen from an “influencer” in quite a while. That’s why these are my favorite kind of your videos because it feels like a more personal relatable conversation rather than the usual stuff influencers talk about.
Regardless of filters, facetunes or any of that other stuff, you’re a beautiful person inside & out and I praise you for being so real with your audience.
You’re my absolute favorite UA-camr because of how personal it’s felt to watch your videos since 2013. Thank you for being THAT influencer. Thank you for being .you.
Justina Snyder exactly
You should watch rawbeautykristi, she’s awesome!
Whenever I get on Instagram, unfortunately I feel like I just scroll endlessly through my timeline but there’s no “ooh and ah” factor. I’m just scrolling to scroll. Unless it’s art or avant garde, things that are weird and not common that grab my attention everything blends together. Thank you for making this video Kathleen! 😊
I feel so sorry for girls these days. I'm in my 50's and we had no social media to contend with when I was growing up so the insecurities that I had came from within myself and the girls directly in my life (which was bad enough!!). I think I would have done myself in if I had to worry about Instagram etc. Kathleen, be who you are with or without makeup, flaws or no flaws. Somebody has to start the change that is so desperately needed regarding all the social media pressure and with your video I think you are somebody who is starting it now with such an honest talk.
Linda Christman I always say that i am so happy that i don’t have to grow up now in this world. It is toxic for so many people.
I’m 49 and I couldn’t agree with you more! My daughters are in there late teens and twenties, and I see them struggle with this. I can’t imagine what my granddaughters are going to go through when they are older. It terrifies me!! The world needs way more Kathleens!!
I'm 39 and agree with you I agree with this video and social.media is detrimental to our younger generation especially the ones who are vulnerable and get addicted to it.
the title is me when none of my friends like my pictures on insta lmao
yup same
Hahahahah
But really 😂
hahahahaha omfg true
IM LMFAO
I love a “take no bullsh*t” Kathleen
Life of Ri dude for real! I loved this video, so refreshing!!
There is just way too much focus on looks nowadays. What you look like should be (and most likely is) the least interesting thing about you. If people would put the same amount of energy into being kind, compassionate, educated and just generally good people, as they do into worrying about how big their boobs are or how straight their nose is, we would live in a much better world. The only person that can profit from you looking good is you, but your great ideas, kind words and compassion have the potential to change the whole world.
Someone the best, most well-written comment I’ve seen in a long time
@@olivianewberry3980 thank you 😊
I try to avoid following Instagram models/influencers because I know subconsciously I will be comparing myself to that “perfect” life
I love how your not a “typical” influencer. This is why you stand out and are admired. I wish more people were like you online. I get so tired of seeing the fake life portrayed on social media. Thank you for speaking out about this subject! 💕
I cried watching this. “show us your puppies too, show us your struggles too” that line hit me. so bad.
People like you on this platform are what gives me hope for the internet obsessed world nowadays. Love ya.
Even though you say you’re being a hypocrite, the very fact that you’re aware and sharing your message is helpful. I think honestly you are the realest UA-camr and are weird and fun and I love that. Your comfort and confidence shows even though you have insecurities (like everyone else)
I also love that she's so open with what she's doing and what she is insecure about and "fixing" like the boobs and smile lines. Her message is great and very inspiring
Kathleen, in terms of your smile lines, I once read a beautiful quote that said that you earn the face you have at the end of your life. If you spend your life smiling and laughing with those you love, you will have smile lines to show it. If you are angry and grumpy and pout for your whole life, your face will reflect that, too. Your smile lines are simply reflecting 27 years of happiness.
Logan Flott I love this!
People with smile lines are so much approachable and seem so much nicer than people with frown lines.
I want smile lines now 😃
That's so beautiful!
Some people want to smile but, don't bc they're so insecure about their smile and don't have money to fix it.
I’m only 5 minutes in. One thing that helped me so much was I did a “cleanse” I unfollowed all the companies,models, and people that I don’t actually look up to.
Same.
Same. For the past year and a half, I've unfollowed sooo many big influencers and celebrities on social media. Most of these people never even inspired me so I had to ask myself why I was even following them.
I just did the same thing and it's totally made a huge difference in my life.
Did you have anyone left after that? Lol. Just kidding but I'll bet there weren't too many who made the cut! That's why I love Kathleen because she is so real
I read something once that helped me tremendously. Unfollow all these “influencers” and start following positive pages! Follow pages that show the imperfections in humans that us us. Follow pages that have uplifting quotes.
"Be happy with what you have and you will be the richest person on earth."
Couldn't be more true!!
"wondering if I'm even an influencer type"
The world needs influencers like you ❤
Jess Lemos Tester Agree!! She is the best and one of the most realest ones out there!! ❤️
Jess Lemos Tester or none at all! just funny and relaxed girls like her.
Jess Lemos Tester Agreed
I’m so insecure that I had to delete my Instagram 2 years ago cause every single time I was on it I left feeling soo bad about myself. It’s nice to know that someone I see as so perfect and beautiful (you) gets just as insecure as a no one like me. And the fact that you’re so down to earth as an influencer is what makes you my favorite UA-camr. We need more people like you in this world Kathleen 💜
Melanie Bogue yes!
Melanie Bogue I don’t post ANYTHING for that reason and I never go on it - just keep it for contests. Everyone looks like a blowup doll.
“Show is your puppy too, show ur your struggles, show us your hardships.. show us that you’re a real person like the rest of us” 😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️
One of the main reasons why YOU are my favorite UA-camr ever since ☺️
Kathleen i love how you’re not like other influencers, you’re real genuine and sweet. You’re the only youtuber i feel that connection with even though we never talked.
Exactly! That’s why i like watching her because she isn’t the “typical” influencer she’s unique and i love it!
I need to start doing this. IG is toxic sometimes and addicting! I need to just delete my account.
I have found myself spiraling into a negative mood many times after falling into the rabbit hole of Instagram models' accounts. I have begun blocking some of those accounts for my own mental health. I'm glad you made this video and brought up this topic!
Megan Streit girl same.. After a while I realized that it was too toxic for me to be comparing my life to most of these influencers and gurus that I used to follow .. I got so tired of seeing all the posts that I know are super manipulated but would still envy, so I just made a whole new account and started fresh and .. yeah it was a great idea:) I feel like I don’t get stuck in that toxic way of thinking too often anymore :)
"Comparison is the thief of joy." (Idk who said that but I like it)
Kelsey Nuffer absolutely
Kelsey Nuffer Theodore Roosevelt
“show us that you’re a real person like the rest of us” okay girl FACTS
I love that you aren’t a typical “influencer”. That’s why you’re my favorite UA-camr. Keep being unapologetically you!
"How can I take cute little photos in cute little outfits when I live in this 4 walls?"
The realest I've heard so far! I can totally relate to you Kath. Just do you! We dont mind if you dont post on ig everyday! 😍❤
Whenever I see people posting new outings every day I’m like “don’t you ever get tired or poor?” 😂 Kathleen we love you because you’re human. Everyone else is becoming the same copy of each other.
You dont have to post everyday. In fact I dont like when influencers post soo many times in a day it gets annoying. Your unique. I like you and follow you because your real. Your not some robot and you do things your own way which I appreciate and love. Your human too and we all get busy sometimes. Dont be a follower be your own leader cuz so far your the leader and i respect you for keeping it real with us.
When I'm not well mentally, I have to stay off social. It's a double whammy - when I see all the negativity and toxicity, it makes me feel horrible. When I see so many people showing their perfect lives and I don't have that, it makes me feel horrible. So I just have to stay off. It was interesting to me - I shared a video on IG using a skincare mask, and it was a really bad skin day for me but whatever, real life. So many of those comments were people commending me for showing my real skin, showing that I deal with acne, and not covering it up. I was actually taken aback. I'm totally guilty of facetuning out blemishes in my photos, but the very next photo I posted on Instagram I left the texture, the bumps and the blemishes in. I was wearing a full coverage foundation but I dont have a super smooth face and oh well. Real life! Thanks for the chat, Kathleen! x
Samantha March i feel the same! Is so frustrating! I don’t want your shoes as an influencer.
I’m glad I’m not the only one that feels like this. There is hope.
I remember back in high school, about 3 years ago I had the exact same conversation with two of my friends. We all just decided to unfollow anything that isn’t a meme page or our actual friends and honestly it’s one of the best decisions ever. I became so much happier so quickly. I really do recommend it.
Ditto- I unfollowed all of the major UA-camrs because I was spending THOUSANDS of $$ on makeup every year, because I felt forced to have all the latest and greatest. Now, I don't even wear makeup. I'm sooooo much happier! On Instagram, I only follow things that I actually want to see, 90% of which are artist and art channels. We have to make our own happiness, and if Insta models and influencers aren't doing it for you- get rid of them!!!
this is my favorite video you’ve ever done. i’ve always felt so alone in this and i’ve spiraled so many times because of comparing myself to beautiful girls and beautiful bodies and it makes me crumble. i completely understand you’re not wanting to take away from those beautiful girls- but it destroys people who don’t look like that. i love this video. thank you
“Do you ever go on camera without makeup on?”...
You do know she has to start a makeup tutorial with no makeup on right? Lol
Honestly social media makes me feel like I’m wasting my time in school sometimes. I know it sounds crazy but going to school and having to pay 45,000$ a year to get this degree and then hope that it all pays off at the end with a good paying job is a gamble. Sometimes I see these women and men, who I understand worked hard to get where they are, and think how come they have this lifestyle at 22-23 meanwhile me being a 26 I’m still in school and have nothing but hope to live off of.
It honestly makes depressed, it makes me think that I’m never going to finish, and if by the will of some god I do happen to finish, I know that my life will still never be like theirs.
I know I shouldn’t do that but it’s hard, and it sucks but it’s the way it is.
Don’t get me wrong I am still finishing school because at the end of the day school is what makes me happy and learning new things makes me excited especially when I know that when I’m done I’ll be helping people.
I understand how you feel. Well, put it this way. If Instagram disappears (remember Myspace? It's not relevant anymore, and one day Instagram will be gone, too), the career you are working towards will still be alive. Education is not a waste, you just have to be strategic about it. Not to mention, you get to do something productive towards society. A facetuned selfie with a million likes does not do good to anyone. It is practically meaningless. Sure, you gotta work your way up to make a good salary, but if you are disciplined with your finances you can still live a very good life.
Kimberly campos if you chose a school that cost 45k a year then you have to have the will to succeed. You can’t let yourself think this way🤷🏻♀️
Jimena I will finish that is a given nothing will ever change that but sometimes the thoughts creep up without noticing and that’s the truth.
I totally agree with you! I am currently in my third year of undergrad as a pre-med student and I will not be going straight to med school. So the thought of barely finishing med school at 27 and residency at about 30-32 is very stressful and sometimes daunting. It’s crazy to see that people my age already have all these fancy things and lots of money so young on social media. We are doing an amazing thing by going to school and enriching our knowledge so we have to push through! I know all the hard work and sacrifices will pay off in the end and we will have the privilege of understanding what hard work truly gets us. Good luck with your studies! You got this and never forget how amazing you are!
@@arielvieira603 This world needs doctors, nurses, aides, etc way more than it needs more fit, pretty people with the latest trend. So don't even for a second doubt what you're doing. You are doing so much more for yourself and for other people than social media influencers ever will. In my opinion, most social media influencers don't contribute much to society but high beauty standards, materialistic things, that for some reason having anxiety/depression is a trend, and to much PR packaging which is harmful to mother earth.
Y’all she’s literally so adorable 😭
You speak of great points. At the end of the day, consider this: would you rather have spiritual wealth or materialistic wealth? One day we'll leave this planet and all that materialistic stuff ain't comin with us, honey. 🙌🏻
THIS THIS THIS. This is why you're the influencer I look up to the most. You're genuine and authentic and a great role model for girls of all ages. Keep it up, Kathleen!
But why? Don't get me wrong, I love Kathleen for years now, but she also filled up her chest with silicone, her face with fillers and soon botox as well. How is she actually any different? Only because she is naturally pretty and doesn't 'need' a lot of work, but at this point I believe, she would do it all, if she wasn't naturally blessed, the same way all other 'influencers' are doing it. And just to be clear, I don't condone, appreciate or stand behind this whole influencer-perfect culture at all, just the opposite, I struggle to see any positivity in it.
Sorry for the rant, but I just feel disheartened for apparent double standards.
@@ananemec9389 I'd have to disagree with you. The work she's done was for her own personal reasons that she has struggled with, not to fit into a certain mold, as she mentioned in this video. She also said that everyone should be able to do anything they want as long as it makes them happy and it's what they want to do. She never once looked down or shamed people that choose or have chosen to do any cosmetic work. I also wouldn't consider what she's done, "filling her chest and face," that is pretty exaggerated. Filling in her smile lines one time in the span of a year is pretty minor in my opinion. Also, her approach to this topic is what makes her different. She does not flaunt her money, her looks, her fame/success like plenty of other influencers do. THAT is what makes her humble and authentic. But I agree with you on the point that the influencer-perfect culture does not have any positivity in it.
@@kristygarcia89 I never said she spoke badly or looked down on anyone, nor that she is as ‘bad’ as some other influencers, which doesn't mean she isn't living the double standard. You can interpret the work that you know she has done, however you want, but it is still having work done. Getting a brazilian butt lift or breast implants, or smile line fillers or lip fillers, to me are all equal. Somebody is insecure about something and therefore are changing different parts of their face and body. And why are 'we' insecure about our bodies? -because it doesn't fit to the unrealistic images we are constantly being exposed to. And I do appreciate the fact that she is admitting to contributing to that whole image.
And don't get me wrong, I am not against any kind of body modification at all. It is not for me, but in my opinion anybody can do with their own body whatever they want. Why am I having issue with her take on this topic is that she is basically sending the message ‘oh, I did this and that, because of this and that, but please don’t feel the need that you have to’, as well as ‘I’m having trouble keeping up with other influencers’, instead on doing something about it and maybe trying to make a difference, and start a change, because it needs to start somewhere.
And thank you for your response, I appreciate it.