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dude i always ALWAYS tell my friends to keep going because i know how it feels to be shut down for your interests. and i share my personal interests as well!! im a huge fan of biology and that one especially i wish i could just "oMGGOMGOMG I WANNA KNOW MORE" and i'd ask questions n stuff. i feel like there should be little autistic like sensory cafe places where autists like me and many others can bond and talk about their interests. that'd be super nice
The person with giraffe facts at the beginning was so relatable and I was honestly fascinated with some of the stuff they were talking about so when they were told they were annoying I was like "NO! I NEED MY GIRAFFE FACTS! NOW!" Edit: The fact that this is one of the top comments makes me a bit sad. It's great that I was able to provide some joy with the comment and all but I just feel bad that everyone can relate to just being shut down so easily for bs reasons.
The one about deliberately stimming to unlearn masking but then second guessing and thinking you're making fun of other autistics is very relatable to how I've felt this past year or so. Thank god it's not just me
Yeah, one of my stims I've discovered is tapping/patting my right shoulder with my right hand (feels real nice, good comfort pats paired with stretching the back of my upper arm) and I now have to try and suppress that one in public (or at least when I'm working) because part of me worries that someone will think I'm mocking people with intellectual disabilities.
I hate how I’ve spent my whole life masking to the point where even when I’m alone idk how to unmask and it feels wrong in a way ??? Like the internalized ableism is so bad and I didn’t even realize I struggle with it bc I’m very big about advocating for ND and disabled people and open about my disabilities. It’s just one of the effects of living in a world that’s not built for me. The fact that so many autistic people mask to the point where they feel like they can’t unmask even when alone is sad :/ I don’t get why it’s so hard for me. I have to remind myself to take breaks to stim
Same!! I've been exploring my neurodivergency recently because I'm in the process of getting tested, and I've noticed that once i identify a stim that i do, i tend to do it more. Which makes me feel like I'm faking, but I'm not. I'm just doing it more because I've been unintentionally masking my stims so that people don't think I'm weird, and once i realize something is a stim i feel more free to let myself do it 😅 But sometimes I'll stim a lot and then my brain will be like "stop, you are just making fun of neurodivergent people!" and I'm not?? I'm literally neurodivergent lol
me after i started fainting / potentially having seizures multiple times a week a few months ago. like legitimately ill be crying, unable to move, mostly unaware, twitching all over, and having nothing come out when i try to talk and my brain is just like: no, ur faking it
adding on to the 'looking up is eyerolling' thing, I was constantly told off by one of my babysitters for 'looking angry' I apparently just have Resting Bitch Face because the face she saw as angry was just my neutral face. That always confused the hell out of me but I was always too scared to tell her that I wasn't angry
resting bitch face is such a scam because if someone socialized as male has a neutral face, it's just called a neutral face. But for someone socialized female, it's considered rude to not have a perpetual pleasant expression. What nonsense! I just wanna relax my eyebrows 😡
do your eyebrows rest right above your eyes or on your forehead because mine rest right above my eyes and I will be chilling and someone will go why are you so angry and I'm like uh no I'm not.
The last one is so relatable :/ One of my teachers constantly took away my stress balls, even when I would hide them under my desk to fidget so it wasn’t distracting anyone at all. I tried to explain to her that I needed it but she never listened and would make a scene in front of the whole class. Ma’am YOU are the one causing a distraction
My teacher once took away my modeling clay and said I could get it back at the end of the day, all I had done was squeeze it in my non-dominant hand, it didn't make any noise it wasn't a 'distraction'. I was devastated and a nervous wreck approaching her at the end of the day but when I spoke to her she said she had already thrown it out. F*ck you, maths b*tch everyone I know hated you.
thank goodness that i get to start at a new school and my mum promised she would notify my teachers that i need to draw/use headphones or muffling earplugs/use fidget toys in class because i remember at my last school i pulled out one of those pop it toys for like a millisecond and suddenly five people were at my desk asking to borrow it, in turn getting them banned from the school. all the neurodivergent kids had a mega 🥺 moment including me
Had this problem and still do. I'm autistic and am undiagnosed (I k ow I'm autistic because most of my friends are diagnosed and I reflect every behavior) and I felt so much anger watching the last one
Same, it got me into trouble with my stepdad so much I started giving a very submissive nod as I look to the right and down, which is a habit I'm trying to kick so hard now...
@@esmee6308 hey! I do that nod thing too. My dad would scream at me for not looking him in the eyes when I got in trouble for something, he'd never tell me what I did wrong, I'd have to stand with my back straight against the wall well he screamed in my face. He'd get super angry because I wouldn't, COULDN'T look him in the eyes so I would have to move really slowly so I wouldn't offend him.
i didn’t even think rolling their eyes was a thing/didn’t think ppl actually did that because i thought they would, literally roll their eyes in circles no wonder 🙄 this emoji was always confusing for me
This literally happened to me a month or two ago, some customer screamed at me and told me I was being rude when I was just trying to help her and apparently I "rolled my eyes" :(
I think what rubbed me the wrong way about that video (and many other takes like it by families of autistic ppl) is that...it's totally ok if the symptoms of your disability make it so you can't do things like go to university. everybody has different levels of need for accommodation and what things are doable for them, but what I hate is that parents will get an autism diagnosis for a young child and then just ASSUME they won't be able to do anything with their life. the description of like, giving up all their dreams for their child is just so weird...idk. if he can't do those things, ok, fine! that doesn't mean his life is a tragedy. but you shouldn't assume he'll never be able to it just because he doesn't make eye contact at 5 years old.
@@lanturn3239 I get where you’re coming from but idk if it’s fair to assume the parents of this person don’t understand their level of functioning. If they hypothetically need care for the rest of their lives, can’t live alone, or can’t take certain steps independently in life it would definitely be apparent to the people taking care of them. I’m sure everyone wants them to go to college but if they’ve received something like special education that wouldn’t change when they reach higher ed.
You forgot the part where she says “AND because of his cognitive abilities” then goes on to say what you quoted. His cognitive abilities being the thing that MAY prevent him from going to uni or finding a partner, not his ASD.
4:16 I don't have autism, but I am an anthropologist, and this was SUPER fascinating to me. It sort of reminds me when people encounter culture differences. But also I can't imagine how shook people who do have autism felt when they saw this. I can totally empathize.
Tip: If you're going out to a store, especially a clothing store, wear a shirt with a texture you really like so that you can cancel out the bad textures with the one you like. Also it just provides extra comfort when being in public which is always nice.
I love these vids. Recently, I just finished work and went outside to get food. I have a tendency to sing out loud or just make noises when I feel a certain way. I was waiting for a street light to change and randomly blurted out "yeah!" In a kid like voice. I'm 41. I forgot there was ppl outside. I was embarrassed for a few seconds since I've been masking since I was child. I laughed about it on the way back. The older I get, the more the mask is slowly coming off.
I support you 🙌🏽 I want to believe that there is genuine camaraderie amongst all of us who are on the spectrum/neurodivergent. From years of trying to maintain peace amongst others by masking, it’s important to realize having peace within yourself should come first 🍬. Having unity within yourself is most important
The masking falling away with age has me looking at my behaviors in a different light. Basically reconsidering something I wrote off over 20 years ago shortly after being (accurately) dx'd with ADHD. I'm 52 now, and this are starting to make sense because of videos like this.
4:17 OMG I was literally bullied by a teacher about this and she made me cry. These people need to educate themselves, especially ones who work with kids.
I had a 6th grade teacher get angry because I never talked in class despite my excellent homework and class work. She told my mom I would never make it in high school. I never knew I was Autistic or had selective mutism.
I know I don’t know you Ayyyemossy, but I am here for you and I care about you. I instantly care about anyone who can relate to these videos. Please take this candy 🍬
@@taoist32 I also have ASD and selective mutism. I might not know you and all you’ve gone through but please accept this treat 🍬. I hope you’re doing okay today
I really liked the ones that demonstrated good and bad representation because as someone without autism, I didn't know. Now I want to rewatch those movies with good presentation and pay more attention. thank you for that. it's very important for us as a community to show a good kind of representation because just not every representation is good.
Ew, the autism awareness day sibling tiktok is gross. It completely focused on how the neurotypical PARENTS and siblings, it shows how much they infantilized Joji, saying that he'll never have a romantic partner or children because of his cognitive abilities. That's horrible, people of all cognitive abilities can have fulfilling romantic and sexual life. And it ends with inspiration porn ('ive learned so much from having autism in MY life'/ 'His unconditional love will keep US grounded.') Big Yikes.
Yeah, I do agree it is egocentric and I always feel uncomfortable when an autistic person is being filmed vs them filming themselves for content. However, this may be controversial but if he has an intellectual disability, it would be unfair for him to raise a child when his IQ is that of a child (this is unrelated to the autism). But there is no reason why he can't find love and marry and it feels sad that from day 1 they decided there were all these things he could never accomplish.
I'm almost thirty, and only in the last few months have i actually started thinking...maybe i do have autism? No one's ever suggested it and i feel incredibly anxious even thinking about trying to actually bring it up with a medical professional, but then I'm watching things like this and it's just a slew of oh i do that. Like all these ~quirks~ I've had all my life are suddenly something that other people actually relate to and I'm so. Confused? Hopeful but scared? Embarrassed immediately after typing this???? Regardless of my own personal diagnosis, whenever it may come, I'm so glad autism awareness is growing so much. I remember as a kid i was out with my dad and met an autistic kid who was mostly non verbal, and i just talked with them pretty normally and i remember afterwards my dad being like, impressed that i didn't struggle to communicate with that kid and i was like...yeah it was pretty normal? And i didn't say it but i remember thinking like. Talking to people is always hard? And nowadays i have friends who with children who are like, i think my son's autistic and I'm like. He seems "normal" to me??? And then I'm like....oh.
This just in, Post Malone is now permanently going to be a safety person in my mind because he showed kindness to someone and that triggered a response in my brain because 1) I've never had healthy interactions like that and subconsciously miss it to the point where i cant even move and 2) he's a tall man with tattoos who's nice and I have the literal crushing feeling of not being good enough for potential father figures(?) because mine left when I was little and didn't know where daddy went ANYWAYS sorry that was alot
9:35 this makes me sad because I relate. My parents didn’t know I had autism until I was 16, and even then it wasn’t an official diagnosis until recently and I’m 21, I have tried and failed to go to college, I can’t have a full time job and therefore cannot fully support myself and live on my own right now. It’s difficult for everyone in the family and I worry I’ll never be able to live on my own. People really do need to fund things better for autistic people, we need it for quality of life
The giraffe topic guy is so relatable. The last one with the putty I felt hurt and targeted and I cried. Happy to see so much content by my community. I’m 57. Diagnosed at 56. Finally my world makes sense. Love and support each other and yourselves for who you are. ❤
I love it when people infodump to me it’s like such a genuine boost to my mood especially when I don’t know anything about the topic… before I realized I was autistic I recognized infodumping as my lil sibling’s love language so I love that I get a term to describe it now (and I feel a lot better about infodumping to the people who appreciate it lol)
ME!!! SO MUCH!!! infodumping n penguin pebbling [ giving things/videos/songs 2 some1 cause u thought of them !! :> i do literally what the name entails LOL i give ppl rocks ] r some of my biggest love languages cause i cant keep my mouth Shut and it makes me SO HAPPY HEARING OTHER PPL BEING HAPPY??!!?! i love adding ppls special interests to the conversation a LOT so that they can talk abt it a lot
The one about forcing themself to stim in order to learn how to unmask simultaneously made me feel seen and anxious. Being autistic is fucking weird sometimes 🙃 Also the screaming cake joke made me cackle 🧁
@@Janaely I have a question, since you are autistic, is it really offensive to use Aspergers as a term? If so, I have a lot of apologies to my friends 😬 lol
@@trincey2664 That’s kind of a huge question, lol. There’s a big book about the history of autism called Neurotribes, which talks about it some. Asperger’s is a controversial term because one of the people who did early autism research on kids, Hans Asperger, was a Nazi. Among other things, he sent the “lower functioning” kids to camps/experimental facilities. The DSM, Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, is a controversial thing all by itself for reasons, which I think are too varied to do justice in a youtube comment section. But basically, a lot of politics, bad science, egos, and other bs helped write it*. Providers use the DSM to diagnose people. Several years ago in a controversial move, the powers that be folded Asperger’s as a condition into Autism, so it’s no longer a diagnosis. A lot of people still identify with Asperger’s cuz it’s what they were diagnosed with. So it’s up to the person, though it’s becoming less and less desirable in general for people to choose it. * Obligatory disclaimer before somebody says it: not *all* the scientists and researchers upon whose work the diagnoses in that book are based were Nazis, otherwise bad people, and/or otherwise did completely bad science. But a lot of them were/did).
@@kaydenl3 hehe noodles I like to call my dog Angel a noodle She stretches like a noodle My favorite food is actually chicken chow mein from this 1 restaurant by our house except I only eat the noodles it’s either chicken chow mein or shrimp chow mein and I like seafood even less than I like poultry also my dad has tried making me cow mein noodles at home but it always tastes wrong to me idk
About the giraffes one, I remember in highschool I was OBSESSED with Greek Mythology and other myths and would often talk about it with my best friend while we were with our other friends, and they would talk about their own things. Some times we would all have separate discussions and other times we listened to one discussion so we wouldn't seem rude (it was usually sports or school related, which we weren't really interested or knowledgeable in talking about). But I remember one time my bestie and I were talking about mythology in our friend group (not really talking with the others but they were listening), and I was going on, and on, and on about it when one of the other girls said something like "Why are you always talking about that stuff, we don't even know what it is," and I said that I just like talking about stories and mythology, and she was just like, "What the heck is mythology? We don't even care." So I got angry (obviously) and said something or did something that I don't remember, and while I was trying to talk with the other girls (maybe about the stories, why I liked them, or something else. I think we might have been arguing about how it's rude that my bestie and I would just talk about stuff they don't understand in front of them and don't include them), the girl started mocking me and what I said over and over until I snapped and told her to shut up. This girl I told off had always been pretty sheltered by her parents and friends and she was still pretty childish and never got told off because she was "fragile" (Maybe that was a sign of autism, or maybe it was a sign of being too coddled despite us being young adults at that point) but she started crying and yelling at me, saying that I couldn't tell her to shut up, and I told her that she shouldn't have been mocking me and not letting me talk, and that she needed to grow up and stop behaving like a spoiled toddler (or something along those lines), and she started throwing a tantrum, saying she was going to tell on me to one of our other friends, I said "How fucking old are you, can you not speak for yourself, we're almost adults." And she ran off to tell our friend, so I left and spent the rest of the day crying in the bathrooms like a coward. And while looking back, yeah, maybe we were both showing signs of being on the spectrum and maybe that gives her leeway. But while I don't know much about autism, I believe that we should still have enough common sense to not behave like assholes to one another, and to be able to speak for ourselves however possible (within reason) as independent adults. Obviously we may need help sometimes, and confrontation may make us incredibly uncomfortable sometimes, but it's all part of being a functional adult. I don't know, maybe I'm wrong and I'm just an asshole. But I still remember how she completely degraded my interests just because she wasn't interested in them. Meanwhile she and the others would go on for hours about sports and I never said a peep, I never complained (even though I was bored out of my mind). I still have trouble talking about my interests now, because no one ever seems to care, so I just stay silent while they all talk about their interests. Sorry for the long comment, here's a cookie if you made it this far 🍪
I was diagnosed with adhd but considering my bloodline I’d say the docs may have missed the mark. I’ve started trying to stim more in public when I feel I need to instead of just bouncing my leg which tends to not help all that much anymore I told my mom this stuff and she was like “you have to be socially considerate” ok ma when was the last time I cared if someone got personally offended by me happily rocking a little and tapping my fingers
we went to a loud restaurant the other day and i kinda felt like it was too much for me, at least from both ears, so i put in one noise canceling earbud playing my favorite music and it really helped me, and the best part was the fact that my mom was totally ok with it and she knew i needed it but it does make sense that she would understand as i have 2 siblings with 80hd, 2 second cousins with autism and a cousin with down syndrome also fun fact: my cousin with down syndrome had to wear an earbud just like me at a family gathering and my dad kept making fun of him and calling him “a faker” and saying things like “he needs to take out that earpiece and pay attention to his family” and my mom repeatedly did tell my dad that he needed it, and my dad didn’t listen even though my mom thoroughly explained it to him
I just thought of something while watching this! I was watching the news once and their was an event going on, a carnival or attraction park of some kind for kids (I don’t remember, I was kind of eavesdropping the tv). They were explaining how everything would work and such and then I distinctly remember them saying “All the workers there will be trained in autism sensitivity” and I kind of froze at that. I asked my mom, who was sitting next to me, “what does that mean?” And she explained that there were classes where specific workers were trained to handle autistic kids and their many sensitivities. I sat there thinking and finally I said, “why aren’t all workers trained like that? Shouldn’t that be required?” And my mom simply replied “yes but, unfortunately, it’s not.” I think about that sometimes and I just wonder how messed up it is that not every child can get their needs met because some people don’t want to train their workers to do it. Sorry for writing so much, I get side tracked and ramble!
(About the last tiktok) I had this putty/slime that i got really attatched to and had to have with me at all times, and one time my brother took it from me and wouldn't give it back and I was having a whole mental breakdown over it. Eventally he gave me most of it, but he was giving it to me by just giving me small parts of it at a time, and for some reason if i did not get every single last piece of this slime i was going to cry. I might have cried actually. I'm not autistic, but im in the process of getting tested for ADHD and i related to so many of these tiktoks lol.
Okay, the cartoon at 8:14 had me laughing aloud cuz that was literally my friends and I when we met in highschool freshman year, and glad to say that 15 years later, this is still us. And that was before we were diagnosed with add, adhd, or somewhere on the autistic spectrum. It's quite amazing how people on the spectrum just naturally gravitate towards each other.
My boyfriend is in the spectrum and I loved him deeply for years --- even before his mom told me about his diagnosis ☺️ we'd talk for hours on end. No dead air whatsoever! Our current record is 11 hours of non stop talking haha. I just love him He's my person 🥰
11 hours, wow: as an autistic person, I'm curious how much of that time revolved around discussions of his special interest(s) and what they were for such a conversation?
I am SO jealous of being able to talk for that long, my record is 2 hours of straight info dumping to my mom about computers and stuff, before she cut me off, which makes sense now but I was very frustrated that I got cut off lmfao
I love it when i can finally add into a conversation and then I get yelled at for talking too much but my best friend steps in and says “keep going I want to hear more” bro it makes me so happy I love him sm
My brother is on the spectrum and my mother is very supportive. He has a 504 and she made him their own app to help him communicate. It's been super awesome to see people spread awareness especially after everything that he's gone through, it's so cool to be able to see other people welcome people on the spectrum. Thank you to all of the people who don't throw nasty words at him and would accept him. *Thank you.*
5:47 My little brother is non-verbal, and its hilarious because in my house we just talk to him like how anyone talks to a four year old, so I ask him about his day at school, I ask him what he did, I ask him for a hug or like ask him what he wants when hes covering his ears or whatever, but when people first meet him, the treat him like hes a baby, like they coo at him and do that little folding your hand over wave to him, and we are just there like "Bro. He was born in 2017. not 2021." He is delayed slightly in his mental development, so recently he started acting like a 2 year old which is hell I can't lie. His favourite thing to do is get his water bottle or his cup with milk and turn it upside down, and do it where no one is gonna find him so when you find him he is sitting there in a puddle, and you go "What did you do!?" to him and he bursts out in laughter. Its not funny. Its a huge pain.
0:57 is so relatable~ just the other day at work my colleagues were chatting about something for about 20mins, as soon as one of them mentioned she was going to Korea I suddenly became visible.
for the last one- flash back to when my teacher bullied me for using a figet spinner because it "wasn't a trend" anymore- (and yeah, he knew i had autism)
The masking at birth thing actually happened to me. My parents and grandparents are Italian. Like, old fashioned Italian. So when they want a new family member, they expect the baby to come into the world with life and noise. My autistic bare-naked ass, who also "over-cooked" for 2 weeks according to my mom, came out, and I just looked into the void. Babies can't see shit, I know that, but based on my diagnosis, I apparently was like "what the fuck is this shit, why am I here? What is this?" right off the bat. And because of that, I was quiet. I was just looking around in the void, trying to figure out what the fuck just happened. And the doctors knew I was ok, I just wasn't talking (contrary to medical dramas, it's not necessary that a child screams after being born, it only matters that they respond to the actual tests that are designed for checking them. Another fun fact: cutting the umbilical cord is not your first priority. If you have birth away from the hospital, you don't have to cut it unless you think you're going to be unable to get to the hospital within a day [the reason it needs to be cut off is due to the dying tissue, but the tissue doesn't turn toxic instantly, and if you cut it incorrectly, the baby could bleed out or get infected.] Leave it on if you can.) But my grandparents, disappointed at my performance, decided to start SCREAMING at me to cry since I hadn't done it yet. It took 5 minutes, but 5 minutes after I was born, I masked for the first time by shrieking like a good newborn should, apparently.
i didnt realize people were so divided on sheldon cooper. i dont know i always thought he was really cool and it was nice to see someone on popular tv that i related to. theres an episode where penny and leonard are teasing sheldon bc he didn’t understand that his relationship with amy would be considered dating and it makes me really happy to see stuff like that cause i dont feel as alone.
Same, I personally feel like there's less so 'bad' autism representation and more so a lack of diversity in the given representation. I always related to Sheldon but he's commonly classed as 'bad' representation because he's a stereotype but I think that's the only actual issue, that there's a lack of diversity.
4:53 It's the autism?! I've done that several times a day every day for my entire life and always just thought it was a "random shiver" but like really fuckn intense and it's only occurred to me recently that I've never seen anybody else do that ever
I remember when I had started to enter my unmawking period, one of the first people that I informed I was autistic had said "That explains a lot actually." Legit never felt more validated in my life tho fr.
Anyone else LOVE the transition at 12:12 ? Being autistic myself, I wonder if smooth transitions in music could possibly be a symptom, because I freaking love them. I scour the internet for them and have found shockingly few really good ones like this. I haven’t seen any of the shows in the bad vs good representations in this video, so I can’t say who I relate too, but I’ll take y’all’s word for it.
My BFF is autistic and this helps me understand her so much, also it helps me understand myself a lot too. I’m not autistic I just relate to a bunch of these things. So thanks for spreading awareness and stuff 😁
hey, here’s random thing I’d like to share with a safe space! for “background” info: I was assigned female at birth and don’t have an official diagnosis but a lot of symptoms. so recently I watched the show Heartstopper and just as I finished watching it for the second time, I realized how my body language suddenly resembled the body language of a character - unintentionally I had mimicked a lot of facial expressions and sitting posture. it was very scary, especially when I realized how “accurate” I copied the character. it’s definitely not the first time I adapted body language, character traits or similar things (I basically copy other people’s behavior all the time and even tend to text a lot like they do to match their “vibe”, it happens unconsciously and even if I realize what’s going on I can’t really stop it) but usually it takes awhile before it happens so strongly. so yeah, that was kind of a scary experience I wanted to share with you. I hope you have a good day, remember to sleep enough, hydrate and eat! :)
I have a friend who has autism she is so sweet and kind and I dont understand why people make fun of her she has such an gentle soul and I’m glad I became friends with her♥️
Seeing the one that had Billy from the new Power Rangers movie down as good representation made me so excited. The new Power Rangers movie is one of my hyper fixations and Billy is one of the reasons for that. Finally seeing positive representation for Autistic people like myself made me cry in the theater.
As far as i know i'm not neurodivergent, but i do have a lot of traits of neurodivergence, and one of those is fidgeting/stimming. The last one is exactly what it was like in elementary and middle school for me. I'm super glad that now that i'm in high school, my teachers are a lot more understanding. and my peers are also a lot nicer about it, and so even though i sometimes do "weird" things like standing when i'm in class when i can't sit still in a chair, rocking, playing with stim toys, flapping my hands when i'm excited, etc., i have only been made fun of a few times (or it's behind my back which i don't really care about) and my friends are super nice about it.
4:29, being re-reminded of this always brings back an unpleasant memory of the first time (that I remember) being accused of "rolling my eyes" when I looked up at the ceiling in a store when my parent was speaking with someone and my parent thought I was being rude and rolling my eyes. Didn't even know the term and of course took it literally and tried to explain that my eyes did not roll but only looked up at the ceiling, which is still something I do today.
Glad I found this video! I hid my stims by smoking cigarettes and the cigarettes dulled my sense of smell that was over stimulating me. I still quit 8 years ago but I still miss it. Won't ever be going back.
I’m also very glad I’ve found these videos. I’ve been watching a lot of autism Tik Toks these past few weeks. I hope you are doing okay now. Please accept these treats 🍬🍬
1:04 I love how I tune into the scientific information and just soak it up, not because I'm interested in the particular subject, but because I just like science.
Me and my best friend were diagnosed at the same hospital, just at different times. I was diagnosed when I was two and he was when they were 12. One of the questions had a cat with a fish in it’s mouth and we were asked: “how do you think the fish feels?” Expecting us to say an emotion, we both said “nothing it’s d3ad.” 😭✋/gen
I'm so happy (?) To know that I'm not the only one who just had the realization I might be Autistic, at the age of 20. My whole life I was masking, though I knew that I had mental health issues and I must fight it but I didn't know that it was a fight against Stigma. These last two years I went thru terrible Mental breakdowns which made my depression worst. Hopefully People would understand after a proper diagnosis, but I doubt they would. Atleast I have y'all as a Community. Thanks so much.
4:16 Excuse me what... That explains so, so many interactions I've had where people say I'm frustrated or something or angry or something cuz "I rolled my eyes". No fam, I'm literally just trying to not implode infinitely like a B-type main sequence star lmao
I hate that I am TWENTY FIVE YEARS OLD and just figured out why I was accused of rolling my eyes when I just looked away for a second because I couldnt handle the forced eye contact. Why do they call it ROLLING your eyes if you aint rollin them????
0:58 I do this constantly, but a lot of the time I just end up getting ignored when I speak. I don’t blame anyone, I’m pretty quiet and there’s usually a lot of people there. Everyone will be part of their own conversation and I just want to be included, so when I hear something that I can talk about I try to join in, but I don’t know how to make my presence known because I’m worried people will just be annoyed with me because I’m cutting them off, but if I don’t cut them off than I’ll never get the chance to speak. I’ve had a couple times where this happened so many times in a few days that I decided nobody wanted to talk to me and only spoke when spoken to for the rest of the week. Nobody even noticed, which then sent me into a worse spiral where I wondered if anyone even cared about me and I sunk even further into myself. Wow this comment was longer than expected, and I really just dumped a lot of my mental health problems. Sorry ‘bout that😅I’ve just realized this about myself btw.
5:19, I've seen that called "cricket legs/feet" and love the term. I do it most when _trying_ (and often not succeeding) to sleep but also at other random times.
would you rather an autistic person talk about the cons of autism? like... what exactly is the issue? the fact that its specifically (presumably) someone without autism talking about it, or that the negatives are being talked about in general? because in both cases, if its factual information, it shouldnt be an issue.
I knew about giraffe vertebrae thing. I had my husband stop an episode of One Piece to tell him about it. We're watching all of OP together (he's rewatching) and we got to ennies lobby where the "I love giraffes" guy comes up.
1:11 I don't think I have autism but I relate with the shared/analogous symptoms it have with adhd and will always remember me being at a new job (first job) not talking much during lunch break 'cause I don't have much of anything intresting to say, untill the conversation lead to one of my co-worker asking "Are polar bears more dangerous then other bears ?" wich lead to me absolutly dumping all I know about polar bears' dangerosity and behavior-
I AVOIDED ALL OF IT BC I WAS JUST ROLEPLAYING WARRIOR CATS/SURVIVOR DOGS/WINGS OF FIRE WITH A FEW FRIENDS IN THE CORNER OF THE PLAYGROUND AND I’M GLAD TBH
13:18 Thank yoou! :D I've heard of love bombing awhile agow and i got worried i was doing that since i really love to compliment poeaple and give them gifts. And i have difficulty telling what's sarcasm or not so sometimes i sound sarcastic about things. Like if someone tells me something that sounds typically "uninteresting" to others and i'm interested in it i'll say how cool i think it is but i sound too existed over it. Like it sounds like im baby talking them when i say "OMG that is so cool tell me more! :D" but i meen it.
I was today years old [almost 40] when I learned that dino/trex/velociraptor arms are a thing other autistic persons do. :O Love to all my fellow dinos.
It's a little funny that a year or two ago I started thinking I might be autistic, but I didn't want to tell anyone or think about it too much, because what if I was wrong and I make a fool out of myself. But then first my sister told me that I showed signs of autism and even my mom. I really wish I could go an try to get diagnosed, but from what I've heard, the wait is long and to be diagnosed as autistic you need to have some specific traits, especially since I'm already an adult. And despite seeing so much stuff I relate to, so much stuff that I do as well in TikTok compilations like this, I'm still scared that I've been faking it or I'm just stupid and now I've wasted so many people's time,,, haha,,,
5:17 lol. I would need sunglasses, headphones, a KN95 face mask, an oversized jacket, and keens (the shoe brand) and by that point there is already so many things "on me" that its to heavy and VERY uncomfortable. 🤦♀
Okay I get angry when someone enters the kitchen but it's usually because they either stand directly in the way of something time-sensitive for way too long as I'm showing that I need to get there or they start screaming matches over literally nothing and I don't have the option to remove myself
4:16 my parents once slapped me once because I did that and it was considered eye rolling. I still remember it very clearly because I was really young and not THAT good at masking (yet)
I relate to two of them, and I’m allistic. However, I do have ADHD. Finding certain behaviors or traits relatable doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re autistic. But it can sometimes help people start researching more and learn more about it themselves. I can’t really tell whether a certain behavior is normal or not-ppl are pretty diverse-but those did seem pretty normal, or typical, to me at least. I can see where they can relate to autism though. I can also see how they can tie into and manifest from other things. (Long reply, I know. I just really like talking about these things.)
@@dramageek278 I’m not accusing you of using it as a self diagnosis, though I can see how it could come across that way. I think I must’ve just gone off on a tangent. But yeah, I thought those behaviors were pretty common too xD
That last one hit me hard 😖 I used to bring putty to school all the time since it was literally one of my favorite things(at the time I didn’t know I was autistic) and then people would ask to play with it and I didn’t really want them to but I was a people pleaser so I let them play with it. And then if I got it back it would be all dirty and it would smell like their hands and I hated it, and a lot of the time I wouldn’t get it back because the teacher would take it away because it was disrupting the class and then when I would go to pick it up at the end of class they would tell me I shouldn’t bring it to school and if they saw it they would take it away. I didn’t bring it to school again after a few situations of that happening
The eye rolling thing I didn’t understand until I was 20. I thought it meant literally rolling your eyes in a complete circle. I didn’t know that looking up or off to the side was considered rolling ur eyes lmaoo
3:24 oh my god i do this too and it's really annoying for me cause i can't do anything until the syllables have reached an even number so one of my fingers isn't in midair
I feel like scripting conversations and making dialogue trees helps a lot with my anxiety talking to strangers. that and not making eye contact. Or having to touch people I don't know. That 6 ft social distancing was a god send to me.
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Is this something people have said in the past?
@@QuackDragon Yes, several times in past compilations. They’re often buried in the comments but I always see them
Autism can’t be faked.
Do they happen often?
@@bricky_brickster not as much anymore since I added these messages but on older videos, yes they still receive these comments
The one with the giraffes hurt a lot. I hate that feeling so badly. I just want to tell him "No, that's so freaking cool! Tell me more!"
Ikr?? I still don’t fully understand why people shut down others when they try to share what they know. Do they not value learning and knowledge?? 👶🏽
dude i always ALWAYS tell my friends to keep going because i know how it feels to be shut down for your interests. and i share my personal interests as well!! im a huge fan of biology and that one especially i wish i could just "oMGGOMGOMG I WANNA KNOW MORE" and i'd ask questions n stuff. i feel like there should be little autistic like sensory cafe places where autists like me and many others can bond and talk about their interests. that'd be super nice
@@pizzatime3752 YES YES YES!!! PRECISELY. COULDNT HAVE SAID IT BETTER
Same man 😔
its sucks because i have a REALLY hard time listening to conversations all the time.. even when its a topic i like or its interesting
The person with giraffe facts at the beginning was so relatable and I was honestly fascinated with some of the stuff they were talking about so when they were told they were annoying I was like "NO! I NEED MY GIRAFFE FACTS! NOW!"
Edit: The fact that this is one of the top comments makes me a bit sad. It's great that I was able to provide some joy with the comment and all but I just feel bad that everyone can relate to just being shut down so easily for bs reasons.
Right?? I get told "do you ever stop talking??" So much that my heart sunk and I felt so bad 😔
@@lisacallan5462 It's weird how we get shut down before we even start by people
another fun fact about giraffes: they are physically incapable of throwing up
I need my giraffe facts! Also I love your username.
The moment I saw the giraffe facts I audibly gasped. Then clipped it and sent it to all my family so they can commiserate over how much that is me.
The one about deliberately stimming to unlearn masking but then second guessing and thinking you're making fun of other autistics is very relatable to how I've felt this past year or so. Thank god it's not just me
Yeah, one of my stims I've discovered is tapping/patting my right shoulder with my right hand (feels real nice, good comfort pats paired with stretching the back of my upper arm) and I now have to try and suppress that one in public (or at least when I'm working) because part of me worries that someone will think I'm mocking people with intellectual disabilities.
I hate how I’ve spent my whole life masking to the point where even when I’m alone idk how to unmask and it feels wrong in a way ??? Like the internalized ableism is so bad and I didn’t even realize I struggle with it bc I’m very big about advocating for ND and disabled people and open about my disabilities. It’s just one of the effects of living in a world that’s not built for me. The fact that so many autistic people mask to the point where they feel like they can’t unmask even when alone is sad :/ I don’t get why it’s so hard for me. I have to remind myself to take breaks to stim
I'm with you 😔
Same!! I've been exploring my neurodivergency recently because I'm in the process of getting tested, and I've noticed that once i identify a stim that i do, i tend to do it more. Which makes me feel like I'm faking, but I'm not. I'm just doing it more because I've been unintentionally masking my stims so that people don't think I'm weird, and once i realize something is a stim i feel more free to let myself do it 😅
But sometimes I'll stim a lot and then my brain will be like "stop, you are just making fun of neurodivergent people!" and I'm not?? I'm literally neurodivergent lol
me after i started fainting / potentially having seizures multiple times a week a few months ago. like legitimately ill be crying, unable to move, mostly unaware, twitching all over, and having nothing come out when i try to talk and my brain is just like: no, ur faking it
For some reason I laughed at the scream cake joke
I guess you could say it's an... I-scream cake
Same. I thought it was hilarious. I showed it to my wife and she also thought it was hilarious. Granted, we're both autistic.
The reason is that it was funny 😁
That killed me 🤣
@@once.upon.a.time. Agreed.
adding on to the 'looking up is eyerolling' thing, I was constantly told off by one of my babysitters for 'looking angry'
I apparently just have Resting Bitch Face because the face she saw as angry was just my neutral face. That always confused the hell out of me but I was always too scared to tell her that I wasn't angry
resting bitch face is such a scam because if someone socialized as male has a neutral face, it's just called a neutral face. But for someone socialized female, it's considered rude to not have a perpetual pleasant expression. What nonsense! I just wanna relax my eyebrows 😡
everyone always asks me why im sad and at first i was confused by it but then i realized it's rbf
Same here, I could be having the best day of my life, but my face will still look like I’m contemplating murder. It throws off a lot of people
Same my mom always asks why I'm angry or tells me to not give her that look like dude what look I'm just chillin with neutral expression.
do your eyebrows rest right above your eyes or on your forehead because mine rest right above my eyes and I will be chilling and someone will go why are you so angry and I'm like uh no I'm not.
The last one is so relatable :/ One of my teachers constantly took away my stress balls, even when I would hide them under my desk to fidget so it wasn’t distracting anyone at all. I tried to explain to her that I needed it but she never listened and would make a scene in front of the whole class. Ma’am YOU are the one causing a distraction
My teacher once took away my modeling clay and said I could get it back at the end of the day, all I had done was squeeze it in my non-dominant hand, it didn't make any noise it wasn't a 'distraction'. I was devastated and a nervous wreck approaching her at the end of the day but when I spoke to her she said she had already thrown it out. F*ck you, maths b*tch everyone I know hated you.
Oh my god that one made me so angry! Sorry she did that to you too...
i’ve not been diagnosed for anything but i can relate to so many of these autism clips so i guess i just have
symptom disorder
thank goodness that i get to start at a new school and my mum promised she would notify my teachers that i need to draw/use headphones or muffling earplugs/use fidget toys in class because i remember at my last school i pulled out one of those pop it toys for like a millisecond and suddenly five people were at my desk asking to borrow it, in turn getting them banned from the school. all the neurodivergent kids had a mega 🥺 moment including me
Had this problem and still do. I'm autistic and am undiagnosed (I k ow I'm autistic because most of my friends are diagnosed and I reflect every behavior) and I felt so much anger watching the last one
The amount of times I was told not to "roll my eyes" as a kid... WHAT?!
Same, it got me into trouble with my stepdad so much I started giving a very submissive nod as I look to the right and down, which is a habit I'm trying to kick so hard now...
@@esmee6308 hey! I do that nod thing too. My dad would scream at me for not looking him in the eyes when I got in trouble for something, he'd never tell me what I did wrong, I'd have to stand with my back straight against the wall well he screamed in my face. He'd get super angry because I wouldn't, COULDN'T look him in the eyes so I would have to move really slowly so I wouldn't offend him.
@@Bear_the_shepherd So sorry you went through that :(
i didn’t even think rolling their eyes was a thing/didn’t think ppl actually did that because i thought they would, literally roll their eyes in circles
no wonder 🙄 this emoji was always confusing for me
I was so confused when I was little and after I watched that video, everything clicked
Lmao the second clip with the joke about masking as a baby got me
"BEING BORN" Killed me.
THE EYE ROLLING THING
NOW I FINALLY KNOW WHY SO MANY TEACHERS/AND THAT ONE MANAGER WERE CONVINCED I ROLLED MY EYES WHEN I DIDNT LMAOOOOO
yeahh im like!! thats just looking up LOL
This literally happened to me a month or two ago, some customer screamed at me and told me I was being rude when I was just trying to help her and apparently I "rolled my eyes" :(
1:08 My dude just explained a whole biology lesson in under a minute, and somehow kept it interesting. Impressive.
That the power of little bit of thism.
9:46 'my parents had to give up their dreams for their son, like him going to university'
Me, an autistic person currently going to university: 👁️👄👁️
Me discovering i might be autistic and might get diagnosed AT the University
I think what rubbed me the wrong way about that video (and many other takes like it by families of autistic ppl) is that...it's totally ok if the symptoms of your disability make it so you can't do things like go to university. everybody has different levels of need for accommodation and what things are doable for them, but what I hate is that parents will get an autism diagnosis for a young child and then just ASSUME they won't be able to do anything with their life. the description of like, giving up all their dreams for their child is just so weird...idk. if he can't do those things, ok, fine! that doesn't mean his life is a tragedy. but you shouldn't assume he'll never be able to it just because he doesn't make eye contact at 5 years old.
@@mecha1105 me discovering I'm autistic because all my college friends are autistic.
@@lanturn3239 I get where you’re coming from but idk if it’s fair to assume the parents of this person don’t understand their level of functioning. If they hypothetically need care for the rest of their lives, can’t live alone, or can’t take certain steps independently in life it would definitely be apparent to the people taking care of them. I’m sure everyone wants them to go to college but if they’ve received something like special education that wouldn’t change when they reach higher ed.
You forgot the part where she says “AND because of his cognitive abilities” then goes on to say what you quoted. His cognitive abilities being the thing that MAY prevent him from going to uni or finding a partner, not his ASD.
4:16 I don't have autism, but I am an anthropologist, and this was SUPER fascinating to me. It sort of reminds me when people encounter culture differences. But also I can't imagine how shook people who do have autism felt when they saw this. I can totally empathize.
Empathy is in a sense like autism, no one normally seems to understand it fully. Kinda
If I saw someone do either I would interpret that as rolling their eyes. Yes. Very interesting
Tip: If you're going out to a store, especially a clothing store, wear a shirt with a texture you really like so that you can cancel out the bad textures with the one you like. Also it just provides extra comfort when being in public which is always nice.
Thank you! :)
I love these vids. Recently, I just finished work and went outside to get food. I have a tendency to sing out loud or just make noises when I feel a certain way. I was waiting for a street light to change and randomly blurted out "yeah!" In a kid like voice. I'm 41. I forgot there was ppl outside. I was embarrassed for a few seconds since I've been masking since I was child. I laughed about it on the way back. The older I get, the more the mask is slowly coming off.
It’s a slow process buts it’s worth it in the end
I support you 🙌🏽 I want to believe that there is genuine camaraderie amongst all of us who are on the spectrum/neurodivergent. From years of trying to maintain peace amongst others by masking, it’s important to realize having peace within yourself should come first 🍬. Having unity within yourself is most important
The masking falling away with age has me looking at my behaviors in a different light. Basically reconsidering something I wrote off over 20 years ago shortly after being (accurately) dx'd with ADHD. I'm 52 now, and this are starting to make sense because of videos like this.
I just live this 😂. This is me these days I feel so care free the mask is falling
4:17
OMG I was literally bullied by a teacher about this and she made me cry. These people need to educate themselves, especially ones who work with kids.
I had a 6th grade teacher get angry because I never talked in class despite my excellent homework and class work. She told my mom I would never make it in high school. I never knew I was Autistic or had selective mutism.
I know I don’t know you Ayyyemossy, but I am here for you and I care about you. I instantly care about anyone who can relate to these videos. Please take this candy 🍬
@@taoist32 I also have ASD and selective mutism. I might not know you and all you’ve gone through but please accept this treat 🍬. I hope you’re doing okay today
@@shevchenko5456 Thanks for the candy. 😁
@@taoist32 You’re welcome lol
I really liked the ones that demonstrated good and bad representation because as someone without autism, I didn't know. Now I want to rewatch those movies with good presentation and pay more attention. thank you for that. it's very important for us as a community to show a good kind of representation because just not every representation is good.
Well, it is also just one person's opinion. I for example like Sheldon Cooper. And they never confirmed he's autistic btw.
Ew, the autism awareness day sibling tiktok is gross. It completely focused on how the neurotypical PARENTS and siblings, it shows how much they infantilized Joji, saying that he'll never have a romantic partner or children because of his cognitive abilities. That's horrible, people of all cognitive abilities can have fulfilling romantic and sexual life. And it ends with inspiration porn ('ive learned so much from having autism in MY life'/ 'His unconditional love will keep US grounded.')
Big Yikes.
Yeah, I do agree it is egocentric and I always feel uncomfortable when an autistic person is being filmed vs them filming themselves for content. However, this may be controversial but if he has an intellectual disability, it would be unfair for him to raise a child when his IQ is that of a child (this is unrelated to the autism). But there is no reason why he can't find love and marry and it feels sad that from day 1 they decided there were all these things he could never accomplish.
agreed
May I see a time stamp of the tiktok?
@@Taylors_version_from_the_vault 8:43
Also "therapies that have helped him gain language"
I'm almost thirty, and only in the last few months have i actually started thinking...maybe i do have autism? No one's ever suggested it and i feel incredibly anxious even thinking about trying to actually bring it up with a medical professional, but then I'm watching things like this and it's just a slew of oh i do that. Like all these ~quirks~ I've had all my life are suddenly something that other people actually relate to and I'm so. Confused? Hopeful but scared? Embarrassed immediately after typing this????
Regardless of my own personal diagnosis, whenever it may come, I'm so glad autism awareness is growing so much. I remember as a kid i was out with my dad and met an autistic kid who was mostly non verbal, and i just talked with them pretty normally and i remember afterwards my dad being like, impressed that i didn't struggle to communicate with that kid and i was like...yeah it was pretty normal? And i didn't say it but i remember thinking like. Talking to people is always hard? And nowadays i have friends who with children who are like, i think my son's autistic and I'm like. He seems "normal" to me??? And then I'm like....oh.
This just in, Post Malone is now permanently going to be a safety person in my mind because he showed kindness to someone and that triggered a response in my brain because 1) I've never had healthy interactions like that and subconsciously miss it to the point where i cant even move and 2) he's a tall man with tattoos who's nice and I have the literal crushing feeling of not being good enough for potential father figures(?) because mine left when I was little and didn't know where daddy went
ANYWAYS sorry that was alot
9:35 this makes me sad because I relate. My parents didn’t know I had autism until I was 16, and even then it wasn’t an official diagnosis until recently and I’m 21, I have tried and failed to go to college, I can’t have a full time job and therefore cannot fully support myself and live on my own right now. It’s difficult for everyone in the family and I worry I’ll never be able to live on my own. People really do need to fund things better for autistic people, we need it for quality of life
The giraffe topic guy is so relatable. The last one with the putty I felt hurt and targeted and I cried. Happy to see so much content by my community. I’m 57. Diagnosed at 56. Finally my world makes sense. Love and support each other and yourselves for who you are. ❤
I love it when people infodump to me it’s like such a genuine boost to my mood especially when I don’t know anything about the topic… before I realized I was autistic I recognized infodumping as my lil sibling’s love language so I love that I get a term to describe it now (and I feel a lot better about infodumping to the people who appreciate it lol)
ME!!! SO MUCH!!! infodumping n penguin pebbling [ giving things/videos/songs 2 some1 cause u thought of them !! :> i do literally what the name entails LOL i give ppl rocks ] r some of my biggest love languages cause i cant keep my mouth Shut and it makes me SO HAPPY HEARING OTHER PPL BEING HAPPY??!!?! i love adding ppls special interests to the conversation a LOT so that they can talk abt it a lot
The one about forcing themself to stim in order to learn how to unmask simultaneously made me feel seen and anxious. Being autistic is fucking weird sometimes 🙃
Also the screaming cake joke made me cackle 🧁
i thought that would be a normal joke that all people would find funny, how would that not be funny?
@@EmmaJohnsonShenanigans Why does anybody, autistic or not, find any joke unfunny? Because reasons.
@@Janaely I have a question, since you are autistic, is it really offensive to use Aspergers as a term? If so, I have a lot of apologies to my friends 😬 lol
@@trincey2664 That’s kind of a huge question, lol. There’s a big book about the history of autism called Neurotribes, which talks about it some. Asperger’s is a controversial term because one of the people who did early autism research on kids, Hans Asperger, was a Nazi. Among other things, he sent the “lower functioning” kids to camps/experimental facilities.
The DSM, Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, is a controversial thing all by itself for reasons, which I think are too varied to do justice in a youtube comment section. But basically, a lot of politics, bad science, egos, and other bs helped write it*. Providers use the DSM to diagnose people. Several years ago in a controversial move, the powers that be folded Asperger’s as a condition into Autism, so it’s no longer a diagnosis.
A lot of people still identify with Asperger’s cuz it’s what they were diagnosed with. So it’s up to the person, though it’s becoming less and less desirable in general for people to choose it.
* Obligatory disclaimer before somebody says it: not *all* the scientists and researchers upon whose work the diagnoses in that book are based were Nazis, otherwise bad people, and/or otherwise did completely bad science. But a lot of them were/did).
@@Janaely Ok! Ty for your help :)
I have never heard the term “safe food” before today
I now realize that chocolate is my safe food
For me it’s noodles with butter and salt+garlic powder or garlic salt
@@kaydenl3 hehe noodles
I like to call my dog Angel a noodle
She stretches like a noodle
My favorite food is actually chicken chow mein from this 1 restaurant by our house except I only eat the noodles it’s either chicken chow mein or shrimp chow mein and I like seafood even less than I like poultry also my dad has tried making me cow mein noodles at home but it always tastes wrong to me idk
I laughed so hard at the scream cake joke
About the giraffes one,
I remember in highschool I was OBSESSED with Greek Mythology and other myths and would often talk about it with my best friend while we were with our other friends, and they would talk about their own things.
Some times we would all have separate discussions and other times we listened to one discussion so we wouldn't seem rude (it was usually sports or school related, which we weren't really interested or knowledgeable in talking about).
But I remember one time my bestie and I were talking about mythology in our friend group (not really talking with the others but they were listening), and I was going on, and on, and on about it when one of the other girls said something like "Why are you always talking about that stuff, we don't even know what it is," and I said that I just like talking about stories and mythology, and she was just like,
"What the heck is mythology? We don't even care."
So I got angry (obviously) and said something or did something that I don't remember, and while I was trying to talk with the other girls (maybe about the stories, why I liked them, or something else. I think we might have been arguing about how it's rude that my bestie and I would just talk about stuff they don't understand in front of them and don't include them),
the girl started mocking me and what I said over and over until I snapped and told her to shut up.
This girl I told off had always been pretty sheltered by her parents and friends and she was still pretty childish and never got told off because she was "fragile" (Maybe that was a sign of autism, or maybe it was a sign of being too coddled despite us being young adults at that point) but she started crying and yelling at me, saying that I couldn't tell her to shut up, and I told her that she shouldn't have been mocking me and not letting me talk, and that she needed to grow up and stop behaving like a spoiled toddler (or something along those lines), and she started throwing a tantrum, saying she was going to tell on me to one of our other friends, I said "How fucking old are you, can you not speak for yourself, we're almost adults." And she ran off to tell our friend, so I left and spent the rest of the day crying in the bathrooms like a coward.
And while looking back, yeah, maybe we were both showing signs of being on the spectrum and maybe that gives her leeway. But while I don't know much about autism, I believe that we should still have enough common sense to not behave like assholes to one another, and to be able to speak for ourselves however possible (within reason) as independent adults.
Obviously we may need help sometimes, and confrontation may make us incredibly uncomfortable sometimes, but it's all part of being a functional adult.
I don't know, maybe I'm wrong and I'm just an asshole.
But I still remember how she completely degraded my interests just because she wasn't interested in them. Meanwhile she and the others would go on for hours about sports and I never said a peep, I never complained (even though I was bored out of my mind).
I still have trouble talking about my interests now, because no one ever seems to care, so I just stay silent while they all talk about their interests.
Sorry for the long comment, here's a cookie if you made it this far 🍪
I was diagnosed with adhd but considering my bloodline I’d say the docs may have missed the mark. I’ve started trying to stim more in public when I feel I need to instead of just bouncing my leg which tends to not help all that much anymore
I told my mom this stuff and she was like “you have to be socially considerate” ok ma when was the last time I cared if someone got personally offended by me happily rocking a little and tapping my fingers
Yeah my mom told me to be socially aware as well 🤷🏻♀️
we went to a loud restaurant the other day and i kinda felt like it was too much for me, at least from both ears, so i put in one noise canceling earbud playing my favorite music and it really helped me, and the best part was the fact that my mom was totally ok with it and she knew i needed it
but it does make sense that she would understand as i have 2 siblings with 80hd, 2 second cousins with autism and a cousin with down syndrome
also fun fact: my cousin with down syndrome had to wear an earbud just like me at a family gathering and my dad kept making fun of him and calling him “a faker” and saying things like “he needs to take out that earpiece and pay attention to his family” and my mom repeatedly did tell my dad that he needed it, and my dad didn’t listen even though my mom thoroughly explained it to him
The rate of ADHD co-occurring with ASD is significant.
I just thought of something while watching this! I was watching the news once and their was an event going on, a carnival or attraction park of some kind for kids (I don’t remember, I was kind of eavesdropping the tv). They were explaining how everything would work and such and then I distinctly remember them saying “All the workers there will be trained in autism sensitivity” and I kind of froze at that. I asked my mom, who was sitting next to me, “what does that mean?” And she explained that there were classes where specific workers were trained to handle autistic kids and their many sensitivities. I sat there thinking and finally I said, “why aren’t all workers trained like that? Shouldn’t that be required?” And my mom simply replied “yes but, unfortunately, it’s not.” I think about that sometimes and I just wonder how messed up it is that not every child can get their needs met because some people don’t want to train their workers to do it. Sorry for writing so much, I get side tracked and ramble!
(About the last tiktok)
I had this putty/slime that i got really attatched to and had to have with me at all times, and one time my brother took it from me and wouldn't give it back and I was having a whole mental breakdown over it. Eventally he gave me most of it, but he was giving it to me by just giving me small parts of it at a time, and for some reason if i did not get every single last piece of this slime i was going to cry. I might have cried actually.
I'm not autistic, but im in the process of getting tested for ADHD and i related to so many of these tiktoks lol.
Okay, the cartoon at 8:14 had me laughing aloud cuz that was literally my friends and I when we met in highschool freshman year, and glad to say that 15 years later, this is still us. And that was before we were diagnosed with add, adhd, or somewhere on the autistic spectrum. It's quite amazing how people on the spectrum just naturally gravitate towards each other.
My boyfriend is in the spectrum and I loved him deeply for years --- even before his mom told me about his diagnosis ☺️ we'd talk for hours on end. No dead air whatsoever! Our current record is 11 hours of non stop talking haha. I just love him He's my person 🥰
11 hours, wow: as an autistic person, I'm curious how much of that time revolved around discussions of his special interest(s) and what they were for such a conversation?
I am SO jealous of being able to talk for that long, my record is 2 hours of straight info dumping to my mom about computers and stuff, before she cut me off, which makes sense now but I was very frustrated that I got cut off lmfao
I love it when i can finally add into a conversation and then I get yelled at for talking too much but my best friend steps in and says “keep going I want to hear more” bro it makes me so happy I love him sm
My brother is on the spectrum and my mother is very supportive. He has a 504 and she made him their own app to help him communicate. It's been super awesome to see people spread awareness especially after everything that he's gone through, it's so cool to be able to see other people welcome people on the spectrum.
Thank you to all of the people who don't throw nasty words at him and would accept him. *Thank you.*
Whats the app called
5:47 My little brother is non-verbal, and its hilarious because in my house we just talk to him like how anyone talks to a four year old, so I ask him about his day at school, I ask him what he did, I ask him for a hug or like ask him what he wants when hes covering his ears or whatever, but when people first meet him, the treat him like hes a baby, like they coo at him and do that little folding your hand over wave to him, and we are just there like "Bro. He was born in 2017. not 2021."
He is delayed slightly in his mental development, so recently he started acting like a 2 year old which is hell I can't lie. His favourite thing to do is get his water bottle or his cup with milk and turn it upside down, and do it where no one is gonna find him so when you find him he is sitting there in a puddle, and you go "What did you do!?" to him and he bursts out in laughter. Its not funny. Its a huge pain.
0:57 is so relatable~ just the other day at work my colleagues were chatting about something for about 20mins, as soon as one of them mentioned she was going to Korea I suddenly became visible.
for the last one- flash back to when my teacher bullied me for using a figet spinner because it "wasn't a trend" anymore- (and yeah, he knew i had autism)
The masking at birth thing actually happened to me.
My parents and grandparents are Italian. Like, old fashioned Italian. So when they want a new family member, they expect the baby to come into the world with life and noise.
My autistic bare-naked ass, who also "over-cooked" for 2 weeks according to my mom, came out, and I just looked into the void.
Babies can't see shit, I know that, but based on my diagnosis, I apparently was like "what the fuck is this shit, why am I here? What is this?" right off the bat.
And because of that, I was quiet.
I was just looking around in the void, trying to figure out what the fuck just happened.
And the doctors knew I was ok, I just wasn't talking (contrary to medical dramas, it's not necessary that a child screams after being born, it only matters that they respond to the actual tests that are designed for checking them. Another fun fact: cutting the umbilical cord is not your first priority. If you have birth away from the hospital, you don't have to cut it unless you think you're going to be unable to get to the hospital within a day [the reason it needs to be cut off is due to the dying tissue, but the tissue doesn't turn toxic instantly, and if you cut it incorrectly, the baby could bleed out or get infected.] Leave it on if you can.)
But my grandparents, disappointed at my performance, decided to start SCREAMING at me to cry since I hadn't done it yet.
It took 5 minutes, but 5 minutes after I was born, I masked for the first time by shrieking like a good newborn should, apparently.
Holy moly
3:53 I am sooo tippy tappy but inverse dinosaur arms unlocked the memory I gasped
i didnt realize people were so divided on sheldon cooper. i dont know i always thought he was really cool and it was nice to see someone on popular tv that i related to. theres an episode where penny and leonard are teasing sheldon bc he didn’t understand that his relationship with amy would be considered dating and it makes me really happy to see stuff like that cause i dont feel as alone.
He's also portrayed as borderline sociopathic and his apparent autism symptoms are laughed at.
Same, I personally feel like there's less so 'bad' autism representation and more so a lack of diversity in the given representation.
I always related to Sheldon but he's commonly classed as 'bad' representation because he's a stereotype but I think that's the only actual issue, that there's a lack of diversity.
14:47 Her hair is literally soo cool! I want her hair but red instead of blue. She also has really nice eyeliner
1:50 Talkin about giraffes :D "do you ever stop talking?" D:
0:58 This entire one minute segment is just the TL;DR of my entire school life, I feel so called out
7:14 “do you call yourself post pone Malone when you procrastinate”
4:53 It's the autism?! I've done that several times a day every day for my entire life and always just thought it was a "random shiver" but like really fuckn intense and it's only occurred to me recently that I've never seen anybody else do that ever
ME TOO. I’m so confused by this, I never saw anyone do it unless it’s cold or something. I just thought it was just a weird thing I did
Cetaceans are classed as even-toed ungulates
BUT THEY DONT HAVE HOOVES
THEY DONT EVEN HAVE LEGS
...
YOURE WELCOME
DINOS MOST LIKELY SOUNDED LIKE GEESE! YOURE WELCOME
I thought they had vestigial legs from when they went on land, went “you know what, never mind” and went back.
I remember when I had started to enter my unmawking period, one of the first people that I informed I was autistic had said "That explains a lot actually."
Legit never felt more validated in my life tho fr.
Anyone else LOVE the transition at 12:12 ? Being autistic myself, I wonder if smooth transitions in music could possibly be a symptom, because I freaking love them. I scour the internet for them and have found shockingly few really good ones like this. I haven’t seen any of the shows in the bad vs good representations in this video, so I can’t say who I relate too, but I’ll take y’all’s word for it.
I like it aswel, it's those types of transitions that I can watch for hours on end
Yes, sometimes we just want to be told we are good people/we are doing things the good way
[insert "either people with autism/adhd need to stop being so relatable or i need to see a doctor" meme]
My BFF is autistic and this helps me understand her so much, also it helps me understand myself a lot too. I’m not autistic I just relate to a bunch of these things. So thanks for spreading awareness and stuff 😁
hey, here’s random thing I’d like to share with a safe space! for “background” info: I was assigned female at birth and don’t have an official diagnosis but a lot of symptoms.
so recently I watched the show Heartstopper and just as I finished watching it for the second time, I realized how my body language suddenly resembled the body language of a character - unintentionally I had mimicked a lot of facial expressions and sitting posture. it was very scary, especially when I realized how “accurate” I copied the character. it’s definitely not the first time I adapted body language, character traits or similar things (I basically copy other people’s behavior all the time and even tend to text a lot like they do to match their “vibe”, it happens unconsciously and even if I realize what’s going on I can’t really stop it) but usually it takes awhile before it happens so strongly.
so yeah, that was kind of a scary experience I wanted to share with you. I hope you have a good day, remember to sleep enough, hydrate and eat! :)
I have a friend who has autism she is so sweet and kind and I dont understand why people make fun of her she has such an gentle soul and I’m glad I became friends with her♥️
Seeing the one that had Billy from the new Power Rangers movie down as good representation made me so excited. The new Power Rangers movie is one of my hyper fixations and Billy is one of the reasons for that. Finally seeing positive representation for Autistic people like myself made me cry in the theater.
As far as i know i'm not neurodivergent, but i do have a lot of traits of neurodivergence, and one of those is fidgeting/stimming. The last one is exactly what it was like in elementary and middle school for me. I'm super glad that now that i'm in high school, my teachers are a lot more understanding. and my peers are also a lot nicer about it, and so even though i sometimes do "weird" things like standing when i'm in class when i can't sit still in a chair, rocking, playing with stim toys, flapping my hands when i'm excited, etc., i have only been made fun of a few times (or it's behind my back which i don't really care about) and my friends are super nice about it.
0:22 this is how to actually make good jokes about autism and disabilities 10/10
4:29, being re-reminded of this always brings back an unpleasant memory of the first time (that I remember) being accused of "rolling my eyes" when I looked up at the ceiling in a store when my parent was speaking with someone and my parent thought I was being rude and rolling my eyes. Didn't even know the term and of course took it literally and tried to explain that my eyes did not roll but only looked up at the ceiling, which is still something I do today.
3:59 i laughed so hard at this what do you even mean this is the funniest thing i’ve seen all night /srs
Giraffe one almost made me cry because that’s literally me trying to contribute to any conversation. I do not understand small talk.
Glad I found this video! I hid my stims by smoking cigarettes and the cigarettes dulled my sense of smell that was over stimulating me. I still quit 8 years ago but I still miss it. Won't ever be going back.
I’m also very glad I’ve found these videos. I’ve been watching a lot of autism Tik Toks these past few weeks. I hope you are doing okay now. Please accept these treats 🍬🍬
@@shevchenko5456 😍 I accept!
@@KSangel180 :^))
1:04 I love how I tune into the scientific information and just soak it up, not because I'm interested in the particular subject, but because I just like science.
Me and my best friend were diagnosed at the same hospital, just at different times.
I was diagnosed when I was two and he was when they were 12.
One of the questions had a cat with a fish in it’s mouth and we were asked: “how do you think the fish feels?” Expecting us to say an emotion, we both said “nothing it’s d3ad.” 😭✋/gen
I'm so happy (?) To know that I'm not the only one who just had the realization I might be Autistic, at the age of 20. My whole life I was masking, though I knew that I had mental health issues and I must fight it but I didn't know that it was a fight against Stigma. These last two years I went thru terrible Mental breakdowns which made my depression worst. Hopefully People would understand after a proper diagnosis, but I doubt they would.
Atleast I have y'all as a Community. Thanks so much.
I love your vids so much! There so relatable cause I have autism and might have adhd so they make me very happy! I was like OMG he posted lol
I'm glad you enjoy them!
@@autistically.autistic 💖💖💖💖
me: haha no i'm not autistic
The moth i adopted and named henry: u sure?
1:17 was so me, i've been diagnosed with ADHD-I, but i can still relate to a lot of these haha
4:16 Excuse me what... That explains so, so many interactions I've had where people say I'm frustrated or something or angry or something cuz "I rolled my eyes". No fam, I'm literally just trying to not implode infinitely like a B-type main sequence star lmao
0:47: That’s an Unus Annus Hoodie!
I hate that I am TWENTY FIVE YEARS OLD and just figured out why I was accused of rolling my eyes when I just looked away for a second because I couldnt handle the forced eye contact.
Why do they call it ROLLING your eyes if you aint rollin them????
I LOVE those biology/evolution facts. I woild be so happy if i met that creator in person.
0:58
I do this constantly, but a lot of the time I just end up getting ignored when I speak. I don’t blame anyone, I’m pretty quiet and there’s usually a lot of people there. Everyone will be part of their own conversation and I just want to be included, so when I hear something that I can talk about I try to join in, but I don’t know how to make my presence known because I’m worried people will just be annoyed with me because I’m cutting them off, but if I don’t cut them off than I’ll never get the chance to speak.
I’ve had a couple times where this happened so many times in a few days that I decided nobody wanted to talk to me and only spoke when spoken to for the rest of the week. Nobody even noticed, which then sent me into a worse spiral where I wondered if anyone even cared about me and I sunk even further into myself.
Wow this comment was longer than expected, and I really just dumped a lot of my mental health problems. Sorry ‘bout that😅I’ve just realized this about myself btw.
1:55 that hurt. I felt that.
Pov: a soft food crunched and now you can feel every single one of your teeth trying to suck into your skull
Why is this making me cry
It’s not even sad
But I feel like I have never related to something more
5:19, I've seen that called "cricket legs/feet" and love the term. I do it most when _trying_ (and often not succeeding) to sleep but also at other random times.
I don't like that an allistic person is talking about the cons of autism.
would you rather an autistic person talk about the cons of autism? like... what exactly is the issue? the fact that its specifically (presumably) someone without autism talking about it, or that the negatives are being talked about in general? because in both cases, if its factual information, it shouldnt be an issue.
Ah, that's right
Yeah neither do I
"a touch of the tism" sounds like a recipe
I knew about giraffe vertebrae thing. I had my husband stop an episode of One Piece to tell him about it. We're watching all of OP together (he's rewatching) and we got to ennies lobby where the "I love giraffes" guy comes up.
Kaku in CP9?
1:11 I don't think I have autism but I relate with the shared/analogous symptoms it have with adhd and will always remember me being at a new job (first job) not talking much during lunch break 'cause I don't have much of anything intresting to say, untill the conversation lead to one of my co-worker asking "Are polar bears more dangerous then other bears ?" wich lead to me absolutly dumping all I know about polar bears' dangerosity and behavior-
6:30 SO IT'S NOT JUST ME XD THE AMOUNT OF RANDOM RUMORS AND PLAYGROUND DRAMA I HEARD AS A KID LOL
I felt this. I don’t want to say I’m bad with secrets because I don’t retell them but I would much rather be blissfully ignorant
@@ladyj.9350 Yeah it is kinda weird just knowing all of these life changing secrets about people I have never talked to.
I AVOIDED ALL OF IT BC I WAS JUST ROLEPLAYING WARRIOR CATS/SURVIVOR DOGS/WINGS OF FIRE WITH A FEW FRIENDS IN THE CORNER OF THE PLAYGROUND AND I’M GLAD TBH
13:18 Thank yoou! :D I've heard of love bombing awhile agow and i got worried i was doing that since i really love to compliment poeaple and give them gifts. And i have difficulty telling what's sarcasm or not so sometimes i sound sarcastic about things. Like if someone tells me something that sounds typically "uninteresting" to others and i'm interested in it i'll say how cool i think it is but i sound too existed over it. Like it sounds like im baby talking them when i say "OMG that is so cool tell me more! :D" but i meen it.
I was today years old [almost 40] when I learned that dino/trex/velociraptor arms are a thing other autistic persons do. :O Love to all my fellow dinos.
It's a little funny that a year or two ago I started thinking I might be autistic, but I didn't want to tell anyone or think about it too much, because what if I was wrong and I make a fool out of myself. But then first my sister told me that I showed signs of autism and even my mom. I really wish I could go an try to get diagnosed, but from what I've heard, the wait is long and to be diagnosed as autistic you need to have some specific traits, especially since I'm already an adult. And despite seeing so much stuff I relate to, so much stuff that I do as well in TikTok compilations like this, I'm still scared that I've been faking it or I'm just stupid and now I've wasted so many people's time,,, haha,,,
I am intrigued by the giraffe facts!! Can we get some more, please!!
5:17 lol. I would need sunglasses, headphones, a KN95 face mask, an oversized jacket, and keens (the shoe brand) and by that point there is already so many things "on me" that its to heavy and VERY uncomfortable. 🤦♀
Okay I get angry when someone enters the kitchen but it's usually because they either stand directly in the way of something time-sensitive for way too long as I'm showing that I need to get there or they start screaming matches over literally nothing and I don't have the option to remove myself
4:16 my parents once slapped me once because I did that and it was considered eye rolling. I still remember it very clearly because I was really young and not THAT good at masking (yet)
1:38 I feel this to my core!
14:16 This might just have been THE MOST relatable thing I’ve ever watched omg
3:13 is that not normal hold up-
My mind is blown i thought everyone did that-
I do all those all the time but I'm not autistic-
I relate to two of them, and I’m allistic. However, I do have ADHD. Finding certain behaviors or traits relatable doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re autistic. But it can sometimes help people start researching more and learn more about it themselves. I can’t really tell whether a certain behavior is normal or not-ppl are pretty diverse-but those did seem pretty normal, or typical, to me at least. I can see where they can relate to autism though. I can also see how they can tie into and manifest from other things. (Long reply, I know. I just really like talking about these things.)
@@delilah4668 I’m not using it as a self diagnose I generally thought it was normal
@@dramageek278 I’m not accusing you of using it as a self diagnosis, though I can see how it could come across that way. I think I must’ve just gone off on a tangent. But yeah, I thought those behaviors were pretty common too xD
Yeah, I could’ve definitely clarified what I was trying to say more
That last one hit me hard 😖 I used to bring putty to school all the time since it was literally one of my favorite things(at the time I didn’t know I was autistic) and then people would ask to play with it and I didn’t really want them to but I was a people pleaser so I let them play with it. And then if I got it back it would be all dirty and it would smell like their hands and I hated it, and a lot of the time I wouldn’t get it back because the teacher would take it away because it was disrupting the class and then when I would go to pick it up at the end of class they would tell me I shouldn’t bring it to school and if they saw it they would take it away. I didn’t bring it to school again after a few situations of that happening
I am relating to too many of these but I've never really been told that I act differently and now I'm kinda freaking out.🤣
The eye rolling thing I didn’t understand until I was 20. I thought it meant literally rolling your eyes in a complete circle. I didn’t know that looking up or off to the side was considered rolling ur eyes lmaoo
BABY GIRAFFES RELY ON THE IMPACT OF THE GROUND TO START THEIR HEART!!!
THATS SO COOL
3:24 oh my god i do this too and it's really annoying for me cause i can't do anything until the syllables have reached an even number so one of my fingers isn't in midair
4:05 that's fucking hilarious
As Someone With Autism I Say This Makes Me Feel So Loved And Appreciated. Thank You.❤
3:49 tippy-tap fingers for me. How about you?
I feel like scripting conversations and making dialogue trees helps a lot with my anxiety talking to strangers. that and not making eye contact. Or having to touch people I don't know. That 6 ft social distancing was a god send to me.