Gotta say the locals are beautiful people. When I visited earlier this year no one treated me different or as an outsider. Everyone was nice and welcoming.
When your wife got emotional, it had me a little bit worried if she is truly happy living in Hawaiʻi and being married.She even admitted that your marriage is not perfect which I hope is not code speak for being ... miserable?
In 1956 Hawaii was still a territory. A young girl got a foreign student scholarship to come to Oklahoma Baptist University. I met her because a high school friend of mine was her roommate. I started dating her and went with her for 3 years. In 1959 we married . That was 63 years ago.
@@HelloFromHawaiiit's basically a California island and nothing like NY. Just like Cuba is to Florida or South Florida that's my opinion of Hawaii and California. It was really cool at night when I visited last year
@@TimothyZakaria we lived about 75 yards from the ocean and I/4 mile from mouth of Waimea River. .the Waimea canyon opened up at our back door. Cool air from mountains gave us cool air so we didn’t need air conditioning .
One thing for someone to be prepared for, especially if they'll be living in Hawaii, is that the person from outside of Hawaii will need to know that they can at least get along with the spouse's family, if not genuinely like them. You kind of touched on this, but it merits emphasizing. After all, the mainlander will not get to visit or do things with his/her extended family nearly as often as they might like. Learning to live with your spouse is challenging enough, but learning to accept and live with the entire family of in-laws with all the different personalities is on a whole different level. The difficulties could be geometrically compounded if you don't get along with them. There's already enough challenges with the perceptions and beliefs that the locals may have about mainlanders/outsiders, since not everyone can afford to travel to the mainland (besides Vegas). You folks are wise to recognize that you need to nurture your relationship with each other all your lives. At some point the boys will grow up and start their own families, and you don't want to have to figure out how to be husband and wife again because you invested all your energy into being parents. Being parents with total responsibility for the kids is the temporary condition. Hopefully, being husband and wife is permanent. You don't want to wake up one day wondering why you're still with the other person, or what you have in common besides the kids.
Great point about getting along with family. It's huge. Because Hawaii is so isolated, closeness of family, including in-law relations, can make or break an experience. And we do try to get our alone time away from the boys. It's tough, but happy that my family can watch the kids so we can get away.
I’m from Hawaii, born & raised and part Hawaiian, I found it difficult to date foreigners the Hawaiian culture is very much about showing respect towards each other & respect especially for Kapuna/elderly & the local sense of humor & family is important & dating foreigners just didn’t fit well in that dynamic. Went back to dating locals
I agree about all of the things you mentioned that are associated with the local culture. It's an adjustment to marrying someone who isn't from Hawaii, but I'm glad my wife has made that adjustment.
I understand this as dating someone from Hawaii. I being from the mainland and Latina with different backgrounds. I have changed and look at things differently after dating for 10 months now. I have been taking my time learning and understanding the culture because of how different it is from mine. Usually Mexican families are close as well but being raised away from relatives I didn't go up that way. This is something very different to me.
Mahalo for such a honest and heartfelt conversation! As a half-Japanese who recently moved from the mainland, I can appreciate this on a number of levels. That was Kualoa park if I’m not mistaken.
Kualoa park! In our family it’s known as “flying dodo paper park” or “FDPP” for short. When our kids were little we got stuck in bad traffic on the Kam on our way from town to Laie to see friends. My son had an urgent need so we pulled into the park and went to the restroom building. It was a very windy December day and the toilet paper was literally flying out the wall gaps! The kids (now adults) still talk about it to this day!
In 2000 we returned to Kauai to take care of her elderly parents. Her parents both lived to 101. We moved back to mainland and now live in Brunswick, Ga.
Born and raised in Hawaii...spent many years away from home...I love Brunswick!...actually thought about moving there at one time...But of course the Islands kept tugging at my heart...No regrets!
@@HelloFromHawaii I was in a tire store this past month. When the Japanese lady waiting on me saw my 808 phone number she said some other person with the 808 number had been in the tire store the same week!
I love when you shoot your vids in places like Kualoa Park. I really did love it on the windward side, rain and all. You had a nice day for Dec. Both of your reflections on married life in Hawaii were interesting. And fitting in with a new local culture could be a challenge anyway, and especially as a new bride. Congratulations to you both on your first five years. I hope you’re happy for many more.🤙🏻
What a cool perspective. My aunt and uncle have lived in Hawaii since before I was born, but they were not born there. (i'm old). I am thinking of spending more time there, maybe even settling down there. I'm half Chinese and half white (midwest) and it feels like home to me on the Big Island. I feel local, even though I speak like a mainlander--my looks give me away! Applying for jobs there because it feels like home to a hapa.
I grew up here and the family dynamic is a big one. You aren't just marrying the person you really are marrying into a family. So, with my ex-husband his family lives far away and he didn't get like the holiday dinners and get togethers, or just doing things together and it didn't work out because he didn't get along with my family. My boyfriend now i told him while i don't expect to love my family like i do (they don't have to be best friends) I do expect that we will be doing holidays, get togethers, birthday's and just spending time together in general and that is something he had to get used to. To be with me you have to accept and love my family. It's not like my family is far away. I love wife's sentiment at the end we aren't just mom and dad but also husband and wife. Kids grow up and may move away but your partner u have to keep pouring into that. Great advice 💗
Aloha Chris! First off.. being on time seems like a rare old school trait and it's very respectable. And I appreciate hearing your wife speak and her adjusting towards life here.🤙👍 P.S Maui Jim's are the best glasses. Just my opinion😄
Many years ago I dated a women who had moved with her family to the mainland her early '20s. At 29 she was still living with her parents so I encouraged her to get her own apartment. This upset her parents a lot and I became the "bad boy" in their eyes! Island culture is quite different in surprising ways.
It’s great that your wife lived in NY and got somewhat westernized. She’s more open minded than most direct to Hawaii Japanese nationals who are typically reserved and carry some prejudice towards Koreans, Chinese and Filipinos. She blends in well in Hawaii too and can automatically be expedited to local status…
- Due in large part to the cost of living here, as opposed to the mainland, many of the people I dated here when I was single, they were still living at home. And therefore, they didn't have the life experience burdens that came with living on one's own self. So not having that common-core-of-experience does affect the ability to relate to one another. As people who moved away from Hawaii and then returned to live, there life may have expanded beyond just living with one's parents. - In dating someone from the mainland, there is a distinct possibility that the partner's parents does not live within a 20 minute drive of where you live (to a great degree, it's that way here). So seeing a partner's parents may be few a far between. After all, they may be living in a totally different state, or at least part of the state.
Good point. Most young adults are still living at home with their parents. Nothing wrong with that, as I did that when I first moved back to Hawaii. But it's tough when they've never had to live on their own. At least the mainland taught me how to take care of myself...mostly 😄
As a mainlander I’ve always found the local ladies beautiful. I’ve been caught staring with my mouth wide open a few times just kinda like a deer caught in headlights but instead of getting the “what a creep” look they just smile and continue on with whatever they might be doing.
to be REAL honest.....I once met someone a very LONG time ago and I am local, she (on the other hand, was born and raised mainland....we would call them katonks)......she and I "thought" we loved the same things that we mentioned online.. When we finally met, TOTALLY different!!! I could tell she was a mainland born asian and not EVEN CLOSE to having the same things we mentioned to each other.........after that, I made a rule, not to go online to seek a partner, seek love, etc. In my honest opinion, women nowadays, dont care much for their "own". and with that said.......congrats on your both and as for me, I will leave it up to my parents up there...........and the Lord.
Mahalo for sharing. I also experienced how different some of the Asians on the mainland are. Can't blame them for that. Just life experiences are different. I'm sure they wonder why we local Asians act so...da kine 😆
@Chris, I will say my Auntie and Uncle have been married for 52 years. My Uncle from North Carolina and Auntie from Makaha. I get treated as if I’m local however I haven’t dated any local guys 😂.
❤❤❤Gardena California Seicho no ie. Do you know of Seicho no ie? I found out they have a center in Hawaii…. Well, some day, I will visit. Frank Martinez
My mother was born in 1935 in Hilo. She met a salor when she went to Honolulu to work. (1953) no work it Hilo. They married in 1954. My family was born in 1955, 1959 and 1965. Not applicable for this but it has buried my roots to the big island. 😊
I think it's much closer in Hawaii than Japan. Part of that is the geographic differences with space in Japan versus Hawaii. But from what I've observed, Hawaii families are much closer and the bond is stronger.
In Japan, South Korea, and now even China, more people are becoming hikikomoris, (online hermits), not dating, not marrying, not having kids. Living and passing away alone, unnoticed. Come to think of it, the same phenomenon is happening in North America and Europe, and elsewhere.
The brand is Aloha Revolution. There's a great explanation on their website. I really enjoy wearing this brand because the meaning of the design resonates with me.
Mahalo and big thank you to my wife for helping me with this video. I really couldn't do it without her.
Gotta say the locals are beautiful people. When I visited earlier this year no one treated me different or as an outsider. Everyone was nice and welcoming.
God Bless your marriage and family .
When your wife got emotional, it had me a little bit worried if she is truly happy living in Hawaiʻi and being married.She even admitted that your marriage is not perfect which I hope is not code speak for being ... miserable?
In 1956 Hawaii was still a territory. A young girl got a foreign student scholarship to come to Oklahoma Baptist University. I met her because a high school friend of mine was her roommate. I started dating her and went with her for 3 years. In 1959 we married . That was 63 years ago.
Great story. Congratulations on 63 years.
Thx for sharing your beautiful life with us! Happy New Year 🎊
@@HelloFromHawaiiit's basically a California island and nothing like NY. Just like Cuba is to Florida or South Florida that's my opinion of Hawaii and California. It was really cool at night when I visited last year
@@TimothyZakaria we lived about 75 yards from the ocean and I/4 mile from mouth of Waimea River. .the Waimea canyon opened up at our back door. Cool air from mountains gave us cool air so we didn’t need air conditioning .
My girlfriend spoke broken English and me being an Okie could not understand her.. had to date two girls one my future wife and her interpreter
I've dated local boys from Hawaii living here in California. I love the local Hawaii Culture. Being Filipina I feel like I fit right in 🤗
That's great. I'm sure you must have seen certain similarities among the local boys.
One thing for someone to be prepared for, especially if they'll be living in Hawaii, is that the person from outside of Hawaii will need to know that they can at least get along with the spouse's family, if not genuinely like them. You kind of touched on this, but it merits emphasizing. After all, the mainlander will not get to visit or do things with his/her extended family nearly as often as they might like. Learning to live with your spouse is challenging enough, but learning to accept and live with the entire family of in-laws with all the different personalities is on a whole different level. The difficulties could be geometrically compounded if you don't get along with them. There's already enough challenges with the perceptions and beliefs that the locals may have about mainlanders/outsiders, since not everyone can afford to travel to the mainland (besides Vegas).
You folks are wise to recognize that you need to nurture your relationship with each other all your lives. At some point the boys will grow up and start their own families, and you don't want to have to figure out how to be husband and wife again because you invested all your energy into being parents. Being parents with total responsibility for the kids is the temporary condition. Hopefully, being husband and wife is permanent. You don't want to wake up one day wondering why you're still with the other person, or what you have in common besides the kids.
Great point about getting along with family. It's huge. Because Hawaii is so isolated, closeness of family, including in-law relations, can make or break an experience.
And we do try to get our alone time away from the boys. It's tough, but happy that my family can watch the kids so we can get away.
I never got that support but I do have a strong sense of family & still love my Dad’s family ❤
I’m from Hawaii, born & raised and part Hawaiian, I found it difficult to date foreigners the Hawaiian culture is very much about showing respect towards each other & respect especially for Kapuna/elderly & the local sense of humor & family is important & dating foreigners just didn’t fit well in that dynamic. Went back to dating locals
I agree about all of the things you mentioned that are associated with the local culture. It's an adjustment to marrying someone who isn't from Hawaii, but I'm glad my wife has made that adjustment.
I understand this as dating someone from Hawaii. I being from the mainland and Latina with different backgrounds. I have changed and look at things differently after dating for 10 months now. I have been taking my time learning and understanding the culture because of how different it is from mine. Usually Mexican families are close as well but being raised away from relatives I didn't go up that way. This is something very different to me.
I also thought about making a video about dating in Hawaii. Different dynamics.
Mahalo for such a honest and heartfelt conversation! As a half-Japanese who recently moved from the mainland, I can appreciate this on a number of levels. That was Kualoa park if I’m not mistaken.
Mahalo for the comment. Yes, Kualoa Beach Park.
Kualoa park! In our family it’s known as “flying dodo paper park” or “FDPP” for short. When our kids were little we got stuck in bad traffic on the Kam on our way from town to Laie to see friends. My son had an urgent need so we pulled into the park and went to the restroom building. It was a very windy December day and the toilet paper was literally flying out the wall gaps! The kids (now adults) still talk about it to this day!
In 2000 we returned to Kauai to take care of her elderly parents. Her parents both lived to 101. We moved back to mainland and now live in Brunswick, Ga.
Born and raised in Hawaii...spent many years away from home...I love Brunswick!...actually thought about moving there at one time...But of course the Islands kept tugging at my heart...No regrets!
101. Wow!
@@HelloFromHawaii I was in a tire store this past month. When the Japanese lady waiting on me saw my 808 phone number she said some other person with the 808 number had been in the tire store the same week!
@@HelloFromHawaii the Japanese lady had been married to a military man stationed in Kauai.
I love when you shoot your vids in places like Kualoa Park. I really did love it on the windward side, rain and all. You had a nice day for Dec. Both of your reflections on married life in Hawaii were interesting. And fitting in with a new local culture could be a challenge anyway, and especially as a new bride. Congratulations to you both on your first five years. I hope you’re happy for many more.🤙🏻
Mahalo for the encouraging words. I love filming on the windward side. So green.
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Congratulations on your anniversary 🎉🤙🏼 really enjoyed you folks sharing your stories and mahalo for sharing with us🌈🍍🌺🤙🏼🤙🏼🤙🏼🙏🏼
Mahalo for watching 🤙
What a cool perspective. My aunt and uncle have lived in Hawaii since before I was born, but they were not born there. (i'm old). I am thinking of spending more time there, maybe even settling down there. I'm half Chinese and half white (midwest) and it feels like home to me on the Big Island. I feel local, even though I speak like a mainlander--my looks give me away! Applying for jobs there because it feels like home to a hapa.
I grew up here and the family dynamic is a big one. You aren't just marrying the person you really are marrying into a family. So, with my ex-husband his family lives far away and he didn't get like the holiday dinners and get togethers, or just doing things together and it didn't work out because he didn't get along with my family. My boyfriend now i told him while i don't expect to love my family like i do (they don't have to be best friends) I do expect that we will be doing holidays, get togethers, birthday's and just spending time together in general and that is something he had to get used to. To be with me you have to accept and love my family. It's not like my family is far away. I love wife's sentiment at the end we aren't just mom and dad but also husband and wife. Kids grow up and may move away but your partner u have to keep pouring into that. Great advice 💗
Aloha Chris! First off.. being on time seems like a rare old school trait and it's very respectable. And I appreciate hearing your wife speak and her adjusting towards life here.🤙👍 P.S Maui Jim's are the best glasses. Just my opinion😄
I'm glad she was able to share from her perspective.
And I love Maui Jim's. It's hard to go back to other sunglasses 😄
Congratulations on five years! Great insight and dialogue through your journey together.
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Great video! Making time to just be husband and wife is a must to keep the relationship strong!
Yeah, so important. We try our best to make time for just us. Hard with two boys, but so important.
love your vids and thanks for sharing these stories!
Thanks for watching 🤙
Many years ago I dated a women who had moved with her family to the mainland her early '20s. At 29 she was still living with her parents so I encouraged her to get her own apartment. This upset her parents a lot and I became the "bad boy" in their eyes! Island culture is quite different in surprising ways.
Happy Anniversary. Love to hear your wife’s perspective.
Really nice. Happy Anniversary!
I love these points of view. Great perspective.
Mahalo for watching 🤙
It’s great that your wife lived in NY and got somewhat westernized. She’s more open minded than most direct to Hawaii Japanese nationals who are typically reserved and carry some prejudice towards Koreans, Chinese and Filipinos. She blends in well in Hawaii too and can automatically be expedited to local status…
It's one of the things that made it easier to communicate with her and get along.
- Due in large part to the cost of living here, as opposed to the mainland, many of the people I dated here when I was single, they were still living at home. And therefore, they didn't have the life experience burdens that came with living on one's own self. So not having that common-core-of-experience does affect the ability to relate to one another. As people who moved away from Hawaii and then returned to live, there life may have expanded beyond just living with one's parents.
- In dating someone from the mainland, there is a distinct possibility that the partner's parents does not live within a 20 minute drive of where you live (to a great degree, it's that way here). So seeing a partner's parents may be few a far between. After all, they may be living in a totally different state, or at least part of the state.
Good point. Most young adults are still living at home with their parents. Nothing wrong with that, as I did that when I first moved back to Hawaii. But it's tough when they've never had to live on their own. At least the mainland taught me how to take care of myself...mostly 😄
So appreciate you're Mana'o...Mahalo's!
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It was interesting hearing your wife’s perspective. She could pass as a real local especially w/ that Fighting Eel dress 😅
She loves Fighting Eel 😆
Beautiful reflections on marriage! Mahalo ❤
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Awww Happy Anniversary you guys!! Such cute couple! God Bless! 👍🏼🤙🏼🥰
Mahalo 🤙
Thank You bratha. I have learned so much about Hawai’i through your cool channel . 🤙aloha .
Mahalo. I'm glad the videos are helpful.
Happy Anniversary!
Chris, congratulations on the celebration of your Anniversary.
Just curious, how did you and your lovely wife meet, she not being a Hawai'i local?
That's probably a story for another video. 😄
@@HelloFromHawaii I would like to know of it. Who doesn't love a good romance story?
@@SuiGenerisAbbie What are we all doing, right now? That's right: glued to our devices.
As a mainlander I’ve always found the local ladies beautiful. I’ve been caught staring with my mouth wide open a few times just kinda like a deer caught in headlights but instead of getting the “what a creep” look they just smile and continue on with whatever they might be doing.
🤙 Very friendly ladies
You guys are too cute! 💕And the scenery is breathtaking! 🌴Mahalo from Greece xx
Mahalo 🤙 It's Kualoa Beach Park
Sooo enjoy your post brah!
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bra this park always busy? hahaha perfect day for you guys. seasons greetings
Very good video!!
Glad you liked it!
to be REAL honest.....I once met someone a very LONG time ago and I am local, she (on the other hand, was born and raised mainland....we would call them katonks)......she and I "thought" we loved the same things that we mentioned online.. When we finally met, TOTALLY different!!! I could tell she was a mainland born asian and not EVEN CLOSE to having the same things we mentioned to each other.........after that, I made a rule, not to go online to seek a partner, seek love, etc. In my honest opinion, women nowadays, dont care much for their "own". and with that said.......congrats on your both and as for me, I will leave it up to my parents up there...........and the Lord.
Mahalo for sharing. I also experienced how different some of the Asians on the mainland are. Can't blame them for that. Just life experiences are different. I'm sure they wonder why we local Asians act so...da kine 😆
Good job, guys. #Grateful
@Chris, I will say my Auntie and Uncle have been married for 52 years. My Uncle from North Carolina and Auntie from Makaha. I get treated as if I’m local however I haven’t dated any local guys 😂.
Wow, North Carolina and Makaha. That sounds like an interesting story.
I'll marry my Hawaiian guy in February (on Big Island). Thanks for the video 😅 It's even more exotic because I'm from Europe
Congratulations 🤙
Congratulations 5 years🎉
Mahalo 🤙
Nice video, if you don't mind sharing? Which park were you walking through? Looks very nice!
It's Kualoa Beach Park. Beautiful park.
❤❤❤Gardena California Seicho no ie. Do you know of Seicho no ie? I found out they have a center in Hawaii…. Well, some day, I will visit. Frank Martinez
My mother was born in 1935 in Hilo. She met a salor when she went to Honolulu to work. (1953) no work it Hilo. They married in 1954. My family was born in 1955, 1959 and 1965. Not applicable for this but it has buried my roots to the big island. 😊
Mahalo for sharing. Those were some glory days in Hawaii. Days before statehood. 😁
I was wondering if your wife was born in Japan how come her English is flawless. She must have spent alot of time in the US
In the US and Hong Kong.
Just curious how do both compare extended family experiences, similarities, differences between Japan & Hawaii, friendships ,coworkers etc
I think it's much closer in Hawaii than Japan. Part of that is the geographic differences with space in Japan versus Hawaii. But from what I've observed, Hawaii families are much closer and the bond is stronger.
In Japan, South Korea, and now even China, more people are becoming hikikomoris, (online hermits), not dating, not marrying, not having kids. Living and passing away alone, unnoticed. Come to think of it, the same phenomenon is happening in North America and Europe, and elsewhere.
eh Chris do your Maui Jims have the Hawai'i flag on the side? (only available in Hawai'I!!)
Mine don't have that. Saw some in the store, though.
kualoa park. I remember clearing the brush to make it possible.
🤙 One of our favorite places.
How did a guy from Hawaii and went to school in Colorado meet a girl who is from Japan and lived in NY and HK?
Story for another video 🤙
I never understood the upside-down ALOHA logo I seen on caps. Could you explain?
HE>me.... Got that explained to me some years ago.
The brand is Aloha Revolution. There's a great explanation on their website. I really enjoy wearing this brand because the meaning of the design resonates with me.
No offense but I get it, but don't get it. Just saw your interaction with Yellow. I really enjoy following the both of you.
What beach park is that?
Kualoa Beach Park
@@HelloFromHawaii we have not been to that end. We will have to check it out next time we are there. Thanks.
nice views
😂😂😂. I thought it said marrying a loca. Loca in spanish means crazy. Sorry….
If marrying a local girl, budget in her monthly allowance of Maui Wowie.
lol. Just gotta budget for the big hotel wedding with lots of relatives.
I think this guy only speaks for Asians in Hawaii. That’s all. They’re family is not really local