Being pretty and female and young, is to be Privileged. She's so priviliged, she's upset at a man being a fine gentleman. She was trained to look for offence.
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guys im on youre side bu this was more about tone of voice
Yeah, I agree this isn’t misogynist as much as it is patronizing and it’s definitely about the tone usually agree with these guys as commentators but on this, I think they’re missing the point.
@@AndrewRatliff-p6r patronizing??? On this panel every night everyone is using smart-aleck tones with the opposing side. People even result to rolling their eyes while someone is stating a position. You are missing the point. Rules for thee but not for me. Gender and race cards have been overplayed.
@@1rtt1 imagine if he had been debating a man and said “boy” there instead. Not saying there’d be “outrage” but I am saying it makes it much easier to understand their point. Using diminutive nicknames for your colleagues in a debate sounds unprofessional and is completely unnecessary. Lets all be level-headed enough to acknowledge that this ONE time the liberal crybabies actually have a point
When you're in a face-to-face debate, referring to the person with whom you are debating as "dear" is dismissive and condescending. It is MEANT to be dismissive and condescending and Men know that. And the fact that they're pretending in this video that it's not is offensive
@@FlyOverZone Have you ever watched that particular CNN show more than once? Condescension is abundant no matter the political party affiliation, and no matter if it's a regular or infrequent guest. The moderator engages in the same condescending tones. To point out condescension is silly. Water is wet. There is this one regular guest that on multiple occasions has raised her finger near someone's face while being loud, while making her point and the moderator has never checked her. Those "rules" are only for the conservative men who appear.
Not really. The same way they don’t sit at that debate table and call their male colleagues “boy” they shouldnt call the women “dear.” It’s just not good decorum in that setting. In a friendly setting it’s totallyyy fine.
Spare the decorum argument. Anyone who has seen that show 3 or more times knows that the moderator never checks the unreasonable outbursts from the people that she favors. On CNN and MSNBC, guests get called racist for disagreeing on a point even when the topic is unrelated to race.
Except that there was no heated, contentious argument; it was a civil conversation. I agree about context or tone. Society should be able to have civil disagreements without getting offended.
Last time I checked I was a woman and being referred to as "dear" is in no way sexist...In Australia,its really only Indian born men who say it at all and they say it to all age females..boohoo,keep looking for things to be offended by...this ain't it🇦🇺❤️🇺🇸
LOL I call everyone honey. lol I ended a call with my boss once saying bye honey. He called me back saying did you just call me honey? lol I was laughing hoping he didn't notice. I said Yes, I'm sorry, I call everyone honey. He laughed and said so do I. He then said by honey and hung up. lol
So. I guarantee you without a shred of hesitation that if you pulled that out in my weekly staff meeting the entire meeting would immediately go completely sideways if you addressed a peer or any female in the work setting as "Dear." The term is condescending and dismissive, especially if the discussion is charged - it is openly a low key dis. A different thing completely in a non work setting or if informally used in conversing with family or friends.
Because there is nothing wrong with addressing someone with dear. Years back people used to address their letters with ‘Dear sir or madam’. It’s an old term that was simply more friendly to address someone, or even a subject matter with. Nothing wrong with it.
It’s like honey, sweetie. Just because no one said anything doesn’t mean they don’t think you’re a dbag. It also make women think you’re a mark. Lacks self control and self awareness. Foolishly driven by women, will easily be manipulated. And because the women feel disrespected they don’t care to use you and burn you. It’s really not smart to speak to random women like that
Dear is literally a term of endearment, it shows people you like them. It's not patronizing at all. There are a million things that are nice that you could say in a patronizing way. I know people who will call you Mr. Smith or whatever but it's not said with respect it's said with contempt. I used to call a woman I worked with Miss Smith but used her real name and she always thought I said it with respect but I was actually making fun of her because she thought she was special.
Exactly. 💯 In an argument or debate it’s equivalent to calling a man “boy” or “son” and is patronizing. In a friendly setting, like an older man saying “thanks dear” to a waitress or something, it’s totally fine.
I believe I agree with Adam's take. The tone of the "dear" might have been a bit condescending....... a bit, but they took it to another level with the "don't call a woman "dead" at my table..."
This is just like the term, "Bless your heart." It has multiple meanings. I've heard men say dear in an endearing manner as well as a condescending manner.
@@VicecrackVoldermort sometimes it is, sometimes it isn’t. The man in the clip was being condescending. He was trying to win a point by trying to make her seem small and inconsequential by demeaning her. Made him look bad instead.
No it was not, it was used in a manner that corrected the blatantly obvious legal reality. She was wrong. More than wrong she was attempting to be misleading.
@@LeslieRobertson-m4inah he made his point watch the video banning a man because he said fear is wild women on cnn do far more condescending things no one cares but oh call a women dear and he’ll brakes lose wild
I actually disagree on this one, he was being condescending. Women do this to me when they are trying to dismiss what I'm saying by saying stuff like "sweetheart" or "honey" and they never referred to me as that before. It's the timing of it and tone because they are trying to flex dominance over the dialog.
As my mother lay dying in the hospital in 1988, a nurse asked "are you afraid of dying dear?" I was terribly offended! If you don't know someone (besideasin a letter, ie: Dear Sir) personally, do not address them as Dear, Honey, Sweetie... none of that! I despise it! And I am no lefties, nor snowflake!
I don't consider it misogyny, but dear can be condescending depending on context and tone. At the very least I could see how she could see it as dismissive in this particular discussion.
I don't know about misogyny but it's definitely patronizing the way he said it. I wouldn't want anyone calling me 'dear' that I have no relationship with, when they are pointing out that I am wrong.
He said it as 99.9% of men say it...I am a woman and I suggest you develop a thicker skin, a sense of humor, and stop demanding special treatment if Iyou want repect.
He said it as 99.9% of men say it...I am a woman and I suggest you develop a thicker skin, a sense of humor, and stop demanding special treatment if Iyou want repect.
I agree that it was patronizing, but the response was unhinged. CNN is know for elevated discourse and his response was to her was tame compared to the crazy CNN airs.
Even if he was. Take and keep moving on Girls do this 24/7 to men in arguments But when we CALL YALL OUT . Yall lie say “no i was t” Thats why the girls were so quick to attack him
@@Juliet475lmao you say that right now but if you were in an argument/debate with a man you didn’t like and he called you that to purposely be condescending toward you I guaran-fu**ing-tee you wouldnt like it. 🙄
Hey guys - Luv watching ur shows. In this context (CNN video) the gent had a tone that was condescending. Its like a guy saying to a guy OK ...Dude. Simply say OK. Cheers from Vancouver
The way he said it was at least patronizing and condescending. But she was also trying very hard to get offended Andrew's head like she has moral superiority. Bulshit can go both ways
I am a 74 yr old woman. I do not want to be called "dear". I am not WOKE, I'm conservative. "Dear so and so" in a letter or note, fine. Call me by my name or Ma'am. I'm too old to be called dear, except by people I am goid friends with.
Of course he would of said same to a man, except he might of used a different word. It’s not the word “dear’ that made it sound condescending, but the way he said it may have sounded like it. Replace the word dear with any other word n it would of sounded the same. There is nothing wrong with saying dear to someone.
He was using it improperly. It’s a word I use a lot when addressing woman. I am very careful about who and how. I use sweetheart, hon and girl friend also. I also get it back from them in return. I live in the south tho and it is more common and excepted down here. I have been told many times by various people men and women alike that you can’t say those words other than to a spouse. I have been called out before, but I kindly remind them it comes from a place of respect and friendship and remind them this is the south. I am not going to change the way I talk, I mean no ill will. Just let me know and I will respect your wishes. But be nice about it.
I am a 75 year old woman, and I get offended when someone calls me “dear” or “honey”. I’m a conservative, so please don’t think it’s only the young and liberal women who are offended. Sorry guys!
I agree with your lady friend! I am tough to offend and not sensitive. But I heard tone in the clip you played. I would’ve called that guy a diminutive pet name right back! Context and tone are everything. The vast majority of the time it is charming.
Then they are offened because you ignore them. Some people you just can't win with. If I'm going to lose, I choose to lose on my own terms not by forced speech or actions dictated by someone else. They don't have to like it just like I don't like being told what to say.
Using terms of endearment like buddy,dear,sweetie, pal to a stranger, or acquaintance during an argument can be viewed as condescending. Its like a passive-aggressive way to gain dominance
I don't like being called "dear", "sweetie" etc. I'm a 62 year old female military veteran who has run crews of 100+ men, and those diminutives are like a verbal pat on the head, something you say to a 93 year old or a 3 year old, or someone you know we'll. Dear as a salutation is a totally different situation.
I'm sixty-three years old, and I don't like being called honey, sweetie, dear, or any other term of endearment, especially in a professional environment period. It's inappropriate.
He was condescending. He was using the term sarcastically not as a term of endearment. It would be like arguing with an elder gentleman and calling him Grandpa in the middle of it .
Please look into why in England Joe Rogan is being censored? I’ve tried to look at his new post and it just spins and goes to private?? Are we being censored? Help!
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It's his tone. Listen to what letter he put emphasis. This is nothing about sexism, it's disrespectful. It's not adult communication skills he's using. If you disagree with someone, you don't tell them they are wrong, you give them rebuttals to your argument. It's called adult discourse.
Men don't get this because they haven't been diminished in conversations in this way. I can guarantee that if it was reversed and a man was condescended to by a woman in a serious professional setting it would get under his skin.
It is his tone and I hate when conservatives don’t admit when other conservatives are wrong. It’s the same as calling a man “boy,” in an argument. It’s rude and he shouldve avoided it in that setting. It’s not a huge deal or anything but there was no reason for him to say that
@@KrazyKatLadyx2 and @Tati_257 So do you actually want to be treated equally in the world, or not? Believe me.... I'm a man and I've had condescending pricks talk down to me, and I've had know-it-all pricks explain to me how the world really works. People act that way all the time and to anyone, as it suits them. Why do you insist it's because you're women? Do you think you're *that* special? What hubris. Get the chips off your shoulders.
I am female. The word ‘Dear’ is absolutely not offensive, but, the way he ‘inflected’ it was pretty condescending. Let’s just say that he was not using a respectful tone with her.
Y'all are ridiculous. Anyone who has ever watched extended clips of that particular CNN show knows that both sides no matter the panel does the condescension when making points. If you can't take it, don't dish it.
I’m conservative, a lawyer, mother and never offended but he was being condescending calling her dear. They were not friends. They were on a show. The dear is patronizing. Abbey is way off though.
Wow guys. It's all about the tone, not the word itself. If you called me dear and you meant it, I have no problem. His tone was making it condescending. Men do it all the time.
lol nah they are offended because they want to control the conversation wild how women take things out of context and try to take over the conversation
I don't care if I'm called dear. I think, it's more the way he said it. He actually did say it in a condescending way in this case...Sorry Tom, I disagree with you.
Conservative British male here. I would find someone saying "Dear" very patronising in a professional setting. Similar to a man calling me "buddy" in a work environment
I am a 65 year old woman. Worked as the first woman in my country in 3 fields and one of the first or under 5 in the World in 2 fields..So you could call me the vanguard of modern Feminism. In my area we all say, Dear, Honey, Sweetheart, Darling and often use Goodbye Love You whether we know you or not. I am now a Taxi Driver. Every now and then l get these " Feminists NOT FROM OUR REGION giving me the " don't call me that" BS. At which point they get a polite but firm lecture on respecting OUR REGIONAL CULTURE and Colloqualisms !!!!! All our European and Indigenous old people use these terms. We grew up with them all using these terms. It is our culture to use these terms..nothing sexist about it. And if you want a classic example of an icon of modern feminism that actually HAS spent a lifetime stepping into and working in traditionally male dominated fields without any palava, drama, or blah de blah and a good sense of humour l am it..
It's the condescending way he says it. It's clearly an insult from him. I don't mind being called dear, not not during a disagreement when he's trying to make a point.
In a disagreement, by nature you will not like what he says. He isn't required to use words you approve of or are not offended by. Everyone says something that offends others.
This is truly funny. I called both men and women "dear" all the time. Of course, I am over 70 years old. These people need to grow up and get over themselves.
From now on,
everybody should adress Abby Phillips as DEAR ABBY!!!!
That used to be a weekly column in the Newspapers.😊
When you are looking for any reason to be offended... you'll find one.
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Being pretty and female and young, is to be Privileged. She's so priviliged, she's upset at a man being a fine gentleman. She was trained to look for offence.
guys im on youre side bu this was more about tone of voice
Yeah, I agree this isn’t misogynist as much as it is patronizing and it’s definitely about the tone usually agree with these guys as commentators but on this, I think they’re missing the point.
@@AndrewRatliff-p6r patronizing??? On this panel every night everyone is using smart-aleck tones with the opposing side. People even result to rolling their eyes while someone is stating a position. You are missing the point. Rules for thee but not for me. Gender and race cards have been overplayed.
Imagine the outrage if he called her Ma'am
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@@1rtt1 imagine if he had been debating a man and said “boy” there instead. Not saying there’d be “outrage” but I am saying it makes it much easier to understand their point. Using diminutive nicknames for your colleagues in a debate sounds unprofessional and is completely unnecessary. Lets all be level-headed enough to acknowledge that this ONE time the liberal crybabies actually have a point
If Kamala won, we'd have another 1 to be able to use Ma'am or Sir.
@@Tati_257 Big difference saying "Boy" and "dear".
😂 now that’s offensive!
It’s not sexist, just makes me feel old…
It ain't misogyny. It can just be perceived as patronizing. Using a nice word in a not nice way.
Yup, it can be patronizing but its not offensive, and i can call her dear anytime i want 🤣😅😂
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When you're in a face-to-face debate, referring to the person with whom you are debating as "dear" is dismissive and condescending. It is MEANT to be dismissive and condescending and Men know that. And the fact that they're pretending in this video that it's not is offensive
@@FlyOverZone Have you ever watched that particular CNN show more than once? Condescension is abundant no matter the political party affiliation, and no matter if it's a regular or infrequent guest. The moderator engages in the same condescending tones. To point out condescension is silly. Water is wet. There is this one regular guest that on multiple occasions has raised her finger near someone's face while being loud, while making her point and the moderator has never checked her. Those "rules" are only for the conservative men who appear.
That's because oh girl be in her feelings 24/7.
Victimhood mentality!!!
Not really. The same way they don’t sit at that debate table and call their male colleagues “boy” they shouldnt call the women “dear.” It’s just not good decorum in that setting. In a friendly setting it’s totallyyy fine.
Spare the decorum argument. Anyone who has seen that show 3 or more times knows that the moderator never checks the unreasonable outbursts from the people that she favors. On CNN and MSNBC, guests get called racist for disagreeing on a point even when the topic is unrelated to race.
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Stop it!!! FFS, calling a woman Dear is NOT misogyny!!! FOH
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To be fair it was the way he used it , all the same women are painfull at times
Not sexist at all. But it is demeaning like calling someone boy
Not misogyny....I have had more women call me dear, honey, or sweetheart than any men have....
She is the new Joy Reid.
Oh dear!
Hahaha, great!
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Calling a grown woman "dear" during a heated or contensious conversation is condensending. And I am by no means a feminist or wokie.
I agree
Agreed. Context matters.
Except that there was no heated, contentious argument; it was a civil conversation. I agree about context or tone. Society should be able to have civil disagreements without getting offended.
Yep, that would bug me, too.
Yeah I agree
Last time I checked I was a woman and being referred to as "dear" is in no way sexist...In Australia,its really only Indian born men who say it at all and they say it to all age females..boohoo,keep looking for things to be offended by...this ain't it🇦🇺❤️🇺🇸
Men only do that in conversations where they are trying to exert dominance. Don't be ignorant. OR a "pick me"
This is the exact reason NONE of these ppl need to come to Tennessee EVER! We are all misogynistic here.
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Same for Texas.
I got read the riot act in Chicago for calling a convenience store cashier "ma'am" back in 2008.
@@SugerCreek You should never address a man like that!
I was raised by my Irish grandparents, and I call every woman “dear.”
LOL I call everyone honey. lol I ended a call with my boss once saying bye honey. He called me back saying did you just call me honey? lol I was laughing hoping he didn't notice. I said Yes, I'm sorry, I call everyone honey. He laughed and said so do I. He then said by honey and hung up. lol
@@frotobaggins7169 now that is nice, isn't it?
This is a professional setting. It was inappropriate.
Oh are you saying you grew up in a middle class family
So. I guarantee you without a shred of hesitation that if you pulled that out in my weekly staff meeting the entire meeting would immediately go completely sideways if you addressed a peer or any female in the work setting as "Dear." The term is condescending and dismissive, especially if the discussion is charged - it is openly a low key dis. A different thing completely in a non work setting or if informally used in conversing with family or friends.
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You can’t reason with unreasonable people
Or cnn . For there most of the anchors are unintelligent or like to pick a fight.
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I have always addressed women by dear. I’ve never received any negative feedback from women for addressing with dear. Wow this is getting ridiculous
Obviously you're not hanging around with the right type of people 😉
The women these days are pathetic
Evidently you dont associate with liberal women and I dont blame you.
Because there is nothing wrong with addressing someone with dear. Years back people used to address their letters with ‘Dear sir or madam’. It’s an old term that was simply more friendly to address someone, or even a subject matter with. Nothing wrong with it.
It’s like honey, sweetie. Just because no one said anything doesn’t mean they don’t think you’re a dbag. It also make women think you’re a mark. Lacks self control and self awareness. Foolishly driven by women, will easily be manipulated. And because the women feel disrespected they don’t care to use you and burn you. It’s really not smart to speak to random women like that
It was the tone!
Like when my husband calls me "Honey!" LOL
They want to run the world but can't handle words smh.
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Donna Brazille calls men "baby" all the time. No CNN feminist meltdown. Hypocrisy does not discriminate.
exactly.........that is sexism against men also.............she needs to be called out.
Offended by everything, apologies for nothing.
That’s crazy
Dear Lord
Great!!!
Nothing wrong whit what the man said.
"Dear" is not sexist, but it is patronizing.
Massaging lol something like that
Dear is literally a term of endearment, it shows people you like them. It's not patronizing at all. There are a million things that are nice that you could say in a patronizing way. I know people who will call you Mr. Smith or whatever but it's not said with respect it's said with contempt. I used to call a woman I worked with Miss Smith but used her real name and she always thought I said it with respect but I was actually making fun of her because she thought she was special.
@ no it’s not a term of endearment
@ you are wrong
Exactly. 💯 In an argument or debate it’s equivalent to calling a man “boy” or “son” and is patronizing. In a friendly setting, like an older man saying “thanks dear” to a waitress or something, it’s totally fine.
I believe I agree with Adam's take. The tone of the "dear" might have been a bit condescending....... a bit, but they took it to another level with the "don't call a woman "dead" at my table..."
Since when was condescension a line to be crossed in debates? It's not an overt attack. At best it is patronising.
I can’t believe this, but Adam actually explained the situation better than everyone else FOR ONCE
Yes he did there is a first time for everything but at the end it kinda looked like he was taking the woman’s side which he does alot
This is just like the term, "Bless your heart." It has multiple meanings. I've heard men say dear in an endearing manner as well as a condescending manner.
It was used in a condescending manner, in disrespect.
Patronizing sure. Condescending? "dear" is not condescending. Disrespect? Calling someone "dear" is disrespectful.
@@VicecrackVoldermort sometimes it is, sometimes it isn’t. The man in the clip was being condescending. He was trying to win a point by trying to make her seem small and inconsequential by demeaning her. Made him look bad instead.
No it was not, it was used in a manner that corrected the blatantly obvious legal reality. She was wrong. More than wrong she was attempting to be misleading.
@@LeslieRobertson-m4inah he made his point watch the video banning a man because he said fear is wild women on cnn do far more condescending things no one cares but oh call a women dear and he’ll brakes lose wild
@@glassinithank you only people focus on the dear part not the argument itself
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I actually disagree on this one, he was being condescending. Women do this to me when they are trying to dismiss what I'm saying by saying stuff like "sweetheart" or "honey" and they never referred to me as that before. It's the timing of it and tone because they are trying to flex dominance over the dialog.
She is right! Nothing wrong with saying Dear but Wrong place to say it
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As my mother lay dying in the hospital in 1988, a nurse asked "are you afraid of dying dear?" I was terribly offended! If you don't know someone (besideasin a letter, ie: Dear Sir) personally, do not address them as Dear, Honey, Sweetie... none of that! I despise it! And I am no lefties, nor snowflake!
"Please do not address a grown woman as dear"
"OK Whore"
I don't consider it misogyny, but dear can be condescending depending on context and tone. At the very least I could see how she could see it as dismissive in this particular discussion.
I don't know about misogyny but it's definitely patronizing the way he said it. I wouldn't want anyone calling me 'dear' that I have no relationship with, when they are pointing out that I am wrong.
He said it as 99.9% of men say it...I am a woman and I suggest you develop a thicker skin, a sense of humor, and stop demanding special treatment if Iyou want repect.
He said it as 99.9% of men say it...I am a woman and I suggest you develop a thicker skin, a sense of humor, and stop demanding special treatment if Iyou want repect.
I agree that it was patronizing, but the response was unhinged. CNN is know for elevated discourse and his response was to her was tame compared to the crazy CNN airs.
Even if he was. Take and keep moving on
Girls do this 24/7 to men in arguments
But when we CALL YALL OUT . Yall lie say “no i was t”
Thats why the girls were so quick to attack him
@@Juliet475lmao you say that right now but if you were in an argument/debate with a man you didn’t like and he called you that to purposely be condescending toward you I guaran-fu**ing-tee you wouldnt like it. 🙄
Calling somebody "Dear" is not sexist. This is just another way for women to feel as if they got somebody told.
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In this context (CNN video) the gent had a tone that was condescending.
Its like a guy saying to a guy OK ...Dude.
Simply say OK.
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Ok.. darling
This was a fantastic and funny interview. You can see that they are enjoying themselves
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It was condescending. Im 50 and saying that to a woman was always considered disrespectful.
This is just not good, the way the world is going.smh
Blame women, men are not in any contributing to this stuff.
“Dear” is not sexist, but on a news outlet it’s unprofessional and patronizing. He’s using it as a put down.
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He meant it to be demeaning. What if during an online debate she called him 'hon'? That would be unacceptable also.
The way he said it was at least patronizing and condescending. But she was also trying very hard to get offended Andrew's head like she has moral superiority. Bulshit can go both ways
I am a 74 yr old woman. I do not want to be called "dear". I am not WOKE, I'm conservative.
"Dear so and so" in a letter or note, fine. Call me by my name or Ma'am. I'm too old to be called dear, except by people I am goid friends with.
It was condescending he would not have said that to a man that way.
I agree it was meant to be condescending but if he was talking to a man it would have been like bud, chief or boy.
"it's a charge guy"
Of course he would of said same to a man, except he might of used a different word. It’s not the word “dear’ that made it sound condescending, but the way he said it may have sounded like it. Replace the word dear with any other word n it would of sounded the same. There is nothing wrong with saying dear to someone.
He was using it improperly.
It’s a word I use a lot when addressing woman. I am very careful about who and how. I use sweetheart, hon and girl friend also. I also get it back from them in return. I live in the south tho and it is more common and excepted down here. I have been told many times by various people men and women alike that you can’t say those words other than to a spouse. I have been called out before, but I kindly remind them it comes from a place of respect and friendship and remind them this is the south. I am not going to change the way I talk, I mean no ill will. Just let me know and I will respect your wishes. But be nice about it.
@@brando8086 I’m not your guy, buddy.
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Used that way “Dear” could be considered condescending, but would apply to both sexes. A female could say the same thing to a male in the same way.
Announcing I'm offended, is basically telling the world you can't control your emotions so everyone else should do it for.
I am a 75 year old woman, and I get offended when someone calls me “dear” or “honey”. I’m a conservative, so please don’t think it’s only the young and liberal women who are offended. Sorry guys!
I'm 70 and absolutely agree!
I think the only man who could get away with calling a woman "dear" in any context would be Sen Kennedy 😂
I agree with your lady friend! I am tough to offend and not sensitive. But I heard tone in the clip you played. I would’ve called that guy a diminutive pet name right back! Context and tone are everything. The vast majority of the time it is charming.
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@ 😂 I know, hun.
Oh Dear
It's all about context. He was "correcting" her, not sending an email that began with "Dear Jane." Wish I could get my five minutes back.
They've lost their minds! They have no idea what they want. Just ignore them and boycott everything and anything they do.
Then they are offened because you ignore them. Some people you just can't win with. If I'm going to lose, I choose to lose on my own terms not by forced speech or actions dictated by someone else. They don't have to like it just like I don't like being told what to say.
People call me dear all the time, especially senior people. They love using the term and I find it flattering.
Using terms of endearment like buddy,dear,sweetie, pal to a stranger, or acquaintance during an argument can be viewed as condescending. Its like a passive-aggressive way to gain dominance
that is true. But those lefty women on CNN etc are too snobby idiots.
Ur high demanding an apology and saying never use that langue again is way more passive aggressive and controlling
He meant it in a condescending way but they do the same when they say “OKAY SIR”
They’re lives are doing a 360°.
They are lives are doing a 360? 🤔
It is about the tone, but also that if he is not a "friend" of hers.
“dear” was totally patronizing in this case
I'd rather use the term "b*tch"
It must be exhausting looking for ways to be offended, dear.
dear susan, whatever
@@sole__doubtthank you for making my point
You tell 'em, scrumptious!
As a middle aged woman I’ve always found it endearing.
He WAS being condescending. That’s why he stressed “dear”. Stop pretending to be stupid.
He wasn't meant be condescending ma'am
Stop pretending to be intelligent.
@@michaelbishop3439 he sure the heck was. It was the tone of voice.
Not sexist. But it was meant to be a little demeaning.
I don't like being called "dear", "sweetie" etc. I'm a 62 year old female military veteran who has run crews of 100+ men, and those diminutives are like a verbal pat on the head, something you say to a 93 year old or a 3 year old, or someone you know we'll. Dear as a salutation is a totally different situation.
I'm sixty-three years old, and I don't like being called honey, sweetie, dear, or any other term of endearment, especially in a professional environment period. It's inappropriate.
It's like I would do to a young lady my daughters age.It's is very respectful.
How petty of her. Some people simply use the term in regular speech patterns.
He was condescending. He was using the term sarcastically not as a term of endearment.
It would be like arguing with an elder gentleman and calling him Grandpa in the middle of it .
Please look into why in England Joe Rogan is being censored? I’ve tried to look at his new post and it just spins and goes to private?? Are we being censored? Help!
Y'all are putting people in jail for memes!
Dear God!!!!!
Thanks guys! I hope we make it through this holiday season. Future looks bright
I felt this use of dear was condescending in this instance
agreeed but I don't think they needed to flip out.
I love PBD’s love of learning especially admitting his English isn’t perfect. That to me he is such a strong, interesting and humble human being. Thanks PBD.
He was 100% being condescending. Any word can be used in a condescending way. He meant to be demeaning.
Cry more please dear it’s wild that you agree with the women of cnn shocker u need to be less on ur feeling and pay attention to the real world more
I’ve been calling patients dear for years and not one female has ever took offense to it.
It's his tone. Listen to what letter he put emphasis. This is nothing about sexism, it's disrespectful. It's not adult communication skills he's using. If you disagree with someone, you don't tell them they are wrong, you give them rebuttals to your argument. It's called adult discourse.
Of course thats what you think Jenny. It must be exhausting reading into every word people say.
Men don't get this because they haven't been diminished in conversations in this way. I can guarantee that if it was reversed and a man was condescended to by a woman in a serious professional setting it would get under his skin.
It is his tone and I hate when conservatives don’t admit when other conservatives are wrong. It’s the same as calling a man “boy,” in an argument. It’s rude and he shouldve avoided it in that setting. It’s not a huge deal or anything but there was no reason for him to say that
Reaching
@@KrazyKatLadyx2 and @Tati_257 So do you actually want to be treated equally in the world, or not? Believe me.... I'm a man and I've had condescending pricks talk down to me, and I've had know-it-all pricks explain to me how the world really works. People act that way all the time and to anyone, as it suits them. Why do you insist it's because you're women? Do you think you're *that* special? What hubris. Get the chips off your shoulders.
What harm “dear” has on anyone?? Being kind is taken to mean something else.
I am female. The word ‘Dear’ is absolutely not offensive, but, the way he ‘inflected’ it was pretty condescending. Let’s just say that he was not using a respectful tone with her.
Who says you have to? Tone is part free speech no?
And they were respectful towards him?😂 come on
Y'all are ridiculous. Anyone who has ever watched extended clips of that particular CNN show knows that both sides no matter the panel does the condescension when making points. If you can't take it, don't dish it.
You don’t know know what “absolutely” means
@@chrissims518Oh, sweetie, no one said he was breaking any laws.
I’m conservative, a lawyer, mother and never offended but he was being condescending calling her dear. They were not friends. They were on a show. The dear is patronizing. Abbey is way off though.
Wow guys. It's all about the tone, not the word itself. If you called me dear and you meant it, I have no problem. His tone was making it condescending. Men do it all the time.
lol nah they are offended because they want to control the conversation wild how women take things out of context and try to take over the conversation
I don't care if I'm called dear. I think, it's more the way he said it. He actually did say it in a condescending way in this case...Sorry Tom, I disagree with you.
I would responded “ Ok Honey” so ridiculously petty.
😂😂😂
Do not refer to a grown woman as dear. This is why we keep losing respect for these people daily
I'm sorry dear
She is irrelevant PERIOD
Conservative British male here. I would find someone saying "Dear" very patronising in a professional setting. Similar to a man calling me "buddy" in a work environment
Completely agreed. In this context it was patronizing
We aren't that sensitive in the United States.
Buddy is a normal thing to say in blue collared work (trades etc) is it only offensive in pencil pushing jobs?
It was so obviously patronising
AGREE!!
I am a 65 year old woman. Worked as the first woman in my country in 3 fields and one of the first or under 5 in the World in 2 fields..So you could call me the vanguard of modern Feminism. In my area we all say, Dear, Honey, Sweetheart, Darling and often use Goodbye Love You whether we know you or not. I am now a Taxi Driver.
Every now and then l get these " Feminists NOT FROM OUR REGION giving me the " don't call me that" BS. At which point they get a polite but firm lecture on respecting OUR REGIONAL CULTURE and Colloqualisms !!!!!
All our European and Indigenous old people use these terms. We grew up with them all using these terms. It is our culture to use these terms..nothing sexist about it.
And if you want a classic example of an icon of modern feminism that actually HAS spent a lifetime stepping into and working in traditionally male dominated fields without any palava, drama, or blah de blah and a good sense of humour l am it..
Don't call a woman dear unless you are fairly close to that person.
You can call me Ray, you can call me Jay. But you don't call me Dude!
I call everyone DEAR, wit h good intentions.
People are taught to be offended by everything and people use being offended as a way to win arguments.
It's the condescending way he says it. It's clearly an insult from him. I don't mind being called dear, not not during a disagreement when he's trying to make a point.
In a disagreement, by nature you will not like what he says. He isn't required to use words you approve of or are not offended by. Everyone says something that offends others.
Totally agree!!
they fell for the bait & went full>> the view
*CACKLED OUT*
Dear shows endearment. Total Respect. She sounded stupid.
It's actually in the word.
I call every one dear
In the UK, we're always addressing each other as "dear," "love," "chum," "mate," etc. What's the bloody issue?
me old china
He was being condescending. Geezus you will never get it. How about her saying “listen to what I said “pumpkin”.
dear susan, your opinion is filed, thank you for reaching out
Call me whatever. Wouldn't bother me. I can throw it right back at you. Sticks and stones right DEAR?
This is truly funny. I called both men and women "dear" all the time. Of course, I am over 70 years old. These people need to grow up and get over themselves.