Im a revert and literally met my arab husband 7 times before marriage. I approached it like a business with focused questions. We married in less than 3 months, that was 26 years ago. Alhamdulillah Allahibarak
@@TheEko42 yes dating is haram, alhamdillah i’ve never had a haram relationship but i just seen a lot of people get into relationship and then go to a next relationship, just same cycle of back and fourth.
Well, most of the guys I know who got married ended up gaining weight-probably because their wives spoil them with too much food 😂😂😂 with what’s going on in the world right now I will always suggest to young men to stay combat ready
I can relate. Even in a Muslim country like Morocco, society glorifies marriage, which makes it much harder than just dating. However, the majority of young people here still date. I did too, but when I started practicing Islam, I began to see how straightforward and confident the marriage process is, compared to the rollercoaster of dating and the short-lived gratification it brings. Choosing marriage has completely changed the way I operate. My productivity increased by 300% because, in the back of my mind, I know I'll be married next year, and there's no time to waste. note edit: I'm 23, still a student, and I'll be getting married next year. I spoke to her father, and we agreed on the date. Highly recommend it for young mens.
Allah be with and make it easy for you. Yes, it is right that it is hard to find a good person that fits with you, But Islam gives a lot of trials to meet and know a lot of girls, & if it doesn't work no problem, you end everything, and no harm is done not to the girl ,not the boy
You need to be emotionally mature and balanced for marriage, ready to provide and take on responsibilities. Yes, biology and socialization does push for companionship, but make sure you at least try to know what you are getting into and that you feel compatibility and share some values and sparks.
Me and my husband get married early 23 years old, he graduated and worked only 2 months then straight to marriage, now we have 3 kids and we still married for 24 years❤
allahhuma barik, may allah bless your marriage and kids and grant you ALL janat-al firdaws ignore the salty clown above me, he’s absolutely fuming that he isn’t married, but inshallah allah guides him or her and grants them a righteous spouse too
"Why do we not get married at 16"? Good question there Grayson. If a man has a good heart, knows what needs to be done and can support his wife and children financially, chances are he can turn out to be a good husband/father. But teens nowadays might need more time before they're ready to take on those roles. While marrying young can be beneficial, we also want to avoid having young single mothers who are left struggling and fending for themselves with their children.
right, in old days men ruled the world with 12 years. Now even with 20 years age "men" behaving like a kid. A guy should first get a real men in first place, that beginns with praying salat and living islam.
Some people really made bad choices. It takes two to tango. Not because of money, because money will never enough. Hardly, there is such thing as puuurfect marriage even with a stable financial backup. Even the ones in their prime years are not spared. But with family support from either side, the marriage will suuurvive weathering the storms most of the time. Get to know the family and know that you are 'married' to them too. The golden rule many couples wish not to abide. Therefore, a broken family remains broken.
Marriage is not just being physically able so have children, it's aslo being mentally ready for the responsability of being in charge of a family. If you don't' seek knowledge about what you have to do as a husband or as a wife, you marriage gona failed., because it is a project like starting a company with your partner. obviously, love must be here too, but it will cha,ge with time. the love of the begining stops maximum after maybe 3 years or with kids, but you will have something much stronger after that if your relationnship is based on strong fundation.
Prepare yourself to love and be loved, and serve. Visit a country outside of US, he will find you InshaAllah, and court you then marry you ASAP as long as you don’t have sex before marriage and do it Gods way❤
make dua in sujoud for your future husband and you type in dua for marriage in youtube and listen and change your life like you have a righteous husband and Allah doe the rest in sha Allah
what?! how is that even possible?! is your father a pagan?! or did you just reject every proposal you got because you wanted a top 1% man?! how were you able to control your desires for so long? doesn’t seem possible to me
I was always told that the earlier the better (as a girl) because we mature faster, but need to find a guy who’s financially stable and mentally mature, and therefore have to wait longer. Been following your journey for a couple months now, keep spreading the truth inshAllah 💕
Chech the channel inspiring narrative she is a sister who teach dhikr and slawat and hawqala by telling stories from people who got married and got peace by reciting it
wholesome ass shit, I just got into a relationship and this is the mindset that i strive to have, I really want mines to work and will strive to be that person. Too many people try to "find the right one" but not enough people try to be the person capable of being in a life long relationship, cutting bad habits, repenting, etc.
I am 22 and just got done with my bachelors in Computer Science and Engineering .I have never dated as I fear Allah.On my return from college I tried to convey to my mum(single parent) that she should find me a guy but everyone at my family started making fun of this.They told me it is very hard to find a good guy and the only way to do that is either to find yourself or get a good job.Honestly it is not easy to get married especially in this time where everyone expects you to find a guy for yourself.Things become harder when you are on the right path,that is what I have personally experienced so far.
searching alone can have danger of emotions influences mind. maybe check a masjid for few weeks. maybe you can found few diligent men to pray. that a checklist on his religion. after you get few list of it ask the imam to call the men after prayer. always du'a to ask the best for you
Hello there, i am the same age as you and i also completed college. However, i think that you should just be patient and trust the process that Allah has for you. Sometimes being patient it’s better then just having any person in your life, which will after cause problems and make your life harder. Sending you positive energy 💖!
You are still young sister, trust Allah will bring someone who is good for you, make dua at night, pray at night and ask Allah ... dont go looking for anyone or your mom, but Allah is the one who brings our partners
7:17 it’s funny how when lady joined she did favor to Grayson and start speaking, woman are so good at talking and expressing words, they never run out of words 😂😂😂
I got married at 25 and we were both studying.. We didnt have a place to live and he didnt have a mean to provide we ended up living at his family's house .. and they made us divorce .. I got divorced with a baby and he cheated on me . I was all alone with my baby at home and he was cheating with this woman who was also married . He barely spent on his child... He doesnt call his child who was abondoned as a baby.. I have been a working single mom ever since..Now he is 11 and even now I have to beg my son's dad to call and talk to him or take him to prayer.. Its me who has been taking him to the mosque.. teaching him everything while struggling with cancer... Yes go for it if you have your family's blessings or if you have the means to provide for your wife! otherwise NO! DONT DO IT!
Sister I recomend you to chechk the channel inspiring narratives. She is q sister who has given many such people hope by telling stories of similar people. Allah changed the situation of those people. Recite 1000 times everyday laa hawla wala quwata illa billah with the intention that Allah will solve your problem and marry you to a pious husband and your son will have a good life. Hawqalah: A Treasure From the Treasures of Paradise لَا حَوْلَ وَلَا قُوَّةَ إِلَّا بِاللّٰهِ There is no power (in averting evil) or strength (in attaining good) except through Allah
Here is the dua with the translation: "إِنَّا لِلّهِ وَإِنَّـا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعونَ، اللَّهُمَّ أْجُرْنِي فِي مُصِيبَتِي وَأَخْلِفْ لِي خَيْرًا مِنْهَا." Translation: "Indeed, to Allah we belong, and to Him we shall return. O Allah, reward me in my calamity and replace it for me with something better."
Sister chechk out the channel 8nspiring narratives a sister who shares similar stories. How Allah changed their situation by remebramce Hawqalah: A Treasure From the Treasures of Paradise لَا حَوْلَ وَلَا قُوَّةَ إِلَّا بِاللّٰهِ Lā ḥawla wa lā quwwata illā bi-llāh There is no power (in averting evil) or strength (in attaining good) except through Allah
You're such a strong woman . I don't know you but I'm so proud of you . May allah bless you immensely, cure your disease , and ease your burdens . Ameen ❤
Just make sure that you are responsible for the lucky lady, its a commitment beyond carnal needs, I wish you the best in finding your (muslim, if you want to remain in faith) wife.
@@esmo4151 yes it is. Search up the video Forgotten Meaning of The Islamic Months by the UA-cam channel Simply Muslim. She does seem to make the misstake that you can follow any lunisolar-calendar like the Chinese calendar and I don't agree with her on that. But besides that, she explains clearly that the first month of Ramadan is the first month of autumn. And now is the first month of autumn. So you're wrong, it is the month of Ramadan. The actual Islamic calendar is a lunisolar-calendar and that is proven by numerous proofs like verse 10:5 of the Qur'an.
That’s the price we pay for individual pursuit of happiness and private hoarding of property rights. For you to marry young the responsibility of bringing up a child should be with extended family including grandparents and aunts and uncles and that’s not possible in a individualistic system
Studying and preparing to go abroad made me being very busy and so can't even think of settling. I am in an instable phase of my life. I feel it is unfair to make someone else suffer because of my situation right now. So that's my reason.
As a woman, I resonate with what you said sooo much but then I seek stability as well I hate living alone, having no one to share my wins and losses with, and living with people who are so far from God it is disgusting sometimes. I just wanna be able to not worry about things that I worry for due to the absence of a male presence in my life.
@@waniaiftikhar635sister sometimes a male presence doesn’t provide the security we think they will provide and infact put you in physical and emotional danger, so be cautious - dont let loneliness and helplessness tempt you to marry the wrong person- women generally get the wrong side of the stick when things fail and men can use marriage as a cover to get good wife to support their future while they themselves remain selfish. be vwry careful n be patient n take the time to really know a person’s character through various ways and sources (real true ones- not his friends or family that can give false references) before settling down.
Topic that full of mistery for me.. as someone said love is blind, marriage is an eye opener .. Not 100% wrong cause in a marriage you'll have a lot of big responsibilities not only to yourself but importantly your spouse & children whom Allah entrusted you in this Dunia & Akhirah... It need a whole different level of maturity, wisdom, patience/self control .. Take your time and trust to Allah, He'll show you the right person in the right time ... Wish you all the best
What a beautiful veiw,thanks. And the video is good at, but there is still a lot to learn about marriage that I myself still don't know, but in the process, Thanks for starting such a topic ,it is very crucial
I met my husband through an online Muslim matrimony service. My father and brother did his background check and spoke to him. I spoke to him but most of it was asking questions to see how compatible we are (he did the same). My questions ranged from financial debt, religion, how important health is to him, children, role of husband and wife etc… romance talk came after we signed the Islamic contract lol (the whole investigation and interrogation took 2mths 😅) we are now married over a decade and have 4 children. We have had our ups and down but since I knew his values before marriage I also knew what to expect from him during the good and bad times. Alhamdulillah I am soo grateful for my husband and I hope the younger generations realise that traditional way of marriage is the way to go!
Allhamdullilah, I was married at 18 years old. Allhamdullilah, we have been together till now for 12 years. 1 month of introduction. I am so happy. Very right decion of my life. Happiness with my kids, too. Allhamdullilah. Marriage is such a blessing Allhamdullilah
That couple was such a breath of fresh air Mashaa'Allah. There's always a stigma it seems, when the woman is older than the man which is senseless in my opinion for a series of reasons. This is a great topic...I think everyone's reasoning for not marrying sooner may vary, but in the west it has a lot to do with a lack of self awareness, stability, and guidance. Many are missing direction and wouldn't be able to maintain a successful kinship let alone marriage. I'm totally open to marriage, but I think taking note of what the woman said ie learning your person is crucial. Many come with their representatives and not who they truly are, which makes the process so tedious, haha. As for our elders marrying early, it was a different time then I think. Most peoples moral codes were in alignment and belief systems. A beautiful concept I think should be implemented so we there aren't as many illegitimate births, relations etc. Keep safe and enjoy your travels Inshaa'Allah 🥳💯👏🏽
Get to know the person that you are considering marrying. Make sure they have the same moral standards and are able to make a commitment. Take care that you are not unequally yoked.
Sometimes a person could be physically mature but not logically or responsibly or spiritually and if a person is physically mature but not mature in those other ways to make them live at least without having to depend on someone else and emotionally mature and know how responsibility is and what a household needs, also marriage would need emotional intelegence to be able to deal with their spouse and their children later on,if those maturity needs are not there then they are not ready for marriage just yet
I know some couples who got married when they are 22, still studying for their degree, graduate together, find jobs and have kids...they build their life togethrt.when 2 people can work together for their marriage in any kind of condition...it is beautiful...
Back then as soon as you hit puberty, as soon as you're physically capable, you're an adult because they had to be. Now the very same age group are seen as children, sheltered, we've essentially been dumbed down as a society, maturity ripped out of the youth. In todays world most ppl start experiencing adult life around 23 upwards.
My sister got married at 15, 16 and 18 years. They had their kids young abd now the kids old enough n she is young enough to relate with them. I got married at 26 and I wish I had gotten married earlier so I could have had more kids. I feel tired to have a 3rd child. I m blessed with two. The younger the better.
Marriage is not something to rush but that said also not to wait so long. When you find someone worthy of marriage who is beautiful inside out and shares great values and principles and you can afford it financially. All the best 🤲🏼💐
I got married at 25. was going to get married at 23 when I became financially able and I had someone I was interested in who was interested in me. . . Unfortunately I'm a traditional person in a Western country and so I made the mistake of being unnecessarily open with the girl; something girls seem to find disingenuous in the west and we had an ugly falling out. I met my wife around 18 months before we got married. We now have 3 kids
There are so many factors why people take so long, don’t know where to start. 1. Less youth in general, the pool of quality candidates is quite small. Compared the times of our grandparents where families had 5-9 children. 2. Materialism 3. Romanticising of love and the feeling it brings i.e gotta feel the butterflies every time that person walks into the room… like forever 4. Lack of morals and norms throughout the world community 5. High expectations on both ends in various fields. 6. People not marrying for Allah sake anymore but for personal gains, satisfaction and desires. 7. Etc etc Thus being said, I am blessed with a wonderful husband elhamdullilah, we had our ups and downs. You have to have a lot of patience and understanding in a marriage otherwise it can be shaken. He has great Islamic and general knowledge and our kids can actually turn to him with questions about the religion and the world. He goes into great detail with explaining things to them. You need to find someone who will keep you on the right path and share the love towards God with you. My daughter is 19 and wants to get married but she just doesn’t know anyone who fits her criteria. It is actually kinda hard to find the right person in these days.
It seems that I’ve not met my naseeb or maybe I’m just not ready, that’s why I’m not married. I used to actively search, but being a revert with only my sister to back me up family wise, it’s hard to find the right match. I stopped searching and now I’m focusing on my sister, her child and my studies. Inshallah khair we all will find our naseeb
There is a Hadith of prophet Mohammed peace be upon him: ‘’0 young men, those among you who can support a wife should marry, for it restrains eyes (from casting evil glances) and preserves one from immorality; but he who cannot afford It should observe fast for it is a means of controlling the sexual desire.’’
its such an amazing thing that you're learning and expanding your knowledge so that inshallah you could be lead to the rt path🤗 I'm 18 and I truly believe, as a Muslim, that I'm ready for marriage and I don't think that its an immature thing to say "I rly want to get married" bc it only benefits you. I guarantee you will find the person for u that will complete your life especially by way of Islam, inshallah
Hello Grayson! I´m your age, also born in 2002. I´m far from marriage. Although I grew up a muslim I cannot seem to get married at this age. Since I live in the west, even muslim women here wants me to have a degree. I won´t have my masters degree before 2027 and I´m struggling with all kinds of fitnah. It is tough. I´d really love a wife or at least get to know someone for marriage. It´s brutal that some cultures within muslim countries values education over traditional Islamic principles. May Allah help you get married, pray for me too.
@@FariedaLukie I agree Marriage is a sunnah. But how do I get married? Literally no woman is interested in marriage around where I live. They are looking for men around 28-30 years of age because they’re mature and have more money. I can’t wait for that long. Many of these «muslims» have had girlfriends in the past and «coped» with their urges. I haven’t even touched a woman. I’m still waiting for halal, but it’s hard to wait until 28
@@youtuber9409 keep your relationship with Allah very firm wake up for tahajud keep begging Allah to grant you a righteous and pious spouse and also Allah should make you a righteous husband who will take care of your spouse with Taqwa of Allah
@@youtuber9409so u wanna get married for urges brother- thats the problem, what happens when the u get a wife n months later urges get satisfied regularly n u no longer love the woman or feel a sense of responsibility. ppl are asking for education because that shows u r disciplined and committed to a long term goal just like marriage is a longggg project. i guess you gotta increase in patience and discioljne and marry when u have the means of emotional and financial responsibility. if u are not earning how will you provide for your wife ans kids
@@hashh2019 I’m not marrying only for urges. I struggle with loneliness and I’ve been doing that for a very long time. I’m pretty sure I’m more disciplined than most people - not to be cocky. I workout 5x a week, I work partly besides my studies. The thing is that my study is long because I’m studying something good Alhamdullilah. I earn enough to provide in the beginning but I also just want to get to know a girl for marriage. I have never talked to a woman before.
Marriage isn’t complicated but many young people make it seem as problematic. Alhamdullilah I got married when I was 17 back in 1982…. Alhamdullilah still married despite the huge challenges from my in laws.
I got married at the age of 23, and now almost 15 years, every day I still feel the same love as when I met my wife for the first time. now we have been blessed with 4 wonderful boys. Alhamdulillah
3:05 The same exact thing I've been telling myself recently .. and i truly don't know why on earth the society doesn't support that at all 🤷♀️🤷♀️ Even on Facebook groups when a girl is posting about that everyone just says .. Don't get married young Without even asking if she wants to .. if she's emotionally mature or many other questions that should be asked! They just say no lol .. JUST WHYYY
I'm from the middle east my friend got married after the college entrance exam she was 18 yrs old and got to med school, and we have a lot examples on that, if you both young the money part is not that important as they gonna livw with the in laws but yes we got affected by foreign countries and delayed marriage until financial stability which is mid 30s.
Walking is something that you do for your body, marriage is something to do for your life, that's why it's not just about physical maturity for marriage, also puberity is not something that is only consearned with having children or marridge, it's about a lot of physical things, in your body, I agree with you that waiting to get married for a long time is not the best idea, but, not in 16 or 17 only for body maturity.
I got married when i was 20 and in 31 now my wife was older and she had a child but i was more then happy to take on her child. As from a young age i always wanted to get married young may be from my islamic understanding is why i wanted to get married young plus i always wanted to adopt so my wife having her child was a bonus an just knew she was the one as we didnt wait years before we got married we spoke and from the begining we new the intentions was to get married so i had married her 3 months after getting to know her an our child now lol
Grayson, do DNA for us!!! You look somehow Middle Eastern! Black hair and fair to white skin! Most Middle Easterners have black hair and from brown to fair or white skin!
This is the best issue to discuss. Bless you ❤️ Why people don’t get married if they do the same thing without marriage. Why marriage in your age considered a very bad thing . However dating and teenage pregnancy is ok? 😢
Oh my gosh the view 😍 is that the sunset? Well I got engaged when I was 21. We went to high school together and if he would have asked me then I would have said yes. I lost my first husband years ago and am ready to get married again ❤
Im a muslim girl living in muslim society as well, i want to get married as soon as possible, now Im around 20 and i think my mind, my body and everything is ready for this. But im afraid to do it, all of my family members say that it's better to finish university and find a job. after that you can find a man! But I don't think in that way. I can get married and going to university and find the job at the same time too! Don't wanna waste my life until 30 to find a man...
I’m 27. I got my degree and started working at 21. I quit my job at 26. I got burnout and was uncomfortable working around strange men. Also it was a very toxic workplace, I was the only one working and many people quit before me but I stayed for the salary and because my parents stopped me from quitting for years. I was ready for marriage after graduation and now I don’t even think marriage is written for me. My health got worse every year. Trust me, if you’re Muslim, getting married is more important. You can graduate then get married, but don’t make a career take over your life and your youth like it did mine. If you think working is not for you, then it’s not for you, and if you believe you’re meant to get married soon, then make du’a for your parents to agree and ask Allah to grant you the best spouse for you.
Marriage has many responsibilities,,,if u can support you and your wife then best time to get married after college ,,at least at this age you are growing up enough to manage your marriage life::and if you are rich also best time also after college between age 22 and 25 ithimk best time to get married
Marriage is a big blessing from Allah. It satisfies the nature of the human. My father was married at 18 and his mom got married if i am not mistaken at 14 and she kept loving my grandfather till her death. May Allah grant them and us firdaws
Im a revert and literally met my arab husband 7 times before marriage. I approached it like a business with focused questions. We married in less than 3 months, that was 26 years ago. Alhamdulillah Allahibarak
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It's never a backward method or get old. It still being practice in normal society.
Ma Shaa ALLAH ❤️ May ALLAH Bless your marriage and your whole family Aammeen 😊
the way you said Allahibarak i think you're Algerian
@@hocineache7033since decades she’s married so surely she learned his language that’s it .
marriage is more secure than dating
dating is practicing divorce
I never understood dating, like are you just gonna keep rolling the dice until you find the "right one"?
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dating is haram, that sould be the reason for a muslim not to do. You can marry and divorce like most people, makes no sense.
@@TheEko42 We are living in a selfish society.Living in a dreamland. Wanting what we can't have or don't have.
@@TheEko42 yes dating is haram, alhamdillah i’ve never had a haram relationship but i just seen a lot of people get into relationship and then go to a next relationship, just same cycle of back and fourth.
What a wonderful sunset :) greetings from Turkey man, GET MARRIED AND DONT BE FAT
But convert first so you can get a good, pretty and sholeha Muslim wife
Well, most of the guys I know who got married ended up gaining weight-probably because their wives spoil them with too much food 😂😂😂 with what’s going on in the world right now I will always suggest to young men to stay combat ready
@@NoOneTwoTrustthat’s true 🤣and the same for the wifes sometimes also
All of these comments are so funny 😂
Hayır evlenmesin
I can relate. Even in a Muslim country like Morocco, society glorifies marriage, which makes it much harder than just dating. However, the majority of young people here still date. I did too, but when I started practicing Islam, I began to see how straightforward and confident the marriage process is, compared to the rollercoaster of dating and the short-lived gratification it brings. Choosing marriage has completely changed the way I operate. My productivity increased by 300% because, in the back of my mind, I know I'll be married next year, and there's no time to waste.
note edit: I'm 23, still a student, and I'll be getting married next year. I spoke to her father, and we agreed on the date. Highly recommend it for young mens.
Let’s get this bread bro I’m tryna do that
@@MhawarAbderrahmane Allahum Barek! Alhumdallah. May Allah make it easy for you and bless both of you inshallah :")
I'm Morrocan too, congrats brother happy for you ✨
In sha Allah
Allah be with and make it easy for you.
Yes, it is right that it is hard to find a good person that fits with you,
But Islam gives a lot of trials to meet and know a lot of girls, & if it doesn't work no problem, you end everything, and no harm is done not to the girl ,not the boy
I got married at 20 😊
So happy
So fullfilled
🤲🤲💚
MashaAllah brother
May Allah bless your marriage Ameen
Allamma barik
Allamma barik
You need to be emotionally mature and balanced for marriage, ready to provide and take on responsibilities. Yes, biology and socialization does push for companionship, but make sure you at least try to know what you are getting into and that you feel compatibility and share some values and sparks.
Me and my husband get married early 23 years old, he graduated and worked only 2 months then straight to marriage, now we have 3 kids and we still married for 24 years❤
Dont care
@@kakalakiakka4545get a life, you islamophobe clown
allahhuma barik, may allah bless your marriage and kids and grant you ALL janat-al firdaws
ignore the salty clown above me, he’s absolutely fuming that he isn’t married, but inshallah allah guides him or her and grants them a righteous spouse too
@@ibrahim_-_-_ im married btw and showing off is haram
"Why do we not get married at 16"? Good question there Grayson. If a man has a good heart, knows what needs to be done and can support his wife and children financially, chances are he can turn out to be a good husband/father. But teens nowadays might need more time before they're ready to take on those roles. While marrying young can be beneficial, we also want to avoid having young single mothers who are left struggling and fending for themselves with their children.
Spot on
right, in old days men ruled the world with 12 years. Now even with 20 years age "men" behaving like a kid. A guy should first get a real men in first place, that beginns with praying salat and living islam.
Great point! Men have full responsibility for providing for their wife.
Some people really made bad choices. It takes two to tango. Not because of money, because money will never enough. Hardly, there is such thing as puuurfect marriage even with a stable financial backup. Even the ones in their prime years are not spared. But with family support from either side, the marriage will suuurvive weathering the storms most of the time. Get to know the family and know that you are 'married' to them too. The golden rule many couples wish not to abide. Therefore, a broken family remains broken.
Assalamualaikum. True sister. Reality of today's society. 😢
Marriage (to the right person) will keep you steadfast in your iman, protect you from doing bad stuff, and make you healthier physically & mentally.
Yeah, being married is always good. But you’ve got to find the right person, and the right person is a rare coin these days.
Seek and you shall find. Abundance
@@graysonbrockkthe queation is which religion she also
Agreed, ☺️
You have to have hope, fully believe in Allah. Be optimistic.
@@Moroccan.1 first which religion?
Marriage is not just being physically able so have children, it's aslo being mentally ready for the responsability of being in charge of a family.
If you don't' seek knowledge about what you have to do as a husband or as a wife, you marriage gona failed., because it is a project like starting a company with your partner. obviously, love must be here too, but it will cha,ge with time. the love of the begining stops maximum after maybe 3 years or with kids, but you will have something much stronger after that if your relationnship is based on strong fundation.
اشهد ان لا إله إلا الله واشهد ان محمد رسول الله.
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أشهد أن لا إله إلا الله وحده لا شريك له و أشهد أن محمدا عبده ورسوله
Been dreaming to get married on 22.. Failed. Now 39, and singlee.. and STILL, want a husband! Lol
Prepare yourself to love and be loved, and serve. Visit a country outside of US, he will find you InshaAllah, and court you then marry you ASAP as long as you don’t have sex before marriage and do it Gods way❤
Let me ask you this: How many men proposed to you?
make dua in sujoud for your future husband and you type in dua for marriage in youtube and listen and change your life like you have a righteous husband and Allah doe the rest in sha Allah
what?! how is that even possible?! is your father a pagan?! or did you just reject every proposal you got because you wanted a top 1% man?!
how were you able to control your desires for so long? doesn’t seem possible to me
I'll make dua for you sister❤. Dont lose hope
Grayson. The reason why many are not married at 16,17 is immaturity of young people.
People are selfish this days. It’s the me culture.
I was always told that the earlier the better (as a girl) because we mature faster, but need to find a guy who’s financially stable and mentally mature, and therefore have to wait longer.
Been following your journey for a couple months now, keep spreading the truth inshAllah 💕
i was also taught that
Well I was always told that the more older us girls become the less desirable we are
The longer you wait... Remember the clock is ticking. When you become less fertile, the less desirable you are.
Chech the channel inspiring narrative she is a sister who teach dhikr and slawat and hawqala by telling stories from people who got married and got peace by reciting it
wholesome ass shit, I just got into a relationship and this is the mindset that i strive to have, I really want mines to work and will strive to be that person. Too many people try to "find the right one" but not enough people try to be the person capable of being in a life long relationship, cutting bad habits, repenting, etc.
Focusing about what Grayson is talking about ❎
Being amazed by the beauty of the nature ✅
That was a beautiful sky 😅
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W x2 :")
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Colombia is a gorgeous country!
Preach brother, I am so happy I'm having a kid in April. you'll be a great uncle Grayson
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Perfect time to get married is when u find the right person, I’m sure all of our excuses would fade away once we find the one, it’s not that complex
I am 22 and just got done with my bachelors in Computer Science and Engineering .I have never dated as I fear Allah.On my return from college I tried to convey to my mum(single parent) that she should find me a guy but everyone at my family started making fun of this.They told me it is very hard to find a good guy and the only way to do that is either to find yourself or get a good job.Honestly it is not easy to get married especially in this time where everyone expects you to find a guy for yourself.Things become harder when you are on the right path,that is what I have personally experienced so far.
May Allah make it easy for you sister. Ameen
searching alone can have danger of emotions influences mind. maybe check a masjid for few weeks. maybe you can found few diligent men to pray. that a checklist on his religion. after you get few list of it ask the imam to call the men after prayer.
always du'a to ask the best for you
Hello there, i am the same age as you and i also completed college. However, i think that you should just be patient and trust the process that Allah has for you. Sometimes being patient it’s better then just having any person in your life, which will after cause problems and make your life harder. Sending you positive energy 💖!
You are still young sister, trust Allah will bring someone who is good for you, make dua at night, pray at night and ask Allah ... dont go looking for anyone or your mom, but Allah is the one who brings our partners
God bless white country's 🌲 white man 😎🤠💂 beauty 🧑🌾 🙏
7:17 it’s funny how when lady joined she did favor to Grayson and start speaking, woman are so good at talking and expressing words, they never run out of words 😂😂😂
I got married at 25 and we were both studying.. We didnt have a place to live and he didnt have a mean to provide we ended up living at his family's house .. and they made us divorce .. I got divorced with a baby and he cheated on me . I was all alone with my baby at home and he was cheating with this woman who was also married . He barely spent on his child... He doesnt call his child who was abondoned as a baby.. I have been a working single mom ever since..Now he is 11 and even now I have to beg my son's dad to call and talk to him or take him to prayer.. Its me who has been taking him to the mosque.. teaching him everything while struggling with cancer...
Yes go for it if you have your family's blessings or if you have the means to provide for your wife! otherwise NO! DONT DO IT!
Your ex had moral issues much more than money issues!
Sister I recomend you to chechk the channel inspiring narratives.
She is q sister who has given many such people hope by telling stories of similar people.
Allah changed the situation of those people. Recite 1000 times everyday laa hawla wala quwata illa billah with the intention that Allah will solve your problem and marry you to a pious husband and your son will have a good life.
Hawqalah: A Treasure From the Treasures of Paradise
لَا حَوْلَ وَلَا قُوَّةَ إِلَّا بِاللّٰهِ
There is no power (in averting evil) or strength (in attaining good) except through Allah
Here is the dua with the translation:
"إِنَّا لِلّهِ وَإِنَّـا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعونَ، اللَّهُمَّ أْجُرْنِي فِي مُصِيبَتِي وَأَخْلِفْ لِي خَيْرًا مِنْهَا."
Translation: "Indeed, to Allah we belong, and to Him we shall return. O Allah, reward me in my calamity and replace it for me with something better."
Sister chechk out the channel 8nspiring narratives a sister who shares similar stories.
How Allah changed their situation by remebramce
Hawqalah: A Treasure From the Treasures of Paradise
لَا حَوْلَ وَلَا قُوَّةَ إِلَّا بِاللّٰهِ
Lā ḥawla wa lā quwwata illā bi-llāh
There is no power (in averting evil) or strength (in attaining good) except through Allah
You're such a strong woman . I don't know you but I'm so proud of you . May allah bless you immensely, cure your disease , and ease your burdens . Ameen ❤
كانت مجتمعاتنا متماسكه وطبيعيه وسليمه قبل ان تنتشر الافكار والثقافه الغربيه وفرضها علينا .
Just make sure that you are responsible for the lucky lady, its a commitment beyond carnal needs, I wish you the best in finding your (muslim, if you want to remain in faith) wife.
Thank you 🙏🏼
you're not allowed to marry a Muslim woman if you are not a true believer of the Qur'an. Proof? 2:221. And Ramadan mubarak. It's Ramadan now...
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@@TheQuranistit is not Ramadan …
@@esmo4151 yes it is. Search up the video Forgotten Meaning of The Islamic Months by the UA-cam channel Simply Muslim. She does seem to make the misstake that you can follow any lunisolar-calendar like the Chinese calendar and I don't agree with her on that. But besides that, she explains clearly that the first month of Ramadan is the first month of autumn. And now is the first month of autumn. So you're wrong, it is the month of Ramadan. The actual Islamic calendar is a lunisolar-calendar and that is proven by numerous proofs like verse 10:5 of the Qur'an.
Dude, you’ll have no problem finding a wife!
Trying to get married today. Lol. This is beautiful topic to touch on
That’s the price we pay for individual pursuit of happiness and private hoarding of property rights. For you to marry young the responsibility of bringing up a child should be with extended family including grandparents and aunts and uncles and that’s not possible in a individualistic system
One of the golden rules building a healthy family. Totally agreed. The benefits outweigh the disadvantages.
Facts. I went home and I kid you not everyone was looking after each other.
We wait so that the couple is ready financially, emotionally and mature enough to build a family
Studying and preparing to go abroad made me being very busy and so can't even think of settling. I am in an instable phase of my life. I feel it is unfair to make someone else suffer because of my situation right now. So that's my reason.
As a woman, I resonate with what you said sooo much but then I seek stability as well I hate living alone, having no one to share my wins and losses with, and living with people who are so far from God it is disgusting sometimes. I just wanna be able to not worry about things that I worry for due to the absence of a male presence in my life.
@@waniaiftikhar635sister sometimes a male presence doesn’t provide the security we think they will provide and infact put you in physical and emotional danger, so be cautious - dont let loneliness and helplessness tempt you to marry the wrong person- women generally get the wrong side of the stick when things fail and men can use marriage as a cover to get good wife to support their future while they themselves remain selfish. be vwry careful n be patient n take the time to really know a person’s character through various ways and sources (real true ones- not his friends or family that can give false references) before settling down.
I would love to get married. Just waiting for the right person! Hoping you find the girl of your dreams, soon (:
Hope you find the one as soon as possible Grayson. Wish you all the best.🎉
Topic that full of mistery for me.. as someone said love is blind, marriage is an eye opener .. Not 100% wrong cause in a marriage you'll have a lot of big responsibilities not only to yourself but importantly your spouse & children whom Allah entrusted you in this Dunia & Akhirah... It need a whole different level of maturity, wisdom, patience/self control .. Take your time and trust to Allah, He'll show you the right person in the right time ... Wish you all the best
Such a cutie you are! Loved your attempts at speaking Spanish. You did well, hermanito! :)
What a beautiful veiw,thanks.
And the video is good at, but there is still a lot to learn about marriage that I myself still don't know, but in the process,
Thanks for starting such a topic ,it is very crucial
You're amazing. Love how you speak the truth. So brave
Ahh you touched the old wound in my bottom of my heart by this video 💔💔
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Just say ربي إني لما أنزلت إلي من خير فقير
I met my husband through an online Muslim matrimony service. My father and brother did his background check and spoke to him. I spoke to him but most of it was asking questions to see how compatible we are (he did the same). My questions ranged from financial debt, religion, how important health is to him, children, role of husband and wife etc… romance talk came after we signed the Islamic contract lol (the whole investigation and interrogation took 2mths 😅)
we are now married over a decade and have 4 children. We have had our ups and down but since I knew his values before marriage I also knew what to expect from him during the good and bad times.
Alhamdulillah I am soo grateful for my husband and I hope the younger generations realise that traditional way of marriage is the way to go!
I Agree Grayson. - it’s good to get married when you’re young. I hope you find a nice young Muslim woman who will help you complete your religion.
I got married two years ago, when I was 21 and my husbands 22. We have a daughter now and are happy alhamdulillah!
The background where you are is beautiful. And the content of your video is very interesting 🙏🏼👆🏼🤔
Allhamdullilah, I was married at 18 years old. Allhamdullilah, we have been together till now for 12 years. 1 month of introduction. I am so happy. Very right decion of my life. Happiness with my kids, too. Allhamdullilah. Marriage is such a blessing Allhamdullilah
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That couple was such a breath of fresh air Mashaa'Allah. There's always a stigma it seems, when the woman is older than the man which is senseless in my opinion for a series of reasons. This is a great topic...I think everyone's reasoning for not marrying sooner may vary, but in the west it has a lot to do with a lack of self awareness, stability, and guidance. Many are missing direction and wouldn't be able to maintain a successful kinship let alone marriage. I'm totally open to marriage, but I think taking note of what the woman said ie learning your person is crucial. Many come with their representatives and not who they truly are, which makes the process so tedious, haha. As for our elders marrying early, it was a different time then I think. Most peoples moral codes were in alignment and belief systems. A beautiful concept I think should be implemented so we there aren't as many illegitimate births, relations etc.
Keep safe and enjoy your travels Inshaa'Allah 🥳💯👏🏽
Yes try sir ages was a big gap and they did so good together.
@@graysonbrockk khadija, the prophet muhammad's (pbuh) first wife, was about 40 years old when he was 25. she was also a widow.
Grayson, I suggest you connect with Brother David Coolidge, a professor of theology. You will be pleased.
Wow your Spanish is great!
Get to know the person that you are considering marrying. Make sure they have the same moral standards and are able to make a commitment. Take care that you are not unequally yoked.
love your energy. do all your videos like that and in places like this. that's ofc after the real talk I am already aligned with.
Sometimes a person could be physically mature but not logically or responsibly or spiritually and if a person is physically mature but not mature in those other ways to make them live at least without having to depend on someone else and emotionally mature and know how responsibility is and what a household needs, also marriage would need emotional intelegence to be able to deal with their spouse and their children later on,if those maturity needs are not there then they are not ready for marriage just yet
I got married at 27.. maybe it’s considered old already, but alhamdullilah I’m thankful 😊
I got married at 19 and divorced with a baby at 23. And I’d say that it’s different for everybody.
I know some couples who got married when they are 22, still studying for their degree, graduate together, find jobs and have kids...they build their life togethrt.when 2 people can work together for their marriage in any kind of condition...it is beautiful...
I wish you the best brother😊
Inshallah may it be easy for you all. Glad something that was said in the past finally stuck lol
Yesssuhhh!!!
Back then as soon as you hit puberty, as soon as you're physically capable, you're an adult because they had to be. Now the very same age group are seen as children, sheltered, we've essentially been dumbed down as a society, maturity ripped out of the youth. In todays world most ppl start experiencing adult life around 23 upwards.
That's because we actually live longer now
My sister got married at 15, 16 and 18 years. They had their kids young abd now the kids old enough n she is young enough to relate with them. I got married at 26 and I wish I had gotten married earlier so I could have had more kids. I feel tired to have a 3rd child. I m blessed with two.
The younger the better.
26 is still young what are you on
Marriage is not something to rush but that said also not to wait so long. When you find someone worthy of marriage who is beautiful inside out and shares great values and principles and you can afford it financially.
All the best 🤲🏼💐
I’m ready akh
even Millie bobby got married at 20 hahah
I got married at 25. was going to get married at 23 when I became financially able and I had someone I was interested in who was interested in me. . .
Unfortunately I'm a traditional person in a Western country and so I made the mistake of being unnecessarily open with the girl; something girls seem to find disingenuous in the west and we had an ugly falling out.
I met my wife around 18 months before we got married. We now have 3 kids
There are so many factors why people take so long, don’t know where to start.
1. Less youth in general, the pool of quality candidates is quite small. Compared the times of our grandparents where families had 5-9 children.
2. Materialism
3. Romanticising of love and the feeling it brings i.e gotta feel the butterflies every time that person walks into the room… like forever
4. Lack of morals and norms throughout the world community
5. High expectations on both ends in various fields.
6. People not marrying for Allah sake anymore but for personal gains, satisfaction and desires.
7. Etc etc
Thus being said, I am blessed with a wonderful husband elhamdullilah, we had our ups and downs. You have to have a lot of patience and understanding in a marriage otherwise it can be shaken. He has great Islamic and general knowledge and our kids can actually turn to him with questions about the religion and the world. He goes into great detail with explaining things to them.
You need to find someone who will keep you on the right path and share the love towards God with you.
My daughter is 19 and wants to get married but she just doesn’t know anyone who fits her criteria. It is actually kinda hard to find the right person in these days.
It seems that I’ve not met my naseeb or maybe I’m just not ready, that’s why I’m not married. I used to actively search, but being a revert with only my sister to back me up family wise, it’s hard to find the right match. I stopped searching and now I’m focusing on my sister, her child and my studies. Inshallah khair we all will find our naseeb
Best video , a very good question
There is a Hadith of prophet Mohammed peace be upon him: ‘’0 young men, those among you who can support a wife should marry, for it restrains eyes (from casting evil glances) and preserves one from immorality; but he who cannot afford It should observe fast for it is a means of controlling the sexual desire.’’
confianza ! Si
Spanish is a beautiful language.
I’m a 30 year old woman. I’ve essentially all but given up. If it’s written for me, it will happen.
its such an amazing thing that you're learning and expanding your knowledge so that inshallah you could be lead to the rt path🤗 I'm 18 and I truly believe, as a Muslim, that I'm ready for marriage and I don't think that its an immature thing to say "I rly want to get married" bc it only benefits you. I guarantee you will find the person for u that will complete your life especially by way of Islam, inshallah
The interview was so funny tho. 😂
Good luck Gray, W
My grandparents were born at the turn of the 20th century and they got married at 13 and 16
nothing better for a man than a pious muslim wife❤ alhamdulilah
Hello Grayson! I´m your age, also born in 2002. I´m far from marriage. Although I grew up a muslim I cannot seem to get married at this age. Since I live in the west, even muslim women here wants me to have a degree. I won´t have my masters degree before 2027 and I´m struggling with all kinds of fitnah. It is tough. I´d really love a wife or at least get to know someone for marriage. It´s brutal that some cultures within muslim countries values education over traditional Islamic principles. May Allah help you get married, pray for me too.
@@youtuber9409 Marriage is a Sunnah Half of your Deen .Yes.Resonsible matured .Islamically intellectually sound Good family values .InshAllah
@@FariedaLukie I agree Marriage is a sunnah. But how do I get married? Literally no woman is interested in marriage around where I live. They are looking for men around 28-30 years of age because they’re mature and have more money. I can’t wait for that long. Many of these «muslims» have had girlfriends in the past and «coped» with their urges. I haven’t even touched a woman. I’m still waiting for halal, but it’s hard to wait until 28
@@youtuber9409 keep your relationship with Allah very firm wake up for tahajud keep begging Allah to grant you a righteous and pious spouse and also Allah should make you a righteous husband who will take care of your spouse with Taqwa of Allah
@@youtuber9409so u wanna get married for urges brother- thats the problem, what happens when the u get a wife n months later urges get satisfied regularly n u no longer love the woman or feel a sense of responsibility. ppl are asking for education because that shows u r disciplined and committed to a long term goal just like marriage is a longggg project. i guess you gotta increase in patience and discioljne and marry when u have the means of emotional and financial responsibility. if u are not earning how will you provide for your wife ans kids
@@hashh2019 I’m not marrying only for urges. I struggle with loneliness and I’ve been doing that for a very long time. I’m pretty sure I’m more disciplined than most people - not to be cocky. I workout 5x a week, I work partly besides my studies. The thing is that my study is long because I’m studying something good Alhamdullilah. I earn enough to provide in the beginning but I also just want to get to know a girl for marriage. I have never talked to a woman before.
I am also 22 and got married at 20. It was 1st year of the universtiy.
Ain't no way Grayson Marrying before us 🥲
Well I pray Allah grants him a good spouse. Ameen
@@waniaiftikhar635 pray for me too🥲
Thousands watch Grayson but only Allah is watching on me
Marriage isn’t complicated but many young people make it seem as problematic.
Alhamdullilah I got married when I was 17 back in 1982…. Alhamdullilah still married despite the huge challenges from my in laws.
I got married at the age of 23, and now almost 15 years, every day I still feel the same love as when I met my wife for the first time. now we have been blessed with 4 wonderful boys. Alhamdulillah
I married my husband at 22.he was 25. We are muslim. We are married now for 15 years
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The same exact thing I've been telling myself recently .. and i truly don't know why on earth the society doesn't support that at all 🤷♀️🤷♀️
Even on Facebook groups when a girl is posting about that everyone just says .. Don't get married young
Without even asking if she wants to .. if she's emotionally mature or many other questions that should be asked!
They just say no lol .. JUST WHYYY
I'm from the middle east my friend got married after the college entrance exam she was 18 yrs old and got to med school, and we have a lot examples on that, if you both young the money part is not that important as they gonna livw with the in laws but yes we got affected by foreign countries and delayed marriage until financial stability which is mid 30s.
Walking is something that you do for your body, marriage is something to do for your life, that's why it's not just about physical maturity for marriage, also puberity is not something that is only consearned with having children or marridge, it's about a lot of physical things, in your body, I agree with you that waiting to get married for a long time is not the best idea, but, not in 16 or 17 only for body maturity.
I got married when i was 20 and in 31 now my wife was older and she had a child but i was more then happy to take on her child. As from a young age i always wanted to get married young may be from my islamic understanding is why i wanted to get married young plus i always wanted to adopt so my wife having her child was a bonus an just knew she was the one as we didnt wait years before we got married we spoke and from the begining we new the intentions was to get married so i had married her 3 months after getting to know her an our child now lol
To get married, you also need to be ready mentally.
Grayson, do DNA for us!!!
You look somehow Middle Eastern!
Black hair and fair to white skin!
Most Middle Easterners have black hair and from brown to fair or white skin!
Yes please❤❤❤
His hair is not black😏😏it’s brown light brown in the sun
His thinking is so balanced Speaks languages too .Our Grayson .Ronaldo has joined the fold
He is Latino American!!! Most calif dudes their mixed.
Why does it matter? We are all children of Adam.
Marriage is easy than continuing it smoothly. Marriage means sacrifice, compromise, respectful, loving, caring from both sides.
Talk to the muslim lantern my bro
You too Wise for your age
He sure is
This is the best issue to discuss. Bless you ❤️
Why people don’t get married if they do the same thing without marriage.
Why marriage in your age considered a very bad thing .
However dating and teenage pregnancy is ok? 😢
I'm Muslim, 21 and married. I married with about £400-£500 as a budget and had 0 assistance from parents
Oh my gosh the view 😍 is that the sunset? Well I got engaged when I was 21. We went to high school together and if he would have asked me then I would have said yes. I lost my first husband years ago and am ready to get married again ❤
The longer the batter one the waits
lack of money, need to finish education before career. otherwise id get married ASAP
Big responsibility for husband and wife in Quran.
Prophet Muhammad pbuh married at 25.
Im a muslim girl living in muslim society as well, i want to get married as soon as possible, now Im around 20 and i think my mind, my body and everything is ready for this. But im afraid to do it, all of my family members say that it's better to finish university and find a job. after that you can find a man! But I don't think in that way. I can get married and going to university and find the job at the same time too! Don't wanna waste my life until 30 to find a man...
i would recommand u to listen to ur family members
@@yonkohat4055 I'm doing it. Just don't get the reason..
I’m 27. I got my degree and started working at 21. I quit my job at 26. I got burnout and was uncomfortable working around strange men. Also it was a very toxic workplace, I was the only one working and many people quit before me but I stayed for the salary and because my parents stopped me from quitting for years. I was ready for marriage after graduation and now I don’t even think marriage is written for me. My health got worse every year. Trust me, if you’re Muslim, getting married is more important. You can graduate then get married, but don’t make a career take over your life and your youth like it did mine. If you think working is not for you, then it’s not for you, and if you believe you’re meant to get married soon, then make du’a for your parents to agree and ask Allah to grant you the best spouse for you.
insha Allah you will get good husband as long as it for Allah sake.
@@alyaa4766 May ALLAAH grant you a righteous and pious spouse soon don't loose hope we all make mistakes.
Marriage has many responsibilities,,,if u can support you and your wife then best time to get married after college ,,at least at this age you are growing up enough to manage your marriage life::and if you are rich also best time also after college between age 22 and 25 ithimk best time to get married
my boy you listen to me and you came to my words good job .find your woman and little be relax my boy
I am sorry I laughed so much at intro 😭😭
One thing about Islam is that it makes you realize what your soul wants. And for men that is a wife, not a girl friend or a hookup.
Awesome stuff
Marriage is a big blessing from Allah. It satisfies the nature of the human.
My father was married at 18 and his mom got married if i am not mistaken at 14 and she kept loving my grandfather till her death. May Allah grant them and us firdaws
Convert first, Grayson, then you can ask Allah for help,,,,,
Wish you all the best,,,,
We got married when we were 21. We have 4 boys. 2024 is our 46th anniversay. Alhamdulillaah.
Grayson has started looking like a Muslim gradually 😂